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Women are taught to constantly worry about their looks and look their best, what makes you think they're not also applying that to their romantic partners?
/r/seduction24/07/22 12:28 PM
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I didn't say confidence is toxic masculinity, the expectation to be confident can be I consider toxic masculinity to be separate from feminist academia by this point, I don't need to read theory to recognise toxic masculinity. You're right that as a man I don't inherently understand it, but I am able to recognise it very well due to my lived experience suffering from it
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 03:52 PM
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Its totally normal
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 02:26 PM
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Being a kissless virgin by 25 is normal. I don't care what your number say. I'm normal And I'm a man so I think I know what toxic masculinity is, and the expectation for men to be confident is toxic masculinity. The fact that you can't recognise that indicates you're probably holding onto a lot of toxic masculinity yourself
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 02:25 PM
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Funnily enough this causes women to not compliment men as much and the cycle continues
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 11:17 AM
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Here, or sometimes on Twitter. Mainly in women's spaces
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 11:14 AM
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The whole "transactional" debate kind of goes nowhere because its so fucking vague you can argue anything humans do ever for anyone else is transactional. That's true. Nobody does something without getting something out of it. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing at all, it's just the way things are. I think people are weird about the word 'transaction' because it's associated with monetary or physical goods rather than emotions
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 08:22 AM
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Relationships are transactional in that you give and receive. However what is given and received is up to whomever is in the relationship. For some that could be money and status, for others it's emotional stability or physical affection. The transaction itself can be anything
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 08:18 AM
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While you can become dependent on porn due to the dopamine release, it is possible to have a healthy relationship with it. Watching porn once or twice a week won't rot your brain Its like all things, is it in moderation, don't rely on it, and don't let it interfere with your regular life Also semen retention is straight up bullshit lol. Reading the sub now and these dudes is straight deranged
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 03:24 PM
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Its a male sex toy. Essentially it's a latex sleeve shaped like an egg that has a hole at the bottom and a textured inside. You stick your dick into the hole, pull it down your shaft and use it to jerk off with They're cheap and there's lots of different varieties which makes them great for early experimentation, but personally I'd invest in something sturdier and more reliable (they're a little flimsy in my opinion).
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 02:38 PM
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I find it interesting that you mention how guys joke about it, because I actually think it's an important distinction to make. Often when male masturbation is brought up it's done with a humourous slant, but thinking about it deeper and I can't think of an instance where it was brought up honestly and earnestly, without being paired with a joke In a way I think the humour defuses the shame associated with it. Your right that male masturbation can be discussed, but only in certain ways I think yo…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 02:33 PM
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To be fair masturbating doesn't necessarily equal watching porn
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 09:54 AM
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Thanks man. It'll be difficult for sure and there's going to be an embarrassing transitional period, but hopefully it can be destigmatised I've been thinking of buying one of those Hitachi wands and using that on myself. Its an object almost exclusively associated with female pleasure, and I think there's genuinely something hot and empowering about claiming it for men as well, like I'm bastardiaing it
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 08:31 AM
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Good. The same with all things though, don't over-do it and don't rely on it to feel good I think men should be more open and experiment more when masturbating. Male masturbation is seen as shameful and gross because society instills in us the idea that men are hypersexual and hyperagent and thus should be having sex with women, so admitting you masturbate still carries a connotation of shame (it's why people still joke like 'get used to your right hand' when a man says something they don't like…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 08:15 AM
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I just thought I was whining about not getting pussy on the internet, turns out I'm actually a threat to national security
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 04:04 AM
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Some girls will, some girls won't. It also depends on the situation. There's a time and a place to be vulnerable
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 04:02 AM
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I also have no clue what this means. But if you're referring to me as a cool venomous snake well thank you
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 08:02 AM
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Science should be free of bias and agenda. I highly doubt that 'incel science' is at all. Think about it, what does an incel most want to prove? That he's right, so he's only going to pay attention to studies that indicate that he's right. How many studies are there that prove incel ponts wrong, do you think you'd find them on that wiki? Personally I just don't really believe in studies or statistics. Why would I blindly trust a bunch of numbers written down by someone I've never met? That's foo…
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 08:00 AM
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I really have no idea what you're talking about man, I was just saying it's foolish to compare yourself to others, sorry if you didn't like that for whatever reason
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 07:39 AM
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Well I am pretty stupid soooo... And taking your question at face value I'm gonna refer you back to my original answer, until you die
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 07:11 AM
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I dunno. Until you die I guess? I don't understand the question sorry
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 07:01 AM
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Ok nice well done. Not everyone is you In general we shouldn't compare ourselves to others. Comparison is the theft of joy
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 06:56 AM
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In that case could you say people who have had sex are privileged? In that case would pushing back against sex-havers be 'punching up' and thus ok to do? and it should just be treated as sacred and powerful instead of trivial I feel like putting it on the pedestal will make the people who don't have it want it even more
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 06:40 AM
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Yes I did but ok you're welcome
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 06:36 AM
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They have money, status, and power. If they weren't on the screen women wouldn't be throwing themselves at them
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 06:33 AM
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I hope I helped show you how the female gaze can also be harmful. Thanks for being open-minded
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 04:49 PM
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“why won’t women have sex with me”? If that’s your biggest concern in life, then therapy. Its not my biggest concern in life but it is a concern of mine and it's totally valid and I'm sick of it being downplayed Although I'm more interested in general intimacy than just pure sex Is there a way I can frame women not finding me attractive as a patriarchal issue so I can post about it there?
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 12:02 PM
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How does the female gaze make you feel gross, inadequate and ashamed? I guess for the same reason women under the male gaze feel gross, inadequate and ashamed I guess I just thought it was an alternative to the male gaze where I could feel included. I've never really fit into the make gaze and I thought under the female gaze I could find a place and feel empowered, but it's just as exclusive as the male gaze Under the female gaze I don't feel like a person, I feel like a set of attributes. I'm n…
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 05:31 AM
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How do I appeal to the female gaze. Everytime I read up about the female gaze it makes me feel gross, inadequate and ashamed, but I know that if I want a girl to like me I have to appeal to that I know I'm insecure and I know that's repulsive to you but please help me
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 03:58 AM
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Most men are horrible. Most will f*ck you over, and will betary you. I just think you know bad people. Good men are real. My bros would never fuck me over or betray me
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 06:52 AM
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I don't really see how a specific ruling in your counties legal system will have an effect in other countries. Culturally yes I think it may have a small effect but it would be almost negligible
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 12:54 PM
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That's 50% of the population that was effected.... We haven't seen the storm yet. I mean it's 50% of the population in one specific country
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 12:45 PM
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Likewise it would be nice if people stopped equating men liking gentle femdom porn to men wanting to be coddled and mommied by women. Like I said, a better tomorrow
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 10:58 AM
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Uhhhh yes and? I wish to live in a world where girls are free to like bad boys and men are free to like mommy gf. A better tomorrow and more accepting world
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 10:43 AM
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You can but it will be a lot harder for you
/r/ExRedPill27/06/22 11:55 AM
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Been trying to tell people that less people are having sex. Casual sex is quickly becoming a myth and it's more an more normal to go through life without intimacy
/r/ExRedPill27/06/22 04:31 AM
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Do you really think calling him a 'bitch baby' is going to make him want to listen to you? Are you all-the-way retarded or just a little bit?
/r/ExRedPill27/06/22 04:16 AM
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You literally post to FDS
/r/ExRedPill26/06/22 06:46 AM
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No offence but I take YouTube pranks with a grain of salt, the people in them are often plants
/r/ExRedPill26/06/22 06:35 AM
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I promise you women will be swooning over you. lmao no they won't. People say this way too much when it's not true. Not having anger issues isn't attractive it's expected, it doesn't make anyone swoon over you
/r/ExRedPill26/06/22 06:19 AM
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Ok I hope things work out well for you two
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 01:47 PM
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I'm sorry your boyfriend did all that to you. I'm sorry for all of that. I won't pretend to understand what you went through but sorry, that shouldn't have happened to you. Your talking about your boyfriend in the present tense. Is this your current relationship? Because if so I'd really reconsider it I was just communicating what other people have told to me, that women don't want a relationship with a depressed guy. This is what I've been told
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 01:41 PM
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I was told this by people who weren't RP and were basically anti-RP
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 12:09 PM
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I just hate being told casual sex is easy to get when I know full damn well it isn't. It makes me feel like a freak when I know I'm normal I just want to spread this message that its totally normal to have not had sex and that casual sex isn't this easy thing everyone is having Why do you defend this idea so much when it's clearly damaging to a lot of people
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 12:03 PM
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And I bet you while people are having those parties there are many people in their rooms who are not at those parties Also going to parties and socialising does not mean casual sex. I went to plenty of parties during my time at uni and didn't have sex Also how would you know? Are you at Uni? Do you go to these parties?
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 11:46 AM
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You're only seeing the people who are out having an active social life though, you don't see the people in their dorms not doing those things. Its a silent majority I was in an art course and the few guys on there didn't have causal sex and only a couple were in LTR. This was still true despite being surrounded by many progressive, liberated, and sex positive women who they got on well with I also had an active social life of going to parties, drinking, doing drugs, and socialising with new peop…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 11:39 AM
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I just think it's naïve to put faith in numbers written down by people you've never met. I'd rather go off shit I see with my own eyes, and I see many people unable to get intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 11:36 AM
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Oh because the government said something it must be true lmao
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 11:34 AM
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UK If your going to bring up a bunch of statistics for my country now I'm probably not gonna listen, so I'd ponder if it's worth the effort of finding them
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 11:24 AM
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I prefer than letting numbers written down by people I don't know dictate my worldview Why do you trust statistics so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 11:23 AM
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Well I can only speak for one country and its the country I live in. Its pretty normal and standard for the average guy here to have never had intimacy but still it's an experience the overwhelming majority of people above a certain age will have. This is pertinent. Maybe that age is going up. Many men and women under 30 have never had any intimacy From what I see it's shifting more and more everyday. Less and less people are having intimacy and the lack of it is becoming the norm. A guy who has…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 11:20 AM
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People have told me in the past that no woman would ever want me if I'm depressed and that I need to become the best version of myself before I can enter a relationship. I'm beginning to think this isn't true at all
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 11:15 AM
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Statistics mean literally nothing to me but thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 11:07 AM
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If she was only angry, insecure and sad then no of course not. But that's not what I'm talking about. Yes if those are the only emotions you feel then somethings wrong, but literally everyone feels and expresses those emotions at times because they're normal human emotions. Despite that many women are not equipped to handle them That's what I meant by expressing 'acceptable' emotions. The only emotions people want you to express are positive ones. They expect you to keep the negative ones to you…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 11:06 AM
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Agree to disagree then
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 10:47 AM
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I think it is mostly an age thing. I'm assuming your middle-aged right? Less and less younger people are having relationships and sex, even if they do meet people in real life. This trend is increasing and becoming the norm. Now it's pretty normal to go through your youth and 20's without having intimacy Like I'm pretty much the average dude now, hasn't kissed anyone, hasn't flirted, hasn't had sex, hasn't had a girlfriend. This is the new normal for most guys (and is becoming more normal for gi…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 10:46 AM
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This whole idea of men not finding women is, as far as I know, a very American thing; in Europe there's nothing like that I'm European (UK so barely counts) but the situation is very similar here as well, a lot of men not finding women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 10:22 AM
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Anger is a big one. Women are understandable wary when men are angry because they can become the victims of it in cases. Thing is it's still an emotion that al men feel somewhat Fear. Women hate a man with insecurities, they find them repulsive. They want confidence at all times. Confidence is sexy, insecurity is not Sadness. Women don't like being with a sad sack who feels down. They want to be happy and they want a man who makes them happy and entertains them Everytime I express my emotions an…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 10:18 AM
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I mean they could have lied... Also I'm not sure how you know all of them have plenty of casual sex, but you know then not me Maybe it's a demographics thing. I'm mid-20s and none of the men I know are having casual sex and many agree that it's incredibly hard to get This can also be evidenced by more and more men falling for pill ideologies, it's harder for people to get intimacy and people are very aware of this Its also true for women, although for then it's more of a case of 'don't want' rat…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 09:47 AM
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Yep. Important details left out
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 09:14 AM
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Nah in general most men don't have casual sex. Its very hard for men. Shit it's true for women too But I don't think you'll listen to me anyway so sure you're right
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 08:49 AM
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Women don’t cheat because some other guy was hot, they cheat on someone who is more emotionally there. Was the guy likely hot? Well, studies show masculine men tend to be nicer to women and both pay more but also listen more, be more caring etc. What is this bullshit doing here? lmao. Women don't all act in the same way. Do some women cheat because of emotional connection? Definitely. Do some women cheat because the guy was hot? Also definitely Always find it funny seeing people on this sub use …
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 08:12 AM
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Some of the things you mentioned are concerning such as women don’t want a loser with emotions and that in itself projects so much toxicity I fail to see how that isn't true. Women generally don't want losers and only want you to show emotion in a 'healthy' and 'acceptable' way
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 08:08 AM
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Many women want "losers with emotions" They want a loser with acceptable emotions
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 08:05 AM
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Most men have not had casual sex. Casual sex is pretty rare honestly
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 08:03 AM
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... In America. Thankfully the rest of the world isn't quite as barbaric as you people
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 08:01 AM
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Yeah I wouldn't be surprised if casual sex in America takes a sharp downturn, and for good reason
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 07:59 AM
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What they should be doing is dismantling the entire idea of 'what women want' because all women want different things
/r/ExRedPill21/06/22 10:34 AM
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We need more horse-minded women
/r/ExRedPill21/06/22 08:35 AM
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I can decide now if they're right or misguided I'm not going to be left out of the conversation of relationships and sex just because I'm a virgin. It doesn't make me ignorant, my input can also be valuable
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:15 AM
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Yes but it's the bare minimum for most women. Most women don't want insecure guys but confident ones, therefore confident becomes the new standard
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 02:31 PM
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You're right it's difficult to get freedom of it because it's everywhere, even inside of us I see it in the same way as abusive relationships. People can stay in them and become used to the abuse to the point where they can't function in healthy relationships. It infects them in a way. It's the same with the patriarchy, people are so used to it they hang onto parts of it because it's all they know. In both situations they're still the victims and don't deserve any blame of course
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 02:28 PM
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Most of the advice I give is fairly basic advice about communication and maintaining a relationship, which isn't exclusive to romantic relationships but all relationships. Women aren't anything like a 'foreign country', they're just people. I've also read about how to have good sex and can share some things I've remembered
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:21 PM
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Why did you make it out like they don't exist or are extremely rare? Many women are emotionally unintelligent and damaged, they exist and they're everywhere Honestly I'd estimate a majority or women are holding onto some kind of patriarchal standard or toxic masculinity
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 12:12 PM
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Those people should be ignored, that's correct but easier said that done The few times I've seen women make fun of men because of being virgins is when they go about giving advice about relationships or sex Why not make fun of them for being out-of-touch and not knowing what they're talking about? Why bring being a virgin into it at all? I give people advice on relationships and sex yet I'm a virgin. Do I deserved to be mocked because of that? I'm just trying to help people I cannot imagine a si…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:11 PM
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It doesn't matter. We shouldn't be comparing ourselves to celebrities or anyone else for that matter. All that will accomplish will be highlighting what you do not have. Comparison is the theft of joy, especially celebrities
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 11:48 AM
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It's learned behaviour. The stuff your talking about runs deep in our society, it's perpetuated in our media and learning. The reason these men latch onto it is because it's all they know, they haven't been taught to question and think critically, and they're scared of change
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 10:46 AM
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The woman who hold onto those patriarchal ways are every real and plentiful. There's no 'might' about it, they're definitely out there Some of them don't even know they're holding onto the patriarchal standards because it's so subtle and accepted in our society. The same way men can suffer from toxic masculinity, women can to. The difference is men are told to get a I'd if theirs but many women aren't told as such I've seen examples of women who seemingly act progressive and against toxic mascul…
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 10:43 AM
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start learning what women are all about You can't learn what 'women are all about' because each woman is different and want different things. This idea that you can 'figure out' women is the same thing the RP uses
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 08:16 AM
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That's fair but you should recognise they still exist, there are many of them, and their words hold weight to people still
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 07:56 AM
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Your right I shouldn't have used the word 'suffering', that's a severe word and doesn't describe your situation. Sorry about that, I'll edit my comment Because that’s you: “Everything is terrible. Wah.” I never said this. Sure my post history isn't the cheeriest of places, but I feel like you're just focusing on the worst examples I am trying to deprogram the idea of a just world from my head. I took it in myself and now it's my responsibility to challenge that. Sometimes there are still remnant…
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 06:29 AM
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I’m sure you recognize that other men with these traits generally do ok with romantic relationships, yeah? Yeah and I also recognise there are other men with these traits who don't do ok with romantic relationships. Meanwhile I know men who don't have those traits who do ok with romantic relationships. Life isn't that black-and-white What you have is a Just World fallacy. You think if you have all those traits and do everything 'right' then it'll be easy to get a relationship, and maybe it has b…
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 05:44 AM
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Nah not really. Just talk to them like they're normal people. I try to have a good time in most social settings, I don't like putting people on edge No offence taken by the way. People have tried to do what you did before, I'm not that phased by it nowadays
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 05:29 AM
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Have you considered that OP isn't one of those guys. Maybe he isn't Gary or Prince, maybe he's himself I'm cool and interesting and fun to be around (my friends tell me). No woman has been attracted to me. The world isn't as easy as you make it out to be
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 05:17 AM
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Ok... This guy is not your friend Gary. He is never going to be Gary. Maybe he doesn't want to be Gary You shouldn't compare yourself to others anyway really. Theft of joy
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 05:04 AM
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Please don't use the phrase 'big dick energy'. It implies having a big Rick is better and is a roundabout way of body shaming Also your examples are famous celebrities who have fame, money, and status. Most average guys don't have that and likely won't achieve it in their lives
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 04:49 AM
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The 'women are automatically attracted to confidence' is a myth in my experience. When I wasn't confident women didn't notice me, now that I am confident women still don't notice me. Nobody knows or cares. Having confidence is the bare minimum for many women
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 04:47 AM
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You can't speak for all women though can you? There are genuinely women out there who do laugh at and mock men for their status. I don't know why you think that hasn't happened. Women can be dickheads too y'know
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:04 PM
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Yeah I am. Who says? Can I ask have you ever been on a plane, or in a car? Are you wearing clothes right now?
/r/ExRedPill15/06/22 05:36 AM
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I'm bigger than my biology Tell me how should I act as a man exactly?
/r/ExRedPill15/06/22 04:45 AM
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If he still subscribes to the Alpha/Beta mindset he can't have it all figured out Also saying 'as a woman' doesn't really mean much. You're just one individual woman who would date him, it doesn't means he's 'right'
/r/ExRedPill13/06/22 09:34 AM
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1 Lion vs 3 Horses, all-out fight to the death. Who you got?
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 07:53 PM
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People always bring up the debunked wolf study but aren't there other examples of species that have dominant males, like lions and horses and shit? I'm not saying humans are the same, because we're not, but why do people always bring up the wolf study?
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 12:48 PM
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why do you need someone there? what is not good about you right now? You can be 'good enough' and still want companionship. People conflate wanting a partner with thinking a partner will complete you way too soon. You can feel complete and fulfilled in other areas of life and still feel the want for companionship
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 12:46 PM
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In this context a 'regular dude' means you and 'women' mean women. I think feminists are more valuable than RP to read but not that much so. Feminist advice and theory often lacks or assumes the context of the male experience (which is understandable, it is feminism after all) I've also seen an unfortunate number of feminists who subscribe to gender roles, sometimes just in more subtle ways. I've seen many say 'this is what women want' or act like they're the authority on what women want just be…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 09:46 AM
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That's all fine and good But why do you feel the need to call yourself 'beta'? You're just a regular dude. Have always felt passive in social situations. WAit for girls to approach me rather than approach them. I've never had problems with attracting girls, for sex, for relationships, for flirting. I have slept with a dozen or so lasses over my 4 decades. Normally because they found me easy to get on with, comfortable, rather than because I was socially dominant. I was often the quietest at the …
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 09:28 AM
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For me, generalizing is drawing conclusions from a very limited sample of evidence That's what you're doing. You know a limited number of women, the demographics of which may be skewed a certain way. I just don't think women's behaviour and such can be predictated like you say it can. Women are all individuals who all have individual wants and desires. I've been listening to the advice of women for years. None of the advice I've practiced has helpeed me. You guys don't know what it's like to liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 05:16 AM
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happy single women will go on with their lives, enjoying the company of friends, having children alone, and not worrying about men anymore. Exactly. Men have no value to most women nowadays. We're not even worth noticing or worrying about. Women will ignore us and be happy about it. Thanks for being honest. As a young lonely man this makes me feel great about myself and the future Maybe those angry lonely men should also have children alone. Maybe that will help them. I'm sure no one would have …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 05:08 AM
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What a deranged thing to think
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:56 AM
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I don't blame you for not dealing with everything I said, I wrote way too much. I was a little heated when I wrote it sorry so many of us have not only our experience to talk about, but also the accumulated experience of that "sisterhood" See this is what I don't get and what makes me feel like I'm banging my head against a wall The manosphere tells me that women act in specific ways that can be predicated and that's how you can get a woman to be attracted to you. However this explanation is bul…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:56 PM
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The thing is each women is an individual and thus has different wants and desires, so when you listen to one woman your doing that, listening to one individual woman which isn't worth much I will say that if a man does believe that all women think and act the same way then yes listening to individual women discuss what they like individually could help. I think that would be a good thing. But past that your just listening to individual opinion Like I listen to women when they say 'be yourself, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 01:42 PM
