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QUICK TIPStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:08 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:25 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨StillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:33 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:30 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶StillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:11 PM
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LEVEL UPStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:52 AM
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LEVEL UPStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:34 PM
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DISCUSSIONStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:40 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨StillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:26 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:00 PM
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DISCUSSIONStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:33 AM
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DUMP HIS ASSStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:43 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:01 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:49 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:40 AM
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FDS HUMORStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:23 PM
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QUICK TIPStillAwakeofCourse/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:02 PM
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11

Thank you. Recovery is a process - I am almost a year away from him, which isn't much considering the years I spent with him, but it's good all the same. I am much stronger than I thought I was, all things considered. And now with the world changing around me, I have more time to focus on healing and strengthening relationships with women who lift me up and bless my life. It's good! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 12:21 PM
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It's parasitic, is what it is. Men drain the energy, hopes, dreams and love out of women, and when she's a husk who still continues to serve out of misguided devotion, he kicks her to the curb and gets a newer model, to start the process all over again. Ask me how I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 11:31 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:17 PM
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I'm glad you have the tools you need, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:13 PM
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I don't even date men anymore and I'm here, because I like supporting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:01 PM
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I've just cancelled a date because of it. We live far from each other and both of us didn't feel comfortable with the travel and possible repercussions if we are carriers (spread to each other, catch from elsewhere and bring home, etc.) We're both female if that makes any difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:58 AM
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This conversation is being typed one handed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:25 PM
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I read this before I ever joined reddit and it gave me life then. Gives me more life now. This is the way it's done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:30 AM
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Adore this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:12 PM
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This sounds like life goals to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 08:26 AM
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Yes, their brains have melted from watching porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 08:25 AM
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The lads who even know what FDS stands for haven't done cardio since 9th grade PE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:19 PM
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Agreed, they are emotional vampires, trying to suck you dry. Don't let them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:14 PM
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Dear Jeff, Yes, it is really weird. You being "kinda horny" is nobody's responsibility but your own - turn that shit DOWN. Your ability to communicate needs work. Sincerely, Humanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:45 AM
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This is why I'm not interested in dating men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:37 PM
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I have 1 follower, I assume is a bot. Under profile in your user settings, if you disable the content visibility and active in communities visibility, people won't be able to see your posts elsewhere. Unless they follow you I guess? I'm not sure how that works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:15 PM
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Magic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:07 PM
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Such a brilliant idea. I would love to help but can't take on any extra tasks until I'm done with university in end of May. Would you be willing to wait til then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:51 PM
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Truthfully, this sub has helped me realize my true sexuality and I am walking away from men. Where I'm headed is uncharted territory for me but I know I won't miss what I'm leaving behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 09:36 PM
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"Feminism is a political practice of fighting male supremacy on behalf of women as a class, including all the women you don't like, including all the women you don't want to be around, including all the women who used to be your best friends whom you don't want anything to do with anymore." -Andrea Dworkin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:21 PM
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DARVO innit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:09 AM
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This is why men and women can't be friends. She has opened herself up to an asshole and doesn't even know it. Yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:08 AM
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💯 he and his buddies have moved on to someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:08 AM
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I went out dancing with my girlfriends recently and some man came up to me, so I started dancing with him. He was twirling me around, I was tipsy and laughing - until I noticed the wedding ring. I asked him if he was married and he said yes. I immediately stopped dancing with him and told him to fuck off. I am not that woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:56 AM
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Oh my God what an asshole. Let him go fuck a hole in the ground if he doesn't like the smell of pussy ffs. I bet he never gives her oral and the memory of orgasming is dim and distant in her mind. Duuuuummmppp hiiiiimmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:23 AM
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https://180rule.com/the-gray-rock-method-is-a-mental-model/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:47 PM
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Truth. I think gay males are just as misogynistic as hetero males, they just don't have to hide it in order to get laid. Men aren't friend material, full stop. Let's focus on building each other up, women, and turn away from the male gaze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:24 AM
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Wait the gay man came out with a lesbophobic comment like that? He's trash, too. I would be very unhappy to hear something like that from a "friend".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:23 AM
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Because they would spell it defanately ... difinitely... def.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:18 PM
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Let him go, maybe....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:36 PM
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Aw, the tiny dicked boys are swarming in tryna downvote this comment. Sad for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:29 PM
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But tiny dicks are funny. waddyagonnado.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:57 PM
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Wanking to porn all day reduces brain matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:55 PM
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How very dare you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:53 PM
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Excellent reply sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:53 PM
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I hope you are free of him, he sounds dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:02 PM
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That doesn't even look like her...!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:35 PM
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Oh dear god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:53 AM
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In a twisted sort of way I hope some of those women are actually pics ripped from Facebook and it's men posting to each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:02 AM
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She reacted perfectly normally to an impossible situation, imo. I hope she leaves him but I feel bad for her being tied to his family forever thru the kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:58 AM
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I noticed that too. Immediate red flag. I hope she's happy, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:52 AM
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Cheezeits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:49 AM
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ZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 09:49 PM
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The thing is, slightly oily skin will probably age better anyway. She's very pretty and deserves to love herself better than reddit ever will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:21 PM
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That sub is for men to practice negging and women to flagellate themselves. I would never bring myself so low as to even pretend to care what these schlubs on reddit think of my looks. Do. Not. Care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:10 PM
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How is this even a question? Dump him and keep your dreams alive. You will hate him, yourself and your future if you do anything less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:30 PM
