I'm still reading NMMNG, and I've done a lot of other reading around here. I am still trying to get my shit together.

One thing constantly coming up for me is my wife offering boring sex. My bluepill self would've said some dumb shit that would start an argument. I'm trying to maintain frame, but I'm not sure what my frame should be. I feel like if I accept her boring sex I'm being bluepill for not getting what I want. I feel like if I deny her boring sex I'm being bluepill for showing her that she is getting to me.

For example, she will come into my shower after I workout and offer up some lame excuse for unenthusiastic sex. If I touch her she will say she isn't in the mood and "she is just trying to help me".

Without reading a single thing here I still know that I do not need her "help" to get off. I'm not quite sure what my reaction here should be. I can't say I can really help myself once things get started, but I don't have a good excuse to get her out of my shower.