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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 04:25 PM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:14 PM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:16 AM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:29 PM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 07:19 PM
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CMVThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:21 PM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 11:19 PM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 12:41 AM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:56 PM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 10:27 PM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:02 PM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:16 PM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:22 PM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:10 AM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 04:07 PM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 01:39 AM
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Purge week!Thatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 05:54 AM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:51 PM
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Question For MenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:02 PM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:01 PM
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DiscussionThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 08:45 PM
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Purge Week!Thatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:43 PM
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CMVThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:30 PM
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Question For WomenThatshygurl/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:10 PM
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I agree, I think too a lot of men don’t understand the perspective of dating apps on women’s end. Not that it’s a bad thing, but with so many “options” you never really get to see everyone who’s liked your profile. I don’t see that really as a rejection and I find it quite immature if someone were to. I’m glad my boyfriend found it funny and wasn’t bothered by it. If he was we wouldn’t still be talking cuz I would find that level of insecurity to be a turn off. He’s self assured and knows I’m at…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:04 PM
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So because she didn’t see your profile cuz it could have been blocked by a pay wall you wouldn’t go for her. Man I really wish you luck in dating 👍. You should work through some insecurities, cuz it’s scary the amount of you who have little to no ability to see what it’s like on the other side of dating. And to have the maturity level of a 14 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:04 PM
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How is it rejecting if I never saw the profile? I know men don’t experience dating apps the same way women do, but I didn’t see most of the profiles that like me…as stated in the post. For example, on hinge the likes are blocked by a pay wall to see or I would have to have had to go through all 100+ and get to the bottom. Who would have time for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:03 PM
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Couldn’t agree with you more. It does scare me though. So many of these guys have said no, it’s like they living in a world of delusion, very sad
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:01 PM
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It’s not even about the fail rate. It’s not about what gives you a higher chance statistically. I’m not sure why so many of you are fixated on this point. The real reason why you should approach irl is to build social skills, build a tolerance to rejection, take risks. Women find that attractive. You can match with a girl on an app, go on a date just for her to realize you are a wimp of a man, and you won’t get very far. Stay in your shell and see how that works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:59 PM
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If you read my post I made it clear I never saw him. Additionally, like so many women on this thread have said, pictures do not do a justice for a lot of men. I think you guys responding this way really don’t understand how female attraction works :/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:40 AM
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Sounds like you were never really on the apps then? Or at least when it’s been a massive shit show. Imo I don’t think you really understand how apps work, making your opinion questionable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:08 PM
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Thank you for being reasonable. Like I could understand if him and I had a convo and I ghosted him or something, I could understand how that would stay in your mind. But like apps are almost designed so people don’t make connections. Again I had so many likes I couldn’t ever get to 0, so I probably never saw him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:31 PM
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Did you read my post though? I likely never even saw his profile, it’s just how Hinge works. I feel like a lot of you guys put way too much weight on whether someone connected with you on the app or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:26 PM
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Well I’m sorry you feel that way. How’s this attitude working for you dating wise?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:25 PM
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As I said though, I probably never even saw his profile…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:58 PM
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Yes, but putting yourself out there irl will also help with building social skills. Isn’t the ultimate goal to have a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:58 PM
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For real, like oh no my poor boyfriend didn’t get to match with me on the apps :(. But gets to have me in real life. What a fucking loser 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:50 PM
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Elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:47 PM
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It’s less efficient to both date in real life and on the apps? How?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:47 PM
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Wouldn’t the best odds be dating apps and irl approaches?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:28 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:27 PM
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I disagree, irl you have way better odds. Dating apps just feel safer, the rejection is less scary, there’s less pressure and less of a need to have social skills. That’s not gonna transfer well if you do meet in person, they’ll realize then how much someone struggles socially. Women are attracted to looks 100%, just like men, but not in the same way. We view someone as a whole package. Someone who’s charismatic and smooth can easily overcome average looks and charm a girl over.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:45 PM
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Agreed! There’s a reason why there’s not a lot of women on the apps to begin with!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:42 PM
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Would you consider yourself rejected in my example?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:41 PM
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In my case I don’t think I “rejected” him on the apps. I just don’t think I ever saw his profile. It was on hinge and for me there were like hundreds of men I just never saw because that’s how the app works and I didn’t pay for the premium to see them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:40 PM
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Would you consider yourself rejected if you swiped on a girl on the apps, but never matched? But met in person and she never recalled seeing you on the apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:36 PM
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Whatever makes you feel happy. Tell me how’s this attitude been working for you 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:10 PM
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Why not? We met in person. Tbh I don’t even think I ever saw his profile. I really only used hinge and most of the time I had like 100+ likes(as most women do) so either A)I saw his profile and didn’t match or B) I never saw his profile because it sat with the other 100+ likes I wasn’t able to see. This is the more likely case because I don’t even remember seeing him. I’m really glad my boyfriend is confident and self assured and wouldn’t let something stupid like that keep him from dating me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:40 PM
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Did you read my comment? I’m not advocating for dating apps lmao. People who struggle socially need to get out and socialize. Even if it’s hard and awkward at first, it gets better and easier with time. Please read the actual comment before you reply, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 05:53 AM
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It’s not bad advice at all. My current boyfriend actually told me he swiped on me on hinge and bumble. I have no recollection of him on the apps. Pictures do not always do people justice. Women need more than just pictures a prompt and a bio to build attraction. Obviously though if you are pretty socially inept talking to women in person is going to be a struggle, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t though, if anything you should try to do it more. Maybe you won’t get a girlfriend right away or even a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:15 AM
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How long have you known these women before intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 02:56 PM
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Yea it definitely doesn’t have anything to do with broken, traumatized people, stuck in cycles of hurting themselves. Like I swear you people are SO internet brained. Men do this too. I’m just so sick of this narrative of women dating shit men until they are “ready to settle”. Maybe, just maybe they’ve finally healed and are ready to break the cycle of toxic men and ready to ACTUALLY be loved. But that’s too complex for y’all for AFBB🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:01 PM
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Some of the most outrageously vulgar messages I’ve gotten have come from average to below average men. Maybe because they think, “fuck it” ? I’m not saying that there aren’t men on the apps looking for commitment, I’m sure there is. But I wouldn’t say it’s what most men are looking for. I think the apps are a cesspool for the most part where on average there’s a high percentage of both shitty men and women, hence why they are on the apps. The apps are the bottom of the barrel for both genders. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:16 PM
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Fair then. I don’t understand how anyone who says they hate men or hate women and make super general blanket statements like that could date either. Like if you think all men want is sex then why even date them? If you think all women want is your wallet, again, why date? I agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:53 PM
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Because despite what this cesspool of a sub will have you believe, a lot of men and women are well adjusted, understanding individuals. I will say if you heavily identify with red pill, blue pill, feminism, manosphere, etc. you’re gonna have more difficulty because your views are typically extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:19 PM
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I don’t doubt that. However the title of OPs post is, “there’s no shame in wanting a bangmaid” and there very much is shame in that. If OP wrote that wanting a traditional relationship is not wanting a bangmaid then I would agree. I just don’t think OP knows what bangmaid is implying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:11 PM
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Then the feminist is presenting a false equivalency. I don’t see those as the same at all. However there are genuinely men out there that just want a bangmaid. So just don’t say that’s what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:09 PM
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I hope you are under 21 because this is an incredibly juvenile take. Wanting a traditional relationship is not the same as wanting a bangmaid. A bangmaid is just that. You bang, they maid. To me that implies no partnership, no emotional connection and or support, just sex and chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:08 PM
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Well put
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:05 PM
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Both men and women do this
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:08 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:05 PM
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I wouldn’t. This isn’t in any way meant to be offensive, but if I heard this story I would think this person needs some intense therapy and has a lot of personal things to sort out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:02 PM
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I’m sure there’s some truth to what you say, but there’s a lot of bisexual women who are in long term relationships with men, doesn’t make them any less bisexual lmao. Also it’s biSEXUAL not biromantic. Personally I’m attracted to females, I just couldn’t see myself dating them. Doesn’t make me any less bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:41 PM
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Alex I’ll take “things that never happened” for 500 please!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:32 PM
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Ehhhh I wouldn’t compare this to women identifying as bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:20 PM
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Personally, I think demisexuality is confused with personality being a component of attraction. Prime example was the time when I was working as a waitress and this super cute new guy started working. Didn’t really talk to him at all his first day, but definitely had a little crush going. Met him on the second day and that crush completely vanished because he had the personality of a wet noodle. In contrast, there was this bus boy who I didn’t notice right away, but as I got to know him, his per…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:51 PM
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That’s not the point. There’s reading about life and then there’s actually experiencing life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:50 PM
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Get into the real world my guy. You sound like you spend 90% of your life online
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:41 PM
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I agree to an extent. First of all, your example is purely anecdotal. I’d say I have much of the opposite experience now. 10 years ago, I was dealing with horny high school boys who were probably trying to chat up as many girls as possible. I feel like now the men who are interested are much more intentional. This isn’t to say the title of your post doesn’t have its truths though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 03:03 PM
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I’ve never heard any straight woman say this. I could see a bi woman saying this. I think most straight women would rather just not sleep with anyone than be with a man they didn’t find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:06 PM
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You don’t care who’s giving you the massage-man or woman Yea no, as someone who’s gotten massages I ALWAYS ask for female. The one time I didn’t specify I got a male and was so uncomfortable the whole time. I just couldn’t relax.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:20 PM
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If you know them personally, if not then it’s just being a dick. You don’t think those people already know they have a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:09 PM
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The honest thing is SO true. Like there’s being honest and then there’s being an asshole. If I walk up to a 500 lb person and tell them they are a fat and obese, that’s being honest, but it’s such a mean and rude thing to do. Anyone who has that kind of mentality has the emotional intelligence of a 12 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:27 PM
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I don’t think it is code word for being selfish and unwilling to work. I really have no clue where you’re getting that from. I just think a lot of people(both men and women) put up with way too much just for the sake of being in a relationship. Not realizing it’s so much healthier to “protect your peace” and avoid relationships with losers and pieces of shit(again, something a man or woman could be).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 11:29 AM
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Buddy this take really should have stayed in the drafts cuz what? How is it toxic to only want a relationship if it’s going add more to your life a bad thing? Everyone, man and woman should be like this. Everyone should have what they need within themselves and not be seeking relationships out of desperation and codependency. Of course relationships are compromises and a relationship might not always be sunshine and rainbows. But if a relationship is on a whole detracting from your life then it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 11:10 AM
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What causes the man to not release the oxytocin during sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:45 AM
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Outside of the manosphere is this true? As a woman who has dreamed of kids and a family since I was a kid I feel like I see more and more men, “not interested in having kids”. Tbh I feel like that’s more and more the norm for men and women of this generation. Having kids is expensive, time consuming, and emotionally consuming. Additionally, our education system is absolutely GARBAGE and so I’m sure that plays a role is peoples hesitancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:17 PM
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This lead me to another question. Does the “post-nut clarity” that is making OP dread seeing the woman he just had sex with happen with every woman he sleeps with? Is it bad sex? Is it bad personality? I need more information because I’ve never had a guy lose interest after sex, usually the opposite happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 06:32 PM
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Serious question; could a guy not get the same post-nut clarity from jacking off?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 01:28 PM
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I think too, it’s hard to give advice when we only know such a small scope of information about someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:56 PM
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Right, it’s why ever since I got past my ED I really just stopped weighing myself and started focusing on what I was seeing in the mirror, how my clothes fit, etc. Like I’ve easily gained 20-25 lbs since I was a teen, but all the clothes that I wore when I was practically underweight still fit. I agree with the importance of strength training. My friend who is on the GLP-1 did well on the diet and would do cardio, but every time I tried to tell her the strength training is really important to pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 08:06 PM
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What about traditional dating turns you off?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:55 PM
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What do you think these women are hoping you’ll be?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:39 PM
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Wait you can be 130 lbs and be 40% body fat? That breaks my brain for some reason or maybe I’m just ignorant. Only cuz I’m 140 and have a body fat of 17%. So I guess it’s weird for me to think someone could weigh less but have a higher body fat. I’ve never taken any weight loss drugs, mainly due to the fact that when I was heavier(a teen) those didn’t exist. So I had to lose weight the old fashion way. My best friend did the GLP-1 route and I have to commend her cuz she also improved her eating …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:04 PM
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Apologies if I asked you to divulge in too many details! I appreciate it nonetheless and I hope I didn’t make you uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:59 PM
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What behavior from women do you find tests your patience?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:59 PM
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Do you think with the rise of weight loss medication that this will be less of an issue for you in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:35 PM
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Thank you for all the clarity! May I ask you what your race is? If you’re comfortable disclosing. I definitely agree that there are generally accepted conventionally attractive facial features, but I think despite not having those you can still have attractive features. I’ve actually never heard of Avoidant personality disorder. Even with this disorder you still find a desire to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:07 AM
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Why do you rate yourself and 4 or a 5? What is AVPD, BP2 and Aspie debuffs??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:59 AM
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What is wheat waffles?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:45 AM
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Do you feel like the women you try and date follow the modern feminist doctrine? What gives you the impression that they do?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:45 AM
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Could you elaborate a bit? Like what about your appearance, what about your neurodivergence, is making it hard to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:42 AM
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Why are you guys always trying to find someone to blame? I know some women blame their dating problems on men. I think those women are stupid. Anyone who is not taking agency of themselves and actions, man or woman, is delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 07:37 PM
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And I could say women who rush to sleep with a guy because she’s scared to lose interest are dumb. THEY are asking to be used and abused. Y’all don’t understand biology?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 07:57 PM
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As a woman this post comes across quite naive and almost ignorant. Rushing to the physical, especially sex, is very dangerous for a woman. I don’t want to speak for all women, but once I have sex it’s so much harder to think clearly about the person I’m dating. I’m SO much more attached. How’s that for rushing a relationship. That all being said, I’m not saying that any physical is bad. If you’ve been on past 3/4 dates with a girl and NOTHING physical has happened. Not a good sign. There’s a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:39 PM
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I don’t feel like I’m hearing a lot of this anymore. A lot of the body positivity movement has died with the coming of ozempic, ironically. Now that it’s in a pill version and cheaper versions coming out all the time we’re gonna see a decrease in overweight/obese people overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:23 AM
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What TikTok trend are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 03:15 PM
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Wait so to get this straight, they wouldn’t even want to interact with a penis by having PIV sex? Or are they just against oral? Cuz I know plenty of straight women who think oral is disgusting and don’t like to look of penises. A lot of these women are also just not super sexual. Like I’m thinking of a specific friend who says she’d only go down on a guy for very special occasions(birthday, Christmas, etc) and not on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 03:12 PM
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It’s what I’m attracted to. There’s something that feels comforting and safe about a man taking charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:41 AM
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Another comment in this thread put it pretty well. She approached a man she had a relationship with and the whole time the dynamic was lopsided. I could very well see that. I want to be pursued, I want to feel that interest. Also I don’t want to be put in that masculine energy, especially so early in a relationship. I’ve said it in another comment, there’s nothing wrong with women demonstrating masculine traits, I know that they do, you don’t need to explain these things to me. It’s what I’m att…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:39 AM
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I think you’re misinterpreting. I’m not talking about being a leader of a group, I mean lead in the relationship. And someone must be the head of the relationship and ultimately a family(if that’s what someone is wanting). If you don’t want that kind of relationship, don’t approach. Maybe give subtle indications of interest to ladies you see around, hope for the best. All I’m saying is your chances are quite low of ever finding that. Most women want to be pursued. Most women want a man to lead. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:32 AM
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Really attractive men have actually said this. I remember a comment in this sub where a guy said he would jog with his shirt off, and women would hang around him like flies. Women he admitted weren’t all that great looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:15 PM
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It’s not a reasonable thing to ask. Approaching is a masculine thing. It shows risk taking and assertiveness, that someone is a leader. I don’t want to start a relationship off with that energy. Most women don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:13 PM
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That’s not the core reason why. I’m sure it’s a part of it. Approaching is inherently masculine, it’s leading, it’s taking charge. I don’t want to be the leader or the masculine one in my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:12 PM
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I like a healthy mix. I don’t trust those guys who call themselves a feminist(usually it’s just performative). I just want someone who is reasonable when it comes to women’s and men’s issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 06:40 PM
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Why is it weird if you’ve never had casual sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:30 PM
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Honestly, disagree. I’m flattered most times, unless a guy is being a creep about it or not taking no for an answer. The other day a guy who was a bit too old for me tried hitting on me, very respectful, very polite. Overall great interaction, made me smile for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:19 PM
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That phase of feminism was probably the worst. Like I agreed that there’s a time and place. For example I do agree with not hitting on workers. I’ve been there and you’re essentially trapped in the situation. Like I had to have a manager kick a guy out once. But that was ONE time. All the other times guys hit on me at work, they took the “rejection” and let things be. I think the problem is the guys that don’t take no for an answer. Which is not the majority, but people made it seem like that. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:16 PM
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All those words, but not a single thing about how you can improve yourself. That’s your problem. You’re focused on the wrong things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:07 PM
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I mean if that is what makes you happy. I’ve been uncomfortable a lot too. I think it’s also about making conscious efforts to improve ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:03 AM
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Cuz we’re fucking hot, that’s why! All jokes aside, it’s not that we’re entitled to those type of men, it’s that they don’t care. Also we mask a lot better and most people really don’t know unless we tell them or someone is like obviously autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:45 PM
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I mean yes? Like if you know you have a struggle and you’re doing nothing to fix it that’s kinda on you. I’m also neurodivergent(ADHD) and not the most social. However I know I struggle with that, so I put myself out there, get uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:43 PM
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Where do things like classes and clubs(not night clubs) or things of that nature. Where you can meet new people, during the day, not drunk, actually form decent connections lol. Personally I’d like us to invest more of our time in these places, build up not only skills and hobbies, but make friends and potentially meet a partner to date. Tbh tho these places feel hard to find, unless I’m just clueless on finding them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:42 PM
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A lot of those likes are probably also bots. Dating apps are falling out of fashion. Bumble and match group(owners of tinder and hinge) are reporting massive dips in profits and users. More and more people are catching on that dating apps frankly don’t work. I’ve been using them since I was 22, always with the intent of relationship and marriage minded. All it’s done is get me into truly awful relationships, so I think people are realizing how truly useless and honestly, harmful they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 01:05 PM
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there’s virtually no room for error I agree with most of your post up until here. This is part is a little too black pill. Everything else is pretty spot on. As someone who’s gone on a lot of dates, I sometimes start to loathe the date when I pick up that there’s not gonna be chemistry. Ngl I’ve been on dates where the moment I’ve seen the guy I knew I wasn’t attracted and it didn’t build on the date either. I’ve been on dates where I was attracted, however lost that attraction due to the things…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:52 PM
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women find 80 percent of guys not attractive in the world and girls only swipe 15 percent of the time on guys dating apps that’s your proof Please do some research. This is ONE “study” from ONE app. I’m still shocked that people reference this study so wrong and also apply it to literally everything. It’s never even been retested. Also how are you gonna take it and apply it to the whole world. I really hope you’re young and not just really stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:03 PM
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I disagree. I think both men and women struggle, and struggle differently. However, there is always going to be a man willing to date a woman. The reverse cannot be said. Now you could argue that that’s not necessarily a good thing, but in the world of dating it kind of is. I’m not gonna say women have no struggles, but having options(not just for casual sex) makes a big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:57 PM
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If a woman doesn't like you at first glance or your bio, then she's not going to like you until you are the last man standing on earth. People can meet each other aside from dating apps…you know this right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:11 PM
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Where is any evidence for anything you’re claiming? Let’s be real, both men and women are bringing less and expecting more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:58 PM
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Yea I can get companionship from a pet or a friend, but a partner gives you a whole different type of companionship and the one you knew I was referring to. You can play semantics all you want throughout the comments instead of truly debating anyone, but it just shows how weak your claims are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:38 PM
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What if what makes them happy is having a growth mindset and not accepting all their limitations. Idk how many would be happy accepting defeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:30 PM
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I almost fully agree. However, we as humans crave companionship so that’s a really hard thing to try and just “leave alone” when it’s hard wired into us. Im not an average to below average man so I know this isn’t directed at me, but I as a woman who’s been burnt by relationships I can relate to the sentiment of just giving up on the whole thing. I think a reframe of this could be just telling people to focus on becoming the best version of themselves. To be the person they are trying to find(ie…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:24 PM
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They could just have low libido 🤷🏻‍♀️. Some men do too. That’s why I think matching sex drives, along with interests, is crucial in a relationship. Because if I went on a trip with my man and we didn’t have any vacation sex I’d be upset. Everyone is different, but typically women tend to trend lower on sex drive. However I think because women don’t seek out casual sex to the degree that men do it’s assumed a lot of women have low sex drives. That’s just not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 01:40 PM
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Find you a girl who lifts 💪🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:05 PM
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You didn’t say that, but it’s implied through the generalization of your title. You don’t present any of this nuance in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:27 PM
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Don’t think I’ve ever given any of the quoted advice. I have a friend who I often love to talk to about dating and get his perspective on things as a man. If asked, I tell him to be cautious of women just looking for a free meal, not to waste his time on dating apps, reach his fullest potential(lose weight, go to the gym, dress better, keep growing in his career, etc). Also I tell him that dating apps are shit, for both men and women, but especially men. I ask him what he does in his free time a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:11 PM
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I’ve been able to orgasm with every boyfriend I’ve had(which is every man I’ve been with too) I mean I was attracted to all of them. Definitely been points in the relationship where I wasn’t able to. Like when I didn’t feel confident, didn’t feel secure, in my head about how my partner feels about me, feeling less attracted to my partner do to actions(long story short he would chose gaming over intimate time with me and when we would it would just be me doing all the work). Obviously there’s got…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:37 PM
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I mean that’s hard to say without knowing someone. Everyone has room to grow without things necessarily being “wrong” with them. I would definitely argue that the men on this sub have some things to work on. Confidence, social skills, communication, general outlook on life just to name a few.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:25 PM
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I think it depends on what each individual guy is struggling with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:22 AM
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I do agree that, “just be yourself” is really crappy advice, however it’s not wrong. I would change it to be, “be the best version of yourself you can be” or “be the version of yourself you wish to meet”. For example I want to meet a man who is confident, productive and ambitious, so I need to embody that as well. Not in a fake way, but deep down we all have those traits, they just come out in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:47 PM
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What women in real life have you heard say the first and third points on your list? I definitely want someone who is masculine. Not in a performative way, but genuinely. I also think men should be able to open up and be vulnerable with their partners. Not just their partners though, friends, family, etc. Men, women, everyone should have a least a few people they can go to when they need to open up and talk about things. Idk who’s telling men to be more fluid in gender expression. It might be bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:05 AM
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Personally I just think it’s always dangerous to talk in these absolutes. there’s two reasons why these guys would pursue a relationship. I mean we both know that’s not true. I’m sure it’s true for some. All of the men I’ve had as long term partners could easily get casual sex if they wanted, but they wanted a partner that they could build a future with. Have a family and life with. Can we just agree to stop these inflammatory statements? About both men and women. I know that’s a lot to ask of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:22 PM
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I mean someone can be your age and still get sick, or be much older and really healthy. My Dad is 70 and still hikes, sails, skis, etc. Only thing he has going on is skin cancer, which really isn’t too bad most of the time. This logic isn’t great
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:52 PM
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I do agree with what you’re saying when men are given the advice to groom, have good style, improve external traits. While these obviously matter, it’s not all that matters to women. We can see it with those lunatic looksmaxxing guys. It also comes down to the confidence and masculine demeanor. I do think there’s a lack of acknowledgement that no matter what some guys do they will struggle. I think some guys also struggle with finding their “league”. Something some woman also struggle with, beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:52 AM
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I will say I’m noticing the new generation of young men being better about this. I work as a teacher, and see a lot of my boy students hugging each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:51 PM
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Why though? I wouldn’t say I’m super on the spectrum. I have my quirks, but I don’t feel like I’m all that bad. I just want someone who tries to understand me and communicates clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:59 PM
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Can i have a successful relationship with someone neurotypical you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 12:12 AM
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I have ADHD, and don’t be sorry to ask! What does “it” refer to?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 10:42 PM
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Thank you for describing that for me. I sometimes worry I am. For me to feel stable in a relationship I need someone who can talk things out, and acknowledge issues. Not sweep things under the rug. I also want a partner that communicates there needs and wants to I can best meet them and try my best to make them happy(as much as I am able to ofc). No one can feel good all the time. I just want a partner who’s willing to go through hard times and work through things in a mature and productive way.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:49 PM
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I love this. This is what I want. I don’t want everything on demand. I just want a guy who can talk things out with me, through those tough conversations. Someone who can take accountability and not always have to be “in the right”. For me I just like someone I can talk issues out with and find out what’s really going on and understand how they are feeling. Ive just encountered men who it feels like pulling teeth to talk about things with. Who are indirect and cryptic as well. Definitely not say…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:01 AM
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Not all people have accountability and empathy 😅 sadly. Obviously wanting a man who talks about emotions like a woman is unrealistic. I just don’t want to feel dismissed constantly, there’s a middle ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:24 PM
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I love this!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:27 PM
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That’s fair. And I’m open to needing to improve my listening skills and communication skills. I just want someone who doesn’t think they are perfect and doesn’t wanna grow. We’re all a work in progress
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:26 PM
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I’m learning through the comments that emotional intelligence is a lot more nuanced than I thought. I guess I just don’t want someone who constantly dismisses what I’m going through. I’m not saying they have to drop everything and be there at any moment. Listen and say everything perfect. No one perfect. I guess just someone who’s willing to acknowledge faults, talk, listen and grow. Forget emotional intelligence, if they can do that I’m happy as a clam.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:44 PM
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How old were y’all when you met?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:41 PM
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Good to know you’re out there!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:41 PM
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This a very realistic and fair assertion. To be fair I have some wiggle room on both. For a provider I would bring my own savings/credit(rn I’m working towards buying a small house) so I want to have my own things going and contribute too. I just always envisioned my future husband being the main earner. And well to be clear, I find it attractive when a man wants to step into that role and be the primary provider(I can imagine that comes with quite a bit of stress). However, I wouldn’t want to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:40 PM
