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Theres a difference between existing male friends and ‘new’ male friends who you’ve explicitly stated as hot. The latter is an orbiter and one mistake from you away from fucking your girl.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 05:27 PM
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Well put. I have insecurities. I’m only human - not james bond. This has helped me see that even if you do have insecurities you need to decide what to do with them. Do you let them destroy you or do you decide use them to your advantage.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 05:22 PM
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Amen! Thanks my friend.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 05:10 PM
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Thanks for the advice. This was one misdemeanour too many. Others included -Telling me how she likes to chat to dudes when out and drunk. -Telling me how hot other dudes were. -Telling me how hot the dude in her office was. I decided the only way for me to remain clear minded and feel secure enough with a oneitis was set the terms and if broken.. walk. Tbh i think i was looking for an excuse anyway. The other option was demote to play and ply the field but i think a clean break was better. Ultim…
/r/askTRP21/01/21 05:07 PM
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Thanks bro. Onwards and upwards!
/r/askTRP21/01/21 05:03 PM
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Thanks bro.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:59 PM
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It wasn’t due to the fact i thought she was cheating. I just set the terms for what is acceptable in a relationship with me and those terms were acknowledged when i set them out. She consciously decided those terms weren’t acceptable or thought she could bypass them. No.. not with me.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:59 PM
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She was an LTR who id developed oneitis for!
/r/askTRP20/01/21 04:30 PM
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So what should i have done?
/r/askTRP20/01/21 04:22 PM
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I wouldn’t have been bothered until she said he was handsome. That was an almost colourblind red flag that i let go.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 04:19 PM
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True. But i set out the rules of the game and they broke them
/r/askTRP20/01/21 04:16 PM
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I didnt really know how to do that without asking. When i started to get suspicious i was tempted to dip into it as i think i could get her passcode if needed but i thought if i do this and theres nothing id feel ashamed. If i did it i’d still have felt shame that i lowered myself to such levels and cared so much.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 03:58 PM
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Yes in the grand scheme it doesnt really matter - but isnt it also a bit immature for me to leave it vague too? I understand she would hate that but whats does that achieve.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 03:41 PM
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That is one of the biggest lessons i have learned from it. If i had done that i would have saved myself a lot of pain. Hope this is a lesson to others too. Feeling shitty and hurt right now but i know that with time this will pass and if i had not done it i’d not have been able to truly trust myself.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 03:31 PM
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Not heard from her since. Shes not blocked but i know she’ll be the type to take a few days to process things.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 03:25 PM
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I let it go at the time as there will always be hot and potentially hotter men around and i was confident in what i have to offer. Her calling it out was shitty and immature and was close to ending it then. Instead i set the terms for that and any other interaction with men that is a condition to a relationship with me. Again, i gave her the choice and she chose poorly.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 03:22 PM
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I think so too and she’d be saying it a lot with random dudes and celebs.. a lot of it was shit / comfort testing.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 03:05 PM
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She was the one who told me he was handsome and that shed have something good to look at when bored in work. The guy is single - u really think that any sort of relationship between them wont develop?
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:56 PM
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LTR
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:47 PM
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I just want to add that i didn’t impose any rules on her. I told her the rules of a relationship with me. She was free to choose.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:37 PM
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To steal a classic girl line ‘it just sort of happened’
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:35 PM
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If she was emotionally unstable
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:34 PM
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Almost 14 months
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:33 PM
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Isnt that mateguarding though? Theres many that will say thats a clear sign of insecurity
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:23 PM
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Thanks bro. It wasn’t easy but after i set out my expectations i knew if this day came i’d have to be true to my word otherwise what am i worth?
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:13 PM
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I am bro. The euphoria is already there as the oneitis was ruining my life. Time to invest in myself and now i know i have the balls to say no i’ll never be in that position again.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:11 PM
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I was butthurt - it wasnt by choice though. What could i have checked?
