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LVM LOGICcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 02:21 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:53 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:59 AM
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STRATEGYcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:18 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:24 PM
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LIES MEN TELLcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 03:42 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:34 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:18 PM
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KEANUcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 02:30 AM
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KEANU cherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:13 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:30 AM
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PICKME CULTUREcherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:55 PM
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cherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:43 AM
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cherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:26 PM
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NAH, SIScherieblosum/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:37 AM
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27

This makes me wanna gag and I’m not even the one having sex with him !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 07:54 PM
1

So she basically planned a date for herself and drove to the guy. She is a huge pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:23 AM
85

These guys hide their wives from social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:19 AM
218

This is more common than people think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:51 PM
42

He's probably cheating on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:50 PM
10

It's sexual assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 10:47 PM
4

Dude you don't owe this guy any explanation. If you say no to a date idea he should accept and suggest something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:04 AM
21

I would be careful. Just because he has a PhD and a good job doesn't make him a HVM.
/r/askFDS13/10/21 12:53 AM
9

🤢 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:24 PM
1

This is why you don't tell guys you're on birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:46 AM
5

There aren't more? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:33 AM
31

If a guy I was with did this to me I wouldn't think it was a real proposal. I'd think it was a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:29 AM
5

I don't even get this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:23 AM
29

This exactly. Men will work for a girl they want.
/r/askFDS27/09/21 10:47 AM
15

Porn sick.
/r/askFDS15/09/21 11:06 PM
8

My ex used this app to look at porn of women he knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:47 AM
2

Wow. Props to his dad for being up front with him about his concerns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:55 AM
1

Wtf is the point of a kink cartoon? Is it supposed to educate kids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:43 AM
101

Oh yes they definitely bring it upon themselves. I like to remind men that they are Humans. What differentiates a human from an animal? The ability to reflect, make decisions, and have self control. You don't have to give into every desire for momentary pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:13 PM
3

Attraction is an important part of a relationship. If there is no attraction there cannot be the romantic spark that glues a relationship together. Don't force yourself to be with a man you're not attracted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:59 PM
1

The worst thing you can spend on a lvm is your time. Just be happy it's over and you can move on. You will have more opportunities to make money in the future and you stopped yourself from losing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:55 PM
200

Men these days have been broken by porn, video games, and weed. They are lazy with no drive to live a real life. Before they actually had to be a part of society and prove themselves to get with a woman. Now they have immediate satisfaction from porn and fake accomplishments from video games to feel better about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:52 PM
22

Disney is just rehashing fairy tales that have been out for centuries. Men created these stories to control women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:46 PM
24

Same. I have to try to convince myself that not all men are like this. I'm hyper aware of any red flags now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:37 PM
15

I'm so traumatized that I can't even have sex without thinking about it. Or any sexual thoughts. I need to purge my mind. I've become essentially no libido or a sexual from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:36 PM
146

I just Googled it and they are cleaning up the sub for the next couple of days so they closed it. You aren't banned.
/r/askFDS01/09/21 06:23 AM
50

Next time tell a guy your restrictions and have him try to find a place.
/r/askFDS29/08/21 02:26 AM
49

Why did you offer to pick a place?
/r/askFDS29/08/21 02:00 AM
34

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:45 PM
2

Yeah. I think the common idea that at least used to be expressed here is that Bumble sucks for that reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:41 AM
3

Same here. Everything a man says on a dating app is truly a facade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:38 AM
25

They're worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:29 AM
2

Why are you following this pick me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:28 AM
10

Great advice! All the cute couple things I wanted to do with a guy I just do with my friends now. It's way more fun, less pressure, and you're right.. the pics are better😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:26 AM
35

Men really have no shame anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:14 AM
31

Men are only as faithful as their morals. They are capable of self control if they want to be. There are men out there who value family life more than sex with random women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 04:10 AM
23

Yeah it's happened to me on dates. I don't get where guys are coming from with this. Quizzing someone isn't a real way to get to know someone. It feels like an interview.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:50 AM
18

Predator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:44 PM
7

This isn't cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:57 PM
6

She needs to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 09:09 PM
33

Good point. You could easily do the pelvic exam to the patient prior to surgery when the patient is conscious. The physicians claim that the pelvic exam is part of the consent for the surgery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:36 AM
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Dating apps are UberEats for sex to most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:46 AM
3

This looks more like an ad to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:23 AM
11

You'll feel better when you learn to love yourself and not rely on men for admiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:06 AM
25

This is so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:59 AM
735

Truth. No married man will leave the comfort of his wife and family for you. You're just a fun fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:13 AM
41

LVM. He didn't just want to talk lol
/r/askFDS17/07/21 07:06 PM
6

This is what serial killers think. Come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:11 AM
4

Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:42 AM
10

Oh boy he thinks he is funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:02 PM
13

OLD sucks. That being said, I do think psychologically it is worse in the sense that men know you are interested in them. Once they know that then you are automatically seen as less desirable.
/r/askFDS20/06/21 01:59 PM
3

This was hard to watch. Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:45 PM
37

It's not worth pursuing a man who watches porn. Save yourself from the heartache and shame. He will always choose porn over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:17 PM
10

Literally all men know this. Even the stupid ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:54 AM
17

He thinks it's cheating if she goes out to dinner with another man, meanwhile he's jacking off to different women every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:44 AM
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Or thinking about having sex with a man who watches porn. Immediate turn off. Makes me nauseous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:21 PM
24

This is so creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:37 AM
16

Lol, I wouldn't even ask that question. NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:41 PM
2

Been there... like exactly 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:58 PM
2

Where can I see the other videos??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:47 PM
71

This whole arrangement seems suspicious. And unfortunately I think Valentine's day is the one holiday that is the greatest indication of what you mean to a man.
/r/askFDS13/02/21 09:22 PM
146

Will rule 1 still be enforced? Is this still a female only space?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:17 PM
180

Men are jealous of women that make more than them. I'm becoming a doctor, and a lot of guys I've dated say things to demean the work that I do and the effort that it took me to get here. They say things like they "could've got into medical school if they wanted to" (this guy wasn't even able to graduate from college and was unemployed at the time); or their favorite - "AI will be replacing your job soon."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:13 PM
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Yeah I used to do that in college too lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:30 AM
1

It used to exist but they closed it. It was called Lulu. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lulu_(app)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:29 AM
1

Omg. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:26 AM
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One of my Pickme friends was saved on a guy's phone as Cumdumpster Pig and she still kept sleeping with him, hoping he'd want a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:08 PM
16

Ah yes. The infamous "friend" who's always signing innocent men up on dating apps strikes again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:06 AM
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I think you're overthinking this. They are simply not the right guy for you if they aren't pursuing you. Also, most of us at FDS are feminists.
/r/askFDS31/01/21 11:04 AM
4

That was horrifying to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:13 AM
13

Tiktok seems worse than Snapchat and Instagram now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:52 AM
2

Stop posting your nudes on reddit too :(
/r/askFDS27/01/21 11:50 PM
4

Hilarious !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:52 PM
51

I wouldn't give out my social media to a man unless we were dating. A lot of guys just like to collect social media to give them local chicks to jack off to.
/r/askFDS27/01/21 07:44 PM
35

It's definitely cheating. If a man watches porn I ask them how they'd feel if I went out on a date and had dinner with another man. They all consider that simple action cheating, even if there is no physical intimacy at that point. Then why isn't it cheating if you're seeing other women naked, perform sexual acts, and ejaculating to it? It's way more intimate of an action than dinner with someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:03 PM
1

The average lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:03 AM
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It's also why porn is so destructive. Men lose their drive for sex which really is also the motivation men have to focus on hygiene, fitness, education, hobbies, and getting married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:13 PM
16

How is this taking the pandemic seriously ? He'll probably still try to kiss her and sleep with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:56 PM
46

