Me (35M) and my wife (31F) have been going through it for some time now. We were married 4 years, together for 7.

The last two years in particular were pretty bad…a lot of arguments, a lot of tension. I tried to navigate a path for us through marriage counseling as well as getting help myself with individual counseling but nothing helped…

Last week we talked about getting a divorce more than once…and we finally made the decision official on Friday. Barely a week later…and we’ve signed the papers and she’s moved into her own place.

It’s very surreal. I’m sad, but I have avoided getting wasted or anything self destructive. Worked out, getting a haircut now. Not really sure how I’m going to move forward though.

It was amicable. We signed together. We have no kids or assets so it was relatively clean. We just accepted that we were both deeply unhappy.

All that said…I still feel very alone. I’ve effectively lost a part of myself. Not sure how to proceed, this empty apartment is so depressing. But she wanted to go no contact so I’m not going to try and entertain that idea either.

What do you all recommend?