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| 3 | Elementary school teacher was arrested for the child rape and molestation of a student in a classroom. The 10-year-old child told investigators the abuse happened almost every day, "sometimes as much as five times per day."I went to Spanaway Lake Hs and visited a few years ago (It's in Tacoma). They call it Ta-Compton now because it's gotten so bad. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 23/03/26 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.Just getting this. I started slow. Just began to look myself in the eyes. 30 seconds. It was a real challenge at first. Then you just ask.........what are some things I'd like to do with my life. Things you'd like to see or experience. Then write them down. No matter how big or small. Make sure they are things "I always wanted to do" that are specific to you. It's a lot of brain storming and just not caring. What do you have to lose? Just time investing in yourself. That's a huge win that many p… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.You nailed it man. This is a life changing moment. Best of all you get to decide. I knew I was going to keep myself in check no matter what she or the system tried to do. At one point I looked her dead in the eyes and said "You are not going to win. You and your lawyer are not going to win". Her attorney has a reputation for being a "man eating bitch". Well I landed on her rival as my attorney who happened to love men who fought for their children. Follow your gut man. It will never let you down… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/25 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.You're welcome. Onward and upward my friend! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/25 01:20 PM |
| 2 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.Hey man let me just tell you. Follow your gut. Tap into it. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. No matter what your gut says just follow it. You'll know. It's all going to work out just fine when you do. Hang in there you got this! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/25 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.Thanks bro......you as well! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/25 01:18 PM |
| 4 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.Reading this has helped confirm that I likely never want to be in a relationship again. Me either friend. Ten years of no honey do lists have been amazing. No nagging or second guessing. Just pure bliss. What is crazy is that had she not cheated I would have went to my grave miserable. It's amazing that the worst thing that happened to me turned out to be the best. All the best! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/25 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.Great point. Ty! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/25 08:07 PM |
| 7 | Remember gentsIn 15 years MAYBE one time she ever apologized. I may have dreamed that too. :D | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/25 03:36 PM |
| 1 | For those of you who have child(ren).Thank you for taking time to read. All the best! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/25 07:17 PM |
| 2 | For those of you who have child(ren).I saw recently a clip. Not sure how old.......but the husband killed child and the mom? Maybe.......but in the court he flat out said...."you caused this". Everyone looking appalled like he was some monster. There's a reason why when you hear about the husband going HAM stabbing their ex 68 times. Not saying I agree.......but I do understand. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/25 02:28 PM |
| 5 | Listen you fucks!Nailed it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 08:07 PM |
| 3 | Listen you fucks!Bro.....I understand looking around and comparing. I promise that your journey is tailored specifically for you. I will tell you that the path provides. My best advice for you in your process is to sit down and map out what you want. What do you want out of the process. What you want with your children. Your ex or soon to be. I'd write it down too. Seriously, what do you have to lose by doing this? Nothing. But you have everything to gain. The reason I'm sharing this with you is that in the mids… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 03:00 PM |
| 4 | Listen you fucks!Yep. But you get to feel it and walk out your process. Don't short that part either. How will you know? If you put in your mind that every day you're going to make some progress. Learn something. Listen to someone going through what you are. If the opportunity arises have a conversation and ask questions. Whatever works best. Just think and say to yourself....."I'm going to grow through this" It's the FEAR you have to work through my friend. This is your opportunity. I know you're like wtf? This… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 05:11 AM |
| 8 | Listen you fucks!100% But fuck that.......she's lucky if she makes it into my life. You think we can't evolve? My happiness is PARAMOUNT. RIP Patrice O'Neal | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/25 08:24 PM |
| 15 | Listen you fucks!Right. I always heard that some "hot chick" is just someone who got tired of her shit. LOL | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/25 06:46 PM |
| 1 | I remember the Friday nights fellas. It was lonely but....Always :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 10:38 PM |
| 1 | I remember the Friday nights fellas. It was lonely but....Good for you man! This is how it's done! | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 03:56 PM |
| 3 | I remember the Friday nights fellas. It was lonely but....I'll never marry again. Yes NEVER. I know too much. lol Interesting that I shared my philosophy going forward and she recently moved out of her house I presume with the guy. For your reading pleasure if you'd like. https://www.reddit.com/r/Scorpio/comments/1ftoewo/ive_been_watching_my_retired_neighbor_for_3_years/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 04:34 AM |
| 1 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.Ty :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/24 04:26 PM |
| 4 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.Honestly......it was a Friday night. I just became roommates with a friend. Ironically up the block from my soon to be ex and his house. I was just 41 at the time. He let me stay in his open area back part of his house. It was like I was back in college dorms sort of. Then the awakening really began. Because I was in this situation of no doing of my own. In fact, I was trying to do all the right things and they were working against me. Around 2016. I couldn't really talk to anyone because like e… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 06:11 AM |
| 3 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.I understand completely. LOL. It's been quite the journey. If you only knew the things I battled against. If I didn't have my son...........sheesh........wouldn't have been pretty for anyone. Anyway, enjoy your journey man. I love your honesty! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 05:59 AM |
| 1 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.Take your time. My best advice for you.......check your gut. Really tap into your intuition. Whatever that may be..........and go for it. I did this time and time again on my journey. I had my attorney telling me things weren't possible. "That's not how it works" Guess what? I got EVERYTHING my gut intuition said and then some. I also took my time. They were trying to rush me on things in the settlement. I wouldn't back down till I felt comfortable. Sometimes it would be the 11th hour on things.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 11:21 PM |
| 3 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.I just turned 49. My son is 6. It's been the best year and I'm only a month into it or so lol. Take your time my friend. I promise if you do it right......not only will you have NO regrets. You will also have a sense of peace and satisfaction. That's my goal now. Have no regrets on my deathbed. All the best! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 11:08 PM |
| 1 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.Bro I think you hit the nail on the head on all fronts. Good for you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 11:06 PM |
| 4 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.Yes. Been divorced about 4 years now. I'm just now hitting my stride healing\healed. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 11:05 PM |
| 1 | I have summited the mountain. 10 years this month.Ya I was just getting ahead of the eye rollers. If it helps someone. That's all that matters! :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 10:09 PM |
