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Let it go man, who cares it's $1200, butter custody battles are not worth getting mad about $1200
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 11:12 PM
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WOW some women are so short sighted, married a doctor and messed that up and only getting few years of alimony, don't ever marry again lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 11:06 PM
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I sometimes have someone else read them and let me know if I need to do anything but lately my reader gets all pissed about her shit I need to find a stranger lmao
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 11:06 AM
2

This stuff is pretty simple, she won't get the house without you getting anything
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 12:08 AM
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Divorce was filed at 18 months overall outside of the actual fighting in court and massive lawyer fees, my daughter is doing good she's almost 3 now, half of her life now her parents have been fighting in court over her but at least I have her 50% of the time
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 12:06 AM
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Here's a good line, "if you'd settle for 4/3 schedule you wouldn't need my consent to enroll our child in any extra curriculars on the weekends, I won't consent to anything anymore"
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 08:52 PM
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I agree but she makes up lies and crazy shit she says im worried it's gonna make me look bad in court.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 08:33 PM
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We do she is sending these messages on OFW app, and always telling me to call her on the phone but I never do.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 08:29 PM
1

Ofcourse maximize CS, ex has spent 30k fighting temp orders for a year
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:36 AM
2

Any state is easy if their isn't kids, in IL been fighting in court for 18 months no assets but 1 kid
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:19 AM
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Force the sale that's what my ex did to me then the judge made me sell lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 08:09 PM
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That's very good advice
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:40 AM
1

Just hire a lawyer it's never amicable unless you get bent over
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:49 AM
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Sounds like every women you meet wants something casual, that's PERFECT lol go have fun dude
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 12:23 PM
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I feel like there's a trend of divorces occurring around things like bad health episodes or sicknesses and moving or buying a new house. Usually wife forced a new house purchasethen doesn't do anything and the husband ends up stretching himself super thin and getting sick then the wife detaches instead of helping and then divorce comes. In my case it's very similar to your story, moved bought a new house, I got pneumonia ended up in hospital for a week, divorce followed after she went around tel…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 03:25 PM
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I got into basketball recently some friends of mine from work we all go the gym after work and play for a few hours. Good cardio good stress relief and it's fun.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 12:21 PM
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My daughter is 3 and I've spent almost half of her life fighting in court for 50/50 and big money on lawyers. I do not regret a second of it, I've been doing 50/50 for over a year and I love it. We have a blast she gets to see my family much more then she did when I was married and we do whatever we want, she's my copilot. Don't give up 50/50, at the very least fight for it and get it. And if you're really unhappy can always give time back but trust me future you won't want to.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:43 AM
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Never again government doesn't need to be involved in my sex life again
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 08:57 PM
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I'm set for trial in early October her side is trying to delay it tho with nonsense motions. You'd be surprised how procedural court is it's not like.he movies it's like the DMV
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 03:00 AM
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You're living the repercussions right now aren't you
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 11:27 PM
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Moving out was a BIG mistake this is what happens now you gotta fight back from 0 file emergency order asap at least get something in the court then fight from there
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 08:54 PM
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A lot of these laws just changed in many states, prior to new laws it didn't matter who had the kids more or less it was 35% goes to mom no matter what at least there's been SOME progress in last 30 years
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 09:20 PM
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One thing at a time let's make it, that a man doesn't have to fight in court for years just to have 50/50 physical and legal custody of their child. A lot of states are better but many states are still living in the 50s with this stuff. Once this changes CS laws will change. While we were waiting for a zoom hearing the other day my attorney told me earlier that day he had a full agreement agreed upon in front of a judge and once mom found out she wasn't getting child support due to 50/50 she sai…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 09:18 PM
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We all die alone, no one's coming to save you
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 12:57 PM
2

Now what you do is counter petition for MORE time, don't be scared by lawyer paperwork it's all horseshit
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 11:59 AM
3

It's finalized and house is solely in your name? And everything is finalized? Change the locks and tell her time to leave
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 11:55 AM
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What's your custody situation?
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 11:52 AM
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LOL classic
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 02:50 AM
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What helps me is when I don't get to see my kid half the time and my house is gone and 20k of my savings is gone that usually helps me not remember that awful person
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 02:50 AM
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I am two months away from trial myself going to final last ditch mediation today well see if we can make a deal
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 05:24 PM
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I worry about this when and if I decide to tell my coworkers and management that I'm divorcing or divorced
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 12:34 PM
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The women around the divorcing woman is by far the most toxic, they hate their life and want out but don't wanna deal with the hassle of divorce so they watch and egg them on eating popcorn. Or they want divorced company go feel.better about their miserable existence
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 12:31 PM
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In my experience it has not been the case in IL at least that courts are heavily in the mothers favor but we'll see at trial l
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 12:17 PM
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Man 14 months in and fiances are awful hopefully 2025 is better to me then 23 and 24
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 12:43 AM
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Loved Patrice on OandA, black Phillip was the show
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 12:42 AM
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We all do really, begged me to marry her, begged and begged, we got engaged and I told her I wasn't sure we should wait and she started screaming crying like a toddler in a restaurant, wanted to have kids Immediately got pregnant then within 6 months my apartment which she always "loved" wasn't good enough she needed a house so we downsized from a 2500 sqft condo to 900 sqft house and within a year papers were filed as soon as she got me into the house she instilled FIRM rules and every fight wa…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 12:05 PM
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Future you is going to thank you for this, put on a brave face and keep trucking with your kids, get the status quo going her leaving and not having overnights is HUGE for you, the biggest fight in divorce is almost always kids especially when they're short term marriages. What you need to do next is sperate her from your house, ask her to stay outside when she comes to get them and keep this going for a few months then BAM file and have her served
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 02:11 AM
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Good and bad news, good news is CA is very father friendly you'll get 50/50 If you live close enough, bad news is she's gonna fight only women who fight pull that garbage, gonna need money. Don't give in CA is very 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 12:45 AM
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Right exactly she seems like my stbx everything is a game never satisfied ways wanting more
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 08:25 PM
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She got primary custody and you pay through the nose in CS AND she wants you to pay for lunches on top of all that, time to put on your big boy pants and start fighting enoughs enough man
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 08:25 PM
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Exactly those moments are the worst those Are layups you can avoid easily, even if it means nothing still that's a missed layup
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 12:13 AM
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Yea idk why some people do this unless it's work my child is with me 100% of the time
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 12:01 AM
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You can go to a collaborative divorce lawyer the real fight is always kids remember that, get that locked up asap
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 11:37 PM
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Probably nothing you can do honestly, who knows if the courts would even care
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 09:43 PM
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So much better no constant craziness going on all the time, no more stress can't wait for this actual discover process to be over so I can move on with my life.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 07:22 PM
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Someone older whose pragmatic but also has trial experience, and someone who knows the system knows opposing counsels knows judges and how they rule. My attorney in the beginning was very settlement focused until it was clear that my stbx is not a reasonable person and now he's a bulldog ready for trial, I didn't think he was a competitive guy until he won a few big hearing decisions then it was like oh wow this guy likes to win.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 11:50 AM
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Hahahaha love it
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:14 AM
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Deep breaths you'll be fine, and I wouldn't doubt it does settle before you hit the court room, you have 50/50 status quo for years now, the financial stuff is pretty straight forward at the end.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:44 AM
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That's good, status quo is strong if it's been years of 50/50, what state
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:39 AM
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You would be deposed and you're ex would
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:27 AM
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Must be different where you are at, in my state depositions are standard in discovery process when trial is coming
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:22 AM
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What happened in the depositions? what's the temp custody order been since this was going on?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:18 AM
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You didn't answer what the court hearing was, trial? Pre trial? Etc
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:12 AM
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Lolz
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:09 AM
2