Yeah I noticed that too. They also have disappearing messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:51 PM
20

Wtf that's so creepy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:50 PM
4

Omg please make a whole song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:43 AM
34

Yeah my ex was like this too. He'd say some shit like "it's a two way street. You're not helping." So it's my fault you're an alcoholic porn addict smoker who broke his peepee circulation? Every other guy I was with got hard instantly around me and was basically begging me for sex, so I know it's not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:55 PM
5

At this point, I feel like it's better to not even post pictures of a guy on social media unless married or engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:43 AM
41

She needs to get away from both brothers. And the parents need to have a serious talk with both those kids and block them from internet access. Hope they still have time to mentally be saved as they are children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:26 PM
6

Yeah, any guy getting that drunk in his 30s has a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:17 PM
10

I remember my ex canceling plans because he was hungover. I was so pissed and hurt. He couldn't anticipate that and mitigate his drinking so it doesn't interfere with our plans? Not worth it, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:15 PM
1

Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:11 PM
35

Yeah. This is the biggest thing I learned from FDS. Any man can come across as "high value" initially. You really see their true colors after you commit to them. And at that point it gets harder to let them go because there are feelings attached
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:43 AM
19

We already know he's a perv from the age difference of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:41 AM
23

So gross. ​ Also, unfortunately, most artistic men (including musicians), are players.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:58 AM
5

It is cheating... If I went out to dinner as a date with another man, not even kissing him or holding his hand, I'm sure every man would consider that cheating. But jacking off to other women and having an orgasm at the thought of fucking them isn't cheating somehow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:28 PM
19

He wants to focus on another woman he's dating but keep the door open with you in case it doesn't work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:50 AM
36

I'm in the same boat as you. The man I was with treated me like a queen. I found out he was looking at VR porn on a head set. Fucking broke my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:09 AM
22

These types of guys use "Alpha" as an excuse to cheat or sleep around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:21 AM
6

This is so gross. Makes me feel like throwing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:25 AM
9

They're all spot on lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:11 AM
19

You're missing the photo in the sports team jersey with a beer in hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:56 AM
3

Your arms are fine..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:12 PM
2

Wow I love it !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:11 PM
3

This is like an epidemic. How are there so many men that fit this description?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:43 PM
3

"Poly.. must be into open relationships"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:24 PM
1

If men didn't have porn they'd be doing whatever effort required to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:20 PM
100

Men who watch porn used to be considered huge creeps and losers. Back in the days when they had to get porn from adult video stores or adult theaters. Any guy who went to those were considered loser pervs. Why'd the perception suddenly change?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:58 AM
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As a medical professional, I have to say that this isn't a sign that someone is cheating on you. UTIs aren't an STD and E. coli is the most common cause of one in a young woman. E. coli is typically from the digestive tract and gets into a womans urinary tract from wiping. It could get access during sex as well if you go from anus to vagina during sex. But using it as a sign that someone is cheating on you will be inaccurate most times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:58 AM
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If it's nothing then why do it? Men don't like photos for no reason.
/r/askFDS25/12/20 03:01 AM
3

Yeah you can't win answering that question whatever the answer is. If it's "high" they judge you. If it's "low", they judge you in other ways. Are you a prude? Bad at sex? Maybe no guy wants you? Etc.
/r/askFDS21/12/20 11:21 PM
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No, never. That's a fundamental rule of FDS. Be very vague about your past relationships.
/r/askFDS21/12/20 11:18 PM
5

Young women need to learn that OnlyFans is not the answer to poverty..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:28 AM
49

Porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:14 PM
113

Anyone think it's weird that so many young women are "choosing" to be abused during sex, instead of loved and cherished?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:13 PM
8

On the flip side, behind every "low libido" man is a porn addiction and a wife in denial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:24 AM
6

Men planning dates shows their commitment and excitement towards you. When men are excited about a woman that they want to impress, I think they naturally come up with date ideas. Whether it's a restaurant they want to take you to or an activity they want to do with you. It's not a chore. It would be a red flag for me if a man asked me to plan dates.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 11:06 PM
23

Another problem I see that others have not addressed: why are you having Netflix and chill dates with him when you 2 are not in a relationship yet? I think this is part of the problem. You're both super bored because you're in the beginning of the dating phase and trying to fast forward to a long term intimate type relationship. At this point you should still be vetting him and going out for dates. It seems like you're both trying to force this to be something more than it is.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 10:53 PM
11

Wtf? That's horrible. I've dated very crappy disrespectful men but they've all taken me to the doctor or hospital when I needed help. That's just basic human decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:11 AM
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They are horny, lonely, and bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:31 PM
37

They've been going downhill for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:01 AM
11

TeenVogue should just rebrand fo TeenGrooming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:00 AM
10

It's pretty common unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:18 PM
20

Nah they're trading porn with their homies on discord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:37 PM
7

Unfortunately this is true. And it breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:37 AM
32

He wants sex. Ideally, as easy as possible.
/r/askFDS18/11/20 11:20 AM
22

So gross. Unfortunately I don't think you can change a man who does that. And if he's doing that he is probably doing worse too when you aren't around. Men who do that have no shame. My dad would check women out in front of me. Even when I was a kid, not even a teenager, he'd point out women to me that he found attractive. "Look at her legs in those shorts" "Look at her boobs" "Look at her hair" It's so gross. Can you be with that kind of guy for any longer?
/r/askFDS17/11/20 04:37 AM
3

So cute! Happy birthday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:46 PM
18

Libfeminism telling young women that they need to have promiscuous sex to feel EmPoWeReD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:15 PM
1

Is this real? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:13 PM
21

Yeah, I agree. How is she 33 and no credit? She needed independence before any of this even happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:12 PM
7

I agree. That's why my advice to her was to keep track of his Instagram. At 6 weeks, it's too early to know someone's true colors. Need at least 6 months to have a real grasp, I'd say.
/r/askFDS09/11/20 02:45 PM
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I don't know. I would look into Instagram. I found ex #1 was secretly married by snooping through his instagram, and ex #2 was a porn addict and masturbating to pics of his friends. I'd snoop HARD on instagram.
/r/askFDS09/11/20 02:39 PM
52

I'd still scope him out. Could be the first sign of a red flag, could be completely innocent. Keep track of who he is following...
/r/askFDS09/11/20 02:38 PM
37

I don't think it's acceptable. Probably grooming you into being ok with him watching porn. Same defense that men use with "not real women, not really cheating"
/r/askFDS08/11/20 01:24 PM
6

How is this so upvoted and awarded? Just a regular scrote with love fantasies for his prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:18 PM
157

I could never believe how popular game of thrones was. So much rape and sexual violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:13 AM
3

I'm so sorry you are married to him. Cheating or not, it is incredibly disrespectful and upsetting.
/r/askFDS06/11/20 02:38 PM
8

I think some people just type like that.. they think it's "flirty" and "cute." ​ I know it's off-putting, but I wouldn't put too much into texting before meeting. Texting personality can be different than IRL personality, which is way more important for a relationship. I've met men who had perfect grammar and spelling online, but were completely unbearable in person.
/r/askFDS30/10/20 06:48 PM
3

This is sad to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:31 AM
2

This is so fucking true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:56 AM
10

My ex. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:36 PM
6

The first sentence itself was a whole lot of red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:04 AM
5

He probably means "you can figure out if you want to fuck a chick within 4 minutes"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:40 AM
4

Goes to show you that you can be beautiful, talented, and successful and men will still fuck around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:34 AM
6

Hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:30 AM
30

100% agree with this. Most men are disgusting and vile when it comes to sex in a way that women will never relate to or understand. They just want to use our bodies. But they can't get enough. That's why they need thousands of other women to jack off to from porn and insta accs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:36 AM
6

