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| 3 | I found my ex wife in sexually explicit promotional materials for her jobChief get off social media for a while. When I went through my separation and divorce I deactivated my socials to avoid seen anything about her. Your situation sounds rough but this shall pass too, give your self grace and time to heal. In due time you’ll come out the other side a much better person and knowing what you want and don’t want out of your next partner, and that’s someone who respect you as a husband and her self as a lady and not an attention wh*re. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/26 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Feeling extremely lonelyPray brother, build a relationship with God and you’ll see how things start to fall in place. Been there and done that, tried going out with friends, dating, and nothing could fill that void like building a relationship with God. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/25 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Almost 1 yr after. Feel like she was the best thing I could ever hope for and what's the point going on now?That’s p*ssy talk, get out of that weak mind space. Your having a scarcity mind set which leads you to believe this one woman out of billions somehow was the best you could do, this type of mentality is the biggest pussy repellent. When you employ an abundance mentality on woman they flock. It sounds easier said then done but putting this particular women on a pedestal is holding you back, you said it your self, you’re in love with the idea of a woman who faked her persona. Wake up my dude. You … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/25 06:15 PM |
| – | 3yrs through my divorced and dating someone mid-divorceMy guy wtf are you doing? You’re watching your ex’s offsprings? Your “dating” a married woman and you’re surprise the husband is pissed? My guy check between your legs, you’re acting like a female. No shit the guy is pissed, they’re still married. You’re the rebound she monkey branch to but with all this female behavior you’re embodying once the divorce gets through she’ll dumb you right after. Leave this chick alone and take some time to gather your self my guy, you f*cking up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/25 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Both met a 30, fell in love and dumped 8 months later. Please help I am at a loss after all our plansWhere you married? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/25 05:19 PM |
| 7 | I have conspiracy theory about TikTok and divorceThat’s a good observation, I thought the same. It seems like it was an increase in divorce, specially filed by the woman and a lot of them are been manipulated by social media specifically TikTok. The china theory is not far fetched they are influencing the masses by putting out media that creates conflict between partners to destroy the nuclear family, creating a divided society, leading to an divided nation. With this they have a population that can’t agree to any political views just because … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/25 03:58 PM |
| 3 | Id like to run a marital asset strategy by everyoneDid any of this calculations include child support, alimony and half the retirement? The house is part of the equation but not all of it. Once she starts talking to a lawyer they’re going to taint her mind. Good luck brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/25 06:28 AM |
| 5 | Just got "divorced" two hours ago. Anything I can do?I was In a similar situation, high school sweet heart. Together for 10 years, married for about 5 years. One thing lead to another she asked for a divorce, moved back to her parents in a different state and I was left alone back at home to figure it out. Is gonna suck but you’re going to be ok. Imagine like you were just in a bad accident and were left with broken bones, everything hurts and you can’t function like normal but you know if you give it time you’ll eventually start healing and one d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/25 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries vs Higher Standards Post-DivorceI always hear this notion against cohabitating and never fully understood the issue. I know there’s common law but that rarely exist anymore, and obviously I’ve check for where I live. Also living expenses have dramatically increased so living independently is harder than it was about 5 years ago, so the notion of having two spots sounds good on paper but not to the wallet. I see cohabitating as a safer alternative to marriage where you’re actually under contract and it could be enforced in cour… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/25 06:26 AM |
| 2 | Boundaries vs Higher Standards Post-DivorceWhats wrong with co-habitation? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/25 03:49 PM |
| 2 | How do I live without her2 years post divorce, almost 4 since separation. Been there done that, through the ups and downs. Best advice I can give is prayer, not once, not whenever you feel like it but daily, this is your shortcut to healing without putting your self through a bunch of temporary feel good moments. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/25 06:17 PM |
| 3 | I loved my wife and the life we had, I’m doubtful I’ll find another woman like her.I got you man, one step at a time. This is a trivial time for all of us but is the best fuel to help you become that person you always dream of becoming. All that anger, rage, sadness would help fuel you into becoming that person. The less time you spend dwelling in the past and start thinking ahead you’ll find true happiness. Don’t get stuck in the past that’s the easiest way to kill your future. There’s billions of woman out there even if only 1% of those woman liked you that’s still millions … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 12:24 AM |
