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First step is to take feedback as a gift and to not take that shit personal. Too many guys are way to insecure to accept feed back for what it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:49 AM
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Fuck. This is all kinds of wrong. You wife is cucking you in front of your damn kids and you thinks it's cute banter? Find a man in you life and ask them what they think. You are blinded dude.
/r/askMRP15/09/19 11:48 AM
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WTF is going on here. The fact that you dtart this post with "My wife has a boyfriend" tells me all I need to know. Get divorced, don't get divorced. Stay and be a cuck or leave - does not matter. You don't seem to get it. MRP is about you. What is your purpose? What are your goals? I have been gone from MRP for a while and I can't believe the fagtastic cuddling you have gotten on this post. Do whatever you want because it does not matter. Your wife and the strange cock she is swallowing is not …
/r/askMRP15/09/19 11:40 AM
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This. I work in tech and I am amazed at how many people are afraid of taking risk - mostly because they don't want to own the consequences. "What if it fails?" Then you learn shit and improve. I just got $200k approved for a very experimental project today (where other teams are getting budget cuts). So experimental I call it my OPUS. I never thought it would be approved - but I put in the work selling the project - and I actually asked! This year I have to decided to be aggressive as hell, take…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/18 11:25 PM
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Dude. This is NOT a shit test. These are the action of a woman that DNGAF.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 10:57 PM
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Exactly. If my wife is on her phone, I leave.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 10:56 PM
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Exactly as u/Rian_Stone stated. OP was a fucking orbiter in the past - which he does not realize. Women don't have emotional affairs. Men don't have emotional affairs. There are just beta fucks who women use as emotional tampons while they wait for a "Chad" that is "worthy" enough to take her in the ass. He is a future failure because via his language/narrative he has not recognized or learned from his past.
/r/askMRP09/08/18 06:57 PM
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The fact that you stated that you had an "emotional affair" tells me all I need to know about you. Gods speed to your next failed relationship.
/r/askMRP09/08/18 02:13 AM
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This weekend my 6yr old son and I did some yard work. I have raised him to be lazy as fuck so I am fixing that. When we finished I was about to tell him "go show your mom how great the yard looks". But then I thought "why the fuck am I training my son to seek validation from women". I told him he did a great job. He seemed to be happy just knowing that he accomplished something. Stop seeking validation. Do shit for you. If she appreciates it great. If not, she can move on.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 01:41 PM
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Kudos for staying with your sick LTR. But, you sir are not healthy. MGTOW should not be a excuse for being a fat ass. It's unhealthy. And yeah, we will all die eventually- it's quality of life that counts.
/r/askMRP15/07/18 11:14 PM
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Whew. A LTR? She does not give a shit OP. You can't really set "boundaries" cause she DNGAF about the relationship and you do. Think about this - if you had a manager or peer at work would you cancel meetings or be late all the time? If you we dating a chick that added value to your life and was genuinely fun, would you brush her off constantly? Maybe you can fix this but boundaries are the symptom to the problem which is most likely you.
/r/askMRP15/07/18 11:11 PM
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It's not blame. It's taking responsibility for your actions (ownership). I don't give a fuck what he does. Just own it. Blame is a lack of ownership. But agree about Ols Yeller.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/18 07:39 PM
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You got jerking off wrong. You move up, then down. Not down, then up.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 02:23 PM
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A tidbit I posted a while ago. "Thanks Stone - I really like your post. Burden of performance - agree. What's funny is that the prior week she aske me to be more "romantic" - so dumb as fuck for me to follow that advice. Newbie mistake. So I have been thinking a lot about this - if you'll hear me out. For me I think it's about Active Game vs. Passive Game (dread/attractiveness). It's about being a man that women are willing to fuck vs. a man that women want to fuck. At this point I am a guy that…
/r/askMRP03/07/18 02:18 AM
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Assuming your cycle is every 28 days? There is no cycle in a relationship. You either get a chick who is hopping off the CC and happily take you beta bucks role or maybe....just maybe you were a BAMF (bad ass mother fucker) and got lazy. Most guys here are the former and I'd guess that for OP as well. There is no cycle. There is only you. You OYS and lift or you don't. If you never take your foot off the pedal you never come to a stop (well, until you die).
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 01:06 AM
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Do I smell a new sub? R/actMRP
/r/askMRP03/07/18 12:29 AM
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"I want her to want to fuck me" LOL. Welcome to the next level of MRP. The first level for some guys here is just actually fucking their wife on a consistent basis (even duty or starfish). The next level is creating your slut. The slut level is a mix of OYS and becoming hawt. You did not brag about your body or your grooming - so my assumption is that you do the basics. You also indicated that you are home too much. Fix that shit. And monk mode is not the answer. Unless you have a six pack (whic…
/r/askMRP03/07/18 12:24 AM
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You can't fix depression. My wife suffers from it. If you have Netflix watch "Three Mics" by Neil Brennon. It's funny and he does a good job of explaining it a bit. My wife and I have been married for 18yrs but it has not been easy on many fronts. She has been seeing a psychiatrist for 6+ years. She was on meds for a while. I did not know she had it until we were married for like 10yrs. Anyway. It's a bitch. Or, maybe you wife fuck Chad like others have said. The only thing you can do is be her …
/r/askMRP02/07/18 12:25 AM
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Thanks for the clarification. I brought up her behavior because it is a source of feedback. Sometimes women are bitches because they are bitches. Sometimes they are bitches because they hate the beta they chose. Either way - feedback. Good luck with the divorce and going solo. I know it's not an easy decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 09:18 PM
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Got it. So you think your only issue is the two months you lost frame. So be it. You are your own judge so, that is that. It also sounds like you either don't want to be married or are justifying getting divorced via your "Cost Per Fuck" post. I don't care either way, just be clear on what you want. If you are crying about getting divorced (and you are initiating the proceedings) how much you want it? From your post (and maybe I am missing something) your wife does not seem to be a harpy bitch. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 07:17 PM
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1) Stop being a bitch. No need for an apology here. But you did fuck. 2) How did you fuck up? You made a negative association with yourself and sex/intimacy by shitting on her kissing skills (why does this sound like a highschool girl conversation?). It's not really the kiss that you want, it's the need to feel desired which is demonstrated by a good deep kiss with soft lips and maybe some tongue (vs. the hard lip peck). Why can't you initiate the 10 sec kiss? At the end of the day you fiance is…
/r/askMRP30/06/18 03:57 PM
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100% agree with Bo. You lost your job, had a mental breakdown and were AWOL for two weeks. Mental illness and drug dependence are real issues, but what did you expect your wife to do? She did exactly what a woman who depends on a man should do - she started kicking the tires. That hurt your ego so you decide to burn it down? Red, you have been here for a while, so I am sure you will do you. But, are you really burning it down or are you abandoning ship? Hell, what's the difference?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 02:53 PM
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Late comment but you'd be surprised with what a little confidence and cockiness can do. Take what you want from your wife, your career, your family - no one is going to give it to and don't ask permission. I think the craziest thing I have done is basically face fuck my wife in a 69. She was on her back sucking me off, I got on top and you can imagine the rest. I thought she was going to be pissed (like you) but she did not care I was owning my shit and she wanted to please me. Keep up the good …
/r/askMRP29/06/18 05:12 AM
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I found it funny that your wife walked out of counseling. My wife did not walk out, but we quit our counseling after about 4-5 months. Among other things (many valid), my 2ife thought that our counselor was on "my side".
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 12:50 AM
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I don't know if this is what MCT was getting at, but your post is "meh". "I got myself together, my wife fucks me and life is good." What are the lessons? How did you struggle? What did you learn? What level of texture can you give to the basic learnings? Sex is the ultimate strategy, but one of the lessons you should have learned is that to keep the beast at bay you have to constantly improve - be living on the razors edge (there's a good post about that here or on Ask MRP). Your post sounds li…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 12:31 AM
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Frame is your narrative. It's your point of view. Is the glass half empty or half full? Is your wife a bitch or a bratty little girl? Is your boss a dick or did he just give you some great feedback? It all depends on your narrative. It all depends on your frame. How do you interpret the feedback from the world? That's your frame. When you get home and your SO is in a bitchy mood, do you get in a bad mood? That means you have no frame. Do you know why you do what you do every day? No. Then you ha…
/r/askMRP05/06/18 10:53 PM
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Exactly RPC. I don't give a fuck either way. I just think it's interesting that OP lies to his wife but is compelled to be honest with a side piece. Be moral or amoral, who cares - just be consistent. The situational morality is what gets me. Who you are at your worst is really who you are. I think that version of ourselves scares a lot of us and maybe it should.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 10:39 PM
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Stevie - I think you have gotten some good advice here. I am in a similar place mentally. I feel like I am at a crossroads. I am cruising right now. My life can get exceptionally better over the next 10yrs or exceptionally worse. It's all on me but fuck - for some reason I don't have the hustle I had in my 20's. I am looking to reboot my shit. Like some other have stated...I feel like I have been larping a bit because I don't have a mission. I did have one. Mission accomplished, but I obviously …
/r/askMRP05/06/18 03:39 AM
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So he gave more fucks about this strange than the mother of of his kids. Interesting choice of morals.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 03:32 AM
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Look. I don't know about you but I have had chicks do "whatever" for sex. Sex on the first date. Them calling me for a 2am bootie call. Some random drunk chick who can home with my roommate and his gf - she slipped into my room and gave me an unexpected hj and bj. My gf (now wife) used to give me unsolicited bj's in college. She'd wait for me naked in bed. I used to have an apartment with no bed and this one chick was happy to just fuck on the floor. If a chick is horny and thinks you are hawt -…
/r/askMRP05/06/18 12:25 AM
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Negotiating for sex is not a display of higher SMV. So, that's that.
/r/askMRP04/06/18 02:13 AM
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I'd just say rock your shit and keep moving on. Wallowing in negative thoughts will not get you shit. My pretty recent story. Company A: It was my dream job. I busted my ass for two years. I was working only with cross functional partners 1-3 levels above meet. I was implementing huge company wide programs that had never been done before. After 2yrs, I asked to be promoted to director or I'd walk. I was told that I was not ready for promotion. I walked. I had an offer waiting (abundance). Compan…
/r/askMRP25/05/18 10:58 PM
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Remember to think of sex as a sign of progress vs. a source of validation (looks like you are doing it right). ABP - always be progressing. I have been married almost 18yrs. Marriage is still rocky for a lot of reasons, but MRP is making me a better man. The wife has commented on my abs (just peeking out), my ass (thanks DL's) and one night said that my shoulders looked like those from a Roman statue (WTF?). Prior to MRP BJ's had pretty much come to a stop or were only for the shitty b-day bj ( …
/r/askMRP24/05/18 12:51 AM
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My kid is doing something similar in CA. Testing is all week and can be stressful for some kids. So they recommend that your kids get a lot of sleep and be fully rested. I think the test are more important for schools (ranking, performance, funding) than the kids. I think when I was a kid it was called the Iowa Test of Basic Skills.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 05:06 PM
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The simple answer is that you are still buttthurt. And this post shows you still care. Women are experts at covert communication and you've been made. Double down on creating abundance and making yourself busy.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 04:56 PM
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I'd revise that to say Mother's Day can be a covert contract vs. it is a covert contract. I also agree that respect, appreciation and affection should be shown on a consistent basis when deserved - that is relationship 101. Part of being a good leader is celebrating successes and hard work. If I celebrate a success of my son or daughter - is that a covert contract? Probably not. The same goes for my wife and exactly the reason I posted my comment. A lot of guys here think that being on "hard mod…
/r/askMRP14/05/18 06:00 PM
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Touche.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 01:56 AM
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Look, 90% of the time if your wife disrespects you it's because you deserve it. Maybe 10% of the time she is just being a bitch. It's not really the gift that counts, it's the giver. A woman despises a gift from a low value male - it feels like burden. Don't be that guy. Also, give because you want to not because you expect something. Never go "overboard" unless it is something you want to do anyway. That way if shit ensues, you just leave her and go enjoy yourself. FYI, Mrs. Chis did a drive by…
/r/askMRP14/05/18 01:55 AM
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What about MILF day?
/r/askMRP14/05/18 01:40 AM
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Agreed. I used to do this shit on Mom's day for validation and hopefully some drip drop pussy. This is good cautionary satire - for those that get it. "Like to remind her that she is not my mom" - nice and subtle. I got my wife this leather bracelet with some chunky jewelry in it (she asked that general gift). She opened it and then said, "now I just need to find somewhere to wear it out to". A nice reminder that I need to treat her more like a girlfriend/MILF.
/r/askMRP13/05/18 07:45 PM
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While all this is funny, if you have a good first mate - fucking treat her right on Mother's Day. Not for pussy, not for validation but because you are fucking human and you appreciate relationships that add value to your life. "But Crimson_Chis I'm MRP on hard mode!" No you're not pussy - you are larping and still figuring out what it means to be a man. Giving the mother of your child(ren) a bit of appreciation does not make you less of a man, but it also won't make you more of a man. If you re…
/r/askMRP13/05/18 06:32 PM
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Yeah. Nothing wring wrong with it but just not worth the risk for me at 42. Well, the only thing that really worries me is squats. Would rather avoid injuries as they take longer to heal past 30.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 02:24 AM
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LOL. I could do five BP reps of 225, but I started out on 135 for DL @ two years ago. I had always avoided them. I am up to DL of 295 for 5 reps now. They are an awesome exercise but not easy to learn.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 02:21 AM
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This is so true. Most guys lack frame or self control and that is why situations get out if hand. MRP has been a big help with me controlling conversations as well as myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 11:18 PM
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Get a better trainer. You primarily lose weight by eating less, not exercising more. A dumbass trainer should know this. Fuck a 1rm. I think past the age of 30 most guys are just setting yourself up for injury with a 1rm. And pussy does not care what your 1rm is. That was a long fuck post to say "Lose the ego", but the message is well received. Most of the problems guys have can be solved by losing the ego (which btw is not the same as having confidence).
/r/askMRP11/05/18 11:10 PM
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She fucked an ex-con with a motorcycle. She wanted sex more than you. She told you to read up on TRP. She told you to get some strange. She is sleeping somewhere else and probably getting some strange cock as you write this post. You my friend are deep in her frame and basically a cuck. Don't dig through the trash. She is overtly telling you that she has NO fucking respect for you. Burn this shit down a start over. She is practically asking you to. I rarely ever recommend divorce be you have cre…
/r/askMRP11/05/18 10:46 PM
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Eh. Not really Rambo. It was the right decision but the "wrong" narrative. I say "wrong" because you don't have a vision/mission (at least where your first mate is concerned). Without this your wife does not see the bigger picture. As a leader it is your job to articulate this. A woman would do almost anything, with no question, for an alpha with a mission. Five years ago I let a piece of property that was $30k under water go into foreclosure (a fucking hard decision). I also sold our old house …
/r/askMRP09/05/18 04:04 AM
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Pinning that one for the son. Almost forgot about it.
/r/askMRP08/05/18 12:51 PM
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100% agree here.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 07:24 PM
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Oh...also the worst thing you can do is start to become the man you can be, and then stop. You have basically proven to her that you were a fraud. That "better" version of you was not real. She got her hope up, opened up to you - but only to be disappointed. It sucks but the grind never stops. Your value is always relative to your best. If you slip, it will be noticed. That being said, be your own judge, but be objective. I had a year of gains (life was great) followed by about 5 months of slack…
/r/askMRP05/05/18 05:23 PM
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She does not care if you actually "love" her, she wants to feelz loved. My wife used to talk about not feeling loved or secure/safe. For women, "love" is the byproduct of being with a high value man who has his shit together. Combine that with dread and she will feelz "loved" by you rewarding her with your presence. My wife kept coming up to me this morning and giving me these long hugs. She said, "I want you to know that you stepping it up for the last few weeks has not gone unnoticed". She is …
/r/askMRP05/05/18 04:13 PM
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So you have been at this (MRP) for 3-4 months and you are already stepping out? If you are such a great guy now why is your wife only reluctantly fucking you? You start off this post about how your marriage was fucked and how your wife resented you. That sounds like a victim speaking to me. That is not the language of a man with frame. You were just living in a world that you created. I will say there was some larping in the rest of your post that sounds like DNGAF/OI. Look. There is a fine line…
/r/askMRP05/05/18 03:59 PM
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u/hack3ge - you say you don't care, but you do. Your whole post is about the changes you have made.....to get your wife to fuck you. She still would not fuck you, so you found a woman who knows nothing about you to fuck. And you got your validation. Morally I DNGAF. So yeah. Some chick who has not had to deal with your sorry ass (based on your SO choosing to sleep on the couch) decided to fuck you. Now you have the confidence to stand up to your wife? Why did your wife hate and resent you? How h…
/r/askMRP04/05/18 11:47 PM
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I get it. When one parent starts to improv it makes both parents as a unit look weak. Kids smell that shit like chum in the water. It's not about the icecream. It's about being a team. Give her a good spanking when she gets home and I am sure you can come up with your own icecream innuendo for her to fulfill.
/r/askMRP04/05/18 11:29 PM
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Cool do the basics. Lift. Read. STFU. STFU. And STFU again. It may feel good to pour your heart out to your spouse, but it's just one more thing she has to worry about. Not attractive. It's tougher for you. She gave up her career to raise your seed and you turned out to be a shitty man. I have been there and I am slowly starting to turn it around. My advice to you is to stick with advice from the guys in the locker room.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 11:19 PM
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Wow. Looked at your post history. Running to tell mommy about your fapping problem? Now she's setting the stage for selling the house (which I assume you paid for since she is a SAHM)? STFU. Read. Lift. And don't complain to your wife about shit. Right now you are just another kid in the house for her to worry about.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 10:26 PM
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It also attests to setting the tone for a relationship early.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 03:37 PM
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You were butthurt. This post is about your wife refusing to kiss you, not about you turning down sex. Passionate kisses, BJ's, anal or whatever kink you want to have your wife perform comes down to attractiveness and emotion (being her OAK). Her submissiveness is a byproduct. I used to always get those shitty pecks on the way out the door. My wife would fuck me, but we'd never kiss during sex. If I tried, she'd move her head. The deep kiss was as much a pleasure thing as it was validating for me…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 03:15 PM
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It seems like everything is great except for the one thing that makes you more than "just friends". 1) Like you said, cut the porn. I wish I had found MRP when I was 30. Porn is just a distraction and it can fuck up your sex drive. 2) Start gaming you wife. It looks like you are in a good place. Always treat her like a gf, not a wife. Make her laugh. Let her know that you want to fuck her. 3) Double down on SGM. Particularly on Emotion. The more you get her to open up emotionally, the more she w…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 04:25 AM
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Whether this game is lame or not, the gist of the post is important. Condition your wife to understand that your relationship is sexual. You can do it through multiple ways. But keep improving and evaluate. I had stopped flirting with my wife for a long time. I brought it back with MRP. I have a talent for making the most innocculous statement or situation sexual with the wife. It has gotten to the point now that she beats me to the draw on most of our little sexual jokes. So now she is conditio…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 04:11 AM
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LOL. I don't know. The level of a woman's cuntiness (as you know) is porportional to the depth of a man's betaness. My marriage is by no ways perfect now, but my wife could not sleep this morning. So she woke me up at @ 3am to fuck. This is the same woman who less than two years ago told me that she had a low libido and weak orgasms. About two months ago she called me at work because she was having boomerang orgasms. She was spontaneously cumming the morning after we had sex. Two years ago she w…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 02:04 AM
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I have been surprised by the feedback here. Just sounds like a lot of victim puke about how bitchy his wife is. Sounds like a marriage Eeyore would have.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 12:40 AM
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Haha. I know what the "gas milage" expression means. I was questioning how that relates to family outings. Are you referring to the benefit varying? Again, if you do it for yourself you don't expect anything in return. They are all just coming along for the ride.
/r/askMRP28/04/18 11:51 PM
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Is she still constantly late? It's hard to give a solution here without detail. Why do yku think she does not respect your time? Do you respect yourself? Do yku have a mission/map? Your wife being constantly late is a symptom of other issue. Or maybe you should buy her a better watch. Look. If my wife were late once, not a big issue. If it continues to happen hire a sitter and deduct it from some portion of the budget that she spends on herself. Now this only can work if you are OYS. Are you? It…
/r/askMRP28/04/18 10:13 PM
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Be a better captain. If she is constantly late make sure you sandbag/build in a buffer. In college (pre-cell phone), I had a 10-min rule with my wife and friends. If you were +10mins late to anything I would no longer wait for you. It worked like a charm. A lot of people got left behind, but a clear boundary was set. Also, it's also obvious that your wife does not value your time. What boundary are you willing to enforce? That is the real question.
/r/askMRP28/04/18 09:59 PM
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"I get pretty good gas mileage" - what does that mean? You should be pulling your wife and kids into things you enjoy. What should you do? Do cool shit that you like to do. I take my kids to the library about 3 weekends a month. They get regular books, but they are also into comic books and graphic novels because I am into that. I have one weekend day a month set aside to take my daughter sailing. I like the water and a local college has sailing classed that are free and open to the public every…
/r/askMRP28/04/18 09:51 PM
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Here's the deal. I sometimes struggle with this as well. There have been some good post here about "The Prisoner's Dilemma" - read up on those. At the end of the day you should set the tone for your house. As it has been stated, game her for yourself. Become the fun and fit guy that women want to fuck. I tease my kids wether they are in a good mood or not. Same with the wife. Now, sometimes I do think "Why should I be nice to her if she is being a bitch"? I have come to realize that by engaging …
/r/askMRP28/04/18 05:20 PM
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It looks like you have a lot of issues. .01 | Money doesn't mean shit ($2m in real estate). .02 | You smoke and prob drink too much. If you don't respect your body, why should other people respect you? .03| Dread? Dread is the byproduct of increasing your SMV. You seem to have a lot of unattractive behaviorals. .04 | You care way too much about what your wife says. Especially a pregnant wife. You need to spend more time on the sidebar and shutting up. .05 | Leave. It looks like your wife is bett…
/r/askMRP28/04/18 05:04 PM
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Too many guys are worried about their wives feelz. Women get off on feelz. Stop trying to fix them and just ride the wave. My wife was in a shitty mood yesterday because of school. I kissed her when I got home and made a joke. She said (jokingly), "Stop trying to make me laugh. I want to be mad". I said "Okay grumpy." Slapped her ass and took my leave." It's ot rocket science. Women communicate geelz. Guys communicate facts. Your facts won't give her the feelz.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 09:00 PM
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Meh. I call bullshit. Changes = behaviors, not thoughts. If you truely turn it around from Red to Blue she will be on board and submit or the marriage will eventually blow up. We tell guys here to STFU, but I overtly set communication boundaries with my wife about 6months into MRP (she basically referred to me as her third child). But, that was preceded by 6months of behavior changes. I overtly let her know that shit was changing (again, paired with actiin). If you are truly RP, how the fuck can…
/r/askMRP20/04/18 10:53 PM
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People tend to hate other that remind them of the worse in themselves.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 10:39 PM
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Troll right? This shit can't be real.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 10:37 PM
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I feel like the frame is off for this post. Way too many "she's". It should not be about what kind of life have you given your wife. What kind of life have you given yourself? Her being bored is a symptom of you being a boring man. Focus on not being a boring guys vs. trying to entertain a woman for validation. The general premise of this post is right, but do this shit for yourself. Be a fun guy with and interesting life. Pussy will come (pun intended).
