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Can you please let non mods make posts again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/23 08:48 AM
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The premise: I’d like to submit a much-needed addendum to the infamous phrase “He’s Just Not That into You”. Although it’s a good way for women to prevent ourselves from falling for lukewarm, noncommittal men, we also need to collectively realize that it literally makes no difference whether a Low Value Male (“LVM”) loves you or not. Either way, he’ll eventually treat you badly and will never care about your long-term happiness. Thank you for trying to bring the FDS sub back to life!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/22 03:53 PM
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Hmm, maybe the story about the girl who took even the light bulbs out of her bfs house when they broke up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/22 06:52 PM
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Who would pay $400 a month to be a live in maid and prostitute? Dude is delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:04 PM
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My little brother did this once and tried begging me to make him a sandwich because he didn't know how. He was almost ten. I told him to Google it or starve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:56 PM
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You should choose a partner who is an asset and your best friend. I would not marry a man if I couldn't take his advice because I wouldn't be able to take him seriously. Since my husband would hopefully be one of the men whos judgement I respect most in the world I would definitely want his input. Just like I hope he would sincerely want mine. I find that in relationships where you don't want the input of your partner it is a serious red flag. You can't trust someone as a life partner if you don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:52 AM
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Lol what the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:48 PM
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Blocked by paywall and I'm not finding this guy's NEET lifestyle, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:49 PM
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This shit ain't cute. I hope places like these go out of business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 02:39 AM
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I really don't think there's much you can do. My friend got tired of a similar situation after 7 years of marriage and she has confided in me that she is going to start speaking with lawyers about a divorce. This is the best case scenario. Stick with her until she needs your support to leave.
/r/askFDS13/02/22 10:02 PM
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I'm so happy for you! Good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 09:18 PM
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All of this is so very true and people don't talk about grown women getting targeted enough. My "friend" once tried to sell me to a pimp and ran with all my shit. I'm thankful that the pimp had a heart and dropped me off at the nearest public transit station with a ticket home but that experience fucked me up bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:00 AM
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Yeah, she can't have a job but can afford to get regular manicures??? Scrotes can't math tf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:22 PM
257

This is abuse. Allowing children to watch porn is ABUSIVE, NEGLIGENT, AND LITERALLY A GROOMING TACTIC DONE BY PEDOPHILES. Disgusting. I hope for Gods sake that this is fake but most likely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 05:26 AM
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Oh my god, thank you SO much. My sister is about to get divorced from a scrote (no kids together and not abusive but a deadbeat who wants to take all the financial assets). I would be over the moon if you made a similar post about preparing for a divorce or tips when considering a prenup/postnup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 12:59 AM
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Probably in the bottom 2% tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:08 AM
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I hope she gets an abortion so she's not tied to this scrote forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 08:03 PM
0

This doesn't really bother me because I have done the same. Took a spontaneous trip to north africa last year and stayed for six months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:53 AM
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these men NEED to be mercilessly roasted. If women can't get through to them other men gotta publicly humiliate them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:25 PM
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I hope she moves out and brings her mom with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:23 AM
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I am almost two years clean from meth. Got addicted at 18 and was only in active addiction for about a year. One of my biggest regrets is going to AA meetings. SOOO many men preyed on freshly addicted young women who have no support or family. I felt like prey there. I HATED telling my story because I knew the men there would use it to their advantage. And they did. Every time I tried going back to AA I relapsed so I stopped going. Everyone told me I was making a huge mistake and I was punished …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:01 PM
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omg, your second paragraph is beautiful. Something a Victorian philosopher/writer would say. PLEASE make a post about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:34 PM
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Depends how long you've known him. If it's only been a few weeks I'm sure he'll let something slip soon if he hasn't already. If it's been longer I would take an extra good look through all his social media, try to spend a little time with his friends/family, and just keep an eye out in general. Remember, vetting is a continuous process, even after you're married.
/r/askFDS11/01/22 04:32 AM
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Right?? Thats what a garage is for. Shop area for hobbies and uncomfortable enough so that he doesn't waste ALL his time in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 01:49 AM
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Yeah I hope he gets fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 01:22 AM
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Holy shit thats deranged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:07 AM
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My mom is a very religious Muslim woman who only believes in legal marriage when you are having kids. Otherwise, whats the point? She likes the ease of divorcing men religiously. I think her record was being married 2 weeks before she divorced him and kicked him out.
/r/askFDS08/12/21 07:48 PM
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Can you write your own post with tips for OLD profiles? I would be super interested in reading that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:32 PM
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It's not just about investing though. It's about liking and loving. Today I paid for the lunch of the woman I babysit for. I pay for my family, friends, and I've even paid for strangers and homeless people before. I paid for them because I like, love, and care about those people. Men would invest in a woman if they thought they would get a return, but most men expect that they can exploit women for sex and domestic labor without an investment. Which means that taking care of a woman boils down t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 01:09 AM
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One time I was hospitalized for a suicide attempt after I was raped and the male nurse kept stroking my hair from top to bottom (near my butt) and commenting how beautiful and long it was. I was 16 and he was in his thirties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:28 AM
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haha she should have screenshotted and left him on read so he knew she'd be laughing at him with all her friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:46 AM
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you can find a spouse in 1-4 years while prioritizing your children. Just seems like an arbitrary and ridiculous rule. Its more important to focus on their attitudes and actions than if they waited exactly half a decade to remarry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 11:30 PM
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what, you gotta wait five years exactly to remarry???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 10:17 PM
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yeah, this isnt gonna work. Be prepared to lose the man and a lot of money. Thats how these things usually shake out.
/r/askFDS14/11/21 12:59 AM
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In middle school I started pinching boys back. They didn't like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 11:17 PM
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Excerpts from the article: "A shortage of male university students is causing men to develop so-called 'Golden Penis Syndrome' where they see themselves as a prize to be won by female suitors." Men believe this interest is the result of their innate desirability, leading to an augmented sense of self and a tendency to become 'accidental Casanovas' with bad habits like cheating, 'ghosting' and stringing women along in casual flings. They might also have poor social and sexual skills because they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:11 AM
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Remember that you can additionally say "I'm not having the best day and need some space". Then pick your shit up and find a different spot. You shouldn't have to sit next to him for another 20 minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 06:00 AM
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HV people on the spectrum also tend to compensate with effort and spoken communication that THEY initiate and take responsibility for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:12 PM
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Also, men are ALWAYS crazy convinced you wanna have babies with them when you barely met. I can't count how many times I was casually texting a guy from a dating app and he'd be like "BuT i DoNt WaNt AnYtHiNg SeRiOuS yEt" like dude... I haven't even agreed to give you my number yet. Calm down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:32 AM
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It kind of is?? I mean its gross that she's with a lvm but she's not your friend or family. It's not your business. And the assumption that's its not a big deal to go somewhere else to have sex is flabbergasting. It's really presumptuous of you to suggest that your neighbor can't have sex in her own house. The solution is that they need to be quieter.
/r/askFDS29/10/21 06:04 AM
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Thanks for letting us know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:40 AM
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they will go on unemployment, somehow get disability, and take advantage of young women who dont know any better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:27 PM
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I have no idea what this is even supposed to achieve. If a man did this to me IRL I probably would just assume he wanted to be a bit more formal and I'd start using his prefix too. Idiot would probably think I'm trying to up the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 10:33 PM
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This is a pretty extreme situation. I think you have to leave him. The only other option is telling him you need to take a break so he can work on himself but I wouldn't recommend it.
/r/askFDS29/09/21 05:16 PM
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This whole thread is a mess. Never whine online about not having a man, don't message strangers asking them to go on dates... Everything here is LV as hell and I would be embarrassed to be any of these commenters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:53 PM
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Yeah, just because he'll pay for an uber for you to get there doesn't guarantee he'll take you home. Pick a place in your area. I always suggest driving yourslef to the first date.
/r/askFDS19/09/21 12:46 AM
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I have done this before, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:44 AM
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Don't give these scrotes the benefit of privacy. Post screenshots on Facebook and blast them please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:38 AM
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Your friend also needs to take responsibility for not leveling up and being 100% dependent on her partner for rides. She is CHOOSING not to be independent which is not somethng we encourage as an FDS principle. It goes against everything we stand for. If she won't drive she still needs to be able to go places on her own. Learn public transport routes, carpool, pay for an uber, whatever. Deciding to just rely on future partners to drive her as an alternative to learning for herself is unnacceptab…
/r/askFDS04/09/21 02:52 AM
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This is so insightful I'm saving both of your comments for future wisdom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:50 AM
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I've had psychosis and paranoia before. Even if what he's saying is true and he's not being a psychopath and messing with you, you need to break up with him. His mental illness is gonna ruin your life because that's what unmanaged psychosis and paranoia does. It's all fun and games until you meet him IRL and he thinks you're plotting to kill him and strangles you. Paranoid schizophrenia is the MOST dangerous type.
/r/askFDS21/08/21 06:14 AM
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I fell in love with my late fiance because he was so gentle and caring. I love gentle men. Gentleman! Makes sense☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:49 PM
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Sex dolls don't work. Studies show they only increase the desire to act out their vile fantasies. That's why animated child porn is illegal in the US but not Japan🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:05 PM
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Are we sure he has a doctorate? Maybe he just put Dr in front of his name to sound smart...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:03 PM
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I would suggest getting a raise kit done if you still can and then asleep on it for as long as you need. They will hold the evidence for up to a year after completing a rape kit without making you report them.
/r/askFDS16/08/21 08:41 PM
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Yes I have. Don't let anyone convince you to settle for "he ticks all my boxes". When I met my late fiance I knew immediately that I wanted to get to know him. Within the week I realized I loved him. Maybe it's not like this for everyone but it only takes one conversation for me to know if I like someone or not. Listen to your instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:43 AM
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See if you can get transferred to any other job at your college. Toxic is toxic. You don't need to figure out why, you just need to leave.
/r/askFDS29/07/21 11:52 PM
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Please get an STD panel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 06:35 AM
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Honestly, I wouldn't even care if it's misandrist. The world needs a place where women can push back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:15 PM
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Why fireman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:20 AM
13