| 11 | I loved my wife and the life we had, I’m doubtful I’ll find another woman like her.Once those love goggles come off you’ll see her for what she really was, specially after betraying you. Stop putting her on a pedestal. She’s not one in a billion she’s one of a billion. You’re romanticizing the person she was but disregarding she’s a complete different person now. The right one would come along when you least expect it, they say love finds you when your not looking for it. Since you’re actively dating your looking for it which in return you won’t find it per the saying. Give yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/25 11:31 PM |
| 4 | How long did it take you to get back to dating after divorce ?Why the f would you put your self through that again? You’re not even divorce you haven’t experience the real mess that’s about to unfold. Once the ex realizes there’s no fixing she’s going to turn that energy into making your life as difficult as possible during the divorce. Good luck my brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/25 05:26 PM |
| 8 | How did you handle knowing your Ex had start sleeping with another guy?Didn’t give af, I knew it was bound to happen eventually so I stopped checking up on what her life was up to. Clown ass got pregnant within months of separating not even officially divorce. By this point she was no longer my problem, some idiot knocked her up and has to deal with that illogical human. All in all she’s her own person and I had no ownership over her, she’s just one out of billions. Stop putting them on a pedestal. Don’t worry about finding someone right away, give your self the ti… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 07:21 PM |
| 6 | Need to vent.Brother this sounds like a very complex situation, take a deep breath and don’t allow your emotions to dictate your actions that’s female behavior. Stay level headed cool throughout this process. Limit communication with this person to the bare minimum, as much as you try to be cordial and find a middle ground shes after blood and just wants to nuke everything in her path. That’s how they go about this situation, if you play your cards right and keep your self together rather then falling for he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/24 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Struggling hard today in the early phasesHey brother hang in there we’ve all been in similar situation. I can’t relate on the kids aspect because thankfully we didn’t have any kids as a matter of fact she got pregnant by someone else while we were separated, but that’s a whole different situation. What I’ve seen in this group say is that as the kids grow older they’ll start to realize it was her that was talking bad about you, but they’ll see the reality as long as you keep on been the best dad that you can. This shall pass too is just… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 05:30 PM |
| 5 | STBXW started dating ?It’s been said on the sub multiple times by many other that they usually already have someone lined up by the time they call it quits. Seems like woman can’t be alone so before they decide to call it quits they usually already have someone lined up. Is called monkey branching and it usually never works. They leave the relationship thinking they found a replacement but the guy is usually just using them until they don’t. We all been there is easier said then done but when my ex left at that momen… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"?Would you elaborate further? I get what your saying but more context would be beneficial | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 04:22 AM |
| 5 | Is 10 years the lucky number?Bud you made it once, you already know how to make it twice but this time it belongs to solely your self unless you fall for the same scam twice | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/24 10:01 PM |
| 4 | Is 10 years the lucky number?They’re all after that piece of paper not for love but the money | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/24 07:02 PM |
| 5 | 35 m. How to I get her out of my head?On the same boat two years post divorce and today hit me. Thankfully we didn’t have any kids as that would have made it harder. I don’t have an answer for you unfortunately just sharing that your not alone in the process, I was hoping that after this long I would be past it but it still hits me sometimes. Whenever I start missing her I sometimes go back to our last messages, and read on how toxic and terrible of a person she has become towards me that helps me get out that head space. Unfortunat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/24 11:52 AM |
| 4 | Half a fucking million.Yes that’s a lot of money is gonna suck to part ways with it but look at it from a different perspective. You grew a business on your own that is worth 1 million. It sucks that the person you trust ed the most is reaping your hard work but you’ll come out a wiser man unless you repeat the same mistake then that’s on you on loosing your wealth | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Still Stuck in LimboHead up champ we all been in your shoes, It gets better!! You won’t see it now because you’re in the mids of a shit show but once you give it time and allow the dust to settle and finally get the chance to breath and look at it from an outside perspective, you’ll realize she did you a favor by leaving you. Reason why is now you get to see the real her and the fake ass person she was portraying. Keep your chin up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Trying to get over the financial loss and jealousyChange your out look and perspective and you may find your self stop feeling this way. Stop looking at it from the perspective of your ex living “a better life then you” instead look at it from this perspective, your kids have a nice place to stay and they are still having a good quality of life regardless of who’s got what. Stop worrying about what she has or doesn’t, this point in life you need to find things that make you happy from the smallest to the biggest and concentrate on that. Reflect… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/24 05:30 AM |
