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The good news is that mental health problems tend to get better as you age, especially if you are able to take control of your life and improve your situation. Teens and early 20s are usually the worst for women in terms of mental health and dealing with past traumas.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 06:01 PM
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My best guess that he'll probably be back in no time at all with an apology asking you to get back with him. He's doing it to put you on a guilt trip and he's playing games. He's already done it once before. It sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. He's also turned your situation around and made it completely about himself. Is that really someone you want around when you are healing from that sort of trauma?
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 05:59 PM
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Then no one here can help you until you help yourself and come to terms with whatever caused you to have this irrational anxiety around food and weight.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 03:40 AM
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These issues seem to be in your head.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 02:24 AM
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We are both very vanilla and have very conservative ideas about sex. He's the first sexual partner I have had that doesn't relentlessly want to try kinky crap. He likes sex but he's not filthy about it like most men seem to be. His sex drive matches up with mine and things are just perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 02:22 AM
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I have heard very bad things about the HPV vaccine. I don't react well to vaccines.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 02:14 AM
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If you are not overweight then you are worrying about nothing
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 02:07 AM
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Feminine doesn't equal showing skin. Wear pastel colours. You can also get some really pretty sneakers. I have 2 pairs of puma basket hearts. They are adorable and they have ribbons for laces. I also own socks with a frilly trim.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 02:07 AM
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Being ugly has it's perks as well as it's drawbacks. An attractive woman will generally attract a man who holds her to a higher standard. She will be forced to keep that standard in order to keep him. If you are ugly the men you do end up in a relationship with will have much lower standards and won't care so much about you aging, having kids ect. You are also invisible in public and you rarely get creeps trying to bother you, although it may happen sometimes. It's really not that bad especially…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 02:04 AM
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It totally put a dampener on things if I'm honest. When I was pregnant I just wanted to lock myself in a room and be left alone by everyone. I still had sex with my husband don't get me wrong but it felt awkward. I have never really gotten over it. My body was never that great but now it's much worse than it ever has been and I am in the process of losing the big amount of weight I put on. When I met my husband I was 5'3 and 140lbs. I got up to 206 because the GERD and nausea I always had was on…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 01:43 AM
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I have run into her blog and I think her and her husband are shysters. They lead you on with lots of fanciful talk that you can apply your own meaning to but they never really get to the point because they want you to spend money. They have made their family and their supposedly ideal situation into a brand. It's just so blatantly obvious to anyone with half a brain.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 01:27 AM
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Men with a wide sexual history are more likely to give your cervical cancer. I think that's reason enough alone to care.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 10:21 AM
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Been there done that too. It's not something I gained anything from. Me and my husband got into a relationship very quickly. We both got along very well as soon as we met and decided to make a go of things. We became pretty much inseparable soon after.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 10:05 AM
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I met a man online. We discussed our plans for the future on the first date. Decided we liked one another and that our goals matched and that we were going to make a go of things there and then. It all happened very quickly and we are still together years later.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 10:04 AM
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I know it's not recommended on here but I had sex with my husband very soon after meeting him. Everything moved very quickly and we pretty much discussed everything and agreed to things on the first date.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 01:48 AM
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You are wasting your best years with this man. You are going to regret it if you don't cut him loose. I don't know what else you expect to hear when you give us this sort of information.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 01:45 AM
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Nearly every time I have dated, it hasn't worked out. 90% of the time I would get ghosted, the man in question would declare that he 'just wanted fun right now' or he would go long periods of time not contacting me. When I was dating I learnt not to put all my eggs in one basket.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 01:39 AM
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I don't engage with them. It's not healthy to keep these men around. I'm not helping them and they are not helping me.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 01:35 PM
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You did, you talked about how you would personally feel in such a situation. I was just telling you that not every man would handle things by being so over sensitive and giving you a real life example. At the end of the day there is no objective way to handle the situation because people vary so much.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 06:57 AM
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But you were using anecdotal evidence by talking about how you feel.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 02:56 AM
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I assume we are talking about men, and I have just given you an example of when my approach with a particular man worked. Is he an exception? I don't know.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 05:47 AM
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I wouldn't say I have a low sex drive, it's pretty average for a 30 something woman. It's lower then it was in my teens and 20s but it's still very much there and I still very much desire my husband. I just don't get what all this fuss is about about the female orgasm. The fact that I am with a particular man that I admire and find attractive is the thrill of it all.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 04:03 AM
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Really? Because direct communication has worked with my husband. He kept on asking me uncomfortable questions after sex about my level of enjoyment. I communicated to him that if I didn't enjoy it with him I would not do it with him and the fact that I get to be with him in that way is enough to satisfy me. I then asked him to stop mentioning these things because it made me feel awkward and it put a damper on the experience. This was a while ago and he stopped immediately after that and hasn't s…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 03:49 AM
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It's great that you feel you have met a man you feel compatible with, but be careful about idealising him. If you idealise him and put him on a pedestal, it will make you more likely to get upset or anxious during your interactions with him and you will be more disappointed with some of the things he does.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:58 AM
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I think I would simply refuse to continue having these conversations with my mother. They are not constructive and are just going to continue to go around in circles. It's obvious that she has made up her mind and she is not going to change it. I think you need to make it clear to her that you have also made up your mind and will not argue about it any more. Every time she brings it up after that I would change the subject and if she continues I would blank her. If she still refuses to change th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:50 AM
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I think if an older woman has a good figure, she can actually get away with it. The same can however be said for younger women. If a young woman is out of shape and tries to wear something revealing it doesn't look right.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:47 AM
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I have never flirted, either. It's not something that comes naturally to me. This is why I turned to online dating. I could simply just message a man and tell him I was interested in meeting. Then when we met, I could tell him directly that I liked him and wanted a relationship and we could have a discussion about it. That's how I met my husband. Whenever I have been expected to go with all these silly social things people do I have only made a fool of myself and met men I really don't see eye t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:44 AM
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If a compliment doesn't feel genuine, or its said primarily for the sake of building rapport with someone, it can feel very awkward and false to someone who is a realist.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:38 AM
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I'm sure your body is still very much a female body and if you stood naked next to a man there would be very obvious differences. I think the way you see yourself is limiting you. Go into a clothes shop and try on things you wouldn't normally wear. Experiment and don't be afraid to try new things.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:17 AM
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Maybe you are going for the wrong type of man? You need to find out why this is so you can have the type of relationship that it is you want. You say these men don't give you gifts and don't appear to take a long time to get over you, maybe you are going for hyper rational, less sentimental men. Perhaps go for men with more emotional warmth and expression. If that is what you want you need to sit down and have a think about why you are not with that type of man and make steps to meet men that yo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:15 AM
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I think men need to drop this obsession with the female orgasm. I don't know what it is that makes men so caught up in it, I'm guessing it could be pornography use and the media. The majority of women don't actually need an orgasm to enjoy sex and the way that men constantly talk about it can actually be off putting. Unless a woman communicates with you directly and tells you that is what she wants, I wouldn't get caught up in it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:08 AM
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Does not having an orgasm during sex actually bother you? I have found that it doesn't bother me at all and I have spoken to other women who feel the same. Just feeling attracted to my husband when we are intimate and meeting that urge to be with a man I have those feelings for is enough for me. I find that if anything it's men that have this irritating obsession with the female orgasm, to the point where it makes women enjoy the experience less than they would otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 12:04 AM
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I am a libertarian conservative. It's interesting as I have a very masculine finger digit ratio. When it comes to MBTI I am also an INTJ and when I was a child it was thought that I had ADHD and Aspergers, although it's not something I give any thought to as an adult. I don't feel masculine. I have mostly feminine likes and dislikes. I am however not as sentimental as the majority of other women and it's much more difficult to offend or shock me. I don't need a lot of approval from people I don'…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 11:57 PM
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I have never understood how people can read the Bible or whatever other holy book and take it all seriously. Religion seems to be more about just going along with it and not questioning things in depth to belong to a community.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 06:13 AM
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They can work as a temporary situation. The key is to make a set goal and put definitive plans in place so that eventually you do spend your lives together. I think long distance can last 2-3 years max this way before things start to fall apart in most cases.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 06:10 AM
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I find that men who have a more machismo masculine energy tend to be the more emotional ones themselves in a machismo sort of way and they like comforting crying women and being sappy and sentimental themselves. Intellectual men who have a more introverted and rational masculine energy generally don't like crying, sentimental women.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 06:05 AM
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Personally, I think they are just another sector of rabid leftism. Radical feminists tend to be completely anti male and completely pro big government and nanny state. Many I have met work for the state, and they have jobs that intrude on other people's personal lives so they can spread and enforce their extremist beliefs. They often work for 'social services' where they have access to plenty of people they can bully and control. They advocate for putting trans women in male prisons and homeless…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 05:33 AM
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Submission is earned when a person that knows better than you is willing to take the lead. Passiveness is being someone's doormat, whether they know better than you or not.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 05:25 AM
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This has effected me after my c sections, but it seems to calm down after about 3 months or so. I would really start exploring medical reasons why this could be happening, such as thyroid problems or iron deficiency. Have you had your iodine and iron levels checked?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 05:23 AM
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Why even enter a legal marriage contract with someone? Personally I don't like the thought of registering any part of myself or my life with the state if there is any possible way I can get out of it. Even if you are religious, and you feel the need to be married 'under the eyes of God' and I get it that's a thing for a lot of people, why not an unofficial religious ceremony? Problems come when you let the state enter your life. It's one of the only things you really don't have any control over.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 07:29 PM
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I don't see what's wrong with choosing to help out a friend when you are in a position to. If he thinks you are looking down on him, that's up to him. I don't see how it's inappropriate to cook for someone, or even offer to go out for a meal. Maybe you can even invite more than one friend along if you are worried about him feeling awkward.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 06:39 PM
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I dealt with a man who had the opposite problem. I was with my first serious boyfriend throughout my early 20s. He would create conflict out of thin air. When he would do this there was really nothing I could do. If I went to another room to avoid him, he would follow me. If it was late at night and I wanted to sleep, he would be by my bed raving and ranting and keeping me awake. I could tell him to be quiet, I could stay calm and try and be rational with him, I could ask him to tell me his feel…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 06:34 PM
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I solved the sleep deprivation problem by letting my kids sleep with me. If this is something you haven't tried already, it's a suggestion. I found this was the only way to get any sleep. Nothing else worked and believe me I tried. Kids that young simply do not like being alone at night. They get scared and wake up a lot due to hypervigilance. If you think about human behaviour from an evolutionary standpoint it makes perfect sense why a small, defenceless human would feel that way. Toddlers in …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 06:25 PM
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I am not suggesting that women should outright lie. But if they do that's up to them, anyone can lie about something. Sometimes lies are impossible to prove. You can't really expect people to be honest when there is no way to prove that they are lying, but if they are found out, it's their responsibility to deal with the consequences. People are very selfish by nature. That's simply how it is. Even people who help others are selfish. Everything everyone does in the very least on a subconscious l…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 05:14 PM
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Just think of why you left him. If the cons in a relationship outweigh the pros, what is the point in staying?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 04:55 PM
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No one is owed anything in life. I'm not even owed my husband's support, time or money, it's something we both personally agree on. If he kicked me out tomorrow and left me destitute, I don't believe I am owed anything from anyone. If someone helps me then that's great, but If I die on the street before I find a way to support myself, it's my responsibility. You are no one else's responsibility but your own. You are born alone and you die alone. You are separate from other human beings and you h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 04:47 PM
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Read above. "This situation does not apply to me any more. I am not looking for advice'.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 04:37 PM
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It's all a matter of personal priorities. I have nicer clothes than him, and I buy clothes more often for me and the kids. Still I'm not nearly as extravagant as many of the women here or many women as it is. I spend the bare minimum to meet my standards. My husband still does the things he wants and is still a very successful man, so it really doesn't matter what people think of him. If it's holding someone back it's more of problem.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 04:34 PM
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I actually don't think I actually ever met many logical, masculine men when I was dating. It could be my location, I just don't know, but I tend to get along with logical, masculine men really well and they seem to like me when I do meet them even if they are not attracted to me and I not attracted to them. ENTx men seem really drawn to these very intense friendships with me but we are never sexually attracted to one another. Usually because they have quite high standards when it comes to physic…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 09:53 PM
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The unusual thing is, when I broke up with him, he begged me for months and months to take him back, and he had a nervous breakdown. I still did his grocery shopping, helped him with his bills and collected his medication because he started neglecting himself. I find out down the line that fortunately he's doing well, he finally has a job he likes doing and he has a life and is able to do a lot more on his own. Some people need time on their own to mature and reflect on themselves. Sometimes we …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 09:43 PM
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The step to getting a man to lead is to simply do nothing. Then you will see how it works out. Don't enable the man to lead.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/18 07:51 PM
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Yes, my first serious relationship was with a man who would do something very odd. He would constantly start fights out of nowhere and he would project his own insecurities onto me. We could be out together having a nice time and he would suddenly pick on how loudly I was eating for example or how I used my cutlery then I would look at him blankly. Suddenly everything just as insignificant from the past would come up. He would then calm down as soon as I made a joke and made him laugh then he wo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 07:48 PM
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His rationality, his open mindedness, his competence, his lack of superficial ego, his ability to laugh at the darkest jokes and not get offended by anything, ever, his frugality and practicality, how solution orientated he is, his cute butt, his sexy body.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 07:41 PM
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For me functionality is the first thing I consider. I might go for an attractive detail here and there but I actually want to be able to move freely and feel physically comfortable and not have to worry about bits falling off or stains showing. I really don't care about looking smart unless I have to go to a formal event and it's evident that I need to make an impression to succeed at something. I am not a slave to fashion. Neither is my husband. He literally owns about two pairs of pants he bou…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 07:35 PM
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So you are saying that because a woman has had sex with another man, she has to have sex with you at the same duration in the relationship she did with him, and do everything with you she did with him, regardless of whether or not it was a detriment to her? I could say the same if a man bought his ex wife 1,000 red roses, acted like a total white knight and married without a prenup and got burnt, that he owes me the exact same thing, without any regard for himself and his interests. People learn…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 07:02 PM
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I would visit a herbal practitioner, or even look online and do your own research, there is tonnes of free info out there regarding herbal medicine and there are books on openlibrary.org. I have found this with herbs also. You order one brand and it's less effective. You need to try different brands and find the one that works for you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 06:52 PM
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Take compliments from random men with serious skeptisicm. They call it a 'sweet nothing'.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 06:38 PM
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He kept cancelling so he obviously wasn't that interested. What do you mean by verbally abusive? If you mean that genuinely then you need to get your act together and learn to communicate your feelings like an adult without throwing a tantrum. There is nothing wrong with telling a man how you feel about something as long as you do it with grace, and by that I mean polite, direct and straight to the point. I find that direct communication scares some men off but I usually find that I wasn't getti…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:40 PM
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I managed to find a man who doesn't do Christmas, valentines, Easter or birthdays or any other public holiday. I think it's all a load of nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:16 PM
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A man who is nasty or violent. A man who is overly emotional or sentimental and has too many petty expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:13 PM
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Family Guy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:09 PM
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I don't think my husband in particular would get along with a woman who was too virtuous. A lot of our conversations are really morbid and we often laugh and say things to each other that anyone else would find really offensive. I don't think I could be with a man who was moralistic or sentimental at all. In fact I have dated such men before and on paper they seem great but I find them boring and they make me feel tense. My husband says he has never gotten along with a woman like he has with me …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:06 PM
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I don't see how it's 'manipulation'. That's such an immature thing to say. A woman could simply be trying a different dating strategy for her own benefit, and if she thinks it might work, then why shouldn't she? A woman doesn't owe something to a man just because she did it with another man in the past, particularly if she has realized that it's not of a benefit to her or the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 09:38 PM
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Try taking a herb called vitex/agnus castus. It lowers sex drive. That's why it's also called 'chasteberry'. I'm pretty sure you can buy it on eBay and Amazon. Look at what herbal medicines you can take and what foods you can eat to lower your libido in the meantime so that you can focus on other things. Bearing in mind times have changed since 1920. Some men won't wait around for sex as they think that not having it with them means you are not interested in a relationship at all. This may go ag…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 09:33 PM
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She's never really been that conventionally attractive or taken that much notice of her appearance. I think it's more of a problem when you start off with more to lose.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/18 09:21 PM
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As for stretch marks, it depends on how deep they are. If they are deep then they don't fade significantly.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/18 08:12 PM
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C sections are often avoidable, but not always. My mother had to have a vertical c section with me because she had grade 4 placenta previa and was heamorraging. They also had to get me out quickly. Her belly looks like a butt and she has an apron.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/18 08:10 PM
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Dried pasta and rice, onions, garlic, tins of tomatoes, herbs, lentils, eggs, flour, sugar, cheese and milk are essentials for me. These are things I always have around. I always have the ingredients for lentil patties, pasta with marinara sauce and pancakes.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/18 04:51 PM
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Staying fit is one thing, loose skin and stretch marks are another. I have a friend with a BMI of about 18 who hardly gains weight in her pregnancies, but she needs to tuck her belly into her pants. There are also c section scars. They often create an apron. Without surgery a lot of women will never look the same.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/18 04:42 PM
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I am like this too and I have realized that I just don't get any joy out of socializing regularly. I make friends with a select few people I meet and everyone else I prefer to avoid as much as possible. The older I have gotten the more I have realized that this is not a problem because it's how I like to live my life. You could always try online dating. The man you meet doesn't have to be from college. You might even find a man who is also not very sociable. I did and it's the best relationship …
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:38 PM
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I think you should extend your age range rather than focusing on one age group in particular. The 'man of your dreams' could be 28 or he could be 50. Why restrict yourself when all you are doing is introducing more opportunities?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:32 PM
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It's about finding balance. You don't want to try and keep something unattainable, but at the same time you need to be at least content with your body. You have to live a little too, and if food is something you enjoy perhaps 145lbs is a compromise? It's up to you to decide what is more important, but you are not overweight. Having a perfect body involves hard work and deprivation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:29 PM
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As long as you develop insight into how not having a father impacts you and your judgement, and you work on this and fix any issues you have everything should be fine. It's not about what hardships you have been through, it's about how you respond to them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:25 PM
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I would try online dating. You can then express what you want and filter your matches. I met my husband on POF. There are sleazeballs on there but there are also a lot of decent, regular men looking for something serious.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:19 PM
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I think this is one of those things where it's different for different couples. My house is where I want to feel relaxed and don't want to have to worry about these things. That's why I chose a man that doesn't have a problem with it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:17 PM
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I wouldn't put up with that. Regular sex is so important for both parties.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:12 PM
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His porn addiction is the problem. He needs to stop it without delay otherwise it's going to cost you both the relationship. You need to sit down and have a serious talk with him. This cannot continue. Addictions are different to other, less worrisome behaviors. It's not as simple as 'bringing him your problem' this time. I would even give him an ultimatum.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:11 PM
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I think this is one of those things where practicality is more important. I can't stand having long nails. They get in the way of everything. Painted is fine.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 03:07 PM
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You need to talk to him about this. You also need to stop agreeing to giving him a release unless he does something for you. You are allowing him to take you for granted without putting in any work. If you find yourself getting insecure or upset, ask yourself, will saying something to him even help? If not then simply don't say it. Keep some things out of your marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 03:06 PM
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I don't think it's dishonest in your case. You were a victim of sexual violence. Sexual violence and having sex are two very different things.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 03:01 PM
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Has your boyfriend actually said that he finds it unattractive?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 02:59 PM
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The problem is him. That was obvious from your last post. The man has issues of his own that he needs to deal with and you are letting him walk all over you. There is bringing out the best in yourself and being good to your man then there is being a doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 02:53 PM
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I don't know about that. Perhaps your sister is just being too choosy. You see lots of overweight women who have always been that way who are married. Maybe she is punching above her weight. Is she open to being with an overweight man? Or a man who is not that attractive to a lot of other women because of awkwardness and poor dress sense ect? If you are overweight you will have lower SMV no doubt about it. Lower SMV men have no problem marrying and settling down with lower SMV women, the two see…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 02:49 PM
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It's not about fault or blame, it's about understanding that the only person whose actions you can control are your own. You can choose not to let something like that happen, but you can't control what the man attempts or what his actions are. Blame and fault are not relevant to that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:32 AM
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I think that people should have these conversations before they even go on a second date. I wouldn't want to spend further time with a man and develop emotions for him only to learn that we have major compatibility issues. I would want to know things like whether or not he wanted children, how he wanted them raised, what size family he desired, what his goals were ect. That's what dating is for.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:27 AM
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From my personal, real world experience people constantly heavily exaggerate about how difficult fat women have it when it comes to finding love from men. It's true that being in shape will maximize your attractiveness, and will give you more options, but being fat certainly won't condemn you. If you look around you most women and men for that matter who are fat and have always been fat have romantic relationships and end up marrying if that is what they actually want. Sometimes I think that peo…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 03:05 AM
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I'm thankful that my advice has possibly guided you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:56 AM
