No 🥰

Catz10000 · 2022-02-16T18:33:58+00:00

We're not rehabilitation centers. If he's not healthy enough to date, he shouldn't be dating. See also: If he's not able to get help for his issues on his own, what is he paying you to do it for him?

Gambit12345 · 2022-02-16T18:45:15+00:00

I dumped an ex because he had a drinking problem. 2 weeks later, he told me he was working on quitting. I said ok, let me know if you go a full 6 months sober. He said “I can’t wait that long” lmao I was never going to subject myself to sticking around with the hopes that maybe he’d control his drinking. Even if they ask us to stick around saying they’ll change, words mean nothing, only actions and time prove anything

ububTkuc · 2022-02-16T18:55:36+00:00

No point in waiting bc when he becomes the man he's supposed to be he will dump you to be with the woman he supposed to be with@

lansburysoda · 2022-02-16T18:29:31+00:00

They definitely don’t wait for us lmfao

Catz10000 · 2022-02-16T18:49:34+00:00

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ConfusedBisexual1992 · 2022-02-16T18:49:20+00:00

No. I’m not putting all this effort into levelling up to settle for someone who has no idea wtf they’re doing. I will have a MSc soon, and plan to be financially stable and in shape within the next two years. Get on my level or gtfo.

KetoKittenAround · 2022-02-16T18:36:22+00:00

Solid no.

obiwindukin · 2022-02-16T19:13:20+00:00

Nope. Took me long enough to become who I am supposed to be and to learn to love myself and to accept I am worthy of love.

I don't want or need half a man and most certainly do not need or want a boy. 😊

mashibeans · 2022-02-16T19:49:32+00:00

Translation: Are you enough of a moronic, doormat sucker that you're willing to put up with a man's bullshit and zero effort?

(PS: Also, be willing to stay with him until he dumps you for a "better," younger female body?

Minkiemink · 2022-02-16T21:44:49+00:00

I saw this and burst out laughing. Ladies, I am 65.5 years old. "Wait for him"? Throw your life away in the hopes that your man might, (someday), pull his head out of his ass? Don't be ridiculous. I can assure you, there is absolutely no such thing as "potential". There is only the hard, cold reality of who someone has chosen to be right now.....and that goes for us as well.

myheartisfulloflove · 2022-02-16T20:01:37+00:00

When a man becomes who he is supposed to become, he's going to leave you for the woman he wanted since day one..... and high chance, it will not be you.

Meet him when he's done building himself up. Period.

KetoKittenAround · 2022-02-16T18:37:37+00:00

It’s not even like they love or appreciate you for supporting them. They take everything for granted. It’s up to us to bet on ourselves.

Plus, these men would grow up a lot faster if they were left with the real consequences of their actions.

edwardianemerald · 2022-02-16T19:36:22+00:00

He will hate you if you do this (heart emoji)

SakuraGirl88 · 2022-02-16T20:36:40+00:00

It's a no from me dawg. I have stuff to do.

BrightIdeaGenerator · 2022-02-16T21:04:06+00:00

No man waits for a woman to become who she is supposed to be. He definately doesn't help her along. He holds her back and complains. No, no I do not, because I don't fall in love with promises.

vbych76 · 2022-02-16T18:22:51+00:00

No. Definitely, hard, 100%, screamed from the rooftops NO.

TigreImpossibile · 2022-02-16T22:20:42+00:00

"But babe! I've improved so much! Imagine what I'll be like in 5 years!"

"Are you serious? I'm not going to waste 5 years hoping you'll be a better person, my purpose in life is not to help you become a better person."

Me, to my ex-husband. I'm so proud of 27-year-old me. I didn't have great boundaries and clarity then, but I called out this bullshit on the spot.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-16T20:03:18+00:00

Never date for “potential.” Decide if the man in front of you is the one you want to spend your life with.

DameSorciere · 2022-02-16T22:08:49+00:00

The real question we should be asking is, "Why does he deserve my love if he's not yet who he's supposed to be?"

Carneliancat · 2022-02-16T19:01:38+00:00

HA HA NO.

Throwaway__FDS · 2022-02-16T23:15:05+00:00

The answer is NO, it was exhausting trying to get that guy into some kind of trade school so that I wouldn’t make more quadruple his salary once I graduated. I realized that me making 4x as much as him wouldn’t light a fire under his ass, it would make him more comfortable. And y’all, it was a LDR and he wanted ME to relocate to HIM, probably so that I’d have no family or friends to support me.

spicyspa · 2022-02-16T18:58:34+00:00

Sniff.

highoncatnipbrownies · 2022-02-16T19:30:51+00:00

With you standing there waiting, he wont become that person. That's what enabling does. So make him better by dumping his lazy @$$ today!

jk1983671 · 2022-02-16T20:24:37+00:00

Ew. No. I'd turn into dust before that happens.

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2022-02-16T23:24:40+00:00

I'd rather watch paint dry.

SerialGeneralist · 2022-02-16T19:56:18+00:00

Not at all

dkwantsdk · 2022-02-16T19:42:47+00:00

Who he's supposed to be? And who is that?

radfem_babe · 2022-02-16T22:08:42+00:00

HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! No.

fds_throwaway_4_u · 2022-02-16T20:47:56+00:00

oscine23 · 2022-02-17T00:33:19+00:00

Laughs in where they do that at lol

PicoPicoMio · 2022-02-17T01:53:54+00:00

✨no✨

IgetUsernameScraps · 2022-02-17T03:58:23+00:00

Except they don’t want you to just wait, they also expect you to put in the work for him. That’s a no, then a hell no.

Title	No 🥰
Author	derpinat_butter
Upvotes	1497
Comments	60
Date	February 16, 2022 6:19 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/su2hwl/no/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/no.1101920 https://theredarchive.com/post/1101920

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