| 4 | Being alone sucks, still better than being ignoredBeing alone doesn’t have to suck, you just need to learn how to fill your time with doing stuff you like such as listening to music, gaming, working out.. find a hobby and within that hobby look for people that share that hobby. Once you built that network you’ll find your self busy and entertain where this feeling of loneliness would disappear. Once you learn to enjoy time on your own you’ll realize how much you enjoy spending time by your self. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 09:38 AM |
| 4 | UPDATE-lawyer wants to quit my case after giving him $10,000 he can’t take the heatIs this IRS debt been split in two? Or are you the only one taking on this debt after the divorce? Are both of y’all names on the deed? Talk to a couple of lawyers around most do a free consultation and see how your able to add the debt into the agreement. A good lawyer would save you future headaches. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 04:36 AM |
| 3 | What made you not lose your mind? How did you cope?You said it took 10-15 years to get where you once were. That means you already know what it takes and how to get there that’s more then half the battle the remaining portion is putting in the work, you could probably accomplish it in less time this go around because you already know how to get it and what it takes. Stop feeling sorry for your self, the moment you’re ready to pick up the pieces and put them back together your on the track to getting back to your feet. Is easier said then done bu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Why do some of y’all go for a second round after the first show?And you think the next one won’t pull the same stunt? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 02:51 AM |
| 7 | Why do some of y’all go for a second round after the first show?Did you miss the part where I said they show you their best so that they can get the ring? Once that is on them they no longer have to try to please you. As long as is not tide up into the court system you might be ok but once she no longer has the need to keep you pleased is wraps | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Why do some of y’all go for a second round after the first show?You spoke facts man to include my self due some dumb ass sh*t for woman so far as signing our lives away. But what will it take for men to wake up and regain control. I learned my lesson it took my ex wife to wake me up watching, and seen how woman act behind their husbands back was enough for a one time learning lesson. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 04:04 PM |
| 16 | She filed today I’m lostTake it one day at a time. IT IS NOT THE END of the world. You had a life before her you’ll have one after her. SHE IS NOT the only woman in the world. All of us in this group been in your shoes seek out friends and family, and don’t forget you have a big support group in this forum. One day at the time, start by re finding who you use to be before she tried changing who you were. Start doing the things you use to like doing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 11:18 AM |
| 1 | I screw up, does it get better?Focus on your self right now you have some deeper issues you are not addressing. Find your self a therapist and start working through those issues you’ll start understanding the deeper issues you don’t see | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/24 04:21 PM |
| 2 | My wife filed divorce, Should I take some of her asset?Get a lawyer. Don’t be Mr. nice guy she’s ready to dispose of you and you would make it even easier if you just let her walk all over you. 50% 50% nothing more nothing less. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/24 04:26 AM |
| 1 | [22M] any advice would help me so much..And for the girl part work on letting go most relationships have an expiration date. You’re young once you learn the game and how it plays you’ll be better prepare for the next time you play. Concentrate in bettering your self for you and your daughter let the ex live her life she’ll become another person you know over time | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | [22M] any advice would help me so much..If you have a clean record and get your GED I’d consider looking at joining the military. If you qualify to join the service this might turn your life around. Provide health care for your daughter. Get you back on your feet and learn a new trade while making a decent income | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 06:51 PM |
| 4 | Can I vent a little bit? Wife wants a divorce but won't actually file.I was in a similar position, ex wanted a divorce we separated and months went by without her filing. Don’t take this as a change of heart from her part but more of she’s not prepare to be on her own. Once she figures it out she’ll be out. When a woman tells you she wants a divorce she made her mind up a long time ago there’s not turning back. My best advice is to file your self and take charge of the situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/23 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Just found out my ex-wife had a babyWhat would it accomplish me trying to restart the process, I’m not the father | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/23 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Leaving her the houseDon’t be mr nice guy and let her keep more then she’s entitled to. At this point in time she could give two shits about your well been. Are you really going to finance her next life style with her next fuck buddy? Get what’s yours don’t be nice | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/23 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Just found out my ex-wife had a babyA hat happen? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/23 09:21 PM |