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The real risk is possible injury and death. I will never again advocate for ONS or casual sex. These pornsick men are not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:02 PM
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Sex with men is rarely good enough to risk the possible dangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:53 PM
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I genuinely hope this is fake, but who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:36 PM
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Tell me about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:36 PM
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Saaaaaame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:49 PM
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Thank you. I wish no woman has to, but I share my experience to help others feel stronger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:39 AM
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Thank you. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:03 PM
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That first red flag totally happened in my last relationship, hah. More lightbulb moments. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:21 PM
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I firmly believe this is the biggest reason why women don't leave the abuser until after 35 attacks (on average, UK stat). Leaving is very, very difficult on your own. I left after the first strike, called the police as he went down the stairs. Everyone in my life said either implicitly or explicitly to go back to him. Doubted me. Made me feel wrong for being angry or following expert advice. It has been infuriating and I've had to cut almost everyone out of my confidence. Leaving is almost impo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:16 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to respond! I am at the beginning of this journey to find my true self (trite saying, but accurate) and I am already happier than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:07 PM
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Yes please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:27 PM
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Teach me your ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:26 PM
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The best sex I've had was with a circumsised American dude. Thundering Vaginal Orgasms ahoy.... I used to orgasm almost non-stop. Once my uterus went rock-hard after a night of fun. Too bad he was a narcissistic dickhead. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:22 PM
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There's no such thing as a good male role model in this violently misogynist society. Fathers themselves are statistically dangerous. Raise your children with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:07 PM
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I've just read this thru with my nearly 17yo daughter, and she thinks you have a lot of the same characteristics. Things like social anxiety, liking "masculine" things but being confused about masc/feminine stuff (why is there a difference, why does it matter, etc?), a lot of your personality attributes are the same. Do you tend to hyperfocus on certain things, like hobbies? And then do you move on to something else after you've learned everything you can about it and feel "done" with it? Autism…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:29 PM
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For many, many autistic women, the difficulties arise as they get older. Maybe something worth looking into?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:10 PM
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You sound a lot like my daughter, who is autistic. Is that something you've ever considered?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:18 AM
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That's a shame. I live in a city and know of walking groups that get together for overnight trips into the countryside. Maybe see what's going on near a local University or community college?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:10 AM
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This is an interesting list. I would definitely agree with it in terms of my recent exbf - BDE equated to actual BD and a very strong physical chemistry between us. He was still an asshole in the end, unfortunately. His ability to 'read' me was used to manipulate me as well. I'm still levelling up but this is definitely one piece of the puzzle and I am already assessing a guy who is showing me some of this energy, hah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:07 AM
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Maybe a mixed sex sporting hobby like outdoor running or hiking groups?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:55 AM
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The process to harvest eggs is brutal, sis. Do your research and don't sacrifice your health for this without knowing every possible outcome. I love your attitude though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:34 AM
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I don't know. It all looks very sweet but they are trained actors and basically lie for a living. Nobody knows what's actually going on, and very few Hollywood couples stay together for more than a decade. I'd rather not look to that crowd for FDS validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:29 AM
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We've all been there, which is why we are here now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:18 AM
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Sex with a greasy basement dweller is not an adventure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:00 AM
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Keep going! You'll achieve your goals and more, because now you understand with unshakeable certainty how important they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:36 PM
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u/tatob92 -- please leave him. You deserve so, so much better than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:55 PM
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Silence is the best weapon. I can feel it when these emotional vampires want to gobble me up. No more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:16 AM
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Agreed. Radical feminism ftw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:08 AM
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I feel the need to go darker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:39 AM
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OMFG What on earth makes these idiots even think this is attractive?! Also: this dude isn't even worth the amount of time it takes to swipe left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:16 AM
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Happy to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:51 AM
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This is why I say romance isn't real, it's just a way to convince women abuse is love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:25 PM
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That's because cluster B's seem to be in charge of things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:23 PM
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Oh the naff tats hahahaaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:31 PM
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Yes, yes, yes. When I say I left after the first hit, I didn't include all the subtle attempts to destroy me, the way he hid behind "it's just a joke, hahaha" attitudes, the coerced sex (rape). I honestly don't know how I found my core of steel after being ground under his boot heel for so many years. But here I stand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:08 AM
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I'm sorry you're still struggling. I have similar feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:59 AM
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Oh yes, he was abusive from the start, but I didn't recognize it because I'd grown up around the sort of sly boundary pushing he likes to employ. He is a champion negger and I was a young, naive pickme. Thank you - I am strong! I left him as soon as I woke up to how awful he truly was, which took him hitting me. But at least I left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:58 AM
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Gah, this is playing out in my life right now. Ended it with long distance bf over two weeks ago and the narc is STILL sending me messages. (I've blocked him everywhere but can't seem to get his emails to disappear instead of getting sent to trash. I'm going to have to open a throwaway email address and get them forwarded there instead.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:38 AM
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I think one of the most dangerous/difficult aspects of OLD is not having any way to truly vet this man. No overlapping friendship groups, no common acquaintances, no hobbies or casual contact to check out his behaviour in the real world. He can literally create any persona he wants (remember that man with all those different profiles he used on Tinder?) and you just have to believe him and rely on your wits? I used to think OLD was just a numbers game, but now I'm thinking it's just a colossal w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:24 AM
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I say this everywhere, but the best primer on understanding how liberal feminism has been destroyed by capitalism is a YouTube video by Gail Dines called Neoliberalism and the defanging of feminism, or something like that. It's easy to search for, and definitely worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:03 AM
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I don't really spend a whole lot; I'm not a makeup wearer and I have eclectic tastes in clothes so am happy with 2nd hand stuff or one expensive item paired with simple things, I don't wear jewelry much, nails very rarely "done" Etc etc It doesn't really matter though because everyone has to eat, and I have a sparkling personality, I am genuinely fun to hang out with. I'm interesting, smart, kind and thoughtful. I am the prize. If a man doesn't want to make the effort, I'm not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:59 AM
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Yes, check out Dr Jessica Taylor's work with VictimFocus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:10 AM
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Dr Jessica Taylor's work on this is exactly that approach - bpd is actually a result of trauma and needs completely different treatment than what is currently offered. It's also almost exclusively applied to women, which is very interesting. She says bpd is the modern day "hysteria".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:08 AM
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Keep at it! This is a learned behavior; it can be unlearned too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:02 AM