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Have you ever considered the advice from women isn't as good as you think it is? I listen to advice from women and it doesn't help, in fact a lot of times it makes me feel worse about myself and reminds me that as a man I have no value to women and that I have to constantly prove myself if I want one to like me Also there's a disconect. Women may understand women better (strange how it's ok for women to generalise women) but they don't understand it from the other side, the side that men are act…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 10:58 AM
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I'm not totally sure what to do in this situation but I can give a few tips Don't make him feel like he's being persecuted for anything. Don't lead with 'these videos are bad and their ideas are bad and you should stop watching them'. RP is like a cult, and when you tell someone who's in a cult that they're in a cult, their indoctrination blocks this and makes it seem like you persecuting them. Obviously he may not be fully 'indoctrinated' yet, but this still may be something to think about Appr…
/r/ExRedPill10/06/22 10:51 AM
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But it's still my body they're using to masturbate with. Like they obviously must like something about it. I wouldn't mind being someones racket
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 07:27 PM
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The fact that those dudes can hook up is baffling to me. Same dude. Guess they just have confidence
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 03:19 PM
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No but I never said anything about 'positive effects'. I just think if feminists did more acts of extremism they would taken more seriously Look at incels. A few years ago nobody cared about them. However after they commit a few murders suddenly people are paying attention to them Also I never said I wanted any kind of change. You're not subtle of clever enough to ask leading questions sorry
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 05:25 PM
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Exactly
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 05:11 PM
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So you would fuck Tom Cruise?
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 04:14 PM
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Was mainly venting
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 04:12 PM
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I think if feminists want to be taken more seriously they should commit more acts of extremism There. I said it. You got me
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 04:11 PM
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There are no extreme forms of feminism that motivate mass murders Yeah I know, it sucks. And you wonder why no one takes you seriously. Toothless motherfuckers
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 04:05 PM
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And a lot of times, I don't think people even want to invest the effort into figuring out what they want I can't speak for others but personally I don't know what I want because I can't try any of it. I don't know if I'd like a hookup or FWB or a long-term relationship because I don't know what any of them are like and I can't really get one easily. Makes it hard to know what you want But OP did state that he wanted to 'sleep around a lot', so I assume his goal is hookups
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 03:43 PM
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I don't want to radically change my lifestyle. No woman is worth that in my opinion. I want to be loved for who I am now This is the problem with most dating advice. It disregards the person recieveing it entirley
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 03:35 PM
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Yes
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 03:05 PM
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Ok. OP is not Tom Cruise
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 03:03 PM
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Sorry but I just have issue with this thing I've seen over and over again where someone will be air an insecurity and someone else will use a celebrity or something for comparison when they're very unrealistic standards for most normal people. It's just shifting the goal posts Also you shouldn't be comparing yourself to others in general. Comparison is the theft of joy and all that What's to stop OP from thinking 'OK well I don't need to be above a certain height to be attractive, I just need to…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 03:03 PM
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I wouldn't be suprised if you specifically did
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 02:55 PM
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Yes, you can make up for it by being a rich and famous musician. Simple
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 02:53 PM
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Fuck, you got me. You are entirely correct. Well done
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 02:52 PM
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Be gone from me vile automaton
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 12:19 PM
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Find me one person who would
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 12:18 PM
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I'm not saying it has anything to do with his height. It is genuinely just his personality that makes him unattractive
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 12:05 PM
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It's a moot point anyway because let's be honest no one would fuck Tom Cruise. In the 80's perhaps but no one nowadays
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 11:19 AM
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Yes he did. That doesn't detract from my original point
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 10:57 AM
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That's fair. I was just noting that your example is also an unrealistic standard to compare yourself to
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 08:41 AM
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I know. That's what I was explaining to the other user. Sorry if that got misconstrued
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 08:39 AM
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I think the common theme is the internet. These anonymous vote-based forums end up with the loudest voices being triumphed which are usually saying shit that the user knows they can't say in real life. Safe spaces can very quickly become echo chambers But yes I've seens many women online where it's just plainly apperent they're holding onto a deep resentment toward men as a whole and it informs all of their actions online, the same way many men are deeply resentful toward women and then project …
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 08:37 AM
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Tom Cruise is famous, thus has status, money and power which is sort of an unfair advantage
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 08:29 AM
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I don't really get why people think this helps. This guy is not Prince. It's just swapping one unrealistic standard for another
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 08:09 AM
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The only thing you've exposed here is how big of a nonce you are But anyways nice talking to you, you're very amusing
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 05:03 PM
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Uh huh sure dude. Bet you'd get off on that big time
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:35 PM
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Sure man whatever you say
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:31 PM
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I could name them but why would I? What would that accomplish in this situation? What would you do with that information? You'd probably call me a misogynist. You're very predictable
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:26 PM
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I have no fucking idea
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:22 PM
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I wasn't talking about the 'truth' of the RedPill, I was talking about 'truth' in a general sense. But whatever you won't listen. I think doing anything that slightly disagrees with you would be 'exposing myself' I'm really uninterested in proving myself to you. You're exhausting to talk to
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:17 PM
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Nothing Once again I feel like you've read way to much into this
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:10 PM
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I do not believe all women act in specific ways that can be calculated, controlled, and manipulated. I believe I am equal to women. I believe there is no such thing as 'female nature'. I don't believe women are simple-minded. I don't think all women want a man whose six foot making six figures or whatever other bullshit people say women want Are there any other points you would like me to refute? How specific would I need to be? I'm pretty sure we've done this before. You asked me to say what RP…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:07 PM
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I refute all RedPill ideas about women
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 03:59 PM
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Should I even bother to identify the truth? It's so obscurred by what you say, the lack of specificity and context and the perspectives and implications that surround it that it doesn't feel worth it. It feels like it's been poisoned in a way
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 03:56 PM
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Since you flattered me like that yes by all means
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:54 PM
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May I ask why?
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:47 PM
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Same. But once again, very different experiences
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:46 PM
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I'm only like three of those things Sorry if that sounded judgemental or invalidating. But wow, 50? That just seems borderline impossible to me. I'll feel really lucky if I just find one person who wants to sleep with me
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:38 PM
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Do you know any good ways to practice mindfulness? Sometimes I do just say 'it is what it is' and am able to move on or at least not let things affect me so badly. But sometimes it just doesn't feel like enough to satiate me
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:34 PM
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No I don't. I can't fault all women because I don't know all women. I have no idea why women won't give me a chance and I don't believe it has anything to do with 'female nature' because I know female nature doesn't exist Once again, I think you're reading to much into things
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:14 PM
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I wouldn't call my life shitty as there are parts of it I enjoy, but I otherwise feel very similar
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 12:50 PM
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Go ahead and think that
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 12:24 PM
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I have a feeling you're just going to read what you want to read and not actually engage so I'm just gonna leave this here
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 12:22 PM
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My issues overlap somewhat with RP thinking. This is just an optimal place to bring my problems
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 12:18 PM
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I'm not RedPill
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 12:03 PM
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If you're going to call me a misogynist completely unfounded what makes you think I'm going to listen to anything you say This was needlessly hostile. I think you're reading to much into things
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 11:45 AM
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I do
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 11:35 AM
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Couldn't do it to be honest. What would that accomplish? A bunch of individuals who have done nothing to hurt me dead by my hand? I community rocked by pain and fear? Me in prison, never seeing freedom again? Why would I do that? Besides it's difficult to get a firearm in my country
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 10:50 AM
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I'm sorry but how do you have sex with over 50 people? How does that even work? What? That's baffling to me How do you find over 50 people who will have sex with you? How do you convince 50 people to sleep with you? How do you even find them all? Just what? I'm sorry that's just not possible. That doesn't happen in the real world. Just like... How? How does that possibly even work? Like I can't even find one person who wants to have sex with me, how do you find over fifty. What? Reading shit lik…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:09 AM
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I thought I was asexual for a bit before I realised I wasn't I didn't really care then and don't really care now. Who people donor don't sleep with for whatever reasons is not my business From my understanding asexuals could still feel attraction to people, just not sexually
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:34 AM
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I've never had that mentality. I know my lane and stay in it. I know there's no way in hell that a 10/10 girl would ever even look at me. The thing is those average girls you talk about also don't even look at me. They treat me the same, and it doesn't help my inner happiness at all
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 07:58 AM
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I honestly don't like this narrative either. To me the signifiers of stability like having a career or owning your own home are not things I'm concerned about getting myself. They're not attractive to me at all. Makes me feel like I'm going to lose out one day when all my peers reach thirty Like what exactly is attractive about having a mortgage and a maintaining a way to make tokens to sustain your basic survival needs? How is that in any way attractive?
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 07:49 AM
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It's not even that they're mean, it's just that they're indifferent. It's not they treated me badly, just that they never really treated me at all. No ones ever really show genuine renewed interest in me like that, or at least not in the ways I hear others talk about it. I know I'm not entitled to any of that at the very least not more rare than finding a boyfriend who is all those things. I think it's just this issue. It's very similar for men and women to both find a partner that is really rig…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 04:10 PM
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I do have standards to be fair, some of them are fairly strict. I don't usually talk about them because they're never that important and there isn't really an opportunity to do so I do understand how having standards is important and healthy and it has helped inform my self-worth and not see myself as simply a bystander in a relationship, but rather an active member who's input matters and is (hopefully) valued. In that way it has helped me with my self-worth immensely
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 03:16 PM
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I often feel like th reason I hardly listen to people is because I never feel like they're listening to me I just want a girl to like me man. I'm just tired of going through this life feeling like no one could love me. I don't know how to get rid of that feeling with self-love
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 03:07 PM
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So, even if women suddenly like you it won't increase that sense of self worth. That's just external validation. I believe you need both on some level So, you like who you are but your sense of self-worthis low? My sense of self-worth is low when confronted with romance because romance isn't just about your self-worth, it's also about your worth to others How am I supposed to tell myself I am attractive and a good romantic option when I've never been given any inclination that I am? I do like to…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 03:03 PM
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Many guys know that increasing their standards will just make an already small dating pool even smaller. They'll be limiting their already limited options My sense of self-worth is low because I know I'm not worth shit to most women. I don't see how that's being toxic. How am I supposed to feel worth something romantically when I've never had any indication that I am? How do I create that in a vacuum? Don't get this twisted. My sense of self-worth is fine when not applied to romance, I love myse…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 02:43 PM
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Once you start doing that, companionship, and ultimately girls just start to appear in your life. Just wanna day this isn't true. There are so many people who disprove the idea that 'it just happens'. I'm not saying don't do it, and it may even increase your chances, but there are really no guarantees
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 02:35 PM
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I've been told to both lower my standards and make them higher if I wanted intimacy. People will just tell you things to shut you up in my experience The amount of times I've seen someone give advice to a guy to 'lower his standards' but had no idea what his actual standards were is very silly. People just assume they all want a 10/10 Instagram baddie. I feel like most dudes just want a girl who is nice to them and cares about them, because that's very rare
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 02:24 PM
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You have a worrying lack of empathy. I feel disheartened that people like you exist. You can be so much better if you just tried Even after reading this you're not going to think for a second you may have been wrong because you're too narrow minded. You don't want to be better. It's sad really
/r/ExRedPill27/05/22 07:55 AM
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Yes that's true. The thing is people like the above user will never understand because they make zero effort to. They don't want to have empathy
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 07:12 AM
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Some of them probably. I've met black women who are amazingly attentive and reassuring. One of my friends is a black woman and I've never known her to argumentative or demasculating From what I've found people who DM you are usually trying to convince, groom, or indoctrinate you. They make it private because they know if they did it publicly they'd face some kind of consequence
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 05:09 AM
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I don't think my problems are the worst ones in the world ever, there are people considerably worse off than me all over the globe. But my problems are still mine and they're still real to me. Why did you imply that I thought my problems are the worst As one of those men I can tell you your list is mostly right but also a little lacking. First off I never specified sex, I left it open to mean either romantic or sexually attention. Also your missing the feeling of acceptance and validation that o…
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 04:46 AM
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I've made a an effort to increase and refine my standards recently. I read about desperation was unattractive and people could 'smell' it on you (I also found out this was a lie) It's hard to maintain your standards when you get no inclination that anyone wants you. It makes you wonder why you bother at all. After doing it I realised my already small dating pool just got smaller I really don't get why people can't seem to understand why so many men are desperate. Lack of empathy I guess
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 04:14 AM
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Maybe you don't talk about it in real life, but people can pick up on it. From my experience this really isn't true. I used to read stuff like this and it would make me paranoid around people, but I realised eventually it wasn't true at all
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 03:59 AM
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Your word for it also makes me want to kill myself
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 08:24 PM
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I feel like that book would just make me want to kill myself If that's what human sexuality is like then I'd rather not know about it. I'd rather remain ignorant and hold out hope that I can find someone on the same wavelength as me rather than dash my hope against the rocks by reading a book about how women are so different to me. I want to relate to a woman, I want to focus on our similarities, not our differences
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 08:20 PM
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Why are men's and women's sexuality so different? Reading people say that makes me wonder why I bother. We're clearly not on the same page I do hold some hope that there are women whose sexuality is more in line with my own. But seeing stuff like this makes it hard
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 08:08 PM
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I do a practice of reversing the genders in that situation. If I was a woman reading about men venting their frustrations and generalising all women for the way some of them act, would I listen to it? No Those people are femcels (not in the classical sense, but in the modern usage), they're resentful of men as a gender due to some bad experiences. That's literally what incels do Whenever I get bent out of shape reading something someone on the internet wrote I just try to remind must their words…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 08:04 PM
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Fair enough maybe I was projecting. I just want a more equal relationship, and many people in my generation do as well (I'm assuming you're middle age). They think the old way if doing things is easy Why would both couple want to work and be stressed? This leads me to ask why do you want to work and be stressed. Do you not feel like you're putting in my effort? Also who said anything about kids?
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 03:39 AM
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Isn't someone who needs their partner to be dominant promoting the exact same power imbalance?
/r/ExRedPill24/05/22 09:43 AM
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I don't know about 'toxic or hateful' but they're definitely dumb The problem I have with it is that a woman should be able to provide and protect for herself first and foremost. Men aren't always going to be there to do it for her and relying on them is very silly and can lead them to bad positions where they rely on men who may be abusive but maintain the relationship just for what you describe It's 2022, not the fucking 50's, if a woman can't provide and protect herself then what the fuck is …
/r/ExRedPill24/05/22 03:57 AM
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You two sound really good together. Thanks for the well wishes
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 09:24 AM
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I understand what you mean. I'll try to use that framing/phrasing going forward from now on
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 06:31 AM
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Nah you are right in that I do also enjoy going outside for walks, meeting friends, fresh air and such, I defiently balance things. I'm just not sure why one has to be more valuable than the other. To me they are neutral
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 06:22 AM
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That's a great attitude to have and I think makes the best kind of relationship
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 12:10 AM
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I guess I've read to much internet advice that starts with a redundent 'practice good hygiene' that I just assume it's priority number one for everyone. I'm not sure why people even bring up hygiene, I feel like it's something everyone practices. I'm wrong about that one Addressing you aside: What would be a better way to phrase it? I didn't mean just sex but also romantic intimacy. That's generally how I see it. I can't comprehend the idea of a woman mutually agreeing to be intimate to me becau…
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 11:59 PM
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Aren't the things you describe also for yourself and no one else? I think this may just disagree on what 'value' means. It's pretty subjective to people to be fair. What I value is different to what you value is different to what the next person values
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 11:49 PM
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I try not to compare myself to other honestly. I prefer to do my own thing
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 11:28 PM
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When I play video games or watch TV or movies or read a book I don't really see it as 'wasting my time'. I also don't see me going on a walk as all that 'valuable'. To me they're neutral experiences
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 11:27 PM
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I'm aware of that I just think you can get a return out of watching TV the same way you can out of travelling, or vice versa
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 11:25 PM
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I'm finding it difficult to elaborate on it honestly. Those guys are different from me, that's all I can really say. The differences people have are quite vast so it feels pointless to compare
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 09:35 PM
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What are some things cishet people could learn exaclty?
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 09:06 PM
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I'm married and my girl wants to go out everywhere and travel a lot. I go along with it because otherwise I'm at home watching TV. Her hobby is much healthier than mine. I'd much prefer a girl who was OK watching TV at home honestly. I don't see how going out and traveling also adds value to your life or is 'healthier'. I also don't see why everything you do in life needs to add 'value'
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 08:03 PM
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I think a lot of them can be too self-obsessed. Whenever I read something like 'these short/fat/bald/low-wage get dates' my immediate response was 'OK but those guys aren't me'
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 08:01 PM
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I definetly feel this. I'm not a big fan of following rules and to me the gender roles related to dating and sex just seem arse-backwards and a waste of time and energy. I think it's a actually a good thing that more and more people are refusing to engage with them. They more they do the less power they have It's difficult to break out of because it's just been what we've know for so long we can't even fathom an alternative. People stick to the status quo because it's all they know. Change is sc…
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 07:56 PM
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Yeah it's weird. We're all lonely together
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 05:10 PM
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I made a post similar to this a while ago But yeah simply gaining confidence won't make you more attractive by yourself. Confidence is an expectation and meeting expectations isn't all that attractive by itself. I became much more confident and comfortable with who I am over the past few years and really shed the idea that something was 'wrong' with me. I now love the person I am and my suicidal ideation has plummeted Nobody around me noticed or cared I think the people who say 'just be confiden…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 06:55 AM
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I honestly feel the exact same. I feel that I shouldn't ask a girl out unless I've got a clear sign of interest or else I'm just another creepy guy
/r/ExRedPill18/05/22 04:45 AM
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That's a really good point. For many their 'programming' is laid so deep that it can't just be stripped by another person in seconds. These things take time to unlearn, for some it takes much longer than others and can be very arduous, but all the more worth it It's why people say 'seed of doubt'. Because the doubt doesn't just spring up out of the ground, it has to grow and be nurtured
/r/ExRedPill15/05/22 07:30 AM
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I agree with everything you said other than the confidence being attractive part. It's one of the main things people talk about when discussing relationships, they want a partner who is confident. If everyone wants a partner who is confident (which makes perfect sense, I'm not disputing that) then it no longer becomes a stand-out trait and simply becomes an expectation, like being nice. Meeting expectations isn't notably attractive
/r/ExRedPill13/05/22 01:35 PM
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And when I go out and I feel unattractive, no one will hit on me or pay me any attention. And days when I feel like I’m a goddamn hot piece of ass, rest assured that men will be gawking and whistling and hitting on me. This just isn't the same for men. I think I'm a hot piece of ass most days. Women don't notice or care. No woman has ever hit on me or whistled at me (do you like catcalling, I thought most women hate it?). Only one girl has ever gawked at me. It just really is not the same for me…
/r/ExRedPill13/05/22 05:13 AM
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I don't like her videos but many people swear by Contrapoints. Her videos on Incels and Men may be the most pertinent There's lots of videos on r/breadtube being 'critical' of RP and the manosphere in general but many of them are more just dunking on them and being snarky rather than analysing them critical, which seems to be what you're after. Still you may find some good stuff
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 08:40 AM
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Yeah you're being deliberately obtuse
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 08:20 AM
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I'm not assuming these relationships are healthy, but I'm also not assuming they're aren't. I don't have enough information to assume
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 07:40 AM
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You can have low self-esteem and still not be taken advantage of. You're assuming a lot here
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 07:34 AM
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Don't confuse this with thinking confidence is inherently attractive. Being confident is an expectation. Meeting expectations isn't all that attractive
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 07:24 AM
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That's assuming a lot
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 07:22 AM
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Yes that's fine
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 02:45 PM
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I'm sure there is, I do live in a pretty metropolitan area. How do you find such an event?
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 02:13 PM
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Yes but we're not talking about being emotionally healthy or having sustainable relationships, we're talking about getting laid. Yes people who treat women like trash will become unable to relate to and be emotionally present with women, no one's arguing against that
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 10:35 AM
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Thanks for the kind words man. I'll try to focus on these
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 07:45 AM
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Maybe take a break from dating to step back and think about what you really want. Don't focus on women or dating for a bit and find out what's important to you personally and see how you can have that with a partner, or if you even need a partner
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 07:41 AM
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I'm just afraid of this rhetoric and the possible consequences of it. We can look at it from a nuanced way no but it doesn't mean everyone will see it the same way. Some may watch that video and then think that Aragorn is the new definition of masculinity and anyone who isn't practicing gentle strength is not a real man Toxic masculinity is a strict set of rules. When people are so used to rules it can become difficult to fully shed them from yourself so you find a new set of rules to follow ins…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 07:39 AM
1