| 10 | Woman hired hitman to take out new wife of 'hiking friend' she met online: AuthoritiesThey always got those crazy eyes. Hers of a sociopath. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 06/10/24 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Emotional bluntingIt's crazy isn't it? The thing that sucks the most can make you stronger? I'd kill the old me with my bare hands. You grow up real quick when betrayal happens. Or should hopefully. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Emotional bluntingThat was the real son of a gun for me as well. For 15 years when she'd get home and the garage door would open my heart would skip. Once she cheated I lost that. And the real sucky thing was that I was forced into this immediate trust of no one. Prior to betrayal I never experienced it. It was a real challenge. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Laid off, should I bother modifying CS?If you got an increase would she file for more. You bet your ass she would. You have nothing to lose by doing so. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 12:21 PM |
| 8 | Got evicted in my own houseYa man......this is the script. Get you out of the house at all costs. Be aware and keep your head on a swivel. Record everything and keep your emotions in check. Just to prepare you......while going through this I assure you there's going to be nothing "moving quickly". You will have some movement here and there but I promise you the lawyers drag this out and take their sweet time. Unless you got an agreement that could get done quickly.......I'd settle in and prepare for a lot of hurry up and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Getting divorce over having a kidNo I was asked. And I responded on the observation I made about her. Someone brought up to me menopause. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 12:45 PM |
| 5 | How am I to get over my exwive that I loved so muchIt's okay. Seriously. You'll have people on here to tell you to "man up" and stop being a pussy. I was married 15 years before I was betrayed. When men marry we marry for life. We commit. So it's understandable the feelings you have for her. You have to remember this is a process. Once we finalized......I used to sit in dark rooms and cry. Because I was put into a situation that was of no doing of my own. And that was the greatest lesson I learned. People have free will. Free will to make things… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 10:51 AM |
| 2 | Near death by 1000 cuts. But I survived 15 years and a 3 year divorce process. Talk from the other side.Thanks so much. Maybe "ONE-Itis"? But seriously, I think around 35 they just get squirrely. Hormones. We didn't have children. I honestly believe she was somewhere from Borderline to Covert Narcissist. I know narcissism is throw around a ton these days but here's how I know that she is. Narcissism Test: List 3 things you should improve about yourself. List 3 people who are better than you in some way. List 3 times of a problem of some sort was your fault. Checkmate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Near death by 1000 cuts. But I survived 15 years and a 3 year divorce process. Talk from the other side.You will man. I promise. And you are..... even right this moment. Fleetly and for sure! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Near death by 1000 cuts. But I survived 15 years and a 3 year divorce process. Talk from the other side.Thank you friend. My saying used to be "slowly but surely" That has switched to "fleetly and for sure". Onward and upward! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 11:38 PM |
| 2 | Near death by 1000 cuts. But I survived 15 years and a 3 year divorce process. Talk from the other side.Her new husband is fine. He's about 10 years younger than her. Just a pup. And to be honest I had a family member reach out to me when she saw my ex with her husband. Her words to me were "Will that guys is so ugly, she should be on her knees begging you to allow her to come back" LOL It's fine though. The poor boy don't know she cheated on me before he came into the picture and then cheated with him. He also doesn't realize that if I didn't believe in Christ he wouldn't be on this earth right n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Near death by 1000 cuts. But I survived 15 years and a 3 year divorce process. Talk from the other side.You're welcome. I spared you the details of the absolute hell that I had to walk through. I briefly mentioned her family. But because she was a covert narcissist she played the victim. To our friends and her co workers and even the church community. My motto during that time? "Those that need to know know.......and those that think they know have no clue". So I took the high road. And it came with a lot of pain. To address your concern about the two parent structure. I had thought about that as … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Divorcing Philosophy - Some say Save Me! and whyYes sir. I was talking to my mom one time. This was years ago. She told me "oh don't worry there's someone out there for you" I simply told her "mom I don't need a woman to complete me....I like me and enjoy my company" She was floored at the shift in me. I love my alone time :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Divorcing Philosophy - Some say Save Me! and whyYa bro......I don't think I'm ever living with or remarrying. I enjoy my alone and myself too much. That said.......if I do meet someone.......she will live at her place and I mine. We'll have a great time when together. However, when I go home to do fuck all when I'm not around her that will be amazing too. And if by chance we do get serious........I'll never subject myself to the state EVER again. So if you want to pledge ourselves together and "be married"......fine we can have a ceremony and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 02:07 PM |
| 4 | Getting divorce over having a kidBro it's interesting that this is your story and post. Let me blow your mind about life and karma regarding this subject. So when I was around 38 and my wife was 35......similar situation. The issue for us was that we were never able to conceive. At this point my wife had been acting weird. More than normal. One night she asks me "Are we going to a specialist to try and have a baby" Well my insurance at the time was in limbo but I was going to get new insurance at the beginning of the year. We w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 01:45 PM |
| 3 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Oh that makes sense......you always have to remember with these evil ones......it isn't about winning. It's about control. And they thrive on making you jump and fret and get flustered because they absolutely fear it happening to them. So if they see you had a good time with your child(ren).......they have to do something to mess that harmony at a later time. If not in the middle of it. So it's always being keen to their motives and ways. I was fortunate that it didn't leak over into our coparen… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?I think being older we were able to put our focus on the betterment of our son. We're accommodating to each others schedule. Nothing really changed on that front.......she just didn't do the typical behavior that you'll see from narcissistic. It's truly been the silver lining on this whole deal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?In what regard? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 11:56 PM |
| 3 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Oh shit......you just made me MUWHAHAHAHAHAHAH | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 10:44 PM |
| 5 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?This 100%. I got to the point that I told her I only wanted an email or text about our son. And the reason for that is I had documentation when she pulled her bullshit. This is long ago and we co parent well now........but sheesh there for awhile it was brutal! | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Bingo! I see no reason to ever marry again or live with someone. Outside that I'm game and will do things on my terms. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 10:09 PM |
| 6 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Oh bro........covert narcissist here as well. Hang in there man. Hold your ground and your boundaries with these evil vile snakes! Some of my story. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/16sc9my/i_made_up_the_3_of_divorce_cases_i_stuck_to_my/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 09:58 PM |
| 4 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?So true. I describe it as living "comfortably miserable". I just didn't know how to break the crazy cycle. I was fortunate though.....my ex cheated on me. I was done after that. It's crazy to think had she not cheated that I would have went to my grave miserable. I'm happy to be truly free now. I help other men as I see and am able. Most are trapped like I was. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Oh bro....it's even worse.....she's 45 and has gained at least 40lbs in the last few years. Meanwhile......I'm aging like fine wine :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Men Going Their Own Way. A lot of great info to wake up with.......I've just noticed that many become bitter. Understandable as a lot have been burned. I just try to get better :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Good deal. You know my brother used to say this......"when I treat her like a dog she keeps coming back.......when I'm nice she looks elsewhere" It's so weird but I can't argue with him and their nature that way. This was 35 years ago btw. Brother has passed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 09:14 PM |