Ok what exactly is tommorrow? The trial starts?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:09 AM
2

The sexual abuse angle is somewhat rarer, but the abuse angle is almost always in every divorce that goes the distance, mine has done the same thing over a year in court not one mention of anything other than the usual don't get along blah blah and now I'm an abuser to her and our daughter almost two years ago, and she made these accusations without her lawyer literally sent an email to the GAL CCing me, my lawyer and her lawyer, claiming she's the victim of abuse two years ago and the GAL is ig…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 01:08 AM
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Attorney fee if she's working, she won't get in IL. Alimony is pretty straight forward, and so is CS in IL. All of these can be calculated online, it goes based on income and years together.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 12:16 PM
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THIS I think that short circuits their brain when they "thought" they had you under control.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 11:35 PM
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Ya mine does the exact thing on OFW, I don't get it, constant 4 paragraph essays with nothing but the ramblings of posturing threats blackmail, "the judge will be hearing about this". "I will be updating my lawyer about what you're doing". "I hope for [child's name] sake you continue to grow in your journey to be a better person." It all gets ignored unless there's something that needs to be answered.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 11:33 PM
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I've had like 15 months of the SAME games over and over again constantly trying to cause fights idk if she's doing it on purpose or just a miserable asshole but she gets ignored every time for 15 months
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 11:22 PM
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Sounds like you have majority parenting time enjoy it, who cares what she does or doesnt do, would love it if my ex would go away
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 06:14 PM
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Go along with the no CS angle, and plays stupid CS is figured AFTER parenting plan is written stamped and ordered the money part is always separate play stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 01:30 AM
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"when are you coming home" I come home literally the same time everyday forever and ever, the constant putting out fires with everyone always, the constant boat anchor, it's amazing how little I replied on her and how much I did for her so much free time now, even with taking care of a toddler half the time.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 01:27 AM
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Sadly I saw them ALL but still did it and this was AFTER we had already broke up a few times, so stupid then married her then got pregnant on wedding night and bought a house on the same street as her parents crazy people
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 10:48 PM
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Let your lawyer deal with all that, don't give anything until you're instructed by the court to
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 10:47 AM
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Idk if I'd say she flipped a switch id say that multiple people were shitting in her ears for so long that when things weren't perfect anymore she started to listen to their craziness
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 03:04 AM
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He is convinced my wife thinks I'm dating and that's why she fights tooth and nail for every solitary inch, total.sxorched earth and I said nah, she's just a awful greedy person
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 02:54 AM
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My dad had good luck representing himself but that was post divorce filing and he had nothing to lose ended up getting more time and less CS but still lost the big battle with an attorney but that was in the 90s
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:55 AM
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I'm just worried it can be sued against me in court when we go to trial if I'm on dating sites or something
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:52 AM
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Ive been living alone since she moved out a year ago in a few weeks splitting our 2 1/2 year old time 50/50, it's peaceful being alone but short stretches I got into basketball with friends from work and work out and go for walks with my dog, but just had to do 8 days without my daughter and that was rough.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:52 AM
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Less than two years when she filed, divorce process might be as long as marriage, trial date set for October 6th final mediation before trial prep starts is in two weeks we'll see what happens, I was granted 50/50 custody temp orders due to status quo my attorney is confident and smart and knows the judge and the system and says I have very good chance of getting 50/50 IF we have to go to trial but never know. I'm not so much worried about it never ending I'm worry about losing my child she's my…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:48 AM
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Mine moved out month after filing didn't matter much, house got sold and still fighting custody
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:41 AM
2

I ran that same calculator and its the same number man, Ohio sucks for CS I guess most states you'd be paying pennies, but I agree with others don't pay anything until court makes you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 11:02 PM
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Some guys are so oblivious, she's doing this on purpose to stop you from seeing your child, wake up. You need to have a schedule not a free for all
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 03:01 PM
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Why would you let her use your vehicle if she drained all the money, it's ok mine did the same thing she won't tool the $2000 that was left in there anyways
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 12:53 AM
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Yup exactly
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 12:48 AM
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Thats awful, that's ok better now then ten years down the line with CS alimony big assets, get it done quick hopefully there's not too much fight usually isn't when they're out having fun, hopefully papers and signed sealed delivered before the new excitement wears off and she comes back to earth.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 12:46 AM
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I would absolutely get your ducks in a row with a lawyer before you tell to them it can get ugly fast at least you have a lawyer in your pocket Couple things, you don't want any future entanglement with the house she needs to buy you out prior or at the conclusion of the divorce she won't be able to assume the mortgage that's very rare, even with 50/50 since you make more money you'll pay some sort of child support and alimony. It's very very very rare that a divorce involving children will be a…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 12:35 AM
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Once you file and rip that bandaid off it's gonna be much much better
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 01:09 AM
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You need to talk to an attorney ASAP I cant stress this enough you need help like yesterday
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 01:02 AM
1