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To you mean women like me? Or provider women?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:32 PM
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I’m open to criticism and accountability which is why us wanted insight. I know for me a big struggle is my own emotions and dealing with them myself. It still helps to share and let others in, especially a life long partner. I agree a lot of deep emotions are dealt with by oneself, however a lot can be brought to the surface from a relationship. I think that’s where deep conversations addressing things through clear communications can bring those things to light. You can call it emotional intel…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:30 PM
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What’s masculine chaos? And can you elaborate on masculinity over provider qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:25 PM
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Well I wasn’t aware of all that 😬. Use whatever word you want. I just want a guy I can talk to about things, who takes accountability and recognizes areas of growth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:23 PM
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That’s not what I’m looking for. I just want a man who would be comfortable being the main earner in the house, and who sees the benefit of having a woman stay home with the kids from birth-school age. I don’t think 50/50 is working for children. I think children need a parent that will be with them at home when they are really young. I don’t want luxury, fancy house, etc. I just want a happy stable home.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:21 PM
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This makes sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:36 PM
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I think it’s essential for kids to have a parent home with them from birth-school age. I don’t think it’s healthy for kids to spend most of that time with day care workers and basically strangers. I would go back to work when my kids would be school age. Even before that I would be understanding that I would need to bring in income whether through a part time job or at home job. I also don’t want a luxurious life. I don’t care about expensive trips, huge house, designer clothes. I’d just want en…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:59 PM
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Im just not getting why “doesn’t fit the image” equals mutually exclusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:55 PM
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Love this! To be clear I’m not against stay at home dads and working Moms. I just think kids need a parent that can be more present at home. For me being a primary earner would just be hard as a teacher. I also wouldn’t be opposed to working part time. Also I’d go back to work once my kids are old enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:51 PM
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Would you be willing to be a stay at home dad if you had kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:48 PM
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Why does wanting a man who recognizes the importance of emotions mean progressive?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:44 PM
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I’d like to know more as to why you do. I don’t think a marriage HAS to be Mom at home, Dad at work. I would be all for Mom being a sole provider and Dad being at home. For me and my life, my career just doesn’t bode well as primary earner(teaching). I just think someone needs to be at home with the children. Obviously it doesn’t have to look like 100% one way, 100% the other. There’s gonna have to be a balance. As a teacher I see the way that having little to no parental figure home is effectin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:43 PM
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Can you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:38 PM
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Definitely overused. Tbh looks play a huge roll of course. How you carry yourself. If you’re alone or with others. If you get social cues or not. Etc. It’s not always fair who gets labeled a creep by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 06:36 PM
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So wait, if I’m understanding this correctly he offers these young women “help” in the job market in exchange for sex? Sounds kinda fucked if you ask me. This guy sounds like a creep. Also(can’t speak for all women of course) but I will say a majority are looking for LTR at every age, not just those who are late 20s and on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 05:16 PM
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I’m both sympathetic and apathetic at the same time. Sympathetic to the men who I am sure who are kind and actually putting in effort to meet someone. Apathetic towards the guys who think it should just come to them easily like “it goes for women”. Definitely a mixed bag of men who are struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 04:30 PM
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I don’t participate in casual sex. I trust my long term partners. I’m not and have never been on any form of birth control. I’ve gotten by on the pull out method. Risky, but I also acknowledge the risk I’m taking,
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 11:51 AM
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It’s not a gendered law, I can think of plenty examples of women paying alimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 02:52 AM
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I mean that’s the scope that OP presented it as. Hence why I quoted them. Now if she had explained that overweight gas station lady has the most sweetest heart, fosters kittens, etc it would make sense. OP is the one who framed everything under transactional means
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:26 PM
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Women offer more than men, so the tables have finally turned now. Yes, leagues may exist in your mind, but only for men. This is due to the fact that modern men have very little to offer. But in your example the women that you describe don’t seem to be bringing much to the table when compared to their partners. First woman works at a gas station and is overweight, yet dating and attractive well paid man. The second one has a menial job as well and has a kid(you didn’t mention looks so maybe she’…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:29 PM
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Wait so I’m a little confused. Where did you get this information from with these women’s confessions from college. Can’t take this one piece of information and apply it to all women. Craziest things I did in college was just getting too drunk, and turning things in late. Can you clarify what you’re trying to pin point as the reason why relationships aren’t what they used to be? Imo social media, dating apps, just tech overall has killed dating for everyone. I wish there was another way. I’m act…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 08:56 PM
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I have a brother to make comparisons of if I was a man. I’d likely be tall, and if I was the same person I am now I would be really into lifting. Tbh I feel like if I was born a man I would have become a player.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:25 PM
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What if you have no problem seeing the outline of a man’s bits? I won’t lie I have some tight attire for when I workout, but I’ve also NEVER heard women complain about this. Some even like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 06:19 PM
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Agree with this 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:00 PM
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I’m not saying people like yourself don’t exist, but the left is painting out to be a greater majority than it is. In truth most people don’t want that life style, but are now being made to feel bad or weird for wanting that. Literally had a TikTok on my fyp saying that women who don’t want kids are of higher intelligence. I’m just not understanding this push to make people not have families. Very weird
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:13 PM
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I don’t disagree that those people exist, but it’s definitely not the norm. Can we stop pretending like we are all happier single without families!?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:50 PM
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I mean I would say I am happier now than I was in my shit past relationships, that being said I would not be happy remaining single the rest of my life and not having a family. I guess I would rather be single now than continue to repeat my patterns over and over again. Idk this whole narrative that people are happier child free and being single their whole lives is just a little fucking wack. Like I’m not saying there aren’t those lone wolf types, but generally speaking we are social creatures …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:37 PM
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I like a man with a good amount of muscle, but not ones with super low body fat. But strong arms, chest, back ooooof. Don’t give a fuck about a six pack ETA: I work out 4-5x a week, eat healthy and already have a natural hour glass body type. I’d like to say I deserve the man I’m seeking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:47 PM
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Yea, its on the upper end. But like I said anything that falls in that 5-7 range is perfect in my book. I feel like length gets brought up a lot, but what about girth! I don’t want something insanely thick, but I feel like that matters too 😂. An 8 incher that’s pencil thin would be kinda awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:13 PM
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I’m happy with and prefer average size, so anywhere between 5-7 is good. Like yes I could spend all day crafting dream man he’d have all kinds of features I “prefer”. At the end of the day though I don’t want a dream man, I want a real man. A real man isn’t gonna have all my preferences, but he will be the one that I love and loves me. That’s what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:39 PM
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What’s the “too small” category mean? Like what size?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:35 PM
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Another size post 😂. Y’all need to realize women are perfectly happy with an average sized penis. Obviously going to be an issue if you’re rocking a one incher
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:00 PM
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Outside of TikTok who’s really giving this advice to women? Everyone knows that at 35+ you’re having a geriatric pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:19 PM
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No amount of money would ever make me forgo having it, especially since I want a family
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:01 PM
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Never done it myself, but I’ve had friends who have and have read other peoples accounts. It’s much harder for women to come and a stranger you met off tinder probably doesn’t care if you cum(vs a boyfriend). Men benefit more, still I don’t find it healthy for either men or women to engage in hookup culture. It breeds such a distant and weird view of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 04:33 PM
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The reason is because feminism has painted “sexual liberation”(hookups, OF, porn stars, sex work) as something one should strive for. I had a friend who was super into feminism and all that crap and made me feel shame for not being into hookup culture, like I was weird. I think if we were just honest with ourselves and admit to the differences between men and women biologically it would help a lot, but then that’s even framed as “shaming” or making women out to be not equal to men. I’ll say it a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 05:23 PM
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It’s not. It’s friends and other women’s experiences. Women hardly benefit from having hook ups. Plus I’m a highly emotional person and I know myself well enough to know hook ups and casual sex would make me feel used and worthless. It’s not shame, it’s knowing myself well. Imo what has lead women to pursuing hook ups more frequently was this idea that they would feel the same way as a man does when he hooks up, which is just biologically untrue. Women hold sex to a higher degree emotionally bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:38 PM
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I’ve always had a higher libido and lifting weights has only increased it, so there are times where I feel a little insatiable and I can’t quite pin why but I do feel shame when I fantasize about a cute stranger who’s smiled at me. I would never have casual sex because I know it wouldn’t benefit me in anyway, only hurt me emotionally, but the thought has crossed my mind and for that I have felt shame. I don’t think shame ever leads to anything beneficial, it’s not what keeps me from having rando…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:43 AM
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Here are my standards as an in shape(work out 5x a week and I eat pretty healthy),feminine in a traditional sense(I’d like to assume a role of a home maker in a relationship), low body count, loyal to a fault, dislike feminism, I can dress sloppy when I’m just around the house cleaning or running errands, but I clean up really nice, not tats, only have my ears and one nose piercing(not the septum). (Not to paint myself as perfect, I’m quite emotional, sensitive, and struggle with feeling worthy …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:08 PM
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So as a woman who has given dating advice to men, I’ve hardly ever given the advice you have said. I’ve told me friend(not ugly, just short unfortunately) that I wouldn’t really rely on dating apps. I’ve given him advice(when he was seeing a girl who was using him) to cut her off because she was just using him for meals. And I’ve helped him reach out to a girl he liked in one of his college classes whom he’s still seeing to this day. Do you even talk to women irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:50 PM
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Maybe at his or slightly below his level. by a woman who is often a huge compromise This right here tells us all we need to know. Truth is both men and women aim for the top 10-20%. Stop living in this weird delusional world view and go touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:56 AM
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Point stands. Are trolls not chronically online?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 04:10 PM
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I doubt this person even has irl contact with any humans. This person probably hasn’t left the house in years. Highly chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:23 PM
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I’m fine with it, as long as we hold fat men with tits the size of mine in the same regard lmao. But actually I think I would be horrified if I had my breasts out somewhere where children could see.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:56 PM
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What about big fat men who have breasts?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:07 PM
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Why are you even still commenting? I deleted the post because y’all don’t know how to read. If anyone is weird or angry it’s you, quit projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 08:17 PM
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I feel like it’s more likely a case of not knowing. I wish there was a nice and constructive way to let people know how bad they smell, without hurting their feelings. It’s such a delicate thing because it’s something that effects others, but it’s also something that can hurt someone’s feelings hearing that they smell bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:49 PM
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How did I generalize all men? Y’all need to stop commenting if you don’t even actually read the post. How is it one dude??! It was one instance for me, and multiple cases of me reading it happening to other women. Fucking Christ, read the actual post before you comment, it’s not even a long post…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:41 PM
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And now other other women Again if you actually read the post you would see I brought up other women originally, not just now. Please don’t bother commenting if you’re not even going to read the fucking post!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:37 PM
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How am I putting someone on blast? I brought up a trend where there seems to be women going on dates where an everything else seems great about the guy, except for his smell. I was simply wondering where this seemingly easy to fix issue is originating form. Again with your opinion I don’t even know why you chose to comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:32 PM
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In my circumstance I do believe he truly didn’t know he smelled bad. Just my opinion, but I wonder how can anyone fix an issue they don’t know about. Seems to be sort of taboo to tell someone they stink, although it’s kind of a major issue that impacts others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:29 PM
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I guess I wonder how do you tell someone that they smell bad without hurting their feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:28 PM
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So you didn’t read the post, along with half the other commenters on here. I said it happened to me once. Please read a post before choosing to comment on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:27 PM
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My thing it’s not even a most men thing, never said it was. And it more seems to be frequent one or instances where this is happening to women, not a woman repeatedly dating smelly guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:26 PM
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And I’m supposed to know how someone smells through the phone…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:02 PM
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I never said it was a gendered issue…I’ve just only seen it brought up by women having an issue of men showing up to dates smelling poorly. What I wonder is if this is the only thing holding someone back from getting second dates how can anyone hold them accountable for their smell if even they don’t know it’s an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:01 PM
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When did I ever say it happened to me or other multiple times. I only stated reading multiple women’s stories of it happening…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:59 PM
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If it’s such a stupid post then why did you feel the need to comment on it? I was only trying to determine whether it’s an issue of self awareness or lack of caring. I feel the real stupidity comes from those who chose to comment without bothering to actually read the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:56 PM
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That’s kind of a weird question to ask before a date, well at least I never would. I would rather meet up and see for myself, it’s only ever happened to me once to where I don’t feel the need to vet for it. Do you ask women what perfume they were prior to asking them in a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:55 PM
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I guess I can understand the low tier for smelling bad, but how can someone be low tier for going on a date with them without any knowledge that they would smell bad prior to the date…as you said in the original comment the women choosing this men are also bottom tier but how are you supposed to know someone smells bad through dating app lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:54 PM
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Definitely agree it’s not a gendered issue. I just feel like 1) I’ve heard it happening to more women meeting up with dates and finding that they smell bad and 2) I feel like women are more sensitive to smells. I have a friend who’s a woman who was pretty blind to her liter box smell(she has 4 cats in a 1 bed room apartment 💀)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:52 PM
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I swear y’all just stay not reading the actual post and just the title 😂. I said it happened to me one time. Nice self care routine! My point of this post was not to generalize that all men do this, no where in my post do I say this is a man issue. The point is wondering about this subset of men, if it’s an issue of lack of awareness or lack of care. I have a friend who’s a woman who frankly doesn’t smell that great and it’s why I don’t like going over to her house because it smells like a giant…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:50 PM
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Thank you for having a reasonable comment. I wish there was a way some of these men would be able to tell and change these things. I wonder if they don’t have anyone close enough to tell them this and they go a long time being lonely for such a fixable reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:47 PM
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Because I’m supposed to be able to know how someone smells before meeting them. Lmao technology hasn’t come that far yet 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:45 PM
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Did you actually read the post or just the title? I mentioned it happened to me once and it was rather surprising because everything else seemed normal about the guy. And where in my post did I say it was an entire gender?! I swear some of y’all do not read the posts and comment purely based off the title.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:44 PM
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Is someone really bottom tier if all they need to do is wear deodorant or switch up how you clean yourself? I don’t think it really has anything to do with “tiers” to begin with. My post was trying to determine whether this is an issue of self awareness or lack of care. Also don’t know why it became a reflection about the women going on these dates. How are we supposed to know how a man smells before we’ve met them. Of course I could understand judging a woman who stayed dating a smelly man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:43 PM
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How can they know they smell bad before even meeting them?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:39 PM
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If this is what you want to believe 🤷🏻‍♀️. It happened to me once, and on paper the guy had a lot going for him. Good job, owned his own house, fit…this is a bottom tier man to you? Similar to a post I saw on the dating advice sub where a girl said she felt he was the one just from first sight(I think this is silly) but was taken a back from his smell and was wondering if she should go on another date. I don’t think men who can impress a woman with his looks alone is bottom tier either… And I’m …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:32 PM
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Natures hair gel I guess😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:28 PM
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My question is, do you think he knew he smelled bad? My theory is that these men don’t realize it, because I really highly doubt that anyone would go to a date KNOWING they smell bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:27 PM
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I wish more men would lead. Whenever I go on dates I give space for men to lead, but many feel scared too. I understand why, but it’s SO hot when a man takes charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 04:45 PM
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it’s her responsibility to clearly state that I’m being rejected It is absolutely NOT her responsibility. If you’re choosing to approach a stranger and put them in that potentially awkward situation it is your job to pick up on social cues. As I stated in my comment, women do not know if this stranger can become erratic and possibly dangerous. If you cannot properly read social cues you should not be approaching women who you do not know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 08:55 PM
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Maybe I don’t see it? I feel like I see most women saying what I’m saying. Additionally a lot of women I know complain that men aren’t approaching anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 10:15 PM
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I’m not sure if these two women are supposed to have differing opinion, regardless I don’t agree at all. There is nothing wrong with approaching a woman in public in my opinion, but must be done in a way that is considerate to not put that person in an awkward position. For example it’s often recommend to not approach a woman when she is working. I mostly agree with this, most of the time these women are being courteous which can across flirty. Most importantly though, it can put a woman in an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 09:35 PM
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Because I enjoy being attractive. To be clear I don’t dress insanely provocative, but I do dress flatteringly. Even if I get looks from men I’m not attracted to or interested in it still feels nice. I also just generally enjoy the style of clothes I wear. Growing up I was chunky and saw outfits and styles I always longed to wear, but felt I couldn’t due to my size. Now that I’m fit I feel like I’m living out my dream wearing the cute clothes I always wanted to wear.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:50 PM
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IMO I think the pickiness is a result of dating apps. They make everyone believe there’s always a better option out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:47 PM
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I’ve definitely been told otherwise by lots. Lots of people saying you should just love your partner the way they are. Maybe it’s because a lot of my satisfaction physically from a partner comes from them being attracted to me, I couldn’t imagine my partner not being attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 09:56 PM
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That’s something we can definitely agree on. However I think people should also want to stay fit for themselves. It’s probably a big reason those people let themselves go. I’m not saying some motivation can’t come from wanting to be physically attractive for your partner, but I think at the core you should want to do it for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 09:45 PM
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I’m not going to pretend like this doesn’t happen, but let’s also not pretend like men don’t do this either. Since we’re just using anecdotal evidence, I know plenty of husbands who let themselves get “beer” guts while their wife is still relatively fit. What I see most commonly is both partners giving up on their bodies and staying fit. For me personally, maybe it’s shallow, but I LOVE fitness personally would like to be as fit as possible for my future partner. Obviously things happen in life …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 07:50 PM
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This is news to no one. That’s the world of casual sex. Again, not sure what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:42 PM
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I’m not being argumentative, I’m just trying to understand. You’re the own who labeled it a loophole and pigeon holed yourself into that narrative. It’s not a new concept that women can get sex easily, I don’t even know what point you’re trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:23 PM
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So again, if they are getting used and, as you say yourself, aren’t benefiting, then it isn’t a loophole. Please work on your critical thinking skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:47 PM
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If they aren’t benefiting then how is it a loophole…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:42 PM
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What’s the loophole? I’m confused. How are these women benefiting from being used for sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:33 PM
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I wouldn’t even say it comes down to being able or not being able, but considering, does it really make sense for a man in his mid to late 40s to be having new born children? Like can they have them, yes, but do you really want to be raising a teen when you’re in your 60s?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 06:34 PM
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Finally! Men be acting like they have all the time in the world, but like sir do you really want to be in your 60s raising a teenager 💀. Like be so for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 06:31 PM
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I think it would depend on how I found out about how he treated his past partners. Is it through him bragging about how he took them on luxurious trips and bought them all kind of things while asking me to pay half I’d be pretty pissed off. Now if I found out a bit later on through him opening that it was a regret that he foolishly spent a lot of money on exes I wouldn’t be upset. It’s all about framing. Does he look back on those exes fondly and has no regret that he threw money at them or does…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:41 PM
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Because I prefer my hand to some random stranger who probably won’t even get me off don’t mean I ain’t horny lmao. It’s really sad that even has to be explained to you people…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:37 PM
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Whatever you wanna believe hun. Your bitter attitude will age you quicker than time itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:24 PM
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If this were true then how do MILFs exist? Ladies, from what I’ve noticed in my older relatives relationships(40s-50s) if you keep yourself fit and take care of your skin you’ll age like fine wine ☺️.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:18 PM
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Yea, I’ll never forget the time when my ultra feminist friend from back in highschool showed me(without asking first) our male friends penis. I highly doubt he consented to that on top of me not wanting to see that part of him, just so ironic all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:48 AM
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I don’t think I would describe any of my relationships with pride, and most without shame. I see them more as experiences that I’ve learned and grown from.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:51 AM
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I heard some men are marrying their bros for the tax benefits. Would ever consider this?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:34 PM
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How old were they?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:06 PM
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My goal is to have children and be a stay at home mom for the first few years of my child’s life, until they are old enough for school. I would still want to work, because I understand we don’t live in an economic state that really allows single income. I could definitely be able to tutor for a side job. I would also be open to being breadwinner, but not when my child is young. I really don’t trust day cares and I don’t think it’s good for children. That being said, when my children are old enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:34 AM
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Not the one I want
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:28 AM
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I mean there’s definitely a decline. Just cuz you see a lot of babies in strollers doesn’t mean they come from a family where mom and dad are married. More often than not people are getting knocked up and then raising iPad children.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:03 AM
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I think that would be really beautiful thing to do❤️. You seem like a very level headed kind person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:45 PM
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Tbh a lot of times I’ve gotten ghosted and then I take like months long hiatuses. More often than not the dudes come back around within a week or two with weak ass excuses about why they ghosted me. One dude literally said because he was sick and another said because his friend was going through a divorce. I’m pretty open minded to things like height, race, income. I will say I’m picky on physique. Wouldn’t date someone overweight, but I’m not hypocritical I workout 5x a week and go on lots of h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:43 PM
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Yup this is what scares me most. The money aspect. Especially cuz I would never take my child to a day care(too many horror stories) so I’d like to be a stay at home mom and maybe work on the side, just until my child is school age. It could be the area I’m in, but I’m not sure I want to move just for it to be the same issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:39 PM
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I’m 25. I understand where you are coming from. Everyone’s different though. I would LOVE to have a child. I don’t really get out anyways, so it’s not like I’d be losing that. I might be a bit obsessed, but I have also read quite a few books on early childhood development and I’d love to build a mini-curriculum for my child. Obviously I know nothing goes as planned(you learn this quick as a teacher). But I think the experience would be immensely rewarding and i think about it probably too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:37 PM
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And let me guess everyone tells you, “it will happen for you when you least expect it!” I really don’t know what advice I’d give you that you haven’t probably already heard. I think too it’s important to just accept these things. It’s almost soul crushing though. Accepting to be alone for the rest of our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:33 PM
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I mean I’m really not super limiting to what I look for. Don’t care about race, don’t care about height as long as they are my height or taller. I do care about physique, I like a guy who’s into the gym, by I myself workout 5x a week so it’s not like I’m hypocritical. I’m not super picky about the job a man has, just as long as he has goals and ambitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:32 PM
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I agree, but it’s part of the anxious attachment style. Those who struggle with it usually think low of themselves which is why we don’t think we’re good enough for anyone to stick around and we fear that abandonment because it’s confirmation of our fears. Realistically though we cannot control others behaviors, whether they leave or stay. I need to work on accepting that and also believing in myself that I am good enough for a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:29 PM
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Whatever makes you happy :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:15 PM
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I guess this subreddit makes me feel like I’m old 😅. I’ve finished college and I work as a teacher currently. Planning to also take some more courses over the summer. I love learning, still figuring out what I’d like to get a masters in. I’d like to get a masters slowly so as to not acquire any debt. I do think I put A LOT of pressure on dating. I try to take it easy, and it’s not like I’m asking about kids and marriage on the first date, but I feel like it’s something people can just sense. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:00 PM
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I admit that I’m definitely more interested in having kids than a husband, but I know finding a caring, considerate, loving partner is essential part and in order to give my children a loving home. It’s not like a see a man a just a pay check or sperm donor, but I’m definitely more excited about being a mom and having a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:03 PM
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Yea. I’m gonna try volunteering, and maybe team sports. Not just for dating, but for making friends too. Think it should also be said I struggle with anxious attachment style which as much as I try to be normal, I feel like people can totally tell. It’s definitely me that’s the problem 😓
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:55 PM
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I personally love me some muscles. I love a man who’s strong and works out. Of course it’s not gonna be every woman’s type. Some like the skinny, some like the chubby. Honestly though if you’re getting into working out just to appeal to women, I would reconsider your goals. You should do it for yourself, not to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:13 PM
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Honestly sounds like a you problem, no offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:00 PM
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Woman’s perspective here: too fast and I’m worried they’re only after one thing. Too slow and I’m worried they aren’t attracted to me. I’m not saying I want my bones jumped on the 1st, 2nd or even 3rd date. But that desire for me needs to be shown in some way. Say through a kiss or words, just needs to be shown.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:39 PM
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It could be about money, but more often than not I think it’s just a general question you ask when dating. Now if she asks how much you make, then you have your answer lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 07:19 PM
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I really don’t think they go on dates at all. The women he describes are social media influencers. OP is basing his opinion of women on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:21 PM
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I fucking hate these generalizations of women. It’s very abundantly clear you don’t go on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 02:11 PM
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Yea, but that’s not what the original comment asked. I was bored a couple years back and just wanted to see how I would do as a man. My brother is also 6’3 so that’s what I put as height as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 02:58 AM
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Fair point, I mean he doesn’t though lol. But my brother and I both have strong jawlines, high cheek bones and good facial symmetry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:34 PM
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No, I looked exactly like my brother haha. You’re just mad cuz I got good genes 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:28 PM
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I’m really not trying to be rude here, but did you read the original comment?? They said, “Get one of those apps that change your profile pic into a man”. Like c’mon y’all fr don’t read and love to jump to conclusions like that I used a really attractive guy. I basically looked like my brother lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:27 PM
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I guess I did, and I put looking for short term open to long
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:39 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:39 PM
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No, I made my face into a man’s…can you read bud?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:39 PM
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I’ve done this before and actually got a lot of matches. I deleted before talking to anyone cuz that would essentially be catfishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 12:05 PM
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Think men should cut off women more frequently that don’t match their efforts and energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 05:23 AM
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I’m confused as to what your date did wrong? You even said yourself that there wasn’t a connection, she didn’t ghost you or stand you up, so what’s the issue? Think you’re making a mountain out of a molehill bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 12:56 AM
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If an average to below average man wants casual sex my only advice is that they better have their standards in the dirt lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:56 PM
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Then go to those gyms… and those of us who don’t have an issue can go to the other gyms… I’m really not sure the point you’re trying to get at. There’s gyms that are more modest, and if that makes you comfortable go there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:00 PM
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Well most people don’t have an issue with it, so you should probably find a gym that enforces some sort of modesty rule. I’ll take the one that lets dudes workout without a shirt 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 02:19 PM
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Maybe there needs to be regular gyms and modesty gyms. Cuz I have no problem with shirts like those or even dudes being topless. Tbh if you have such an issue with other people’s clothing choices, you may need to take a look at yourself and ask, “why?”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 01:57 PM
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If you get into a relationship are your partner(cause men do it too) starts withholding sex; leave. That shit is disgustingly manipulative and you don’t wanna be in a relationship with a person like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 02:25 PM
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For real. Those women just want clout and attention
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 04:19 PM
