Update on my frame RE: parade

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-03-16T21:05:29+00:00

She'll make Damm sure you actually have frame and that it is rock solid before she gets hot for you.

Her:

No thanks, cancel the babysitter, etc

And here's volley number 1. If you reply to this, she's got you. And she likely expected you to bite. You didnt. But then...

H: Make sure you cancel that sitter. Don't want them to linger when they could make plans for themselves.

What's this? Some logic and fake feels for the babysitter? Something doesn't compute. That's right...this is volley #2. But this time it has feels. Her hamster is running and since you didn't cave in to her being a bitch, she's trying the angle of false concern and logic to try and reel you in. She felt a nibble, but just to be sure...

H: Actually u hired, u cancel. And you're not going to leave me with kids so u can go party.

There's a theory in arguing that you say one thing and stop. If you feel like your argument isn't strong you'll feel like you need to stack reasons one on top the other to add more weight to it. Here she's stacking. She feels her argument is weak.

So let's review, big pussy husband suddenly is showing spine and she gets nervous and feels like her argument is weak. That is, until....

M: DEER GUILT DEER GUILT DEER GUILT

H: I wouldn't join you if my life depended on it

You had her. Do you see how pissed she gets when her pussy husband suddenly may be growing a spi...oh wait no he didn't he's still a gelatinous blob. Man...that was anticlimactic.

anythinginc · 2017-03-16T19:05:18+00:00

First, I would like to begin by stating:

CUUUUUNT

Now that is out of the way:

things I've said and done

You asked her to go to parade. You wouldn't handle the "awkward" canceling of the sitter.

Her hamster probably:

That fucker knows I wouldn't want to go with him and so he gets a sitter behind my back to try to force me with guilt and planning to go with him, and then makes me clean up his mess by canceling the sitter.

Now that is settled get over it. Plan on taking the kids and having a great time. Sounds like they will add a lot more lifetime value to your life than she will. Can't no bitch dull your sparkle big guy. You can lead a woman to an awesome frame, but you can't make her step in.

weakandsensitive · 2017-03-16T19:12:25+00:00

I'm really battling to put my anger to bed

outcome independence my ass

and it's probably time for you to find a girlfriend.

probably also time to stop bullshitting yourself about where you're at

Sepean · 2017-03-16T19:34:07+00:00

I'm really battling to put my anger to bed, but interactions like this make it really fucking hard. I'm just so angry she has to make life so difficult for no fuckkng reason.

There is a fucking good reason why she's making it difficult: you've demonstrated a clear lack of frame for years. She'll make damn sure you actually have frame and that it is rock solid before she gets hot for you.

So suck it up. Your very anger and inability to enjoy yourself regardless of her moods is part of why she still tests you.

It's a process, you've got a lot of frame to build and a lot to atone for. Keep at it, do the work, and eventually she'll throw the main event at you and it becomes easier and a lot more enjoyable.

stonepimpletilists · 2017-03-16T19:39:12+00:00

I have been avoiding meaningful conversations ocer text for some time now, and I know I should not have engaged this text, but I just wanted to get this fucking over with.

Why are you DEERing your text fuckup? Even guys with tinder dates know, text the address once, and STFU.

The advice you were given, and it was good advice, was to act as if she was dead, and do what the single dad who wanted to go out would do. you did that.

But then, like a

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faggot

you had to open your mouth, DEER everything, fall into her frame over text, buckle when she couldn't be arsed to get off the couch to ream you out, and brag about your Plan B: Cunt approved.

And you preface as 'how I suspected'. So why the fuck did you fill your role as pussy ass bitch so quickly? The Coyote knows that it was just paint, he knew it wasn't a tunnel. And he ran into it at full tilt to chase roadrunner.

Put a fucking acme sticker on your forehead, you earned it.

Now you come back, and write your FR, as the hamster desperately tries to make you into the hero here. You aren't. you're still looking for mommy to approve of you.

"Dear, I haz the alpha now, can I haz a blowie?"

"Not until you finish your ice cream. Oh take the kids, I can't have them around for Pawn Stars marathon"

I'm 100% with /u/anythinginc This is 100% of a Cunt scenario. Learn to be the guy to tell a girl off. You should be angry enough, just got to shed that learned helplessness.

EDIT: I'm all for self deprecation, god knows you deserve it. Problem is, you're avoiding the real pain points, and beating yourself up for superficial shit. If you're going to be a mopey faggot, least you could do what do it properly

atlhart · 2017-03-16T20:33:19+00:00

Honestly, without context of where you're at in your MRP journey, this is a not-as-whiny-as-usual victim puke.

Where are you in the side bar? Are you owning your shit at home and at work? Are you working your Dread levels, what level are you on and how long have you been doing it? What's your BF%?

Your wife dislikes you. At early dread levels, that's because you're unlikeable. At later dread levels, that's because y'all's time together is coming to an end.

Are you likable? Are you attractive? Are you not unattractive?

Without this, your just looking for sympathy, which is beta pussy shit.

nonnimoose · 2017-03-17T00:49:13+00:00

H: I wouldn't join you if my life depended on it after the things you've said and done.

When I first read that, I thought what could he possibly have done? Must've been pretty bad because I can't imagine having someone go off on me like that. And this not even blurted out in the heat of an argument, but texted - she must have some valid pent up anger.

And then I realized I've received texts exactly like that. Often. From my daughter from ages 15-17. Holy shit, the caricature became real.

SeamusAwl · 2017-03-16T19:39:06+00:00

Seams to me she made your life easy. What you have now is a hostile roommate who can divorce rape you. Congrats on a fucked up marriage!!!

What you do now...

Whatever you damn well please. Invite her and let her say no. And she will say no every time. Go where you are going and look for someone more fun. At this moment, she isnt worth a single thought.

ParadoxThatDrivesUs · 2017-03-16T23:35:01+00:00

Not knowing your full history, there's a weird disconnect here. You think you guys would have fun going to the parade together. Meanwhile she wouldn't do it if her life depended on it.

Is this typical for her?

drty_pr · 2017-03-17T08:16:08+00:00

You had frame til you started passively begging her to come. That's where you fell into hers.

Also if she continues to be such a bitch, you should bag a couple of the chicks who gave you their digits. I know you didn't throw them away. This will truly help you see her as the bitch she is.

mrpthrowa · 2017-03-17T10:33:14+00:00

what the fuck man, waste of time, come here looking for advice than you go and let yourself down and everyone down around here. fuck.

nastynickdr · 2017-03-17T12:24:35+00:00

should have stopped at:

M: I'm going to the parade, and I hope that you'll join me.

All_Ads_Deceive · 2017-03-17T15:17:26+00:00

How much LBM have you gained in the past 6 months? I've read a few of your posts. A lot of victim puke, nothing about lifting.

A beginner can gain 10 lbs in the first 6 months of consistent lifting. Unless you've been hitting gym and dieting hard, your wasting your time.

I've been a weak, fat fuck and jacked. The difference is like playing poker with 2,7 vs pocket Aces. For the past 6 months you've been calling her bets and hoping you get lucky on the river.

screechhater · 2017-03-17T21:37:49+00:00

I'm going to cut through YOUR bullshit right now. Quit fucking texting, Deering and talking so goddamned much Either OYS or get the fuck off the bus, but do something

Title	Update on my frame RE: parade
Author	prarrott
Upvotes	7
Comments	29
Date	March 16, 2017 6:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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