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FDS HUMORedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:07 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:59 PM
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STRATEGYedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:30 PM
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STAY WOKEedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:15 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:35 PM
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LIES MEN TELLedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:49 PM
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SCROTATION REPORT edwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 09:32 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:55 AM
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DISCUSSIONedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 07:04 PM
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LEVEL UPedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:37 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:52 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:51 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 01:04 AM
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LIES MEN TELLedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:32 PM
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edwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:01 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:58 PM
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DISCUSSIONedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:42 PM
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RANTedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 09:19 PM
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REMINDER 👑edwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:55 PM
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DISCUSSIONedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 09:50 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?edwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:10 PM
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LIES MEN TELLedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 11:05 AM
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BOOK REPORTedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 11:27 PM
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STRATEGYedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 01:28 PM
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BOOK REPORTedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:29 AM
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BOOK REPORTedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:37 PM
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NAH, SISedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:49 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEedwardianemerald/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:31 PM
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31

Celebrity culture is toxic and should generally be avoided. Very fake, lots of clickbait etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/22 10:48 AM
23

I stopped reading after the first red flag tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 12:21 PM
58

This has happened to me so. Many. Times. Most frequently in workplaces, despite all of the sexual harassment and related trainings. I've noticed many in the workplace (both men and women) are not used to being told NO and this causes crossed boundaries more often than not. I think because workplace culture values bossy, controlling people. I want all ladies of FDS to be aware of slander and libel because an interfering pickme can really cause havoc in the workplace. I've had female coworkers str…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 12:20 PM
32

Objectifying the female body this way is.....interesting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 12:13 PM
8

Wait why did you waste your time love bombing some random guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 12:13 PM
13

AND they still won't commit to her! Here's the dream girl, how about commitment? NOPE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:22 PM
9

I love your cockatiel!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:13 PM
8

SAME. As soon as I feel lonely, I think about how terrible/pathetic I was years ago, pining over some dumbass who did not care and I snap right out of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:13 PM
37

I thought this too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:11 PM
10

They are good for the advertising tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:09 PM
7

Girl same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:08 PM
7

I totally agree. People are having more sex than ever. Incels?? I don't think so....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:08 PM
14

100% dependent on external validation and have little to no conscience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:07 PM
33

100% !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:21 PM
52

100% Don't forget their tiny brains are even more fucked up from porn impact on dopamine receptors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:21 PM
163

OR that there is no dream girl, they hate their mothers and want to take out that hate for the rest of their lives OR that they get off on stringing women along OR that they can't commit and refuse to address this through therapy etc OR that they are homosexual on the DL and can't admit it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:55 PM
18

Err not stalking...maybe harassment but not stalking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 01:03 PM
38

Be glad they're over!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 12:59 PM
247

LVM / NVM see dating as a power struggle, not as a chance to maintain a lifelong connection of love and intimacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 12:58 PM
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Meh she seems super toxic to me. Joking about how she trapped him and stalked Ivy League grads. Celebrity culture is sooooooo toxic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 01:48 PM
104

Good, she should RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 06:05 PM
89

FDS Rules are written in blood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 12:25 PM
20

I love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 12:23 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 11:38 AM
3

Don't forget the alarming hours young men spend on porn! That pornsick look, can't miss it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 11:33 AM
1

Interesting, do the young men seem to need more discipline? Father figures? How would this be addressed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 11:31 AM
2

100%. We have no heroes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 11:30 AM
75

I can second this as a solid vetting strategy. Any man who complains about body hair is NOT GOOD in bed. Not worth it! Trust me ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 11:29 AM
100

Reminder that superheroes become popular when the general populace / society is failing: WWII (various economic depressions, millions dead): Superman comic Vietnam War (various economic recessions, unemployment, over a million dead, draft civic riots): Spiderman comic 9/11 (national tragedy): Spiderman film War in Iraq (millions dead): Ironman Etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 09:16 PM
6

Same! And they never have as many followers as the original, like...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:41 PM
6

That porn isn't going to watch itself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:40 PM
33

Looking up to celebrity culture shouldn't be done -- we have no idea the inner workings of Sofia and Joe's relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 12:29 PM
77

One of my exes did this and I told him it was weird and it made me uncomfortable. His response? "I was just being hoooooooooooonest!!" Nope, blocked and deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 12:28 PM
50

Remarkable how much software expertise goes into these dating apps, and the staff couldn't care less about privacy breaches, assaults etc. It's mind boggling to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 12:26 PM
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Second this. I have an ex who prioritized his friends over me at social functions and it was terrible, they were terrible people which made it worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 08:38 PM
46

YES. So weak! Standing one's ground is very different from being argumentative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 01:56 PM
41

Reminder that if you "argue" back they tell you you're difficult / aggressive etc . Don't take the bait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 01:55 PM
93

"You'd be soooo cute if you lost 20 pounds!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:10 PM
3

I think this is also an argument for people dating within their socioeconomic strata.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 07:08 PM
2

Always good to point out that time is precious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 07:01 PM
9

:D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 07:53 PM
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I always end up feeling bad for women like Cassie bc it's clear they have a lot to give and are just wasting all of that effort and time on moronic men who do. Not. Care. She clearly needs therapy. I recommend spending time outside of the room, maybe joining a yoga or meditation or nature class / group to get away. Be on your phone when you're around her to gray rock her more. Expand your network outside of / to not include Cassie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:35 PM
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Flourishing. Moisturized. Nourished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:02 PM
25

Woo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:57 PM
32

Not worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:57 PM
28

Oh man how do they not know they snore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:57 PM
66

Getting enough sleep is SO KEY to leading a healthy life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:57 PM
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Not always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:04 PM
14

I would stop giving them advice tbh they can get it from their husbands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:13 AM
-8

I actually don't mind this because it shows there isn't "a wall". 38 and pregnant baby!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:08 AM
84

They're pornsick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:07 AM
37

Good for you for dropping him. He was likely keeping you a part of "the rotation"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:06 AM
19

It seems to me there would be fewer issues with a HVM within your own race -- more commonalities etc? The HVM part is the key though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 10:32 PM
89

Why isn't he dating someone more on his level financially if this bothers him so much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 10:29 PM
102

Frankly the erasure of women is just par for the course in America these days. Thinking about all of the women who came before us who strived for EVERYTHING and yet Hulu / Netflix / Mainstream Media are stuck in the "women didn't work until feminism!!!" "Sex and the City!!" or "cool girls do drugs!!" storyteller wave. Women stood up against alcoholism which was ripping apart their families in the 1910s and 1920s -- they were lobbying before lobbying was even defined. "Mother Jones" is not just s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:44 PM
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Personally I have no hope. I think western society is too far gone to function in a healthy way anymore. BUT I do have hope for myself and my own path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:49 AM
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Hollywood is bad mmmk !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:47 AM
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BEAUTIFUL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:59 PM
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She can never be alone. Ever. He is an alcoholic and chooses to do nothing about it. The only HV person in this mess is Jennifer Garner (see: photos of her retaining normalcy for their children, not running to the press, driving drunkass Affleck to rehab) and she is staying far far away from this. Also reminder: Modern celebrity culture is toxic and not worth emulating or looking up to in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:58 PM
86

FUCKING PORNSICK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:00 PM
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Every man I've met who said he likes "strong woman" cannot handle disagreement in a healthy way. Every. Single. One -- Gaslighting, communication breakdown, triangulating, ghosting etc. So they don't like strong women. It's a lie. Additionally, every man who said he preferred submissive /feminine women had very strange views on monogamy or was just a straight-up cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:58 PM
2

100%. "gold chain and cocaine" LOL enjoy the decline broooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:47 PM
16

Downton Abbey Parks & Rec (the weird April / Andy / Ann stuff) House of Cards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:46 PM
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No. Men lie way more often than women do so if you're hearing everything great coming out of a man's mouth ("how can this be real?!" etc.) he's probably lying. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/science-proves-it-men-lie-more-than-women/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:44 PM
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It's not you. It's what years of pickup artistry rhetoric and porn consumption have done to modern men. Modern men are told now that women on OLD are for "pumping and dumping" only, for putting in the "spinning plate" rotation. There are thousands and thousands of podcasts, newsletters, twitter personalities, tiktok personalities, youtube personalities that schill this stuff. Add porn consumption on top of that toxicity which makes men see women as objects ONLY and you're doomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:41 PM
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Men hate us no matter what we do so we should just do whatever we want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:13 PM
14

You are welcome :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:51 PM
4

It's not just economic upswings, America endured a really rough time in the 1920s with starvation of children reaching a peak during the dust bowl and 1929 market crash. Men back then were more accustomed to consequences and understood the value of having a woman who could scrimp and save. Today, men don't care (bc porn addiction, drug addiction, social grooming etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 12:41 PM
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Great post! I love it. It's especially timely because there is a new theme in PUA / TRP these days where LVM / NVM advocate for wanting "feisty" women. What they really mean is they can turn around and say: this woman is argumentative this woman is aggressive this woman is troublesome this woman is a burden this woman is "too much" this woman loves to fight this woman talks too much this woman tries too hard Just walk away ladies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 12:36 PM
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What a piece of shit. STOP bringing these losers into polite society! Leave them in the garbage where they belong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 06:33 PM
23

Reminder that clipping coupons and home finance planning used to be very attractive to men in the 1950s and prior. Now men prefer sex appeal and peer pressure qualities to that cost saving ability and responsibility. So men today won't care if you save or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 06:32 PM
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The American federal government provides salaries 30% higher than the national average. So no, your argument doesn't work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 08:31 PM
8

Honestly, my guy friends have done as much if not more damage than guys I dated, because we often talk of abuse in dating contexts but not the guy friend who yells at you or triangulates you against his girlfriends for validation, or what that does to your self-esteem over many years. This is so key. Thank you for sharing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:54 PM
9

Ugh sooo much. I worked with a woman who had a great husband who would bring her coffee every morning, but she still lusted after younger men in the office. She would spread untrue office rumors to younger women which they would naively repeat and then be chastised for. She would threaten violence against other women if they disagreed with her, and then if they went to HR, she would take off "sick". If she was feeling particularly petty she would bring her knitting to meetings and knit instead o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 11:56 AM
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Disagree. The left also forces an agenda down people's throat and enshrines it in law. If you disagree with one aspect of the left, strong border security for example, you are called a racist, bigot etc etc. There is no room for doubt. There are wayyyy more lefties in government than rwingers, especially due to the nonprofit to government pipeline in the U.S. today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 11:45 AM
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They're supposed to be the more rational sex but they will spend DAYS on trying to play games with us. Like stunted bro says what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 11:42 AM
42

Oh I disagree --- many leftwing men push libfem toxicity like there's no tomorrow. They insist on women engaging in sex work, risky birth control, all while slobbering that eveRyThiNg iS eQuAL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:28 AM
10