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As a woman whose worn all different types of clothes to the gym, from big t-shirt with sweats to tight shorts and a compression t I have never cared about people looking at me. If anything it’s a compliment to the work that I’m doing. Everyone stares a bit, it’s completely normal and I’ve never been upset about it, What has bothered me is men following me around the gym and just being creepy overall. I once had a guy follow me out to my car and try’d to ask for my number. Point is: let women wea…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 04:18 PM
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Right? I think the word they were looking for was sexualized 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 08:03 PM
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There’s chubby chaser women. Personally as a bisexual I find bigger women more attractive than slim. Idk if you’d call it a fetish though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:09 PM
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I’m not entirely sure the point of this post is, but I must give props to you for going out and trying something different from the apps. And you’re completely right, all the dating apps are predatory and only care about profits, not actually matching people up. But serious props to you for having the confidence and courage to talk to women you find attractive in public, it’s quite rare nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:14 PM
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Isn’t there a rule against women asking women questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 12:36 AM
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As a woman(and I cannot speak on behalf of other women) but this is true when I don’t have any attachment for a man yet. Especially during the talking phase. I’m not sure why it is, I think cuz I currently have a lot of apathy towards dating. I will say once of gone on at least one date with a man I’m more likely to give grace and give a guy a chance, and won’t make up my mind until after 3 dates. That’s just me though
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:01 PM
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When these posts start with “all women” I just stop reading 😂. Already know it’s gonna be some drivel
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 12:48 PM
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The chuckle at you laughing should have been your sign to leave. Anyone who can laugh as someone cries has something wrong with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:50 PM
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Why are these things always a gendered issue lmao. I’ve been rejected after opening up about my childhood and abuse in past relationships. It happens to everyone, not just men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:48 PM
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Most of the time it’s jealousy. However I do remember once going out with a group where one girl had a boyfriend. She got really drunk and was dancing with a dude and we pulled her aside to chat and remind her she has a man! She started crying shortly after. Also for those saying it’s a sign that she didn’t return, idk about that. Unless you were in the exact same spot for like hours I don’t think it’s really plausible, especially for a crowded bar/club on NYE.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:39 PM
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Exactly, like I feel like it’s such a farce to act as if having a dirty house is not a big deal. Like it obviously impacts the psyche. OP will likely never have a happy marriage if he continues to think this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:11 PM
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Yea im not against women working either, but it really kind of fucked up the economy. Ideally everyone does what they can. For example say I bring in only 40% of the household income, well then I would do 60% of the cleaning and the husband would pick up the other 40%. Or if the woman is bringing in more money then the man should do more housework. My problem is(and of course this isn’t all men) but there’s a good chunk of men who expect the bills to be split, but don’t think about splitting the…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:08 PM
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I believe you’re misrepresenting the issue. The issue is men nowadays want to split bills 50/50 AND for the woman to do 100% of the cleaning. THATS the issue. Imagine working 50+ hours a week and also being expected to maintain a certain level of clean in the house. Also yes no one dies from a dirty house, but when it’s dirty to an uncomfortable extent it can actually be detrimental to your mental health. And it’s no wonder a woman who’s working full time, cleaning the house by herself and takin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:48 PM
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Idk I see it more as men don’t get taught how to express/understand their emotions, so instead they just blow up or get aggressive. Don’t think theirs any misunderstanding happening
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 11:35 PM
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You are not the one to make this post 😂. Your comments prove how driven you are by your emotions. And you do realize anger is a secondary emotion stemming from fear/sadness?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:17 PM
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Wait what? This sounds like a red herring cuz I have never heard anyone say this😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 02:35 PM
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Ok, as one of the few people who actually somewhat agrees that this whole trend of recording men being “creepy” is fucked up, I don’t agree with your solution. Now I do think it would be funny if an attractive dude posted a video of a woman checking him out and glancing at him, with a caption “male rage!” and “I feel so violated 😭”,cuz guess what we’ve all done it!(unless you’re asexual or something). I just don’t know why creepshots was your go to equivalency. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:02 PM
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Sorry that you’re incapable to interpreting nuance, maybe those who cannot see that this is subjective matter at hand are those who lack socialization and are possibly on the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:08 PM
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So what’s the intention behind posting it then?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:04 PM
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So did you read my post…I’ve explained that I have been followed before, cat called, gone beyond the point of staring, fuck I’ve been groped. I expressed this as wrong. Very wrong. My issue is that is not what these men in the videos are doing. And I will agree that some women may feel more comfortable having their phone out to record IN CASE things escalate, but if they don’t then what was the intention behind posting it? The man did not escalate and their isn’t a justifiable reason why the vid…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:03 PM
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You should just stay home and never leave the house if that’s how you feel. You sound incapable of in person human interaction
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:59 PM
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Lol y’all love to play semantics on here in order to avoid discussing the real issue. Have fun in your delusional world where men are looking at you because “I’m hot so they must be checking me out” and not because you have your phone out recording.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:57 PM
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Yes! I agree with that. As I said I’ve been stared and followed before, that is not ok. But it’s not what I’m seeing in these videos. In the videos I’m mostly seen men glancing at a woman, like how is that a problem!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:56 PM
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This is the only thing I can agree with. But if nothing happens further than how is it fair to post? The intentions are clear enough to be able to justify labeling someone as a creep who has done nothing wrong. I can understand recording for safety, but posting a video when nothing has happened goes a step too far.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:55 PM
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Ok sure, don’t even look in anyone’s direction again, a glance, anything, or else you’re a creep. Staring is highly subjective so you best be careful and never look in anyone’s direction ever
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:53 PM
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Ok but my issue is how online being checked out or glanced at is being equated with assault. As someone who’s been a victim of assault I find this comparison offensive and harmful
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:52 PM
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So you better never stare at anyone ever again in your life, or else you’re a creep, by your own standards
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:50 PM
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Who knows we may start to see that happening 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:49 PM
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I agree. I think we’ve all checked someone out before, but only a certain specific kind of person(unattractive males) are punished for it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:48 PM
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Because the framing of the video
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:46 PM
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It’s also extremely subjective
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:41 PM
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Could you elaborate? Because I feel like we’ve all checked someone out at least once in our lives. It’s almost an unconscious thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:41 PM
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So a man isn’t hurt by millions of people watching a video depicting him as a “creep” for doing nothing wrong…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:39 PM
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If she was really wanting to “conceal her anatomy” like you claim. Then she would have pulled her legs in closer to her and turned away from the man. Her body language is not one that conveys “concealment” as you claim. Again though this all goes back to being extremely subjective, proven by our discourse about it. Which in turn proves how these instances can be interpreted in a numerous amount of different ways and it’s unfair to assume the man’s intentions with no viable proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:19 PM
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“Concealing her anatomy” yet she has her legs sprawled out in his direction… ok😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:42 PM
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Are you kidding? The first video with the “female rage” the woman and man are in the same booth…do you maybe need to get your eyes checked. Also to me the man in the first video is more so looking at her with annoyance than leering. It’s funny how subjective these things are but y’all wanna act like it’s so cut and dry
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:37 PM
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Are we looking at the same video? The man is not across the aisle from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:31 PM
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What the hell is this video😂. She’s all sprawled out, basically invading HIS space and some how he’s in the wrong. Her own words describe the train to be crowded and busy so what exactly has he done wrong? ETA: I haven’t been this annoyed over a video in a hot minute. But the more I watch it the more I see how she’s in the wrong. Imo dude is looking at her like, “wtf you’re all sprawled out on to my side”. While he’s neatly packed in to his seat. Again in the caption she describes the train as b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 04:51 PM
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First and foremost just want to commend you on your courage and your perseverance through your experiment. Although I’m not a man, I too suffer from immense rejection sensitivity dysphoria. I would love to know in more detail how you were able to overcome that. As a woman who has been approached I’ve never really been upset by compliments or even being asked out, it’s always flattering no matter the person. Where it gets creepy is if a dude doesn’t take no for an answer. For example I was once a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:06 PM
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I don’t understand what you want women to do about it? Date men they aren’t interested in? The advice I’ve given my male friends that have worked is change your standards. My friend was aiming way too high and when he started going for inside his league he got himself his first girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:34 PM
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Probably true, but most of the time I’m looking at profiles of men who already liked me sooo🤷🏻‍♀️😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:37 PM
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For real 🙄. I couldn’t agree more. People just wanna be ✨unique✨
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:36 PM
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I’m not feminist…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:34 PM
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That’s true, it doesn’t always stop me. But if I see that paired with another prompt that’s political I’m definitely not matching. The worst one is men who are very upfront about being a feminist 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 05:58 PM
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I mean some. But it’s much fewer than what social media shows. Usually these women have mental health issues, using casual sex as a from of validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 05:43 PM
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The problem is men think women value hookups and casual sex the same as they do. Most of us don’t want that so this whole point is moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 04:11 PM
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To be honest when I see “liberal” or “conservative” on someone’s dating profile I do take a pause. Not just because the values, but idk how much I want to be involved with someone who’s identity is that much wrapped into politics
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 03:46 PM
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Lmao, no. You sound like you’ve never worked retail. Most women are not immature over grown children who have no understanding of how the world works(aka Karens).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:11 AM
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I agree with that, but at the same token I’m also entitled to the opinion of thinking he’s an entitled asshole 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 04:08 PM
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Yea, he’s just got a vibe about him I dislike. He also says their first date was getting an IQ test…I mean maybe she was into it, but that’s weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:16 PM
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I think for me it’s not “what” he said, but “how” he said it. Came off super entitled and it was gross how he said he was pretending to be into the book she wrote, like wtf??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 02:46 PM
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I’m confused, are you asking if we can be friends with men. I don’t interact with men with the only intention of finding a husband 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:54 PM
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These posts always make me laugh😂. My brother is tall and always has been. In middle school people would joke a tell him he should play basketball(just to give you an idea of how tall). In middle school my brother was also severely bullied, like physical and mental shit. And guess what. He’s bully was short and one of the most popular boys in school. He’s still short, like 5’8 at most, and still gets TONS of girls(from what I hear). I understand this is anecdotal, but you guys speak about this t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 07:59 PM
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I’m not overweight and I’m not exclusively attracted to tall men…so what does that make me? Just an outlier?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:54 PM
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I mean you gotta also understand that for women finding a man physically attractive is a small piece to the puzzle. I’ve found dudes attractive on dating apps and then swiped no because they looked douchey, or had “short term/causal” on their profile. Not saying all women go by that metric, but most do from what I hear. Overall most women don’t want casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:56 PM
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Dating apps work for no one. Their interest is in making a profit, not in partnering people up. It’s really difficult for women to know if they are attracted to a guy based on some photos and a couple prompts about them. We need to see how a man carries himself, how he interacts with others, how he walks, talks, etc. I can’t tell you how many times I thought a guy was ok in attractiveness and then when I’ve met him in person been WAY more attracted. There’s a reason why the proportion of men to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:56 PM
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Real love to me is someone who would stand by me during the good times and the bad times. Someone who can see my flaws and love me for them, not despite them. Someone who communicates and strives for resolution and compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 05:13 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 08:56 PM
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And you don’t think those same men have a woman in their life cleaning up after them and cooking for them? Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:22 PM
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Ensuring that the person you are pursuing is interested in something long term. It’s not about withholding, but being thoughtful and intentional during the early/dating phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 01:20 AM
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Yea I can see this. I think it’s pretty irresponsible to get knocked up without commitment or marriage, but it happens. What I was discussing was intentionally having a man’s kid knowing he’s not going to marry you. That’s just dumb 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 09:15 PM
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I would agree with this, except for cases of starting a family or having kids. It’s a rotten deal for women to have a man’s children without marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:51 PM
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I’m just surprised to learn the average model is a size 4?! I had always thought they were like 00.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:07 AM
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No, you don’t understand. Women are a monolith hive mind and we all must like the same thing /s
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:53 PM
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Well for me personally this guy(purely judging of his social media) seems vapid and into himself. Not the kind of guy I would want to start a life with. Is he physically attractive? Yes, obviously. Is he attractive as a future life partner(for me)? No. Also for me personally I’m not much into six packs. I’m attracted to muscles, but a full six pack for me is just a bit of a turn off. I’d be curious to see how men would respond to the female counterpart of this dude. Lots of skimpy bikini shots. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:49 PM
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Considering I myself am a neurodivergent, then I wouldn’t have a problem with their high functioning autism. Just depends on their personality. Having autism isn’t someone’s whole identity and personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:43 PM
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First of all, Lisa Bonet and Jason Momoa are separated, so shit example. Second, Lisa is in at least the top 10% of attractive females. If you truly think she’s mid, then you’ll probably have to settle for well well below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:39 PM
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I have a 0.7 hip to waist ratio, and had that before working out. Lifting weights and doing cardio gave me a fitter toner look. I don’t look muscular, but you can see the outlines of my muscles. Not to mention how my body is capable of so much more. Additionally, studies have shown that people with higher % of muscle mass have a high resting metabolic rate. It doesn’t matter if you already look good, everyone should workout in some capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:02 PM
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How does one lift weights in moderation?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:27 PM
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I feel like determination, or motivation can be key. The key being that it’s intrinsic rather than extrinsic. When it comes from within it’s much more sustainable and reliable at yielding lasting results, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:52 AM
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Ok, so you value a woman’s self determination to fitness rather than just working out and eating right in order to obtain a partner. I can agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:06 PM
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My thing is men should worry about their own waist lines before worrying about a woman’s. If they do that, they’ll have better luck in getting a fit woman
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:19 AM
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What about the men that are also getting fat? I’m sorry, but an obese dude is entitled to his preference, but he isn’t entitled to a fit girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:11 AM
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Either men adapt to changing waistlines Why do you guys always like women are the only ones getting fat 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 11:52 PM
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I agree it’s not the default. But I would argue more women are likely to have a “healthier” bdf distribution than men. Don’t get me wrong tho I’ve definitely seen some men with some big butts and small abdominal area, and the inverse on a woman. But that isn’t the norm, it’s the deviation. I just think it’s a waste of time to fixate the issue to men or women. When the true issue is that no one wants to ever discuss binge eating disorder, no one wants to talk about the despicable practices that f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:52 PM
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The average woman aged 20 and older is 170.6 pounds, and an average BMI of 29.6 This data is not great representation of the point you’re making. 20 and older could be 20-80, but how does this data represent the primary dating market(20s-30s). In your defense I myself haven’t been able to find much on the rate of obesity for younger population exclusively. Regardless I don’t think this is proper data to use to make your point. People get fatter as they get older, sadly and especially these days …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:39 PM
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”when the waiter ignores him” ick This is an ick!? I feel bad then cuz when I worked as a waiter I would often ignore guys who were on dates with a girl. Mostly cuz some women would feel threatened over me literally taking an order and smiling at their man. So I learned to make minimal eye contact, basically ignore the dude and engage with their girl. In my experience they usually control how much the tip will be, so I didn’t want to piss them off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:52 PM
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Thank you for bringing up the hypocrisy the red pill has about sleeping around. Like it’s quite literally shown in studies to have a negative effect on both men and women’s psyches and ability to have long lasting relationships in the future. As someone who’s not participated in casual sex, when I find out my potential partner has it’s a sign to me of incompatibility and I end things. So if you want a low n partner, better be one yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:47 PM
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Ok that makes sense thank you. Sorry I wasn’t doubting you, just wanted some evidence for the next time I see this bs chart.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:12 PM
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This might be a good point if you also took into consideration how many women pay for premium on bumble(which is the only way you can sort by height). Making this data even LESS reliable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:18 AM
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Proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:18 AM
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I love when people here use data from dating apps when it’s a known fact that most women aren’t on dating apps. You need to take any dating app data with a grain of salt, you aren’t looking at the whole demographic. It’s unfair to make such blanket statements off of such data
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:31 AM
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1 is SO valid! I’ve dated guys who I really enjoyed my time with, but they never made a move to make things, not particularly sexual, but physical. For me it made me question whether or not they were attracted to me and therefor I lost my attraction for them. Definitely don’t rush into things, read a girls body language, and even a subtle arm around the waist, hugging for a bit longer, and that kinda look you give when you’re into someone. That’s all it takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:59 PM
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I doubt most men would want to date either. Especially the fit men you’re after. Most people want someone they could have a compatible life with. Eating junk food and not being very active isn’t compatible with a gym bro who counts his macros.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:56 PM
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How does this confirm anything when most women aren’t on dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:39 PM
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😂 fair point, but then what is she?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 08:49 AM
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Idk about this one…😂. When I think, “pick me”, the first person that comes to mind is justpearlythings and well…we all know she’s not the brightest bulb lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 08:42 AM
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This is my fear. I’d ideally like to have a traditional marriage to an extent. I would like to be a SAHM for when my children are ages 0-school age, work part time during this period and then go back full time to work. I think in this modern day most families HAVE to have a dual income because that’s just the way the economy is. The most important thing is to find a partner who understands team work. We both work to pay bills, both raise the children, and both take care of the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 11:56 PM
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Finally someone said this! I will say majority of people who hold this belief are red pill men, but the irony is baffling. Like how they can go from full on blaming a woman for staying in an abusive relationship with a guy. Then turn around and have complete sympathy for a dude that gets taken for all he’s worth in a divorce.(As if those two scenarios are even comparable in terms of suffering).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 04:06 PM
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I don’t think children necessarily need a father, but they most definitely need a positive male role model in their lives. I think it’s a necessity for children to have both positive male and female role models in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:47 PM
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Considering some schools across the US are going to start offering lunchables for school lunches I think we’re pretty doomed 😓.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:37 AM
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Depending on how it’s posed it can be offensive. Like the guy in the video, coming at it so aggressively and then dismissing what the women can bring to the table with, “I can pay for all that”. Like ok then don’t date? If someone came to me phrasing this as, “What role do you see yourself playing in a life long relationship?” Then I wouldn’t be offended in the slightest. Relationships, while romantic and loving, are also about team work and each person bringing their strengths to the table. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 01:44 PM
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I guess the best we can do is making clear indications of interest 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 01:19 AM
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Right, I always hear that and think that if a man really was interested he’d make the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 07:52 PM
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Well, like I said, what if none of them were casual. Each of them was someone they trusted and cared deeply for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 06:37 PM
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Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 06:34 PM
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I guess it depends on who the men were to her? What if none of them were casual?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 06:30 PM
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What about at 25?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 06:23 PM
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Is 4 a high body count for a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:29 PM
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My fear about initiating contact with men is not only the fear of rejection, but I feel like I’ve been told that as a woman if you approach a man you look desperate. Do men feel this way though?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:55 PM
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I’ve had that same thought so many times! Or like, “he looks attractive, but potentially douchey…nope”. This is why I wish things like speed dating or singles events would come back :/.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:12 PM
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This is why dating apps don’t really have a lot of women on them in the first place. It does not cater to how we perceive attractiveness. To find a man attractive goes waaaay beyond looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 06:52 PM
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My paternal grandparents were the epitome of soul mates. They’d bicker like any old couple, but always reconcile sweetly. They’d teach me lessons about compromise, and told me that it’s important to make sacrifices for our loved ones. Even after 65+ years of marriage they’d still hold hands and snuggle one another. To answer your question though, there’s no doubt in my mind that my grandma loved my grandpa. When he passed away it was like a part of her died with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:09 PM
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I mean some parts, yes. There’s a lot more to red pill than what I listed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 03:39 PM
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Probably tell him to make investments in himself, such as lifting weights, getting more involved in hobbies that make him happy(encouraging more social/outdoorsy hobbies). Lastly I would encourage them to never give up their own happiness in order to please someone else, that they would be better off single. At this point though I would have hopefully raised a son with a strong sense of self. Also important mention. If I had a child born and diagnosed early with autism I would quickly implement …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 02:05 PM
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Makes sense, guess I was just trying to draw a mental image because of the scene to OP drew of the group of women. It’s too bad that there isn’t places where single men and women can go where the expectation is to meet someone in a romantic/sexual way. Aside from bars/clubs of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 01:56 PM
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I’m not really a bar/club goer, but was curious about something. How often do you see a woman alone in these spaces?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 01:26 PM
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Yea I would agree. I felt my friend was a bit to extreme on this one. However, I had a friend once tell me she would never ever date a black guy, or any non white guy. I stopped seeing her the same after that, and distanced myself. That statement along with many others made me feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:31 AM
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I don’t think he was saying that doing those things(dressing well, smelling good and lifting weights) would propel you to the top. However, I think he was saying it doesn’t take being in the top to attract a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:45 PM
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I wonder this a lot about the show. Why do they always bring on the same kind of women? This is pretty different from other dating podcasts that I’ve seen bring on a fair variety of women. Women who are married, women who have only fans, conservative women, religious women, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:28 PM
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Maybe you feel this way because all you have to offer is your money?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 01:49 AM
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I agree to some degree. However changing diaper and household chores, while important, it’s a very small portion of parenting. Yes maybe some men are uninterested in aspects of parenting, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t interested in being a positive role model for a child they care about. Which is crucial for both girls and boys to have growing up in their lives. Ultimately though I think the idea your referring to is allo-parenting, in which many close people in a child’s life can step …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 06:08 PM
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Children would still need positive male role models and relationships in their lives. Nothing against this style, but throw in some good male friends too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:25 PM
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I want to be a SAHM for the younger years of my children’s lives. I think it’s actually crucial for their development to have that close bond with their mother in their younger years. As they get older id be interested in switching roles with my husband. Of course this all depends on our careers/incomes at the time. Also when I’m a SAHM I would still try to work part-time if I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:22 PM
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I meant more in the way of, “perfect for you” not perfect perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:17 PM
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I agree, I guess it’s whatever the person telling you considers a body. I think most consider full fledged sex a body
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:16 PM
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That makes sense. I guess I often wonder where i would fall into. I’m in my mid 20s, never any casual sex. Two boyfriends, and two sort of situationships. They were more than casual, but not quite relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:39 PM
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Understandable. Just seems like everyone has a different scale and number they would accept, which of course makes sense. I guess I just wonder with my own experience/body count where I would land on someone’s scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 05:37 PM
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1.) I actually think vetting someone for height is worse than body count. Someone’s body count is at least going to tell you a bit more about the kind of person someone is. 2.) I say vet women however you want, it’s your life and if something is a dealbreaker for you, you should stick by your standards and cut them off. 3.) I’m looking for a man who would have traits I don’t necessarily have. That way when we come together we each can bring some different things to the table. 4.) I remember my D…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:57 PM
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This post reads with the assumption that the woman wouldn’t be fulfilling the traditional roles. If a woman is at home taking care of the children and house they are working just as a hard as the man. This is why ideally I would like to find a man who would want me to stay home for the first few years of the children’s lives and then switch roles as they get older(given that I would have a job with the income to do so). That way each of us can see how much work the other does in order to have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:29 PM
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Look at the comment I made to the person who made the exact comment as you. For some cultures and subgroups it’s extremely taboo to have an abortion. Not to mention to a lot of women there is no choice. If I became pregnant I would not be able to have an abortion because I believe life starts at conception(but I don’t hold other people accountable for my personal beliefs). I think that’s a big reason too as to why my friend’s mom kept her baby. Along with family and cultural pressures.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 02:13 AM
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Well considering her father is a pastor, and she was quite young at the time, I think she felt as if she had no choice. Like yea it’s easy for you to say she does, but if you were in her position you would say otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 12:28 AM
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Women can be baby trapped to. I remember one of my friend’s moms telling me how she was trapped into having her youngest because the bd poked holes in their condom. It’s probably more uncommon for a woman to get trapped, but it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:26 PM
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My emotions are too strongly intwined with sex. And having multiple romantic partners sounds like too much work
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 01:42 PM
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They’re kind of boring :/. However out of all the sports I will say football is the least boring, almost interesting. I can actually be interested in a game of football if it’s on, but I never seek it out to watch. Also I’m always telling my friends how we should play flag football.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:31 AM
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Is Chad’s are just attractive men now then 100%. But like if we’re talking actual Chads? Like douchey fuck boys, then none.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:44 PM
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Nope, like others said though, as long as the husband is also reasonably fit
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 02:30 PM
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Can you give some examples of “shit tests”?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:38 PM
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I think a hot guy is confident first a foremost. However physical appearance plays a role of course. I like a guy who is taller than me, between 5’8-6’2. I love a guy who is strong and muscular, broad shoulders, big arms and chest. I don’t find six packs attractive at all. I like a man who’s 200+ lbs. I like a man who’s self assured, but not arrogant. A man who’s kind heated and considerate of others. I loove an intelligent man who can teach me about new things and who I can have deep conversati…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:24 PM
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What does “sleep rough” mean?
/r/AntiFeminists08/01/23 03:19 PM
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Physically I like a strong man. I like a man who has a strong chest, back and arms. I don’t like six packs, I like a guy who’s got a bit of a chubby tummy. I guess what people would consider a “dad bod”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:52 PM
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What would the three tiers be categorized as?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 04:15 PM
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This is why the 1-10 scale and this chart is so ridiculous. I can bet a million dollars if you gave a person a list of these women on this chart and told them to rate them from 1-10, everyone’s chart would look different. Beauty is subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 04:01 PM
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Nothing about education degrees 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 11:37 PM
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Her handwriting is atrocious
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 01:43 AM
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Worse, for everyone. The increase of options isn’t always necessarily a good thing. It’s VERY overwhelming
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:04 PM
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I don’t think there’s any harm in playing the field a bit and just having casual hook ups. What can be harmful is when people sleep around to fill a void or in order to gain some sort of validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:27 PM
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I actually need to shave my legs or else I’ll develop a rash for whatever reason. Ever since I started growing leg hair I would get terribly itchy on the back of my legs and shaving eliminated the problem. I shave my arm pits cuz if I don’t then when I sweat I smell more. As for my private I usually let that grow out and trim when needed and wax occasionally. I usually never fully shave down there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:22 PM
1