How much you wanna bet she's early 20s and he's late 30s?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:59 AM
58

I'd rather scrub my toilet bowl than watch porn with any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:55 AM
4

Girl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:20 AM
8

This girl is so brain washed. So sad. Idk if 14 year old girls should even be going on dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:16 AM
13

Most these men who call women ugly are addicted to porn and spend their days looking at photoshopped small waists and big boobs on Instagram. While they are so disconnected from their own fat ass ugly bodies. Their minds are polluted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:01 AM
15

I randomly saw an episode of Addams family the other day and Gomez spent the whole ep gushing over Morticia and supporting the kids. Def a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:58 AM
30

Not only that, but the majority of Bachelorettes are in long term committed relationships now. Mostly married (even if not to their F1). The Bachelors on the other hand, most are STILL single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:24 PM
7

It's a man, and he's jacking off as he wrote that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:12 AM
3

He's a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:10 AM
60

Any man who won't let you look at his phone is hiding something. What I've found were mistresses, exes, porn, and more...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:02 AM
78

I had to unfollow most relationship subs. You can't go back once your eyes are opened by FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:57 AM
11

"Coffee and I take you to a field" sounds like the worst low effort date ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:55 AM
5

Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:58 PM
8

Women never win with this. When a man is dating a virgin, there is so much judgement. Something must be wrong with her. No man before desired her. Or she'll want to sleep around later so you can't trust her. Or she's lying in general. All stereotypes I've heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:35 PM
15

I've been doing this on pinterest and it helps me visualize what I want in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:51 PM
71

Then you do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:37 PM
34

If I'm not in a serious committed relationship with someone, I'm not talking to them past 10 pm. If they ask to meet late at night it's an instant block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:37 AM
10

That's the vibe I was getting too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:59 AM
9

Back when I used to work in an office, I'd be freezing ALL the time. I had to bring a blanket to work, even in the summer, which looked ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:58 PM
46

I'm with you. I do not want to be with a single father, if the mother is still alive. Nothing against the woman, but if she is going to dump/divorce her child's baby, there must be something seriously defective about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:54 PM
2

The type of man that uses Tinder as Uber eats for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:33 AM
59

Men come back because their life without a woman in it is considerably worse. They don't have someone to talk to, they don't have someone to sleep with, no one is around to cook or clean for them. All they do is sit in their filth, bored, depressed, and lonely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:27 PM
16

Reddit is officially a porn site with a forum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:37 PM
5

Wtf why ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:03 PM
8

Can you PM me the Twitter acc for PFR?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:00 PM
23

Honestly this is just another porn site at this point. Someone needs to make a new reddit like forum for women by women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:40 PM
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Removed for excessive male sympathy. Nah let's just blame him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:37 PM
33

It's definitely a power move. He probably gets off to the idea of hurting his wife like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:32 PM
25

This sub does not condone prostitution, as it sexually exploits vulnerable women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:54 AM
24

They probably just get STDs that they share with their poor unsuspecting wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:53 AM
16

Ewwww I want to throw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:52 AM
18

"Porn is my hobby"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:51 AM
14

How is this wholesome? It's vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:51 AM
9

These men are sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:31 AM
5

Porn addicted bozo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:29 AM
11

I love him a lot which makes the whole thing very difficult. I had this view of our relationship as this incredible love story. Two people completely enamored with each other. It all feels like a lie. A facade. This has totally changed the view I have on relationships. I've pretty much lost hope on finding a man who is faithful and loving. I'm starting to think the only reason to get married is for financial security and a sperm donation. If a guy is making six figures and at least elevating my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:52 PM
18

I totally agree. My boyfriend seemed like a HVM. He was so loving and attentive. Always made me feel like I was a priority and was constantly investing in me by putting in time, money, and energy. However, I've recently been looking through his phone and I found a lot of disgusting things that literally sicken me whenever I think about it. And it's the exact type of stuff you mention in your post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:46 PM
36

How does this even make sense ? Point is to not spread germs..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:43 PM
7

This made me laugh out loud. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 08:29 PM
3

lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 03:30 PM
4

Don't go on dating apps. You'll feel even more depressed. Just focus on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:10 PM
1

This doesnt sound like a proposal. As others said it just sounds like he's buying a place for himself. If he was going to propose he would've did that and then found a place with you. Also, please be careful posting your name and photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:51 AM
36

It already existed and was called Lulu. It was shut down though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:41 AM
5

Hes a LVM stringing you along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:56 AM
1

Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:44 AM
44

It's a virtual equivalent of a cat call. Men get off on giving women attention, even if it isn't reciprocated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:21 PM
32

Trashy to do it. Disrespectful for him to not care about how it makes you feel. Think about if you want to pursue this. Behavior like this only gets worse with time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:21 PM
7

This. Hanging out means he hopes to have sex at most. Nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:19 PM
14

Hang out is lvm terminology. If he wanted to ask you out he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:17 PM
6

No. He's married and cheats on his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:06 AM
14

He was pretty adamant about hating porn. He thought it was for losers and creeps who couldn't get women in real life. And I had full access to his phone and computer whenever I wanted and I never saw anything remotely related to porn. He also didn't have an instagram or fb so he wasn't checking out women on those sites either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:19 PM
28

Definitely thank someone for doing a good behavior. It's positive reinforcement. If they see you are appreciative of the gesture, they will feel good, and will want to do more things to make you feel good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:04 PM
13

My ex too. Never watched porn; sex was great. Unfortunately he was abusive, controlling, and manipulative..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:03 PM
34

So is the solution to not get married? Just have a long term male partner? Just curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:02 PM
38

This is what I experienced growing up as well. Now I'm with a man who is proud to be with an accomplished woman. No reason to hide your accomplishments, ambitions, and success to not intimidate a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:58 PM
139

Same thing happened to me growing up. Met a 26 year old man when I was 17. He waited till I was 18 to officially "date" me. After that I moved in with him after a couple of months. That started 10 years of abuse, control, and manipulation that I only broke free from physically and mentally just last year. Would not recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:56 PM
57

I would be seriously cautious to call a man that you haven't met yet with that many red flags a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:02 AM
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Please be careful and take caution with sharing your photo on this page. Many lurkers attempt to dox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:18 AM
7

Acting single once is a no go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:53 PM
24

Yeah, my boyfriend even insisted I leave my stuff there so I don't have to keep bringing things back and forth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:49 PM
8

Wtf? That's your boyfriend? Big sus vibes. He sounds like he's seeing someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:47 PM
35

My thoughts. He's using her because he wants a house. Perhaps someone to help with chores as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:37 PM
10

Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:36 PM
65

What a jealous insecure man. She needs to dump him asap. I wish I could speak with her. If they stay together, you sure as hell can bet he'll be asking her for money once she becomes a physician.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:01 PM
2

Dude... you need a hobby or something. It is not normal to be masturbating 6 - 7 times a day.
/r/askFDS04/06/20 12:12 PM
5

Yup totally agree!! A man can be incredible in the first few months. This is because he is putting on his best performance to keep you around. After about 6 to 12 months you'll see his bad habits and figure out what he's hiding from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:07 AM
23

Ah, he's aged like wine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:26 PM
17

Wow that's fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:10 PM
25

You would think. But many of them find Pickmes with whom they insist on having sex with, without a condom, so their genes inevitably get passed on to the next generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:00 PM
7

It's real. See above to the link to the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:59 AM
13

You can find him swiping right on everyone on tinder and having a conversation with himself in your DMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:58 AM
10

Feel free to make your own version of this meme!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:46 AM
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Removed because repost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:32 PM
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Removed b/c repost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:16 PM
6

I liked Private Practice, which focused on Addison. I found her a much more likable character than Meredith.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:36 AM
35

Yes, and it was portrayed as super romantic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:03 PM
57

