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Escalation & CalibrationSunlitstream264/r/seduction30/06/21 06:56 PM
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Field ReportSunlitstream264/r/seduction25/04/21 05:28 AM
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Outer Game Sunlitstream264/r/seduction01/09/20 01:56 AM
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ConversationSunlitstream264/r/seduction06/11/21 03:18 PM
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Inner Game Sunlitstream264/r/seduction13/08/20 11:12 PM
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Field ReportSunlitstream264/r/seduction07/10/21 05:51 AM
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Currently working on it now, expanded my hobbies and hit the gym everyday, feels great and have made a few new friends. No women yet but they aren’t my priority
/r/seduction02/06/22 10:19 PM
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For sure
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:58 AM
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I literally did that. Like the entire time I was there I was talking to guys and girls and vibing. Stopped looking for her after I saw her on stage pulling the other guy up there. In total spent maybe 15 min looking for her
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:56 AM
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Thankfully after I lost them in the crowd then saw her a bit later I listened to my gut and stopped caring
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:55 AM
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I had some fun but tbh I would’ve had more fun playing with the boys on my Xbox in my room
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:54 AM
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Thank you
/r/seduction05/04/22 08:25 PM
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Nah moving on now
/r/seduction05/04/22 06:14 PM
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https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdHSd31b/ Just saw your comment and I came here to say should I send her this 😂
/r/seduction05/04/22 05:33 PM
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Yes there was no reply
/r/seduction05/04/22 11:28 AM
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Before that when she first followed back when she commented aww thanks on the simp video I said “you caught me, want to get lunch?”
/r/seduction05/04/22 05:40 AM
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When I shot my shot in the comments after we followed each other I asked her to lunch
/r/seduction05/04/22 04:46 AM
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When I shot my shot in the comments after we followed each other I asked her to lunch
/r/seduction05/04/22 04:46 AM
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Won a game of beer pong vs her
/r/seduction19/03/22 03:05 PM
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I definitely don’t have it figured out, still single 21 years straight
/r/seduction17/03/22 01:57 PM
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I was at work when I asked that so I doubt she would’ve seen it as a good time to say something like that. Also yeah she’s kinda a baddie, she’s cute without makeup and in casual dress so if she did makeup and all that she could go from a 7-10 easy.
/r/seduction28/02/22 12:47 AM
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Full story so you can decide: Went downtown last Wednesday (karaoke night at the bar). Me and my friend get there at opening (9pm) to practice beer pong for later. After about 30 min two Asians and a blonde show up (no one else there). They end up talking to us and they thought they had to go early to get signed up for karaoke (really the could’ve waited another hour or so). Ended up talking to them and played pong vs them. Found out they were from my college’s dive team. Also found out that the…
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:46 PM
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“You’re pretty chill, want to hangout sometime this week?” Get number from there.. like that?
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:23 PM
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Could be friendzoned with that. I thought it meant a good sign yes. Either she was uninterested or I was friendzoned but she was ok flirting. Idk but it’s gotta be enthusiastic not just sure as I’m sure why not type of sure
/r/seduction14/01/22 07:36 PM
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Oh that night I made it a goal to see how many women I could or would make eye contact with for shooting my shot. It wasn’t but those two that I knew sadly, the other girls downtown didn’t make eye contact (and I wasn’t being creepy just scanning the room from time to time but no eye locks)
/r/seduction13/01/22 05:30 PM
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White American, most attracted to shore women’s and Asian women, Latina #3 if ranked
/r/seduction01/12/21 05:03 PM
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True true, she liked my most referent post a few min ago and never replied so on tinder the next
/r/seduction07/11/21 07:08 PM
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Yeah I realize that now, to be fair her answers weren’t any better
/r/seduction07/11/21 05:23 PM
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Handy to know thanks
/r/seduction06/11/21 06:59 PM
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Eh I shot a dm it’s whatever
/r/seduction06/11/21 05:38 PM
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Bet here goes nothing
/r/seduction06/11/21 04:17 PM
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So shoot her a dm? If so I was thinking something like, what made her pick that major or what’s her dream job with that major
/r/seduction06/11/21 04:04 PM
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So I should shoot her another dm? Ask what made her pick that major? If not that idk what to send?
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:58 PM
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I gave a dead answer to see if she cared because she was seeming semi interested I guess. Was gonna ask her out after she replied but she didn’t. I may shoot another message and just not care idk
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:56 PM
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So move on, got it
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:35 PM
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Gotcha, I do need to lean into that attitude
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:34 PM
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Me: What’s your major? Her: Speech and Hearing Science Me: That’s interesting Her: How about you Me: I’m going for accounting only said “that’s interesting” because she hadn’t asked any questions yet and I was gauging interest
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:33 PM
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Me: What’s your major? Her: Speech and Hearing Science Me: That’s interesting Her: How about you Me: I’m going for accounting only said “that’s interesting” because she hadn’t asked any questions yet and I was gauging interest
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:33 PM
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Was overthinking back then but the circumstances were nowhere near favorable, these weren’t great but I just yolo’d it
/r/seduction20/10/21 06:28 PM
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I’m not thirsty but I’m just gonna show it I don’t play games
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:40 AM
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I just YOLO and show my interest, if they are putting in effort to talk to me and being semi playful I go for number
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:37 AM
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That is kinda true, though the number makes your romantic interest known without a doubt. Social media it’s easy for them to make you a follower and then a celebrity type deal.
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:26 AM
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I go for numbers typically if I see interest, if I’m on the fence about them being interested I go for social media and network with them and see what happens
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:09 AM
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She gave me her Instagram instead of snap, just after followers?
/r/seduction20/10/21 02:29 AM
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Our first date can be committing tax fraud haha
/r/seduction20/10/21 01:49 AM
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I like those ideas! Thanks
/r/seduction19/10/21 10:03 PM
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Yep
/r/seduction19/10/21 10:02 PM
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I mean she gave one word answers and as soon as the game was done gave me no opportunity to talk to her. During the game I was trying to get some form of conversation going and whenever she made a good shot I’d say like great shot. I know that’s not flirty but point is I was making it clear I wanted to talk to her but she wasn’t really having it. I was gonna compliment her outfit or something to flirt but she wasn’t having the conversation or effort into it so I didn’t bother
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:40 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:38 PM
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Second girl wasn’t into conversation at all, I tried but was getting nowhere. Just one word answers
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:11 PM
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1 was two girls who left after the game with little chance to say anything. 2 Maybe but she was quick to leave and get back to her friends. Also I wasn’t pursuing after I learned she was actually a drop out with seemingly not much going for her, I need someone that has drive and a plan for life Idk why this bolded….
/r/seduction09/10/21 10:52 PM
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That is true, main reason I didn’t do more was I had gone up to her once before and got shot down, I could tell from the start that it was still the case this time
/r/seduction09/10/21 07:25 PM
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Yeah seeing as she read one message then hasn’t read the next while being on snap multiple times since I sent it is a sign. But yeah my practice run went well
/r/seduction09/10/21 06:18 PM
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She left me on perma delivered after replying one time. I was expecting it but it still stings a bit
/r/seduction09/10/21 05:05 PM
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I’m not a dancer or drinker so the only other thing to do at this bar is play cup pong, so since I’m good at it I use it for pickup
/r/seduction09/10/21 03:20 PM
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This gave me hope, I haven’t seen her looking at me or any of that but you never know. Btw current expectations are for her to not be interested in studying or anything just so I dont get any hopes. If it works out I’ll be sure to let this sub know
/r/seduction08/10/21 01:25 PM
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Good point, I would be confused at first but then cheer him on after
/r/seduction07/10/21 06:12 AM
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Got it
/r/seduction07/10/21 04:01 AM
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I like it
/r/seduction07/10/21 04:01 AM
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Oh I’ve had that happen enough to recognize it and dump it. Getting to her is the hardest part because of circumstances in class plus I think we have a test Friday so I’ve gotta do it before class starts and she doesn’t get there very early so.. ugh it’s gonna be difficult but I’m going to do it
/r/seduction07/10/21 12:52 AM
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I got my friends to commit to cyber bullying me if I don’t so I have positive and negative reinforcement on why I should do it and I will
/r/seduction07/10/21 12:09 AM
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I see your point I’ll try it
/r/seduction07/10/21 12:07 AM
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Nah I’ve got my friends committed to cyber bullying me if I don’t so I incentivized myself
/r/seduction07/10/21 12:06 AM
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The circumstances are not in my favor at all in class, at least not how I want them to be. She arrives pretty much on time not early, it’s a lecture room and she takes forever to leave
/r/seduction06/10/21 09:18 PM
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That’s not the primary plan but I’ll keep it in mind, if I can’t immediately get the girls attention I’ll talk to her friend
/r/seduction06/10/21 09:17 PM
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That’s a last resort, trying this friday
/r/seduction06/10/21 08:27 PM
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Thanks
/r/seduction06/10/21 08:07 PM
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That’s my plan :)
/r/seduction06/10/21 08:00 PM
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Alright Friday is the day, hopefully tonight I’ll see her but who knows
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:58 PM
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I understand, it’s a last resort and shot in the dark at best. I’m doing everything I can to not have to do that
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:38 PM
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I can pull that together from people downtown that know me
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:37 PM
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Current plan is when I see her come into class just stop her and ask if she wants to get coffee and study sometime, then if we have a conversation bring up I saw her downtown and maybe flirt a bit see where it goes
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:22 PM
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Seems like a bit much my current plan is to do this See her come into class Before class starts take breath count to 10 Go up to her and say I’m looking for a study partner and ask if she wants to get coffee and study sometime, if she says yes then bring up new I saw you downtown a while back right? Go from there wherever it goes
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:21 PM
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I don’t know her well enough for that. I’m just going for it
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:19 PM
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I’ve got a class again with her Friday but there’s a test that day too so I’m just gonna go for it right before class Friday. If not I’ll shoot an IG dm, ideally I’ll see her downtown tonight and I’ll go for it there but idk we’ll see
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:18 PM
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It’s a last resort for me
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:17 PM
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Going for it Friday then
/r/seduction06/10/21 06:49 PM
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You know what fuck you (😑) I will prove you wrong.
/r/seduction06/10/21 06:29 PM
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Going over Friday (next class) if for some reason I don’t get to Friday I’ll dm on Instagram. I’m going downtown tonight though as it’s a popular night to go out so fingers crossed I see her there instead
/r/seduction06/10/21 05:55 PM
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I’m going to go for it in person Friday if for some reason I’m unable to I’ll dm on IG, asked a few female friends for input and they didn’t think it was weird. Though fingers crossed I see her downtown
/r/seduction06/10/21 05:28 PM
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My backup is to message her IG if for some reason I cannot get to her in person. I asked a few female friends about it and they said they wouldn’t be weirded out only downside is it’s not in person and it’s easily ignored
/r/seduction06/10/21 05:27 PM
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Reply, go with the flow, just don’t talk so much that on the date it’s awkward silence
/r/seduction06/10/21 04:28 PM
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Note passing doesn’t sound like a good idea, I’m just trying to figure out if I should quote literally squeeze past the girl beside me to talk to her, dm her on IG, or talk to the girl beside me and get her to study with me then invite the girl I’m really after.
/r/seduction06/10/21 04:28 PM
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So what right after class just squeeze by the other girl and go right to her?
/r/seduction06/10/21 04:26 PM
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Thing is it’s a lecture hall type room so going up to her isn’t easy, gotta find a way past the girl sitting between us
/r/seduction06/10/21 04:25 PM
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I’ve been trying for about a week but she takes ages to leave class and if I hang around it’s painfully obvious as to why. Going up to her would mean I have to get past the other girl sitting beside me who may or may not be her friend. Can’t do it before class because she gets there like 2-3 min before it starts at most
/r/seduction06/10/21 03:33 PM
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This was really good to read. I’m currently shifting my focus to the youth groups I go to, some of the college events though I will try to go to the yoga club/class they have. Been on the fence about it for a while
/r/seduction02/10/21 09:33 PM
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I don’t have any of those in my city what about a coffee shop?
/r/seduction02/10/21 08:59 PM
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That’s true, any ideas on good body posture to look good/fun/friendly when you aren’t doing anything/alone. I look my best with friends or when I’m playing pong but when I’m alone I mostly stand straight, relaxed but arms closed
/r/seduction02/10/21 08:43 PM
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With the girl that I walked up to I asked her name then if she went to my school, asked if she came to 5th much, which side of the bar she preferred and why. (there’s a club section a bar section and a cup pong section an outdoor porch section). After that she introduced me to her friend she was with them they went to the dance floor for something, low key probably to get away from me (not me being pushy or creepy or anything but she was probably not into the conversation anymore). I wasn’t supe…
/r/seduction02/10/21 08:41 PM
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I was alone. And I played with the two ladies because there was almost no one else there at the moment and I’m known for being good at pong so they wanted to challenge me
/r/seduction02/10/21 02:30 PM
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Yeah I was just giving a genuine compliment and trying to start a conversation, I’m not out to get laid
/r/seduction02/10/21 12:29 AM
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Wdym? The compliment wasn’t good? It was about the best thing I saw at the time plus it was genuine. My goal wasn’t to get laid lmao
/r/seduction02/10/21 12:19 AM
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The reason is.. oh I forgot to add it, yeah she was 6ft. Added my height to show that short guys can get tall girls
/r/seduction01/10/21 12:21 AM
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Thanks and that was a good idea
/r/seduction30/09/21 04:25 PM
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So it was more like I talked to her played with her then we lost then her and her friend were dancing I played another game or two started a win streak, she was nearby the entire time then when I was on my last shot she was right there I missed turned around and she was gone. And I wasn’t talking to her about pong I was talking to her about why she wanted to major in elementary education with a major in anthropology. It was a good conversation and I was learning more about her and she was asking…
/r/seduction30/09/21 06:37 AM
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Any advice on how to, also my mind is in overthinking mode, tell me why I shouldn’t care about the girls downtown
/r/seduction30/09/21 06:22 AM
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I did set it as field report
/r/seduction30/09/21 06:04 AM
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Both girls were straight btw
/r/seduction23/09/21 03:52 PM
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I do ok with the women
/r/seduction23/09/21 03:51 PM
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Apparently so, he’s not super good looking, he’s kinda well dressed and his charisma is ok. I can only come up with his height as the biggest factor, and he was smooth but we all know you can only be smooth with the girls that let you
/r/seduction23/09/21 05:53 AM
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Update: He did. Even more in shock
/r/seduction23/09/21 05:49 AM
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Gotta be careful cuz some of them deadass get drunk and become really good at cup/beer pong. Idk how but it’s a reality
/r/seduction20/09/21 10:34 PM
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If the bar has pool or pong or something play that, get good at it, build a reputation and the people will come to you and it’ll make approaches way easier
/r/seduction20/09/21 06:28 PM
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21, saving for marriage but as for dating no luck at all so even if I wanted to get laid I couldn’t
/r/seduction19/09/21 04:23 PM
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Approach first, you might be attractive, too attractive that most guys think you are out of their league or won’t go for them. You’ll get positive results more often than not if you initiate
/r/seduction16/09/21 06:08 AM
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21M, 0 sex or girlfriends. Idk how attractive people think I am, I’ve heard one girl say 4 another say 7 so I think I’m average looking.
/r/seduction01/09/21 05:44 AM
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What I do is find something specific to do, in my case cup pong, I’ve gotten really good at it so I run the tables and people recognize me for it. Also people call me McLovin (from SuperBad movie) I saw the movie liked the reference and got the McLovin fake ID, used that and my pong to build up a reputation there and I have people come up to me all the time and I can go up to most anyone and be fine as my reputation precedes me. Also everyone is relaxed around me so I just go and be me and I hav…
/r/seduction21/08/21 05:30 PM
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I’m a nerd so that’ll take time but yeah it’s a power play
/r/seduction19/08/21 09:37 PM
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Yeah that’s true but I’m covered in sweat and my hair is also drenched so it’s not a good look on anyone, no first impression is better than a bad one
/r/seduction19/08/21 08:01 PM
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I didn’t think that crossing the street and going over was appropriate since I was covered in sweat and it was stupidly hot but if it happens again o guess I’ll go over
/r/seduction19/08/21 07:36 PM
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Yeah you can, shoot I didn’t get the opportunity at 17 but I would’ve
/r/seduction17/08/21 03:39 PM
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I’d recommend numbers rather than snaps, tend to be flakier over snap from my experience cuz they can easily make you another follower and nothing else
/r/seduction17/08/21 06:09 AM
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Move on, there’s no need to think about her
/r/seduction16/08/21 05:47 AM
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In that case no man should ever go up to a woman and if he ever wants to do anything with her he just ask for explicit repeated permission
/r/seduction15/08/21 01:02 AM
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Omg dude have some confidence, only Karen’s or women that are garbage human beings do that also know how to read body language if you can read body language you’ll be fine
/r/seduction15/08/21 12:27 AM
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It comes down to getting the green light for sex or making out then reading body language afterwards to know what to do next
/r/seduction14/08/21 11:51 PM
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I’d ask before a kiss just to be safe, once you have the green light with women and progress just keep an eye on their body language and it’ll tell you all you need to know
/r/seduction14/08/21 11:50 PM
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I’d ask before a kiss just to be safe, once you have the green light with women and progress just keep an eye on their body language and it’ll tell you all you need to know
/r/seduction14/08/21 11:49 PM
10

