It went down pretty much exactly as I suspected it would. I told her last night that I arranged for our neighbor to come babysit the kids, and we are going to the parade together.
H: I'm not interested, I dont want to go, etc
M: with a smile dont forget to wear your green. Be ready around 10:30
H: No thanks, cancel the babysitter, etc
We dont talk any the rest of the night, she watches tv in the other room. Today she sends me a text. I have been avoiding meaningful conversations ocer text for some time now, and I know I should not have engaged this text, but I just wanted to get this fucking over with.
H: Make sure you cancel that sitter. Don't want them to linger when they could make plans for themselves.
M: I'm going to the parade, and I hope that you'll join me. If you want to cancel the sitter, that's on you.
H: Actually u hired, u cancel. And you're not going to leave me with kids so u can go party.
M: I lined up the babysitter so we could spend time together. I'm not going to cancel it. The babysitter is coming, and I'm going to the parade, and I hope you'll join me and we can spend some time together.
H: I wouldn't join you if my life depended on it after the things you've said and done.
H: I'll just cancel for you. It's neighbor, right?
I have no clue to what exactly she's referring to on the "things I've said and done". Body of work maybe ... ? Whatever.
I think that now I'm going to bring my two older kids because I love them, they love a parade, and that's what I want to do.
I'm really battling to put my anger to bed, but interactions like this make it really fucking hard. I'm just so angry she has to make life so difficult for no fuckkng reason. / puke