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I need to get out of my bubble…I workout at home. I have a bit of social anxiety. Need to work on it..
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 06:05 PM
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You do make a good point. Part of my problem was that I was trying for so long to make people happy that didn’t give a damn about me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 02:23 PM
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That is reassuring! But as far as acceptable dating ages, considering my own, where do you think is acceptable?
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 01:33 PM
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I was doing okay on that front in the beginning, but weed has managed to come back into my life. Another variable that has been in and out my life over the years. I’ve been trying to be diligent about working out. But I am really bad at getting out and interacting with people. Definitely have some social anxiety..
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 02:18 PM
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You are right. My sense of self has been shattered in the past few years.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 01:53 PM
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That was my line of thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 01:59 AM
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It wasn’t fair of me to do that. It does tie largely into my upbringing. Not that it’s an excuse. I’m trying to work on myself. Through therapy and medication. I understand I fucked up through all these decisions that I WILLINGLY MADE.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 03:14 PM
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I mean I acknowledged that I rushed into this. I didn’t know what I wanted, that was on me. How exactly do you want me to be more accountable here?
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 02:37 PM
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Does match limit your messaging? And is it pricy?
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 01:35 AM
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Best of luck. It’s crazy how quickly things ended between us…we made the decision and then barely a week later we signed the papers and she moved into her own place. I’m still kind of in shock.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 11:20 AM
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That’s what I’m wanting to do…but I still miss her and hurt
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:54 AM
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Do you mean because I’m fresh out of a marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:36 AM
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Did it help?
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:22 AM
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I don’t want to date without purpose. I hope I get there again someday..
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:05 AM
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I guess I’ll need some time to let that sink in. It’s only been a few days so it still feels unbearable at times.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:54 AM
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I’m happy you found someone who appreciates you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:45 AM
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I’m so sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:44 AM
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More peaceful solo?
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:30 AM
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Fighting impulses are hard.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:05 AM
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Yeah that’s my issue now. I don’t know how I’ll trust another relationship again…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:04 AM
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I wonder why the market is like that now…?
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 11:52 PM
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No…we’ve had the divorce talk multiple times this past week…this is taking its toll on me.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 01:40 AM
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Been in marriage counseling for a few months. Honestly, I want kids, but I don’t know if it would be wise to bring them into this…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 07:52 PM
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Honestly I feel like we got together for the wrong reasons, and it’s like I’ve been trying to make this work when it may never have had the legs to begin with. We argued about divorce multiple times last week. It has been taking its toll on me. I have mentioned a separation. She has doubts about it helping. I have concerns of my own, primarily that I would be very tempted to seek out someone else (sexually at the very least). But I don’t know if that would be a terrible mistake if I did that. I’…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 01:11 PM
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I’ve been thinking the same thing sadly
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 09:42 PM
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That’s the perfect analogy. Ive been trying to work up the nerve to call a lawyer for a while now…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 07:51 PM
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We are in marriage counseling. But we are both deeply unhappy. She worked out in the beginning of our relationship (like 7 years ago). But she gave up on it after marriage because I pushed it too much. I’ll be honest, I was obese when we got married, but I lost like 50 pounds through diet and exercise because my life was falling apart due to my weight. I vowed that I would not allow myself to look like that again. But that was like 2-3 years ago, and now my wife’s unwillingness to exercise is re…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 07:44 PM
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You’re right. This can’t continue.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 04:21 PM
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I have been seeing a therapist since late last year. It’s been helpful to understand my damage. We have been in marriage counseling for a few months now. But I don’t know if it’s getting us anywhere. We have argued pretty heatedly multiple times this week about a divorce. She doesn’t want to bring kids into this. I don’t want to sign for a home with her (yes, we don’t have a house yet either) I do need to talk to a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 01:31 PM
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I’ve been in individual for a while now. And we have been in marriage counseling for a few months.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 01:25 PM
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I think our biggest issue was that there was no planning behind it all. We were still learning about ourselves and who we were (her probably a lot more than me). If that makes sense.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 03:05 PM
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No kids
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 12:32 PM
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I mean we have been having issues since the moment we said “I do”. Does staying for 7-10 years magically fix something if it doomed from the start?
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 10:32 AM
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That’s exactly it..