I share a one bedroom apartment with my boyfriend in a very rural area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:56 PM
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That's is a lot to some people. OP would pay $250 a night to live in a house similar to hers on Airbnb. I pay $200 a month in rent. I couldn't afford $850 for two months rent. Not to say this is a good deal but some women are stuck in relationships or get sucked into bad ones easily due to financial reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:40 AM
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Not just safe. Comfortable and happy. I might feel safe with a scrote but I shouldn't be wasting my time with a man unless it's fulfilling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:22 AM
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I read fanfic erotica lol
/r/askFDS10/07/21 12:20 AM
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I'm half Moroccan (north African) but I haven't heard it this. Love hearing from other FDS girls from north Africa though!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:10 AM
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Yeah I have this urge when I'm with my bf and I consciously choose not to say it because I know it would hurt his feelings. Your boyfriend chooses not to do that.
/r/askFDS04/07/21 06:20 AM
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Everyone is right. You are being abused. Try not to go back to your parents house, seem like they are not healthy either. I would look for a room to rent in a house with other women tbh. It will be cheap and you'll have healing company and a safe space. When I was starting over it saved my life.
/r/askFDS02/07/21 04:49 PM
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No. I am myself being targeted by a master manipulator I left when I was eighteen and if one of his ex-girl friends reached out to me about him, my instinct would be self preservation. He has contacted me pretending to be different people so many times. Beat me for telling a mutual friend I was worried for my safety left me stranded halfway across the country, convinced my stepdad to violate my restraining order so I would think I needed his protection. If you contacted me I would be panicked, s…
/r/askFDS23/06/21 11:31 PM
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If I were older I would probably have a better idea but I am younger, like you. Honestly, as long as being her friend isn't negatively affecting you I would just continue being her friend and being honest when she asks my opinion. If she goes on about it too much while continuing an unhealthy pattern of managing these relationships you may want to draw a boundary that you are no longer a safe space for her to talk about her romantic issues with. She may come around or never will. Don't continue …
/r/askFDS12/06/21 10:46 PM
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I remember my sister's BFF mom died and her dad paid her $50 a week to do all the laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, etc. I thought it was cool when I was a kid but looking back her life was so fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:45 AM
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I'm bi but I've never been in a relationship with a woman even though I've wanted to. Hopefully one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:37 AM
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What was the problem they had in common?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:23 AM
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You don't have to be Japanese to make watching regular anime okay. My family is arab and my little brother likes Naruto. Nothing weird about it. If he watched creepy animes I would shut that shit down but it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:24 AM
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I'm a security guard too girl. We are glorified babysitters. No training or certification is required to become a security guard. He's not an expert at krav maga just a loser that wants to look tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:28 AM
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Also, the world is overpopulated and we are facing a climate change crisis. We SHOULD be having less babies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:25 AM
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I just moved to WAY it in the country. I currently live in a town of 500 people. Idk. I think online dating to the nearest city is your best bet if you don't like anyone in town.
/r/askFDS02/05/21 04:12 AM
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When they have a history of trauma kinks become a firm of self harm that help them feel good momentarily but hurt them in the long run and prevent them from healing. Your heart is in the right spot but the research shows it has a bad effect of participants ESPECIALLY those who have suffered from abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:18 AM
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Female gendered people??? You mean girls/women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:44 AM
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I don't know what ended up happening between them but I betrayed someone who saved my life and I still feel shitty about it. I think he relapsed and is living in a halfway house.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 07:27 AM
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Yes. A guy got on me and his gf came to me saying she needed to blow what he said and they had two kids together and she needed to know whether to cut her losses. The only reason I hesitated is because this guy risked his own life rescuing me from drowning. I honestly regret it even though she needed to know.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 07:18 AM
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No. None of my boyfriends ever did this to me and I dated some lvm in my days.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 12:12 AM
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More of a heart thing. I used to trust my family, doctor, teachers, friends, etc. 100%. If they said something it was like the word of God to me. Obviously this was terrible because they were human and made mistakes. You can trust people but always know in the back of your mind that they might not be completely honest or dependent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:27 AM
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Also: never trust anyone else completely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:56 AM
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Men are basically the same everywhere but I will say I have better luck with guys from rural areas
/r/askFDS30/03/21 07:40 PM
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I would gladly exchange my humanity for a few hours of ecstasy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:35 PM
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You can find these on intentionalcommunities.com or post your own listing for free. A lot of the single house ones actually take off and do so well they expand. I personally love kids stop I've been looking to join one with single moms since I won't have my own kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:56 PM
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I would really love it if you made a post about feminine energy and femininity. I can only find redpill stuff on this topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:57 AM
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You had a shit dad, omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:00 PM
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I love a mom who supports her daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:58 PM
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We're proud of you girl!
/r/askFDS26/02/21 12:26 PM
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Girl, I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:22 PM
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If I could've been a fly on the wall for that one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:05 PM
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This gave me chills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:52 PM
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I hate "woke" guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:31 PM
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Yeah, in my culture the man is supposed to pay for everything including the house, give the wife her own income, and give her the option to stay at home/ Hire a maid if she wishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:37 PM
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She willingly made ugly kids...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:30 PM
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You don't need to get legally married. Most women in my family out earn their husbands or have children from late spouses they want to protect financially so they don't legally get married. However, they all remarried. Wedding, rabbi, whole shebang. No paper, no problem.
/r/askFDS18/02/21 10:15 PM
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Thank you <3 I'm almost done with college so my life has definitely changed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:03 AM
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I was homeless as a teen and so was my boyfriend. He would lie down on concrete so I could use him as a bed. He carried me on his back for miles. He gave me the lions portion of whatever food we got. If he did something illegal to get us food/money he always took all the risk by himself. He was always so gentle and patient with me and whenever he saw me he would have a big smile on his face and pick me up and swing me around. RIP Michael.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:12 PM
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Your mom is inadequate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:14 PM
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Cool but it's gross that she's dating a man way younger than her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:04 PM
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God, the comments turned ugly at the bottom
/r/askFDS11/02/21 11:40 PM
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Yeah, but I also met a lot of guys that got their shit together really quickly when they decided they wanted to take me out. I didn't ask or nag, but they saw my standards and they rose to meet them immediately. They didn't make me wait. It's okay to be with someone who wasn't always perfect as long as they get their shit together quickly and without you asking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:49 PM
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Being a redpilled wife is not my only option. But if I chose to do it, I would never submit to a man who could not be a provider. Working from home or having a side hustle is fine, but I'm not going to cook, do laundry, keep the house clean, etc. And work 40 hours a week. At that point I'm working harder than him and I wouldn't be able to respect him anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 02:30 AM
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Yeah, but that's within a redpilled relationship. If I have to live like a liberal feminist couple I'm not gonna act like a redpilled wife.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 02:03 AM
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It has worked for my female family members by that's because they had money they didn't want to get tied up in a legal marriage. It was their idea but they still got married religiously. The reason it's suspicious coming from him is because he doesn't want to be married in all but the eyes of the state. Otherwise he would put a ring on your finger, and start planning the wedding. You don't need a marriage license to have a wedding. My family friends don't even realize that my family members aren…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 12:31 AM
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It has worked for my female family members by that's because they had money they didn't want to get tied up in a legal marriage. It was their idea but they still got married religiously. The reason it's suspicious coming from him is because he doesn't want to be married in all but the eyes of the state. Otherwise he would put a ring on your finger, and start planning the wedding. You don't need a marriage license to have a wedding. My family friends don't even realize that my family members aren…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 12:08 AM
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What's the point of being a redpilled woman if the guy doesn't even take care of you? I can get love by having a regular relationship, I don't want to do anything extra if I don't get anything extra.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 08:26 PM
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Private social media, I only have one account that's not anonymous and that's my Facebook and email. I don't even have any pics of myself.
/r/askFDS20/01/21 12:36 PM
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A lot of addicts find it helpful to imagine what will happen if they resume their addiction. In your case, your lvm will return, disrespect you, waste your time, and leave you again. Here might come back but it will always be that cycle. The longer it goes on the more of yourself you will lose until you barely remember who you are anymore. The people around you will see and slowly lose respect for you too. Don't let him waste anymore of your time. Don't let him take anymore of your dignity or se…
/r/askFDS16/01/21 10:39 PM
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You know taking etiquette classes really helped me feel more comfortable about doing things in public.
/r/askFDS15/01/21 12:56 AM
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Your first paragraph is a red flag. A man should never tell you your thoughts are invalid and you're just crazy. I can already tell he's gaslighting you. Block and delete.
/r/askFDS14/01/21 09:13 PM
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Read the handbook. Asking for support is okay, but only if you're also taking the appropriate action and putting in effort. This is not a support sub for people who already know what they should be doing.
/r/askFDS13/01/21 05:30 PM
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Same thing happened to me, but you can still view the sub if you're banned. I was very mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:53 PM
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Let me guess... r/breakingmom I had to unsubscribe from that sub because it was so negative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:23 PM
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He is taking advantage of you in this dynamic. He gets all the benefits and you get all the stress. Politely tell him you prefer not to remain friends with your exes and block. Or just block.
/r/askFDS25/12/20 10:17 PM
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He is 89, I'm not sure he'd want that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:02 PM
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There are still lesbian communes in the US and other intentional communities that are female only. Look up intentionalcommunities.org
/r/askFDS20/12/20 10:33 PM
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Seems like he's covering for an affair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:34 PM
5

Sad thing is this is actually kind of true, I know multiple guys who have ED from excessive masturbation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:27 AM
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Always glad to help my fellow Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:59 AM
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I don't believe it's ethical to fuck a man 20 years younger, because "it's just sex". You're their elder. You the appropriate age to be their parent. The relationship is inappropriate. It would be inappropriate if you were a man, and it's still inappropriate as a woman. You can't know that you're not hurting them emotionally. A nineteen year old is still a kid. They may not be old enough to distinguish puppy love from true love, but it's real to them, and you're taking advantage. This sub is not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:56 AM
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I'm sorry, but 20 years younger is inappropriate. We do not drag ourselves down to the levels of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:42 PM
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girl you freaked me out, I thought those posts were real for a sec, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:50 AM
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different strokes for different folks. I would have been pretty uncomfortable with anything more formal than a coffee date as a teen. Their ages really matter with their comfort zones here. I would suggest something like a drive-in theatre or one of those indoor butterfly sanctuaries if you have any of those.
/r/askFDS18/11/20 04:36 AM
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Please educate me if there is a culture where it's okay to touch someone's genitals or if kissing or other intimate touches are borderline. Those touches are very clearly defined as acceptable or not in the cultures that practice them and the guidelines are taught to autistic and non-autistic kids at early ages. I come from a culture where it's normal to kiss upon greeting but all kids are taught that you only do it among members of your own sex. I'm not going to argue with you any further. I ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:38 AM
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CS; CR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:23 AM
23

I would jokingly make fun of him for getting too close. Like "omg stop trying to act like you're my boyfriend" because I fucking hate it when guys play boyfriend and then act like you're crazy. But I am also a ruthless bitch.
/r/askFDS15/11/20 03:08 AM
129

"Men are absolutely committed to misunderstanding women."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:36 PM
53

It's not about the effort, it's about upholding her subservience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:13 AM
6

If someone touches you tell them to stop. If someone tries to touch you tell them to stop. If someone asks to touch you tell them no. Why I did it? I don't know. Touching and carrying people isn't weird to me because I'm autistic. I would let a random stranger carry me because I was autistic and it felt normal. Autistic people can't learn from social conditioning. It's not okay for autistic men to fondle, caress, and otherwise inappropriately touch women. Most autistic people are taught by their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:46 PM
58

