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| 2 | Im struggling without hingeYeah bro, not gonna lie, I’m probably going to go inactive once the summer ends. I thought I’d enjoy it first but these dates are low key taking up my time lol | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 11:45 PM |
| 8 | Im struggling without hingeNot gonna lie, if Hinge was working for you, I’m not really sure why you’re dropping it. I guess you’re scared of getting banned or something, but I’ve been in and off of Hinge for over 2 years; I’ve been fine. I have a p busy job where I travel a lot, so with Hinge it’s easier setting up short-term things in advance. If it works for you, there’s no issue in fixing a nonexistent issue. Usually…people who get banned aren’t telling the whole truth. They probably said something rude or just had a p… | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Im struggling without hingeNot white either (black) and I live in a big city. I’d say I get around close to 10 matches/week (lowest week was probably 3 matches) and have gone on dates with a new person every week this entire summer, even when traveling in Asia and Europe. Haven’t had to drop my standards at all | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 07:44 PM |
| 31 | Thoughts on Uber money?I’ve probably had over 40 dates so far this year and never had anyone ask me to do that before ngl. I would advise you on figuring out how to seek out different types of women | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Set Up Date with Person who doesn’t seem interested, should I cancel?I’m expecting one of them to go into further action lol. And I don’t know, I usually plan multiple dates on the same day just in case someone cancels. This time it just seems many people were available Saturday | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Set Up Date with Person who doesn’t seem interested, should I cancel?Idk, I haven’t been catfished unless someone uses old pics and I always do a little background check before meeting up with them | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 06:11 AM |
| 5 | A Different Perspective on Why to Get a Women’s Number ASAP when on dating appsHonestly my profile isn’t too special, but all my photos cater to different types of women. For example, I have a cosplay photo for the nerdy women but I also have a photo of me in a casual fit a fancy restaurant for women who think they’re more upscale. I make sure all of my prompts have humor or are interactive. | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 09:15 PM |
| 3 | A Different Perspective on Why to Get a Women’s Number ASAP when on dating appsthat’s not a pro-tip dawg, no part of the game should be using ai | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 06:11 PM |
| 2 | A Different Perspective on Why to Get a Women’s Number ASAP when on dating appsHonestly, some of these women are pretty chill. My date two days ago offered to split the date, which I wasn’t against at all. Since it’s summer and I recently moved to this area, I’m just living it up right now, but I’m going to dial it back pretty soon😂 | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 04:17 PM |
| 2 | A Different Perspective on Why to Get a Women’s Number ASAP when on dating appsYep! I make sure to plan the date first, so I’m not wasting my own time giving out the number. And then I ask her contact information after | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Being too quick to unmatch and how to navigate flakiness?I don’t converse with them a lot honestly lol. Maybe after like 3-4 texts, I go ahead and plan the date. Many of these profiles are uninteresting and too low-effort (from my perspective) to respond to and the successful dates I’ve had, I planned pretty promptly as well. I also copy and paste the same lines, so pretty low-effort on my part admittedly. | /r/seduction | 28/06/26 10:26 PM |
| 2 | Being too quick to unmatch and how to navigate flakiness?I unmatch with them because I heard (and I don’t know if it’s true or not) that the algorithm favors those who interact with the app, both positively (matching) and negatively (unmatching).😂I want to get at least something out of our interaction | /r/seduction | 28/06/26 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Seoul GameProbably one of the most introverted and xenophobic SEA countries you could go to tbh. Night game is your best bet. Day game, you’ll most likely be ignored, Korean culture is very introverted, both towards their fellow Koreans and especially foreigners. If you cannot speak Korean, you’re extremely at a disadvantage, many of them stray away from any awkward interactions. | /r/seduction | 31/03/26 09:25 PM |