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:09 PM
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Good advice.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:04 PM
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Thanks bro. What did i do wrong? I’m taking everything as a lesson!
/r/askTRP20/01/21 01:11 PM
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Interesting points there. My gf will usually initiate texts 4-6 times a week and for a lot of it i do 0. Sometimes yes, i’ll throw the odd initiation in but thats few and far between and usually if its been more than 24 hours since hearing from her - but this always makes me feel weak. Like shes called my bluff and i should have waited it out. I think i get caught up in the mindset of thinking ‘shes angry as i haven’t reached out so shes being stubborn and isnt reaching out to me’. In which case…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 04:11 PM
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‘Shes started doing x’ therefore ‘shes fucking him dude’. This sort of paranoia is always touted as a default.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 05:24 PM
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Quite possible but sometimes people just go through bad periods too
/r/askTRP15/01/21 11:15 PM
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Well said. Thats part of the problem. I want her to back off but then my monkey brain tells me ‘shes lost interest’ when she does the same. I always wait hours before replying - sometimes 7-8 hours before reading to show i’m at work. She used to future block me all the time in the sense she’d send a text on a Friday saying ‘have a good weekend’ as if to say ‘i dont want to hear from you all weekend’ - at time it drove me nuts but now i’d welcome it as the less texting the more chance of missing …
/r/askTRP15/01/21 01:00 PM
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I’d say if you’re thinking like that now you’ll not shake it. If shes green flags all the way then stick it out longer and reassess how you feel about it in 6 months. By then the pandemic will be leas of an issue and you’ll probably have resolved a few of the issues you’re mentioned organically.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 11:27 AM
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Us men are different. I’m many years older and fell into the ‘love trap’. Remember that theres no such thing and that whats happening for you is a lot healthier than when most of the population set themselves up for pain by using the word love to describe some sort of attachment or codependency. Also remember that its what most people fall in love with is the idea they project. It seems like you haven’t got that idea or at least one that has taken hold. I’d continue as you are and keep dating. I…
/r/askTRP15/01/21 11:18 AM
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My gf is great with general knowledge as has been big into quizzes all her life - however she earns a half of what i do and has no real ambition or hobbies. For every one thing she beats you at then beat her at 2-3 other things.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 09:44 AM
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Thanks bro. Yes. You’re right with the stalker like behaviour- achieves nothing. Basically i found we had a much better dynamic when we didnt message a lot and now its LTR status she reaches out almost daily for some silly reason.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 09:41 AM
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Thats exactly whats happening though- shes reaching out almost daily with some meme or excuse to engage. I’m definitely needy and insecure which is why i’m trying to pull back and create a little distance and breathing space to focus on myself a little more.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 04:26 PM
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Thanks bro. I’m aware of that and like to hear it being reinforced
/r/askTRP14/01/21 04:11 PM
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Love that quote. LTR, (13 months) and not LDR. Your logistics advice is something i needed to hear as this was how i was doing it at the start and for a while but relaxed this after it passed the 10-11 month mark and for some reason have gotten drawn in to daily exchanges. i’m not sure if thats (13 months) defined as ‘some time’ or not.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 03:56 PM
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Put something on your phone screen with initials or some other way to do this. I have a list of quotes on mines that to anybody else would make no sense but to me its a reminder of things like Wwjbd? Scribble it in ur paint app or something if needed. May help.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 03:24 PM
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‘Its winter!’ (Depending on where you are)
/r/askTRP14/01/21 03:22 PM
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Yes. In the sense she would say ‘he was/is very handsome’ etc At first i thought it was just the usual shit test so kept frame. She pushed it further though from tv celebs to in person to work colleagues. Thats when i broke. I’ve noticed her doing it too with women though but its usually ‘pretty’ rather than handsome. Obviously attraction never stops but calling it out in front of you repeatedly is disrespect and not something i put up with. Of course all i’ve done is hide it from me. It won’t s…
/r/askTRP14/01/21 08:05 AM
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Do not get hung up on this chick. You are 20. This was her turn too and its over. You’ve nothing to lose here. If she comes back do you really think you’re going to spend the next 60 years with her? Fuck that. See the world. Fuck hotties. Build it and they will come!