This is so sweet. I'm glad you love your mom so much and want to take care of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 04:49 PM
21

You're spending WAYYY too much time with him
/r/askFDS07/11/20 10:59 PM
13

You're expecting someone with a social disorder to understand and abide by social constructs. "No touching" is largely an unwritten and largely nuanced rule. As an autistic kid growing up I never followed rules like that because it was obvious other kids got to touch and play with their friends and I felt it was unfair that people were trying to make me follow a rule no one else followed because I was autistic. Autistic people have eyes. If they see everyone else touching they know it's not a "r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:55 AM
33

I mean, I'm autistic and I definitely did all of the above to both sexes growing up but it doesn't matter. Autistic people are just as human as everyone else. If you tell them they are making you uncomfortable they are obligated to stop. Everyone must be held accountable for their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:22 AM
14

If he's bragging about his money he doesn't sound like a HVM, especially if he's not spending any of it on you.
/r/askFDS04/11/20 04:38 AM
13

Omg, I love this, it's so sweet. This means 10000x more to me than any gift or compliment a man could give me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:44 AM
8

hausfrau noun a German housewife. INFORMALa woman regarded as overly domesticated or efficient."a hausfrau from upstate New York" I think she just means she wants to avoid this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:06 PM
2

Wow, where is she from? She looks exactly like my family members!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 12:37 AM
12

Wow, thank you! Did not expect to have my wish granted :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:00 AM
25

I need the equivalent of subtitles for someone with Aspergers because most of this goes right over my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 01:43 AM
29

Can you please divorce him before he gets citizenship?
/r/askFDS22/10/20 06:08 PM
33

You need to block him. Stop giving him an opening to come back into your life. At this point he's just messing with your head. Sometimes, you can't analyze things until you've had a little space and time. Right now you need to be the person that takes care of, trusts, and loves you. Protect your own dignity and self-interest and block that man. Trust that your wisdom will tell you why in time.
/r/askFDS21/10/20 06:31 PM
7

Do not contact him again. I m currently reading The Gift of Fear, which was written by a man who the FBI consults about stalkers, murderers, terrorists, etc. The book is very clear. For stalkers your best best is to go no contact. Every time you engage them you are teaching them that it's a good way to get your attention. Even stalkers that have sent over 10,000 letters to their victims cease and desist within 6 weeks of no contact. Also follow your instinct. If your instinct tells you you are i…
/r/askFDS17/10/20 02:25 AM
4

When untreated thyroid problems that switch between hyper and hypo thyroidism (what I had. Constantly lost and gained weight, but my doc never told me I had hypo too until I went to my female doctor) can cause bipolar disorder. I am thankfully managing it now but this never should have happened. I'm so sorry this happened to you too, but you will make a great doctor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:54 PM
30

Yeah, my little sister got ECT and loved it. She said it totally cured her depression for 4 months (common) and wasn't painful at all. She now only wants ECT and no meds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:16 AM
8

Yeah, I have bipolar with psychotic features when unmanaged. I really think they loved each other though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:05 AM
35

His wife had severe schizophrenia and completely lost her mind. Electroshock therapy was a highly respected treatment and is still given today. Many people claim that their treatment was completely painless. I truly believe that he loved his wife and did the best he could to move on, although he couldn't bring himself to divorce her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:44 PM
4

God, I hate those stupid fucking fauxpologies. I will lose all respect for someone if they do that shit. I would rather have someone be a complete jack ass and double down. This just makes them look like a spineless weasels. I wouldn't even spare the saliva to spit on these people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:02 AM
83

I think this whole thing is a mess and you should speak to management
/r/askFDS15/10/20 02:35 AM
43

I'm not saying to date a poor man. I'm saying just because a man has $ doesn't mean he's HV. However, congrats on your HVM! Sounds like a wonderful relationship, and I wish you the best Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:45 AM
801

Ladies, NEVER label a man as HV based off what he spends on you. Please. I read a report from the ex wife of an asshole billionaire. I could have sworn it was Elon Musk. Anyways, their first date was nearly identical and he told her to pick out as many books as she wanted and he paid for them all. There are a lot of men with money that know some women will be easily impressed by displays like this. But to them, that money is nothing. Just a cheap way to bypass having to earn your trust and respe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:47 AM
20

Girl, what are you doing? You know the truth. It doesn't matter if he's a LVM or not. The question you should be asking yourself is if he's a HVM. And you know he's not. Stop wasting your time and move on.
/r/askFDS11/10/20 05:43 AM
53

I don't have the videogame knowledge to understand the seriousness of that situation but I hate him too now, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:28 AM
8

omg please give us a story time Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:24 AM
5

Where does he expect to get the women from??? Does he think these misogynists will be content without women to oppress??? Does he think women are going to volunteer to be oppressed and raped?? What the hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:38 AM
2

I can't find the original post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:38 AM
6

I mean, if I was talking to my bestie and she asked me what my favorite sex position was I know exactly what I would say. I like being on top because I like having fully control and it tends to be the best angle for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:57 PM
29

I feel like thanking someone is the polite thing to do after receiving a compliment, even if you don't really care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:37 AM
32

I used to have an eating disorder. I know that this is not what you're posting about but something that helped me with my body was noticing the little things and deciding that I loved them. After all, I used to stand in front of the mirror and look for scraps of fat that I could "work" on, why couldn't I stand in front of the mirror and look for fat I loved? So I started. I got a marker and I drew the stars, moon, and sun on my body. I drew hearts and wrote quotes I loved. I looked for fat that …
/r/askFDS27/09/20 06:14 PM
59

Why is no one talking about how a 28 year old trying to get into the pants of a 22 year old lesbian via his gf is kinda creepy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:58 AM
14

Oh my god, the audacity. My male friends don't even let me pay for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:31 AM
5

Depends, does he have a smart phone? If he has got a nokia, he is likely telling the truth. If he has a smart phone he might be telling the truth, especially if he does drugs (obviously for the wrong reasons).
/r/askFDS26/09/20 05:27 AM
9

Idk, I don't regret the sex from bad relationships, I regret letting my guard down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:48 AM
5

I have bought a dozen cars in my life all by myself and only got scammed once, for a $500 car. It's not as hard as you think and I didn't even know what a parking break was when I bought my first car. Drove with it up for two years and it still never broke down on me. Bought it for $700 but it was worth it's weight in gold.
/r/askFDS25/09/20 02:34 AM
9

I LOVE this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:24 AM
152

Every man that ever mentions how good he is in bed has a shriveled penis and will go soft inside you. Biggest fucking scam since time began.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:42 PM
5

seconded
/r/askFDS23/09/20 03:29 AM
7

If my little brother dared do this in a public space I would literally squash him. So disrespectful and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:31 AM
15

wait, I want this tea date tho lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:10 PM
25

Tom is the new Karen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:06 PM
8

I'm having the same trouble. I'm thinking of moving to a smaller town and getting a dog since I work from home.
/r/askFDS19/09/20 04:39 PM
2

Lol, I would never know if a man tried to do this to me because I genuinely don't remember them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:30 PM
2

That is so trashy and rude wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:11 PM
1

what is a roastie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:27 PM
36

even if your mom doesn't wear makeup anymore that doesn't mean she's a plain Jane...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:03 PM
2

I'm of Arab descent so I know how it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:47 AM
5

omg, the first part of his message where he tries to threaten you literally makes me sick to my stomach. I can't read on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:57 PM
9

Oh. Well I guess that's not your thing but I really enjoy zip lining, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:54 PM
4

What's zip line dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:46 PM
17

he needs a bra
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:19 AM
16

This is so wonderful. I've really wanted to make a post about leveling up with your family but this is perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:19 PM
1

No, I mean someone linked the free ebook for everything on the recommended page and I can't find it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:38 AM
9

When I said they're the same, I meant they were both negative, not that one was good and the other bad as the pic tried to show. I agree with you that the one on the right is worse but it's really important to remember that the majority of sex-workers are not forced into it by pimps and yet it's still a valid form of coercion. My family and I come from a third world country. We were friends with the prostitutes on our streets, and it while it might have looked like a "free choice" to Westerners …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:03 AM
8

I don't think finding 10/10 women is all that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:40 PM
209

Lol, they're the same. Let me just change this to: Pic on the left: -pretends to handpick customers (sorry, this isn't how it works. YOU are the product, they pick you. You don't call random men and tell them to pay you for sex). -Pretends this is what their customers are like. I don't care about the one in a million or the liars, I care about whats actually happening. Most men who ask this of you actually end up backing out and want regular sex. Or they want that + sex. They have to have sex. -…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:44 PM
61

I miss r/GenderCritcal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:53 PM
11

Wow, sounds like a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:29 AM
13

Maybe your G-spot is very high up? I have the exact same problem, even though I'm so tight my doctor can't fit her speculum in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:21 AM
25

body hair, Body hair on men is so underrated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:18 AM
71

Sadly, I had the opposite experience. My Asian lovers were super selfish and disappointing. Small, stinky, and no class. They have a big drinking culture I wasn't aware of and they thought getting me drunk was considered foreplay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:01 AM
63

omg, I laughed reading this because it's so true. Maybe one day I'll kidnap him, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:57 PM
327

I lost my virginity to a guy that was 6'7. Ruined sex for me forever, lol, he was my sexual soulmate. I am now attracted to super pale vampire looking guys because of him. Except this one bodybuilder/masseuse that was half Mexican with green eyes and gave me the best oral and massages of my life. However, I really hate it when guys shave their pubes. I like hair, I want to feel like I'm with a man not a naked mole rat. As a bonus it is natural clitoral stimulation and healthier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:20 PM
22

ehh, idk if I agree. I've met some LVM with amazing dogs. I've met some HVM that had dogs that were very bubbly not not trained super well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:32 AM
7

I honestly don't like this attitude. I'm not going to drag myself to their level to be equal to them. If they are "talking" to other people then I'm no longer "talking" to them. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:27 AM
2

Yeah, I would say my situation was an exception too and I'm actually incredibly grateful I did it because it turned out so amazingly but I would never suggest that to another woman because I KNOW that was an exception. His family was like my family and vice versa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:02 AM
5

I can feel your hurt through your post, this would absolutely crush me. But you are so strong. Queen energy. I'm so proud of you and I hope I can one day do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:57 AM
9

"go fast" is slang for doing meth. She dodged a bullet there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:34 PM
2

"go fast" is slang for doing meth. It's a good thing you avoided him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:33 PM
5

I have no idea what this means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:38 AM
1

My dad was a HVM, RIP dad <3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:02 AM
11

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading_books
/r/askFDS28/08/20 11:32 PM
14

This is true, but not for personal relationships. It's not okay to take advantage of people like that. So big shout out to all my past therapists, doctors, nurses, mentors, bosses, etc. I love you and thanks so much for helping me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:30 PM
14