| 1 | What’s the “right” amount of forwardness on dating apps?It’s pretty hard for me; I can try though. ! I don’t want to waste my time with a conversation i really don’t care for to end up not going on a date with someone. It sounds petty, but it’s just a waste of my time | /r/seduction | 21/03/26 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Advice on seducing Chinese women and other conservative women?Black dude talking to Chinese woman right now. Honestly be yourself and ask about her culture, she’ll be excited to share. I will say sarcasm will probably translate poorly if that’s your kind of humor. However, the more you guys hang, the more she’ll understand you. Another point, depending on how she grew up, she’ll most likely seem kind of timid and very respectful in public. Many SE Asians are socialized in that regard, but they’re able to let loose behind closed doors. If possible, try to t… | /r/seduction | 15/02/26 10:56 PM |
| 6 | What's the most women you've had in your roster at any given time?5 but I was in college taking light classes that semester. I had a lot of free time on my hands, but it was emotionally draining. Max I can do now is 3 and even that’s pushing it with my current schedule. Comfortable at 2 | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 05:17 AM |
| 9 | How to respond when someone tells you “You’re way out of my league?”I replied “Better to test the waters then” and she sent me her number, glad i didnt fall for the trap | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Dissatisfaction and Emptiness with Current DatesI used optimal, but really I meant someone who more-so matches my preferences. I have the dating experience; I know what I want and I know how realistic what I want is. Now I just have to do the means to find it | /r/seduction | 09/01/26 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Dissatisfaction and Emptiness with Current DatesNot so much. Just on dates with personalities and personal preferences I just don’t see working down the line | /r/seduction | 09/01/26 03:26 AM |
| 30 | Reaching out to Ex out of Pure Boredom?Sounds like you just want to fuck your ex bro or add her to your roster😂If you got nothing to lose, I’m all for it | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Dissatisfaction and Emptiness with Current DatesI don’t think my expectations are unreasonable or too high, nor am I blaming the women I’ve been on dates with. I just know what I want and haven’t found it yet, I do take responsibility as to why I haven’t found it…maybe my methods weren’t the most efficient | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 06:26 PM |
| 7 | Dissatisfaction and Emptiness with Current DatesThat’s fair. Initially I set up my profile to try to appeal to all different types of women just to maximize my matches. In hindsight, this probably attracted many people I knew I’d have no interest in | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Black men trying to find Japanese girls in Tokyo doomed?How easy were hookups? | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 09:56 AM |
| 3 | Black men trying to find Japanese girls in Tokyo doomed?I am in Japan right now lol. Not too interested in hooking up here, so I haven’t made a good effort, but many women here just aren’t interested, on dating apps and in-person. I think there’s going to be some R&B party tn, so if you’re looking for Japanese women open to black guys, I would go there | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 03:00 AM |
| 5 | Black men trying to find Japanese girls in Tokyo doomed?That’s not it…Japan is culturally a whole different scene. Most are just not interested in foreigners, both black and nonblack | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 02:44 AM |
| 5 | Black men trying to find Japanese girls in Tokyo doomed?You’re at a severe disadvantage. My tinder and Hinge profiles work pretty good in America and western Europe, but in Japan, the likes I get are sparse. As for the women tourist who come to Japan…many of them are only here for Japanese men. I would just go to the tourist clubs in Tokyo right now (Zero, Atom, Baia, etc.). Japanese women are shy, but some are at least open to conversing with strangers. Honestly, I’d just enjoy your time here because you’re pretty cooked🥀 | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 02:42 AM |
| 9 | After the first date when do you text a woman asking her to a 2nd date?If the date is going really well, I’ll just actually ask in-person. And normally, if the woman really enjoys the date, she’ll text something a few hours after like “I really enjoyed hanging out with you and look forward to hanging out again!”. Honestly, my rule is, if she doesn’t something close to that after the date, I’m not going to bother on asking her out again. Even if it’s only a couple bucks, I’m the one who probably planned and paid for the date, so I think being open is the least she c… | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Why do Women text me at the Same Time? (Periodic and Seasonal)Oh I totally agree with that. I find it that most women are not time conscious or logical in when they are open to meeting men | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Why do Women text me at the Same Time? (Periodic and Seasonal)Same, usually happens to me. I have my low scoring periods and then suddenly I’m like prime Harden averaging 30+ | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 05:45 AM |