Wait SHE left for 80 days and left the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 12:50 AM
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My attorney has told me time and time again ignoring crazy message or emails is not an admission of guilt keeping your mouth shut is in your best interest give her the rope, she vomits to me crazy 8 paragraph messages on OFW they involve no questions nothing that needs one addressed just her attacking me putting me down for no reason, I ignore her. She does this at least once a month usually afte a court appearance where she doesn't get her way.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 12:49 AM
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Dude 80 days?!?!!? Come on the day she left I would have filed and filed emergency order
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 12:38 AM
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That's so funny lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 12:15 AM
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She sounds like a nutter, be happy no kids clean break beeve see her crazy ass again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 12:12 PM
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Man wish I could get that sadly we have a child but communication is limited to 1-2 words at exchanges and OFW messages
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 01:40 AM
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Damn man that's rough what was the last message
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 05:49 PM
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5 year affair and 4 year old daughter? This might be very very rough.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 05:28 PM
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Man I wish mine got a boyfriend even a girlfriend, she's fully immersed in the single mother mindset even tho she slept all day when we were married while I took care of the child.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 04:23 PM
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Started hanging out with friends at work, we all got a gym membership at our work and go play basketball all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 09:03 PM
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Damn you too? Wow what a coincidence
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 06:02 PM
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If thats the worst thing about your marriage I'd stick it out tbh, divorce at 10 years with two young kids could be BRUTAL, go to id sit down with her and discuss counseling and see if you guys can meet halfway and work on things first. If she thinks your marriage is rosy and you start talking divorce she's gonna go full on hulk smash on you, trust me I'm going through it now told her I don't wanted a divorce she begged me to reconsider then said she'd work on things with me then few months ago …
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 06:34 PM
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You're in the shit right now, remember the majority of guys have been exactly where you are at, when you're going through hell keep going, you're stronger then you even know. The only person whose gonna determine when you can see your child will be the judge make it clear he/she will be the only one deciding it if she won't settle at 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 06:34 PM
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Florida is pretty hard 50/50 state now, as long as you're close to child and have a residence you'll get 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 02:40 PM
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Yea then it's gonna hurt but it's only money
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 10:58 PM
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Well does she work? Does she make good money? If so then it won't hurt too much, just lose half your shit but I look at it like that's her shit too if she's been working all these years so 50/50 splitting everything isn't the end of the world you'd have to share it with her if you stay married anyways
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 10:39 PM
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Sadly the 6 months leading up to the divorce was cake compared to the first year of divorce it's a very very frustrating process that moves so slowly. If she is unreasonable push for trial ASAP make your lawyer book the dates to move it a long, mediation pre trial trial date keep it moving can get stuck in that limbo of nothing happening for years.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 08:47 PM
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Yea never, I see no benefit doing that again, no matter how "perfect" she is I don't need someone nagging me every other day about nonsense. I once had to drill three different hole heights for peepholes because ex wants it lower then MIL comes.over and says that looks goofy and wants to move it. Insane
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:51 PM
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Probably wont get an agreement that's one kid and not the other in court, maybe if your ex agreed to it in mediation but why would she. Unfortunately, picking a choice of what kid you want more then the other doesn't look good in court.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:48 PM
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Hopefully not her lifetime, you'll be paying in your grave lmao
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:41 PM
0

Why oh why do so many men fall for this, you can't be kicked out of your house reminds me of my stbx moving out then dead bolting two bedrooms and filling it with garbage and I opened them up and she told police I broke into a bedroom in my house and they laughed and laughed at her
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:40 PM
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Man that's ridiculous she's living with someone new and has new life should be no spousal support. Ugh can't wait till this is over so tired of living through this divorce enough is enough already
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 07:54 PM
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I made it clear early on that 50/50 was the hill I'm dying in judge gave me temp 50/50, and now after a year of doing 50/50 and her fighting in courts i have a trial date if she won't settle and do what's right then the judge will decide.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:10 PM
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Some men don't have the fight in them or don't really want their child that much sadly.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:00 PM
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No you had to pay bills spending on your state
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 12:43 PM
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I felt pretty good about 65k lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 12:42 PM
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My stbx lawyers love that they do everything in court to bill bill bill, they've charged my ex 25k and mine has charged me 7k
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 11:46 AM
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He's going to trial or at least preparing for it
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 11:28 AM
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Damn what do you do to make that kind of money
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 11:26 AM
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You accepted EOW because their mother denied you getting more time?
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:12 AM
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She's going with her family she can't take our child to the park without mommy in tow, and yes I'm the controlling one ofcourse when I bought a house three blocks away from her family and went on vacation with them every summer. Such annoying people. Thank God I don't have to deal with them anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:56 AM
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Wanna know a real narcissist, at our child's 30.month appointment and the stbx has to tell the DR 4 times she's a pre school teacher like that's some sort of achievement.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:48 AM
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Yes that's pretty much what I figured he can go on a trip with her I don't want him to miss out
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:43 AM
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He's 3 so he doesn't know lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:42 AM
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That's what I'm doing lawyer told take the days first she don't wanna do it tell her get bent, just because she is an asshole doesn't mean I should be one too.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:25 AM
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Damn good stuff, able to crank out 50 pushups now
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 02:31 AM
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She'll have to buy you out of sell it.let the lawyers deal with it
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 02:01 AM
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How many per year is that? 120? Did you get more in summer time?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 11:00 PM
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Washington state? You wouldn't have had trouble getting 50/50 parenting time but you know your situation better then us. Whatever works you can always try to get more later it's a lot harder but you can try.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 10:38 PM
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Lmao what the fuck
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 11:35 AM
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The only reason ANYONE asks how you're doing is because they're doing awful, she has created a real mess of her life a lot of women do, and she's testing the waters to make herself feel better and or seeing if your branch is still viable
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 02:48 AM
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I'm hoping once it's settled I can restart my life whether the outcome of trial is good bad or indifferent I can truly start my new life with my daughter. I laugh with my parents and say what are we gonna talk about once this is over lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 02:45 AM
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When I'm alone I have the time to watch a movie but it's like spend the night cleaning/working out or obsessing about divorce
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 02:40 AM
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Dude You have money and a good income it's gonna be a battle
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 01:54 AM
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You can look up your states calculator, settings your own child support amount or a buy out is a bad move because she can take you right back and start it up, ailmony you can do that
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 01:00 AM
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Such a short term marriage I wouldn't offer anything like that, just pay whatever the state says is child support and sell house and split it
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 12:51 AM
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You gotta die on that hill and take it to trial, max out your cards. Don't give in make it clear you will light 100 dollar bills on fire to get there.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 07:23 PM
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If she won't buy you out it will get sold, and split evenly. Unless you use the equity to offset alimony etc
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 02:22 AM
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If you add up our wedding and rings and honeymoon, it's still. 1/3 of what the divorce has costed insane
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/24 09:11 PM
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Man I love these posts keep them coming congrats!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 11:13 PM
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Yup I know the feeling gotta remain strong and unmovable, I try to joke around at work with friends then those bad days where craziness is going on lawyer not answering motions filed blah blah it's hard
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 03:43 PM
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Hoping to get a new car once this is over
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 02:20 PM
3