Yes, it is an actual line. I believe from the first season. The main character is training as her first year as a surgeon. She falls in love with and sleeps with a neurosurgeon that she is training under. Then, she finds out he is married to another physician in the hospital. So she does her "Pick me" speech, to try to get him to leave his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:51 PM
22

Ah, Meredith Grey. The original "Pick Me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:49 PM
33

It's not your job to give him any dating advice...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 09:32 AM
26

Isn't his wife a doctor?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:15 PM
32

I was googling his wives more, and there was an article about how his employees could tell what kind of mood he'd be in based on how blonde his second wife's hair was. Platinum he'd be ecstatic, brunette he'd be pissed off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:14 PM
54

Just goes to show you that wealthy does not mean HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:02 AM
124

Honestly it doesn't matter why you oppose porn. Just the fact that it bothers you is reason enough for him to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:49 PM
73

Don't go to a man's house for any reason. Men have tried to invite me over a million different ways. - Wanna see my new furniture? - I want to introduce you to my cat, dog, turtle, sister, brother, roommate - Let's listen to the Hamilton CD together - I want to play guitar/piano/banjo for you - I have a sweet gaming station I want you to check out - Let's play video games/board games/card games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:53 PM
62

"Let's watch porn together! You don't want to? Fuck you're a prude."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:13 AM
2

Yes, my ex told me he didn't have social media! I found his Instagram account, and thru it I found his wife's facebook, and from that I found out he was marriedm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:45 PM
9

It's actually written by the Pick me herself :( She's still with this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:15 PM
6

This dude is in serious denial and does not know how ED works. If he can have and maintain an erection with porn, then he doesn't have ED. Psychiatrists ask patients about this when assessing the sexual side effects of a drug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:31 PM
9

Anyone else see the trailer for the new TV show "Dummy"? It's a Pickmeisha hell based on a true story. A much younger woman dating an old man. When they sleep together, she discovers the old scrote has a sex doll. Instead of throwing the whole man away, the show delves into her "insecurity" around this. And apparently the doll talks and is a "feminist."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:29 PM
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Make it known that you don't like men who use porn. Call them losers, call them pervs. Call them gross. Men don't want to be seen as undesirable. If you start shaming, more men will STOP using.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:13 PM
2

Some trashy pick me will be into him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:08 PM
5

Originally created for influencers to charge people for their content. Now it's just used by people to sell their own porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:09 PM
34

I don't think this thought that "if I had blonde hair men would find me more attractive" is accurate. Men have types. For some men that's blond, others brunette, others unnatural colors. If you look at a guys exes, they usually look similar. It could be body type or hair or both. Men don't tend to deviate from what they find attractive when picking a girl to be in a relationship with. If they do go outside of their realm of attraction, the relationship tends to be sexually unfulfilling for both.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 11:24 AM
35

Male validation means nothing and is totally fleeting. Look at how men treat women online. They give attention and "validation" to ANYONE. Start by exploring your own strengths and interests outside of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 11:15 AM
1

Like others have said, lying and crying when confronted about something is a red flag. Think of when you see a baby crying. All you want to do is comfort that baby and make sure it's ok. It's a manipulation tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:38 PM
10

This is why you set high expectations early on. Don't settle for less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:35 PM
6

Omg 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:27 PM
7

This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:14 PM
16

Excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:02 AM
1

Eh, a lot of psych meds cause sexual dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:00 AM
12

Daily. No one's that busy. He should want to talk to you and be thinking about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:41 AM
5

First date should NEVER be at each other's house. Even during a national quarantine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:53 PM
6

Yup, unfortunately it's so common that it's statistically more likely for a man to leave/cheat when his wife is sick than to stay and take care of her. Opposite is true for women when their husbands are sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:13 PM
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Removed because repost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:17 PM
8

As someone who likes guys in bands, this is exactly how I know. And their female friends, who partied and smoked with them in their teens and 20s now are wrinkly and overweight too in their 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:40 PM
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If you drink, do drugs, and smoke during your teens and 20s, you're gonna look old in your 30s-40s, no matter what. If you see any celebs that look really hot in their 30s and 40s they all say they stopped drinking, drugs, smoking, etc. I'm in my early 30s and everyone thinks I'm a teenager or in my early 20s just from my looks. It's because I barely drank, never smoked, and always followed a good skin care routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:48 PM
8

Same. The quality of men on Bumble is much better than any other dating app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:19 AM
13

Eh, I disagree. I think Bumble can be used the same way as any other dating app. I definitely had men pursue me on it. How I used it: - Swiping only on men I find attractive (not reading profiles) - Out of the men I match, I look at profiles for ones that seem compatible with me. - I send a smile emoji or a gif. Simple and does not involve any thought. --->> At this point, the guy is responsible for really starting the convo and pursuing. I found my boyfriend on Bumble. I think it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:08 AM
3

I love this movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:00 AM
7

Ok, I got a good laugh. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:59 AM
5

A lot of romance is about intangibles. Just saying you are attractive, fit, with a good paying job isn't the whole story. How do you make a woman feel? Do you make her feel special? Do you make her feel safe, respected, like you're listening to her wants and desires? Also, you don't talk about what types of dates you're taking these girls on. I think early on, dates can really shape the perception she has of a man. Exciting dates that involve an activity tend to do better. And finally. Dating ta…
/r/askFDS13/03/20 03:34 PM
17

Block PMs from everyone. The only people who PM me are pervs and haters. No need to hear from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:17 PM
45

Ha, I wish someone would do this for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:03 PM
2

Removed because it seems like this was made by a sad incel (no excessive male sympathy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:58 AM
16

Wow, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:56 AM
36

Instagram is a plague. Best decision of my life was to UNFOLLOW a lot of people. My feed is only animals and food now. At times I delete instagram from my phone as well. Instagram is a fake reality that no one can achieve in real life, even the women who claim to be living it on their feeds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:03 AM
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Men know what liking a pic means. They are doing it to get the women's attention. What really is the point of liking something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:42 AM
9

Ewwww.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:53 AM
3

She's so young. She probably likes sex but sex is always better within a loving relationship with a man who respects you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:46 PM
22

It's anti feminist to protect women from abusive men? Ok then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:48 PM
10

They're also abusers with fetishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 08:05 AM
30

Wow how sad. She wasted 6 years with this jerk who's ready to give her up the instant that he can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:47 AM
43

Honestly it depends. There are HVM doctors but most are engaged or married by the time they are actual physicians. Most of the single ones are players and they love to be players. Read /r/medspouse to see how shitty partners doctors can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:36 PM
9

Ok this one made me laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:09 PM
7

I don't think you have to tell guys but.. as someone who's seen a lot of breasts in a professional setting (health care), it's pretty obvious which breasts have implants just from their shape, sit, and feel. I'm sure a guy would be able to tell even if you don't tell him. The right man for you will not judge you for your body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:43 AM
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Removed because repost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 04:11 AM
11

Go watch Friends. Taking a break means he's sleeping with other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:56 PM
10

Abort mission. This man is controlling. If this is how he is before you guys are officially a couple, he'll only be infinitely worse when you're together. It's not caring. Soon he'll want to know where you are at all times and will probably get angry if you're not with him or not answering your phone. He's not worth it!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:26 AM
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Loving yourself isn't a magic bullet that will make other people love you. But I truly believe it is a prerequisite. Confidence attracts people. It also makes them not realize any "flaws" you might have. Because if it doesn't bother you, then why should it bother them? I was also really insecure at about your age. Especially about my body (I have a congenital deformity). I thought no one could love me because of it. Then, instead of "warning" guys about it and making myself seem insecure, I deci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:48 AM
55

Honestly I think this is because they are lazy and watch too much porn. Why make all the effort of sex when you can just Jack off by yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:31 PM
46

Never offer to meet a guy like that last minute. Especially late at night. He just wants a booty call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:24 AM
31