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Same! I call it Patriarchy Chicken and I constantly get shoulder barged as a result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:01 AM
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The change I want to see is stronger women standing up for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:14 AM
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That's excellent! Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:13 PM
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You would never catch a man doing this YUP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:16 PM
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Be the example, sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:11 PM
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This is really good advice and I can confirm it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:53 PM
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Abusers don’t deserve closure. THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:51 PM
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we get taught to dampen down our instinctual responses all the time. no, sis, you aren't over-reacting. remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:37 PM
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Imagine spending your 20s and 30s raising children to only have to nurse your lazy-assed husband in your 40s and 50s. This would have been my reality if I hadn't left my LVM ex. I have the kids, and once they are grown I will be free to live my days as I see fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:08 PM
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I don't have time for last minute cancellations, so I wouldn't bother. Either his work is unpredictable like this and he should have warned you in advance, or he will randomly let you down hours before a date and waste your time and energy. Start as you mean to go on, first impressions, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:22 AM
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Her pain is visible in every picture. My heart hurts for this woman. Whatever has happened to her has torn her up; being exploited by the porn industry will not heal her. And her "boyfriend" is a pimp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:52 AM
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I've turned off my messages and stopped people from seeing my comments in other subs, so they can't do much. I'd suggest women do the same if you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:57 AM
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Yes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:54 AM
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I hear you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:35 PM
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Everyone deserves their sexual boundaries but it's definitely tricky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:42 PM
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Sis you have a way with WORDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:25 AM
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👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:17 AM
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Nobody needs to see this piece of trash at any time of day or night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:47 PM
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So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:44 PM
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I don't hide or gloss over the behavior of my children's father. I point out the narc patterns he displays so they are aware and don't get fooled. It's my duty to protect them and now that I know better, I do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:38 PM
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Thanks for this information! I have started small with just daily squats and planks so I feel like I'm on the right track already. Getting the technique right before lifting sounds like excellent advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:16 PM
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"Origins of the Family, Private Property and the State" Thanks, I've bought a cheap copy of this. I've come across so many good book suggestions on this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:35 PM
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Fair. I personally need to build that skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:26 PM
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This is such a good analysis! I was raised in a patriarchal cult and taught to revere the nuclear family set-up as godlike. Living that way nearly destroyed me. I won't ever live with a man again, I won't allow any outside male access to my children. If a father has such bare minimum standards for his own genetic offspring, there is no fucking way I'd believe he would love some other man's child in any capacity. We are not far off from monkeys and it would be safer for all women and their childr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:43 AM
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This is why we need to remain guarded for a long time. The mask will fall eventually, and if we aren't letting ourselves be blinded by feelings and hormones, we will be able to see it and walk away if necessary. (Which it probably will be, you can't change someone)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:25 AM
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Good luck!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:23 AM
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Negging word salad at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:22 AM
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Amazing! I want to start lifting so much. I will have more money and free time soon and I'll be joining the gym. Goals, sis! Happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:03 AM
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There is an inverse correlation between the length of demands and the appearance of the man. The longer the list, the schlubbier the dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:39 AM
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Stay safe, sis. I'm glad you're taking this advice seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:30 AM
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Agreed. And I'll add to this: You don't need a reason to end a relationship. If you're done, it's done. You don't owe him an explanation. Break it off and block him. Long, drawn out conversations about the breakup don't result in closure, it just gives him the chance to slither his way back in. Put yourself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:14 PM
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End this. He's not going to change his thinking, and in the meantime you are wasting your life with someone who despises women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:10 PM
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Could even be something he fosters in your head - in the case of my exbf, the mother of his children passed away. He shared his sad tale way too early on in the relationship, fostering fake intimacy and tapping into my empathy. Their relationship ended in divorce before she passed, so he had plenty of bad things to say about her too. Double-whammy. I fell for it for a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:41 PM
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Very effective. It taps into several layers of manipulation at once - not wanting to be like one of those "bad" women in his past, not wanting to leave him and then become one of those stories he tells, subtly pitting you against other women, faking intimacy by telling you private stories, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:26 PM
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Men forget they are less valuable, evolutionarily speaking. Millions of sperm, millions of ejaculations < one egg, every few weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:39 PM
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It's a definite possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:08 PM
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Disagree. Studies have shown that the happiest people are single women. However, if you choose to allow a man into your life, keep your eyes wide open and be ruthless in your decision making. He'd better add to you in all ways and not bring you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:07 PM
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No lies detected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:56 PM
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Yes it's an abuser's tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:59 AM
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I've been accused of using MRA arguments when I said men can't be feminists. Sit the fuck down, beardie woke dudebro; you can't take my language from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:04 AM
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Holy shit Adam, you're creepy as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:00 AM
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I feel like I've watched a movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:39 PM
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Stay jaded!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:34 PM
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Negging dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:32 AM
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She is so screwed. All those kids and no way to get out there and financially support herself? Things are only getting worse from now on. He's shown her who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:28 AM
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I should consider it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:16 AM
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Being rich is more important hah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:15 AM
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Protect your hearts, sisters. The mask only drops after a few months, when they think they have you hooked. Stay wary, stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:28 PM
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Truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:11 PM
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Well he's probably right that he wouldn't need a /big/ condom.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:19 PM
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Amazing! Good luck to you both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:11 PM
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Y'all! My ex sent me a schmaltzy love poem yesterday. The email went straight to trash, so I didn't notice til now. He has no dignity. I'm embarrassed for him at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:10 PM
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Excellent choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:45 PM
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I don't have a prostate so I very much don't see the point at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:42 PM
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Scrotes be downvoting these comments one-handed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:41 AM
75