From what I’ve read once you have consent for sex just listen to them, if it’s your first time with them ask if you want to do different positions etc. can’t tell you how many threads I’ve read where women complain that the guy asks before he does anything during sex like touching hair etc (touching not pulling). Don’t overthink, if she wants to have sex with you she’ll tell you what she likes and dislikes
/r/seduction14/08/21 11:48 PM
1

I’ve heard social groups, one thing I could recommend as I am using it myself is use the bar for cold approaches,meeting new friends. From there you can grow your social network and have better chances of finding a gf. Also don’t go in with expectations because you won’t live up to them (I know from experience) just use the 3 second rule. See a girl you want to talk to 3 seconds to go up to her OR make a plan to if she’s obviously unavailable at the moment but approach within 3 min if you have t…
/r/seduction14/08/21 04:45 AM
8

Surprisingly no if there’s other stuff to do Ex. Beer pong/cup pong, karaoke etc. also if I ever just want to blend in I get a soda, the cup is the same as the ones with alcohol
/r/seduction11/08/21 05:12 PM
16

You can go to bars and not drink (like me)
/r/seduction11/08/21 02:18 AM
5

Reading this post: Oh let’s go my guy starts to think of some advice sees update Ohhhh f in the chats
/r/seduction10/08/21 05:21 AM
2

Then don’t.
/r/seduction04/08/21 02:34 AM
2

Me and my friends thought she liked it but yea that’s possible too
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:22 PM
1

I read everything up here casually and take it with a grain of salt. Sometimes I’ll see some good ideas here though I post/log up here for me to review at later times.
/r/seduction29/07/21 10:21 PM
1

That’s my rule of thumb, again I would’ve went for the number but I went for snap because I was experimenting the line/approach. Now that it works I’ll go for the numbers with this one
/r/seduction29/07/21 08:32 PM
4

If it was a bad strategy I wouldn’t have gotten her snap or talked to her
/r/seduction29/07/21 07:51 PM
3

This is the first time I went up making my intent clear from the start and not doing something like asking them to play cup pong and starting conversation from there so I’m happy with this approach
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:41 PM
4

Exactly why I backed off as soon as she saw ignored me
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:39 PM
2

Ideally I would’ve but I was experimenting and you can’t give a fake snap but you can give a fake number.
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:39 PM
0

She liked the line, it was funny and clever. And I did talk to her for a few min after I got her snap
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:35 PM
-1

When I got her snap I talked to her for few minutes what you are talking about is later when she ignored me for no apparent reason. Guess she wasn’t interested
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:34 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:33 PM
2

I would’ve went for the number but I was experimenting the line tbh and I figured she would ghost/ignore me.
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:32 PM
20

I was gonna get ghosted/ignored regardless, the outcome was predictable. I was just happy that I was able to be that smooth and she was into it at least at first. We did talk for a few min after she added me. So not a total loss, the experience was a win
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:49 AM
7

Honestly I was gonna go for the number but I went for the snap because I was experimenting with the line/approach.
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:38 AM
-6

I didn’t think that line would work or be nearly as well recieved
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:38 AM
1

Very true
/r/seduction23/07/21 04:56 PM
1

Yeah I did a little for example when her friend was like why did you go over there haha, I told her I figured she wanted to be on the winning team for once
/r/seduction22/07/21 07:06 PM
1

Absolutely
/r/seduction22/07/21 07:59 AM
1

I told myself I wasn’t gonna wuss out again, and I did talk to her but I didn’t close 😤
/r/seduction22/07/21 07:43 AM
2

They do give out some good advice from time to time, especially the ones that record their cold approaches both successes and failures. I’m a visual learner so seeing how to start out the interaction is useful
/r/seduction20/07/21 04:30 AM
1

Went up to a different one but yes
/r/seduction18/07/21 03:46 PM
1

I see what you mean, I’ll have to do that!
/r/seduction18/07/21 05:02 AM
1

This is true, my point is I proved that I can talk to those girls, this guy was afraid to even go up to her
/r/seduction18/07/21 04:24 AM
1

Why? I don’t understand not leading with a compliment
/r/seduction18/07/21 04:23 AM
1

They say to be neutral but that makes no sense to me
/r/seduction18/07/21 04:23 AM
2