Nah honestly. I've said it before but if someone comes to me with a head of broccoli or a rail of coke then I'm taking the coke But it's not being healthy I'm against. It's the concept of 'healthy' masculinity as a replacement to toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity says if I don't act in a certain way then I'm not a 'real man' and won't be accepted. How do I know healthy masculinity won't do the same thing just with a positive spin? I want to be able to make my own decisions and be accepted for…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 04:16 AM
1

People can do these things, but they aren't necessary as part of dating. Yes they are. You judge potential partners to see if you would work together. You discriminate against people who don't fit your prefrences or dealbreakers. If you don't judge or discriminate then that means you're willing to date anyone which most aren't willing to do The same is true about body count. You are conflating the idea that because these things CAN signify something with whether or not they necessarily do. Havin…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 04:10 AM
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Otherwise, the number of men turning 18 while still being virgins wouldn't be climbing over the past 20 years It has been. Sexlessness for all genders has been rising
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 03:56 AM
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I am surprised that you haven’t come to the conclusion that women enjoy sex just as much as men If women enjoy sex as much as I do then how come none want to do it with me? Checkmate
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 03:41 AM
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What if the prostitute wants to have sex... For money? If coerced sex is rape then rape statistics are way off. Many women are convinved to have sex. They don't want to have sex with a guy but eventually he convinces them and becomes attracted to him Sorry didn't realise you were a femcel. Bye
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 07:40 PM
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Dating isn't inherently judgemental or discriminatory. I strongly disagree. You judge potential partners to see if you would work together. You discriminate against people who don't fit your prefrences or dealbreakers. I think 'judgemental' or 'discriminatory' are just loaded words, but people definetly do it, even subconciously Meanwhile body count doesn't really say anything about anyone - man or woman - other than that they like having orgasms Body count can definitely can say something about…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 07:36 PM
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Tell that to people who willingly sell their consent
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 07:29 PM
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Really liked your comment, it was very informative and I hope OP takes some time to read it. It got to the core of the issue and what was wrong about OP's friend Any feminist worth their salt knows how to recognize toxic masculinity and attack it I wish this was truer but as you said our entire culture is rotten to the core with it. It affects all of us subconciously. People often know when to recognise it and attack it when displayed outwardly but do not see it in themselves The amount of peopl…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 06:42 PM
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Not really a big fan of the 'positive' or 'healthy' masculinity replacment to toxic masculinity they seem to brand themselves on in certain videos. It's just swapping one box for another. I don't wanna be Aragorn, I wanna be myself
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 06:40 PM
0

Who is 'they' in this situation? I read it. I liked it and agree
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 06:29 PM
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So no, having sex is not hard. It is simply a matter of being respectful and finding a partner who wants it That last bit can be hard for some people
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 05:23 PM
1

But do you love her?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:25 PM
1

No offence man but that's the strangest thing I've ever heard. You only plan to stay with her for 8 years?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:19 PM
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I mean do you love her? Do you want to continue the relationship?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:14 PM
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It's because of the way society sees men. We're beings of hyperangency. All it takes for us to do something is to 'man up' and set our mind to it. The social messaging we get doesn't even allow men to be victims (see for example how male rape victims are dismissed) Toxic masculinity like that permeates our culture to the roots. It's so deep that often times we don't even notice it within ourselves. Because the conversation around toxic masculinity is so dominated by how men perpetrate and practi…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:13 PM
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There's a perception around prostitution that it is 'dirty' or 'sinful'. This view still permeates our culture (despite it being the world's oldest profession) Many sex workers are trafficked (not all, there are willing sex workers). To some women they idea of being with a man who even may have engaged with an unwilling participant is enough to turn then off Also these people who judge you for it are also under the spell of toxic masculinity. Society's definition of a man (at least western socie…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:00 PM
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So you don't like being comforted when you feel insecure or low?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 03:49 PM
3

You can be exredpill and still have insecurities
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 03:48 PM
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What's wrong with wanting to be coddled? It's nice
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 03:47 PM
3

Yes. If it was easy to get laid then the RedPill and incels wouldn't be as prominent as they are. Sexlessness is on the rise (for all genders actually)
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 03:45 PM
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Men like happy go lucky acting women who are skinny or fit Incorrect. Give me a gloomy girl with some meat on her
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 03:58 PM
2