Change passwords asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:14 AM
44

Maybe, but I'll dump someone in a hot second if he's proved himself dangerous, with no explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:30 PM
16

Exactly this. Any type of porn consumption contributes to the slavery of women and girls and I will not be part of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:08 PM
78

Men are worried women will laugh at them. Women are worried men will kill them. Idgaf what these men think, tbh. Die mad, losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:03 PM
4

Going out tonight, the men will be ignored. Die mad, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:51 PM
20

Does anyone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:47 PM
5

My opinion? Cocklodger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:18 PM
6

He's very low effort isn't he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:15 AM
16

He's dragging you away from life goals, little by little. Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:15 AM
12

No way I'd be friends with any male, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:46 AM
5

So much of my exbf here, it's wild. He tried to reel me back in after I broke it off by saying "I'm not good with emotions" as if that was supposed to entice me? Nah. I dont want an emotionally broken manchild, but thanks for confirming why I dumped your ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:32 AM
17

Fkn blackface?? Oh my fucking GOD I have seen it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:32 PM
23

Can you imagine the dangerous level of entitlement he will have with a woman he "paid" 25k for?! Horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:30 PM
6

It's stockholm syndrome, trauma bonding, whatever you want to call it. To live day in, day out, with your abuser, requires a high level of cognitive dissonance and/or dissociation. It's a life-saving mechanism in many ways, because leaving an abuser is often the most dangerous thing a woman will do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:01 PM
55

Abusive men are good at hiding, but also abused women are good at lying to themselves. It's more likely that he's a total dick in every area she just hasn't recognised the signs yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:51 PM
179

Oh. My. Goddess. I would go to the police over this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:43 AM
20

I'm not a fleshlight, I'm not on the bottom of someone's "to do" list, I deserve respect. I had a FB once, he was hot and good, but he was also a dickhead. I didn't catch feelings for him, I despised him. Not a healthy dynamic either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:19 AM
6

He sounds like a huge narc. I don't think famous people are regular people with visible jobs. I think they are up their own asses 💯 and unless you are also famous there's no way to balance that dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:56 AM
9

Yesssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:08 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:42 AM
2

This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:41 AM
3

Thanks. Yes, I believe now he reeled me in quite deliberately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:40 AM
1

something to consider, definitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:10 AM
3

Hopefully the lack of communication will bore him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:09 AM
2

Yes, it's blocked. I don't know if I can obtain a restraining order because we are in different countries but I will check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:09 AM
1

Thanks. I think you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:08 AM
1

God I hope he finally gets the hint. I've decided to continue ignoring for now. Hopefully he will bore of no reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:08 AM
3

Definitely wouldn't tell him anything more than what I already said when I broke it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:07 AM
5

Thanks, I think direct and to the point is good. No drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:06 AM
21

He told me he loved me too early on, he started making subtle homophobic and racist comments, he told me a story about how he once got very angry and punched a wall, but claimed he would never do that to a person. There are more and I should have noticed them sooner but I ended it as soon as possible when I finally woke up to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:06 AM
8

We live in different countries, so I'd have to research this, but I'm not against it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:03 AM
5

He's toying with your emotions. You aren't a plaything, sis. Cut him loose and reserve your energy for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:50 PM
6

Do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:39 PM
25

This is what I would call love-bombing. He couldn't possibly know you well enough in 2.5 months to love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:52 PM
51

And also, my feminism means it doesn't matter if my life is objectively"fine", if my sisters are still being trafficked, mutilated and murdered throughout the world, I have work to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:31 AM
32

perform some hardcore necromancy to raise their dead dick. brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:43 PM
9

beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:38 PM
11

Fair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:20 PM
40

I don't mind tattoos, although decisions are made on a case by case basis, but yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:09 PM
5

PASS THE CHEESE I NEED TO LEVEL UP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:06 PM
61