I was gonna mention that. I like the vibe he was saying to do but that wording wouldn’t be received well (what flavor of Asian? What lol no)
/r/seduction18/07/21 12:14 AM
0

What do you mean not willing to improve? I’ve got something going for me dressing/style wise. Other than that I’m looking for suggestions and I found a few in the comments
/r/seduction18/07/21 12:12 AM
1

I get into bars for free and have people come up to me all night and have been told I’m a celebrity there. It’s not my ego it’s a fact
/r/seduction17/07/21 11:52 PM
0

I’m not trying to get laid. I’d rather date, personally saving for marriage. I go downtown for fun and to socialize since it’s the summer college semester and no one is on campus
/r/seduction17/07/21 09:23 PM
1

Love the detailed explanation. I couldn’t put my finger on what I did wrong but yeah that was the issue. Though her body language wasn’t showing interest. If I see her again I’ll shoot again. Also I asked to play immediately because I’m known there for playing pong and being really good at it
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:28 PM
2

The opener you suggested was pretty good, as for the McLovin thing it’s too late to drop it I’m a mini celebrity downtown and it’s my thing so rocking it helps plus it gets people coming up to me all night
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:10 PM
1

I always go for something specific about their style with a compliment rather than a generic one. My conversation starters are the hard part
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:09 PM
-11

No, it’s my thing at this point and people love it. Like a celebrity downtown pretty much For those downvoting why? I’m not being cocky.. it’s relevant information
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:08 PM
2

Thanks fully I can already read social cues and body language pretty well so I know when it’s not going anywhere but more approaches are gonna help
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:07 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:06 PM
7

123 say f it and go up to them. If you don’t in 3 seconds you never will
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:05 PM
3

Girl sounds like I’m a pedo, woman sounds weird when describing college age girls. That’s why I say chicks
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:05 PM
1

I don’t quite follow but ok
/r/seduction17/07/21 07:00 AM
1

4 is tonight but I talk to between 1-3 per night I go out. My conclusions are based off my experiences
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:56 AM
1

Her hair was.. a unique style I guess idk how to describe it, it looked good, and I went for that because it was something she chose to do and was a compliment on style rather than natural beauty.
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:55 AM
0

You aren’t understanding the sub then. Being attractive is part of it, it is. Take care of your hygiene, and be confident is the message. Average guys can get with more women than you’d think if you look like someone worth getting to know (your vibe). A decent amount of women will shoot you down based off looks alone but being confident to talk to women is how you win long term
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:55 AM
2

See I always thought you lead with a compliment (don’t overdo it normally just one compliment is enough) but I guess I was wrong? (I went in with a compliment because I don’t want to be friendzoned, I’ve had that happen because I didn’t compliment and she thought I just wanted to be friends)
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:52 AM
4

What’s gonna happen is gonna happen so working out for the best doesn’t mean you’re gonna get the girl, sometimes you’ll find out later not getting with her was a good thing
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:51 AM
1

I tried but I wasn’t getting a good vibe, like maybe I could’ve said something else (hindsight is always 20/20) but idk her body language or something was making me not do much. I can’t quite explain it but I’ve gotten good at body language and it didn’t feel right/like it was a good idea. Also she’s seen me downtown a bit and if she was interested she would’ve done a lot different (given me something past a 1 word reply) (also should be mentioned I saw her bumble profile 2 days ago, swiped righ…
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:39 AM
1

Definitely
/r/seduction09/07/21 05:27 PM
1

Could you explain a bit, like didn’t care about standing me up or didn’t care about the whole situation as a whole?
/r/seduction09/07/21 06:38 AM
1

I just saw apparently she went and looked up my Snapchat (story is public) and viewed my story when I was downtown tonight. The nerve and the bullet I dodged
/r/seduction09/07/21 05:32 AM
1

I just saw apparently she went and looked up my Snapchat (story is public) and viewed my story when I was downtown tonight. The nerve and the bullet I dodged
/r/seduction09/07/21 05:31 AM
1

I just saw apparently she went and looked up my Snapchat (story is public) and viewed my story when I was downtown tonight. The nerve and the bullet I dodged
/r/seduction09/07/21 05:31 AM
0

I wasn’t slow about it
/r/seduction09/07/21 02:46 AM
2

I see your point a bit, though I think there’s more mystery/tension with minimal phone contact before the date
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:45 PM
3

Yeah I’m proud for asking her out and her number and everything, she was really really attractive so getting the guts to do that.. I’ve gotten better at it
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:44 PM
2

I’d think it would be the opposite, minimize texting and stuff over the phone makes IRL stuff that much more memorable and desirable. (If she were to initiate a phone call or text conversation I’d do my part and everything it’s just not my ideal form of communication)
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:03 PM
2

Oh, I’d rather talk in person though, my rule of thumb is just using the phone to text and set up a time and place to meet IRL, call as a backup
/r/seduction08/07/21 09:49 PM
3

Indeed
/r/seduction08/07/21 09:18 PM
2

That’s smooth I’m writing that down
/r/seduction08/07/21 09:18 PM
2

I made sure to talk to her a good amount beforehand it wasn’t like I walked up with no conversation and asked her out.
/r/seduction08/07/21 09:06 PM
3

I dodged a bullet from a crappy person
/r/seduction08/07/21 09:05 PM
1

Yeah, I’ve done it in the past but thought this was an exception, live and learn
/r/seduction08/07/21 08:42 PM
1

After 15 min of waiting I sent a text, asking if we were still good and didn’t hear back. I got my food and left. Not contacting her again and if I see her at the bar and she comes up to me I’ll make it clear she had her chance
/r/seduction08/07/21 08:11 PM
3

I was debating on doing that, normally I would but since we agreed on the place and time at 1am I figured it wasn’t needed plus I doubted she was gonna show regardless
/r/seduction08/07/21 08:10 PM
1

Update: Got stood up
/r/seduction08/07/21 06:48 PM
1

Also forgot to mention, I’ve been taking the lead, I’m the one asked for the number, text first, etc
/r/seduction08/07/21 04:28 PM
1

I’ll update afterwards
/r/seduction08/07/21 03:22 PM
2

When I mentioned the pool tables it’s because if it goes well for lunch I’ll ask if she wants to go play some pool or chill at the balcony. I’ve got it to planned out
/r/seduction08/07/21 05:09 AM
1

The pro side to doing that though is if they show well it’s a pleasant surprise
/r/seduction08/07/21 04:44 AM
2

Well if I learned anything from bars and stuff it’s to always have a backup plan if you get ghosted and not set expectations. If you do you are more likely to be let down
/r/seduction08/07/21 04:28 AM
-1

I used to go for snapchats, I go for numbers now, since on snap id just get ghosted or left on perma delivered. At least with numbers you are more likely to get the rejection right there. Also I haven’t been able to try it yet but try to give them your number over asking for theirs.
/r/seduction04/07/21 05:36 PM
4

I just started going for numbers over snaps, better overall for numbers. Just adding my 2 cents
/r/seduction02/07/21 06:55 PM
3

When people offer me alcohol for like winning a game I tell them to buy one for me and drink it in my name or they get me a soda or something. As for everything else I just say thanks but no thanks then change the subject and continue the conversation and they don’t think about it anymore
/r/seduction02/07/21 06:24 PM
4

Honestly don’t worry about it, you’ll see better in college and have way better chances, just develop hobbies and social skills, learn how to approach girls
/r/seduction02/07/21 06:10 AM
1

My wording wasn’t the best. I meant meaningless in regards to her, it’s going nowhere with her. The lesson learned is very meaningful, though I don’t see where I did anything wrong except 1) Be a bit more flirty next time. 2) Set a time/day before getting the number and/or ending the conversation
/r/seduction02/07/21 05:21 AM
1

Well I didn’t appear very flirty when I got her number so I do need to show some interest. Though all this conversation is meaningless now because she never replied
/r/seduction02/07/21 05:01 AM
1

Yeah, I was bold enough to go for it, her loss though
/r/seduction02/07/21 12:07 AM
3

Update: Never heard back, I was expecting not to hear back, I was just surprised I got her number
/r/seduction01/07/21 10:25 PM
1

I had the bar set at the ground and she didn’t disappoint, never heard back. I was mostly surprised, I knew it wasn’t going anywhere
/r/seduction01/07/21 10:24 PM
1

Sounds like you are just in a bad spot, mine are downtown in a good area
/r/seduction01/07/21 09:38 PM
3

Already done
/r/seduction01/07/21 09:37 PM
1

Yeah when people see you chill with others you are approached so much more
/r/seduction01/07/21 09:37 PM
2

Thanks
/r/seduction01/07/21 07:53 PM
2

I completely disagree, I wasn’t flirty enough last night tbh so I need a follow up. Waiting until tomorrow just looks like I’m uninterested
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:45 PM
2

Anytime
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:25 PM
2

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/obrln7/how_to_build_a_reputation_downtownnightlife/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Link to post
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:16 PM
7

Yeah it took me forever to learn but it’s much better with this mindset, though I do try to keep a goal of talk to 1 girl or new person per night (if not it’s chill)
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:04 PM
2

I’ve never had it happen before really but I was just playing cup pong talking to her and she started doing it. Note: She wasn’t literally grinding on me but she was doing everything she could without actually grinding. This includes a kiss on the cheek and other stuff
/r/seduction01/07/21 05:23 PM
4

Do you want me to make a post about it?
/r/seduction01/07/21 05:22 PM
1

I understand that it’s just that I’ve had no luck there
/r/seduction01/07/21 03:40 PM
0

Honestly so long as she’s clean I don’t mind as logging as her body count isn’t past 20. But yeah I’ll lyk, and yeah it’s risky nowadays but if they can’t wait we are incompatible
/r/seduction01/07/21 09:48 AM
1

I’ve seen it happen a lot but it’s not common. Anyway thanks!
/r/seduction01/07/21 08:02 AM
1

I just wait for a lot of reasons, in it for a relationship tbh. But I know how to physically escalate
/r/seduction01/07/21 07:56 AM
1

Well I’m not trying to fuck her, saving for marriage but my intentions will be clear
/r/seduction01/07/21 07:51 AM
2

As you saw on my most recent post I’ve moved on
/r/seduction01/07/21 07:39 AM
-1

Ooh I like that
/r/seduction01/07/21 07:38 AM
3

Oh definitely
/r/seduction01/07/21 07:38 AM
3

I’m alright at pool but yeah I definitely could!!!
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:52 AM
16

You’re right, I’m still learning though
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:25 AM
3

I figured it was something casual and easy to do. Honestly I have a bit of a plan already. At the student center of my college they have a few good places to eat and in the back is a room with pool tables etc so if it’s going well we can go back there if we want
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:24 AM
2

Went for the number of a knockout and got it! She was even grinding on me and everything
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:10 AM
3

I got a knockouts number tonight so yeah it’s definitely ok!
/r/seduction01/07/21 06:10 AM
1