| 3 | Just found out my ex-wife had a babyYea some how is always our fault even after we exit their life’s | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/23 12:32 PM |
| 10 | Just found out my ex-wife had a babyThat’s what I was thinking, it seems like once woman reach a certain age they become desperate to get pregnant by whoever then become single moms not realizing they lost a lot of value. I’m thinking she went from been a wife with a home and a stable life to living back with her parents and getting pregnant while still married. Can’t make this up | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 08:37 PM |
| 6 | Anyone Divorced While In The Military?Is normal in the military almost everyone I know who’s gotten married while in service has been through a divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Ex is ordering an appraisal on my home but won't give me access to the appraiser. It will probably not happen before court. What will happen?Get your on appraisal | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/23 03:48 PM |
| 13 | Let her go!!Exactly this I’ve talked to so many woman that are in their mid 20’s looking to finally settled and get married and have kids because their biological clock is running out. If your half decent and have your life put together they’ll put up a show to make you think their wife material. Once the documents are signed they have no reason to keep trying they got you under contract and if you don’t appease their every single demands your a piece of sh*t and she deserves better. Here comes the strong i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/23 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Divorce when suicidal, broke, and alone?Seek god | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/23 03:51 PM |
| 1 | I live in California and have been married for 20 years and my wife has been having another affair. This is the second time she’s done this and will be the third time she’s moved out, assuming she’s serious again.File yesterday! If you can do away with working while the process settles do that. She’s the bread winner at the moment. Stick it to her try to get alimony, if you get custody claim child support. If she been a hoe while at work make her pay for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/23 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Chance of marriage ending in divorce 50/50. With odds like these why play the game?What makes the second one go up? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/23 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe a single woman in her 30’s and above is a Red Flag?She probably walks around saying to her self she’s a catch and her standards are absurd and any guy with half a brain won’t deal with that bs | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | I just need to ventTinder sucks for guys, most girls use it to get followers on their social media or to buy their only fans. Try hinge I went on about 5 dates the first month I had it. Also if you have Facebook try their dating app I had a lot of matches. Like everyone said move out your only making it harder on your self cut contact. And get your self out there if your a decent guy and can keep a conversation you’ll start finding success with woman. Good luck you got this you got us here to help you push through… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/23 10:16 AM |
| 3 | I many of you guys tried to save a marriage due to attraction without really realizing it?If you landed her why can’t you land another women as attractive? Who cares who’s she’s screwing, you had your turn time to start another adventure/ chapter. Her looks would fade away eventually | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/23 07:40 AM |
| 1 | After 5 year of marriage, my wife ask for divorced and keep the fwb with me? Anyone face the same situation? (M34, F29)What’s a marriage milestone? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/23 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Need a little advice.If he were to keep it and buy her out would she be entitled to just half of the equity or could he give her half after what selling cost would be? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/23 11:17 AM |
| 3 | Why the hell im I still thinking about herReally how do I go about doing this so I can stop torturing my self | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 10:54 PM |
| 7 | Why the hell im I still thinking about herI’ve heard about this scar healing over. And that resonates to me. That healing scar is a strong synonym. I’m guarding my self from this new girl even though she has proven to be genuine in what she does because she cares about me, I just know how it all ends. So I’m not invested I was with my ex for 10 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 10:32 PM |