Redditor =/= HVM. Yeah, I said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:44 PM
35

Nailed it, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:53 AM
223

My heart hurts for you sis, but goddamn you are a QUEEN. Walking out without a word is amazing, you did so, so well. Stand tall and proud. I completely agree with you blocking and moving on without an explanation, because not only are you right about porn being normalised, you are also helping any other women in the future to discover his proclivities easier. This is why I didn't tell my exbf why I broke up with him - I didn't want him learning from me how to cover up his red flags easier for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:42 AM
6

I hope you're safe now! He sounds deranged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:04 AM
9

Maybe this should be a separate post entirely! Awesome stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:03 PM
36

They all do dodgy stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:45 PM
18

Occam's razor. Porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:43 PM
153

Guy I was dating told me the story how he punched the wall in anger once. He would never punch a person, he assured me. This was a warning, a softening up. I didn't wait to see what he did next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:50 PM
65

Make sure he is blocked everywhere and then delete his number. He is not worth your time. He is a predator, plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:47 PM
52

I always reply, "Hell no; have you seen what men are capable of? Why would I debase myself to be 'equal' to that??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:43 AM
6

Gaming = hard pass. Btdt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:26 AM
21

The hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:58 AM
103

Won't someone THINK OF THE CHILDREN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:58 AM
55

Some dude in my class saw my phone open to Reddit and said, "ah, a fellow redditor!" and I legit lost any semblance of respect for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:16 PM
4

This is probably more of an article for the Onion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:04 PM
72

Is this his resume for jail time? Or will all his friends and neighbors say "but he seemed soooooooo niiiiiiccceeee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:06 AM
89

And this comment is why I love this place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:47 AM
12

Excellent reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:41 AM
6

This isn't just Netflix and chill, ladies, it's Netflix and chilllllllllllll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:25 AM
18

The truth in this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:00 PM
54

No close/long-term friends. This is usually because nobody likes them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:37 PM
3

Listen. You don't need a big reason to end a relationship. If you aren't giddy-happy at 21, what's the point? Cut him loose and go on your deployment a free woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:35 PM
9

This is why the patriarchy tries to undermine the wisdom of older women and drive a wedge between the generations. Women need each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:28 PM
24

I'm really really worried about the conservative backlash for a whole host of reasons. You've articulated this well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:25 PM
7

Yes! We teach each other. Be a woman's woman. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:20 PM
5

The good news is that you're here and you can build that cage to protect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:16 PM
19

Thank you. And you're right too - women are set up to fail, no matter what. The patriarchy ensures this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:55 PM
15

This is grooming. It's not just isolated to sexual deviants - it is a societal issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:54 PM
6

Happy to be helpful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:52 PM
2

I wrote a post earlier but it's not showing up anywhere. Any ideas, mods? Can y'all see it? https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f09xtp/its_not_the_gift_of_fear_its_a_shark_cage/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:22 PM
12

Yeah. Imma stop being nice I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:31 AM
11

Uggghh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:51 PM
9

True.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:21 PM
44

I got severe anxiety just reading this. Please don't see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:13 PM
1

Well maybe the comments will help inform a lurker 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:50 PM
17

OMFG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:55 AM
16

I love my resting bitch face! I would not take kindly to being hit in by randos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:11 AM
11

Awww bless those little fellas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:08 PM
43

Don't let all your free time get subsumed by dating him. Use those free evenings to meet up with friends or practice a hobby. Two months is still very early days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:47 PM
15

He's a creep, sis. Get rid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:36 PM
11

This is the only way I'll do it, tbh. I'm not washing a man's underwear ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:34 PM
57

I really think this is dangerous advice for a woman who has been in abusive relationships and can't tell the difference between a good man and an abuser hiding in plain sight. It's difficult to clearly see red flags - especially because abusive behaviour is romanticised in society. There doesn't need to be this big rush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:31 PM
31

Good work!! Onwards and upwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:29 PM
91

God I needed this today, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:10 PM
22

That's adorable, and I'm glad you're free of the loser ex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:19 PM
15

He's probably riddled with STDs, sis. Drop this and get a vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:18 PM
17

I feel like I need to be a dark triad woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:08 PM
11

Just did this, sis. I don't need trinkets to prove my value. I know it already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:20 AM
3

Thanks you. All the best to you, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:47 AM
2

Yeah, that list? Thank fuck I've ended it while it was still early days. It's not great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:58 PM
21

I'm glad you're out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:57 PM
4

It's a long list sadly. I'll do that. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:56 PM
6

Thank you, this is just what I need to read right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:12 PM
0

this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:15 PM
21

thanks, yes. I'll never ever ever go back to him. So that's good to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:10 PM
2

loving to survive interesting, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:09 PM
5

i have kids, a house and live overseas. I'm alllllll good. time to end the male influence in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:19 PM
117

So true. My divorce story is more dramatic, due to DV, but I asked him to do marriage counselling before he attacked me, I was crying on the reg, I was trying to make him happy all the damn time. Turns out he enjoyed making me miserable, so nothing was going to change unless I made the change. I kicked him out and life has been very different ever since. Sisters, don't start a family with a man you aren't 100% sure of. You're better off with a sperm donor than an abuser. FACT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:20 PM
8

This is what I yearn for. Something truly equal. I'm sick of teaching men that women are actually equal humans ffs. Even the ones who claim to "get it" really, really don't. Sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:17 PM
30