The latter is likely
/r/seduction30/06/21 11:22 PM
2

Gotcha bro !
/r/seduction30/06/21 11:22 PM
1

I get your point but I feel like that would be super forced, but I’m going for numbers from now on anyway so why not ig
/r/seduction30/06/21 11:01 PM
4

I only went up to her 1x so I wasn’t thirsting but point taken
/r/seduction30/06/21 11:00 PM
2

I mean does it count as thirsty to go up and say “hey you want to play pong?” Her:Nah I’m so bad Me: Don’t worry I can carry you it’ll be fun I forgot what her reply to that was
/r/seduction30/06/21 11:00 PM
1

LMFAO bruh that’s funny
/r/seduction30/06/21 10:59 PM
1

She asked for my snap within like a min of seeing me, and her and all her friends asked at the same time. I didn’t go for the number because I hadn’t spoken to her yet at that point and idk it would’ve felt weird not gonna lie. Otherwise I 100% would have
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:48 PM
19

You know.. that makes sense and I remember why I don’t trust people…
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:15 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction29/06/21 03:18 AM
1

I definitely go to events I’m invited to even if I’m not really into those things, try to stay open.
/r/seduction29/06/21 01:07 AM
2

I’ve got a bunch of hobbies, (pool,cup pong, cars, bowling, ATVs, photography) but I’ve made few connections or friends from it, almost none female. I’m also in college but it’s summer semester now so there’s no active clubs on campus and very few people here in general
/r/seduction28/06/21 05:10 PM
2

I don’t try to text them into attraction, I use texting to set up dates/meeting for lunch etc. I’ll have a conversation if they post something on their story that I want to comment on but for the most part texting is just setting up when to meet up. I’ll have to do a better job with escalation and drill it in my head that I can set the bar at the ground for some people and they’ll bring a shovel
/r/seduction28/06/21 02:00 AM
2

Glad to know it’s not just me
/r/seduction28/06/21 01:24 AM
5

That explains so much
/r/seduction28/06/21 01:23 AM
1

21M
/r/seduction28/06/21 01:23 AM
2

Currently it’s a summer session of college so there’s no one really on campus, if I want to get any real socializing in I have to go downtown. I’ve been more or less using it as practice but also realized this the hard way
/r/seduction28/06/21 01:23 AM
1

Saving for marriage
/r/seduction27/06/21 09:26 PM
0

I’m on mobile but I know what you mean. Thanks (also just a note I’m not trying to get laid but I need to learn escalation regardless)
/r/seduction27/06/21 09:18 PM
2

Could you elaborate on touching? The other stuff I can work on
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:57 PM
6

Because she works the doors at the bar I normally go to, at least being a casual friend with her is beneficial as I am with the other employees there
/r/seduction25/06/21 10:11 PM
3

It was some really immature stuff that was just such a turn off, didn’t see her as worthy of dating after that. It’s not high school anymore and pulling stuff like that just turns me off
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:49 PM
8

Same reasoning here! (Guy btw)
/r/seduction25/06/21 12:42 PM
7

Yes there are, I do it for both religious and scientific reasons (scientific meaning, no chance of STDS etc plus they say you remember your first and I’d rather it be my wife than a random girl/girlfriend from college)
/r/seduction25/06/21 12:42 PM
126

Personally I save for marriage and I’d appreciate a partner that does the same but a low body count is also attractive since each partner was likely someone they were in a relationship and that’s a good sign for me
/r/seduction25/06/21 06:33 AM
1

Interesting. I was asking so I could know for future reference. Recently found out that hugging doesn’t mean a whole lot and this girl was just being friendly OR she’s a flirt and only wants attention. Either way I found out what the “friend” hug is
/r/seduction23/06/21 05:02 AM
2

Thanks!
/r/seduction23/06/21 03:45 AM
5

Question about hugs. How do you make sure they don’t see the hug as you just being a friend/friendly if you haven’t like asked them on a date? Secondly, when is a woman hugging you considered flirty vs friendly?
/r/seduction23/06/21 12:38 AM
3

Thanks! Honestly I know giving out my number is probably a better option but I’ve never quite known how to do it
/r/seduction14/06/21 06:10 AM
3

Question but you said to give them your number, how exactly would you do that? Should I have it pre written down?
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:55 AM
1

Can’t be that bad, just stay clean and keep good body posture
/r/seduction08/06/21 10:32 PM
1

I don’t think it’s a super power, it probably gets you more attention from women or maybe the shallower ones but there’s a lot of downsides there
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:52 PM
1

The sitting down part is something I need to do, I haven’t know what’s a good confident way to sit that doesn’t look insecure
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:52 PM
4

Indeed you were
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:50 PM
1

I’ll definitely use that to keep my posture good
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:49 PM
5

Honestly I think I’m gonna see a lot more positive interactions and more respect since I fixed my posture and yeah you can definitely feel the confidence
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:49 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:48 PM
2

That explains the instant mood shift
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:47 PM
1

I’ve been meaning to read that book, but I love Jordan Peterson he’s awesome
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:47 PM
2

Yeah that’s true but I was slouching too much, fixing it helped
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:46 PM
1

Lmfao the struggle
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:46 PM
1

I keep them at my side wherever feels natural or sometimes I cross my arms depending on what I’m thinking
/r/seduction08/06/21 09:45 PM
10

Yeah it is, idk why but it did
/r/seduction08/06/21 05:51 AM
75

For real I couldn’t believe it
/r/seduction08/06/21 05:51 AM
1

Gotcha, small update: went out tonight and she came to say hi to me. She was with friends and I couldn’t talk to her or anything but I’ll definitely leverage that!
/r/seduction06/06/21 04:39 AM
1

If I get the chance to talk to her again I will, we got along pretty well so it could be fun to talk to her again
/r/seduction05/06/21 09:19 PM
1

True, only thing that was making me raise an eyebrow was that she laughed at some of my bad jokes and was keeping a long conversation going not just a short one like the other staff. Live and learn I guess
/r/seduction05/06/21 08:10 PM
2

That is true, it’s why I go to that bar, but it is entirely possible that bartenders make friends with customers there.
/r/seduction05/06/21 08:09 PM
2

Thanks, I tried to see it mostly as her doing her job but some of my jokes were bad and she laughed at pretty much all of them and she was holding the conversation longer than the other staff ever really did. Live and learn I guess
/r/seduction05/06/21 08:08 PM
3

Lucky for you I’ve had this happen multiple times. Playing games takes a lot of forms. 1) Being hot then cold, showing interest one min then not caring/leaving you on read/delivered for hours the next (she just wants attention) 2) Flaking: Shows interest and agrees to hang out then always flakes... always 3) Adding little to the conversation but keeping it going and not initiating: Idk what the goal is but they intentionally keep the conversation going but don’t contribute much like they make su…
/r/seduction02/06/21 07:12 AM
21

She’s stringing you along or you are pressuring her into something she doesn’t want. I’d drop it regardless just go no contact. Biggest red flag to me was her saying no initially then the leaving you on read. She’s not interested, people make it known when they like you
/r/seduction02/06/21 06:09 AM
5

Shouldn’t ever play the games past like a day, you are unlikely to get laid plus she’s toxic for doing it
/r/seduction02/06/21 06:07 AM
15

The best TLDR I’ve ever seen
/r/seduction02/06/21 05:51 AM
2

Especially for me, I look like McLovin from Superbad which isn’t exactly hot to women but combine that with my pong rep and I get girls coming up to me every few days for a photo, and I think it makes it a bit easier to approach since they usually have an idea of me being chill already
/r/seduction31/05/21 05:52 PM
14

I go solo and play cup pong/pool. Use that to build a reputation and approach them then
/r/seduction31/05/21 03:12 AM
9

21M similar to you being introverted and going out and here’s what little advice I can give. If there’s pool/pong or something at the bar to do besides drinking go there, get good at it. Use it to invite girls over to you or interact with the ones near that area. Also for the love of everything holy because this is a big flaw for me, if they are doing their part of the conversation get their number or Snapchat, preferably number but you know you gotta feel the situation out. Just say hey I enjoy…
/r/seduction30/05/21 06:22 AM
1

That’s one way to think of it, but yeah definitely moving on
/r/seduction28/05/21 04:33 AM
1

How? I don’t want to abuse it but I’d like to know how it’s even possible
/r/seduction27/05/21 11:47 PM
1

I was gonna do lunch/ice cream at the college student center then probably pool at the game room after. Something I do in my free time anyway
/r/seduction27/05/21 11:42 PM
2

Small update: She decided to respond. Said she’s gotta get her work schedule then she’ll let me know. I left that on read, not sure why she thinks everything is fine after doing that but I’m just like wow
/r/seduction27/05/21 05:51 PM
1

5th is the name of the bar, it’s on 5th street in my city. And yeah I’m forgetting her and moving on to someone who shows interest and respect
/r/seduction27/05/21 05:08 AM
2

What do you mean screw conservative culture that doesn’t allow boyfriend girlfriend relationships? Like India style stuff. Also I’m glad she showed me how trash she is, I also did karaoke with a friend and took my reputation as the king of 5th (the bar) to the next level, crowd loved it, plenty of girls were watching and I had 2 girls and 3 guys come up and say how we killed it. I’m not concerned about her anymore as she’s just one in the ocean
/r/seduction27/05/21 04:54 AM
1

I’ll go ahead and update. It’s karaoke night at the bar and I saw her, she came up to me, didn’t say anything about being left on delivered for over a day. I saw another guy with his arm around her and got my explanation for being left on delivered
/r/seduction27/05/21 04:37 AM
1

Last time she looked at my story was 16hrs ago. Delivered for 14 hours last seen 8 min ago
/r/seduction26/05/21 03:02 PM
1

I’ve had some that were playing on the table beside me I tried to ask them to play us next. Completely ignored me, didn’t try to get their attention again.
/r/seduction22/05/21 09:44 PM
2

Yeah my issue is I need to be a bit more direct though one thing I’ve learned is there’s a lot of dull people. Like you know those conversations for example in online dating where they give really short answers, seemingly uninterested. Well I’ve had the IRL versions of that though they seem semi interested/intrigued. Always learning something though.
/r/seduction22/05/21 09:31 PM
2

They don’t go anywhere with me I meet them there. I don’t drink or anything just play pong and interact with people and I’m very well known at that bar and somewhat downtown now. I can get into 1 bar for free whenever I want now and the other (my main) has let me in once or twice for free recently
/r/seduction22/05/21 09:18 PM
5

Best I’ve been able to do is invite girls to play cup pong with me at my favorite bar and like compliment their outfit and try to talk to them. I’ve gotten a few of their socials but they all ghost/ignore me when I dm them the next day (I don’t double text) so the fact you are getting numbers, keep it up, I would highly recommend going to bars or something and getting good at pong or pool or something and using that to find women too.
/r/seduction22/05/21 08:58 PM
8

