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Thank you. I appreciate it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 04:01 AM
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I’m sorry you went through that… my therapist has been helping me. I would search for one that fits your criteria.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 11:32 PM
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Yeah I don’t do well with friends anymore, but it’s like you said, I have to push myself into uncomfortable things to get through this. Sometimes I wish I had a kid to give me some semblance of hope through all this because of how lonely it is. But I know as a whole this whole situation would be more of a nightmare.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 12:55 AM
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Virtual meet ups for codependent people could be up my alley.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 11:58 PM
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I appreciate you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 09:15 PM
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Any recommendations?
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 09:14 PM
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The tears come in waves…I appreciate you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 09:14 PM
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I was raised catholic but I did grow apart from the church over the years…might be helpful though.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 09:12 PM
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Thank you 🙏🏽
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 02:37 AM
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I am kind of in a similar situation. Been trying to get back into dating apps but I find myself still talking about the divorce whenever I feel any connection. Even before we got divorced I felt like we were struggling for at least half of our marriage. In a way, I feel like this may have been long overdue. All the same, it’s still painful.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 01:17 PM
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No you’re right. I’ve been in individual therapy for like a year now though.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 12:21 AM
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Yeah I don’t see myself remarrying after all this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 12:21 AM
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Seriously. The loneliness is so hard sometimes. But I feel like I’ve lost touch with who I was a long time ago too.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 12:20 AM
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Thanks brother
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 01:34 PM
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Yeah it’s like you said. I wonder if it was wrong to tell her that she can reach out to me if she ever needs.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 01:33 PM
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You’re right…do you think I should give it some time before getting back out there?
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 11:32 AM
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It’s crazy how fast it all happened… a week earlier we made the decision to get divorced, a week later the papers are signed and she’s moved into her new apartment. I’ve been trying to workout and see my therapist weekly. Don’t really have a support system so I have been contemplating a fling…but the thought of sleeping with someone else after 7 years is hard for me to wrap my head around for some reason…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:31 AM
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I mean I wanted to try to remain friends but she wanted no contact and I decided to go with it. It hurts because it’s very lonely now without her or our dog. But I guess that is ultimately what I signed up for. Need to figure out how to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:13 AM
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Yeah I can’t see that as a viable option going forward. Maybe with a pre-nup, but even then it’s very iffy…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 07:41 PM
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I won’t lie, I did consider getting out there to try and find a relationship as a distraction. But I can’t see that ending well, regardless of the circumstances. At least right now. But like you said, my main focus right now is to better myself and find ways to keep my mind off what has happened.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 06:28 PM
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I was half expecting a self help video of sorts but…that did help deliver the message too. 👍🏾
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 05:23 PM
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Do you think meeting in person is the way to go? And do you think it’s possible for a second marriage to be successful after the first one failed miserably? Because I’ve heard that after the first marriage fails any subsequent marriages have a higher chance of failing… Granted, statistics aren’t always everything I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 03:08 PM
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That’s how I met her in the first place (dating app)…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 12:49 PM
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I’m sorry man that sounds awful. I’m glad you are moving forward though. I can relate with the dog part too…we got her as a puppy in February and now she’s gone with my ex-wife too. That part really hurts…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 10:32 PM
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We grew apart
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 01:15 PM
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It hurts. We were together for 7 years, married for four of them.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 08:51 PM
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It hurts. We were together for 7 years, married for four of them.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 08:51 PM
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No kids or home. She’s moving out tomorrow. I’m still in the same place.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 05:37 PM
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What do you mean when you say fun? I’m very introverted. Been trying to break that with the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 12:58 PM
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I’ve been on antidepressants for a few months now too. And I started medication this week for my adhd. Ironic that I finally worked up the nerve to have this talk on day two…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 01:53 AM
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How are you doing now?
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 01:14 AM
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I’m hoping it’s not like that in my state. 😔 but it is what it is I suppose. It’ll hurt regardless.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 04:51 PM
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I’m glad things are getting better for you. Gives me hope that I might get to the other side of this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 04:22 PM
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That seems so extreme …
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 04:19 PM
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How long does it take? And can you bring the papers to your spouse or do you gotta go to a courthouse?