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 05:12 PM
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I’m sorry that is literally the worst thing someone can do.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 02:24 PM
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We have been in counseling a few months now. I’ve been in individual counseling since late last year.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 01:25 PM
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Fear of the unknown is fear. The feeling of her being with someone else makes me sick to my stomach. But I feel like that’s something I may have to come to terms with but I just don’t know how…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 01:18 PM
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About to be 4 years, 7 together.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 01:06 PM
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I feel like we have talked about it extensively at this point. I also just don’t want to have regrets. Ugh I’m being a coward.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 01:03 PM
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What?
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 12:40 PM
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I’m so sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 11:41 AM
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Yeah I mean she isn’t willing to work on the marriage. That’s not fair to you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 11:08 AM
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I’m sorry. You at least get what I’m going through. I will make sure I do my utmost before I throw the towel in.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 12:54 AM
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I never thought about it like that.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 01:23 AM
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Are you happier now?
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 05:39 PM
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We have been in counseling for a few months. Been trying to talk to her but it feels like talking to a brick wall at times.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 05:20 PM
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☹️…yeah that’s what I’m thinking too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 04:14 PM
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It’s hard to get in the mood because of her appearance. I’ve talked to her about it multiple times but she has no interest in stepping it up. I don’t push it anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 02:25 PM
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No kids. We both work. She doesn’t exercise at all anymore. It has put a major strain on our sex life. That and the stress and anxiety that the arguments take on me have made life difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 10:27 AM
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Most aspects of our marriage are difficult. I put down the things she does for me that I appreciate, but we argue constantly and there is always a high level of tension in the air between us. And for what it’s worth, I have worked extremely hard to provide for her financially, and I have very little to show for it on my end but she has financial security.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 09:03 PM
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I appreciate you saying that. I’m going to meet with my therapist tomorrow to try and hash this out too. And we have marriage counseling on Tuesday.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 03:07 AM
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That’s a powerful quote.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 01:03 PM
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Thank you. I appreciate the kind words.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 05:01 AM
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I guess I’m just looking for guidance. Maybe the marriage counseling we’ve been doing is a better guide.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 12:31 AM
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Thank you. I guess 35 is about that time.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 12:18 AM
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That’s valid
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 11:22 PM
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I don’t need whatever stds you have thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 10:18 PM
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Yeah we have. It’s caused a lot of problems to be sure.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 09:57 PM
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You do make a point that’s been tearing away at me. She may be better off without me. If that’s the case, I need to stop being selfish. I’m being a coward.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 09:32 PM
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Compatibility. Damn autocorrect.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 09:03 PM
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I feel like I moved for marriage due to pressure from family. I do question if this marriage has a chance or if I’ve just developed some kind of codependency that I just can’t break after all that’s happened…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 08:36 PM
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I have told her this as well but she doesn’t see it that way. ☹️
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 07:41 PM
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I love her for her good heart and all that she has done for me. But communication and comparability has been a struggle for a majority of our time married. And the struggling sex life is just making all of that all the more miserable. She has also always been faithful. That is something else I value as I stand by that vow as well.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 07:40 PM
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I understand. I’m in the same boat.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 07:36 PM
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I was raised catholic but we didn’t get married in a church no. Guilt is still built into me though from my upbringing.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 07:35 PM
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I mean we don’t even have a kid yet.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 06:23 PM
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We have been in it for a few months now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 06:23 PM
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So essentially since the beginning is over the only way she will pick it up again is through a divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 06:22 PM
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I wish it weren’t true…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 06:21 PM
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What was your experience?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 06:10 PM
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What is that? A weight loss medication? She is on ozempic. For diabetes though
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 05:56 PM
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I wouldn’t be able to do an open marriage. I’m too insecure to be comfortable with something like that. I always thought if I worked hard to provide for her and was direct with her when I had an issue we would be okay..
