The butt

Triadis3 · 2017-10-10T05:37:11+00:00

1 - She still thinks that she's your only option for sexual release,(and it sounds like she IS) so she knows she can maintain terms/some semblance of control over the sex.

Like others have said, dread is the problem.

She should believe that you will be fucking someone in the ass in the next 3 months, and as wife unit all she has is first right of refusal.

So, dread is your "next challenge".

2 - Think before you go racing up the dread ladder about why you want her to swallow and gape... it better not just be some dudes on the internet said you need this to be a complete man. The idea behind the barometric statement is that she finally sees you as the dominant one in the relationship, which by default makes her the submissive.

What do submissive women do in bed? Whatever pleases their husband.

Your wife is not submissive to you.

3 - Hidden in the foliage is a third option... the "hard limit".

All women have hangups/preferences/lines in the sand that they simply will not cross. (Just like us - where's your line?)

For some, it's buttstuff. Others, it's not getting gangraped and choked out by Dirty Mike and the boys at noon in the Walmart parking lot. (But you'd be surprised..)

So you have to consider... Is she balking because of you not being enough man yet , or because you've hit her "safeword trigger"?

Aim to be able to turn her hard limits into soft limits. All women have dirty dirty sluts inside them crying to come out.

My wife likens it to an actual secondary personality, "The Whore" that sometimes rears her head during subspace play. She's actually afraid of what "The Whore" might bait me into doing.

AustralianArm · 2017-10-10T04:00:10+00:00

I bet she'd strap on and have a go at you though.

HB3234 · 2017-10-10T16:49:40+00:00

You've gotten solid advice from the men here.

My only other comment is, do you know what you're doing when it comes to anal? If you're fingering her ass properly, she should be growing more and more interested (even if shy about expressing it) rather than stay reticient. Does she not let you give her oral until you are "nice to her"? Yeah, it never works that way for stuff you enjoy -- only stuff you see as an annoying chore.

Anal isn't just about submission; it can give women some of the most powerful orgasms. If your fingering is telling her anal with you is gonna be a chore, you're doing quite a disservice to both of you. Her desire to be fingered is a communication that she is open to the act, but being clumsy and unskillful will make her feel you can't do it without hurting or even possibly injuring her.

mrpthrowa · 2017-10-10T07:49:02+00:00

I've heard RP folks use this as a barometer of respect/attraction and thus there is work to be done.

You do you. There is no checklist.

I don't like butt stuff. What's the bfd?

"that tight butt hole better watch out tomorrow"

Negotiating.

beta_no_mo · 2017-10-11T05:57:26+00:00

Good immersion+dominance+good dirty talk (basically SGM) over time will make anal happen. If you do it right, she'll be practically begging you to do it and eventually she'll actually lol forward to it because she feels like you're worth it.

Once you get to the point where she's willingly submitting and saying what you tell her to say with enthusiasm (this belongs to you, fuck me daddy, I'm your slut/whore/girl/etc) AND you're making her cum regularly from PIV, start implying that you're going to take what's yours. ALL of it. The key is to do this while you're giving her the best dick of her life and ideally during the build-up to her orgasm. Don't stop to gauge her reaction or ask what she thinks about it (duh). Just keep doing your thing and she'll get to the point where she starts dripping at the thought of it or cumming really hard while you're talking about it.

"This pussy is mine, that mouth is mine and soon I'm going to claim that ass of yours. I'm gonna fuck every part of my INSERT SUBMISSIVE NAME HERE. I'm going to fill it with my cock and then I'm going to fill it with my cum". Ideally this is right before or as she's cumming so hard she can barely breathe. Once you get her responding positively while thinking about it, start putting your finger on it, then your tip, etc. Eventually she'll get so comfortable with the idea of having you in her ass that she'll willingly give it up and will probably beg for it.

You'll probably get some shit/comfort tests (most likely comfort, though) and ASD/LMR (usually during pillow talk or some time later on while she processes what you want and how she feels about giving it to you), but they should be mild if you've laid the right foundation. Apply basic RP principles with a little extra emphasis on comfort without ruining dominant/submissive dynamic. Simply talking about it (even if you're being dominant like you did) outside of sexual activity is giving yourself an uphill battle because you're not giving her anything positive to associate it with, so she becomes anxious just thinking about how it hurts (every woman I've done anally says the entry always hurts whether it's the first or the 100th time I've been in there) instead of thinking about how good it will feel to give her man what he wants.

Depending on how well you've been gaming her overall and her experience level, she might just come right out and tell you out of the blue one day that she wants to give you every part of her, but most will do the "silence is compliance" method of simply not telling you no when you start putting it in.

She will likely be nervous, so make sure you are reassuring her from a place of dominance (I can't wait to feel you slide over me, you're such a good girl, etc) take your time and maintain immersion As much as you can. Don't just stop talking/touching and fixate on trying to plug the hole while she sits there grimacing with anxiety. Keep her as relaxed as possible and take your time. Once you get past the initial resistance of the sphincter (it might take a few tries over a period of time, not necessarily during the same session), treat it like taking a vaginal virgin: start slow and eventually she'll relax enough to start enjoying it and will probably start telling you to go deeper/harder, etc.