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You need to do this for yourself, take some time to care for yourself before you involve yourself in anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:50 AM
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Just go ahead and date and marry a white man. I think you are complicating things. You are just not attracted to black men, for whatever reason, and that's OK. Some people will have a thing against interracial marriage but so what? It's not up to you to please them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:42 AM
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It sounds to me like this man genuinely loves you, but wants to keep you and his family separate. Is that something you are willing to deal with for the sake of an otherwise presumably happy, healthy relationship? I really do not believe that this is personal. Muslim parents can be very strict about honor, and children are often terrified of dishonoring their parents to the point where they sometimes feel that they have no choice but to live separate lives if they are to go against their parents…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:39 AM
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I thought you could see anyone in hospital? I remember when my ex was in hospital years ago and we were never married and I called the ward as he didn't have his phone on him and I visited him all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:28 AM
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As a libertarian I don't personally see the need of making it a legal formality unless you have a practical requirement to. For example, your spouse is from another country and you require a dependent visa, or married people get lower taxes and legal benefits over unmarried couples or two supposedly single people (the government doesn't know that you sleep together) living together as 'housemates'. Saying that though I think that 'husband' sounds more grown up and more mature than 'boyfriend' or…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:19 AM
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Why do you feel that this is something you need to share with anyone? It's not a part of your life any more. It only has to be a reality now if you make it one. Not everyone does well talking about emotional subjects. Not all men want or care to know that you were depressed some years back. The fact that you were feeling the need to bring it up like it was still a part of your life was possibly more of a problem than the fact that it actually happened. Move on with your life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:01 AM
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If you find your legs rub together get a stick of deodorant and rub it on your thighs and in your groin area. Make sure to wear panties when you do this otherwise the deodorant will transfer onto your lady parts and it will itch and burn and that's never fun. I promise you, you won't get any chaffing. There is really no point in being hot and sweaty in the summer when there are other solutions.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 01:54 AM
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I never bothered with maternity clothes, I just sized up in regular clothes. I found maternity clothing horrifically overpriced and a lot of is so ugly. My best tip is to go for stretchy/jersey fabric. Look for the same styles you would normally wear in the stores that you normally shop in. I guarantee that in many of these items you can just size up and it will fit you fine. I can imagine that waist bands can be bit of a problem for women who wear jeans. I don't wear jeans or even own 1 pair so…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 01:50 AM
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I think you know the answer. You are just looking for the women here to reaffirm it for you. You are not OK with the way that this relationship is going. This man sounds like he's not ready to get into something serious, and is not at a stage in his life where he is willing to compromise or take any responsibility in a relationship with a woman. He was nice and sweet to you in the beginning when it was all a novelty. Now you are seeing his true colors and things will never go back to how they we…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 01:28 AM
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I don't believe that anything anyone can say to you here will improve the way you feel about yourself whilst you remain in this mindset. Your screen name 'ruinedgirl' seriously worries me. Everything you post here is so negative and it's never constructive. You are just looking for any reason to tear yourself apart about something. If it wasn't this, it would be something else because you are intent on torturing yourself. I get the sense that you are trapped in a very negative mindset. I think y…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 01:09 AM
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He's told you what the deal is. If you can't deal with it I would leave. There are some women willing to make this work but it's not for the faint hearted and it comes with it's challenges. You could compromise and ask to live separately to her if you want to continue being with him but you just don't want her in your space or being in your life, but understand that you have to share him. Hats off to him, at least he's being open and honest with you. He could lie and sneak about behind your back…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:23 AM
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You are not long distance any more. You are engaged to be married to this man, you have secured everything from him and you have his commitment. Do you not trust him? Are you worried about him hurting you? That is of course another possibility.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 08:10 PM
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We are really good at compromise and discussion. We rarely argue, and if we do, we have always seem to work out a way to overcome our differences eventually. I found a very mature, very rational, very capable, very logical, flexible man who focuses on solving problems rather than getting caught up in things he cannot control. He has really bought out the best in me and my relationship with him has made me grow so much as a person. I feel I can't give any tips, as what works for us might not work…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 07:42 PM
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Are you actually genuinely romantically in love with this man? A woman who has these feelings for a man would generally be ecstatic about landing his commitment and securing marriage from him. She would be mortified at the very thought of letting such a good thing go. You tell yourself that you love this man, and want to marry him, but do you really? Your question and the way it is phrased drops so many hints that you are in denial so you try to make vague excuses whilst trying to minimise your …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 07:16 PM
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I think in the west, it is often an expectation from a lot of educated men that women have a career and have ambition. However, I find that that there are certain circumstances in which women can get around this that men cannot. You could find a more traditionally minded man and he won't be bothered about your education and career. You would be better off going online to look for this as the majority of men in the west are defacto feminist as they have been conditioned to support gender equality…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 06:44 PM
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My advice is that you should extend the age range. A lot men that young are not going to want commitment. I second giving online dating a go. I can't dispute the fact that it is harder these days to find a man who wants to settle down but that is where online dating comes in. You can set your criteria more in terms of who you spend your time and interact with. We do live in a rather sad generation of adults who never seem to mature past college. Online dating will help you weed out all the time …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 06:19 PM
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In terms of people I find easy to talk to and get along with, my husband comes first place in that regard. He is extremely open minded and is not easily offended. He is happy to discuss anything, no topic is off limits to him. We don't argue often. When we do argue it's usually because he is moody about something that has nothing to do with me. When this happens, it usually helps for me to ask him directly what is bothering him, then he usually explains it to me and I stop discussing anything pr…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 06:11 PM
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The key is not trying to act 'more feminine'. You are already a woman, you have natural, inborn femininity. The way you think and act and feel is already different to that of a man. The key here is bringing out the best of your true self. You don't have to pretend to feel and act and be like a woman because you already are one. The first thing you need to work on is your negative childhood. Understand that if you hold onto childhood issues and don't manage to resolve them you will never truly be…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:32 PM
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If you are not romantically attracted to this man it is NEVER going to work. There are no ifs or buts about it. You will only end up cheating on him or feeling really unhappy throughout the whole relationship and this isn't fair on either of you. Not only do you have the right to be content with your relationship but he deserves a woman who actually finds him sexy. The keyword here is content, and you cannot be content without having romantic feelings for someone. "Settle or be forever single?" …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:12 PM
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Grow your hair at least past shoulder length and have a nice, natural looking color and some highlights. This always improves the appearance of any woman. As you age do not let your hair go grey and don't cut it short. Vibrant reds and purples and more alternative colors do not look good on women after the age of about 25 or so. I think pastel pink hair is really cute but as a woman in my 30s I would never try to pull it off.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 04:51 PM
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I am guessing that if you like leggings and t shirts, comfort is an important factor to you. You can be casual and still wear nice clothes. I dress similar to you, and I find that looking for shirts with attractive or flattering details on them, like for example, a cold shoulder, some ruffles, some detail at the back, some lace, some ribbon ect is a good way to improve my outfit whilst still getting to wear tshirts and leggings and not sacrificing functionality and comfort. You don't have to loo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 04:44 PM
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I don't personally see it in terms of luck. Everyone in any particular environment has exactly the same information available to them. I am the one who has chosen to develop an understanding and to utilise the information. Luck is receiving a positive outcome by chance when something is out of my control, so I really don't view myself as 'lucky' as I am in control of how I choose to educate myself. How has RPW improved my life? It has given me the ability to not only understand reality but to ac…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 04:16 PM
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I believe this is why some men cat call women, or just act in a way that women find generally crass or creepy. It's because men would likely enjoy it if the coin flipped and women did the same to them.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 03:29 PM
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You have already confronted him about it and nothing has changed. Instead he has attempted to do things more discreetly so that he doesn't get caught. You are going to have to make peace with the fact that these are behaviours that he is obviously not willing to change for you and there is nothing you can do now besides getting frustrated and going around in circles with him, accepting it, or ending the relationship. It's up to you where you go from here after taking this into account.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 03:25 PM
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If you feel that you have to choose, then something has gone wrong somewhere in one of these relationships. I would get rid of the relationship that wasn't benefiting me.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 03:09 PM
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Most people only know what they have been taught . Most people develop an emotional attachment to their beliefs and they attach the sense of being right about something to their own ego. There isn't really anything you can do to influence others whose minds are not open. I would be careful about sharing the details of your personal life with other women in a place where their morals and lifestyles are fundamentally different to yours. Quite often if they don't like something about you and the wa…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 03:05 PM
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It sounds to me like you have a penchant for damaged men. "Immature as all hell, careless/daredevil, self-absorbed. Had HUGE flaws, to the point where he needed intensive therapy. Yet, I stayed in love throughout everything and still don’t know if I’m fully over him" You can't say that there are no good looking, charismatic men around who are responsible, hard working and mature. You are seeing things in very black and white terms. Men are not either socially awkward, nice guy nerds or jerk boy …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:54 PM
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You need to ask yourself whether or not you are drawing conclusions out of the things he does and says and it sounds like you quite possibly are. All these things are also rather trivial. You said it yourself, they are 'annoyances'. It does sound like you are overthinking.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:44 PM
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No one should get into a relationship with the intentions of 'fixing' another person. By all means we can grow from relationships and they can bring out the best in us, but this doesn't come from the other side having these big expectations and playing the hero. As for your question, you have provided no evidence that this man does not 'like you as much as you like him'. You have only given your own opinion of yourself. Your opinion isn't necessarily his opinion. ​
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:37 PM
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The thing with all of us is is that we are not perfect. We all live at least somewhat of a checkered existence in some area of our lives. You are allowed to feel negative emotions, you cannot help feeling negative emotions. The first step however is understanding them and understanding where they come from. That's the first step to being able to step outside yourself and see things for what they really are. Then you are able to view your situation objectively, which will help you heal from it an…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:33 PM
1

Well my husband was single until he met me at 29. He couldn't get a girlfriend, and apparently other women have never found him attractive. I could never understand why. He's hard working, he's funny, he looks cute, he takes care of his mother so I knew he would take care of me, he's a family man, he is very comfortable with conflict and is very non judgemental and open minded. He's very introverted, yet he has this amazing level of confidence and leadership ability around others that is just re…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 06:19 PM
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1) I have never really associated closely with people who behave that way, so I am no authority on this. You could be right. 2)Speaking from a personal standpoint, I don't fall in love and stay in love easily. I can only truly grow close to a man who I feel 'gets' me and gives me comfort and stability. I have developed temporary infatuation towards men who are not ideal, but it's always passed when I have come to the realisation that they are no good for me or me personally and I haven't missed …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 05:36 PM
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I think you need to relax. Unless he's completely cluttering up the house or spending over your budget, you need to understand that you are now a part of this family, you are living with them and some things they will do differently to you. You are going to drive yourself around the bend worrying about little things otherwise. Maybe this is just an adjustment period where you have to get used to a few things that feel alien to you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 05:21 PM
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1)If a woman is troubled in any way that's not healthy. I have seen women who are very young have a really good head on their shoulders because their parents raised them well. Usually if a woman falls for a bad man it's because something went wrong with her upbringing or she has a mental health problem. 2)Who me? Personally, I rarely feel annoyed at my husband. It's one of the things I love about him. There is very little drama and it's been that way from the beginning. He's very reliable and pr…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 05:07 PM
1

I went through a black pill phase in my 20s and I was a nihilist. I became very disillusioned and detached because I felt that the world I lived in was beyond saving and I was just a part of it all and whatever happened with my life happened. I'm out of that stage in my life now, because of course my circumstances have changed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:57 PM
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Maybe I'm in the minority here, or maybe I'm just mentally healthy in that department, who knows, but I would have thought that a woman would have serious issues to work through if she craves an 'emotional rollercoaster' and not a rewarding and stable relationship with a man who treats her well whilst having positive masculine traits.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:49 PM
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I know what the red pill claims to say, but I don't agree with all of it. My own anecdotal experience with people has taught me otherwise. Men who are really that attractive to a high number of women will have too many options to consider a woman who doesn't meet a certain standard, even just for sex. In my experience, the men who actively seek out casual relationships are often not even open to anything serious with any woman. They are at a stage in their lives where they don't want to commit t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:32 PM
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Really? I have always viewed those guys as wasters. I certainly wouldn't call a violent drug dealer or a serial alcohol abuser anything but bottom of the barrell. I would have thought a woman would only go for these sorts of men if she doesn't have her head on straight and has plenty of her own demons to work through. I thought to be alpha a man has to have something valuable to offer to a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 03:58 PM
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The key to overcoming childhood trauma is to understand it and come face to face with reality, which should allow you to let go of any feelings of shame, powerlessness and guilt. For as long as you do not move on from this you will never fully mature into an adult. You will always be stuck in your childhood, forever trying to fulfill a need that wasn't met. Children are never to blame for the problems that adults have. They are never responsible, even naughty or badly behaved children. Children …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 12:53 PM
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I would tell him how you felt and ask him not to do it. Tell him that you don't enjoy feeling jealous, and that it doesn't nurture your relationship with him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 12:26 PM
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If there is an expectation of fidelity in a marriage or relationship, then cheating is certainly morally questionable for either sex. However, when women cheat, it's more likely that the marriage or relationship is in trouble. A man can still love and be happy with his wife and see another woman for the sheer novelty of it all. That doesn't mean however that a woman should put up with a cheating man if she's not willing to resign herself to sharing him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 12:24 PM
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I don't think you should let one experience like that put you off of finding a meaningful relationship. His behaviour wasn't normal. He sounds just a little narcissistic to me. A healthy person does not get into a relationship and drag things out like that just to make changes to someone else. That guy likely had a serious complex.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 11:20 AM
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He obviously isn't attracted to your physical appearance. He's clearly not being direct with you. He is the one who has changed, now he's expecting you to change along with him. You got into a relationship with the man he was before, not the man he is now. The question is, are you willing to keep up with what new developments he expects of you? Is physical fitness a priority to you? Are you willing to go along with it just to make him content with the relationship? Just know that you are now goi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 11:12 AM
1

What were these issues that you rejected these men for?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 11:00 AM
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The fact that they are older than you is probably the catch. If you mean older as in 'sugar daddy' or 'silver fox' age. Anything else isn't really considered 'older' in any relevant context. These men understand that if they want sex with a woman far more physically attractive and much younger than them they are going to have to pay good money for it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 10:57 AM
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Even if that was the case, I could be wrong, this guy doesn't sound very high SMV at all. He sounds like a bit of a loser and an unreliable flake. I was always under the impression that alpha widows are women who leave serious relationships with good men in their youth and can't score a man of the same quality when they finally feel 'ready' to find a husband. Alpha males don't generally need to mislead women and tell them sob stories. They don't generally need to go around having sex with low qu…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 10:52 AM
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It sounds to me like he is still in this marriage. He's likely still sleeping with her and unless you have seen the official divorce papers she is likely still his wife. This is essentially polygamy. If not then why won't he make steps to live separately from her? Have you met this ex wife? How do you know that she has diagnosed BPD? Does she have a medical certificate or record stating that she has BPD? Have you seen this? It's easy for him to tell a sob story and to paint his wife as a demon. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 08:27 AM
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'Alpha widowed' is when women have a great thing with a good quality man and they ruin it, usually by cheating or leaving the relationship because she thinks she needs to 'get to know herself' or some other nonsense. This doesn't sound like anything that happened here. This sounds like a relationship that never was, with a man who is far from 'alpha'.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:52 AM
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"I also feel like I have it kind of worse than others who have been here" What actually makes you think you have it worse than other people? It only seems that way because you are the one feeling the situation. Really, you don't. This situation is very common. If you ask any woman if they have been through something similar at least half of them will have a story to tell. " He was extremely damaged and had secrets that would probably make any other woman run for the hills. He opened up to me a l…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:45 AM
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It's the kind of men you are choosing. That is blatantly obvious. You are choosing low maintenance men who want a low maintenance partner. There is obviously a personal reason why you are gravitating towards these relationships. Don't think you need a man to buy you gifts and take you to extravagant places just because it appears to be what everyone else does. Do you actually want these things for yourself? Or is it about what other people think? That's the question you need to ask yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:29 AM
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You can say "well you always get your own way" to just about anyone you are having a disagreement with. It's a phrase that gets thrown around often when people are frustrated with another person's differences. Without knowing the situation and the general pattern I can't comment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:23 AM
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Still very vague.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:20 AM
2

Head lice is a non issue and they are easily treated. If you work with children expect to get them more than once.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:19 AM
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Then you are obviously going for a certain type of guy, and you are putting up with their bad behaviour for whatever reason.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 07:18 AM
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If you have only been dating for 3 days, and he's already offending you this much, is this really the right guy for you? Either you need to work on how offended you get, or find a man who is more charming.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 09:27 PM
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I can't comprehend why a woman would want to compete with her man. Relationships actually work best when the man has more value than the woman. I don't know about the other women here, but I find nothing more sexy than a man who is more confident than me, and manages to hold frame or come up with the answer when I'm not able to. In fact, this is one of the things I love so much about my husband, how great he is at everything I'm not great at. I have someone who I can look to for guidance and aut…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 09:24 PM
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Unless it's something disfiguring and your hair is falling out and you are going bald then it's very likely you are overreacting. Other people likely don't notice this as much as you. If you say the problem is only temporary, then stop worrying. I don't know how to advise you on the problem at hand, I can fully respect that you don't want to share what the specific issue is, however.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 09:09 PM
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Is this your boyfriend or just a man you are dating? What did he say to you that you got so offended by? How did you react? There isn't a lot of information here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 09:03 PM
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It depends whether or not they are physically attracted to you and orbit you and give you special treatment as a result. I'm going to say something very controversial around these parts and I'm going to say that men and women can be friends. People are far more than just their sexuality, and two people of the opposite sex may not find one another sexually attractive but may be bought together through hobbies, interests, sense of humour ect. You get male and female friends who are two people who …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 08:58 PM
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It sounds like high anxiety manifesting itself as anger. I think you need to take deep breaths and calm down and remind yourself that it's not the end of the world and that everything is going to be fine. I also think you need to communicate your worries directly to your husband, it sounds like he's far more relaxed and spontaneous than you. I'm guessing you are the type to make plans, and you get very tense when they fall through. You are going to have to find some type of compromise.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 08:46 PM
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How can anyone really give you advice if you don't provide any details? How are men treating you badly? Do you go for a certain 'type'? Are you just being idealistic?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 08:40 PM
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My anecdotal experience says otherwise. It seems like men, educated, western men at least expect women who are educated and working in a professional role. This might not be the case for blind attraction and who a man will have sex with, but it does seem to be the case when a man is looking for a woman to commit to.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 08:31 PM
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If you are a person that takes things to heart and doesn't forget things, then such an explosive man probably isn't a good match for you. If you could give as good as you get and his behaviour didn't stick with you, then it could work, but it sounds like you need someone more composed and more sensitive to your feelings. Usually in relationships like this, the fired up person ends up being a bully, and the more mild, sensitive person ends up hurting and building resentment.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 08:25 PM
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You seem to be blaming yourself a lot. I don't witness the conversations you have with your partner, but it sounds to me like you don't want to confront the fact that this man has problems. Why is he napping in the day? Does he work?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 08:22 PM
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If you don't ask, you won't find out.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:49 PM
1

I don't think that smiling or making eye contact with other women would cause them to proposition you. People smile at one another in the street and make eye contact all the time. There is either something very particular you are doing, or you live in an unusual place with a bigger than average and very open gay community.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:48 PM
1

Really? That's bizarre. Short nails? That's not outside the norm. In fact, where I live, seeing women with long nails is considered extravagant. I bite my nails and I have never been propositioned in public by another woman. Where and why do people come up with these things?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:42 PM
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Women approach you for dates when you are out? I wasn't aware that this even happened. I thought that gays and lesbians stuck to bars and clubs with their own kind when it came to their romantic lives. I assumed that most of these people would assume that the majority of the world was straight, and that they have 'special inclinations' that are outside the norm. Could there be a certain thing you are wearing, like maybe a bracelet, a garment or a hairstyle, that is labelling you as 'one of them'…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:36 PM
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Don't get too caught up in the social aspects of college. You are there to study and develop a degree so you can further your career. Any friendships you do create in the meantime or any groups you fall in with are a bonus, and should not be a distraction as to why you are there in the first place. Don't feel like you need to 'fit in' with anyone. Just simply focus on your studies and yourself and your future. Understand that you don't need to be reliant on other people's approval to be a comple…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:29 PM
1

If you don't know where to start, you need to ask yourself this. Would therapy in the professional sense even help at all? It doesn't work for everyone, some people need to explore themselves alone to come to a personal understanding. That was certainly the case for me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:20 PM
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Has he told you why he is so obsessed with porn? Is he open to this discussion with you? You seem like someone who is open to discussing things. That's a good start, but this has to be a two way thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:15 PM
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It's not a matter of a man having 'too many options'. Some men have very limited options and still don't want to commit. Maybe he is not compatible with you long term but he still wants the sex, or he may not want to commit to anyone at this time in his life at least. Don't think that by bringing things to the table, you can get a particular man to commit to you. It's good to work on yourself, but not for that specific reason.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:11 PM
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First of all, stop comparing your MIL to yourself and the women in your family, you are coming off as a bit conceited and passive aggressive. Your MIL sounds like someone who deals with things through humour, is fatalistic and doesn't beat around the bush. I'm sure she is like this with everyone, that's who she is and you are taking it personally. You have this set idea of who or what women should be in order to be feminine and you have to get over it. Women have their own individual personaliti…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 05:56 PM
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I think you were idealising the relationship you had with this young man. It obviously didn't work out for a reason, and it sounds to me like you were not attracted to him. If you had the perfect relationship, you would have stayed. A relationship cannot work without attraction. This man wants to take you back and try again, you have that opportunity, but you won't take it, again because you don't really have romantic feelings for him. This is not because of the fact that you fell for someone el…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 05:29 PM