/r/askTRP13/01/21 06:02 PM
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‘They can keep you busy when you’re not seeing me’ then leave it.. she’ll come back. If not.. next!
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:57 PM
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I demanded more of myself and she wasn’t enough.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:54 PM
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Always always the number. Social media is a fob off
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:52 PM
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Same for me. Around 6-7 years. Its a mixture of staleness, familiarness and that drove me to be the best person i could be for myself. It was noticed by others outside the relationship and opportunities basically presented themselves everywhere. I miss that guy. I’m on the road to being him and then some.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:51 PM
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You will never know bro. As many a wise poster has said. Pay attention to her actions - not her words. At least double the number and decide what to do with that number. Its like making your peace about anything in life. If she says 50 run. If its sub 10 and shes on in years double it at least and thats your starting point. Also remember that past behaviour is a predictor of future events so the real question you’d want to know is if shes cheated before. Remember that AWALT is less of a gender t…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:47 PM
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Cheers man. I’m sceptical that 30+ years relationship is possible there days - let alone want one. I’m just caught up in oneitis so i’m trying to trick my brain into keeping realistic. I’m just going to enjoy the ride, fuck her often and like shes never been fucked before and take each week as it comes.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:27 PM
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Early/mid 30s. Would be more bars than all out clubs. More theme based or with cheesy music nights.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:04 PM
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Thanks bro- 5&6 arent a problem anymore as i told her its disrespectful and if she does it again she can go her own way. Was a no win scenario without walking away. She drinks maybe 2-3 times a month. When we talked about ons she mentioned one then that became 2 — she said she said 2 but tbh i can’t actually remember if she did and it may have been so. I tried to divert the topic as i knew her n was of course bs but she still rationalised it with the usual ‘no need to lie’ .. ‘very inexperienced…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 05:02 PM
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100% I purged my spotify recently as i noticed that if i searched love / heart / girl in the search bar that more or less my whole library came back. Music is very much like the disney and hollywood love indoctrination. I try to listen to classical now which at least isnt as explicit in its messages.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 04:49 PM
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Couldnt agree more mate. I think most of us come here from fragile places of having gotten burnt by females in the past. The problem i tend to have with the RP philosophy is it very rarely seems to apply to LTRs (hard mode) and yes, i understand that being masculine or ‘Alpha’ is being on your purpose to get the right girl however its difficult to recondition yourself overnight to become ‘Alpha’. Most on here should make some improvement to their lives but i think a lot of people are just bitter…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 04:37 PM
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Thats the problem.. its getting harder and harder to find a unicorn. I’m not saying settling for 2nd best is an option but is it beta thinking to weigh up the pros and cons every now and then?
/r/askTRP13/01/21 04:26 PM
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Fuck it really is Bro. When i first noticed this i thought i could work on it while in the LTR. Its been the opposite - its only gotten worse. Problem is i have oneitis and i keep making the excuse that it will be easier to transition away when i can build up some social game when covid subsides.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 03:08 PM
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Amen. Women say what they feel at the time. As an older dude stick this shit on your fridge and meditate on it every day!
