Getting back out there…

ZealousidealFarm3954 · 2025-10-20T02:36:33+00:00

All ya need

Chasdava · 2025-10-17T22:38:35+00:00

Bumble… but only when you’re ready. I did it after six weeks bc my ex signed up for elite singles.com from our joint checking. I wanted to see if anyone would bite but it turned into a 2nd job answering msgs. I deleted my account after a further 6 weeks.

NilEntity · 2025-10-16T12:43:10+00:00

"Been divorced a little over a week"

Dude ... take time to process.

I took a year off from any dating, advice I saw here, and I'm glad I did. Even after that year getting back into was strange, but I definitely wouldn't have been ready for dating, a relationship before that (we were together/married a little longer, 11 years and 6 years).

Don't try to jump straight back into dating again just not to be lonely anymore, be honest with yourself, if you're really ready for it, if you can honestly say you got your shit sorted enough to be good for a (good) woman as well.

I'm also more introverted, met my gf via dating apps (Bumble), also tried some speed dating etc., just to try that out, practice, get out of my comfort zone.

I remember talking way too much about the divorce, way too quickly, in the first few dating events/dates, definitely wasn't ready yet at the time, the divorce was too big an event in my life at that point, you have to move beyond it.

narkj · 2025-10-15T13:57:44+00:00

I have tried, got into two semi serious relationships, and they were both a mistake and I wound up hurting those women.

Dazzling-Car-2407 · 2025-10-15T12:32:00+00:00

Time to do the work, focus on your fitness, your emotional maturity, your finances, your career, kids if applicable and your purpose, this is your priority right now. Work on these and becoming the man you want to be and you’ll eventually attract women but don’t go chasing right away.

alifeofpeace · 2025-10-15T04:42:27+00:00

It’s too soon. Take your time slow down relax. Enjoy your life. You don’t need to be with someone. You need to get past the loneliness . I’ve been single now for over two years and I’m doing just fine by myself . Focus on yourself in your life make friendships and prosper and grow

Combini_king · 2025-10-15T02:51:04+00:00

I heard this rule that you need to wait one month for every year of marriage before you start dating again. Use that time to discover yourself.

Correct your flaws, improve your health, workout, eat fresh. Take yourself out on dates. Do solo trips, travel the world - include Thailand in your itinerary as it gives you a new perspective of life (don't just visit the bars and massage shops). Get really comfortable with yourself alone.

Towards the end of your waiting period, you may use the apps or meet people in real life but only for platonic friendship. Make that very clear. Take it way slower than you did with your ex. Good things are coming..all the best for your new life.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-10-15T00:16:38+00:00

Divorced a week? 2 years to go my man before you'll be ready for any type of relationship.

Enjoy being single, it never lasts long enough.

enginerd12 · 2025-10-15T00:04:44+00:00

Going through a divorce now... Shouldn't you give yourself a bit more time to figure yourself out before jumping into a new relationship? Maybe some individual therapy?

You do you, but just throwing this suggestion out there.

Jconley123 · 2025-10-14T22:53:07+00:00

Ive been contemplating the same thing…married for 20 years, Im 44. The dating world is VASTLY different then what I navigated through it before. Tbh at my age, 1/2 of me misses haveing someone to be around, the other 1/2 is learning who this “new guy” is

Serious_Post_4103 · 2025-10-14T20:08:00+00:00

Hinge worked well for me. I’m currently dating a woman from my neighborhood. Our first date was as simple as meeting up to go for a walk. That’s about the lowest expectation date I could think of.

Slowloris81 · 2025-10-14T19:36:47+00:00

Just bite the bullet and do the apps. I liked Hinge the best. You’ve got to put yourself out there and force yourself out of your comfort zone.

It helps if at the beginning you try to set up a date with zero expectations. Just a nice experience and something to have on the calendar. If it works out, great. If not, you have a story and experience.

DazzlingPatience5088 · 2025-10-14T19:35:29+00:00

Following. Seems like it's difficult to date again if you're not extroverted, 6'1, 175 lbs and a millionaire.

Title	Getting back out there…
Author	Worldly_Battle_746
Upvotes	9
Comments	22
Date	October 14, 2025 7:17 PM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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