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 02:34 PM
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Men want fucks. Women want feelz. Feelz come in a lot of different packages and one is fun. Going Rambo will not give your wife feelz. So don't be boring. Also to note, if you are still a shitty captain being "fun" (a.k.a. dancing monkey) will not fix an otherwise fucked life. A woman wants to have "fun" with an attractive guy. So as it has been said, noobs should proceed with caution here.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 02:29 PM
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I think one small but important omission is do fun, exciting shit that you enjoy. Either she comes among or not. Trying to guess what will be "fun" for a woman is a fools errand. She will also smell your desperation a mile away. This is all under the assumption that you are actually a fun guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 02:19 PM
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Eh. Is it just semantics here. My wife may not want to fuck me if she is mad at me, but she does it anyway because she desires me. Nothing like a good hate fuck. Although I don't think that is OP's issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 12:56 AM
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I have to agree with Perry here. My wife does not have a high libido, but we still had sex when she was pregnant. I can't really remember, but I am pretty sure we started having sex again @ two months after our first kid was born (maybe sooner). If I was keen to MRP at the time I am sure it would have rebounded quicker. But, women do take time to heal from childbirth - so take it slow. My wife is also on the feminist kick. She also knows that I am all about male rights and I don't pander to her …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 12:47 AM
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Haha. I am in the smooth ball camp. I keep my pubes well manicured. If I did ever step out on my wife, my cock and balls would not be buried in the Amazon for who ever is up next. Oh, and I never had my balls sucked until I shaved them.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 12:25 AM
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It's all a power play. A woman will never be "happy" in a relationship where she has a man with a lower SMV. That is why relationships built on the foundation of Oneitis are doomed. What's funny is how much women will fight (shit test) any new found confidence from a historically shitty Captain. She thinks she wants power in the relationship, but once she has it - she will begin to resent her partner.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:48 PM
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You still give too many shits. As you give less shits about your wife because you are living your mission, you have a social life, you are verile and hawt from eating like a god and hitting iron - the more women (and possibly your wife) will be drawn to you. If you are actively thinking about it, you are not there. And it's not just about being physically attractive (but that is part of the puzzle). This weekend my wife did something bitchy so I withdrew my attention. She confronted me later by …
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:00 PM
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A woman will do anything for a man she wants to please. Become a higher value male or find a lower value woman. Also - what is your confidence like? Have you read SGM?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 04:38 PM
1

I am trying fasting every other day for 60DOD. One week in and I am feeling great. 4hr window for the days I eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 09:11 PM
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People here don't know what they are talking about. I have been reading up on fasting for a year. It is safe for most people. Fasting is superior to reduced calorie as well. With no carbs your body goes into ketosis and mostly eats fat vs. muscle. You body also ups HGH production. My goal right now is to do 60 days of iterative day fasting (with OMAD on the days I eat). I am one week in and feeling great so far.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 09:09 PM
2

Nice story. I have had a bit if a slump lately. My libido is shit. Passion and variety of sex have dropped off a bit ( my fault). I was about to start fucking the wife last night. I try to roll her over and she says "I' tired of missionary. Don't you have some positions from the porn you watch?". It was funny. I have not watched porn in almost a year. In the past she has joked about how I liked "kinky sex" and our "marathon" sex session were too much for weekdays (but okay for weekends). Now thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 05:03 AM
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So "ego" can be a person's self esteem or self importance. Or at least that is what Webster says. What you want to kill is self importance. It's not always about you. You need to stop internalizing your wife's bullshit whenever she complains to you. Stop giving a fuck and white knighting her every whim. Stop taking offense when she complains about whatever the fuck her feelz is compelling her to bitch about at the moment. This helps you be the Oak. This is attractive. There is another side to th…
/r/askMRP13/04/18 03:05 AM
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Little death. Haha.
/r/askMRP13/04/18 02:55 AM
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What you eat does matter. Especially as you age. It's not just about calories, but basic nutrition. You need the right vitamins, amino acids and all the BS for your body to both perform and heal itself. 1,800 calories from donuts or a well balanced diet are not equal.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 12:12 AM
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A man who is whole and fulfilled will typically have a great marriage. Expecting a marriage/woman to fulfill you is the Blue Pill dream.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 11:58 PM
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Thanks for the post on a not so fun subject. Your #4 is key for me. Winners do things that other people don't have the discipline to do. With hunger you have to find comfort in the discomfort. I have always been able to push that extra rep, but have not been successful at pushing away from the table. But, its hard to wait for that second marshmellow. I have all the muscle I need for now, so I am focusing on getting cut for 60DOD. My stretch goal is to lose 30lbs (hopefully mostly fat) in 60days.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 03:26 AM
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When football, R&M and MRP converge.
/r/askMRP07/04/18 03:38 AM
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"Maybe it is simply oneitis" | Your wife told you she wants to suck some strange cock and your response is that you "love" her a d separating "scares" you. Get out dude. You are in the "Sunken Place" for blue pill men. She does not respect you and most likely never will. Well....unless Rick mutates the entire population of earth and a Mad Max scenario goes down and she gets the tingles from watching you kick some mutant ass.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 02:21 PM
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This. Hopefully there are some guys here who were not total fuck ups before they met their SO. If so, become that guy again. Over the past almost two years I have been on the road to be that guy again (in college). I was in shape with a six pack. I was running game on multiple girls (always had a back up plan so DNGAF). Had a high paying job lined up at a top firm once I graduated. Even in college I was great with money , worked and saved to buy my own car. I also knew how to cook, clean and tak…
/r/askMRP01/04/18 03:13 PM
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That sounds like a long ass workout. I guess to each his own. I do a 3x6. No warm up. As heavy as I can go for 6 reps, 3 sets. I am 42. Stretching and/or yoga is key. (225 BP, 135 OHP, 275 SQ, 275 DL) - that is what I work with, not my max. I get in and out in 50mins.
/r/askMRP30/03/18 07:58 PM
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LOL. Now I feelz confident I can do anything. Thanks RR.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 01:06 AM
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And to elaborate, your question was what should confidence be based on. I may be confident that I can jump over the grand canyon, but that confidence is based on a delusion. The sequence I outlined are four foundations for confidence which are real - actions not thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 12:45 AM
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Nope. I fully know what I wrote. Everyone knows when the Emperor has no pants. No one just has the heart to tell him.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 12:39 AM
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We can agree to disagree. There is confidence and foolishness. Fools will always be found out. What are you packing?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 12:35 AM
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The length of a post is not directly proportional to its value. Confidence = experience + skill + intelligence + persistence. My order is specific. If you don't have experience, then lean into your transferable skills. If you don't have any relevant skills, then lean into your intelligence (ability to learn/adapt). If you are dumb as rocks, be persistent. You can be irrationally confident or have the toolkit to figure shit out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 12:29 AM
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Just be prepared. Read up on the responsibilities of taking care of an aging and sick parent. If you don't have a plan it can wreck a marriage. Once she gets sicker you guys will be her primary caretaker - and it will be like having a sick, irritable child in the house. You will have to wash her, clean and pick her up when she falls. You will be responsible for doctors visit and possible multiple incidents of the kids seeing grandma taken to the hospital in an ambulance. The upside is that you, …
/r/askMRP26/03/18 03:00 PM
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Simple. Be a man of action. Practice continual improvement. Respect yourself. Respect yourself = Do you keep your word? Are you fit? Do you have a plan? Are you organized? Respect is usually a lagging indicator that you have your shit together. Failure. If you are continuously improving, you will continue to fail. At a minimum, failure is an acknowledgement that you can do better. So, be a man of action.
/r/askMRP26/03/18 02:48 PM
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There was a good article on The Seven Habits of Highly Effective people this week (need to re-read that book). It reminded me of "The Circle of Influence (COI)" and "The Circle of Concern (COC) " and how they relate to MRP. A lot of guys come in here and go rambo. That is because their COC is bigger than their COI. They go setting up "boundaries" and expecting their SO's behavior to change because this noob had one month of MRP under his belt. What these new guys should be focused on is themselv…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 03:26 PM
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Exactly. Long story, but my daughter has ADHD. My wife is a SAHM - so my wife handles the brunt of the issues. My wife also a woman- so stress + emotions = temp insanity. But, in all honesty our daughter is a fucking handfull (luv her). Anyway so earlier this week while my wife is exercising, she gets a a call from the school @ our daughter. We just switched ADHD meds, so the last two months have been extra shitty for her. My wife calls me amd loses her shit. I can't even go into the verbal vomi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 03:12 PM
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I partially stayed because I was a scared pussy with oneitis. I also stayed because 90% of any harpy shit from my wife has been due to my tipsy captaining. She's no snowflake, but I have not had to put up with 90% of the shit in your post. She is a good woman/person (for now) and supports me. I am 100% aware that can change at any moment. Our relationship has been a lagging indicator of my improment (or decline).
/r/askMRP17/03/18 11:00 PM
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Gonna get a little emotional with feelz. This is why I love this fucking forum. Great advice Red.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 04:56 PM
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You comforted her with a spending spree vs. being her Oak. I've moved my family twice- each time has been a huge upheaval for the wife. In each she had no friends, family or job in the new place. The Captain does need to make sure the crew feelz good about the course they are about to navigate. Neither move went as planned. My biggest fuck up with my wife was not being her Oak and providing comfort. Money only delays the problems.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 03:15 AM
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"Read all the stuff in the sidebar".
/r/askMRP07/03/18 03:53 PM
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What would you do if your kids were out of line? Take the same approach. Well, unless you don't have kids or are a pushover as a dad. If she withholds sex as a weapon A) she values sex (and what she gets from sex) less than you B) she does not fear losing anything as a byproduct of withholding sex. Eitherway you cut it, she does not value your time and attention or you give it too freely. Women like to live above their means. If she thinks you are beneath her you are in for a shitty ride.
/r/askMRP02/03/18 09:18 PM
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OP's bar is extremely low.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 01:25 AM
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Revision: 100% of women think what they feelz.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 01:16 AM
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Agree with you in this - exercise is a horrible way to lose weight. If you run a marathon you won't even burn off a 1lb.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 01:36 AM
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What about sprints? I don't think there is anything wrong with running. It depends on why you do it. Running is great for cardiovascular (heart) health. My son also plays soccer. Via running I am able to keep up with him (for now - he's only 6, but they fucking run a lot). Some say yoga is gay as well, but it's also good for your overall health - especially as you age. And there are mostly young hot chicks at yoga.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 01:34 AM
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I think it helped that I had a firm MRP base. I had started lifting again. Lost about 15lbs and added muscle. I was also OMS around the house. I was managing shit and comfort test. I'd say 90% of the typical marriage issues MRP took care of. Sex was back 2-3 times a week with good quality. She initiated regularly. It all went south early last year before going to the MC due to a big set back. I took a job that came with an +1hr commute. She felt like I was "abandoning" her. It brought back a lot…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 01:10 AM
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LOL. We have had some "mini events" - definitively.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 01:02 AM
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One thing to note is that base salary is not everything. I took a new job recently and my pay would have been higher than my manager. I took a 1% pay cut but got a 12% signing bonus. I work in tech you can also negotiate for annual bonus % and stock. Be creative. Sometimes a recruiter can't budge on salary but other things are negotiable.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 01:01 AM
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My wife and I were in therapy for about six months. This was about 1.5yrs into my MRP journey. The primary focus was to improve communication, translated that really meant the my wife has some deep seeded resentment and needed help letting it go (and she wanted help). Our therapist leveraged Gottman. It would have been a 100% failure if I had not been MRP aware. We never talked about sex, chores, finances or any of that shit. We solely focused on the Four Horsemen and how to start having more po…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 09:27 PM
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that past does have some meaning, but it is not end-it-all. If you were a looser in the past, be a winner today. Or tomorrow. Learn the lesson So is examining our past to learn a lesson hamstering? Or if we take action to not let our past rule us, that is introspection? It's a real question.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 12:25 AM
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Nice point. The burden of performance always has risk. That's what makes it fun. Earlier this week my wife talked about our lives being fun like a roller coaster (high's and low's) - because a merry-go-round would be boring.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 11:57 PM
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Wow. You sound hangry. Have a Sncikers. Rationalization: the action of attempting to explain or justify behavior or an attitude with logical reasons, even if these are not appropriate. introspection: the examination or observation of one's own mental and emotional processes Rationalization is about self deception or justification. Introspection is about understanding your own motivations. The past is important because it's usually the building blocks of your frame - sometimes faulty, sometimes n…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 11:49 PM
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It's called introspection. You know, you examine your actions to change future behaviors. Like I told your wife to chill with the teeth. Oh, Argentina did cry for me.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 10:21 PM
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Don't know but he punches women like a motherfucker. (Crimson_Chris does not condone violence against women, unless she approaches you like a man). Dude, can't remember when I weighed 145. In 8th grade I basically starved myself. I played running back and the max weight was 160lbs or you could not play the position. I gained 15lbs between the end of 8th grade and freshaman year. No gains in height though. Fuck you genetics.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 04:35 PM
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I was joking with Bobby. Nuance is not appreciated in this forum. Those are not my "fail" sets. I do three of those each. Good shit on the pull ups. My numbers are higher than yours since I do three sets. So, still laughing? Your skinny ass does have me on pull ups. I just learned to not give a shit what you guys say about my weight. Could I lose some weight - of course. But I am not a fat out of shape slob - not even close. On, and you think Ray Rice squats 900lbs? FYI, I weighed 175 as a fresh…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 03:53 PM
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Nice. I like that one. The student is now the teacher. I see it like this. For a woman, it is scary to be in a man's frame. Especially if he has been a shitty captain. There is also probably a correlation to how shitty you have been and how big the Main Event will be. She is testing you to see if you are who you say you are. Can you lead and protect her? My wife was fine with me leading, I was just really shitty at protecting her (feelz). From an emotional standpoint I was not her Oak. Also, I t…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 03:22 PM
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Yes. I was joking. My Frame issue was mostly me seeking validation, expecting Disney unconditional love. Until grad school I had a decent frame - not great but decent. I have been pretty driven/selfish for most of my life, I just had no clue on how to relate with women. So her feelz had me on eggshells at times. MRP has fixed that. I agree with you on the main event being initiated by her. My wife embraces me being the captain. I think there would be a main event if I told her I was taking on a …
/r/askMRP23/02/18 03:11 PM
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Wow. You kinda hurt my feelzings treating me like a newbie. Height: 5'6 Weight: 205 (Yes, I can lose some weight, but I am built like Ray Rice / MJD) BP: 225x6 (reps) Squat: 315x6 (reps) DL: 315x6 (reps - never did these until 1.5yrs ago) OHP: 135x6 (reps) Pull Ups: 10-12 reps I get your point but I have changed a lot. Wife respects me more, started back working out a while ago, get compliments on my arms, sex quality is up (getting bj's again for almost two years), my wife calls me Benjamin But…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 05:36 AM
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I have heard that if you pass the Main Event the mythical Fourth Tunnel/Hole appears. Maybe that is why so many guys are keen on having the Main Event?
/r/askMRP23/02/18 05:15 AM
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Haha. We banged like Brazzers in college. We are not back to that level, but getting there. That being said, I've had a lot of fuck ups to fix. Primarily expecting my wife to react to things like me (with logic vs. emotions). Also expecting her to be able to handle stress as well as me.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 05:11 AM
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OI. The banks don't lend money to people who need it. Also, remember the one who cares less drives the relationship. If she wins, you both lose.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:52 AM
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The video is good. For V-day I made a card for my wife with a similar message. We are choosing to take this journey together. Wondering if OP is "feeling some type of way" because his wife beat him to the punch on this overt message? If my wife sent me this message my response would be "Good girl. You've been paying attention (insert sexual innuendo)." I don't know how deep you are in her frame, but you are still in it. Personally I think that is okay. You cannot buck hers unless yours is fuckin…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:14 AM
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Dude. My take is that she is trying to hurt you as bad as you have hurt her by not being the man she thought she was getting. I can't even begin to tell you the shit my wife has said to me in the worst of times before I found MRP, but if you put in the work, it gets better. Scratch that you get better and the rest of your life follows. (Edit - meant to say late 20's. Anyway - fuck, you are too young to be married. Eh....I was married ar 24..haha....if she had her way it would have been at 22.)
/r/askMRP22/02/18 05:09 AM
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Back up. You went for two years without consummating your marriage. So you got married and then did not fuck for two years? Also assuming you are in your late 20's. No words. Anyway. Nice turn around. If your wife has not snuck behind your back and found some Chad cock - she's a keeper. As far as her comment on you making it home alive after watching porn for most of the day - she AM'd the fuck out of you. You don't find many women who will willingly tell you how big of a fuck up you are with a …
/r/askMRP22/02/18 03:46 AM
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7" is formidable. I have started to pull back the trottle on the sexual innuendo. It has gotten to the point that the wifey finishes my dirty thoughts for me (sometimes I don't even have them, but she makes them up). So I am starting to zig when she expects me to zag. Keeping her on her toes.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 04:20 PM
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Good post. It's like Cypher. Dude was unplugged, saw the Matrix for what it was and still wanted to go back in. Why? The fourth tunnel was easy. It was what he was used to. He saw how hard his life would be if he was unplugged. It's years of brainwashing. I guess some of us may be too old to unplug. We look back our lives and we are like "fuck"! I was raises by a single mother, so the female imperative was deeply engrained in me. In H.S. I was smart, "fine" and athletic but had no fucking idea h…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 01:46 AM
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LOL, I glazed over at "tongue and groove". But yes. Best answer is "I got it babe" and then give her a giggle.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 09:45 PM
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Wizard. This funny for me because I remember my wife always asking me about our family "budget" and wanting to be "involved". Yet every time I tried to sit down with her to review the budget she always had some lame ass excuse about why it was a bad time. I finally realized that she does not really give a shit about the budget. She wants to feel safe and secure. Me having a budget and leading our finances makes her feelz good - she has no real interest in seeing the sausage being made. It was a …
/r/askMRP20/02/18 09:14 PM
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Here is a simple frame I have started using - what would I do if I was single and we just started dating. Women date men because they either want resources or they want to be part of the guys awesome life. Hopefully your wife saw an awesome life and not just resources. Either way do shit for yourself. Early in my MRP journey I was about to call my wife and ask her if she wanted to gi to the movies. It just started to feel wrong. So I shot her a text and told her I bought tickets and she can be m…
/r/askMRP16/02/18 03:31 PM
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I am not an expert, buy there is being depressed (temporary and a lot of people experience this) and then there is depression (I can't do anything right, I am worthless, I want to die). It took me a while to get it. My wife has an awesome husband (me), two beautiful and healthy kids, we are both educated (masters), she is a SAHM, we travel, have savings and make a decent income. So WTF is wrong with her? Of course there is the stress of family and kids - but clinical depression goes a lot deeper…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:18 PM
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Ditto. I really liked TSAONGAF. Focus on what is important to you. Fuck everything else.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 12:56 AM
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Fuck mojo and inspiration. It's about forming consistent habits. Just keep grinding everyday. I think what can sometimes be hard is finding the "real you". The world taught you to be one way, now MRP has blown that shit up. But, life is all about self discovery and evolution. The burden of performance all that shit. "We must either wear out or rust out - every one of us. My choice is to wear out." — Theodore Roosevelt
/r/askMRP16/02/18 12:54 AM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:21 PM
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This has to be a troll.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 04:17 PM
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She is the oldest teenager in the house, right? (that is a slight joke) I have been clear that disrespect and abuse should not be tolerated. Those are ways of expressing anger that are not appropriate. That being said, you should be able to handle peoples anger via your frame - whether they are angry with you or just expressing anger to you. My other point is that sometimes those two things look similar. A superior male can tell the difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:10 PM
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Cool. Don't think I asked for help on this specfic topic. Sometimes people will vent "at" you because they don't know how to express their feelings. My stance is to not take it personal - hence frame. If it turns into disrespect or abuse, then a boundary has been crossed. As the Rock, you should be able tell or learn the difference. Emotions are not all black and white. Sometimes when people are venting at you, they think they are venting to you. Of course you should correct them at the appropri…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 03:55 PM
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I bought my wife some chocolate and made her a card. I planned on buying a card, but I can't stomach the Hallmark B.S. anymore. Card Tldr; Life is a journey and we've reached the half point. We've both choosen to experience it together and I'm glad we've made it this far. I am looking forward to my next chapter and she's welcome to come along for the ride. Then we fooled around while watching the new Chris Rock special on Netflix. He's divorced now and swimming in young pussy.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 03:49 PM
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As long as she is not being disrespectful, why would you give a fuck? If she can't bring her problems to you she will find someone else to vent "at". Eh - maybe It's semantics. I think we are saying similar things.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 03:35 PM
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Okay. https://youtu.be/wphCxNUpLwg
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 01:40 AM
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Testing is a good symptom. While a woman will never stop testing a strong man she will give up on a weak one.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 01:02 AM
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What I am referring to is contained in "Way of the Superior Male". The basic concept is that women are wrought by emotion. If you seek to "actively" calm and contain this sea you will fail. Hence being a rock. Which is why I took pause in OP not accepting her "anger". There is a difference between being angry and being disrespectful. My wife also suffers from depression. She also had an extremely painful medical condition this summer. One time while trying to make her comfortable she sobbed and …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 11:20 PM
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I am not here for you to take your anger out on me This is the only place where I took pause. Your wife will take her anger out on you. That is part of being her rock. It's your job to see past her shit and not give a fuck. Women are a sea of emotion and it won't all be good. Your frame should be strong enough to stand up to her anger. Of course, you must have boundaries. Other than that - nice report. Oh, what the fuck. Smoking is really bad for you. Stop that shit. Or not. It's your body.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 10:21 PM
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"When you daughter is around I also usually have dessert" or " When your daughter's here I eat more than sushi". Anything to up the ante. And yes, I would 100% say this to my MIL. My wife would blush, but she'd know this is 100% in character for me. If people fuck with you fuck with them and have fun. My wife is the oldest of six, her family will eat you alive if you have no game. I just see it as fun banter.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 01:14 AM
1

Should have been more clear. When I used "attraction" here I meant leading life that attracts her (safe/trust/good captian). Thanks for the clarification.