Prayer is incredibly important, and faith. The faith in the beyond, in the universe, in destiny, in God....faith can be difficult but can also be very rewarding. Prayer is also nice. For anyone interested in Christianity, even meditating in a church alone can be helpful. Also reading sermons to determine what resonates before attending a service or mass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:26 AM
33

Just search Twitter for the top OF earners. They admit it in their tweets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:21 PM
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I associate the silent treatment with immaturity and mental issues, for men and women. Like you can't speak? Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:19 PM
13

I wish I had an award to give you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:14 PM
110

Great post. The top OF earners in the Pacific NW live in tents. Outdoors. Tents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:12 PM
15

Having female friends is so key.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:10 PM
18

"Cool girl" doesn't pay" that is the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:09 PM
6

Always keep an open mind about the future!! It will get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:09 PM
9

Very wise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:08 PM
21

It seems like there is a trend of professional settings breeding male friends who can stay in their lane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:08 PM
4

That's adorable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:08 PM
336

Red flags in male friendships: They turn every conversation sexual Violation of boundaries (especially physical boundaries) Way too interested in your relationships ​ Green flags in male friendships: Don't view you as an object Are generally helpful Healthy boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 08:40 PM
27

He also treated his house staff terribly too. Does that count to the naysayers??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 07:07 PM
35

Sorry but everytime I read your posts it's clear you aren't over your husband at all. I really encourage you to go through grief counseling. You mention your husband who passed was much older than you AND obese AND had mental issues A LOT and I really think you need to process that and grieve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 05:55 PM
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Reminder too that the widespread availability of porn has only increased its depravity. If you watch documentaries on prostitution in the 1990s, what prostitutes did was relatively tame compared to just DATING today. Even prostitutes in the 1990s wouldn't do anal. Today, anal is the "fun new thing you should try ladies!!!!" What did that? Porn and libfem did that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:41 PM
72

Men trip over themselves to tell women they "picked the wrong one" and they "pick bad dudes". You're scared to marry the wrong one bro? VET HARDER BRO maybe don't go just based on looks and think about substance too. Morons
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:28 PM
12

Think how stupid you would've been if you stayed! You aren't stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:16 PM
18

I am confused by this post. The woman pictured is disgusted that the man opened the door for her? what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 10:26 PM
21

Newsflash: Your husband is supposed to care about those things but you didn't marry a man, you married a moron
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:27 PM
2

Haha he's a dude but thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:05 PM
10

It was actually a dude haha but thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:05 PM
215

There are no more rites of passage to masculine adulthood in America. American men don't have to get jobs, work outdoors, provide for their families....this creates generations of overgrown children (whiners). American men don't know what it feels like to lose and they don't know what it feels like to win. So nothing ever feels "good enough" to them. Porn and media consumption (videogames etc) are attempts to fill this void but it's much deeper than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:04 PM
56

Mostly terrified looks, men losing all the blood in their face, standing up to see who said it. I don't know if it deterred any of the men? Potential FDS research mission? Lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 04:34 PM
15

Right! They want that attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 04:33 PM
18

The likelihood that he will choose his friendship with her over you is very present. Be wary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:18 PM
102

I have encountered men with sugar babies at bars before and I will stare at them, or smirk, or shake my head slightly and go back to whatever I'm doing. Half of the time they notice it and you can see them bristle. The other half, they're too pornsick to notice ANYTHING. I did have a friend who would go to strip clubs and shout "dad? Dad?!?!" which was hilarious but I don't recommend that haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:15 PM
5

Your older sister is a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:09 PM
4

Right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:09 PM
9

Case in point of how useless the FBI is, these messages are public and no one is investigating this?! There's no warrant out for this disgusting pedo's laptop?! Ummmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:08 PM
5

This puts into words what I have wanted to for so long. THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:51 AM
192

I don't believe it anymore when men say a woman is crazy. I just don't believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:25 PM
4

Agreed. These men are for the streets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:22 PM
4

Very wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:22 PM
32

Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 11:43 PM
61

THANK YOU yes! The insecurity magically is only around these horrible dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 11:42 PM
10

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 11:41 PM
103

Why doesn't he have mental gymnastics in his interests?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 09:03 PM
9

Seth Rogen is a drug addict so his messaging is just drug addicted nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:02 PM
13

Bc he hates her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:01 PM
21

Rumor is they're getting divorced this year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:01 PM
2

You're so right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:55 PM
77

Many such cases
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 09:05 PM
79

Can you imagine how this looks to their children??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 08:35 PM
87

I think it's social, not being held responsible for the consequences of their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 08:34 PM
181

All ego, no substance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:13 PM
38

They want affection SO BADLY and these men DO NOT CARE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:12 PM
45

I had a friend like this, especially the secretive stuff. I discovered she was VERY VERY insecure, had various mental issues including severe depression. I slow faded her and am happier for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:46 PM
15

"I onLy DrInK SocIaLly" "Check my IG / Snap"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:44 PM
143

Was it a Lambo and is she Malaysian
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:43 PM
163

The Utah state government declared porn a public health crisis a few years ago I believe. The media and "free speech (AKA porn) advocates" piled on them like there's no tomorrow. "Crazy Mormons" "religious fanatics" etc etc. Porn IS a public health crisis for men and women, full stop. Porn advocates extreme violence, unhealthy body standards and dangerous behavior. I was in a random work meeting and a man was sharing his screen. An image popped up of his chats with a young woman, where she was e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:42 PM
37

So true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:26 PM
8

Miranda Lambertttttt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 11:37 AM
138

And there's a five year age difference in their 20s!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 11:37 AM
16

Libfem "house husband" nonsense Porn fucking up men's dopamine receptors beyond repair so they're literally slaves to pixels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 11:33 AM
81

GREAT POST. Every man has "relationship material" standards set out in his head. Are these standards logical? No! So if you're beating yourself up because he hates that you don't act like his high school crush remember it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 11:30 AM
93

Who wants to bet that this horrible man chose her because he knew she had a crappy home life, he knew he would be able to manipulate her like this. He didn't choose her based on her but what he could do to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:59 PM
20

Out of curiosity, does the camming replace a stable income (with health insurance, benefits etc.) at all? I have read that it is no replacement financially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 04:08 PM
9

Hahaha right guys back me up here hahahha porn porn porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:00 PM
4

Sorry boy, you're a total moron!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:58 PM
84

100% . This deluded evil man spouts about how "sweethearts" will bring a lot of "JOY" to his life -- so why not commit to them "cowboy"? What's the problem here, you don't want joy in your life? Dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:53 PM
7

You COULD report them for spam, remind them that they're never going to get married / are overweight / broke but in the end it is a waste of time. Muting /blocking them to get that negativity off your feed is effective imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:03 PM
12

Great post. I love this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:58 PM
4

You never know tbh, many immigrants in the anglophone world have very different cultural standards. I'm consistently shocked at the domestic violence in Hispanic households vs non-Hispanic households today in the west
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:58 PM
2

Bravo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:56 PM
35

Like maybe addressing WHY porn is so widespread in the first place? You know, treat the cause and not the symptom??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:49 PM
47

Rich but playing video games daily? That won't last. What a shame. Good for you for getting out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 06:29 PM
14

Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 02:51 PM
244

What did this guy have going for him? Was he nice in the beginning? Does he look like Brad Pitt?!?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 02:49 PM
18

Islamic communities still participate in vaginal surgeries ("FGM"). Michigan has had a few cases over this: https://www.nbcnews.com/news/crime-courts/judge-dismisses-charges-tied-michigan-female-genital-mutilation-case-n1280350
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 02:02 PM
34

Reminds me of the song Kerosene by Miranda Lambert - "I'm giving up on love cause love's given up on me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:59 PM
58

RBF will save you in dangerous public situations --- evil men will not want to mess with you if you look like you're ready to call the cops at the drop of a hat. I think RBF is valuable to women. Also don't forget, if you look friendly / approachable, LVM / NVM read that as "being easy". So this can be a no win scenario
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:58 PM
184

The Hollywood that ran interference for Harvey Weinstein for YEARS hates women?? Color me shocked! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:56 PM
234

Men are simple creatures --- if you don't look like their pornsick fantasy, act like Becky who ghosted them in 6th grade, speak like their mother AND cook like their favorite fast-food restaurant then they will berate you and treat you like shit! Simple right?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:13 PM
14

The "good old boys" point is right on, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:07 PM
3

Right but Kim Kardashian is not a good example for you or any woman to look up to -- she encourages dangerous activity for women (extreme plastic surgery, porn)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:05 PM
6

It's almost like The Portrait of Dorian Gray -- when men treat women like objects, like they're not even people, the men start to look like monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:04 PM
16

While I agree with the message, I don't think Kim Kardashian is a HVW. She got famous because of a sex tape which encouraged other women to try to do the same. She is deeply unhappy with her appearance and her plastic surgery looks dangerous. Other role models to look to: Melinda Gates, who helped Bill Gates make billions but was very put off by his friendship with Jeffrey Epstein and voiced it several times before their divorce. She stands by her statements. Mackenzie Scott, who helped Jeff Bez…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:30 PM
18

How much could one banana cost Michael
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:27 PM
1

LVM/ NVM men insist on naivete in women for just this reason. They don't truly like it when women are naiive -- they just like the power and control it brings. If they liked innocence and naivete and obliviousness so much, do they marry these women in their lives? Hell no! They just enjoy that it's easier to control. Great post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:25 PM
1

There are multiple articles about how Zelensky pushed through prostitution legislature and pro drug legislature for Ukraine, as well as his dubious role in the 2014 Ukraine election.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:17 PM
5

He pushed through prostitution legislature and is pro drugs. He considers Las Vegas to be an ideal American city. So I say....no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:16 PM
6

I believe it was covered by author Dan T. Carter in his research on Birmingham
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:16 PM
1

Good for you! People change jobs all the time, there shouldn't be a taboo about it at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:23 PM
15

Performative niceness! I love that term, thank you. It sounds like your job would let you take the lead on things with not a lot of pushback and you should take advantage of that. That way at least they're talking about your awesome new project and not petty gossip (petty gossip seems to exist everywhere and is so grating and almost impossible to eradicate unfortunately)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 10:16 PM
31

Wonderful! An OLD success story, it truly is rare. How did you manage to avoid OLD fatigue? Would you take breaks? Did you meet him relatively quickly? I would love a post on OLD success...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 10:13 PM
238

This can be true even before meeting, during messaging. If something seems off it probably is and it's best to cut him loose early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 07:26 PM
109

Great post. Niceness is very different from kindness. Niceness is a social veneer, it's largely meaningless today. Who really cares about being nice? As soon as a dumbass harps on "you're not being nice", realize that what they're saying is meaningless. Kindness on the other hand is much thicker - it requires someone to look inside themselves and realize what they can and cannot give to others. Kindness is much more valuable than niceness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 07:23 PM
5