| 4 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?You should see the looks on these friends faces when I say "how bout happy spouse, happy house" Wha.......whaaaaat!!! lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Right. I'm not some redpilled ultra cock MGTOW. I just am happy and peaceful now. But I see it all. What's the saying? Take in the meat and spit out the bones? Ya.....that's me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 09:11 PM |
| 9 | Getting re-Married adviceOnce you leave the plantation YOU NEVER GO BACK! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/24 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Dating in your 40sDon't NEED to find anything. I AM THE FUCKING PRIZE. No validation from them is needed whatsoever. Once you understand this.....then it is game over. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. "Need" LOL hard pass! | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Lessons from the other side....(3 year update)Bro it took me a long time to let her go. Even though I was cheated on. We were together from early 20's for over 15 years. It took a lot of time. Don't force it......but always be trying to progress. It will happen naturally. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Divorce has left me wanting to dieFirst of all......your feelings are totally understandable. I think every man that goes thru this feels this way at points. I used to sit in dark rooms and just ponder wtf is going on. That said.........I had a toddler at the time. Ain't no way I could leave him alone without me. You just have to make it another day. Start the day thinking this. I just need to make it another day. One other piece of advice. Find someone you trust (friend or family) and emote to them. Get it out. It will help. If… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/24 02:08 AM |
| 8 | Are you looking for some sanity in this crazy process? Check out this video. Men have feelings too. Mostly men commenting and feeling validated in the comments.You're the only honest woman I've ever heard speak. This is exactly why so many men are going their own way and not pursuing relationships. We've finally gotten to the point of realizing that if something takes away more from our lives than it adds to them then it's not worth having. Single life is easy. I do what I want. No nagging, no being expected to please someone who doesn't even know what they want. No passive aggressive behavior or games. I was married for more than 20 years and had one … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/24 03:52 AM |
| 3 | Are you looking for some sanity in this crazy process? Check out this video. Men have feelings too. Mostly men commenting and feeling validated in the comments.The boomer in-laws love to say this shit cuz that is how they got through it. This is the dirty secret man......when men were off to war fighting guess what their wives and gf's were doing? Cheating and preparing for monkey branching. And who could blame them? Chances were 50/50 they'd ever see their husband again anyway......but don't think for a second whether 1941 or 2021 that the same game hasn't been played? Only difference is in 1941 the men would have handled their chick different. AND th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/24 03:18 AM |
| 5 | Are you looking for some sanity in this crazy process? Check out this video. Men have feelings too. Mostly men commenting and feeling validated in the comments.You could be right especially with social media and phones. Guess who is on those all the damn time? Envious and wishing for more? I was married in 99......she was just selfish and admired her father who was an old school "strong silent" type. Nothing I did was good enough and godforbid I act emotional like her mother whom she despised. I could not win. No matter what I did. This got me cheated on for some weird reason. Doing all the right things as well as showing emotion and in touch with what… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/24 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Please send thoughts and prayers.....struggle is real.Ty....should be a good game man. Good luck :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 04:55 PM |
| 3 | The forgive your ex crap really pisses me offWhat you have to understand, in time, is that forgiveness has nothing to do with her. Forgiveness is for you. Fuck her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/23 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Divorce Realization: Housework is really not that much 'work'Believe me when I tell you this.......I'm happy I'm NOT married to her anymore. I wouldn't be the man I am today without being divorced from her. Divorce caused me to upgrade my life in all facets and some how it keeps getting better and better. It just does. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 01:25 PM |
| 1 | You're better than that. Message from the other side.You're welcome. Honestly, I have to reread some of the things I do write because I can't remember it later. It is so cathartic though.....I'm glad you resonated with it. All the best friend! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 02:37 AM |
| 17 | Psycho ex wifeWhen I went grey rock she couldn't handle it. She even invaded my personal space once....like literally got in my space because I just kept calling her out on her bullshit. You know how you beat them? Don't play their game. Play yours. One time my ex said to me "my dad would be so disappointed" For context her father is the most awesome man I ever met......my son is named after him. He passed in 04. So I responded. Yes your dad would be disappointed. I guarentee he wouldn't put up with an 1\8 of… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/23 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Divorce Realization: Housework is really not that much 'work'Hell ya! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Friends After Betrayal?Not sure about friends. My ex remarried a year ago. This helped in my healing journey after her cheating on me. I felt release and that she was now this other dudes problem. Good luck. My ex and I are excellent co parents. We even have comments from my son's daycare of how well he does in transition from my house to hers during the week. I guess other parents aren't as good at this. My ex and I have heard the horror stories of divorce on the children and just gravitated to accommodating our sche… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Divorce Realization: Housework is really not that much 'work'Bro tell me about it. I'm not sure how I put up with it so long. I'm just happy to be free. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 01:40 AM |
| 68 | Divorce Realization: Housework is really not that much 'work'That's the thing I noticed when I separated. SHIT JUST GETS DONE. No nagging.....no stress\anxiety. I do what I want when I want. I'm not bothered by dishes in the sink whatsoever. What I've found for me personally though now being divorced for over 2 years.......I enjoy doing the chores and taking care of things around the house. There's a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. I just don't stress about things. Not ever. Shit just gets done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 06:01 PM |
| 8 | The Coldness AfterThis is 100% correct. Sadly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/23 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Holding it in when other guys get marriedSaw this vid years ago. https://youtu.be/L8VKqRr7S28 | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 04:04 AM |
| 7 | Rachael Ray is a shapeshifterThe wall is undefeated my friend. Meanwhile I'll be 48 and am in the best shape of my life. Holy Shit!!!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 01:15 AM |
| 12 | So weird how many of us saw our wives get addicted to scrolling TikTok constantly.The phone for sure. My ex wife met one of her AP's while playing Draw with me game app. Suddenly....."She didn't feel loved" anymore and some troll looking dude whispering sweet nothings won her little heart. One of the best things that happened to me was her mistake(s). I'm the best me ever and getting better each and ever day. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/23 07:42 PM |
| 1 | You're better than that. Message from the other side.Very well stated. Thus why I was able to write it from the other side. In the midst of the pain and agony probably not so much :) All the best friend on your journey! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/23 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Am I in love with you or am I in love with the way an idea of youWelcome to enlightenment my friend. You are well on your way. You are WAY ahead of me. But here is some of my conclusions having fully been transformed and 100x the man I used to be. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1767rlg/youre_better_than_that_message_from_the_other_side/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/23 02:34 PM |