You have 8 kids?!? Holy hell
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 11:33 AM
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Why do men always fall for this never ever ever under no circumstance let your spouse leave with your children she can leave with a patenting schedule at least agreed upon in text preferably in the court or between your lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 11:15 AM
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Man that's a rough one I'd stop doing any side job work ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 03:12 AM
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You're offering too much imo, keep house equity AND pay alimony, no dice let the lawyers deal with it and just ignore her
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 11:35 PM
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LET HER LEAVE ABSOLUTELY Let her get all butterflies and gitty with her new love, and get those custody papers signed dated you need to work fast with this on before she realizes it's a mess.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 10:36 PM
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Nice to see many men got 50/50 here, keeps me fighting.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 11:33 PM
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What's REALLY annoying about sex when married was shed always refuse refuse refuse then once a month id convince her to do it then for hours afterwards she'd say how good she feels and how she really needed that. It's like well yes no shit
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 11:32 PM
3

Sounds like my marriage no more sex once the baby was born and her excuse was she was afraid of getting pregnant despite birth control AND a condom
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 11:28 PM
1

I Wouldn't even bother talking to her seriously
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 11:15 PM
6

These guys don't learn, I will not ever do this again didn't want.o the first time
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 05:05 PM
7

It's less about that and more about setting a precedent
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:19 AM
8

DUDE SHE can leave not your kids huge mistake
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:14 AM
2

She's back at it today lol 3 messages all same nonsense
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 10:11 PM
3

A few of my own relatives sympathized with her cut them out, acting like I shouldn't sell the house she should get it because she has no where to go meanwhile where am I supposed to go, even tho she's the one who filed
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:25 PM
3

I got one year on you and I feel exactly the same fuck this shit
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 11:21 AM
7

I'm only 34 and I ain't doing this shit again, the government does not need to be involved in my love life
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 11:20 AM
4

There was no cheating just her being abusive and fighting with me constantly attacking me, and SHE filed and she's still so damn angry All the time and j don't understand why sending me crazy messages, she'll fuck up like forget to pay for her share of things or forget my daughters things at school and she will gaslight me constantly on OFW
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 02:04 AM
1

That's usually for conflict of interest searches
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 01:49 AM
3

She sent even more crazy messages today, she's replying to herself, she's lost her marbles.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 11:51 PM
3

Going out and having fun, on my days off without my child I have a social life again, hanging out with friends playing basketball everyday after work with work friends
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 12:18 AM
1

Your kids are young, you can get your financial stuff back on shape by the time they know what's going on
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:32 PM
1

That's ok at least avoiding a custody battle, so much stress
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:30 PM
1

What state btw?
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:25 PM
5

Man lots of men in here with 50/50, keep fighting. Love these posts
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 06:49 PM
5

You only have one life, young men should always break up with anyone trying to pressure marriage, mine did and were getting divorced after two years, we were engaged loner then the marriage lasted lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 06:24 PM
3

I'm glad she felt that way I was so DONE, aside from the actual divorce process and expense and stress from that, my life is 1000 times better, I'm so glad she filed, I was so miserable with her. Nothing was ever good enough, once she got something she'd immediately move on to the next thing almost the same day nag me for weeks about some sort of nonsense idea her mom gave her then I'd finally do it and almost instantly on to the next thing. She'd leave the house with a sticky note of lists of t…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 05:41 PM
1

"I guess she had some kind of fantasy in her mind that she was going to move forward with her life and I was just going to be this depressed, broke, lapdog of a divorced dad who still had to listen to her, and kiss her ass." I think that's what they all think, they don't realize they will have even less control than they did when they were married. I'll never forget the night she told me she filed she expected me to hit my knees and beg and I was standing on a ladder putting in a fan in my daugh…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 12:35 AM
2

Half the week is pretty good it sucks but that's not bad spend the rest of the time on you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 03:42 PM
2

Amen thank you 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 01:50 AM
2

What's your advice, never agree to anything less then 50/50 and be fully prepared to go to trial?
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 01:44 AM
1

How did that battle end
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 01:41 AM
25

Healing journey means pay me ailmony while I jump from dick to dick
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 01:36 AM
2

Currently taking out divorce frustrations on my weight set time to get jacked
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 01:46 AM
1

Currently taking out divorce frustrations on my weight set time to get jacked
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 01:45 AM
5

Her lawyers job is to beat you down to the point you'll take a shit offer, you said you settled custody already you accepted the 60/40? So the trial is financial? I would take her to trial and watch her settle on the steps
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 10:31 PM
1

If my checking has -50 in it I'd still get a lawyer beg borrow and steal to get a halfway decent lawyer at best
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 01:07 AM
1

Women "think" marriage counselor is going to take their side because it's a woman, and they always claim being bullied, mine hated counseling
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 01:06 AM
1

She makes more then you?
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 01:01 AM
1

You sure about that no ailmony?
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 12:56 AM
2

That's how I feel, if i lose I lose but I'd rather lose and spend the money and time then give up and settle for less
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 11:34 PM
3

You're goal should be 50% and only the judge can give you less
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 11:27 PM
17