And then they can't differentiate reality from their made up bizarro world and fade into nothingness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 07:18 PM
24

A lot of men HATE women. HATE them. Sure they enjoy the physical aspect but underneath, they hate everything women are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:21 PM
50

Every single porn platform has benefitted from r@pe, sexual assault, human trafficking, sexual trafficking, coercion, blackmail -- porn is toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:36 PM
165

THIS. Every traditional and conservative society had severe expectations and some sort of sacrificial expectation -- you sacrifice for your children, wife, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:34 PM
20

Proof that LVM / NVM don't understand loyalty, faith, support in relationships....AKA things successful men can see from a mile away!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:20 PM
1

Wonderful film. And she later ended up marrying one of the characters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:29 PM
4

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 01:51 PM
16

"When you look back at what’s behind you, the only thing you should be seeing is your healthy, happy ass!" Can I get this on a tshirt! Amazing post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 01:50 PM
100

Reminder that untreated UTIs / yeast infections can lead to scarring which can lead to infertility. Any dumbass that's like "oh they're NBD" should be kicked to the curb immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:06 PM
63

Great post. I admit to rolling my eyes over Porizkova's "I'm poor now" statements. She could have consulted a lawyer at any time during her marriage. She could have opened her own bank account. She could have pursued a degree or career with all of her entertainment connections, fashion connections. She could have made a mental note of items in the home and what she wanted to keep/sell etc. Just because she was pretty and well-spoken does not mean she wasn't incredibly deluded for the DECADES of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:01 PM
299

Cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:53 PM
43

You ARE loved. Your family, your friend group, even your coworkers probably love you in some small way (she always writes her emails professionally and clearly, I love her!)! There are many different kinds of love. Just because you're still working on yourself doesn't mean you'll never be loved! Also, you can always be a light to others. Volunteering is a great way to shed light and remind yourself that yes, everyone deserves some love in this world. It may not be for everyone but tapping into y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:52 PM
45

Agreed. I've also noticed many in the medical field get into it for the pReStiGe / social climbing aspect. They don't have any empathy in what was meant to be the most empathetic field....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:40 PM
64

This has been discussed before (just search in the search bar) but pop culture has very very few HV characters. Hollywood generally hates women (see the Harvey Weinstein scandal etc.) I suggest you watch older films and not such mainstream stuff: Call The Midwife Buster Keaton films Period Dramas (Sense & Sensibility, Pride & Prejudice, Persuasion, etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:28 PM
17

Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:21 PM
17

It also doesn't mean submissive when they use it. They mean has no emotions, has no opinions, has no intellect, no nothing, just a shell of a person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:08 PM
37

Who is this Chad? Is he in the room right now? Does he visit you in your dreams? Like dude GO TO THERAPY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:04 PM
67

And speaks way too well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:08 PM
179

Watch her get pregnant and this fool will have a meltdown. And he will 100% deserve it! Should've vetted better bro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:07 PM
260

I will never understand why Tinder hasn't been taken down by various justice departments for aiding sex trafficking, human trafficking and rape. Tinder KNOWS it does this, it can't plead ignorance....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:53 PM
25

Most likely spam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:27 PM
3

It's such a modern American thing imo: talk a big game, don't do shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:27 PM
28

THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:45 PM
119

It's very interesting because many manosphere commenters have said about the Ukrainian response: "this is what toxic masculinity looks like! Take note feminists!" yet go back to scrolling through porn, being obese, being financially dependent on their parents etc. There is footage of Ukrainian men being taken away from their wives, girlfriends, families to fight....these men have something to fight for in their home country partly because of their *relationships with women*. So the manosphere ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:44 PM
32

Yep yesterday it was the most searched term on pornhub etc it might've changed today but I doubt it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:40 PM
31

Liberal feminism is totally lost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:17 PM
42

I agree. Feminism got a huge boost from women (who owned property and paid taxes) wanting the right to vote which is a far cry from women being sent into warzones. Let's not forget that war is bad (for all sides) and currently in the States nothing more than a flex by the military industrial complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:16 PM
7

Makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:40 AM
27

Love this explanation. Their lazy lifestyles, poor diets lead to their bodies just not looking like men and we're supposed to be ok with it....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:40 AM
6

100% !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:39 AM
13

I think they're bad at sex. They can't be good at it, if that's their mentality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:38 AM
61

To be fair, various bills have been introduced where women would be drafted alongside men, in the United States. None have passed but there is support among men and women for that kind of thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:37 AM
258

Reminder that the current top searched term on porn sites is "Ukrainian girl". Not woman. Girl. In this time of uncertainty, men are concerned about their dicks. Not their communities. Not the safety of their families. Also, as a sidenote, I don't think there is such a thing as a third world country. Parts of San Francisco and New York City are "third world" now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:37 AM
113

I do think love for a woman's body is "all or nothing" -- he either loves it ALL or NOT AT ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:22 AM
31

Supposedly Elvis was like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:22 AM
44

Correct!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:21 AM
78

Horrific, women have literally no control over those attributes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:21 AM
74

Haha no you're right! They're too pornsick to function as men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:19 AM
108

Yes. I dated a man who was beyond disgusted at the idea of childbirth and I later found out he would send thirst traps to *other men*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:19 AM
24

Knew it. Happy Cake Day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:18 AM
103

PLUS the term "feminist" is almost worthless these days. Which wave of feminism? Liberal feminism is a cesspit. We should be vetting all men, who cares about what label they give themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:48 PM
428

I have a random theory that men who are squeamish about women's natural bodies (including body hair) are bad in bed. Any confirmation on this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:24 PM
202

She had HIS CHILDREN. She ensured his legacy and this is how he treats her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:44 PM
382

Don't forget the western men salivating over Ukrainian refugee women and asking when they can have their state sanctioned Ukrainian gfs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:43 PM
41

He should've paid more attention and vetted her better if this was so important to him. I now am putting the onus of every single thing on men, just as they do to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 05:01 PM
9

Added, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:57 PM
71

Reminder, if you have interests and express them, LVM / NVM will be weird about it. Either they want to harness those interests for their own use or they don't care and will hate you for being an interesting, well-rounded person. Hopefully you can have a fun time without this loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:15 AM
16

It's amazing you could make a game of it because they are ALWAYS THE SAME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:14 AM
18

Added, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:14 AM
11

Added, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:13 AM
19

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:07 AM
79

Porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:29 AM
44

Great points! Future faking is a HUGE one. They know what we want but refuse to give it and would rather waste their time playing games. Weak AF. In addition to RSD, I'd like to add: MGTOW, WAATGM, TRP, BAP for more of their communities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:10 AM
74

Yes! Physical invasion. Violating all of your physical boundaries in an attempt to normalize this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:08 AM
82

Exactly. They are boundary pushing to see if you'll be into weird sex stuff later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:07 AM
48

THANK YOU for the definition!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:06 AM
137

I'm glad you like it! Your post reminded me of something I forgot...FRAME. Did the manual mention it? Frame is basically men being stubborn to the point of lunacy. You could be God's gift to him, but because you don't want to be compared to other women, because you responded badly to his sad attempts to manipulate you, he thinks he has to treat you with NO empathy, NO kindness. Men grip to this thing called "frame" to impress other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 11:13 PM
2

Isn't this a dude who is going to abuse more women?? OLD: BAAAH !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 11:10 PM
25

Not Shown: Morons asking for nudes within the first 5 minutes Poly morons Morons who should be on a fetish website instead of OLD Abusers that have been repeatedly reported but OLD staff don't do anything about Men outside of your age, location range Married morons Morons using 5 year old photos Morons not over their exes thinking OLD will make her JeaLouS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:11 PM
16

MeN WaNt NiCE WoMeN yea to take for granted and use like objects pffft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:06 PM
1

Don't forget they don't brush their teeth because of thE fLuOriDe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:03 PM
2

A lot them are actually homosexual on the DL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:02 PM
15

And they say women are the shallow ones! Good that you're away from such weakness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:58 PM
3

It's amazing to me that OLD staff let abusers BACK ON. Like WTF are you thinking?! If a woman goes through your process to report, don't let him back on to abuse other women wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:54 PM
2

Better than the majority of Hollywood today, love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:49 PM
6

Same. Better than Hollywood CGI garbage imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:47 PM
118

Yes, he argued with me about economics despite me saying it wasn't my field. When I voiced my opinion he interrupted me and *laughed at me*. I paid half the dinner bill in case he did something insane or would claim I robbed him/ some typical fuckboy shit and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:45 PM
24

They usually follow the same pick-up artist "PUA" handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:44 PM
28

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:43 PM
47

Men realize this radicalizes us, right? Right? Who wouldn't be radicalized after this shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:42 PM
4

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:41 PM
5

YES I agree. Like men should want women looking healthy, not like a plastic doll ---- I really like how in the American south "she looks healthy" is code for "she looks sexy AF"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 09:17 PM
143

No they don't think you're cool --- they think you're a slut, this woman needs to wake up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 09:16 PM
60

They say that to bring the conversation back onto themselves. So you can ask "oh how much do you lift". It's 100% selfishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:55 PM
6

AGREED. Plus you never know if you don't push back, one man painted my nails after I told him I wasn't going to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:56 PM
18

It's "wary". "Weary" is to be incredibly tired
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:52 PM
15

"muh porn stash" "muh ego" "muh mommy bangmaid complex"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:00 PM
12

Remarkable what the fear of consequences can do to men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:59 PM
11

Thank you! I'm flattered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:59 PM
71

Yes! Plus if you aren't into that kind of thing, don't have a particularly expensive style, etc. men will hate you for that too. "You don't EVEN try!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:58 PM
173

Yes, very common. Those who cannot create, destroy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:57 PM
7

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:39 PM
552

"We both clicked instantly" AKA he said whatever he needed to do to get in the pants of a girl 9 years younger than him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:54 PM
171

This happened to me too. I told him to buy me a new wardrobe if it was so important and it was the last time he said shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:37 PM
119

I imagine this moron being like "umm ahhhh ok but couldn't you have packed some hairspray with the bug spray? Falsies? French tips?!?" Who are these fools?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:36 PM
150

So true! The number one way I vet my girlfriends is mentioned in your post. I determine if they are happy when I'm happy. If they are, they're golden. If I start to hear nitpicking, doubts, shaming --- nope! Get out of my circle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:35 PM
194

"muh dick" BORING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:26 PM
442

IF you match their energy and don't show up dressed to the 9s for the low-effort date, they hold it against you too. "Why didn't you look cute?!?!" Bro for what, for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 03:49 PM
51

SAME this guy put engineer on his profile and he installed....closets. That was it. Just closets. Couldn't do CAD or anything like that. We never got past chatting. And I wish his job title was "closet engineer" that would've been great haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:03 PM
28