/r/askMRP12/02/18 11:05 PM
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“Look, I’ve been really angry with you” she says, “I loved you so much when I met you and always put you first. I would have done anything for you but you let me down and I’ve been angry with you and I’ve been angry with myself for not standing up to you and for not standing up for myself. That’s why I’ve been the way I have been with you for the last few months”. Wow. That could have been a direct quote from my wife. While I did not have a dead bedroom, it was in ICU for a while. The road back …
/r/askMRP12/02/18 08:00 PM
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I was in the same place about Dec of 2016. Over th course of the year I started working out again. Got more cocky. Gained confidence and was swatting test. Sex went from once a week to 2-4 times a week. She was initiating and the quality was back to college level. Then for a lot of reasons in Spring of 2017 I had a huge relapse. My improvements were somewhat built on a house of cards. I made a decision that caused her to lose trust in me (not cheating or lying - just a life decision). Everthing …
/r/askMRP12/02/18 04:05 AM
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Favorite quote from my wife this week, "I know that is what I said, but that is not what I meant. You should have understood that." I just laughed my ass off (on the inside) - outside was my "you're fucking crazy" smurk.
/r/askMRP12/02/18 01:59 AM
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Ditto on WOTSM. I am halfway through and it's has been one of the most helpful MRP books. I literally lifted one lesson to pass a HUGE comfort test with the wife yesterday. That book is gold.
/r/askMRP11/02/18 11:06 PM
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I would not recommend making your kids your mission. I'd assume it would create a weird dynamic where you are living vicariously through them because you can't figure out what the fuck you want to do. And what do you do when they grow up? What is your mission then? Your kids and wife should benefit from the awesome life you lead and your pursuit of your mission. You will most likely leave them underserved if they are your mission. But what the fuck do I know.
/r/askMRP11/02/18 11:03 PM
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My bet is newbie gains. Sex improved but no real leadership changes. The wife is wondering why is she fucking him more if her life is not any better (via him being a better Captain).
/r/askMRP11/02/18 10:53 PM
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Main event? Have you been leading? If so, how? How has this changed the prior relationship dynamic? A lot of guys come here for sex. I did too. But, sex should be a side benefit of MRP. The primary benefit is being a better man. If you come here for sex, it may improve in the short-term - but you will most likely fall into the same cycle that brought you here. From your post is looks like you SMV to women who don't know shit about you has improved, while the woman who probably knows you best wan…
/r/askMRP11/02/18 10:50 PM
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LOL. Look - my wife specifically asked what happened to the kale that was on the floor. Unless I had Alzheimer's, I would not have forgotten about it. I did not realy care about the mess, I responded to her comment/question on the location of said kale - which I had moved. The story is about a Captain keeping a clean ship whereas OP needed nagging from his wife. When I am angry (which does not happen often) my family knows. Maybe this says something about you, because why would some bits of kale…
/r/askMRP09/02/18 09:07 PM
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I uses to live in fuck-shit-istan but with my promtion I was able to buy a little bungalow under a rock.
/r/askMRP09/02/18 02:45 PM
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This. There are so many comments recently about a "test" when theae guys are not doing the basics of running a household. Then they run their hampsters like a little bitch when they should be taking action and righting the ship. Think less. Do more.
/r/askMRP09/02/18 02:09 PM
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So you totally missed the point. A) Look up passive aggressive. You obviously have no idea what it means. There was nothing passive or aggressive in my behavior. Or maybe you just did not understand my example. B) A cookie? No dumb ass. The point is that there was some shit dropped on the floor. Two kids and one adult just walked by it for two hours. I came home and took care of it. Did not mention it until it came up from the wife and kid. It's about the Captain owning shit around the house. C)…
/r/askMRP09/02/18 01:47 PM
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What do you do at they gym for 2hrs Red? Shit. I am at they gym for 1hr max. That being said, I do supersets with compound lifts - so I am pretty efficient with my time. Also, I am just maintaining muscle for now.
/r/askMRP09/02/18 03:56 AM
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Other than a paycheck what value does he provide? I did not read it in his post. He is not a alcoholic or unemployed? Hopefully we are all here because we are setting a much higher standard. Why do you think some people call MRP "TRP on Hard Mode". Being a husband and father means you are the lead wolf. You are the captain and all the problems most likely started with you. Either you married a cunt or you married a good woman that you turned into a cunt from your shitty behavior. Coddle "gay use…
/r/askMRP08/02/18 11:31 PM
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What the fuck is Taco Tuesday. Obviously I have missed something recently.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 10:09 PM
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Oh, and your user name is gay (sorry gay people) and reeks of your ego. Keep it as a reminder of where you started. "Worldtraveler" - LOL. If only we could all travel the world. Gosh!!! Please hit the sidebar ASAP. Goodluck.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 10:08 PM
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Dread does not work if the wife does not value the man. This sorry sack does not provide any value other than his paycheck (which she will get a portion of in a divorce and she makes $100k). So, let's try again. This guy has no boundaries. He has a messy house and a fat wife that won't fuck him and has been sleeping with the kids for two fucking years. Is this Bizarro MRP? Shit and comfort test are his problem? Let's try again.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 10:04 PM
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So basically you are a hot beta bucks. As stated before you need a healthy dose of OYS. For example, you complain about how your wife keeps the house messy. If you OYS, you are the Captain. The house is messy because you are mess or because you can't lead your family. Either way you have failed. Next, as stated before your wife has no dread. Maybe she does not give a shit if you cheat because she makes $100k and will most like still get alimony if you cheat. For Dread to work you have to be a ma…
/r/askMRP08/02/18 10:00 PM
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About taking her in a holiday. Don't get sucked into beta provider B.S. My wife and I had somenof the most fun when we were young and poor. We actually led interesting lives and did interesting shit. What is interesting about you? Find it and maybe she will come along for the ride. If not, who gives a shit because you had fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:48 AM
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It's not a shit test or a compliance test in my opinion. Your kid is sick. You are the captian. Go get the fucking medicine. This is an OYS test. She should have never had to ask. Fuck! You think getting your sick kid medicine is a shit or compliance test? You did not know that his medicine was running out? Why did she have to "ask" you to go get it? He's your fucking kid. I would have been mad at myself for not having a back up bottle. One way you can look at this is what would you do if you we…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:35 AM
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This takes me back to college. I had an argument (I was being an ass) with my wife (guess she was a plate at the time?) and she said she was not coming over the next night. IDNGAF and called another girl to come over. I had abundance and did not give a shit if I pissed her off. Lucily for her, my back up date fell through. My wife ended up coming over (unannounced for a fuck) anyway. There was no way I could have faked OI, I just was. My frame was strong and she wanted me - so the argument did n…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:20 AM
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Why is you son getting up in the middle of the night "her" problem? You came up with a solution that did not work for "her" problem and then you got made when she questioned your solution to "her" problem. Hmmm....
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:08 AM
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I got home after work yesterday. I walked in the kitchen and there were two small pieces of kale on the floor (my daughter uses it to feed her turtle) - assumed that my daughter dropped it this morning. My wife is a SAHM and the kids probably had been home for two hours. So a lot of traffic in the kitchen. The kale on the floor was not touched by anyone. Bit of a tangent but my daughter finds a caterpillar in the bathroom. I find a jar for it. My daughter ask about giving the caterpillar some fo…
/r/askMRP08/02/18 12:56 AM
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Dammit. You beat me to the spy angle. Maybe she's selling drugs?
/r/askMRP07/02/18 03:42 PM
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Haha. Hopefully it won't ever come to that. But point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 03:11 PM
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I think butthurt is about frame. Are you living in her world or yours. Butthurt is not just your response, but your emotion and body language attached to that response. I am working on this but I try to have the impact of my wife be like the conversations I have with my 8yr old daughter. My daughter has no ability to hurt my feelings. I am the adult. She is the child. I don't need her validation. I don't cloth, feed and put a roof over her head expecting anything - she lives in my frame and I am…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:53 AM
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This makes me fucking cringe. I am the better cook by far - so I do most of the cooking. Early on when my wife and I were first married we had a small studio. I would cook and bring her the food. We'd eat on the couch (no dining table). She developed this habit of sticking out her empty plate - to indicate that she was done eating and for me to take said empty plate to the kitchen. At the time I thought it was "cute". FUCK! I wish I could give old me a swift kick in the ass with a steel toe boot…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:31 AM
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I don't know if she is fucking him. When I worked in advertising (mostly female) I had a lot of female "work friends". My wife used to call them my "harem". One girl in particular I was really close with. Her husband was super jealous. He acted like a cuck. She would fuck with him about hanging out with me - and then tell me about it. It was not attractive. You are like her husband. Looking back at it I was a beta in alpha clothing. Maybe I should have fucked a couple of those chicks.....oh well…
/r/askMRP07/02/18 01:18 AM
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It's used to mentally track my wifes cycle. Mostly because I always wanted to get a last fuck in before her period (she doesn't typically feel sexy at that time). She used to (and still) will ask me when her period is due. Tracking with an app (and/or spreadsheet) does help with anticipation of her obvulation which is harder to track. So...you don't really need an app to know when her period is coming it's like every 28 days. Obvulation is a but tricker.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 11:38 PM
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LOL. I agree. Baby steps. I do have a "look" for the kids, and she is the oldest teenager in the house.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 07:28 PM
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I disagree here a bit. Just a bit. When someone is new to the journey you may need to reset expectation on how your SO interacts with you. About 6months into MRP my wife kept referring to me as if I was one of our kids. By the 6 month mark I felt like I was OMS and this disrespect was a carryover from my years of betadom. I did tell her something to the effect of "you won't talk to me like that anymore - it's disrespectful". BUT I was putting in the work. That is key. Sometimes you have to help …
/r/askMRP02/02/18 07:20 PM
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Ditto on this. I used to get "angry" when I got home and my wife did not greet me (hug, kiss, some acknowledgement). I finally dropped the ego and realized that she is not me. She can't handle the BS of the kids as well. So instead of punishing her, I worked with the kids on a more organized evening routine until I get home. I also realize that her "shrewness" while not about me, is a reflection of my leadership. But sometimes bitches just be crazy and you let them be. She still may not greet me…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 07:11 PM
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Fuvk you bot.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 04:08 PM
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I guess it depends on the relationship, but I'd find that disrespectful. If I was single and a married woman agreed to go to dinner with me I'd assume her husband was a cuck. Why is dinner different from let's say lunch or coffee? Well, it's not her ability to cheat. It's how she values my time. I can't really see my wife most days due to my commute schedule. Dinner connotes that she is putting aside some special time for this dude. Hell, why did she not invite you? Does she set up dinner dates …
/r/askMRP02/02/18 04:01 PM
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I am finally getting around to WOTSM now. About halfway through, but it's really insightful so far. I also read up on cybernetics. I get the merits.
/r/askMRP01/02/18 03:41 PM
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I was hangry when I wrote that. And the post was extra full of vomit and shit.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 02:31 PM
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You still have oneitis and wife goggles. MRP will make you a better man. But, it does not work if you are doing it to "impress" your wife. I disagree with some guys here. I have turned down sex from my wife when the effort was not there. The key is to try to not make her feel bad about it. You don't want a negative association with you and sex.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 11:15 PM
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MRP will teach him that one of the worst things a woman can call you is a "provider".
/r/askMRP29/01/18 11:09 PM
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This whole post is horrible. You first lost me at "I won her over a rival" and then at "attentive lover". Take some time to familiarize yourself with this sub before you post a sack of shit like this.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 11:07 PM
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Yoga motherfucker! It may be shunned by some guys, but it helps a lot with recovery. It improves my ability to perform and recover from both sprints and short distance runs. It has been a lifesaver for my back (and most back issues are really tight hip issues).
/r/askMRP29/01/18 06:34 PM
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This is some mundane kidergarten shit. You two don't need MRP, you need to learn how to adult. My wife is always cold. I am usually hot. It's easier for her to bundle up and be warm. I can only take off so many layers of clothing.
/r/askMRP28/01/18 07:08 PM
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S-T-F-U.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:04 PM
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I am 42, but have been lifting since middle school (brother and I had our own bench). I don't do max reps anymore - not worth it. I do my own program - 3x6. I hit the whole body 2-3 times a week with super sets. 1) DL (275 to 315) + OHP (135) | | 2) Squat (275) + Pull Ups (with 25lb chain) | 3) Bench (225) + Jump Lunges I suppliment that on other days with sprinting, 4mile runs, bootcamp or a Spartan class at my gym. My biggest reco is for guys (especially over 40) is to start doing yoga for inj…
/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:00 PM
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I'd also add in pull ups. I started about a year ago. I could only do two. Now I am up to ten in one set with a 25lb chain around my neck. Arms are as big as ever with veins on both sides and in forearms. And, women do notice veigns. Especially in biceps and forearns. Edit: And I do no other bicep work (other than DL, OHP, BP).
/r/askMRP25/01/18 03:49 PM
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I am not putting down the idea. I believe in posittive thought, but look at the starting point you mentioned - an Olympic athelete. He used visualization to get to "the next level". So obviously Lenny was putting in work. "Top Atheletes" who use visualization were probably already putting in the work as well. For a lot of guys this will either be hogwash or the will see it as a shortcut. u/Alpha_Engineer99, I am also sure there were things you did in addition to visualization to overcome your ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 12:56 AM
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Your actions prove your beliefs. Your beliefs prove.......
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 12:44 AM
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Again, I get it. But thinking is probably not what is holding people back in this sub. You keep putting shit out into the "universe". I will keep putting my ass in the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 11:19 PM
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But it's all grounded in what you do. Not what you think. Anyone can come up with some bullshit beliefs. A small percentage of people follow up with action. Thoughts become words. Words become action. Actions become habits. Habits become your identity. Your identity becomes your destiny. Blah...blah...blah.... The important step is thought to action. Most of the guys on this sub have a lot of thoughts but not a lot of action or the "right" actions/behaviors. And, Dinky is bad-ass for what he doe…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:57 PM
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You are what you do. Not what you believe. Your values are defined but what you are willing to sacrifice for your beliefs. Many people "value" being healthy, but they are fat as fuck. If I imagine myself as cock diesel, will my beer gut melt away? Acta non verba. Everything else is bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:17 PM
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You are your behaviors. Everything else is bullshit. Confidence comes from experience and hard work. You can fake it while you catch up, but that will only work for so long. And the ultimate goal here is pussy - as MRP is a sexual strategy. Don't let this become a daily affirmation sub. https://youtu.be/wNw5juTgXFI
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:10 PM
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Keep doing you. My kids are both under 8. A little over a year ago I found MRP. I started my hobbies again plus some new ones. Light wood work, kyaking, rock climbing and this winter I plan on learning how to snowboard (oh, and I am 42). Don't use your kids as an excuse for being a dull, lazy and fat dad.
/r/askMRP23/01/18 03:57 PM
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I forgot where I read this, but women think with emotions/feelings. Men think with facts/logic. This is a very generalized statement, but I find it generally true. I don't know if women lie on puropse. I think that women don't like feeling bad about themselves. So if something goes wrong their hamster kicks in. "Chirp, chirp...this could not have been your fault girlfriend....chirp, chirp....whose fault was it, chirp, chirp?" See the hamster working? It protects her weak ego which is rooted in f…
/r/askMRP23/01/18 03:40 PM
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My first lay-off was at the tender age of 27. I was working in tech consulting. Then the dot.com bust came along. Truthfully, it sucked at the time, but it was one of the best things that happened to me. I really did not like consulting anymore and wanted to change fields. That was the kick in the ass I needeed. I went from making @ $50k a year to interning for minimum wage. It was humbling. But, I got into the field I wanted and my skills are exremely marketable. Good luck with your opportunity…
/r/askMRP23/01/18 04:02 AM
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"I was going to". You did not follow your own advice. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/18 11:45 PM
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This. Bad habits got us where we are. Good habits (boring work) will turn it around. That being said, one of my favorite quotes on MRP is "No one is coming to save you." No one is coming to save you, you wife, your kids or your extenxed family. That shit keeps me motivated. Oh, and nobody owes you shit. You earn it - and even then the most important reward is self satisfaction.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:35 PM
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Her nagging you about the kids is a symptom of a bigger problem. I would bet that "helping out more" will not solve the problem. Women tend to get more anxious and overwhelmed (hamsters + emotion) than men. When there is not a strong Captain in the house (especially with kids) anxiety goes up and comes down on you in the form of shit test. But this is a shit test you can't really pass in the moment. That's because it's a "you're a shitty leader" shit test. You pass that test with leadership and …
/r/askMRP20/01/18 04:11 PM
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Post-ovulation for women is like post orgasm for men. Most men are probably up for anything when they have blue balls, but after we we cum.......sometimes it's like "WTF did I just do?" A woman's level of horniness is like her emotions, it comes and goes like the wind (for most women). I got home last night and my wife was having a hard time with the kids. She was almost in tears (does not happen frequently, but nothing new). I got the kids in order but ignored her "emotional crisis". I kid you …
/r/askMRP19/01/18 08:47 PM
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General answers below. 1) Google. Seriously. "5x5 how to". If you can't do that, I don't know how the fuck MRP will work for you. It requires you to read and do work. 2) WTF? You are no snowflake. Most people's DL is higher than their squat. Are you Yosemite Sam? 3) Do you want to rotate from back to front? I typically rotate between fucking my wife from the back and front each session. 4) If you use an online coach, make sure they don't trick you with a looped video.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 06:08 AM
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I am way behind. Nice add. Thanks.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 04:05 AM
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Dude. You have already lost. MRP is about fixing the man, not the marriage. 100% sure you will fail if your goal is to "win" your wife back. A woman wants a man that is a winner, not a man that is trying to win her. If you chase her, that means she is the prize. Seriously - hit the side bar. NMMNG may be a good start for you. If you have read it, read it again.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 03:51 AM
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Really? Did you read this post. You think OP is laying down one ounce of dread? This post is dripping with desperation and neediness.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 03:46 AM
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Fuck. There it is."I don't care if you go". OP, you are needy and 100% in your wife's frame. There is no comfort she can get from you. Get some self respect and move on like she has. Take a heavy dose of side bar. You have a lot of work to do.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 01:17 AM
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Just made a reply to a post about " When does the power struggle end". It ends when you have earned trust and respect. There is NO cheat code for that. Only hard work. Short story. I came home late last night (work and late meeting). I was happy/upbeat. I exchanged some plesantries with the wife, then out of nowhere she snapped at me. I just said "okay", removed my presence and started getting shit done for the next day. About 10mins later she finds me in the kitchen and apologizes for snapping.…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 10:23 PM
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You relationship seems toxic and your wife does not respect you or trust. Respect and trusthas to be earned via behaviors. My wife used to have a bad habit of comparing me to the kids. Disprespectful as fuck. I start MRP and OMS. One day I straight up told her that comparing my behavior to our kids was an ultimate sign of disrespect. I did not yell. I was not mad. But if she did it again, that would be the end of the conversation. It tookme about six minths of OMS so I could actually have the co…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 04:28 PM
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I have commented abiut this, but my wife and I have been seeing a MC for about 4 months. It has been pretty positive, but I think that is only because I approach it with a MRP mindset. So no chorplay or bullshit like that. There was a lot od resentment on her end, so we talk about chipping that away as things improve. Hopefully I can build upon this article. I think a lot of Gottman's approaches can be combined with MRP. Part of fixing the man is fixing how we communicate and relate to others. G…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 08:25 PM
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I get the sarcasm. This dude is still deaf, dumb and stupid to how he's bad he's fucked. Asshole can't/won't even wake up before his crew. And does not understand how that shows a lack of leadership. Gueas he's got it fugured out though, right?
/r/askMRP13/01/18 11:14 PM
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Agreed, that is why a shitty husban can get strange easier than getting pussy from his wife. And I do agree that you can take some of the Gottman stuff and combine it with pinciples if MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 03:07 AM
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Agreed. One of the best thing that MRP reinstilled in me was escalating early. Never had a deadbedroom, but stopped flirting for a long time. My wife was still in bed this morning. I gave her a kiss and then slipped down her shirt and sucked her nipple for a sec. She giggled and chastised me as I made my way out the door.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 06:19 PM
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1) You are the captain. Always (or almost always be the first one up. 2) Stop keeping score and pick up your fucking kids. 3) Punishing your wife like this is what a female would do. Does your wife fuck females?
/r/askMRP12/01/18 06:12 PM
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Oh, and I know that I may be mocked for this but I can tie a lot of shit from Gottman to MRP. One of the basic principles is that for any relationship to work you need to have more positve interactions to negative interactions. His basic rule is 5:1. Pretty simple, but overlooked by a lot of people. What is missing for a lot of guys is how to create these positive interactions. Choreplay and more Beta is not the answer. This is where MRP, OYS, Frame, losing the ego and being attractive kicks in.…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 09:39 PM
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Don't get me wrong. Without MRP these "Coaching" session would have blown up in my face. My wife has a decent amount of mental luggage that's not even related to our marriage. The MC did a great job of pointing that shit out - especially early on. Like "Mrs. Chris, what does what you just said have to do with Crimson_Chris or your marriage?" At the end of each session the MC will ask what we are going to work in for the week and I typically have an "assigment" in mind for us already. So I can co…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 09:26 PM
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Wow. So.is this what people talk about with their MC's? WTF. Okay, guessing that I have it good. My wife and I have been going for about four months. We don't talk about chores, money or sex. I actively try to guide the convo's to more MRP topics (frame, losing ego, overcoming wife's resentment for various shit). We use the MC as a third party/guide to call bullshit on how we have been relating each other. Overall it has been a positive experience for me. If I had received any of the advice abov…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 03:36 PM
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But, BB is what most men have been taught that women want through the disney fantasy. They do the providing, maybe not always comforting. One of the worst things a woman can say about a man is, "Well, he is a good provider.". This is when you get ILYBINILWY. In MOST cases, BB is a bad thing because most guys here start out as a "resource" for their wife/kids. BB provides comfort but not excitement. Most guys here don't understand that bringing home a paycheck is fucking tables stakes.