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 02:57 PM
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What was your story? If you are comfortable sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 02:46 PM
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Yeah I’m hoping. Marriage really is a damn gamble. I wish I had known more about how badly this could all go prior to making such a big move.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 03:01 PM
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I wonder how it work in my case. Because I use to make significantly more than her for a time. But now she makes a little more than me due to a career change on my part.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 02:25 PM
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So I’m fucked either way
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 09:16 PM
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You’re right. It just sucks. I feel like I can’t act and it’s killing me..
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 09:16 PM
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Can the process play out where we decide ourselves who gets what?
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 08:35 PM
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Is the reverse true?
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 06:05 PM
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Yeah that’s what I’ve been thinking
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:26 PM
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Thank you for the guidance.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:07 PM
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I’ve considered just discussing it with her. I just feel like some legal protection would be safer in this instance since it’s such a massive purchase.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:03 PM
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Would you say there is a specific type of lawyer I would need to talk to about this? And does it cost money just to hash out things like this? I’m assuming yes.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 02:58 PM
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I’ll be careful. Likely I’ll have to wait.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 02:56 PM
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That does sound difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 02:56 PM
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Is there a legal way to do it you think?
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 01:46 PM
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Was your ex wife super religious? That would explain equating porn to cheating, seems like a recurring theme amongst overly religious people. I miss the wild times honestly. But I do want substance that will actually go somewhere. But u don’t have that and I don’t feel like I can create it with how things are going.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:11 AM
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I struggled with weed for a long time too. Then alcohol because I had a rude awakening from my family. And then finally a weed relapse when marriage pushed me over the edge after 8 years of being clean that basically cost me everything. And yet I still couldn’t divorce because it scares me shitless.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 02:39 AM
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What was the reason for your divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 09:47 AM
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What is the rate of divorce nowadays anyways? I know it was at 50 percent like 10 years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 04:24 PM
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Hmm so you don’t really subscribe to the notion of “forever” as it pertains to relationships/marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 03:50 PM
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Yeah it does feel like social media can lead to a lot of negative stuff or sex related stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 02:16 PM
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I’m sorry to hear that. It’s always a gamble like you said
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 01:06 AM
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They really shouldn’t have. But not everyone has children for the right reasons, nor should everyone be parents for that matter. I hate to say it, but I feel like I might fall into that category myself. Even though I do feel down at times that I don’t have a child.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 12:03 PM
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Very weak convictions on her part.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 09:46 PM
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No she’s not overly religious either, but believes in god.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 07:02 PM
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Yeah it does feel that way. I’m likely heading into a divorce with my wife in the future, but I do wonder if we had embraced religion more that maybe this could have been prevented? But I also struggle with embracing religion as my perceptions of it are so negative based on how the extremes of how my parent used it to guilt and shame me my whole life has shattered my psyche…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 06:22 PM
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No. My own parents stayed married due to religion and took out all their issues on me on my sibling. Now they are living pretty good while we are dealing with the aftermath of all their crap and issues.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 06:20 PM
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I feel like religion is very manipulative at times.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 03:11 PM
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That was what I was wondering about too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 03:10 PM
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What do you think the odds are of picking the “right person”? Do you think soul mates is a real concept?