I could be misinterpreting your post, but Andrew Tate is not blowing up because his ideologies are well liked. It’s because he’s seen as a fool and people are loving bashing on him right now. More than half the shit that comes out of his mouth is just to shock and get more views. He is not popular cuz he is respected, he is popular to hate. I will say though I’m not in favor of the suppression of any view points being expressed, even if they are deemed offensive. Do I agree with the things Tate …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:05 PM
1

Hmm I guess I would do some stuff on the weekends. If I’m sole provider I’m not doing 50/50, but I would help out a bit with deep cleaning days
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:10 AM
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Idk about this. I recently saw my boyfriend cry, like ugly cry. It wasn’t cuz we were breaking up, but just me saying I needed space. He wasn’t using his tears to make me stay, he even expressed that he didn’t want me to think that’s why he was crying. He was just genuinely scared of losing me and broke down. Yes, some people will weaponize their tears in order to try to garner sympathy and manipulate someone into staying. However those guys who your sister was talking about could have just been…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:48 PM
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I just think it shouldn’t be something women should be shamed for. No one is asking you to pass out medals to women for their sexual achievements.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:49 PM
1

I checked out your little sub Reddit…I feel like you’d love this dancer I found through tiktok called beatsbyblayk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:01 PM
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I’ve been dancing since before you made your post…do you have the ability to comprehend what you read? I said I’ve been dancing since before I could walk or talk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:50 PM
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You gave me 0 advice. You’ve given no one any useful advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:46 PM
1

I have been dancing since before I could walk or talk lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:40 PM
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The problem is men are human doings while women are human beings. Oh please! In this day and age we’re all human doings unfortunately. The amount of times I’ve seen red pill men complain about women in the work force to then call us human “beings” is just so ironic lol. We should all strive to be more like human beings and less like human doings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:31 PM
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Not really nice is described as people “agreeable” and “ pleasing” that’s performative in itself. Kind on the other hand is described as, “having, showing, or proceeding from benevolence” which is more attributed to how someone is at their core. So no I don’t believe I’m mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:33 PM
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Well there’s also a big difference between being nice and being kind. Being nice is less genuine and more performative, which is why a lot of women don’t fall for the “nice guy” act. Being kind is genuine and comes from the heart, it’s more indicative of someone’s personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:59 PM
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Bruh you are disgustingly racist, please don’t try and shame men for having standards. Just because you don’t have something called ✨self control✨, doesn’t mean you can shame people into finding you attractive. Tbh tho your personality is what is most repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 07:52 PM
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Idk I don’t follow that sub
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:04 AM
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I do think FDS is toxic af, however I haven’t spent nearly anytime lurking on FDS. I really only saw screenshots of posts and I am disgusted by the way they talk about men. I think it’s a horrible sub. I used to think that sub was a had very great critiques at some of the outlandish dating profiles out there. I found a lot of the comments on the sub to actually be really be inspiring and changed my point of view on a lot of stuff. It’s just recently I’ve felt that it’s become very degrading towa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 02:59 AM
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I’m not really commenting on the statement, but rather the sub…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 05:16 PM
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As a woman who’s been abused in a previous relationship I can tell you that you couldn’t be more wrong. Now I haven’t experienced anything close to what some women have, and I’m very lucky I got out when I did. For a bit over a year I put in the work to build up my self love and know what I deserve in a relationship. And now I’m in an amazing relationship with someone who I feel brings out the best in me. For any women reading this who have been abused, please know you aren’t damaged goods. Howe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 05:00 PM
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I’ve never been on FDS so I can’t comment much on them, however I have seen some pretty horrible posts come from there. I used to frequent the WAATGM sub about two years back. Then they would post profiles that were actually pretty terrible; women just demanding things and not offering anything in return. Also their sub is how I even found out about FDS as they would post screen shots of some of the horrific posts from that sub. Over the years they have increasingly been lowering the bar for wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 04:49 PM
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Agreed, but at one point it actually was constructive to some degree. Now it seems it’s only purpose is to put women down. It’s really sad
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 04:42 PM
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So it’s funny to ridicule a woman who has been abused for several years and blame her?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 04:41 PM
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Fair point
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 04:39 PM
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Lol I know it’s not, I’m calling out the sub not men in general
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:23 PM
1

Lol interesting how nothing was mentioned about alpha and dominance 🤔. You should read a book called Dominance in Dogs. It covers all that stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:06 PM
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You’re completely wrong in your findings. You should do some research first.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:10 PM
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Hmm well I would completely disagree. Lol if you actually look into it dogs have no sense of alpha and domination(and actually really neither do wolves), and they actually operate on more of a cooperational group type. This misconception of owners needing to be alpha with their pets and assert their dominance has actually lead to a lot of mistreatment My theory as to why I love my dog so deeply is that she’s just a precursor to having a child for me 🤷🏻‍♀️, she’s my baby, and I’ve literally never…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:05 AM
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I agree with this completely. However how come I still feel a burning passion of love for my dog 😂. I don’t mean this in a weird way, but I’ve had my dog for bout 8 years, going on 9, and she’s my absolute baby. When I look into her eyes, my heart starts to beat faster and I feel this maternal love deep inside me for her. Idk I guess maybe cuz romantic love and parental love are really different
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:24 PM
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Honestly I do. I bring a lot of love to the relationships I’m in, and I’ve always put in a lot of effort to make my partners feel loved and secure. That being said I also consider my boyfriend to be a prize. Can we both be prizes to each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:44 PM
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You can look good at 20 and 29, if you take care of yourself. I don’t get how people can let themselves go that much, especially when they don’t even have the excuse of having a kid or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:05 PM
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Honestly would be intrigued to see what I would have been like as a male. I’d be tall cuz I’m nearly 5’8 as a woman, plus my brother is 6’3. Also it would be soooo awesome to be super strong, I’d totally be buff af for sure too cuz I already like to lift. So I probably would have been a total Chad😅
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:02 PM
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I completely agree, and it’s sometimes not always transparent which it is when your getting just a small glimpse of a person, but that’s OLD for yea.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:17 PM
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I think in the case of the bumble profile dude, girls might not necessarily all be intimated. When I was using OLD I would swipe left on any “douche” looking pics or when it seemed like a guy was too into himself. My mom always warned me that guys like that would always be too in love with themselves to shed their gf/wife in love. ETA after seeing the profile: this guy doesn’t look like a douche at all, it could very well be the height which would be a shame cuz he looks like a friendly down to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:45 PM
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From the little knowledge I have on TRP, mostly from what I gather on this sub. I think they have it right that life is not what you see in the fairy tales, especially love. Luckily I learned that early on from my parents and grandparents, so I looked up to them for what true love is vs beauty and the beast or Cinderella. What they get very wrong imo is “AWALT” it makes me mad cuz I’m sure they hate the many general statements that are made about men, it’s just very hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:49 PM
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Clearly you need to take a reading comprehension class
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:41 PM
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It definitely matters. Of course if you have a lot going against you it’s not going to make much of a difference, but I’ve definitely ghosted many dudes on OLD because they showed some douche bag behavior. Didn’t care how cute, buff or nice of a job they had, treat me with disrespect and you get the door. My boyfriend whom I met on OLD had a douche look to his photos, but a sweet bio along with other things and so I gave it a shot. Turns out he’s the kindest, most caring, thoughtful, considerate…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:20 PM
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I’d probably say the same, like I would get excited if I was talking to a dude in a night club and he knew about anime, you know something random we both get hyped about. Maybe I’m not the person to ask cuz I don’t go to night clubs or bars often, and never would I ever just go home or bring a dude home from just meeting them that night.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 04:08 PM
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Hmm I think what makes a man exciting is building a connection with them. Finding that you have the same values, or had the same favorite show growing up as a kid. Just finding out that they are a good match is exiting to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:24 PM
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Fair enough, maybe I should say for *some women. At least for me, there was never a time I didn’t message a guy that I already matched with based off his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 04:30 PM
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Lmao well it’s not all about looks for women 🤷🏻‍♀️, just explaining that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:59 PM
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Gonna be honest with you, lots of times I didn’t message a guy I matched with on bumble because I noticed something I hadn’t when I swiped. Mostly stuff like what they’re looking for(I don’t message guys with “casual” or “I don’t know”) or they were kind a far like 20+ miles away. Never anything to do with looks if that makes you feel any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:31 PM
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I’ve tried tinder, bumble, and hinge. Tinder was a total bust and I never even met anyone in person off of this app. Only tried it because two of my friends had met their boyfriends through this app. Bumble has been the best so far, mostly cuz I met the guy I’m talk to through it. I also liked having the ability to start the conversation, made everything less overwhelming compared to tinder and hinge. Hinge was ok. I met two guys from this app, they were ok but I wasn’t interested. What I hated …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:26 PM
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I don’t believe so, however I have definitely become attracted to guys I wasn’t initially attracted to after becoming friends and learning about the kind of person they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:04 PM
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Wait wait wait…how does a guy being taller than me mean he’s better than me??
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 02:45 AM
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See you lost me when you said chubby size 4 lol, no one is ever chubby at a size 4
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 01:28 PM
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Well I’m a girl, and during highschool I was pretty chubby. Around the 170/180 range at 5’7. I never dated, but I remember some guy friends being flirty and some guys trying to ask me out here and there. Maybe cuz I carry my weight well. But after I lost weight, mens interest in me went way way up. At least that was my perception, maybe it was because as I lost weight I gained confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 06:30 PM
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I’ll just never get this idea that only average looking men are interested in relationships, and that good looking men all have harems and stuff. Good looking guys want LTRs too. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 06:28 PM
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How’d you find that video of me!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 05:02 PM
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I know that, but the way she presented it was as if video games, working out, and anime are shallow and boring in comparison to reality tv, which is just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 04:58 PM
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Uhh did you reread how your first line comes off? Like you’re attacking those interests. Don’t blame me, blame yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 04:56 PM
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Ok I’m sorry but video games, working out and anime (above all) are way deeper than reality shows. I think that’s beyond obvious And this is coming from someone who enjoys the occasional reality show like 90 day fiancé. Please do not compare those to anime. Sorry to sound like a weeb, but I’ve literally watched animes that have changed my way of thinking, you don’t get that from 90 day fiancé. (Although my 600 lb life is pretty deep) However I think the real point your trying to make instead of …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 04:44 PM
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Obviously everyone has insecurities and a healthy amount is actually good. Someone who appears to have little or no insecurities are usually the most insecure and that’s a red flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 03:36 PM
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I’d define successful dating as ending up in a LTR and eventually marriage. I guess whatever percent of people are married 🤷🏻‍♀️, not sure about that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:16 PM
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Oh she could definitely be jumping to conclusions. However he could really be developing anger issues at that age, mom probably plops him in front of a screen for most of the day and then he probably hears mommy and daddy fighting. Not to say that some positive influence and attention wouldn’t turn that around, without the need of therapy or meds. To me though she doesn’t sound like the type who enjoys her children’s company. Don’t get me wrong adults definitely need some adult socialization, bu…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/22 07:32 PM
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I love how she just throws in how one of kids already has anger issues, like it’s not a big deal or her fault??Lady you’ve already stated how you’re the children’s primary care taker, that’s on you. Guarantee she’s an iPad parent.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/22 07:04 PM
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Nah, in my opinion they’re both shallow questions, so if a woman asks for your height you have every right to ask her weight or dress size. I think asking dress size may be a little more polite. But I mean you should be able to tell if she’s slim or not based on photos pretty easily
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:08 PM
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You don’t seem nearly as bitter or negative as your OP gave off. You seem like a nice gentleman! In my opinion you need to not necessarily give up on your dreams of finding a life partner, but just put them on the back burner. As a man you’re lucky due to the fact that you have many years of fertility left, so use that time to focus on yourself. Also I’m no fitness expert, but from the little knowledge I have it’s much much better to do little to no cardio, and focus on weight lifting. Also most…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:52 PM
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Hey well we just met! Maybe just online, but still. I’ll be honest I see a lot of my old self in you, the desperation, the lack of self love(another commenter pointed that out). You think just being nice and caring is all it takes. What do you look like?(it matters, I’m sorry) What’s your hobbies or interests? My suggestion for you is to take you’re focus off finding “Mrs. Perfect” and put that energy into yourself. Build up a skill, take some classes, start working out. When you aren’t looking,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:29 PM
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Idk man maybe cuz you seem hella bitter and negative? You assume there’s no women out there like you describe, although I know many girls(including myself) who are young, in school, haven’t slept around, and decent at domestic chores. They’re out there, but you’re here on this forum whining and still complaining about a girl you met 4 years ago? The problem is your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:17 PM
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As a woman who has a good amount of male friends I give pretty general advice to all of them when it comes to dating, regardless of looks. -don’t be a simp -don’t be a meal ticket -have self respect and dignity; ie know when to drop a bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:45 PM
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Can you not lump all women into this please
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:33 PM
2

This reminded me of when clap went around my school, and everyone was freaking out. I was like ah glad I’m a virgin lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 03:29 PM
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I wouldn’t say it would change my mind from not attracted to attracted, but if I’m kind of on the fence about him, think he’s kinda cute; seeing him with a girl will reaffirm this belief because I’ve see someone else in a way agreeing with this interest. It also matters how attractive the girl is though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 07:22 AM
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Yea I have a coworker at around these stats and she’s very very slim, I mean to each there own, but it’s not a look that I enjoy for myself personally 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 11:19 PM
2

What’s even being asked here? I’m so confused
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 11:16 PM
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Reading through these comments makes me feel very fortunate to have grown up as an overweight kid, I feel like it protected me from that stuff. The first time I noticed guys looking at me sexually was after I’d lost a lot of weight my junior year of high school. I remember I started to dress more showy, and my class friend would literally always stare at my chest and make comments about how nice my boobs were and he’d beg me for nudes; at least he was my age though. I also do remember catching t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:42 PM
1

I lost it at 19 and I’m a F. I’d lost it to my first boyfriend. I had many opportunities to lose it before, but turned them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 05:00 PM
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Nah, if I have to compete for a man’s attention, I don’t want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:34 PM
1

I’m just being honest with what I like. I don’t consider it a turn off for myself, but I have a close friend who swears that if a guy has a 6 pack, it’s a deal breaker. From what I’ve seen she primarily goes for chubbier dudes. Personally I don’t mind a 6 pack, and I think a little bit of a chubby belly can be cute. I find strong arms, shoulders, and chest to be way more attractive/important than a guys core or abs. I also like to be the better looking one in a relationship. I don’t have a 6 pac…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 03:43 PM
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As a woman I’d say I have pretty varied physical interests in men. I’ve had a crush on all types of races, all body types(excluding skinny or obese), and all heights. I’d say pretty consistently though I like a strong man, who’s broad and wide. I can’t speak for all women, but a lot I’ve talked to say that they either don’t care about six packs or find them to be a turn off and I would agree. Not saying that there aren’t women who probably fixate on that, but I don’t think it’s that much of an i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:56 PM
3