I would suggest you buy her some of the suggested reading materials too. Like The Rules, Lundy Bancrofts book about abusive men and red flags, etc.
/r/askFDS28/08/20 11:23 PM
50

I'm glad she's protecting herself. I was so worried I was going to read another story where a woman loses everything because of her idiot husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:48 PM
6

Disagree, Maybe LVM are like this but HVM definitely change my life for the better. Last fall the HVM I was with dropped off groceries at my house when I was sick, took me to job interviews, appointments, helped me push myself, and was a true friend. We didn't work out but he made my life 10x easier and was incredibly sweet and loving. When a HVM is in your life it you should be able to feel the difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:14 PM
6

This definitely surpasses basic kindness. I would not do this for a random person (basic kindness) only for friends that I am close to and family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:07 PM
1

It looks like her breast???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:44 AM
9

Not having a TV is fine, especially if you have wall-to-wall book cases but you need a comfortable sitting area.
/r/askFDS25/08/20 03:19 AM
3

yeah I kinda rethought this, I was a bit quick to reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:06 AM
35

This is disgusting. I can't believe it got published.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:39 AM
7

I am also in recovery from hard drugs. I just want to say I wish you the best and you are so strong. But OP PLEASE remember that relationships can threaten your sobriety in early recovery and you need to be careful! If you need to talk feel free to PM me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:37 AM
7

I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:43 AM
-7

I don't think either gender can morally take a step back from their kids, no offense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:38 AM
5

Very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:14 PM
3

If I met a man with a checklist like this I wouldn't be interested in him every if I hit every single one. I don't want someone that obsessed with perfection. I find this unhealthy and creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:21 AM
20

Never put a mans name on anything unless you're okay with him getting sole custody of it after you split. Because he'll do everything in his power to take it from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:51 AM
1

oh, I just wanted to see the comments, I wouldn't harass anyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:10 PM
15

I wish we would start posting links when we crosspost something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:50 AM
18

Girl, it's okay. People embarrass themselves all the time. If you change, people will forget or stop caring about how you used to be, the person you have become will overshadow the person you used to be. I have a lot of experience with the AA community and I have seen people who were once only known as the neighborhood crackhead become a respected member of their field (journalist) and community. People who were once raging alcoholics are now known as gentle intellectuals. If people can forget c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:56 AM
8

Look, I have no beef with mediocre men or women. As long as they're nice I will respect them and appreciate them for who they are. I don't care if they're boring. Not everyone is HV and super ambitious. Some people just wanna make enough money to live and spend time with their families. Some people are not very interesting but they wanna find someone to love and spend their lives with. Live and let live. Since I am on this sub I obviously consider myself more ambitious and I have very high stand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 11:15 PM
13

I didn't say that, but I know people that are nice and boring and I would NEVER call them "passively worthless" or forgettable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:25 PM
82

lol, my arab mother would whoop his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:06 AM
30

Hopefully they were bleeding them dry. Minimum wage in South Korea is $6 per hour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:05 AM
46

This infuriates me, and it's one of the acceptable double standards. When men don't date women of their own race it's due to internalized racism or the fact that they are trash. When women do not date men of their own race it's because they know them, and they're trash. I personally do not date men of my own race, because they are legitimately trash. Racist and Misogynistic as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:03 AM
6

whats the point of this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:46 PM
3

Yeah, but wouldn't he need to prove his residency? Unless he has videos of him sleeping there every night he has no proof. Also, that seems like such a bullshit law. Whats the point of requiring someone to put their name on a lease if you can't kick them out whether or not they have it??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:12 AM
13

if she just calls them without telling him or doing it in front of him he won't have a chance to do anything. She should not have to leave her apartment because of this guy. Moving is a much bigger inconvenience than making a phone call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:32 AM
2

It's the attitude. One of my first boyfriend was so confident I never realized he was short until he pointed it out. This man was 5'4 and I literally saw no difference between him and his 5'10 friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:12 AM
30

Why can't you just call the police to have him removed? If his name isn't on any paperwork??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:17 AM
48

I appreciate your attempt at tolerance but I am Muslim and even in the Koran it says not to cover your face or hands, so not to wear burkas. It is definitely wrong, it's a tool of cultural oppression and it goes against Islam. If you wear it you promote the ideals of the taliban, so no one should wear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:10 AM
2

As long as they drive safe and their car is clean, idgaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:38 PM
4

I thought the burner phone thing is BS because there are tons of $20 smartphone burner phones. I used to have one when I was poor. The sex offender thing makes much more sense. As for the Nokia it was mostly a joke :) I'm proud of getting rid of my smartphone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:25 PM
2

I have a Nokia phone :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:57 PM
46

Is suing your doctor an option? I definitely feel like what he did was irresponsible and harmful, even if I don't know all the details. This might help: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/eeyle3/the_story_about_labiaplasty_you_havent_heard/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:39 AM
45

oh god, I'm so sorry, is this reversible? I would contribute to your GoFundMe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:26 AM
27

I understand most of this, but why is picking him up from a train station bad? That's one that seems more like common courtesy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:35 AM
1

I'm not into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:37 PM
6

Is this not satire? I would think because of the ending...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:25 PM
9

flawless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:20 PM
14

who is she trying to impress??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:12 PM
19

Fellow aspie here, More likely than not they already "know". Most neurotypical people can sense that you're off and they already know something is up. Most people IRL don't think of autistic people as neck beards. As for the relationship: as it gets deeper, they will come to know you more deeply as well. You're not going to have to worry about them misinterpreting everything because 1. They should know you better by then and 2. You should be a good communicator. Every relationship is different b…
/r/askFDS28/07/20 07:40 AM
39

PSA 100% of men who wear hats are balding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:48 PM
3

I didn't appreciate this art nearly as much as i should have when I had it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:28 PM
21

ugly egghead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:42 AM
33

I am so disgusted I'm speechless... How could you post a pic of yourself with that expression on your face looking at anything?!?! Even if he were looking at dirt I would feel repulsed by him. And he is looking at his radiantly smiling wife. He makes himself look absolutely worthless, what a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:44 PM
2

excuse my internet illiteracy, but if you're the TikTok girl you're gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:53 AM
11

This is why I don't like soldiers and don't even support the American military. My dad was a marine and he said the military does not deserve our respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:47 PM
5

that's pretty rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:39 PM
10

I have so much respect and love for single mothers. This summer I wanted to volunteer my babysitting services free of charge to single moms but I didn't have the time. Maybe next year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:09 AM
9

This is my radical feminism showing but: THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS MENTAL VIOLENCE. Men use this as a cop-out to say that women are just as violent as men because we're not violent. We're not even as mean as men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:16 AM
12

lol, I don't even care about the meme anymore, it's so exciting to meet another autistic FDS lady!!! PM me if you wanna chat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:54 AM
5

This is great. I'm donating a dollar in your name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:47 AM
15

lol, I am really tired and trying to make sure I read that right but I am pretty sure she's saying she had to let them go be with LVW because it wasn't "fair" to have them trying to reach her level because they couldn't. I read it as kind of a sarcastic post, but I have aspergers, I could be wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:31 AM
20

Yes, but you can get your partner to get a vasectomy instead. Less invasive, cheaper, and reversible. Does not make sense to put yourself through it when it is 100x easier on your male partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:49 AM
12

YES. Birth control is terrible for your mental health and sometimes for your physical health. I remember one time I was at Planned Parenthood (the best place I've ever been to) and I kept asking the doctor what the side effects were AND SHE WOULDN'T TELL ME. She just kept saying "do you want it or not". As if it were expected that a young, sexually active girl is obligated to go on BC, and her partner isn't required to wear a condom, use spermicide, etc. I know girls that gained over a hundred p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:47 AM
6

I think you might need to reread the post a bit more carefully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:28 AM
4

I'm so, so, happy for you. Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:06 AM
7

PSA: CONDOMS CANNOT PROTECT AGAINST ALL STD'S/STI'S. BE SAFE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:34 AM
29

ew, you were too generous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:45 PM
4

I don't have to agree 100% with the wiki. I have a brain, I'm allowed to use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:41 PM
13

You can taste the bitterness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:24 PM
9

Where are you finding men that don't go to therapy?!?! I've never been with a man that either wasn't in therapy or benefited from it in the past
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:45 AM
7

this makes me wanna cry poor girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:42 AM
20

I disagree, even HV people are human. Everyone is affected by friends and family, HV people just do their best to mitigate the effects or minimize their exposure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:25 AM
12

It does come across as too weird. Leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:42 PM
6

I'm so sorry. It sucks to have your trust betrayed like that and to lose a friend to misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:09 PM
8

So she got pregnant 3 months into a relationship and decided to keep it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:10 AM
160

This is grooming 101 for sexual predators. He was trying to bait her into saying she was mature enough for him and age is just a number. But she didn't fall for his mind games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:04 AM
24

$45 per thousand views?!?! You are potentially ruining your life for $45 per thousand people that see you like that?!?! IT'S NOT WORTH IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:00 AM
5

I'm pretty sure the original was actually genderflipped. Anyways, I've been using that line a lot when guys hit on me and it's v helpful to get them off your back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:53 AM
2

why is it always the NSFW accounts that harass us? Almost like they have no respect for women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:50 AM
6

I know a girl who went to his Ivy League with him. I think it was Princeton. She said he was a slimy bastard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:25 AM
4

I feel so bad for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:23 AM
0

Taking care of your appearance is nice but you don't have to become super high maintenance if it's not who you are. I created a routine to make sure I was getting my exercise in, eating healthy, dressing well, etc. and then stopped worrying about it. As long as you are regularly taking care of yourself and meeting or exceeding your personal standards then you should save your energy to level up in more meaningful ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:38 PM
5

I always have such a hard time turning these kinds of guys down. Trust your gut, remember that it is kinder to be firm and let him know it's never gonna happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:41 PM
12

even weirder his hot sister in law in Asian. I wonder...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:09 PM
93

From the article: Mrs Lofthouse said her son had been suffering from addiction issues and she was distraught at the thought anyone would consider her family racist. 'We are in a dreadful situation. He is very sick - if he had cancer people would understand better but he hasn't, he has an addiction problem. OMG, I cannot believe she is comparing being a racist to having cancer! Being an addict doesn't make you racist, being racist makes you racist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:08 PM
6

omg, pathetic. He must really feel bad about himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:58 PM
25

I think he was just trying too hard tom look like a gentleman because he knew he wasn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:31 PM
8

Also, he should not have felt comfortable enough to rub your shoulders during dates 1-2. This guy seems like he was trying to create a false sense of intimacy too fast. If he made you feel like you were already invested in the relationship then it would be much harder for you to walk away when you realized that all his charm was superficial and wouldn't stretch to the things that are actually important, like ACTUALLY taking care of you. These guys know what they're doing. They're doing the easy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:29 PM
5

I think the lurking scrotes downvoted you. Don't worry, we got you sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:19 PM
22