/r/askTRP11/01/21 11:13 PM
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I’m a fan of the coaches work. Not sure 4-5 hours of not texting me when shes with her friends is bad behaviour or if it is.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 11:03 PM
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Yeah bro. I broke and reached out last time it may have been heading beyond a day (was about 27 hours although she was working about 16 of them)... the only time its went 2 whole days was during summer when she wished me a good weekend in advance and i didnt hear from her from Friday until Monday. There are definitely days where i wont hear from her.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 09:12 PM
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The only times i’ve been guilty of this and its only been maybe twice in a year is when shes ‘read’ me and then not contacted for 24-48 hours.. next time i’ll mot bither contacting her despite the mad anxiety it brings on
/r/askTRP11/01/21 05:29 PM
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Funny thing is mate this started out like every other story most likely. Plate > trying to get rid of her >all but ghosted her and then covid came in so i kept her on. Caught the oneitis for her about 5-6 months in. She didnt catch it and i overplayed everything .. done a lot wrong.. extravagant dates and treated her like a disney princess - what did i get back? Her telling me she didnt love me yet. So i pulled back a bit and she did the L bomb .. probably out of fear herself that i was flaking.…
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:42 PM
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99% no. The odd time she’ll click it on the way past if shes on way to the toilet for eg. One time she did do it and i told her to tell them you’re with a hot man but if its something important i’ll drop you home now.. she hasnt been at it since.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:25 PM
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I like it.. i’m doing a lot of this already.. i did make the mistake of messaging her last time she left me on read for 24+ hours .. albeit it was a statement and looking over the last few weeks she has done 99% of initiating almost daily with the odd exception. Usually if it goes a day or two she messages. Last time it happened. Guess what. She said ‘is all OK with you?’ And i normally say fine, been busy etc. Thanks for the advice bro. Will at least mirror and stand my ground a bit more. Shes …
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:22 PM
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Good advice - i am going to stick to my guns a bit more and if i’m doing something not message - i have let her stay over a few times and next day messed around with her instead of actually doing my job. This will change asap
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:13 PM
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Altogether you mean?
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:04 PM
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Yeah having this talk this week. Will bring it up in an indirect way though so that it doesn’t seem premeditated.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 09:54 AM
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Seems theres no cure for Oneitis other than for the sufferer to break it off.. I definitely have oneitis. Its a killer. I didnt realise how unprepared i was until it hit. Covid doesnt help but its not the excuse. All that did was highlight some areas i need to improve. Still regardless of oneitis - if she says she wants to leave - shes gone that minute and theres no coming back. Been there twice and handled it both as a real bitch and as the guy who moved on and never looked back.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 07:14 PM
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No.. only possible if both don’t fancy each other. If theres attraction on both ends its a no go. I’d caveat this by saying what the other poster said - possible but not probable.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 04:39 PM
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(Note and worth considering - i have kids who i look after a few nights a week.. she doesn’t so gets those nights free to herself) Well i believe shes capable, 100%. Do i think she would? I think she would either tell (test) me in advance or tell me after the event. So i at least feel confident knowing i’d know if she started serious monkey branching. The latter is the more worrisome as these boundaries haven’t been set which leave one with 2 options: 1.Declare it as a boundary there and then an…
/r/askTRP08/01/21 04:37 PM
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So i think the sooner i get in her with some boundaries the better? Can’t do any harm is the way i see it now.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 04:13 PM
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Enjoyable read. Thanks. So yes. My boundary are simple -no secret meetings -no one on ones with ‘new guy friends’ (coworkers / people from class or hobby groups) -no texting with the same without good reason and def no flirty texts Then if those rules are broken i can dump without explanation. Dont know if this is well into beta / mate guarding territory though.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 04:03 PM
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First 2-3 weeks ..especially if you want to maximise its impact. If you can build up a somewhat consistent communication routine with them then it will be more effective and noticeable to them when you’re unavailable - particularly if you’ve done a date or 2.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:32 PM
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If its early days i’d say avoid it and save for it when you need it.. and you will need it. If its past a reasonable hour .. 7 or 8 it can say more to not open it until 10-11 then leave it on read.. this tends to drive them crazy. Disclaimer: you can overdo this at which point they’ll start shit testing you back.. short replies / leaving you on read. So be ready to not break frame when this happens.. if it does remember never double text and always at least mirror their reply times or make a dat…