Same here, I just find it easier to give that person your full attention that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 10:24 PM
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Maybe I’m just old fashioned, but since I’ve given OLD a try I usually focus on one guy at a time, especially if we’ve already gone on a date or two, and especially if we’re hitting it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 09:38 PM
2

No I like cutesy pda, like hand holding, hugs, cute kisses. Just nothing overtly sexual
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:13 PM
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Idk if this is related to your discussion or not, but I’m the kind of person who like PDA to a degree. Like if things get too sexual or touchy in public I start to feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 12:22 AM
2

Sounds like what your describing in these romance novels are things I’ve seen in the manosphere: saying women want a man who is alpha with others, but beta with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:53 PM
3

For me my sex drive doesn’t just disappear when I’m single, however I’m more than content with taking care of myself in that regard until I find someone worth sleeping with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 06:16 PM
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This couldn’t be more false 😂. I’m sure that it could be true for some women, but not for most. I’ve only had two partners and I love sex, and I’m very open minded. However I also have to be VERY comfortable with someone in order to have sex, and also be exclusive and forming a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:09 AM
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Honestly I’d stay through anything, that’s what relationships and partnerships are about. Through thick and thin. I’d only ever leave for the other reasons, like cheating or dv, things within his control.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 11:35 AM
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Not sure that’s exactly answering my question at all, maybe pose that question yourself to the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 12:55 AM
1

What’s odd about the relationship dynamic?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:20 PM
1

How do you indirectly ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:23 AM
1

How do you go about deducting your answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:21 AM
1

How does their body count influence the decisions you make about the trajectory of the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:20 AM
2

Aww that’s kind of sad. What makes you not believe them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:18 AM
0

Why do you assume that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:15 AM
4

What’s considered too low, ideal, and too high to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:15 AM
2

I’m not privy to gambling terms😅
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:14 AM
2

Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:13 AM
3

Wdym?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:11 AM
5

Could you elaborate a bit more. I wonder a lot about this preconceived notion that all women lie about their body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:11 AM
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I think it’s pretty normal to ask, especially if you’re interested in LTR. Helps you understand how they view sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:08 AM
2

How do you guess their numbers?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:05 AM
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I feel amazingly lucky when I hear stories like yours, because my mom had me at 40 and I had no issues aside from being born premature size at full term. My mom was able to leave the same day I was born.I’m sorry for what you went through with your children, but happy they’re ok now.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/11/21 02:47 PM
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I’m literally gobsmacked my her level of entitlement
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/11/21 06:50 PM
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I thought it wasn’t allowed for women to ask other women questions? Lol honestly the mods here are SO bias. I’ve tried twice before to pose questions to women and they were taken down almost instantly. What a bullshit sub tbh. Also the number I’ve times mods have deleted my comments or told me to “be nice” when I’ve not said a single thing rude. Just shows how “neutral” this sub truly is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:44 PM
2

If you feel that way, then you should probably never get into a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 01:02 AM
1

You’ve never asked about your potential partners past?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:57 PM
1

So your saying that if a girl told you about her dating and sexual past, about how she waited, it’s better to assume she’s lying? How can you start off a relationship like that? With 0 trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:19 PM
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You’re right. I think it’s fair if a girl has done that in the past to have insecurities if she’s making you wait a lot longer even with those other indicators. However for someone in my position, who’s always been slow with everyone I’ve been with(waiting around 1-2 months), then it should be more understood. If not then I’m ok cutting ties respectfully with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:50 PM
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I love this reply! So many guys will say on here that if a girl doesn’t sleep with you in a short amount of time, then she’s not interested. That couldn’t be more untrue. If a girl isn’t giving you ANY indications of sexual interest then you’re 100% correct, she’s not into you. Some just make it so black and white. For me I just can’t jump into bed with someone that fast, I also feel like it kind of makes things less fun. Like you said, savoring those first hand holds, first kiss, building up th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:34 PM
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1.) I’d consider 30+ to be high for a man. 2.) maybe disgust if anything (explained in point 3) 3.) I don’t assume high n count men are rapists, however to get that high n count as a man he’s likely scraping the bottom of the barrel, and has slept with some not so great of women (no offense), which would explain the disgust. 4.) I can’t speak to this as I’ve never been with a man with THAT high of an n count. However I wouldn’t be jealous, sort of disgusted though, thinking of the women he must …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:49 PM
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I wouldn’t police anybody on what they should do with their life. Because I don’t want anybody policing me on mine. So I just choose to not engage. All you can really control is yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 08:02 PM
1

Yea, and it’s the same reason why you do. Environment and conditioning. Stop acting like how you regard sex is any better than anyone else. I don’t. It’s so funny how righteous and accepting y’all act, so fake. How does the way I regard effect you in anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:18 AM
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I’ve always been that way, and I know a lot of women who have too. Both my exes were good looking in my eyes and we waited until we we’re exclusive/in a relationship to do the dead lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:20 PM
1

For sure, I’m always upfront and honest about that so no one feels like they’ve wasted their time or efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:19 PM
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Maybe that’s how you see it, I see it as giving them a piece of myself, my heart. If someone wants to see it as just sex, cool, no skin off my neck. Lol it’s funny how y’all just wanna make everyone see things the way you do. Newsflash; that’s not how the world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:18 PM
2

Yes because you can build an emotional connection over the course of a 2 hour dinner…right…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:58 PM
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Lol what😂 why would you assume that. Some of us just like to build emotional connections before we give ourselves physically to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:51 PM
1

Yes, because I want to be the better looking one in the relationship. I don’t know if that’s shallow, and I put a lot of effort into my looks(ie working out, taking care of my skin and hair). To be fair though I have some very deep seeded issues with insecurity especially regarding my looks. Also it’s not just guys that I think are at my level or better looking at me, I would also reject a guy that I feel is too into himself or his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:25 PM
1

I was going to say the same thing. I’ve been overweight, borderline obese and I’m sure my waist wasn’t as thin as a run way models, but in relation to my hips and bust it was small. As I started to hit the obese range I was getting more stomach, just before I lost a bunch of weight. I think my main point got really misconstrued. I’ve noticed some women get really angry cuz they are unfortunately not the type that gain like that. Even at my thinnest, when I was underweight I still had visible che…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 03:04 PM
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I feel like it’s important to take body fat distribution into this, is it an overweight girl who carries her fat primarily in her chest, hips and ass, with a little waist? Or are we talking about those who unfortunately have their body fat distributed to their waists? Feel like it’s important to a distinction between these types.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:16 PM
1

Hmm feel like that’s petty presumptuous
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:34 PM
2

What it wasn’t like a planned thing like, “yup I’m going celibate for a year!”. It just happened that way because they only have sex within relationships and have just been focusing on self improvement?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:49 PM
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Hmm ok so you’re stance is that it would be a red flag because you believe she’s lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:08 PM
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I see it this way, if she hasn’t given him sex yet why should he give his resources? Not to make relationships sound transactional, but I see it the same way that I wait for commitment for sex as a way to protect myself, guys should wait the same on dropping money on a girl as a way to protect their money. Especially in this dudes case.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/10/21 03:40 PM
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I have a similarish rule, if a guy hasn’t made it clear that he’s into me by the third date I drop. Meaning if he hasn’t made a move or confessed attraction, I assume they aren’t interested and explain that to them. This has only happened to me once, and it was so awkward to have to explain, because I would never ghost anyone I’ve been on even one date with. For sex I don’t have that until exclusivity is established, so not really determined by a # of dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 10:12 PM
1

I really want to, but I’m scared he wouldn’t have feelings for me anymore or he’s moved on. I guess I’m just scared to face reality.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/09/21 07:49 PM
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I mean everyone’s circumstances are different. That’s easy to say, but sometimes it doesn’t work out for everyone because the timing just wasn’t right. Also I’m the kind of person who’s easily overwhelmed(so I blame myself completely) and I started feeling immense guilt over not be able to give him the time he deserved for a relationship. At the time I was taking 15 credits, working 35 hour weeks, and starting a training processes to become a dog trainer and it all just became too much, on top o…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/09/21 05:00 PM
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I just wanted to clarify. I’m sure he has a different perspective, but it was pretty mutual from my point of view.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/09/21 12:03 AM
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Why are you assuming that’s the case? We had a mutual break up because at the time we were both extremely overwhelmed with our lives, me with school plus work and training to become a dog trainer. Him with work and a lot of family issues at the moment. It sucked, honestly still sucks. ETA: Also I never said he had laundry list of flaws(even though to be fair we all do). Was just expressing a key difference, I appreciated him and his flaws, not despite them. Like I found his crooked teeth adorabl…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/09/21 11:05 PM
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This post actually reminded me of the guy I last dated, he told me too I “was so out of his league” and he’d say how “couldn’t believe he got a girl like me”. I didn’t think greatly of it, kind of figured he was being flattering. Also I remember thinking he was kind of goofy looking when we first met, not unattractive though. However the longer we dated I started to become attracted to his flaws, not despite them. Find it disgusting how she lists out his flaws the way she does.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/09/21 10:06 PM
3

I feel like you can see a lot of this child’s face…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/09/21 05:13 AM
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It’s actually a snapchat filter, that’s why it looks off. I believe it also adds the piercings if I’m remembering correctly, and also thins the face and makes their lips bigger.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/09/21 02:42 PM
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Speaking from the point of view of someone with a very high libido. I still only want to sleep with men I’m in a relationship with, so I’m not sure if that would change anything. I also don’t really believe in the whole 80/20 rule anyways though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 01:38 AM
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I thought the connection of radical me too activists, and 18th century Christian women was spot on. They just want everyone to do as they say and have an input on everyone’s lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 02:53 PM
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Thank you. I should have just used the context clues 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/09/21 02:20 PM
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What’s a laadla beta?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/09/21 03:43 AM
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Personally the first thing I look at is chest, shoulders, arms, and then face. I also look for how they carry themselves(slumped shoulders vs standing up straight and confident).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 04:07 PM
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What I’ve never understood about these types of feminists is how they find it ok to shame someone for being a virgin, but it’s wrong to shame a woman for having many sex partners…like please tell me how those are any different.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/09/21 08:40 PM
1

Awww nooo don’t do it!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 12:24 AM
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Oh that makes a lot of sense. I’m still embarrassed a lot by my own clumsy-ness, but I understand the endearing attractive aspect of it when it comes to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 06:47 PM
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Hmm that’s a good point. I’ve noticed that same thing with myself, certain flaws are cuter on someone I’m already interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 05:51 PM
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Yea, I wonder why it’s sometimes considered attractive in women but I’ve never heard or seen the same thing for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 05:50 PM
2

That’s an interesting point, I wonder why that it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 05:09 PM
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I guess you’re right, but then I think of instances like adoption where a child isn’t someone’s own biological child and they still give them that same unconditional love.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 06:34 PM
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What about love between parent and child? I think that’s unconditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 05:43 PM
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I guess you have to learn to not needing to find someone as what defines you or makes you happy. Learn to be happy independently.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 12:41 AM
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Not sure the age of the OP in the Facebook post, but I feel like the age range is really fucked up and manipulative. Sure 16 could be legal age of consent in some places, but I really don’t think someone who’s 16 years old has the ability to think ahead and agree to this sort of arrangement and could really fuck up their life.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/09/21 02:30 PM
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I could be wrong but I feel like loving yourself is very universal. Yes women are more likely to get attention and admiration from social media and even peers but is that really love? For me I’ve found that loving yourself is all about finding that confirmation and validation from within and not having to rely on external sources for that. It’s about self reliance for me. I also feel like it goes WAY beyond looks. It’s a lot about accepting yourself when you make mistakes, and also about valuing…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:25 AM
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Yea imo anything that 6” or bigger is big. Isn’t the average like 4-5” or something so anything bigger than that is above average or big. I had a coworker who was a size queen and said she’d refuse any guy that was less than 9”, cuz she’s only had that and up. I’m like holy shit I’d die 😂😭
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 06:48 PM
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I’ve never read this, but holy shit her fiancé is 7”!! How big was her ex??? From my own personal experience 7” is big.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:03 PM
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I can’t tell if she actually thinks he’s ugly or she’s just bitter and randomly taking her frustrations out on him. I actually thought the dude was cute 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/08/21 04:47 PM
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I agree, I think this sub has been helpful in showing me a lot of “what not to do”(although most of what not to do is obvious). Mostly tho my eyes have been open to how horrible some women can be. I honestly thought women were a lot kinder, gentler, people before I came across this sub
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/08/21 04:52 PM
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How could this sub make you feel better about yourself and dating? If anything it makes me feel worse because the women shown in this sub are making less a less men want to participate in dating.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/08/21 03:52 PM
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I’m 5’7 I think closer to 5’8 maybe, and I have never once been rejected for my height. I was actually even pursued by one of my exes because I was a bit on the taller end. I honestly don’t think I would go after someone under my height, however if we really hit it off I don’t think I’d be quick to write someone off for their height.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 03:03 PM
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Yea EXACTLY! What bothers me even more is how it seemed he really integrated himself into that social life too…but didn’t participate. Like I’m sorry you are kinda weird if you show up to parties and just stand there awkwardly and ask people judgmental loaded questions. Why do you think he spend so much time and energy on people he looked down upon vs looking for those who shared his values?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:54 AM
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Yea I empathized with him greatly at first, but then the more I read the more I realized he put himself in those position. Like I said in my comment above, if he didn’t like partying, drinking, drug use, why did he associate and spend so much energy on these people? Additionally I lost ALL empathy for Micheal after reading the part about the black athlete. Sorry but I can’t relate to racists🤷🏻‍♀️ also it just gave me more insight onto how Micheal is an ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 04:24 PM
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The problem I have with Micheal is that it seems like he put himself in the position to be burned during his college days. The great thing about college is that there’s MANY different cultures. While the frat/sorority party culture is probably the most common and mainstream, there’s no doubt in my mind that there was some religious clubs or some alternatives at his college. Why did Micheal spend so much effort trying to turn these party girls into relationships? Why didn’t he try going for more …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 04:01 PM
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Honestly as I was reading his story I felt kinda bad for Micheal because I could relate. I’ve never been much into big parties, or drinking so it was really hard to make friends and have a social circle when I got into college. However the more I read the more I disgusted I got. ESPECIALLY the part about the black athlete, that shit made me say, “what the fuck” out loud. Additionally I could remember my freshmen year walking around on club day and seeing not only Christian Clubs, but also Christ…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:31 PM
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Well I’m pretty insecure(although I’ve made great progress here), I overthink, I care too much about what others think of me, I try to hard to please everyone, I’m overly sensitive….and that’s all I can think of, but I’m certain there’s more.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:07 PM
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A male version of me would be a Chad(fitting that’s my brothers name 😂). I’d be tall, have a good face structure, and get ripped. I’d be slayyying
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:49 AM
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I think this same thing, except if I was my brother I’d get soooo jacked. It’s so much easier for guys to pack on muscles. Aside from that I’d be tall, and have a good face structure so I’d be set.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:48 AM
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4 I’ve never had it and never want to because I view sex as an act of love and I don’t give my love to just anyone and everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:10 PM
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HAHAHA 100000% true! Hindsight is 20/20 right 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 08:11 PM
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Sharing my passwords with my ex turned out really bad for me. He dumped me, but then changed his mind and when I finally didn’t take him back he went a little off the deep end and started logging into some of my accounts, screenshoot some convos I had with male classmates and tried to frame it as me cheating, threatened to post stuff on my accounts if I didn’t talk to him, etc. So I fully agree with this. If someone wants to go through my socials or my phone I’m more than glad to unlock it and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:03 PM
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This happened to me with the guy I’m currently talking to!! I wasn’t even showing her, I was showing another coworker and she looks over and says, “eh, you’re kind of out of his league no?”. It’s just rude behavior imo.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/08/21 07:45 PM
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I wouldn’t wanna date either, anyone who prescribes themselves to a pill is kinda wack. It would be a red flag. Plus blue pills put women on too high a pedestal and red pills are kind of disrespectful to women. Either one is an unattractive way to be towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:12 PM
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Not really sure this is fitting for this sub. I have had crushes on much older men before, and they do just go away. This could be because I knew nothing would ever come of it because I’ve always been kind of marriage/family minded, and I could never see that working with a much older man. Since she hasn’t like asked you out or confessed attraction there’s nothing you can do besides giving off subtle hints that you wouldn’t be interested
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 06:25 AM
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I could be wrong because I don’t have any empirical data to back this claim. But could this gap be due to the majors that women pursue vs men? Like men typically pursue more business, STEM degrees while women typically pursue art and humanities and those fields don’t pay as much. I remember reading that the wage gap wasn’t ever due to men getting paid more for the same job as a women, but actually it was due to men holding more higher paid careers than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 07:24 PM
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Yea I consider myself “just average”, but I guess I don’t feel unseen by men and get approached quite a bit. I’m sorry for answering :(
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 01:33 AM
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I guess so, but I do consider myself pretty average/ slightly below
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 11:47 PM
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1.) I have, it’s honestly insane the amount of messages, matches, likes etc I had to sift through when I attempted to give it a go recently. Specifically used Hinge and let my profile sit for a week or two and when I remembered it I had 100+ likes, messages, roses 😂. Freaked me out so I deleted it. However I did end up talking to one guy who I recognized as a regular in my store, so that’s been cool. I just think the disproportionate amount of men to women is the problem. 2.) I think? I’ve flirt…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 09:41 PM
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Not to sound poor af but what’s EVO/GTR/SURPA?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 03:44 AM
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Honestly I’ve ALWAYS hated the, “if she doesn’t fuck by the third date she’s not attracted”, but then they shame women for giving it up too fast(by the third date is way too fast imo). Like it just presents such a rock and a hard place for women trying to navigate dating and sex. Additionally isn’t there other ways you can express your sexual attraction besides sex? With my first two bfs I waited between 1-2 months before we had sex. However before then I expressed my sexual attraction by doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 04:22 PM
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I think from a biological standpoint men want women who are of average body weight, maybe even somewhat above depending on how she carries her weight. I believe this to be true because we as humans can recognize what is healthy(for passing on our genes) and what is not. A woman carrying a lot of access body fat in her stomach just isn’t healthy and probably not suitable for having children/passing along genes with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:14 AM
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You’re completely right, just wanted to clarify that often times environmental factors do play a role, only during our developmental years though. I think that guy is just a troll though so I’m not even going to bother arguing lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 03:46 PM
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ADHD is actually unknown to whether the cause is genetic(like you stated) or environmental( for example letting your child consume tons of media like TV and iPad for hours a day). I think it can also be a mix of both, like some are more prone to it than others due to genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 06:14 AM
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Healthy diets can HELP with ADHD symptoms, but they don’t make it go away. You sound really ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 06:09 AM
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Right? Like don’t get me wrong ADHD can occur due to a mix of genetics and environmental impacts, but only at a young age, during development. One doesn’t just develop ADHD as an adult through bad habits, and it doesn’t go away by eliminating those habits. This person is ignorant af. Additionally I resent the jab at ADHD, while it can be harder for us to handle social responsibilities and emotions we are still very capable of holding LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 06:08 AM
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Exactly! Like there’s just a good middle ground of amount of ego to have. This question is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:37 PM
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Doesn’t everyone have an ego naturally? Men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:37 PM
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I actually really like it, especially when it’s from a kind older man. The other day at work I helped this old man get a 40 lb bag of litter and helped him out to his car. He said, “thank you so much sweetheart, you have a good day”. I was thinking, “aww he thinks I have a sweet heart :)”. However I totally respect if some women don’t enjoy being called sweetheart, sweetie, honey, etc. I think it’s nice though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:25 PM
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I could be wrong, but I feel like the majority of women who make that much are ones who already have fame. Like for example bhad babbie. Otherwise I feel like most regular, none famous women aren’t making as much as people may think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:58 PM
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1.) I feel like there were a lot of instances in which people dated someone just for show like, “ooo look at who’s my bf/gf”. However I also knew a lot of instances when it was genuine love and connection from what I saw between them. I think I know of one couple still together. 2.) I never dated in highschool. For the better part of my highschool days I was pretty chunky and really insecure, so even when guys showed interest it never lead anywhere. 3.) I’m not at all regretful I didn’t date in …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:57 PM
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I feel like there’s always been this weird mentality that the only freaky, kinky girls are hoes. Some of the kinkiest girls I know are in LTRs and only have sex within relationships. Myself included lmao. Just saying don’t dismiss the girls that want that traditional life, to be a wife and mom, as a prude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:25 PM
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Idk I’m a year younger than the girl filming and if something like this happened to me, my last thought would be to pull my phone out and start filming in some weird attempt to garner sympathy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/07/21 01:04 AM
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Right. I just don’t get why her first instinct is to pull her phone out and start recording? Like how does that accomplish anything?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/21 10:57 PM
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What I don’t get is why is she wasting her time and breath recording this mess? Start picking up the pieces, cleaning that junk up, and figure out your next move. This blabbering crying nonsense is just a waste of time.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/21 09:59 PM
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Girl you need to raise your self esteem, I thought you were much younger from reading this and then remembered you’re 30! And you still have the woe is me, self pitying attitude? So unattractive. Like someone said you should invest in some therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 08:05 PM
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What makes me mad is how she goes onto describe him like a surrogate father, and that they were very close. However describes his suggestion to walk her down the isle as out of left field? Maybe if he had just married the mom recently, but by her own description they were very close. This girl has issues, I feel for the man who has married her. Not even in retrospect does she how she is in the wrong.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/07/21 05:31 PM
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Right i don’t condone that kind of behavior or way of thinking, like I said I’m sure the group attracts some negative types. However I think MGTOW at its core, just men not wanting to partake in dating or marrying, I don’t see as misogynistic at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:57 AM
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I never understood how MGTOW was misogynistic. Like maybe some people who are a part of it could very well be, however the ideology at is core isn’t imo. Men choosing to opt out of marriage because they don’t see the benefit for themselves isn’t misogynistic in anyway imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 11:03 PM
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She lives like such a slob, like pick up after yourself, keep your place clean.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/07/21 04:52 AM
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I think you make a really good point, but ignore that some women who deal with similar issues in the opposite way. For example I for sure hyper-focus on my looks and self worth, but instead of over inflating myself I’ll tear myself down so if anyone else does it won’t hurt as bad as what I’ve already told myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 04:02 PM
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Danny Phantom comes to mind lol, also had a crush on Jake from American Dragon: Jake Long when I was a kid too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 05:20 PM
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I think if you’re between 5-7” you’re perfect. To be fair I’ve only slept with two guys who were somewhere between there with decent girth so I don’t have much experience to speak off of. I really can’t see why a woman would need anything larger, but everyone’s different. Happy to know that’s around the average tho, I honestly thought the average was somewhat smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 04:48 PM
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I have no advice for others because I’m struggling with exactly this myself 😭. I honestly feel quite lost in the current state of the dating market. I’m not into casual sex, but I miss physical intimacy sooo much. Im more than willing to wait for someone that I have a connection with though. However where can I meet such a person?! Im always working or doing school, so I don’t really get out all that much. Are dating apps really as abysmal as people here claim they are?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:22 PM
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The thigh grab is so underrated!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 02:52 AM
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Remembering little things about me, really gives me a heart boner. 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:58 AM
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Perfectly stated. That’s the issue that’s always overlooked. People assume you can just become more extrovert when you really can’t. You can come out of your shell a bit, but we can’t change the temperaments we were born with, such as being introverted or extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 03:56 PM
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I feel like the percentage is even lower amongst the younger age group. Something like 40%, still high but it isn’t as bad as people make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:16 AM
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Delores reminds me of this old Mexican lady I used to work at a restaurant with who had given some of the other servers bruises for not listening to her 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:57 AM
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As a previous comment said, love and companionship. I’d also like to add that for me, a woman who wants children, it’s crucial for me to find a good man who can be a good father figure. I think in our current society we are seeing lots of children who didn’t have reliable father figures growing up into some really toxic people(not all of them). That’s why I think it’s important for children to grow up with a strong mother and father figure in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:13 PM
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Not all of them, guarantee there’s women out there turning down great under 6’ men and pining after 6’+ guys who maybe aren’t the best and maybe playing them (not to say all 6’+ guys are assholes). Then going around complaining that there aren’t any good guys to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:07 PM
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I’d say it’s important for both to stay in shape, being fit helps men and women when finding someone. Additionally it’s good for not only attracting a partner, but for general well being.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:05 PM
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Haha to be fair though some girls like skinny/slim guys so if you’re reading this and you aren’t a fan of the weight lifting just know there are still lots of girls out there for you! I personally just like the idea of my man being about to lift me with relative ease.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:02 PM
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Yea, at the end of the day the women who say they want 6’+ are only hurting themselves by limiting their dating pool. Also if I were to meet a man who was shorter than me and we really hit it off(and he had some nice arms 😍) I wouldn’t just brush him off because he was short.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 09:55 PM
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Yea if you read my comment, I said “I don’t care THAT MUCH about height” I’m not like ridiculously tall or anything so I don’t see it as much of a big ask for a guy to be 5’8+. We’re all entitled to our preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 09:09 PM
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Yea, like I said, height isn’t that big a factor to me. I can’t really speak on behalf of a woman who’s 5’10. Some women don’t really mind being taller tho, especially if they are that tall and realize their dating pool is a bit more limited if they only want taller. Only thing I really care about is muscles 🤤, give me some nice arms, broad shoulders and chest and idgaf about your height.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 09:07 PM
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I’m 5’7
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 08:31 PM
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As a “taller” girl myself I really don’t care that much about height, as long as the guy is taller than myself. I think most girls look more for muscle than height, at least I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:44 PM
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Not to mention if you plan to have children it’s pretty vital to have grandparents in your child’s life. It’s very important for children to have a network of people and family to rely on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 07:54 PM
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I don’t think 4 is a valid point for all people. Isn’t it pretty normal to bond with your in-laws? They are a part of your family once you get married, if you have kids they will be grandparents to that child. I guess maybe I’m coming from a family oriented mindset, but I just found that point odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 04:37 AM
2