1

People have different skin needs. What works for one lady might not do anything for you and vice versa. For me it's astringents like menthol. It controls cysts and inflammation, which I am very prone to. Nothing has worked better than a menthol cleanser, applied to my face daily and a moisturizer also containing some type of astringent. If it stings my face I know it's working.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 05:09 PM
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What's wrong with defining the relationship? You are in the relationship, you make up 50% of it. You need to define some of it. The key is not to define it on the basis that the other person's needs, boundaries or desires don't matter along with your own. You obviously have a boundary where you don't want to have sex too soon. You need to be able to communicate this directly with any man you meet and tell him clearly what the score is. If he doesn't like it, and that's not compatible with what h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 05:01 PM
2

I think there is a subset of our society that just cannot deal with the prospect of boredom or predictability for too long. I am noticing a trend of adults who are forever clinging to their youth and can't move on or see a future beyond it. I think this is where the problem lies. If they want to live like this, then it's up to them, but I can see that many of them are not happy, and are desperately looking for something more, but they ruin it because their endless need for novelty and excitement…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 04:55 PM
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The biggest thing is shared life goals along with compatibility. Compatibility is more than something that can be expressed on paper. It's rather complex. You have to be able to exist with someone day to day and to be able to respect one another's personal boundaries and communicate effectively. You can share the same life goals as a person and have all the same beliefs on paper but not be compatible. I think this should be the focus when vetting someone. I think I could overlook some difference…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 04:48 PM
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You are a bottomless pit, because you are not really addressing your needs at all. You are trying to fill that empty hole with hot air, whilst you are actually overlooking your most fundamental need. Understanding and personal growth. The biggest issue here is that you are an adult still holding onto your negative childhood experiences. You need to make peace with them and move on. Until then you will eternally be a child. Understand that you now have the power and the opportunity to take contro…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 04:21 PM
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If he wasn't in love with you, or willing to commit to you, then whatever you had with him really isn't worth all this energy. There was obviously something missing in this relationship, otherwise you would be together right now, committed to one another. What is it about this man that was so great that other men available to you do not have? Are you sure you are not just seeing him through rose tinted spectacles? It sounds to me like you developed feelings and that you haven't gotten over the l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 04:09 PM
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I can't say I agree with this. Some men in particular need variety, and porn may occasionally provide them with the fantasy of another woman. If this is the dynamic between you and your husband, then great, but many married and partnered men do masturbate to porn occasionally and they still want and desire their significant other and have a healthy and fulfilling sex life with her.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 03:52 PM
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Unless porn is a personal turn on for the OP, I wouldn't recommend she takes part in it with him. Otherwise this will just lead to more insecurity or passive aggression from her. She needs to work with this within her own personal boundaries. If she can't do that then she needs to walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 03:45 PM
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Porn addiction is a pretty major issue, particularly to the point where he is avoiding intimacy with you. That's not 'minor' in any sense of the word. Your relationship is in serious trouble. The fact that you are glossing over this and saying that this is not an issue shows me that perhaps you are actually ignoring your own needs and gaslighting yourself. This is not healthy and leaves you open to abuse from people and prone to passive aggressive behaviour. You need to sit him down and ask him …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 03:33 PM
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Men will sleep with hideous women, they just don't brag about it, or draw attention to the fact that the woman isn't at all attractive. They'll either try and big the woman up, if they are in a public relationship with her, or not talk about their encounter. People like to think that they are better than they actually are. Fewer and fewer men are seeking marriage and a family. I don't think this is a problem that is unique to you. Even young, attractive women are finding it harder to pin down a …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 03:16 PM
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He sounds explosive, and like he has a lot of pent up anger and emotional pain. This obviously comes out on you when you when your relationship puts him in a situation that makes him feel negatively. He hasn't matured enough to be able to control his emotions in everyday situations and come face to face with his demons. It's up to you if you want to work through this with him, or walk away. He may become a better man in the future, he might not. You may always be having these explosive arguments…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:59 PM
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The fact that he lets you boss him around and quietly resents it, shows that he is a permissive guy. It sounds like you want him to be more domineering, so you are shit testing him to get him to react. Maybe he's just not the one for you. If he was capable of taking the lead he will have done already.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:44 PM
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You can't really gauge how someone is going to look as an adult at 4 years old. He could end up 300lbs with premature baldness for all you know.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:29 PM
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If he's hooking up with these women, then he must have something in common with them that makes him feel comfortable around them. He must get along with them to get into a relationship with them. Like generally attracts like. Maybe he's just a really low maintenance guy, who doesn't deliberately put any effort into his outer exterior or the way he appears to people and he's just naturally charismatic and good looking. Perhaps his day to day life and the way he behaves doesn't live up to the same…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:19 PM
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Sorry, I'm not into the whole stepford wife thing, where I constantly filter things for the sake of people's sentimental sensitivities. I know that some women here are, and they can shut up if they want to, but don't ask me to shut up. If you don't like me, there is a block button you can press.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:05 PM
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Just act naturally. Women are very different from men. We feel differently, we move differently, we interact differently. The way you naturally act will be different from that of a man. You don't need to try hard and there is no special secret to any of it. Before you were trying too hard not to be your natural self, now you are still doing it but in reverse. Faking a persona is just going to make you look silly and it's far too much unnecessary work. Focus on being your best self, not the best …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 01:08 AM
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I see your posts on here a lot when I'm lurking and you always have to be right and you always have to have the last word even if it means nit picking and blowing things way out of context. You come across as a little narcissistic. You can say whatever it is you want but I am not going to indulge your desire for drama after this message. My interaction with you is done. I don't deal with unhealthy people.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 12:29 AM
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The definition of 'abuse' has just become so watered down in first world countries in particular, I can barely take it seriously anymore. People are not perfect, everyone has their faults and most relationships have arguments from time to time. That doesn't mean however that it's not a good idea to work on our ourselves and that we should just give up. One thing to me is very clear about this, your boyfriend doesn't want to play games. He wants direct communication from you every time and he wan…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 03:56 AM
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Are you sure he's not a closet gay? Not being able to perform? Making passive aggressive jokes? The preoccupation with putting objects in your anus? I take it he's from a very religious background, as well. Being gay to him would likely be a huge deal and not something he can be open and honest about with his family. Most men would not be able to keep their hands off. Something is very wrong here OP and he sounds VERY gay if you ask me. ​
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 03:39 AM
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No one ends a relationship because they 'love someone and don't want to ruin their life'. Quite honestly, he sounds very young and immature and he doesn't sound genuine. He seems like he is full of sweet nothings and cares more about not looking like a bad guy than he does telling you the truth. Where do you ever stand with someone like that? You are also 26, are you sure you want to wait at least 5 years to see if there is any possibility of this flaky man coming around to serious commitment? Y…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 03:33 AM
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Explain to him that as a woman, the amount of time you have to fully optimize your best options is limited, and that you expect him to adhere to a certain timeline should things continue between you both. Both of you need to have a very frank and direct discussion where you are able to draw up a set plan of the future. If he is a rational man, he will understand this whether he takes it or leaves it. He has the opportunity to walk away if he doesn't feel 'ready' and doesn't know what he wants an…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 03:22 AM
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I don't get this whole 'happy, bubbly feminine energy' thing that a few of the women are talking about here. Me personally, I am cognitively an introvert and a thinker, I am never going to be like that no matter how hard I try and to imitate an extroverted feeler all the time would be so exhausting I would not want to be in a relationship where a man couldn't accept who I was. you are not being a complete bitch, then what is the problem? What does he expect you to do? Come home from work with a …
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 03:08 AM
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He pays for everything yet he never buys you any impractical gifts? Well shoot him. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 02:53 AM
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Pregnancy is by far the most likely outcome, unless she has a very rare form of cancer (gestational trophoblastic disease) or is going to a fertility clinic to receive HCG trigger shots. Those things are so unlikely at this point that they don't even need any current consideration.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 02:50 AM
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It's virtually impossible to get a false positive. Pregnancy tests detect HCG (human chorionic gonadotropin) which is only in the body during pregnancy, when women have certain rare types of cancers or when a woman has a trigger shot for egg retrieval during fertility treatment. You can get an evaporation line, but it's generally easy to tell the difference between this and a positive result and they don't usually appear within the allotted time frame. You can however get fake pregnancy tests, t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 01:32 AM
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If she has taken a test then is pregnant. There is no might about it. Women do not get false positives. I would walk if I were you. I could understand it working if he had living, walking children from previous relationships that were long ended, but he has only just gotten his ex pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 01:05 AM
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What does she mean by 'might' be pregnant? Has she even taken a test? If the answer is no, then she's likely lying and creating drama. A test is easy to take, it takes a few minutes to do, and you can buy them for next to nothing. If the answer is yes, and she has a positive test, then there is no 'might' about it. Do you really want to deal with this guy's pregnant baby momma? It sounds like a lot to deal with, and if this is the case I would probably let them work it out and look elsewhere. I …
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 01:02 AM
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A man who is truly secure in himself won't micromanage a woman to try and prevent her from cheating because he understands his own worth and that it goes beyond whether or not his relationship fails. He knows that he can only control ultimately what he does, not what others do. If you really wanted to cheat, him being possessive would not cause you to remain faithful. If you did cheat, then you are not who he thought you were, and that's not his problem. To me this is a red flag, it shows he is …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/18 02:43 AM
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He could change his mind one day, but that's a big if. Are you willing to wait around and grow more attached and become more invested in the relationship in the meantime, knowing that you both currently have very different goals? I think the fact that he 'wants to live his own life' says everything you need to know. He simply does not want the responsibility of a child and he enjoys his life without children. The other reasons he gave are likely to be excuses and you will not change his mind by …
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 02:17 AM
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I don't think either sex has trouble finding relationships primarily because of age. Older people get together all the time. The main advantage that men have over women is that they have much longer to start a family.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 02:09 AM
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The fact that he was willing to discuss it with you and overcome it shows some insight and maturity. He may have just been stressed with his long hours and was perhaps taking it out on you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 01:47 AM
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Are you genuinely interested in the idea? Or are you toying with it primarily to please and garner validation from him? That's the big question that you really need to be asking yourself. If you are doing this primarily to please your boyfriend and the idea in and of itself doesn't interest you without him in the picture, then drop the thought immediately. The majority of women do not want to have threesomes. They are almost exclusively a male fantasy. I am sure there are some women who find it …
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 01:41 AM
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Why exactly does he need you to be there at the very exact moment that he gets home from work? How specifically does it ruin his evening when you arrive home slightly later than he does? I am sure that if you were to ask him this, he would not be able to come up with a sensible answer. This man sounds very emotionally immature and he's creating drama.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 01:28 AM
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In modern day western culture people have it all backwards. People should discuss their own personal life goals and aspirations on the first date. The first date should be like a job interview. Instead people develop personal feelings for one another and become invested in the relationship before they even have a concrete idea of what the other person wants to do with their life and where things are going. It makes no rational sense and it just causes unnecessary heart ache and it's such a big w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 01:02 AM
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You don't have to give up coffee you can have up to 200mg of caffeine a day and that's in coffee, tea, cocoa or energy drinks.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 07:08 PM
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If one can consume something as potent as engine oil and they have enough energy to go to a party and have fun during pregnancy then I'm envious. Maybe these women should use their easy pregnancy to an advantage and keep fit and healthy. During pregnancy I become extremely sluggish and I can only manage basic carbs. I couldn't touch a vegetable the whole time because suddenly anything remotely good for me tasted extremely bitter and made me violently sick. I also had horrible gerd and neasuea​ a…
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 06:51 PM
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Could he be gay or asexual? Usually straight men who are not into you won't go out of their way to date you and will not lead you on. I dated 2 men when I was in my mid and late teens who were not sexually keen, and this turned out to be the case for both of them. One was gay and is now with another man and the other came out to me as asexual and is still a virgin in his early 30s. Both were very embarrassed and ashamed and I was both a cover up so that other people didn't suspect anything and I…
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 07:59 PM
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When you don't have shared goals and the relationship doesn't seem to be heading anywhere serious any time soon. When there is no physical attraction.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 07:34 PM
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We don't really have anything in common like that to be honest and I don't think that kind of thing is necessarily needed. We laugh and joke together if that counts. However, we are together more because of shared values and goals more than anything. I consider the hobbies my husband has boring if I am honest and I don't think I'm smart enough to get them. He likes computers and machines and he's a bit of a handy man. He also likes economics and buying and trading metals and I don't understand a…
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 07:28 PM
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Date men outside of college who are already established in themselves and declare themselves commitment ready. If they are more conservative minded they will likely not mind that you are still in college. The internet is good for meeting such dates.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:17 AM
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Yes I resorted to the FWB thing a few times but it made me feel tense. I remember one man who started doing romantic things for me as well and I fell pretty hard for him. Then he suddenly cut contact. It put me on an emotional rollercoaster when men would not put up the boundaries necessary that made it clear that they didn't want more.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:10 AM
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Yeah same here. Seeing hot men in the street would make me feel interested so to speak, and I would get excited thinking about them and I would have elaborate fantasies. Sometimes all day.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:03 AM
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I generally have felt that way when I have been in a relationship, but when I have been single there are so many attractive men everywhere that it can feel hard not to have those thoughts and feelings. Funny though when I am in love with one man and he has proven his commitment for me no other man matters any more.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:01 AM
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I would play along with the small talk. If the conversation ends with him not instigating anything then it's probably for the best.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:57 AM
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I'm not completely discounting the fact that you may have had parents who had issues because I don't know your back story, but I would be skeptical of anything a therapist tells you especially if it's something that wasn't completely obvious to you before. These people are paid on others misery. They often will try to turn you against your family members and they will try and make you feel upset about your childhood and they will make you imagine problems that are not really there or are trivial…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:52 AM
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Give him your number and tell him to call you. Say you feel shy. He will probably get the idea that he will have to be the pursuer.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:35 AM
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Yes there is some speculation that that is the case. Testosterone is the hormone primarily involved in female sex drive. Ovulation causes the ovaries to produce it. Without ovulation women have very low testosterone levels. This is why the pill also helps with acne in many women.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:30 AM
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I don't think you should be too hard on yourself. He lead you to believe he wanted a serious relationship and he got cold feet. It happens these days to women all the time. Men today get sex without the responsibility of having a wife. That's the reality of modern relationship dynamics and they do not benefit women. A small number of women will not be able to change this, women as a collective need to start seeing their inherent value and make men work hard for the privilege of having sex with t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:27 AM
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I would reply to him and see where it goes. If he's really keen to meet he will instigate it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:19 AM
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I see women acting neurotic all the time over seemingly small things. I think it's a female trait to be nitpicky at times but I believe that it's all about gratitude. Unless my life is in complete chaos and something exceptionally terrible has happened I take time to remind myself that I have it much better than others. A close friend of mine I knew from where i used to live is a good example of this. She is only in her 20s and her husband is an elderly man. Some cruel cps workers have plotted a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 11:49 PM
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First of all don't beat yourself up about having a miscarriage. I can't stress enough how normal miscarriages are from time to time. Although it's upsetting when it happens it's a very real possibility every time you get pregnant, especially with the reality of early pregnancy testing. 50 years ago you wouldn't have known about it, you would have just thought your period was late. As disappointing as they are, having an early miscarriage is a normal and even healthy part of womanhood. Usually wh…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 11:34 PM
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I think this is where women are highly disadvantaged in western society. Men get the wife experience without even having the responsibility of having a wife. Women end up with a high n count because as a collective women are not making men work hard for the privelige of being able to have sexual access to us. Feminism has taken away our leverage. the divorce courts are also biased against men and women don't 'need' men any more financially so this makes men shy away from commitment. Women are th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 11:00 PM
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I would personally like to say no but in western culture it might be unrealistic not to expect some cohabitation before marriage. This gives men the wife experience without the responsibility of having a wife. The sexual revolution has greatly benefitted men but not women, and I would like to see women collectively take back their sexual power but how would we even go about this? Most women think that feminism is their interests.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:45 PM
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This is a tricky one. The red pill suggests that women should try and keep their n count down but with the dating scene in western countries today it can be unrealistic. Women as a collective group need to stay chaste for this concept to work, otherwise men who are still pretty high quality and commitment minded might move on if you don't give sex up soon enough. It's a pretty horrible dilemma if you ask me. I would like for men to have to work and prove themselves stable and committed before se…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:40 PM
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Yeah but I never went into detail about my 'intimate 'parts'. Lol. Aren't you supposed to be 'free of hang ups' about girl parts anyway?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:25 PM
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Trust me, rats can jump really high and climb just about any surface. When I was around 20 I rented a room from an old couple that had a bird table in their garden. I used to see rats jump from the floor to the table to the shed roof. It was pretty incredible to say in the least.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:21 PM
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If someone was taking them then I assume they would be under the care of a doctor who would monitor those things? Sometimes having a high libido can be distressing enough to cause a lot of anxiety. I know it was with me. I didn't want to have one night stands and put myself in that position or be bothered by my impulses when it was not beneficial for my life at the time. Since when have a I gone into detail about my 'intimate parts'? You sure do love jumping the gun when you disagree with someon…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:17 PM
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Well that's for the OP to discuss with her doctor who may very well repeat what you claim to be the case. I don't know about that sort of thing. I do know that the pill helped me though, as I was getting urges to be promiscuous and have one night stands, then after I took it they stopped. I never had to resort to anything more drastic than that. Your answer is very rude suggesting I need intervention and a little big brother if I am honest. Now people need the state to nanny them when they have …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:11 PM
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I said I didn't like it. I didn't say it was universally wrong. If another woman does like it then more power to her. It's obviously not very satisfying for the OP either if it doesn't compare to sex. For me sex about intimacy with another human being, i don't really get the idea of doing it by myself. What first comment are you even talking about and what does that have to do with anything I have said?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 10:07 PM
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Before I had kids I had a pretty high sex drive. I struggled with this issue too, and some women genuinely don't like masturbation and don't get a lot from it. That's not up to you to push it on them if they are not into it or to tell them that they have to like touching themselves when they don't. There is a very wide variation of what is normal. Anti depressants are just an idea, a drastic one at that, but it might be better for her than sleeping with guys outside of a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 09:16 PM
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He could be looking abroad because he doesn't like typical western values, that in itself is not a red flag. However after a certain point I would expect exclusivity from him if he was into me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 08:00 PM
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Did you say you had a bird table or box? You might want to remove it. It's going to attract all sorts of pests and vermin. I know people who have had rat and mouse problems since installing those and they are much worse than birds. Since you are not willing to use pest control measures I don't think there is much else you can do. I personally can't deal with the thought of wild animals and creepy crawlies in my house. You are probably talking to the wrong person because if it were me I would be …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 07:57 PM
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Does lighting candles and listening to music actually turn some women on? I always thought that was just a cliche joke. I didn't think there were actually women who found that stuff hot.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 07:48 PM
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Hormonal contraception helped me with this issue. I don't like or personally feel good about masturbation at all so that was a no go area and I was fine even then. No sex drive at all. If you really want to go that far antidepressants also kill sex drive and doctors give them out like candy, but be warned they can come with other nasty side effects.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 07:45 PM
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5 years is only a marginal age difference. As you get older even a 10 year age difference seems less and less. It won't seem that big a deal when you are 40 and he is 45-50. I don't think it's that big a deal even now. It's not like you are dating middle aged and men and senior citizens, they are still young men.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 04:55 PM
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If she is 21 and remotely attractive then she can set her standards pretty high in most places. Women can generally date up 1 or 2 points in smv so even if she's a 5 she can probably land a man who is a 6 or even a 7 in some circumstances.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 04:30 PM
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Maybe watch some documentaries on YouTube about people who are far less fortunate than you are. It will make you see that you are just looking for things to be unhappy about and that you are incredibly lucky compared to some people in the world.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 04:05 PM
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You could try sticking nets over the open windows. This is a pest control problem and they could be transferring germs to your kitchen surfaces. I would make sure you disinfect if you haven't already.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 03:57 PM
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Age alone is not a factor in ectopic pregnancy. Tubal damage or blockage is, have you ever had a pelvic infection or pelvic surgery? I had what they thought was an ectopic early last year but it resolved itself like half of them do. I got pregnant a few months later and I am now carrying a normal pregnancy. Talking of miscarriage, people see it as this great big loss but 50 years ago women wouldn't have even known about it most of the time. Miscarriages are very common and normal and with early …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 03:45 PM
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No sorry never heard of her.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 07:33 PM
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Men who don't know what it is that they want. Men who won't take no for an answer when it comes to things like engaging in sex acts I don't want to do. Men who always need alchohol to socialize or enjoy themselves and can't enjoy innocent and simple activities. Getting disproportionately angry over small, trivial things.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 12:51 PM
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I think at best you should keep your options open. It could be that he's making you think there is a chance because he wants non commital sex. I would be wary. If you are a 7 like you claim to be then you shouldn't have problems meeting someone else unless you live in somewhere like LA.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 12:46 PM
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Same with mine. There is not a day that goes by where he doesn't make me laugh and he does it so effortlessly.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 06:33 PM
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I am not really a sentimental person. When I want to be affectionate towards someone I often tend to make fun of them. This hasn't gone down too well with ex boyfriends in the past but my husband suits me so well because he does exactly the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 06:25 PM
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My husband calls me fatty, stumpy and boobs and I playfully call him rapist and kidnapper and we joke that I'm being held against will. I figure we probably don't have a typical marriage because we always call each other mean pet names.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 09:47 AM
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I don't think red pill advice applies to homosexuals and lesbians. They have a completely different dynamic in their relationships and they are not biologically wired like the rest of us.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 11:36 PM
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What was your point?
