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Nah, I find people attractive who I wouldn't date all the time. Like...almost everyone. I date for marriage, so obviously I take dating a bit more seriously than someone looking for a hook up. Even so, I can find a guy really attractive, but if he doesn't want kids? We're not dating. If he doesn't want marriage? We're not dating. If he doesn't want a traditional family? We're not dating. Does he want to live in a city rather than small town/rural? We're not dating. Etc. That definitely doesn't m…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 04:46 PM
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One of my mother's close friends (let's call her Mary) was in a serious, longterm, committed relationship with a man. Both of them had cancer. She just stopped treatment and is in remission. He recently died. They were not married. His family didn't like her. She took care of him, supported him, and was by his side until the end, which came very suddenly--he'd been in recovery. They were not. The day of his funeral, she was in the house they lived in together. His family wanted her gone. They wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 02:12 AM
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You know, a man doesn't have to be beta to be nice to you in front of your parents. That's pretty standard for people across the board. You say you two have a good relationship, so I'll take your word for it. I will also add that sometimes if no one in your life likes who you're dating, it's for a reason. I'd have saved myself a lot of pain if I'd taken the thoughts of my closest friends and family to heart. But beyond that, I want to second all the advice to keep in mind what you tell people, e…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 02:02 AM
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Honestly I really rather this forum--and similar--didn't use the insider lingo and buzzwords and didn't have a cheesy name. I want to be able to share it with friends who would be open to the ideas but are turned off by the way they're presented and the super negative connotations associated. But I'm glad this forum exists and in the meantime, I'm happy to share my knowledge and ideas with people in the real world without any insider words--and it's usually well received. Sidebar: did you see th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 11:26 PM
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The saddest part was that was based on a true story. I was thinking of a particular friend. Every decent guy gets noped for no good reason, and every guy with a girlfriend, a wife, or who is literally a clown in a traveling circus troupe she'll spend the night with. No sex, but she's still spending the night. Blows my mind. I've given up on trying to help.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 06:40 PM
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If she enjoys being a nanny she could run a daycare from your home or continue to nanny. Some people will let her bring her own kids to nanny theirs. A family member has a nanny who brings her own daughter when she watches the friend's son. The kids get playmates, she gets to watch her daughter all day, and she gets a full time salary.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 06:23 PM
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Eh I didn't love it either. I watched all three at once which was maybe a mistake since the first one was much better than the second two. Either way, the whole pill thing has become such a meme that it is am embarrassing name either way.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 05:58 PM
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A lot of people deliberately self-sabotage too. It's easier to not make it work with a guy when he's already unavailable/messed up (too old, still married, long distance, literally a clown). Then it's not your fault things didn't work--it's the fact that he wasn't even a real option. It's a lot easier to not fail and not try than actually make an effort and still not succeed.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 05:56 PM
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(I have a 2005 model.) Literally lol'ing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:36 PM
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I'm very ADHD so I feel you. By the end I was certainly bored of picking out minute differences and everything felt like it was bleeding together. Eye fatigue on screens is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:34 PM
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Anecdotally, if I thought a guy was that hot, I wouldn't message him, and I'd probably ignore him if he messaged me. I figured he was out of my league, too attractive for me, I almost felt like I was being punked. The guys I did message and reply to were still attractive to me, but they were safe, in my league, and (I assumed, for better or worse) more likely to want a relationship with me. That last bit was obviously based off of profile knowledge, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:30 PM
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So knowing all the flaws with the study you're going to accept it as gospel? That's silly. That's silly with any one study. Science is constantly evolving and being challenged and being affirmed. Use it as inspiration. Are you young enough to be in college still? Go into a similar field and conduct research yourself. Studying humans is never easy but if nothing else, the consequences of the rating system should cancel out any faith you have in that study, regardless of whatever 80/20 you accept …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:25 PM
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Teenagers are still developing empathy skills. It's cool that you took it now at your age though so you have a benchmark to return to in a few years if you remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:22 PM
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If you ever take it again, consider taking a break in the middle and coming back to it later.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:20 PM
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You should still be proud. You scored above average in general and can probably read most people's emotions fairly well when presented with more than two eyes and half a brow.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:20 PM
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I agree that the behavior is both learned and innate. Most things are both nature and nurture, I don't think that was up for dispute. I also don't think anyone was saying this was the be all end all measure of your emotional intelligence--it's just one, short test with flaws to see how you compare to other humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:19 PM
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Right? I'd love to know which ones I did wrong, and if those were ones I was wavering on, if they were primarily female or male faces, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:17 PM
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Now I feel weird that I didn't notice any of these celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 10:37 PM
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A lot of these seem to be models. They're apparently all from magazines. I agree, I think it'd be more useful if they were real people, ideally not wearing makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 10:36 PM
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I think that was the purpose it was developed for so that's not surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 10:35 PM
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Good guessing!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 10:34 PM
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I cannot believe I have to do this again but this: This is true in the animal kingdom Is fucking wrong. Why does this come up all the time on pill subs? It drives me bananas. These subs discuss human behavior and yet people like to make these grandiose statements as though all animals have the exact same mating protocol as humans. Why?? Just talk about humans. Not all female animals want a superior male animal. Some animals can reproduce asexually. Some lizards literally do not need males to rep…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 09:34 PM
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I mean it kind of depends on circumstances but past 25 would be weird to me. The people who wait until marriage are usually married long before then. There could be mitigating circumstances, but probably 25. It also depends on what he means by virgin. I know guys who've only had anal/oral because they're worried about pregnancy. I wouldn't consider him a virgin, but I know some people might.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 09:21 PM
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That makes sense to me then. I feel like a lot of human facial expressions are fairly similar across culture but I'd love to read more about the similarities/differences. A lot of mammals actually have similar facial expressions for "emotions," which is why we can read looks on dogs (for example).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 09:09 PM
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I actually thought they did a decent job not making the emotions to similar (i.e. not anger/rage/dislike/discontent but irritated/playful/guilty/disinterested).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 09:07 PM
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I had a hard time with the women's expressions as well. They were made up and looked a bit shopped? Reading the expressions is a lot of eye movements, brow movements, and head tilt, and if you smooth out the brow lines and eye lines it's harder to figure out what's happening. I also thought it was weird that most of the women were "interested/flirtatious/desiring" and the men got to experience actual emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 09:05 PM
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Are you a famous and/or wealthy man? If not, probably around 35. The girl my boyfriend pseudo-dated (more of a FWB arrangement) before me was 18 when he was around 33. He's since told me he felt kind of creepy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 07:26 PM
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31/36 (24 YO female, native English speaker)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 07:10 PM
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Wow I had no idea you weren't a native speaker, it definitely doesn't come across in any of your posts! What is your native language if you don't mind sharing? The non-native speaker is definitely relevant, even if you know all the words you might miss some connotations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 07:09 PM
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24/female/rpw Exactly the same answers. I'd be shocked if cheating wasn't worst for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 07:08 PM
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It really bothers me that he's essentially saying we're all wrong for what we find attractive. Like his whole premise is that these men are 6-7s and that we are incorrect if we disagree. I'm pretty sure attraction doesn't work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 07:06 PM
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I got 31 and just reposted it as a topic here. The results page mentioned those under 18 skew lower (which makes sense, teenagers have poor empathy) and that women tend to skew higher than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 07:05 PM
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This was a really interesting test actually. I never heard of it and just took it. I will say I feel like the female emotions were more guarded in almost every example photo than the male ones. I'd be curious as to what the scores of this sub looked like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 05:29 PM
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For me it was the lighting. Something about the angle and the lighting and the editing of the photo screamed: creepy and trying too hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 05:21 PM
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I actually think that's a big part of miscommunication with "be yourself" style advice. It's pretty status quo for women to put a lot of effort into their appearance. I think because it's normal for us to do, we assume it goes without saying to put effort into how you look and the way you present yourself. Then guys end up frustrated because they think that advice means they can put in zero effort and still pull whoever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 05:18 PM
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I'll bite. No, I don't accept the evidence OkCupid provided. Want to know why? Because rating people on OkCupid has consequences. If you rate someone as 4 or 5 stars (in other words, above average), they get a message telling them that you find them attractive. Literally every time I rated someone 4 or 5 stars, they messaged me afterwards thinking I'm interested. Because of this, I'd only rate someone highly if I a) found them attractive and b) wanted to date them based on their profile. If you …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 05:10 PM
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Says who? Not being ornery, just really wondering where you're getting that those dudes were somehow objectively 6-7's? Curious about this too. Attractiveness is pretty subjective anyways. How can you tell people they were "wrong"? Not to mention how difficult it is to rate from one picture (not even a particularly flattering picture) of just a face.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 04:59 PM
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What's the spice mix subscription? That sounds right up my alley!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/15 06:08 AM
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Pretty much. My best friend and I are within an inch of each other and she has 35-40 lbs on me or so. We both measured our bf% once and they were within a couple percentage points. Were I her weight, I'd look really chubby. Were she my weight, she'd look emaciated. Again, within an inch of each other, and 35-40 lbs heavier than me and we don't look drastically different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 04:03 AM
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Ideal weight number is silly. Ideal BMI number is silly. It looks wildly different on different women. Some women gain weight in the places that make your dick hard. Some women gain weight in the places that don't. Your shape is a factor of your genetics, and a woman who is not predisposed to gaining in her hips/ass/thighs will not have the curvy body you want just because she gains 20 lbs. A woman who is predisposed to gaining in her hips/thighs/ass will still look curvy when thinner. A tiny wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 06:49 AM
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I think you're misunderstanding. It's not that he physically can't rape someone, but that he can't stomach holding down a crying, screaming woman who doesn't want to be there. I mean actually, maybe he physically can't, in that I'm not sure most men would be able to perform under those circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 03:11 PM
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I do not care about this issue, but it's not currently illegal for men to wear leggings or skirts. Bike shorts are short leggings. I've seen many a man in a kilt (either utilikilt or Scottish). Just because most men don't doesn't mean men can't. Also, as I understand it, woman wanting to go topless want to be able to go topless in the instances men do--so at the beach or the pool primarily, or possibly while exercising (though that's less likely since support is needed).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 09:20 PM
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I really, really love this and need to work on implementing this in my life. I'm very overly apologetic. Not only does it force others to feel bad for you, but it also reframes the way they think of you. And it's very negative. Thank you so much for posting this!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:58 PM
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Which is certainly respectable, and not anything I have a problem with--I take my man's suggestions to heart far more than I don't. Might just be a phrasing issue.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:54 PM
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Yeah, I saw your comment. For me, that would be too much, but I understand where you're coming from. I respond really poorly to that kind of command, but that doesn't mean it doesn't work for others.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:53 PM
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I saw that one! Totally true, and puts me in a good mood even if I'm feeling sassy. Nothing better than a man who still loves you and is into you after you've been together for awhile.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:52 PM
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I absolutely think there is. I also think most people respond better to, "you probably shouldn't read this because there's X in it, which I know will upset you," than "you are not permitted to read this."