I don’t follow the thought process of those women who think it will help them in the long wrong. Like it’s one thing to sleep around for your own benefit, but to do it because you think it will help in the wrong run is so convoluted to me. Who told these women this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:47 AM
2

As a young woman myself I don’t really agree with this sentiment. Yes with more age comes more understanding of life, yourself, and what you want. However that doesn’t mean you aren’t well suited to enter into a LTR. Like others were saying I think it’s almost better to enter a LTR younger(not rushing into marriage), because less baggage, more optimism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:18 AM
1

That’s pretty cool! As long as I wouldn’t have to touch them I’d be fascinated to look at them and hear about their care, habitat needs, diet, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:57 PM
1

I think any hobby can be interesting as long as they are passionate about it. I think collections can be cool, outdoor activities, video games, building models. As long as someone is passionate about it and willing to teach me I’m interested. Side note: does anyone consider keeping lots of different pets to be an interesting hobby?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:25 PM
5

Yup, exactly. I mean I could kind of understand if they were actively liking all their posts and commenting, that might rub me the wrong way, but merely following them isn’t that big of a deal. Again imo it’s a either a sign of them doing something shady themselves, or they are just very very insecure. I remember with my first bf when I was 18 I got super butthurt about him following insta models, because I was super insecure with myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:57 AM
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Right! I was thinking a lot of the same. WE ALL HAVE ISSUES, just some of us are better at hiding them. It’s about really determining if a person is worth it to work through your issues together, and grow and build with one another. No one you ever meet will be a perfect Prince Charming, who has 0 flaws. Also I thought the part in the OP about a guy following insta hotties was SO immature. Like c’mon who’s really that insecure that following someone they likely don’t even know would be a deal br…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 09:23 PM
1

A guy following some thirst trap content on Instagram is a “MAJOR problem” ?… maybe you need to reevaluate your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 09:05 PM
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Because I’ve been reflecting on my past two relationships and thinking about how I went wrong, and things I could have handled differently. It’s good to have this time for introspection and just realizing the kind of person I am. Ultimately just trying to be the best version of myself for when I meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:38 PM
2

Currently single and I don’t partake in casual sex. It’s been 6 loooong months 😂. After my last relationship I decided I wanted to take time for me and just figure myself out before getting back out there. It can be hard and lonely at times, but so far it’s been an eye opening experience
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:03 PM
1

Couldn’t agree more, I think media, especially social media, with photoshop has really made it harder on people to distinguish what’s authentic and what’s basically lies. For me personally the more flawless someone looks the less attracted I am to them. I’m not talking like Quasimodo level of flaws, but idk there’s something about some acne scars, maybe a big or crooked nose, that stuff just makes me blush a little. Haha I could just be weird though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:14 AM
1

I feel like without it you’ll miss out on a lot of what is crucial in forming a lasting relationship. At least for me, a key way to bond with my partner is through sex. That intimacy and connection is what brings you closer together. I mean I guess you could still have sex with someone you aren’t attracted to, but I can’t even imagine what that would be like. Awkward and difficult I assume. People should get into relationships with people they are sexually attracted to, and not settle for someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 04:23 PM
2

1.) it’s hard to say, but probably 50% because my first wasn’t great, but not bad either. The second one was great though 2.) What made the second guy great in bed was his confidence and assertiveness. He knew what he was doing. 3.) Confidence 10000%. Also he was kinda dorky and weird which made me feel more comfortable and relaxed to be myself in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:05 PM
7

That’s on you for assuming that stuff is inherently feminine interests
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:57 AM
36

Can’t speak for all women ofc, but for me personally I’m not at all attracted to feminine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:58 PM
2

That’s a possibility I haven’t really thought of. To be completely honest I don’t know much about that kind of stuff, I just know that I’d rather raise my kids somewhere with a more small town vibe, and ultimately cheaper. That’s something I’ll look into more though, thank you for bringing it to my attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:36 PM
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I really want children, and honestly the sooner the better. It’s really down to money, and finding the right partner in which to have them with. Money is a HUGE aspect when it comes to having children, and it’s something I’ve thought about and have been saving for since I got my first check at my first job. I think it’s good that people are being more responsible and ensuring they have the funds necessary in order to give their children a quality upbringing. Edit: wanted to add that I agree if p…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:21 PM
3

Option B. I’ve never had the former, and I have no interest in it either. I know myself well enough to know that if I went with option A I’d be left feeling empty, alone and depressed. Additionally I don’t see any benefit in the first option, especially when compared to the second one. I’m not demisexual, but I don’t think I could sleep with someone who wasn’t like crazy into me and cares about me deeply.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:46 PM
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Her problem is she HASN’T become nice, feminine, or developed a good personality, at least it doesn’t seem like it based on this post. Someone with a good personality doesn’t blame everyone under the sun for their problems, but practices some introspection and tries to change within and grow. But no, it’s men and hot women’s fault 🙄.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/06/21 04:29 PM
0

Then how come I’ve heard men argue the other way around? Tbh tho no matter what anyone says I’m still going to only sleep with men that I’m forming/in a LTR with so I’m pretty unbiased when it comes to the N-count debates here. The confusing thing is, like with so many things when it comes to dating, is that everyone give different answers and opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 05:12 PM
3

Body count is such a nuanced topic imo. I’m 23 and have a body count of 2, was in relationships with both of them. I’ve been told that my body count either is good, bad or doesn’t matter. So I’m stickin with doesn’t matter 😂 It’s just funny because here the more bodies you have the worse, but irl I’ve asked male friends and they’ve told me that a girl with a lower body count isn’t good because she hasn’t experienced enough yet to settle down. I honestly don’t see what’s the big deal about it, ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:13 PM
1

Thank you for such a nice comment! I appreciate that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 04:14 PM
1

I love you attitude and self confidence!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 03:37 PM
2

Their existence doesn’t support anything you say😂, you realize their entire lives, including their love lives, is all fake and orchestrated for the media right…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 03:16 PM
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As a woman myself, the incentive for me just comes from wanting to be a good person and kind to others. Nothing to do with money. The incentive is just being kind, nothing deeper than that. Why does everything have to benefit you in order for you to do it? Rather than it being the kind and just thing to do. Stop thinking about life as what you get, very sad and shallow way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 03:10 PM
1

Exactly, I have tried online, but it just felt extremely overwhelming. I also felt really bad judging people based off such little information, made me feel vapid. I’ve been thinking of trying to go out more, maybe dancing would be nice haha, I do love to dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 09:34 PM
1

Ok that’s good insight to know. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:45 PM
3

You’re right. I’ve been realizing I need to work on my confidence quite a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 03:36 PM
1

I’m 23
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:34 PM
2

Yea but I’d ideally like to have a family, can’t exactly be single and do that. I mean you can, but it’s not the kind of life I want to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:11 AM
1

This makes the most sense so far, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:10 AM
4

I could see this 100% for an influencer to get that kinda hate, but for me I doubt anyone would put me down, again considering their mostly my friends and what not. That’s fucked up tho, gotta love how it’s fine to body shame someone as long as it’s not fat shaming :/
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:44 AM
2

I have done this but I feel like their ratings are over inflated due to being nice and not wanting to hurt me feelings :/ it’s hard to get objective answers
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:43 AM
2

Ohh ok, thanks for telling me. I mean I do get IOIs from attractive guys, but I’ve always been under the impression that it didn’t mean much because most guys want to fuck most girls🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:30 PM
3

It’s strange cuz I don’t like to think of others in a rating sense cuz I find it demeaning, but I have no problem doing it to myself 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:19 PM
1

Thank you! Yea I’m currently just trying to “fix” myself, understand myself more before I dive back in 😬. I appreciate your advice!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:19 PM
3

You’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:56 PM
2

What do you mean by line up? Like are we focusing on quantity, cuz I’ve only dated two guys. Or are we talking quality?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:56 PM
4

😂 this actually made me bust up, I don’t think anyone would say the latter to me because my followers are predominately my friends
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:55 PM
1

I appreciate your response! This helped me view things in a more sensible/ realistic perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:54 PM
1

1, so what does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:53 PM
3

I know, I really need to stop but I think it comes from a fear of being alone forever 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:52 PM
3

I think that’s my issue, I don’t really put myself out there. I mostly just spend time at work and home(something I’m working on changing), but from the short times I was on the apps I got a lot of likes or swipes or whatever, but I always figured guys swipe on most girls so I never equated it to my attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:52 PM
1

What’s that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:49 PM
3

Why can’t she just be happy for them enjoying their youth? I’ll never get why people get so jealous over others, just be happy for someone else and stop being so self centered 😂
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/21 06:48 PM
2

Yea...idk if I could withstand that kind of emotional pain hah. I mean from what I’ve heard from the guys I’ve been with I’m a 8 or a 9, however this could have been because we were in relationships together.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:24 PM
1

Right but I’m worried I’ll be over inflating my worth, I’m literally completely clueless in determining my physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:23 PM
1

That’s fair, however I have had a lot very attractive women come onto me with no effort on my behalf. However I don’t think this determines a woman’s smv/RMV at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:19 PM
1

I don’t use dating apps tho :/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:17 PM
1

Physically? I’m not sure. Personality? Not sure still cuz I don’t know her 😂, however going off what I’ve heard in the media she’s a massive bitch who beats men, so a hell of a lot better than her in that regards
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:17 PM
1

How do I stop fixating about it?? I feel recently I’ve been stuck in a rumination thinking about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:13 PM
1

I’m a woman 😂, hey but by these standards I must be fine af
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:10 PM
0

I think the problem is people forget just how subjective attractiveness is
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:44 PM
6

I think this is all about your perception of average. I know plenty of girls who are average and even below average who have a ridiculous maintenance(ie lots of make up, hair done, nails done etc). And I also know lots of above average, good looking girls who don’t need as much maintenance to look good. I think this comes more down to personality rather than looks. Is she vapid or is she down to earth?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:00 PM
3

My answer is no, and maybe this is selfish of me to think, but why is it my responsibility to teach someone how to flirt? I’m definitely not rude or cold by any means, but I won’t flirt back because I don’t want to send the wrong message.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:54 PM
1

Nope. One dumped me and begged for me back for months afterwards, and the other one I broke up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 09:52 AM
0

That’s true, but even with age I think the pretend convo in the Op is shallow as hell
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:21 AM
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These group of “friends” sound toxic af, limiting peoples attributes to just tall, or owns a bar😂. Honest what girls talk most about isn’t the status(not that it doesn’t help or that they don’t brag about this), what we most talk about is how we are being treated by them. If we brag, it’s about like a cute date they took us on our a cute little gift they got us.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:58 AM
1

Don’t know where this idea came from that for committed sex, a 9/10 woman has to settle for a 6/10 guy. I know anecdotal evidence is frowned upon, but from a self admitted 6/10 myself I’ve been in two relationships with guys I considered to be 7 or 8/10. So I’m just lost where this idea came from 😂, not to mention typically in public I see looks match couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:54 PM
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Most importantly I like a guy who is smart, someone who I can talk to for hours about anything, someone who is knowledgeable. Additionally I’d like a guy who is caring, family oriented(wants marriage and kids) and is outdoorsy. More ideally and not so much out of necessity I like a guy who is strong(strong enough to pick me up), good with their hands, and has an air of manliness. Most important is finding someone who I feel like I have a strong emotional connection with and that I feel understan…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 05:06 PM
1

Whoa idk 50% bf is pretty damn high
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:28 PM
1

For me someone who has broad shoulders, big chest, and nice arms. After that i could care less. I could be wrong, but I believe most women don’t care about 6 packs and washboard abs. In fact for myself I actually prefer a little pudge there vs abs or a flat stomach, but that could just be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:25 PM
3

I don’t even know which pill I’d consider myself, probably purple. That being said I’m very admit about splitting the bill, I think it’s just normal especially if you aren’t together yet. I would feel pressure to pay them back or give them something if he covered my tab. So I’d rather just pay for my food or split the bill 50/50. Even if they offered I would still insist(hope that’s not seen as rude?) Once we started actually going steady I think it’s nice that either them or I cover the bill an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 03:39 PM
0

And you think you can just make words mean whatever you want them to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 12:03 AM
0

I think someone needs to take their own advice 😂. I don’t dislike what you said at all, just dumb and clever are objectively opposing terms. I agree with what you said after that actually, I don’t find humor at the expense of insulting others to be particularly funny. I just disagree with the fact that someone could be dumb and clever. And feel free to like whatever women you want. Purely disagreeing with your view of the words dumb and clever in all honesty
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:33 PM
1

Clever-quick to understand, learn, and devise or apply ideas; intelligent. Literally in the definition, but go off 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:10 PM
1

Of course, knowing that there’s a time and place is one of the most important parts of humor
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:42 PM
1

How can you be dumb but very clever...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:40 PM
1

That a fair point. I wouldn’t say my humor is ever really sardonic. Not saying I can’t be sarcastic, but I don’t find it quite as funny, mostly find that to be rude. Same way I don’t find insulting and bringing others down to be funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 05:08 PM
2

Thank you. I appreciate your comment :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:49 PM
1

Not sure what “comedy funny” means. I don’t have routines or anything if that’s what you mean. It’s like I said, mostly situational and just goofy little ad libs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:44 PM
2

Couldn’t agree more, if someone doesn’t have a sense of humor I couldn’t be around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:42 PM
3

I think, at least in my case, humor is how people cope. I’ve always tried to make myself laugh even at my darkest points because, well what else am I to do. I don’t post on Twitter, most of my comedy is just silly goofy little situational jokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:41 PM
1

Isn’t this more of a question you would ask a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:20 PM
4

I’m not sure about that first part. I work with a few bigger gals and they seem pretty happy about it, even proud.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/05/21 06:53 AM
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Not to sound closed minded, but I don’t know how people can be so heavy and happy about it. Like do you not enjoy mobility?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/05/21 10:35 PM
1

I mean it is real life...Don’t get me wrong muscles are attractive, but what’s more attractive is the actual strength. Maybe that’s just me, I can’t speak on behalf of all women though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 09:06 PM
1

That’s fair, maybe being dominated isn’t what I mean necessarily. I just like it when a man is in the driver seat, and in control. I like if I’m with him and strangers approach us he’d do the talking 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:58 PM
1

I agree, no one wants a doormat, man or woman. I think kindness is really important though, and I’m not sure why so many people on here equate it to weakness. I remember the last guy I dated took me to get coffee for our first date. He opened the door for not only me, but got up from our seat and held the door open for a little old lady with a walker. It melted my heart 🥺 and made me like him that much more. I didn’t think for a second he was weak for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:56 PM
0

Honestly it’s not so much about how the big your muscles are, but your actual strength. Like if a guy can pick up heavy things, and he’s also able to lift me, that’s all that really matters. Don’t get too caught up in the actual looks of it, just focus on building strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:31 PM
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As a women myself I can only say I partially agree with this. Of course I would like a man to be kind and gratuitous, but within reason. A man who lets anyone walk all over him or is a people pleaser is unattractive to me. What’s attractive is a strong minded man, who wouldn’t take shit from someone. Additionally I want to be dominated by a man, beyond just sex. Of course relationships are a partnership and I want to be able to speak my mind, but I think it’s important that someone takes the lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:24 PM
1

Or the best way to stand in your own way. However you want to look at it 🤷🏻‍♀️😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 12:21 AM
3

Yea that’s easy to say, even though someone could easily fake commitment...and you know string someone along...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:57 PM
1

Well that’s just presumptuous imo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:56 PM
1

Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:44 PM
4

THIS RIGHT HERE!!!!!! It’s like being stuck between a rock and a hard spot! Like ok I don’t like casual sex and I need time to build an emotional connection and know that a relationship is forming with someone before I could be intimate with them. Then I’ll read on here guys giving advice to other guys saying, “if she doesn’t sleep with you by the third date, she’s not attracted”. Like there isn’t other ways to demonstrate attraction besides sex? It’s something that genuinely worries me because …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:15 PM
3

I’d agree with all those points except for the last, I think deceit from either gender is wrong and more than just “not fair”. For example, women who string men along just for free meals I wouldn’t classify as, “too bad, dating’s not fair”. I would classify it as fucked up and wrong, same with stringing along a girl making her think you have something romantic, just to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:48 PM
1

Just because I don’t agree with all the points TRP makes, does not mean I would want their ideas to be censored. That goes for pretty much all ideas imo(as long as they aren’t inciting violence). I’m very anti-censorship though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 11:48 PM
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She acts like she hasn’t already cheated, but then admits to sending and receiving “photos” (which I assume to be nudes) from other guys. She already cheated in my book 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 09:13 PM
1

I may not be a woke college girl, but I’d love a man like that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:27 PM
1

Haha why so? Lol don’t get me wrong I get how someone with this mindset could become jaded. I’ve been taken advantage of MANY times because of my giving attitude. It sucks, but I’ve never let myself become a victim over it. And as we all know being a victim is at the core of being an FDS user 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 06:01 AM
1

Right essentially that was the point I was trying to get across, my wording wasn’t particularly correct
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 11:48 PM
3

Haha I feel like love languages is a lot more valid than horoscopes, maybe that’s just me. I don’t ever feel like I need the same shown back, aside from being loved the way I like(words of affirmation/physical touch) so essentially then just some apperception is nice. I totally respect and understand how someone could feel uncomfortable receiving gifts, seeing as it makes me uncomfortable aswell so I get it. I guess my ultimate goal with my partner, and even friends, is to love them in the way t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 10:18 PM
3

Right that’s my fear, I don’t even see what it has to do with gender roles. It’s just showing love 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 09:46 PM
2

Glad to hear the appreciation! I’ve noticed that surprise too with guys I’ve dated when I’ve spoiled them or have gone out of my way for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 09:46 PM
4

Might be a dumb question, but do guys like being spoiled and taken out? I ask this because I like doing nice things for the people I care about, bringing them lunch at work, surprising them with a romantic date and foods they like. But do men like this/would they appreciate this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 09:36 PM
12

What’s so wrong with having a close relationship with your mom? Like I could understand not wanting someone to live with their mom, because of independence and all. However, how is calling your mom everyday a bad thing? I call my mom near everyday.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/05/21 03:23 PM
1

I wasn’t looking for any sort of tutorial on how to spin plates, kinda just trying to understand the logistics and stuff behind it. I’d much rather have a deep connection
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 12:15 AM
1

Right I’m just wondering why someone would still continue to date other people once they feel like I’ve made a good connection with someone. I mean how else do you expect things and feelings to develop?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 04:48 PM
1

Ok that definitely makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 03:46 PM
3

I am a girl. Casual sex and fwb world is completely foreign to me, so I really have no idea outside of peoples perspectives on here and from what I’ve heard from friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 03:44 PM
3

Ah, so you’re saying you can’t have both?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 03:38 PM
2

True, but I think for those people they don’t really have to put much effort in to keep those “plates” spinning because they’re so highly valued. I’m more looking for the “normal” persons perspective on this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 03:37 PM
3

I see what you mean, but I don’t think it’s exactly the same. Of course I love my friends and put forth effort to make them feel valued and a part of my life, but I think in order to build towards a relationship(if that’s your goal) you have to be putting in a lot of emotional effort as well. Idk it’s just different.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 03:36 PM
14

Yea I learned at an early age from my Dad the importance of communicating and verbalizing your needs/wants. I remember when I was something like 7/8, my Dad must have been really preoccupied with work during this time or something because he left really early for work. He didn’t give me the usual kiss on the forehead goodbye and when he got home I was already in bed and he didn’t come in say goodnight. I was so angry on the weekend when he didn’t work I gave him the cold shoulder. He kept asking…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/21 03:58 PM
17

Yea, exactly. You have to explain what you’re looking for early on so you can avoid getting hurt. Additionally I think a lot of girls like this expect the man to propose the commitment or exclusivity.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/21 02:34 PM
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So why didn’t she just communicate that she wanted commitment prior to sex, or explain that she was looking for a relationship? Was she waiting for the guy to propose commitment? I’m just confused how she could complain when she let things become ambiguous.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/21 02:00 PM
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Probably the ability to get casual sex easily, because I have 0 interest in causal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 03:54 PM
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How can you even list teachers and nurses with those other “professions”. Not to mention there’s many male teachers and nurses. I’m not gonna sit here and pretend that every teacher and nurse is a hero or something, but IMO both are pretty noble professions. At least I think so.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/04/21 10:29 PM
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How is an elementary school teacher the same as a welfare recipient??
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/04/21 05:20 PM
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This is honestly weird. I wouldn’t worry about those girls opinions, if they don’t believe you screw them 🤷🏻‍♀️. Also I’m 22 and only have a body count of 2, so I don’t know what those girls are on about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 01:52 AM
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This lady is looking forward to a really lonely life. The only valid red flag is maybe the last one...and would apply to her as well 😂 no?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 04:06 PM
2