That stupid smug look was making my blood boil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:18 PM
1

lol I thought he was cute too, tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:30 AM
3

I don't think she was tearing her apart, I think she was being honest. I just looked up Melissa555 and while I think she looks great, I don't think it's an insult or inaccurate to say she looks her age. My mom looks her age and she's gorgeous. She also didn't say retin A didn't work, she just said that maybe it's not as miraculous as looking 20 years younger or a facelift. She could have worded herself better because it's easy to sound judgmental on the internet, but I think what she was trying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 07:04 PM
8

And not everyone believes in botox, fillers, and plastic surgery. For me, it's too big of a risk and against my religion anyways. I'm not a doll, I'm not going to put myself through minor surgery just to look forever young. I'm a human being and I age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:40 PM
6

I don't think she is trying to be mean, just that she is trying to say looking young forever is not possible for everyone (especially white girls) and that women shouldn't be forced to be held to that standard. A lot of aging is also about the fat distribution underneath your face and not the sun, which is why young drug addicts look old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:36 PM
9

His sisters are seriously gorgeous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:12 PM
16

When a man asks me, I say I've always been extremely lucky finding great guys but it just didn't work out because x, y, z.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:54 PM
6

same :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:30 PM
2

Do you know the name of the movie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:58 PM
33

Men love taking advantage of women. Every time men have you in a vulnerable position they will try to exploit you. And this is so crazy to me because I would never DREAM of doing that to anyone in my life. I once forced a lady who couldn't afford her dogs surgery to take my debit card and I made sure she knew she didn't owe me shit. When I help people, my biggest worry is that they will feel indebted to me, or they will refuse my help even if they need it. (Or that they will steal from me, tbh).…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:45 PM
11

Also, even if you are a plain Jane you still deserve the best. Even if you are ugly. I notice a lot of very attractive guys are with women that aren't that pretty. But they have amazing personalities. I remember watching an interview some lady did with a famous late night show host and she made him laugh so hard he almost peed himself! It was the first time I was jealous of someones personality. Later that late night show host said out of everyone he had had on the show, if he could invite one b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:51 PM
13

This is disgusting. You cannot pay ANYONE for sex, let alone your partner! Can you imagine putting a price on one of the only "sacred" things in a relationship?! Seriously. Also, some gems from the article: -He wrote: "As our money is separate due to her being irresponsible". Gee, I wonder who this unequal financial situation benefits? -He goes on to explain that there are a "few other sexual favours" he will pay her for - such as anal sex, which he parts with $200 for. If it costs $200 to convi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:54 AM
2

I'm sorry if you thought I was asking you to lower your standards, I DO NOT support that at all. You deserve whatever you want. I guess I was trying to say that sometimes I feel like people are constantly bombarded with what Hollywood's ideas of beauty are that they forget their own, or don't know what theirs is. I was trying to compare what my expectation of my own desires were v.s. the reality of it. I have never been attracted to a beefy guy in my life, but for some reason thats what I always…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:43 AM
129

Weird, because when guys say nice guys, they aren't talking about the nice jock that volunteers with his grandma or the nice student president that helps everybody out. They only talk about the pale, pimply, video game addicted, loser with no social skills. They don't care about any other nice guys, only the ones that they identify as. And they're not even nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:07 PM
26

This is really the stupidest "profound" line a man has ever delivered. It says nothing negative about women. All it says is that mens capacity for selfishness, stupidity, and cruelty, is bottomless. Why the hell would ANYONE want to get with someone who can't appreciate a wonderful, kind, and attractive partner they don't even deserve? If a woman said this about men they would riot. I would run as fast as I could away from that man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:40 PM
52

I think it's the fact that it's a common cultural expectation and most women feel obligated to do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:07 AM
3

Great job guys! The website is beautiful and professional and you fixed the desktop view in one day!!! Props to you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:00 PM
10

I think what she's trying to say (although she could be more polite) is that you're breaking a fundamental FDS guideline and now you're asking us for help to deal with the consequences of something you don't see a problem with. When you decided to move in with him you knew this was a possibility according to FDS but you did it presumably because you love him but the problem when you don't follow FDS guidelines is that you end up with problems FDS can't fix. You're stuck with a lot of options but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:53 AM
45

Same. I have A LOT of anger towards the current trends in society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:30 AM
1

I'm so sorry about that painful experience. I honestly think part of the problem is the medias portrayal of how love works. I am also considered very attractive and I was so confused when I was younger, because I thought as long as a man likes me, and I like him, a relationship should work, right? Wrong. All my relationships were failing. There are probably hundreds, or thousands of people in the world that you would be mutually attracted to, and like. As long as both of you were attractive and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:24 PM
3

Femdom has almost all of the same problems as the rest of porn. So yes, still negative, although the underlying attraction isn't as destructive (at least on the surface). If you want healthy porn I would suggest reading literotica. Depends on how you incorporate it into real life. My mother is an extremely strong and endearingly mean/tough lady. She is a real charmer and gets along with quieter men that are happy to let her take the lead. However, these men are strong and competent. If they were…
/r/askFDS30/06/20 09:58 PM
18

I just wanna say that I never believed in love at first sight or soulmates or anything until I met my fiance. Before that I swore I would become a nun and never marry or have kids. The moment I saw him everything changed. It wasn't love at first sight but I knew he was the one. The next morning he called me to tell me he broke up with his girlfriend and he wanted to get to know me. We honestly had an amazing relationship. Being with him made me change my mind and want to become a mother, because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:29 PM
2

I love the website! Only criticism is that it's too wide on desktop and requires right-to-left scrolling to view the whole page.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:56 PM
6

I actually read a book called Why Interracial People are More Beautiful, Breeding Between the Lines by Alon Ziv, a Jewish geneticist. It explained that we are attracted to people that resemble our parents so that we know they'll be fit to the environment we come from. It's why interracial marriages are rarer. The book also talked about a lot of other interesting things so I'd recommend it as a fantastic read if you're interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:31 PM
18

This attitude is exactly why I'm attracted to black women and not black men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:27 PM
6

Trust your gut. Last year I said yes to a guy that I liked but was way nicer and perkier than most guys. He blew up my phone enough to make me feel wanted and treated me like a queen. He was a fantastic guy and I don't regret a thing even though it didn't work out for other reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:51 AM
10

men usually think I'm an ignorant white woman who knows nothing about the world. Jokes on them, I speak 3 languages, travel internationally, and I'm only white passing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:35 PM
12

this was amazing. My favorite content FDS produced so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:09 PM
10

I always thought it was stupid how being intimidating was thought of as an insult. Being powerful isn't an insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:24 PM
142

this is adorable and super romantic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:42 AM
31

I think "toxic femininity" is a thing, but it's not what she's saying. Toxic femininity is the cultural pressure to do feminine things that are harmful or painful to us. It's sacrificing over and over again to someone who doesn't deserve it. It's burning yourself out because you're picking up everyone else's slack. It's putting on makeup everyday and trying to act dainty even if it goes against everything you are. It's crying while you epilate your arms because the shame of having gorilla arms o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:34 AM
47

I hate the glamorization of sex work. it's not healthy, it's incredibly damaging to vulnerable girls. This shouldn't even be on this sub, this is some brain washing shit a redpiller would post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:42 AM
137

That's not what she's saying. She gave advice that followed FDS guideline: Stop dating hot fuckboys. You're almost 30, you need someone that's actually good for you. You don't wanna waste your whole life fucking with these people. Honestly, the content here is so dry during quarantine I'm seeing a lot of reach these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:52 AM
1

I agree the problem is 100x worse in Muslim countries but I live in America at the moment so I wasn't really thinking of that. Also it's so much harder there that I didn't really think of it as an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:33 PM
2

I admit that's true to a degree and while a lot of people still need to work on their racism towards black people, color isn't generally a problem. I've never heard of a family having a problem with a relative marrying someone of a different race. Even my openly racist aunt was okay with our cousin marrying a Somali because she was Muslim. For Muslims religion is almost always first, everything else comes second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:02 PM
25

Just gonna mention real quick that Muslims don't like marriage outside of their religion, not race. Interracial marriage is very common for Muslim families and I've never heard of anything against it. I myself am a child from an interracial Muslim family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:00 AM
7

Thank you for putting this into words. I've honestly been stumped as to why and my white American aunt says they were raised by the WWII generation and they just wanted to give their kids everything they never had. Sad to see how one traumatized generation can fuck up society 3 generations down the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:42 AM
7

I don't want women to be like men, I want men to be like women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:01 AM
2

I'm kinda shocked, what country does this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:18 AM
2

I can't see the whole pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:22 AM
15

I am that girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:45 PM
142

AND LOOK HOW NICELY HE'S DRESSED!!! If this man can be dressed dapper AF after driving his wife to the hospital last minute then there's no excuse for unemployed men who sag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:25 AM
8

I DEFINITELY agree with this part. Tbh I just assumed it was common in America prioritize work over critical family members because I've heard such shocking stories in similar vein. It seems like a culture of workaholics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:12 AM
17

I understand most people wouldn't like to be in this woman's position, but I really think this man was trying to do the right thing. Can you imagine if your family member was dying and you couldn't go see them? Some people act like grandparents aren't important, but some people are close to their families and would be devastated. Some people had crappy parents and were raised by their grandparents. I think there are much better examples of LVM than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:44 AM
33

I would suggest not texting back at all. He gets validation from getting you to reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:22 AM
-2

A genuine question for all the people saying masturbation is healthy: If it's healthy why does it give men ED? Does not seem very healthy to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:37 AM
3

I no longer trust therapists that don't have doctorates. If you wanna mess with my head you better know what you're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:14 AM
6

For a moment I thought you were serious and I was horrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:55 AM
81

while romantic and thoughtful, his approach is over-the-top for this "stage" of your relationship and could be considered love-bombing. Older ladies please chime in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:55 PM
59

Yeah, this is one of those "performative woke" guys. My first boyfriend was like this and literally only acted sorry for me when I was on my period? Got run off the road by a drunk driver? Nbd. You got your period? Let me make pathetic baby noises and cuddle you with these free tampons until you're annoyed enough to go home. He was a closet misogynist, the cheapest loser I've ever met, and probably stole those tampons from his mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:04 PM
5

I thought this was misogynistic too. The sperm only provides a zygote with it's centrioles (basically the structure) and the egg forms everything else. The egg is by far the most important contributor buyt we credit the sperm because it comes from a man. https://classroom.synonym.com/egg-cell-contribute-zygote-32248.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:06 AM
10

took me a minute to get it. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 02:24 AM
12

You may not want to decline your position as the MOH but at least talk to her about how it's putting you in a bad position because it goes against your beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:43 AM
8

He's not a hvm. A HVM would never make you feel like this. As someone with a truly vulgar sex drive you ALWAYS acquiesce to the partner with the lower sex drive. Otherwise someone is having sex they don't want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:41 AM
36