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:20 PM
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So you’re saying its too late? Its still prior to any real event due to covid anyway so still think theres a chance to bring this up.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:09 PM
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Search for local shelters, soup kitchens and food banks. Ideally though you want to try and get something collecting money at a supermarket or public place as this is the perfect opportunity to meet people and talk and work on social skills. Unfortunately most laws prevent you just going out and collecting on behalf of charities in public places without official permission. However, two of the best things i did recently were to head out with my digital camera and start photographing things. Got …
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:06 PM
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Yes
/r/askTRP08/01/21 12:53 PM
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Thanks bro. Appreciate the advice. We’re definitely our worst enemy at times instead of being our best cheerleader. What has you in the mindset of meeting plates atm? Is it lockdown or u just looking for distractions? I’ve always found that i’ve fallen into the distraction trap far too often and its lead me down a very bad rabbit hole .. the lesson i’m learning is when i think i’m ready, give it twice as long and re-evaluate.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 11:28 AM
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Bro you may have to go MM. Lockdown showed me my weaknesses - no male friends, no money, unhappy alone.. developed oneitis pretty easily because these things were missing. I’m still going through the oneitis mental battle but i thank the fucking stars for lockdown as its shown me who i really am and what i need to do. Not overly spiritual but look inwards for the practical things you lack or come up short on then start there.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 11:14 AM
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Read my posts buddy. If you can drop it before getting too deep do it for your own sanity.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 10:55 AM
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Its very difficult... if you want to game go to a park or nature walk.. if you have a dog its typically a winner.. For meeting and building a bit of a relationship i’m not sure theres much you can do other that the apps and branching to formers but that will put you at an immediate disadvantage. What i’ve started to do is look for volunteer opportunities and i’ve signed up for a few classes that will be in person when shit opens .. now is really the time to plan your emergence when lockdowns end…
/r/askTRP08/01/21 10:54 AM
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I was spinning mate and she was chasing hard at the time too but i think she knew i was spinning and she was being stubborn - who knows. Completely agree with the n count point. On the experiences i will give her the benefit of the doubt as when i met her she was clueless and since then i’ve trained her. I want a christmas card from the next dude. When we talked about sexual stuff she said she’d like to be more adventurous .. positions and outdoors as all new to her. I’m trying to fill that hole…
/r/askTRP07/01/21 12:44 PM
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Would love to not be a jealous person but i lack abundance and that attitude that i can be ok or find someone better. Fucking terrible feeling.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:50 AM
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Haha thanks bro. I like any perspective on it. Like i said iv’e been that dude too. Asking to see her phone seems like a real beta move regardless - just say theres nothing on it? She does work nights for sure - its contracted- but guess she could have taken a day off. Again getting no cheating signs so far but if there was any sign of it would have to call her out and dump her on the spot. The hot comment is something she was at for a while with passer by and tv dudes until i called her out on …
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:47 AM
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Maybe you’re right mate. I’m willing to take that on board. Although i was spinning her at the start and she made me wait it out about 5-6 weeks and whilst that means fck all it made me think a little different at the start...but like i say- could be on the money there for sure and i’m sure its much higher than she told me of course .. rule of 3 etc would put her at a high n count. Plus shes never been in ltrs before so probably fucked a lot of dudes brains out. Regardless of this i didnt vet he…
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:35 AM
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Trying to check out mentally here
/r/askTRP06/01/21 08:05 PM
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I beg to differ mate. The reason shes calling out these dudes etc is she never got the number higher.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 07:21 PM
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Cheers bro. Solid advice. Its harder to do that now as i know she may turn to this doofus in her work to validate her. Last week she told me she was getting some teeth whitening kit (and a spare free one included for me) so my spidey sense tingled even more. I want to be with her and apart from everything i’ve listed shes given me no reason to doubt her.. just cant get past my own insecurities and jealousy knowing that AWALT and that ive been the guy before. I do feel like the prize mostly and i…
/r/askTRP06/01/21 03:40 PM