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 11:25 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 02:33 AM
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You really hit the nail on the head…it does feel like a slow death. I am trying to overcome a self loathing I developed for myself over the years. It’s not healthy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 02:57 AM
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Like therapists that post information on YouTube that can be freely accessed? That sounds handy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 06:48 PM
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Fingers crossed my friend. I honestly don’t know what to do at this point. I acknowledge we moved into this fast and I didn’t plan well and that I am a difficult person for her to talk to due to our shared traumas from our upbringing, but I can’t find it in me to throw in the towel either because being alone is still a terrifying thought. I don’t know how to restart after all this.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 05:55 PM
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We’ve been going for a few weeks. I feel like I engage more than she does honestly.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 05:48 PM
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No kids in the picture. Or a good support system outside my therapy. Probably what makes this all so hard…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:14 PM
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Sometimes that’s more valuable in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 02:56 PM
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Mine did say that I am also a victim of toxic male masculinity. Because of the things I want and how I am so obsessed with how things look. It is very tied with how I was brought up, but it is a recurring problem that I have been trying to deal with. Primarily that she won’t workout and I’m struggling with attraction. I try talking to her about it and she shuts down and basically tells me I need to suck it up buttercup and accept her for who she is. It wouldn’t bother me so much if it weren’t fo…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 02:01 PM
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Was that a difficult religion?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:54 PM
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I’m sorry. That sucks. I have been thinking about this topic quite a bit recently. Especially given the way the country has been changing in regard to women’s empowerment and things of that nature. I feel like back in the day, it was typically expected for men to be the provider while women just stay home and take care of the children and be a housewife. Not really the case anymore in the modern day, not just because of the women’s empowerment movement, but because life is just too damn expensiv…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:28 PM
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Infidelity on her side?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 12:44 PM
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Do you think there’s a way for me to know definitively that leaving is what I need to do? I have been dragging my feet for some time, but it has been at the back of my mind for some time. I’m just paralyzed by fear and doubt.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 12:39 PM
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I’m in individual therapy currently. Trying to work on these things. I appreciate you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 12:19 PM
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She doesn’t want to do anymore individual counseling. Did it for a few months last year. Felt she got all she could out of it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 11:47 AM
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Like a lesbian relationship?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 11:45 AM
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I get that to some degree myself. Work stress does get me at times too.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 11:29 AM
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This one hits home. I do feel like I settled. But I thought I could make it work..
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 11:29 AM
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I’m so sorry…I understand what some of that is like myself. Eating too much, drinking too much, weed. I’ve struggled with all of these. Finally trying to get my head on straight with antidepressants. It’s helping with my addictive tendencies but I’m still depressed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 03:33 AM
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How did she blow it up? I really do want kids but I have doubts that she has any confidence at all in that idea with how tough things have been between us. We are in marriage counseling currently and I’ve been doing individual counseling for a few months now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 02:04 AM
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I’m so sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:45 AM
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I’m sorry. That sounds awful. Like she was intentionally dragging you down with no remorse…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:23 AM
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She won’t work out with me. I’ve tried. She refuses. Because she doesn’t feel like she can keep up with me, nor does she have any desire to “push herself”. It’s so aggravating. And I think about other women a lot. But I can’t cheat. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself. But I’m also deeply unhappy and unfulfilled. There is just no winning.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:22 AM
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Sex is getting me too. But it’s not necessarily her fault. I’m just struggling with attraction as she doesn’t work out.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:06 AM
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What all did she lie about?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:05 AM
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That is a good way of looking at it. So there are no happy endings huh?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:05 AM
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I’m glad it worked out for the best.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 12:18 AM
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I’m so sorry. I don’t even have kids yet. It does hurt. But I can’t imagine having them used against me if I did have them.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 10:26 PM
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Not all families are meant to blend. I know blending her with mine led to so many issues but also opened my eyes to my own screwed up relationship with them..