Disgusting what these layers and women do
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 12:04 PM
2

It wasn't a gift for her was leftover cookies my daughter wanted lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 09:06 PM
1

Lol 😂
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 07:06 PM
3

I hope that's /s
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 06:10 PM
7

Idk about that, I'd take the 50/50 and run
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 11:40 AM
1

Yea exactly why bother in your 50s for what tax breaks?
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 11:06 AM
1

I think he means 6 years
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 11:04 AM
2

Men are just dumb creatures aren't we, coin toss odds to faila and we still do it, get divorced and gonna try again
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 11:04 AM
8

MIL/sister and friends are usually the culprits and when divorce is final they go you're on your own girlfriend
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 09:11 PM
7

Yea man sorry but it's done, let her think it's a misunderstanding and file
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 09:10 PM
5

Do not accept anything less then 50/50 or very close to it and absolutely die on the hill of legal custody
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:10 PM
6

Don't take anything personally, lawyers job is to extract as much from you wallet as possible whether that's to her client or to the lawyers and racket system that is family court.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:09 PM
1

Same stuff I'm dealing with sends one account statement no records claims to have $50 bucks when I have account numbers for over $50k in savings
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 06:55 PM
2

What's your time with your children look like?
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 12:11 PM
2

Yea same I think that's what she found out. Her lies didn't mean anything without evidence
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 12:09 PM
1

Mine hasn't yet but she has in mediation and laughed at her zero evidence never touched her, tried to claim in mediation I don't get legal or any physical custody because I was verbally abusive. Again laughed at her. She will prob bring it up in trial if we have one would be my guess.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 12:09 PM
3

Sadly he's not your son man, and that sucks because it felt like he was, but he's not. You're done, time to move on and have your own family
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 12:05 PM
3

Amicable LOL
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 11:32 AM
1

I wouldn't why stop her from giving you more ammunition, don't interrupt your enemy when they're making a mistake
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 03:37 PM
23

And this is why never again will I let a woman control me or will I ever become vulnerable again with one
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 02:25 AM
2

Four things, obsessing about my child, cleaning the house, working out, and pouring whatever is left into my work.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 02:16 AM
1

Gotcha, reddit must be an anomaly or bots because you go on custody subs and even on here and many many men are fighting and getting 50/50 or close to it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 01:35 AM
1

When you say primarily in one residence do you mean like automatically if you're a man and she's not a axe murderer that judge is gonna rule 80/20 or 70/30 etc. We were given a GAL but the guy is big on joint custody and basically spent the whole time in my interview talking about how emotional mom is and you need to just give her something so she can claim victory ie 55-45 or 60-40 her favor but my attorney says since we've been doing 50/50 living separately for almost a year now while divorce …
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 01:09 AM
2

It's never fast and easy lol very very rarely
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 10:02 PM
7

That's like the ultimate litmus test for settlements "oh the used couch I took is worth $500" sounds good I'll have it waiting in driveway come pick it up and give me $500
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 05:49 PM
2

Appraised value on property - remaining balance on mortgage divided by 2 is what she would owe you, at this rates I doubt it, mine was saying the same thing I even offered her a great deal give me 5k and keep the 50k equity to sign equal parenting plan and let's do this fast and cheap ofcourse she wanted to fight, she ended up not even being able to afford a house now living with her parents but we both got 20k each which is going to lawyers
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 05:48 PM
9

Forgiveness is overrated eventually you'll just not care
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 03:34 PM
5

No it's not retain counsel
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 03:09 PM
6

Wtf what kind of parent only wants to see their kids 1 day per week what a nut
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 01:30 PM
2

What was your custody split?
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 11:08 AM
2

What's funny is my dads bday ended up being our wedding anniversary lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 11:57 AM
2

Helped me realize she was and is crazy lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:27 AM
2

THIS it's astonishing how much better my life is after she left
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:30 AM
2

God bless ya, idk how some of you can do it, I have a three year old daughter 50/50 and in custody battle, i spend the time.im with her running around doing stuff and when she's not with me I'm hibernating lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 03:27 PM
1

Were Working with a GAL now all a gal is going to do is cash checks then push and push for an agreement until one of you caves, 2 hour rofr is quite silly, but another lawyer whose gonna cost 10k is even sillier, id give it to her to get it signed, that ROFR stuff is hard to prove she gonna take you back to court because you had a sitter watch the kids for 3 hours that's not gonna happen.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 03:24 PM
4

Don't let it bother you ofcourse she's asking for that keep it cool be a good father and you don't have to worry
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:45 AM
2

The only thing that was hard was not seeing my dad enough, if we saw our dad more often life would have been a lot better a kid
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:44 AM
5

They will have even better memories, my beSt childhood memories are post divorce and my sorbet divorced around age 7
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:11 AM
1

I saw a couple at the zoo when I was with my daughter, and thought huh they look happy what's their secret, I'm jealous then saw them again a hour later and heard the wife berating him and putting him down and said OHH THATS RIGHT
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 12:22 AM
3

Don't talk to them in person at all, I limited contact huge when we were still living together, if they tried to argue with you just leave, my lawyer said no one ever got in trouble by being quiet ignore ignore ignore if something absolutely has to be answered short concise messages
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 12:11 AM
3

I'm very good at compartmentalizing working in an awesome place where we laugh and have a good time has helped me tremendously with the div, also having amazing time with my child is the best thing ever.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 10:24 PM
6

Go home and don't leave again it's your house too
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 10:45 AM
6

Nothing is amicable in divorce
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 10:54 AM
4

AS FAST AS PoSSIBLE
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 08:58 PM
8

They all do, and the ones who laugh at her are your true supportersz the ones that waver or "don't take sides" fuck them cut them out
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 10:27 AM
3

I like 223 but my daughter is 2
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:34 AM
3

Should have listened to him when he said don't get married didn't learn from him, married and getting divorced now
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 11:55 PM
1

On the flip side my stbx has 30-40k stashed away in a checking account and savings accounts but won't disclose them I have some of the account numbers, is that sufficient to get her ordered to produce or can she still deny
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 09:31 PM
3

She'll settle on the steps of court house
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 09:07 PM
5