Yeah that guys a dick. I also blocked him. Great minds my friend
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 03:53 PM
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equality that benefits both men and women How does the draft benefit anyone? To truly benefit men and women it would need to be abolished entirely. No one should be unwilling canon fodder
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 08:51 AM
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the draft was created by men, for other men I resent this comment. I'm a man and I do not support the draft one bit. I never agreed to it, it was created decades before I was born by capitalist politicians and elites to settles their petty squabbles. Men did not create the draft, a small subset of very powerful men created it. The average Joe on the street had no part in it (unless you want to argue about complicity) Now I'm done whining I'll address the meat of your post. I think a lot of them …
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 06:17 AM
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You could always go the transgender route Being trans and the act of transitioning is a WHOLE LOT more than just a 'route' you go down
/r/ExRedPill08/05/22 02:09 PM
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How is your life not fairing better after you've embraced who you are? Do you mean your life has gotten worse or has generally stayed the same? How long have you been embracing who you are, because it may take some time to properly feel comfortable, especially when you've felt the need to conform for so long I do get what you mean a bit. I went through a brief self-loathing period because of being born a man and some of the messaging I got. Eventually what helped was realising that I decided wha…
/r/ExRedPill08/05/22 02:07 PM
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Nah it's mainly myself seeking out and reading posts from actual women
/r/ExRedPill08/05/22 06:20 AM
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You're right. Thanks for reminding me. There are many accepting women who would enjoy my company What should I do when I read things by women themselves about what women want? I'm told to listen to women but they also reinforce these ideas
/r/ExRedPill08/05/22 06:19 AM
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You don't even need to have sex with an escort. I've read some reports from escorts that say some clients just visit them to cuddle or talk, which sounds kind of sweet honestly
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 06:33 PM
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For the longest time I thought you had to convince the other person to like you I still think this honestly. Reading things from women on how their attraction generally works has given me this idea that a woman can never just be attracted to you, you have to generate the attraction, you basically have to coerce her because they will never just want you Trying to also undo this but it's hard. The stuff I see keeps reinforcing it. Let me know if there's any tips you have to help undo this. Hope yo…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 06:31 PM
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Honestly don't listen to women saying that visiting an escort is a turn off. They will never understand why some men do it because they just don't value sex the same way, to them it's cheap. I guarantee none of those women have ever been so touch-starved as to even imagine hiring a sex worker It's not their fault but they just don't empathise with it, and they rarely even try. They just can't understand it, and they don't care to Some women will understand of course, or they just don't care, foc…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 03:21 PM
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Risking this telling a truth that have little relevancy in their lives is not something I would do or recommend someone to do it. Yep. The past is the past
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 12:51 PM
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If they don't lie then there's apperently a large chance their partner will leave. Why would they want their partner to leave over something that's in the past? paying someone to fuck you is a massive turn off Why? Why is it bad to act on your wants in a convenient way? Sometimes people just want to have sex
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 12:48 PM
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I think that girl is out there. But unfortunately she's rare, and finding her may lead to you being hurt in the process I find it amazing because if a girl had any type of sexual hang-up whether it's physical or mental the guys expected to be there for her and work with her but I'm just not sure that happens the same way around I 100% feel you here. There's been a big push for men to be more empathetic and emotionally intelligent recently, but there hasn't been the same incentive for women when …
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 11:19 AM
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If you don't want to do it then don't do it. Don't do things that deep down you don't want to do Work on finding people to trust and learning how to trust again. Start off small, don't try to even get a girlfriend. Do you have any female friends you trust? How is your trust with people your not romantic with?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 11:00 AM
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Nice one man. Now it's just deciding whether it would be worth it
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 10:55 AM
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You are projecting. Your saying because you personally are not ok with sex workers then women generally are. Women are not a monolith. You cannot speak for all women. You don't know what all women are thinking or how they're acting. You're projecting your own personal preferences and opinions onto women in general. Let them make their own decisions. This is the same rhetoric that RP uses Obviously a person who sees a sex worker values sex because they're willing to pay for it. They're willing to…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 09:44 AM
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I mean not every woman has a problem with a man seeing a sex worker, you're just projecting your own personal opinions onto other women. Sex work is a lot more destigmatized nowadays, shit many women are sex workers Your right that seeing a sex worker does say something about his character and personality. It means he values sex in a way that's different to some people, that will be incompatible for some people but for some it won't he admitted right way Your ex sounds like a real ass dude. He s…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 08:07 AM
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It's sad you feel this way and I hope you feel better. I've felt what you've felt and am actively moving on from letting other people define my worth because that's for me to define myself. Hope you feel better soon
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 07:29 AM
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You also misinterpreted my comment and warped it in a negative light. You claim I was 'blaming everyone else for your unhappiness' when I did nothing of the sort. That's something that you implied. You say that you misinterpret people, so recognise that you did it here And yes you did kind of talk down to me when you said 'you have misinterpreted everything I said, just as I predicted you would' This is a personal pet peeve of mine so there's no way you could have know it so I don't think it com…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 07:04 AM
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Just wanted to say OP that the people in that thread are arseholes
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 06:55 AM
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Not enough men understand that there boundaries and their consent matter too. What are some flags you can point out to us OP?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 06:52 AM
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It's a personal decision and I'm not gonna decide that for you but I will say two things, manage your expectations and do your research Really dig deep and define why exactly you want to see an escort. What will you get out of the experience? If it's for some kind of validation chances are it will ring hollow. If you're going to get the monkey off your back or get some practice in I think it could work. Just remember that it's a transaction and there aren't many emotions in it Research the escor…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 06:47 AM
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How would a partner even find out that OP visited a sex worker if he never tells them? There's virtually no way for it to come up In short term women don’t care if you slept with sex work or not but in the long term do What does this even mean?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 06:39 AM
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You claim I've purposefully misinterpreted your comment but you've misinterpreted mine. You're clearly just seeing what you want to see and are trying to talk down on me
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 07:12 PM
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Yeah honestly not a lot. My social anxiety is bad especially when I'm in a new setting with people I don't know and I find initiating that very discouraging. It takes me time to come out of my shell as well, which is also an issue I also don't have a lot of ambition to meet new people or get out the house. Throw my job in on top of that and the last thing I want to do in my time off is go out and speak to more people. I'm gonna try and do something specific to help with that so I'll see how it g…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 03:44 PM
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But I love looking dirty. I love my hair when it's unkempt and tussled and wild-looking. I love my clothes when they have creases and holes in them. I love looking unkempt and like a bit of a mess. But the thing is I put effort in to look like that. It's a concious decision on my part to look that way. It's an exploration of bad taste and an appropiationg of punk fashion, it's not just because I'm lazy. It's the aesthetics of laziness I know that all these things will make me less attractive to …
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 02:30 PM
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I'm not 'clean' (I am clean but don't look clean), I'm not driven, and a girl has never given me the opportunity to even try and make her cum. I love the person I am, I genuinely think if I was a straight woman/gay man I'd lock myself down quicksharp Is it possible to have a girlfriend without looking clean or being driven? How can a girl even tell if a man can make them cum? I would love to have that opportunity and I'd try my best in that situation to make her cum because it seems like such a …
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 01:46 PM
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It isn't psychoanalysis, I'm not smart enough do do that. I know because I think the exact same thing everyday
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 01:39 PM
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enough women are starved for emotional support and companionship that many will settle for "just sex" Same honestly
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 12:27 PM
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I feel the same about his death as I did about his life. I don't really care
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 06:50 AM
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n the few times I've seen a transactional situation, I always felt sorry for the guy because it was painfully clear they viewed interacting with the dude as a cost rather than a benefit. Isn't that how it usually is? From experiences I've read from women having sex with men doesn't seem like it has many benefits
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 05:47 AM
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Why does it seem impossible for you to acknowledge that women enjoy sex and have sexualities? I'm not OP but personally it's easier to believe that women don't actually want to have sex than it is to ask the question of why women don't want to have sex with me specifically
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 05:45 AM
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Life is, on the whole, good. I just straight up don't believe this. Guess we live different lives
/r/ExRedPill05/05/22 04:50 AM
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I feel like advice is usually geared towards making people fit into a mold to attract right away a specific kind of partner that is not what they really want This is very true. I guess for some people that works, for a while at least, but everytime I read it the advice boils down to 'be a different person'. I have to wonder how many people there are actually content with their choices
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 03:39 PM
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Yeah that's true. Healthy people probably do exist but I still believe they're rare and definitely the minority. One issue is everyone has different ideas of what 'healthy' is. There isn't really a standard they just aren't the ones consuming drugs with you. More for me!
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 03:03 PM
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Fair enough. That makes sense
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 10:52 AM
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I'm only going off of vibes here but most people there are pricks, so I'm not a fan honestly. I think many of them demean themselves by trying to convince women to sleep with them
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 09:52 AM
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That said, in practice, I think balance usually wins. Fully agree. Know when to improve yourself and when to accept yourself. It's a tough act to keep balanced, but worth it in my opinion
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 09:42 AM
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I love myself and treat myself well. But I still want that validation and attention from the opposite sex. I would love to have an abundance mindset but my lived experience has shown me that I would be delusional to believe that. I genuinely don't understand how a man could even have an abundance mindset I wouldn't ever imagine doing anything you said to do to women, that would be horrid. But I'd also be lying if I said I was 'satisfied'. Is wanting a relationship really a bad thing. Is it a sig…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 08:11 AM
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Yeah I'm similar. I don't want anyone to be pushed into a role purely because if the way they were born
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 07:54 AM
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I will reframe your question as "why men find more people in their circle attractive than women ?". I'd say it's also because most men are so starved of affection from the opposite sex that all it takes is being treated with basic kindness and respect to make us interested in them
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 05:36 AM
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I'm honestly not really concerned with being healthy or well-adjusted. It just doesn't really mean anything to me. It's a nebulous concept and everyone probably has incredibly different definitions of what actually constitutes. Why can't I just live my life my way? I watched this movie called Annihilation on acid once. In it they made an amazing point (at least it was amazing when I was on acid) that everyone, on some level, self-destructs. Everyone does something that know isn't good or healthy…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 04:13 AM
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determination, curiosity and hobbies or interests I alwasy feel discouraged whenever I read stuff like this. I don't really have these things that much, not to a noticable degree anyway, and it makes me feel like someone couldn't love me
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 03:42 AM
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It's a weird response
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 03:41 AM
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As a man I hate that I'm conditioned into a protector role I never asked for. I hate the expectation to be strong and put myself in harm's way. I hate that if I don't like up to this role I'm seen as shallow/sick. or not a 'real man' Thing is I do love and want to protect my family and friends. Whenever I reminded of this protector role it makes me wonder how many would protect me
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 03:40 AM
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She doesn;t care. She just wants to see things her way. Don't waste your time
/r/ExRedPill03/05/22 08:10 AM
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I just met a woman the other night who was almost 6 feet tall and her boyfriend was 5’9 I’ve also asked tall women that question and some said they don’t mind shorter guys Those women don't represent ALL women When I say friends with women, I mean IN REAL LIFE. Make friends with women. No not in that way, that doesn't count
/r/ExRedPill03/05/22 08:06 AM
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that sexual attraction and desire only really develop after you've established some sort of emotional bond with them. Nah I would have casual sex. I'm just doubtful on how obtainable it actually is for most people nowadays. Like the idea of finding someone who wants to have sex with you is just kind of baffling to me. Sex is incredibly rare, there's nothing casual about it Most of my casual partners have been people I was casually (read: non-exclusively) dating or FWBs. FWBs mames even less sens…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/22 05:13 AM
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Buy the user above said the risks are so great that it isn't worth it. I guess all women are different To be fair casual sex just doesn't make any sense to me. The idea that you can just meet someone, talk to them for a while, and they want to have sex with you seems absolutely absurd to me. Like what? Nobody can just get sex like that. I don't believe that genuinely happens, perhaps incredibly rarely maybe
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 06:46 PM
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People want easy answers to difficult questions People have the difficult question of 'Why does no one want me?'. Redpill claims to have the answers. Of course they're false answers, but people believe them anyways
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 02:36 PM
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I mean most of those posts are coming from men who have been or are actively redpilled who are challenging or opening themselves up I don't really get what you mean. You're surprised and disappointed that a sub made for people to detox from the redpill is frequented by people people from the redpoll. Who else did you expect to post? If you can't handle that some people here are hanging onto bad views about women then maybe you should stop coming here, for your own mental sake
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 12:59 PM
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The thing is those misogynistic men are usually downvoted and told to shut up, but the same does not happen for the people OP mentions
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 12:50 PM
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To be fair I see what OP is seeing and don't really see what the above commenter is saying as much I think it's a perception thing really. We see what we want to see in a way. Women will be more likely to notice misogynist men and men will be more likely to recognise bitter women I think both kinds of people inhabit this place honestly, try and identify and block then where you can
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 12:48 PM
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I mean personally I'd say do what you want. Try your best to forget about girls and figure out what's fun for you or makes you feel fulfilled It feels like you list d off the above things to do from some generic internet advices you've collated. Don't let others think for you, think for yourself. Do those thing because you want to do them, not just because some internet goons said it would get you pussy I know that's seems antithetical to what you want, but it's kind of clear obsessing about it …
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 11:02 AM
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Any 'pill' is bullshit. Anything that tells you 'this is objectively how the world works' is bullshit because the world works in many different and nebulous ways Looks do matter, anyone who tells you they don't it lying. However looks aren't all that matter. It's not black-and-white, there's more nuance
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:55 AM
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the first rule is most definitely be tall, handsome, and have a big dick. From my experience this also isn't true
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:52 AM
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If you got a concrete answer on the subject what would you do with it. If you were able to take a completely 100% objective look at the matter and confirmed that women have it easier then what would you do with that information? What would that knowledge bring you. What would it achieve in your life?
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:50 AM
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Then why do some women still engage with casual sex. If it's so bad then why do they still do it?
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:35 AM
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Then why do some women still engage with casual sex. If it's so bad then why do they still do it?
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:34 AM
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working on being the best human you can be, the sooner women will start to notice From my experience this isn't true. Women don't really notice or care that much
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:33 AM
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I think there are people who are genuinely here to help, but there are definitely people from whom I get the vibe they're just here to dunk on people or wait till they say the wrong thing so they can shout them down All I can say is when you identify the latter just block and ignore
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:26 AM
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Depressed, little money, living with parents, finding no healthy copium for insecurities, etc. You know that most men your age are not in your position right? You'd be surprised how many are actually in this position, or at least adjacent
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 08:00 AM
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once you start thinking about and working toward the answers I’ve described above, girls will start to notice you and you’ll get what you’re looking for. I promise you that There are no guarantees in this life. Do all of the above for yourself because it's a good thing to do. But don't expect girls to notice. You can do all of the above and still not get attention from women.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 04:29 AM
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Damn I just don't really care about texting 'correctly' that much, like I don't capitalise, I rarely use grammar, sometimes I mispell stuff because it's funny. I didn't realise women care that much. Is this an every woman kind of thing, or just women you've talked to? I'm talking consistently terrible grammar/spelling, which is like being badly groomed Groomed as in groomed to be abused? What?
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 12:11 PM
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Could you say why? I'm struggling to see the correlation between intelligent and sexually attractive. Can dumb men like me have women be attracted to them? Not even in spite of their dumbness but because of it? I'm worried that most women are like you (not to say it's a bad thing)
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 09:52 AM
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It is supposed to be a place of debate, but people don’t actually listen Yeah this is the reason I try not to go there anymore. It's pointless and a waste of time
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 07:10 AM
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Personally most of the time I read comments from women there is some underlying bitterness in it that I can detect, even from women who claim to 'love men' I think a lot of women there may have possibly been hurt by men in the past, specifically men like those you find on there and go there to 'get back' at them. Same with the men really, they've just been hurt and want to hurt others as a result
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 07:08 AM
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Does that make you 'blue pill' then? Does anyone ever listen to you? The vibe I get from that place is that people only go there to reinforce their own worldview
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:50 AM
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it's sad that woman often like grammar and punctuation Is this true? Is this a woman thing? I don't believe this
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:44 AM
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I don't really value career honestly. Just not massive in terms of my life priorities. 'Making something of myself' isn't a concern You want to look at back life and say that you contributed something meaningful to the world. You might. I don't really care
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:36 AM
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Sorry for snooping but if you think most men there are insuffrable why do you comment/engage with the sub so much. What do you get out of it?
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:34 AM
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Every man there hates women and every women theere hates men. Makes any kind of 'debate' utterly worthless because you realise it's all built on bad faith and no one actually wants to listen. Every user is so obviously bitter it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:30 AM
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what women wish more men were like. Ok. Still doesn't matter much to me. If I was a woman I wouldn't care what men wished I was more like
/r/ExRedPill29/04/22 08:05 AM
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Ok I'm also not going to let those men tell me how I should be a man, same way I wouldn't tell them how to be a man, that's for them to decide
/r/ExRedPill29/04/22 08:03 AM
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Same. Don't have the looks to spark that instant attraction, don't have the personality to make up for it, and I think convinving a woman to have sex with me is demeaning to both myself and the woman. Just gonna have to deal with it and live my life in other ways If a woman comes along who is interested I'll make an effort with her, but I'm not wasting time proving myself to strangers
/r/ExRedPill29/04/22 07:58 AM
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Honestly I ain't gonna let some women tell me how I should be a man. Not because I think they're lesser or their opinions don't matter, but because none of them know how it is to actually be a man, same way I don't know how it is to be a woman. I would never tell a woman how to be a 'better' woman, because that's for her to decide. My expectations mean nothing there. Same works in reverse, I get to decide how I want to live my life Honestly kind of sick of this messaging that as a man I need to …
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 03:23 PM
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Do you feel like those videos add anything to your life? Do they comfort you? Do they make you feel better? Do they make you feel worse? Do they make you feel validated? If you can really try to analyse and dig deep why you watch those videos and what you get out of them, you may find it isn't worth it
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 01:33 PM
5

My parents were always supportive, accepting and loving of me and I still ended up in the same position. There are definitely things they missed and things they could have done better, but I don't think bad parenting is the only issue here
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 07:55 AM
0

But in general, confidence and not obsessed with attracting women or faking it to attract women (aka desperation) is the most attractive thing. In my experience these things aren't notably attractive
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:21 AM
1

Did an art education for four years. Women did not pay attention to me in any romantic or sexual capacity
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:19 AM
1

You know what turns women off more than anything? Being told they’re as predictable as an housepet. As a man I feel the same way. Whenever I see someone generalise men it makes me not want to listen to them Also women are not a monolith
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:18 AM
2

A lot of factors but I think lack of self-respect is a massive one
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:07 AM
1

Simps still feel some entitlement to women's body/time/energy and can still be arrogant, they're just better at hiding it behind a 'cute' veneer. Try and set boundaries with a simp and see what happens, they'll shed they're morality quick
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:04 AM
1

I'm not a red pilled guy and I try not to generalise people because I think it causes people to see things as too black-and-white. I try and show other people that as well I can see how my comment came off as patronising so I'll edit that part out
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:44 PM
-1

I don't believe any generalisation is legitimate to be fair
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:42 PM
6

Man you keep doing this thing of trying to figure out a question that DOESN'T HAVE A CONCRETE ANSWER I understand why. We have pattern seeking brains after all, but when you do it to much it begins to dominate your life with black-and-white thinking when life is actually a big grey mess I know it's scary to embrace the chaos of not having an answer, I know you want order, but on some level you're going have to face that reality is a balancing act you cannot always control, and eventually you hav…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:28 PM
1

I'm in a similar position to OP and I'm not like that. I don't want a super hot girl but rather someone on my level whose company I can enjoy
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:24 PM
2

As one of these type of guys o don't want a Megan Fox, I want someone on my level
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:21 PM
1

So what is it that you do that makes women avoid you You make it seem like it's something he does specifically. There's a very real chance that women avoid him because of something outside his own control Women in general avoid men they don't know
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:20 PM
2

Love your immediate deflection. You realised I hadn't said any of those things and couldn't give an example so immediately changed subject. Excellent form You're positively deranged and I'm here for it. Keep talking please, it's very amusing
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:16 PM
1

No I don't I think some women out there do ride the 'cock carousel' in that they have lots of casual sex or a 'slut phase'. I don't think that devalues then as a person however. There are also plenty of women who don't engage in casual sex, and they're no less valuable than those who do I believe some women are capable of cheating. I also believe some men are capable of cheating. I believe humans in general are capable of cheating. I also believe there are people out there (including women) who …
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:15 PM
1

Give me literally one example where I specifically said any of those things If this is bait then I must say good show
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:04 PM
1

I literally never said any of these things. I don't believe any of those things. You're projecting
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:01 PM
2

Women can tell when you’re only interested in them for their looks Women are not a monolith
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:00 PM
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Just wanna say as a man I will not even go near a newborn sooooo... Yeah no
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 03:59 PM
1

I dare you to list three things you love about women. This implies that all women possess the same/similar traits, which isn't true and is borderline gender essentialist, which is what the redpill believes in There are close to 4 billion women on this planet, they cannot possibly all exhibit even one singular trait that is specific to them
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 03:58 PM
3

Which makes you wonder why women don't do it more often. C'mon ladies close the violence gap
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 12:26 PM
12

I fully agree with this Back when I was an incel I loved it when people reacted/commented about my posts/messages on r/inceltears because it meant people where paying attention to me 'I don't care what people think, as long as it's about me'
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 05:50 AM
1

Just looking back at this comment is hilarious. What did you think you were doing here? What was this trying to accomplish?
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 05:23 AM
2

Uh huh yea sure whatever you say buddy
/r/ExRedPill25/04/22 03:36 AM
9

performative depression Ah, my favourite type of depression
/r/ExRedPill21/04/22 05:41 PM
3

I'm aware of that but I feel like OP could do with having a more balanced mindset before engaging with that stuff. I'm worried he may just jump from one extreme to the other, neither of which are helpful
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 06:13 PM
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There is tons of scientific research on what women prefer and how we date WOMEN ARE NOT A MONOLITH. There is no 'we' because not all women prefer or date the same. Also why should he believe the science. There are so many contradictory studies and articles. How many of those women studied lied? How many of those results were cherry-picked? Science is not infallable Personally I think he's be better not trying to pay attention to what women 'want' at all, because he'll drive himself in circles tr…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:52 PM
5

Nihilism isn't inherently a bad thing I should point out. It's just your reaction to it. You can recognise nothing matters and still engage with life in a meaningful way
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:49 PM
0

I wouldn't tell him it's bullshit. I'd tell him to not believe everything he reads on the internet and to try and dispell any idea of concrete 'truth' that me may have or want, because there is no real 'truth', and if there is it sure as shit ain't here. I mean look at all the people in here just replacing his faulty ideas of how things are with their own. You claim that you know more than him, but even you and everyone else here (yes even me) has limited experiences and don't believe the same t…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:45 PM
5

Honestly man staying away from those places, and pretty much anywhere that even touches on dating until you feel those excuses leaving your mind. I'd reccomend a good web blocker and finding something else to do to occupy your time than researching this shit on the internet, even if it's as simple as video games Don't repeat shit you've read on the internet as the truth, that includes some of the shit you've read here. Don't listen to people that dismiss and talk down to you. Instead do your bes…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:42 PM
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Fine. Be unempathtic and see where it gets you
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:15 PM
-7

Being snarky is really helpful. It definetly makes people want to listen to you and doesn't make you seem like a dick
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:14 PM
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He has literally said he knows a real life woman. Listen to him and he may listen to you, don't listen to him and see what happens Stop being so unempathetic and maybe try listening for once. Jesus
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:13 PM
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Maybe he's not listening because he doesn't feel listened to?
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:11 PM
9

Women can sense your insecurity and desperation - they have a sixth sense about it. Yeah this is a lie. Women are not a monolith. Please don't tell people this, especially when they're acting like OP is now because they're just going to start thinking women seem even more mysterious and detached from himself, and also may make him paranoid Also it's just bullshit. I was insecure and desperate for years. Women didn't treat me any differently than they do now. It depends how good you are at hiding…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 04:58 PM
0