He didn't even post about it on his insta and he seems super active too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:16 AM
68

100% agree with this. All men have a physical type. If you don't fit that mold, your chances of being with him long term are slim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:08 AM
29

There is no such thing as ethical porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:55 PM
108

I used a line like this on a guy before. "You think I'm not gonna wear a condom? I don't even walk around barefoot in your house."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:53 PM
1

Search dopamine or oxytocin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:26 AM
44

She hasn't even met him yet..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:10 AM
135

How could you not tell your 11 year old daughter is pregnant?...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 11:56 PM
3

If he really is a HWM and not lying, he'll call or facetime you after work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:06 PM
94

If they want something cheap why not go for desserts or a small meal? They want drinks specifically to loosen your inhibitions. Drinks can add up in price too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:03 PM
19

I only like pet names when we're exclusive. Anything before that is creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:59 PM
0

Damn, that sucks lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:45 AM
2

It's not really about trust. If it makes his girlfriend uncomfortable he shouldn't do it. Relationships are about sacrifices and compromises to make our partners happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:44 PM
9

Report them to the mods as well so we can tag them as pick mes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:48 PM
17

Yeah. I find men who think this is materialist pretty selfish in a lot of ways. It's not just to brag about looks or what it's made of. It's on your body every day. You want something sturdy that isn't going to damage your skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:36 PM
5

Yeah I remember that as well. Seems like it's just another swipe app now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:00 AM
8

I'd stop reaching out and see if he says anything. If he did I'd say no to seeing him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:15 PM
86

A Pickme flirting with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:14 PM
3

I meant in this case. 30s is still pretty young. I've dated guys in their late 30s who still had a healthy sex drive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:49 PM
5

If you have to specify if what you're doing is ethical then...maybe it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:15 AM
19

He sounds like a man baby. I'd hate to be tied down to him. Feel bad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:59 AM
21

It means he's masturbating to her pics. Very sad :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:57 AM
26

Agreed. This whole post is confusing. Who negotiates the terms of a relationship? Relationships at their core are very simple. They don't require "rules." We are all looking for someone who loves, cares, and respects us. Every action a man takes should fall into one of those things. Is it loving, caring, respectful to my partner? If not, then he's doing something wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:47 PM
19

He looks like he lost brain cells from extensive porn use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:42 PM
8

I dated a married man... and yeah. He hid his social media (told me he didn't have any... when he did), and wouldn't let me over his place, making a TON of excuses. I expected he was cheating on me, never did I think that I was the other woman :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:41 PM
9

Unfortunately I'm dealing with this as well. Not sure what to do but it breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:50 PM
6

Men will jerk off to anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:49 PM
8

Don't change your appearance for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:46 PM
61

I work in the hospital too and a lot of male surgeons wear their ring as a necklace when operating or during the day. It's still visible and everyone knows they are married. If they are flirting with women though.. word gets around fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:44 PM
35

She forgot about the nice healthy orgasm he needs too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:42 PM
1

This is the same type of man who'd give you shit about not shaving your vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:03 PM
9

I think all men either cheat OR watch porn. Maybe I'm wrong but I have yet to find a man who didnt do either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:01 PM
2

Wtf!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:59 AM
5

Psycho. Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:57 AM
2

Lmao. Left was like my ex. Surprise he turned out to be cheating on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:55 AM
82

I don't even think that's enough. A flower and a card are low effort and can be bought for cheap in 5 minutes at Walgreens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:31 AM
10

No. Seriously. That's just gonna lead to a shitty sex life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:48 PM
6

That man is a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:04 PM
3

Yup, I never felt more empowered until I started saying "No" to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:03 PM
1

I've always been with shitheads who literally ignored this day on the calendar. I never had a good Valentine's day. My current boyfriend wants to surprise me with a homemade dinner and some other stuff he has planned. I keep asking about it and he tells me not to try to ruin the surprise, he'll take care of everything, which I find cute how much effort he's trying to put in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:54 AM
1

You sure he doesn't have another girlfriend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:49 AM
1

This is what I used to do when I was 8 to get out of doing things. How sad for him..and her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:48 AM
13

Eh, whenever I go out with my boyfriend and a group of friends, he pays for my meal as well. Like someone else said, guys want to show people around them that they pay for the woman they are with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:44 AM
4

That paragraph will only give him power over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:41 AM
6

Everyone's a model these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:32 AM
14

Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:24 AM
8

I had the same experience working in labor and delivery. The contrast between loving and supporting fathers to men who couldn't give a fuck was incredible. A woman goes through so much when she gives birth. If her partner isn't there making sure she is safe, comfortable, and supported, what is the point? On the plus side, men times when the men failed to step up, there was always a group of women to support the mother, whether it was sisters, moms, friends, midwives, or nurses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:11 AM
3

Lmao! This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:52 AM
21

Literally doing this exact thing tomorrow. Wish me luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:48 PM
74

"We have to have sex even if you don't want to because if we don't I'll start blue balling and I'll be in so much pain babe, please help."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:47 AM
48

"That's not my BDSM sex app. My friend downloaded it on my phone as a joke."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:45 AM
63

Same thing happened to me before. Guy seemed so normal and sweet on text. He drove 4 hours over to see me. I actually did not ask him what his plans for the night were because I thought he'd arrange something for himself (young and naive then). After the date, which was short and sucked, he tried to pressure me to let him in my apartment. I was so shocked! I didn't let him and he left pissed. Next day he doesn't text me at all. Stupidly I text him and ask him how he's doing, and he goes into thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:42 AM
40

I mean if there's no lease, then she probably wouldn't have to pay anything anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:19 AM
42

"Condoms make my dick go numb. I can't feel anything."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:15 AM
96

He actually just walked up to me at an anime con and told me I was hot when I was cosplaying as Hitomi from DOA Extreme Beach Volleyball. Though, later that day he actually refused to have sex with me because he said he wanted it to be special when he lost his virginity and didn't want to just do it with someone random. But then like two years later he was still a virgin so he gave up and just had sex with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:46 AM
109

"I want to only see you, only hook up with you and go out with you, but I don't want the responsibilities of being a boyfriend." - the first fuckboy my innocent self ever encountered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:30 AM
119

"You're crazy. I'm not married. That's just my friend." - when I found the wedding pics on his wife's Facebook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:28 AM
16

From porn probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:27 AM
6

This is exactly how I think of it too. If you let them get away with it when the relationship starts (and they really care about impressing you..!), they will only take it as invitation to keep doing it as the relationship progresses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:01 AM
5

With any physical appearance, it's all about confidence. If you feel shy or bothered by your looks, men will feel that as well. It's a "fake it till you make it sort of thing." Even if you might not be confident about your appearance, pretend to be. That will change how others perceive you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:43 AM
4

Not sure how true this is. I have a baby face, and a lot of guys have always found it to be "cute."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:39 AM
48

I'm so confused. Why is he upset she has an IUD? And like she said, she's in pain right now, as insertion is painful and initial cramping can last for a while. He's being so selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:38 AM
2

This guys more thorough than my doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:37 AM
16

I have no shame getting just water. But I guess if you're there for cocktails/drinks specifically this can be odd. There are some places that have mocktail menus. Or just ask the bartender to make the drink without alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 02:12 AM
13

He's not gonna pay you back. Also, next time avoid traveling to see men. They should travel to you or pick you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:20 PM
4

If he is concerned, he should still go to a doctor to rule out an "organic" cause of ED. If he is embarrassed about this, he should not be. This is one of the MOST COMMON reasons that men visit a doctor. They are all very concerned about their erections! If there isn't an underlying health issue that they find (they might have to blood tests to determine), then it's most likely porn. The only problem here is he denies using porn. But you could possibly ask him to stop masturbating, if he admits …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:06 PM
22