| 7 | How to move on?Bro I used to sit in dark rooms and just zone out. It's a process and takes time. It took me over 2 years to finally just let go. I'd say you're on track. As you work on yourself you'll progress and really move on. Trust in the process and as you to progress that doors will open and new opportunities will open up for you. Whatever that looks like. Try not to be closed minded or figure things out. Let them flow. All the while taking stock of inventory to improve yourself. Slow but sure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/23 02:02 PM |
| 1 | You're better than that. Message from the other side.For someone of higher rank, power, status, and position to engage someone of much lesser and/or inferior rank, status, power, and position in debate and/or argument. Not limited to just status, power, position, and rank but can and often do include intellect, capability, competence, and acumen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/23 01:40 PM |
| 24 | Men in your 40s who got divorced in your early 40s from the love of your life. If you found genuine happiness again (where you don’t think about your ex on a regular basis), how did you find it?I know where you are. I was finally able to make it. I got cheated on when I just turned 40. I'm going to be 48 next month. It's a process and journey. A long healing. It takes time. Like any wound. You can't speed that up. And we're talking about a broken heart here. Sometimes even though you perform the perfect surgery and rehab there can be set backs. So you may be asking how? Well I worked on myself. I began to really focus on getting better and better. In each and every way that I wanted to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/10/23 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Items left behindIf it's not in the final agreement. You're good. I wouldn't say shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/10/23 10:42 PM |
| 11 | Men who wanted outDamn dude......if men would read this post and then re read it....it is the key. NOW. I've been reading the book by Echart Tolle....the power of NOW......and you have hit the nail on the head. I'm already a billionaire and hall of famer.......I conduct my life like Tom Brady.......but I have it even better because he has rings and exterior validation. Mine comes within. And I attract the things I want in my life because I'm in the NOW. So powerful your words! Ty for sharing! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/23 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Like you I seemed to do everything. Work, Chores, Date Nights, Shopping bullshit. Nothing was good enough.You hit the nail on the head.........at the time I was on the outs with my siblings......it's amazing how fast we can grow up and realize what is most important. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/23 01:32 PM |
| 12 | Like you I seemed to do everything. Work, Chores, Date Nights, Shopping bullshit. Nothing was good enough.A buddy of mine when first getting settled after the divorce. He had been married 20 years. And he said at first the peace and quiet and no drama was really something. He couldn't believe all the stress and anxiety he put up with FOR SO FUCKING LONG! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/23 03:50 PM |
| 3 | For those that have been betrayed and working on letting go.I was the same boat. Not only did she cheat but I forced her to file too. She played the victim the whole time. Oh well.......I got one last step to let go......I'll get there soon......can't speed up healing but I know I'm close. Stay strong brother. Oh on another note about the time machine.......I originally filed but I come from faith and just couldn't come to peace with it. It's like God wanted me to make her own it. Anyway, in reconciliation we got pregnant for the first time in 18 years. … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/23 11:50 PM |
| 3 | Tell me the good things about getting divorcedhttps://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/16ndgb1/fellas_please_send_me_your_thoughtsprayersgood/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/23 04:26 PM |
| 5 | It gets so much better!MY MAN! You are so right! It really does get better....like anything we have to work on it in order for it to. It's not going to happen with time.......there is a lot of self reflection. The best part......take your time and do it your way! All the best friend! Great share! | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Ahh, fuck. Ex blowing up mediationIt's tough but will help you in the end. Mediation was a waste for me too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 01:03 AM |
| 61 | Chances wife will change her mind?Bro she's done. When women reach this point......there's no turning back. This is what you can expect though...........in her selfishness she WILL try to win you back......not because she wants you back.......but she wants to see if she can get you back. It's sick. This is just the truth and it sucks. When women reach this point there's no turning back. What you knew of her IS DONE. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 04:30 PM |
| 7 | Would you marry again? (poll)Nope......fool me once........also why would I allow anyone to have say over my possessions and autonomy ever again? And I'm not some bitter guy who is against marriage or relationships. I just have a cheat code and it's fool proof. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/16pvrdm/the_cheat_code_to_long_term_relationships_in_40s/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/23 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Had a cool thing happen when I finalized. Everything always has a way of working out.I learned that it isn't about winning.....it's about control. Part of the reason my divorce dragged on for longer than it should was because she wanted control. Then she'd say "just move on and get over me".....all projection. Thankfully I don't have to deal with that anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 02:04 PM |
| 1 | The best part about being divorced.I feel every word you said. You know after almost 2 years final I had this wonderful woman come into my life. She helped me in so many ways. She was what I needed for my journey but unfortunately we just weren't compatible. I think our backgrounds being polar opposite we respected that but ultimately just wasn't going to work. I say this because you said they never leave for someone better. And that's what is great about my story. I attracted someone better for the time being. Now I have more he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 03:16 AM |
| 15 | Fooled around and fell in love...I was in this boat. It was an amazing 9 months. It gave me hope for the future. Meaning that meeting her showed me there are good empathetic women who are caring. I too wasn't looking. It sort of just happened. I'm glad it did. That said.....I was badly damaged by betrayal and never wanted a divorce. I was thrust into things of no doing of my own and forced into things that really broke my heart. When I met the woman I spoke of.......I realized how much I was hurting still and she helped me with… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 08:12 PM |
| 1 | The best part about being divorced.LOL that's such a good bit. It's on youtube. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 07:15 AM |
| 8 | Rejoice! The Ex Finally Moves Out!Awesome! I remember after a year and a half of having to live together going thru divorce she moved out. It was like a black cloud lifted. All the best to you my friend! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 05:41 AM |
| 5 | The best part about being divorced.No doubt. I just looked up the difference.......my ex was DEFINITELY a covert narcissist. https://www.choosingtherapy.com/bpd-vs-npd/ She had everyone fooled. Even when she cheated on me she played the victim. People were shocked. Even her meyers briggs personality is the least likely to cheat....unless a narcissist. Thank you for the comment though because I always meant to look into the differences. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 04:30 AM |
| 3 | Just a Thank You for this helpful subFor sure man. I came here shortly after I finalized. Such a wealth of help and encouragement. I try to give back and help as much as possible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 02:31 AM |
| 10 | The best part about being divorced.LOL.....bro you are worth so much more than your dick getting a little action. Build yourself up and it will flow like wine. Don't settle for gas station sushi either. 😎 | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 12:52 AM |
| 17 | The best part about being divorced.We all have narcissist traits. The way to know for sure is that true narcissists never apologize, they never are responsible for anything, they never take ownership or accountability. They constantly make excuses. It's never their fault because it's YOURS. In 21 years I can count maybe 2 or 3 times she half ass'd an apology. Once I figured out that she was in fact a narcissist I called her out every single time. She hated it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 12:31 AM |