Bro you did way better than I ever could. Wow
/r/seduction22/05/21 08:46 PM
1

Lmfao I have no plans to. Also they’ve kinda given me a new joke, my middle name is Michael but I say the M legally means Michael here though it means McLovin (my nickname there, also a super bad movie reference which is spot on)
/r/seduction22/05/21 12:38 AM
2

I used to be afraid but now I can, I’ve just wussed out of my last few chances recently so I made myself do it again and it reminded me why I gotta go for it.
/r/seduction21/05/21 04:26 PM
1

It didn’t have that many upvotes when I commented
/r/seduction18/05/21 09:45 PM
17

Underrated comment
/r/seduction18/05/21 01:57 PM
1

True
/r/seduction05/05/21 11:46 PM
1

I wasn’t usually approaching before that way I could build up a reputation. That part is done so now I’m going up to them, I do want to go for numbers but if I think they might have a bf I go for the snap to check
/r/seduction05/05/21 08:40 PM
1

Right I mean the number is great but the snap can give you insight into whether they are truly single or a bit about them
/r/seduction05/05/21 04:35 PM
6

That’s the spirit!
/r/seduction05/05/21 04:14 AM
30

Hoping she doesn’t ghost, great job man!
/r/seduction05/05/21 04:12 AM
1

True!
/r/seduction04/05/21 09:28 PM
1

I didn’t really ask/didn’t get to that
/r/seduction04/05/21 09:06 PM
1

I went for the snaps because I wasn’t sure if two of them had boyfriends so I’d use the snap name to find the Instagram and check from there. The other two I got their snaps because they were just friends
/r/seduction04/05/21 09:06 PM
2

You had me in the first half not gonna lie
/r/seduction04/05/21 05:49 PM
1

Lmao
/r/seduction04/05/21 05:49 PM
1

Yeah, I prefer them over numbers for strangers because I can then search their Instagram and tell if they have a boyfriend about 8/10 times
/r/seduction04/05/21 05:49 PM
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Not my objective
/r/seduction04/05/21 05:48 PM
1

They’ll likely introduce me to their single friends. Play the long game bro
/r/seduction04/05/21 05:48 PM
3

I can sense the sarcasm but I can’t tell if there’s a backhanded compliment there
/r/seduction04/05/21 06:55 AM
1

Ah I’ve never had this experience before so I’m new to this whole thing
/r/seduction01/05/21 09:11 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/seduction01/05/21 08:32 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/seduction01/05/21 08:32 PM
2

I’m debating it, probably will block her when it gets to delivered for 1day
/r/seduction01/05/21 07:43 PM
1

She viewed my story and posted on hers but has left me on delivered for like 7hrs. She’s trashy
/r/seduction01/05/21 07:42 PM
1

She didn’t read the message. She viewed my posts but never opened the message and for sure it’s her loss, not being narcissistic but I’m a catch and it’s her loss
/r/seduction01/05/21 04:44 PM
2

Agreed!
/r/seduction01/05/21 04:21 PM
2

Update: She viewed my snap story but left my message on delivered. Glad I didn’t waste more time on her
/r/seduction01/05/21 03:37 PM
1

Update: She viewed my snap story but left my message on delivered. Glad I didn’t waste more time on her
/r/seduction01/05/21 03:35 PM
1

Update: She viewed my snap story but left my message on delivered. Glad I didn’t waste more time on her
/r/seduction01/05/21 03:35 PM
2

Thank you!!
/r/seduction01/05/21 12:39 PM
3

Nothing yet
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:55 AM
4

Thanks
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:39 AM
8

I took the shot in the dark. If nothing happens whatever but I am gonna let her go for the most part before a reply cuz I doubt I’ll get one
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:38 AM
3

Message sent, shot in the dark taken
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:37 AM
1

Fair point
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:37 AM
5

Message sent, if she replies I’m gonna do what you said
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:37 AM
3

I have nothing to lose, just experience to gain so I’m gonna do it
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:36 AM
5

One question I have for you all is, should I dm her in the morning or no? I’m thinking not but I want to hear some good reasons why not to.
/r/seduction01/05/21 07:21 AM
1

That was surprisingly good advice!
/r/seduction30/04/21 04:15 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/seduction30/04/21 03:54 AM
2

Noted!
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:31 AM
2

The entire encounter was like 5 min. But I get your point and it’s a valid one
/r/seduction29/04/21 11:02 PM
1

Shouldn’t matter, she’s a stranger. Unless she’s trying to enter my life and be either a friend or date me I do not care about what she thinks of me
/r/seduction29/04/21 10:42 PM
1

Read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/n0jda1/18_reasons_you_should_love_rejections/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction29/04/21 10:15 PM
2

I had no investment in her and this was a shot in the dark. Best way to think of it is on to the next hottie.
/r/seduction29/04/21 10:15 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/seduction29/04/21 10:04 PM
1

It’s about the best place to meet people around here
/r/seduction29/04/21 09:35 PM
0

Personally I play cup pong and invite them to come play a round, even had a few come up to me after I finished a game of pong. If you don’t drink find something there you are good at, build a bit of a reputation there then go for approaches
/r/seduction29/04/21 09:06 PM
1

In my experience it has, for example one of my friends is an engineering student and one of my first questions was what made him want to go into engineering and he revealed it was because he always like 3D printing and wants to design 3D printing products or my other friend who is in the medical field, I asked her that question not long after meeting her and she talked about how she wanted to help people and cure diseases and stuff. In my experience it really works
/r/seduction29/04/21 08:37 PM
1

I sent 2 messages. The first she replied to the second was on delivered. Even if she was I don’t care
/r/seduction29/04/21 08:35 PM
0

Good points, but I don’t think she was gonna give a second reply regardless of what I said
/r/seduction29/04/21 08:18 PM
1

One of my friends told me to do that so she’d be like oh he cares blah blah blah
/r/seduction29/04/21 06:09 PM
1

Eh she wasn’t drunk, getting there but not there
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:02 PM
2

If you saw me you’d see that’s not really an option
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:58 PM
1

Typically asking why people chose a certain career reveals something they are passionate about and gets them talking
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:57 PM
1

Those are good, I do need to be more playful though!
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:56 PM
1

I’m not 21 so I can’t buy drinks
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:55 PM
1

Definitely
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:55 PM
0

I don’t purposefully go for the look I just naturally look like him
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:54 PM
2

That’s great!
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:53 PM
1

My questions were open ended though... I do need to learn to add more energy though
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:53 PM
5

I was completely unaware that was why she was like that. Explains a lot, and we were after different things. Adding this to my XP bank, valuable lesson to learn
/r/seduction29/04/21 05:17 AM
7

My back hurt from carrying the conversation and I’m not there for hookups
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:56 AM
4

I’m not there for hookups but that’s great advice and I’ll definitely use it
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:55 AM
9

She contributed nothing to the IRL conversation it was literally this. Her: Hey do you want the rest of my drink? Me: No thanks I don’t drink I just come here to socialize Her: You know you look a lot like McLovin, can I get a selfie? Me: Sure takes selfie Me: Do you go to (insert my college name) Her: Yeah Me: What’s your major? Her: Management Me: Cool, what do you want to do with that? Her: Work for businesses moment of silence very brief but it was me thinking what to say Me: Cool Her: I’m g…
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:24 AM
6

I could’ve complimented her at the end of the conversation but I was obviously carrying what little conversation there was so I gave a one word answer to see if she’d give any effort to the conversation. She didn’t (IRL conversation by the way)
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:19 AM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction26/04/21 07:23 PM
1

I don’t go out with the expectation of getting laid, I’m there to meet new friends primarily, have fun second and talk to women third
/r/seduction26/04/21 05:36 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/seduction26/04/21 05:33 PM
1

I’m not expecting results overnight or anything, figured I’d put this out there for any suggestions as I’ve never been very social before. (I have social skills I’ve just not gone out a ton)
/r/seduction26/04/21 04:44 PM
1

Yeah everyone has their own thing that makes them confident. Found mine, figured this was worth sharing
/r/seduction26/04/21 03:16 AM
1

Yeah everyone has their own thing that makes them confident. Found mine, figured this was worth sharing
/r/seduction26/04/21 03:16 AM
3

I’ve found mine, being competitive makes me have 0 fear
/r/seduction25/04/21 06:00 AM
1

*notices typo
/r/seduction23/04/21 09:19 PM
1

I say that because you have a lot in common so he definitely notoces
/r/seduction23/04/21 09:19 PM
2

That’s easy just ask him to get lunch with you if you have his contact info. If not next time you see him go start a conversation then ask for his contact info. A few hours later test him and say you enjoyed the conversation and wanted to know if he wanted to grab lunch at xyz. Chances are high that he’s got his eye on you already
/r/seduction23/04/21 06:19 PM
1

When girls approach it takes away the mystery of if she’s interested and lets us relax more and be more fun. The bad thing about #metoo is it made approaching more difficult because who knows if this girl is gonna accuse you of sexual harassment, not having to worry about their interest level really helps lighten the mood, plus I think it’s hot
/r/seduction23/04/21 04:24 PM
1

Not every shot but close to it
/r/seduction23/04/21 01:00 PM
2

Thanks. Seems to be working. Also I got invited to another club by a bouncer. Said he’d get me in for free because I was good at cup pong
/r/seduction23/04/21 06:24 AM
2

Quick update: I got a response from the guy I texted about 7 hrs ago and he said he didn’t remember exactly which girl I was referring to but he thinks he knows based on my description and said he’s got me (aka he’d send my snap to her). However she has yet to add me back so either 1) She was uninterested or 2) He didn’t send it. #1 is most realistic and helps keep me from holding out a false hope. I may(likely) see her again and if I can talk to her again I’ll know where I stand/I’ll ask for he…
/r/seduction23/04/21 01:38 AM
2

I will, though I got a response from the guy I texted about 7 hrs ago and he said he didn’t remember exactly which girl I was referring to but he thinks he knows based on my description and said he’s got me (aka he’d send my snap to her). However she has yet to add me back so either 1) She was uninterested or 2) He didn’t send it. #1 is most realistic and helps keep me from holding out a false hope. I may(likely) see her again and if I can talk to her again I’ll know where I stand/I’ll ask for h…
/r/seduction23/04/21 01:36 AM
1

Asking any sooner would’ve distracted from the good albeit brief conversation. It wouldn’t have flowed well.
/r/seduction23/04/21 01:34 AM
2

No it’s not, we were mid conversation when her friend dragged her off (almost literally, like grabbed her by the hand and pulled her away). Also I sent mine instead of asking for hers so it’s in her court. She doesn’t have to add me, it’s up to her. Less pressure on her and it doesn’t come off as creepy. What would be creepy is me finding her Instagram or something and messaging her there or something stalkery. Also I’ll probably bump into her again at the bar but I figured I wouldn’t leave it t…
/r/seduction23/04/21 01:33 AM
2