DM me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:37 AM
15

So now we say, "the someone who loves me is ME"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:33 AM
59

Then what's the point of them? I'm going to date women, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:22 AM
8

This is why older women are so demonised by the patriarchy - if we could actually learn from each other, we'd destroy it in a generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:28 AM
64

My biggest piece of advice to younger women is to seek out and spend time with older women. I am 39 this year and I BASK IN THE GLOW of my older female friends. The ones with confidence pouring out of the ears and a jaunty walk and a solid sense of self. Find those women, and spend time with them. Learn their ways!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:22 PM
3

I like this formula, thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:12 PM
8

Thanks, I've now dealt with it - I don't like leaving things too long once I made a decision. I saw some red flags the last time we were together and didn't want to have a conversation where he could try to change my mind, so I left him an audio message on WhatsApp. (Our normal way of communicating) He took it pretty well, all things considered, though there was some attempt at manipulation that is easier to ignore via text than speaking. So that's that. Going to leave men for now and work on le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:59 PM
7

Mumsnet is fun, there are lots of sections. I like the feminist board.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:13 PM
88

Saaaaaame!! Never going overdrawn - ever! - because I'm not draining the family money on who knows what shit he bought. FFS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:15 AM
5

If you're using WhatsApp, they can tell because your picture disappears for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:44 AM
237

This is what I tell people when they are surprised at how much I manage as a single parent, but when I only have me to depend on, I know I won't get screwed over. And it's amazing what I can do without a manchild actively trying to stop me from succeeding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:40 AM
2

HA! I don't know if I can last that long lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:02 PM
2

Thanks for this. I appreciate it, truly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:18 PM
4

Sigh, yes, most likely. I need to end it. I'm kind of over the intensity and inconsistency that is inherently part of a LDR anyway. I've only just noticed these things about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:17 PM
13

I'm starting to feel more and more that most males are surplus to requirements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:35 AM
3

Thanks. I will think on all this and be wary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:29 PM
1

I need to join these women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:29 PM
2

Ah I hope you had a brilliant day! I couldn't get there, hopefully next year 🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:27 PM
19

Oh FFS, that's atrocious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:45 PM
8

I'm in a ldr, we've been seeing each other for a few months, and I've been happy with his behaviour up to now. Respectful actions, generous, thoughtful, seeks out ways to make me happy. All good. He's just left for home, we won't cross paths again for six weeks or so. He appears sad about it, asked me if I will miss him, etc (I said, "sometimes" because I have a very busy life, and genuinely don't get lonely ever). However. Some of his behaviour in our recent dates has been bothering me and it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:51 PM
19

He's assaulting you, and I would seriously consider leaving him. This behaviour escalates, in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:30 PM
56

My entire body clenched in horror
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:17 AM
5

I haven't really figured it out yet, but I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual. I don't find many men attractive in my day to day life, nor do most celebrities do much for me. But so many women are gorgeous, in all their unique varieties. I have very strong chemistry with the man I'm seeing right now, and I do find him attractive, which is just fine. For now at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:07 AM
3

Good god, this man-child has a son?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:57 AM
3

I would have followed this advice if I'd found it sooner, but am currently dating someone, we slept together quickly, and four months into dating he continues to treat me with respect. I remain watchful, however. I think this advice is good in general, but all people are different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:53 AM
10

Forget about men, and focus on you. Forget about what you're good/bad at, and focus on what brings you joy. Do what fulfills you, and only you. Forget what other people think. Your accomplishments don't need to be huge or money makers, it doesn't matter as long as you are happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:02 PM
19

The happiest and most confident I've been is when I ditch these sorts of lists and dress/present how I want to, regardless of fashion expectations. My ex used to mock my dress sense, so now I wear whatever I damn well please and stand tall doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:48 PM
11

Very good info, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:01 PM
30

My life in so many ways. ETA: not anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:27 PM
17

Don't forget philosophers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:45 PM
32

A friend of mine was dating an abusive man and he only had one chair; he made her sit at his feet like she was worshipping him at a throne. I didn't know her back then, she's left him and levelled up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:51 PM
4

Most male Mormons are porn sick too, sadly. Idaho has a weird culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:27 AM
13

Confirming my theory that I don't actually want to be friends with any men. I observe interactions between women and men and it's usually men hovering around them while the women bat them off. Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:25 AM
3

Oh gawd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:23 AM
2

As an exmormon I'm interested to learn this about Idaho...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:19 AM
68

I'm coming to terms with the fact that my ex probably raped me most times we were together, not the stereotype of holding me down but in coercive, manipulative ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:03 PM
6

This confirms I won't use OLD again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:24 PM
2

Wishing you peace in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:20 PM
2

Wonderful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:05 PM
55

The difference between a porn sick man and a healthy minded man is night and day. Unbelievable, even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:03 PM
43

Funds human trafficking. Straight up slavery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:03 PM
16

At least he saved you the trouble. Hope you feel better soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:39 PM
2

I can be a bit of a worrier. I have my moments - don't we all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:55 PM
6

Thanks, I appreciate this. I do need to just enjoy what I have while I work hard. I've been doing that, but sometimes get a bit wobbly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:16 PM
5

This. I dated a man a few times who was the same height as me and he was insecure about it. Lame. Currently dating a man who is slightly shorter than me and he dgaf. And neither do I.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:15 PM
23