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 05:55 PM
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How would I do that though?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 05:47 PM
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It all stems from the stress of our marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 11:56 AM
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All I know is that since we’ve moved in together I had gained a massive amount of weight, went from being an alcoholic to a pothead to quitting my job to because of overwhelming stress and anxiety (a job I had given close to decade of my life for) and at the end of the day what do I have to show for it? I’m tired of being miserable all the time
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 09:37 PM
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She would never outright say that. She is a very non confrontational type of person. But the fact that she never really got to do her own thing is kind of a factor here. And overtime she has shown some fatigue when it comes to me and how I am with my hobbies and way of being.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 09:08 PM
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I have considered a separation. And I don’t really want to get a divorce because of all that I have invested into this. But the other issue, which is 100 percent on me, is that I feel like I may have robbed her of the experience of standing in her own when she moved in with me. What I mean by that is when she moved in with me it was her first time being out of her family’s house. She had never really been on her own. And her family treated her like a damn maid to raise their family so they can f…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 08:50 PM
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I mean I get that. Marriage isn’t perfect. But a lot of these issues have been there since the first year of our marriage and they have gotten progressively worse. And we are on year four now… I mean if I wanted to throw the chips in and leave I would have done it already. I haven’t.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 07:44 PM
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Do you believe it’s possible for people to get married for the “wrong reasons”? I’ve been trying to fight for this for a long time now but I am struggling. I can’t say we were madly in love when we moved in together/got married. A big part of me felt like it was more due to responsibility/guilt to a degree. But I’m trying to fulfill my commitment like a man because I don’t want to fail. But I’m in a very bad place.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 07:25 PM
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We have talked but I feel like communication is difficult. I feel like we have discussed these things but whenever the feeling of us actually separating feels like it’s becoming real…we get intimate and continue to kick this can down the road. I apologize if that detail is kind of tmi, but it is a very real issue I’m dealing with. I feel like it may be tied to some kind of separation anxiety on my part? Aside from that, it is very hard to talk to her in general. She does not like conflict. She s…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:42 PM
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We have split our bank accounts already.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:30 PM
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Please Elaborate.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:15 PM
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Did you guys have fun in any ways?
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 03:14 AM
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It’s hard to say how to would have played out though either way given she had checked out already.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 12:56 AM
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We all gotta go through it before we are old and wise.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 12:55 AM
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I mean I couldn’t continue to be with someone if they cheated on me. All the words in the world wouldn’t help at that point.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 12:05 AM
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You are right. I’m not saying I would do it. I’m just venting how I feel.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 12:04 AM
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Damn that’s crazy…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 11:30 PM
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I want to do right by her. But my mind feels like it’s crumbling. But I wouldn’t be able to live with myself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 10:10 PM
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Understood.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 07:25 PM
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I’m sorry. I appreciate your advice. I’m just venting really. I feel like a coward stuck in one spot, too afraid to act.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 07:24 PM
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Alright.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 06:52 PM
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Oh okay, that makes sense. I do talk about these things too much. I make myself sick sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:06 PM
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That’s so sad but it does ring true as well. I’ve reached some of the darkest places in my mind after getting married. And while it did awaken me to some harsh truths, trying to be with someone that I can’t talk to is definitely the loneliest feeling I’ve ever experienced…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 02:56 PM
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Thanks for the motivation. I needed to hear that. Working out at home is very limiting.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 01:15 PM
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Why do you say not to lean on them too hard? And I’ve never even heard of a divorce coach.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 12:19 PM
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I’ve been contemplating a gym membership for a while now. Been slacking. But also kind of afraid to do so. Because the attraction has been slipping on my end. I’ve talked to her about how I would like her to work out since we started dating but she simply doesn’t care anymore and our sex life has been a massive struggle at times. I just worry about the temptation at the gym with how my mind has been because of our sex life. Is that stupid?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:16 AM
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We don’t have kids. Which could be seen as a blessing or a curse. As I’m 35 now. And I’m in therapy already, and on anti depressants, but nothing makes this less overwhelming…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:13 AM
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Yeah I want to get back into the swing of working out. Being around attractive women is the only thing that really bothers me. Because it makes me so frustrated.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 12:06 PM
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What do you feel you can tell about an individual based on how they treat their bodies?
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 07:58 PM
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I did discuss with her that I did care about her weight prior to getting married. But she’s at this point where I need to accept her for her. I went through a journey of weight loss myself. I was 220 when we got married. Lost about 50-60lbs after. You could argue I wasn’t in a proper state of mind when I got married with how out of shape I was.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 02:58 PM
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I have always enjoyed working out, but when I do at home at the apartment I can’t focus especially if she’s around.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 02:56 PM
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