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 11:35 PM
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This is going to offend some people but i only care that my husband keeps loving and caring for me and our children and financially supports us. I don't care about what he does or where else he's been. I don't think it's constructive for me to panic and fret about something so out of my control. All I can do is worry about my own behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 11:33 PM
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What's interesting to you may not be interesting to every other person.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 11:24 PM
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It sounds to me like these men are only looking for plates. Trust me, you are really not alone in this and judging by this post I don't think it's anything you are doing. If you are serious about finding someone, I would target men who are outright looking to settle down and make that intention very clear. Men who want to settle down know that they do and they don't generally just 'take things as they come'. Please be aware that some men do lie about their intentions. In my single days I had men…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 11:18 PM
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He jokes about it himself all the time. He also makes fun of everyone else and he's a very embarrassing dad. Trust me, almost nothing offends my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 10:57 PM
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Personally it sounds to me like there are things he isn't telling you. If he's distancing himself from you and getting this salty over minor things like you calling him 'grumpy' then that's him possibly trying to justify whatever he may not be telling you. However it doesn't sound like you are going to get any open communication from him. He sounds like he has closed himself off from you and trying to push him is just going to cause further arguments. I think this situation is out of your contro…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 10:53 PM
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I do think it's important for men to have their own masculine hobbies. Some men are just not very physical and that's ok. My husband's hobby is building and managing computers and he also likes cars and just machines in general. Hes physically kind of puny and I could never imagine him in a million years enjoying hunting or sports. There are men of the mind and men who are more rugged and physical and both have achieve things in terms of creating and maintaining our civilisation.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 09:40 PM
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I think it's very important just to let boys be boys. Don't push them into any activities and such that they don't want to do but don't suppress them either. I have spoken to other moms who won't even let their sons play with toy guns or toy swords or play games like cops and robbers or cowboys and Indians. If you mollycoddle your sons it won't turn out well for them in the long run and they will possibly end up being bullied and singled out by other men. boys are going to be men much longer tha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 09:25 PM
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It sounds like he's just not a talkative person. I think it's really that simple. My husband doesn't always want to talk, either. In fact he often just tells me outright to be quiet if I talk too much about anything he views as pointless. I don't think it's anything personal if you ask me. It's just a part of his personality. Maybe he's not the person in your life that you have these long conversations with.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 01:12 PM
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I really don't expect a lot from men. He has to have a job of some sort and be willing to provide for his family somehow, and whatever he earns we will live within our means. He must also be law abiding and sensible and not have any harmful addictions, that's a very important one for me. I suppose I could accept a smoker if he did it outside the house and didn't do it around our children. Anything else really is a bonus to me since I know I'm nothing special myself. I am very physically attracte…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 09:17 PM
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I don't think red pill is a set philosophy or way of life. To me it's just about seeing things objectively and respecting structures that make logical and organisational sense. Patriarchy is one of those structures and that's not very liberal or feminist. I do however think you can still apply facets from so called 'red pill philosophy' to your life but I haven't found liberals or socialists very objective. Their arguments tend to be emotionally based and they often have to do a lot of mental gy…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:58 PM
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I keep the house clean and organize food, although my husband does personally like to eat a lot of convenience type stuff. I look after and of course give birth to the children ensuring my husband gets to continue his genetic lineage and so do I. I am always sexually available. It helps that I have a man who doesn't want a freak in the bedroom, though. If I don't feel like it I'm never expected to put on a show of gymnastics and neither of us has any strange kinks. I am supportive of my husband.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:24 PM
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I see where you are coming from, I had the same thoughts myself, however, I do believe we need red pill mentors in the public eye for women, and Lauren is only 21. She does have time to put her money where her mouth is and I don't think anyone is entitled to know about her personal life in the meantime.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:13 PM
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All men these days in the west are able to obtain easy sex off of women who are on a similar or lower smv level to themselves​. However that's not how a civilized society should work. Humans today have gone back to mating like bonobos. A civilized society needs to work based on benevolent patriarchy, where everything is a lot more structured and works based on logical organization. Men are valued on things today that are detrimental. The hipster druggie musician who couch surfs gets all the sex …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:07 PM
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And yes, I agree the risk to men in a divorce is actually detrimental for men and also women in the long run, who are finding it harder to obtain commitment all together because men are understandably anxious. This is why I think patriarchy is the best social structure. It favors everyone because no man or woman has to go without a spouse and everyone gets to carry on their genetic lineage and have children to support them in old age. I am actually in favor of completely repealing women's suffra…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:05 PM
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That's what women have historically done throughout history. You actually only have the right to do anything other than be a wife and mother today because men systematically enable you to do that even if it's of detriment to society. Studies show that women as a collective barely pay any taxes, because of the amount of public spending that women use up overall and the amount of government support women need in order to be 'equal' to men.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 05:38 PM
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Not every man is owed a beautiful or even an attractive wife just by virtue of being sensible and law abiding. That's the bare minimum any man should be to receive any recognition from women at all. It actually angers me when I see women who sleep with bad boys or thugs, because these men deserve to be completely incel until they get their act together and at least lay off the sociopathic behavior and find a job flipping burgers or driving a taxi. Men don't have to be middle or upper class to be…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 05:27 PM
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It's about facing up to any objective reality, even if it doesn't feel good and even when it offends people. That's simply the only way I can describe it. I would say that swallowing the red pill actually goes way beyond romantic relationships. That's just one facet of reality that many of us have been taught untruths about although it's what this subreddit tends to focus the most on.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:14 AM
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I think acting socially appropriate is key. If you are forced to interact in the real world with people who have opposing views then try not to get in too deep with them when it comes to discussing topics that you disagree on. Keep things friendly and formal. As for the people you personally choose to spend time with, you are entitled to be choosy. You don't owe people your time and entertainment just for the sake of pleasing them.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:05 AM
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Because men are the ones who should have to prove their reliability and stability along with providing their commitment before a woman gives them access to sex. Women make a much bigger biological investment than do men. Ideally this is how it should work and under a patriarchal social structure. This actually benefits women because men are rewarded for honorable behavior and them and their children stand the best chance under this structure.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:00 AM
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I think being a push over is when you let someone over step your boundaries and so the tension builds and you begin to resent your partner or spouse. I think there are certain boundaries that all women should have if they respect themselves. Don't let a man be financially independent on you. This kind of reversing of gender roles isn't healthy for the majority of couples. Don't date men who are physically violent Don't date men who take drugs or drink excessively or men who are delinquents Don't…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:15 AM
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I think you need to tell him that it bothers you, and ask him if he's fully moved on. If he hasn't fully moved on I would consider your options.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 12:51 AM
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Have you tried being assertive and direct with them? "I'm sorry, but since you have already stated that you don't share the same same goals that I do, I would like for you to completely move on from me. You will not get any sex out of me and I do not consider friendships with the opposite sex to be healthy, so please don't try. I am completely ceasing contact now and I am not going to change my mind. If you continue to try and correspond with me after you have received this message, then I will …
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 12:35 AM
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I think that explains it if alchohol was involved. Personally I have always chosen to avoid men and friends who ever get drunk for this reason and many others. Alchohol makes people act without inhibitions and gives people no filter. I have always stayed away from social groups that like to drink for my own safety and for the sake of my relationships. It's not an easy thing to do however these days, and I think it takes an introverted person to abstain from drinking.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 11:40 PM
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It's a red flag to me that he felt the need to tell you openly that you are not his type. If it's not an issue for him, then why would it even need to be said? The text message he sent you really rings alarm bells for me. It perhaps sounds to me like he could be looking for reasons not to stay monogamous, or maybe he isn't the high quality man you perhaps think he is, especially if he supposedly cannot find everything he wants in one package. I'm sorry but if you are a HB7 or 8 and you are in th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 11:36 PM
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I think this is a problem on both sides. How is it in any way appropriate for him to express his attraction towards a mutual friend of yours? I think this would make a lot of women uncomfortable, perpetually jealous or not. I think you and your boyfriend do each other few favors. He completely lacks tact and you are jealous and insecure. This isn't going to go down well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 11:20 PM
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Laci green hasn't​ taken the red pill. I watched some of her video and she is still very disrespectful of her mormon upbringing and of her parents and of traditional women's roles in general. She still labels herself a feminist. She might not subscribe to the brand of authoritarian intersectional feminism any more but there is no way that this woman is fully red pilled, and I feel very bad for her parents, who by the sounds of things did their best to raise her and she has spoken badly of her ow…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 11:14 PM
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If you want my opinion, no it isn't, as the true definition on feminism on paper is equality with men, and the red pill acknowledges that subconsciously women don't want equality. Most women were actually opposed to women's suffrage when feminism first took off. I know a lot of the ladies here are probably going to disagree with me, as they are very modern women with 21st century lifestyles, but chances are that each of them would be happy if they didn't have equality with men and lived in a ben…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 11:07 PM
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You don't have to be thankful for the attention and quite honestly you owe these men absolutely nothing. In fact being 'nice' in my experience has encouraged their behavior further. I am all for behaving sweetly towards a man I am with and has earned my love and respect, but for some random cat caller or lech in the street, why should any woman have to be anything less than assertive? I don't know about you but whenever I have been in this situation I have always worried about my personal safety…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 10:29 PM
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Yes and this is why we need to spread the message and convince more people.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 10:19 PM
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But when every guy you meet wants to sleep with you on the 3rd date at least, it becomes a little hard for most women. Women as a collective set the standard of what men will and won't put up with. The fact that a majority of girls won't make men bend over backwards any more has set a lax standard and if you live in a community where this is the norm it takes a woman who is exceptional to make a man work hard for it. If you are an average woman and not a beautiful one you may also be waiting a l…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:58 PM
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Wow. That's shocking. Islam really is taking over in some western and European countries. What shocks me more is that the indigenous people continue to put up with it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:52 PM
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I think that most women feel this way on some level deep down. People get offended by it because they are defensive about their own subconscious. Women want a man who can provide for them, and men want a woman who will be provided for. People will tell you different but believe me what people say and do are very different. How many men want to buy women gifts and foot the bill on a date and get defensive if you offer to pay half? I think people want to appear to be part of the mainstream narrati…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:28 PM
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Like anything else I think because it's the mainstream narrative a lot of women just follow it. If you are young and single, it takes a special kind of will power these days not to follow hook up culture since men expect it because most girls are doing it. It makes you feel like if you don't give it away he's going to go and get it somewhere else. This is why women as a whole need to make men work for it. It's no good just having a few women try and stay chaste.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:23 PM
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I can't disagree with that. Canada, the UK and Sweden seem to be the worst places at the moment when it comes to being anything other than liberal.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:16 PM
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If a man likes anal sex, then he's a pervert and a sodomite and i don't want him in my life anyway. Any man who wants anal sex has been corrupted by leftist culture and hes likely to be a poor quality husband. The poor OP is probably going to end up in diapers with anal damage if she carries on letting her husband abuse her body like that. It's actually a risk of regular anal sex, i probably should have mentioned that too. Not to mention that vaginal sex alone is actually not as likely to transm…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 01:53 AM
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I don't think men can generally be trusted with certain tasks. That's like me trusting my toaster to access the internet. Men were never created to be good at caregiving. It's just times like this I feel resentment towards the unhelpful women in my life, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:12 PM
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I don't think men can generally be trusted with certain tasks. That's like me trusting my toaster to access the internet. Men were never created to be good at caregiving. It's just times like this I feel resentment towards the unhelpful women in my life, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:12 PM
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The anus is not a sex organ. It's the bodies garbage disposal and it's dirty. Its also not designed for penetration and it gets automatically injured when used for sexual gratification. Liking a woman's curves is not akin to sticking a very vulnerable part of one's body into something infested with ecoli. It's no conincidence that 92% of HIV infected people are homosexuals who practice sodomy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:09 PM
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I'm not talking about anyone making urgent decisions. You seem to be relating my situation to your own.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:04 PM
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How is providing for a family not important for a man? I don't believe men can generally be trusted with caregiving and chores like women can.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:03 PM
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The complications I have a little different to not progressing. I'm hypermobile so I probably shouldn't do anything to speed up labor if it does happen. With my first I gave birth in an hour from start to finish and with one push. It wasn't fun I tell you because my baby didn't clean out his airways and he needed to be in hospital for a few days. There is a chance I might be able to have a vbac this time so fingers crossed, but because of my history I will need to be rushed into hospital at the …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 07:26 PM
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I don't really have any childless friends. I do have friends but none local and they all have kids and they probably are not close enough to want to help me out. I think our support network is very limited. My family are pretty much estranged from me. It's more the hospital stay I am worried about than anything. I won't be home to make sure things don't descend into ww3. When I am home I will still be able to tend to basic tasks. Tell me more about the evening primrose oil? What does that do exa…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 06:57 PM
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I think the idea of surrendering is all good and well when things are fairly trivial. I can do that. However I find it tough to do that when I am in hospital and my children are not being fed regular meals and not being put to bed and my house is turning to ww3 and i can't be present in any form to make sure things are not so chaotic until I get home. It's not something many people I know personally have had to deal with. I just feel kind of bothered by the fact that whenever I have no choice bu…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 06:49 PM
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I suppose I likely won't be in hospital for long. I was home very fast last time and I was back on my feet very quickly. That could be a possibility just for 1 or 2 nights and it probably won't cost all that much. I'll approach my husband about it again closer to the time and see what he says.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 06:35 PM
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Thanks. I think this was the best post so far. I think people respond well to flattery and i don't know why I didn't think of this before.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 06:27 PM
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Trust me I have well and truly tried that approach. He says he doesn't see an issue with what happened last time. I don't think it matters to him. It's not afterwards I am worried about. More the time I am away from home and in hospital. Last time my recovery was really fast and the painkillers helped a huge deal in making me feel normal again quite quickly. I actually went home after discharging myself early and i cleaned up, although it wasn't fun to say in the least. I guess my MIL does wash …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 06:26 PM
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I don't think hiring someone is going to be affordable right now. Luckily after my last c section I was in action quite quickly, however it's the hospital stay I am most worried about and leaving my boys and the house overnight. Last time I discharged myself early and actually made a good recovery at home. They wanted me to stay 5 nights but I discharged myself after 2 and was walking around the next day.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 06:09 PM
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My child gets very sore when he has a soiled diaper. Maybe your child doesn't. Not all children are the same. I don't nag my husband about being messy or not being very good at caregiving. Usually it's not a problem because I am the one doing it. It's all well and good for you to say as you have probably never had to be in this situation, and to be honest, you seem generally bitchy and passive aggressive from the tone of your posts. You seem like one of those women who pretends to be nice but th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:45 PM
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My mother is a heavy drinker and I gave up trying to get her to engage long ago. I do have other friends but they have all have children of their own and live far away. We are quite isolated, really. I think maybe I should talk to my MIL. I don't know if it will get anywhere though as she gets really defensive. Her husband worked all day and she was a housewife and she always complains to me about how he didn't help her around the house when they had kids when she saw other people's husbands doi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:32 PM
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I think a lot of these modern psychiatrists and psychologists and social workers and mental health people and whatever encourage people to dwell on their childhoods and to blame their parents for everything. Personally I think this is all part of the elite's plot to attack the family and further isolate us from one another. I don't think it's a mistake. I'm sure your mother was just thinking of you and trying to do her best, even if it doesn't seem that way at the time. I actually think it's rat…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 03:22 PM
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I don't know about that but he certainly is eccentric and does lack basic social skills. He has an IQ higher than 99.7% of the population. He actually never had a girlfriend prior to meeting me, I was his first one, and he was almost 30. I suppose it could also have something to do with him being Vietnamese as well in a primarily white blue collar community. Asian men have a really hard time where he grew up. His standards are not high at all, he's attracted to women of all body types ect and im…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 01:08 AM
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His mother has done stupid things, but even when she doesn't, he tends to start firing his mouth off over nothing. He is like it with everybody and when he does it with me I find that not getting upset and sometimes humouring him gets him to stop and lightens his mood. It's just how he is and I have accepted it as just a part of his personality. I only apologize for him when it reflects badly on me and people give me a difficult time over it. I have only sided against him when he has obviously d…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 12:31 AM
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He calls his mom stupid constantly, and calls anyone who disagrees with him on anything stupid and insults their intelligence. He is a very intelligent man with a way above average IQ and sometimes I think it just goes to his head.