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 09:54 PM
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?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 09:22 PM
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That’s why I’m afraid. I don’t feel any sort of optimism about the future after everything we have been through. But I am in individual counseling myself and we have done marriage counseling for a few weeks now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 09:22 PM
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I’m sorry that sounds miserable. My wife also isn’t working out and it’s making sex difficult. And I abstain from porn or anything so it’s just brutal at times. That and the communication and lack of shared interests make things feel like a jail at times.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 07:44 PM
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I’m sorry. 😢
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 07:42 PM
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How exactly do I come to an exit plan? I am currently seeing a female therapist. Do you think that matters?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 07:41 PM
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Cheating?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 07:40 PM
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How do you identify a narcissist in your opinion?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 07:40 PM
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We are in marriage counseling. Or did you mean your situation?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 06:00 PM
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Wow I can’t even imagine what that is like…I’m so sorry. I’m sure your brother is probably out of your life now too huh?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:59 PM
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I’m sorry you had to endure that. That’s not fair.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:59 PM
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Bullet dodged huh?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:58 PM
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What made it get worse? Or was it always a problem before marriage? I struggled with substance abuses myself during our time together so I do get it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:57 PM
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I’m sorry. You deserve better than that.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:56 PM
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Why do you consider introducing God into the family to be important? I was raised catholic myself but I don’t really go to church anymore. Still believe in god though.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:55 PM
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How so?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:22 PM
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That’s wild… I’m so sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:50 PM
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I’m sorry. For what it’s worth, I think you did your best and your kids are lucky to have you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:49 PM
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I’m sorry that’s horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:30 PM
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I’m sorry 😢
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:27 PM
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I’m sorry you went through all that. You must have nerves of steel. I don’t know how anyone deals with all that..
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:12 PM
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Did you know that going in? How long were you together?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:58 PM
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Damn I’m sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:57 PM
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I’m sorry that sounds devastating. You both invested so much into it. I get where you are coming from as I have spend quite a bit of money on my wife but don’t feel like I have anything to show for it, nor that she really appreciates it. We don’t have kids (probably for the best) and she sounds like she might be hesitant to have them. But I do want them someday, we aren’t getting younger (I’m 35) and it has been getting to me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:56 PM
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I’m glad you were able to get through it. I proposed during Covid myself. But looking back, I wasn’t in the best state of mind between being incredibly out of shape and drinking too much.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:51 PM
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Wow I’m so sorry you had to endure all that… Sometimes we have to endure these trials to find that light at the end of the tunnel. At least I like to think so.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:50 PM
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You’re right. I just need to work up the nerve. It’s just scary because I don’t have much of a support system. I get that to a degree. We don’t argue well. Communication is poor. She shuts down and then I shut down because the whole situation is so aggravating. I’m sorry you went through that. I sadly get this part too. I used to make more of an effort to connect on certain things but her demeanor about things definitely shut off the incentive within me to try because it often backfires like get…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:49 PM
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I’m so sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:40 PM
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I’m sorry. It’s unfortunate that modern society expects men to be the breadwinner but then even that is a problem…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:37 PM
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How so?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:36 PM
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Did you guys rush in? How did the divorce play out (assuming you guys divorced)?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:19 PM
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Miscommunication? How so? Although I probably can relate. I’m sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:14 PM
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She didn’t respect you? How so? And I’m sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:13 PM
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I don’t know. Things have been hard for a while now. Still trying everything to mend things though.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 09:52 AM
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I’m in individual counseling currently. She was in individual counseling last year but felt she had gotten all she could out of it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 09:50 AM
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180
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 11:26 AM
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I suppose that’s true. Communication and compatibility have been at the forefront of our issues the past few years. Attraction is just cherry on top really. I have never really been in a long term relationship like this before my wife, and I do feel like our getting married did come with a level of pressure behind it from family. Nevertheless, I’ve been trying to find ways to go forward through therapy and talking to her. But when she doesn’t like what I’m saying she shuts down and then that set…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 11:25 AM
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We are currently in marriage counseling. I’m hopeful that it provides a guide for us on which way to go. And I did look up sunk cost fallacy. It does seem pretty on point about how I feel currently about my standing in life…honestly it feels like if this marriage didn’t workout I wouldn’t know how to continue on. It’s a crippling fear. I don’t even know how to think optimistically about finding someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 08:39 PM
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We do struggle with compatibility and communication as well. I feel like this is more shallow reason but it does bother me often, but I’m trying to get through these issues through marriage counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 06:50 PM
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We’ve been together for almost 7 years. Honestly it’s been an issue the whole time but in the beginning it was less so because our emotions were so elevated. I do feel like our getting married had a lot of pressure behind it from various sources.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 06:16 PM
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Thank you so much.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 05:33 PM
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