/r/askMRP09/01/18 04:00 PM
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I fucked my wife Sunday morning while the kids were up playing and watching morning cartoons. Once she came into the shower to give me a hand job while the kids ate breakfast. A woman that wants to please you will find a way to please you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 12:11 AM
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Dude, words don't mean shit. Hers or yours. Become an man that she wants (actions). Right now she does not value you or your commitment enough to fuck you on demand. Once you become that man and take away your presence, she will respond accordingly - or now you can easily find a quality woman who will.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 12:07 AM
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I don't think there is anything wrong with a massage if the massage is a planned precursor to sex, then that should be the expectation of you and her. Massages can be a great way to relax and get immersed (especially if you have kids). Your massage was a covert contract. That being said, fuck her when you need to fuck. Women love men who are direct and "take" what they want. "Take" is in quotes because she must desire you in order to be "taken" otherwise it's rape or you are a creep. Looks like …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 12:02 AM
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Fuck. You are in your 20's. LOL, yeah - you luckily still have a wide margin of error on nutrition.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 04:07 PM
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It depends on where you are coming from and where you are on the journey. If you are a fat fuck CICO may work, but that strategy ignores nutrition. Veggies (especially leafy greens) are basically the most nutritious food you can eat. Fruit is not, but fruit is better than a bag of Doritos. As you start hitting your late 30's and early 40's nutrition will play a bigger part in your overall level of energy and the prevention of disesase. Also, you may just have a fast metabolism. Fruit is full of …
/r/askMRP08/01/18 03:46 PM
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Pushing away food with a disgusted face is something my 5yr old used to do before we corrected his behavior. It's rude. We tell him if he does not want something, just don't eat it. If you still act like a child, you wife wil treat you like a child. Single moms are usually pretty stessed out and open to Chad to be pumped full of relief.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 03:21 PM
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"I only think about it when I am not having it. So help me think about something else."
/r/askMRP06/01/18 11:42 PM
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Summary is that you have a long way to go. And it's hard to tell what the tone of your wife's comment. Was she teasing you or was the comment mean spirited? Either way, your wife is pregnant. Women are already emotional. With pregnant women multiply that times 5. Multiply that by 5 again if she has any mental isssues (a lot of women do). Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Get to work and become the prize. Sidebar bro.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 08:51 PM
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Good luck. My wife and I have a lot of baggage as well (married 17yrs, together for over 20). I am lucky in the fact that she wants to improve the relationship. I am working on me. She is working on herself. Quality and quantity of sex improved after @ 1yr of MRP, but we had a huge set back in early 2017. I think I (we) are back on track now. I know this shit is not easy - especially with kids. Don't fear the vasoctomy! I had mine about 5yrs ago. Don't skip icing those nuts post cut. I learned t…
/r/askMRP03/01/18 07:02 PM
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"I cut a bit of the starting process" - so are you saying that you did not do the work? "Muscular is subjective" - LOL. No it is not. It may be relative, but not subjective. There have been studies which show that women prefer jacked men. If you make that statement it means you are not muscular. If you want to kill the puppy, kill the puppy. Go out and get some new strange. The only problem is that there is a high probability that the issues that have fucked your marriage will eventually fuck an…
/r/askMRP03/01/18 04:06 PM
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Implementing a sex moratorium will not lead to OI. Implementing a sex moratorium will not kill your need for validation. First figure out if mommy or daddy did not hug you enough eventually leading you to a place where you need to have approval from your wife via sex (validation). Second, kill your ego. Accept the fact that what you hate in others is most likely a reflection of your faults. Learn to be humble and it's not all about you. All of the answers are here in the main sub and on the side…
/r/askMRP27/12/17 12:51 AM
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At least get good pizza if you are going to get pizza. Fucking Domino's? Really? That is like treating yourself to a steak from Trader Joe's ( they have crappy meat).
/r/askMRP24/12/17 03:50 AM
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The stay or go question is not easy. The basic problem is that when your wife cheats on you, that is the ultimate sign that she no longer respects you. So the question is, can you live with a woman that has taken another man's dick and does not respect you. That is the real. The blue pill question is some bullshit about can you forgive her. Based on your post you were a shitty leader. I can admit that I have been a shitty leader at home as well. If you divorce your wife, it will not solve that i…
/r/askMRP23/12/17 08:09 PM
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I recommend yoga. That shit fixes about everything. Helps me to lift more (relieves tightness of being sore, lossens back and hamstrings). Helps me to run faster (sprint workout is MUCH more efficient, again stretching makes a big deal). Helps to relieve stress (which is good for gains and sex). Helps with overall recovery. Or....you could just have a shitty knee, so squat lighter. Fuck not working out. Some docs a DAF.
/r/askMRP23/12/17 07:53 PM
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Much needed inspiration. Funny how we are conditioned. Your are right, most time the MRP answer is the right one, we are sometimes just too scared to make that choice.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 01:42 AM
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I have been her for 1.5yrs. Minimum sex for me has been once a week. Max has been 3 times a week. Due to some shit over the last couple of months we are back down to once a week. I realize that I set the tone and I get the sex I deserve. That does not mean that I put the pussy on a pedestal, but I can look at actions/events and see where my wife has loss or gained attraction for me. Some things (like her depression) are out of my control. I can control how I react to it. You don't really say wha…
/r/askMRP21/12/17 10:26 PM
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And - women KNOW that they are fucking emotional. They know that their feelz can change with the wind. That is why they wanta a man who is a rock, not a bitch to arguwe with them about their feelz (and not to slove their feelz either, they love them).
/r/askMRP19/12/17 04:27 PM
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Do you argue with your children? I don't because they are children and they don't know shit (yet). They can't hurt my ego and they can't break my frame. If you lose your ego (prob #1 reason for "arguments"), strengthen your frame, find your passiona and mission - the disgreements tend to disappear. Also, it has helped out for me to understand that my wife talks in feelings, not facts. That has gone a long way in understanding and disarming her.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 04:23 PM
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Good. It should hurt. It should suck. Use that anger to hit the gym. Use that anger to make a plan. Use that anger to make yourself the most fuckable man in the room. I am not being the moral police (MRP is amoral). But paying for pussy is just a crutch.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 06:00 PM
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My job has great benefits, so it's free. It's a professional for me to bounce ideas off of and my wife to work through her shit. I'd say I am getting to know myself better, be more OI/Objective FWIW. It has helped me to drop more of my ego. Since it's free (other than time) the value equation is worth it. That baloon suggestion is DAF. I would have bolted if the MC had said something like that.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 11:14 PM
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My wife and I have been seeing a female MC for about two months (every Friday, so about 8 times so far). I have found it helpful. The caveat is that I stay in my MRP mind frame. What does that mean? I don't talk about my feelings. Literally last week the MC ask, "Crimson_Chris how do you feel about X?" My response, "My feelings don't matter". The purpose of MC was primarily for my wife to work through her feelings of resentment. Basically her hamster blaming me for her not accomplishing what she…
/r/askMRP14/12/17 10:22 PM
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My take on a starting guide for beginners, not the experienced guys on MRP. Dominance – You must have some semblance of domination in your relationship for sexually dominant language to work. Not meaning that you have her in a dog collar, but your wife should be at a place where she will ask your opinion. She should comply when you make a request (like asking her to get you a drink, give you a massage, etc.). You have to be comfortable and confident telling her what to do. Emotion – I don’t thin…
/r/askMRP14/12/17 09:42 PM
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You guys shitted on me a while back when I posted about my wife seeing me readind NMMNG in bed (she and I had a quick discussion - she does not see me as a nice guy). She did not really give a shit about what I was reading. I don't hide my material. I hate digital books. I do have a digital vesion of SGM because the print version is crazy expensive. I think whether you "hide" your material is contextual. If you are a total fuck up and your wife hates your fucking guts - maybe younshould start ou…
/r/askMRP14/12/17 03:17 PM
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I am going to create quarterly OKR's to track my progress against priority MRP KPI's - said no awesome motherfucker ever. 1) Do you respect yourself (discipline)? 2) Does your wife respect you? 3) Do your kids respect you? 4) Do your friends respect you? 5) Do your co-workers respect you? 6) Does your extended family respect you? 7) Do women other than your wife want to fuck you? I aways come up with these really complicated ways to track my progress, but the above pretty much sums up all the B.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 05:40 AM
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Shit....that was for OP.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 07:38 PM
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"Needy" She dropped the ball on our finances She fucked up our dogs medication Your whole post reeks on a man who still has not found his way. Like others have said, what do you want? How much have you really improved?
/r/askMRP12/12/17 07:17 PM
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Dude, you sound needy as fuck. You've read the side bar, right?
/r/askMRP12/12/17 06:02 PM
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So the person that knows you most and probably has spent a material amount of time with won't fuck you. But you found some unsupecting tail on the side that does not know the depth of your suckiness and they may be game. That is one way to alleviate Mrs. COS from not wanting to fuck you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 04:28 AM
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Guys - please DON'T do this. Fuck! Do you really think that jacking off next to your wife because she won't fuck you is display of higher SMV? Do you think it's attractive? It sounds like something a mental patient or socially fucked teenage boy would do. Working and having kids does offer some challenges. I see my wife from 6:00am - 6:50am in the morning and between 6:00pm and 10:00pm at night. Kids are usually in bed (not asleep) by 7:30pm. Once in a while we have morning sex before the kids g…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 01:45 AM
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Yesterday I left the music on in the kitchen while I went to the den to watch a couple of movie previews with the kids (I really like movie previews). My wife comes out of the bedroom, " Why is the music on in the kitchen if you guys are in the den?". Me, "Turn it off if it bothers you". She tells Alexa to turn off the music. End of conversation.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 12:55 AM
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Meh. Sounds like you suck. All the guys here have probably heard the same thing. Pre-MRP my wife said that her sex drive was lower and she was having "weaker orgasms" - hence the drop off in sex. Now she initiates about 40% of the times and says things like, "I want to finish with you to inside me" and "I thought you were going to eat me for dinner". About a month ago she told me that she thought I broke her pussy (she was having spontaneous orgasms the morning after we had sex). My wife is the …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 05:23 PM
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1) If your wife initiates physical contact and wants to sleep on your chest, consider it progress - she is not 100% repulsed by you. It's a start. 2) If she gives you a shit test about sex connected to physical contact - you need to read the room and apply AA or amused mastery. You must be OI, if you are not try to fake it. Also like others have said - kino is your friend. I'd guess that you only engage in physical contact when you want sex? You should change that. You should be physical with he…
/r/askMRP10/12/17 07:28 PM
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Get divorced and head back over to TRP. Done.
/r/askMRP09/12/17 06:20 PM
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Three things. 1) OYS. If you were she would bot be asking you to do shit. Simple. 2) Your wife is the oldest teenager in the house. Treat her like a kid. She needs her daddy to protect her and be on her side. The " us against the world thing" is real. My wife and I are in marriage counseling. I love it. I use it to test and reinforce the principles of MRP (covertly). But what is funny that I basically have our MC (female) on "my side". At our last session the MC took my side on something. After …
/r/askMRP09/12/17 06:09 PM
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Wow…just wow. So earlier this week I told u/dirk626 that I had seen some of the best advice from MPR on his “Beta male puke” post. This post has some of the worst advice I have seen on MRP. My wake up call came in August of this year So, you have been a fuck up with your wife for about 8yrs, but she should be on board with all the “great” changes you have made since August of this year? 8yrs of shit vs. 4 months of what-the-fuck-ever? She would tell me to trust myself more. She has always been a…
/r/askMRP08/12/17 05:27 PM
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I think this was a great example of your wife talking to you. Proceed with caution.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 12:47 AM
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For me, "killing the ego" means being confident without being a dick. It means overcoming your fears and insecurities. It has taken me well over a year to start to realize when my ego is fucking with me. Ego = a person's self esteem or self importance Ego is why you are not your wife's Oak. You take everything personally. So if your wife opens up to you about an issue in the relationship - it becomes an argument (because you become butthurt). You can't be that unmoving rock for her waves to brea…
/r/askMRP06/12/17 04:23 PM
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Okay I am going to over share. I met my wife when I was a sophomore in college. She was my first. I have spent over half my life with her. Love for me used to mean "who would I want holding my hand on my deathbed." That person was my mom at one point, but that changed after I met my wife. I have ADHD. I have lived all over the country and had about 8 jobs in an 18yr span with three different career changes. The only constant in my life has been my wife. But you know what? IT-DOES-NOT-MEAN-SHIT. …
/r/askMRP06/12/17 02:50 AM
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What a woman says does not mean SHIT. She says what she feelz at-the-moment. That is why your plan is the same no matter what. Stop chasing the dragon.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 01:59 AM
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Fuck. Re-read your original post and all the comments. That was some of the best group advice I have seen. Based on this post it will be over soon for you. Why? has me wanting to see a glimmer of hope Hope = expectations. Expectations = disappointment (for you). Disappointment = butthurt (for you). Butthurt is unattractive. If I were you I'd act like I never heard it. Why? Because it does not fucking matter. Your plan if she stays is the same plan if she leaves. The plan is your plan. You have a…
/r/askMRP06/12/17 01:56 AM
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Oh...and those stats are horrible. I can overhead press what you squat (and yeah, as working weight).
/r/askMRP06/12/17 01:32 AM
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How long were you a shitty captain? You must have been pretty fucking horrible if you were only getting sex every 6-8 weeks. And now you are a year into MRP and getting sex once every 2-3 weeks? Well, either you are getting the sex you deserve or your wife is a harpy bitch. Based on your post I think you are getting what you deserve. Let's be generous and say you were a drunk captain for 6yrs. You think in the oh....let's say six months you have been an apex alpha your wife should be choking on …
/r/askMRP06/12/17 01:29 AM
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It sucks, but attraction ebbs and flows in a LTR/Marriage. There is lustful fucking (reserved for alpha's), there is stable beta bux sex and then there's duty/starfish. I have been with my wife for over 20yrs so I have received all three from her. When we were in college it was the lustful fucking. One morning we fucked six times - before noon. After we got married it was stable sex. It was good, but nothing crazy. For the last couple of years it has been duty/starfish. We may have had good make…
/r/askMRP04/12/17 06:56 PM
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My wife and I dated in college. One afternooon, before we became "exclusive", we had an argument over the phone. Due to the argument she told me that she was mad and would not be coming over to my place that night. I DNGAF. I called the next girl on my list. Well, girl #02 stood me up. A little later that night I got a call. It was my wife/girlfriend. She decided to come over anyway and she was downstairs waiting for me to let her up. See, there was no begging, pleading or neediness from me. She…
/r/askMRP03/12/17 03:02 AM
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What do think MRP is? You think she will divorce you for becoming a better version of yourself?
/r/askMRP01/12/17 09:34 PM
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42 male. 2 kids (5, 8). Married for 17yrs (together for 22). Look, do what you want. But give this forum some fucking respect or get the fuck out. If you wife is a harpy bitch, it's most likely because you are a shitty husband. Was she a harpy bitch when you married her? Probably not, right? It sounds like you are angry. Starting off, MRP tends to do that. If you read the side bar, internalize the material and LOSE YOUR FUCKING EGO, the anger subsides. You realize that you have ALWAYS been playi…
/r/askMRP01/12/17 09:26 PM
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LOL. Naw. You guys are kicking ass and saving lives. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 06:28 PM
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Just fucking with you. "Old" meaning you guys have been here for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 06:14 PM
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Oh yeah...this is perfect. Old head circle jerk. We luv you old guys. https://youtu.be/23GrEhLUF_k
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 05:50 PM
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Verbal lubricant. Nice! Glad you guys did not lose your sense of humor with all that jerking and chafing going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 05:39 PM
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Wrong show but close enough. Delta was hotter than any of the Golden Girls.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 05:34 PM
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You mods just like to write post like this for each other, huh? It's cute. Kinda like an episode of the Golden Girls.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 02:20 AM
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Haha...I have been there. Turning down starfish.
/r/askMRP01/12/17 12:41 AM
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Agreed. I came home earlier this week and the kitchen was a fucking mess. My SAH wife was getting ready for an art show, had a sick kid and she had a cold herself. I was still pissed as the kitchen should have been fucking cleaned. So I cleaned it my self. Later that night she apologized (unprompted) for not having cleaned up the kitchen. Like u/UEMcGill stated - be a man of action. Own your ship via example. I could have given her shit - made her feel bad, and had an argument. I chose to be an …
/r/askMRP30/11/17 11:52 PM
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She countered with a decisively non-covert contract. “How about you hurry and do the dishes while I go slip into something more comfortable?” You are right. It was an overt contract which is worse in my opinion. Why? She knows that she can use sex to modify your behavior. You are not the prize nor do you have a prize mindset. What you do for her, not how you make her feelz, is the prize. Beta bucks. In this round she won the value equation. It’s simple. Your value is your commitment. Her value i…
/r/askMRP30/11/17 11:35 PM
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Maybe he loves solving table setting problems and should be a party planner?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 12:54 AM
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Didgeridoo. This must be what the guy felt like in the Crying Game shower scene. https://youtu.be/LuzTLhq0DOs
/r/askMRP29/11/17 12:39 AM
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It takes a strong frame to post this. I need to find a slution for snoring. I don't plan on blowing on a wood cock every night. I did order a humidifier. I will get back on my Neti Pot routine. There are also some mouth/tongue exercises that may help out. Thanks for the post and the push.
/r/askMRP28/11/17 11:17 PM
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I had trouble with this for a while as well. 1) It has to be subtle. 2) As stated before, kill the covert contracts and ego. 3) Stay awsome and upbeat - she should not determine your mood (and no one wants to hang with a moody bitch) Won't go into details but my wife annoyed me on two fronts last night. For both issues I lost my ego, killed contracts and acted awesome and as if I was a single man owning my shit. I happily interacted with her, but my interactions were brief and I busied myself wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 04:14 PM
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So I struggled with porn as well. While we never had a deadbedroom, I have always been "undersexed" since we've been married. I'd turn to chat rooms and porn. Pre-MRP it got to the point that I was up until like 3am or 4am watching porn (on work days). It was my addiction/escape. Fucked with every facet of my life. It was all about the dopamine rush. I followed the downward spiral to more depraved shit. I also sought to act out these things in real life. My wife knew about the porn, but I don'y …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 03:44 PM
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Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Especially if you are in a LTR with kids. Be even more prepared if you have a woman who is worth two shits. But, you are doing that anyway since you are an awesome motherfucker, right?
/r/askMRP28/11/17 01:48 AM
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Taking me a long time for this to become a natural thought process for me, but that is where Dread comes in. Be awesome for yourself, but being awesome produces Dread that you may leave her. That is your leverage. Sex is pretty easy for a woman to get. Commitment from a quality man is not.
/r/askMRP28/11/17 01:12 AM
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I can confirm this. I have heard the "emotionally connected" thing from my wife. They can't always articulate what they want but it is confidence/security as u/straius stated. As the relationship and our "emotional connection" has improved, the quality of sex has improved. If your wife tells you that she is not "emotionally connected" - she's telling you that you are a drunk captain and she is not on board with your vision (if you have one). You don't have to worry about this with a ONS, but - y…
/r/askMRP27/11/17 09:26 PM
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Remember your value. Man = Commitment. Woman = Sex. With a separation she still has your commitment while she explores if she wants to fuck other guys. Seems like a bad situation for you.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 09:16 PM
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Can't figure out much about you via your post (or history). But, typically a dead bedroom is the result of being a shitty man/husband. Your wife does not want to fuck you for a reason, and I am 100% sure the real reason is not some stupid recent argument. You can talk OI and DNGAF til the cows come home, but none of that matters if you are not Captaining the ship first. So do you OYS at home? Would you want to fuck you? How have you contributed to your dry dick? I don't see any of that in your p…
/r/askMRP25/11/17 09:35 PM
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Also, at the ripe age of 42, don't go crazy and injure yourself trying to SQ 400lbs. Lift for function. Be strong enough to pick up your wife and fuck with your son. If you are going for asthetics, it's more about being cut (vs. looking like a a powerlifter). I am 42, but don't really care about max reps. I am trying to cut as I am on the chubby side. I have pulled back on my lifts a bit as I am dropping calories and trying IF. My stats are below. BP: 225x6 DL: 275x6 SQ: 275x6 OHP: 135x6 (can pr…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 10:43 PM
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I am not sure it is a planning/leading failure. A few years ago she started in with, "everything we ever did or planned sucked." Get organized and Goolge shit? Lots of planning tools and guides on the "internets". Do fun stuff that you like? Also figure out what she likes so you both can have a good time. And re-read what you wrote and answer your own question about leading/planning.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 11:46 AM
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It's Monday of Thanksgiving, how do you not have plans? In the absence of leadership, your wife will take over. My wife really misses her family. I planned our summer vacation around seeing her family in the Southeast. I also planned our Thanksgiving vacation around her family in the Northeast. Key words are "I planned" and "around". I initiated, planned and led both vacations. I also made sure there was other shit I wanted to do (other than seeing her family, who I do like) while on vacation. S…
/r/askMRP20/11/17 07:34 PM
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"Slow clap". I'd be willing to bet that OP also does not do shit around the house. Your wife and kids are a reflection if you. If she's lazy, it's probably because you are lazy and a shitty household leader. I had a similar question recently about motivating my wife (@ working out and eating healthier). The answer was to set a better example. So, set a better example.
/r/askMRP16/11/17 04:40 PM
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I tell my wife that one pussy in the hand is worth two in the bush.