I have experienced this. When you start noticing this dynamic happening with a dude, saying "if you prefer other women, that is up to you, and I'm out" has worked wonders. There is no use twisting yourself into a pretzel for these dudes bc you know with a little bit of effort it could work -- you retain your dignity, give yourself a wide avenue to walk away, and let the morons know it is 100% their fault for not stepping up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:58 PM
31

Haha thanks, I got it from Downton Abbey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:58 PM
112

I love being angry. Either a woman is a dragon, or a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:29 PM
63

He will hate you if you do this (heart emoji)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:36 PM
34

Where is Peterson's bogeyman "WOMEN DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED BLAH BLAH EVIL WOMEN" audience? Seriously, where is it? Every woman I know wants to get married. What she doesn't want to do is be a bangmaid. What she doesn't want to do is play mommy to a moron. What she doesn't want to do is hitch her wagon to a pornsick, non-communicative, childish loser. Peterson NEVER addresses the fact that many women are very willing to get married. His own daughter did and then got divorced -- what was the pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:10 PM
266

There are so many women who glow up AFTER a breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:52 PM
405

If he likes you, you'll know. If he doesn't like you, you'll be confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:50 PM
19

Beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:30 PM
38

Like JUST BUY HER FLOWERS seriously is it so hard guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:32 PM
7

Proud of you! Happy Valentines Day :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:34 PM
40

I knew guys who posted their gfs and STILL cheated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:29 PM
7

I do think there was a time when men saw the value in sacrificing women, but now they definitely don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:16 PM
7

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:15 PM
17

It's literally all negging. Good job guys, real original
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:13 AM
122

"I'M SO FREAKING COOL PICK ME PICK ME"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:10 AM
896

MeN aRe ThE mOrE RaTiOnaL sEx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:10 AM
43

King.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:09 AM
44

Also "10/10 babe"...ok what if she's unkind? Greedy? Selfish? Stupid? Vain? These morons deserve everything that's coming to them when they realize beauty is much more than skin deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:33 PM
37

YES. Don't forget AWALT "All Women Are Like That" ok so why can't you get over Becky who rejected you in high school bro?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:24 PM
194

Pornsick says what? Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:39 PM
112

This is so true. The thing is, these dopes can't keep these games straight for longer than 3 months usually. So if you wait them out, they'll usually give up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:56 PM
37

I really like how you brought up how the ex might be an issue and he DID NOT LISTEN until weeks later. Bullet dodged, go you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:16 PM
57

Dude they love messaging me and then blocking me like ok screech louder? Who cares haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:13 PM
125

Pornsickness in men destroys relationships ergo society. Porn should be banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:13 PM
117

Exactly. Literally every man I've met who said he "hates drama" / "can't stand drama", brings all of the drama with his drinking habits / stupid friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 03:24 PM
64

100% ! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:00 PM
171

They will literally say, "I'm slender and employed, why don't I have a model gf??!" The entitlement....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 01:52 PM
42

A classic example of modern men thinking people are just like tabs on their computer screen -- it'll be there later, who cares, X out when done. Have a great time at the ceilidh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 07:48 PM
16

Yes why is it always podcasts? Like dude maybe get married and have a family if your advice is so good....podcast after podcast, newsletter after newsletter...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:05 PM
10

You caught him in the act!! What a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:13 PM
66

THANK YOU. Great points. Men used to value humility and modesty in women, now those traits have been replaced by sex appeal and social acceptance ("do my friends think she's hot?") Many "attractive" women in celebrity culture have had Botox, implants, you name it. Add the pornsick attitude where men watch pornstars all day and think women should look and act like that too. PLUS, even if women are physically attractive, if their style / look is not what the man wants it to be, he will drop her. N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:11 PM
11

What a MESS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:07 PM
88

If you watch his body language, it is disgusting. He makes a lot of noise around her to draw attention to himself: clapping his hands, slamming a countertop. He regularly extends his arms to her, not just in the creepy hugs at the airport. This man should be ostracized from society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:14 PM
53

What on earth are hotwives / vixens ??!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:11 PM
48

Um please leave....he shares a phone bill with her after 11 months? Red flag. You're feeling insecure. Red flag. He still has her belongings meaning she can come over and use them. Red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:23 PM
3

HAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:19 PM
5

Turkish flag + "Greeky guy" um what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:19 PM
1

Great point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:18 PM
64

Why aren't his bros telling him to give the 7-7.5-8s a chance? I thought we all had to give the NiCe GuYs a chance? Isn't that how it works? /s !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:59 PM
57

Holy shit how does he know what French tips are? SO WEIRD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:53 PM
11

This is me. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:31 PM
3

You left which is the most important thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:56 PM
53

YES. Treating a man well is almost always a bad move, in my experience. Which is a shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 10:41 PM
6

Pornography/obscenity is different from sunsets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 10:40 PM
136

100% Men like this ALWAYS come crawling back. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:59 PM
35

100% All ex talk, is bad talk, as far as I'm concerned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:56 PM
39

Good for you. That man was a mess. Imagine receiving one of the most precious experiences and then ghosting. They do it, and they are doomed for doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:55 PM
99

Normalization of the "dad bod" was a mistake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:45 PM
42

"Did you just say you wanted to marry me!?!?" Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:51 PM
206

Sex Work Is Not Empowering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:50 PM
79

Does anyone know if men used to love their mothers for doing this for them? Because now, men hate and resent any woman that cares for them like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:16 PM
20

Hollywood is evil and no one should stan Hollywood celebrity culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:15 PM
2

Got it, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:13 PM
4

So shady, thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:13 PM
37

I think a lot of the time, they do want to hurt / undermine us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:53 PM
744

THESE are the men having children. It truly explains so much about society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:53 PM
16

I'm confused -- why didn't you block and delete the second LVM ? "How r u" is classic low effort, do not pass go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:51 PM
40

Doesn't he have a house in Montreal? I thought he did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:50 PM
10

I truly think there's a connection...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:50 PM
165

He doesn't want a baby, but he wants to have unprotected sex ... which leads to babies. Make it make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 08:09 PM
28

Just curious, did he have ADHD / ADD ? Or was he addicted to porn? I noticed this hot and cold behavior is more common in some men than others
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 08:08 PM
19

Waiting for the right one will make it worth it, trust me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 06:34 PM
1

What's the entire point? Not every woman is a rescue mission
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:12 PM
6

Notice how she 's literally keeping him alive and yet she's still the girlfriend, not the wife. Notice the infantilization of the man - he wants to be a child. Notice how this behavior suddenly begins now that he has a woman in his life caring enough to do this. Obviously he knew how to drink water before. Notice how she is posting this on a relationship subreddit, seeking advice on a situation she knows on some level is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:50 PM
40

STAYED GONE: Joan Crawford left her husband Douglas Fairbanks Jr. because he neglected her socially (he admitted this later) and she became the worldwide star whose movies are still popular (Feud was based in part on Crawford's life). Carole Lombard left her husband William Powell (17 years her senior) because he could be "intellectually cruel" to her and I don't know if he had given up his playboy ways (renting flats under the name Mr. Thorne for "playboy and playgirl" time.) After their divorc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:39 PM
94

Pornsickness in action 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:09 PM
2

He wore full body pajamas, including with the footsies, so maybe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:24 PM
1

Not Johnny, but Jonathan. Not quite as bad but I hear you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:23 PM
3

He sounds like a fulltime mess, good luck getting vidya to cure that bro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:09 PM
2

Don't be afraid to speak up about your experience! Women need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:07 PM
3

*Applause*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:07 PM
4

Good that you told him -- what a fool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:06 PM
3

I did not know this. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:05 PM
29

In for a penny....in for a pound!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 10:03 PM
378

I liked that one too, that the only thing that could scare him into morality was not his friends, the media, the woman, her family, society, but the LAW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 09:59 PM
1

Interesting, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 09:53 PM
2

Another great one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 09:53 PM
11

Jake! Yes. Also Jonathan. Not Johnathan but Jonathan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:44 PM
9

100% . Jonas, Jeremiah.....haven't met too many terrible James' though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:58 PM
216

Men will hate you if you sleep with them, hate you if you don't sleep with them.....absolutely no winning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:57 PM
35

Could we name all the J names lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:46 PM
2

Thank you for all of this incredible detail! Do you personally think Wharton's husband was gay? I have never been able to get a straight answer (hehe) on this. I have read varying accounts that he was gay, mentally ill, not mentally ill but taken advantage of...what is your insight?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:43 PM
3

House of Mirth is a good one to start, and it has a really good movie adaptation to watch when you're done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:42 PM
248

Dirty talk used to include sweet, sexual things. Now it's pornified, sick, twisted nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:36 AM
15

Noted, thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:33 AM
13

Added it, thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:33 AM
12

They explode
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:51 PM
81

Men are volatile -- Marcus Aurelius, freaking 2nd century
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:47 PM
68

And bad diets. And microplastics. And constant masturbation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:47 PM
12

YES. I've started journaling how I would respond to things if I were a man. "She was a little impolite to me over IM bc she's working on something else? I WILL INSULT HER AND THEN BLOCK HER FROM EVERYTHING RUDE B**!%" It's exhausting to even think about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:44 PM
30

Thank youuuuuuu if you loved her why'd you let her go bro? Why didn't you try a bit harder? Why'd she leave?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:30 PM
57

They do this in relationships too. They'll gain weight, start smoking so the woman will leave instead of "manning up" (!) and being honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:26 PM
22

Loooove Edith Wharton! Please write this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:20 PM
58

Ugly squinting chin ring/facial hair ? POS says what? Ignore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:33 PM
45

Bets on whether he's cheating which is why she needs so much external validation? Any takers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:30 PM
45

P R E A C H !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 06:50 PM
62

Great strategy because many men are terrified of feminine emotion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:53 PM
32

Even if you had sex with him, he would've left. They can't handle it. Good for you for being wise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:49 PM
7

Umm what about the victims though? Don't r a pists frequently top the list of recidivists? Jails are overflowing and understaffed / funded so many sexual offenders get out for "good behavior" and return to stalking / attacking their victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:59 AM
23

Identify your boundaries early on and write them down. Are you ok with being slighted at work meetings to "keep the peace"? If sometimes not, identify the conflict resolution that works best for you. It sounds like you're good at having a friendly private chat with the speaker and asking them "what they meant" by x y z. This shows that you are paying attention to how you're treated and willing to stand up for yourself. If nothing changes after the chat, escalate. Ask about it in a group setting.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:52 AM
463

It is ALWAYS around the 3-month mark. 3 months is all these morons can muster to act like decent people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:49 AM
67

Because they hate women. Women are objects to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:46 PM
4

Classic lovebombing tactic, and FDS contains some great posts about lovebombing (just search in the search bar)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:40 PM
2