| 4 | Why do Women text me at the Same Time? (Periodic and Seasonal)"Hive mind behavior," I was honestly going to say the exact thing in my post, but I didn't want to seem crazy lmao. Totally agree | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 11:27 PM |
| 39 | Advice on seeing girls in the 30-40 age as a 20 year oldJust talk to them like a regular person —don’t put them on a pedestal. I’m 22 and have hooked up with 2 people in their early 30s. If you’re confident in yourself, they’ll go for anything. Just never point out the age difference. If they bring it up, that’s different; in that case, roll with the punches and make a joke of it. | /r/seduction | 06/11/25 06:33 AM |
| 11 | Girls take a day to respond.Not gonna lie, I take around a full day to respond as well, so I do’t view it as a big deal. I’ve had successful first dates where we only talked once a day prior. Two days is the cut-off for me; I won’t give any attention towards someone if they take that long. But as others are saying, make sure you have multiple eggs in your basket | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 04:49 PM |
| 1 | How to meet women organically over social media and dating apps?I’m honestly not a club person, so not too much feedback for clubs. I think there’s far more fun and chill people at bars, and clubs are usually expensive for no reason. And ye, I wouldn’t show off the backne. You could dress as someone from a TV show or do something absolutely crazy if you’re willing. Saw someone dressed as a sperm cell last night and that got a ton of laughs. | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 05:52 PM |
| 4 | How to meet women organically over social media and dating apps?Nah no one’s gonna think you’re fun man. It’s Halloween, dress up. If you have a good physique, make sure to show it. If not, make sure your costume is funny or creative | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 05:35 PM |
| 17 | How to meet women organically over social media and dating apps?Dawg it’s about to be Halloween wknd, just go out with a group of friends for the next 3 days and ball out. All the sluts are gonna be outside | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 02:05 PM |
| 10 | Guys Who Have Brought a Women a Car how did it work out ?Dawg, suckers like you is why the game has changed. Please don’t buy any woman a car unless she is your wife or mother | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 01:30 AM |
| 2 | Which large US cities are the worst for pick up today in 2025?My fault, skipped over the day/night game. But if dating apps work fine for the individual , they work. I travel frequently and dating apps are an easy way for me to pick someone up. But it’s pretty much harder on those apps than in-person—you’re pitted against a disproportionate amount of guys to a much smaller group of women. | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 02:53 AM |
| 8 | Which large US cities are the worst for pick up today in 2025?I’d disagree with this. Nashville, Boston, and NYC are all cities I’ve done well with, mostly through Hinge | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 02:23 AM |
| 2 | How can I increase my libido and overall desire?I’m honestly having this same issue. I got out of a relationship like around a year and a half ago, and I’ve been sleeping around ever since. At first my libido was high and then after a month it dropped. I’ve worked out consistently for the past 4 years and I don’t masturbate frequently—low libido is still an issue for me. I theorize it’s fatigue associated with talking to too many women at once for an extended period of time—it’s taken the nuance out of casual dating. If you can, I’d take a br… | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 11:15 PM |
| 29 | 18 year old added me on tinder too hook up she’s in high school and im 23 it’s just weird thing to do right?I personally wouldn’t do it; there seems to be so many red flags already. If you ever feel like there’s something you have to second-guess about, you should usually go with your gut. This isn’t just a moral thing, it’s about protecting your reputation too | /r/seduction | 06/10/25 01:03 AM |
| 1 | How to date without drinkingI used to not drink at all (I drink a little now), but I usually suggest going out for boba (young women love it these days) and then doing a cheap activity like bowling. Competitive activities also lower any awkwardness between you and your date. | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Follow-Up for the 2nd Date?Well, my problem is, for any woman, if I don’t text her for more than a day, I’m most likely going to lose interest, regardless of how physically attractive the woman is, unless I find her really interesting (which is most often not the case). This is from a mix of laziness and then currently having other options. | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Follow-Up for the 2nd Date?She was play hitting me and stuff during the date, and when I went for a kiss, she