So far, $3500 to lawyer, now he wants another $3500 retainer, $1760 to mediator that did absolutely nothing except create an agreement that the stbx went back on almost immediately, and now $1500 to child's lawyer, and mind you we both combine for less then 150k income and no assets
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 09:06 PM
2

Wow good for you what state
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 06:45 PM
5

She doesn't want to keep 50/50 that's what she is fighting, just saying id pay it just to end this craziness
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 11:33 AM
4

HAHAHA
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 11:31 AM
33

I have about 5 relatives and friends who are women and divorced their husbands none of them did better after divorce, in fact majority of them had a very rough life after the divorce that they initiated, my mother being one of them she divorced my dad 26 years ago whose worst fault was being complacent, always paid the bills and we were always take care of, never cheated on her never abused her. She remarried a huge loser very quickly whose cheated on her multiple times and let their house forec…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 10:57 AM
3

Why on earth would you want that, my crazy stbx started wearing her wedding ring and engagement ring again, nutcase
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 01:34 AM
1

So far 5500 but times market right and was A able to get 15k profit from house but it's not over yet hopefully the profit doesn't get used for lawyers
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 12:28 AM
3

Never not in a million years, relationships sure, but they want a ring there's the door.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 02:51 PM
1

That prob was more about your frame of mind in relation to your divorce then the new girl tbh maybe you're not ready to be dating
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 03:59 PM
1

I'm not either but the first month of anything is always the best
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 03:46 PM
9

You had lots of fun and sex with a woman with no strings attached and now you can find another one, and this is bad? Lol I'd love it
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 03:39 PM
5

Then who cares let her drag it, the more She drags the more that schedule becomes the precedent
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 01:58 PM
1

What schedule are you doing right now with kids?
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 01:48 PM
3

BINGO
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 01:40 AM
6

DO NOT MOVE OUT
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 03:06 PM
2

Why would you want to share an account sever all ties with her, but don't let government get involved in your money, my dad had that and at least once a year they'd randomly take double the amount once triple. He'd have to go downtown and wait for hours to talk to someone to fix it
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 12:43 AM
1

I was a loser our whole marriage and relationship, her family put me down constantly, once she filed her lawyer made me sound like a millionaire, think I'll frame that when it's all done
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 12:41 AM
2

Oh good put your feet up and relax ignore her and move on with your life
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 07:59 PM
5

No assets no money no kids should be an easy one file and serve her ignore her totally hopefully she'll leave your parents house after you serve her You're young you can start over fairly easy
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 07:13 PM
3

They do that and those who stand by you after that wat are the true friends and family those that distance themselves or cut you out were never your friend or family member to begin with
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 06:32 PM
1

Post separation is everything I've been told by multiple attorneys and GAL, what schedule have you been doing during the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 05:28 PM
2

Why on earth would you sign that lol
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 09:59 PM
1

So many guys fall for this you're not alone, mine really tried to orchestrate a show to get a TRO and DVRO, except I didnt take the bait, she took our child to her sisters and texted me she wasn't coming home until I agreed to move out, I said I will let my attorney know you have kidnapped our child and have moved out of the family home. She came home the next next with dinner for me, I took my child and left. Months later after she actually did move out, I found a paper note from her lawyer, ou…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 11:54 AM
1

How old is your child
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 02:40 AM
1

GOOD document this, be the best father you can be maximize every second you get with your child
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 02:36 AM
10

Ignore it, she wants to cause you to react ignore the noise
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 02:33 AM
5

God is good
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 02:30 AM
10

You and your son are going to be just fine, once you get into single dad groove you're going to love it. Hire a good lawyer and do exactly as they say. Keep your mouth shut, my child is little over 2 and we've been in this process almost half her life now hopefully over soon. I love being a single dad, half the week I'm grinding at work going home and making steaks,reconnecting with old hobbies and friends. the other half im giving baths and singing and brushing teeth, weekdays are challenging a…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:06 PM
2

I like to create new memories at those places
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 03:48 AM
16

Number 12, odd that the people who are there to pick up the pieces and have your back no matter what, are the ones your stbx were distancing you from
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 03:47 AM
8

Shit we didn't sleep together for 8 months prior to divorce filing, then again we didn't do much of that prior to that either
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 03:29 AM
12

Be glad that happened now and not after the wedding
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 02:15 AM
1

Multiple attorneys advised against this arrangement, even if you have a signed parenting plan where it's 50/50 everything, you're still gonna get stuck paying for this, my ex wanted use to do this and keep the house I keep paying half the bills and mortgage and I rent an apartment we share nonsense I told her I'm not leaving then I invited my family over every night within a month she left
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 04:30 PM
1

It cements that the house needs to stay which means she's gonna get it and that more bargaining power to EOW schedule for you, get it sold and then you're on level playing ground, if you're willing to leave for x amount of days per week you're already agreeing you would leave, not hard for them to get you out under that arrangement
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 04:24 PM
1

Sell the house prob at the top of the market anyways, we bought ours two years ago and selling now in divorce made 40k after realtor and closing fees so I have no intention of buying her out
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 03:47 PM
3

Don't do this arrangement it's a Trap
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 02:24 AM
2

Time to move on man, get a lawyer and file, if youvd been separated a a year that's a wrap
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 10:55 PM
1

Did the judge order financials if not then you don't have to give her shit
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 03:39 AM
1

My ex wanted a clause in parenting plan where she doesn't have to take child to any extra curriculars if she doesn't want to, then she said she wants a clause in there where she didn't have to take our child on any vacations that she can just take the week and stay home instead of taking her places insanity
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 08:16 PM
6

Don't, do you have a lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 01:50 AM
4

Dude it's over get it settled as fast as possible
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 03:22 PM
3

Rip the band-aid off, it's over hire a lawyer and file.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 11:56 AM
6

This isn't going to help but You're so so so so young, this will won't even be a blip on the radar in the grand scheme of your life, it's gonna suck for a little while but be HAPPY this happened now and not after 10 years and a few kids, hopefully you don't have much shared assets and you can get this divorce finalized as quickly and cheaply as possible. One of the main reasons I picked my attorney aside from being very experienced and very well known in the area is for 20 mins in our initial co…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 03:09 AM
6