/r/askMRP16/11/17 03:59 AM
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WTF? 7k? Shit, I am lucky. It is covered by my work benefits. For me it has helped with self control and awareness. A lot. It has helped with ego, OI, DGAF and frame. Ego - we talk alot about listening. So I stopped listening to my wife for facts and logic. I now listen for feelings or as u/weakandsensitive would say - subtext. But with that I had to become an objective observer. So now it's easier not to get upset when my SO points out some real or perceived deficiency on my part. I think about…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 04:44 PM
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Yes. Let it hurt your pride. But for gawd's sake keeep your ego in control and don't let it show. The remedy is not to talk, it's to do better. You lead your wife to an uncertain situation. Figure out how you can fix it. Don't talk about it, do it.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 03:10 PM
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Nope. It means you are not doing it right. Why was there a question about who picks up the kid? Why was that not determined before? It shows a lack of planning. If you can't plan, you can't lead.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 02:08 PM
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LOL. It's actually hilarious. I remember in our last session our MC asked me, "Crimson_Chris, so how did that make you feel?" My response, " It does not matter how I feel...blah blah blah OMS lose my ego". (FYI - the last piece if that is paraphrased) For the first session or two I tried to work outside on the MRP protocol and share my feeling because of "society" and the MC is a professional - as you can predict, that was a disaster. Since approaching marriage counseling with a MRP mindframe, i…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 02:05 PM
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Owning My Shit | #02 Nothing huge last week. I hit some small goals and missed some small goals but progress was made. Stats Age: Early 40’s (wife and I) Two kids (5, 8) Height/Weight: 5’6 | 206.8lbs (Monday morning weight) Sidebar (Read) NMMNG Mindful attraction MMSLP Rational Male 16 Commandments of Poon The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Finances Goals Pay down all debt by December 2018 Accumulate $100K in liquid assets by next July 2018 Green Sold some stock from an old company that was goi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 01:02 AM
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The subtext is that you are the bottom. The subtext is that you don't lead. The subtext is that you don't make her feelz secure. The subtext is that you are a shitty captain. Let's see if you can digest that with no ego.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 12:38 AM
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You should not discuss over email or text. This is not a logistics issue, it's a leadership issue. That "plan B" basically says that you are not owning your shit. There should be no convo during the middle of the week with your wife about logistics. A good captain would have reviewed the navigation for the week before the family set sail. I review the next week with my wife on Saturday. Then we discuss the next week with our kids with at our Sunday family meetings. So during the week, everyone k…
/r/askMRP15/11/17 12:32 AM
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Thought the answer from you would be to be a man who's woman does not cheat (dread, rigjt). Or if she does cheat, NEXT. I'd blame those poor "men" for not learning the rules of the game.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 12:50 AM
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"But a recent trip from my wife made me fall off the wagon". Nope. It's all you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/17 03:43 PM
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The game is not fair for men or women. The game is amoral. The game does not give a shit. You play to win. Nothing is fair and all is fair.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/17 04:38 AM
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Haha. She asked for a temporary restraining order.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/17 12:08 AM
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So one night I woke up horny as hell, and my wife was asleep. I decided to jack off and not wake her up. She happened to be having a stomach ache (so not fully asleep) so my "activity" woke her up and she went to sleep on the couch. The next morning I apologized. She said, " you should not be ashamed for masturbating". I said, "I'm not. I was apologizing for waking you up. Nothing wrong with jacking off." Well...no problem if you do it every blue moon.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 11:46 PM
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Also, think of how much a fucking beat down beta he had to be. He did not even ask them for sex. He just asked them to watch him jack off. Fucking sad. That is how fucked unplugged men are. You get power and status - and you are still beating your own dick. Disney does not tell you that.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 11:11 PM
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He always asked first. If a woman asked you if she could show you her pussy, is that lewd? You'd say yes or no and move on. Read his statement.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 11:07 PM
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Same thing when a female teacher sleeps with a male student. It never as big of a scandal as when it's the reverse.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 11:06 PM
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Yes. This guy is 3 months into MRP vs. 11 of being a pussy and she wants comfort? What are we doing here? Not a comfort test. And she doesn't give a fuck. She gave him a morning pity peck. It meant nothing to her.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 07:58 PM
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Look, I am having the same conversation with my brother. Improve yourself FIRST. Once you get "there" - you need to giver her time to catch up. Then evaluate. Her response is a lagging indicator of your leadership, so give it time. My wife has given me comfort tests and she has given me the "IDGAF about your commitment" message. Based on the post, your issue is the latter.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 04:40 PM
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Based on your post you are still a shitty man. You have probably always been a shitty husband. Divorcing your wife will not fix your problems, it will probably just make them seem less urgent. Again, based on what I read, her letter is probably not a comfort test. You have been on MRP for a couple of months right? There is a low probability that your SMV has increased to the point that she is worried about you leaving. She just doesn't care anymore. Which is a lot worse. Hold tight. Keep lifting…
/r/askMRP10/11/17 02:47 PM
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Oh, so that is where the racist shit is on TRP/MRP.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 06:18 AM
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I think after years of marriage, we forget who we were before marriage (well, some.of us). We are taught that marriage is compromise. It is, but there are certain things that can't be compromised - like your mission/goals. Once you get past the physical, your attractiveness is based on your future benefit to your spouse. Hence, if a man is not constantly performing he is losing attraction with his mate. But, you can't make her you vision because there is no value in that for her (or you) - what …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 04:07 PM
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This summer my wife had hernia surgery (abdominal). It was a carryover issue from having our kids (5 and 8). The hernia had been causing a LOT of pain and that was compounded with some tipsy captian issues and a lot of resentment toward me. This summer was not a lot of fun. After the surgery, she was cleared for sex after a week. I think we waited 4 weeks (and we had a two week dry spell before the surgery). Needless to say, I had blue balls. I continued to comfort her, but by 6wks I wanted to f…
/r/askMRP09/11/17 03:40 PM
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In had a 6pk in highschool at 175lbs and I have more muscle now. But...we'll see. I am on the chubby side of chubby so I will STFU (finally).
/r/askMRP09/11/17 12:24 AM
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Collards - haha. I know. But they are so good for you! Yeah, realizing that her health has typically followed mine. Her motivation is a trailing indicator of my leadership.
/r/askMRP08/11/17 11:12 PM
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We can agree to disagree here. I sit down with my kids after I get home to talk with them about the day and help with homework (if not already done). Then they help me make their lunches for the next day and I read to them before bed. During that time my wife and I may catch up or do that after the kids go to bed. I agree with the concept of leading when you get home, but it does not have to be around a meal.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 05:45 PM
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Not on roids but I am sufficiently built. I have been lifting since middle school. If you guys don't believe me, meh. My goal is to get to 180. Should have a 6pk at that point. I am just built thick. Most people right now guess my weight as 180. I can wear a 34" waist but usually buy 36" or larger because my thighs or calves barely fit. But thanks. In shape, yes. Ripped, no. For example. Ray Rice (ex FB player). He was 5'8 but weighed 212. So yes...you can be 5'6, muscular and 205 and be in good…
/r/askMRP08/11/17 03:48 PM
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Nice. I had never heard of Unitarian. Just looked up one not far from our home. Will check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 03:35 PM
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For the most part, your wife and kids are a reflection of you. Especially the kids. I'd say drop the ego. From this post (cleanliness, prioritization, tomfoolery) your wife is reflecting your own bullshit. I am I'm the process of climbing out of that hole now.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 03:23 PM
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The kids have a kiddie table in the kitchen. That is where they normally eat. I usually get home after 6pm and they usually eat around 5pm. I am doing IF now (eat in the morning only) and even before IF I skipped dinner pretty often. We have a 10ft(?) formal dining table - so when we eat as a family, that is the spot. It'd look a bit awkward for us to sit at the table with my wife and I at the ends and the kids at the sides. You do you, but a captain is not made by where he sits. I am sure there…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 03:11 PM
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No loss of sex drive. No ball pain when I cum.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 02:46 PM
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I had a vasectomy after our second kid. Not having to worry about birth control eases a lot of tension in the bedroom. Ditto on the peas. I ignored the icing. IT-WAS-A-BAD-DECISION. The actual vasectomy was not painful.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 07:32 AM
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Owning My Shit | #01 I am embarrassed to say that I have been on MRP for over a year and this is my first OYS. I have posted and commented, but no OYS. Putting a plan on paper (vs. in my head) and sticking to it has been an uphill battle for me (all my life). I have seen a lot of improvements in myself and in my marriage since starting MRP. I have been more confident at work and a better father. I have been taking care of the house (fixing shit) and doing a better job of leading. I’ve lost about…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 07:01 AM
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So insert "Rod A" into "Slot B" does not generate feelz? I am trying to get better at the emotional thing. My mind is mostly wired for logic. Something I know I need to work on. Treat her like the oldest teenager.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 08:35 PM
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Good points. Thanks. I am not great on the emotional side. Need to work on that.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 08:30 PM
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/u/drty_pr - yeah, not going to have an open discussion about her losing weight. She has started to eat a little healthier. She has a appointment with a personal trainer tomorrow. She is trying to make changes but still down on herself. So, again - that is why I ask the motivation question. Am I ripped - of course not. But I am also not a fatty mc fat fat. I will work towards the 12% bf. Right now focusing on eating clean a a 20/4 intermittent fasting protocol M-F. First time I have seen my ribs…
/r/askMRP07/11/17 08:18 PM
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Agree. She has started to eat healthier. She is also has a session with a personal trainer tomorrow. Just wanted to see how other guys helped to push their wives along. And - of course I'd prefer for her to lose weight.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 08:02 PM
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That is what I used to weigh. Even at 225 I was still lifting and running. I weighted in at 203 this morning. Arby's is pretty disgusting.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 07:53 PM
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Why yes, I do.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 07:45 PM
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Thanks for the links. JOH always drops knowledge.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 04:13 PM
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Would I prefer a burger with bacon? Yes. Am I content with a burger without bacon? Of course. I prefer a slimmer woman but from a sexual standpoint I am content with my curvy wife. She's definitely overweight (which she knows) but not fucking morbidity obese. She has had a multitude of health problem which I think are related to an unhealthy lifestyle. We are working on that and why I asked you guys for motivation advice ( which was leadership, consistency and dread). I want her to be around and…
/r/askMRP07/11/17 03:38 PM
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So you do know that DEER is a asinine word to use when MRP men exchange and discuss ideas. Part of debate and learning is to defend and explain your ideas for mutual understanding. This is a locker room, but hopefully not a dumb one.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 03:13 PM
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Thanks. That is what our conversations sounded like in college and before kids. Lots of fund adventures and we were both very active. I think what has been missing since the kids is planning together (with me leading). Thanks.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 06:12 AM
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I hear you, but I have always eaten relatively healthy and have worked out. The intensity is what has varied. I do need to lose more weight. The target is 20lbs - 30lbs. And yes, long term planning which has been a failure for me.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 06:11 AM
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One of my biggest issues is consistency. So something I should goal set for. Thanks.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 06:09 AM
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Think I clearly stated what a one rep max is, but semantics right. 315 is warmup DL for you? Excellent. "300 is novice for MOST male weights". Maybe for guys on steroids. I am 42. I can do 305 for 6 reps. Could prob DL at least 335. That would make me "intermediate" by your link (which I have used). So....I am intermediate but not advanced. Is that pussy or faggot? Is pussy a step up from faggot? -By your link, a male does not hit "novice" at DL of 300lbs unless he weighs 230lbs. Most guys don't…
/r/askMRP07/11/17 06:08 AM
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Point taken. Do you think that a man's logical/rational plansl can lead to a woman's emotions/feelz? Or the lack of a rational/logical plan can erode emotions/feelz? Basically planning leads to a feeling of safety and security in a LTR? I am 1yr in buy I suck at planning. It is my biggest hurdle that I need to take down.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 12:48 AM
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I don't do sexting with guys from the internet.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 11:16 PM
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I don't max rep. But I stated that I can do a minimum six of Squat and DL reps at 305. So, pretty sure I can do more than three plates for one rep. Oh yeah, and I am 5'6 motherfucker. So...yeah, I am sufficiently strong. Off to work on your suggestions. Thanks. I appreciate the advice (not being sarcastic).
/r/askMRP06/11/17 11:10 PM
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Wow, somebody actually gave advice! I have given her advice in the past to various degrees of sucess - but she tends to be a lot less intense/competitive about exercise as I am. She has signed up with a female personal trainer (starting tomorrow). I do DL. I will wait and see what she hears from the PT and supplement from there. Thanks. I will tell her that I got it form a faggot on the internet.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 11:07 PM
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I agree here. My weight has gone up and down most of my life. I have had a challenge with consistency/discipline. I think sticking with a strong plan will help out with both the wife and kids.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:58 PM
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The weight does not bother me. Her overall health does. Thanks for the note on a plan and buy in.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:56 PM
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Most of the time I have sex with my wife the kids are at home. Today just happened to be a blue moon were we were home alone. This post is not even about sex. It's about a convo that came up while discussing sex. Read for context.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:55 PM
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Yip. Because it was a post about helping my wife to get healthier.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:45 PM
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|Hint Fuck. Forgot how literal everyone is here. I told her "let's have sex since the kids are gone for the day". So my hint was not really a hint. Eh..sloppy writing on my part. |Family Vision I agree here. I developed a family plan about two months ago (health was part of that). Then had her help me edit the draft and align as parents/husband/wife. I turned that into a template for family meetings. The first meeting with the kids was a fucking bust. My fault - did not do a good job of incentiv…
/r/askMRP06/11/17 08:45 PM
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Gotcha. I have been a little hesitant to apply a lot of pressure. She suffers from anxiety and depression. Will admit that a lot of it is my fault for being a tipsy captain for a while. So, stabilize the ship and up the pressure? Make sense. We she did lose the weight before, she 100% knew I was getting interest from other women. At the time I had no RP awareness, but it totally makes sense now.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 08:31 PM
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Happiness - never said I was not happy. I could be happier. I asked about motivation for my wife. That being said, if you re-read my post, her level of activity does not hinder mine. Again, re-read. I never said anything about me not living the life I want. It was about bring her along. Sidebar: Been her for a year. Sidebar has been read. My life: Never said I can't live my life. I stated that I am doing fun shit and I am in shape. So, I am walking the talk. Asking for some examples of how other…
/r/askMRP06/11/17 08:25 PM
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At one point I ran a half marathon. I'd wake up at 4am to do my long runs so I'd be home by 7am (around the time my two young kids got up). I am not a fast runner. 7am? Seriously, that is sleeping in for me. Even on the weekends. You have time for anything. You make time for your priorities.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 12:46 AM
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The physical is easy. The mental is hard. Even though I know I have to put my ego aside, it keeps rearing it's fucking head. My wife needed some comfort last night. My ego said, fuck that - so instead of me being her rock a slight argument ensued since I decided she was slighting me (ego). I was able to gather myself and resolve the issue (lose ego and listen), but it shows me that I still have a long way to go. At the end of the day her issues are 100% my failure. And not relationship failure -…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 05:12 PM
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Exactly. I am black but according to CNN I am following a cult that is run by White Supremacists and the KKK. Journalism is just in a very sad state right now.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 02:56 AM
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I am responding to the "news story" painting TRP as overtly racist. Showing pictures of Charlottesville and the KKK to make a connection between the gruops. Simply pathetic. So borderline racism, maybe from a VERY small minority - this is an open forum with lots if different viewpoints. If this formum was the alt-right or rooted in support for Trump, I'd be gone. There is nothing political or racist in the sidebar. That is the basis for this forum.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 02:53 AM
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I am a black man. I have been on TRP/MRP for a year. I have not seen any racism or "radicalization". Hell, I rarely see anyone dicuss politics. That "reporter" should be fired for her shoddy journalism.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 01:29 AM
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Irresponsible reporting. Did you know that all guys who follow TRP are alt-right, Trump supporting racist and also part of the KKK? WTF? How does CNN produce this crap?
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 01:26 AM
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Haha. Good edit. One of best thing I have done is go to marriage counciling. Haveing a third party in the room has opened my eyes to my wife's rewriting of history. While her feelz are correct, they are devoid of any fact. She paints herself as a hapless victim. She changes her narrative week to week, which our councilor has called her on. I realize I have fucked up some stuff and I am making amends. To myself.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 03:26 AM
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I think around 40 people start taking stock of their lives. It's trending up, down or more of the same. The partner with the higher SMV pulls the strings. Be the partner with the higher SMV. Most guys don't give a shit as we typically don't ask women for much. We cling to the little respect and pussy we get from our wives - always having a glint in our eyes of how awesome our wives used to be. We just carry on mute, blind, deaf and dumb. Oneitis. Women on the other hand take a hard look at the s…
/r/askMRP02/11/17 12:01 AM
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Fuck! This literally happened to me this afternoon. I worked from home today (avoiding halloween traffic). And I went with the wife to pick up the kids (which is a break in her routine). As she pulled into the pick up lane to get the kids at the school I got out to strap in my 5yr old (he can do it, but we were in a rush). I guess she did not notice me outside the car. As I am strapping him in, she begins to pull off. I begin drumming hard on the top of the car (with my open palms) and she comes…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 01:42 AM
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When my kids honestly apologize for a mistake I forgive them. If I punish them by continuing to withdraw my attention after they apologize, I would not be giving them positive reinforcement to apologize for mistakes they may make the future. Based on your post, YOU are caught up in YOUR EMOTIONS. Drop your ego and get over that shit. UNLESS she is trying to kill you. Then a Mr. and Mrs. Smith scenario will ensue and you can enjoy some wild screwing.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 06:14 PM
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So are you saying the we should OYS?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 12:45 AM
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I'd say this. Even if she defers to you, she probablybdoes this to try and keep you involved. If you don't know where or what your kid is doing on Tuesday at 5pm, your are not leading. You don't have to create the calendar, but you should own the dicussion around it. My wife and I have linked Google calenders. She maintains the big white dry erase calendar in the kitchen. My goal is to coordinate schedules each weekend so we know what to expect in tje following week.
/r/askMRP28/10/17 06:57 PM
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On the feelz from the wife. I have to keep reminding myself to lose my ego. 90% of the time she just wants to express her feelz, not fix anything. My wife was in a bit of a funk last night. I know that I should not use her feelz as a barometer for my happiness but, eh...that is a problem area for me. For half the night I tried to "fix" her mood. A hug here, a kiss there. No real response and I starteed to get angry. "Why is she beinh such a bitch".Then I thought, "oh yeah MRP". So, left her alon…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 02:56 PM
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Yup. D.U.G. (dick under glass). As dictated to me by my wife.... Recently my wife was at a "geek" event at a place where she used to teach an art class. A guy she used to interact with there on occassion father had recently died. My wife (having the most pure heart of gold) went over to talk to him as he was in a corner by himself. He started to cry due to grief from his father's death. She gave him a "moma bear" hug. Gave him her number and told him to call her if he needed to talk. The next ni…
/r/askMRP23/10/17 05:42 PM
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This is from /u/Scurvemuch - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4drywg/finding_your_mission/. A Good plan e to start. Your mission is your ultimate goal in life, your passion. It's what all this is for. Don't think this is in the sidebar, but "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" is also a great book on finding your mission/passion.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:25 PM
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Agees. Basic shit. Rehash of the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 03:14 PM
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Also "probably 135" means you don't lift. To get started you may want to get a personal trainer. At age 50 shit breaks easier. I am 42 and have lifted since middle school, but I never did deadlifts. Tried them for the 1st time a little over a year ago (after I swalled the pill) and hurt my back (not bad). I finally swalled my ego (that little shit) and a PT fixed my form.ade a huge difference. Make sure you learn the proper form to avoid injury.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 02:45 PM
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FRAME. One of the most important parts of your plan. Frame starts whith your mission, which is a glaring omission in your plan. Without a mission you have no frame. Your mission dictates why you do what you do and your frame is the outward projection of your inner goal. Your mission is what you want. Your goals are how you will achieve it. Your frame is the structure by which to keep it all together. Good start. Make sure you understand what you are trying to achieve. And here is a little hint, …
/r/askMRP23/10/17 02:27 PM
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You should always be sexual as a man. Don't only engage your mate when you want sex. It's not about your wife "catching" your intentions. She should welcome sexual attention from a man with high SMV. You guys are getting this wrong if you think of this as a defensive strategy. "How can I not worry her about having sex with me". It's about creating a sexual atmosphere. Your fox metaphor makes me cringe.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 11:38 PM
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"C" post, but taken out of context some lard ass, still tipsy captian here is gonna start "gaming" his wife and wonder why it is still not working. "Eh...harpy bitch. Guess AWALT".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 11:31 PM
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BUT. If you are a fat autistic fuck, you don't start here. You start with the basics. Yes the fucking basics. Lift. STFU. Sidebar. Then learn AM and A&A. Then you move on gaining Frame, OI and Abundance Mentality. There are no shortcuts or magic bullets. Only work. Look. I have ALWAYS been overtly sexual/flirty with my wife. I have also been in relatively decent shape. So when I started MRP, I was able to implement ABC (always be closing) relatively fast. It was an old behavior that I let fade a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 10:39 PM
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Read the side bar. Read the side bar. Read the old and new post. Then read some more. Get the basic strategy. Practice. Then come back with questions. It's all about real world application.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 10:05 PM
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Welcome. As it's been stated, this belongs on AskMRP. That being said, one big step forward will be losing your ego. Realize that YOU have created your own reality (shitty wife, wuz she like that when you married her) and you have always had the ability to change it. That is part of the mind fuck as well. You could have fixed this shit at any point, if you had the knowledge and put in the work. Click those Ruby slippers...there's no place like home.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 10:03 PM
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Look at /u/bogeyd6 being a gentleman! Are you getting soft?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 09:55 PM
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So you have found your backbone? Good shit. Men need to be decisive. As far as Rambo, he never gets his dick wet in the movies right? He's to busy being Rambo. Remember to keep it fun. The stick is only one tool in the kit. Also, beware of newb gains. Enjoy them, but remember improvement never stops. Once she sees a better you, a better you will be expected.
/r/askMRP21/10/17 09:52 PM
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Another shitty post that shows little to no side bar reading. Hell, looks like you have not even read and retained much or you would have realized this was a shittily framed "question". We are not here to "bully" newbs, but for gawd's sake, put in the work. That is why the mods and tenured guys come down on these post that show little to no knowledge of the free and CURATED material in the sidebar. Read motherfuckers! We are not here to give advice to people who are lazy fucks with little to no …
/r/askMRP21/10/17 05:19 PM
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It's not a great post. Maybe AskMRP worthy? It not a starfish post...maybe like a duty post? He showed up and bent over, but did not put in any real effort. Why should we lower our standards.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 11:49 PM
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It depends. If you beg for her pussy, or if you tell her how you are going own her pussy tonight. Are you asking or assuming the sale?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 11:46 PM
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Oh...and fuck giving up sex. What are you trying to prove?