Fucking BASED
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 03:52 PM
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I wouldn't recommend TwoX for someone in the mental state that OP is in. I used to browse it when I was insecure to do as you said and gain women's perspectives. But the way they talk about men in there made me feel I was a monster and was bad for my mental health But that's up to OP tbf
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 03:48 PM
1

Thank you. I always like talking with you, you're a very empathetic person that inspires me to me more empathetic. We need more people like you
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 09:15 AM
1

Women deeply want (obviously) to be seen as full human beings who themselves have their own sexuality and anatomy As a man, same. But it seems apparent to me at least that this isn't achievable. No womans ever really seen me like this and no one's ever wanted me like this. I can't speak for all men but I wonder if many men are simply treating people like they've been treated "how to trick women into having sex with me Sometimes I honestly believe this is the only way. A woman will never just wan…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 05:28 AM
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No offence man and I'm sorry if this comes off as confrontational but I've noticied you have a habit of posting threads like this where you ask questions like this in hopes of getting an answer. But when you do get answers you often argue or pushback against the people answering who in turn pushback against you and the entire thread ends up going nowhere When you post these threads do you ever actually learn anything? Do they help you at all? Do they alleviate any of the turmoil you feel? What d…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 02:12 PM
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RedPill is seen as dangerous because it is a movement by and for men, and men are often associated with violence. There are also actual examples of people associated with the manosphere enacting real world violence Feminism isn't treated the same because it's a movement by an for women. Feminism has never done anything threatening in it's entire existence
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 07:33 AM
1

Because misandry doesn't have the weight of an entire culture and all of human history behind it, while misogyny does Ok. Still doesn't mean people can't express concern about it. They can both be problems. You're thinking of this issue as too black-and-white To to me, an edgy teen going on Tik Tok and saying they worship Satan will be the least of my concerns. Just because it's the least of your concerns doesn't mean other people can't be You may not know it but you're perpetuating toxic mascul…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 04:02 AM
1

But still, it's not even reasonable to pretend all or even most of those 4.3 million likes came from ravenous misandrist women Why not? I'm interested to know if the genders were flipped if you'd be defending an obvious misogynist shitpost And yes I definetly fudged those numbers lol. Apologies for that
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 03:34 AM
1

I mean it's somewhat true. These women do exist. This video got 4.3 million likes (allegedly). Even accounting for the likes that may be bots or brought there is obviously an audience for this, assuming it isn't a satire account
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 08:06 PM
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For some reason I feel like this video is some kind of satire. It just has an air of detachment about it that means I can't take it seriously. Like the ridiculous claims that women have sperm in their bone marrow or men will go extinct in 4.6 million years (quite a while to wait ladies) Either that or this woman is literally pyschotic
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 04:12 PM
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Delete them. If they're making you feel this way the best thing to do is to delete them I hear what you're saying about the other options not being enough. Dating apps probably feel like the only real option. But if the only option is making you feel like you want to kill yourself then you should drop even that, for your own sake. You don't deserve to feel this way, your own mental health should come before finding a relationship, it is so much more important Dating apps are designed this way bt…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 06:09 AM
0

Thought you were done talking to me?
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 03:36 PM
0

And you're an unempathetic bitch. Likewise :)
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 03:34 PM
0

You're right I didn't pick my eyes. You're right they weren't chosen by me. Guess what? They're still mine and I like them and I want to be appreciated for them. Once again. what is so hard for you to understand about that? Are you making any effort to understand it? Well my friend, let me tell you that most people don't agree with you. Most women would really rather a stranger not make commentary about their bodies You do not have the authority to say that. You don't know what most people think…
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 03:31 PM
1

If you want to help an incel telling him that he is right that women all just want to bang Chad is silly I never said that. You seem to have some kind of reading comprehension issues. Imma be real with you man, I just think the way you mind works is funny and you're almost guaranteed to reply so I'm just trolling you. It's very obvious you're not here to help anyone so I feel like this is a better use of your time
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 07:44 AM
1

No you're very narrow minded and unempatheitc. I'm just stating the obvious. I'm trying to help you be a better person, but it's pretty obvious you're content the way you are I used to be like you, I'm much better now. You can be a better person, you just have to try
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 07:37 AM
1

You seem to have some empathy issues
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 07:32 AM
0

Because I watch how people operate and observe them Really? All people? You've observed how all people operate and can come to conclusions People are a lot more complex than your narrow minded little ideology says, but go ahead and justify it to yourself. Whatever it takes to maintain it right? You say I'm maintaining my ideology and you're right. My ideology is open minded and takes into account the full breadth of human experience and alternative lifestyles. My ideology, in my opinion, is one …
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 07:30 AM
1

If you want to believe a bunch of people are happy with lazy partners go ahead and believe it. Why is that so outside the realms of possibility to you? Why are you this narrow minded?
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 07:22 AM
1

Yeah, and their partners end up on r/relationship_advice asking if they should leave their lazy partner You made this up. Google 'strawman' You only hear about the people who can't accept that life, you don't hear about the people who are content to live like that because they're not complaining
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 06:39 AM
1

Oh well if you did it that must mean it's easy. Everyone on earth is just like you. Everyone has the necessary funds and drive to uproot their life for the pursuit of relationships Did you consider for a second OPs financial state may not be conducive to moving to a big city? No of course you didn't Stop being narrow minded. Be more empathetic
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 06:37 AM
1

If you just want to be a slob who lives with your mom your whole life and sits around in a dead end job watching Netflix and playing video games all the time yeah, sorry, that's not attractive There are plenty of people in relationships who do exactly this
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 06:26 AM
1

then the obvious answer is move to a big city Just uproot your entire life bro
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 06:23 AM
1

magine being happier being complimented about something you didn't do than in being complimented about something you actively chose or did. "Oh no, don't compliment me and my choices, compliment some random thing I have no control over". Yes. I would like that. I have pretty eyes and I want a partner to recognise that, sorry if that offends your weird sensibilities. Also my eyes don't belong to my parents do they? They belong to me. What is so hard to understand about that? Imagine being as narr…
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 12:58 AM
2

That's fair, everyone has different preferences
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 05:56 PM
3

I'm so unattracted to women that need protecting. Women should be able to protect themselves. I don't want a soft woman, I want a girl with some balls thank you
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 05:56 PM
0

What in the goddamn hell are you talking about? That is not at all what I said and you know it. I was right about you not listening. Stop being obtuse
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 05:51 PM
2

That's fair. I feel much the same way. I know it's hard to come to terms with but if you feel this way then the best thing to do would be to is turn you back on it, as hard as that is. It's for your own sake really, you don't desever to feel this mental anguish
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 05:21 PM
2

To be fair I think sometimes people can't even see their own positive traits, especially when they're in a bad mindset
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 04:58 PM
8

If it sounds like a stupid game do yourself a favor and stop playing. I mean that sincerly. You're clearly driving yourself up the wall and going round in circles trying to figure out an answer that doesn't exist.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 04:58 PM
1

This is the gayest shit I've ever read
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 04:21 PM
1

And when you're 60, will that still be the case? Will you have lived your life unscathed? No scars or wrinkles? Maybe. I don't know. Who cares? That's literal decades away, I'm talking about right now. I don't plan on getting to sixty anyway to be honest A mind can also fade. Dementia. Alzheimers. Mind fog. Other mental disorders you may develop could warp your mind and leave you unrecognisable. Then what Just because looks aren't important to you doesn't mean they aren't important to others. No…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 04:13 PM
1

I somehow think some men could have it easier shooting for LTR than STR I mean fair, that's what you think. But no offence, I'm sorry for how dismissive this is, but you don't really know what it's like for a man to navigate this stuff. Most men would shoot for either, a lot of men would shoot for cheap, meaningless sex. A suprising amount of men would shoot for a mediocre handie in an ASDA car park Also how does one 'study' lasting relationships? And why is wanting a short-term one a bad thing?
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 03:39 PM
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Your looks are the least part of who you are No they're quite an important part of who I am, personally. You're right beauty does fade but I'll still have a face and a body and hair and clothes and shit, and those all encompass looks Choosing a partner based solely on looks is foolish and short sighted. Yeah I know. I never said I would, but for a lot of people they'll take what they can get. Are you not listening to me about the scarcity thing
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 03:35 PM
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My looks are part of who I am. And I didn't say it would be better than soeone being interested in the content of my mind, but it would be better than someone not being interested in me at all Prefrebly someone would be interested in me because of both my looks and the content of my mind, but like I said, it's a scarcity mindset. You know what they say about beggars and choosers
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 03:19 PM
1

Why do you assume OP isn't interesting on some level? That's a very negative view. I think all people have something interesting about them (well most do) The ones who do need to pause for a bit, stop with the “me me me” mindset, and study how people interact and form lasting relationships. I agree with this but it's very very difficult when you're in that mindset. These guys can't even form short-term casual relationships, long-term relationships might as well be rocket surgery. Also haveing to…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 03:13 PM
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How are you ever going to get someone to come to know you well enough to love you for who you are without first grabbing their interest? I don't know. I was just explaining to the above person that people want to be loved for who they are. I was trying to help them approach this from a more empathetic point. I'm really not sure why this is controversial These guys are never interested in the girl they're interested in because they know anything about her. Scaricty mindset. You start with being i…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 03:10 PM
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To be fair I never said that, I'm sure OP is capabale of all of those things
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 02:52 PM
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Why would you not want to be interesting? He probably just wants to be appreciated for who he is now Let me tell you, just wanting to get “any woman” is not the answer Most men are operating under a scarcity mindset because they have to if they want something, whatever that be What you said about being wanted for certain traits, that's not how a lot of men operate. They can't even consider the idea of being wanted for certain traits when they just want to be wanted, full stop
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 02:44 PM
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I don't know why some men get triggered by this Because they want to be loved for who they are. I don't understand how people don't get this. It's pretty basic shit lol Why is this being downvoted? This is the most basic shit. People want to be loved and appreciated for who they are, deal with it
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 02:40 PM
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I mean I ain't gonna tell you how you should and shouldn't act because you're an adult, but you probably should try and be nice. You don't have to be a doormat, you can be nice and still have and maintain boundaries, they're not exclusive. Being mean also won't make you more attractive, unless you have several other factors making up for it. You like it when people are nice to you right? You would want a girl to be nice to you, right? Treat others who you wanna be treated. Or don't, your choice …
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 02:37 PM
0

This is real shit
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 01:35 PM
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Yes. Nice is baseline. It's expected. Women don't see a nice guy and think 'damn, I want him' Don't get the twisted with 'women only like bad boys' though. You should still be nice in general, to all people preferably, but don't expect it to get you noticed by women
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 01:32 PM
1

Why can't men handle the fact that not every woman they are sexually interested in wants to have sex them or be their partner? Some men can't handle it because rejection sucks, especially repeated rejection and especially when you're deemed the one who's supposed to initiate. I think men should be able to handle that, and for those who can't I'd tell them to take some time away from the dating/sex and come back when their resentment has died down If you lead with wanting to have a partner/have s…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 01:26 PM
2

That confidence could have quickly turned into stupidity if that guy backed up his claims and punched him, but I get what you mean
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 11:48 AM
0

Seriously, what is wrong with making a friend? Sometimes you don't want a friend, you want a partner. What is wrong with wanting a partner? Why can't people handle the fact that men want sex?
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 08:50 AM
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Research shows that for women friendship often turns into something more once they feel they are safe with you. Just gonna tell OP this is rare and you shouldn't go into a friendship expecting something more. Also being nice may not get you friendzoned but it won't get you noticed either, people don't care about 'nice'. Women aren't attracted to 'nice'
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 08:48 AM
4

I admit I know hardly anything "I know that I know nothing" - some Greek dude idk I've become much more at peace ever since I started embracing ignorance and admitting that I'm just straight-up retarded. There's a certain sense of freedom in it
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 08:45 AM
4

'Snag' is a pretty commonly used phrase. Stop antagonising someone trying to get help
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 06:33 AM
2

I think the opposite honestly, I dont like to think in majoritys. Focus on the individuals, live for the details. You'll drive yourself mad trying to comprehend everything in the bigger picture
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 10:28 PM
2

Lmao there was no skill involved in my art. Well I actually consider bullshitting a skill, so maybe there was attraction's ultimately about using proxies to gauge various forms of fitness/health/genetics. I don't believe this. Is this is the case why are people attracted to plus size people? Or people that are plainly mentally ill?
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 10:23 PM
2

I was an artist (haven't done anything in two years) but I do that bullshit kind of art, the sort of art that lacks talent and practice. Hope I can find someone to get hard at my bullshit
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 10:05 PM
2

When I was at my worst I still took care of myself. I showered, brushed my teeth, ate three meals a day, drank plenty of water. Like I said, I was the exact same really. I don't see what that has to do with lacking confidence
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 09:48 PM
2

I'm not competent in anything yet I'm still confident. I'm confident in my incompetence. How is competence/capability sexy exactly?
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 09:47 PM
2

the people who get labelled as confident, specifically loud guys I've known guys who are the 'loud guy' and it actually came from a place of insecurity. They felt weak so projected themselves outward. But otherwise I get what you mean
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 07:01 PM
2

I know confidence is attractive because I’ve been attracted to people because of it. Personally I don't get this. I've never been attracted to someone because of their confidence. It's a nice bonus for sure, but viewing someone's confidence has never led me to being attracted to them. I'm not sure how that would work I don't even notice confidence honestly, it doesn't even register consciously (who knows about subconsciously). What does it look like in other people? I just assume most people are…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 06:51 PM
3

I was speaking in a general sense. I don't think it encompasses the way every individual person navigates this. There are definitely men who won't date an insecure women, and women who will have sex with an insecure man, but in general I think what you say is true. Most women don't want an insecure man, but men will take an insecure woman
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 05:26 PM
3

Men have showed the same level of attraction and interest towards me back then as they do now. Even though I'm arguably much more confident, self assured, and better at talking to people. My insecurity never stopped men from approaching me and showing interest. I'm assuming your a woman and that may have something to do with it. I have no statistics, but most men are willing to date/fuck someone despite their level of self-esteem being low, they don't really care. Most men are either not in a po…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 05:08 PM
2

Glad we could agree
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 03:48 PM
1

What you're talking about is style and grooming, not hygiene. Hygiene is stuff like showering and brushing your teeth the number of guys in class who can’t shave the stubble, fix their eyebrows, or wash/even vaguely flatten out their hair is disheartening Honestly I'm the opposite. I'm disheartened by the amount of effort women put into their appearance. The amount of women I see moisturising, brushing their hair, fixing their make-up for no reason is just gross. They should embrace and accept t…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 12:44 PM
1

I ignored it as soon as you said 'know how to be a man'. I'm not a big fan of gender roles personally. Just found it strange you're unable to stamp on a bug. Like damn grow some balls lady
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 11:30 AM
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Why are you just automstically assuming that that will be the case? I assume that most women don't want to be friends with men because most women assume most men are potential rapists, and that's not a good basis to start a friendship on Generally, if you are getting a negative response repeatedly when attempting to engage others, over and over in many contexts, the problem doesn't lie with all those other people, it's probably about you. This reads like victim blaming
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 10:41 AM
1

Yeah but why be friends with people who don't want to be friends with you? Why try and interact with people who aren't open to it?
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 07:47 AM
1

Imagine being so weak you can't kill spiders. Imagine thinking that has anything to do with being gender
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 05:09 AM
1

I do have some advice for you: try making some female friends This implies that women also want to be his friend. In my experience most women have a guard up around men, especially men they don't know. That makes it very difficult to make friends
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 04:56 AM
1

take care of their hygiene (look like they put effort in, eg, an accessory or two, not-ugly-sneakers shoes, looks like an outfit and not a mass-produced tee shirt) This isn't hygiene, it's style The hottest thing to me is guys who smile easily As someone who doesn't smile often this is disheartening. I think I look much better when I don't smile. When I see women say they like it when a guy smiles I wonder if they ever wonder what a guy finds attractive on himself
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 04:52 AM
0

They can't. It's a lie. Please don't go around thinking all woman can sense your feelings, it will make you feel worse
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 04:20 AM
-1

women can smell this kind of defeatist, desperate, resentful attitude on a dude from a mile away From what I've seen this is a massive exaggeration. Most people cannot 'smell' this. Or at least if they can they didn't give a shit Please stop spreading this lie. When I used to believe it it led me to thinking that women were some kind of foreign species that could sense what I was thinking and made me very neurotic as a result
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 04:19 AM
2

I'd just like to say not even all of these things are necessary. I wear clothes with stains and holes in them and I look great. But that's a deliberate choice, not just because I'm lazy. It's the aesthetics of laziness I also don't brush my hair and actually try to make it look messier and more unkempt. It looks it's best as a rat's nest Also I don't give a shit about my skin. It's one job is to keep my organs from spilling out, not to look all smooth and shiny and lovely. I use a basic face was…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 03:59 AM
3

It is not just personality. That's too black-and-white. There are multiple factors at play
/r/ExRedPill13/04/22 08:14 PM
4

Confidence is a very attractive trait to a lot of people. Only when it's paired with other stuff. Otherwise it doesn't really get you noticed, it's just kind of the default. People expect you to have some level of confidence, you don't get a relationship just from meeting baseline expectations
/r/ExRedPill13/04/22 07:22 PM
9

As a rough rule of thumb, women are going to look for the 4 Ps. Protector, provider, partner, parent Damn that sounds awful lol. I'm trying to be someone's equal, not their guardian. I want a girlfriend, not a daughter. I want a girl that can provide for and protect herself first and foremost
/r/ExRedPill13/04/22 06:35 PM
25

