Going no contact…

Similar-Income5429 · 2025-10-10T00:00:10+00:00

My 5th year wedding anniversary is tomorrow and I’m going out to hopefully just get dominated by the ladies. I’m actually on day 2 of no contact with her and tomorrow is going to suck.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2025-10-09T15:47:06+00:00

No contact is the only way to go. Absolutely and without a doubt is the best way to get over some one.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-10-09T00:20:55+00:00

If you don't have kids together then no contact is the best gift you can both give yourselves.

mesi130 · 2025-10-08T13:29:35+00:00

No contact no question about it. Why submit yourself too more punishment? She wants you to leave her alone so do it. You want to get arrested? Falsely accused or not. She doesn’t want you and has made it clear. Move forward with your life. I know it’s difficult but you have no other option

Candidate_Worldly · 2025-10-08T13:20:50+00:00

No contact is the only way. Its incredibly hard to do initially. All you want to do is keep some form of communication going. It's up to the person that left to reach out for reconciliation to be a possibility.

mchop68 · 2025-10-08T13:13:42+00:00

Don’t to anything impulsive. You are married to discipline now. You want to be better? Be disciplined.

Get good sleep; Wake up early; Hit the gym; No alcohol; No drugs; Connect with a higher power; Build a community;

Discipline protects your peace and earns respect.

No shortcuts, only work! You got this brother.

Inevitable-Okra-8884 · 2025-10-08T11:38:26+00:00

No contact for me was the best option and the fastest way to recover, If kids are not involved I suggest you to do it

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2025-10-08T11:28:52+00:00

What’s the upside of staying in contact with her if she decides to date or not? There isn’t one. You’ll just keep feeling hurt (which you should) for a longer period of time.

I wouldn’t be in contact with my ex if I didn’t have to be. I’ve told her a few times about some things she left here at the house that belong to her. She’s made no effort to retrieve them.

At some point I’ll sell or donate them. But I’ll live my life and not in a way that depends on her.

thraxx171 · 2025-10-08T06:52:25+00:00

Really sorry to hear but agreeing with the guys here that no contact is the way to go, especially with no kids involved. Focus on yourself, focus on your healing, watch things to help you change your mindset. You're going through the different stages of grief (I liked Maika for this, she's got some good pointers Maika's videos Grief Stages ). I promise you it won't last forever, but it will take time. Good luck and know there are people here that care. Stay strong brother.

blearowl · 2025-10-08T04:07:26+00:00

No contact is absolutely the way to heal the best.

Eric_C_Productions · 2025-10-08T04:05:34+00:00

It depends on your situation. Do you have kids together? If not, what is the point of keeping contact with her? It sounds to me like you haven't gotten over her and that she was the one that wanted the divorce and not you. You are divorced. Its final. Its over. She is free to date or marry anyone she wants. That also applies to you too. I have two grown sons now and I chose to have NO contact with my ex. That is for my well-being and piece of mind. I have blocked her on my phone. The only way she contacts me is through email. Even then, when she emails...she always finds a way to ruin my day. Time to move on. Meet someone new.

BornBandicoot2515 · 2025-10-08T03:07:50+00:00

No contact is the way. Have to coparent so that hurts the idea but as others have said, no contact, as much as possible, really is the way. Any info above and beyond business (divorce / coparenting / other absolute necessities) does not allow you to process. You must remove her from your life to move forward. Feel the feelings, grieve, process, heal and progress. Any contact hinders this. I would know. Trying hard to reach acceptance but the X chooses to initiate nothing conversations whenever she can to needle me. I do my best to not engage but it’s hard.

parkinglot_thnksalot · 2025-10-08T03:05:11+00:00

Went no contact when I could tell another guy was creeping around. She refuses to honor it and expects me to just be her friend. Never.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2025-10-08T02:48:42+00:00

Absolutely my dude, it’s the only way to heal….. at the time it feels counterintuitive as hearing anything from your ex, checking her SM, etc. is the only thing that helps the pain, but long term, in order to heal, it’s the only way.

Think of it like a broken leg, or some physical injury. You need to have surgery and stay off it or it will never heal. Same w this, you need to get away from her, which means all thought of her, all existence of her, and that means she’s dead to you. Mourn her. And then pick up the pieces and move on. And you will rise again, and redemption is your story now!

geekonamotorcycle · 2025-10-08T02:47:31+00:00

We have an autistic child who I fully intend to coparent like I always have. So I can’t go no contact. But a lot of media and internet stuff seem to love no contact.

people told my erstwhile wife to do this, lawyers, people who googled it or asked ChatGPT, and people in the misery business usually give this advice it seems.

UnimportantOutcome67 · 2025-10-08T02:30:34+00:00

We have three kids together, I WISH I could go no contact.

LearnGrowExist · 2025-10-08T02:06:47+00:00

It’s the only way, imo. I have kids/“co-parent” (very loosely used term) with XW and it’s rough. So I try to keep contact to an absolute bare minimum even in that scenario.

Dear_Fish3578 · 2025-10-08T01:55:29+00:00

I would go have fun get your mind of things this is your new reality what she does you can’t control and that’s ok focus on what you can control which is what you do.

Living-Afternoon-959 · 2025-10-08T01:39:42+00:00

You will always have some sort of grief toward the issue at hand. It’s not good to jump right back into things bc it will just repeat the cycle. Give yourself time to heal and process. It will be much better for you in the long run. People that move on super quick are burying their emotions and quite frankly, may be mentally ill

FatherOfBean · 2025-10-08T01:30:34+00:00

It’s good for you. It allows you to get a clear head and prioritize yourself.

Title	Going no contact…
Author	Worldly_Battle_746
Upvotes	27
Comments	38
Date	October 8, 2025 1:09 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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