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 04:50 PM
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Thanks for sharing! I'll admit the most recent post was a little polarizing, but I'm actually finding the blog a fascinating look into someone else's head and getting some good info.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 04:48 PM
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I agree, that really rubbed me the wrong way. While he looks out for me and tries to protect me, he'd never try to remove my agency and tell me I couldn't. Plus he knows the best way for me to learn anything is often the hard way. That being said, the bit about being pleasant really resonated with me. Whenever I'm acting bitchy, he'll remind me that whatever else is going on (within reason obviously), I still need to be pleasant.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 04:16 PM
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To be fair though, we were totally children! I was shocked to realize I was like 10 when the LOTR movies started. How on earth did I even have crushes?! I actually liked Aragorn a lot--I've always been attracted to darker hair/eyes--but he was intimidating to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:17 AM
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that's why lots of women wear red lipstick (for example) even though we know most men don't find it attractive. Yeah, my boyfriend does not like colored lipstick. He sometimes likes red lips when I'm all done up, but as a general rule, he doesn't like it. I pretty much only wear colored/dark lips when I'm not with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:16 AM
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I fake tan in the summer but I slather on sunscreen like it's my job. Ain't no one trying to get wrinkles over here (or you know, cancer).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:14 AM
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(bright red lipstick, darker eyeshadow, lengthened eyelashes, etc.) This is key right here. Men notice: exaggerated eyelashes, colored lipstick/eyeshadow, obvious liner, instabrows. Men do not notice: primer, natural foundation, concealer, subtle contour/highlight/blush, "natural" brows, nude eyeshadows, normal mascara, nude/MLBB lips. Obviously some men are exceptions, and if makeup is applied poorly, it's easy to spot. But I've been wearing like 10 products before and had someone tell me I loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:12 AM
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It's really interesting to me how my tastes changed as I got older. The prequels came out when I was a young teen and I was very attracted to him. Similarly, Lord of the Rings came out around the same time and I was very attracted to Legolas. Now I could really do without either (especially with Aragorn in the picture).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:05 AM
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THAT was Hayden Christensen?? You're blowing my mind, I had no idea. Pretentious was just the v-neck and the sunglasses and the face. Assuming these are real people that I'm meeting, I'm pretty good at revising judgments when I realize I'm wrong or presumptive. But since it's just a thought experiment, those were my honest reactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 03:56 AM
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He looks kind of like a douchebag. My immediate, split second reaction was a slight grimace. I can see that he is objectively attractive, but nothing about his look (either face, style, or body) work for me. I smiled, because that's a hilarious picture. He actually has an attractive face, buried under the pile of fedoras. If he were dressed like a normal person, I'd say yes I'd be attracted I think (which is a crazy reaction given how ridiculous that photo is). Kind of scary looking. Attractive,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 03:03 AM
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Men and women are different, and that's okay. They have different strengths and different weaknesses. Working together, men and women can be greater than if they were separate. Some men suck, and some women suck. Most people are good and are trying to do the right thing. In general, I love men. They're the yin to my yang. Male friendships, relationships, actions, thought processes, goals, motivations, and desires are often very different than mine, but that's a good thing. More empathy is needed…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 11:06 PM
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I find attractive male bodies sexy. If you've got a big gut and you're dressed poorly in badly fitting clothes, I'm probably not going to look twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 10:47 PM
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There was quite a bit of vitriol in my reply to you, but I get annoyed by random non-subscribers who come dump their problems here expecting us to immediately agree with and support them. Also, their original plan super sucks. They'd both be working full time--her outside the home (and most teachers I know put in a ton of outside hours)--and he'd somehow be full time looking after a baby? And their house is going to magically not be a disgusting pigsty? Who's going to take care of that? Is she n…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 08:23 PM
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I'm not quite sure what you expect rpw to say on this topic. ...he probably wants us to say she's an entitled bitch whore after his money so that he can turn around and say, "Look, all these internet women agree with me! You're a gold-digging witch!" I feel like we get a lot of agenda posts around here from men and women that all feel like this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 08:15 PM
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Treat her like you're on the same team and not like she's a gold digger, dude! The best piece of relationship advice I've ever gotten is that every argument should be you two against the problem, not you two against each other. They're not a team at all. I feel bad for her.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 08:13 PM
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Serious question: do people not discuss unwanted pregnancies pre-pregnancy or pre-sex? In both my relationships we took precautions but also had conversations about it super early on, and when my opinion changed in my current relationship we had a new conversation to establish we were still on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 05:10 PM
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That one's my biggest weakness. I try to preemptively jump on explaining myself because my ex would demand an explanation from me if anything wasn't perfect (or even if it was). It's a bad habit I'm trying to break.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 03:21 PM
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you do it nicely with a please and thank you. This seems to be one of those things that falls by the wayside the longer you're with someone. After awhile you realize you're treating total strangers with more common courtesy than the person you love. So important to remember.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 03:59 PM
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You ever notice how it feels like women remember things way better than men? And how it feels like they multitask way better than men? TRP is a forum for men, so they tend to primarily focus on male strengths and female weaknesses, for better or worse, and because we sprung out from that, sometimes I think women can forget that we have strengths. And remembering where his socks are is a strength (however silly that sounds). So be helpful! If he can't find his socks, tell him where they are. Take…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 03:58 PM
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I don't think you understood what that person was saying. They were saying they don't want fatherly love from the person they get sexual love from. So naturally, they wouldn't give motherly love to the person they give sexual love to. If a man is expecting to be treated the way a woman treats her child, he does need to reevaluate, because that's not how we as humans operate. It's not sexy for a reason--and it makes sense from an evolutionary perspective as well, to discourage incest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 03:44 PM
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Honestly I get where you're coming from--boyfriend and I actually did something similar when we first got together, writing down our expectations and then coming back to them to discuss how we were doing, what we were wrong about, what we need more about, etc. I think as an informal thing on a very small scale it can helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 09:45 PM
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I see several comments already about how women get fat after getting married and men aren't allowed to "let themselves go" or the woman will dump him. Here you go: married men are even fatter than married women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 08:39 PM
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assuming it's not satire I'm pretty sure it's satire. But that doesn't mean advice isn't helpful for anyone wondering the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 08:32 PM
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You have to become an attractive person. Nothing annoys me more than whiny people complaining that they shouldn't have to change who they are to find love. Okay cool, but you're antisocial, chubby, and dress like a teenager from 2005. Unless you want love from the female version of yourself (I saw her at Target yesterday! Half her hair is blue, all of it is short, she's fat, and she's not wearing any makeup), you're gonna have to make some changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 08:31 PM
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Chess is different than sports though. Being at a physical disadvantage is not a disadvantage at all with chess--you could be a triple amputee and as long as you have a limb to move pieces, you can still play chess. Women-only chess leagues were not about making things easier for women but about enticing women to play chess in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 08:24 PM
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I don't think women would want to shower in the same room as men is depicted in Starship Troopers, for example. I haven't seen this movie, but I used to go to a school that had gender neutral bathrooms. If a male or female student was uncomfortable with this, the school would simply designate those bathrooms as male or female bathrooms, as there were two bathrooms on each floor anyways. The showers and toilets and urinals all had stall doors. At first I thought it was going to be awful, but it a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 08:21 PM
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You're trying to logic your way out of a bad relationship/break up. You figure that if you lay down a contract that states you want X, Y, and Z, and you'll do X, Y, and Z, then as long as both sides uphold their end of the contract, you'll be set. That's not how life works. That's why when you buy a house or get a loan or insurance it takes stacks of paperwork. They're trying to cover ever inch of their asses. And it still doesn't work--which is why insurance lawyers (for example) are a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 08:17 PM
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I did see that! But it's hard if say all the posts on the first page are dessert or breakfast and I want to look for dinner, or maybe I want breads and they're under bread and not baking. A list of all recipes linked off the main page (preferably categorized but not necessary, could just be alphabetical) would be so helpful. Her photos and food are beautiful! I'm getting table setting ideas as well :) For some reason her site reminds me of Half Baked Harvest. Edit: Something I love that not enou…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 05:17 PM
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The simpler solution would be to sit down and talk to your partner about what you want and expect out of them and yourself for this relationship. Poor communication is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 04:18 PM
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Thanks for sharing, it looks beautiful! Seconding the call for a recipe index though, it'll be a bit hard to navigate without it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 04:10 PM
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Relevantly, I have a recipes binder where I print off successful recipes. I actually wish I bought a bigger binder! I have them in plastic sleeves to protect them while I'm cooking, and when I'm stumped for ideas, I can flick through. For awhile we printed up review labels where we'd make any notes--like "this heated well for lunch the next day," or "needs way more salt," or "should cook for ten minutes longer," or "halve the sugar."