My mom says the same exact thing lol. Moms have prob seen some SHIT with angry, emotionally unstable dudes in high stress environments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:59 PM
6

Does he have any other medical problems? Like does he drink a lot? Do drugs? Possible hormonal problem? If not, he probably is porn sick. Healthy 28 yos should be having strong erections EASILY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:53 PM
22

Yeah, French men are fuckboys. You could get tinder for the time you're there and say you want someone to "show you around" Typical thing that travelers do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:51 PM
26

It's gay? It's basically like wearing shorts to bed. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:49 PM
4

That was my experience as well going to events for "singles." Also, if you don't go with a female friend, men basically PREY on you. And it's hard to get them to back off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:43 PM
10

Matchmaking is huge in my community (for both religious and non-religious). I found a matchmaker in the big metropolitan city I was living in. She let me join for free because she liked my profile (basically, I was a young, attractive, and successful woman, so she knew a lot of men would be interested in meeting me). She made me fill out a questionnaire about details about myself, and what I'm looking for in a partner. Then she sent me profiles of men. They were all men who were interested in me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:19 PM
6

Have you tried a match maker? I used one many years ago; but I was not looking for marriage then, which made it not optimal for me. But the matchmaker did pick out very nice men. All marriage minded, if that's what you are looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:40 PM
11

Wait for him to say it first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:38 PM
33

Yup. There are legit reasons someone can be busy or not text back. I used to be away from my phone for hrs at a time because of work. But before disappearing I'd text my bf that I'll be busy for a few hrs and wont be able to get back to him. My boyfriend recently left his cellphone at home when he went to work. Instead of making me wonder why he wasn't answering, he called me from his work phone and explained what was going on. Simple gesture, but I thought it was thoughtful. Also, I had no clue…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:19 PM
43

My ex moved from Europe to the US to be with me. Another ex traveled from the west coast to east coast to see me. No excuses for lazy men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:15 PM
115

Monogamy is for men. Even anthropologically speaking; when access to mates is scarce, animals are more likely to be monogamous, because it leads to more consistent sex than going out and finding a new mate each time. That's why men are idiots. If they want a lot of sex, the best way to do it is 1 consistent partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:38 PM
31

What an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:36 PM
3

Oh? Also don't listen to this guy. There are men who will find you special and will travel far to be with you. 3hrs isnt even bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:02 PM
14

The only nanny/babysitter my kid's will have is my husbands own mom or sister.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:29 PM
55

You can bring up your opinion on porn. If he argues you about it then hes probably porn sick. Porn sick men love to defend their use. Check his Instagram following page. Does he follow naked ladies, big booty pages, flat out porn stars? See if he's secretive about using his phone or computer around you. If you don't suspect he's cheating, then it's most like he doesn't want you to inadvertently see his search history. And even if you aren't having sex, check if he is having an erection when you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:24 PM
8

Why are you talking to him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:25 PM
5

The world does not have to know, but if you are together all the time and taking pics it def is weird if you aren't featured or mentioned. Then that person is going out of their way to hide you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:24 PM
8

This sounds fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:19 PM
5

Waiting for sex is to guarantee you have good sex. You're gonna have better sex with a guy who cares about you enough to wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:01 PM
24

Gross. Fuckboy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:30 PM
17

Yup. I did not make any relationship move first. My boyfriend asked me on dates, asked to be in a relationship, changed our relationship status on FB, and posted pics of us first. I also only post another pic of us only if he does so first now that we are in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:27 PM
16

Do not listen to male friends!!! They side with other men and cannot see how things like this would be dangerous for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:45 AM
8

I did, but in my area it was mostly women who were married or in serious longterm relationships. At the time, I was single, and wanted to meet other women in similar life stages as me, so I didn't feel like I related to anyone on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:40 AM
4

I met my boyfriend on Bumble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:39 AM
65

That's a huge lie. Think about this.. if someone lied about their age would you continue to date him? If they lie about this, they can lie about anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:33 PM
14

Totally agree with this. Always found them to have a sweet and loving relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:27 PM
19

Report guys like that too if it ever happens again. Totally inappropriate to speak to someone like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:03 AM
7

Lmao. I only give guys my Google voice number. He's an ass. Why does he care what number you give? It's still a real one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 03:57 AM
11

A FWB is a causal relationship. You're basically just there to have sex. And like others have said, no "HVM" would agree to that. You're both just using each other. And, if you are a "demisexual" (I don't think this is a real sexuality; just a reaction to the pornsick mentality that permeates culture these days), then you will want something more fulfilling that having sex with someone who doesn't care about you more than just having sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:48 PM
6

You're a "demisexual" who wants a causal sexual relationship? Who are you fooling?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:45 PM
1

1) Makes an effort to see you/asks you out ​ 2) Texts you or calls you daily ​ 3) Takes you on dates which you'd find fun/interesting ​ 4) Tells you how much he appreciates you ​ 5) Helps you when you need help ​ 6) Wants to take care of you when you aren't feeling well ​ 7) You don't feel like you're constantly wondering what he's doing/where he is/who he's talking to ​ 8) Treats you respectfully. Does not push you to do things you feel uncomfortable with. ​ 9) Does not degrade other women. Has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:50 PM
4

Definitely DON'T ask the guy. My boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend, but never mentioned anything about FB or changing our statuses. I kept it as "single." It took him a while (like a month), but he eventually noticed this. He pointed it out to me that it said that and said we should change our statuses together. I think you need to motivate him to ask you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:43 PM
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A lot of ladies here seem confused about what a HVM is. It isn't having a "good job" or being in a high socioeconomic class. It's about behaviors and actions and how you treat women. How can a guy who cheats be a HVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:25 AM
10

If he is looking at porn or hentai thats probably the main problem. Try to see if he will stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:49 PM
6

Many other neutral dates that aren't as boring and stale as coffee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:27 PM
8

I just tell guys I dont drink coffee. Or I study all day in cafes so I rather do something else as a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:27 PM
9

Or, can I bring a friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:26 PM
8

Girl, I see from your post history 2 things. 1) this relationship is messing with your head. 2) you're trying to go into med school I am a student and I can tell you that med school is difficult and takes a lot of energy , both mental and physical. If you are distracted by your relationship you will find it difficult to succeed. Please reconsider being with him for your own sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:23 PM
5

I've never faked an orgasm. What's the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 03:00 PM
2

Grimes - Venus Fly Grimes - World Princess II
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:08 PM
10

Any guy not wanting to give you a relationship is taking away from your chance to meet a man who really wants to be with you. Why drag on a situationship? What are you looking for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:06 PM
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Any man who makes comments about a woman's labia is a porn addict. Men had no worries about labia shapes, colors, sizes, etc. before the proliferation of porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:03 PM
9

Pretty sure you can block private messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:22 PM
2

You're right. Most BTs have gone through trauma in their life or lived a really extremely "sinful" life that they feel ashamed of. I was a JDate member for about a year. I don't remember it being any better. I think mostly the same users. But, I didn't live close to a Jewish community at the time and had to travel to NYC and Boston for dates when I got them... wasn't very convenient to getting a good long term relationship. In the end I decided to stop caring if a guy was Jewish or not and just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:56 PM
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Remove distractions. For example, if you have a TV in the bedroom turn it off at night. Encourage him... say things like "I find it soo hot when you..." I agree with the other poster about feminine energy as well. Things like giving a guy a sweet look, being flirty, giving light kisses, etc should get him going. If he's having trouble getting an erection and not having sex frequently he could be watching a lot of porn as well. Look out for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:41 AM
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All the bald men I've known have been serious porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:54 PM
6

I would get one to protect MYSELF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:52 PM
13

Oh God. How many of us have been there? Total low points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:39 AM
4