/r/askMRP19/10/17 11:55 PM
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You are 100% in control of your life and the problems you choose to deal with. Good step in realizing that. I have two kids, but I am still making me the #1 priority. If I am my #1 priority the I am making sure I am happy, healthy and hungry to live an awesome life that they will benefit from. Be a man that your kids and wife respect.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 11:53 PM
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So I have had a similar cycle with my wife. There is some resentment around me not protecting her around the birth of our first child. This was eight years ago and it was never resolved. I put in 1yr of work with MRP, things were getting awesome - this issue came back up and we were back at square one. It does not matter if your wife is wrong on the technicalities. Why? The only thing that matters is that she feelz like you did not protect her. Logic and truth have no place here - just accept it…
/r/askMRP19/10/17 04:40 PM
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What is this low value shit?
/r/askMRP19/10/17 02:17 AM
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Good FR. My wife and I still have some rocky days but good mostly good days lately. For my b-day this year she planned a hiking trip and lunch at this cafe overlooking the ocean. It was great. Anyway she took a pic of me for FB and referred to me as her boyfriend in the post. Her and her girlfriends went fucking gidddy with comments. So, 100%. You have to be a regular husband and father - but you have to mix things up like a bf would. Someone reffered to this earlier, but we sometimes forget tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 01:06 AM
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So you go to bed at 8:30pm?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 12:57 AM
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If you want to delay having kids, fine - but have an end goal. Mine was finishing grad school first. "Someday when I am ready" is not a solid end goal.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 12:35 AM
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If you don't think you are the prize, no one else will. My grandfather/mother always told us to "do the right thing, even when no one is looking". I interpret that as work you ass off for your passion and don't seek out validation. MRP and seeing myself as the prize has been a game changer for me. My wife has asked me a couple of times over the last year if I have been seeing a therapist due to my increased confidence/cockyness and level of introspection. Little does she know that the manosphere…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 03:17 PM
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I don't know. The more time I spend with MRP the more I have an issue with lying. Not from a moral standpoint but from congruence. Just a far as 3 years ago I would lie to my wife about serious stuff and stupid shit. I was not OYS and was a scared to ask for what I wanted. Not a good place. I am at a point where I don't lie anymore (especially about petty shit). If you OYS (basics) and take care of your body, dress well, dread will eventyally take care of itself - no lies needed. Example, my wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 03:23 PM
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I got the invite. Definitely a bitch move. Just sad.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 02:20 PM
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I would not say that MRP denies psychological disorders. We are just regular men who may not understand them. When MRP suggest that a member NEXT a SO, it should be based on effort vs. value. Sometimes the woman is not worth the effort. MRP does result in rhe clashing of frames. Which I think is the right strategy. If you are in your wife's frame, you lose. If your wife does not enter your frame (and you OYS and are a man of worth) then move on. That is the correct next step. MRP is guaranteed t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 05:35 PM
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The problem with this post and OP (by way of this post and his responses) is that his wife is his goal. The whole post reaks of him supplicating himself to her frame. I am all for "fake it until your make it" but this level of "conditioning" a woman to "your touch" is fucking creepy. Like something you'd find on a neckbeard forum. While MRP is a sexual strategy and can possibly save a marriage, saving the marriage is not your goal. Fucking your wife at will is not your goal. They are the byprodu…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 02:59 PM
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So, your overall point is valid. Don't only touch your wife JUST for sex. Unfortunetly that is some basic shit that most men don't know (I did not know pre-MRP). As the mods have said, this post is 100% in your wife's frame. I'd reco that guys put more time into working out or building a social network than have this fucking level of detail and great care to holding hands with a woman you have already fucked. Obviously you have thought about this a lot. But, women are not that hard. MRP should b…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 02:40 PM
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100% agree. Women do want honest and straightfoward men. My wife used to have this bad habit of comparing my behavior to my kids. I started MRP. Started owning my shit. She threw out the kid comparison again. I told her it was disrespectful and I will would not be talked to in that way anymore. She has not done it since. But, I changed my behavior first. A docile, non-shitty wife is a lagging indicator that you OYS. Remember, the behavior comes first. Then the respect.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 07:49 PM
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Have you checked out MRP? Women are bitchy to shitty men. Don't be a shitty man. Having a giggly/docile wife is not the goal, but a barometer. Sounds like you need to get started.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 07:44 PM
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1) How could you be in MRP for 2yrs and still be in your wife's frame? 2) How could you be on MRP and still awkwardly (it had to be awkward) ask your wife about being more kinky over lunch? 3) How are you still not attractive enough to generate enough desire for your wife to fuck you more than once a week? 4) Why do you give a fuck what she thinks about your beard? ÷÷÷÷÷÷÷÷÷ 1) Re-read the sidebar. You prob should start with NMMNG. From your post it seems like you are a MRP basic bitch. 2) Once …
/r/askMRP11/10/17 12:29 AM
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Oh, fuck. Thought MRP was an place where men discussed and exchanged ideas. Females see deer.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 06:12 PM
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Oh, fuck. Thought MRP was a place where men discussed and exchanged ideas. Females see deer.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 06:12 PM
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100% agree with this (well most of it). I have no ill will toward capitalism, but your company does not give a fuck about you as an individual. Make sure you are getting more than you give. Especially if you work for a public company. Their ultimate responsibility is to the shareholders, not the employees (i.e. most companies stock takes a bump when they have layoffs). Now hopefully not EVERYONE at your company is a dick. You should have some allies and people you can trust (a little). I keep my…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 02:44 PM
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Nope. I am gonna cum in her mouth. And that shit will be grand! I am not dropping weight to get a bj to completion. But I'd like to have a bj to completion when I hit my goal. If I get my self proclaimed reward, great. If not, I will be fucking cut and that will be it's own reward. The cum shot is a nice to have. Not my ultimate goal.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 02:26 PM
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I was giving advice about strength. I can most likely squat 100lbs more than OP, so yeah. Fuck, I can bench more than OP squats. As for my 20% BF. 80% isn in my cock. Your wife likes it that way.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 02:22 PM
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MRP most likely starts out for everyone here as a sexual strategy. At some point, I'd hope that we all come to understand that a winning sexual strategy is the byproduct of being an awesome motherfucker (AMF). Now we may all have a different definition of what an AMF is, but if sex is your primary goal you will most likely fail as you will lack OI, DGAF and your entire journey is based on a covert contract. I want to turn my wife into the whore of my dreams, but that is not my primary goal. My p…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 02:18 PM
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That's shit. I am 42, 5'6 and I can squat 315 for six reps. Chicken legs have no place in MRP! Now that being said, my BF is prob at @ 20%. I am on the chubby side but IF is melting that shit away. Women are weird. My wife will do anal but has never given me a bj to completion. That will be my reward for when I hit sub 15% bf. Things definitely open up as you improve. BJ's came back as I straightened the fuck up. If I had only know this when we started dating 20yrs ago I probably could have gott…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 04:13 AM
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D.U.G. (dick under glass)
/r/askMRP06/10/17 12:09 AM
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Lagging indicator. Is NALPHA a thing? Nerd Alpha. And obviously, I know what a lagging indicator is as well.
/r/askMRP05/10/17 03:16 PM
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Haha..read. No way you have digested all of the side bar in one month. Keep reading and internalizing. ABE - always be escalating. I turn everything I can sexual. I am a naturally cocky (pun intended) person, but practice AM whenever I can. Be charming, fun and flirt. Does Rambo fuck in any of his movies? Keep getting fit. You need to be ripped. I am not there yet, but the more fat I lose (I already have muscle) the more "touchy" she gets. The more I can be sexual when and where ever. At one poi…
/r/askMRP05/10/17 03:01 PM
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So......maybe your goal will change at some point. But believe this. If your PRIMARY goal here is to save your marriage (especially at your stage in the game) you will fail. The goal is to become a better man. It's hard to explain, but if you are doing this for "her" she will smell it a mile away. If you do it for "her" you are still a beta bitch looking for mommy's validation. I'll leave you with that.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 09:11 PM
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So. I am in a similar spot. 40's, two young kids and married 17 years.I was a tipsy captain. I was a good dad and provider but a crappy husband. I was so fixated on being a dad and provider that I ignored my wife. She was detached and distant. I take 100% responsibility for creating the environment. Will MRP make you a better man? Yes. I started the work. Things got better. Sex quality and quantity went up. The marriage was more fun and flirty. On the surface things were better. Then I decided t…
/r/askMRP30/09/17 05:20 PM
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LOL. OI. This is great. Imagining myself getting butthurt since I can't lift 225. Doesn't that fucking bar know how much I want to lift it? Does it know how often I come to the gym? How much I paid for the gym membership? That bar does not respect me. Fuck that slutty bar!
/r/askMRP22/09/17 12:35 AM
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So, let's get into it. I took a look at some of your old post as well... I have been here 9 months now. I was really hoping to fix my marriage when I came here, and initially I thought this is going to be easy. You know this. This shit ain't easy. The theory is easy, the application is hard work. You can't fix your marriage. You can only fix you - and the marriage MAY follow. That being said, there is most likely something wrong with you that is causing the issues in your marriage. At some point…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 03:42 PM
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Having a fulfilling sex life will always be work - the key is if it is the work you want to do. You have to stay in shape, you have to run game, kino, be her rock - and keep improving. At the end of the day, the improvement also has to be for you. If you are improving for her (meaning for sex) you will most likely fail. I had a great run for @ 8 months. Sex was up to 2-3 times a week. BJ's, anal and handjobs were back on the table. She was initiating a lot more. It was great. And you know what, …
/r/askMRP21/09/17 01:23 AM
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So my wife and I tell our kids that half of the christmas presents come from Santa and half from us. Red Pill is something like the matrix, you just feel it. Without knowing what it is, a woman naturally wants a RP man. She wants a man to take the lead. She wants to feel safe. She'd rather not make decisions (that she does not want to make). She wants an honest man, not a creepy "nice guy". She wants a man with a vision (because she wants a beacon to follow). My wife has not read any RP/BP docto…
/r/askMRP14/09/17 01:56 PM
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So in other words watch what they do and not what they say?
/r/askMRP14/09/17 01:42 PM
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Wow. Did you mean confirmed emotional affair and likely physical affair? If your wife is taking your daughter to another man's house AND this dude has caused issues in your relationship - there is a VERY high proability that he is fucking her.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 03:21 PM
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Have you learned how to suck your own dick? That is the ultimate Alpha/MGTOW move. No woman needed.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 12:14 AM
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My kids can't give me the silent treatment because IDGAF if they have an issue with my rules (unless it's the rare occassion they have a valid point). I ignore them if they try to give me "the silent treatment". Same with my wife. Why do you care about your wife sulking? And yes, you do care and that is why you created this post. My wife and I have had sex once in the last five weeks. She had minor surgery and post ops she has some had some mental trama due to being cut open and a resulting smal…
/r/askMRP11/09/17 04:38 AM
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Do you think Chad shames women for being sexual?
/r/askMRP08/09/17 07:45 PM
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If you ever played sports you probably had a little bit of respect for your teammates. They were in the trenches with you day to day. But you did not expect a lot frm them. But, you probaly had a ton of respect for your coach - and the coach is held to a higher standard. The coach leads the team. That is his responsibility. The coach does not get credit for helping out with practice, he gets credit for scheduling and leading practice. Your wife may say she wants a teammate but she really wants a…
/r/askMRP28/08/17 02:36 PM
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Hey - fuck some of the asses here. You are right. Most of the answers are at our fingertips but the majority of people are to lazy to do the research. I used to be a consultant. When I first started my manager dropped this nugget. " You don't have to be smarter than the client. You just need to be two chapters ahead of them in the book." Consulting taught me the value of research and just being confident. That being said, I would not have called this post "Advanced Chess". Maybe " Be Better at C…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 09:39 PM
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At the end of the day it's still a covert contract. "If I spend X amount of time with the client, they will renew the contract". No. If you are a kick ass consultant and OYS it won't matter if you go to the game. It'a the same as "maybe she'll give me some starfish if I wash the clothes today"! Nope. If you are a man worth fucking it does not matter. Now if they are a client that cares about face time and other bullshit - is it worth it in the end?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 12:07 AM
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Got it. Frame. It was lost.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 05:48 PM
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Yes. I did let her get to me. And yes I cook. 1) I am the better cook. 2) I make healthy meals.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 03:39 AM
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Thanks. My armour was a little weak yesterday.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 03:33 AM
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Yeah or just tell her that I noticed, but it was not a priority? Things for me have been a bit off lately. I have definitely ran a tighter ship and thigs have been slipping. I think both my wife and I have noticed it. In retrospect I was mad a myself for the late schedule yesterday - and her requests just reminded me that I was not owning my shit (or she would not have had to ask). Typically I would have taken care of all that shit way before 5pm.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 01:42 AM
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Yeah. I agree. Things have progressively gone sideways for me over the last couple of months.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 01:37 AM
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Right. I did let my feelz get the best of me.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:59 AM
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I think the keyn is to WHY you are doing it. If you are doing things for mommy's validation - that is choreplay. If you are handling your shit cause it's your home, that's OYS. What would you be doing if your wife were not around? Live like that. The more you do the less value she brings - and they do start to see that.
/r/askMRP18/07/17 11:14 PM
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OP - althart has the best advice here. You are asking your wife to follow you into battle and you have no plan. Why should she leave the comfort of her homeland for uncertainty in the US? Would younif roles were reversed? I have been through this same scenario with my wife. It has taken me 17yrs of marriage to understand that women need to belive in the man they follow. Your wife does not believe in you. You need to fix you (not her). If you do there is a high probability the EVERYTHING in your …
/r/askMRP10/07/17 07:36 PM
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Your first sentence = TRUTH. I still have work to do. Will implement and re-evaluate.
/r/askMRP03/07/17 08:30 PM
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Noted. Thanks.
/r/askMRP03/07/17 08:24 PM
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Thanks. Will look up MMM. Funny when we were talking yesterday she said, "I know you are going to say that it's not your job to make me happy". Most of consumer debt is grad school loans. Hit $200k in the last couple of years and the West coast is fucking expensive. I have also been putting $$ into my 401K. The match rate + gains makes more than cost of debt. CC debt was transfered @ 6% - 8% interest rate - could pay it off now if needed. Also - child care here is fucking crazy. Was paying $36k …
/r/askMRP03/07/17 08:24 PM
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Okay, your call. I see a lot more basic shit than mine posted in MRP. Just saying.....
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 07:20 PM
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Nicely said. I agree - for that to work you have to be a high value man. We own commitment. If you are not a man that is valued, you have no leverage in the relationship (your commitment is not valued). Anything else will come across as pussy, beta victim puke.
/r/askMRP01/07/17 11:39 PM
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Archwinger - I usually love your advice, but here I don't know. If find it a bit disrespectful for a married man or woman to be out late drinking and clubbing on a regular basis. I agree that talking to her would be a waste of time. That being said, you are actively allowing herself to be in a position that increases the probability of her slipping and falling on some dick. I guess if she is doing this, there is something amiss with the Captain. When my wife has come home late (not that often) I…
/r/askMRP01/07/17 09:22 PM
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It's pretty simple. How often does a guy wait for a woman to propose? It's not the norm. So yeah, men own commitment. How often does a woman "wait" for a guy to have sex with her? Most don't. Women own sex. There are always outliers, but the above is the natural state.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 07:16 PM
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Who said being a man of worth is easy? It's a grind and life gets in the way, right? Everyone has bad days. You just have to have more good than bad - and stay consistent. I am coming out of a down cycle but what motivates me is realizing just how short and precious life is. You get out what you put in. I also have some quotes to get my ass in gear. 1) No one is coming to save you (so get off your ass) 2) Every day is one step closer to your last (so get off your ass) 3) There is always someone …
/r/askMRP15/06/17 01:49 AM
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Just stay consistent. Always make progress. I have been digesting MRP for about a year. I have had ups and downs. At this point I have 100% lost oneitis for my wife. Which is actually a weird feeling to tell you the truth. Set your goals. While I have made progress, goal setting is where I have failed. Someone said the "winners post in OYS". Post in OYS - be a winner. Also..think about killing the beta/bullshit in you little by litttle. I buried my old self about 4 months ago. But it took my a y…
/r/askMRP09/06/17 03:25 AM
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Just no. There is no way she has one ounce of respect for you. At this point you have no boundaries. Way before MRP my wife wanted to take a trip out of the country with a gay male friend. I did not know if I could take the time off work to go. She told me that she was going anyway without me. I was beta as fuck! That being said, I did have common sense to at least find a way to go along. You wife does NOT spend the night with someone of the opposite sex. If a woman is going to cheat, she will c…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 12:49 AM
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As a kid I never understood why the men on Cheers always stopped at a bar before they headed home. I do now. But stopping by the gym is by far the better option.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 12:40 AM
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Has she started to sync her bathroom scheule with yours? What about meals? Does she lift more than you? That is the ultimate shit test! Just fucking with you. Don't over think this shit. Do you like working out with her? If yes, continue. If no, stop working out with her. It can be a time to connect or a time for solace. I prefer solace but that's me. And my wife can't squat 300lbs.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 02:59 PM
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If your SMV is so high why are you using a Suger Daddy site?
/r/askMRP04/06/17 04:48 PM
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Why are you posting here? Have you read the side bar? l suspect not because if you had you would not have posted this fucking puke. "Hey AskMRP. I'm fat, my marriage is fucked up, but I make a lot of money, oh and I pay for sex on the side because no other woman wants to fuck me - but my wife should want to fuck me, but she's a harpy bitch." Dude - don't post again until you put in some fucking effort. Again - why are you posting here?
/r/askMRP04/06/17 04:37 PM
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So I will start by saying that I am in anger mode today. I just started reading The Manipulated Man. Part of me says fuck her. If the roles were reversed (wife was the out of town chaperone) OP could not call her bitching about how he can't handle the kids. If he did it would be a major devaluation of his manliness in the eyes of his wife. Par for the course, right? Mr. Peru is right. Give her a call and try to take a load off for her. She needs her oak.
/r/askMRP27/05/17 07:32 PM
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Agreed, but don't forget that you can delegate. About 8yrs ago the wife and I did three weeks in Europe. I planned where we were going (6 countries, 10 cities), where we''d stay and how we'd get around. She planned our activities. Best trip we've ever had - hands down. The key point (as you stated) is that you have to lead.
/r/askMRP26/05/17 10:29 PM
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Why do you give a fuck? At the end of they day you are the only judge of you. And on top of you giving a fuck, you complained to your wife. "Mommy, a mean old man is making fun of me". "Yeah, I am like a teenager since you daughter still fucks me like a horny school girl." I would have gone for "shock and awe" with a smirk, a laugh and a slap of the wife's ass. Remember, DGAF but have boundaries. Your FIL crossed the line in my opinion. My wife had one of the best responses in a situation like t…
/r/askMRP24/05/17 09:29 AM
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Revised Title: Very Confused, Have Not Fucked Wife in 6-Months OP, you should be writing a diffferent post. If you have not fucked your wife in almost a year, there is something very wrong. Since there is no historical context here, I don't know how we cangive you any real advice. This is not just a "hard no" situation. Someting is fucked in your marriage, and it ain't your wife.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 01:37 PM
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So, the elephant in the room (for me) is why does your wife complain about having to fuck you? If my wife brought that up I'd ask her about last night when she screamed "help make me cum" or the last time we broke the headboard, or when she gave me a surprise hj in the shower. My wife still complains about how much sex I want as well, BUT she knows I fuck her good. That being said, I am not ripped like Chad - yet. If you have a high SMV as stated before - why would your wife give you shit about …
/r/askMRP20/05/17 12:17 AM
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Man, that post is gold. That is why you can't negotiate desire. If no other woman wants to fuck you, why should your wife, BUT that shit goes both ways. Be a better man and the rest will follow. A switch will flip if you ever realize that MRP is ultimately about yourself. There is no spoon. It's you that's bending. That kid had frame like a MF. When your frame is so strong others bend to your will. That is Alpha.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 08:08 PM
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Comfort test. Women in a LTR need to feel "connected" to continue fucking their SO (especially if he is not Chad). They want to feel safe, validated and "heard". Women will continue to fuck their SO in a LTR if he is Chad, but something will still be "missing" - so she will probably find someone on the side to give her the Beta comfort she craves. My wife still fucks me because I rock her pussy. But, she basicaly told me this week that she feels lonely in the relationship. She also said she shar…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 03:13 PM
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All I had to read was...."a couple of nights ago I got lucky...." That is pretty much weak as fuck right there. Where is your confidence? You are the prize, right? You have a lot of work to do cowboy. Part of the game is comnfidence. The other part is walking the talk. I fuck my wife like a boss (not every time, but most of the time). Your SO should be "lucky" that a high value male is fucking her. I sexualize conversations with my wife consrantly. She lighlty complains sometimes, but almost alw…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 04:31 AM
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Take this with a grain if salt as I am still on my journey. I also no longer bargain for sex or anything else with the wife. I agree with others that it shows that she does not desire you and that you are okay with getting duty sex/bj's. It does not frame you as the prize. Her sex is the prize and she will get <X> if she gives you <Y>. You desire her sex, she desires what you provide. Beta bucks. The last time I remeber my wife trying this my response was " I am going to have sex anyway, so why …
/r/askMRP15/05/17 02:36 AM
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How the fuck did this post get any upvotes?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 11:10 PM
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That is FUCKING gold.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 02:07 PM
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Ditto on this one.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 12:45 AM
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You are bitch because obviously we have hurt your "wittle" feelings. You talk back like a bitch. So, go ask mommy to sooth you with her teats. And, are you injured or are you hurt? You stated "my knees can't seem to take too much weight". That is very different from something like "I blew out both knees". So..yeah, you are as manly as they come. Really dude, we are trying to help. Shit, DL's and squats fucking hurt if you are lifting heavy. It's supposed to hurt. Again, that is different from be…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 08:15 PM
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In the same boat. I got good grades, college, top grad school and work for fortune 500 companies but always felt like I was one step away from chaos. Last year we had our daughter diagnosed and I am 100% sure have ADHD. I told my wife. But the purpose was to let her know that I'd take the lead with our daughter since I understood how her mind worked. My wife is super concerned about my daughter's ADHD, could give less of a shit about mine. Handle it yourself and move on. Mommy does not want anot…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 06:37 PM
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Shamgar, Dude - this is a locker room so stop acting like a bitch. Mojo's response is actually spot on. You want to know the why of doing deadlifts and squats. It's a fucking manly thing to do. Both lifts are hard. They are uncomfortable. They teach you to find comfort in discomfort (yoga can do that as well, but no masculine energy there). They also both work the entire body. You WILL NOT get the same physical and mental results from machines. My wife used to always make fun of my ass (btw - sh…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 06:25 PM
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Nice post. Attention gating works wonders with MRP and done right, will get positive results without blowing shit up. Like slowly boiling the frog. But, you have to be a man of value first. If you are still fat ass Billy Beta your SO will give two shits that you have taken away your attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 03:22 PM
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I find this hilarious. My wife does the same thing..."talk to your son".."talk to your daughter". Mom's jod is to make the kids feel better (emotion). Dad's job is to fix shit (action). There are always exceptions, but this is the general pattern - and it makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 03:08 PM
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Haha. You're like a woman that wears a tube top with no bra and gets mad when guys look at her tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 02:56 PM
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Wow. You really live up to your name.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 05:13 AM
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Can you show anger without losing frame? I'd lean toward saying no. Once you show anger, you show a bit of a chink in the armour. When I think of a lot of great leaders, you never see them angry. Passionate? Yes. Angry? No. That being said, if you have been beta for while an expression of masculine energy via anger (w/o puke) can have positive effects - but I think there's a slight sacrafice of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 01:14 AM
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This is the antithesis of MRP.
