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How I sleep at night knowing no man is cheating on me, lying, hiding things, scheming for ways to undermine me / get my money, drooling over instapics of another woman, watching porn, dragging me to his buddies...!

edwardianemerald

March 31, 2022

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Title	How I sleep at night knowing no man is cheating on me, lying, hiding things, scheming for ways to undermine me / get my money, drooling over instapics of another woman, watching porn, dragging me to his buddies...!
Author	edwardianemerald
Upvotes	1913
Comments	56
Date	March 31, 2022 12:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/tsya4g/how_i_sleep_at_night_knowing_no_man_is_cheating/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/how-i-sleep-at-night-knowing-no-man-is-cheating-on.1210326 https://theredarchive.com/post/1210326

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I can count on less than half a hand how many times I slept over a boyfriend's house. A vacation was the exception, but other than that, my personal preference is my own bed. The main reason I was never keen on "spending the night(s)" is because I relish my "me" time. See him for a block of time, then we both go home to our separate places. It's also why when the idea was presented to me of "Let's live together!" that it was totally polarizing and without fail I respond, "I don't live with people I date".

It gets to a point at night where I don't want to be pawed at and led to the bedroom to appease a guy for sex I don't feel like engaging in. My day was long and really, I just want to do what I want. I love my nighttime routine of winding down with tea, brushing my teeth, washing my face, and sometimes putting on a face mask that might be spinach green.

The beauty of all of this is that I don't have to worry about a guy questioning "why you take so long" or hogging the remote when I'm watching a show or movie I enjoy. A guy in the mix totally throws off the equilibrium. Also, after all of that time dedicated to my skincare, I would have to worry about his face oils spreading over my face or him wanting me to go down on him after I have already brushed my teeth. Not only that, but the expectation of morning sex. NO. THANK. YOU!

And you know what? No guy has ever had an issue with me declining to sleep over. It's not so much about maintaining a sense of mystery so much as it is about respect for each other's time and space. The guy may have pouted a little bit the first time, but after quite some time, it's the usual with me where they know I'm getting in my car to go home. And, guys I have dated have appreciated that I don't hinge our relationship on staying overnight, asking for my own drawer at his place, or leaving a spare toothbrush or separate supply of makeup there.

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