What’s that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:19 PM
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Not even saying this to be rude, but actually curious. Is the tear on her outfit by design or because she’s too big for it?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 07:37 PM
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Fair enough, the people who scream the loudest are the ones heard. That being said I’ve seen quite often FAs and BodyPos influencers spewing garbage against people who have body type preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 06:31 PM
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I don’t think it’s a necessarily a matter of “deserving”, but I don’t think a fat girl and fit guy’s lifestyles would mesh well at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:46 PM
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I agree with you that people take it a bit too far with the hate of fat women(more than I’ve ever seen for fat men). However I don’t think it’s wrong for people to have preference against dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:27 PM
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I mean the girl he wanted me to be he could EASILY acquire. When we were first talking I literally saw those kinds of girls(lots of make up, fake nails, dyed blonde hair) throwing themselves at him so I don’t think it was that he couldn’t get them. My ex was pretty good looking, 6’2, buff af, cute face, so he had no problem getting pretty much any girl he wanted.In the beginning of our relationship he actually expressed that he liked the fact I wasn’t like that. I think one commenter pointed out…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 04:28 PM
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I honestly think men should focus most on their personality and increasing their confidence(which can come from improving appearance). To me if a man kind of dresses lame, doesn’t have much style, maybe has some pimples, but he’s confident within himself then he’s hot af to me. Nothing is more unattractive than an insecure man to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 04:19 PM
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Agreed! Thanks for your input
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 03:28 PM
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Exactly! See I’d rather put my time into improving my body(working out) and mind(meditation and yoga). Not to say that being into make up and working out are always exclusive. Just in my case I’d never learned the skills for make up, so I would have to take time to learn and practice, which I frankly don’t want to do😂. I have a near similar rigorous face routine except at night because I like to cleanse the day off. Also if protecting your skin is important make sure to wear sunscreen pretty muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 03:27 PM
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I mean this is kind of a stretch imo. I would argue taking care of your body(ie eating right and exercising) do a lot more for your appearance vs makeup. I do wear makeup, just minimal because I’ve never felt like the other stuff made me look better, only worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 03:06 PM
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I guess I’m just more into taking care of myself in I’d say more meaningful ways. I put that time I would be doing make up, and learning those skills, into working out and increasing my flexibility. I keep good hygiene and spend probably too much on conditioner and shampoo to make sure I have nice hair, I just don’t care to change the color.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 03:01 PM
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Yea for a bit, but my nails grow really fast
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:58 PM
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Yea I agree, I think someone in the comments made a very good point. I don’t think it was about my looks, but about controlling me. Before I would get him anything he asked for, drive him everywhere, do anything he asked. Changing myself that drastically(cuz I’m more of a tomboy) was just too far for me and I wasn’t really willing to. Or maybe I really don’t meet a looks threshold I’m not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:58 PM
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Oh trust me I pleased that man in many many other ways. I just wasn’t about to change myself for somebody. I never enjoyed make up, it’s not like I led to him in the beginning of our relationship. He knew that. He’s randomly decided one day he wanted me to look like caked up, not sure why.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:55 PM
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Spot on with the nails, I had them for a short time in an effort to appease my ex. It made working out and lifting so shit cuz I was afraid of chipping my nails and I ended up breaking one so bad it broke my actual nail bed. Never again!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:59 AM
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Ya I don’t want to generalize but also acted like this shit would be free, like no idea of how much it would cost to get all the shit he listed done.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:51 AM
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Dude! My ex legit told me, “I hate girls that wear make up and get fake nails, I’m glad you’re more authentic” and then a couple years later...🙄. Not saying all guys are like this, also not saying anything wrong with girls who wear makeup and get their nails done, I don’t think that makes them less authentic. However my ex did lowkey deceive me imo😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 12:51 AM
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Absolutely not. But that’s just me. I’m eager to please and love praise and I also love receiving that through sex. I also find it crucial to bonding and connecting with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 11:49 PM
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Why did my half awake ass think the dude in the photo was her son, then I scrolled up and it was a whole ass man 😂
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/03/21 03:18 PM
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I don’t care what kind of car a guy drives. As long as he has a car lol. If a guy is sweet and kind, but drives a bucket, I could give a fuck less. Just tells me that he’s wise with his money instead of blowing it on some fancy truck or car
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:05 PM
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Hahaha this made me smile
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 03:50 AM
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Just tired of people like you spreading false information. I mean it’s a common illness so...literally my aunt had it and she used it as excuse to pile on the pounds as well. Her doctor told her straight up that the thyroid only accounted for like 10 lbs of the weight gain. She started watching her calories, walking more, and the pounds flew off. I’m sorry you aren’t a medical marvel that defies physics🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/03/21 03:47 AM
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Hypothyroidism can only account for maybe 5-10 lbs of extra weight. The more likely reason you were that heavy is that you weren’t as mindful as you thought you were about your calories. You can still be eating healthy, but if you’re eating more calories than your body is burning you will gain weight. Your body doesn’t care if those calories are from healthy foods or not.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/03/21 06:20 PM
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Oh ok, well that’s fair then. I didn’t look that deeply into it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:23 PM
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Hmm not sure how true this holds. Both my exes are tall, muscular, handsome men. I’m more plain looking, but I have a stunning personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 10:20 PM
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Right, and then I see in the comments someone will rate a bit higher than everyone else and the mods swoop in and tell them it’s too high?? Like isn’t it their opinion? It’s almost like the want people to only exclusively rate people low. Place is a shit show imo and not “true” at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 04:24 PM
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Yea I’m not even sure how the scale works I think. I consistently thought 7 was average, but I guess 5 is? In that regard I would consider myself a 5 in face and 6 in body, overall 5.5-normie
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 03:25 PM
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I think the truerateme is kinda bs, just scrolled off a glance and they rate people so low, like this girl looked like a total 7 or 8 to me, and people were saying 4 or 5 in the comments. Even there it’s still subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 03:24 PM
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What even is average? Is it 5 or 7? I never knew. I think cuz I equate a 7 as a C and that makes me think average. I’m not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 03:47 AM
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I’m good off that, thanks though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:32 PM
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Hey sorry but how can an experience not be true? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 03:27 PM
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Right, so like gather advice from a lot of different people, observe, and then just decide what would be best for you. I guess I just feel really lost about dating and stuff, but I understand being self reliant is the best route. Thanks for your advice
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:12 PM
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Right I try talking to my mom about stuff, but she’s really religious so it’s hard because I can’t go into full details about things. I’ll give him a check out. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:10 PM
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Friends. And I have explained casual sex isn’t what I want. It’s not like they are pressuring me at all or anything, just suggesting to get over someone I need a rebound, which I don’t agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 10:57 PM
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The misspelling of developmeNt is BOTHERING ME!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 08:38 PM
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No. Because I’m not I’m not in middle school or high school anymore. Also who are your coworkers? Shit this sounds like a volatile work environment. And her marriage would be over THAT NIGHT, just by some hot girl flirting with him? I’m very curious about the relationship of the older woman and her husband, sounds like it’s already on thin ice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 06:58 PM
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I feel like if the bf who let his friend watch and nut on her actually viewed her as a gf he wouldn’t have let that happen. Maybe I’m wrong.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/02/21 08:35 PM
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I see what you’re saying, like withholding in kind of a kinky way would be fun. Really make both of you want it badly in the end. I would withhold sex for that reason. I just think if you’re doing it for nefarious reasons(ie: getting something from him) is completely wrong and kind of would ruin sex imo. Maybe I just put sex I too high of importance, I just view it in the same realm of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 05:09 PM
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Hmm ok fair enough, I can’t lie I do enjoy when a man of mine takes charge and leads. I do think I would lose interest if a man was always putting me above him. I would think they have low-self worth. I just want to be mostly equal to my partner. No one above anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:32 PM
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Lmao my aunt literally is psycho imo(she isn’t the only one I’m hearing this from btw)I was talking to her a few weeks back about my ex and some disagreement we had, she told me I should have stopped having sex with him and he would have changed his mind. That if I ever have a problem with a future bf, withhold sex. I laughed and told her I probably couldn’t last beyond a day or two...she then said that’s why you get a side piece🤦🏻‍♀️ I said that’s why you’ve been divorced three times(didn’t rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:16 PM
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Right, I just mean like pretty frequent, not like a maniac. What about if she wants to try a lot of new things that she’s never done before? Possibly things that would put you in positions where your were somewhat degrading her. Would that make you lose respect?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:12 PM
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Right that’s how I see it more, all I want though is one man to be a whore with though, if that makes sense? What I keep seeing is, regardless of past relationships. If you give your man what he wants sexually he’ll lose respect. Which kind of concerns me ngl, because I really enjoy sex, but need an emotional bond and to be in a committed relationship, or at least certain it’s heading that way before I could give myself to them. So I don’t have much sex when I’m single, but when I’m with someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:59 PM
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I agree with some of the things you’ve said, but not others. I want a man to respect me, especially if I want to build a life with him. I want his admiration and respect, I wouldn’t shit on him for it. However I also want to be in “no so respectful” positions and situations with him at the same time. What I keep hearing is that you can’t have both. After reading the comments I don’t believe that anymore. What they would say is, if you want your bf/husband to respect you, you shouldn’t give him m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:47 PM
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Some people enjoy being used tho, just saying
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:35 PM
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Agreed, I’ve never thought withholding sex was a good idea, unless it’s in order to get to know someone and that you guys are on the same page for how the relationship is headed. But to get stuff? Just wrong I had an aunt tell me(she’s been divorced 3 times 🙄) once that she really wanted a pair of earrings and matching necklace, but her ex said it cost too much. She said it took withholding sex for a month in order to get it 😂. To me it’s no different than withholding love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:34 PM
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How would these protect them? Personally I just wouldn’t be able to withhold sex. Also read about it being used to get stuff from your bf/husband. Only thing I have ever “used” sex for is to show how sorry I am or in other times my appreciation
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 12:32 PM
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Exactly, to be clear im only speaking in context of a relationship. I’ve never given anyone sex I haven’t been in a relationship with. What I’ve been hearing is over time giving sex freely to your partner will cause them to lose respect/see you differently. Which I don’t fully understand, which is why I asked these questions
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:00 AM
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Right, which is why I posed this question I couldn’t follow the logic behind the idea to remove sex either
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 02:30 AM
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Right, I’ve sort of always seen sex as maybe not the core or center of a relationship, but definitely a pillar. Which is why I’m perplexed at the idea that removing sex would improve a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 01:00 AM
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Are you sure about the last part? Because I’ve seen it even suggested that if you need/want sex to look outside of the relationship to get it.(Which is really insane imo, if I’m going to withhold sex from my partner I’m not going to be giving myself to anybody else)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 12:58 AM
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Well I’d rather be first seen as a good decent person, then as a “sex toy”😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 12:56 AM
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Right, fair enough. I just want it both with one person. I want to go out and do couple things, have fun, but also just come back home and just go at it. What I’ve heard though is that in doing this I’m slowly going to lose the respect of the man in a relationship with and eventually be only seen as sex, which I don’t quite get? Also as I’ve stated in my OP I show and perceive love through physical touch, which I know is more than sex. However pleasing my partner sexually and fulfilling their ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 12:55 AM
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I appreciate this response. I can’t see why I can’t have both.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 12:04 AM
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I swear these women have never heard of saving their money for emergencies. What happened to putting 10% of checks in savings for stuff like this!!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/02/21 06:42 PM
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Ohh ok gotcha. Yea for me it’s just annoying when people say, “women can be just as strong as men” which like ok maybe once in a while, but typically not likely without a shit ton of effort, vs men just being naturally stronger.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 06:27 PM
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I’m not doubting those women exist, and I’m happy to hear they do. However the average woman is weaker than the average man, it’s just a fact. Additionally women have to work WAY harder to build muscle than compared to men. Trust me this is coming from someone who works out regularly and it’s frustrating to go into work and still be weaker than my male coworkers who never workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 04:42 PM
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Never, although being strong af just naturally sounds fucking amazing(men’s natural strength has been something I’ve envied forever). However having to chase? Approach men to ask them out? Never no, not worth it. I’ll stick to being a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 04:36 PM
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Hasn’t it been shown matriarchal societies were just as fucked as patriarchal societies? Like regardless of ran my women or men, it’s more about what those persons interests are at heart. Greed and power or an actual productive society.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/01/21 05:47 PM
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Gotcha, and it totally happens no disagreement there. Just saying NAWALT. And it’s not like I haven’t been offered things to be paid for me either, I feel more comfortable paying for myself. Only person I really let pay for me is my Dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 07:05 AM
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I do, hate the idea of being a mooch in any regard. Always bring my own weed to smoke sessions, always ready to split a bill or offer to pay for the dinner. Think my ex only ever paid for the both of us once when we went out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 07:01 AM
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Legit just covered all my teeth with my lips just now, but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 10:59 PM
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That’s what lips are for tho, it’s really not hard to not have your teeth scrape even on bigger than average dicks
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 08:34 PM
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Why are we the same person haha. Tbh I think it’s worse when a girl won’t suck a dick, maybe I just can’t understand it cuz I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 04:38 PM
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Yea but it’s like part of sex, like it’s what gets things going sometimes. It’s like I heard once, having sex without head is like trying to start a car w/o an engine lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 04:29 PM
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I can’t comprehend that tho, like how would you not like to please your partner
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 04:26 PM
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What makes me fall out of love with a man is when I start to feel less important and less special in their life. When it feels like they stop putting in effort for you. Yes I want one partner for the rest of my life, but someone who will put in as much love and care as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 06:32 AM
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I’m a woman in my 20s with a body count of only 2. A lot of other girls around my age have similar body count so I’m not sure where you’re getting your stats from.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 02:30 AM
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I wouldn’t say annoyed, however I don’t think the quote you are using in the title is entirely accurate. It’s, “Personality matters MORE than looks.” So as not to say looks don’t matter to me at all, it’s just personality matters more. Obviously I need some sort physical attraction to be interested in someone, however that physical attraction can very well develop with someone who wouldn’t necessarily catch my eye, but has a wonderful personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:08 PM
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No, and I don’t think this is a good general example of how mothers are today or anything. This is literally a dramatized reality TV show
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 03:36 PM
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I definitely do not find assholes attractive. On this same note, I don’t find push overs attractive either. I like a solid middle ground, someone who is dominant and puts me in my place when needed, but also cares for me. I truly don’t get those girls who pine after emotionally unavailable womanizing assholes. It perplexes me too, however this 100% isn’t the standard for what all women are into.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 07:54 PM
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I’m not asking anyone to. All I ask is to not be judged because some other vegans are assholes. That’s the issue. I think not dating someone just for being vegan is as dumb as not dating someone who eats meat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:24 PM
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All it matters is that it pleases me, I’m not trying to please anyone with the way I eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:07 PM
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So because I don’t wanna be generalized I gotta fix other vegans? What sense does this make. I just want to eat the way I eat without getting ridiculed by others. Why do I have to go and tell other vegans to stop being stuck up assholes(like that will ever work). The ones who are like this I truly don’t believe actually care. It’s just virtue signaling, and desperate to have some identity. For me, I just don’t wanna eat meat or dairy, simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:39 PM
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Now a definition for a word is supposed to define every person who follows that belief. This is just dumb, yes I understand the ultimate goal of veganism goes to extend past just our own diets. However I’m not some dumb ass Don Quixote who thinks this could ever really be possible. I simply want to eat what I want without ridicule.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:36 PM
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Right! Everyone assumes because I’m vegan I must also be a feminist and part of the anti-fa or some shit. I’m like nope, just don’t like the idea of eating an animal or their biproducts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:32 PM
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I REALLY hate these kinds of vegans. Only time I’ll mention it is if I’m asked. Some people 100% make it their personality and it’s just pathetic. However please I’m telling you some of us out here just wanna eat what we want in peace and leave others to eat whatever the hell they want
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:29 PM
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Yea but not all vegans are like this, hell I don’t even tell most people when they ask me outright because I’m so afraid of the stigma it brings. I’m just frustrated with all of it, I’ve never once pushed my beliefs on others. Only time I’ll bring up that stuff is if someone asks my why I chose not to eat meat or dairy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:25 PM
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Who says you have to eat like I do though? It’s never been an issue for me, I’ve never made others eat the way I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:24 PM
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It’s honestly one of the most toxic movements out there, specifically HAES. I watched a vid about it recently, basically if you’re in that community online and you dare even mention that you’re looking to lose weight, you’re out. Even if it’s for medical reasons, you’re out, and they shun hard. It’s not the loving, all accepting community they try to make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:57 PM
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Yes lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:49 PM
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I’ve never thought of going on birth control. Heard once that it can ruin chances for fertility in the future and I was like nope, never.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:47 PM
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I don’t think they have necessarily BAD personalities, it’s just their personality types aren’t want women typically find attractive. For example most incels are shy and timid, not good at approaching women or making the first move. I agree that it is way less about looks tho. However a shy and timid guy at 6’2 won’t nearly have as many problems as someone 5’8 and shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:33 PM
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Could you also take into consideration some women don’t like to be given gifts? Maybe that could be seen as “ungrateful”. I’ll flat out refuse gifts, and wouldn’t allow a guy to buy me anything. I understand that this isn’t always the case, and some girls are just straight up entitled bitches and that’s why there ungrateful. To me gifts just seem like a tool people use for manipulation. My mom would always buy me stuff to get me to like her again after exploding on me. Not to mention she’d ALWAY…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 01:55 PM
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It’s not ok. Neither should be occurring it’s wrong to use people. Two wrongs don’t make things right. Everyone should try their hardest to treat others with respect and not use people. I know we don’t live in a perfect society where everyone will magically just do this, however there is no justification for being a gold digger. Same as there’s no justification for being a womanizer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 02:50 PM
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Lol this is so dumb, lady an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. There’s not justice in treating men like “wallets” because some men treat women like sex objects. Your logic is fucked honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 12:28 AM
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Exactly! Perfectly said. It’s NOT a gender issue. I feel like people love to make everything about either their gender, race, sexual orientation, etc. Anything to be a victim. In reality it has nothing to do with any of that and some people are just dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 05:37 PM
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My understanding of mansplaining is that it’s an idea that men over abundantly talk down to or patronize women. I don’t disagree that this men talk down to women, I’ve seen it myself. However I’ve also seen men talk down to men, women talk down to women, and women talk down to men. I don’t see it as a gender issue, more so just assholes being assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 05:34 PM
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I disagree. As a woman myself I throughly enjoy a good debate, even when I lose at least I’m exposed to a new idea or way of interpreting a situation. However, I know what you mean. When I debate some women, they do tend to take things on the personal side. Once had a girl straight up screaming and crying when were debating about right to bare arms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 05:31 PM
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Proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 12:04 AM
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Can you explain your position? I spend a decent amount of time on this sub and I don’t see men telling women what to do, ok yea sometimes some assholes, but not in abundance. If that’s how you feel about this sub then why are you even here?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 07:37 PM
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I’m on the fence, I posed this question because I was considering the fact that I don’t work with men as a plausible reason I haven’t experienced it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 06:18 PM
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Would you say you’ve noticed more men have done this vs women? Because I could give you a laundry list of women doing and saying some similar stuff. Like for example I had a manager(woman) who said I pronounced some sort of Portuguese food wrong. Bitch wasn’t even Portuguese nor has she ever even eaten the food. Just saying I don’t believe it’s a gender matter. Some people are just arrogant assholes who think they know more than everyone else. Edit: Thought of another female example. The time a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 04:18 PM
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Ugh I really hate the term, I’ve seen it used SO much out of place. Like I had a guy friend simply explaining his political beliefs regarding guns, not in any kind of condescending way. Then a female acquaintance of mine told him to, “be quite stop mansplaining”. I told her that “mansplaining” doesn’t exist and to let my friend finish his piece. It’s so aggravating at this point I want it stricken from use 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 04:14 PM
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Seems sad to me, tbh if you want some space just get a king. That way if you want to cuddle you can, if you wanna sleep further away you can. Straight up separate beds is just too much, at least for me it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 04:00 PM
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I think it’s a case of lack of security mixed with ungratefulness. I had a friend who had the FWB/casual deal going on with this dude who she’d drop ANYTHING for, she’d bring him food at work, basically simped for him if you will. I think she once explained that she was trying to show that she was, “wifey” material so he’d commit. Anyways several months later she was seeing this other guy for a while who was serious with her straight away and she would blow him off, talk shit about him, complain…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 05:54 PM
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I guess I’d consider myself from group A. Because for the two times I slept with someone I’ve wait until once we were officially together. This is because my opinion of a “top tier” man has a lot more to do with personality and charm than looks. The guys who wouldn’t want to wait for me wouldn’t excite me or turn me on so we’ve just never crossed paths 🤷🏻‍♀️. My question is, are girls who wait until commitment to have sex really as rare as the red pill makes it seem?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/20 12:00 AM
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Not at all, actually, it depends on the woman. If a woman values receiving gifts, like her love language is gift giving(more like gift receiving amiright) then it’s CRUCIAL. However women like me, or women who value other, non material things, don’t really care, as long as you make enough to support yourself. For long term though it’s important to show that you would be able to support a family, but most women don’t need to be living in the laps of luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 12:38 AM
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See my father always said, “never hit a man unless you’re prepared to get hit back”. How do so many girls go through life thinking they can throw punches with no consequence!
/r/PussyPassDenied11/09/20 04:08 PM
3

Well from someone who’s commonly described as goofy, yes than can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:50 PM
2

I like this to extent. I like to be someone’s, but not so much like owned. I’m my own individual person and I’m not anyone’s to boss around and control
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 07:19 PM
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I think it’s perfectly harmless, anyone who thinks MGTOW is hurting anyone is probably just bitter and resentful of their choice. I am curious to see how these men feel years from now when they are all alone possibly in a home with no children or grandchildren to visit. Maybe men don’t have that fear, or wouldn’t bothered being all alone at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 03:48 PM
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Wouldn’t speculate that it’s a generational thing. I just think some women want to hook up, some want relationship. Nothing to do with what generation they are
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 04:43 PM
1