Yeah I try to go for the number/snap quickly but only after I have a brief conversation. I was right there at that point when I got cut off. I’m gonna keep going out there though
/r/seduction22/04/21 09:08 PM
2

She said she goes there every night so when I go Friday hopefully I’ll see her
/r/seduction22/04/21 08:50 PM
2

I really hope he doesn’t
/r/seduction22/04/21 08:49 PM
3

She said she goes there like every night so when I go back Friday if I see her I’ll close
/r/seduction22/04/21 07:16 PM
3

Not that: Our conversation was about 3 min long and right as I opened my mouth to ask if she had snap her friend interrupted and took her away Also when I saw her later it was in the club section, packed in like sardines and she was in a line of girls going through the crowd to the cup pong room. So no I didn’t get a chance to ask
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:58 PM
1

Thanks!!!
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:22 PM
2

I try to ask but her friend took her away as the conversation was getting good/warming up and right as I was about to ask
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:22 PM
3

As the person who replied said. I didn’t ask for hers, I was about to ask for hers last night but her friend took her away right as I was gonna ask. So I DMd a guy that’s a friend of hers and asked him to give her my snap. If she adds me that’s a good sign if not it’s no big deal
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:21 PM
1

I was about to ask when her friend took her away. I’ll update if the guy gives her my snap and she adds me
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:19 PM
1

I’m 20
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:17 PM
2

Normally I agree but idk if she has a bf. Was gonna use the snap name to find her Instagram and find out via pictures then move from there
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:17 PM
4

Will do!
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:16 PM
1

I was about to ask for her snap when her friend took her off. Normally I try to approach but this was a pleasant surprise
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:16 PM
2

Her friend took her away right as I was about to ask but hopefully the guy that knows her will give her my snap and we will see from there
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:15 PM
4

I saw her in passing one other time that night but couldn’t get to her. If I had a tiny bit more time I was about to ask too
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:13 PM
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I was with a friend of mine trying to talk to two girls at a club recently and right after one finished her sentence her friend kinda tugged her off to talk to 2 other guys, one of which bought them drinks. Kinda sucks but the way they did it showed they were shallow. Just remember if they walk off on you it shows you were incompatible or they are not of good character depending on how they do it
/r/seduction19/04/21 01:18 PM
1

Based
/r/seduction14/04/21 03:37 PM
1

I have/have made a few female friends, nothing good has come of it, the few that have expressed interest were actually just after attention.
/r/seduction05/04/21 06:48 PM
1

True the fact I go there also factors in
/r/seduction05/04/21 06:48 PM
1

At my college, one of the biggest party schools in the USA that’s not the case, you want to meet people either look for the ones relaxing in the campus park or go to the bars/clubs, maybe in the student center, overall on campus doesn’t work too well
/r/seduction05/04/21 06:34 PM
1

Clarification: A lot of the people on college campuses are usually with friends or in a hurry to get somewhere so you have to be observant of you try to talk to them
/r/seduction05/04/21 06:32 PM
2

Can speak from personal experience, unless you get lucky or are really good at cold approaches college campus’ are not a good place to go
/r/seduction05/04/21 06:17 PM
41

Only thing is you have to watch for the girls who may act similarly but just want attention
/r/seduction04/04/21 07:14 PM
1

I didn’t
/r/seduction24/03/21 09:46 PM
1

True, also I didn’t delete the post
/r/seduction21/03/21 07:15 PM
1

Definitely a possibility, though I was still surprised how only one said she approached guys
/r/seduction19/03/21 07:31 PM
1

I don’t expect them to approach either, I found the reasons for why they don’t to be interesting, and a little irrational tbh
/r/seduction19/03/21 07:05 PM
4

Next time just take the risk, just don’t say anything super explicit. See what happens
/r/seduction04/03/21 04:59 AM
3

Try leaving class really quickly too and see which direction she heads, if you can figure that out maybe you can head that direction one day and catch her in the hallway then mention the tattoo, ask about it saying you saw it and had to ask about it. Hope this helps
/r/seduction02/03/21 03:53 AM
1

Big brain move
/r/seduction01/03/21 04:10 PM
1

Hang out then after the workout or before give her a compliment and just go with the flow.
/r/seduction05/02/21 03:06 AM
3

Eh I probably don’t want to be a player then
/r/seduction03/02/21 03:34 AM
4

I don’t have much experience but I can drop this for you. I only had 1 good cold approach, I went up to a girl sitting at a table by herself eating lunch and asked if the seat in front of her was taken and went from there. Keep an eye out for opportunities!
/r/seduction03/02/21 02:06 AM
1

I understand trying to find someone but I wouldn’t encourage behavior past 4 maybe 5 if you are into hookups
/r/seduction03/02/21 02:03 AM
9

Saved this post, really really good stuff!
/r/seduction03/02/21 01:57 AM
1

Absolute facts, you can’t trick someone into liking you, best you can do is be yourself and work on being friendly and not being awkward
/r/seduction01/02/21 07:50 PM
9

Came here to ask that question, great answer!
/r/seduction01/02/21 02:59 PM
4

Just be able to keep a conversation going (aka ask questions and stuff), work on maintaining eye contact (but not too much) and don’t be afraid to show your personality.
/r/seduction22/01/21 02:10 AM
1

By confirmation I mean something that undeniably a sign of interest, not them saying so.
/r/seduction21/01/21 05:23 PM
1

The last girl I was talking to, I assumed she was into me. Thing is it made me naive and turns out she wasn’t interested but was after attention. Going back to assuming they aren’t interested until explicitly told otherwise has been more effective
/r/seduction21/01/21 04:28 PM
34

I honestly disagree with this, I was using this mentality recently and it backfired badly when it turns out they weren’t
/r/seduction21/01/21 05:54 AM
2

The last one I needed to hear. Always thought that because of my lackluster looks (I’m like a 4) I need to impress them in other ways but I never really thought through that mindset
/r/seduction06/12/20 02:04 AM
2

It’s baby steps, still don’t know why my self esteem went down for that period of time, but talking to that dude made me remember that not everyone you approach will be hostile, there’s a good chance they will be friendly
/r/seduction16/11/20 11:00 PM
3

Our conversation was kinda dry but I think it was mostly me getting my self esteem back to talk to new people. I stopped doing cold approaches for a little while and my self esteem went really down for no real reason, kinda working my way back
/r/seduction16/11/20 10:55 PM
4

My social skills in general need practice, I know what to do but just doing it is the harder part
/r/seduction16/11/20 10:48 PM
3

No a straight guy
/r/seduction16/11/20 10:22 PM
20

AMEN
/r/seduction15/11/20 05:15 AM
1

Holy crap, good job bro!!!
/r/seduction13/11/20 03:13 AM
5

Hey this is helpful for me at least, you are doing great just next time you start the conversation and start feeling like chickening out stop think for a sec and keep talking. Obviously pay attention to their interest level but if you start panicking just stop for a second and remember to keep going!
/r/seduction09/11/20 02:41 AM
1

Best answer so far, thanks!
/r/seduction29/10/20 05:34 PM
2

I was really surprised by the video, the fact he got that girls number, WOW
/r/seduction21/10/20 01:13 AM
4

Great point
/r/seduction20/10/20 10:33 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction20/10/20 09:28 PM
1

True true. If I get another situation like that I’ll be sure to ask their name or something quicker (if they are giving good body language). Hopefully from there it could go somewhere/be a conversation
/r/seduction20/10/20 09:19 PM
1

I was expecting a reply I could continue the conversation with. I didn’t go for a number because it was too soon but I think I should’ve asked for her name and some stuff about her, I didn’t even think it through when I went back tbh
/r/seduction20/10/20 09:12 PM
1

Anytime
/r/seduction13/10/20 12:04 AM
1

Same here, but if you keep looking you’ll find some. Also talk to people in your dorm/on your floor. Let them know you need/want new friends then in conversation if it comes up say you are looking for a gf. Casually put the word out. You never know if your new friend has a female friend with similar interests who is looking for a bf. They could try to set you up. Keep your eyes open is my point
/r/seduction13/10/20 12:02 AM
1

Don’t be afraid to dream big dude. I had the chance a while back to walk up to a solid 8-9/10 at Chick Fil A. Ended up talking to her for over two hours and we met up for lunch a few times then she ghosted me. That part sucked but I did learn a few lessons and got experience out of it so I do not regret it at all. And yeah starting small with saying hi, I would do that all the time, look for any social events that would be of interest at the college and go to them, and if you see the opportunity…
/r/seduction12/10/20 11:57 PM
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I’m literally just like you but I’m 20. It’s best to look for opportunities at food areas from my experience. Also with mindset just go in with the mindset of I’m probably gonna fail but I need the experience. If you fail you met expectations, if you succeed congrats self confidence boost. And you really need the fuck it what I can lose attitude. Other than that DONT be afraid to walk up to them make eye contact and say something like (if they are eating alone) hey is this seat taken? Or another…
/r/seduction12/10/20 11:36 PM
1

Yes. I’m not against masks I’m against the mandates, government overreach. I wear the mask but I’m not entirely convinced of it’s effectiveness. I do have an issue with the government taking rights away to make people wear a mask
/r/seduction12/10/20 05:03 PM
1

I do
/r/seduction12/10/20 04:13 AM
1

That second one would’ve been a good comeback, wish I could’ve thought of it at the time
/r/seduction12/10/20 03:50 AM
2

Give us a direct compliment. Not something really subtle. After a compliment you can be witty and funny. The subtly is very easy to miss or misread. In person touching us giving us direct compliments. Hope this helps
/r/seduction09/10/20 04:12 AM
2

This hurts to read. They want to have sex or date, probably have sex
/r/seduction09/10/20 02:36 AM
0

Thank you
/r/seduction08/10/20 10:50 PM
4

The chad move
/r/seduction07/10/20 05:07 AM
1

Personally my favorite go to question for a conversation once you get past the hello and basic small talk is. “What do you like to do for fun?”. Why? It’s broad, gets them talking about things they enjoy. This makes them happy and makes them associate happiness with you. Also it will tell you a lot about them
/r/seduction06/10/20 05:42 PM
14

I can’t tell if this is sarcastic...
/r/seduction06/10/20 09:07 AM
1

Great post. I’ve been focusing on the outcome too much, hopefully this change will help
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:29 AM
2

So quick update: I ended up being ghosted without really any warning As for what I talked about, I asked about where she was from, what she hobbies she liked, etc. After a while I found out she liked history and we talked about that for over an hour.
/r/seduction01/10/20 10:08 PM
2

Amazing post!
/r/seduction30/09/20 02:56 AM
2

Ah yes the hardest part
/r/seduction29/09/20 08:16 PM
2

Noted, thanks
/r/seduction29/09/20 04:26 PM
2

Seems kind of weird to have a paper with my contact info with me especially with COVID and online classes. Though the rest of it sounds like a good idea
/r/seduction29/09/20 04:16 PM
11