Russian Roulette STD edition lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:23 PM
5

PLUS humanity has been moving around for work, safety, stability for millennia. Imagine how boring you have to be where moving to a city where you found work is the most exciting / spontaneous thing about you? BORING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:19 PM
22

There are no consequences / accountability for bad behavior anymore? He is a lying, manipulative whore? Prior close-knit communities would name and shame. Now? Not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:10 PM
119

They do! It's called TRP, MGTOW, Where are all the good men etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:08 PM
1

TSwift nails it per usual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:07 PM
120

YES. So really dudes, you think civilization can move forward where you treat every woman like a fleshlight? You think that's living to your full potential? You think that's what generations of survival before you naturally leads to? What happens to societies that don't have children and marriage (see the drastic decline of the Shakers)? Their stupidity is remarkable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:01 PM
77

Thanks for the free publicityyyyyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:50 PM
11

Men prefer disrespect from women case # 600847190 . They truly truly prefer this dynamic instead of mutual respect and kindness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:29 PM
45

This IS a war.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:47 PM
47

YES "the best way to ask me is just...to ask!" Cue ghosting etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:33 PM
79

I'd say more than 50%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:40 PM
22

The park does permit comments, I believe: https://www.dignitymemorial.com/funeral-homes/los-angeles-ca/pierce-brothers-westwood-village-memorial-park-and-mortuary/4798
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:27 PM
80

Haha why are the crypto bros always broke? Seriously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:28 PM
75

Love Lily Tomlin. If you ladies are interested in stuff like this, Anne Hathaway retorted about willingness and consent in sex to major creep Matt Lauer when he asked about her inappropriate pictures, before his bizarre self-locking office door and other creepy behavior came to light: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dB\_fE6reLxc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:50 AM
18

This ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:43 AM
37

I'm so glad his filthy lifestyle + habits are being blasted, thanks for the series tip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:42 AM
26

No I didn't! Yuck! Imagine living in filth and spreading the filth and thinking you're somehow a good person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:41 AM
7

LOL love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:37 AM
8

Completely. He sounds like a total vampire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:31 AM
1191

POS that had a dream life with 4 daughters, house paid for, supportive wife, support network from her family, good career, abandons it for a younger woman who goes back to her home country, leaving the baby with him? Altogether now: HAHAHAHAA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 12:28 AM
291

Hefner was a deeply unhappy man who tried to recover his self-image when he was elderly by funding various documentaries. Hefner was not verbally kind to women OR men. He treated his male waitstaff like animals and none of them lasted very long in his employ (average about 1 year). His son couldn't handle his media empire and joined the Air Force. Hefner's legacy is in the ash heap -- Playboy doesn't really exist anymore, nobody has anything nice to say about him now that he's gone, all of the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:04 PM
20

Imagine being threatened by a HOLIDAY ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:16 PM
18

THANK YOU. Dear TRP and MGTOW: you are not the good guys by manipulating innocent women and laughing about your own depravity, please stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:14 PM
15

It doesn't even sound like these women were "sluts", just into pleasing the man they were in a relationship with. This fool deserves an acrimonious divorce and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:27 PM
197

Sex work is NOT empowering. Great post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 08:20 PM
111

EVEN IF you are nice, they view that as naivete/stupidity and won't appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 08:15 PM
879

REMINDER that this mess of a man did not marry his kinky exes (if it was so important to him, why didn't he marry them?) and now he is comparing his wife to kinky exes that he is no longer with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:04 PM
9

The trash DOES take itself out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:45 PM
4

I will never understand. I just can't understand the depravity! I bet your tostadas were good though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:45 PM
44

I agree with this, the compartmentalization of human interaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 11:28 PM
35

Completely. Someone who chooses to block instead of communicate? Um no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:56 PM
86

That's awesome haha I'm glad you two could be friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:55 PM
33

For sure, and when men are stupid they can't identify good choices from bad ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:54 PM
5

Good call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:53 PM
2

I * love * this * post * thank * you *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:40 PM
60

Imagine if he had put just a fraction of all of that insanity into being a decent person. Improving himself. Being a loving partner. The mind boggles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:38 PM
4

Great insight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:44 PM
1

Aww thank you! Glad you enjoyed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:44 PM
33

He will divorce her after the first kid, guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:43 PM
141

Let's count how many times Hinge (an actual company) refers to women as objects in their advertisements! As banana bread As a houseplant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:39 PM
353

100% men who weren't even bullied in high school, just maybe not invited to a party or something, hold onto it for decades. DECADES. Meanwhile women who were bullied are told to get over it, stop being depressed / depressing / "Debbie Downer" etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:01 PM
16

So true. The society hostesses knew everyone's business and worked their way (and guests) around it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:56 PM
54

Hahaha "see how it goes"..."it's going nowhere buddy byeeeeee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:21 PM
23

YES! That is what partly inspired this post, the web of lies they weave about themselves and others is just crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:20 PM
58

100%. He doesn't match your energy, gtfo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:20 PM
117

I actually think many men know they want to be with a woman for the rest of their lives within a very short time. For example, Downton Abbey's Julian Fellows met his wife at a party and knew within the first 15 minutes he wanted to marry her. He still pursued her the standard, modern way and did not tell her he wanted to marry her right then and there but he knew. Similarly with Matt Damon who saw his wife at a bar and said a "light" shone on her to him. I think wanting to have sex with us is a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 02:01 PM
7

Go You!! You tried the horrible dating scene, it was horrible, but you DID try which is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:22 PM
139

I did not know this! The only articles from the horrible biased media I've read on Lil Kim are those bashing her appearance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:20 PM
90

Great list! Negging is so low, and men who do this are human wrecks. The mental gymnastics required needed to come up with a neg is mind boggling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:20 PM
239

Every single woman is a pearl before the swine of OLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:10 AM
19

*Thank You*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:52 PM
12

I would've paid (once!) to watch that shitshow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:48 PM
8

Great Post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:37 PM
3

Hahaha I'm glad you enjoyed it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:26 PM
71

Umm we want marriage and then children so the child has the most stable environment possible including legal benefits (health insurance, life insurance, joint household, joint accounts etc.) Glad he showed he didn't care about his future children!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 08:57 PM
7

*applause* lesson learned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:30 PM
16

True. I blame people not knowing what they want / having clear boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:29 PM
55

It is honestly such a disaster that these men act this way -- normalizing their own abnormal behavior amongst themselves. Men who hate themselves (most modern men I would argue) cannot be good partners. Guaranteed the men who hated you, hated themselves more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:28 PM
100

Even if the manic pixie goth girl dream woman DOES hit on a man, he will find her weird / unattractive. It's a big lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:33 PM
18

You. Are. Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:31 PM
42

Reminds me of the children's underwear that was thongs a few years back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:30 PM
1

God does forgive, I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:29 PM
476

He turned to me, lips quivering. His droopy flabby chest heaved with emotion, I saw anxiety flickering in his dull pornsick eyes. "B-b-but" he stammered, pudgy fists clenched, "Joe Rogan told me being an immature douchebag would get me laid!" He inhaled quickly and shrieked: "REEEE"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:53 PM
12

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:51 PM
40

That's interesting, I've had the opposite experience, where the man's friends were useless insecure alcoholics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:00 PM
44

I notice so much insecurity in men in society too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:00 PM
29

YES! Great comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:00 PM
2

EWW the shaky hand! SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:30 PM
10

They escalate to....ghosting. Cheating. "Spinning plates". No commitment. Like oh you want to escalate? You know how to get married? Have kids? Be a good, providing father? No? Then that's not escalation bro, that's manipulation. Dumbass TRPers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:29 PM
37

Our time is precious Our time is precious Our time is precious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:26 PM
8

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:25 PM
42

Modern men cannot handle feminine anger. They have ZERO tools against it -- they're too apathetic / weak to counter it, too stupid / lazy to understand why we're angry. Throughout history we see adjectives entering our lexicon to describe fiery women: saucy, hot-tempered, spicy etc. Feminine anger is nothing new but modern men are so useless they are totally bewildered by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:24 PM
44

God will forgive, I won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:21 PM
19

HAHAHA the face of incompetence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:46 PM
6

Go forth and win queen! You can do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:45 PM
109

I think we need to shame porn use, socially. A dude who watches porn? Gross - ostracize. A woman who tries to accept porn, cool girl wise? Gross, not ok. Why are we watching films that have porn in them? Music videos? We turn on the radio and hear porn lyrics. Nope, no more, *do not consume*. Like other FDS users have said, asking a date "what porn do you watch?" is a great way to vet and spot all the red flags. I think there's way too much sex in dating today. Why do people have to even have se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:41 PM
48

I'm no expert, but I think you need to learn how to let go. Why are you hanging on to shitty treatment from the past? Is that the kind of treatment you think you deserve? Is that what has been normalized to you? Maybe you need to work on that before getting too deep with the potential HVM. ALSO there's no rule that you have to have sex so soon after dating a HVM. It's probably better if you wait for your sexual attraction to really blossom anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:35 PM
213

Reminder if you do this for a man, he will think you're pathetic and not appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:36 PM
50

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:33 PM
286

Heartache what? Heartache after they use us like objects? Heartache after they swear the best dating method is to "spin plates"? Heartache after they give us the silent treatment / drink too much / consume porn on the regular? What heart, where?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 03:56 PM
18

I level up on the living !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 03:55 PM
6

We will devour their fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:10 PM
16

YES! There are so many great places for young women to look and see that this isn't how humans are supposed to look. The Instagramreality subreddit and IG page celebface to name a few.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:09 PM
58

I actually like it that they engage in such terrible things despite all of the women / good people in their life telling them to slow down. Like yea losers, die hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:07 PM
2

Better than four years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:58 PM
7

Amazing that they think childish tantrums will benefit them in any way -- like aren't you supposed to be a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:58 PM
76

I think the soullessness can be a byproduct of porn consumption, I've noticed it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:54 PM
8

YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:39 PM
9

100% !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:37 PM
1

Michelle McNamara, Patton Oswalt's first wife, was a bestselling author who was investigating the Golden State Killer at the time of her death. She "died in her sleep" at age 46 in 2016, but was found to have a quantity of prescription drugs in her system. Oswalt remarried less than a year later to a "mediator" who handled things like divorce discussions out of court etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 01:35 PM
39

100% men who prioritize their friends over everything are incredibly problematic. They are usually the first guys who are clingy as all get out when they're realizing their "bros" are getting married and they are alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:33 PM
34

Ugh I'm so sorry. And happy cake day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:32 PM
103

Love the term "devaluation" -- nothing about us changes, but the dumbass gets it into his head that a vulnerable woman confiding in him is somehow less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:31 PM
75

How many lovebombs can YOU count ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:30 PM
7

Stare at his own poo L O L
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:15 PM
27