I have some dietary restrictions and my ex would make me feel like absolute shit about it constantly. He'd always whine because "we couldn't eat anywhere", according to him. He'd try to force me to eat foods I couldn't eat as well. I just felt horrible every time I went out with him. My current boyfriend always asks me what I want to eat and takes into account my preferences when we go out. He's never made me feel like shit about it. He also said he dated vegans in the past and would find restau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:02 AM
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Not just dopamine. Oxytocin is also released, which is the same hormone released when a mother breast feeds her baby. It enforces pair bonding. Clearly it's already had its affect because you are having trouble letting go of this guy. The only way to break free from an addiction is to completely quit it. Same way alcoholics have to be sober.. they can't just have a sip of a drink. Stop having sex with this LVM and you'll end your addiction to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:33 AM
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They are following a script. If you read advice for men online they tell them not to waste time chatting with women, and instead ask them out ASAP. For me, I do not feel safe or comfortable meeting a stranger until I have had a substantial conversation with them, so it is a huge turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:56 PM
2

Not safe. Don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:57 PM
11

That's why people need their own incomes. I would never want to ask permission from a man to own something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:54 PM
5

You're so young you shouldn't even be on OLD. College is the best way to meet young HVM. Join clubs and other student organizations or jobs where you can meet guys. Or ask guys in your classes if you can study with them. You don't need this guy who is low aspiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:50 PM
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I'm sure it felt good for him. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:48 PM
5

25 is too young probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:46 PM
31

I feel like half those guys obsessed with the wall are secretly gay. The way they talk about how attractive mediocre old men are... they are definitely attracted to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:39 PM
12

I'm probably old or something. When did licking pussy become emasculating for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:56 AM
12

Lmao. A guy tried to pull this on me before too. They want a late date so it's "easier" to get you back to their place for the night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:52 AM
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Many think they will automatically get sex after 3 dates. He might have realized that wasn't happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:54 PM
7

Abort mission. He's an old man trying to sleep with you. That's all this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:04 AM
52

A couple of weeks before meeting my boyfriend, I was describing my ideal partner to my friends. I basically described my boyfriend..as if I was having a psychic premonition. However, I'd never tell my boyfriend he's exactly what I was looking for. I want him to think he's lucky to be with me and constantly work to impress me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:38 AM
12

I've found that guys that are interested will ask by the end of the first date. However this also isn't a guarantee; they will text to confirm that night or next day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:04 PM
3

How is he a HVM? Just because he's a surgeon? Because right now I don't see anything High Value about him. Is he pursuing you? Courting you? Or is he just trying to bang?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:39 PM
27

Women aren't happy with their sex lives because we're having sex with porn sick freaks who don't give a damn about our pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:36 PM
45

They also NEVER want to cook for you, because they spend "too much time cooking at work and just want a break."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:34 PM
7

I'm a female health care provider, and I've had male patients ask me to check their genitals (not part of my job), tell me they're getting an erection from my physical exam, or try to grab me while I am examining them. No one really talks about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:30 PM
4

Who the hell dates in Hooters? That'd be an automatic no from me..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:26 PM
9

I think they're just trying to get a general idea of where you live. I know when I was living in NYC, guys would ask that to know what borough I was in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:23 PM
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Yeah, they don't care. They just like the position of power they have and use it to their advantage to harass women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:17 PM
16

Why do you even have to do this? You'll know from your interactions with a guy .. no need to test them. For example, I recently got my period.. was having really bad cramps and laying in bed because of it. My boyfriend asked me what was wrong, and then he said he would give me a massage to help ease the pain. I didn't even ask him to do that; he offered it on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:29 PM
18

Harley isn't really a Pickmeisha.. she's more of a woman in an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:20 PM
5

Guys who have liked me have texted immediately after the date to say they had a good time and eventually plan something again. Guys who dont like me.. never heard from them again. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:39 AM
19

He sounds super lazy which makes him unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:36 AM
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Only date men you are attracted to. Society pressures women not to care about looks, but the end of the day we are sexual beings as well. Who wants to have sex with a man they are not attracted to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:31 AM
16

My abusive controlling ex would send me messages like that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:28 AM
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It is very rare but I believe they exist. The whole point of this sub is to help women go through the crappy dudes to find the good ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:01 PM
9

I'm confused why he's living at your place basically rent free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:00 PM
27

Anyone who has a collection of those funko dolls is an immediate no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 12:10 AM
33

Cats are beautiful animals and make wonderful and lively pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:25 PM
3

I love cooking with my boyfriend. One of my favorite parts of the relationship. We take turns cooking for each other too. BUT, I would never do a cooking date early on when dating. Cooking dates are just an excuse to have sex to a man. A measly home cooked meal is no reason to have sex with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:02 PM
14

Many are saying this is because of hook up culture and dating apps like Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:50 PM
21

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:18 AM
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"Not the first girl" Huh, maybe there's a reason why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:14 AM
38

I actually experienced this. Matched with a guy who didn't know I was roommates with his best friends wife in college. We were texting normally when all of a sudden he sent me some very sexual and inappropiate messages. I called him out on it and asked him if he would've sent that to me if he knew I was friends with his best friend's wife. He admitted he wouldn't and he begged me not to tell them about his behavior. He was pretty terrified of me ruining his reputation among his friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:34 AM
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Yeah this is just what I posted. Same men but they treat women differently based on what app they matched on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:31 AM
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I agree with you that most dating apps have the same pool of men. However, there is some (unfortunate) truth that they will treat you differently depending on which app they meet you on. For example, tinder is known as a hook up app so most guys will think you are just looking to hook up too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:30 AM
4

Yeah that's similar anatomical parts as a dick. Pretty interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:15 AM
33

Do not blame yourself for this. This man is the disgusting one. ​ I went through the same thing and now I extensively search for someone on social media/Google before dating just to be sure I'm not being played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:33 PM
0

Totally disagree with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:57 PM
16

There are so many levels to this Pickmeisha mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:12 PM
28

Sister needs us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:13 PM
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For men in my professional field (medicine), women make so many excuses. "He can't see me, he doesn't text me.. because he is busy!" The thing is, those of us who want to be with someone, will make time for them. They will take time off from studying, they will use their free weekends to see them, and they are capable of sending a few texts in the day if they want to. Many young medical professionals get engaged and married. So yeah, if he's not making effort, it means he doesn't want to. Don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:04 PM
36

Ewwww. Who's he attracting with that profile? Does the mom (who I'm assuming is the primary care giver) know her daughter is being used as a pawn like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:28 PM
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The thing is hot men like Chris Hemsworth wouldn't judge women like that. It's just the bitter ugly basement dwellers that can't get anyone to take a second glance at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:27 PM
15

Let's not call other women here "hunty."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:06 PM
23

They are here to provide support and advice to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:14 PM
9

NYC is the worst place for dating. Men rarely want to commit. Maybe in their 30s+ they will decide it's finally time to "settle down."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:49 PM
5

Could be that they started in similar positions/salaries, and now she has exceeded him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:09 PM
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Men want to actively pursue the one they are interested in because they don't want to lose her. They hope she will give them the time of day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 04:18 PM
13

Yeah she looks fine..lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 04:17 PM
3

Mute them at the very least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 02:24 PM
24

Ok at first I was gonna be like.. maybe he was embarrassed at having you pay so he decided to pay himself. But the fact that he asked you to venmo him the money ? That's really messed up and you are probably right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 04:08 PM
10

No one is gonna be judging your labia like that. Especially if he loves you for who you are. I have asymmetrical breasts and I used to want to get implants because of it. Now I just act like I'm confident and don't care and I think that translates more to men liking it. I would never get implants now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:57 PM
23

How gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 02:57 PM
12

The title of that post made me nauseous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 01:07 PM
6

I'm here because I wish I had this advice and community available to me when I was dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 01:02 PM
59