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 04:08 PM
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I've seen this as well, and it has nothing to do with our social mores. Long ago in human prehistory, long before civilization, this would have been an evolutionary advantage. Of course, like all theories concerning early humans, we can't know for sure. But passing judgment on early humans is a lot like judging the morals of lions--it just doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 10:55 PM
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I think it'd be more interesting to address this question to a wide variety of women, because you'll find many of them do have a refractory period where any touch is too much. That being said, I think it's a bit silly for us to sit here pushing out unsubstantiated hypotheses of the purpose of the female orgasm just to make it fit various theories. This article is interesting and basically summed up by: Dr. Lloyd said scientists had insisted on finding an evolutionary function for female orgasm i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 08:51 PM
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You know how RP tells men to fake it until they make it? Maybe this might work for you Behavior certainly can influence thought and emotion. This is the guiding principle behind some types of therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/15 03:27 PM
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You can't always get what you want. When my siblings and I would ask for something as kids, my dad would make us sing the chorus of that Rolling Stones song!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/15 03:19 PM
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Eh I was 20. I just lived in an area before that where I didn't have a lot of options, was incredibly shy, and was cripplingly self-conscious. I'd barely even dated before that. And no, I'm neither fat nor unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 02:51 PM
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Lol I used to get so annoyed that he was incapable of putting his towels back after using them and he was like, "why would I need to when the towel fairy does it once I go to work?" Now it's our little joke and it makes me weirdly happy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 03:03 AM
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I love this. Sometimes I wonder what I did to get so lucky, to have a man like I have, but I've definitely been guilty of being ungrateful of how hard he works when I only want to spend time with him. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 01:23 AM
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Yes ma'am!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 01:02 AM
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I don't think any of us would say you did the wrong thing. Your safety and especially your children's safety comes first. That can't be easy--I left an abusive man and it was honestly the hardest thing I've ever done. I'm proud of you, internet stranger. I hope you're all much happier now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 10:30 PM
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Hey, I wanted to tell you, I really admire a lot of your comments over there--and your ability to put up with the negativity that accompanies posting there.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 10:23 PM
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I remember literally having a moment where I was like, "I should wear a dress, men like dresses. No, I should wear leggings and a hoodie, BF likes that. Oh god what do I wear." And I almost slapped myself. I'm a pretty indecisive person anyways, so that realization was actually really helpful and productive for me. I feel like kind of a dummy sharing this story--not my proudest moment--but hey, that's how we grow!
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 10:20 PM
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.I was talking to /u/_wingnut_ in RPW IRC about something....i forget. I think I was feeling really emotional for some reason -- probably over a guy, and she was like "omg you're a woman!! of course!! just go with it" something along those lines. ...I need to hang out in the IRC, that sounds like a fun place and I'm glad you reposted that--it's something I needed to hear too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 09:03 PM
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You can't change anyone else, only yourself, and even that is incredibly difficult. That's why most people never really grow, change, or mature much past their adolescence. That's like RP 101. If she asks for advice, feel free to share some, keeping in mind good communication technique (e.g. I-statements, examples of others, sympathizing with her position, not putting her on the defensive). But don't expect her to change.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 08:45 PM
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*also, anyone can learn things from all sorts of different places - if the submissive half of a relationship comes here, no matter their sex or gender or whatever kids these days call it, they should be able to get some good pointers. This is exactly what I was getting at. If two lesbians are in a traditional relationship and one half wants advice on being a better supporting mate, she could find plenty of helpful advice here.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 07:38 PM
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If he's using its absence as a deal breaker, then you may want to reconsider if he is the right match for you. And you also may want to consider his level of education and whether or not someone in your life who would discount you for not having a hymen. Chances are good he also doesn't understand what a hymen really is and thinks it's a shield guard in front of the vagina.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 06:59 PM
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Are you having a stroke?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 06:56 PM
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Various animals have various mating strategies. Female "animals" (as a whole) are not necessarily attracted to any one thing. Some animals produce asexually, even. Wide generalizations about the entire animal kingdom aren't especially illustrative of human behavior beyond, "living organisms have a lot of carbon," and "most animals require oxygen."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 06:53 PM
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You seem way too focused on proving your virginity. Not only are you wrong--it is not your or any person's greatest asset--it is also not something you should feel you have to prove. Just be honest. And please see a second gyno. It could be the hymen (in which case remove it!) but it could also be something else, like vaginismus. I also think a lot of men, especially ones who grew up with sisters, understand that birth control does a whole lot more than its stated name. I certainly went on it ye…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 06:49 PM
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I wouldn't think very highly of a man if I could get him to throw money at me for the promise of sex, but I also feel like I missed some Woman 101 everyone else (supposedly) seemed to have gotten regarding how to manipulate, because I apparently suck at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 05:14 PM
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I don't think she's necessarily more reasonably than the rest of the sub. Most of us feel the same way over there. If you or your children are in danger, that comes first. There was a recent thread where a woman who was abused posted but didn't share details about abuse until after she got replies. That kind of thing happens and makes the sub look like crap because everyone goes, "look, RPW encourage women to stay with abusers!" No, that's never something I think any of us would ever advise. I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 05:12 PM
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I used to work as a photographer and had people do that. I always felt weird about it. You're never going to be able to replicate the scene and it would always be fake. I wouldn't want a fake proposal picture on my wall. Engagement shoots are nice though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 06:50 PM
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Aw I kinda like photos of the event! I wouldn't necessarily want photos just because I wouldn't want there to be an audience (public proposals freak me out and seem kind of manipulative), but candid photos of genuinely happy moments are beautiful. I've never heard of anyone making someone hire a photographer though, that's weird. It's usually just tipped off family or a friend hiding behind a bush.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 06:50 PM
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Literally awwww'd out loud. This is so cute!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 06:46 PM
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Oh did you miss the weekly meeting? On Wednesdays we wear pink.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 06:44 PM
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It's not rocket science. I'm a bitch when I'm hungry or horny. I like being around pleasant people. Why wouldn't my man be the same?
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 05:41 PM
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Same, and I don't think this is uncommon, at least not in my circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 04:13 PM
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I don't think you have to ignore those differences in order to have preferences regarding partner count.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 04:11 PM
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Thank you for making this post. There are so many people who come up like, "I agree with RPW but my husband likes short hair/tattoos/piercings/girls in leggings," "I want to be a RPW but my boyfriend wants me to be in charge of the finances/we don't want to get married/we don't have children/we want me to work," etc. And I felt like that too in the beginning! I felt like there was a checklist of things I needed to do and if I didn't do all of them, I wasn't a "real" RPW. And that shouldn't be th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 04:07 PM
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This is not me but was the absolute best couple I knew--one of those couples where people would be like, "How is it so easy/perfect for you?" and they'd be the first to tell you it wasn't, that they worked everyday to make each other happy. They were living together and woke up one morning. He rolled over and said, "what if we got married?" and she said okay. And they planned a wedding. They were married until she died a couple years ago, never had kids, traveled all over the world, built a beau…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 04:03 PM
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I give her a little less credit than Candace, because she's not into health/fitness, and Candace is aging better as a result. To be fair, Candace made her living as a TV actress and is younger, but I thought Ree Drummond was in her 50s or even older! She's not fat or anything and her hair looks fantastic, but her makeup artist isn't doing her any favors and it looks like her genetics aren't either. I do love her, I was just shocked by the fact that she's only mid-40s.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 01:09 AM
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It is unfair. I never said it wasn't unfair. But that doesn't mean that his employer should have to keep him on. "Accused criminal" isn't a protected class.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 11:36 PM
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For better or worse, you are not entitled to your job. He can be fired for someone not liking his haircut. Also, this is not the first time he's generated controversy. I don't blame the companies for not wanting to drag their names through the mud along with his. Not to mention that their business is sex. If an employee of theirs is, in their minds, credibly accused of sexual misconduct, they need to at minimum investigate the situation, just like we investigate and suspend bankers accused of fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 07:35 PM
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He lost a freelance gig as a sex columnist. People lose sponsors (because that's essentially all this was) for less controversy than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 07:15 PM
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...I'm sorry, did he get thrown in jail when we weren't paying attention? Innocent until proven guilty does not apply to public opinion, whether or not we feel it should.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 07:09 PM
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Right this can only hurt her. Obviously she doesn't think anything will come of it legally, but this could and probably will tank her career. She's getting a huge backlash. I have a hard time believing someone would put themselves through that for no good reason, and I've heard other sketchy things about him (that people usually write off). This won't hurt him, but it'll hurt her. I dunno, there's no way to really know what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 07:04 PM
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That looks amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 06:09 PM
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It's a little bell because you shouldn't have to talk so much about how you're "pro" consent. Just like I don't walk around talking about how I definitely didn't murder anyone. You probably didn't think I was a murderer when you met me, but now that I'm trying really hard to convince you I'm not, it's crossing your mind. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 05:58 PM
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Roast chicken sounds like a wonderful idea! I've been wanting to make a stuffed roasted chicken for awhile, it just always seemed like too much for some reason haha. What kind of corn do you make? I always think of corn on the cob as a summer treat, but it's delicious so there's no reason not to make it year round.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 05:38 PM
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Like I said, I'd never have dated someone his age if it wasn't him. We were solely platonic friends for a little while until we both found ourselves single and went for it. So don't feel pressured into it. Also a thought--is it possible you don't notice some attention? I used to be really oblivious, mostly as a holdover of insecurity. Either way I wouldn't sweat it. You are attracting younger guys too. It could be any number of things. Maybe you have a more classic look. Maybe you come across as…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 05:36 PM
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The dogs get a little embarrassed wearing them, but it saves her a lot of trouble. And they can't get them off. Admittedly I've never tried to use the female ones though if she has girl dogs.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 05:32 PM
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I've always gotten a weird vibe from James Deen. He makes a huge deal out of consent and being a good guy. That's actually kind of weird to me. It's like the guy who keeps loudly proclaiming he's "a nice guy." Like okay, if you're nice/not a rapist/totally normal, why do you have to try so hard to convince people...? Something about people trying really hard to convince others that they're totally normal sets off warning bells for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 04:32 PM
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That's just insecurity. There's no basis in facts there. I'm sure most of us can relate to feeling insecure in various ways. Try to remember that the worst that can happen--the absolute worst--is that you'll say something wrong. Be humble when corrected, and no one will judge.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:26 PM
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This is how I deal with children and problematic people and it works so well. Assign tasks and offer choices. Don't leave anything open ended.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:18 PM
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Have you seen belly bands? My mom's dogs are elderly so she uses them for hers when she leaves the house or is at someone else's house. You put half a diaper in the band right by their bits, and then if they do have an accident, you just throw out the diaper. Way easier than scrubbing up dog urine. If you think fiance won't kick the dogs out for good, just buy a couple of these and strap them to the dogs when they come over. If your in laws don't like it, they don't have to bring the dogs (or th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:16 PM
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Most women have much greater emotional intelligence and social intelligence than men. We also have better support networks and tend to be more stable. Men are definitely more emotional than women in certain ways. They're quicker to express rage and intense anger and worse at de-escalating situations (much better at escalating them, which I'd call a fault). Many of them are less empathetic. Women tend to perform better academically than men. Am I saying men suck? Of course not. On average, men ha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:11 PM
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The gun range membership is a great idea! I might have to steal that :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:04 PM
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We're moving over the holidays, so I doubt we'll do much, which is a bummer because I wanted to bake a billion cookies and decorate the house. I love Christmas. I'm getting him a couple small gifts and might try to make a good Christmas meal. I'm not Christian, so if anyone has any suggestions for anything traditional but good for two people (so not a whole ham or prime rib) I'd be excited to hear of them!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:03 PM
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A few things crossed my mind while reading this. One, where are you meeting all these guys? Do you online date or go to bars with a lot of older guys or...? I remember I didn't really encounter older men when I was in college (barring like professors). Whatever the answer, if you're encountering a lot of older men, it makes sense that you'd get asked out more often by them. There are a lot more older men than there are men that are 18-25 just as a matter of statistics. But I disagree with the ad…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 03:59 PM
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Don't overeat. Also important because food comas are real. I can barely have a conversation if I eat too much!