Yes I am enough. We are enough now, always. Begone LVM! I attract just good. Good things always on the way. Attract what I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:52 PM
262

The media HATES women. Truly. Decades of horrible stupid sitcoms of the same plotline (women = shrew, man = cool funny bro) aired without resistance. Why is the word "pussy" still allowed as a derogatory term on mainstream media when nearly every other derogatory word has been eradicated?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:48 PM
48

So the only thing he had going for him was he was a model...once? Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:46 PM
21

BE STRONG then men! Know how to fix a stove, sink, car engine...know how to row a boat across a lake without collapsing from obesity onslaught heavy breathing....have a palate more sophisticated than red bull and cheetos....know how to throw a party and attend a formal event without whining....support your own families....know your communities...be spiritually alive.......be attentive and respectful, reliable partners. GOOD LUCK!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:45 PM
52

The circumstances around his wife's death are really suspicious, and the fact that he's been able to maintain his celebrity is bizarre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:43 PM
42

Agreed -- a list of lovebombs is available here on FDS: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/qavcv5/a\_list\_of\_lovebombs/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:42 PM
39

I think this is so nuanced. Time and again, men repeatedly say they want a "nice woman", a woman who treats them with "kindness". But we are living in a pornsick, paranoid, twisted reality. So I think many traits that women saw their grandmothers and mothers exhibit (cooking for the man, keeping a clean house, raising children, knowing how to sew, keep a garden etc.), when they try to emulate them thinking it will lead to relationship success, they are wrong. Because modern men are lying and por…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:00 PM
103

One ex supposedly sent my Christmas gift in the mail, but it got "lost" and when I asked about the tracking number / any identifying information, he said he "lost" that too. So I "lost" him. I've been ignored / neglected multiple times by different exes at social events we were both at, when I was invited *as their date* and they always say the same thing: "I didn't know!" "How was I supposed to know?" "Was I supposed to be rude and not invite you at all??" I guess they were allergic to effort? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:27 PM
104

It's a good question and I can only give an outsider's perspective as a non-traveler. I think people who are not travelling tend to be more stable, and they have commitments that tie them to one place (stable job, family, etc.) I've noticed many men who travel constantly are actually running away from something (themselves? Reality? Who knows). So I am not surprised to read men (who are already volatile) that travel are even more volatile. The dating scene in modernity is currently terrible BUT …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:16 PM
169

YES. If we reciprocate, they think we're "trying too hard" / weird / desperate. Men, do you notice everything a woman does for you? You sure? You definitely don't. We are leaving that shit behind. I can't tell you how many posts I've read where men go on and on and on about how they want women to cook for them and how that's "wife" material....ummm where? Many women enjoy cooking for their partners, only for the men to crave fast food and dinner with the boys instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:48 PM
267

Yes! And the photo is almost always of a celebrity who can afford a personal chef, advanced skin care routine, personal trainer, designer clothing, plastic surgery etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:39 PM
92

We need a constructive place to be ourselves, share, communicate and vent. They have shown time and again they cannot be trusted with such personal/emotional matters, so they are not permitted in. Simple as.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:08 PM
369

Great points. PLUS, not all HVMs will be compatible with you. Just bc he's HVM doesn't necessarily mean you two are compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 01:25 AM
2

Reality TV is trash and should be treated as such
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:10 PM
5

There was a relevant social media post a few months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/qo08u4/using\_social\_media\_to\_vet/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 03:28 PM
30

I would say don't show up at ex's workplaces even if you have the greatest of intentions. They can accuse you of stalking them, blast you on social media etc. It's usually best to let these sleeping pigs lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 03:23 PM
42

EVEN IF you do give them a chance, they resent you / think you're weird for doing so. It's a minefield and best avoided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 03:12 PM
39

Right! Or just, you know, let her back in??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:34 PM
38

How do these Russian politicians look their wives in the face?? The Russian birthrate was down for decades, I wonder if this was a contributing factor...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:34 PM
55

He didn't even call emergency services, a viewer did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:42 PM
59

I hadn't even heard about it! I'm glad this got some media attention as it flew completely under my radar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:44 PM
100

Because they usually suck in bed (not literally, unfortunately)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:02 PM
88

EVEN IF the woman does everything the exact way they want, they won't wife her up, they won't commit if they are LVM/NVM. They don't actually care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:01 PM
23

So weak for men to attack women. So so weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:45 PM
8

*applause*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:44 PM
14

UGH and then you are being deceitful to yourself, which isn't right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:44 PM
11

I don't understand this because I have seen many successful, long marriages where the men and women all out fight and then kiss and make-up. There is an acceptance that conflict and fighting is a part of life. But it seems like in the west, anything remotely close to conflict is seen as terrifying and men totally shut down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:44 PM
16

Ugh exhausting. You honestly shouldn't blame yourself because you did what any hardworking, decent person would do --- you tried to deal with the issue by communicating! Unfortunately these "men" are beyond fixing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:42 PM
27

100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:07 PM
19

AGREED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:06 PM
9

Why don't women make their own gold though? Why rely on the man for this at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 08:30 PM
7

YES. What happened to those women bro?? Did you prostrate yourself before them, your "pump and dumps", and apologize, look at life through her eyes? No? GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:15 PM
5

Don't forget, these men gaslight, lie and manipulate women to sleep with them: "I love you!" "You're my one and only!" "I deleted all of my OLD profiles!" If the woman believes him (and why wouldn't she, if she is naive and trusting?) he leaves her after sex and yet she's the one with the bOdY cOuNt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:14 PM
4

Agreed that we do need to network more to protect ourselves :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:10 PM
37

I am a big fan of social shame because it truly works on men who don't have morals, principles or qualms on hurting women who are just trying to find their mate. OP, what do you recommend other than shame? Do you really think anything will change without shame, which has been a powerful social tool for centuries of both men AND women? Historically, horrible men would be shamed from strong, family-oriented communities and become drifters. While yea that sucks to be the drifter, the communities lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:58 PM
10

No, it depends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:50 PM
109

GREAT POST! Social shaming via ostracization is so powerful, the Amish still use it (for example). We need to re-adopt it. Pornsick dude who can't keep that shit to himself? Ostracize. Forcing his kinks on others? Ostracize. Treated women badly without any consequence? Ostracize. Ostracize. Ostracize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:15 AM
131

He hates her. He can barely look at her, his body language tilts away from her, he can't smile with his eyes in their photos together, he is actively seeking other women to undermine her, he gets more animated thinking about what other guys will think when they watch this video....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:41 PM
35

"The alphas get to bang all the women huehuehehe" "Alphas" in many species have many offspring and protect each and every single one of them, in addition to the mothers. Also why do all of these morons always think they're a wolf and then know nothing about wolves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:40 PM
76

100% pornsick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:36 PM
10

The clothes look cheap AF which does not help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:45 PM
62

BE JUDGMENTAL OF MEN !! It saves so much heartbreak down the line and they judge us like crazy so it's actually just being fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:44 PM
40

Don't try so hard. Most men won't notice, let alone care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 07:41 PM
1

AGREED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:54 PM
2

They know CP is on there.... https://www.cnn.com/2020/12/14/business/mastercard-visa-discover-pornhub/index.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:00 AM
65

Most people LOVE delusion. It's much easier to be deluded the majority of the time. Men know porn is bad for them, know their lives improve with a woman, and yet insist on being porn sick and single. Delusion is so rampant and it's like you said, you can't help them if they aren't willing to help themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:57 AM
9

You're welcome! I agree with the LibFem repulsion. It seems LibFem attempts to be its own culture, but it's too shallow to succeed. Every single woman, no matter what she comes from, should be proud. She comes from hundreds of women protecting themselves and living, surviving. Irish women, for example, have a very rich culture in song, farming, weaving, music, mythology, poetry and fighting alongside men during the Irish revolutions. Why does the media ignore that? Unfortunately, many movements …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:51 AM
22

Excellent point, LibFem really didn't think this narrative though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:47 AM
21

There actually were waves of upper class white women becoming teachers in New York City in the Edwardian and Victorian eras (late 1800s, early 1900s). I think this movement was connected to the nobility's way of thinking (prevalent in England at the time) that the aristocracy should *uplift* society. Eleanor Roosevelt, and many Roosevelt women, chose to teach at various schools in New York City, when at that time the Irish and Italian immigrants were largely English illiterate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:46 AM
47

It's access. Younger generations have access to web enabled devices and Instagram, Facebook, TikTok etc have no problem showing naked women (even if it's spam). They click one link and boom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 07:17 PM
2

I think one of the ways pickmes can be "worse" is because we are more likely to trust a woman than a man. And so we can be more injured by these pickmes because we don't anticipate being betrayed by another woman...Maybe? LVMs always tell on themselves which is why vetting is key. But do pickmes? I think pickmes will twist themselves into manipulative knots to keep other women around so they can compete with them, compare themselves with them etc. Is it easy to vet a pickme? I would argue it isn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:46 PM
167

Is it the fact that women are actually thinking, feeling human beings who want to be protected and cherished? I'm glad these so-called men are mad. Take yourselves (the trash) out dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:26 PM
49

Bad enough that Mastercard and Visa chose to walk away from Pornhub knowing how much money they'd lose....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 08:52 PM
8

Yes. In this case, it was super exacerbated by drinking. She was OK when she wasn't drinking. When she drank (which was way too often) she was a codependent MESS. I told her how bad drinking was for her, that alcohol is a depressant, that she's drinking way too often, that it was affecting me etc. No change. No longer friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 08:45 PM
25

Glad you're away from that mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:47 PM
16

Hahaha can we please get government funding for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:47 PM
35

Did her head explode hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:43 PM
54

YES. Why should he get a second chance for behavioral issues when the other students aren't even getting a first chance? Maybe the other students need to not be distracted or need quiet time to do well academically....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:41 PM
44

I think the only viable option is social shunning...no one can save them, other than maybe Jesus...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 09:50 PM
667

One of my friends dated a guy who would encourage random strangers to treat her badly. For example, they went to a park, some guys were playing frisbee nearby, and he encouraged these dudes to hit her with the frisbee. 100% scumbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:42 PM
7

You're better off avoiding it instead of being subject to all of this unhappiness / disappointment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:02 PM
-4

Good call, maybe she skipped that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:01 PM
16

She 100% reads FDS and nothing can convince me otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:42 PM
44

Great point and I think the Madonna/whore complex can be binary like that. But as Penn State researched, after sex occurs in a relationship, there can be a switch where a once perceived virtuous woman now seems to be a whore to her partner: https://sites.psu.edu/aspsy/2015/10/03/madonna-whore-complex/ . Treating women like sex objects from the get-go is more about dehumanization, objectification I believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:35 PM
49

YES. She waited for the bf/gf exclusivity and this is what she got. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:30 PM
56