settled for a kiss on the cheek. I also live in a fairly conservative town where this is normal so I didn’t think much of the lack of physicality. Some of my dated with Southern women in my town take 1-2 more before an actual kiss | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Follow-Up for the 2nd Date?Ahhh I don’t know man. Most girls I’ve taken out repeatedly either directly tell me they want to meet again, or take an effort to continue a conversation we were talking about. She didn’t do either Honestly though, some of this is just pride lol. I do feel like she should be the one chasing now that I’ve done the heavy lifting | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Why am I only approached by women I’m not attracted to?In my post, I said I'm fine with approaching women who I think are attractive, and usually all goes well. I'm honestly just curious why this phenomenon happens of being approached by people who I don't think are attractive | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 12:33 PM |
| 3 | Why am I only approached by women I’m not attracted to?I’ll give you an example. Two weeks ago I was approached by a woman who had to be around the 300lb range. Regardless of how she acted, nonchalantly or not, I wouldn’t be attracted to her or view her as above my worth lmao. | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 07:39 PM |
| 0 | Why am I only approached by women I’m not attracted to?I’ll give you an example. Two weeks ago, a 5’7 woman in the 300 pound range approached me. I’m 6’0 and 185 pounds. Think about that. She was a nice and interesting person, but putting us two side by side, you wouldn’t think we were compatible (physically) at all; some of my friends, male and female, remarked the same thing. I don’t think my standards are anything crazy lmao, and I honestly do favor personality a bit more. | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 03:09 PM |
| 12 | Why am I only approached by women I’m not attracted to?Yeah, I’m always polite and willing to have a conversation! | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 11:42 AM |
| -1 | What to do when you have multiple date options? How do you go about your selection process?The issue is, all of these dates are being set up through Hinge right now. So i can only tell vibes based off of texts | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 03:56 AM |
| 1 | What to do when you have multiple date options? How do you go about your selection process?In my specific situation, there’s a woman who I asked to go on a date with me Friday, but although she texts frequently, her texts are pretty bland and I’m worried about the date just being boring and a waste of time. On the other hand, she’s more attractive than my other options right now. Do I stick to the date with her or explore my other options? | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Best cities to meet womenI didn’t find the girls there too bad. Then again, I’m a college student so I was interested with a pretty different demographic. But from what I observed they were pretty down to earth; some even offered to pay for our date. | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Best cities to meet womenSan Diego is false if you’re moderately attractive. I went there during the winter last year for a week and a half. Had 4 dates and took 3 of them back to the hotel, those military guys really aren’t competition | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 03:46 AM |
| 1 | How do you get out of a slump?That may be true on a deep emotional level, but I don’t think it’s true in general or in the romantic sense. I have a pretty social life and my job requires me to interact with many different people face-to-face. And I go on pretty decent dates with my current FWB | /r/seduction | 07/08/25 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Not a huge fan of the bar/club scene, am I shooting it down too quickly?That’s fair. I honestly think I just don’t like the bar environment in general, but the foot traffic bit seems doable | /r/seduction | 14/07/25 12:23 AM |
| 6 | How to set up a hookup/ONS through tinder?If there’s a large enough gap between you two’s level of attraction (you being significantly more attractive than she is by social standards) you probably can get away with just inviting her over. If this isn’t the case, invite her out for drinks or coffee, feel the vibe, and then invite her over. Honestly, (and not to generalize) since you have that whole Brazilian thing going for you, you could also invite them out to a bar to dance (young American women would especially love that) or you coul… | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 04:03 AM |
| 2 | 6 things you SHOULD do on a first dateShould I really do the full hug? Lol, (M22) some women in my age range are still a bit awkward because they’ve barely had dating experience themselves so I just settle with the side | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 11:52 PM |