What’s an appropriate way to start this discussion? Should you start this over like a meal?
/r/seduction28/09/20 05:12 PM
3

I’m 5’4, been told I’m either flat out ugly or meh. I think I’m funny, I keep up with memes and know how to break awkward silences and keep a conversation going. Think that I’ve got what it takes? (Note: think of a white nerd and that’s me except no acne or anything and I look 16 but I’m 20)
/r/seduction28/09/20 03:09 AM
9

That was quite a bit to read but WOW that was well organized and had good points. Also the part about how to be a flirt, very well written. Take my upvote!
/r/seduction24/09/20 09:26 PM
1

So 1) this is an old post and it didn’t work out she soft ghosted. (Left on read but no block or unadd 2) Nahh she’s a solid 9 like jaw dropper..
/r/seduction21/09/20 03:00 AM
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Only speaking for myself. My first went well but I got ghosted/did the whole fake I have a bf (found out she did not) Second was kinda awkward, nothing happened Haven’t had any more chances since
/r/seduction17/09/20 01:02 AM
7

Fear of rejection, needing that feeling of knowing the person is into you and you aren’t just seeing something that isn’t there. My take
/r/seduction17/09/20 12:02 AM
51

There’s a difference between the cosmetic rings and marriage rings. People can tell the difference
/r/seduction06/09/20 02:51 PM
1

I used to just game but I expanded my hobbies. It’s worth it in the long run
/r/seduction02/09/20 01:44 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/seduction02/09/20 01:44 PM
1

I like action/sci fi but I can watch just about anything except a romantic based movie, good idea though!
/r/seduction02/09/20 04:55 AM
1

Good point
/r/seduction01/09/20 06:43 PM
2

I haven’t mentioned it yet but I have a canon t6 and I do a lot of car photography at all the shows I go to
/r/seduction01/09/20 06:43 PM
1

Wow that’s smooth!
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:13 PM
1

I hadn’t thought about phrasing it like that. Thanks
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:27 PM
2

You’d think but it’s not true
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:13 PM
1

I just wanted to see how my hobbies compared to others, not to compare myself to others but to see if they were common hobbies
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:13 PM
1

They weren’t in any particular order, just whatever came to mind first but I see your point
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:33 PM
2

Good explanation. I get it now
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:33 PM
1

But I don’t want a gold digger. Also check my ride out @bee_127_camaro on IG
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:32 PM
1

It’s something I do for fun so they’ll need to at least tolerate it for anything to work long term. Thanks for the heads up
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:04 PM
1

Nice
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:02 PM
1

Thanks, that was solid advice!
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:31 AM
2

I figured photography, reading, bowling, pool would be killers. Guess not
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:30 AM
1

Those were just the first ones that came to mind. I’ll definitely remember to put photography, bowling, etc higher up
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:29 AM
1

Explain a bit more. Is that a pickup line or something?
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:27 AM
1

Thanks
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:26 AM
1

Photography, pool, and gaming are my best 3
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:26 AM
1

Thanks
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:25 AM
1

Sarcasm?
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:25 AM
3

True!
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:24 AM
1

How are they gonna dry her up, boring?
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:24 AM
1

Didn’t know that, thanks!
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:23 AM
1

That’s my plan so far, I was going for a date but she didn’t reply to set up a time and day. I told her that I’d be in town all week but I didn’t hear anything after that then I got the Heyy message left on read
/r/seduction24/08/20 06:34 PM
1

Thing is we met via tinder so I was trying to set up a meet IRL. Until then texting is all I have. Also one of my friends told me to throw a Hail Mary at 8pm and just ask how her day went. If she doesn’t reply well I tried. This is triple texting and 99% of the time I’m against it but fact is that if she doesn’t reply then nothing was ever gonna happen plus it also gives her an put to say she was busy today and wasn’t able to reply
/r/seduction24/08/20 06:24 PM
1

True.. missed opportunity but also I sent a message a little while ago and she left me on read for some reason. Idk why. I just said heyy. I didn’t want to push the asking her out thing so I just sent hey and was planning on asking how her day went if she said Heyy back and continuing the conversation from there
/r/seduction24/08/20 06:13 PM
5

Honestly online dating is your best bet at this point because of COVID but don’t get your hopes very high
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:16 AM
2

Possibly but I’m in the process of getting over it now
/r/seduction22/08/20 10:00 PM
1

Nope after she said she had a bf I played it off as me being chill and even invited her to an event I’m going to in her hometown. Message was left on read (I said “ok, btw you said you were from (insert town) I’m gonna be there in the charity car show on the 29th if you or your BF want to come”). I pretty much called her on the whole I have a bf thing which is clearly a lie so I’ll probably never hear from her again. Sucks that it was going well and now it’s gone like a puff of smoke but at leas…
/r/seduction22/08/20 06:29 AM
2

There is some truth to this. I started talking to a girl from a cold approach and I wasn’t making sexual comments or anything, my friends said I wasn’t sending a friend vibe but I got friendzoned. She said she had a boyfriend but all evidence says she is lying
/r/seduction21/08/20 11:45 PM
1

Lmao
/r/seduction21/08/20 11:42 PM
1

I went looking, idk why but it’s hard to find on my page https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/id0oth/update_on_cold_approach_success/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction21/08/20 11:19 PM
2

Nice, what was your opener?
/r/seduction21/08/20 09:29 PM
3

I really needed that. You can check my posts if you want to see why. Any recommendations on good places to try cold approaches?
/r/seduction20/08/20 06:22 PM
0

Good point, I’ll ask if I see her again. When we last talked she said she had to be out of town today and tomorrow but she would want to get food next week. Didn’t specify a day and my last message is sitting on delivered (pretty much said when I’m available next week). I don’t know if I’ll ever get a reply but the whole encounter caught me off guard so now I’m off to try another cold approach. My confidence is in the gutters though right now so it’ll be a long road ahead
/r/seduction20/08/20 06:20 PM
1

I posted an update.
/r/seduction20/08/20 06:18 PM
1

That’s probably what I’ll do tbh. Who knows
/r/seduction20/08/20 03:58 AM
1

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/id0oth/update_on_cold_approach_success/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction20/08/20 01:11 AM
1

I don’t want to keep her guessing, id rather us both know what the other wants
/r/seduction19/08/20 01:39 PM
1

Agreed it’s a bit weird but not insulting
/r/seduction19/08/20 01:38 PM
1

I learned this lesson the hard way but a good way. I consider myself very average looking but I’m now talking to a girl that I think is way more attractive than I could approach normally but I mustered the confidence to go talk to her, kept my cool and was confident in my abilities and it seems to be going well right now
/r/seduction19/08/20 03:51 AM
1

Oh I forgot to mention the movie thing won’t work because of COVID. That’s why I asked for dinner as a reschedule
/r/seduction19/08/20 03:35 AM
1

LMFAO IM DYING HAHA. I want to push boundaries but I don’t want to go to far as idk if she views me only as a friend. Though I did just ask her to dinner and she said yes!. I asked her to dinner not to go get food I used that phrase right there so it should be pretty obvious that I asked for a date
/r/seduction19/08/20 03:34 AM
1

If they are worth it they’ll wait like me. Also the girl I’m talking to now is also Christian so it wouldn’t surprise me if she had the same beliefs
/r/seduction19/08/20 03:33 AM
1

A lot of reasons. Firstly religion/morality. Secondly, don’t have to worry about STDs or pregnancy. Thirdly sex shouldn’t be a large part of a relationship (like only be a small thing not foundational) and if I wait until marriage then I’ve already got a good relationship set up and then sex can be used as something to express love and stuff and not be something foundational. And finally they say you remember your first time for the rest of your life so I’d rather have her by my side 40 years fr…
/r/seduction19/08/20 12:06 AM
2

Great ideas, thanks
/r/seduction18/08/20 10:21 PM
2

Those would be a choice but COVID has all that shut down and I’m in a big city so believe it or not they are about my only options. I wish I could do something different
/r/seduction18/08/20 10:20 PM
1

Update: movie theater isn’t opening so I asked her to dinner instead since all the fun stuff is still shut down here
/r/seduction18/08/20 09:52 PM
1

Update: movie theater isn’t opening so I asked her to dinner instead since all the fun stuff is still shut down here
/r/seduction18/08/20 09:52 PM
2

Update: movie theater isn’t opening so I asked her to dinner instead since all the fun stuff is still shut down here
/r/seduction18/08/20 09:52 PM
1

Update: movie theater isn’t opening so I asked her to dinner instead since all the fun stuff is still shut down here
/r/seduction18/08/20 09:52 PM
1

We are both going to have to wear masks, also we haven’t known each other long so I just feel like that would be pushing boundaries too much. Trying to go for like holding hands seems more viable
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:52 PM
1

Gotcha
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:23 PM
1

Is there anything to when I compliment her and she says like thanks and keeps going with the conversation?
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:49 PM
1

Dating her for sure
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:22 PM
0

I’m not interested in sex until marriage. Also due to covid it really limits what you can do. As for sexual comments I would make one but I don’t want to go too far as idk if I’m friendzoned or not. I’ll push boundaries for sure but I don’t wanna go too far
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:22 PM
1

Considering covid and everything a kiss would be WAY too much
/r/seduction18/08/20 05:59 PM
1

Haven’t met her except for when I did my cold approach
/r/seduction17/08/20 04:49 PM
2

That’s really all that matters
/r/seduction17/08/20 03:38 PM
3

True, I’m literally about to get dressed and go do another cold approach or at least try
/r/seduction17/08/20 03:19 PM
5

No we haven’t met again. Supposed to meet Tuesday but I think she’s gonna flake
/r/seduction17/08/20 12:15 PM
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Awesome bro. I did something similar but it was my first ever cold approach. We ended up talking for two hours and exchanging snapchats so anything is possible. Btw she was WAYY tf out of my league. Seriously keep it up man and good luck!
/r/seduction17/08/20 04:29 AM
2

Thanks. This is honestly her last chance because I feel like the other reasons why she didn’t show weren’t true but this one was so I’ve got a little bit of hope that she will show... I’ll keep this subreddit updated
/r/seduction15/08/20 11:57 PM
2

Set to meet Tuesday. She didn’t meet this most recent time because of a birthday party (she wasn’t lying).
/r/seduction15/08/20 09:43 PM
2

That actually sounds really smart, thanks!
/r/seduction15/08/20 04:16 PM
2

gets notepad and starts writing in big letters got it!
/r/seduction15/08/20 04:16 PM
1

Will do
/r/seduction15/08/20 03:44 AM
1

No she text last night and said she had a birthday party she had to help at (she wasn’t laying I saw it on her snap).
/r/seduction15/08/20 03:37 AM
1