Reducing women to numbers in a column....how did this piece get past any editor? wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:30 PM
2

Ah yes, another modern men are demons post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:27 PM
33

Why should the woman have to ask for photos? Dude is already on a dating app, he can put his photos on his profile. No need to play games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:25 PM
20

For nudes :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:23 PM
285

I actually don't think this is Madonna/ whore because she's NEVER on a pedestal for him. She's always a whore to him. SMH at the advice the columnist gives: "you don't want to sound like a sex hound who only dates girls to bang them" but that's what this so-called man is! Goodness forbid there's some honesty and accountability, right? Goodness forbid the woman is told what is actually going on? If there is no accountability, there will be no change. If men can't keep each other accountable then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:08 AM
32

Ugh who hurt this girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:04 AM
41

YES the snapchat/instagram handle BS! "I'm not here often, here's my snap" oh please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:01 AM
43

He'll inevitably tell you about it if you're already chatting (or should!) but in my experience, if there's a woman on his OLD profile, he's super into her and you're better off walking away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:01 AM
65

Good to know. Also "looking for a third" *vomit*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:00 AM
205

Great idea! "Just in town for the weekend" -- nope block and delete. "I travel a lot so I'm rarely in town" -- nope block and delete. Any photos obscuring his face. If all of the photos are group photos -- how are we supposed to know which one he is? Any photos with other women -- men know this is a turnoff and so will typically include captions if it's a family member. Catfishing photos -- for example, where the top photo is him and a hot friend *eyeroll* Any BDSM buzzwords -- "kitten" etc. "Lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:12 AM
34

I actually think these dramas show how life was -- people were brutal, life was hard. Poldark is a horrible man to women and most powerful men in Cornwall back then probably were horrible to women. If audiences romanticize this, that is part of a much deeper problem imo. It's like when women romanticized that movie about Ted Bundy with Zac Efron. Why on earth would you romanticize Ted Bundy, even in a movie? It speaks to something deeper in western culture, women not knowing who to look up to al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:08 PM
6

It sounds like they don't know what they want / have poor boundaries. Whatever it is, it's weakness, and you should avoid it. Men should not be weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:15 PM
24

Love it. New space, new you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:53 PM
54

Men on OLD lie about their names, ages, height -- you name it! And then they blame women and it's like how can a woman even like you if she doesn't know who you are bro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:51 PM
19

You gotta fix that before looking for a new relationship, it's holding you back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:21 PM
5

Ok, so level up in them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:17 PM
210

Yes. Look at American pop culture. Every other joke is bathroom humor / slapstick violence. There is no nuance. Look at American media. Rerun after rerun, remake after remake. No original ideas from the major movie studios in...5 years? 10 years? Look at American attention spans. Shrinking, year after year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:37 PM
43

He would've left you anyway, sounds like he was constantly testing your boundaries. Better to get some of your time back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:35 PM
72

SO GROSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:39 PM
35

Focus on what is IN your control. We can't control others, and we certainly don't control men or else they'd be much more perfect (haha). Are you holding back on trips you've wanted to take? Are you engaging in adequate selfcare? Are you taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally AND spiritually? Leveling up in all areas is a process but it's a process that will take you to new heights AND you'll likely meet HVM / HVW along the way. Don't stress, you got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:39 PM
225

Watch out if he starts adding errand dates into your schedule: "Let's grocery shop together so I can see what you like!" "We can watch TV AND fold laundry at the same time!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:36 PM
10

YES no more disgusting nude scenes. They aren't necessary to the plot the vast majority of the time and audiences aren't stupid. If you show us a dimly lit bedroom and two silhouettes, we got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:56 PM
12

YES. A man who doesn't know what he wants and causes pain to others is a shell of a man. Go forward and forget him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:45 PM
42

Not to mention, the TV itself takes away from the social atmosphere and ambience of the place. Do all of these patrons want to watch a glowing screen while they eat? No! Restaurants used to be places where people could come together and socialize -- not that they need to be social watering holes, but it's nice when people actually talk to each other instead of staring like zombies at their screens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:25 PM
57

He is WAY more depressed and empty, trust me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:23 PM
16

Good for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:48 PM
35

I hear you. It IS exhausting. You deserve to put yourself first. Sometimes taking a break from dating is what it takes to look at it in a new light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:16 PM
173

The thing that always gets me about this mindset shift is that the woman TRIED. She didn't reach this conclusion after a few days of feeling sorry for yourself. She tried, and tried, and tried again. It's not like you didn't make an effort, you put yourself out there. So you cannot beat yourself up because you did what was in your power to do !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:04 PM
11

It's also against the law to traffick people but Facebook enables that all the time: https://www.cnn.com/2021/10/25/tech/facebook-instagram-app-store-ban-human-trafficking/index.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:25 PM
14

I was going to say -- this isn't new! One of my old coworkers had a business social media profile and a "fun" personal social media profile. He had a gf, but all of the young women coworkers were invited to his "personal" profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:24 PM
43

We need to bring back fault divorce -- a piece of paper any woman can find online saying this man is a cheater, that man is a fraud would be so helpful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:17 PM
12

Adorable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:42 PM
151

I love this post. Camille Claudel was one of sculptor Auguste Rodin's muses and students. Her work in bronze was so accomplished, she helped Rodin in his workshop in the 1880s ("helped"? How much??). Unfortunately, a toxic love affair developed between her and Rodin and he spent years discrediting her work after the affair ended. Claudel died penniless in an insane asylum in 1913. Lady Caroline Lamb is categorized as Lord Byron's crazy lover when she was so much more. She was a poet, novelist, m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:45 PM
89

Oh mannn He "showers daily" which does not equate to being well groomed, attractive, fit, healthy etc. He knows how to talk to women because he has "studied women for quite some time and am quite familiar with their thought patterns and mannerisms". That is not talking to women. Also, if we are all the same with our "thought patterns and mannerisms" why is he having so much trouble finding a wife? We're all giggly little sex crazed freaks, right bro? We all want to be treated with disrespect bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:51 PM
171

Porn sent western civilization back to the dark age. I honestly can't think of any time where it was considered mainstream to refer to sex with women so flippantly, so meaninglessly.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:17 PM
13

YES please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 01:57 PM
26

I think about it like maintaining a good closet. You're going to have to get rid of ill fitting, ugly, torn clothes to make way for fresh, flattering, fashionable new ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:26 PM
49

Yes! It seems Bird was also an avid entertainer, as he invented a series of harmonic glass bowls which he would use to entertain guests. I'm sure this took a load off of his wife's hostess duties as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:24 PM
44

Reading more about Bird, it seems his son continued in the tradition of bakery inventions, inventing jelly powder and blancmange powder in 1890. The power of love extends through generations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:24 PM
22

He sounds like dead weight (with emphasis on the weight)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:14 PM
53

Not to mention, Gordon Ramsay fully backs frozen vegetables for use in cooking. He says they are usually fresher and easy to prepare. There's no excuse like whiskey_and_oreos said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:17 PM
182

I was friends with one guy who insisted he knew things but then refused to explain what he knew. If I asked him about firearms which he claimed to be an expert in, he would snap at me to go read about them. We haven't been friends for years due to this attitude. LVM don't understand bonding opportunities like HVM. LV people see everything as hindrance instead of recognizing growth opportunities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:02 PM
53

Buy yourselves gifts ladies. So many of us have gift giving as a love language ---- use it on yourself!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:57 PM
71

FDS ALSO tells women who are not mentally, emotionally, physically healthy not to date. We tell women who are not ready, to wait. We support women being patient and working on themselves. Good reading comprehension Daily Mail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:54 PM
196

Yes! How many articles are out there on the media about how men love big breasted, thin waisted, smooth skinned, long haired women etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:51 PM
6

Call the Midwife, all of Jane Austen (books and film), Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries, North & South....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 02:55 PM
113

Imagine being so inept you have to rely on a TV SHOW to talk to women who are an integral part of society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 02:53 PM
17

Don't forget dangling university scholarships, art gallery spaces etc because of high flying connections at Harvard etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:33 PM
7

I thought about that -- King of Queens etc. But I think that's a weaponized incompetence list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:57 PM
27

Tagging onto this -- you're right. Wouldn't it be helpful to young women to see how Epstein, Maxwell etc coerced women into sex trafficking in Ghislaine Maxwell's trial? Yet there is a complete media blackout on it. The trial starts tomorrow! And we don't even know how Maxwell managed to buoy herself up on the backs of these underage girls. The media hates women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:56 PM
12

I noticed they even did this on House of Cards a bit -- very disappointing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:13 PM
10

I know. I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:12 PM
13

That show...sounds terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:12 PM
21

That's awesome! Is this somewhere in Europe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:11 PM
50

The Big Bang Theory isn't even funny -- that laugh track is stupid. It's a stupid show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:11 PM
44

Thank you! MILF Island -- for working on my night cheese.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 12:37 PM
21

I thought about including Golden Girls but thought they intended the title as tongue-in-cheek! Great points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 12:34 PM
17

Very wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 12:34 PM
220

I'd like to watch that show: GROOMERS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 12:34 PM
5

Oh the attacker in Waukesha wasn't white....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:01 PM
33

I think we need to look at the pornography industry and how it went from being severely controlled by laws -- even porn sent via mail where no one could see it was criminal -- to being totally normalized. Who normalized pornography? Who insisted on including pornography in films targeted towards children and teens?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:05 PM
170

Everything in the world is about sex. Except sex, sex is about power. - Oscar Wilde
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:04 PM
18

What a POS - projecting his own insecurities on innocent women. Good that you got away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:31 PM
39

Don't drink / do drugs / look for a hookup etc. Spend intensive time on yourself, journal, reflect, pray, learn a new skill, take a class you've been eying, spend time with friends, try a new recipe. Break into new fields, don't focus on the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:12 PM
85

This has happened to me multiple times. If you feel like a weight is lifted when this person is not around, this person is bad for you and you should keep your distance. If this person smells bad / terrible to you (I know, weird), your body is reacting to the hormones / pheromones the person gives off. Or, you know, you just shouldn't hang with smelly people. Bottom line: listen to your body. It's the product of centuries of survival!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:11 PM
82

Thank YOU. Agreed. The attacker here, Darrell Edward Brooks Jr., was arrested for domestic violence and battery twice before and let out on bail just last week. That's how fast these things happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 03:31 PM
322

I'd like to add, in the wake of the horrific attack on the Christmas parade in Wisconsin yesterday, that the killer had an extensive criminal history including domestic violence. The attacker targeted a marching band with teenage girls, as well as the Milwaukee Dancing Grannies. He *targeted* women. https://www.euronews.com/2021/11/22/multiple-people-killed-as-suv-drives-through-wisconsin-christmas-parade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:37 PM
3

Why'd you move to the Deep South? Just curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:32 PM
25