| 8 | The best part about being divorced.You'll get there. Just take your time. What's the saying? Waiting is the hardest part? Just don't miss out on the journey man. Slow but sure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Peace Of Mind Is PricelessGood for you....this is the way. It's amazing the nagging\bitching\stress we tolerated isn't it? They are NEVER content.....never happy......always something. It took me some time to get things straight and enjoy the peace and quiet but man I enjoy my alone time. See more here :) https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/16ndgb1/fellas_please_send_me_your_thoughtsprayersgood/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 06:42 PM |
| 1 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?Hell ya! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 02:05 PM |
| 1 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?That's how I feel. When my ex remarried it was with someone 10 years younger. She wanted a boy to mother and control. Not a man. I actually feel bad for the kid. He has no idea what he's dealing with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 02:01 PM |
| 1 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?Bro I'm sorry just brutal! You can forgive because it's not for her....it's for you. What was done is done.......but in time just let her go. Forgive her and move forward. You don't need to tell her because it's not for her. It's for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 01:57 PM |
| 0 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.It IS my responsibility to do what I choose to do and what works best for ME. Period. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | The cheat code to long term relationships in 40'sYup......fuck Canada | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 03:02 PM |
| 1 | The cheat code to long term relationships in 40'sYa but you have to be careful with that too.......common law marriage they can get you in some states. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 03:01 PM |
| 2 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.You are so on point my man. Especially the not putting up with bullshit. Young men think with their dick and are easily manipulated. I have a theory about long term relationships. Also this was my last situation.......for your entertainment. Get your popcorn on the second one. It was a wild ride. Cheat Code Wild ride | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:59 PM |
| 2 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.So true. She was with the dude the whole time. Thru the divorce. He's also like 10 years younger than her. She wanted a little boy to parent not a man. She's just terrible. When she got remarried she texted me out of the blue last year the day before Thanksgiving "hey btw I got remarried" My family was so pissed that she would be so petty. But it was cool because I had a hunch she was going to get married by a series of things that happened so I wasn't caught off guard. I actually fist pumped be… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:44 PM |
| 0 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.She meant that I didn't want to be tied to her in regard to making payments to me. If you didn't know women aren't held to the same consequences as men. Meaning that when a woman misses her child support they aren't coming for her to lock her up. My attorney knew I was dealing with a narcissist that would intentionally not make payments or be late. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:41 PM |
| 3 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.When she filed for divorce she also filed an order of protection with no proof to substantiate the claim. The judge threw it out. You don't get to say you "feel" in danger without proof of such things. Other things she'd do was push my buttons by not keeping appointments with our son or being late on purpose. She had a boyfriend thru it all. She'd keep my son out till midnight when his bed was 7pm. She locked me out of all finances and basically left me with no funds. Just little things over and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:23 PM |
| 1 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.Awesome! | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:19 PM |
| 1 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.No I didn't. I could have gotten child support if I wanted it. However, like my attorney suggested....just cut ties with her altogether. Don't want to have anything that kept me tied to her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Alimony and child support from a man's point of viewIt was a lot of learning in the moment. I didn't know she was a narcissist but I knew something was off. When she cheated on me it caused me to finally set some boundaries in place. Things like kindness, respect, thinking before you speak, courtesy, not doing things to me that you wouldn't want done to you. Well when you set boundaries with a narcissist YOU are the issue not them. So how did I deal with her? In the beginning I called out her behavior all the time. Every single time. And so she d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:16 PM |
| 3 | I made up the 3% of divorce cases. I stuck to my guns and won.Ty you friend. This sub has helped me so much. I try to give back here and there :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 03:25 AM |
| 18 | How long did it take you guys to rebuild?Almost 2 years. My advice is to make sure you set goals and don't skimp on the hard work to becoming a better you. You will thank yourself later. Also don't be in a rush.....honestly......you are recovering from a brokeness. It takes time. You deserve the time to heal the right way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Alimony and child support from a man's point of viewI try to warn people not to put too much hope in mediation when you have a narcissist soon to be ex. They may be agreeable during it but then they will say you ganged up on them. Mine did this and it cost me $1000 for nothing. Then I had her tell me I was dragging things out and to just get over her. It was hell. You are in a real tough spot but trust your gut. Really think on it and then when you decide what you want to do....own it. You owe no one nothing. You're in a spot, I'm guessing, that … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 03:12 AM |
| 5 | Alimony and child support from a man's point of viewI'll share my experience. Met in Bible College. So the expectation from the jump was me in full time ministry in a church somewhere. It was Bible College. Married 21 years. Supported my ex wife through her RN schooling. Eventually she rose through the ranks into an executive position with a start up healthcare\homehealth. Our fields were going to be off monetarily as I was in social work. I dabbled in IT for a bit but eventually settled in full time ministry. Point being she always made more mon… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 02:54 AM |
| 5 | "Men seek custody less often"I have yet to meet a father that doesn't want to see his children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 09:23 PM |
| 1 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?I wish it was more simple. If there has been anything I've learned in the last 7\8 years......there is so much gray to divorce. It's not black and white. Especially dealing with a narcissist. And don't even get me started when the local church is involved. Absolutely clueless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?Can you elaborate more? Is this an over reaction from her or me according to your definition? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/23 08:37 PM |
| 10 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?Bro IMA be single forever. Just ended this shit. I guess I know how to pick em? https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/16q92k9/what_was_the_moment_with_your_ex_gf_when_you_said/k1ycuht/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/23 05:59 AM |
| 52 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?For me.....we were at dinner. Trying to reconcile from her cheating on me. Which was bad in and of itself. But wait it gets worse. So at date night for the 800th time in 16 years........I tell her about my brother that took his life......how it really gutted me. Probably the first time I shared on that level with her. She say's to me........."did you know you move your head a lot when you talk?" I go completely silent. Say not another word the rest of the dinner and make it abundantly clear that… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/23 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Did she mean it or am I reading into it too deeplyI think I cracked the code. Not sure how this works as Christians but honestly I couldn't care less. If two people are committed to one another and it's working.....fuck the hypocritical nosy church goers. https://www.reddit.com/r/SingleDads/comments/16pvugx/the_cheat_code_to_long_term_relationships_in_40s/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 04:03 PM |
| 2 | The cheat code to long term relationships in 40'sGood luck friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 01:46 PM |