I wouldn't agree to anything that isn't 50/50 decision making, and don't fall for that she's the tie breaker because that's essentially final decision making power. A lot of people talk about 50/50 parenting time but decision making is a bigger hill to die on imo especially if your wife is a control freak she'll do whatever she wants and send you the bill. One that's overlooked a lot is extracurricular. And make it that's your child can only be in two activities per season and whatever else she …
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 03:04 PM
0

Why not just plan it and take him instead of asking lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 01:14 PM
22

Why would you do it again lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 12:30 PM
3

Nice list there, Louis has great divorce stuff, his talks about divorce on Opie and Anthony are gold
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 12:21 PM
6

Fuck that noise don't agree to that shit
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 12:18 PM
11

She can want anything she wants, she's not gonna get it. It's all posturing let the lawyers deal with it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 03:00 AM
1

Man thank God I got out after two years
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:50 AM
4

My lawyer was like this knew I had no money lol, BUT she has money and her lawyer knows it, I haven't even spent my initial retainer from 9 months ago and her lawyer loves filing shit, in our custody mediation she was all worked up because she has spent a "shitload" of money in this divorce lol
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 02:58 AM
3

Was in mediation with my crazy stbx, " see he's nice now but he was so bad to me this always happens everyone thinks he's nice but he's really evil, now you think I'm the crazy one" everyone thinks you're crazy one because you are. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:10 PM
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What parenting time schedule are you doing?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 06:42 PM
2

Depends on the state and I come levels, my state is if it's near 50/50 and similar incomes no CS
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:51 PM
5

Does she get along with your mom? If not move your mom in and watch her run
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 01:54 AM
7

You don't have any kids and you're worried about her? Who cares not your monkey not your circus, life is short man leave already
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 01:11 AM
1

Idk prob would take awhile to spend that kind of money, but wouldn't rather have half then nothing if you're gonna blow it
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:23 PM
3

Hell yes MIL is a nutcase, months leading up to the divorce that bitch would come over and call my stbx Ms ******** instead of Mrs would address cards to the house as Ms not Mrs, goofy ass woman
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:09 PM
4

Find a hobby man, get into grilling and cooking, women love a guy who can cook, take some cooking classes
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:05 PM
1

Got any hobbies?
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:03 PM
8

I would use this to your advantage tell her let's finish everything amicable and we can date and see what happens
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 10:58 PM
3

One redeeming thing for me is she thought she was gonna drop the bomb on me one night that she had filed and I jumped off a ladder I think as putting a fan in and said OMG thank God, let's be civil and move on with our lives then I went back on the ladder and was whistling. She was just standing there in shock, maybe I should have been more of a simp and she would be nicer right now lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 10:55 PM
2

No one cheated on my case either no abuse just stopped getting along, and she's still a nutcase.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 10:53 PM
2

Whatever money you saved, and whatever money you contributed to retirement during the marriage is half hers and vice versa. No getting around that unless you trade equity for money but it's still money.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 10:51 PM
4

That's a nice looking meal, I'm making steak for one tonight too my man
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 08:18 PM
3

Sadly this is very very rare
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 02:34 AM
4

My advice would be act very very quickly while she still feels bad about the affair, get something signed ASAP run to a lawyer and get basic settlement up written up
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:01 PM
1

You should probably talk to your attorney, but I assume domiciliary parent means residential parent which doesn't mean very much but it varies by state. She can't just do whatever she wants and stick you with the bill.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 08:32 PM
1

No not if you don't agree with them, make sure to have that in decree, if she wants to sign them up for horseback riding at 10k that's her responsibility not yours
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 08:05 PM
4

I wouldn't worry about it, aside from child support and things like daycare not much she can stick with you
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 07:59 PM
3

Thank God mine moved out rather quickly
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 06:57 PM
3

Idk I married a teacher who thinks she's as important as a doctor lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 06:56 PM
1

This is what my attorney discussed with me earlier this week
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 06:56 PM
5

It's amazing how good some of these mediators are, ours is a GAL and mediator she picked up on my wife's shit almost immediately asked her over and over again why she doesn't want what's best for our child, I was stunned when my wife just stared blankly at her
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 03:33 PM
15

Very very very little, in fact she took so much of my energy and time
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 03:25 PM
6

I would say get papers signed ASAP, manipulate her while she's trying to manipulate you
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:20 PM
3

If she's agreeing to joint just take it not gonna get full custody
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 02:38 PM
2

How did you swing that mines fighting me over EVERYTHING wants full decision making and 70/30 gonna be a LONG year and everything from house and all the money
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 02:37 AM
7

Oh man, my stbx would constantly fight with the janitor at her school, I'm like he's the janitor why do you gotta fight with him, "he needs to do what I say"
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 10:52 PM
10

Big red flags imo are relationships in her life, does she have friends who she has conflicts with, does she have conflicts at work, has she been fired from jobs as an adult. When she does have issues in her life does she use those moments to self reflect and be a better person or does she seek excuses and blame others. How does she treat strangers, does she constantly try to impress people, does she value your opinion? Can she make decisions on her own without input from her family? Does she con…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 10:34 PM
6

Wow same, imo anyone with no hobbies is strange.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 10:26 PM
1

She messages me crazy shit on the app, she doesn't seem to care that it's court evidence
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 05:16 PM
6

She wants to dangle it in hope rates go down, id force sale house if she's not selling it to refinancing it
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 04:21 PM
10

Idk we switched to OFW and I thought that would be better, she's a nutcase on that too, threats, demands crazy stories, perfect example I took off Friday to watch our daughter because she was sick, after 7:30am it's her day Friday and her weekend, she's responsible for picking up my daughter's belongings from daycare for the weekend, she didn't and forgot so she's harassing me Sunday claiming I needed to bring them home because of a snow day, idk the fuck she's talking about snow day was on Tues…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 12:57 PM
3

You think she cares lol, the other day she took my daughter backpack and replaced it with some old backpack and then said she'd give me the backpack I got my daughter back if I gave her something she left in the marital home when she moved out. She's arrogant asf on that app and my attorney says we can do something about it but is it worth the money no just ignore her
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 11:15 PM
3

Idk but this app didn't help any she texts me crazy stuff all the time
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 08:04 PM
2

She isn't in charge of letting you see your child, and I wouldn't let her take your child anywhere.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 11:00 PM
0