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 12:20 AM
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-Try to engage his family in light topics, avoid religion and politics. This is true even if they bring it up. Polite agreement or a subject change is all that's really appropriate even if they start it. With my first boyfriend, I let myself get dragged into a political argument with his parents pretty early on. I still cringe. Don't be me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 12:19 AM
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This is really good advice! The first time I met my boyfriend's whole family he abandoned me pretty much immediately, which made me panic, but it also let me bond with the older women in his family. Plus you don't want to be the girl attached at the hip to her boyfriend, that's never good. Also, if there are children in the family, I like to play with them. It looks good because being good with kids is a positive trait, and kids are way less stressful to me than adults.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 12:17 AM
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Oh definitely try an actual BMR calculator, but honestly, there's a lot of guesswork involved in the whole thing, including how many calories are actually in whatever you're eating. 1100 is pretty low--under 1200 is pretty hard to get in all your necessary nutrients/hit macro goals, but if you're pretty short and/or eat carefully it's probably fine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 08:28 PM
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My fitness pal (MFP) is super useful and has an app. You can use that site to calculate your suggested caloric intake or use a calculator like this. Your BMR is what you'd be burning if you were in a coma, basically, and you should not go under that. MFP app has a barcode scanner, which is great not only for processed foods but also some prepackaged produce. It has a huge database of foods. When I cook, I measure each ingredient (so X oz. of chicken, X tbs of oil, etc--a food scale is your frien…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 08:05 PM
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Chipotle has a really good nutrition calculator on their website for future reference. I usually get a kids meal (with a side of salsa or guac for the chips), and I leave stuffed after a few hundred calories. Sometimes I go full burrito, but it's nice to have options for when I want to be able to walk after lunch.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 07:58 PM
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I'm pretty sedentary right now so it works for me, but it's definitely too little when I'm exercising or at a standing job. Even my fit, health conscious friends can't seem to empathize with me on the hunger though. Their response is usually "eat more" or whatever, which is not quite what I'm looking for. Most women irl act like it's an effortless endeavor. Mentioned this elsewhere but people seem to think I can eat whatever I want whether they see me eating or not. I always make a point to let …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 07:55 PM
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It's mostly a problem of ignorance and a lack of education. I don't let it bother me, but I don't talk about it much either. People tend to assume I'm someone who can just eat whatever she wants and not gain which is ridiculous to me because everyday is a struggle. The only thing that bugs me about the Caroline Berg Eriksen story is the idea that all women should do that because one woman did.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 04:20 PM
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Maybe silly, but I really appreciated how many people in that sub shared their stories about how hungry they were all the time. I'm 5'6" or so and to lose 0.5lb/week without exercise I have to eat at 1200. It's really damn hard. I felt like there was something wrong with me!
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 04:17 PM
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get out of the doghouse free Literally said "ew" out loud.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 12:58 AM
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Is there ever a legitimate reason to work at McDonalds? Everyone looks down on you, you make as little money as they can legally pay you, you smell like fast food pretty much always, and you often have to work with terrible people. You're not working there for pleasure, so what's a legitimate reason to work there? Oh right, money. I forgot the reason we all go to work each day. Only you make significantly more money as a sex worker as an attractive woman than you ever could at McDonalds--that's …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 12:53 AM
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The more tired I am, the later it is in the work day, the more likely I am to commit a gaffe. Yikes! Just to build on this, any of your needs being met leads to worst moods and snippier behavior. Being hungry, thirsty, tired, in pain, late for something, stressed etc. will all turn me into a huge witch. I used to get annoyed at myself for not being able to control myself, but this year I just decided to treat the source. Hungry? Grab a Snickers (or an apple), and don't talk for 20 minutes. This …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 04:01 AM
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I was thinking about this at work the other day--couple comes in, middle aged, looks/acts like they've been together quite awhile, she's kept herself looking very good, and he looks like a butterball. What a bummer for her. Obviously I don't know their whole story, but still. Bummer. Like everyone has said, you can't change anyone, only yourself. However if your SO does express dissatisfaction with themselves and a desire to change, you can be really helpful and instrumental in this. Pack him he…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 03:27 AM
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...I seriously wish I was that friend right now. Sometimes I just go to the shopping part of that website to ogle.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/15 01:06 AM
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I mean, in that case I still talk about it first, but I would not be comfortable if that was the first time we had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 09:24 PM
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I mean there are some positions where you really can't move much or do much participating. I always worry a little that I'm starfishing, but I feel like if he wanted me to be more active in that moment, he'd make it possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 07:35 PM
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I like to have sex like that sometimes. Sometimes I do not. Your edit is kind of off point--just because we don't specifically negotiate exactly what's happening before sex commences doesn't mean we don't have boundaries and safe words long since in place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 07:33 PM
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I'm not sure we've ever had an actual fight? It's not because we're a perfect magical unicorn couple from Candyland either. If one of us has an issue, we bring it up, present our feelings/concerns, and tackle it from there. We deal with issues as they come up, even if they seem small, that way nothing builds up to cause resentment. You don't want to have a big blowout six months from now where you bring up every hurtful thing. You wanna deal with them one at a time. One thing that works for us (…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 06:50 PM
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It means we have no agency or will because we are obviously malleable bits of dough, helpless to resist the will of our men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 02:08 PM
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Welcome! I think this sub is excellent for anyone who is fulfilling the traditionally feminine/first mate role in a relationship. I'm sure there's probably a submissive man in a relationship with a dominant woman out there who could benefit from this place lol.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 02:00 PM
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A mom picks up after her kids because they can't or won't do it. That's why it's so important to me that my boyfriend was able to take care of himself before me--with my ex, I later found out that when he'd lived alone, his mother came and cleaned up after him. What this meant for me was that he had crazy high cleaning standards, expected me to fulfill them, didn't understand what went into it, and I was literally filling his mother's role. (I feel like I end up talking about my ex way more ofte…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 01:57 PM
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I've always wanted kids. It was never a question for me. Having kids was something that broke my parents up, so I make sure to be very upfront about that desire when dating. I'm always shocked when I see married couples that haven't talked about that kind of thing yet--like what if you find out you're incompatible in that regard? Not necessarily something to count on, per say, but I think it's more common among men to not think they want children until they're older.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 01:40 PM
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Meanwhile you just know these are the same women who have no issue dictating their preferences to their husbands. I just don't get it. I'd rather be more attractive to him as long as it's not having an actual detrimental effect on me, so why wouldn't I dress/use makeup/style my hair to his preferences? It's not harder, and I like having an SO that's actually attracted to me.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 01:36 PM
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Wow thank you! I feel unworthy of it haha.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 01:34 PM
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Oh I remember reading your post! It was quite reassuring to me then and now. I'm glad you have less toxic people in your life now :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 01:34 PM
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Yeah there are definitely a lot of moments I can't stand, but Danny is some solid eye candy and it's funny enough. I usually put it on in the background while I'm cleaning. And thanks, I'll check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 04:26 AM
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So I've seen that most other subs that reference us seem to think we're all men. I'm pretty sure most of us aren't, but do you get a lot of guys obviously pretending to be women?
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 10:20 PM
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Weird question, but do any of you watch The Mindy Project? There was an episode where she attempted to be a SAHM and found a website that basically guided her through what she needed to do on a daily basis and whatnot. That website was obviously invented for the show, but does anyone know a similar one? With a list of goals and daily cleaning schedules etc.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 10:11 PM
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Woah thank you! I was wondering about that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 09:53 PM
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Congratulations on your happiness :) This is beautiful! And that's a conscious decision. It's a decision every day to remember that the man you are dating is not his good fortune, or his bad fortune. He's just a man who works hard and is worth valuing whether that work pays off or not. I love this. I used to spend so much time fretting over whether or not I'd made the right decision. I lived in fear of picking wrong and realizing that I had this agency, that my love was a decision, and not subje…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 09:34 PM
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I love f.lux. I hate using electronics at night without it. I dunno if you're much of a reader, but I find the Kindle Paperwhite doesn't have the same effect on my brain that my phone does. I fall asleep much easier with that than I do with any other electronic.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 09:24 PM
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I don't think either of them should be put over one another in a dating situation. For a dating situation, you should want morals/personality compatible to yours and looks you find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 09:23 PM
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He kissed my hand and told me I have his favorite name in the whole world. This is absolutely adorable.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:48 PM
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I hope this doesn't come out wrong (especially because I'm only a few years older than you), but you have an almost shocking amount of poise and maturity for 21. I was shocked when I saw your age somewhere, I assumed you were much older.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:48 PM
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Honestly, modding this place seems like such a pain. Y'all are champs. I feel like the number of trolls we get are much greater than average, especially because we get linked from other subs a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:46 PM
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I'm probably way too abrupt of a person when it comes to topics like that--I'll just blurt out whatever I'm thinking (my challenge right now is working on timing). I got lucky and my guy likes having philosophical/theoretical discussions. Using movies/tv shows/books/reddit posts as lead ins to conversations works well. His parents are still married and he's pretty traditional. I don't think divorce was ever even on the radar for him. No one gets married intending to get divorced, but some people…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:33 PM
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Thank you so much for this thread! I end up with a ton of questions that I don't feel are worthy of threads. Married ladies/engaged ladies: what did the timeline of your relationship look like? Like dating -> engagement -> marriage? And at what age did all of this occur? How old is everyone? Do any of you ladies (particularly SAH) get backlash from families/friends? How did you overcome that?