/r/RedPillWives11/05/17 11:37 PM
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I am a self confessed yoyo dieter. My BMI has been as low as 23 and as high as 35 in my adult life. Really it's all about calorie control and pregnancy for me. Although generally my BMI hasn't been under 26. I got it lower than that only for very short periods on very calorie restricted diets that I couldn't keep to. My BMI tends to be around 26.5 normally, but when I have a baby it goes up to over 30 and I'm that way for several months afterwards. Usually yoyo dieters either haven't gotten a ho…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 08:28 PM
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I'm off the market and not talking about my experience right now personally. Just what I have witnessed throughout my life. These men wonder why they don't have a lot of luck with women, it's because of their actions.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 04:57 PM
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I appreciate honesty whilst it's constructive, but some things are better left unsaid. Sometimes the truth is just hurtful and when a situation is out of someone's control I think it's kinder not to point it out. I don't think my husband always gets this, and this is one of his personal flaws. I have managed to accept this and forgive him but it hasn't been so easy for other people. He has made his mother and sister very bitter with him because of this, despite the fact that he is a very good so…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 04:52 PM
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Because these women lack modesty. You can be a beautiful woman physically but if you have no modesty then you will seem trashy. They constantly take selfies of themselves posing in suggestive ways and they go online all day looking for validation. Conducting yourself with a modest confidence goes a long way.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 04:37 PM
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Then I don't know what your friends are so concerned about. A man with a stable family business is a good thing for you and any possible future children.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 04:34 PM
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I think she can see her own mistakes and misdemeanors and she's trying to re-live her life through you. It's very common for parents to do this with their kids, and I don't think it makes them necessarily bad people, however it's not a constructive way to do things and often causes more upset than anything else particularly if it's done so forcefully. I think parents when they have kids subconsciously see their legacy and don't want them to make the same mistakes. Your mother is probably feeling…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 10:48 AM
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I think the 'still not happy' is a typical woman thing. Women are perfectionists and we constantly worry about how we appear to other people. We look for things to worry about. However I think rpw is about looking at things more practically and being grateful for what one does have. I think deep down every girl has a princess complex. I think maybe your friends haven't learnt how to think with a bit more grace.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 10:37 AM
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I don't personally think a woman can be a 'drifter' in the same way a man can. I think men are naturally the providers and it looks worse to a lot of people when they don't have themselves established, especially if they are pursuing serious romantic relationships. I can see things from your friends point of view, and maybe I am just old fashioned, however, I still don't think it's any of their business, and I think they are being rude rather than supportive to keep sticking their noses in. I th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 10:28 AM
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I personally hated it and I felt relieved when I was off the market. It just made me feel completely vulnerable and exposed. I don't think it's​ something I would be interested in again at my age if God forbid I was ever in a situation where I was without my husband. It was horrible enough in my 20s. I would dread to think what it would be like in my 30s with kids and I would have way less motivation. I met so many jokers and time wasters when I was searching for a man it was unreal. Most of the…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 10:23 AM
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I think women chase this thing called happiness more than men do. Men are usually OK with just being content. I find myself feeling the need sometimes to nitpick and whine about what is wrong with my life, although I have it OK compared to some. Sometimes I find myself feeling salty just because things are not perfect. I think it's a female thing. For the most part I tend to keep these things to myself most of the time because there isn't much I can do to change them and discussing them all the …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 08:32 PM
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Maybe your friends are just concerned for you because your boyfriend comes across as a bit of a drifter type. However whether they are or not is still not a good reason for them to keep sticking their noses in. They still need to learn how to STFU and leave you to make your own choices. It's not their life it's yours. I have a friend who I don't see often any more because we are very long distance now but I can't stand her boyfriend. I think he's a worthless bum. But I don't say anything. It's n…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 08:23 PM
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I get horrible gerd in pregnancy and I get hyperemesis in my first trimester that needs to be medically controlled with reglan. I always gain too much weight despite this. It's like I become a fat storing machine.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 08:12 PM
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Let me get this straight. He wants anal all the time and has a female best friend. Are you sure he's not gay? Those things are both kind of gay. You need to get him to talk. He's obviously hiding something. It's better to know the truth sooner rather than later. I personally don't think that anal even in moderation is healthy, all the men I have met that are interested in it have issues of some kind whether they be emotional or with their masculinity. Maybe I am just old fashioned, but why would…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 07:56 PM
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This all sounds a little gay to me. He wants to do you up the poop shoot regularly and he now has a female best friend.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 07:55 PM
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First of all you have to find a style that works for you. How important to you is practicality and physical comfort? Some women like clothes that purely look good and manage to work their lives around it, others would feel a constant itch and like they couldn't live their lives if they had to wear heels and a pencil skirt every day. I am around the same height and a similar weight to you and I am an apple shape. I tend to wear mostly leggings or yoga pants and jersey type dresses or sweaters. I …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 07:32 PM
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I think a very high number of women enter relationships far too idealisticly. Most women are not going to be their husband's ultimate fantasy woman unless they are incredibly attractive, and even then they are going to age. I think women often desire and admire the one man they are with so much that they expect the same in return. Men are simply not built that way. Most are happy just being content with a woman who meets whatever standard they have and doesn't give them a hard time. Why did your…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 07:03 PM
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I don't really put a lot of focus on socializing myself and i do have friends but only very few. There are just not many people I end up clicking with, but when I do I tend to stick with a person. I do however find pushy liberals very difficult to be around. They simply cannot keep their mouth shut or mind their own business. I have met a few people who are that way and I don't think I could have someone like that as a friend.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 06:46 PM
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5'5 and 160 isn't terrible. It's only just on the cusp of overweight. As we get older our basal metabolic rate also slows down, it does gradually every single year, so it might not be easy to get as small as you were pre kids without some intense discipline. I think the best thing you can do is strength training to bring your BMR back up. I can't do it too intensly because I have a medical condition which effects the mobility of my joints and my ability to build or use my muscles and it causes m…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/17 05:51 PM
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Science has proven that progesterone increases apitite because it causes excessive stomach acid. Not only that but the small intestine becomes more efficient at absorbing calories and nutrition during pregnancy and women find that they need to eat more regularly to keep their blood sugar up. The same effects often take place in women who are on the depo shot. That's why you see so many women who have it balloon.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/17 05:46 PM
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Science has proven that progesterone increases apitite because it causes excessive stomach acid. Not only that but the small intestine becomes more efficient at absorbing calories and nutrition during pregnancy and women find that they need to eat more regularly to keep their blood sugar up. The same effects often take place in women who are on the depo shot. That's why you see so many women who have it balloon.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/17 05:46 PM
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Often relationships are exclusive and serious these days a long time before engagement or marriage. Some couples never marry at all and go on to have children and live a life together and have each other's full commitment. I think this advice could have been relevant 70 years ago but now it's not. Relationships have changed a great deal with modern times. Marriage and engagement simply don't hold the same weight that they used to in every circumstance. I think this is a one way ticket into causi…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/17 05:31 PM
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You are not very clear about how your anxiety effects things. I suffer from generalised anxiety and for me it's about managing it rather than ignoring it or pretending that it's ever going to go away. You need to find tequniques or ways around things that makes your daily life more manageable but don't make you appear to be an easy target. For example, I don't like talking to people in public. I make sure I prepare myself for whatever it is I need to do so I generally don't have to. I also don't…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/17 05:02 PM
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Baby wipes. I use them to clean everything from the bathroom sink to the light switches and the doors and skirting boards. Probably not very economical but we buy the cheap off brand ones in large boxes so they don't really cost all that much. I don't like the idea of a damp cloth collecting germs although I will use one if we don't have many left and haven't gone shopping that day.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/17 04:14 PM
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He doesn't want you to pay for him because that is a masculine obligation he has towards you. Many men feel undermined when a woman wants to foot the bill for them. He's showing that he can provide for you. Just be supportive, respectful and fun to be around. That's all you need to do.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 03:40 PM
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I do like to see a woman using the red pill sphere to mentor and give advice to other women. So many so called red pill women online only care about attracting and keeping a male audience of orbiters and seeking validation. Their videos are just copied echo chambers of opinions or sucking up to their audience rather than advice that will be helpful for other women. I think Lauren is very authentic in that she is not a validation seeker and I would like to see her making more videos aimed at wome…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 03:36 PM
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I don't think there is any higher calling for a woman than finding a male provider and having children. I don't see why she can't do both. Housewives and mothers usually have enough time to go on the internet and research things.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 03:24 PM
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True
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 03:23 PM
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I don't think there is anything wrong with being direct and forward. Men like that quality in a woman and I think it causes them a lot of stress that so many women play mind games. You can be feminine whilst being assertive, direct and forward at the same time. Have you ever met Russian and Asian women? That is them down to a t. It's about knowing what you want and just when you want it, and not being afraid to say. It only becomes a challenging quality in women when women use it as an attempt t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 03:00 PM
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That's exactly what I was thinking. When is Lauren going to find a husband herself? She is a very stunning young lady and could score a high quality man right now if she wanted to. Why doesn't she?
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 06:41 PM
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You can wear a dress with a wool button down sweater and wool tights. I never wear pants regardless of what time of year it is and it gets cold in winter where I am too. I kind of like the cold and I like comfortable clothing, I actually find it easier to wear something nice during the winter if the occasion calls for it. A sweater dress with leggings is also another thing that looks good.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 06:39 PM
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Yeah of course it is. A lot of people don't find fat people attractive, and that's OK. If he's fat then maybe he should date a fat woman or at least a woman that is OK with his weight. I think weight is controllable, but then a lot of it is genetic. Our habits are priorities are also genetic. The man has a big appetite and is mentally and possibly physically prone to gaining weight. He is not compatible with a woman who can never accept a fat husband. There are 13 discovered genes that contribut…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 06:31 PM
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I think honesty is the best policy. Tell her your genuine opinion. Make sure you are direct enough for her to get the message but be as sensitive as you can.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 06:28 PM
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My parents separated when I was 7. It was traumatic but my parents handled it really well and it helped that custody was completely shared and there were no battles over it. They were a bit distant from each other and there was some minor fighting but they actually remained not just civil but genuinely good friends. Saying that that's the only good move my parents ever seemed to make. Apart from that they were useless.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 10:19 PM
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I wouldn't trust anything that comes from the Bloombergs.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 10:13 PM
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I don't think it's your job to change him. Either accept him as he is, which I don't think you can do, or move along. Maybe you are better off finding a man who has no history of being overweight and is disciplined and heavily opinionated about the subject like you are. I think if it's so bad that it's effecting your sex life and making you get angry with him all the time this is a compatibility issue.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 09:51 PM
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Yeah I probably do.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 08:05 PM
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It's not up to me to be anyone's 'sensai' betas tend to follow societal codes.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 08:04 PM
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In more affluent communities lots of women are really attractive, as they have the money to look good and they usually delay having children earlier in their reproductive years. If you are a really high quality man, the best of the best, then you are going to have a lot of choice among these women. This is why you hear of these men doing what is called serial monogamy. They will be exclusive with a woman for several years then move onto someone younger. Women will give things away easily to thes…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 08:02 PM
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I think it would only be healthy for a man to cut his losses if a woman turned him down. There is nothing good about being friendzoned or a stalker.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:38 PM
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I would ignore it and block if you are not interested. I had one very annoying man on Facebook who became obsessed with me and made new accounts to try and talk to me. This man would also take my photos and post them to his wall I kid you not and he would harass the people on my friends list and ask them questions about me. He had a reputation of doing this to lots of other women and later on I found out that he had been charged multiple times for harassing and stalking women. I don't have a Fac…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:33 PM
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I have been pregnant whilst obese and it's not easy. I felt extremely tired and weak, not to mention hot. I have a lot more energy and physical strength when my BMI isn't so high. That's what I hated the most about it.
/r/RedPillWives02/05/17 02:09 PM
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Betas get so much slack from websites like this when they in fact even in the past they made most of the male population. They're the reliable men who keep the wheels turning and not too long ago they were under patriarchy and knew how to behave like men. In return for being sensible, law abiding and working hard all men were rewarded a wife. In Paleolithic times most men never got to reproduce. The only reason why a woman wouldn't have gotten to is because of infertility, usually caused by pelv…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:05 PM
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I know I find my husband attractive, and other women don't seem to like him much. I can't say how other people feel. All I can say is that having children is really rewarding and I look forward to them having children also.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 03:58 PM
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Then really people are not going to notice. It's not like you are walking down the street with your dad or grandad. He probably looks and feels younger than 37.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 03:31 PM
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I know I do this whiny voice and my husband says it makes me sound 8 years old. He says it makes him embarrassed but I do it anyway. He constantly scolds me for acting 'bratty' or being 'childish'. Maybe I should show him this thread. On another note moths are far from scary. They look like fluffy mini owls and they are really cute.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 02:24 PM
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Would your girlfriend be open to allowing it with the agreement that you came home to her? Is she open to you paying for sex with the agreement you do it safely? Maybe if you can't stay monogamous you need to find a woman who is OK with that. Going behind her back will risk you being found out and dumped.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 02:17 PM
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Maybe she doesn't orgasm through penetration because she senses you don't like her all that much. Women can pick up on these things, and if a man isn't crazy over you sex becomes more on an obligation than something that is really enjoyable. At least fake the enthusiasm a little if you can. Another thing, 7.5 out of 10 is still well above average. You talk about her like she's not all that but apparently she is still well above average? I am a 4 on a bad day and a 5 on a good day. my husband has…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 02:02 PM
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Yeah I know that. If he's 37 and looks good people are hardly going to be able to tell the age difference.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 01:57 PM
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You are giving her a $150 allowance a week and she is throwing a hissy fit? My husband gives me $20 here and there to go out for lunch with the kids if I am lucky, I don't even get an allowance. If I need new clothes or the kids do which isn't very often he sends me to eBay to bid on pre owned items and he pays for it with his PayPal account. All our furniture is pre owned. All our electronics are pre owned. I don't go to a salon for anything. I do my own hair treatments with my husband's permis…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 01:40 PM
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Personally, for me the desire to continue my genetic lineage wins every time. If my children are not high smv then they just have to be realistic about who they can date. Ugly people with health ailments have been reproducing for thousands of years. I don't see why it has to change now, and why you feel you should miss out on being a father and grandfather because you and your girlfriend are not Barbie and Ken, but each to their own I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 01:24 PM
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A lot of people play the depression card when they are withdrawing from a relationship. That seems to be one of the most common excuses and i would count that as the biggest red flag. I can count on my hands how many guys I have had say "I really need time away from you to deal with my depression" and "I have bipolar disorder and my therapist says I have some issues I need to work on, can we have some space?" only upon breaking up they attempt to date other people. I'm always skeptical of that e…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 01:17 PM
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I wouldn't want to be with a man who was going to die years before me and was a senior citizen when I was still relatively young. I also wouldn't want an age gap to stick out like a sore thumb. I have a friend who is 26 and her husband is 87. They have been together since she was 16 and they have 5 children. They have been through hell and back defending their relationship and CPS have treated them and their children horrifically, making up spiteful lies about this couple and subjecting their ch…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 12:53 PM
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I think you need to take a step back and be as neutral as you can. Of course support your boyfriend but don't try and navigate the situation in any sort of way. Just continue to be polite when you have to interact with the ex wife and interact with her as little as possible. If you have to avoid family gatherings than so be it. It's all part of the baggage you took on. By all means remain with your boyfriend if you really love him and want it to work, but I would personally distance myself from …
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 12:46 PM
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Pregnancy really does pack on the weight. The funny thing is whenever I have really started to lose it between kids I have gotten pregnant once again.
/r/RedPillWives29/04/17 11:36 PM
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I go online. That's literally what I do apart from spending time with my kids. I recently fell out with the only friend I have that lives near me after many years. I found that they had lied to me about something serious to get attention when I was too busy to talk to them and there was just a pattern of very needy behavior on their behalf. This friend was a man but he's not attracted to women so it wasn't a typical male/female dynamic. I'm not really a person who cares too much about having a b…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/17 11:27 PM
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I think cheating is always a possibility. I don't want to give you false hope but a lot of men cheat and it's extremely common. It's one of those things that you have to learn to accept and become secure enough in yourself to deal with. If you don't want to end up possibly sharing a man make sure you have your own life in order so you can leave and keep your options open if it does happen. Sharing a man works for some women but not many. Torturing yourself over it and constantly trying to preven…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 10:14 PM
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It sounds to me like he's distancing himself from you but possibly wants to keep his options open incase he doesn't have much luck with other women or fancies a hook up with you in the future. This is not something that would come from a man who is serious about you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 10:06 PM
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I think you need to empathize a bit more with the ex wife here. You can't expect her to welcome you into her life with open arms. As long as she is not being abusive or harassing you or trying to sabotage the relationship that your partner has with his son then I think you need to suck it up and take it on the chin. When this woman married and became a mother she probably didn't sign up to being left as a single mother whilst her ex husband dates women younger and more attractive than her. She p…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 09:51 PM
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My husband had this issue when we first got together. I was his first girlfriend when we met and he was already 30. I do know that he's very mechanical in his thinking, along with being below average height compared to other men where we live and Vietnamese in a predominantly white community. He also has a very high IQ and he's a classified genuis. Men who are incredibly gifted in the IQ department often relate poorly to a lot of women. Whilst men and women are different they need to be able to …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 09:30 PM
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I am a housewife and stay at home mom and my husband is an engineer.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 06:50 PM
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Those are media outlets reporting on legit studies, I wouldn't shoot the messenger. Homosexuality, as much as I don't hate homosexuals or wish them any harm, isn't normal. Bisexuality in women is legitimately linked with poor mental health outcomes. I feel like being honest is part of being red pill about things.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 05:09 PM
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Ultimately it's your choice. But personally I don't think a woman who is openly and proudly bisexual can have a healthy relationship with a man.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 05:05 PM
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I wasn't meaning to be unkind. I just feel like so many young women have been brainwashed by the LGBTQ agenda and don't have strong male role models to look upon and it obviously makes them unhappy. I feel like it's ultimately her choice. I don't want the government personally involved in what people do in the bedroom, but then I also don't want them spewing propaganda that hurts young women.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 05:04 PM
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Then maybe it's time to consider if you really want to marry this man. If he won't compromise on something as simple as spending time together alone as a couple then I don't think he is prioritizing you. You have to think very carefully.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 02:36 PM
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You probably don't want to hear this and I am probably going to offend some people but I don't think that bisexuality in women is mentally healthy. I say this in the nicest way possible. I think a lot of this has to do with not having a father growing up. The liking girls is probably mental trauma in response to not having a any example of a strong male caretaker. The keyword is strong, many girls have wimpy fathers. Studies link bisexuality in women with high levels of mental health problems. h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 02:31 PM
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It sounds to me like he possibly acted on pressure, and he's genuinely not sure if he wants a future with you. If he was certain he still wanted to be together in 2024 why would now make a difference?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 01:47 PM
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That does sound like a bit much. Have you tried approaching him about it? What does he say?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 09:02 PM
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Really, when someone is like that it's best to just leave them alone to sulk. Otherwise the argument could just escalate and you will both end up more upset. People who sulk and give silent treatment tend to be quite dramatic individuals and they tend to look for petty things to argue about, it's just a character flaw and everyone has those, it's how we accommodate each other. I know at times my husband can be this way, especially when he's already stressed about something else or hasn't had eno…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 06:07 PM
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Maybe next time find a boyfriend with a lower n count who doesn't compare you. It sounds like you were feeling insecure about the relationship you had rather than having a ltr
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:16 PM
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It sounds to me like he's very sociable and likes being surrounded by large groups of people.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:58 PM
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Why is your husband upset with you and not speaking? If you want constructive advice then I am going to need more details than that. We don't know if you are at fault or if your husband just behaves like a sulky child after a minor disagreement.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:40 PM
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A brain injury is physically tangible. There is nothing you can do about it and it's likely to cause a disability that will effect your day to day life. You can't will away a physical injury and it's out of your control. Emotional trauma on the other hand can be forgotten and glossed over. It's only a big deal if you make it and it's a matter of wills. I have had lots of negative things happen in my life personally. My husband has never wanted to know about them and we don't really talk about ea…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:19 PM
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If you are a Christian why don't you start reading scripture and attending church? It might steer you in the right direction. The Bible is pro patriarchy and teaches women to be modest and respectful of men.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:18 PM
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Why would you even have to share it with him if it doesn't make you feel comfortable? It's important to you but not a future boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:29 PM
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I don't see why you can't meet someone and jave everything you want.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:22 PM
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Luckily it never got to that. Our relationship progressed very quickly. I became pregnant soon after we met. Both of us are very direct people who don't like to waste time. He had been wanting a family and a wife for years and this was the first thing he actually told me in our online message exchange. I was actually impressed by the fact that he had the confidence to tell me that before even meeting me and he was so sure about what we wanted. We met up and instantly liked each other enough to m…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:14 PM
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I don't see how this is baggage. It's not something that needs to effect your future relationships. I think if you were considering having a family and a wedding with a herione addict you need to get your priorities in check and learn to choose more stable men. What were you even thinking? Not only that but he allowed you to come back to your apartment and find him dead. If I was you I wouldn't just he grieving, I would be seriously angry that someone had so little consideration for me that they…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:02 PM
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That's very true. There is a possibility that she has been alpha widowed.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 01:26 PM
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My husband likes me to talk to him about me raping and spermjacking him and he finds it sexy. To be honest I find it funny rather than a turn on and I notice the funnier and more outrageous the talk is the hotter he gets. Maybe you could try it that way and see how he reacts. If you don't find it sexy you could still get some fun from if that way.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 01:24 PM
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The screen name 'ninjacyclopse' says a lot about how you see yourself. It's very masculine. I am guessing you are a nerd/tomboy looking into being more girlish because you feel like one of the boys. I would say just act naturally. Don't try and be something you are not. You have to find your individual brand of femininity, otherwise you will just look out place. Most women who are true to themselves will find that they can get in touch with that part of themselves. You don't have to wear itchy c…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 01:05 PM
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Maybe he's just a very vanilla type of guy. To me personally there is nothing wrong with that. I would personally actually rather have a man like that than one who requests he play with my butt (yuck). My husband is very much like him, just not adventurous in bed at all, and the porn he watches completely reflects that, too. It suits me and makes me happy but it's about what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 12:58 PM
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If he's not open to it then I don't think you necessarily need to. It's more about what his general outlook on life is and the way he behaves rather than whether he is red pill or not.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 12:38 PM
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When I had my second son and needed an emergency c section they wheeled me into theatre right away. I was however bleeding quite heavily.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 12:30 PM