| 1 | she's out.at first it sucks to come home to an empty house but embrace it after a while that feeling starts to fade. Make the house the way you like. Make it your personal space. Do whatever you want and like with no one judging you or giving you their opinion. After a while you start getting use to been alone and enjoying your own company. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/23 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal to find your ex wife incredibly attractive ?What do you gain out of marriage? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/22 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal to find your ex wife incredibly attractive ?Funny joke until I realize you fell for the same scam twice | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/22 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal to find your ex wife incredibly attractive ?Everyone around me keeps telling me how good looking my ex is and I could careless. She’s a good looking woman but she’s just another broad out of billions | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/22 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Hurts a lotIt gets better over time. Give time to time. Re find who you use to be re connect to the guy you were before her. Listen to music reach out to friends enjoy you time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 10:59 AM |
| 2 | I screwed upDon’t beat your self up over this. Get your self a good lawyer this isn’t the time to be cheap for one | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/22 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Need some unbiased advisedI thought after a year I’ll be ready but I don’t think so | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/22 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Need some unbiased advisedI don’t know why, I know she’s not the same person I was with anymore. I’m not sure why she’s lingering my mind I thought I moved on and forgot about her but she still lingers my mind even one year later | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/22 01:46 PM |
| 6 | I reached a void and I’m trying to get out of it.It’s a roller coaster of feelings man. I was in your shoes when the whole thing started. I was hitting the gym every day eating well staying away from the alcohol but a couple of months later and did a complete 180 back to drinking eating junk food, I lost all my muscle weight and some. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/22 12:53 AM |
| -2 | Wife is making this process more complicatedIt is ridiculous at this point it’s been 5 months, I went to talk to her plenty of times trying to fix the situation but she said she’s set in divorcing me but yet keeps dragging this by not filing. I never agreed to splitting but after 5 months I’m just tired of been in the limbo. I really don’t want to get lawyers involved but i might have to take the step and file my self this is getting ridiculous she’s acting like a child. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/22 01:53 AM |
| 7 | Financial Settlement in MissouriGo after half if tables were turn she would do it in a heart beat. Don’t try to me nice now because if tables turn she wouldn’t give a damn | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/22 04:08 AM |
| 5 | Wife moved out 4 months ago and we haven’t started the process to divorce yetThat’s what I’m doing | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/21 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Wife moved out 4 months ago and we haven’t started the process to divorce yetIt was giving to us | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/21 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Happy Birthday to me…Happy birthday brother enjoy 🎉 | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/21 10:46 AM |
| 8 | Need some guidance. Wife came to pick up her stuff and I took the house keys backThis seem to be the most available women. Thanks for the heads up | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/21 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Need some guidance. Wife came to pick up her stuff and I took the house keys backThank you for taking the time to type this out I really appreciate this I don’t really have anyone to talk about this stuff | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/21 10:28 AM |
| 1 | She showed up to my front door 4 months after separatingShe going back to her parents house she only came to initiate the divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/21 03:24 PM |
| 1 | She showed up to my front door 4 months after separatingI can’t tell her not come the house it’s under both our names | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/21 03:23 PM |
| 3 | She showed up to my front door 4 months after separatingMarriage is the biggest scam for man 🤦🏻♂️ | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/21 02:21 PM |
| 1 | She showed up to my front door 4 months after separatingShe just came back with the intention to initiate divorce. Her parents live in another state | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/21 02:16 PM |
| 2 | She showed up to my front door 4 months after separatingI’m not tracking | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/21 10:45 AM |
| 4 | To all the divorced men...Don’t ever let anyone talk down on your service. We give up way too much to have the person who should be supporting us all the way through to make our life’s more difficult. We give them shelter, health care and security for them to ask for more. Brother your better off enjoying your own company. Seek out veterans groups go talk to people that can relate to your experiences and give you input because they’ve been through it and back. Thank you for you service. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/21 10:01 PM |
| 1 | To all the divorced men...Don’t be a downer.. get your self out there go to the bars join groups of interest that’s how you build friendships based on similar interest. Put your self out there don’t have this dark output in life you attract what you seek | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/21 09:57 PM |
| 6 | To all the divorced men...🤣 you’re a genius thanks for the insight | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/21 11:45 PM |
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