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:29 PM
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...is this a Bloody Mary situation? I feel like if we say her name too many times she'll appear.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:24 PM
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Do you have an iPhone? I downloaded Alien Blue, which has a night mode (and an ultra low contrast mode). Makes it easier to go to sleep immediately after turning it off. ...I realize that's a weird feature to focus on, but I'm really into my beauty sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:23 PM
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You can also go to their username and downvote from there, and there's always a downvote option on mobile. In case someone says something really egregious and you just can't resist.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:21 PM
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Same for me. My parents are divorced which aided the conversation, and when we watch movies or TV shows we let that trigger our conversation too (in terms of what makes a good couple, what's acceptable and what isn't). I'm very upfront about the fact that barring extraneous circumstances, I don't consider divorce an option.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:20 PM
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I don't understand the point. I do love my SO for his morals. They are essential to our being in a relationship in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 08:18 PM
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A ditsy, extroverted, fun-loving, impulsive, female-brained girl with an N count of 3 will always be judged by popular opinion as much much more slutty than a reserved, poised, demure introverted woman even if she's quietly racked up a count of 20 and simply never made it obvious. This is so on point and also a big part of why I really don't see the point of these questions. A man shouldn't care what other men think makes a slut--they should only need to know what they think makes a slut and pur…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 08:14 PM
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It did! It's such an awkward, weird problem. Generally whenever it's been >7 days or so, I get the burning again. A hot shower or heating pad helps. After a time or two, my body adjusts (no idea how), and it stops burning. Generally he finishes inside me, which keeps my body's tolerance steady.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 05:17 PM
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How old is she?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 02:49 PM
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TMI sexual details below, read at your own risk. So sex always hurts for me for the first bit--anywhere from a minute to about 5. Additionally, when he finishes inside me and hasn't for awhile (so every time he comes back after a business trip), it burns like hell. I'm also prone to UTIs. First things first, go to the doctor. I resisted once because I thought I knew my body well enough--turns out I had a low lying yeast infection and a bacterial infection. No wonder sex was so painful! Second th…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 02:00 PM
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Yeah I think that comes up in the FAQ part. Most people are terrified to reveal disabled status because they don't want to be disqualified because of it, which is what this tries to combat. Most higher levels jobs require a 4 year degree (can't remember if you said you had one?) but for lower level ones, it's not always necessary especially if you're well connected. Also, the government will pay off your student loans after 10 years of working for them, if that's relevant to you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 08:02 PM
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This link explains it fairly well. Basically if you qualify as disabled, you can skip ahead in the hiring process to be hired as a noncompetitive applicant. It puts you at a similar level (job dependent of course) as if you were applying to work for the federal government as a veteran or were with the Peace Corps/Americorps. It's a huge advantage most people don't know about, and the sad truth is that almost everyone qualifies as disabled. Examples include migraines, scoliosis, most mental disor…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 05:45 PM
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Is he saying the picture on the left is "fake" looking and the picture on the right is less "fake" looking? If so, OP, this is exactly what I was getting at--the women are wearing the same amount of makeup in both pictures, but on one side they're attempting a more dramatic look (sometimes with less flattering colors), and on the other side they're attempting a more natural look. But seriously, the same amount of makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 02:55 PM
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Here's the thing about makeup and men: they see obvious liner, colored lipstick, fake lashes, and colored or dark shadow. They do not see primer or foundation or powder or blush or bronzer or subtle contour/highlight or MLBB lips or tightlining or concealer or normal mascara (unless you're applying any of these very badly or very obviously, which always stands out). That's why you'll get men complaining about being "tricked." It's not because they think you naturally have gold lids and red lips-…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 02:54 PM
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I like the list they include like look at these poor women, we shudder to think, when it's a list of things I think a lot of us attempt to do.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 02:41 PM
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I think a lot of people forget that government jobs are still totally viable careers that come with excellent retirement plans, room for upward mobility, and loads of stability. It's hard to get fired from the government. It's not glamorous, and it's not exciting. It's hard to sell to people who want to do something that "feels good" or who want to "do what they love." But you can live to work, or you can work to live. And if you're working to live, it's a fantastic option. If neither of you are…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 02:35 PM
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Thank you so much! I'll bookmark that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 10:23 PM
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Bringing up worries to your husband, is a bad idea. Bringing up your concerns is a great idea. When you do so, you'd be giving him something to fix. Just sayin' I agree with this! It's one of the greatest things I've picked up from this sub even though it should be obvious. Men are fixers. Let them fix your problems. Don't bring them solutions or orders, bring the concerns and let them do their thing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 04:06 PM
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Yeah I don't know about her, but I want my future sons to be masculine like their father--that's why I want to have kids with him!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 04:04 PM
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You homeschool?! I'm a few years out from having kids but we're heavily considering that! I'm hoping this place is still going then because I would love to talk about that when the time comes. My family moved so my brother and I could go to one of the best public schools in the country, but I have a few teacher friends--our education was not the norm. I don't want them to have a poor education.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 04:00 PM
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I also feel like complaining is expected. I come into work with a good attitude and answer positively when people ask how I am/what I've been up to and then questions about work. It's hard for me to articulate how (just got home and very tired!), but using various social cues, it becomes immediately obvious that you're expected to join in the group complaining--or you can forego group socialization. People will also accuse me of lying (for real) when I'm too positive. It's a bummer because I'm a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 03:47 AM
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And if I walk into a bar and try to chat up some guys about world politics or whatever, I too could conclude that men just don't care about "big issues." That's the bigger point here. We all know that one guy who "hates small talk" and looks down on those who engage in it. He's the guy who thinks women don't care about anything more than Netflix or celebrities. Because he's judging all women based on bar conversations where you're supposed to make small talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/15 07:27 PM
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Following this thread because I'd like a big one like that as well! Right now I use multiple planners. I use a small daily one to record workouts, stretches, and monitor a couple personal goals (skincare and hair related right now). I carry a totally blank notebook (tiniest Moleskin) everywhere that holds thoughts as I think them (shopping lists, Christmas lists, to do lists, songs I heard on the radio, a restaurant someone told me to check out, meal ideas, etc.). I would do that even if I had a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 04:13 PM
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Any chance you could upload that picture? Trying to envision it, which is easier when I can see how much can fit in someone else's!
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 04:10 PM
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I figure other like minded women will find RPW through this article. At worst, they'll find it like I did: I assumed this place was literally the devil based on what I read on reddit and elsewhere and wanted to see it for myself. Turns out it's actually the forum I've been searching for ages for! False advertising isn't really a bad thing, because people aren't stupid; if they do come, they'll see they were misled and either go about their business or come say hi.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 04:06 PM
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It really bugs me that something like, "you should keep yourself attractive for your boyfriend/husband," (paraphrased because I'm not rereading it) is considered bad just because we don't say, "and your bf/husband has to do the same." This is a forum for women, not for men. "Your husband should work out more" is completely useless advice for a woman, but "you should work out more" isn't. Why? Because you actually can only change yourself. Changing yourself is an act of force. Changing someone el…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 04:03 PM
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This is a sweet comment. You sound like my boyfriend. He told me once he thought I worked harder than he did, and I was shocked, because I feel the same way about him. It's a much better way to look at things than trying to compete with the person who's supposed to be on your team!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 12:26 AM
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Secondly you change tires once in a blue moon and most people have it done. I don't understand why it has to be a competition, but if it has to be, this isn't the way to win it. This is a thing you change twice a year (putting winter tires on in winter and taking them off in spring). The task takes, at most, a couple hours. So that's about 4 hours a year if you live somewhere that requires winter tires changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 12:25 AM
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The OP included cooking and shopping in there. Do you live off takeout or ramen?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 12:19 AM
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This is beautiful. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 06:14 PM
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Exactly, I have no idea why this is so hard for people. How many times do we have to rehash this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 05:13 PM
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I kept most of my summer dresses, because I consider those outfits in and of themselves. Sundress season is the best season! Last summer I tried an experiment where I basically just wore sundresses on multiple trips and I was surprised by how easy it was and how positively it was received. So much easier than actually dressing myself too, since every dress matched every pair of sandals and that was all I needed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:13 PM
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Victim mentality is merely not taking responsibility for your actions and reactions; everything wrong in your life is someone else's fault This might not be the right place, but I think I struggle with the reverse of this, and I'm having trouble with it. Other people (therapist, SO, close friend) have called my ex abusive, but I have a really hard time thinking of it that way because I mostly think of everything that happened as my fault. I don't know if it's because I'm right or because he was …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:04 PM
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Because the desire to change has to come from an internal place. You can inspire change, you can ask for change, but you can't force change. It doesn't work. At best, you end up with temporary change as a response to outside pressure and eventual or continual resentment. Please, if you've figured out how to change another person without fail, share, because I'd love to know. There are a lot of stupid people I'd like to shape up. If a man or woman wants to get married, there are practical steps s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 03:51 PM
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Any other year and I would definitely do that, I was seriously considering a vacation! But we're moving shortly and trying not to book anything until afterwards. I'll look and see if I can't find something local for us to do though, that would be great!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 03:46 PM
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This comment perfectly encapsulates my feelings on the issue. You have a great way with words.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 08:59 PM
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I don't think so, just the quiz to know the receiving end like you mentioned. I'd love one the other way around, but I think I've got a pretty good idea just by what my go to "wanting to do something nice" activities are. I usually want to feed people or buy them things or help somehow. I actually find my love language (receiving, not giving) changes based on what I'm lacking. Words of affirmation are big with me, but I took the quiz again once when he was working long hours and traveling and su…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 08:55 PM
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He's just picky. Gun, video game, truck, and tool stuff he prefers to pick out and buy himself. He doesn't read books often, and we don't buy movies. He doesn't listen to enough music to want to own any and he already loves his headphones. He doesn't drink coffee or tea. He likes that one scotch and would never buy it for himself, but he's not much of a drinker and doesn't drink beer. He doesn't smoke tobacco. He doesn't wear jewelry or watches (though he'd like to own one). We like board games,…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 08:54 PM