This whole sub blindy bans women that are a part of gendercritical or FDS. Ironically every single post in that sub validates the two former ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:10 AM
5

I slightly agree with this though. If a man has a small dick, or even a micro penis, there's nothing he can do about it and it affects his self-esteem due to societal standards and limits his partners (I would never date or sleep with a man like this). Small boobs can be cute and even if undesired, a woman can get cosmetic procedures done to correct both features. And a labia isn't looked at in the same way a breast or penis is. Obviously, men are super dramatic and they generally think like thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:17 AM
17

This is one of my biggest worries in a relationship, that my guy will try to foist all the housework and child rearing to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:00 AM
25

do it for your five year old self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:42 AM
10

"because he doesn't know how to love" What kind of bullshit is that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:22 AM
29

Tell them stories, don't give them advice. Ex. my mom always used to tell me about how the valedictorian of her high school turned down a scholarship to marry her loser boyfriend. She lost the chance to escape a third world country and make something of herself and he ended up an alcoholic who beat her and the kids. He trapped her in a life of poverty and trauma. She gave a lot of commentary when we watched movies together. She would criticize something that a kid would mistake as romantic (stal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:52 AM
16

I feel so bad for this woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:50 PM
9

You can be the first woman but not the second
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:43 PM
2

"Does not mean I should fall in love with him" What do you define as falling in love? Isn't that a process of emotions? You can discourage emotions but you can't change or force them. If you were talking about an action (just because I'm in love with him doesn't mean I should take him back) I would understand completely, but you're talking about another emotion (just because I'm in a relationship and he makes me feel good doesn't mean I should feel x). I know we're just debating the technicaliti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 05:37 PM
12

Are you familiar with the term mentalizing? It's basically a term for framing your emotions in a way that you can understand them. This is psychologically very healthy. A great example would be feeling infatuated with a man and talking yourself through it like so: "I feel very strongly for this man. I feel like I love but I only just met him so I know that's not the case. It's probably because my mom just died and I'm confused. I should probably take a step back from this relationship". You are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:20 AM
38

This chilled my heart. No one should ever treat their partner like this. He doesn't give a shit about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 05:45 AM
40

omg. He literally thinks it's detrimental to his health to not beat his gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 05:18 AM
19

No. You can rationally explain your emotions to yourself and make logical decisions based off the situation but I don't think you should try to stamp down your emotions like this. If you get too emotional too quickly, don't have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 05:07 AM
34

They WANT you to tell them to quit. I was talking to a 40 year old man once (ew, we should not have been having this convo) who was complaining about his lack of self improvement because his girlfriend wouldn't nag him about quitting smoking or taking care of himself like his wife would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:27 PM
3

I don't understand. His shirt just says "rainbow backyard dash bar and grill". Why is that bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:04 PM
26

I had a tiny one for a few days. I could not even sit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:45 PM
5

Yeah, some are weird with people being downright mean. It's fine to point out what you think are red/yellow flags, what you think someone should do differently, what you would have done, etc. But some people are just making personal attacks. And you don't have to promote breaking certain rules or advise that other people do, but certainly we can be mature adults when people make personal decisions. If she decides she wants to let her husband support her while taking care of the house and kids fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:21 PM
6

again, I agree with you that there should be a balance, but I disagree that this is a bad example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:09 PM
14

This is such a narrow minded attitude. just because your passionate romances didn't work out you think they're unhealthy and unrealistic. Maybe it's not compatible for your personality, but you're pretty presumptuous to assume that no one else can enjoy a passionate and high quality relationship. Not everyone has to enjoy the same things either. And you're blowing this way out of proportion. I said passionate, I didn't say sugar baby. Passionate can be kissing, intimate conversations, the flood …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:56 PM
13

Going on a date is a small risk. Just because you go on a date with someone doesn't mean you commit the rest of your life to them. You continually vet them throughout your relationship and respond properly. And so what if it seems too much like a fairy tale? Isn't that supposed to be what HVM are trying to give us? My mom had a fairy tale romance, I had a fairy tale romance, my sister had a fairy tale romance, etc. I'm not trying to brag but explain that it does exist. And maybe her man didn't p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:13 PM
2

mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:57 PM
12

She took a small risk and it happened to pan out. She didn't jump into a car with a stranger selling coke outside a liquor store, she went on an unusual date with an acquaintance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:56 PM
6

I feel like you're not getting good advice so I'm sorry about that. I am young, but I can relate to your fears. After my fiance died I worried I would never find anyone again. But both my aunt and mother had to start over again in their forties and fifties. My aunt spent over ten years alone after dumping her first LVM husband and is now extremely happy with her HVM that dotes on her and adores her. They have an extremely happy and healthy relationship. My mother had to start over multiple times…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:53 PM
25

yeah, we're talking about increasingly petty stuff. Watching sports isn't a big deal, a lot of them happen to play sports too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:31 PM
50

I don't think anyone follows FDS rules 100% and neither should they. I actually wanted to make a post about this but since OP is getting some weird comments on her post I'll write a bit here. Everyone is different. Some of my favorite real-life love stories have things that FDS would never allow. These are not supposed to be hard and fast rules, FDS "rules" are guidelines, advice, and wisdom. I have broken a few of the rules when I felt I knew someone well enough and the situation was appropriat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:50 PM
11

I think the title is the comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:29 PM
13

If you ever doubt whether you should accept something from a man... ask yourself if you would accept it from a woman. No? Then leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:54 AM
27

I loved #4 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:51 AM
46

There are two great things about being a woman. Just like any oppressed minority you are forced to become harder working, more creative, more self sufficient, independent, fiery, reflective, kinder, etc. Everything they do you learn to do better. You end up being extremely proud of yourself as a person. The older i get the more I see pathetic men that are 40+ that are bitter and still have the mindsets of 15 year old boys. That will never be you. Maybe this is because we are the oppressed group …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:49 AM
85

can we please hear more about what guys talk about amongst themselves? As someone who has never had any male friends, much less been "one of the guys", I think this would be very helpful to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:49 PM
28

not only that, but when you love someone they become physically more beautiful to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:46 PM
3

Disclaimer: I didn't watch the video yet because I'm at work, so take my comment with a grain of salt. I think women probably dropped corsets when something more convenient came along, just as humans always do throughout history. After all, it was common in the 1800's to get dressed with the aid of another woman, so having to have someone lace you up wasn't that big of a deal. But if we introduced a bra in modern day America that you needed help to get on? It would never sell. However, there are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:21 AM
6

Tell him he's got cum on the bottom of his neck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:58 PM
34

If he's still talking about he's not over it. Cut your losses and leave, you don't need to be anyone's punching bag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:10 AM
73

Just like any other person, listen to what they say. They're still men, just quieter. I prefer slightly feminine men as I find them extremely attractive, and compatible since I have a masculine personality, but the levels of misogyny tend to be the same across the board when they start talking to you about their belief system. If they are not your type try to figure out if they align with what you're looking for in a relationship. I found found that a lot of common characteristics of these men i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:03 AM
1

try switching to literotica
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:33 AM
4

I'm not a fan using ongoing texts as a conversation. Stop texting him. If he wants to talk to you he needs to call. 1-2 phone calls a day max.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:32 AM
20

Are you sure he's not a LVM? I'm not the kind of woman that says "divorce" at the drop of a hat but if this is typical behavior for him you could do much better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:13 AM
13

Pls stop hoarding toilet paper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:17 PM
122

Prices should go higher if anything due to the heightened risk. These pigs need to take an economics class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:02 PM
3

Yes. And I doubt he will be able to keep up his good fortune. He will burn out or fuck it up. It's only been a few weeks. Level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:56 AM
11

Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:46 PM
16

My little brother was caught watching porn when he was 6 or 7. He started hanging out with older boys from the neighborhood and his mom started worrying that they were molesting him and showing him porn so she moved. It really is damaging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:03 PM
6

Maybe a family member cancelled. This doesn't have to be a serious date, you can just go have fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:15 AM
8

This is the first time I saw ed fine in the comments telling a girl to dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:06 AM
2

Be hard to reach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:36 AM
12

She moved into a tent to pay for vet bills. Heart of gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 06:26 AM
17

It's not just quirky. He's rich. In the early seasons she made jokes about marrying him for his money and how her next husband would be hotter after she took his money. But i hate the relationship with the gay dads. They are so petty, toxic, and superficial. They both play the misogynistic stereotype of women which is a double whammy, implying that gay men are basically women and that women are catty, vapid, and shallow. Especially since they display it to their female daughter. No wonder she is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:13 AM
37

They look so in love with each other, just the way they look into each others eyes when they talk... that's what I want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:51 AM
25

Why is a gay couple on the list? Just because he's slightly more feminine than his partner doesn't make him the woman in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:11 AM
8

Someone explain to me what's wrong with being an intimidating woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:07 AM
2

Awesome analysis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:53 PM
3

Good for you! I'm so glad you see something like this, especially since I probably would have made the exact same mistake in the heat of the moment. But you realized your mistake and went forward with dignity and grace. That's what you did differently. And that's what we should all be flung differently. Good job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:45 AM
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Really??? I was blown away that he was caught because I would never have suspected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:03 AM
8

I was just dating an ugly guy😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:47 AM
7

This has happened to me a lot. Multiple times a day whenever I was out with an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:10 AM
5

Global warming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:51 AM
20

You should not be with a therapist that gives you more issues. That defeats the purpose. Remember, you may like your therapist but they are not your friend. They are not supposed to be your friend. This situation SHOULD NOT be about "loyalty" to a friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:59 AM
1

Noooo!! Girl please take it from me, its not worth it. It can destroy your mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:34 AM
3

I'm too tired from raising other peoples kids to raise my own, although the experience was very rewarding I have been sucked dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:09 AM
37

How a queen comes back to life after she leaves a LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:45 AM
17

No. These are still very minor issues. I also have a hyperthyroidism and a heart condition. What I do is demand MORE not less. I am slightly more vulnerable HVW so its my partners job to protect me MORE. If a partner doesn't step up when you need them they're not a partner. HVM that have dated me are thrilled to help me because it makes them feel proud. They love taking care of me, carrying me, bringing me groceries, making me tea, etc. They are not high value of they don't the pride in taking c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:54 PM
6

If it's well managed why would it even be relevant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:43 PM
25

His wife is hot and way out of his league, fuck him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:03 PM
50

God, you made me tear up. I'm so glad you had him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:52 PM
24

I screamed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:40 PM
10

Sorry, I laughed a little. I don't think its rude for guys to get boners when you make out with them. They can't control their boners at all. If they think its impolite to get a boner they'd probably just try to hide it, but no human can consciously direct their blood flow. I mean if he already ate your ass you guys had oral sex. If I wanted to take the next step with a guy (without having penetrative sex) I usually have him take his pants off and grind while making out. You will definitely be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:15 PM
21