I would NOT do this at all. Men either say they are feminist to trick you into hooking up with them, or because they think feminist means "will hook up without consequences, supports porn, and wants to pay my bills." I'd actively avoid men who say they are feminist. Rather ask a man his idea on certain topics that are important to me, and see how he treats and talks about other women. Then you know a man's true character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:56 PM
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I might type something up on it later. Will check to see if it's already been done first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:15 AM
11

I think any woman is worthy of this. It's more about finding the right guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:05 AM
16

Get him something thoughtful based on his interests. Pay attention to things he's expressed liking or wishing he had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 02:34 AM
17

She's beautiful. Good for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 01:55 AM
5

Because unfortunately men decide when we are "exclusive" or "in a relationship." If he does not define it as one, then we do not have to treat it as one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:43 PM
41

I would avoid men in the medical field. Most of them feel entitled and have an inflated ego. Read /r/medspouse if you want to see how they treat their girlfriends like shit. Not talking to them for days, not seeing them for weeks at a time, not committing, expecting the woman to cook and clean for them. I've dated multiple doctors and they were all fuckboys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:49 PM
10

Men are the ones trying to manipulate. We are fighting back to get the relationship we deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:30 PM
4

Nah, just for avoiding boring men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:28 PM
48

I only date hot guys. No exception. I would not date a man I am not attracted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:26 PM
12

Your friend needs us. Send her over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:58 PM
13

Have you seen what counts as "barely legal?" It's code for women who look like children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:53 PM
78

Pickmeisha Supreme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:34 PM
16

Wtf is their problem? She isnt dating any of them. Most people swipe right on a lot of people then weed out through their matches. It doesnt even mean shes gonna go on a date with any of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:13 PM
11

Yeah. Also could make you feel bad if his favorite porn star looks vastly different than you ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:02 PM
18

Good point. Here are some other signs before you start sleeping together: he follows porn/adult actress accounts on social media he talks about porn and how hot it would be to watch with a woman (many porn users I've dated have done this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:00 PM
18

I would not do this. Probably easier to ascertain from his sexual functioning. If he has ED in his 20s to 30s I'd assume he's watching too much porn (unless he has some other identifiable health problem).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:35 PM
8

You guys live in the city and he can't even muster up the energy to take you out to a bar? Boy, bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:32 PM
59

If any guy tells me his love language is "physical touch" I ask them what else is their love language...because every guy says physical touch. It's basically a given.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:31 PM
60

Great post. "Sexual compatibility" is one of the biggest lies men tell to get women in bed before a commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:29 PM
1

Yay congrats! Level up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:25 PM
33

He spent a lot of money on you on the first date and thinks that makes him entitled to sex. Typical fuckboy behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:23 PM
11

His attempt at backpedaling isn't even that good because he didn't even offer to take you out to a real date when you obviously didn't like his idea. I wouldn't respond to him again. Looks like you've said enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:28 PM
14

One thing I got out of this post is noticing that she had to even ask him if he was thinking about marriage. Every guy I've dated who was serious about me brought up marriage on his own or made little hints about it like he was thinking about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:27 PM
26

Wtf? Even if he didnt call them hoes.. why the fuck is he telling you he's chatting up other women at what I assume is a bar? Bye bye, loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:14 PM
43

This is so true. Mixed signals = not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:04 PM
135

I had a guy ask me to his house to play board games as a first date. When I told him I was not comfortable doing that and we could play board games at a cafe instead, he retaliated similarly as this guy. Said something like: "Wow I don't know what happened in your life to make you not trust people but I see we are in different places."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:22 PM
4

This dude sounds unhinged. Do we know his sister is safe ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:54 PM
30

Definitely LVM. If a dude has nothing to hide he wont be afraid to get tested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:17 PM
16

Wtf whys he messaging on reddit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:10 PM
15

They always come back for the holidays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:44 PM
163

Why would you marry for money though? Make your own money and don't be forced to rely on a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:42 PM
6

That's what I was thinking too. It's one thing to be obsessed with a guy who isn't into you and try to win him over.. but... flowers? That isn't even masculine. I don't think men would be into that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:55 AM
14

To avoid feeling used, only give what you feel comfortable with. Don't be afraid to say no to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:48 AM
20

This has been going on forever. In the old days, any woman who disagreed some way with the men in her life or with the status quo were declared to have "hysteria" and put into mental institutions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:04 AM
14

Yes, I stayed for him with months thinking "maybe this will be the time we have sex!" It never happened. ​ I think he was either gay or had some erectile problems. Either way; if you aren't having sex and you don't know why, are you anything other than friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:10 AM
9

Depending on your religion there may be. There is a site for marriage minded Jewish people. It's also a match making service and I was given free access to it because the match maker thought I could be good match for some men. I found it pretty overwhelming though; the men on there wanted to commit really quickly. They seemed like genuinely good guys though, and all the ones I met through that site are now married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:08 AM
80

Don't believe that. Even fat, ugly, and old men can cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:46 PM
3

Nothing compares to the weight of your stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:38 AM
31

"Every woman has at least one guy talking to himself in her DMs."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:35 AM
8

Seriously? She shouldve shut him down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:47 AM
4

Forget about him. Never get caught up on a guy before any real commitment happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:35 PM
25

I wouldn't have given him the option to hit you up again because you clearly don't want to see him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:24 PM
3

Take the rackets and leave. Don't give him the honor of hearing any of your words. He doesn't deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:46 PM
2

What app is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:44 PM
16

Maybe keep worrying about your small dick instead of insulting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:39 PM
6

JSwipe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:02 AM
2

Done! Banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:12 AM
264

I said no to my ex who proposed to me as well. Best decision of my life. Didn't know it at the time, but turns out he was a cheating scumbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:03 PM
7

Never take back a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 08:35 PM
32

This is so embarrassing for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 08:34 PM
8

https://youtu.be/wyHSo2Jd-58 Why didnt this become a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 02:56 PM
13

Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:37 PM
29

Someone here posted that some men treat dating apps like uber eats for sex and it's so true. Who's gonna go to a stranger's house the first time they meet them? That is so unsafe and men obviously do it because they think it'll be easier to get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:25 AM
13

Ladies, please don't settle for a man you don't find attractive (both physically and emotionally). This is horrible advice. There are millions of guys out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:22 AM
4

The thing that guys don't get is... why even make the joke in the first place? All jokes come from a place of truth in the eye of the joker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:18 AM
48

I dated a guy who writes on his resume that he went to X uni (big famous one in US). But he never actually graduated and dropped out. So he doesnt have a BA degree but makes it seem like he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:06 PM
213

This is like a poem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 03:55 PM
29

Even your own place isn't safe. My ex hide a camera in my room. He recorded us having sex and who knows what else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 10:02 PM
1

You have control on how you want to answer that question. If you want to take it as a chance to say you are looking for a relationship, then say that. If you are hoping to strike up a convo on common interests (maybe his fav song is the same as yours? you thought something on his profile struck your eye?), then do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:53 PM
3

Don't go out with a guy who refuses to give you a proper first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 11:18 PM
4

"Lol" And you're right. HVM aren't on Tinder. And maybe French men suck ass! I dated a French guy who was married and never told me... I caught him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 11:12 PM
39

Porn is a public health crisis. Young, otherwise healthy, men can't get erections anymore! Ban porn. Shame porn users!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 11:10 PM
2

Don't follow up. He should make the first move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:59 PM
8

Lmao. Why pay that much if he's gonna regret it if the outcome doesn't go his way? You're not responsible for how much he pays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:57 PM
2

What's the original post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 11:29 PM
4

Dump any guy who talks about his ex a lot. It's normal to discuss exes sometimes, but not bringing them up all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 10:04 PM
2

He should ask you to be his girlfriend... If he's dragging it on, then dump him and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 09:52 PM
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