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I love decorating presents! My mom has all kinds of little decorations we hot glue on and reuse through the years as well as a ton of wrapping paper, tissue paper, ribbons, etc. It's like a family even that only the two of us appreciate. I feel like a bum if I use a gift bag now. Gift giving and acts of service are how I like to show my love, so I have to temper that a little with people who don't feel that way.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 04:14 PM
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Thanks so much! I don't think he had his heart set on a Shinola, especially if he knew the price, or I'd just get one for him. He was just pointing out that the style appealed to him. I know the women's watches run around $750 which is probably the max I'd spend, not sure about men's. I'll look into those brands today.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 03:35 PM
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I'm glad your dad told you what he wanted! I hate buying practical gifts, but I have a few people like that as well and do the same thing. Merry Christmas, here's that new pool filter that was on your wishlist lol.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 03:34 PM
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Women have typically much higher SMV than RMV: all the women could get as much sex as they hoped for. So true. I work in a restaurant, and last night this woman comes in. She seemed already tipsy (or maybe she's just always a hot mess), and she was immediately scoping the bar for "hot guys." She told the waiter and the busser that she was from out of town and looking to bang. She asked the waiter about a guy at another table, wanted to be introduced to him, told him she didn't even care if he ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:53 PM
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First of all, he needs to develop some standards. No one wants to feel like someone was so desperate they'd settle for literally anyone. Not even a 1/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:50 PM
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she's suspicious anytime anyone shows interest in her I think most people are suspicious any time anyone treats them with more value than they think they're worth. When I started getting attention from men, I felt like I was being punked, because my self-esteem was so low, and I've never been what anyone would call a 1/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:48 PM
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Why are men so hard to shop for?! My dad was the same way. If I were dating one of my female friends, it would be so easy. I'm kind of nervous for his birthday because he gave me probably the best birthday I've ever had this year, and when I try to probe for ideas, he doesn't really want much beyond dinner and a cake. But I bake and cook for him all the time anyways. I just want to spoil the crap out of him, and I'm not sure how!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 02:46 PM
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I misunderstood. That's great advice for the woman and comes up a lot in RPW. It's terrible advice for a man whose SO is an entitled bitch, because he can't make her be less entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:43 PM
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We pretty much only cuddle non-sexually, and I love it. It makes me feel close to him. Post-coital we take a shower together. If we're not too tired and I was very good, he'll wash me which feels even more intimate. It's one of my favorite sensations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:38 PM
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I trust him and he'd distance himself if need be. I'd try to see if there's anything she's doing that I could be doing and step it up if I'm lacking or if it's just a case of new person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:36 PM
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Because it's a useless suggestion. "Don't get married" is practical advice that a person can actually use. "Your SO should stop sucking" is totally useless. You can't control another person. You can't change another person. But you can control your own actions and change yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:26 PM
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I'M SO EXCITED! I came from a family that was pretty most wonderful time of the year growing up. I'm trying to resist decorating because SO's birthday is between now and Christmas. He is an absolute bear to shop for. He'd mentioned wanting a watch, even though he won't wear it often, and I was thinking I could engrave that. Now the challenge is finding a watch, in budget, that has an engrave-able back, that's stylish, that he'd want to wear. And figuring out what to write on it. Any tips? He'd m…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 02:19 PM
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Not unless it was a pattern. Being unable to have an actual conversation is not an attractive trait to me. And I would want to come back to the subject later and actually discuss it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 02:06 PM
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I don't think it's an ugly trait. There was a recent thread on red flags, and among them were highly promiscuous behavior and the way he treated his exes. With both my boyfriends it came up fairly naturally over the course of getting to know them. First boyfriend had a pretty high count and all his exes were "crazy bitches." Young, stupid me thought nothing of it except, "I'm not going to be a crazy bitch." I'm sure he's telling the next girl about how crazy and bitchy I am right now! Boyfriend …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 02:05 PM
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On the other hand, if he gives you a ridiculous answer, or totally makes light of the enquiry, that would actually be a better answer from your perspective. I disagree here. If he dismissed my question, I would be annoyed and put off. If it's an actual concern, then a straight answer is what I'm looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 01:37 PM
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Open Frank and proud of our hypergamy? A lot of RPW are with good, strong men who make good, strong captains, and they're proud of that and don't shit all over the men in question. Is that being open, frank, and proud of their hypergamy? Probably not (IMO), but it might seem that way to someone who can't get a woman at all. To a starving man, someone eating a donut near him is rubbing it in his face.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:51 PM
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What! I had no idea those even existed! That's so cool :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 08:39 PM
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...I would not at all be cool with that at all, but hey, not my life.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 04:07 PM
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In my culture, we don't name after a person who is alive because the Angel of Death could get confused and take the wrong person. We name after someone who's dead. My SO doesn't have the same culture and likes the idea of passing down living people's names in our children. I can't bring myself to do that, it feels too much like tempting fate. My family was pretty liberal with their interpretation of things--using a first initial or first sound instead of passing down the whole dead person's name…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 04:05 PM
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Completely agree. My SO and I talked about our exes (I can't figure out if that's normal or not), and I was so surprised to hear him take responsibility for break ups and acknowledge his own faults and growth rather than just sweep them all up as "crazy exes." Mind-bogglingly adult.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 03:33 PM
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She was told by medical experts she was practically his only reason for dying, right? No, he was his reason for dying. She wasn't holding him down and force-feeding him high calorie foods until he was bedridden with obesity. He could stop eating if he wanted to. We don't know the whole story. Maybe he kept asking her for healthy foods and she refused. Maybe he kept asking her for unhealthy foods and she gave up trying to fight it. Either way, it's still not her fault he's dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 03:38 AM
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When there's such a gulf between you two, it's easy to fall into a state of almost helplessness. I definitely do it to an extent--there are things my SO handles around the house/in our lives that, were he gone, I'd have no idea how to do. That's not a good thing. Our life together has also roughly followed his life path. I didn't put myself in a position where I'd have to compromise anything I was uncomfortable with, but where/when we move, where we live, when we buy a house, etc. are all based …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 04:09 AM
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In some cases those are things RPW can help you with. In some cases, no one can help you. Why did he quit his job? Why did he get fat? Why did he stop caring about the wife? What was her part in this? What's going on with the kids? etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 02:24 AM
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I'm a younger woman (24) with an older man (34). Something that really helps our dynamic is that I lived on my own--as in not with family--from 18, and I had a serious, live in relationship before him. I learned a lot about myself, about how to live with a man, about how take care of household and adult tasks, before I got with him. If I hadn't, if I was basically coming from dorms or living at home, where parents took care of my adult issues, I think he would've been borderline a stand-in fathe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 02:19 AM
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What do you mean by lazy? I'm lazy. If I have nothing to do that day, I'm really happy to sit on my ass and be lazy. But that doesn't mean I'm fat or that house chores build up or that I can't hold a job or that I don't make dinner. It simply means I'm happy doing nothing. Is that what you mean? Or do you mean he got fat? Or do you mean he stopped working? Or do you mean he doesn't help with house chores? What is lazy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/15 04:39 PM
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Divorce is a last resort in my mind, reserved for serious abuse or a prolonged affair where he "fell in love." You're going to have to define what you mean by shit. And why would you have married him if he were shit? If your husband is shit, it means that either a) he was once a good man and something changed or b) he was never a good man and you were deluding yourself the whole time. In the first case, this is often fixable. In the latter case, you're going to have to resign yourself to the fac…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/15 04:34 PM
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Dread game does not work the other way around, if that's what you're suggesting. Most women who are even a smidgen attractive are basically running passive dread their whole lives. Playing that up will not endear a man to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/15 04:23 PM
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thanks for the downvotes! I wouldn't sweat them here of all places. They could be from someone who disagrees...but they're equally likely to be from someone downvoting every RP reply...or from your own personal little downvote fairy who follows you around!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/15 04:21 PM
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I always feel a little evangelical pushing ABTF on people since most of them have already heard about it, but I figure that's how I found the place. Maybe someone will really be helped! And agreed, I feel way better in bras that fit than I ever did before. I helped my mom and grandma out too--my grandma actually has dents in her shoulders from holding boobs up her whole life, so I'm glad I found that place when I did!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 11:46 PM
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Oh man if you want to list terrible ones have I got a list for you lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 07:46 PM
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The best marriage I can think of on TV was the one on Raising Hope. They're far from perfect, but they're so loving and supportive. But I wouldn't necessarily hold her up as an ideal.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 07:46 PM
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I usually wear a sports bra to try to minimize it Feel free to ignore me if you feel comfortable with this option, but I'm also pretty busty and find sports bras may minimize but also hurt my shoulders, neck, and back. I find my breasts look equally minimized but better in a well-fitting, unlined bra, and my body doesn't ache. Have you tried measuring yourself? abrathatfits (unsure of subreddit linking rules) is a really great resource.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 07:20 PM
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That navy turtleneck outfit is so cute. I see stuff like that and think, "I could totally wear that," right up until I try it on...big boobs just can't dress the same as small boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 07:18 PM
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Agreed wholeheartedly. My last workplace not only required uniforms but dictated makeup, nails, haircuts, facial hair, and body mods. They wanted to project a very specific image to create a certain experience for their clientele, and they did so. If I didn't want to work there, there were similar workplaces that were much less strict and the pay was about equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 07:17 PM
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I'm actually having a really hard time thinking a tv woman I try to emulate. That's sort of bumming me out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 07:13 PM
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I'd heard of ASMR but didn't really know what it was until I saw this last night! Very cool. She seems very sweet too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 07:09 PM
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She basically taught me how to cook, and she's a great wife/mother. Have you seen her show though? It came on netflix a couple months back and while I'll watch it for the food porn, she comes across a bit oddly to me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 05:32 AM
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Instead of trying to change other people (pure folly), you focus on change that is within your own control. This is what appeals to me as well. I spent a lot of my youth trying to help people by changing them. It's an exercise in futility, completely useless, gets you nowhere. The more time I spend on RPW, the easier it is to let go completely and focus on myself, who I can change.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 01:02 AM
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I agree with all of this. If I wanted to cheat on my SO, I could do so easily. I don't want to. That's the point. If you have to force someone not to cheat on you, then they really shouldn't be with you in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:56 AM
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My SO works in HR. Maybe it's not prestigious, but he makes six figures and runs a national office.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:52 AM