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You will need to give me more details about yourself in order for me to understand why.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 12:28 PM
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Yes I feel like me and you probably have a similar problem. I'm content with having a few close friends but the issue is is that none of them live close by, and I am scared to make new ones.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 07:11 PM
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I think the problem is that she doesn't find him that attractive. It's not his enthusiasm that is turning her off, it's the fact that she doesn't feel hot over him to begin with. Being interested and enthusiastic isn't a problem if the woman is actually attracted to the man to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 07:02 PM
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I would always create loads of diverse and interesting characters, then have them create all sorts of drama and do all sorts of interesting things. I haven't really had much time for it since my kids came along, I used to stay up and play it throughout the night and I found it too addictive.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:49 PM
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Of course it is, but I am sure he will hurt you more in the long run and you are only 23. You are going to find that there are lots of men interested in you who have a lot more respect for you. You seem like an understanding and humble woman.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 03:47 PM
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I feel like women can't really win these days. Either they give the goods up and the man is enjoying the wifey experience without any of the added responsibility, resulting in a possibility that no man will ever commit, or the man leaves because you won't have sex with him soon enough and there are plenty of women who will. It's kind of like a double edged sword. I always make men assert their wishes very early on. I have always asked men for a timeline of what they want their life to look like,…
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:45 PM
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I have said this and I will say it again. He has cheated in all his previous relationships, he is pushing you away so he can justify cheating again. He cannot stay monogamous according to his track record. Do you really want this at 25 years old? Something tells me you are going to get more hurt the longer you bother with this man.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:37 PM
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I worry about making friends with other women, but it's more of a trust issue than it is an inability to get along with them. I have seen so many women in my community fall out over stupid things and at least one of them often becomes really spiteful, to the point where they will do horrible things to the other woman. I know countless women who have had CPS called maliciously on them by disgruntled women they have fallen out with, and truth be told I am terrified of CPS after what I have seen th…
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:28 PM
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Forget about it, learn from it and don't do it again.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:20 PM
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Get a copy of the Sims. You can indulge in all your desire for drama and gossip playing that. Just make sure you don't become too addicted to it.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:18 PM
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It was good but it ended on a cliffhanger. I'm not a fan of those.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 03:04 PM
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Yeah by all means try, but if you find a man attractive you should love his sweaty body. You can't force yourself to want sex with him. As I said, by all means try, you are married and have a kid together, but don't be surprised if you can't get hot for this man. I tried for ages to get hot for my first boyfriend. He was seriously into me. I could argue even more than my current husband is and he was devastated when I left him despite me hardly having sex with him ever. I did cook and clean for …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 02:13 PM
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You are probably not going to like this but you can't often feign attraction for a man you don't find sexy. By all means give it a shot, but don't be surprised if you never feel turned on by him. I know firsthand as I spent ages in a ltr in my early 20s with a man I just didn't have the hots for, there were a lot of other problems in the relationship but this was the biggest killer. He wasn't my physical type. He was tall, macho,white and athletic and a complete neckbeard. I tend to like reserve…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 01:58 PM
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I don't think it's the worst thing in the world for a married or partnered man to see hookers. Especially if the wife or girlfriend agrees to it beforehand and the man does it safely. This wasn't what happened. He went and did it all behind your back. If he had not have known about the disease, and around half of men don't show symptoms for some of the most common ones, would he have told you? Some diseases can cause complications with a woman's fertility (rarer than doctors would tell you but i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 01:44 PM
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The big question is do you actually find him attractive?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 12:52 PM
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The problem is I know that any complications can be catastrophic and I don't want to risk it. I would rather be inside a hospital should something like that happen.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 12:48 PM
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He's cheated in all his previous relationships, it's obvious he cannot stay monogamous. I'm sorry to say this but it sounds like it's likely he is pushing you away because he is trying to justify doing it again. I feel that some of the ladies here are gaslighting you, which isn't fair. You have every reason to be concerned what with his behavior, his words and his track record. His current behavior sounds extremely furtive to me. You are only 25 and from this post I assume you do not have kids w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 01:44 AM
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It's not your job to fix him. He doesn't owe it to you to learn how to drive or to sort out his anxiety problems. They are a part of who he is and either you accept them or move along. You shouldn't need people on the internet to tell you whether or not your feelings are valid, if it bothers you enough to lose attraction towards him then they are. You got with him knowing what he was like and you have already been with him for 2 years. Why did you waste your time on a person that you felt you ha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 01:36 AM
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He wants the sex and the company without any serious commitment. It sounds to me like he doesn't want to be a husband and a father and he's afraid of the responsibility, but he's holding onto you and being vague about it because he is scared he won't get laid and he will lose his cook and his cleaner (I assume you probably give him your all do chores for him?). He wants to have his cake and eat it too so he's leading you on. Give him an ultimatum. It's the only way this is going to come to any r…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 12:58 AM
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I suppose you have a point there, but you could say that someone gets to enjoy their spouse or partner for a lot longer if they are closer in age. I have also seen big age gap couples suffer from bullying and general persecution. My friend and her partner have had it to no end.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 05:48 PM
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No, the guy is Irish and the girl is from the US. They met when him and her mother were dating, but they broke up and the two developed an interest in one another.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 01:37 PM
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My husband never really helped me with anything. Maybe it has something to do with him being from a different culture? He plays with the kids but refuses to do anything practical. If I need extra help he just drives his mom to come and stay with us.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 12:59 PM
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I would have loved to have given birth at home but I had some sort of complication with every baby/pregnancy. This time around I have to go into hospital because of a previous c section. I'm actually not looking forward to it. I hate hospitals and the birth itself is filling me with nothing but anxiety. I am also currently on medication to control neausea and vomiting and acid reflux, so I feel fine right now, but if I didn't take it I would be too unwell to look after my other two kids. I perso…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 12:51 PM
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Yeah my friend is 26 going on 27 and her boyfriend is 87. They have been together since she was 16. They have 4 kids and are expecting their 5th and she's been through hell and back justifying her love for a way older man. They have had a tonne of bullying and discrimination from CPS for the age difference and it's completely disgraceful. Her partner is also on his way out. He already has a whole tonne of health problems. So she's going to be left alone dealing with CPS, who are being complete c…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:26 PM
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From what I am being told by most other women that seems quite common.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:16 PM
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I don't want my husband to die years before me. I don't want to be with a senior citizen 10 or even 20 years from now. I am 30 and I like men in their 30s and early 40s.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 01:31 AM
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You probably wouldn't in the long term. If you ever got over having vaginasmus it would feel like throwing a hot dog down a hallway for both of you. I don't know how men that small even have sex and i feel genuinely bad for them.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:44 AM
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The views here are not really that conservative imo. The posts on this forum are not really too out there. I have been to far more contraversial or conservative places than here. This place is very tame.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 04:32 PM
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I have quite a high n count. I have had casual sex with a lot of men I met online back when I was single. I have never had particularly liberal beliefs but I did some stupid things when I was a teenager, like I thought it would be cool to get my lip pierced. When I think about these things I feel upset with my own father and see him as nothing but a complete failure. I just hope if we have a daughter my husband protects her from these things. I believe these things seriously stem from a girls re…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 04:21 PM
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It's OK for some. I had to do six months of pelvic floor exercises after I had a natural birth because my husband kept slipping out during sex I kept getting wind trapped up there. It was horrendous. I restored the tightness in my kitty with the excersizes but I still have mild issues with incontinence. With my next child I had to have a c section and I was completely unaffected down there after that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 04:05 PM
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I was also a bit disturbed when I read that. Hole swapping? Talk about UTIs and bacterial vaginosis.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 03:54 PM
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That still sounds a little complicated to me. If a man and a woman are attracted to each other I'm going to assume they will like having sex and it will all turn out OK. The only time it hasn't with me is when the man has a really thin penis or it's under 3 inches, and I'm not being mean when I say that. Very few men are that small in my experience and I particularly like asian men. People say all this flack about them having small penises but most of them are adequately sized.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 03:51 PM
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Really? I assumed that's how every woman got off. I can't be touched down there in any other way, it just tickles.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 03:39 PM
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I understand that being overweight is not ideal, but he chose you, presumably when you were overweight already? It's a pet hate of mine when someone gets into a relationship hoping to 'fix' ,change or 'save' the other person. Either you accept someone as they are when vetting them, or you move on. He made his decision to be with a girl who weights 175lbs, he doesn't get to expect anything else from her.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 03:07 PM
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Is it really true that most women don't orgasm through penetration? That's the only way I have ever been able to orgasm and the man has to hit my cervix. I thought that was normal.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 11:17 PM
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Men don't generally care about sexual experience.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 09:55 PM
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I don't think that porn is something women should get too hung up over. Most men watch it and it's a waste of energy trying to fight against something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 07:27 PM
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I feel like being a mother and having as many children as possible and staying home to raise them has always been a dream of mine and it's the biggest part of my identity and how I define myself. I would be very uncomfortable if a man took on what I see as a female role, and I probably wouldn't respect him. His goals have to be compatible with mine for it to work.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 07:09 PM
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I have never been pretty either and as a teenager I was very insecure. I used to have this problem but it stopped when I became a more cheerful and friendly person. Having good looks does help, but if you don't have them then you just have to accept it. People will be attracted to good looks but they are not the be and all.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 07:04 PM
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I would feel concerned that he wasn't open to fully discussing the subject. I would probe him deeper to find out if he really does share the same life goals, and if he gets angry or defensive then it's probably time to rethink things.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 06:54 PM
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I swish it around in my mouth for about 15 minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 06:01 PM
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My husband controls all the purchases, so I wouldn't want him to see it. This is not something he knows about and not something I want to tell him. He may think that he's the issue when he's not which really worries me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 01:31 AM
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I think it's easier for women just to go along with sex. Women don't really have to move about much or express a tonne of desire. I guess it depends on your partner but mine has never really expected those things. Even when my libido was at its peak I couldn't deal with a man who wanted me to be a physically active or vocal lover. I have no problem agreeing to sex if I don't feel up for it, as long as a man doesn't expect me to go like I'm bouncing on a pogo stick and to scream so the neighborho…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 01:26 AM
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I sleep a good 9 hours, so it isn't that. My goodness I always find the time for sleep. I can't exist without my sleep lol. I will try the book you suggested. I just hope it has a PDF because I don't usually purchase things like books.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 01:20 AM
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I haven't nursed for a very long time so I know it's not that. I am currently pregnant right now but this was a problem before pregnancy as well. I truly think I have some kind of mental block. Another possibility could be testosterone decline. I have read that women's testosterone declines with age, and this is why so many women lose interest and have less intense orgasms as they reach their 30s. When I was younger I felt that I had a lot more energy and vitality and now I can see why.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 01:02 AM
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I am not familiar with that area, but I would suggest online dating. You are able to filter better, and it's how I met my husband. Quite often people who have differing political views to their local peers can also be found online.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 02:41 PM
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It looks like you don't spend a lot then, and really anything else you do is just penny pinching. I would really suggest cooking with legumes if you are open to eating them. They are cheap and I personally find them tasty. Making a pie with potato, cheese and lentils is tasty. Humus is also tasty and can be made at home.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 02:39 PM
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Just Google finger digit ratios and all the information will come up.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 01:07 PM
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I'm probably going to offend someone when I say this but if it were me I wouldn't keep the dogs. I would personally find them a new home. I think you and your husband need to put yourselves first. This is only a suggestion and i am not too attached to animals so it's easy for me to say. I can imagine you are walking them and burning calories, de-fleeing them, paying vets bills, paying for their food when you and your husband seem to be going without. Just doesn't seem a worthy sacrifice to me pe…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 12:44 PM
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You are only 23. I think more than anything you need to improve your outlook on things. You are seeing everything so negatively. However you do live in NYC. That's a really competitive environment and a lot of people are very liberal. It's not really the kind of place I would want to live and I certainly wouldn't want to be dating men there. I would suggest online dating outside your city if you want to find a man to start a family with. You are 23 and I would take full advantage of your age to …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 12:30 PM
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You have a typical female finger digit ratio. Your index finger is longer than your ring finger. My ring finger is about a cm longer than my index on both hands and my fingers are really long in general. I have heard people comment that that's the sign of a tranny. I'm not sure what to make of that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 12:25 PM
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I rarely if ever wear makeup. I do however cleanse and moisturize my face every few days. I always make sure I don't have thick eyebrows. I have waist length hair. It's so naturally dry that I only need to wash it about once a week. I whiten my teeth with coconut oil whenever they start to look too yellow. I epilate my body hair about once or twice a week. I do a variety of things with my hair but I usually wear it down or I put pins in it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 12:22 PM
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My husband teases me too. He jokes about me being a 'fatty', about me being a man 'because I'm so hairy' about our children not being his, about being my 'rapist' and 'beating me up'. However I always tease him back and I'm always equally offensive. He has never once been offended and he's always laughed and played along. He teases our kids constantly as well. He laughs at our sons and tells them they have 'little manhoods whilst daddy has a big one' and likes to do silly things in public like t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 12:08 PM
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7 is still pretty far above average. Of course they would. I have seen men go fuzzy around 5s.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 08:00 PM
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I can second on being cold and mechanical. I am practical sometimes to an extreme. However, my husband has stated that he likes this about me. He is also cold and mechanical to an extreme. He often gets very impatient with typically feminine behavior. I think we get along because I am so practical and 'straightforward' as he describes me. He's good to his mother but he can't deal with how emotional she gets, and he often ends up yelling at her in fraustration. Funnily enough my husband is an eng…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 01:40 PM
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I don't know where people in the red pill get this idea that there are loads of 8s, 9s and 10s walking around. Really, how many women are supermodels? I suppose in an area where people are very wealthy, and women have money to have procedures done ect but in most regular communities you are not going to find that many stunningly beautiful people. To answer your question, I think men have different standards. I think conventional attractiveness obviously matters a lot to some men, to the point wh…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 01:30 PM
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It's not that I worry about it on such a concious level. It's like there is a mental block there and my physical sensations have changed. It's not easy to explain. I am wondering if there are a lot of other women who feel the same way I do.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 01:20 PM
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Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 01:19 PM
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This is, I feel quite happy and content in general, can you he depressed when you don't even feel sad?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 01:17 PM
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I have noticed that I can't hold my bladder very well. I also leak when I sneeze. I told my doctor and she says just to do more kegles. As if I don't do enough already. Down there just feels really different. It's good to do research before you have kids, in all honesty no one told me anything.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 01:15 PM
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That's basically what I live in everyday. They probably don't look too excellent on me though. I have a super flat butt and strange ankles. I think you have to have the right shape to give them sex appeal.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 02:08 AM
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I don't really put a lot of effort into the way I dress either. I mostly live in leggings, sneakers and tees. We don't have the money for me to spend $15 minimum on a dress that isn't practical for daily wear. I have about 2 pairs of leggings at the moment, 3 tees, one jersey dress, 2 cardigans, 2 hoodies, a pair of Nikes I got pre owned, a pair of UGGs I got pre owned, a pair of fancy flats and a pair of flip flops. I also own a winter coat and a waterproof. It's not one of those things you hav…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/17 04:47 PM
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The issue with trying to save everyone from everything you see as potentially bad is that this comes at the cost of liberty and justice, which I believe are more important things than people's feelings and everything turning out a particular way. The white race is dying due to left wing thinking, that doesn't mean that I believe that white people are superior to other races or that I am against race mixing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 12:42 AM
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This is just curiosity here but how do you deal with cat fleas? Cat fleas are lethal. I have known them to infest homes where there are no cats or even animals for that matter. In fact I had to get pest control into my apartment when I first moved in because we were all being bitten by them despite not having pets. I still have scars on my ankles from the things. My sister had cats and was always treating them but the house was infested the whole time she lived there. Dogs on the other hand I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 12:21 AM
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I don't think bad parenting in itself is necessarily anyone's else's business if the children's most basic needs are met. I can't care less what other people choose to do with their kids. I don't think it should be mine or the governments business for that matter. I am a libertarian with conservative leanings. I like to keep to myself but at the same time I believe traditional values should be encouraged. I think it's very much up to the individual what standard they follow. What standard other …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 11:53 PM
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Yeah if you have issues with alchohol/substances that's a whole different ballpark. Alchoholics and heavy drug users usually can't physically care for their children and their children end up dangerously neglected. My mother also had a drinking problem and it was clear that she could not cope. However I don't personally like the idea that things have to be perfect for someone to have children. I wouldn't personally put off having children because I'm a fat ass and might get gestational diabetes.…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 10:53 PM
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This man has obviously learned some very argumentative behavior. I deal with this to a much lesser degree from my husband sometimes and I understand that it all stems from how he got along with his family growing up. They would and still squabble constantly and I deal with it by understanding that it's nothing I have done and that it's a character flaw of his and his alone. However I don't think I could stick around in your situation. My husband is pretty easy to humor, divert or ignore. He's ce…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 10:44 PM
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This man is going to see other women. He's not going to change. Either you can leave him or accept that you are going to have to share him. I would personally be worried about potential drama from other women. He's obviously sneaking around and not being open and honest and he telling women what they want to hear. I remember my mother getting with a man like this. He had multiple girlfriends and he would continually sneak around and promise to be faithful. Every time they found out about each ot…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 10:02 PM
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He knows you are already overweight and he is obviously OK with that. You say you still have quite a bit to lose. Only you can decide whether or not you want to tell him. Chances are he will probably guess something is up because people who have had a gastric bypass can't eat like everyone else can they?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 12:33 PM
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Find a man with similar smv or improve. It's that simple. Loads of people have baggage. A man with a bit of baggage isn't likely going to turn a woman down for the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 12:26 PM
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I think you have issues pair bonding. If you are properly bonded with your man then the idea of cheating will be upsetting for you. I think you need to get to the bottom of this and find out why you are not growing attached to your partners.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 06:51 PM
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I don't think there are many men in western countries today that expect to marry someone who is virginal and innocent. You would be surprised at how many girls go through phases like this. As long as you can still have a functional relationship and you can pair bond with a man whose smv is similar to yours you should be OK. The biggest issue is when women can't move on from that lifestyle although they are not happy with it. I have seen this happen and they can't maintain any sort of commitment …
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 06:44 PM
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Don't you think that perhaps putting your plans on hold is perhaps making you more unhappy and is making your recovery slower? You may never get fully better. That's the thing. The right time may never come. I personally wouldn't let this get in the way of me settling down and starting a family. Unless you think you are bad enough that you will throw your baby out the window or something, or murder your husband. Apparently 1 in 4 women have a diagnosed mental health problem and many of them go o…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 06:32 PM
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Think about what might happen if things didn't get done.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 11:50 AM
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Yes that seems to be the case, although low SMV doesn't seem to make it too hard for someone to find a partner.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:56 PM
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Thanks 😳 I try and be objective.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:48 PM
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Thank you 😳
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:47 PM
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If you ask me, I think it's modern porn. Many men watch it, and assume that all women want to be treated like porn actresses and they conflate porn sex with real life sex. There was an article recently on the website return of Kings affirming this. The man writing the article believed that porn taught men about what women like in bed and about 90% of the male commenters agree with him. They don't stop to think about the fact that porn is exhagerated and modified for entertainment purposes and th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:47 PM
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Maybe she is being genuinely honest and objective? And you don't like it that you can't solve her problem because it makes you feel like you lack control?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:36 PM
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So what does qualify as a 'rpw'? And why do you get to decide whether or not women should be here? I thought the red pill was about accepting truths and owning up to things? By that logic anyone can be a rpw.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:06 PM
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This isn't the first time I have seen teaandtalk act like a bully.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:02 PM
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I think I discussed this with you before. It's because you don't have a close knit immediate family and the men you are dating do. I have had the same issue in regards to dating. I thought I would never find a normal, sensible man but I did. I think you should try a different approach to dating if I am honest. Making men wait 3 months for sex nowadays also isn't realistic. I had sex with my husband the day I met him, which most people would say is far too early, but that didn't stop me from obta…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 03:00 PM
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I have low SMV apparently and I have had quite a lot of sex partners. I don't think smv matters when it comes to obtaining sex from men without commitment. Men fornicate with chicken carcasses and fleshlights. They are not fussy as anyone would lead you to believe.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 02:49 PM
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Most people love pork and strawberries. I find both those foods vile. To the point where I only have to think of them and I don't want my dinner. However if you were to ask most people what they like to eat they will say they like bacon and strawberries and cream. I'm sure a buffet with bacon with strawberries and cream would be more popular within the general population than tofu curry, which is a meal I like. I think certain things are popular and most people like them but they are never unive…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 02:27 PM
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What was this man's culture out of curiosity? I have dated a few other asian men before I got with my SO and they were very fixated on impressing their families and their community. I still think online dating would be a good idea. Yeah there are losers and players online, but just by meeting people and keeping that option open you have nothing to lose.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:24 PM
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I can completely empathize about just wanting to make things up. When I was single I would often despair about it. I would often date men who seemed into me as well, it's just that their parents wouldn't have approved. I think the key is finding a man who is similar and who understands. That's how I worked through it. It's horrible being treated badly by your SO's family. My first boyfriends mother and sister hated me and would make my life miserable. He however didn't care much about their opin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:13 PM
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I have full respect for people who enjoy kink even though I don't want to take part in it what 2 adults do in the bedroom is only their business. However, I do find that some men are not respectful of women who don't, sadly. I have been called a prude more times than I can remember.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:05 PM
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Yes I have had exactly the same problem. I think that could very well be it. Men would often distance themselves from me when I told them I wasn't close to my parents. It's like that somehow made me a pariah. I think maybe you need to find a man who isn't close to his family or who had difficulties growing up. The two serious relationships I had were with men with dysfunctional family backgrounds. My husband is very helpful towards his mother although she badly neglected him growing up. I suppos…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 04:54 PM
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It sounds to me like you and him don't share the same goals. That would be a dealbreaker for me. He sounds like he doesn't take life very seriously.
/r/RedPillWives02/04/17 04:49 PM
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I use tweezers. I don't have to pluck mine very often. I touch them up every week or so. I like mine to be quite thin. I'm not a fan of thick eyebrows. Any redness I have around my eyebrows disappears within a few hours and I have never really been that bothered by it. If your eyebrows hurt for sometime afterwards I would try menthol or aloe vera.