/r/askMRP06/05/17 12:21 AM
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+1 on that. I have started calling out my wife when she calls women slutty. That being said make sure that you are ready for whatever sexual skeletons that your wife may reveal. My wife was telling a story about a co-worker that had ONS with a guy that worked in my wife's building (this was over 10yrs ago). My wife added in that the guy was "fine". My Beta goblin wanted some validation after that comment, I had to shut his ass down.
/r/askMRP06/05/17 12:19 AM
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I don't think that all women have the same sexual limits. I'll probably never get my wife to do a MFF (still dropping hints), but anal is on the table and I am working on her swallowing. I initiate a lot, but she initiates as well. She literally just came to get a debit card out of my pocket and felt up my dick. Last year she said she was suffering from a low libido and weak orgasms. If you are her alpha she will go to her limits. If you are not pushing limits you are not getting her best. It do…
/r/askMRP05/05/17 03:07 AM
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Man I disagree with the slut degree part somewhat. For Chad a woman will do almost anything. If your wife does not show some form of sexual passion for you, you prob have an alpha widow. Women are prudes with their BB's and slut's with their AF's. Chad cures a low libido real quick.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 01:40 AM
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What have you done with SGM? How have you got in touch with her emotions? With two kids, how do you get her immeresed? Variety? I am in a similar place. My wife is also very submissive in bed and will follow my lead - but I want her to be my slut. I have been working on the emotion and immersion part. Emotion - have been sharing more stuff about my childhood and what makes me tick (not victim puke shit). Also got a cock ring. She said she was "impressed" with me expressing my sexuality and being…
/r/askMRP05/05/17 01:33 AM
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You are so vain you probably think this book is about you.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 01:53 AM
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Man, yes definitely the right direction. Look, as long as you have a sound plan (and have demonstrated that you are not a fuck-up) typically youe woman will fall in line.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 04:55 PM
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Pretty much nothing to see here. Do you worrry (hamster) if your kids get angry with you? You can't lead if you are a prisoner to the emotions of others.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 03:29 PM
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Haha. Yeah - thatbis more accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/17 02:00 PM
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It's really like when Morpheus tells Neo "You've never used your eyes". Women know that they are batshit crazy and they test you like a kid will shit test an adult to see what they can get away with. Presence takes time. A year ago if we on the couch, my wife and I would be on opposite ends. She now comes over to snuggle with me. In this situation...after I addressed her FEELZ the right way, she left the kitchen...came back..hugged my arm....and rested her head agaist my shoulder. No words. I pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 01:04 AM
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A smirk, a wink and a pat on the ass is all she needs. Or tell her "I'm just being me". Or don't say anything at all. When I started MRP the wife said I was acting like a horny teenager....and amlost under her breadth she said "I like it."
/r/askMRP26/04/17 03:01 PM
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The wife has some self esteem issues - so the comment stung for her more than it shouls have - hence my ignoring (other than providing a solution) and I changed the convo. In this instance the hamster came back - twice. She did "need" something from me - to feel better about herself. There have been other times where I have left her ranting and everthing is blown over in twenty minutes or so. Most of the times you can ignore this shit, but there are some instances where you need to intervene. Wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 01:59 AM
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Yeah...there were a couple of ways to handle it. A rational and logical solution was not the right tool in this instance. Ultimately. the man should set the tone in the house, so I am responsible managing the mood of our home.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:59 AM
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You don't know my daughter. She was basically making a big scene....waving her hands and and holding her nose. It was not "mommy, your breath is a little stinky" said nicely. My daughter tends to treat my wife as her equal vs. more respectfully as a mother.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 08:18 PM
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I don't know if the goal of MRP is to make your SO cry. Now sometimes the hamster can run rampant because of the smallest slight - and that you can fucking ignore. On the other hand making jokes at the expense of your SO in front of others is juvenile. I can say this because I have been there and done that. Actually MRP has help me to understand how I am plugging into the wrong Feelz in that instace. IDGAF and being an asshole are not the same thing. Any pussy can make a woman cry with words, yo…
/r/askMRP20/04/17 12:01 AM
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Nice FR. It's not just STFU, it's STFU and OYS - which you did. STFU basically allows the hamster to run its course and can save newbies who are not up on AM or A&A. Also unlike most men, women LOVE to indulge in their FEELZ. STFU allows you to give them space to do this while you go about your business. You'll be surprised how often women resolve shit themselves or just completely fucking forget about whatever they were upset about - hamster is such a great metaphor. Good stuff OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 04:31 AM
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Get an eye patch. You're the captain right? Arrghhhhh matey! Dude...I saw this video (on reddit) of this guy with basically no hands (he had an arm with one fucked up finger thing) and no legs (looked like a birth defect) and he was lifting weights across his neck and running as fast as he could on his fucking nubs. And he owned that shit. So what the fuck are you bitching about again?
/r/askMRP15/04/17 09:50 PM
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Don't know if it has anything to do with being alpha. I am sure there are a lot of BB with high sex drives. Does it bother you? Is your wife looking for some strange? If no...carry on. Everyone is different. I am 41 and have been with my wife for almost 22yrs (dating + marriage) but I still want to fuck the shit out of her. My sex drive used to be a 10 (wanted it all day - every day) I am more like a 6-7 now. I do take suppliments now (Iron, Vit-D, Omega-3, L-arginine, Zinc) but I found that eat…
/r/askMRP15/04/17 12:20 AM
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Nooo...nooo...her ass is the bun.....the hot dog needs a bun....I have no use for a raw hotdog. A raw hotdog is basically a sausage. Egh....
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 07:54 PM
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Ketchup on the hotdog is fine by me. You just need some napkins. Now, if we are talking about chilli....that is a no go.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 07:52 PM
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She did date a Chad with a larger funny bone than me before we started dating. Shit...just realizing I started dating her after she got off the comedy carousel.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 07:49 PM
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Maybe......or....maybe...maybe..just hear me out....maybe my wife is fully in my frame now, so she is irreverent and fun as fuck just like me? Hopefully your wives will get there soon (if not already). These jokes would not have happened a year ago. She definitely would have puked up some BS about the kids vs. making a joke about them. Fucking Debbie downers. (think you mean to say she's the man - and no, we're not into pegging)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 07:45 PM
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haha...she shocked me with that one. My wife is pretty mild mannered. That was out of left field but effective. The funny thing is that this text string is all over the fucking place. We are talking Charlie Murphy, leukemia for dinner, hot dogs, UTI's and hj's. This was a fucked up conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 03:41 AM
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It's a joke? Life's rough, laugh sometimes. The kids are assholes (but, we love them) so feed them leukemia? My wife's gotta vent sometimes. For balance...she just threw my son a TMNT themed b-day part. Pulled out all the stops - and even dressed up as April O'Neal. That is not a pic of my wife, but you get the gist. So, she loves hard and hates hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 03:34 AM
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She's "all naturall" so that was her first stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 10:14 PM
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She's drinking unsweetened cranberry juice. That shit is disgusting (I drank some, thought it was sweetened).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 10:13 PM
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Lot's of good advice here. The problem is that you are afraid of your wife. You're scared that she'll be "mad" with you for not complying with her bullshit request. 1) Lift. OYS. 2) Get to the sidebar. There you will hopefully re-learn that you are the prize. Then IDGAF will follow. 3) Set boundaries and enforce them. Your wife is walking all over you. That shit equates to no respect. 4) Live. Die. Repeat. Shit gets easier but the grind never stops. But here is an uplifting story for you. I used…
/r/askMRP13/04/17 03:28 PM
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Ummm....it's a good sign. It's called flirting. Enjoy.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 12:39 AM
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I am pretty muscular but need to shed the fat for health and ascetics. My goals are below. Lift: 3 days a week (pretty comsistent here already). I keep it simple with supersets of compound lifts - with some plyometrics trown in. Muscle gains are relatively easy for me. Run: 4 days a week. 2 days of sprints and 2 days of a minimum 4-mile run. Burn the fat! Nutrition: Fucking Keto. Do it and stick to it. This is where I struggle.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/17 04:33 PM
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Nice FR. One if the hardest thing for me to learn has to to realize that you have to ignore most of the shit that women say. My wife always give me shit about being romantic - yet being romantic with her almost always = friend zone. Yet if I tell her how I am going to fuck her tonight she complains about me not being "romantic" enough but it's typically a great night of sex. And learning the subtle ways she asks for sex among other things. Ditto on inviting her to join you. I wanted to see a mov…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 10:29 PM
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Will we ramp to 600 daily pushups? MOM only got us to 300. Regardless, I'm in!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 10:08 PM
2

Once you really realize that it really is all about you. Convo with my wife last week.... Me: I got a baby sitter for Saturday. I want to see "Get Out". Are you my +1? (trying to make it fun and light). Her: You have options? Me: We both do, but we choose to be together. So, you my +1? 😘 I realize that I am choosing to make my life better. She has the option to be part of it. Start being the person you were before you got in a relationship. Realizing that was a turning point for me. Still have a…
/r/askMRP31/03/17 12:41 AM
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Soooo right. My kids are 7 and 4. My wife complains how the kids never listen to her, but they start to behave better when daddy gets home. It's because she.... A) does not enforce boundaries with the kids B) she does not follow through on discipline consistently I just had a convo with her yesterday @ underminding me - and when she does it goes bad for her 99% of the time. And again no logic. She knows they behave better for me yet she periodically shit test my tactics. Go figure. Anyway - you …
/r/askMRP24/03/17 03:43 PM
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Soooo right. My kids are 7 and 4. My wife complains how the kids never listen to her, but they start to behave better when daddy gets home. It's because she.... A) does not enforce boundaries with the kids B) she does not follow through on discipline consistently I just had a convo with her yesterday @ underminding me - and when she does it goes bad for her 99% of the time. And again no logic. She knows they behave better for me yet she periodically shit test my tactics. Go figure. Anyway - you …
/r/askMRP24/03/17 03:20 PM
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Second this. I wake up. Make breakfast for the kids. Give my daughter her medicine. Help my daughter feed her pet turtle. Get my son dressed and take him to school. All before I head to work. Wife is a SAHM. Oh yeah - also make the kids lunch the night before. This is a daily routine - not a special event. Today the wife complained about me not washing the kid's b-fast dishes.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 03:24 AM
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My wife puked up something like this weeks ago. My oldest is in 2nd grade and my youngest is in day care. The wife is kid free from about 9am until 4pm, yet complains about "how hard it is being a SAHM". I listen and let her have her feelz. You know....I just have the weight of supporting three fucking humans since I am the only source of income. Even with that I make breakfast, lunch and more often than not dinner - plus do my part around the house. And if I ever bitch about that to the misses …
/r/askMRP21/03/17 10:35 PM
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Haha....really like the "My wife should.....". I am working on re-setting boundaries. Long journey.
/r/askMRP21/03/17 01:38 AM
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Second this. Boxer briefs.
/r/askMRP20/03/17 03:25 PM
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Will give you the play-by-play when it does. Her emotions flow constantly so it shant be long.
/r/askMRP18/03/17 02:30 AM
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Man I feel you. Long story but my wife and I moved from Atlanta to Dallas to SF Bay. We left ATL once I finished grad school. She deeply resents the fact that we left Atlanta (although I 100% told her that we could stay). When we left Dallas I again put ATL on the table - she declined. About two weeks ago we had a huge fight. She was being a bitch. I callled her on it (BB me used to always let shit like that go) and let her know that her behavior was unacceptable (I also left the house). She fli…
/r/askMRP18/03/17 12:41 AM
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LOL. Yeah....better to initiate and get a no than to not initiate and pass on a yes.
/r/askMRP17/03/17 11:42 PM
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I want to second the body language. There are certain times I just manhandle my wife and she just submits. It's usually when I am a mix of horny/angry/flustered. It's like the best sex ever. Need to figure out how to channel that dude more.
/r/askMRP17/03/17 08:26 PM
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Hold the fucking presses. So your wife said "I want to suck your dick!". I think you are 90% of the way there. I've gotten more bj's in the last year than I have in the last 20yrs I've been married. My wife has never said that LOL. I have had her get on her knees. She is a bit reserved so I have found that I tell her what I am going to do and she follows. For example...I did not say "get on your knees". I told her I was going to sit on the side of the bed for my bj - then offered her a pillow. S…
/r/askMRP17/03/17 08:22 PM
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I think it depends on the man, the woman and the relationship. If you are a total fuck up, fat and your wife is on the verge of branch swinging - it probably does not help. About a week ago my wife called me Benjamin Button because she feels like I am getting younger (yes, I lift) while she is getting older. For the most part, I have my shit together as well (but always room for improvement, hence MRP). If you are in a good place (fucking her right, dressing well, decent captain) I don't think i…
/r/askMRP16/03/17 09:03 PM
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I guess I DGAF as it is the real me. I am doing this for me and not her. I don't really give a fuck what she thinks about my journey. But, I get your point. No one wants to see the sausage being made. And like most children I expect her to quickly lose interest in what I am reading.....
/r/askMRP16/03/17 03:33 AM
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Yeah...should not have went there. That being said, I know that I was her "Chad" in college - so it was not really a personal attack on her. I had shed most of my "nice guy" persona when we met in college. Will definitely STFU for a while but I do enjoy the vebal sparring at times. It usually ends with a laugh and a fuck.
/r/askMRP16/03/17 01:53 AM
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Haha...see your point. I was not trying to slut shame. I wanted to point out the irony of the "nice guy" waiting for his turn and how fucked up that was. But I get it.....logic. What was I thinking? Showing vulnerability was a bit calculated. I don't open up much......so trying to share myself in a non-bitchy way that does not come across as weak. Thanks for pointing out about letting her have her feelz.
/r/askMRP16/03/17 01:18 AM
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Yeah but it feels weird to hide it. My approach is that I am not going to initiate conversations, but I am also not going to hide things either. Well...maybe SGM. NMMNG seems pretty benign. She has also commented on my working out and dressing better - so she knows that change is afoot. That being said, I am not planning on introducing her to the wizard. Being emotional or bitching in front of your woman is BP. Discussing your childhood is connectiing on a emotional level. She physically melted …
/r/askMRP16/03/17 12:15 AM
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Cool. She comes with two kids and a mortgage.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 09:11 PM
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Yes. NMMNG is probably the more tame material. I don't read SGM in front of her.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 09:10 PM
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Haha.....we've had convo's about the "manosphere" before I joined MR - usually initiated by her. The only reason I do engage with her is that I know that she does agree with and respond to some of the principles (but I usually don't make it overt like last night). My goal is not to share much, but I did not want to hide what I was doing last night. I really must say that MRP and the side bar is better than any money I could have spent on a therapist to understand "me" and my motivations.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 08:54 PM
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Frame? You asked her to marry you right? She decided to come along for your ride, correct? Fuck it, go out and have fun for yourself. I am re-reading NNMNG and shit...what a great re-read. You can't make her the center of your life and entertainment. You end up becoming a shell of yourself and someone that no woman wants to fuck. It feels so much better when you truly DNGAF.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 08:22 PM
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Oh, one other item. I think you have to evaluate bad behavior vs. just being a bad person/harpy bitch. My wife has a lot of bad behaviors that I have enabled for the last 20+ years. It'll take some time to correct, but she's a good person.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 04:23 PM
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So, I never wanted her to be a SAHM. We actually had a big fight about it wayyy before we had kids. She said she wanted to be a SAHM after kids, I told her that she'd need some domestic training. LOL - that did not go over well. My fault for enabling this bad behaviour for so long. I need to help guide her in the right direction as the SAHM route is not adding enough value at this point. Also, both kids will be in elementary school next year.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 04:20 PM
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Thanks for the advice? Agree that my standards for my wife have been pretty low. The reason does not really matter but it's being corrected. I quit my last job since I was not getting what I wanted so now bringing that mentality to my marriage.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 04:14 PM
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So we have been in Cali for almost five years. She did not work the first year here. Worked for two and took off last year when our daughter was diagnosed with ADHD. So it's temporary. She's kept busy being on the board at our daughter's school and with art (she has had some success making and selling - but no where near what she was making before]. Goal is for her to get back in the game this summer.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 02:51 AM
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Eh - did not care as I would have tried on the costume anyway. I would have done stupid shit dressed up as Deadpool anyway. It would have been in her frame if I put it all in and did not show her because I was butthurt, right? I did not show her at the moment due to her shitty mood, hence the pic. I think this one is borderline.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 02:32 AM
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Got it, but not really. I just continued with what I would have done anyway - despite her shit, not because of it. My daughter and I have a father/daughter dance on Friday. She is going as Supergirl. I am going as Deadpool. I got my mask/t-shirt/belt yesterday and tried it on with my black suit (it looks awesome). The wife was being bitchy so I took some pics of me in the outfit vs. showing her that night. It was Deadpool so took a pic with both fingers flipping her off and sent it to her. : 0 ]…
/r/askMRP10/03/17 02:18 AM
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I like that. Reflecting I think it was 90% her feeling like she was not adding value. The kids and I had a fine night after she exited. I kept it upbeat. Even sent her some funny pics that I took while ahe was fuming. Not getting sucked in is key. Thanks.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 12:24 AM
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Well, I'd say I was a tipsy but not drunk captain. I am the sole bread winner, I do the majority of the cooking, I handle all the finances and running the house is @ 50/50 right now. My wife has a background in education and she's a SAHM mom - so she managed the kids and school. I am involved - but she has been leading. I have always been very involved in our kids lives but that is one area of the family she was leading. I have stepped up to take on more after our daughter was diagnosed with ADH…
/r/askMRP09/03/17 07:50 PM
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Good point on listening and working as a team. I am all for that - but in front of the kid is not the right venue (which was the primary issue). Will leverage your advice tonight.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 03:55 PM
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7yr old is 2nd grade - so at school from 8:30am - 3:30pm. The 4yr old is un pre-school from 7:30am (I drop him off) until @ 4:30pm. She basically has the day to herself (volunteers and is on the board at my daughter's school). So.....daycare is there. Shit at home just really needs to be reset. 90% my fault for being a white knight for most of the relationship. Working on enforcing boundaries. Thanks for the advice.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 06:20 AM
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Loving the push ups but they are a killer on and off cheat day! Did not do Friday's challenge since I had a late night work event, but will do it this week comong up. I decluttered the bedroom back in Jan, but had a drawer that was a fucking mess. Cleaned out a lot of shit. Also applyung the cleaning out to work (emails, notebooks, to do list). Also going to start decluttering every room.in the house. Fucked up on the no porn and no fap last night. No excuses - it was a bad decision. Will start …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/17 05:53 PM
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Haha...this (the work part)! I work at a hi-profile tech company and I basically was on auto-pilot last year. So much more I could have done (that being said 2016 was personally a shit year for me - mom died, friend comitted suicide, other external shit). My goal this year is to get my "hustle" back. On the LTR, wow. Women want to fuck men that are on a mission. Find your mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 06:46 AM
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I had to think hard on this one - but it's validation for me as well. It has been hard for me to come to the realization that I am alone in this world. At some point my kids will grow up and have their own lives and my wife is only mostly with me for what I provide (physically and feelz). It's like I see myself at 19yrs old (when we met, I'm 41 now) and I was living MY life, MY mission and she happily became a part of it. We dated for 3yrs - shit happened - and we broke up (long story). Ended up…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 05:17 AM
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Again that's because this post was not about sex. If you want take a look at my post/comment history. I get sex from my wife. I could have gamed her. I chose not to - she was dailing it in. I am coming up on a year of MRP and I want to turn the corner on from her being willing to be with me to her wanting to be with me - and acting accordingly. I get that you have to game your wife (which I do, and yeah not in this specific post). But at one point in our relationship she (and other women) chased…
/r/askMRP14/02/17 06:34 PM
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Thanks Stone - I really like your post. Burden of performance - agree. What's funny is that the prior week she aske me to be more "romantic" - so dumb as fuck for me to follow that advice. Newbie mistake. So I have been thinking a lot about this - if you'll hear me out. For me I think it's about Active Game vs. Passive Game (dread/attractiveness). It's about being a man that women are willing to fuck vs. a man that women want to fuck. At this point I am a guy that my wife is willing to fuck. In …
/r/askMRP14/02/17 04:02 PM
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That is kinda what I am getting at. I wanted to try Cuban food. I love cool views. I probably would have had more fun by myself - at least last night. Don't get me wrong, my wife is not a bitch and our marriage/family is on the upswing. Hell last week I turned down sex twice because she said I could have sex with her if she did not have to participate. Could I have gone caveman - yeah, but I am past that. I want an active partner. Again..maybe I am beeing greedy.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 09:20 PM
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A lazy fuck? How is getting a sitter, finding a nice restaurant, a beautiful overlook and a nice place to buy fine chocolates lazy? I started a new hobby over the christmas break and made her a shoe rack from an old pallet. Yeah, I am one lazy fuck. LOL. I am in good shape, dressing a lot better, a great dad, make close to $200k and have a great network of family and friends. I am also to the point where I expect my effort to be matched. For christmas my wife game me a night of whatever I wanted…
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:49 PM
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Someone here made a comment about what a woman does to "get" a man early in the relationship. I love my wife but her pussy is not gold and I don't know if I am up for chasing that shit constantly. I am trying to turn the tide here. You guys talk about effort...but fuck...it seem like you guys have the pussy on a pedestal. I know all the things I could have done to get her in the "mood". I want to get to the point where she is jumping me (which is what she used to do at one point in the relations…
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:21 PM
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My post is about the level of effort from your SO - not specifically about sex. With MRP I get that the men need to lead, but at what point do you expect your partner to step up their game.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:17 PM
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Gotcha. Maybe I am just being greedy. She does initiate sometimes. She definitely initiated when we dated in college. I think that is the level I am trying to get back to. Her calling me and telling me she is naked in bed waiting for me or just giving me a bj while I am talking on the phone (to fuck with me). Again - last night was not about sex, it was about effort. Like, I dressed in nice jeans, fitted cashmere sweater and nice boots. In all aspects I expect the same from her.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 05:06 PM
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We are definitely not FZ'd. I can get sex from my wife - bj's, anal, rough - it's all on the table. We had sex the night before. I want her to put in the effort sometimes. I want her to show some desire. The answer is still side bar I guess, but I wanted to see how some of you guys got your wives back to that place.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 04:45 PM
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I did mess up on the not sitting next to each other. But, my post was not about sex -it's about effort from your so. I make her feel sexy constantly. AM, kino, just being fun. It fucking exhausting and at some point I'd like some effort from her. If we are the prize - why are we doing all the work? Her pussy is not gold - so why the fuck should I always be the one to put in the work? Last night I dialed it in a bit on purpose. I just wanted to have a fun time - she was not being fun. Look, if I …
/r/askMRP13/02/17 04:41 PM
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So this is the crux of my post, although it did not come through. When my wife and I started dating - she was all over me. And not just sex, she dessed up, wore lingerie, was affectionate and dripping with desire. My question is at what point do you start to expert her to do better as well. Our friends find me fun and atrractive. Her friends are always gushing about how great of a husband I am. I will continue to improve but id your SO does not?