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Two teachers I had tie for best teacher ever. One was a male elementary school teacher. That year was amazing. He was a real hard-ass--forget your homework, and you don't get recess. A few kids never did their homework. I forgot once or twice and wised up quick. He took the time to make spelling lists individualized to the level of the student. For me and another girl who were very advanced, he even moved us up to the next level vocab book. He also took the time to recommend books to me and disc…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:50 AM
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My wife refused to get very involved with housework since she was the working mother and I was the SAHP. Why did this bother you? The SAHP's job is housework and daytime childcare. The working partner's job is work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:46 AM
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My sister manages a high end salon, and it's a parade of upper-middle class white women bitching about everything imaginable all day long. Not even joking, this is at least 25% of why I don't go to the hair salon. I don't want to chat or make conversation, and I don't have anything to say. I'm content to half-heartedly listen if you want to talk at me, but having to make small talk for a few hours kills me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:42 AM
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I absolutely think we need more male nurses. It's a decent career path, money wise, and you can get a job anywhere. People always need nurses. Plus it's easy to think of situations where a male nurse would be preferred to a female one. Just as women might prefer a woman to care for them in a certain state, men might prefer a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:41 AM
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What's that joke about the cobbler's kids not having any shoes?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:38 AM
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I might have dated him. But I was really insecure and a virgin through most of college, so I wasn't hooking up with anyone. The only reason I don't say I'd definitely have dated him is because our age difference would've been a bigger deal at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 07:43 PM
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Depends on how much sex I'm getting regularly. The more satisfied I am, the less likely I am to even be thinking about other people. But either way, I classify pretty much everyone I see. The default is "would not fuck," and I don't even think about it. The "would fuck" category is a lot smaller. But most people I interact with don't even fall under the age range of "would fuck," and I live in an area with super high obesity rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 07:40 PM
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Maybe not quite about marriage but about love, I've always loved this quote: Even after all this time, the Sun never says to the Earth, “You owe Me.” Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 02:02 AM
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Aw yes. My favorite version of that is "love is a decision," and I love that. I think we forget in today's culture how much agency we have in terms of lifelong partnership.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 02:02 AM
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That's cute! When we first moved in together we used to have morning cuddles and occasional morning sex, but that was before his job turned into his hell. Maybe that will make our mornings more fun :) Sounds like a weeklong experiment I can get behind.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 02:00 AM
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Red, female, unmarried in a LTR, and I feel the exact same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/15 11:09 PM
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He doesn't drink coffee, doesn't like breakfast at home (prefers to eat in the office mid-morning), and is not a morning person. Definitely following this thread with interest. I'd love to make his mornings more pleasant, but I'm not sure what benefit me being awake and alert would have.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:37 PM
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No one mentioned casual sex except you. He got her, didn't he? Is she so awful that she'd go out with and marry someone who no one else would even look at? It's an insult to her and to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/15 09:26 PM
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Bookmarking all of this! Every part of this looks amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:24 PM
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Lol what? I'm not a vegetarian, and neither is he. Meat consumption doesn't have to be an all or nothing--it's not MEAT 21 MEALS A WEEK OR NEVER, it's just no meat at this one meal a week. It's not super relevant now, because we talked last night and he seemed game!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:23 PM
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Combination of health and not being comfortable with the meat industry in this country, primarily the latter (the former is dealt with by minimizing red meat consumption). That's actually a fun way to look at it! Every first Sunday I make something incredibly unhealthy that I really want to try but can't justify the rest of the month. Challenges work well for us :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:22 PM
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He's not going to cheat on you because in all likelihood, he CAN'T cheat on you You completely ignored her very legitimate points about the seriousness of a man cheating in the context of early human history and instead insulted her SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/15 03:16 PM
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This sounds like such a cozy winter food, plus it fulfills my weird compulsion to spend at least one day a week making something that takes hours.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 03:06 PM
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I use it often! It was one of those spices I bought for one recipe and was like pssht I'm never going to use this again...but I use it all the time now.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 03:05 PM
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Sorry to hear that! Most people I know on it have been happy, but you name a type of birth control, and I will tell you a story of a friend/coworker/acquaintance who had a terrible experience on it. If there was male birth control that wasn't a condom, I'd get my IUD out tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/15 06:25 AM
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Very true, but it's progesterone only and a much lower dose than the lowest dose pill. It's giving me acne, which seriously blows, but otherwise I have zero side effects and could not handle the pill or the nuvaring.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/15 06:16 AM
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I never read them...super long read ups on recipes drive me crazy unless it's pictures of the steps or something. Now I feel like I need to go back and read this one!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 06:10 AM
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Does he make you eat as he does? And honestly, yes. I like to make meals that he really enjoys, but they're not always what I'd prefer. He hates raw tomato, and he strongly dislikes rosemary. He has a heavy preference for simple meals (think meat+veggies+starchy veggie/grain, very American), and I have a strong preference for complicated kitchen adventures. Most of the things that I truly love, foods that have wowed others, fall flat with him. I do my best to simplify meals without boring the pa…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 10:39 PM
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You can shave cheese over them, add herbs and spices, and serve with a salad for a pretty filling meal when the weather gets warmer That sounds amazing. I love mushrooms. Sounds like one I might test out as my lunch and offer some to him--that's how I've discovered other meatless foods he's liked.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 10:35 PM
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Lmao. Agreed, I'd rather have the steak! I was actually thinking of you when I made this post since I remember you talking about how your man like simple food and simple meals.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 10:33 PM
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Oh haha sorry! I was trying to cut all meat since it's just one meal a week, but I'm open to negotiation if he seems game. That sounds like a good idea--especially something like tacos, because those are heavily seasoned and topped with loads of toppings. Really the important part of the meat is texture and flavor, which can be accomplished with seasoning and patties. I might taste test that one on my own though :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 09:46 PM
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I use bacon grease when I'm making beans, for veggies that go in burritos/soups, and for most breakfast food (bacon-y banana pancakes are my jam).
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 09:44 PM
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Fat is delicious. It's the hardest part of cutting calories for me! Butter makes food taste amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 09:44 PM
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Do you do the recipe as written? I'm worried the peppers would burn if they're cooked so small.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 09:42 PM
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I cook seafood a lot and he loves it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 09:07 PM
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Falafel is a great idea! I've eaten it loads but never made it myself. And I have totally made meatless dinners with no preamble, just once a month or so, and he often picks at my meatless food and likes it, especially when it's ethnic food. American food is so meat-based that it doesn't translate well, because you need a meat substitute.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 09:03 PM
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I tried to clarify in the original post but I think it didn't come across well. It's not like he's coming home from work and I'm announcing, "we're not eating meat on Mondays! And if you don't like it, you can go to hell!" I don't know, I didn't think this would be such a controversial post. Nine times out of ten, he'd rather I just make dinner and put it in front of him without probing him for what he wants, and I try new recipes all the time. These would just be meatless new recipes, you know?…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 08:48 PM
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I save my bacon grease for cooking beans or flavoring veggies for soups! It adds so much flavor and makes me feel less wasteful :) That sounds delicious!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 08:45 PM
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Meatless Mondays were started by the Humane Society as a way to cut meat consumption in America. We eat a ton of meat in this country, and it's gone up a lot in the last fifty years. We eat three times more chicken per capita than we did in the 1950s. I feel like something got a little lost in this post--I'm not trying to make the decision for him, I just thought a meatless entree for dinner this evening would be a fun way to broach the subject, give him a little inspiration. I'm not attempting …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 08:43 PM
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Cheese is what's saved my vegetarian food in the past! The only people I know who don't like cheese are extremely allergic lol. Thanks for the suggestion, especially the smoked salt idea!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 08:39 PM
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...those actually look amazing as is, with chicken lol. I might have to make them as written this week!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 08:38 PM
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It's just an experiment! I cook meat 7 days a week, and we eat meat together 7 days a week, and we've been doing that for quite awhile. It's not like I'm instituting a new rule that bans meat on all Mondays forever. I literally just wanted to prepare a filling, satisfying meatless dinner tonight and ask him what he thought of the idea. As you may know, it's Tuesday, not Monday, right now. I thought it would be a fun way to suggest an idea that we can or cannot choose to implement. The reason I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 08:34 PM
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Like Fox News railing against the "mainstream media" when they're the most watched news network. Buzzwords gonna buzzword.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 07:21 PM
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Those look amazing! Definitely on the list.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 07:19 PM
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For the reddit/internet distraction issues, have you tried an application like StayFocusd (chrome) or WasteNoTime (safari)? You can block all social media for a certain period, or the entire internet if you want. It really helps me, but I need extreme methods to counter my bad habits :/ Thank you for this suggestion! I have the same problem...I say while sitting on reddit instead of folding laundry. I might give it a try this week and hopefully will have some positive progress to report in next …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 07:13 PM
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However, some girl (with her boyfriend there lol) was hardcore flirting and touching my guy towards the end of the night—he was quite drunk at this point and didn’t notice, but it really hit a nerve. She actually looked at me while she was doing this; i can’t tell if I was imagining it, i was so overtired, but it really felt as though she was taunting me. I'm not sure if this is RP advice or not, so I'm definitely open to correction from more experienced women. But I know when my SO gets flirty …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 07:12 PM
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Yup! It's not safe at all to be shooting in heels. I tend to go for more casual clothes while still looking put together there, but I think trying to even go in while wearing heels and party dresses is just silly (not to mention unsafe) and looks very high maintenance.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:10 PM
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I knew the tale from before I saw it but that was also the moment my SO noped out of the tv room.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:09 PM
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Women do understand why you don't want to get married. We just don't know why you insist on wanting us to personally care about your fears. Well said, and I completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/15 04:36 PM
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More like he gets half of mine. I have considerably more money than my SO, and I can't imagine I'm the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/15 04:33 PM
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Definitely true!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 04:31 PM