So current update: We are set to meet Tuesday at 12. Now I decided to text her and told her that I was busy Monday and asked if Tuesday would work. She surprisingly changed her schedule/actually worked with me and agreed to meet Tuesday. Also the birthday party was not a lie (saw it on her snap story). So I’m actually feeling pretty good about her showing up Tuesday
/r/seduction15/08/20 02:54 AM
2

Sounds great, I’ll reschedule it for Tuesday
/r/seduction14/08/20 04:38 PM
2

I’ll probably do that if she flakes Monday
/r/seduction14/08/20 04:19 PM
1

So what should I do?
/r/seduction14/08/20 02:32 PM
-1

If I don’t get anything by tonight I’m going to send her a “👍🏻” have a great weekend message
/r/seduction14/08/20 02:15 PM
1

That’s my current plan. Is this seat taken? Follow the flow
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:34 PM
1

Leaving her on read today is gonna be a test and if she doesn’t show Monday it’ll be hard for me to continue tbh
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:31 PM
1

That’s what has me confused, cancel multiple times but reschedule each time, mixed signals
/r/seduction14/08/20 04:59 AM
1

Thanks, I just edited the post idk if you commented before the edit. My plan is to leave her on read until tomorrow night then if I don’t get anything throw one Hail Mary and say my life got busy but I can meet Monday at 2 if you want though I’d re word it to be something like my schedule is kinda busy but I can meet around 2 if you want.
/r/seduction14/08/20 04:40 AM
1

Posted an update, need input
/r/seduction14/08/20 03:57 AM
1

Posted an update, need input
/r/seduction14/08/20 03:57 AM
1

Posted an update. Could use some input
/r/seduction14/08/20 03:57 AM
1

Posted a new update
/r/seduction14/08/20 03:56 AM
1

Approaching someone you don’t know
/r/seduction14/08/20 03:52 AM
1

Possibly. Thanks
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:19 AM
1

Thanks, I’ve never had this happen before, especially since my confidence was pretty high at the time so I was really confused
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:05 AM
1

My mom and sister about the cold approach. My sister hasn’t said anything to me directly but my mom hasn’t explicitly said it but the way she talks... she was very surprised
/r/seduction13/08/20 10:05 PM
0

Absolute power move. takes out notepad and starts writing
/r/seduction13/08/20 09:11 PM
1

I will!!
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:58 PM
1

I don’t have any experience, but I can see already how talking to more than one tends to be more productive. Best of luck out there, remember you can do it, when it comes to cold approaches you think nah I can’t go up to her ask yourself. What can I lose?? Answer: nothing!
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:43 PM
1

Noted, I’ve lurked on a lot of dating subs and one thing I’ve seen guys do is invest too much in a girl before they are in a relationship and end up back at square one when it doesn’t turn into a relationship. A lot of advice seems to be talk to a few people at a time, best chance of success but if one starts to get serious fade away from the rest and pursue them
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:38 PM
1

Will do! Thanks
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:37 PM
2

Oh yeah, though a few min later she had a ton of schoolwork out so it was good I didn’t approach but still plenty of opportunities. Especially at CFA, all the hot chicks seem to hang there haha
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:36 PM
1

Gotcha, I was just a little confused by the comment
/r/seduction13/08/20 06:56 PM
1

I plan on continuing cold approaches, are you saying she’s not gonna work out or something?
/r/seduction13/08/20 05:56 PM
27

I’d just like to comment what my family has turned into a catchphrase. If David can do it anyone can do it Yes my name is David, and even I can do cold approaches (to my family’s shock when I told them about me doing them with varying degrees of success)
/r/seduction13/08/20 05:37 PM
2

Posted an update
/r/seduction13/08/20 05:26 PM
1

Is this seat taken? It went uphill from there
/r/seduction13/08/20 04:13 PM
1

Truth!
/r/seduction13/08/20 04:13 PM
2

Approaching someone you do not know and if it goes badly will never see again
/r/seduction13/08/20 04:12 PM
1

About to go in less than an hour I’ll post and update
/r/seduction13/08/20 04:12 PM
1

Possibly but I’ve worked on my confidence a lot
/r/seduction13/08/20 04:11 PM
1

I’m calling myself a 4 and I’ve been rated a 4
/r/seduction13/08/20 04:11 PM
2

We talked about what we were each doing in college. Turns out we both like history even though she looks like a frat girl so it threw me off so much but we talked about WW2 for like an hour and tbh I forgot what the other hour of conversation was about
/r/seduction13/08/20 02:59 AM
2

Definitely will!
/r/seduction13/08/20 02:58 AM
2

R/am I hot. I scroll through that Reddit to see people that are semi attractive and are looking to fix their insecurities, reminds me everyone has some insecurities. Also shows me a large variety of people. I also just remind myself whenever I see someone attractive and think they are out of my league that if I’m confident and if we have common interests or chemistry it can really work out with anyone. More or less just reminding myself no one is perfect and confidence is the real key not looks
/r/seduction13/08/20 02:11 AM
1

Mood
/r/seduction13/08/20 01:17 AM
1

Thank you. Btw it’s ok to double text 1 time. What do you have to lose, any more and you look desperate
/r/seduction13/08/20 01:17 AM
1

I know
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:19 AM
2

Lmao maybe I’ll get a BJ from her sometime, just have to hope we have chemistry and things work out
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:18 AM
1

Couldn’t have said it better myself, that’s a good thing to keep in mind
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:17 AM
1

Well I haven’t told her that, people are just pointing out things I’m saying and I’m open about what I’m working on.
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:17 AM
1

True, it’s something I’ve been working on for a while, I’ve gotten better about it but I still do it occasionally
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:10 AM
2

True, one of the many things I’m working on
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:10 AM
1

Me, I don’t want to be a prick
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:09 AM
1

Oh yeah and I’m definitely not putting her above me on a pedestal I’ve done that before and it didn’t end well
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:02 AM
3

The best part about her was personality. It’s what I look for in a partner, the looks affect who I approach though I’m not harsh on looks at all. She had a good personality and we talked for a while so I think there’s chemistry
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:02 AM
1

Lol not gonna do that, btw you really had me in the first half hahaha. Uh if I pick up more I’ll have to send her a video lol
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:00 AM
1

Will do!
/r/seduction12/08/20 11:07 PM
1

I try but she asked for my Snapchat. I’ll try to get her number though
/r/seduction12/08/20 11:07 PM
1

Yes that’s my plan
/r/seduction12/08/20 11:07 PM
2

Go for it. As my family says if David can do it anyone can do it! Yes I am aware I am the butt of that joke but sadly it’s true haha
/r/seduction12/08/20 11:06 PM
2

Yeah for most of my life literally 19 of my 20 years I was like him and really shy but now honestly I just went into yolo mode it’s time to meet people and learn all those social skills I missed out on!
/r/seduction12/08/20 10:08 PM
1

More than happy. Now my memory isn’t the greatest so bear with me but I sat down and then I said something along the lines of my name is David, what’s yours? She told me her name then I asked what she was at this college for and we talked about each other’s majors, plans for the near future then we moved on to like what was her favorite subject in school or something I don’t fully remember. Anyway one thing led to another and we talked about world war 2 and how she wanted to travel to the monume…
/r/seduction12/08/20 10:07 PM
2

Thanks! I’m not gonna make the mistakes with text, I kinda forgot I should only use it for setting up dates or talking when she initiates a text conversation. Believe it or not my dad is still blown away that I approached her and I am too!
/r/seduction12/08/20 09:13 PM
1

Gotcha! Ugh fingers crossed for tomorrow!
/r/seduction12/08/20 08:09 PM
1

Got it, that totally makes sense but when we meet IRL what can I do that would send her more of a he wants more than friends vibe? I feel like I may have sent a friend vibe..
/r/seduction12/08/20 07:52 PM
1

Haha I need that mindset. Though I showed my dad a photo of her and his reply was and I quote “ARE YOU SHOOTING FOR THE STARS???!!!” He later told me I’m braver than him and also he was expecting someone less attractive, more nerdy and have more common interests with me, though granted idk much about her currently
/r/seduction12/08/20 06:22 PM
6

No. I haven’t had any contact with her past the day we agreed to meet up again via text
/r/seduction12/08/20 05:44 PM
1

Oh that’s a killer one, I love it!! Haha though I see your point. Thanks for the advice, I’ll probably get better with timing the compliments and coming up with unique ones as I keep doing cold approaches
/r/seduction12/08/20 05:23 PM
1

The opener isn’t terrible, I see what it means however I feel like a compliment specific to them would work better. For example, the girl I approached had freaking amazing eyes. I feel like I could’ve done this Me: Hi, is this seat taken? Her: No it’s fine you can sit down Me: Thanks, btw you have really pretty eyes Thoughts on something like that?
/r/seduction12/08/20 05:14 PM
4

Very good questions. So for my opener here’s how it went. She was sitting at a picnic table by herself so I walked over with my food and asked “is this seat taken” she said something along the lines of “no you’re good you can sit down” idk the exact words but that’s pretty close. Now as for the man-woman do I want friends or more honestly.. idk I don’t think I set the tone correctly. I probably came off as more of a friend because I wanted to give a compliment but once the conversation started I…
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:59 PM
1

Got it, thanks
/r/seduction12/08/20 02:46 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction12/08/20 02:25 PM
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Put it this way I showed my dad her pic and he asked me “ARE YOU AIMING FOR THE STARS????” Then he told me I’m way braver than him as he would’ve NEVER approached her. He thought she was out of my league but hopefully most people realize they are only in your imagination
/r/seduction12/08/20 02:07 PM
2

That could work. Though an update I actually managed to make myself approach a girl with the is this seat taken routine and we talked for like 2hrs and are gonna meet up Thursday for lunch!
/r/seduction11/08/20 03:16 PM
3

That’ll be my goal for tomorrow
/r/seduction10/08/20 02:52 AM
1

Thank you, that’s really good advice!
/r/seduction28/07/20 12:57 AM
1

That’s really smart, thanks!
/r/seduction27/07/20 11:56 PM
1

Thanks, that’s great advice!
/r/seduction27/07/20 08:04 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction27/07/20 08:04 PM
2

Some of these posts aren’t very helpfully but yours was actually really nice. I’ve read a lot of help posts and this one made me realize that when starting a conversation it would help me to realize I’m the stranger in the conversation. Never thought of that before!
/r/seduction14/07/20 03:07 AM
6

I don’t know what HB means. My guess is Hot Blonde? Just curious
/r/seduction16/06/20 11:39 PM
56

If a guy is flirting is usually pretty obvious. He makes direct eye contact, tries to talk only to you. May make some innuendos, will give you compliments. As guy that’s the best way I can explain it
/r/seduction03/06/20 02:45 PM
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Eye contact, smiling, make the first move. If you don’t get a good reaction then you just aren’t that guys type. More often than not it’ll work. Also to answer your question it’s either the smile or the boobs to me
/r/seduction26/05/20 04:35 AM
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I needed this
/r/seduction14/05/20 01:23 PM
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