They're designed that way. They're supposed to destroy your self-esteem and trick you into chasing the next high by swiping over and over. You were exploited. Recognise that and try to establish the idea that those apps do not define you
/r/ExRedPill13/04/22 05:51 AM
1

Oh no
/r/ExRedPill12/04/22 08:54 PM
5

"Women always receive thousands of compliments a day..." Well, only from men who want to have sex with us As a man I would absolutely adore this. A woman complimenting me because she wants to have sex with me? Yes fucking please!
/r/ExRedPill12/04/22 04:12 PM
29

I'd argue that social media has been detrimental to society and most people's both mental and physical health, that includes dating. Human beings simply aren't made to intake this level of information and it's only amplified the worst fallacies of society
/r/ExRedPill12/04/22 12:21 PM
1

Depends on the relationship. Some relationships can be terrible and destructive and leave people feeling broken and traumatised. However some relationships can be extremely beneficial to both people and help them improve
/r/ExRedPill09/04/22 08:29 AM
2

Personally I prefer looking more rough and rugged. That smooth, shiny, glowing kind of skin just isn't what I'm after. In fact having that kind of skin would throw off my whole look honestly. All that stuff you listed also just sounds like a massive hassle to impress strangers, which reeks of desperation. Have you ever considered what men find attractive on themselves? You can see a clear pattern of what women like Some women. Women are not a monolith. What about all the women out there who love…
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 12:27 PM
3

It's never really just about the sex, it's about the validation and acceptance that comes with it. Some people see it as the only/best way they can get it and then obsess about it
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 11:40 AM
6

Blows my mind when people act like sex is the higher achievement someone can reach. And I tell ya, I just don’t see it. Been there, done that. Just not that exciting. Have you ever considered that's because you're asexual and sex isn't important to you, while other people are not asexual and it's important to them?
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 05:37 AM
2

It's fine to recognise that there are beauty standards and they effect you, but don't let them control your life. Pretty privilege is real, anyone who tells you looks don't matter is lying. Just don't hyper focus on it Unfortunately it seems like beauty standards are getting worse and worse, for men and women. I think the best course of action is to recognise them and try to analyse or ignore them As for trurateme. If it's anything like I remember it's full of bitter people who aren't satisfied …
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 08:50 AM
2

Ain't even trying to mate honestly, just suck on some titties
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 07:19 AM
0

Women like sex. Then how come no woman wants to have sex with me? Check and mate, my friend
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 04:47 AM
1

You don’t correct your sons, brothers, cousins or friends when they do foul things Maybe this is just a me thing but I don't hang around people who harm women. I don't correct them because I don't know those people, and I wouldn't want to Realistically what can I do to stop Kanye West? I don't have his meds, he does Any time you hear of a man murdering a woman it’s always, well what was she wearing? What did she do? What did she say to him? Yeah I think this is a bad thing. If I hear about a mur…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 04:18 AM
-5

You don't think it's at all possible that some people come here with agendas?
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 04:32 PM
3

You're being downvoted but honestly I agree. I've definetly noticied women here whose vibes is just that they are resentful toward men, and that really isn't the best place to come from if you're giving advice
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 04:23 PM
10

So are literally most subreddits. It's a side-effect of the website itself, if you create insular communinites and a voting system then yes an echochamber will develop
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 04:20 PM
1

Like across the board, no matter how much we beg and plead, why won’t men talk to other men about rape, stalking and trying to possess women? Why won’t men talk about murdering women? Myself and every other men are not responsible for those men. As a man, the actions of those men have nothing to do with me If a woman does something bad, are you as a woman responsible for teaching that woman not to do it? There's also a misconception that just because a man doesn't care how women think/feel they …
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 02:07 PM
1

I think like most phrases it's misinterpreted. If you base your feelings of happiness over getting/mainatining a relationship it is likely to backfire. It's builing a foundation on sand. Also to people on the 'other side' it can be misinterpreted. Like you're telling me it doesn't improve people's enjoyment of life somewhat? People put way to much emphasis on 'happiness' in general, like ok if something won't make me happy, doesn't mean I can't still do it/want it
/r/ExRedPill04/04/22 10:16 PM
6

Same thing I bring to my friends and other people around me I have good humour (I make me and my friends laugh at least) I can offer insights into problems I'm caring and thoughtful I'm quite agreeable to those close to me I have a great sense of style I'm principled I think I have nice eyes I have a good eye for aesthetics I am good at self-reflection/self-awareness (usually) I am able and enjoy thinking about things in alternative ways I try to be better and grow as a person I don't let my emo…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 01:45 PM
1

Be a better person
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 02:41 PM
0

An eighteen year old girl doesn’t need to be infantilized, she’s infantile by default. And there it is. You don't see adult women as adults, you see them as children. You freely admit to infantilsing them. At least you can admit it funny you aren’t talking about why these old ass men want to date barely adults Because they're adults and can make their own decisions God you're disgusting. Just like damn. Try to be a better person, for yourself at least lmao I went though your profile and you said…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 01:51 PM
2

Jesus, I just said "brethren" to be annoying Well fair enough. It worked, I was annoyed did you really think I was blaming the WHOLE of capitalism AND the freakin draft on you No, that isn't what I thought. Honestly I'm just bitter that as a man I'm defined by those men. I hate that I'm defined by the violence of others
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 09:38 AM
2

I mean I'm 23 so it doesn't sound that impossible
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 08:29 AM
-3

Sounds like a you thing
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 11:59 PM
-1

I just think it's incredibly infantilising to see women this way, but you go ahead and see what you wanna see
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 09:07 PM
15

Depends on the man. Some older men do find younger women attractive and try to get with them. Some don't All the Chris Hansen predator's give every guy a bad rap There are leagues of difference between someone grooming a child/teenager and someone finding an adult attractive. They're not even comparable
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 07:24 PM
-4

Whatever misogynist Imagine not letting consenting people make their own decisions about who they date. Wild. Try and be a better person in the future
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 04:27 PM
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the age gap is a power dynamic that makes the relationship INHERENTLY unhealthy and unbalanced No it doesn't. That's just something you believe why do you want to fuck somone who could be your child? Because... They're not... Whose to say that man even has a child? Plus it's not his child. What are you even talking about? Imagine being this judgemental and not letting women make their own decisions. That’s weird, that’s gross. I condemn that
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 04:13 PM
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and it’s no secret people see old men dating people who could be their kids age as massive creeps, not alpha males. I don't. Who am I to pass judgement on their relationships? I don't know the dynamic of that relationship or how they got together. Maybe they love each other and work really well together This idea is also infantilising towards women who date men like that. Should they not date older men? Aren't they allowed to make their own decisions on who they date
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 03:54 PM
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Women are attracted to power, intelligence, and confidence to a high degree. This sucks because I don't really have nor want any of these things (except confidence). I hate being told this shit, I wish it wasn't true
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 12:32 PM
1

I don't know if I'm just a freak but all that just sounds so... normal and boring.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/22 03:16 PM
1

there are couples everywhere and they are made up of all kinds of people with all kinds of personalities. I know this but for some reason I just feel... Seperate from them, like it doesn't apply to me. I'm just adjacent to them. Also I can't really make judgements about strangers, I don't know how their relationship works
/r/ExRedPill28/03/22 10:10 AM
1

I'm not resistant to feminism. Feminists can do whatever they want (within reason of course) and they will regardless of what I think, because why the fuck would feminists care about what some man thinks? What I was and am resistant to is being lumped in with people who create chaos and casualty for money. I don't like that I'm being defined by people I've never met and want nothing to do with. I don't like that commenter using 'brethren' and was challenging that. And I can say that because I us…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 05:35 PM
1

That has lasting consequences in the way we think about the world around us, and it's likely there are remnants of it in your thinking and behavior. I'm aware. Everyday I try to remain concious of this, challenge my own perceptions, and remain open-minded as long as I'm talking to other open-minded individuals (I try to match the energy I get from people, if someones close-minded with me I'll be close-minded back, it's a give and take) Feminism isn't threatening to me, it's fairly irrelevant in …
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 04:40 PM
1

What do you want me to say man? "retard" could mean anything It means I'm retarded
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 04:30 PM
1

Words are important. If someone even implies that those people are my 'brethren' then I'm going to say 'fuck no they are not and fuck you for implying it'. Sorry if that upsets you, but I stand by what I said Women aren't complicit in anything Here I go hyper-fixating on wording again. I said implicit, you said complicit. Different words mean different things If you knew about the draft I don't know about shit other than what I feel. You're talking to a retard here man, don't expect me to know s…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 04:03 PM
1

This way of thinking sabotages men, making us twist ourselves into knots as we unconsciously try to uphold the patriarchal status quo. We unknowingly structure our lives and personalities around avoiding femininity at all costs, and it can literally end up killing us if left unchecked. Who is 'us'? I don't do that shit, I don't care about being seen as feminine because 'feminine' doesn't even really exist, at least in my personal view the ones men's groups attribute to "misandry", but are actual…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 03:55 PM
1

I just didn't like her use of the word 'brethren' because as a man I can say those men are not and never will be my 'brethren'. Fuck every notion of that and honestly fuck that person for even implying that just because I'm a man they're my 'brethren' (and also fuck you for defending her) All that was said is that men force men into the draft, not women. That's true. Women don't force men into it, but they are implicit in it And no, it’s not internalized misandry, because that can’t happen witho…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 02:34 PM
1

You can be a feminist as much as you like, good on you if it makes you feel better about yourself. I never said a man couldn't identify as a feminist, but you're not the target demographic, women are I guarantee that the latter would benefit you far more. No you can't, you have no idea who I am so you can't make that judgement about me sorry. Adopting the feminist label/reading feminist theory would likely not benefit me because it's mainly made for women For curiosities sake how would feminism,…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 02:28 PM
0

What's so interesting about you red pill types is that you guys will literally make feminist points but are either to lazy or angry to actually read feminist theory! It's because feminism isn't for us. Feminism is for women. It's kind of in the name
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 10:19 AM
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Your brethren created the draft, not women I hate this messaging I see. It just makes it feel like it's somehow my fault as a man that these problems exist. I do not want to be compared to those men at all As a man, the politicians, generals, and capitalists who create, propagate, fund, and profit from wars and oppression ARE NOT MY BRETHREN and frankly I'm offended at the suggestion (which is why I made this comment). I do not relate to them and I am not responsible for them. We are not compara…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 10:17 AM
1

My self-esteem isn't low. It's not the best and it has lapses, but I generally like myself
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 06:10 PM
1

What kind of woman do you want? She has to like me and want me. Pretty basic but beggars and choosers ya know. Prefrebly alt of some kind, couldn't go out with anyone 'basic'. Has to be low maintence like me, I'm not picking up someones life for them. Good sense of humour. Caring, thoughtful, kind but not afraid to be a bitch when she wants
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 06:01 PM
1

Fair enough. I kind of see what you mean now. It still dispells the idea that women find confidence attractive though Asking for a woman who doesn’t care about confidence is like asking for a woman with low standards so you don’t have to work as hard to impress her. I refuse to believe there's anything wrong with that
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 05:53 PM
1

I don't percieve me not being charasmatic as an inadequacy, it just is what it is. I'm not that guy, I'm me I never said it was unfair, was just trying to figure out what confidence is and why it's supposedly so important. Now you’re saying you’d have no problem applying confident conversational strategies with little experience because…? Because I know myself and know I can answer questions in somewhat ok ways (honestly I can't see how the answer you gave as the correct one is 'confident', it's…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 05:38 PM
1

You complained about girls not liking you for these traits but you just admitted that you’d ignore their advances even if they did I didn't say I would ignore their advances, I said I'd be flustered over it You don’t want to do the approaching but you also wouldn’t talk back to anyone who approaches you Depends entirley on the person. If it was a cute girl I'd most likely talk back I was just saying I can't really imagine myself in that scenario, I found it difficult to relate to so couldn't rea…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 05:24 PM
1

You're right. I may have unconciously judged someone for the way they stand. From now on I'm going to make a concious effort not to do that, because I'm trying to be less judgemental and shallow. Be the change you want to see in the world and all that
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 04:48 PM
0

If you put two teens with the same physical attributes and the same background and intelligence at the same starting point, with one of the guys being a confident person and the other suffering from lack of confidence and you see how they both evolve in life you’ll see that they’ll go on to have dramatically different lifestyles I still like to think that the other teen could be seen as attractive and get a relationship, it would probably just be harder
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 04:39 PM
1

Thanks for the compliment! It certainly doesn't feel 'sexy', but it feels good. I dance like a beached fish having a seizure, but it feels good to me so whatever the people who could tell me if they were having a bad day, or tell me they needed my help, or tell me they were feeling good today I feel like if I did this I would just be burdening people with my problems. I'm told that dumping your problems onto others is the opposite of confidence
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:40 PM
2

I'm not really sure where the 'right place' or 'right kind of girl is' unfortunatly. I'm pretty dumb
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:36 PM
0

I've honestly never in my life conciously judged someone for the way they stand. I've never looked at a girl and thought 'yeah she's cute, but the way she's stood? Ew no thanks' I like to think other people are also that way, that they aren't that shallow, but perhaps I'm just projecting onto them. I like to think people have evolved past their biology
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:34 PM
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Your hair and your eyes are shallow physical attributes, why would you want a girl with shallow criteria instead of an important character trait? Because my hair and eyes are palpable. You can reach out and touch them. Confidence is ephemeral, it can vanish at a moments notice, it's weak. Also I think I have good eyes and hair, and it would be nice to have that confirmed
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:31 PM
1

as you start talking She compliments your eyes You lost me. Firstly I wouldn't talk to her because I can't just go around talking to absolute strangers and don't posess they type of charisma that can make someone warm up that quickly. Also I feel off-put when most strangers talk to me, and I like to treat others how I want to be treated Secondly a woman complimenting me is rare (rare is a fucking understatement) and complimenting me on my physichality feels atronomically rare. I can think of two…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:25 PM
1

Thanks. I do feel joy and happiness and contentment, but I just wouldn't use it to describe my entire life
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:20 PM
1

Thanks for being understanding. I've often thought I may have a foot on the spectrum The way you described confidence makes sense to me. I do reinforce the idea to myself that my problems are my own, and I shouldn't put them onto other people, unless they are ok with it in some way. I try not to let my insecurities dominate my life and relationships, so that's reassuring
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:13 PM
2

you just need to find one special person. Who cares if you’re having trouble finding “someone.” I'm 23 years old. I'm a virgin who hasn't even had his first kiss yet. I don't think I'm ready to settle down or meet 'the one'. I highly doubt that the first woman I go out with is going to be the one I spend my life with I don't know what kind of woman I want really because I have zero experience. I want to experience something then make a judgement on that. I'd be down for a long-term relationship,…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:02 PM
1

Dismissing concepts ypu don’t understand will negatively affect your relationships. Yeah but it's different. If I was in a relationship I would care about the other person and want to understand them and adjust my behaviour (within reason) to them. I don't care about confidence so don't want to understand it because I have no investment in it
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 12:36 PM
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It's not really anything I haven't heard before, so I didn't get much from it. And from their description of it it appears I'm mostly 'confident'
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 08:28 AM
1

If I refuse to acknowledge what it is and blow the concept off entirely won't I stop being insecure about it, thus becoming confident? I'll simply stop caring about it
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 05:02 PM
1

Everyone feels sad, jealous, scared, etc, at some points. But it should not be a constant in your life. I don't get why happiness should. If it's bad to base your life off of all those emotions, why is happiness different? Personally I'm trying to get done chasing happiness But the truth is that women are much more social than guys are They don't desire sex in the same way that we do When people say stuff like this it just makes me want to give up. Why try and be with someone who doesn't want th…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 04:56 PM
0

Before you enter a relationship, you should be undoubtedly happy just by yourself. Fuck being happy. Happiness is not the be-all-end-all of life. I'm not happy the same way I'm not angry, or sad, or jealous, or scared. I feel all those emotions at different levels at different times. I will never be fully happy, and that's fine because that's the way it's supposed to be. It's d8umb to measure youself off of one emotion. This idea we're supposed to be 'undoubtedly happy' is massively unachievable…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 02:15 PM
1

In this sense - are you "confident" about your dancing? Yes very. It isn't 'good' dancing, there's no choreography an barely any rhythm to it, it's mainly just moving my body to the music in ways that feel good to me. I bet a lot of people think I look like a spaz, but I don't really care But I feel like I'm kidding myself to think that it makes me more attractive Given from what you wrote I am confident in that I'm following my life my way and am sure of myself. I just don't see any evidence th…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:15 PM
0

Don't people in relationships kind of depend on each other for happiness and security, that seems like a big part of relationships to me. Sure if you're entirely dependent on them for that that's an issue write down 3 things you need from a woman that you will not budge on She has to like me She has to be nice to me She has to want me Sounds pretty self-centered but there it is. I do have more standards they're just more minute and not as important. Like to use your example I couldn't be with a …
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:10 PM
5

Yeah knowing that guy I can't imagine the marriage is the healthiest. Still he was able to get a guy to stick around long enough to agree to marry him, all while being unbearable. Weird
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 12:36 PM
2

would you want to date a woman who agreed with every single thing that you said? That would get extremely boring quite fast. It would get boring and would most likely end but I'd still date them. Maybe I'd even try to help them build their security in themselves, if they're open and receptive to it I'm not exactly in an abundance mindset, so I'll take most available options I have a basic daily routine and don't try to please people (depends on the the people), but I'm firmly under the belief th…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 12:33 PM
1