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Trying that daily! Getting better at it.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 03:19 PM
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I do like her - shes the first woman who ive genuinely seen a future with. I’ve disabled kids and shes met them and taken them on to a degree. We’re both 30ish. I’m trying to improve myself and she sees it .. just fixated on her jumping ship and lightswitching.. its happened before and i’m scarred
/r/askTRP06/01/21 03:09 PM
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Fuck. Appreciate that. ‘You always win when you leave’ - is this true? I can’t seem to see it now. I keep thinking ‘No, its a mistake, dont do it - you have great years ahead’ — Shes been dangling carrots to me taling about slowly increasing nights together like a trial moving in. Saying she can see us together for a long time — But i make excuses for her all the time and thats diminishing my own self worth.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 03:07 PM
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Sorry bro,
/r/askTRP06/01/21 02:52 PM
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Yeah its turned to resentment because of that. I’m of the opinion that nobody makes you jealous except yourself but was definitely gaslit by that. Thought ‘this bitches audacity to tell me she’ll be checking out her handsome coworker’. Felt like a real simp after that. Problem is ive no game going on right now as covid and remote home working.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 02:51 PM
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This is what i know needs to happen i’m just thinking id simp right now if i did it
/r/askTRP06/01/21 02:47 PM
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This bitch dreaded me with her comments- would make almost anybody insecure surely?
/r/askTRP06/01/21 02:45 PM
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Being in an LTR i cant spin plates. WFH 10-12 hours a day. I lift, read, record music .. just very unfulfilling at present and oneitis got me fixated.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 07:31 PM
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Here the thing shes not - sex is great and when i want it. She told me she loves me which is pretty irrelevant granted. Buys me gifts a lot and we see each other twice a week pretty regularly. This is an isolated incident but i don’t want it to become a theme especially as it drives my anxiety through the roof.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 07:28 PM
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First solid piece of actual advice ive seen - thanks
/r/askTRP05/01/21 06:56 PM
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Its tough alright. Without the drop how would you handle it? Going to ‘read her’ after 2 hours here then reply after 4-5 with pretty short response. No idea what she was at last night and shed be online on and off throughout the day. Feels like a kick in the nuts She is dreading me though. Is dumping the only option?
/r/askTRP05/01/21 06:07 PM
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I know that now
/r/askTRP05/01/21 05:30 PM
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What makes you think i lack value?
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:58 AM
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Late 30s
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:42 AM
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And yes. I fucked up the vetting somewhat and now i think i’m trying to make it fit but it doesnt feel 100% right to me.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:41 AM
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Its not that shes always drunk mate. Maybe i stated that wrong. In fact i’ve never seen her drunk properly. She drinks maybe 2-3 times a month and one of those is usually with me. Although in the year we’ve been dating twice shes got drunk or tipsy and sent me the ‘im horny’ text. We’re definitely not moving in. She likes her space as i do mines but shes talking about givin me a key to hers to use when i want so it could be heading that way..
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:41 AM
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Working on it bro. New to RP so gonna take time and effort - 2 things i’m willing to put in.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:30 AM
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I haven’t been consciously applying dread but recently i’ve been telling her i’m unavailable as i’m doing x,y,z for myself.. she responded with ‘i need to start doing a,b,c as i feel i’ve nothing going on’. It was like the other guy said - it was a mirror and she was seeing an uglier reflection that she wanted. The difference is that 99% of people wont follow through with their words.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:29 AM
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I like it
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:24 AM
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I’m not banging you tho.. yet.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:24 AM
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I trust her to tell me the truth or for me to find out and i trust myself to walk away and never look back if she fucks it up. She dangled some carrots saying she had feelings but couldnt say ‘love’. Although she said it recently to me.. and like i said i just said ‘i know’. At the time i decided to give it a bit longer and it transpired to her saying she loved me. At the time it was complete lockdown and i wasnt confident in my abilities to be alone or get more plates asap.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:23 AM
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Negative.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:08 AM
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I do suck at vetting but we started at the beginning of covid times almost when i was spinning - a lot of this came to light much later..