Never again will I spend my days with a man who isn't giddy about me being in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:06 PM
40

I had a guy mulling over whether it was worth dating me once. It was the shittest feeling, so I told him the decision was made, I didn't want him. Done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:47 AM
11

He's following the advice he read on a subreddit, I'm sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:41 AM
19

She looks so young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:08 PM
6

I could have written this word for word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:06 PM
3

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:43 PM
8

If only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:01 PM
34

It takes time to see these character traits. Don't rush getting to know a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:34 PM
15

You say yes, and you back away from this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:29 PM
74

This. My ex negged me all the time about my body size/shape/look. Things like "You may have gained weight over the years but you'll always be attractive to me" which is such a sly, backhanded thing to say. Like I'm supposed to be grateful for his crumbs after I've risked my health to bear his offspring? Get fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:28 PM
10

Could be the type of man who wants a strong woman so he can tear her apart. I'd be careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:39 AM
12

It's a one way road, sis. Never ever ever gonna happen with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:37 AM
13

So sorry you were treated this way, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:36 AM
30

Um. Fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:46 AM
10

I feel you, sis. Religion breaks down all of your normal, healthy boundaries and replaces them with guilt. You can do it, tho. Keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:49 AM
30

I hate it when someone compliments me on menial shit, it's so patronising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 08:02 AM
8

Perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:46 PM
13

What a woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:46 PM
52

He won't even notice when she's gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:33 PM
64

Almost sounds like a threat to me - if you behave in a way he deems is fickle and shallow, he'll break your heart and feel justified doing so. It's the beginnings of negging. This is a subtle bit of control that is tickling your mind because it's not right. You've already started second guessing your actions and wonder how you'll behave in the future. It's a red flag, imo. I'd end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:31 PM
15

He's trying to take advantage of you. Block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:46 PM
16

Chest pubes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:43 AM
16

wut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:41 AM
25

Thanks for the rant, sis. very interesting and probably worth its own post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:11 AM
11

Sounds like it. Glad the glasses have helped tho you shouldn't have to change your appearance against your will just to prevent this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:51 AM
6

Then you un-whack yourself right? I grew up with shit parents, in a cult/church, and recognised I was messed up so I focused very hard on fixing myself. Happy days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:00 AM
28

That's wild. I literally never get approached by random men when I'm out and about, even when clubbing. I must really be scary somehow lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:47 AM
12

This is a good tactic - connections make the world go round, and if you have high value friends, chances are higher their friends and family are, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:58 AM
16

She's fucking gorgeous. All women are tbf. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:56 AM
36

He woke up with an erection and went scrolling in his contacts. It's a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:27 AM
20

W.T.F.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:34 PM
6

Thank you so much. I believe in me, too! I'm just angry sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:23 PM
12

I agree, though I need this practice. I have opened up too much in the past, and it has brought nothing good in doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:00 PM
34

Obvs :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:11 PM
23

I feel this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:05 PM
10

Same. I was 18 when I met my ex, who was 24 at the time. He was most definitely predatory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:05 PM
162

These two pics aren't even comparable. Different lighting, angle, hairstyle, makeup. So stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:03 PM
27

I try not to worry, but I'm so far behind in financial security since I left my lvm ex, it's not even funny. I was sold a pack of lies as a young woman and am paying for it now. Single, kids, late 30s and no career. I consider myself a hvw apart from financial security, and I am working on it, but realistically it will take another 10 years to establish myself. It makes me very angry. I trusted everyone but myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:57 PM
23

I would automatically be wary, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:51 PM
2

I must learn your ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:18 PM
18

This is excellent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:23 PM
35

Good reminder, sis. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:12 AM
7

This is fantastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:49 PM
15

It'll probably make him uncomfortable, but who cares. You're worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:48 PM
106

Poor delicate flower. Drinking and video games are his only form of self care? Is he actually 12?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:47 PM
32

Oh ffs. Tell him it's a clit on a stick and see what he says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:45 PM
47

Really interesting. I didn't know about this study and as a newbie redditor I think I'll stay far away from most of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:44 PM
65

Is he crowding into your personal space? Is he not reading your body language? GET RID.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:16 AM
19

This is a red flag to me, or at least a pink one. My ex is a gamer, and probably porn sick, and would stay up all hours, for our entire relationship. He would be "tired" at the weekend and I'd be with the kids by myself while he lounged in bed until midday or later. He would prioritise his gaming and (probably) wanking over being a responsible adult and getting enough sleep to maintain his physical and mental health. He was acting like a teenager, and I enabled it in many ways. I didn't see this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:15 AM
19

Different but still not quite HV?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:42 AM
15

I'd agree with this - people don't change all that much. Those new gf's are probably dealing with the same issues that caused you to break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:40 AM
25

I was the young married one, with kids before 30. Don't be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:38 AM
20

You don't need to stick around just because he's a "good man." (What does this mean?) If you are unhappy, cut him loose. Life is short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:36 AM
25

He sounds pushy, sis. Are you sure he's worth your attention at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:35 AM
24

Date around. Marrying your first real boyfriend is not wise. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:34 AM
5

Better advice than I gave. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:41 PM
18

In my ideal scenario I'd be living in a separate house ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:38 PM
3

Good on you for taking him to task - it's infuriating that it needed to be done though, isn't it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:34 PM
6