| 5 | Did she mean it or am I reading into it too deeplyAs a life long Christian and being in the Bible belt most of my life.......I think "Christian" marriages may be worse. In that I mean that normally there's no sex before marriage. Also people in the church are gossips and nosy. Pastors have no idea what the definition of "love" means and just tell you to love her more when having difficulty in your marriage. Love has boundaries and discipline. I love my son and guess what? When he gets out of line I straighten him out. But if a man in the church… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Living a nightmareYou pitch her and get a custody\child support plan in place. Ya it sux.......but she's only getting child support and fight for 50\50 custody. Cut your losses.......heal and do the hard work and move forward. For all that is in you......be thankful you never married this cheater. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 05:20 AM |
| 15 | Did she mean it or am I reading into it too deeplyIt's in their survival DNA. How they can be so mean and cruel is the question. They are never happy. Never content. I blame social media and the fucking smart phones in this day and age. In year 12 my now ex wife said to me "you want a reason to divorce? I'll give you one" At the time I was so dumb....all the signs were there of her cheating we glowing at me. With a Christian background and being virgins when married......coupled with her being a covert narcissist I continued to live comfortably… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Does It Get BetterYes it does. I too have been divorced for over 2 years. Here's my life. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/16ndgb1/fellas_please_send_me_your_thoughtsprayersgood/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Genuinely happy marriagesOh man.....that guy. Essssh | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Genuinely happy marriagesMany years ago I worked with a woman who came into work complaining about her husband left his shavings in the sink and never cleaned them up. Mind you I was only 25 at the time so it was very weird to me that she could let something so seemingly insignificant be that much of a bother. I'll just say when you start down this path it's game over. So weird the days and times we live in. And here's my thing in the dating sense.......I don't want masks or filters. Be you. However, we both get to deci… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Genuinely happy marriagesA lot of good points you make there. Many of which I could offer counters "I don't need you I want you" for instance. I agree with the 80/20 and it definitely plays. The issue as I see it across the board is that if people would treat others like they would like to be or forgive like they would like to be things could be a little easier. Simply put.......just try to give benefit of the doubt. If two are becoming one.......they should do this. I don't work against myself. I don't go around insult… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Genuinely happy marriagesThe most frustrating thing is when leaders in a church say "just love them more". That definition has a lot to it and some of that love takes discipline and boundary setting. Often the church over looks this and over uses the term. I don't care how much love you pour into a bucket....if it has holes that's an issue. Also well meaning people have absolutely no idea. I had a pastor tell me "you just can't get over her cheating" Ya buddy......have your wife of 25 years cheat on you and see if you g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 02:08 PM |
| 3 | Genuinely happy marriagesI hear you.....both of my sisters have good long marriages. They honestly keep me from being jaded of women and relationships\marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Genuinely happy marriagesI can only speak from my eyes being opened in 2015 because I was betrayed as an associate pastor in a church at the time. I kid you not at least two dozen men in my circle or closely connected experienced the same thing I did. Not all of them were infidelity but most. My conclusion is that in a Christian conservative town\city there are a few things that happen. Usually no sex before marriage and divorce isn't talked about or an option. So you have people getting married FAR TOO young because th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Genuinely happy marriagesThat's exactly what people thought about my former marriage. They had no idea. But honestly neither did I till after the crap hit the fan. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 12:33 AM |
| 3 | Genuinely happy marriagesLooking back I don't have many regrets.....you only know what you know. However, seeing a therapist was a waste of time and money. When my ex cheated it was over. I don't regret the experience of marriage counseling. We saw 2 or 3 if I remember right. I actually had one in the initial stages tell me "now let's focus on your part of her cheating" To which I responded. I'm done with this conversation. If you would like to talk to her alone about this that's fine. Or perhaps me alone but if you thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Genuinely happy marriagesAs a Christian I call it the spirit of the age. People have become selfish. We live in a narcissistic society with little patience. The story is always the same......spouse become discontent and from there on the nightmare begins. I've seen at least 2 dozen men I've spoken to personally in our situation. The story is always the same. "They didn't feel loved". | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 10:58 PM |
| 2 | I'm not healedI don't look at my marriage as a failure. I had no control over her cheating and checking out. I loved her till the very end. I just don't subscribe to that verbiage. I get it....it wasn't a success. Well how do you know? My divorce is far more peaceful and joyous in 2 years of divorce than 21 years of marriage. I was comfortably miserable in marriage. Never again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 08:06 PM |
| 11 | Partners regret post seperationMy ex cheated on me after 15 years. Twice that I know of. The cheater is so caught up in the thrill that they never weigh the consequences. It's fun and a rush until it's not. My best advice to you is......never go back. Don't think about it......don't even consider it. Your marriage is OVER. She would only be picking you out of her situation not because she genuinely cared to restore things. How do I know this? Because your wife is just like my ex. Never content, never happy, and took my kindne… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Fellas please send me your thoughts\prayers\good vibes.....I'm struggling after divorceOh great choice. If I hadn't gotten my bike I was going to go with the Trident. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Fellas please send me your thoughts\prayers\good vibes.....I'm struggling after divorceHang in there friend. We all have our days.......fortunately more better than not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Fellas please send me your thoughts\prayers\good vibes.....I'm struggling after divorceI bet she does......the wall is creeping in and undefeated as a she's 45 now. She's remarried and "happy". I truly wish her no ill will. It's crazy....without her I wouldn't be the man I am now. So ironic. I'd kill the old me with my bare hands. You grow up real fast when are betrayed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Fellas please send me your thoughts\prayers\good vibes.....I'm struggling after divorceGood for you.....just keep moving forward. Slowly but surely my friend! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Fellas please send me your thoughts\prayers\good vibes.....I'm struggling after divorceGood for you! My divorce gift was a Honda CTX 700......it's funny it was on fb market place for nearly a month before I could make a deal on it. I got such a good deal and it was the DCT which means it's an automatic. It only had 999 miles when I bought it. I've almost got 17k now. Best therapy money can buy. I took my class at age 35 at the local Harley dealer. The $250 was worth every cent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 01:22 PM |
| 5 | Fellas please send me your thoughts\prayers\good vibes.....I'm struggling after divorceRich is a relative term. I am a billionaire in the sense that I have my son and my health. The other paper stuff doesn't even play. Many "wealthy" are miserable. I choose wealth of what is important. "Some people are so poor all they have is money" | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Support Court Date TodayThank you for the update. I know it's a lot of hurry up and wait. However, I just heard a couple great quote and I think it will help you. "Let us not look back in anger nor forward in fear but around us in awareness" “Forget the experience remember the lesson” I'll throw one of my own in for you as well. I always say this isn't about you being right but getting it right. My friend.....I know it's hard. The unknown. The what if's and all of that. But I'll just tell you....as someone who has been… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 05:22 AM |