This post actually comes across as coming from a confident person who is taking steps in the right direction! Thanks. I am trying to get better at balancing my emotions and not letting a single one rule my life
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:56 AM
2

I don't want to be a leader or a follower
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:51 AM
-1

From my experience quiet confidence doesn't really get noticied. You mostly just fade into the background of other peoples lives I do like owning who I am and generally try to do it as much as possible. It just sucks that no one finds it attractive
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:48 AM
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And are you secure with being insecure? Can you say, "I'm having a bad day, I need some reassurance," and get that reassurance, and thank the person? Can you admit that you're bad at a particular skill without making your inferiority complex about it something that your partner has to deal with? Can you learn from your mistakes? Depends on the context but generall I'd say yes Given from what you've said I am confident... But like... Now what? Does that mean women are attracted to me? People who …
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:46 AM
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it just means someone who’s ok and secure with themselves. All the time? Most everyone I know isn't ok or secure all the time, we have lapses in our lives. I don't think I know of anyone who is totally ok and secure with themselves
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 10:45 AM
5

It's just an easy excuses they throw at you to shut you up. 'Oh you're insecure about this thing for totally valid reasons, that's why you can't get a relationship, women smell insecutities like bloodhounds (bullshit)'
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 10:15 AM
2

Cool.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 09:55 AM
1

Ah that makes sense. Different strokes I guess
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 01:11 PM
1

You may already be on one Love the idea of a government official having to track all the dumb shite I spew
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 01:10 PM
1

I mean I guess if that's all you know then yes you probably get conditioned to that, but if you recognise it as a purely physical thing without other expectations can it not be enjoyable? That's how a kid or a virgin talks... You got one of those right
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 01:08 PM
1

If I don't target or abuse unsuspecting women can I still be considered a threat to national security? Please? I wanna be a threat to national security soooooo bad
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 12:45 PM
1

Your sex is only one part of you, though. Not all. I know, but it's something people rarely recognise as part of me, so someone recognising just it would be new and special for me I suppose it's something that comes with experience. I've never had sex before so to me any sex sounds somewhat good
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 12:33 PM
1

I just thought I was whining about not getting pussy on the internet, turns out I'm a threat to national security. Cool!
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 11:58 AM
1

Yea but is it not at least cool for a bit? Like no-strings-attached sex can have poor outcomes for sure, but who's to say it doesn't have some merits
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 11:55 AM
1

Well my sex is a part of/an extension of me, so... Like they could probably find someone else to use for sex, the fact that they would choose me would mean something, or at least it would in my position
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 11:53 AM
1

It makes you feel like you're a goddamn sex doll. All she cares about is your dick. Your dick this. Your dick that. But she doesn't really love you. You're a fuck toy to her I don't know if this is because I have no experience, but personally to me that sounds cool
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 04:33 AM
3

Never wanted to be married/have kids even before I discovered all this shit
/r/ExRedPill15/03/22 08:05 AM
2

I mean I go to clubs to have a good time, get fucked up, and dance, not to meet people, so I think I am lucky since most times I accomplish what I set out to do
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 02:56 PM
2

It's a factor, but if you are having a good time and the people around you too, women will see that and find that attractive. I do that. On the rare occasions I go to a club I love getting fucked up and dancing with my friends (I love dancing, much like OP I'm not good at it but I love to do it). That's the only reason I go, to have a good time. But no one's ever approached me in that setting Not to downplay OP, but a big part of it was luck. He was lucky to be in the same club as that girl that…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 12:14 PM
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The girl approached him, how did she know he had a good personality (not saying he doesn't) I'll say I'm happy for OP, he scored a W and is showing it proudly. I'm just worried how others may see and take this
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 11:43 AM
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People can mask their emotions. When I was at my most self-loathing nobody knew, they still liked me
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 10:03 AM
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I feel like this is an aura you give off when you’ve worked on your shit to the point where you feel happy and whole as a person. I mean like... No, at least not in my personal experiences. I'm 23 years old and I hang out with people in that age range. You are tripping if you think for a second any of us feel happy or whole as a person. Many of us are figuring it out, many of us feel lost. Yet many people in my age range are still able to have sex and get into relationships, which means there mu…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 10:03 AM
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And prefer it if a man takes care of himself, not so much workout-wise as much as wardrobe, style, hair, skincare, nailcare. ... a... regular bath at least? As a man I'm the opposite. I would much prefer a woman who was more of a slob. If I find out she has a skincare routine that is more than two steps I would find that a turn-off honestly. So yes tastes are varied over genders
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 09:37 AM
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Many women really do like prettier more polished men As a dirtier and more rugged looking guy I find this discouraging. I just want someone to find my scumbag looking ass attractive the same way I do
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 09:35 AM
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It’s entitlement like this that makes uncles go on killing sprees and ruin not only their lives but the lives of other people. What in the goddamn hell are you talking about? Uncles?
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 09:33 AM
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Well done man, that sounds great and you sound very lucky. I hope things go well with her whaterver it is, but you have to remember this is just one instance of a girl finding you attractive and approaching you
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 09:23 AM
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Then what's your point here? Just clarifying things I guess Are you mad at women for being attracted to people that put effort into attracting attention? No. If I came across that way I'm sorry but personally I think you're reading into things
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 06:17 PM
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I can and do engage with people in a given setting, it depends on the setting but I do at least try when I can I never insisted anyone should approach me. It would certainly be nice and more conducive to me personally, but I would never insist someone approach me. I don't feel entitled to people approaching me
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 06:07 PM
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Guess I misused the phrase
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 05:58 PM
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you need to change your setting. What does that mean? I don't think I really blend into a setting. People do notice me somewhat and I am able to make myself known
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 05:54 PM
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I mean people are definitely seeing me. I guess they're just most of them aren't really intrigued and I've just got to find the one who is
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 05:47 PM
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I think I'm well-lit. Just more of a soft and subtle lighting
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 05:43 PM
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It's hard to become attracted to someone who hasn't caught your attention I do like to think my appearance can catch someone's attention, even in a superficial way
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 05:13 PM
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Femcel is a state of mind. You're in it sis
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 01:18 PM
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I'm bitter online because of people like you. Bitterness generates more bitterness, and it's clear you're very bitter. I'm trying to do better at not being bitter online but when I see femcels like you it's hard. I shouldn't have even responded to you And no he's not trolling, he's perpetuating toxic masculinity. But he's doing it in a good way isn't he so it's not a problem? Whatever, no way in hell you're gonna listen to me, you're too close minded I'm gonna block you now for my own mental hea…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 01:18 PM
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Is there something wrong with 'not getting pussy'? Also that's a very demeaning way to talk about women. He sounds like an unpleasant man... So you two would actually be perfect for each other
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 01:07 PM
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Sure thing femcel
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 01:06 PM
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I’m literally in a relationship with a man I feel sorry for him.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 01:03 PM
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Sounds like echochambers to me. Incels do similar things, create male-only spaces in which they share male experiences and things can quickly become resentful toward the opposite sex. But much like incels, I doubt you will see it that way. You're happy with your worldview and don't want to change it.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 01:02 PM
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No it does not. But let's be honest, you're not gonna listen to me are you. Please go be a femcel somewhere else
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 12:58 PM
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Yeah we don’t want to be hit on though Women are not a monolith. You can't speak for all women
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 12:56 PM
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A lot of men are just generally unpleasant people and do nothing to work on themselves in order to meet women’s standards. Men are not a monolith.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 12:54 PM
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That's fair, sorry if it felt like I wash shouting you down. Personally I don't like to see women or any people as a group and am trying to get better at not generalising. People are varied and don't always want the same thing, and generalising gets in the way of empathy
/r/ExRedPill28/02/22 08:19 AM
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Personally as a man I've looked into the female gaze and it doesn't seem much better. Whenever I read or hear about it it makes me feel gross, inadequete and ashamed, which is how I imagine many women feel when they're subject to the male gaze. So yes researching the female gaze does help me better relate to women, it fucking sucks that you must go through that For example, if we say we don't obsess over muscular men There is no 'we'. Women are not a monolith. They are not a collective being tha…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/22 07:38 AM
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Ok incel
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 07:27 PM
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So because you had bad experiences that means you get to infantilise women? Whatever you need to justify your misogyny
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 07:25 PM
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I think that depends on OP's circumstances. This isn't exactly something you can measure Like he's 23. Assuming he is mainly attracted to people in the same age bracket then honestly not having the things mentioned above isn't that large of a deal. As a 23 year old myself who hangs with people in the same age bracket I can tell you many of us have insecurities, don't go to therapy (as if we can afford it lmao), are still defining their personal values, and aren't consistently working toward goal…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 03:37 PM
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You can have all of those things and still not have women interested in you
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 02:55 PM
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Same
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 10:27 AM
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If two consenting adults dating sounds like pedophilia to you then you're retarded. An 18-year-old woman can make her own decisions on who she dates You're also assuming it's the man who is attracted to younger women. What if the woman is attracted to older men?
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 10:25 AM
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Yeah perhaps it is weird. But it shouldn't be compared to pedophilia which is much, much, much worse
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 10:18 AM
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Your experiences are not universal
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 07:27 AM
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Yes I am a pedophile for thinking that a 30-year-old having sex with someone over the age of eighteen is not pedophilia. You got me. I'll put myself of the register now
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 07:25 AM
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Find a philosophical path to follow, not a person. Better yet, make your own
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 11:00 PM
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A lot of infantilizing women in this thread. I expected better honestly
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 10:50 PM
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A 30-year-old havign sex with someone over the age of eighteen is not pedophilia
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 10:45 PM
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Solution is simple, testosterone in the drinking water. Get everyone nice and horny
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:09 AM
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So because you read one article by one guy you suddenly can't have sympathy for a group of people? Kinda backwards but you do you
/r/ExRedPill05/02/22 06:55 AM
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I think what one person considers "high value" is subjective Yep. For example a career-driven woman may be high-value to some, but to me personally it's low-value because I'm more of a slacker type
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 12:44 PM
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Which one?
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 04:28 AM
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And I'm assuming that you're one of those guys who unironically enjoyed Suicide Squad, eh? No. What the fuck are you talking about? I just find tattoos and piercings hot. Abhorrent bloody zoomer I am
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 06:06 PM
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Ridiculous. It's the pièce de résistance of the whole look. Without that she'd still be attractive, those thing just make her hotter
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 05:41 PM
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Empathy. Try it
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 03:35 PM
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People like you are why progress is so slow. If you're interested in maintaining the status quo then please don't talk to me
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 02:47 PM
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There was a photo I saw a while ago of this woman who had been said to abuse animals and be racist and other heinous shit. In most photographs of her she's unattractive but in one she's got these cold, dead, black eyes that I just found insanley attractive along with her greasy hair (greasy hair on a woman yes please, women please stop caring about your apperance so much) I'm not sure why I liked that photo. I was obsessed with looking at it, staring into those cold, dead, black eyes, like a sha…
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 12:45 PM
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Y'know when I said to consider that men and women can want the saem things? Did you even stop for a second to consider it? Empathy is pretty cool man maybe give it a go sometime
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 12:37 PM
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Societal norms are retarded and need to be changed. By accepting societal norms your saying your ok with the way things are, and I'm not ok with the way things are
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 12:35 PM
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Good. I don't even know who you are so why should I care? Lmao. Good point. Reminds me to not care what you think either
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 10:01 PM
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From our conversation I don't think I'd be into you either. Youre flying more red flags than the CCP
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 09:32 PM
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maybe I'm old fashion Maybe you are. Is the concept of different people wanting different things really so impossible to understand?
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 09:15 PM
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As for not getting hit on why do all of you young virgin men expect women to hit on you? I don't understand why so many men these days want women to chase them Honestly? Because it would be nice. Because it would be nice to feel desired and chased. Consider this. You know how you like it when a guy comes onto you? You know how it makes you feel desired? You know how it makes you feel special and appreciated? Consider that men also like that. Consider the fact that men and women can want the same…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 08:21 PM
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lmao I love you man
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 08:05 PM
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All I can say is insecurities can cause people to act/say/do/think irrational shit. That's the way I understand it. Trying to understand it to much is rationalising something irrational, which is like good luck with that lol
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 07:26 PM
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I believe women understand the male gaze really well because it’s forced down our throats in media everyday That shouldn't happen in my opinion. In a perfect world I don't think there would be any gazes What about the female gaze do you find toxic? I think, much like the male gaze, it expects people to look and act in certain ways without concern for what people actually want. The examples I've often seen used for the female gaze are things like Yaoi, K-dramas, and K-pop which are all unrealisti…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 07:24 PM
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But it seems so irrational I can’t actually sympathise. Ok then... Don't I guess.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 07:18 PM
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I said that about the female gaze from experience. I mentally tortured myself trying to appeal to it and it was hard to break out of. I'm just trying to help people not make the same mistakes I did
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 07:15 PM
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That above comment was a joke. Sorry sarcasm isn't able to be expressed over text
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 07:13 PM
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I think men struggle to see the perspective of the female gaze because it doesn’t allign with the male gaze. Likewise. I think women struggle to see the perspective of the male gaze because it doesn’t allign with the female gaze. In my opinion they're both toxic and but destructive expectations on people. I know from personal experience I basically mentally tortured myself trying to appeal to the female gaze. The male gaze is obviously more dominant and has done damage to women, but it doesn't m…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 07:12 PM
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We all fall off, but no one is attracted to the perpetual slob. I'm a man and I wouldn't mind being with someone who is a 'perpetual slob'. 'Effort' is relative. I'm fairly low maintence which sort of translates to 'low effort' to most people, but I find my level of effort to be fine for me And 'momentum' doesn't really mean much to me honestly. I feel like we're conditioned into that 'go-getter' mindest because of capitalism and the economy so I can really appreciate someone who can recognise t…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 07:04 PM
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many of those men don't put any effort on their profiles. I see this sentiment all the time. Trust me, as someone who sees how much effort women are putting into their profiles it kind of makes sense. These men are merely matching the effort they see women put into their profiles Online dating (Tinder specifically) is generally a low effort thing. People on there are gonna be low effort, men or women
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 06:43 PM
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I'm not sure why this is a question. A lot of men haven't been shown they're attractive to women and rationalise it as women not finding men attractive at all. It's projection formed from an insecurity more often than not
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 06:17 PM
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I'm getting angry & bitter just writing about this... Consider not writing it. Consider taking a break from the internet and doing something you enjoy, something that doesn't make you feel angry or bitter
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 06:15 PM
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Obviously women are attracted to top tier men like Chris Hemsworth, duh Be real man. No human being on this planet has ever been attracted to an Australian
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 06:12 PM
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Sorry but I'm 6'2" and 200lbs, I don't want a guy I could break in half by accident. Ironically there are a lot of guys out there who would want that. Would love a 6'+ woman to pick me up and throw me around like a ragdoll
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 05:43 PM
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I'm 25f, and the older I get, the higher my standards get for being treated well. This is why I'm concerned as a late bloomer guy. I'm afraid most women will have been dating and getting to know what they want in a partner and I'll just be playing catch-up and learning how relationships work. Kinda scared I'll be behind everybody else in maturity
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 05:41 PM
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Finally an honest answer
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 05:13 PM
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I understand your doubts and often feel this way myself. I'm also a 23 year old virgin guy and I see the women and attraction as the same kind of nebulous concept which I've tried so hard to understand So I've stopped trying to understand it. Why try to understand something so varied and so individual? The more you try and understand something this vaired the more you fail, you understand one aspect of it then are introduced to a compltely different aspect that may even be contradictory to the o…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 04:04 PM
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how could women be sexually attracted to men? Nature has a component. I recognise that a large part of the reason I'm sexually attracted to women is because of a biological want to put my penis in a vagina. I'm sure there's a lot of women out there who have a biological want to have a penis in their vagina. Sexual attraction isn't always rational You've been exposed to too much negativity. Your default view of men is that their likely to degrade, harass, injure, and potentially murder women. Why…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 10:54 AM
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This is likely just a rationalisation of your own percieved inadequacies and insecurities. You likely don't think a woman could fall in love with you specifically and then are projecting that onto men. Or at least that's what my psychology armchair thinks > I've often wondered whether women can truly be attracted to men or whether they're just pressured into heterosexuality by the patriarchy I used to think this then I realised I had internalised trash articles written by jaded women who resente…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 08:52 AM
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Same my way. I'm continually attracted to women but goddamn do I wish I was gay
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 08:02 AM
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I kinda get what you mean. I like feeling intimidating, it's nice to know my mere neutral existence is enough to make people scared and demand respect. It's nice to know people are thinking about you Unfortunatly the only way you could be seen as more threatening and non-cute is to change your behaviour to become more domineering. You're also going to have to balance being domieering whilst still being respectful which can be difficult and very risky terrain if your trying it out for the first t…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 10:38 AM
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Fair enough man it was just a vibe I picked up
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 10:26 AM
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It's mainly a vibe thing which is hard to articulate Your claim that she 'gets more feminine and "submissive" subconsciously'. This analysing behaviour and implication that you know the 'truth' of her behaviour which she does not. The way you articulated it implies, to me, a sense of superiority over her. Your use of the phrase 'earned it' to me implies a level of entitlement to women's submissivness. It's as if a woman's submission is a prize to be won. To me it feels objectifying. Both male su…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 10:13 AM
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Does to me. But that's just my opinion
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 09:57 AM
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joining the military bring out the best nature in men LMAO. Personally as a man I don't need a 'pack' and do just fine without one. I'd much rather be alone than with a bunch of dudes standing in a scorching desert carrying over 50lbs of equipment with the possibility that I ight die at any second
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 07:31 AM
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> As we've gotten closer and I've stepped up more she gets more feminineand "submissive" subconsciously each time she talks to me. > You cannot force a woman to be submissive. It's something she does for a man that has earned it. This sounds exactly like something a RedPilled guy would say
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 07:27 AM
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death grip syndrome Noided
/r/ExRedPill29/01/22 04:34 PM
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Imma be real I just wanna be mediocre and still be able to have relationships and sex. I like who I am and I want someone else to like that, but then I'm constantly told that I'm not enough. I wanna have confidence in myself but I feel like I can't because I haven't become an abritraty 'better person'. I feel like the 'best version of myself' isn't attractive and I don't know what to do. I like who I am but I feel like I can't and that people around me don't. I know relationships take effort, I'…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 05:04 PM
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Why not have struggling men try and improve their personalities? Why can't people accept and love me for who I am already? Is that just not possible? I like who I am, I want someone to also like who I am, but that's hard to get really isn't it. I just hate seeing people who I know are worse people than me getting attention whilst I don't get anything. It doesn't make sense. I can't say 'I have a good personality' because anyone can say that, doesn't mean it's true. But I think I'm a decent perso…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 03:27 PM
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But the thing is it kind of wasn't 'case in point' because that guy still found someone to marry him. Clearly his insecurities and self-loathing weren't that important to his partner
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 11:29 AM
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That's fair. I agree with all of that. Like I said I just had issue with the way that person phrased that statement, I found it disingenuous and was calling it out. I'll admit I could have done that in a more concise way I hope for your friend that's different. This isn't important but that person was not my friend. I actually grew to dislike them because their insecurity became exhausting to handle. It did help me understand the whole 'people won't like you if you don't like yourself' but it al…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 11:09 AM
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You can't be attractive to everyone and shouldn't even think of it, but you can cultivate a personality you like and build up from that. The unfortunate reality is that you can cultivate a personality that you personally like but there's no guarantee that people will find you attractive. That's the issue I took with the original comment, the fact that they said 'you WILL attract partners' just isn't true and sets up false expectations How can you expect to be attractive to someone else in any wa…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 10:16 AM
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I know. It's a sissyphian task. That's why I told the person above that an 'attractive personality' does not exist
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 09:26 AM
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What about all the incels not in your DMs? You can judge a minority by it's most vitriolic members but that's pretty reductive
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 07:19 AM
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The fact your being downvoted. They can't stand it when people challenge their worldview. Just like incels/RP
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 07:12 AM
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Because if you cultivate an attractive personality you WILL attract partners. No you won't. You might but there are no gurantees. Also what constitutes a 'attractive personality' is entirley subjective. It's a sissyphian task
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 07:10 AM
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There are plenty of people with shit personalities in relationships but you people just conveniently ignore that because it doesn't fit into your narrow worldview
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 07:08 AM
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Fair enough. Her choice it's extremely exhausting to speak with/debate eith men who view you as a step up from a child I can understand how this can be exhausting. I've spoken to women who views me as a step up from a rapist and it was also very exhausting and eventually I decided to stop bothering because it went no where and was bad for my well being. I now see that's what OP's doing and respect that I just think if she doesn't want to speak to RP men then maybe don't go to a sub in which RP m…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 11:26 AM
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Because you're right, many women absolutely do it too and I (F) am equally disgusted by FDS as I am with RP. I think you'll see a lot of people quickly coming to women's defence because we are still in the phase of rebalancing power structures and when you consider things like how women got the right to vote only 100 years ago, it makes sense I do understand that these reactions are justified and that there is a power imbalance that takes some nasty work to try and rebalance. I guess it just suc…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 10:59 AM
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Just seems a bit weird refusing to speak to RP men when some of them will come to this forum looking to exit. What else would this sub provide her? If she isn't detoxing herself and isn't helping others detox then I don't really get why she's here? I guess to dunk on people. Whatever, her choice OP has every right to chose not to argue with RP men, especially if it's taking an emotionally or mentally toll. That's fair and entirley her choice. I'm much the same in I find that arguing with women l…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 10:53 AM
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If you're not gonna talk to RP man on a subreddit designed to detox RP men then why are you here? It's you choice so go ahead but what do you get out of this forum?
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 10:26 AM
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One man on a confession sub says he jerks off to Female Dating Strategy. King
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 10:24 AM
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"Why would girls choose the entitled and misogynistic jocks instead of the quiet nerds, whose attitudes towards women are exactly on par with the jocks but who are less attractive?" Why would women choose an entitled misogynist at all? Isn't this just saying women only care about looks?
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 10:23 AM
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tter. It was kind of a side note. Anyway, I made an OnlyFans to create content showing that what they talk about is a lie. That you can be a regular guy, not making six figures and still get what you want out of life. I'd like to see a post about this. I've thought of making an OnlyFans recently too
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 07:41 AM
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Since I've got older I've moved past that friendly bullying phase and must say it's much better. I look back on how I belittled my friends and how they belittled me and I wonder why. Why did we do that to each other Now I'm in a friend groop who loves and supports each other. There's still some gentle roasting, but overall it's much more accepting and I feel a lot better in this sort of friendship
/r/ExRedPill23/01/22 04:02 PM
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Nah actually I did a lot of the bullying. I now recognise I felt insecure and lashed out to give myself a sense of security. I've matured past that now, apperently not everyone has
/r/ExRedPill23/01/22 02:21 PM
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Yeah I remeber high school
/r/ExRedPill23/01/22 01:06 PM
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He’s now going through a mini depression and is the laughing stock of the friend group. What great friends! Maybe you sholuld try talking to him about why his beliefs are harmful instead of mocking and alienating him. Or y'know just make him more depressed if you want, I don't care, he's your friend
/r/ExRedPill23/01/22 08:37 AM
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I'm not RedPill. I never said I was. I'm honestly not suprised you automatically assumed I was, par for the course. I think the double standards displayed by the RedPill are, like any double standard, dumb. I think the RedPill itself is dumb and harmful. Anyway, whenever I see a guy online putting down women, I counter with an unflattering statement about men that has some truth to it Fair enough. I mean you're continuing a cycle, he's just gonna go deeper into that hole. But I understand empath…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/22 06:33 PM
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Showing frustration that the world is harsher and much less fair than we're led to believe growing up is completely fine. People do it regularly. Doing it in a way that badly stereotypes 50% of the population and which, as shown here multiple times, can lead to thoughts and behaviours that cause material harm to people's lives and relationships. Maybe it's completely fine to point out that some people need a healthier way of expressing that frustration. I know this is kind of unrelated to the po…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/22 07:57 AM
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'Those young whippersnappers don't know what it's like with their social medias and their TikToks and their Black Pills' Following the proud tradition of not listening to young people and blaming them for their problems. Such a natural evoloution TikTok is shit. It is sensationalism. But perhaps consider and the centre of any sensation is an element of truth
/r/ExRedPill22/01/22 07:40 AM
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Why don't you ask him how he feels about relationships/dating and listen to him. If he says something that sounds RedPill/Incel like don't immeditley try to shut him down but instead ask him why he thinks that? Listen to him, and I mean listen
/r/ExRedPill22/01/22 07:32 AM
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Not to sound like an edgelord but is anyone actually happy? Your not happy. Not all the time at least. You get sad and angry and scared and all that other shit too right? Well so do all those people in relationships and families. Shit they might feel those things even more than you Like I'm glad I'll never know the fear of a mother scared for her children's protection. Or the anger of a couple in an argument. They may be happier than you but they also might be sadder than you in certain circumst…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/22 07:12 AM
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I got so sick of it, I did what I said I would never do and created an Onlyfans just to debunk what they're saying. I don't get this logic. What were they saying that made you get an OnlyFans (also do you mean as a consumer or creator?)
/r/ExRedPill20/01/22 12:23 PM
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In most men, it’s in their DNA to be leaders No it isn't. There's no proof of this. This is the same biological essentialism the RedPill teaches. Perhaps you haven't detoxed as much as you think you have I could just as easily say 'In most men, it's in their DNA to be players'. It's the same hand-wavey excuse with no evidence If it's in men's DNA to be leaders (also if you're Chrisitian wouldn't it be God that makes men leaders? Not biological code?) then does that imply that it's in women's DNA…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 12:20 PM
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Trust, along with respect and empathy, has to be given to get got. Relationships are about being mutual, you both have to be putting in the same level of effort. Personally I take it that if I place my trust in someone then they've usually placed some trust in me. And trust doesn't have to be a 100% thing in my opinion. I don't trust anyone 100%, not even my family, because everyone has the capacity to betray me. This doesn't stop me from trusting people, I just know my limits
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 11:24 AM
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Instead of this RP view, us men need to step the hell up and be real men by leading and being an example for other men This whole 'men need to be men and do X and Y' shit is the same rhetoric the RedPill uses, it's the same toxic expectations of masculinity. Men don't need to do shit, we don't have an obligation to do anything. Stop with these expectations and let men be men Maybe as a man I don't want to be a leader and maybe I don't wanna be led. Maybe I wanna make my own path, maybe I don't l…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 10:16 AM
2