I've found that doing anal the first time is easier from missionary rather than doggy. You can gauge her comfort level better, she can look at how much you're turned on by it and you can rub her elsewhere instead of her bent over, feeling vulnerable and just waiting for something to happen.

As far as taking it in the mouth, the same principal applies. Talking and maintaining that dominant immersion is the key to expanding any woman's sexual boundaries. They all want to, but they need to feel at least a little comfortable with you and therefore trust you so they can get out of their heads long enough to please you. If you're not OYS and gaming her properly, it will not happen....with you.

straius · 2017-10-10T19:12:13+00:00

Anal play is a function of relaxation. The more turned on and comfortable your partner is, the more relaxed her butt will be.

There's nothing particularly RP about buttplay. You can use her level of relaxation as a barometer for how turned on she is.

If you haven't read SGM, the principle that is king is that sexuality in women is a function of emotion and imagination.

Rambo can sometimes be useful in instigating a change and disrupting routine of the relationship. But it will work against you in opening your wife's sexuality completely. Ie... Rambo has a ceiling.

So if you want more buttplay and you want her relaxed enough to fit your cock in there, it's going to be non-sexual elements that get her to a place mentally where she can relax to the point that she "sits into" you and enjoys the feeling of tension/relaxation that happens in pulses/waves with anal penetration.

The mechanics go something like:

tongue/fingers to warm it up.
penetrate with fingers, add fingers as she loosens up. (Be fucking immaculately manicured btw, no sharp edges)
add a vibrating butt plug that is introductory sized.
add a bigger butt plug
Put your cock in there.

Note that you can progress through that list over multiple sessions.

When loosening her up, you can do small and slow in/out movements but don't travel a large distance of the butt plug when you do. Just push/relax a bit with the pushes going a little further and the relaxing not going all the way back to where the push started. Watch her face if you can or feel for other body reactions of tensing up. You're riding the edge of that line where she tightens up a little (tension) and then when you relax her body slumps into the movement and she'll likely make a deeper sounding sigh or moan. There's something about anal play that always seems to elicit a deeper / guttural vocalization.

At some point she'll be so relaxed and so hungry for that expansive feeling of her parts "opening up" for you that going full force fucking in her ass will become orgasmic for her.

I use that term "opening up for you" deliberately. This is the mental and emotional state she HAS to be in to reach this level of confidence/safety with you during sex. If you are full fucking her in the ass and she's loving it, it's because she has so thoroughly lost herself in the moment and she won't let her guard down that far without being in that place with you outside of sex.

And that connection is why anal is sometimes used as a barometer of attraction or progress in RP land. But the two aren't directly connected to each other and it's perfectly fine to just not be into butt play.

Also avoid bladder and at worst kidney infections (potentially life threatening if not treated) and don't switch back to the pussy once you've been in the ass. They show it in porn all the time or do camera cuts sneakily to make it seem like it, but it can be risky if you're not aware of it and she doesn't get antibiotics for a bladder infection shortly after noticing it.

Have fun! Be fun.

SimilarSalvation · 2017-10-10T06:52:54+00:00

I second /u/creating_my_life

You're using anal with your wife as some sort of MRP scorecard. It doesn't work like that.

and would like to add that this is the most pathetic question ever asked on /r/askMRP.

Your post clearly states you understand nothing about TRP. Everything screams bluePill...

covert contracts
not outcome independent
not working on yourself
I am here for the (anal)sex
butthurt (pun intended)

TRP is about working on yourself, to become the best possible version of yourself, not about getting (anal)sex with the missus. Getting laid is a byproduct of being awesome, not the goal or our main focus. You seem to be focused on getting your finger up her pooper... That, my smelly friend, is a covert contract: if I get ripped, she will let me (haha, let you) jizz in her mouth and fingerbang her asshole...

Basically, your are treating your wife as a prostitute. Sure, you don't pay her in money but you are trying to get sex by exchanging goods: you getting buffed = deflowering her butthole. If kinky sex is your main goal, cancel your subscription to the gym. The money you spare can go to real hookers. You can pay them to swallow your load and invite your thumb up their asshole...

Because, have you ever come to think that maybe your wife just doesn't like to get raped between the buttcheeks? Who in gods name asks for anal sex?? You have got to work your way up to that magical moment: playing with her cheeks, slipping a finger through her crack while making out, oiling her butt up while giving her a sexy massage. How would you feel if she straps her dildo on, warns you (that tight butt hole better watch out) and shoves it up your ass??

And now, because you are not allowed to treat her like the slut she may become, you are crying like a little boy.. But all of my friends can put their weewee in their girlfriends brown cherry... Why can't I? -> because you want it too much...

Stop fixating on this fetisj of yours
treat your wife with respect
for fuck sake: don't ask for (anal) sex!!
become outcome independent: at least look like you don't care
work your way up so she can get comfortable

and if this really is a dealbreaker for you: either visit a whorehouse of next her...

creating_my_life · 2017-10-10T03:48:56+00:00

She won't take loads in the mouth and no butt stuff other then fingers.

....from you.

What's your height, weight, bodyfat, and squat?

Title	The butt
Author	ChumphreyGoHard
Upvotes	9
Comments	84
Date	October 10, 2017 3:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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