If you make 200k and looking at $1500 CS a month, I'd pull the trigger sooner rather than later
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 10:47 PM
4

I blame myself with this, I was this little worm, who let her control me and always always get her way, every fight or argument I was running back apologizing even when she was clearly wrong, I lost a few close relatives and it finally sank in one day holy shit someday I'm gonna be dead and this is it, then I woke up and started challenging her and refused to bend over anymore once this happened her normal fights went chaotic that exact moment she felt that she lost her power and control, her be…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 08:32 PM
3

Right exactly, It came to a point where I never shared anything with her anymore because everything was her time to shine with advice and opinions, my favorite was her constant work opinions and advice meanwhile she was fired three times in three years leading up to the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 12:54 AM
10

Honestly, I would have put up with 99% of the bullshit if she was just nice to me and pretended to give a shit
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 12:53 AM
1

It's like inception lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 09:32 PM
2

2k a month in child support whaaaa
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 05:12 PM
1

Get that locked down asap and you're good to go
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 04:15 PM
2

Your kids will be fine, and so will you. You make good money and so does she which means alimony and asset distribution won't be too bad, fight for your kids, your marriage is over, and stop idolizing her. Spend as much time with your kids as humanly possible from now on and aim for 50/50, plenty of opportunities coming your way with women I'm sure
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 04:00 PM
7

Wait shes married to you, in a relationship with him and cheating on him too? Jesus she sounds like an absolute garbage can
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 03:28 PM
2

How could she block house sale for 5 years
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 03:25 PM
3

How long were you married good Lord that's a rough one
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 03:04 PM
3

No you won't
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 10:55 AM
3

Oh yea glad that witch is out of my life I think her head spins around in circles, she told my stbx if she doesnt have complete control of me by year 5 she should divorce me
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 01:26 AM
9

Haha mine has just turned into a mess of a person and tried to pull scams now tried getting food stamps and she makes just south of 100k
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 01:25 AM
5

Big sign is the sex thing, she's prob got s boyfriend would be my guess, id let her get deep involved in this new career and let her get lost in the new stress then craft a narrative then file
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 03:26 AM
23

If divorce is finalized who cares block her ignore her move on from her toxicity
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 02:14 AM
3

60/40 in your favor or hers? If its hers I wouldn't set any precedent where she's getting more parenting time
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 02:11 AM
9

DO NOT LEAVE
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 01:20 AM
2

Lol 6 months of mine doing shit to get me worked up and never react and she STILL keeps trying, she took a picture of a 5 dollar wooden sign in garbage and sent message on OFW telling me I can't throw out marital property lol
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 01:19 AM
3

Classic lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 12:37 AM
3

Wow aside from the disability thing this sounds like my life, she filed eventually and now fighting in court for 50/50 because she wants 70% despite the fact I was a stay at home dad
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 12:03 AM
2

Cast it into the fire
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 10:28 PM
1

So we got a sample parental allocation agreement from the mediator, and it's odd because the parenting time is awful but the guy has joint decision making across the board. It was basically like they took somebody's real agreement then just removed the names. My question is aside from my stbx being a controlling narcissist, why would she value decision making power over time with our child, because I almost had her down the time I wanted, she just wanted more decision making control. In my mind …
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 11:12 AM
2

Don't forget American beauty grateful dead
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 11:13 AM
2

Is everything final and she's doing this? Or are you still in process of divorcing?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 11:12 AM
1

Sorry for the resurrection, but in mediation my ex is doing exactly this she's trying to bargain more parenting time for me if I give up decision making and give her more control etc
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 04:33 AM
1

Stay strong, sounds like my custody mediation. Wast of $1000 thankfully she has to pay for half so burnt her money too
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 03:09 AM
1

At this point with she's offering trial is the only outcome and being strong is the only thing I can do, I've never fought for anything in my life really, so I figure this will be my moment to do that. I will die on that hill.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 07:05 PM
3

You see that's what's strange is we've been doing this equal 223 for like 6 months no issues were getting along, and lawyer haven't even discussed our child yet. She claims she agreed to it so she could leave the marital home. Idk I think your right she ain't gonna compromise she thinks she's "entitled" to this and she's in control and she's gonna give me what she wants to give me.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 06:49 PM
2

Idk I'm convinced shes demon lol, she was so angry and maniac looking, she even said I could have every holiday every year as long as I give her 40-60, the mediator looked at her and said you'd give up every holiday. But the parenting time isn't even the biggest issue she's pushing to uproot my child and move her to near her job which is in a really crummy area and change schools. Which will drastically lower her living standard
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 06:14 PM
2

Did you get a GAL yet?
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 02:44 PM
4

We haven't gotten a GAL yet
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 11:29 AM
4

I wouldn't want it, basically have zero life.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 01:20 AM
11

Sounds like my stbx, trying to scam food stamps currently and she makes 70k a year lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 01:17 AM
3

Your buy out amount is your half of the equity, the fees to sell are irrelevant, get a appraisal and then she'd owe you half of equity if he wants to keep it
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 01:43 AM
5

God bless ya, I'd run lol
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 02:46 AM
8

Who are these stupid guys getting involved with a woman fresh out of divorce and two kids, why on earth would you insert yourself into that dumpster fire
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 01:49 AM
2

My crazy stbx has so much junk in my garage still supposed to come get it a month ago and never showed up
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 03:01 AM
2

Call a lawyer 99% of stuff in divorce petition that they ask for they ain't getting lol, majority of these attorneys who file divorce petitions have a form that they change the names on it and file it, like mine said something like lifetime alimony and my stbx makes more then me and we were only married two years
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 09:01 PM
7

I'm curious about this too, my stbx was throwing this around saying she's gonna make me us put this in parenting plan mind you my child is 23 months old lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 08:58 PM
7

Exactly, was in a room for 20 mins at Dr office for first time being around my STBX since August and she just vomited so much stuff that makes her look awful it's ridiculous, I kept my mouth shut and focused on our daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 05:03 PM
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Ours never worked because she wanted the therapist to take her side, and she always took my side because my stbx is nuts, then she'd punish me for saying those "things" about her that were true lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 08:40 PM
4

I got passed over for. Promotion and I told my wife and she said I hope this humbles you...psychopath
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 07:43 PM
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