People like it when others have interesting hobbies. What do you think of mine

Pringles__ · 2020-09-01T10:32:11+00:00

I'm missing a serious sport. One you are physically challenged like weight lifting, rock climbing, or similar. But only talk about it when it's really interesting. While the cliff you've climbed yesterday might be interesting no one is interested in the 60kg you deadlifted this morning.
Photography is 1A. Always have your best pics on your phone to show her. But leave the awesome series you shot yesterday at home to show her later in the date ;)
Reading is good but it depends on what you read. Nerdy Sci-Fi might put off some girls while attracting others a lot. Show that you are educated and smart.
Only talk about politics if you are in the same boat. I personally just date women that are on the left side of the (European) political spectrum like me but that's a personal preference.
Your career can also be a hobby, if you are a student you can talk about the awesome stuff you are learning.
Personally I wouldn't talk about Gaming, Cars, Fishing, Bowling, Pool and Concerts unless you know she's into it.

But in the end, do what you like to do and don't do it for them (besides maybe weight lifting ;)

Colonelfudgenustard · 2020-09-01T03:35:24+00:00

Chicks really dig stamp collectors.

EvenBalanceguy · 2020-09-01T03:21:57+00:00

Personally I like some of this hobbies myself but to be honest bro you try to tell these hobbies to the average chick your probably going to dry up her juices (besides the concert and photography tho they’re good imo)

Pringles__ · 2020-09-01T12:57:17+00:00

What the fuck is this post? This list means shit.

You could have the best hobbies in the world, if your purpose is to impress girls, they'll see right through you.

Instead, you should have hobbies that make you happy, things that you do because you like them, not because you want to impress a girl.

Look, I was once in a date and I never had to tell her my hobbies (bs question). However, at some point, we started talking about movies, and I really like watching them. Did I tell her "oh I'm a huge fan of movies !!!", no because I didn't want to impress her. Instead, I was honest whenever we talked about a movie and communicated my opinion of the movie. E.g. her: "I don't like Titanic, 3-hour movie for 10-minute action and it's very sad". Me: "I disagree, I believe that the purpose of the movie is to build anticipation and emotion for when the boat sinks, so it's not just a meh sinking." You can even escalate and ask her to go watch a movie in your apartment.

That's how you portray that watching movies is something that you do casually. Not by trying to impress her that you are a fan of movies, but by showing that you know about them. Not because you want to impress her (this is neediness) but because you know a lot about movies and you have an opinion on them.

The same can be applied to basically any hobby. Bring it to the conversation if you genuinely mean it, don't try to impress her.

Stop caring about what hobbies you have and start caring about how much you enjoy them. Stop caring what hobbies she may enjoy and start caring about what hobbies you enjoy.

You could be just doing 1 thing in your life, if it makes you happy, it's more than enough. Instead of trying to find what hobbies impresses girls, try to think what girl's hobbies would impress you.

Sewage2003 · 2020-09-01T13:18:56+00:00

If you are going to discuss your hobbies then focus on the ones that build attraction by describing them in a way chicks appreciate.

Instead of “Photography.” Say “Photography - I like to travel to exotic places and shoot historic sites.”

Instead of “Concerts.” Say “Concerts - I am a huge fan of live R&B shows. I also like small intimate venues. In fact my buddy is playing gigs downtown next month.”

Demonstrate value and pull their interest with each hobby. In short, live an interesting life that she will want to be part of.

norwegiandoggo · 2020-09-01T07:14:26+00:00

It's better to be really good at one or two interests than to be shitty at 10 things

drevenx13 · 2020-09-01T11:32:33+00:00

Speaking from experience, gaming is only a positive asset in seduction IF the girl you’re pursuing is herself a gamer. All other types of women will either be low-key repelled by it (sometimes they will fake on loving it because you’re still someone interesting to them but in the long run it will be a deal breaker) or they will straight up tell you they don’t like it.

Lifegainzman · 2020-09-01T16:01:43+00:00

I think you are missing the point.

Do you love your life?

Yes? Then girls will want to be part of it, and they will love you with the same excitement and energy you love your life.

I once started a challenge to read 1 book/week. Being well-read is interesting I thought, or I stopped going out to focus more on the gym. I became well-read and made some gains, but I lost the love for my life.

Smergmerg432 · 2020-09-02T04:19:23+00:00

Very cool hobbies! Do you have any interest in film? Going to see niche/weird films together is a nice way to enjoy shared interests!

Ari_Baby_ · 2020-09-02T06:12:52+00:00

Oof, the only ones I have in common with that list is Gaming and Reading hahah.

Overall it's a pretty well-rounded list though. Should be able to carry on a conversation with most people with that :)

ChadIronchest17 · 2020-09-02T06:29:41+00:00

As someone who is incredibly passionate about gaming it kind of hurts to have it be seen exclusively as a negative thing. I enjoy games as a form of competition and it has taught me so much about self assessment, and striving to get better at something. I also play DnD but mentioning that is a shot in the foot. I have other hobbies outside of nerdy shit, but then if I build my identity around just those things I'm being inauthentic. I can go on an hour long passion rant all day about my nerdy hobbies but that ultimately won't impress any girls

throwawaylucky777 · 2020-09-01T04:19:13+00:00

bro you sound like my grandpa

pua_max · 2020-09-01T03:41:41+00:00

I’d recommend really going deep on one or two skills. A lot of these are pretty passive. Are you good at bowling, pool, or photography? Have you invested a lot of time into them?

Viksey · 2020-09-01T07:21:08+00:00

Solid list of hobbies, like 99% of guys have.

Sunlitstream264 · 2020-09-01T12:27:31+00:00

The gaming one is bad. Nobody thinks of gaming as a hobby, they think of it as a lazy time waster. When they say girls like guys with hobbies, they don’t mean that...sitting on a couch looking at a TV screen 5 hours per day.

Most of your hobbies are things literally every guy is into, there’s nothing special or interesting about them. You should have 1 or 2 things you’re very passionate about that are fairly unique or that you are way better at than average. It would also be helpful if one of those things is physical in some way.

Biking, running, lifting, rock climbing, gymnastic, hockey, soccer, sports in general, etc.

optimal981 · 2020-09-01T02:32:00+00:00

Girls really like photography, and you can definitely use it to flirt. I would make that your #1 when talking to girls.

ghlibisk · 2020-09-01T05:13:40+00:00

If a girl asks what your hobbies are, just say "magnets".

Sunlitstream264 · 2020-09-01T09:05:49+00:00

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to_venus_and_back · 2020-09-01T07:51:34+00:00

Move up photography, concerts and reading on your list and move down gaming. You are definitely a reasonably interesting person but I was initially biased against you because the first thing I read was ‘gaming’

Twobithatter · 2020-09-01T04:24:51+00:00

I go against the be yourself advice and say be your cool self instead. You have a solid list of hobbies so nothing to worry about.

drevenx13 · 2020-09-01T11:41:46+00:00

Here’s my list of hobbies: 1. Selling drugs 2. Pimping hoes 3. My firearm collection 4. Poker 5. Gambling 6. Binge drinking 7. Waking up in unusual places due to overdose 8. Getting arrested 9. Watch UFC and boxing 10. Recording mixtapes trying to be the next white Drake.

2020-09-02T00:53:20+00:00

I like tweertlews

GoldSmith64 · 2020-09-01T03:36:04+00:00

Yeah that’s pretty good.

Title	People like it when others have interesting hobbies. What do you think of mine
Author	Sunlitstream264
Upvotes	12
Comments	63
Date	September 1, 2020 1:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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