| 2 | What to wear for casual date with older woman?Hinge, I saw on her profile she was into anime and since I have a wide range of anime video-games I asked her to come over. Honestly surprised it worked, we did not text often | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 01:18 AM |
| 3 | What to wear for casual date with older woman?Ma’am is crazy work | /r/seduction | 24/05/25 06:35 PM |
| 7 | Nice girl run from meI think you need to elaborate on the story lmao. If she resisted, why did you keep insisting? From the sounds of it, you made her seem very uncomfortable and pressured her to do something against her values, yet she still wanted to let you down easy so she decided to wait a bit until leaving | /r/seduction | 10/05/25 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Her Friend Pulling Her Away Is Her Indirect RejectionI’m not sure this is always the case. I’ve had some p drunk women approach me themselves from out of the blue and get instantly touchy with me, only for their friends to pull them away minutes later. I don’t think I would classify that as rejection | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 12:24 AM |
| 1 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?I did, I just used Hinge instead of the bar scene for ONS | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Hey, im new here. I'm 19 and have never even held a girls hand. I've always wanted a girl to hold, cuddle, kiss, pet to sleep and love. Anyone wanna chat? [I'm 19M]Aye bruh😭I’m not gonna say what you did have posted or anything, but no shame. Live your life how you want despite what an online stranger or anyone says | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Hey, im new here. I'm 19 and have never even held a girls hand. I've always wanted a girl to hold, cuddle, kiss, pet to sleep and love. Anyone wanna chat? [I'm 19M]Not gonna lie, that post history is questionable😭You sure that’s what you’re looking for? | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Best cities in the summer, in the US for men? Mid 30s.I went to San Diego in the Winter time the week right before Christmas, and was still able to find 3 dates off dating apps in that short amount of time. OP is right, even though there are a lot of dudes, it’s not competitive. If you are conventionally attractive, shouldn’t be too hard | /r/seduction | 03/05/25 02:37 AM |
| 1 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?Do not go to the huge tourist clubs; they are overpriced even by American standards, and the ratio does not work in your favor at all. Smaller bars and clubs are fine, some that I went to were aimed at study abroad and exchange students, which more so fit my demographic. Barcelona's a pretty diverse city, so there's something there for everyone; and everyone, both male and female, is conventionally attractive. Being tall also helps, and having a fashion sense helps more. Americans typically lack… | /r/seduction | 27/04/25 10:35 PM |
| 0 | How to end things amicably…?! Just text them you’re not interested anymore dude. I’ve done the same several times and worst thing that’s ever happened is the woman making fake accounts to stalk my Instagram, which isn’t too bad. Man up bro. If you’re don’t have the balls for even that, just straight up ghost them instead of wasting their time doing that “slow ghost” bs. | /r/seduction | 27/04/25 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Is it true if you are physically attractive man, women generally approach you first and make a move?I second this. Outside of a bar situation, you may be approached, but it will be by more of a non-traditional woman | /r/seduction | 20/04/25 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Should I wait for her to plan the next date?I mean I don’t think all is lost and I don’t believe materially I’ve invested more than her. She did pay for our last date. Our first two dates I paid for. One was just grabbing coffee and the other was lunch. Our date yesterday was probably more expensive than those two which she paid for. I’m not even sure I’ve invested more emotionally than her. I’m sexually intimate with two other people right now who I can’t see a relationship with her. Also she’s randomly called me several nights while dru… | /r/seduction | 26/03/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Should I wait for her to plan the next date?Not everyone has to live through bygone traditional values. Society and standards are changing, especially for the younger generations I’ve planned the last 3 and just want a more direct sign she’s interested | /r/seduction | 26/03/25 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Should I wait for her to plan the next date?Just hugs. I feel like the many situationships and ONS I’ve been in this past year have distorted my views on relationships, so I want to take things very slow and build an actual emotional connection with her before escalating further. | /r/seduction | 26/03/25 06:51 PM |