/r/RedPillWives02/04/17 04:46 PM
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I'm the complete opposite. I am extremely vanilla and won't even try anything outside of PIV or giving my man a hand job or blow job. I have found that most men love kinky women. To the point where they pretty much expect it. I have had quite a lot of sexual partners but contrary to what anyone would think I have never done anything that would be considered in the least bit sexually adventerous. I am even more restrictive in what I would have let casual sex partners do. I wouldn't let a man ejac…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 04:40 PM
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Wow. Holding down 3 jobs? Talk about lack of sleep. I need about 9 hours sleep a night. I think I would become very unwell on less than that. My kids have always slept, and I have always found the time to prioritize sleep being a sahm. People talk about sleepless nights with a new baby but honestly that's never been my experience. My children have always slept like rocks once they went down.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 04:30 PM
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I admit that I had sex with my husband very soon after we first met and we pretty much became exclusive almost right away. A lot of people don't suggest it but it works for some couples. He actually said that he likes that I made it easy for him and he liked the fact that I didn't make him jump through hoops, and it's one of the things that made him consider being exclusive with me. I was actually surprised when he said that, as so much advice tells women to make men wait and work for it. Before…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 04:27 PM
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Yeah I have experienced that. Men not wanting to bring me home to their families for whatever reason. What was your own family background like? Mine wasn't the best, and if I told men I didn't have a close relationship with either of my parents it scared them away. The man I ended up marrying had a very abusive father and he grew up under circumstances that were not the best. I found he was the first man to still treat me with respect after I told him I don't really have a relationship with my i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 04:14 PM
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Sorry but herione addiction would be a serious dealbreaker for me. A lot of people never get clean. I know of people who have been using it for over a decade or more and they promise their loved ones they will be clean but they always give in and start using again. Also, I don't want to scare you, but if you have children with this man they are in danger of being subject to a CPS investigation on account of his addiction alone. It doesn't matter how well dressed, how well fed or how loved your k…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 04:03 PM
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I'm trying to put my finger on it. Your dating problems sound almost identical to how mine were when I was single. Maybe you would be better off dating Indian, asian or Arab men. Try men who work in fields like IT or STEM.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 03:48 PM
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I don't think there is anything shallow about someone admitting that they are attractive. I don't get the sense that the OP is doing it to brag. I think she's just objectively describing herself. I second on the desperate vibe, though, and it could be why I found it so hard to date when I was single. It seems like women who are cool, casual and demanding get more in return.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 03:43 PM
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I had problems dating before also. I had one serious relationship before I met my husband. He was obsessed with video games to the point where he couldn't hold down a full time job and he developed an unpleasant friendship with a man who was a bit of a bad boy. He wasn't the sort of person I wanted to be around, especially after he bragged in front of me about anally raping a girl for cheating on him. He kept inviting this friend into our home and hanging out with him. He proposed to me and I sa…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 02:19 PM
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I can attest that going to work and caring for children would probably make me really snappy. I tire physically very easily and if I don't get enough rest or do too much my skin breaks out and I get mouth sores and mouth ulcers. I would be a terrible working mom. I don't know how other women manage it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 12:18 PM
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The only thing I can advise you to do is to set up a pre nup. Get your wife to declare that if she should divorce you that you get shared custody of the kids and you get to keep whatever assets you have worked for.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 12:08 PM
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I had a hard time finding a man who wanted to settle down with a woman who has no career aspirations. Before I met my husband I worked at a checkout because it was compulsory. I have never wanted a career and I have no education past high school. I didn't do well at high school and I hated every moment of it. My goal was always to find a man, settle down, get pregnant and quit my job. I would get very patronising comments from men like "I want a woman who is strong and independent" or "I think w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 11:39 AM
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I don't think those women who are saying that have sex to fulfil any sort of complex need. They are just impulsive and horny and they feel ashamed to be having basic and uncontrollable physical urges so they try and justify it by attaching a deeper meaning to their actions. I also believe that euphisms like that can signal narcissm. If a person truly believes that everything they do has to have depth and complexity behind it and needs immense psychoanalysis then they probably think too highly of…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 04:38 AM
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I have never understood the euphemism behind 'experimenting' and 'finding yourself' through sex. I don't think people have sex to 'find themselves'. I am saying this as someone who has had more than a few partners. I never felt like I was 'experimenting' or 'finding myself' when I got with a man. I just happened to meet a man who I found attractive and felt willing to be physical with him, I wasn't adding anything onto myself or gaining any sort of superior knowledge by doing so, I was just foll…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 04:32 AM
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It sounds to me like you have some insecurities within the relationship itself because you compare yourself to other women. If it's any consolation to you he probably wouldn't be with you if you were not the best he could do. I would stop worrying about those 'california beauties'. As for the texting maybe you could agree to touch in briefly every now and then and that's it. If he doesn't reply to you for a day and that's not unusual for him then don't fret. Is your relationship long distance by…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 08:40 PM
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I have noticed that it varies a lot between different men. Some men love it and others can't stand it. It seems to me that you happened to end up with two men who like clingy girls.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 08:10 PM
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It sounds to me like he's just a generally argumentative person. Does his family row a lot by any chance? My husband has a tendency to be argumentative, and I notice that whenever his family get together there are constant squabbles between all of them. Quite often they will get quite heated very quickly. They usually don't last long and they will be getting along like nothing happened five minutes later and there are generally no grudges beared. When he's argumentative with me I focus on ending…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 07:27 PM
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Wow I really don't know what to suggest then. Has he tried elimination diets?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 07:00 PM
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How badly do you snap at him? Do you just get a little grumpy? Or do you flip out?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 06:58 PM
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Has he had the acute test or chronic test?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 06:57 PM
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I don't think you being a sahm has turned you into a shrew and I don't think you should necessarily be blaming yourself or your husband. It just seems like the two of you are incompatible and probably should never have gotten married. You sound like quite a dominant woman and women generally want a man who is more dominant than themselves. I think that's where you both clash. A more gentler submissive woman may find that your husband is quite enough for her, whereas because you are quite fiesty,…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 06:54 PM
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I want to ask, has your boyfriend been tested for chronic Lyme disease and co infections? I have to ask as a lot of people have chronic viral illnesses that cause them to have a myriad of health problems. Problem is this isn't often widely known by a lot of conventional doctors. You will have to pay privately to get this tested for and treated. I would suggest doing some research on this.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 05:55 PM
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I can't answer your question but I have to say that I can relate. Not only am I very shy and i find it very difficult to talk to strangers but where I live people don't generally mix with each other. It's not a close knit community and neighbors don't talk to each other. I also often feel like people are not to be trusted easily. I have known women to suffer at the hands of some pretty nasty gossip from other women, and I am afraid of that happening to me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 04:53 PM
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I don't get what the problem is. He wants to leave you but for what? What exactly has happened? How have you been bitchy and how have you overreacted to things? I think you need to be more specific if you want real advice from people.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 04:50 PM
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I think if women act naturally then most of the time they will act feminine regardless because women are inherently different from men most of the time. A lot of women don't act naturally because they have been taught from a young age that they need to achieve the same goals as men. I wouldn't want to ever behave in a way that felt forced and I don't think that women need to. I think being feminine is so much more more complex being a delicate princess. There are different kinds of feminine ener…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 07:31 PM
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You met 3 times in 3 years. I think that's the biggest issue here. There is no substitute for face to face contact.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/17 01:10 PM
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I disagree with people saying that this is something that you shouldn't advertise right off the bat. You don't want to waste your time dating a man whose goals are incompatible with yours. If a man labels you a goldigger, then he's not the type of man you would personally want anyway. It was my view that this was called vetting? I also disagree that you will attract the 'wrong type of attention' from men. Just be assertive and stick to your boundaries and everything will be OK. Being a housewife…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 11:37 PM
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I used to sell pictures of myself to men on Skype for a bit of extra pocket money and I used to sell used underwear. I haven't really bothered to go back to doing it again since eBay told me it was against the rules and they banned my account. A lot of men just get off on the premise of paying random women money in exchange for 'gifts' like pictures and underwear. It's truly a fetish for them and I don't believe they do it because they don't love their wives. In fact in many of my conversations …
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 04:16 PM
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I think a lot of this is jealousy/bitterness based. Most women would love to stay at home with their children and many are resentful that they have to work. Many also cannot handle the stigma that comes with being a sahm and feel that they have to work to feel worth something and they are bitter about it.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 02:40 PM
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If you ask me he sounds like a catch. He's obviously a talented guy who has made an unconventional living. It's still early days and you don't have to get too invested. Just meet him and see where things go.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 11:33 PM
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Like you said I also think women have alteration on their side. They can take a picture that looks better than they actually are, so women on those sites are usually a few points lower than their photo percives them to be.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:29 PM
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I think a lot of women feel unsexy and tired after kids. I genuinely believe that to be true. Also women often lose some physical sensation down there after giving birth because of nerve shifting and damage so orgasms and arousal are not as intense. Women tend not to be too vocal about these things, for fear of coming across as imoddest.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:27 PM
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people lie when they are afraid to tell the truth. I think it depends why they are afraid to tell the truth more on the fact that they lied. I think intention is worth more than anything one can see in black and white. I think in a lot of situations I could be understanding. Others not so much.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:21 PM
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I think guys do have it hard. It used to be that everyone paired off at a young age and they were all married. Now there are so many single people well into their 30s and even 40s.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:17 PM
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Yeah I don't think I have ever been with an alpha male. All the guys I have dated and been drawn to have just been kind of average. Personally I don't see any point in wasting my time with someone I won't have stuff in common with and who won't make a commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:14 PM
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Yeah I can understand feeling insecure when single and around prettier girls. My friends have tended to be around my own smv level and they have been similar women to myself, so I have never had that issue. I'm sure if I was single and going out on the pull with a girl who was much better looking I would start telling myself things, too. I met my husband online. I have always stayed away from bars and clubs because that kind of environment is just too much for me anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:05 PM
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My husband is 5'7. He is thin, thinner than me and he is vitenamese which I find cute. He's not fit and eats lots of bad foods. I find him very handsome, personally and hes just my type.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:00 PM
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What bothers me is probably different to what bothers you. Me I am not a social person and don't care about being randomly noticed. I do however care about being physically comfortable and I have noticed when I have been at my heaviest it's not physically comfortable. I also had high blood pressure when pregnant with my first son because I was very heavy. My second I was still big but prevented myself from gaining too much and managed not to have compIications. I feared for my health after that …
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:50 PM
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I think maybe that does apply to me. When I wanted a relationship I was very serious about finding it and I didn't have a big list of requirements.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:39 PM
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Yeah I can second this. When I was on a dating site I messaged men who I felt would be a decent match for me, not based on what other women might find attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:34 PM
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Wow, 80% of men as below average. Where do people have these standards?
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:31 PM
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Maybe because I'm happy with these beta men then I just don't see it as a problem. Maybe if my standards were higher I would notice more. However I got the impression off of some people that not even less desirable men wanted ugly women.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:29 PM
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Yeah but then doesn't everyone settle to some extent? That's to be totally expected. Most people also find that they bond better with people who are of similar smv as well. My husband is a little eccentric and socially awkward. If he suddenly became Mr charisma and he became ultra dynamic and perfectionist I probably wouldn't get along with him anymore and he wouldn't be the same person.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:20 PM
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I have never been particularly attractive, even at 22. I have always been kind of dumpy and sorry looking with no waist or butt. I have always been slightly heavy, as well. I guess I have never had any experience of being hot. But then men have never been in short supply, in spite of this. In fact I have had some men become utterly obsessed with me and who won't leave me alone. I have been stalked, harassed and sexually assaulted. I just have a hard time thinking men don't find me attractive whe…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:13 PM
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Never get into a relationship with someone with the aim of improving them or hoping that they will improve. It's just the worst thing you can possibly do. Either you accept someone exactly as they are in the initial stages of dating, or you kindly move on. You are not happy and neither is your boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 12:43 PM
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Either she is deeply religious or conservative and is holding out for the right man, asexual or has insecurities regarding romantic intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 12:33 PM
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It depends on how dynamic you are and how much energy you have. Some women manage to make ambition work with having a busy home life. For others it just isn't possible. You just have to find what works for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 12:31 PM
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I never wanted a career either. I just worked a checkout job and focused on finding a man and having kids. I have never had a lot of money growing up so I guess being on a tight budget was all I always knew, a lot of kids grow up in middle class households and feel that they have to maintain that standard of living on their own as adults. I never really had that issue to deal with. I'm sure when you have had money to be able to do lots of fancy things it can be harder to come back from.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 10:38 AM
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I usually ask my husband if I am allowed to buy things. We don't have the best budget and he's very careful with money. However he always makes sure we have the essentials.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 10:36 AM
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You are no longer in high school. You need to move on. Your single because you are making sure of it. Women have it easier than men do when it comes to dating. High school is very different from being an adult.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 10:35 AM
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I guess it's not how men feel that bothers her. It's how she feels. I can tell from first-hand experience because I had a labiaplasty. It didn't matter whether men found it attractive, I personally felt like I belonged in a circus. Sometimes it's not just about sex, either. For me it was about not standing out too much.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 11:09 AM
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You could have worded it more sensitively. It came across like you were making fun of her. Maybe you didn't mean for it to look bad. Either way I don't think how she approaches intimacy is going to change how she feels. I can empathize with having an unusual body part. It doesn't matter how you approach the situation, you worry about generating attention for not being generic. The issue is with you and not with the men you are seeing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 01:04 AM
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I don't think many women like the idea of having a body part that looks unusual, whether men find it sexy or not. I can speak from personal experience. I had a labiaplasty and a clit hood reduction a few years back, and I did it for my own piece of mind only. Yeah there are plenty of men who find the pulled pork sandwich look desirable, but there are also plenty of men who see it as disgusting, or think it's a joke. I don't like the idea of having a body part that is either fetishized or mocked.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 12:48 AM
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This girl has a legit insecurity, one that's bad enough to hold her back from getting intimate with men. I'm sure you mocking her like that isn't going to make her feel any better.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 12:40 AM
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You don't need to see her face. She can still take you to court. You also appear to be using your real name. Is this even legit? I'm actually kind of amazed. I want some of what you are smoking.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/17 12:25 AM
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Not only have you posted this on a public forum but you actually appear to be using your real name. Are you high, suicidal ,retarded or all three?
/r/TheRedPill16/03/17 12:21 AM
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I think this choice is a very personal one. Personally I don't think that formula feeding is the devil that it's made out to be, at least not in first world countries where we have access to clean drinking water. To say you won't be able to attract a man with odd looking breasts is a bit of a stretch, not every man you find attractive is going to see that as a dealbreaker, you see women with multiple physical imperfections in marriages and relationships all the time, however I can understand you…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 12:05 AM
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It seems to me like they just want something to gossip about. If they can see it doesn't bother you they will move onto something else.
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 10:48 PM
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Your husband sounds stressed, but you know life is stressful. He obviously wants the best for his family and he is looking at things realistically. Just continue to cheer him on and be emotionally supportive. Of course he eyes up women with more money, just like women eye up nice looking men with an expensive suit and a nice car, but they don't necessarily expect their husbands to be that way. This is real life, not everyone is on top and most people are pretty average. Cut yourself some slack. …
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 10:40 PM
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You don't see this woman's marriage behind closed doors. You really don't know all her personal business, you only know what you can see from the outside looking in. I really wouldn't be too quick to judge people who fantasize about having an affair. There are people who appear to be living a fancy life but whose spouse will no longer have sex with them, or their spouse refuses to spend any quality time with them or is emotionally unavailable. Wanting to do something is also not the same as goin…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:48 PM
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You are both young and your relationship the first time around was hardly serious. I don't see a problem in giving it another shot.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:43 PM
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People have their phones at their disposal now all day long. He knows you are going to see his messages. It literally takes very little time and effort to respond to a text or an instant message. This isn't the 1990s anymore where people have to get home and login to their computer to recieve messages or where people have to be at home with little else to do to use the phone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:41 PM
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Only you can decide how much your political differences will effect your relationship. Personally, I don't share a lot of interests with my husband. We do find the same things funny, and he actually likes women who can make him laugh and laughs with him. We don't tend to have intellectual discussions either and both of us have had our IQs officially tested and his is a lot higher than mine. However I get along with him and I enjoy his company and we click, I can't say how or why, it just is and …
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:36 PM
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So feminists decide that women are strong and independent, yet they infantilize them. It seems like a contradiction to me. Either you are one or the other, make your mind up. Are women 'nasty' ball busters that can do whatever a man can do, or are they sensitive little snowflakes? The inconsistency annoys me more than anything.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:09 PM
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I would meet other men and keep your options open. He's wasting your time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:07 PM
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You can go outside and take a walk in the park with the kids. Having a job is also pretty boring for a lot of people, in fact some would argue that it's more boring, especially if they are not particularly ambitious and only worked before children to make ends meet.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 08:50 PM
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Dynamic, intelligent, charismatic, looks after their bodies, driven, ambitious, hard working, funny, charming.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 05:25 PM
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Most people don't follow the beat of their own drum. If they did none of us would be here. People evolved to have a sheep mentality. Western women are simply behaving how they see other women behave and following suit. It used to be that being bitchy, gossiping and creating drama was shameful. Women didn't want to be 'that girl'. Now being a bitch is publicly praised. Women tend to follow this sheep mentality even more so than men and to play it safe. Whatever they see is popular they pick it up…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 05:23 PM
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Your ex boyfriend sounds nothing short of completely crazy. I think you had a lucky escape. Yeah, I think men worry about women being materialistic, but not to the point where they feel the need to play games over it, more to the point where they want the woman to be emotionally invested in them and not just what they can provide financially. I don't think your boyfriend was a well adjusted guy. I am sure that most men would agree that his behavior is not normal.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 05:18 PM
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Overall I think this woman has a lot to be grateful for. She is very fortunate to be dynamic and intelligent and to be able to be self made with so much money. I think gratitude in itself and realizing just how fortunate one is reflects in one's persona. It's unfortunate that her husband had an affair but this happens to a lot of women, many who are a lot worse off than she is and end up staying with their husbands because they would be destitute otherwise. I think your friend takes her wealth a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 05:08 PM
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I think that most women have an inborn tendency to gossip, however, this generation encourages it rather than telling women to be considerate and courteous and to try and curb that desire. Housewives don't have to worry about losing their job if they misbehave. They have no boss to answer to and husbands don't have authority over their wives any more and women who cause trouble and drama are no longer shamed. It's probably not the case that they are all bored. If you stay at home there is often …
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 10:42 AM
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I think these men are putting you on a pedestal. You need to stop going for that type of guy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 05:53 PM
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"It doesn't matter what she looks like, as long as she can cook, clean and is fertile and reasonably intelligent." My husband. He's admitted to me that he finds most women attractive enough to go on a date with. He says he doesn't have any major preferences for body type. He says as long as they are younger than 50 (he's in his early 30s) they generally pass the boner test unless there is something extremely abnormal about their physical appearance. He says shared life goals are the most importa…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 05:29 PM
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she is seeking advice concerning their relationship, and there are 2 people in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 04:41 PM
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That's not necessarily true. Men's value rises over time if they put vast improvement into themselves. This philosophy only applies in a subset of high achieving men. The average guy is just going to get old, the majority of men are not Richard Branson or Donald Trump. It takes a pretty exceptional guy to have high SMV at 45 to be able to compete with attractive successful men in their 30s. Married men can also leave at any time they like. It's not like there is a written rule holding married me…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 03:46 PM
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Yeah sure, but it takes two people to make or break a relationship. You can improve your own behavior, but if your partner's is bad, there isn't much more you can do once you have played your part. Another thing, sometimes altering our actions according to the situation and our partners difficulties helps.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 03:22 PM
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Whether you think someone is being true to themselves or not, you still need to humble yourself respect their choice unless you are OK with conflict. People often don't like being told they are wrong. Maybe the OPs sister is unhappy, maybe she is jealous, but you know what? It's her choice. If the OP even passively tries to push her views on her sister like that it could only create more conflict. Maybe that could be what is already causing conflict. I think people need to see things for themsel…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 01:38 PM
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Have you tried standing up to her straight? Tell her that she needs to just accept that you have made different choices to her, that you are an adult and so is she, and it's not up to either of you to police one another. Tell her even if you don't agree with the choices that she makes, you respect them and that you expect the same in return. I would also like to say that what you do in your personal life is none of her business, same vice versa with what she does with hers. Unless one of you ask…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 01:24 PM
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The majority of women are not interested in kink, particularly not extreme kink. Personally I would rather my man be 'boring' and I have found a man who I am sexually compatible with. I have ended many a relationship because the man is just too filthy for my liking. That is up to him and it's within his rights to find a woman is genuinely happy to accommodate his interests but this never-ending pressure on women to enjoy kink has to stop. If someone doesn't like it don't push it, end of story. I…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 01:03 PM
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I think your husband has a porn problem If he can no longer get turned on by normal things that couples do and he has to watch tentacle rape in order to get off then that's not healthy. I have noticed that this effects a lot of men. Vanilla sex just doesn't cut it for them anymore and they are only turned on by oddity or kink. Your husband needs to cut the porn out of his life if it's effecting him like this. However he has to see it as a problem, and he has to want to do something about it. You…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 12:52 PM
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Looking at your post you haven't really said much about this guy, what problems you are currently facing and what his individual qualities are and what part he plays in your conflicts.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 12:48 PM
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I think no matter how you raise your children you can't guarantee that they will turn out how you expected them to be. They will run into outside influences and sometimes all it takes is for them to run into a particular crowd and everything you taught them goes out the window. Of course upbringing and genetics play a big part, but they are not the whole story. This is why I don't automatically judge parents of bad kids. Sometimes they intend to do what they think is best but the kid still goes …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 12:07 PM
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I think physical attraction is important. Saying that people of both genders do have varied standards of what they personally find attractive. One man might find a woman attractive still if she weighs over 200lbs, whereas another would be disgusted, one woman might not like bald men with dad bod and find it repulsive, whereas another really won't mind and might even find it cute. Some people only find certain hair colors, races and body types attractive. If a man being conventionally attractive …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 11:52 AM
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I think every woman who is single is single by their own doing. It's fairly easy to find a man. There is no man shortage. You don't have to be young or physically attractive to find a man, you just have to have realistic standards. There are plenty of ordinary sensible guys married and partnered with less attractive women. Just look around you. I think women as a whole have it far easier than men. Men are the ones who always end up having to prove themselves, all women have to do is be available…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 09:03 AM
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Not every woman can get a high value man and not every man can get a high value woman and not everyone wants to put that level of effort into themselves. I think this should actually be made clearer in this sub, work with what you have and don't stress over what you don't have, and if you are not willing to put the effort in then don't complain about it. Me and my husband cannot really be described as high value either. However, we fit well together. I am more attracted to the traditionalist and…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 08:45 AM
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the man is offering, then why would he get salty if a woman accepts? Asking for things is one thing, taking offers is another. However it's a fast rule never to accept offers for men you are not interested, as that could have dangerous implications.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 07:45 PM
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People need to be realistic about who it is they can pursue. Not everyone can be near the top even with effort and people need to work with and make the best of what they have.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 07:22 PM
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I am 30 now. I have noticed a huge shaming and health and safety culture that never used to be there when I was growing up. Parenting has really changed, and not for the better. Parenting used to be a lot more relaxed. I remember having all sorts of adventures as a kid in the 1990s, and I remember when it wasn't scandalous to give a child the occasional bag of Cheetos and some coca cola. In fact when we had a school party that was what we had there, now those sorts of treats are banned from many…
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 11:47 PM
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I just remember that it's not completely my fault. I was mislead, just as most women are. I believed the popular narrative, and unless you are lucky enough to have red pilled parents, then that's usually the case for most of us. I forgive myself and the people around me and I move on. I think it's important to remember that most people are generally impressionable. There was no time in the past where people were more intelligent, it's just that nowadays the popular mainstream narrative happens t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 11:02 PM
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I don't like it. I think it's embarrassing and pathetic.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 10:57 PM
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I think it's important to understand that life in itself just isn't fair, and people are not always particularly nice. Anything you think people are not capable of because it's too depraved, there is always someone doing it somewhere in the world. People are generally selfish. Even so called selfless acts are selfish, because people usually do good deeds for something in return, or for a feeling of validation. People give to society to get something in return, everything you do is subconsciously…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 10:55 PM
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My husband won't eat home cooked food. He controls the groceries and all the purchases. We go to the supermarket as a family a few times a week and everything I buy has to go through him first. He only likes eating convenience food and we have different food tastes and he's very picky. He says there is no point spending hours cooking when you can throw something in the microwave or something frozen in the oven. We never eat the same things because our food tastes are completely different and our…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 12:31 AM
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I think if someone is unconscious then it's rape. Someone can be drunk but concious enough to consent. Yeah, I agree that we should encourage people to be careful and protect themselves from crimes, but the victim being reckless shouldnt stop the criminal from facing the full extent of the law.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 12:17 AM
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My husband doesn't notice. I remember when I was very sick when pregnant with our first and i barely cleaned for weeks apart from doing the dishes and vacuuming occasionally and the apartment we lived in at the time got really horrible. He was never in the least bit bothered, in fact when I mentioned to him that I hated not being able to clean he said that the place was clean when it clearly wasn't. I also remember when he bought the induction cooker back from his mom's house, and I started wipi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 11:59 PM
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I'm not overly anxious about that stuff. I simply just do what needs doing. I do all the housework. I clean up as I go along mostly and if something looks untidy I fix it. If something needs going to I will go to it. I try not to stress about things. As for food I don't actually cook for my husband. He is a very picky eater and mostly just likes convenience food and sweets. He tells me that cooking from scratch is a waste of time. He lives on ready meals and McDonald's through his own choice. He…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 09:33 PM
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If companies pay maternity leave than what can we expect? People are always going to take advantage of an opportunity like that. You get the benefits of said job without having to attend. Most people are not martyrs, if you offer them an opportunity they will take it whether it's the 'decent' thing to do or not. Look at mass immigration as an example, I am sure that if you were in their situation, you would do the same. Human nature is lazy and opportunistic. Blame the government.