| 2 | Support Court Date TodayHow did it go man? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/23 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Who has found getting back into dating difficult in this climateMy man! Like fine wine! | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 11:54 PM |
| 2 | Finalized Divorce in FloridaCongrats man. Now that you are off the plantation you NEVER go back. There is absolutely no reason to allow the state to decide your assets ever again. Under no circumstances should you ever think of going back to the futon after experiencing the comfy king size bed. Marriage is a contract that puts you LAST. At the very least if you do decide to go back to being miserable......get a PRENUP! Now focus on you my friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 11:52 PM |
| 4 | How did you survive your first 2 months after a separation?I came from 15 years of every Friday having a "date night". That's roughly over 700 date nights. Then I found out she cheated on me. I found being alone on Friday nights was the hardest. I literally was on the ground fetal position. It was hard because all your friends and family are hanging out and the last thing they want to do is talk to you and your failing marriage. What did I do? The norm.....started walking and running and getting myself into shape. And I didn't want to do it the cliche w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 09:09 PM |
| 4 | Those that finalized and are on the other side. Looking back what was the worst part of the whole process for you?15 here my friend. 21 total but it was done in year 15 after I found out about her cheating. We were virgins. It gutted me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Those that finalized and are on the other side. Looking back what was the worst part of the whole process for you?My man! Good for you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 03:09 PM |
| 9 | Those that finalized and are on the other side. Looking back what was the worst part of the whole process for you?Spot on with the "unknown". What I've come to understand is that most of our situations are the same. Same process but different pieces moved around. When you first go through this you think your situation is unique. What I found is that it was status quo. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 05:40 AM |
| 11 | Those that finalized and are on the other side. Looking back what was the worst part of the whole process for you?Nope. Of course not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 03:51 AM |
| 34 | Those that finalized and are on the other side. Looking back what was the worst part of the whole process for you?For me there are two things. It was being served with my 10 month old in my arms. Even the processor who happened to be female gave a frown when handing me the papers in my own home. Meanwhile my now ex wife was happy as a j bird in the kitchen as it took place. Along with those papers were an order of protection. Having been a stay at home dad with no history of violence it was brutal. I knew what was at stake and I intended to not leave my home nor leave my son. Btw. I fucking won. Despite wha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 02:29 AM |
| 2 | If you were to remarry, who would you look for?Honesty, respect, adoration....but above all.....she would need to have HIGH self esteem and not complain and compare all the time. In order for me to get the respect and adoration I will not stop until it comes......the woman will need to have contentment and self esteem. All the other things are minor details. I won't settle. Also I'm perfectly content going at it alone. I enjoy waking up in my king size bed every day with a big smile on my face. I have a son who adores me and has a good heart… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 08:58 PM |
| 10 | Worried about her mental healthIf your mind is made up then move forward. If it's not then don't........but don't do the back and forth. Trust me......rip the bandaid off and move forward because it's always going to be something. This is where women are better than men......when they make up their mind it is over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Anniversary BluesYou need to focus your mindset on what is best for YOU......and then your girls. As someone who was where you are for 7+ years......this is my best advice. What you had is OVER....you need to focus on your happiness. Don't be swayed by her emotions and tears.......that is done and you should remind yourself from here on out that this is business and do what is best for YOU. This may sound harsh. I get it I was married 15 years and then spent 7 trying to reconcile and blah blah blah. If I could g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 03:18 PM |
| 23 | I hate the modern mindsetBro just know you aren't alone. As a Christian I call it the spirit of the age. People have become selfish. We live in a narcissistic society with little patience. The story is always the same......spouse become discontent and from there on the nightmare begins. I've seen at least 2 dozen men I've spoken to personally in our situation. The story is always the same. "They didn't feel loved". Just hang in there man. As someone that shares 50\50 custody......it's nice to have my alone time and to g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 12:46 AM |
| 1 | A Divorce Attorney’s Thoughts on Love and Marriage - James SextonTy for the clarification.....last I heard it wasn't working. Glad it did. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/23 03:13 AM |
| 3 | What's the worst part for you?Hits deep man. I feel all you shared. I will say being on the other side now just over 2 years.....I am the best version of myself and getting better. When you walk thru something so devastating it takes time and healing. I will say though that I'm a much much better version of myself now and climbing. I've experienced things my younger self couldn't last 30 seconds. It is a true mind fuck that the worst thing that can be done to you can cause resilience and remarkable growth. All the best to yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/23 06:20 PM |
| 12 | What's the worst part for you?For me the worst part is not being able to fully trust anyone again. There's an innocence lost because no matter how close I'll be to someone......there will always be a check. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/23 04:59 PM |
| 0 | Marriage is undefeated in killing libido and it appears there's nothing I can do to stop itBro, as someone on the other side of divorce after 2 years.....this is what I have learned the most. MY HAPPINESS IS PARAMOUNT. https://youtu.be/rftxw_zQA1k | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/23 04:27 AM |
| 17 | Prevalence of the Modern Walk Away WifeYup and they end up most of the time kicking the can down the road and although their pride won't allow it......They REGRET the decision. Silly rabbits. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/23 10:11 PM |
| 3 | How Do They Turn It Off So Completely?Nailed it | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/23 08:06 PM |
| 1 | men who still cohabitate with their STBXWIt's called an order of protection. It's something that is common place. Usually the wife petitions in order to have the husband removed from the home. The only problem with it, is that you must be able to prove that protection is necessary in the court for it to be granted. Obviously this varies from state to state and county to county. A restraining order or protective order, is an order used by a court to protect a person in a situation involving alleged domestic violence, child abuse, assaul… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 10:35 PM |
| 6 | men who still cohabitate with their STBXWYa mine was thrown out as well. Never touched her. But she listened to her attorney and they hope something would come of it. Pretty standard. We reached an agreement.......50\50. That was never in doubt but they tried everything to get me out of my house. Guess what? I WON. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 05:44 PM |
| 10 | men who still cohabitate with their STBXWI had no choice but to do this. I was stay at home dad to 10 month old when shit hit the fan. I was locked out of finances from her......restraining order filed against me.......and she eventually filed for divorce all the while carrying on an affair. It was very very hard. But for my relationship with Christ and my young son whom I vowed I would never leave did I make it. So here's what I did. I understand my situation may not be the same as others as I was dealing with a covert narcissist. I h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 02:38 PM |
| 16 | What we all knew already80% initiate divorce. This is due to social media as well as keeping up with the Jones'. Phones by and large as well. Happened to me too. "I didn't feel loved" Ya okay. Anyway op.....if you haven't watch this from Soft White Underbelly.....this divorce attorney offers a bunch of good gems in this interview\talk. https://youtu.be/o5z8-9Op2nM | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/23 08:43 PM |