| 2 | I want to start texting and pulling girls but I don't know where to startI wouldn’t spam follow people in your location; it could make a negative reputation for yourself. I’d just improve your pics overall, make a Hinge or Tinder profile, and practice there. Low stakes. After you feel you’re more comfortable with texting women, you can hop on to the Instagram and start hitting women up | /r/seduction | 25/03/25 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Should I lower my standards? Need some advice tooNo offense, but if you REALLY have abs and muscles and hair, you should be at least a 7, even if you don’t have the height. I have all these things and don’t have much problem getting women. Do you think there’s something about your appearance that’s making you seem unattractive? | /r/seduction | 25/03/25 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Thinking about a fuck buddyUhh I hang out with my fwbs pretty frequently, so yeah I think about them a lot and I consider them actual friends (even though all FWBs come to an end lol). For some of them, we have harbored feelings for each other, but both of us agreed to not pursue a relationship because that wasn’t within either of our interests. So I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong for you to have an attachment to your FWB; just don’t try to force a relationship out of it. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 03:37 AM |
| 0 | Anyone willing to mentor me (paid) ?Brother, don’t let people take advantage of you. People will be more than willing to offer mentorship for free, on reddit or from friends and family | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Not Getting Any Hinge Swipes in Barcelona?I don’t speak Spanish, but a majority of the profiles on Hinge are poly-linguists, tourists, or study abroad students from America. Most of the few likes I have gotten are from Natives here though ironically | /r/seduction | 05/03/25 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Not Getting Any Hinge Swipes in Barcelona?I said I met someone at a bar bruh, just trying to find out why my Hinge matches are low | /r/seduction | 05/03/25 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Not Getting Any Hinge Swipes in Barcelona?Do you think there’s higher standards in Spain and I don’t meet those standards? I’m not trying to sound arrogant, but I have met with women on Hinge many times in a good bit of cities. By American standards, I would say I’m attractive, and I usually keep my profile the same | /r/seduction | 05/03/25 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Talking with Woman Who’s Very Anxious?I definitely would, we’re going on a date tomorrow and I’m going to see if I can take one last crack at persuading her to open up a bit. If not, then I’ll just cut it off | /r/seduction | 28/02/25 06:26 AM |
| 14 | How do you MAKE yourself more exciting or interesting? (not just for dating, but in general)Don’t say you’re too old or fat for anything—these thoughts are holding you back. Get out there and explore different hobbies, no matter how foreign they are to you and how uncomfortable they may make you. If it works out, cool, you have a new hobby! If it doesn’t, you at least have a fun story or a new piece of knowledge to share in conversations. Make it a goal to conquer the unknown and put yourself out there. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 06:44 AM |
| 13 | Destroy your ego - there's nothing wrong with dating a 3/10 girl when you're a 3/10 yourselfThis could be one of two things: Your self-image is deluded and you’re less attractive than you think. This doesn’t come as a jab; it’s just that I don’t personally know you, and many men tend to do exaggerate their positive traits. I would look to honest friends for an answer to this. It’s your personality. There could be a major red flag that you don’t seem that emanates from you onto women. I would reflect on how you communicate with women you’re interested in and again, consult friends on yo… | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Ghosted after hookup [M19]Could be something internal or mental to be honest, people have complex lives. Since you already have other people you’re hooking up with, I wouldn’t ponder on it and just continue doing you. Don’t block her though. There is a chance she may hit you up on some random night later lmao. | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 01:44 AM |
| 14 | Destroy your ego - there's nothing wrong with dating a 3/10 girl when you're a 3/10 yourselfThis may be me taking certain privileges for granted, but I feel almost everything has a fix, even if it’s difficult. Physique? Workout. Acne? Dermatologist. Low-Income? Work smarter. It may take you putting more effort than others, but improving yourself to meet social standards is possible. However, I don’t want to jump the gun here, so I want to ask you—What is it that currently impedes your self-improvement journey? | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Ghosted after hookup [M19]Not sure if she thinks he’s clingy. He mentioned that he did attempt to leave, but didn’t get a clear response from her. She’s either very embarrassed about throwing up, realized what she did with you was a mistake, or has a secret that discourages her from pursuing things with you. | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 11:59 PM |