The fact that you have to list off a bunch of traits that you think I'll find impressive seems very insecure to me. Why do you feel you have to prove yourself to me? I'm just a loser on the internet. And besides what the fuck is a DoD? Anyway I'm bored of you now so I'm gonna block you
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 08:19 AM
1

Nah bro, I've had some good responses in this thread. You just suck
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:58 AM
1

I really don't understand what I've done to offend you. Like so what if I want to be lazy, that's my choice. Don't like it? Ok then fuck off Ooooh you’re so intimidating and strong. Thank you very much
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:57 AM
1

I tried to help you and tell it to you straight like a guy would but you prefer to be cushioned and coddled. Rule number one in this life. Anyone who claims to 'tell it to you straight like a guy would' is a close-minded retard who shouldn't be listened to Now do as I say and stop responding
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:54 AM
1

You know your worth but you’re insecure about your sexuality. Which is it? Both, deal with it. Now stop responding to me, you're boring
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:43 AM
1

People really cannot handle men knowing their own worth.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:40 AM
1

Good to get ideas from multiple people from multiple places. Here I'm able to talk things out with people in a way an article cannot
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:28 AM
1

I don’t know what else to tell you other than that the only person stopping you is yourself, the majority of the battle is internal Yeah I'm aware of that. I'm aware that if I changed multiple things about my apperance, personality, and lifestyle then yes it would likely increase my chances of having sex. But that just feels like too much effort for not enough reward. I like who I am and want to be appreciated for that. If that's not possible then I'd rather opt out than become someone I do not …
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:14 AM
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Even if the risk outweighs the reward, if you really want something it shouldn’t matter. I've decided recently I don't really want it that bad. It would be nice if it happened, but I'm not gonna force it Then don’t complain. Why not? It's a free internet. If I complain and people don't like it then they can stop listening if they want
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 07:02 AM
1

What if you simply had the belief that you can and will win no matter what? Then that would be a false belief and I wouldn't want it. That sounds nice on paper but I don't want to shut off the idea of failure completley because failure is still very much a thing. Like what if I do the neuroassociative conditioning and brainwash to tell myself I can win no matter what... And I still lose. Wouldn't I just end up feeling worse? Also I'm just not a massive fan of the idea of brainwashing myself. The…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 06:59 AM
3

Numbers are meaningless. Nah not really. If I found out a girl I was interested in slept with a thousand people that would very much put me off because to me that indicates some level of poor decision making. Also it would tell us we're not at the same place in lifestyle
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 06:50 AM
2

I'll say as a guy I do need to be at least physically attracted to someone to be attracted to them. But to be fair my measure of attractiveness is quite broad. I'm quite a visual person and can appreciate a wide variety of looks, but there's only certain looks that I would actually go for And just because I find someone physically attractive does not mean I want to date or even have sex with them. Like Kim Kardashian is hot of course, but I wouldn't date or fuck her But 'looks' is about more tha…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 08:36 AM
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Men overcomplicate dating by being lazy And women overcomplicate dating by being complicated Negative generlaisations about Men: Good Negative generlaisations about Women: Bad
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 08:10 AM
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Feel like it's a bad investment. Dropping a few hundred at least for an hour with a woman. Yeah no I don't have that kinda money
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 08:05 AM
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Sex requires a partner. Otherwise it’s masturbation. Masturbation is sexual though. It's still part of a persons sexuality
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 07:45 AM
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You're the one who thinks in terms like 'soyjack'. I love a good meme as much as the next guy, but you're taking them too far
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 07:28 PM
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Where the fuck did BLACKED even come from. You obviously have some insecurtities that you're projecting. You're a weird dude
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:54 PM
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Honestly man if freaks like you can have sex I don't think I have anything to worry about
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:39 PM
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If you wanna be a virgin that’s fine bro but at least do something with your life meaningfully not just live your life finding new ways to be a coomer Who says I'm not? Why can't I do something meaningful then come home and bust a fat nut? You seem incredibly narrow-minded and immature you do have trouble grappling with this reality that you are a virgin and are obsessed with porn and cooming I guess I am yes. That's why I made this post, so I can better grapple with it, articulate some things, …
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:37 PM
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I also feel gross that you participated in this thread
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:13 PM
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Do you wanna be a loser or do you wanna be a man? I don't consider recognising an unfair system as an unfair system and choosing to opt out of it as being a loser honestly. I see choosing to accept and perpetuate an unfair system to be much more of a 'loser' thing to do personally, but hey that's just me. It's people like you who say 'this is the way things are, man up or shut up' that cause the system to remain unfair. Your a slave to system Choose buddy there is no inbetween Then I shall creat…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:12 PM
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You need to work on yourself pal. Like I said above, I'm not jumping through a bunch of hoops in the hopes of pleasing someone I've never met. That's not my idea of a good time
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:08 PM
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But yeah the only way you will be sexually successful is practicing with a girl I'm not really interested in being sexually 'successful', just exploring my sexuality and what feels good to me. I feel like you may be misinterpreting me a bit here
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:05 PM
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By myself. Also I'm 23
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 04:54 PM
1

There's nothing wrong with my situation
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 04:37 PM
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What you need is some good slapping and discipline, not circle jerking like on reddit I mean that's what you're doing right now and it isn't working. Like I straight up do not want to listen to you Listen man, people have different reactions to this shit. The 'tough love' and discpline stuff works for you, and that's fine, you do you. It doesn't work on me. Shame doesn't motivate me it makes me shut down. Discpline doesn't work for me, I prefer to interpret things freely on my own terms
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 04:33 PM
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(but then engaging in that material can make some people unable to bust to anything BUT that and normal sex is then damaged for them, so like, your mileage may vary, completely. just explaining thought behind it) That's what I was getting at, where you become conditioned to something extreme and it then becomes the only way you can cum or excite yourself. I'm afraid I'm already feeling a bit of this from the porn which is why I was concerned with erotica being too close to that
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 04:27 PM
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The dating dynamic is not "fair". Why the fuck would I willingly participate in an unfair system? That is retarded. If the game is rigged, guess what? I ain't fucking playing it. I don't care how amazing the reward is, it ain't worth it in my book Economics is not just about money. Economics can be applied to any environment with limited resources in supply, that have a demand Personally I think thinking in those terms is gross. I don't see people as 'values' or supplies that are demanded or wha…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 04:19 PM
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There is no such thing as a 'happy person'. There are people who are happy, but they are not 'happy people'. At least in my opinion
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 04:12 PM
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Yeah give me an example
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 04:10 PM
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What is a 'normal person'? Show me one. Personally for me shame is not a good motivator
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 03:56 PM
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it´s not normal at your age to be a virgin Who says? Where? Show me
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 03:47 PM
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herbivorous men Just looked it up. What utter Kings
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 03:37 PM
1

Just a heads up, women (by and large) don't pay for only fans or look at nudes on reddit. Always get this messaging. Women are not a monolith but also they act in certain ways and you must recognise that. Why don't women look at nudes? Do they not like men's bodies? Are they all lesbians on the internet? Good haircut, decent clothes, hit the gym and put on some muscle. Get a decent paying job. Just work on yourself. I've seen dudes who don't do this and still have girlfriends/have sex. Seen dude…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 03:14 PM
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The fact that you think talk to girls > have sex with them lmaoooooooo I do talk to girls (well some girls, not all of them). Guess what happens? We just talk... That's it. Nothing wrong with that because some girls are nice to talk to, but if you think just talking leads to sex you've got a lot to learn what else do U wanna hear Some good answers.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 01:25 PM
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I do really like that sub and have visited it frequently (even considered writing a script or two) but once again I don't see how it isn't just also porn? Also I don't think I could record anything. I'm quite self-concious about my voice. I sound like Patrick Starr on tape, not sure anyone wants to jerk off to that lol
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 10:48 AM
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I've read and written 'erotica' before but I have a bit of tenuous relationship with the concept. I dunno 'erotica' seems like it's sort of 'higher' in a way. Like porn is reality TV whilst erotica is the opera or something The idea I get from erotica is those women's novels where it's all sensual and coy, like calling a penis a 'throbbing member' or something like that. That sorta stuff ain't for me honestly, I'm one to call a cock a cock Like the erotica I wrote was basically just porn but wit…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 10:42 AM
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You’ll attract people when you embrace who you are because people will pick up on your authenticity. By the way you also might not. No guarantees
/r/ExRedPill14/01/22 02:22 PM
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Nevertheless, my only point in calling it a "second job" is to get your mind thinking about how overt, calculating and active creating a social life is. You have to put yourself out there and all the other cliches. It's not just going to fall in your lap. The more I read about dating and the more stuff like this I see it just makes me want to give-up more thean anything. Like all that shit you said sounds fucking EXHAUSTING. Like bro I don't like my actual job, why would I want another that I do…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/22 02:13 PM
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