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 08:59 PM
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Women in the Navy and military are generally not in physical labor roles as it is.
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 08:54 PM
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I think you need to explain to him that this is putting stress on you and you fear for his personal safety. Tell him that it's not just himself he has to worry about if his house burns down or if he has another dangerous accident. If he's waking at 5am and coming home at 11pm then he's probably sleep deprived. People who don't get enough sleep set themselves up for disaster. There is nothing you can really do beyond reminding him this. You can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 08:44 PM
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It's very fraustrating being ill. I had hyperemesis with my kids, and I was unable to cope with life for the first 4 months of each of my pregnancies. I also had flu the other day, and every time I have been unwell people haven't been that understanding. The best thing I have found is to be assertive with people. Don't allow them to underestimate your experience and to try and pressure you to act well. Stand your ground. Just because they don't feel it or see it, doesn't mean it's not there and …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 08:32 PM
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You need to get out and meet more people. You have become fixated on this one guy because you haven't met any more you like. You sound very new to dating. I think you need to protect yourself more. Don't get too attached to guys before anything develops and don't read into it too much when guys are friendly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 02:24 AM
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Yeah I know how important they are. I have taken the time to learn about them, and I found out some very interesting facts, i think there are like 20 identified species in the whole world with dangerous or potentially dangerous venom. however I still find them kind of creepy. I usually leave house spiders alone funnily enough. They tend to disappear shortly after appearing and I have never had one crawl anywhere near me. I also worry about cockroaches and other pests and I'm aware that spiders e…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 07:48 PM
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How about going double barrelled? Does that appeal to you at all? It's kind of like a compromise. You get to take his name but you still get to keep and use yours.
/r/RedPillWives01/03/17 05:12 AM
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At the end of the day it's all up to you and your husband. I think what other people need to do is mind their own business. If you ask me people have too many opinions about others personal lives.
/r/RedPillWives01/03/17 05:11 AM
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The state I live in doesn't have too many dangerous spiders, either, but for some reason I just hate them. They totally creep me out and make my skin crawl. The same with all bugs with the exception of moths and butterflies. I can even catch a moth or a butterfly in my hand and not be afraid of it, but with anything else I just do not want to know at all.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 04:57 AM
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If it bothers you then maybe it's better if he keeps it from you and does it totally in private. Out of site and out of mind. I am sure you don't watch each other every time one of you has to go to the bathroom? I am sure you keep that stuff private at least some of the time. Think of his porn in the same way. If it were me and I felt this way I would ask my husband to make efforts to keep it private from me and I would forget the whole issue ever existed.
/r/RedPillWives01/03/17 04:53 AM
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This is going to be controversial, but does he really need to know? Is there any way you still have contact with all these guys you did things with? If it's a possibility I personally would just carry on with my life like it never happened. I have had a few traumatic things happen to me in my life, and i simply just don't allow myself to think about them. I drown them out whenever thoughts try and pop into my head and I remind myself this is here and now and that the past can literally be erased…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 04:36 AM
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I admire anyone who can keep a garden or keep plants. All I have to do is see a spider and I want to throw up. I have a garden but I am afraid to even hang washing out in it for fear of spiders.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 04:27 AM
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I'm a fairly big white woman but I like smaller asian men the most. I have dated white men, my first serious boyfriend was white with blonde hair and blue eyes. I was with him for a few years and I never felt that deep attraction for him that I do for my husband. I am way more attracted to my husband who is a small Vietnamese man. Personality wise I like men to be masculine but not too aggressive. I don't actually like men who are really macho or too exciting. I don't exactly like men to be wimp…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 04:16 AM
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Yeah it was. It started coming out on its own and the inside of my lady parts felt strange and unbearably itchy. I just needed to get the thing out. I found out it contained nickel and I am allergic to nickel.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 03:45 AM
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Yeah I can relate. I have always been a bit on the heavier side, and I have had a never-ending stream of guys wanting to feed me and some even wanting to make me fatter. I don't want to be fatter than I already am and I want to focus on being healthy but I have had relationships with men who discouraged that. I am also very top heavy, and men have made that such a focus before in the past. I don't mind someone finding something attractive about me, but when it becomes the focus of the relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 03:44 AM
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I don't personally judge the masculinity of a man based on his body type. We don't live in a day and age where we are being chased around by bears and where men need to go out and kill anymore. I prefer a man to be a good provider and to be level headed, that's the kind of masculinity we need in a civilised society. A man or woman who is truly secure in their masculinity or feminity wouldn't usually be too bothered about their partners height or size in relation to whether or not they can take c…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 07:50 PM
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sometimes sleeping in separate beds is the best solution. My husband doesn't always sleep in bed with me. Sometimes he has to work early and the baby wakes a lot throughout the night and needs reassurance. I also get up to pee several times throughout the night and this often disturbs his sleep. It's often better for him just to be in the spare room. Doesn't mean we don't manage to find the time to be intimate, sleeping in the same bed just isn't always practical. I don't think you should be bla…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 05:22 PM
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I had one in my late teens, led to me to some research and I got it taken out. I had a nickel allergy and i am sensitive to metals in general and it was irritating me. I agree about the insertion. They tell you it's going to be a little uncomfortable and thats a complete understatement.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 04:54 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 04:52 PM
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I just want to warn people that non hormonal IUDs are very risky. They can cause copper toxicity which has even killed some women. They are also not an option for women who are allergic to nickel and they can cause ectopic pregnancy and pelvic inflammatory disease.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 02:23 AM
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I think I can see what the problem is here. You are an intelligent, ambitious and dynamic woman. You are physically attractive and you had a pretty good upbringing. Women almost always want a man who they see as above themselves. No matter how successful a woman is, she usually doesn't want an equal relationship, she wants her man to be the higher power, the one who leads and the one she looks up to. Not that there is anything wrong with a successful and independent woman, it just limits your op…
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 10:58 PM
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I'm not sure about interactions with different medications and side effects, you will have to look into that. I can see you are between a rock and a hard place and it sounds like it's the medications you are on.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 09:28 PM
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If it hurts your stomach ulcers then you may want to be concerned, have you spoken to a doctor about this? Do you know if this is safe advice to be giving out to people?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 04:36 PM
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It's probably your medication and/or birth control that is making you feel this way.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 04:14 PM
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I tend to stay away from women's magazines, or any sort of mainstream media aimed mainly at women, and that includes soaps, reality TV, celebrity gossip and talk shows. I think these things pollute women's brains and prevent them from being able to think for themselves. They also prey on women's desire for gossip and drama, and I don't personally think it's healthy to indulge in these things. I think women are inclined naturally to be a little nosy, and me being aware of this makes me able to ta…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 01:33 AM
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We met online. He is the breadwinner.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 01:17 AM
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I would tell him you don't like it. I would personally question the future of my relationship if this causes any serious disputes. It's not right to get with someone in the hope that you can change them and make them enjoy things that they don't enjoy. That would be like me trying to force my husband to enjoy my metal music, when in fact he likes the pop charts. I can't stand the pop charts, but my husband loves it. He also likes mindless action movies, and I find them really boring. Like what I…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 01:11 AM
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But then if that really were the case he would be better off finding someone with a body he likes to begin with, rather than getting with a woman and trying to change the way she looks.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 01:02 AM
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Although I have personally never been interested in a career myself, I can totally understand why in this day and age a woman would want her own income. Marriage forever isn't absolute anymore. A lot of men also expect a woman to be formally educated at least. 24 is still very young. If you focus on your studies from 20-24 then I don't see a problem. It depends what type of person you are, do you think you can date and focus on your studies? If you can do both that's also an idea, the more time …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 11:42 PM
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I think it's highly personal. I believe very strongly in traditional gender roles. I would be turned off by a man who didn't pay, but that's me. Some women are more career oriented and prefer to support themselves. I have never really been ambitious or made more or nearly as much as the men I have dated when I was single. I have never had a man expect me to pay on a date.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 11:36 PM
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It's probably easier said than done but you need to stop enabling him. If you continue to enable him eventually you could lose respect for him and you will feel like his mommy. Been there done that. I spent 5 years in my early to mid 20s with a man who just couldn't manage money and couldn't hold down a job. He was much worse than your fiance. He couldn't even hold down a low paid job, letalone make six figures, but the principal was the same, he couldn't handle money and he would blow whatever …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 10:28 PM
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At 36 you don't really have long to wait to have a baby. It sounds to me from this post that you want more from him and he won't deliver. Can you really accept this or are you just trying to reassure yourself that you can? It sounds like you have fallen hard for this man and you have been together obviously for a very long time. Yeah sure you have gone along with everything he wants, but is this what you want? Are you prepared to be childfree and unmarried for the rest of your life just for him?…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 04:58 PM
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I know someone whose marriage broke up because the wife had a lazy daughter from a previous marriage and she wouldn't allow her husband to discipline her. It completely drove the couple apart. I think this is quite a serious issue. If you are a step parent then imo you have every right to discipline those kids. Your husband needs to allow that. You are an adult in the household and they are kids. They shouldn't question you like that and you need to set up some boundaries with them and punish th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 04:43 PM
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It seems to me like he's all talk. If he really wanted the relationship to end he would have done it by now. He may even be using at a threat so that he has leverage over you and he gets his way each time. It sounds to me like he has some emotional issues. If a disagreement about something as simple as hiking upsets him then he's probably not the stable man you think he is.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 04:30 PM
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What do you get out of the friendship? if being around someone makes you feel worse rather than better, then IMO having no friends at all is better than hanging out with that person. For me personally that's really the bottom line. I only bother with friendships that enrich my life somehow, and I would rather have very few good friends that I enjoyed my time with than people who left me feeling upset every time I spoke to them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 01:21 AM
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I think you should always remain skeptical of married men, however you are obviously not that experienced. I would say live and let learn. Don't expect any man to leave his wife, or his long term girlfriend for you. Unless you are happy to remain a side piece, or in a polygamous relationship, married men are not what you are looking for. This man obviously still loved his wife, and thought his marriage was worth saving. I say more power to them for working things out and keeping their family int…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 01:11 AM
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I think trying to remember why you broke up every time you miss your ex could be helpful for you. I remember leaving my first serious boyfriend. It was difficult, but reminding myself why it wasn't a good idea for us to remain together helped me get over it pretty quickly. It's easy to reminisce about the good times when you are missing someone, but next time remember the bad, something must have made it not worth holding onto in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 01:04 AM
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I think it's going to be tough to remain a virgin when entering relationships with a majority of today's men. Most women offer sex freely after several dates, people have pretty much come to have sex as an expectation when it comes to an exclusive romantic relationship. If it's really important to you then I can respect the fact that you have these convictions. I would be clear to men early on in the relationship that sex isn't on the cards until marriage. A lot of them are going to walk away, b…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 11:31 PM
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I hate hipster or 'problem' glasses as I have seen them referred to on the internet. I am talking specifically about those plastic horn rimmed ones that everyone under 60 with limited eyesight seems to be wearing and people who don't need glasses are even wearing them as a fashion statement. They look like something from a joke shop, and they are just so distracting. I wear glasses personally, but mine have a modest wire frame. I am not going to adhere to a trend that I don't like just to be the…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 11:03 PM
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I don't know if I fully agree with that. I think if someone has low self awareness, which seems to be an issue for a lot of women, this could be a very real possibility, but I think a lot of women could separate sex from their husband from sex with customers. I agree that most women are not cut out for sex work, however, but there are some that are.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 05:20 PM
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I think the point of it all is just to act naturally. A lot of women don't act naturally because they have been taught that women are an oppressed collective and they have a chip on their shoulder. A lot of this behavior is subconscious and takes time and research to become aware of. Just do and behave what feels right for you, stop justifying yourself and be true to yourself. All the cute clothing in the world won't cover up a woman who is insecure and has a subconscious desire to prove herself…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 05:15 PM
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I did a small amount of webcamming and online sex work myself. My husband was in on it also, and he was more enthusiastic about it than I was. I found I didn't have the charisma and people skills to continue and I didn't want to do most of what I was asked so I stopped and I didn't really make all that much. Sex work isn't easy like people think it is, it's a highly competitive business and you have to be a certain type of person to make it in that industry. If you won't do something filthy on c…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 05:06 PM
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Don't waste your time feeling sorry for him. He's made his choice and now it's best that you move on and find a man who has more to offer. He's not your problem any more.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 03:48 PM
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This is just a guess but it seems to me like things got too cozy for him and he backed away. He doesn't want to commit to a woman, he wants all the fun and pleasure of dating and a woman's time but with no strings attached. Move on, this man is wasting your time.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 03:03 PM
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Even if women were concscripted, they wouldn't end up in combat roles or doing any of the dangerous jobs. They would end up as nurses, cooks and cleaners.
/r/RedPillWives22/02/17 11:32 PM
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I really do love my husband and I am very attracted to him, so I guess no one loses out. I am probably more rpw in the fact that I believe somewhat in traditional gender roles and so does my husband. I will admit he's not typical captain material but he's one of the best guys I have ever met.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 02:28 AM
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Yeah I totally get that. I have tried and failed. He often asks me what to do in such situations and expects me to lead and when I don't know what to do he acts lost. I just don't think he's one of these alpha male types at all. He actually seems to like being ordered around somewhat when it comes to basic day to day things, although he decides all the big things like where we will live, and he controls the finances.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 02:20 AM
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Our relationship is very traditional in the sense that we both believe in traditional gender roles and that there are men's jobs and women's jobs within the home and family. My husband however is not a typical guy. He doesn't respond well to any sort of indirect behavior and i am actually the first woman he has successfully had a relationship with. He struggles socially also and has few friends. He doesn't seem to have much of an ego and he is extremely humble and can be very self deprecating.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 02:17 AM
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I always make sure that certain rooms are free of clutter. He doesn't seem to notice much when I move or rearrange things, and I have actually discreetly thrown a lot away. I do realize though that he's only going to accumulate more clutter as time goes on. I think my husband may be a little bit special in the fact that he is very opposite to a lot of men. He often responds positively when I take the superior role. This has something I personally have struggled with as I have expected him to lea…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:51 AM
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Yes I think so too. I think this is beyond my help. I will continue to discreetly throw things away but beyond that I don't think I have a whole lot of control over the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:41 AM
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Maybe my husband is a special case but I have actually noticed the complete opposite with him. He seems to respond really positively when I am completely direct and straightforward in my communication with him. I am quite a passive person and I like being lead so I have found this quite difficult at times. The way you suggested things was actually my original method of communicating, but it didn't seem to work with him. If I was the type to comfort or shit test I am sure he would fail every sing…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:31 AM
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The con Marie method is great. I might try and get him interested. Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:07 AM
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I can kind of understand the concept of an item having sentimental value, like for example, a man who keeps his old games console, or his old childhood bear, or a stamp album, that's something I get, although I don't get attached to objects myself whatsoever. I frequently declutter and I am somewhat of a minimalist. I think holding onto something of sentimental value or having a neat organized collection is different to hoarding, although I don't reasonate with those things myself.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:05 AM
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He might just be interested in a relationship. You never know until you let him take you on a date. There are pros and cons to dating older. Pros that he will be more mature and may be more commitment ready, cons are that when you are in your 30s he will be an old man and he will likely die years before you. You have to think about what it is that you want out of a relationship and what your biggest personal priorities are.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 03:25 PM
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Assuming he's a high value man he can have any woman he wants. He obviously chose to be with you over other girls. Weight and skin are pretty simple issues to fix, it's not like being too tall or having really wide hips or shoulders or massive feet or not liking your nose. Focus on improving the things that make you feel down.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 01:59 AM
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Your boyfriend must like you enough if he's having sex with you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 11:50 PM
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Maybe invite them to this sub. Tell them it's helped your relationship. Dating is generally hard for much older women in any case because most men who are their age or older are already married. The pool of eligible bachelors who are 50+ is quite small. My MIL is 59 and she is currently trying to find a partner. She is very picky and won't even talk to men who are bald. She looks her age.
/r/RedPillWomen
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I think you should just ignore then. It sounds to me like she wants a rise. I would blank her every time she brings up the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen
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If a woman is really attractive, then she will have access to the top 20% of men during her prime years, which she can lock down. The top 20% of men are more often than not taller than 5'7. The same can't be said for less attractive women, who can still get dates and proposals but not generally from the top 20%. I think your argument is more of an argument for women who want kids to hook a man early. If a woman is beautiful enough then she won't have a problem finding a tall decent looking guy, …
/r/RedPillWomen
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But then a lot of men have these preferences too. There are men who have preferences for things like height, body shape unrelated to weight and fitness, hair color, race, facial features. The same can be said for men being picky outside of a woman's health, hygiene and fitness. I think people are perfectly entitled to have these preferences.
/r/RedPillWomen
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What is it about his past that makes you fight? And what sorts of things do you get insecure about?
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