| 253 | Destroy your ego - there's nothing wrong with dating a 3/10 girl when you're a 3/10 yourselfI agree, but on a different note. Many men hold harsh criticisms and standards for women, but have yet to seek self-improvement in their own lives. Obesity, financially dependent , poor hygiene, the list goes on—many men feel they deserve 10/10s yet they still hold many undesirable traits themselves. | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 11:52 PM |
| 9 | YOU WONT LISTEN TO ME? THEN EXPLAIN THIS.I think they don’t listen to you because of your ego. This post is muddled in arrogance and self-delusion. Let others be and just focus on yourself bruh, doesn’t matter if they listen to you or not | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Can someone who lives in Spain answer this question for me? about post-party sex in SpainWondering the same thing, going to Barcelona in a few days. Coming from an American perspective, they do seem very sex-positive. A lot of the profiles I’ve come across on Hinge have been under short-term preferences | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 07:10 PM |
| 20 | Hooking up with best friendSuggest watching a movie while sitting on the same couch together. Sooner or later, he is going to initiate physical touch, most likely in the form of putting his arm around you. During this case, don’t just sit there tense. Loosen up and move closer to him. Lean on him or rub your hands on his thighs. After that, he should be leaning in for a kiss and the night shall proceed as planned. If he doesn’t lean in for a kiss, he’s most likely nervous. Just keep escalating physical contact with him by… | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Woman wants our first date to be at a college bar?Gotcha. Another issue I’m running into is I that don’t drink, just for personal reasons. I’m fine with going to a bar sober, but will I be seen as a drag if I decide not to drink? I could always make ip the excuse that I have to drive myself home later | /r/seduction | 22/02/25 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Dating apps are still hard even for someone with hundreds of matchesI fully agree with this. However, I’ve paid for both Tinder boosts and a Hinge X membership so I could speed things up for the half a year I was traveling frequently, and I will say that the Hinge X membership provides far more value than the Tinder Boosts. Tinder boosts may give me like 3-4 likes per boost. But the Hinge X membership has consistently given me 15-20 matches a day (in large urban cities). | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 09:50 PM |
| 43 | Dating apps are still hard even for someone with hundreds of matchesI feel like Hinge gives more reliable matches, at least in my experience. If they have an interesting profile, I’ll comment on that. If they don’t I’ll usually say something like “You must be insanely hot or a serial killer” which works for the most part, just not with a certain type of woman. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 04:06 PM |
| 3 | How to Talk to a Shy Girl?bro did not read my post. The issue is not our conversations. I explicitly mentioned we’ve had pretty good talks | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Advice on current situationDepends. If it’s a constant topic of conversation between you two, I’d say don’t waste your time. She may be somewhat interested in you but she’s likely just using you for some sort of security she’s missing in the moment, kind of like a rebound. There’ll be a dinner, 20% chance of a ONS, and that’s pretty much it. Also, if she’s constantly going on to you about her exes, it most likely means she’s not over them, major red flag. Save your money and use it on someone who’s genuinely into you. If … | /r/seduction | 14/02/25 04:16 AM |
| 1 | How to Read into Post-First Date TextsReality is vast and changes all the time. Your perspective is too narrow and only based on what you see. I’ve had both stroked, so I know my principles aren’t unrealistic. The reason why I can adhere to these principles is because I know I’ll always have options. knock on wood I’m not throwing my ego away for a hookup, but I will for a relationship. | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 05:33 AM |
| 1 | How to Read into Post-First Date TextsI think this is honestly a great way of screening my dates then. I don’t want to be the one who has to pay and plan for the date while verbally submitting myself by asking for a follow up. That’s just not the lifestyle I seek and it’s better I’m matched with someone who shares these values | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 11:17 PM |
| 8 | Seducing Single MothersI just gotta experiment to see what it’s like big bro, you understand | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 02:09 AM |
| 6 | Seducing Single MothersI got the rubbers and hot sauce ready boss man | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 02:07 AM |