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:07 AM
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Tell me.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:06 AM
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My impending LTR is almost 33 and i can see this on the horizon.. Shes a big ego and i’d love to take her down a peg or two.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:05 AM
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Just send a happy birthday message then. What are you trying to achieve? Showing her you’re interested? She likely already knows.. if you’ve agreed to get together after this theres not much more to be done. If you’re trying to maintain her interest then less is more probably.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:03 AM
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Why don’t you just send her a flirty message or better still a card just saying ‘lets celebrate properly when this is over’ and use it as your way to gauge interest.. then at some other time message and ask her if she fancies that celebration..
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:01 AM
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Also i know the only thing i’ve got as leverage is walking away but i’m not at a place where i can walk away and mean it... i’d be using it as a game.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 01:46 PM
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Thats exactly why i’m keeping her around - emotional investment. She has played me every step of the way. Played down our relationship to others. Tested me repeatedly. I simped and told her about feelings in a moment of weakness months back and they weren’t reciprocated. She hangs carrots out here and there like ‘cant wait to see you’ and she compliments me and does what i want in the bedroom.. i’ve been weighing these pros up against the cons.. but truth be told when i’m not with her i feel fuc…
/r/askTRP02/01/21 01:38 PM
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Why do you think shes lost respect? Also - would be the quickest affair ever considering hes only worked there a week. But she does fancy him as she told me.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 11:25 AM
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Nah but shes calling out handsome dudes to me and even some new handsome guy in work who started last week.. she said will be something for her to look at to get the day in... i usually pass these tests .. most recently she done it 3 times.and i failed the test if thats what it was as i told her to cut that shit out if shes going to do it repeatedly all day ..as its not for me.. once or twice.. fine ..but continuously calling out guys as handsome in my company is a sure fire way to a hard next. …
/r/askTRP02/01/21 10:50 AM
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Thanks. Well a few times i do that and shes asking ‘did you go out’ and i keep it vague and she will ask ‘who were you with’ so to some degree it works. I think the most recent time she got pissed off as i told her i had an invite to go out.. then i didnt reply all night and read her message about 9 telling me to enjoy myself whatever i was at.. then i sent her a happy new year and she quizzed if i went out. I told her i had a night to myself. She seemed pissed that id basically ignored her but …
/r/askTRP02/01/21 10:47 AM
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So i’m fucked then?
/r/askTRP02/01/21 10:40 AM
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Cheers bro. I’m trying to pull back through unavailability and not hanging around after dates as much. Also trying to show her through leaving her on read and not responding for hours etc that she doesnt control me. Fact of the matter is its just stupid games and i l’d rather be the person rather than just act it. Fake it til you make it i guess as its not an overnight process..
/r/askTRP02/01/21 10:33 AM
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I see what you’re saying. I’ve definitely made mistakes along the way that i’ve learned from. I just have the overriding gut feeling that i’m an option to her. I have kids and she doesn’t so in some way it feels like i’m starting from a more difficult place. I justify her by saying she does a lot of things right. 90-100% of text initiation is done by her.. she cooks me meals.. gives me massages.. buys me gifts and fcks my brains out.. but still i know the bitch isnt hung up on me.. at times i th…
/r/askTRP02/01/21 10:20 AM
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Bro - u did the right thing. Backup the chat and then delete her number and chat. Same thing happened to me last year. Got a long text with a shitty reason and offer to talk so i said ‘ok, i understand,all the best’ .. gone- deleted there and then and it was much easier to just let it go. I’m trying to be more stoic and the reality is when you give people replies and chances you also give them power. You don’t owe anybody anything .. owe and pay yourself first and things will work out ok.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 10:02 AM
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