I like this. Plant a few seeds, see if they grow. But ultimately it isn't your life, and there's not much you can do. I have a friend in a shitty relationship, she keeps bouncing back to him like a boomerang, and she's dropped me completely as she's been sucked up by him and his family. Sad, but nothing I can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:32 PM
20

I'm a radfem and a LOT of my female friends are lesbian or straight but celibate by choice. We've had many convos about how impossible it is to find a man who isn't into porn, who will treat a woman right, etc etc. I was starting to feel a little despondent with these convos, tbh, because I am straight and don't want to live alone for the rest of my life. For a while I thought I could just use men for sex occasionally, but that's not for me (sex is dangerous for women, I am not a plaything, etc …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:30 PM
5

You don't need a reason, sis. If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. Cut him loose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:20 PM
11

What is there to love in this piece of trash?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:00 PM
2

Ain't that the truth. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:10 PM
5

Haha me too, no worries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:16 PM
19

Your version of easier is a bit different than mine, but ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:02 PM
34

Airline losing your luggage in a foreign country. Not sure how you could orchestrate that, though! Dated someone where that happened , and he handled it with grace and patience. He was stressed, of course, but he didn't use anyone as his emotional punching bag, he just dealt with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:57 PM
54

Sounds like my ex, almost exactly. It won't get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:54 PM
3

Wishing you well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:30 PM
3

Thanks, I'll check it.out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:18 PM
6

Thanks, I'm a newbie to Reddit in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:51 PM
5

It's all about personality, confidence, presence. I've dated tall men just because they were tall. Bland as fuck. I called him "nice but dim" LVM. Dated a man shorter than me (I'm 5'8) and neither of us gave one shiny shit. He's definitely a HVM, height had nothing to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:36 PM
28

Yes, he was. Fucker. I built a LIFE with him, and he threw it away for nothing. He's living in a single room in some house share now, though. Meanwhile I'm living a better life than ever, and it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:22 PM
2

Excellent advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:20 PM
4

My response exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:17 PM
2

*If* this is real, this girl needs to move OUT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:05 PM
2

Yeah, this shit is so prevalent - it's basement dwellers fishing for stories to wank to. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:05 PM
35

Glad you found this place too, sis! You sound like a smart, tough woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:52 AM
14

Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:54 AM
69

My god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:51 AM
12

Same, it's like half-baked bread. I want white hairs sprinkled around, a crinkled face, a life lived. Not a dude that is closer in age to my 17yo! Props to a woman who likes younger men, but it's not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:56 AM
6

If I had an office job, I'd totally do a capsule wardrobe. I was just talking about this today, actually. I get "decision fatigue" when I have to plan nice outfits every day, so I think if I worked in an office I would wear the same thing every day - expensive, well-made black/navy trousers and white silk shirts. Done. As it stands, I work from home and end up in t-shirts and jeans most of the time. Not complaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:10 AM
4

Amazing achievements! Congrats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:05 AM
5

Yessssss! Great news.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:05 AM
14

See it as a learning experience, though? You have done a great job exercising your boundaries, raising your standards and recognising this man is not worth chasing (no man is). All good stuff! Keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:00 AM
30

You were right, and his issues aren't yours to fix. Leave him to it. Stay strong sis, and keep his ass blocked. You deserve a man who will own his issues and seek ways to heal from his past. End of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:24 PM
3

Very much this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:18 PM
10

I honestly don't know if I can ever trust my instincts. Abusive parents, cult-like religion, abusive ex. My whole life, my boundaries have been disregarded and my personal integrity eroded. I wish I could be sure about someone, but I don't think I ever could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:00 PM
4

Sounds amazing!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:35 AM
17

You are worth so much more - and you know it!! Amazing. Stand tall and proud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:57 PM
3

I really appreciate these comments; you've all given me a lot to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:53 PM
3

Thanks, I think I understand the term better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:49 PM
13

I see that. Definitely. I'm older though, with my own kids, and won't be having more. I feel like I'd rather live in my own house and welcome a boyfriend to stay over or I go visit him, and I keep my independence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:49 AM
72

Adventurous = will choke you during sex. Fyi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:37 AM
17

Love a good beard, aka thigh tickler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:17 AM
12

100% agreement, sis. I will never allow myself to be treated this way again. Men have to earn access to any part of me - body, heart, mind, time. I am not a plaything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:11 AM
30

Excellent upgrade there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:17 PM
1

I had a FB for a short while, til I realized I was literally at the bottom of his to-do list and dumped him. He came sniffing around about six weeks later wanting to hook up before he left the country for a new job. Not a chance. Men will fuck anyone, anything, at any time. (If it's convenient to them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:50 PM
8

Oh gawd, I knew a guy in a poly marriage. His wife got pregnant and didn't know who the father was - it could've been either the husband or her two lovers. Those men were also in relationships, and their gf's had other lovers. His description of this arrangement made me feel kind of sick. His poor wife had a horrendous miscarriage, sadly, and the whole situation destroyed her mental health. Didn't stop him from looking for his own lover, though. You'd think something that complicated with such s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:06 PM
5

I don't disagree with you, this is a key safety tip. But it really frustrates and infuriates me that men aren't held accountable for being predators, that boys aren't being taught this is BAD BEHAVIOR, and that there are zero consequences for attacking women. In fact, not only zero consequences, but actual accolades. It's just shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:57 PM
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