??? Lol you just responded to me on another comment saying I’ll be happy in a relationship. Sorry but if you not only expect hot ass girls to give less attractive guys and chance AND to approach them you are most definitely not living in reality. It’s not entitlement, I don’t feel entitled to have a guy who’s 6’4, shredded, making butt loads of money, but God forbid if I want a man to make the first move. Look I get it, I got a fear of rejection, a big fear of it(it’s why I wouldn’t approach a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 04:21 PM
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Ok I am those things and I’ll take an average to a below average looking male, but if you think I’d ever approach a male in general for courting or asking out you got another thing coming. I’ve only had above average looking men approach me, maybe if the other guys would take some risks they’d be greatly rewarded. No it’s not great to be valued by your looks, not at all. It makes me feel like any effort I’ve made to improve my inner self is just pointless, all my funniness and quirkyness just wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 04:08 PM
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I have high standards for personality yes, looks not so much, as long as he’s not repulsive to look at. I much more value intellect, charm, kindness, and as long as he’s attracted to me and makes me feel pretty then I’m good😂. Maybe in a way I’m shallow for thinking this, but I just want to feel like someone’s prize possession. It’s conflicting because I don’t want to be solely valued by my looks alone, however I want someone who thinks I’m the prettiest girl in the room, and if that means the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 03:57 PM
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I mostly go for someone(men, women tbh I go more for looks) based off personality. So an “average” man would not be a problem for me, as long as he’s intellectually stimulates me, we have good convos etc. I guess I’m wondering are men even capable of commitment? I dated a guy for 2.5 years and he never cheated on me, however he dumped me constantly, made me doubt his love, would message other girls(never fucked them though) that knew me, send me lists of demands of things I needed to change in o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 03:42 PM
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Well fuck. Tbh what scares me about letting a man in is only being valued for my looks, which is something I currently have, but 10, 20 years from now I won’t. Not to mention most of the guys I’ll talk to tend to completely ignore my personality and only care about my looks. What I’ve noticed from girls though isn’t all the great either. Had two experiences. First one I never dated but I had a crush on her for 6 months and we flirted a bunch. Finally we got intimate at a party and started talkin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 03:26 PM
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Damn this made me so sad/scared to read. I want a partner for the rest of my life, someone I can have a family with and raise children with. I don’t know if all of what you said is all that true, but I have little experience to really counter any of what you listed. Reading this kind of stuff makes me want to only date girls
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 03:10 PM
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And you know this because you can read minds and know everything about everyone, got it /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 02:08 AM
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Same way if my brother or dad saw me naked, but there’s no sexual viability there either Also don’t know if it’s you down voting me or not, but if it is hope you realize it’s against the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 02:32 PM
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I fully understand you. It’s beyond hard to see outside of our own experiences, however making generalizations(although very fair) limits your interactions. It’s not like I myself don’t put people into boxes and jump to conclusions based on gender alone, but it’s not something I find useful. I much prefer getting to know someone and allowing them to show me what they are truly like.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 06:20 AM
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Because it would just be awkward. It’s different with my girl friends because we all got the same parts, but it would just be really strange for both him and I if he saw what I looked like naked.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 02:38 AM
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I just hate generalizations in general(lol). About women, men, race, age, sexual orientation. Just hate the idea of limiting people based on the actions of a few or even the majority. I understand though, I have witnessed first hand women using their “friendship” with a guy to get stuff from him, so I get it. Had an old friend who was “friends” with this guy who worked at bass pro who 10000% had a major crush on her(and she knew), she’d get discounts from him all the time. Once he changed jobs t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 09:09 PM
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The only instance I can think of where my nudes were “offered”, was this time I was on a call with one of my guy friends and a couple of my girl friends and I was reading through some steamy texts I had with a guy and I warned him my nudes were coming and he looked away so...idk. I mean I guess you could be right, I very well could be living in denial, I’m just going off our 8 years of history together and I just feel like if either of them wanted something more, or sexual they would have said s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 09:06 PM
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Sorry I’m unfamiliar with “NSA sex”, seen it used before on this forum but not sure what it means. I’ve never offered them sex, they’ve never asked so tbh I can’t say for sure. What I can say for sure is that they have never made a move or asked for nudes or been rude like that in any way which is why we’ve stayed friends for so long. Could you also elaborate on your first sentence? I’m curious to know exactly what you mean. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 07:58 PM
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I never said you use women Per se, just from what you said previously it seemed like a projection for either how you view others(for their uses) or that you yourself have been used quite frequently. Sorry the world isn’t as black and white as you may believe. I’m so tired of the men on here making such grand generalizations of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 07:55 PM
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Irrational jealousy, like that’s a big red flag for me now. It’s honestly just a sign of some deep seeded insecurities. Also someone who’s not comfortable being themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 03:52 PM
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Then don’t respond at all
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 03:41 AM
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I guess? I mean can’t I guy not be getting any action and not be starved for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 09:17 PM
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One of them has a gf, the other has been struggling to find a date recently
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 09:07 PM
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Not even replying to what I said lol. I’m confronting your generalizations of women. Not here saying all women are great beautiful creatures and any man would be lucky to be friends with one. What I’m trying to say is the generalization you make about women being selfish users is just as dumb as the generalization that they are all amazing. I don’t get how people don’t understand this? Pretty straight forward
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 09:05 PM
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That’s interesting because just last month I helped my male friend move his stuff out of his apartment because my car is much larger. You right tho, you and your friends experiences with women define how all women are /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 08:40 PM
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Maybe because for someone like me, growing up a Tom boy, I never felt like most girls accepted me. I’d say some gross thing and they’d be all weirded out. Even from a young age I liked hanging out with boys, we had similar sense of humor, common interests, and they didn’t judge me. Now I will admit when I lost weight in highschool and I guess “came into myself” if you will, it did muddy the waters for a lot of my male friendships. However the quality ones, genuine ones have stayed true for years…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 06:34 PM
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Sounds like you’re projecting a lot. I don’t see my friends(male or female) for their uses. I see them for how we click and connect, and enjoy time together. I’m there for them if they need to talk, as they are there for me. We support each other because we understand one another and can relate to a lot of similar issues(ie: social anxiety, adhd, etc). Tbh you sound really sad, sounds like you only see people for how you can use them...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 06:29 PM
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Interesting, one of us knows them, the other doesn’t 🤷🏻‍♀️, but who could be right 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 06:23 PM
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I dont find this to be the case with my male friends. Unless they've just never voiced it, to me it seems they are beyond content with our friendship. It could have a lot to do with the fact that ive always kind of gotten along with guys because my best friend growing up was my brother. Always sorta had that crude sense of humor
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:02 PM
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Lmao 100% guarantee I wouldn’t sleep with my friends, not because they are ugly or anything, but...we’re friends. Honestly lock us together in a room for two weeks and we’re coming out with a shit load of raunchy inside jokes 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 04:53 PM
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Exactly, which is why putting someone in the friend zone to me isn’t really friendship, just a kind way of letting them down nicely. A true friendship can never really work starting like this because whoever got friend zoned will always want to move out of the friendzone. They have no value in making a good friendship, and likely the other person didn’t even want to be friends, but let them down gently.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 04:44 PM
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Happy for you! Everyone deserves a friend like that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 04:37 PM
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What’s up with guys like that? Do they just not have the mental capacity to see women as something other than sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 04:37 PM
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I’d be kinda skeeved out tbh. I mean especially if he brought her home. I’m sorry but a prostitute is not someone you bring home to meet your mom 😂. If he was an adult, hooking up with prostitutes, being safe, I wouldn’t really care, it’s his life as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 04:32 PM
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True, I’m sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 09:54 PM
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And that justifies baby trapping someone? Not the only example I have. My cousin was with this guy who poked holes in their condom so she would get pregnant, she never even wanted kids and if it wasn’t for her Dad being a pastor she would have aborted it. Just saying can we stop acting like women are the only ones trapping people in relationships with babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 09:52 PM
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Hey to be fair this happens to girls too. I never enjoyed the feeling of a condom so my ex and I only ever did raw. He used to beg me to let him cum inside me, begged me to have his kids. He later even told me he wanted me to have his kids so I’d have to be in his life some way or another forever. Once he told me he was gonna cum in me and he held me on top of him, like I couldn’t get off. I looked him straight in the eyes and said, “if you cum inside me and get me pregnant I will abort the baby…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 06:18 PM
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Not at all, although to be fair I’ve never been propositioned to date anyone with kids. However if it were to happen I’d say as long as the kids weren’t teens yet and he didn’t have baby mama drama I’d be perfectly fine with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 06:14 PM
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Yup that’s what I tell myself, I don’t want these things to control my life and they definitely don’t to the extent they did say 3 years ago. I’m a work in progress
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 06:44 PM
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I wouldn’t say I have so much of an issue of always being in a mood, I actually have a happy positive outlook on most things. What I struggle with is taking criticism too personally, really taking most things too personal is an issue for me. I just get my feelings hurt pretty easily, has a lot to do with RSD(Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria). Also suffer from a lot of pointless anxiety, like why am I getting anxious about going in to look at mattresses? It’s so draining.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 06:36 PM
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Yea 100% and I have, it’s still hard for me as someone who has ADHD to not let my emotions overwhelm me. Definitely something I’m mindful of, whenever I do start to feel irrationally over emotional I try to ground myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 05:06 PM
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Pros: I’m conventionally attractive, I’m very generous with those I care about , I’m empathetic, I’m funny Cons: I’m sensitive , I have trouble controlling my emotions , I’m insecure As far as status goes I’m a broke college student so I don’t have much of a status. For possessions uhhh I have this really cool thing that can turn veggies into pasta. So I could make cucumber noodles.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 04:48 PM
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It sounds like you perceive and give love through physical affection. If he’s not giving you enough it isn’t a matter of him not being good enough or whatever it’s just an issue of non-compatible love languages.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 09:26 PM
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Yes yes 1000 times yes. Only because I deeply value their outside opinions. It’s good to get an outsiders perspective. With my ex I thought for so long that I was the issue, that I made him angry, it wasn’t until I hung out with him and my friends and they later told me how much of an ass he is that it really clicked for me. Now it’s also important to form your own opinions and to make your own choices in life, but always take an outside perspective into consideration
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 04:40 PM
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I’ve asked a friend of mine before who’s only 5’2 and insists she doesn’t wanna date below 6’2. Her reasoning is because she doesn’t want her children to be short, she wants the tall genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 04:29 PM
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Oh sorry, but still I’m not some girl with some superiority complex, thinking I deserve 10s and 10s alone. Just happens the men who’ve been interested in LTRs with me are attractive, while conversely my experiences with men trying to just get me in a room, go to their car, etc have all been average to below average looking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 02:49 PM
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You read above the portion you quoted? Men who’ve been interested in LTRs with me have all been fairly attractive by conventional standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 02:23 PM
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No, I’d live for this right now. Recently broke up with my ex around 3 months ago and even after blocking him I still receive texts from random numbers from him. I mean it would hurt if he didn’t care, but I’d much prefer that than want I’m going through now. Ultimately the ideal would have been some care, reflection, but an understanding and moved on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 10:35 PM
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Hmm so I guess you’d assume that a man who has had his chasing days, slept around, and now is ready to settle down motives are of laziness and not derived from, “finding the one” ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 05:15 PM
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Ok I guess that makes sense, but weren’t you implying that men have a reach a certain age prior to looking to settle down, even if it’s their “dream girl” ?.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 04:17 PM
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So why did an attractive 18 year old man want to commit to me, and continued to want to for nearly 3 years? We didn’t break up because of infidelity or commitment issues. So I’m trying to figure where your “logic” fits in real life, at least my real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 04:10 PM
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What do you mean the men interested in a LTR with me would turn my stomach?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 01:21 PM
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That’s a good point👍
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 01:55 AM
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So you don’t believe a guy could go from being into the hook up life, to then later want LTRs?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 01:44 AM
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I haven’t really noticed that in media, but what I will say this, when I broke up with my ex he was the “crazy stalker”. I had to block him because it was too much, but he would continue to message and call me from random numbers begging me to talk to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 06:10 AM
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Maybe I just see a lot more women getting turned down for their weight vs men, could just be my perspective though 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 07:41 PM
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I mentioned that, however I think it’s important to take into account that it’s harder for some than others to lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 07:30 PM
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That’s a good point, so you don’t believe anyone could ever get over that fact(weight or height) even if the chemistry is really good?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 07:23 PM
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This kind of happened to me, my whole adolescence I was overweight/borderline obese(pretty much obese at some points). I ended up losing weight, working out and looking good around 17/18 years old. Honestly it was weird, I wasn’t used to the male attention and I tended to shy away from it. I didn’t really know how to respond to this new attention because I wasn’t equipped with those kind of tools, nor was I ever really exposed to it throughout much of my high school experience. I never felt like…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 03:44 PM
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I agree, which is what I kind of always hated about mainstream media, the whole idea that a guy has to make all the romantic efforts. However this doesn’t mean women, like myself, and many others don’t exist who want to shower our SO with love and affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 05:10 PM
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Idk I think it’s objective that being narcissistic is a bad thing. I mean it’s typically defined as being self centered and only caring about your own wants and needs, are those positive things? I personally don’t think so. I guess I just assumed being narcissistic is a bad thing, but we all have our own perceptions and opinions to everything
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 05:05 PM
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I don’t know about this, as a woman myself I actually really want to make a man feel loved by me in any way I can. Like I’d love to serenade a guy, or surprise him with his favorite flowers, hell id even propose if he was the one. I understand I’m not in the majority, and it’s true a lot of women care more about their own feelings than a guy’s. However to blatantly say, “Women do not truly love” and your other generalizations, like all women are narcissists is really a stretch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 03:19 PM
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Not too often, probably cuz when I start getting one word answers I assume they aren’t interested and stop talking
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 04:02 PM
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Wasn’t really awful, I mean yea looking back she could be the root cause of why I have such low self esteem, but hey at least I know how to cook and clean if I ever get a man 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 03:58 PM
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I’d say pretty heavily. My mom would constantly say stuff like, “if you give the milk out for free, no one will want to buy the cow” and so I’ve always kind of remembered that. She also used to make me cook and clean a lot as a child because, “you won’t be able to get a man with your looks”. So that’s influenced me to be aware of what I need to bring to the table relationship wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 03:53 PM
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Honestly, yes. I’m about 5’7 130-140, and ideally I’d like my partner to be stronger and bigger than me because I kind of like that protected feeling, idk hopefully that doesnt make me shallow
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 04:38 PM
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Yea that username was taken :/ otherwise I would have gone with that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 03:16 AM
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1) 1 2) 22- Female 3) one LTR 4) I’m actually unsure, I’d say introvert cuz I’m INFJ/P but I do get a lot of pleasure socializing in small groups or one on one 5) 10 ? Fine with the amount I’ve done (?- because I’m 10/10 with the amount but I do often regret how long I stayed with my ex, but I’m not entirely sure if that was your point in your question) 6) I’m pretty agreeable, depends on the situation I guess though
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 02:35 AM
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However I think the girl has a right to know, if it was the sex that changed your mind, don’t spare feelings, but straight up and say. “Hey I really like you as a person, but I’m sorry I just don’t think we mesh sexually, and that’s an important part of a relationship for me” and if she still thinks you used her that’s on her
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 05:50 PM
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I didn’t say that lol. Just saying for me at least I wouldn’t ever have sex with anyone without being in a relationship first. I think you have every right to change your mind, hey maybe she was your dream girl based on the convo but the sex was just awful for you 🤷🏻‍♀️ it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 05:46 PM
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I think that’s why I wouldn’t jump into bed until I was certain I wanted to be with her. I understand wanting to figure out sexual chemistry, and why that would be a important part of wanting to be with someone. However can you not figure out sexual chemistry through talking about what each of you like?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 05:38 PM
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Yup that’s why I tell my friend to swipe left on any girls with obvious filters, that’s where they really get you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 05:26 PM
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I’d say so. Not to mention they seem to have better luck with girls in person vs on OLD apps
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 01:05 AM
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ehhh idk about this. I've noticed that a lot of my guy friends somehow look worse on OLD apps and sites. They use horribly awkward photos of themselves and their bios are always a little off XD. I do my best to try and help them out, but i can only imagine how those are doing who don't get help. What im saying is though, i dont think OLD determines someone SMP AT ALL. Men think they are lower than what they trully are, and women think they are better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 11:23 PM
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Not myself, although i am addicted to weed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 04:15 AM
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I do a bit, obviously not to the full extent of only being important to them because of my looks. However I don’t think many girls mind being shown off, at least not me. I’d find it very complimenting if I was with a guy and he wanted to show me off, like almost a prize in some sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 03:31 PM
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Clearly you don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 06:28 PM
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It’s not though, I asked about moms not dads. Learn how to read
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 06:00 PM
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If you TURN gay then you aren’t!!!! Omg how do you not understand that?!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 05:59 PM
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Yea but how often are those men single fathers? Yea it happens but what’s far more common are bitter single moms who hate men projecting that hatred on innocent children. I don’t disagree with what you’re saying is horrible but you are totally off topic here. Did you read the OP? Stay on topic please
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 12:52 AM
2

Mind explaining why homosexuality can be found throughout animals in the wild?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:12 PM
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Then he probably isn’t gay, no one turns gay. You’re either born gay or not
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 10:54 PM
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I’ve noticed this too, and they always have this air of wanting to please women, like overly much. Kinda like a pick me guy version. I resent the term, but they basically become betas if never red pilled and it’s frankly sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 10:51 PM
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Turned gay? No one turns gay, do you mean maybe his mom forced him to be gay or he has to be gay around her in order for her to not hate him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 10:41 PM
2

I’d like to think something like that would happen. Right now I’m afraid for all the young boys that will born to the girls who say, “men are trash”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 09:55 PM
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Idk I’d beg to differ, I’ve noticed even if these men are physically attractive, the lack of male energy and dominance will eventually lead the woman to leave. He’ll still get laid tho
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 08:58 PM
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Yea I totally think there is a balance, and like I mentioned in the OP I don’t think all feminists hate men. Just specifically the radical feminists I noticed, especially when they are bitter single mothers, tend to raise their sons to become very man hating-and therefor self hating individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 08:55 PM
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Yea that’s what I mean. Like I really don’t understand what’s going to happen when these, “all men are trash” girls grow up and possibly have a son. Will they hate them? Maybe not consciously but I feel like they will always be bitter towards them and the son might develop some deep seeded self hate, which disgusts me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:36 PM
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Yea and it’s just as wrong as raising your child to be gay.. how aren’t you getting that? Are you a child or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:33 PM
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Yea I agree some gay men are shit some aren’t. Maybe because being gay has nothing to do with how you are as a person...that wasn’t the point. Raising a child with the intention of them being any sexual orientation is wrong. Not to mention you hate men, so if you hate men how will you feel about your son...? Yea let that sink in
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:32 PM
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Wtf is wrong with you??? Intending your child to turn out gay!? That’s just as wrong as raising your child and intending them to be straight. You should be sick with yourself, you never deserve children with your selfishness
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:25 PM
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Only been with one for around 2.5 years and I learned to be more guarded and not take people for what they say all the time. I also learned that looks aren’t everything, he was like a 9/10 looks wise in my book. I learned that intelligence is far more attractive to me than looks, because looks will fade and I want a partner who’s always teaching me something new. I also learned that men can be CRAZY obsessive. Lastly if a guy says he loves you after knowing you only a week, it’s a red flag. Addi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 03:04 PM
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As someone who has ADHD some of this is pretty spot on. Except medication isn’t always the answer and can actually cause more harm than good, but you’re right about a healthy diet, that can help tremendously. Additionally those who have ADHD, well at least myself, find socializing with others and connecting to be very challenging as well. Also “helpless in learning” is way off the mark. While those with ADHD can find it hard to function in traditional classroom settings because of distraction, A…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:26 PM
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Would you, and most men, consider ADHD a mental illness?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 05:10 AM
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Ohh I fully get that, I think a lot of ladies forget about wooing the guy and think only about them wooing her. Good luck with your gal bud 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 05:08 AM
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Honestly hard pass for anyone who uses the term “adulting” 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 05:05 AM
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Ohhh ok well put. Thank you. I too agree women in this age destroy their “value” without caring or even knowing now-a-days. Then they complain that there aren’t any good men, but don’t ever take into consideration what they bring to the table
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:54 AM
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Sorry, thank you for stating your answer so well. I appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:52 AM
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How would you say women destroy their value? Sleeping around? Additionally I didn't ask how to become a HVF, just what qualities do most men generally feel HVF have.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:30 AM
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Same! I’m confused as well. Women have been complaining for decades about objectification. But take one look at Instagram and thousands of girls plaster their ass all over their page. Not to mention Only fans. I could be wrong, but isn’t only fans LITERALLY the definition of objectifying yourself? How is putting a price on your body and selling nudes not objectifying?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:33 PM
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Do you you have to sleep with every guy you see as a potential suitor in order to determine if yall would be compatiable sexually? I can get this to some extent, but i always felt like a good deep convo about sexaul interests and kinks could do the same trick.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 06:28 PM
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I couldn’t agree more, I think it’s because of this age of social media
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 03:44 AM
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I’ve noticed this a lot with my older friend who’s approaching her 30s and has an unreasonably long list of “demands” for her future husband. It’s seen as “not settling” but what’s confusing is her top priorities are looks... Don’t get me wrong physical attraction is important in a relationship, but if you’re thinking long term, like marriage, wouldn’t personality be more important?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 09:30 PM
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I’ve noticed this too. I feel like as a girl who’s taller than average it can actually be seen as a negative. DEFINITELY NOT TO THE SAME DEGREE AS SHORT MEN, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 06:04 PM
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It’s just insane cuz there’s some really nice guys who are a bit shorter than average, and those men would still be taller than a lot of my short friends!!! But noooo, “real men are 6’ and taller” as some of them have said before.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 04:58 PM
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I’d say 5’8+ only cuz I’m 5’7. What drives me up the wall is hearing some friends who are about 5’2 saying they won’t go below 6’ 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 04:52 PM
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I agree he should have updated, but this girl is also notorious for shaming men on her twitter, I think even once shamed a dudes dick size :/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 03:04 PM
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Totally thought this was gonna be in response to that twitter post some girl made claiming she got “catfished” cuz his photos online were like a year old and he had put on some weight. Totally shamed him on her Twitter where she has 20k plus following, disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 02:50 PM
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I think a guy is really sexy if he has a way with words and big vocabulary 😂 no clue why
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 08:02 PM
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Him being your favorite person is what’s most important, not what he looks like or what others say. This being said, I hope you have known each other for a decent amount of time, don’t rush into anything because you are still young, don’t want to get married and realize you’ve made a mistake. My advice is to take your engagement slow, don’t rush into marriage. Finally do what you think is best for you, not what everyone else is doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 05:14 PM
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This is sooo subjective though, truly. For me I admit that a persons face being cute is a pretty big part of attraction for me(but I find really random things cute),that and a guys strength. Could care less about a six pack or being 6’ plus or whatever. What I truly care about is good personality, and I think that goes for a lot of girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 07:30 PM
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To be completely honest(from a woman) the thought of a man paying the whole bill on the first date would make me nervous and feel like I’m obligated to put out. I’d much rather split the bill, and I know a lot of women who feel this same way
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 06:13 PM
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I’m sorry I’m not familiar with what that means
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 01:05 AM
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I know I get that, however I’m not sure if men would still have a problem. I broke up with my ex a few months back now and have been pretty petrified to get back out there cuz I’m convinced my ex was the one of the rare men willing to wait. I’m afraid to get back out there for many reasons and I don’t feel like causal sex would bring me anything but an empty feeling, I mean I can’t say for sure it would because I’ve never had the experience but I know that for me to feel like I want to have sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 07:39 PM
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What about women who withhold sex until they feel like they have an emotional connection with you, speaking from a girls perspective who’s only slept with one dude whom I dated for 3 years. I’m scared that moving forward guys will not want to be with me because I don’t feel comfortable having sex until I’m emotionally bonded with a person, worried no one would wait for that with me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 07:54 AM
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