Dissatisfaction and Emptiness with Current Dates

norwegiandoggo · 2026-01-08T18:04:24+00:00

If you have very picky preferences, you have to do more sifting and weeding out bad matches before going on dates. You should also make your profile very specific to appeal to this particular type of woman you want (since clearly, you're not looking for someone random - you have strong preferences for a type). You have to adjust your "marketing" (ie. your profile) for what you want.

Another perspective: You might be too picky for your own good. Like out of 30 women NONE of them appealed to you? This is very unusual, just saying.

ThatDarnSmell · 2026-01-08T20:13:53+00:00

Ditch the dating apps. It sounds like you might be more satisfied by social circle game. Try meeting people through friends, shared interest groups, etc. Some of my best relationships were with women I knew beforehand.

RoyalPheromones · 2026-01-08T17:45:13+00:00

Dating apps suck dude. Absolute bottom of the barrel usually. Join a run club or get into a music scene, join a yoga class weekly. Join a church even. Got to increase your chances by going where the prime real estate is. My personal favorite was bouldering gym, great social activity and you get stronk.

thenuttyhazlenut · 2026-01-09T02:12:16+00:00

Are you going on dates with people you don't really feel attractive? Don't date everyone you match with

Matt-Choo · 2026-01-08T18:12:27+00:00

If you felt this way, I guarantee your dates did too! Make your life the way you want it before trying to put the pressure on someone else to reach satisfaction. The point of dating is to only pursue those you want to spend your time with. Your pictures, prompts and initial messages must be congruent with how you’re living. Once I became more selective than ever with my swipes the matches actually made sense.

Stong-and-Silent · 2026-01-08T19:50:40+00:00

That sounds about right to me. That’s what dating apps are like. I use them because I can’t find any women who are available in any of my social circles.

It’s easy to get dates. It’s easy to find women to sleep with you. But finding a woman who wants a real relationship is incredibly difficult to do.

Nabs22 · 2026-01-09T00:05:06+00:00

I pretty much have the exact same issue with same exact experience.

I think out of those 30 girls, 90% are probably below your standards but you only realise till it's in person. With these modern phones and filters people gain a 30% attraction boost lol.

I remember when I was single before my ex, much less of this went on. I went on way less dates but a way higher percentage of the type of women I would actually want to see.

Also there's hoeflation

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2026-01-09T03:05:50+00:00

Very good! Unless you're willing to see that this dissatisfaction and emptiness is a problem created by you, you will countinue to go on dates dissatisfied.

There is no optimal person, and there is nothing to find.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-01-09T10:52:55+00:00

You're supposed to spend your time in a fun way. That's the only way to feel satisfied. Action dates.

lavenderthiefs · 2026-01-08T18:23:24+00:00

If you feel empty, it’s not them. It’s you.

NuncaContent · 2026-01-08T18:32:27+00:00

Take more time to establish your connections, chemistry and expectations for the date priory to meeting in person.

My expectations of a date are quite different than most and I find if I’m upfront about my expectations and give the girl a chance to express what she wants out of our time together, the date goes much smoother and ends in a much happier place.

Title	Dissatisfaction and Emptiness with Current Dates
Author	Tragedyofthe
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	January 8, 2026 5:39 PM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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