It sounds like you need better / enforced social boundaries with your friends / acquaintances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:29 PM
6

Ah ok yea good to hear. Women can benefit more from female friendships imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:27 PM
9

Why have you had a "lot of male friends"? Do you have a lot of friends in general and most of them are male?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:03 AM
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Debatable honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:57 PM
-16

She is not a role model for FDS, she gains income by posting shallow, photoshopped images catering to male requests. It's way more than a "woman who streams".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:56 PM
-16

Pretty sure she engages in excessive photoshop to engage male fans, which also is linked to body dysmorphia in young viewers. She also boasts a $2 million apartment while calling for greater taxes on "billionaires" only. She doesn't care that you exist and she is not a role model.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:55 PM
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Teddy Roosevelt (supported not only his own children but also his niece, Eleanor, after her father's struggle with alcoholism). Buster Keaton (one marriage to one woman despite working with many different female costars, he had many happy children who continue to keep his legacy alive) Also are there more spelling errors on the front page than before? It's HVM, not HMV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:46 PM
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We have better things to do than defend women who happily engage in sex work (OF etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:43 PM
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Women should not bother with men like this. We need to do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:41 PM
12

People are still freaking out about Catherine the Great's libido. Still! https://medium.com/lessons-from-history/catherine-the-greats-secret-sexual-room-of-pleasures-1fb5b97b7424
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:38 PM
20

LOVE this. You're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:38 PM
50

Have you met pickmes? I believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:37 PM
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Who they will leave for the next thing that interests their whims. Vet vet vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:42 PM
2

Adele is lawyered up like a MF. She has an airtight pre-nup with her ex and who knows what else she signed. Maybe she can't even talk about him, for legal reasons (signing an NDA etc.) So who really cares what Adele says in some interview? It's not real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:38 PM
3

The downside to this approach is it normalizes the man's behavior. He experiences no consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:37 PM
21

If a woman is mad at a man, he'll probably get yelled at *at the worst* If a man is mad at a woman, she can be killed, raped, maimed, kidnapped etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 11:09 PM
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And then they blame HER. It's her fault for catching feelings. ?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:01 PM
19

You are not going to find any in today's Hollywood. American celebrity culture is incredibly depraved and many popular western movies / tv shows are deluded. If you're willing to go back decades, Buster Keaton was a HVM who escaped a violent childhood and always treated his leading ladies with respect and courtesy (he ended up marrying one of them and they had a happy marriage). Charlie Chaplin, on the other hand, was literally a child molester. You may want to read with her about historical fig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:57 PM
42

I know some sugar babies, and their lives are some of the most chaotic and dangerous I've seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:44 PM
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I think one of the keys here is their total lack of empathy. Many men can't see the world through our eyes at all. If you happen to say, "how do you think that made me feel?" for many of them they have never been asked that question AT ALL. The fact that we have emotions is truly shocking to most LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:42 PM
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Yes. There are many social media vetting posts on FDS, just search for them in the search bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 11:18 PM
26

BIG props to RiRi -- leaving an abusive situation, building an empire with FENTY, rejecting an LVM Saudi prince -- she is such an inspiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:07 PM
53

The Sex Workers Project collects really helpful data on how much violence occurs against sex workers: https://swp.urbanjustice.org/wp-content/uploads/sites/14/2020/08/Fact-Sheet-Sexual-Violence-Against-Sex-Workers-1-1-1.pdf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:38 PM
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He just got worse and worse over time, why it's so important to be ruthless in the beginning and always. Glad you're away from empty ass Gucci pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:49 PM
2

Give yourself mad props for realizing this now and not later down the line. You recognized your time is worthwhile, that's an accomplishment! You can cut all of the shitty men you dated out now. Better late than never to block and delete, block and delete. When you're ready, review why you put up with what you did. Social pressure? Insecurity? Low self esteem? Make steps to identify how you can overcome those weaknesses. You can do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:25 PM
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YES. Reminder: many homeless men are truly not "homeless". They have homes to go back to, family members etc but due to their drug use / violence they are not welcome to stay with their parents / wives / siblings etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:02 AM
3

Great points, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 11:10 PM
56

Unpopular opinion and I'm prepared for downvotes, but I have been treated terribly by pickmeishas in the workplace and otherwise. So not all groups of women match each other's energies, pick up the slack, etc. Pickme syndrome is still a major problem holding us all back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:08 PM
1

Sometimes it's not even subtle (the Rolling Stones' "Under My Thumb" for example)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:07 PM
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Any restaurant we went to, he would only order steak fajitas. It wasn't on the menu? They didn't make steak fajitas? He would tell the waiter he wanted steak fajitas. Every. Time. He said he really wanted to be a priest, that it was his life's dream. That's great dude, why are you dating then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:00 PM
12

Focus on leveling up in all areas -- not just your career. It's so important to dedicate time to hobbies, personal growth, self care, friendships, interests, your community. There is so much to fill your life with. When you are exhibiting signs of "I have to fill this void with a man, pick me!" you become a target, whether consciously or subconsciously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:51 PM
11

You can make the argument that these men are demonic -- trying to sap us of all our energy, our life forces. Having to purify with sage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:22 PM
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Also, we know that men RARELY stay stable with their soulmates. Look at Laurence Olivier and Vivien Leigh. Complete and utter soulmates, on almost every chord of humanity together, and he left her. Need another example? Alain Delon and Romy Schneider. They were head over heels in love, living together in idyllic France and he got an underage girl pregnant at some club. Guess whose deathbed he went to, decades later, to hold her hand? Romy's!!! Men choose not to stay loyal to their soulmates and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:36 PM
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Ladies, if a man is talking about an ex in his first conversations with you, RUN AWAY. He is not over her and will likely never be over her. Everyone knows talking about exes in the beginning of dating is inappropriate. Also, as soon as the comparison to another woman comes into play (maybe he was with her, maybe he held a candle for her, who cares) RUN AWAY. You cannot compete with a man's beloved ex, even if she was trash. Trust me, she could've been a complete and total mess, but to him she w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:34 PM
51

The Office did this -- every single woman went in a total downward spiral: Jan: power player, businesswoman to unemployed, violent and deceitful Pam: supposed to be likeable I guess? Sweet and loyal to the office, fails art school, after marrying Jim is portrayed as a demanding shrew Angela: portrayed as frigid and demanding, cheats in her relationships, lies about the paternity of her child Kelly: in a toxic relationship with Ryan, ends up running off with him even after she's with someone else…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:04 AM
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I also don't understand this. They KNOW communication tactics that work in their careers, with their friends, families etc. But somehow with women, we're a foreign object, we're an alien, they can't just TALK to us! I would've loved to truly talk through things with various men in my life, but they just could not mentally / emotionally get there so I had to walk away. I am convinced that some issues could've been solved purely through a solid, open, honest discussion. What a sad life these men m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:36 PM
5

HVM traits I've noticed: He's responsible. If his family / a close friend needs help, he's there. He's not making excuses on how he's going to miss this or that personal stupid hobby. He keeps his promises. Even for small stuff. He says he's going to call or text back within a certain timeframe? He does. He says he's taking you out to such and such restaurant? He does. He's not stuck in perpetual adolescence. If his hobbies are 1) drinking 2) fast food and 3) video games then he's probably not v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:01 PM
6

I got Tiffany's when I was lovebombed (which is why I lol'd at that little blue bag someone posted on here as if it's the be all end all haha) but the fact is, material goods are just material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:15 PM
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So many men are all ego ("notice me notice me") no substance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:51 PM
15

I strongly recommend that all FDS women hold men in their lives accountable for cheating. Whether that means blocking, calling him out on social media, telling his mom / family (I've done this and think it's a great method) there needs to be social consequences to social depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:05 AM
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PLUS if you open up to a man about the fact you've been cheated on in the past, to him you are the unattractive one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:04 AM
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This is a great point. Uninvested men may answer one of your questions about commitment and skirt the others. Uninvested men may say they do want to come over, spend time with you but don't want to "label" it. Red flags! Like OP said, have faith in YOURSELF and your instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:48 PM
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For books: Sun Tzu's The Art of War, Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, all of Jane Austen, all of the Bronte sisters and the Bible (yes, it's been super helpful to me)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:45 PM
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This is so true. There was a post going around years ago on what if the gender roles in Beauty and the Beast were reversed -- if the woman was "beastly" in appearance and the man was attractive and good-hearted? Needless to say, that is not the fairytale for a reason (men mad).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 03:43 PM
1

Homeless scammers use this trick all. the. time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 12:06 PM
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Like a compass needle always finds north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman -- Khaled Hosseini . ​ Opening up to men is almost always a terrible idea. Vet vet vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:31 PM
19

We DO desire love. We desire love and companionship and motherhood, but life has taught us that when we are open about this desire (which was historically seen as natural and feminine, and protected by HVM) LVM and NVM will use our openness as an opportunity to trick us (lovebomb, trauma bond etc.) and ghost. So it is not that the desire goes away. It's still there, burning away. It's that we have to protect it with vetting, leveling up and constantly evaluating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:08 PM
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Sex work is NOT empowering ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 08:00 PM
20

Sometimes you are so fixated on a closed door, you don't notice the windows that open up! He isn't worth this much time and energy, the universe has shown you that your energy should be focused elsewhere instead of on this guy who can ignore a great connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:45 AM
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He prioritized his physically abusive, alcoholic ex over me. I had no idea she and he were still talking, let alone he would prioritize her emotions over mine. I had helped him with family stuff, would drive to see him, only to find out he was still talking to a woman who hit him repeatedly, states away. Ladies, I repeat, nice for what? He "forgot" his wallet on a date, and when I called him out on it, he literally became shaking mad. A man who cannot control himself cannot be trusted to control…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 04:29 PM
3

They get away with it because men AND women let them --- having men (ahem, boys) deal with the consequences of their decisions for the first time is nightmarish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:41 PM
4

HAHA I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:40 PM
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An eyeroll works wonders with these types of dudes -- they will notice it and fixate on it. If you feel like saying something, you can always ask "how is that funny" or "what makes that funny" and watch them sort of squirm with the reality of their own depravity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:11 PM
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Also don't you love the "well I sent you an unsolicited dick pic so now you should send me NUDES!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:35 PM
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Every single man I've heard seriously talk about "the wall" (usually when it comes to celebrities like Taylor Swift, Lana del Rey etc.) was incapable of honest, genuine conversation. Any mention of "the wall" was succeeded by their own preference for young, naive, shallow women they could easily objectify. Not mate with, or marry, or bond with. The wall is a term based purely on lust. All of these soundbytes from the manosphere are used as excuses for men to not do better or be better because th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:18 AM
6

So true and totally agree about the "martyr phase". Humility and modesty were once incredibly attractive traits in women. Even President George Washington said "submit your judgment to others with modesty". That isn't the case anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:51 PM
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