Yeah. The "he seemed a little annoyed" And "hey said I really wanted it so we did" Are both indicators that he knows what he did was wrong. This is him trying to justify it. The reason he even tells you about it in the first place, is because he wants to feel like he got your permission. He didn't. And now he's mad you said no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:05 PM
1

Was he hard when you felt his dick? My fiancé was definitely a grower, had a nice size when erect. But his size when soft was misleading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:47 PM
16

Yeah, but I think its also important to note that there's a difference between pursue and approach. Pursuit is chase, approach is greet. One of my most successful tactics is briefly introducing myself to a man (hook) and backing off (reeling them in).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:17 AM
5

Beyoncé- broken hearted girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:37 AM
24

So cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:36 AM
3

This almost seems like a troll. You made a mistake. Learn from it and let it go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:07 PM
2

I agree to an extent. It's hard to put it in words so it sounds very weird but something I learned from a dog trainer (It's Dog Or Nothing) that a dogs best rewards is your presence. His worst punishment is your absence. Men are the same way. Don't waste your time going on and on about what you think is unacceptable. Withdraw politely (either physically or emotionally) and he'll always be 100% more concerned with your reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:21 AM
8

That's what i thought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:00 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss OP. hopefully you can get out of that toxic living environment and your sister might see the light when she no longer has you around to blame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:25 PM
26

I don't think of gold diggers as the equivalent as men being monsters. Gold diggers take advantage of a pre existing situation designed to exploit them. They profit off of it but at a high cost. They have to have sex with ugly/old/mean men and allow it to impact their lives in negative ways. Men that don't see women as human don't suffer for it. They use women as they please and shamelessly hurt, endanger, or injure them. They give women nothing in return and are monstrous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:26 AM
1

I've asked his mom to cut his computer priveleges before but she won't budge and I understand. He is very lonely since he is home alone all day and the computer is the only thing he has to take his mind off it since I can't get him to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:04 PM
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Typical male arrogance. What great things are men doing with their lives? Sitting on their ass, playing video games, and farting. Some go to work and earn a modest paycheck. Women create the next generation and men are too dumb and arrogant to have anything but condescension for their wives that actually read, lead interesting careers, and determine the next generation. Parasites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:20 PM
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Unless you're his parent or other influential elder, its not your responsibility to raise your brother. Especially since he's grown. I think the best way to teach men to be HVM are to raise them the same way we raise our daughters, and to teach them about feminism. My family did a good job raising my little brother like the rest of us girls but we forgot to add political commentary to his life and he found reddits redpill subs and now thinks he's a little genius for being a male. He's only ten, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:45 PM
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I would suggest bringing up how he has mentioned it in the past and the hits he had been dropping, and state that you are now ready. This way you're not asking him if he wants to be exclusive, you're tentatively "accepting" his offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:34 AM
3

Oh my god, I loved princess academy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:23 AM
1

I'm not gonna argue with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:09 AM
2

I hate arguing about semantics. I don't care if it's a "not all men" post to you, I know what I mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:04 AM
2

It's not a "not all men" post. I'm not saying "not all men" are rapists, evil, misogynist, etc. I'm not arguing against any common feminist complaint. I'm literally just discussing concentrations of certain attributes within a demographic (uneducated men). Your reaction is a little extreme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:54 AM
3

As another wise FDSer said, men will appreciate the work you do for them, but they won't appreciate you. Why not invest your energy into something that will actually help you? Try making healthy female friends or build up your family. Work on your education or sirens time on your hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:21 AM
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I see the point you make, and do agree to an extent. You've really been making me think. I think the problem is that it's SO HARD to find men that like to read (and really think) in the first place, that it is doubly hard to find them in places that don't require it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:17 AM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:14 AM
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Not all "working class men" are that uneducated. My late fiance was a huge reader, loved philosophy, and was an aspiring writer. He was eloquent, well read, and had a bigger vocabulary than me (unheard of). His weak point was formal education and politics. he was incredibly poor and had to drop out of school at 16 to support his mom but still got his GED after studying for a month. He tried to go back to college but his economic hardships coupled with his insecurity of having to drop out did not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:30 AM
2

But it is wasting of you just throw it out. In the current state of the world (extreme climate change) we really should be as conscientious as possible. First world countries throw out the most food because of this mindset. Check out r/zerowaste if you want to learn more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:46 AM
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I was diagnosed when I was sixteen. Socially I am MUCH higher functioning now, due to a year of 24/7 do-or-die socialization, but some people can still tell. It's very hard for me. I get lonely and I get along best with women 10-20 years my senior, but its hard to naturally form relationships with them casually. In recent years, my best friends have been my female professors. Relationships are amazing for me when they work because they are very intimate and I'm great at one on one friendships. B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:19 AM
14

Yes. I ALWAYS do this and it drives men crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:08 AM
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I feel humiliated when someone sees my armpit/ body hair. I'm semetic and I have very thick and dark hair all over my body. But I dont shave because my skin is so sensitive. I got made fun of a lot in school for this when i was younger and now I am very insecure. I love waxing but its so difficult to do by yourself and so expensive to get done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:58 AM
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I have extremely sensitive skin. Runs in my family and everything sets us off. My family makes wax from sugar, lemon, and water. Look up "Egyptian sugar wax recipe". Much easier on the skin and 100% organic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:54 AM
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Check out r/gendercritical and r/femalseseperatism if you haven't already. HVM men exist, but that does not mean you need to date one. If you have been hurt by men a lot in the past, and have feelings of intense bitterness and pain, wading through a sea of LVM will be especially painful and difficult for you. There's no harm in living your life without men and focusing on your happiness and your sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:51 AM
1

Or recreational substances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:30 AM
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If I were you I don't know if I would have been able to do that. He sounds like a great man otherwise and you really care about him. In this kind of situation would it be possible to have a conversation with him about it and see if he's Woking to stop? Especially since he cares about you a lot and your behavior sent a clear message that it's not acceptable or negotiable. I would hate to be in your situation and have to dump a man for that. I doubt if I would be a knee to go through with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:03 AM
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Oh my god, reading that made me nauseated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:09 PM
8

I wasn't trying to imply you were a lesbian, because I get the point you were trying to make. Just wanted to know if women were an option since you're having a hard time with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:26 AM
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He's not average, he's ugly. But I see your point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:39 AM
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God, what a presumptuous little twat. I'm seething with rage for you, I hate those guys. Good to see you bounce back though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:24 AM
7

Are you attracted to girls at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:10 AM
3

Oh my god. The homeless men I dated wouldn't even think about doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:48 AM
4

This is a great way to put it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:58 PM
3

Don't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:22 AM
7

I've had exes make fake accounts to contact me. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:46 AM
5

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:24 AM
6

Can I ask what book you're reading for matching clothes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:24 PM
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I'm reading it right now!! Worth its weight in gold, I also recommend it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:53 PM
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I can't even understand what he's trying to say. What does this mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:50 PM
7

There was another post almost exactly like this yesterday. Don't dump him until Valentine's day is over, her may be trying to surprise you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:25 PM
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Wait till Valentine's day is over. He may be trying to surprise you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:07 AM
4

$500 for a hotel room? $200 for a meal? If you are on a budget there are obviously cheaper options that are still nice. Don't be a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:09 AM
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True. A lot of it is politics. I work at a hotel where we have some very well known clients, and one of our most frequent VIPs is a "poet". He is a millionaire that makes most of his money through Hollywood somehow. He has the shittiest poems I have ever read. He is dumb as fuck. My ten year old brother thought he was a cringey moron. He wrote me a poem and my family laughed their assess off when I read it out loud to them. A middle schooler could've done better. He has the personality of a midd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:56 AM
2

No. I've never succeeded and I don't think its possible. Unless she changes her mind about him it's never gonna happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:34 AM
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I know you touched many points in your post, but I am only going to respond to one part that I see in a lot of women. If you spent years with a friend you loved, and then never saw her again would you say that time was wasted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:32 AM
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My mom had an international relationship with my father. Please remember that in a relationship it's the MAN that needs to take risks, travel, etc. Even if you want to visit his country you need to keep the ball in your court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:47 PM
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No. I've watched enough kids grow up to know that you CAN inherit personality traits. Even with parents the kid has never met. I would like to make a child with someone I know well, preferably someone I love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:02 AM
1

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:18 AM
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Well if he's not a millionaire he can't really compensate for the risks a woman takes to bear him children if he turns out to be a piece of shit. You could have picked a very HVM with tons of great qualities, but even they can give you nasty surprises. You can't trust a man to be good forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:53 AM
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My mom was a single mom since I was six, so I never pictured myself having a husband. To me the default IS being a single mom. I'm okay with that if I decide I don't want to get married but still want kids. If I had a husband, idk. Obviously I don't want to be a single mom if I got married, but I don't want to marry a millionaire. (Not that I dont want to be rich. I do. But I've never met a rich man that wasn't an asshole.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:03 AM
1

I can't see the linked page :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:27 AM
11

What do you do if you want kids though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:02 AM
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THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:59 AM
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Wow, I'm so sorry you had to go through that but I'm also sooo happy you found such a great guy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:57 AM
33

One man asked if he could buy my dirty underwear, he found a semi relevant post of mine in this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:16 PM
31

I just checked out r/agegap. Top comment of all time is about a 21 year old dating a fifty five year old. WHAT THE FUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:12 AM
2

Thank you, I'm sure you look fab queen😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:46 AM
2

Thank you for the advice but I'm just gonna get Lasik in a few months
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:14 PM
9

Yes, I relate. I'm legally blind without glasses and since I have large, thick frames they cast a a dark shadow on my eyes and my lenses are farsighted and very thick so the glass makes my eyes look smaller. One summer I didn't wear glasses and I got hit on everyday. I know I'm beautiful but its impossible to see with these huge coke lenses :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:44 AM
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I agree, I also go to women's only meetings but stopped due to a relapse. Shits hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:36 PM
31

Maybe he'd get more success of he didn't refer to women as bitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:07 AM
2

No/surf because everyone needs a break
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:59 AM
5

I can't see the post, its deleted, but can I ask why this is wrong? TMI but I (a girl) have smelled my own panties before, just to see what all the fuss was about and they smelled shockingly good. And I like how a room smells after sex. And I like how men smell when they're not dirty. Isn't this a sub for heterosexual women? This just seems like part of human sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:18 AM
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I have never been successful at this. If I don't genuinely like the man I can't enjoy the sex, if I genuinely like him, I fall for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:13 AM
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I wish I had heard this when I was a teen, being encouraged to "use men for free dinners" while I ended up getting used for sex. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:20 PM
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He doesn't look bad to me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:08 PM
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Check out r/gendercritical if you crave more feminist, women-centric subs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:40 AM
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I'll say it again: look for old fashioned guys that still use flip phones. They usually grow up in the country, are hard workers, and have good values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:41 PM
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It wasn't, I really couldn't feel the ice at all. And medically, I was basically fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:44 AM
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Yes, leave him asap. Sorry you're going through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:20 AM
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In reality I don't think it would matter. TMI but I've had ice up my vajayjay for medical reasons before and I could not feel the temperature. And no I was not numbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:15 AM
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I have noticed the same thing. I dated intellectually intelligent guys that are assholes vs the heart of gold, slightly dimmer, counterpart. It does not make you a pickmeisha. Honestly, do what makes you happy. No relationship is ever going to be 100% fulfilling; that's why you have other relationships. The question is, would you rather have a slightly cruel intellectual or practical and kind bumpkin? I will admit there was something intoxicating and vaguely dark about the intellectual but I cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:48 AM
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So sorry about your friend. Nice to see we have other women in recovery tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:25 AM
1