| 0 | Need a reality checkI don’t agree with most of these comments. I’m a college student myself and most women in their undergrad would find someone of that age hitting on them strange. Most of these women are new to dating and would be intimidated by large age gaps | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Okay so deed is done for first date. tomorrow i have dinner date with girl and later bar hoppingIf she’s attracted to you and already has experience dating , things will escalate naturally. Are you guys taking separate cars or are you picking her up? If you’re driving separate I wouldn’t expect much the first date | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 10:44 PM |
| 5 | Most promiscuous city you've been to?I can’t speak on cold approaching. I’ve been to LA too, but both my times in LA and San Diego were brief, so I just set up dates through Hinge and got pretty good responses compared to the South, where I’m from. Also, I did feel like I was a bit taller in Cali than other places. I’m 6’0, but where I’m from everyone’s so tall. If you believe you’re conventionally attractive and have sex appeal, I’d definitely recommend Hinge. In large cities, you honestly don’t even have to have an amazing profil… | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 02:39 AM |
| 9 | Most promiscuous city you've been to?If you don’t mind me asking, what region of the US do you live in? San Diego is exhaustively expensive and there may be a closer more affordable area to you that’s more realistic | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 02:21 AM |
| 23 | Most promiscuous city you've been to?(M21) Just got from a trip over there and had three dates/hookups. Gotta think about Cali’s liberal stance, most people there are “sex-positive.” Actually finding a relationship may be difficult, but hookups is not. It is more conservative, so I wouldn’t agree with women being openly promiscuous, but it id fairly liberal compared to outside of Cali. | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Weird Texting ScenarioI’m kind of in denial. I just don’t seem like her type. She’s a white sorority girl who parties a lot. I’m a nerdy black guy who enjoys my peace. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 04:46 PM |
| 11 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?I can provide an update in a month, I’m going to Barcelona | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Does ethnicity and race matter?I think California is a bit open minded as long as you appear American. No offense, but I think where many Indians have it wrong is honestly their sense of style and self-care. You’re 19, invest in some street wear and nicer fits—young Californian women love a guy some drip. Additionally, hit the gym and choose a hair/beard style that shapes you. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Not Sure if I (M21) Feel Comfortable Going on a Date with this Woman (F22)Not relationships, but I do think it’s important to understand the vibe and intentions with the person before meeting them. Can’t say yes to everyone | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Not Sure if I (M21) Feel Comfortable Going on a Date with this Woman (F22)Mostly just doubts I guess. I’ve been on dates with quieter types, and it’s not my preference. I just don’t want to go into something knowing I’m not going to be attracted. However, she is extremely physically attractive. But you’re right, I don’t know her in person yet so I’ll give it a chance | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 04:48 PM |
| 10 | 6 months of a talking stage 💀Uhm…dude? Your strategy is severely flawed and this is how many women get away with wasting dude’s time and using them for dates and/or attention. Also, what exactly are you looking for, sex? From your description she seems very shy and conservative, you may be waiting over a year for that if you guys aren’t even comfortable kissing yet. The easy solution for this is communication, you guys have been going out for half a year so there should be little awkwardness in this conversation. Just ask a… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 07:36 AM |
| 6 | 2025 - tinder platinum worth it over tinder gold?Thanks, might consider using Tinder on my trip to the DR soon | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 07:25 AM |
| 46 | 2025 - tinder platinum worth it over tinder gold?Nope, Tinder Gold or any Tinder membership sucks. However, I would invest in Hinge X if you believe you’re conventionally attractive. With the normal Hinge account, I’ll get maybe 5-7 matches a week. I’ve used Hinge X when several times and have gotten 30 in a week. With Hinge X, your profile is placed towards the top of the stack so you are seen more often. If you truly believe you are very attractive and have a good profile, I would invest in Hinge X. If you are not, it’d be a waste of time. | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 06:47 AM |
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