| 3 | She Started Bringing a "Friend" OverI had this scenario almost play out. My best advice is not to engage with them. They will try to bring confrontation. Just do you man and stay away from them as much as possible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/23 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Bad lawyer experience?My AZ divorce was supposed to be fairly simple, LOL that's how it's always supposed to be.......not really met anyone that hasn't had attorney issues of some sort. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/23 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Secure yourself financially before the marriageDr Dre....... | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/23 02:02 AM |
| 3 | What’s It Like To Feel A New Woman For The First Time?I was married 15 years till DDAY.........together 21 before all said and done. It was brutal and she was cheating on me while going thru it. That said......it took me every bit of 2 years to be over her. I met this wonderful woman. And I say woman meaning this mature and caring empathetic and took ownership and responsibility. (Crazy right?) Anyway......I had to rewire my brain and wire it towards her. I was having ED issues because I was so in my head. Over thinking. When you have only been wit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Rough night.Hang in there friend.....you are going to make it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/23 03:56 AM |
| 1 | She left because I was "broke". 6 months later, my income has 8x and expenses cut in half. I think she was the reason I was "broke".Exactly | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/23 02:04 PM |
| 5 | She left because I was "broke". 6 months later, my income has 8x and expenses cut in half. I think she was the reason I was "broke".And this is what I don't understand, probably never will. Don't waste your brain trying.........move forward man. All the best! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/23 11:56 PM |
| 12 | She left because I was "broke". 6 months later, my income has 8x and expenses cut in half. I think she was the reason I was "broke".Yup and rest assuredly she WILL be back. Give her nothing OP! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/23 11:38 PM |
| 9 | Rough night.I feel you. This am I had some sadness and she's been dead to me for some time. When you give your heart to someone only to have it stomped on it hurts. Recovering from a broken heart is arguably one of the hardest things. I'm two years removed and have feelings of sadness. Not just because she was unfaithful to me and we were virgins when we married. It was because she was so selfish. So shallow. The Bible says to love one another as you love yourself. Well when she didn't love herself how was … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 02:29 PM |
| 2 | This isn't about you being right. A message to those in the early stages and a reminder to the grizzled vets.You're welcome. Onward and upward my friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/23 11:08 PM |
| 3 | This isn't about you being right. A message to those in the early stages and a reminder to the grizzled vets.This is why I became my own boss :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/23 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Two years final.......some hope to those in the suck right now.Bro it gutted me. Like the scene in BraveHeart when Robert the Bruce betrayed William Wallace. That is how I felt for so long. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/23 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Two years final.......some hope to those in the suck right now.Yep....I've said that once you get off the plantation YOU NEVER GO BACK. It's like sleeping on a futon.....yes you do it because you had to....but once you experience a nice comfortable bed with no back or neck issues.....YOU NEVER GO BACK to the futon :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 02:23 PM |
| 4 | Two years final.......some hope to those in the suck right now.Yes I have a relationship with Jesus. That and my son were instrumental in me getting through all the stuff. I'm late 40s and made this post which she found. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/qcwycn/reflecting_on_the_covert_narcissist_divorce_early/ I made the post 11 months prior. Honestly, I had all but given up on relationships and dating. It's horrible and selfish. I had no desire to try that crap again. And then this wonderful woman reached out to me because she was dealing with… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 02:21 PM |
| 2 | A Divorce Attorney’s Thoughts on Love and Marriage - James Sexton1) The advice about prenups is horrible/fradulent. Prenups are not worth the paper they are printed on. Yup look at Dr. Dre | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 04:49 AM |
| 4 | What would you have done differently?Was married 15 years. Adored her. We were virgins when we met and came from Christian background. I thought the one thing that would keep us together would be losing our virginity. Wrong. What would I do differently? Nothing. I've been divorced for over 2 years now. She remarried and we co parent well. We never connected. She was selfish and when it wasn't all about her and my turn to pursue my goals and dreams she checked out. I could go on and on but it's nothing you haven't seen here. It's th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Do you have a silver lining?For me we share 50\50 custody. My son is now 5 years old and will be starting school soon. The silver lining is that despite being with an absolute evil vile creature for so many years......we do co parent well together. We share the same morals and beliefs as it pertains to our son. We're flexible with our parenting schedule to accommodate one another for work or vacations etc. I am well aware of the horror stories and one parent using the children as pawns and so forth so I'm happy that I have… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/23 03:20 PM |
| 7 | What was the hardest thing for you to deal with in the divorce process?This is so true. She didn't care. Slept like a damn baby. Oh well......I've moved forward and would kill the old me with my bare hands today. I'm so much better and stronger now. In every single aspect of my life. Isn't it crazy that the one that did the worst makes us stronger. All the best my friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/23 04:32 AM |
| 38 | What was the hardest thing for you to deal with in the divorce process?For me it was that I'll never fully trust again. Maybe I'll be at 99.9%. I'll never 100% trust again. There will always be a check there. It's the worst part for me. Because prior to being cheated on and divorce the ONE person I gave that to ruined it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/23 11:55 PM |
| 6 | Was it a waste? What is this feeling?Hardly.......I did things my way and in my time. Therefore no regrets. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/23 06:14 PM |
| 8 | Was it a waste? What is this feeling?I feel this. I was married 15 years. Nothing I did was ever good enough. She was never content about anything. I believe she was just a selfish evil vile creature. To add injury to insult.....we were both virgins when we got married. Some how I thought that would be the one thing that would keep us together. Well that went out the window after she cheated. Absolutely gutted me. To add further injury to insult she told me that she didn't feel loved. What I came to discover while healing from the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/23 02:23 PM |
| 12 | My ex reached out to my current girlfriendI deleted social media about 6 months ago. Best decision I've made in some time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 01:43 PM |
| 2 | The Karma bus claims it’s latest victim.I have yet to meet anyone that doesn't agree that "karma is a bitch". | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Did you always mean what you said and said what you meant? Did your ex always question and second guess you?Because they are forever the victim. However, if the shoe was on the other foot/ Even still forever the victim. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/23 05:30 AM |
| 3 | Did you always mean what you said and said what you meant? Did your ex always question and second guess you?Bro it is tough. Believe me.....a lot of ups and downs. It took all of the 2 years to get to a place where I was confident and getting back to my old self. The first step was getting the hell away from her. I didn't realize that in her criticisms that she tore me down so much. Now that I'm back to my old self I've started to attract everything from good paying job to a beautiful girlfriend. Unfortunately, the old stuff I walked through is still having to be worked out but I have someone willing … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 07:59 PM |
| 2 | What helped after the separation?I second this. Enough cannot be said for putting in some physical work. Hell get a punching bag. It's worth the investment. Just get out some of that frustration. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 05:17 PM |
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