Yes, I'm very proud of my state. And OP if your state doesn't have something like this camping in national forests or grasslands is still free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:47 AM
1

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:23 AM
1

Know of any books or subreddits that do this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:13 AM
3

Yes I'm interested too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:13 AM
3

You said usually tens of thousands. How much are you paying, may I ask?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:59 PM
2

Of course it's different everywhere but where I live if you commit yourself for something like severe depression its not that big of a deal and you usually get out within three days. 2 weeks is on the long end and that is of you have committed yourself numerous times in the past and need more support or you want to transfer directly to a different long term facility and there's a waiting list. We also have longer term facilities which are like yurts in our national forests if people feel like th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:03 PM
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I'm sorry, I have no idea what to say or do in this context. Sounds like your first priority should be intensive psychiatric treatment. If you are allowing your boyfriend to traumatize or harm you, you are "a risk to yourself" and entitled to commit yourself to a psychiatric facility if you feel your mental health is putting you in danger. I'm sending love and hope your way. Please don't be afraid, I've had to commit myself a few times and the high quality facilities were a critical psychologica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:19 AM
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I'm genuinely shocked, I saw a lot of positive posts about him on r/gendercritical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:34 AM
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YASSS QUEEN!!! I am so fucking happy for you, this was an amazing read and I'm so glad I'm on this sub so I can see the progress and growth of girls like you. I am SO proud of you!!! Good job!!! Also, I noticed the thing about demanding respect too. I used to ignore guys after they were mean to me and I hated it because it didn't change their behavior and I was left bursting with anger because I couldn't get closure and I had to control my temper. Then I read a post on here about this girl being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:57 AM
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This is such good advice I saved your post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:48 AM
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I agree, and since I come from a huge family of highly educated women (no men in my immediate family and in my extended family) I only saw men as people again after I met my fiancé. But there's always a power balance in relationships. Even with my fiancé if i wanted him to do something I knew the best way wasn't to ask him directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:10 AM
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At first thought, I estimate my fiancé was a low maintenance man. Then medium maintenance. Then high maintenance. The truth is, relationships are work and people need to be taken care of by their partners. It goes both ways. When it comes to menial shit, he was extremely low maintenance. When it came to planing our future, he was low- to- medium. As long as his needs were met, I could do whatever I wanted. When it came to the emotional part of our relationship he was high maintenance. Yes, I did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:46 PM
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Lol I literally meant "idk what else" but glad you found some inspiration😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:06 AM
9

This reminds me: I really like movies as first dates. You don't have to talk too much and its not a waste of time if you totally dont like him because you got to see a movie. This is the first date my fiancé took me on and it also have us a good topic of discussion after the movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:57 PM
2

Why would you need a HVM if all you want is a fling? The only thing you need to look for is good dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:06 AM
5

I just entered my twenties, can I ask what are some good ways to invest in myself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:41 AM
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Yes, but they're usually the same type of men that still have flip phones and are a little old-fashioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:56 AM
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Most men answer honestly because they don't expect it to be a deal breaker. Even when I tell them it is, they are shocked but dont try to backtrack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:08 AM
2

I've dated a guy that was 6'7 and a guy that was 5'4. I'm 5'6. It's not about how tall a guy is, it's about what he does with that height. I never noticed that my 5'4 man was shorter than me until he pointed it out. By that point I had been with him everyday for a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:33 AM
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I don't watch porn and I don't date men that watch porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:12 AM
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I secretly believe every man that is into anal really just wants it done on himself. I was having rough sex with a good fwb the other day and he kept bringing it up, so I stuck a finger up his ass and he almost came on the spot. I need no more convincing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:05 AM
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My cocktail moment happened with my late fiancé who was my soulmate Probably already on FDS somewhere but basically I was at a meeting in the evening and flirting with some cute guy. I turn my head slightly and see my fiancé in the corner of my eye. I forget the cute guy exists. I stop talking mid sentence and walk straight towards my fiancé. Cute guy is flabbergasted and I distantly hear him spluttering behind me. I immediately engage him in a conversation and lead him outside. Within two minut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 07:29 PM
1

I have a very similar story. I was homeless for a year when I turned eighteen and it was the most dehumanizing and traumatic experience of my life. I am a small girl so my best defense was entertaining overtly predatory men and playing the part of a damsel in distress while not being victimized by those same men. Shelters are hard to get into and they're not evenly spread. There's not one women's shelter in my city that takes wall ins, they're all booked months in advance. Men's shelters were mu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 07:17 PM
2

Not if I was expected to be their caretaker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:59 PM
2

I'm sorry about that. I got clean from drugs when I was 19 if you ever need any advice or to talk pm me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:35 PM
2

No I was texting him before we met in or blind date and found out he was 35. For some reason I thought he was 24 .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:33 PM
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found out the guy I was going on a blind date with is 15 years older than me I have started visiting my ex landlord because we are good friends and I am learning to cook. The deal is he buys the ingredients and pays for my gas, I cook and we both eat. I am working on my financial stability and self improvement. I have three jobs right now and I start one at a bank in February. I also read 200 pages a night and currently reading Gone With The Wind I am working towards going back to school in the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:25 AM
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"You can't stop me from driving to your house" Wtf would he wanna drive to their house when he wouldnt be allowed to come inside unless he got off on being around their daughter. Disgusting pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:30 AM
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Protip: Do not write too much about yourself. Write the basics, but keep in mind that men dont know what they want. No matter what they say, what they really want is a chase. I have been VERY successful OLD and most of my profile usually talks about what I want in a man. It's unapologetic and blunt. For example, I write that I usually like blond men around 6' that enjoy reading and will cook for me. I get FLOODED with pickmeisha men that tell me "even though I'm not xyz, I am ABC, if you'd like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:38 AM
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Short answer: Yes. My mom married my dad, a HVM that was the love of her life and was very successful financially. After he died she easily found another man that was even richer (300k a year) that she loved and married him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:24 AM
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That seemingly irritating but innocent habits can be a sign of something more calculated. That when men leave a mess its because they expect YOU to do their housework for them. They didn't just forget, they're setting up a dynamic that will force you to slowly start cleaning up after them and taking care of them like little man-babies. This obviously isn't the case with you, so there's no need for you to explain that your s/o isn't doing this to you. This post is about recognizing a pattern and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:55 PM
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It almost never requires an explanation. You're missing the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:29 PM
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Ghost him, you are draining yourself by worrying about him and you are not benefiting anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:48 AM
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Thought this was gonna be a different post tbh. Figure out the trait that all your favorite exes had in common and look for that. Mine is that all my best exes loved to read, were intuitive, and sensitive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:46 AM
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I believe men are WAY more than 2x as likely to be pedophiles. That's insinuating 1/3 of pedophiles are women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:25 AM
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I dont think this requires an over compensating explain. If you know in your relationship, that when your man leaves dishes by the sink, it is NOT a red flag, then good for you. But that's not what this post is about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:23 AM
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My dad had four girls. None of us are changing our last name; neither did my mom. It's not in our culture, plus it's one of the only ties we have left to our dad. But my sister's husband is a lil bit insulted by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:42 AM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:15 AM
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I'm gonna say there's some truth in this. When I met my fiancé I was unknowingly "the other woman". He broke up with his gf the day after he met me and confirmed we were exclusive before the end of our first date. He treated me like a queen and I never knew he was with another girl before me until after he died and I started reaching out to his FB friends for his mom. One of them was his ex. She was very bitter, explaining that she somehow knew about me and how I was treated from day one v.s. th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:43 PM
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Thank you for the feedback ladies! I will be going on the date next week and I'm very excited to go forward with your advice and insights. I will update!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:21 PM
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Lol if I'm living with a man I'm not paying rent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:19 AM
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True. They say it did you let down your guard thinking they're progressive and they use "woke" propaganda to justify misogynistic behavior. The added headache of their mental gymnastics makes them worse than out and out misogynists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:07 AM
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I'm so sorry honey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:01 AM
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My red flags: all his exes are "crazy" he doesn't speak highly of his mum he's not ambitious he watches porn he doesn't like kids or animals he doesn't do AT least 70% of the relationship work he doesn't talk through your emotions with you conversation isn't fun you're not his #1 priority the connection is the most important thing in your relationship. If this is true you will compromise your other relationship priorities to maintain your connection. Highest priority needs to be how he treats yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:30 AM
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My rule is that a man has gotta love his mother. My fiance was super close with his mom and had a great relationship with her. Every HVM I've ever dated had a great relationship with their mothers and would go over to their moms to the weekend to help her with yard work, handyman stuff, etc. If I found out a man didn't have a good relationship with his mom I stopped talking to him. I don't even want friends like that. Most of the men I dated either did not have sisters or lived far from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:21 PM
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Good for you having high self esteem! I just asked my mom about your situation and she said it's very common that Saudi families -especially rich Saudis- don't like their children marrying outside of their culture. Even other Arabs like Syrians. She said if the family is rich they will fight it. Others are much more lenient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:36 AM
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Arab here, My religion and culture is very progressive when it comes to females in relationships. My mom made a lot of mistakes woke raising me but she modeled a great relationship with my dad and I watched him treat her like a queen. I'm very lucky that my mother always emphasized caution in relationships with men and warned me that most men are losers that will ruin my life if I let them tie me down. I don't really have any self esteem issues in relationships but I have MAJOR control issues an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:35 AM
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As an Arab... Say thank you and keep him at a distance for a little while. I would say at least 4-6 months for things to cool down if you want to just be friends. He obviously values you (Not saying this because of the expensive gift, but because he slept with you before marriage and deeply respected you. Probably was gonna marry you). He probably wants to keep as much of the relationship as possible without losing his family. Just curious, are you sure it's because you're western and not becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:29 AM
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Not in a relationship rn but my late fiancé was amazing. He was in a bad place in his life when we met, but the day after I met him he told me that being around me made him want to be better and he literally went out and got a job immediately. Part of it was that we were a really good fit and the other part was that my self esteem was at an all time high. The first time I meet him we snuck out of the meeting we were at to go on the roof and look at the stars and when we were cuddling i thought h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:14 PM
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