/r/askMRP13/02/17 04:27 PM
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Haha. Yeah got it. Look, the deal is that I am not asking my wife to meet me half way. Shit I'd be happy if she'd just meet me 20% of the way on a consistent basis. "Nothing sexual" was as statement of fact vs an expectation. We had sex the day before - so it's not like I had blue balls. If I wanted to have sex, I would have gotten sex. At the end of the day I guess her desire for me is not there yet (it used to be).
/r/askMRP13/02/17 04:16 PM
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Actually, I am writing about the level of effort you expect from your SO. I have accepted table scraps for way to long. I was wondering how some of you got your wives to step up their game.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 04:10 PM
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There is no doubt that my wife knows that I am always up for sex. I drop game constantly. I did not talk about sex during dinner because there was no expectation of sex because of dinner. I just wanted to have a good time and I felt like she was acting a bit shitty. If you re-read my post I never brought up sex - you did, a lot. There was a little flirting, I guess. I told her that we were going to "make out point" (as a joke) - she asked if I was going through a mid-life crisis.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 03:13 PM
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I have stuggled with this as well, but I had my shit together before I met my wife in college. 1) I was in great shape. I played H.S. football and liked the feeling of being in shape. Even developed my own workout plan for the off-season while in HS. Coaches were amazed at my fitness level when we started 2-a-days in the summer. 2) I had a fucking plan. Was poor (but happy) growing up and I wanted to be sucessful - hence college, good grades, internships with Fortune 500 companies. Landed a job …
/r/askMRP07/02/17 02:38 AM
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So...I have an N-Count of 2 (done other stuff, but PIV is 2). Easily could have been at least 6 if I was not such a bitch for most of my life. Does it bother me - eh, sometimes but fuck that. My wife is a great person (from what I know), we have two great kids, and we have been married for 16yrs (mostly happy). And, she has also been reacting positively to my changes post MRP (more plesant, better quality sex, frequency is up). Would a higher n-count make you a better man, husband and father? If…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 01:45 AM
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Exactly. I see that I missed a chance to lead and show dominance. Instead acted like a bitch. Lesson learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 02:11 AM
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Looking back at the situation... 1) In the moment I did not take control (which I have done in the past with great results), I was more worried about what she wanted or didn't want 2) I expected her to read my mind (wtf) vs. stating or doing what I wanted and leading with dominance 3) Loss frame by the way I discussed it later I can take what I am given or live my life based on higher expectation. I pussied out. Here is a test for me. I usually make the bed in the morning (I like a clean bedroom…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 02:08 AM
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Somewhat. Basically she knows I expect sex at least twice a week - so one day during the week and one day on the weekend but.....it's not always Wed. Again....a min, not a max. We kinda don't need it anymore. We did need it last year. Dude...why the moratorium? Even if the wife and I had sex on Wed...it was at different times...different rooms....different positions. I mean anything is boring if you do it the same way every time.
/r/askMRP25/01/17 08:26 PM
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Ditto on the fear. To get things on track my wife and I had picked Wed as our sheduled weekday sex. One wed night I was super horny but I was busy with work or something and she fell asleep before I got to bed. Like OP I was really annoyed and simmering. I was mad at her for god knows what and scared to initiate and piss her off since she had fallen asleep. Fucking beta monster. But my cock monster (fed by MRP) was hungrier than my beta monster (fed by Disney and women). Something just came over…
/r/askMRP25/01/17 03:03 PM
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Yip. Should not have made her feel bad - now I am seeing a lot of other ways I could have handles it better. After thinking, I see that I let pride get the best of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 11:57 PM
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Gotcha.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 11:53 PM
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I updated my post. I left out some details for brevity - which I now see was not a good idea I did not go from zero to tits. That being said, there could have been more immersion, but trying to balance that with a morning quickie before the kids wake up. Thanks for the response.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 11:52 PM
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I have skimmed SGM but will give it a more in depth read. Thanks for the feedback. I definitely made her feel at fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 11:46 PM
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Thanks. I expected more because the quality of sex has been improving. But you are right - I have accepted lower quality from time to time. Re-reading NMMNG at the moment. Will get back to SGM next.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 11:43 PM
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Haha. Was going for brevity here. There was more progression before I started to nurse but I was not trying to write a Penthouse letter. Sex was on the table - so that is not the issue. I was looking for thoughts on handling periodic starfish. I turned it down - she wanted to talk. That was my question. "..nothing is what you did" - yeah, that was a little pissy. I was searching for how to answer. So tried to be a little sarcastic. Again....that is why I wrote the post.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 09:23 PM
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Why the hell does it take you 2.5hrs to lift weights? You better be jacked as fuck.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 12:50 AM
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So here is how my "scheduled" sex went down (this happened early last year). One day my wife joked about me cumming before her the last time we had sex. I told her that maybe I'd last longer if we had sex more than once a week (this was a light/joking convo). She said that was a fair statement. So we landed on Wed and one day on the the weekend Fri/Sat/ or Sun as the minimum - so other days are not off the table, but a basline is set of when we'd have sex. So we had a very loose "schedule. There…
/r/askMRP19/01/17 02:42 PM
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I've taken that road, just prefer to take my time at night. But, If I could her back to two-a-days.........
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 04:58 AM
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Neither. It's about owning your needs. My scheduled sex (now that I look back at it) was a medium/crutch for me to let my wife know that I desired sex at least twice a week - and I expected from her. It was also a shield from rejection as I built my self-esteem back up (it goes to the shitter after 16yrs of being under-sexed). At that time I'd give myself a C- on the MRP man scale (physical and mental). So although her desire was not 100% there, I expected my basic needs to be met at home. Since…
/r/askMRP19/01/17 03:33 AM
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Okay. The problem is not scheduled sex. The problem is that you have been a beta bitch for 10 years (did I get that right?) and you have implemented MRP for 2-3 months. Hmmmm. How has your wife reacted to your physical and mental changes that you have made for less than a quarter of a year? Does she snuggle up to you on the couch? Does she cradle your buldging arms and shoulders? Does she rub your abs? Has she started to defer to you on decisions? Does she follow you around like a petulant littl…
/r/askMRP18/01/17 11:17 PM
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Women are like banks - they only give out money to people who don't need it. This Saturday morning my wife and I were spooning with some heavy caressing. We kept it R-rated since the kiddies were up. I kissed her as I left the bed and told her that we'd be having sex later that night. Fastforward to the night post watching a movie. I had a cold and felt kinda achy when we got to bed. So we are spooning again. She has given zero indication that she wants sex. So I am 100% ready to drift off...and…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 09:32 PM
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Agreed. Maybe he meant to post in the Bizarro MRP?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 09:48 PM
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Nice FR. Like you, MRP has reprogrammed me to be 100% true to what I want. I had a similar exchange with my wife a couple of days ago. Somehow the convo turned to sex in our 70's (we are both in early 40's). Her: You'll probably be one of those old men "diddling" the grandma's in the nursing home. Me: Nah, I'd be fucking all the young nurses. Assuming you are dead..or still alive but not up for having sex anymore. But, I'd give you first right of refusal. Old me would have said some "I only have…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 05:45 PM
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Good post. I commented about a similar interaction. Got home and shit was not in order. Old me would have bitched at her. Instead directed her on what to do (put up groceries and bathe son while I picked up dinner). House was not a mess anymore, kids went to bed happy and enthusiastic sex was had. Someone else wrote a similar post about families with no stories. There were no stories since there was no drama. Good stuff.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 01:23 AM
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Preach brother......all ears.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 11:34 PM
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Never had a wet dream? Women have them as well. LOL.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 09:35 PM
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I get it, but my expectations for who I'd fuck vs who I'd live with are very different. I can fuck in a dirty room for one night....but I would not take that shit home with me. When you are in a LTR it's tough to separate sex and the running of the house. She runs off to fuck Chad if the ship is not on course. Chad is an escape - so the bar is lower on the home front for him. My wife could be a fucking diamond 10 but if she can't handle shit at home it would affect my passion at some point. I me…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 09:21 PM
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I think this one is a slippery slope and it depends upon you and the woman. For a LTR most women want to feel safe and taken care of. Meaning if she sees you as one of the things she has to take care of her pussy will be the Sahara. She will fuck Chad in a roach filled apartment (cause it aint her's)- it's apples and oranges. So, I like the kitchen to be clean. Sometimes she does it but more often that not I clean the kitchen since cooking is my thing. That being said you do need to be "loud" so…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 09:09 PM
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Haha...I do it at home now. But, I used to go to a Crunch for yoga classes in my late 20's and early 30' - 80% hot chicks. LOL.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 04:56 AM
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My fellow aging men - yoga is your friend. I am 41 and my stats for a minumum of six reps per set are 255 for bench, 275 for squat, 255 for deadlift (new to DL's), and 145 for military press. I also do walking lunges with 45lb dumbells (so carrying 90lbs). I also run 8 100yrd sprints for HIIT 1-3 times a week (real sprints, no "jogging fast" fellas). AND I do yoga 3-6 times a week (anywhere from a 20 min to a 30 min session). If it was not for yoga, my body would be a fucking wreck. Yoga is not …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 12:41 AM
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"The clock has always been ticking and there is no one coming to save you." Preach brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 02:40 AM
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Funny. I was thinking about writing an EOY recap. I'll get to writing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 02:05 PM
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Okay. I don't know why I keep responding to you...but it seems like you are on the brink of at least considering taking the pill. Below are two of my No Fap Field Reports. Hope you enjoy and learn. NO FAP FR #01 So about 2-3 months ago for some reason my wife and I missed out on Wed sex. I can look it up (I track it..you do what you measure), but I know I was horny as hell. I remember that I did not get a hard no, just think that she fell asleep before I initiated (weak sauce, I know). I was lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 02:02 AM
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One of the tenets of MRP is to be a man that women want to fuck. Trust me, jacking off does not make you more fuckable. You are settling for your hand and slowly tansferring your desire away from your wife - it's a slipperry slope. Like it has been said before, women pick up on a "Beat-It Beta" vs a. "Non-Choking Chad" (even your wife). If your wife turns you down you should channel that enegy into getting better (work out, read, fix something, get 8hrs of sleep). Knocking out one every blue moo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 08:30 PM
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"beat myself off like a shamed addict"
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 07:37 PM
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Second on that one. I have lots to say on this but will keep it short. I have stopped watching porn and masturbating is down to maybe like once every two months. Earlier this year I had problems losing my erection during sex and getting hard. This morning (8months of MRP and 4mths no porn + min fap) I had a raging erection and fucked my wife like a boss. Felt like my dick was twenty again. Save your seed gents!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 07:14 PM
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So don't know much about you from this post. I'm assuming you are in your late 20's or early 30's with no kids. Dude....you two should still be fucking like rabbits. I am 41 with two young kids and we have sex 2-3 three times a week (aiming for 4-5). And I had to work for that. Earlier this year we had got to averaging like 3-4 times a month - that was not cutting it for me. So I was not a drunk captain - just a little tipsy. Read the side bar, got back to lifting, taking care of the house like …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 07:02 PM
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Overall I agree that spending quality time with your kids is fundamental to being a valuable man, husband and father. I think that dread as a byproduct of spending time with your kids is spot on. Last week my wife jokingly said that if we ever get divored I am going to have to be the weekend parent. That is because I take the kids hiking, biking, swiming - basically I wear their asses out on the weekends (most of the time without her). Dread is the byproduct - not the goal. That being said, I do…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 02:51 PM
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Any LTR worth having will always be a grind because the tenant of TRP is that you must always keep improving. Especially if your woman (at the moment) is worth a shit. You must also keep in mind that the current woman in your life is always looking for what's next. It's just your turn, right? I have my MBA, a job at a company that is revered in tech and I make close to $200k - and now that my eyes are open (thank you TRP) I have NO doubt that my wife would leave me for perceived greener pastures…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 02:58 AM
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Look - too much of anything can be bad. A couple of beers is fine. Drinking until you pass out every night is detrimental to your health. I don't think that porn itself is bad but if you over use it you may experience negative side effects. I was addicted to porn for a while - maybe like a year or more? I was not getting enough sex from my wife so I "self medicated with porn". I'd stay up until like 1am-2am a couple of nights a week masturbatung for 2-3 hours at a time. It was bad. I was always …
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 05:32 AM
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|She needs to be fucked, comforted or know that you are in charge of everything. Well said. Knowing the rules of the game makes it so much easier to play. It's still mind boggling how differently women and men communicate. My goal is to be able to read my wife like I can read my 7yr old daughter. The game is different (comfort, discipline) but all communication is indirect.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:00 PM
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Dude..hear you on food. I am an endomorph - so I have to be uber disciplined with food. The upside though is that I can more easily lose fat while gaining muscle (which some can't do). Right now I am playing with keto and intermittent fasting. Since June I have lost @ 12lbs on the scale but have also put on 3lbs-5lbs of muscle. My goal is to hit single digit body fat by next spring. Not even close but I'll get there. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 09:50 PM
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Would you not consider what she wears as a barometer of how she perceives the relationship? For instace if it had been the first/second/third date with a new guy and sex was on the table - she would not be wearing the grandma out fit. I kinda wanted to make a statement of "that's not good enough anymore".
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:57 PM
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Good perspective. I know that I could gave gotten her to change clothes but I wanted to let her know that I am not cool with getting a subpar effort in bedroom attire. I know that I can't make her want to dress sexy for me but wanted to send a not-so-subtle message. Well time to get back to work on being a guy that women want to seduce and fuck. Obviously I am not 100% there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:51 PM
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OYS Thoughts Needed - More Dread or Something Else? TOP LINE 41, two kids, married 16yrs, Sidebar read, SMV rising, Lift heavy 3-days a week, Sex twice a week, Working on making more guys friends and being the guy I was in college (in shape, social, haawt?, and doing shit for me - just a bit more wise), life is trending upwards with a few bumps Last night my wife and I went out with another couple for dinner and a play. The couple got some free tickets - so the play was set - I picked out the re…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 08:17 PM
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Spexer - actually the post was about the "younger, cut" me who got hawt chicks with little to no game. I just broke into a consistent 4pack (from my fomer protruding belly) - so I'm not hawt yet but getting there. My newb gainz are a mix if the physical and the mental. Game definitely has its place - don't get me wrong. At some point I want to get to the place where Neo stops bullets mid-air and with a pondering look tosses them aside....like masterfully swatting shit test from the wifey. One da…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 11:36 PM
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One more comment on your point #2 ( I just wrote a post @ this on MRP). If you are hawt, women don't even really give a shit about game - she wants to fuck from the time she saw you, so just don't fuck it up. What the blue pill world teaches men is bullshit. I know this sounds sooo simple but we have been programmed that "it's really what's inside that counts". BULLSHIT. I have been fat and I have been ripped - no HB7 pursued me when I've been fat. Looks fucking matter. Women will do all sorts o…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/16 03:57 AM
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Hilarious. I had the same convo with my wife about Trump and Pussygate (although I would note vote for him since he's bat shit crazy). Anyways....my basic stance is that most guys talk like that - and I defend his right to talk like a man amongst other men. And - told her that the men coming down on him were bitches. I also pointed out to her that as much B.S. that she spouts about what Trump says about women, she knows that women love guys like that. Her response - "yeah, nice guys can be borin…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/16 03:47 AM
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You're grammer skills are appreciated. Post fixed.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 06:00 PM
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I have been thinking about this one for a while. 1) My drive for validation is that I thought my wife's love would replace my mom's (who recently died) love. Before my wife I'd imagine who did I want at my death bed holding my hand. That person was my mother until I met my wife. My dad was not a great guy (not horrible but not great). My mom and dad divorced when I was around 7, and at most my mom made $20k(we were def poor) and tried to raise two boys in a pretty bad neighborhood. My dad was no…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 01:35 AM
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I keep fucking up with validation. I literally DGAF what anyone else thinks about me, but when it comes to my wife I keep fucking up. I literally left my last job because I disagreed with my performance review. I told my manager that she and I had dramatically different views on my performance. I respected her but my evaluation was BS - and I resigned. Now I did already have a higher paying job at a bigger company lined up, but I knew and understood my value and would not settle for less and I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 06:25 AM
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It's a little nuanced, but I see where OP has an issue with the statement.. Maybe it's an issue of Frame. It's not the business or the wife or the kids that require the hard work - it's you. You have to work hard to improve yourself and everything else will follow. Relationships are'nt hard work...the hard work is not falling victim to the marital erosion of your manhood (if you even are a man at the beginning of your marriage). If the marriage/businees fails - it a a direct manifestation of you…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/16 04:40 PM
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Funny. I don't see why some of the commentors are confused. There is testing (do this) and training (trust me). There is compliance that is reward based and compliance that is fear based. It's not hard to get someone to fear you and comply (even if they are NOT attracted you). Getting a woman to trust you (which leads to desire) means being a man and having your shit together. Here is an example. Last week I rewarded my wife with a date night. Not because I wanted sex, but because she had been s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/16 02:06 AM
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Great post. Today I had a fun/flirty text exchange with the wife (something totally new to the relationship). After the exchange I started to think, "man, this is fun". That is what life and a LTR is supposed to be about. And like you alluded to, MRP principles have been foundational to getting the wheel turning. It's still a lot of work - but once you start reaping the benefits you'll never want to turn back (or stop improving).
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 01:18 AM
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Nice post. Wanted to comment on #5. This is the hardest one for me. I get it, but guess I am still in the anger phase. I have "loved" my wife the same ever since we started dating. While she initially persued me, I was the first to say "I love you" and have been persuing her ever since. I can see through our 20+ years of being together how she loves what I provide - not necessairly "me". My mom died a couple of months ago and I truely now realize how your wife DOES NOT love you unconditionally (…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 10:11 PM
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Agreed. Push and pull.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 10:04 PM
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So, like you I love a woman's body - massages, eating pussy, foot rubs...all that shit gets me off BUT after 16yrs of marrriage I finally thought...what the hell does she do to please me in bed? Frequency was way down as well. It's not that my wife is malicious, but I set the precedent that I am going to pleasure her sexually and all she has to do is lie there. It's an unintentional display of low SMV. And women pick up on it. I used to get shitty bj's maybe twice a year if I was lucky. I have g…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 05:28 PM
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Will preface this by saying that I am relatively new to posting but have been toying with MRP for about a year - recently read MMSL and MAP. Also just started seriously lifting again and eating better. Now with that that out of the way... Dude, WTF? I smelled beta bitch when you called FUCKING "nookie" in MRP. Do you use the word "nookie" in front of your friends (if you have male friends)? I fucking certainly hope not. My boys would ride me the fuck out of town if I said that in front of them. …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 06:09 AM
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Like how you break out BB vs. AF for your MAP. I try to keep a running tally like this in my head - will add to my journal.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 11:46 PM
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Knowledge dropped. THANKS!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 11:10 PM
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I am new to MRP but in my short time on here you are dead on. I can be romantic and try to swoon my wife - no tingle, no action (it's all dry for Mr Nice guy). Yet, if I am a dick, ignore her or tease her (not even sexually) she is all over me. All of the MRP actions drive unconscious desire in women. Being nice gets me a "thank you" applying the principle of MRP typically lead to hot sex (and a happy wife). Like it says, actions - not words.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/16 08:00 PM
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Thanks for the diet reco and calling me out on lifting. Wife has not seen though the sprinkles but is trying to poke holes already. Got a huge shit/comfort test last night before sex. We got in bed and just before we got down to business she wanted to have a "talk". She has not pulled that shit in a while - throwing out a comfort/shit test before sex, I just had no idea what she was doing before MRP. The take-away for me was that I am getting more sex but she is not getting all the beta BS (vali…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 05:23 AM
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Good call. Lifting - not an issue. I have always been very muscular. Had drinks with a former female co-worker last week. Her first comment after we hugged was "you're looking fit". I can do 50 push-ups in one set. I can prob still run close to an eight minute mile. Overall I am still pretty athletic. That being said I currently hit the gym once or twice a week specifically to lift. Could be more but muscle mass is not an issue. Really focusing more on interval training and running to drop the w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 02:47 PM
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