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I was in college as recently as last year, and I attended two schools over the course of six years or so. In both of them, guys were looking to hook up. They wanted short term relationships at most. One of the schools had an ROTC program where they were heavily discouraged from entering relationships. Of the guys who weren't just looking to hook up, you had primarily very beta guys. I'm sure there was a very small minority at both schools that wanted to date longterm and were not 100% beta, but …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 04:19 PM
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It's a personal choice some of us make. It worked out well for me and let me bypass the men who weren't ready to settle down yet. Other women are more attracted to men their own age or are all right with letting him grow or waiting for him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 04:10 PM
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It goes without saying that displaying yourself in a feminine light is even more important at a gun range But not too feminine...I've seen several women get turned away because they had the bright idea to wear heels to a gun range. OP, I'm assuming you're not a complete idiot, but hey, mistakes happen!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 04:07 PM
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Honestly, no, I would not date a single father at this point in my life even if he were a widower.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 04:19 AM
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I think all the mainstream info we receive about the female menstrual cycle and female reproduction often causes women to make poor choices about their health. Can you expand on that? I commented above that I had pretty comprehensive sex ed from an early age as well as parents who were very open, so I missed what you're talking about and I'm curious!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/15 07:20 PM
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Right, I mentioned that diet/exercise were covered, and obviously we had gym class. I meant more along the lines of learning how to game the opposite sex, perfecting hair/makeup/grooming rituals, techniques to get dates, that kind of thing. ETA: One of the gym electives we had in high school was "weight training," where we'd learn to use the machines and basically just do whatever we wanted with them and the cardio machines for an hour. That's definitely one place that could use improvement. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/15 05:58 PM
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Anyone who escalates a non-violent interaction to a violent one is not someone you should want to be around. What the heck do women really want? That particular woman wants to be crazy. It sounds like she thought it was a funny story. If that was really all the context, then she sounds bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/15 05:01 PM
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RPW, unsure if I fall under the "RP" banner for this question, so you can take mine with a grain of salt. I was in a private school for a few years in elementary and they began "sex ed" (if you wanna call it that) when I was in fourth grade (age 9, for those not in America). That year they split us by gender we learned about puberty, about what our bodies would be going through in the coming years. We got a brief overview of sex in a very scientific, factual way, and they showed us what condoms …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/15 04:57 PM
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In my brief stint as an online dater, I found two sets of guys: beta and players. You might find an alpha using online dating to hook up, but you're not going to find a guy worth dating who actually wants to date.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/15 04:33 PM
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95% of the audio is women squealing and squirming, and out-right laughing their asses off! Any one of these women would be willing to blow this man back stage while their boyfriend was waiting for her in the car. How can anyone deny this? This is definitely true. Every single time I laugh at a comedian, I am also willing to blow him on stage, let alone back stage, while my boyfriend sits in the audience. This is true for all women, because we only laugh and squeal when we also want to give blowj…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 03:35 PM
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Is there a point to this thread?! ...I kinda like staring at hot people. Is that an acceptable point?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 04:19 AM
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Your moderate girl would look a lot better if she learned how to fill her brows in. It's one of those things you think won't really make a difference until you see it done.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 04:15 AM
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I don't usually like them, but I love it on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 04:14 AM
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You have quality taste in hot guys, I concur with all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 04:13 AM
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Going through a similar thing right now except we're sans kids. I'm not sure what advice I can offer, but I can sympathize with the situation. SO has been under a lot of stress at work, and almost all the time he's home, he's stressed, short tempered, exhausted, and the only thing I hear about is work. It's been on and off, but the last few weeks have been constant. Tonight we went out to dinner and I had a beer that loosened my tongue (lesson learned there) and got kind of snippy about "could w…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/15 02:13 AM
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Have fun! It's funny, I do actually cook all the time, but whenever I have to cook for/with someone who knows what they're doing (like my mom or my SO's mom) I get so nervous and end up looking like a dunce. You would never believe that I successfully put food on the table the rest of the year! Anxiety is weird. But that looks like the funnest recipe for Sunday after Halloween. You may have inspired me to run to the store to buy a pumpkin so I can do it too!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/15 03:01 PM
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Do you have a dog? Pumpkin is actually really good with them! I make my own dog treats, and canned pumpkin puree is a big portion of it. Here are ten recipes that cook inside a pumpkin, which is a pretty, festive way to serve food. Some recipes are savory and some are sweet. This is a recipe for spicy Thai pumpkin soup. This chicken and pumpkin soup is my go to when someone gets sick. These pumpkin sage biscuits are amazing and more savory. I made store bought pumpkin raviolis in sage brown butt…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/15 03:57 AM
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Why would you stick your hand in someone's face? In what universe is that professional, adult behavior? Also, this has no place here, at all, but seriously, I can't get past that. And why did she have a fly swatter? This is the weirdest and most out of place post I've read here.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 08:55 PM
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I had no idea what you meant but that picture is literally what I would've drawn based only on that phrase. Well if they're happy and it works for them, who am I to judge? Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 03:55 PM
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Dude, you can't make conclusive statements on human behavior based on a survey of 23 people on a non-partial forum. You didn't even let them answer anonymously. Do you even science? (Edit: we may be "anonymous" here, but most of us regularly post on TRP or TBP or RPW or MRP. We have established images. Several of us have RL people who know our usernames. So it's more anonymous than if it was on Facebook, certainly, but since not everyone was answering with throwaway accounts, it's not anonymous.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 03:53 PM
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I appreciated her talking about how she still messes up but she learns from it. Lord knows I still mess up all the time, especially lately (gave notice at my job and they repaid me by giving me terrible shifts and making my time there harder). And sometimes I get down on myself a little too hard for not being perfect, because I feel like my SO deserves that. But as long as I'm constantly improving and not making the same mistakes over again and trying my best to be my best, it's okay. I know tha…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 03:30 PM
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What is beta potata face? Haven't seen her boyfriend yet.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 03:25 PM
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I mean how long can you pretend to be sweet, kind, gracious, and generous before those mannerisms become effortless and natural? And at that point, maybe your mind shifts too? I don't think that was the woman's intent, but hey, it's possible. And I think people and personalities can change but I do think it takes a lot of effort and it's something you have to do for yourself. Some people are naturally more self aware, and they're more likely to reflect and change. Others see everything that happ…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/15 07:36 PM
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Awesome post! I love the phrase "femininity cosplay" and it so accurately describes what she's doing. I'd say I feel bad for her future husband, but honestly, I doubt any guy who's worth it will fall for that charade. At some point she's going to have to walk the walk, and she will fail. Although maybe after faking it for awhile, she'll actually transform into the kind of woman she's pretending to be?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/15 03:18 PM
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Well I don't want anyone to think it's acceptable to rape, but that's not why I'm annoyed. I think using analogies to try to prove a point generally is stupid. I could very easily start a thread addressed to TRP about how bonobos are super promiscuous (both male and female) and about how they have very peaceful societies, so what's wrong with human females being promiscuous? It works for bonobos, right? Similarly, I could start a thread addressed to everyone about how lots of mammalian males kil…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 03:36 AM
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Ditto for me as well. They sound like compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:43 AM
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I think s/he's saying that she wouldn't understand the difference between good and bad sex since she's only had it with him...but that makes no sense because it's pretty easy to tell whether or not it's "good" sex. (Hint: it's good when it feels awesome.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:41 AM
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I identify as RP. I just really don't like this thread. My post history is pretty entirely PPD and RPW. I should give myself flair but I actually find it interesting how I get identified when I don't have flair. In this thread people seem to assume I'm a BP male, which is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:38 AM
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I think you're thinking of the wrong person, but I'm happy to read a paper if you'd like to send me one! I don't disagree with the alpha/beta paradigm in humans so you might not get much argument out of me. ETA: My argument with this thread is that while I find our closest evolutionary relatives to be fascinating, I don't think this thread makes sense. You can find reproductive habits of species that prove almost every point you want to make, but since they're not humans, it doesn't make sense t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:33 AM
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Plus satin or cotton nighties totally qualify! I think my next purchase is going to be a cute satin babydoll or something because his reaction to those are "they look comfy." (Seriously, this man and his comfiness...lol)
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/15 01:11 AM
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Currently lounging in flannel and undies so it's safe to say I'm going along with it :) I mix things up here and there because variety is the spice of life (or so they say) but I'm happy to make him happy!
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 11:28 PM
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Maybe! He'll definitely tell me if someone makes my butt or boobs look good, and I've worn lingerie before. He doesn't seem any more or less likely to jump me than when I go naked. I just feel like I'm naked all the time and it must get boring...but then, maybe I'm just thinking like a woman? He's pretty consistent with the comfy thing. While he likes when I dress up, his favorite look is Uggs and yoga pants and soft jeans and sweatshirts. Which is weird to me because I feel kinda gross in all t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 09:28 PM
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Many women do enjoy sexual violence, but I'm not sure what chimps have to do with that. We could've gotten to that distinction without talking about chimps at all. It's whatever at this point, I don't want to argue (though you're welcome to reply), I just don't see the purpose of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 07:14 PM
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You are correct--had a late night last night. My point still stands though in that we are equally related to both species and that it's silly to base human interaction off of another species' interaction no matter how genetically similar we might be. My only horse in this race is that I think this thread is making a useless point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 06:26 PM
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Last time I was at a club, some guy situated himself behind me and started dancing even though I kept moving away. I gave up and went home after the second time he stuck his hand up my skirt (yes, I smacked it the first time). Why would I willingly subject myself to that when I could be on my couch??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 06:23 PM
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Every time I hear a guy describe "giant D's" I cringe a little. This subreddit is worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 06:22 PM
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This is the question I was going to ask! Usually no show ones are so slippery they turn into wedgie panties, but if these don't do that, I may have to splurge soon.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 06:21 PM
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I still make the fancy meals because it brings me joy, but he's so happy with like...baked chicken and mashed potatoes. Or steak with steamed broccoli. Just the most basic stuff. I took some time to really make my last batch of cupcakes look beautiful and his only critique? "I like it better when you spread the icing so it's thinner." "But then they're uglier?" "Yeah, but I'm just gonna eat them anyways."
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 06:20 PM
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Are you dating my SO? He's just not a lingerie person at all. I think it makes me look sexier, but he'd just rather see me naked. Whenever I ask his opinion on clothes/shoes/lingerie all he asks is, "Is it comfy?" But I guess if I wanted to date someone who cared as much as I do, I could've dated a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 06:17 PM
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...I actually for real did this (first two points) for about a year while I was in college. Shocker, I was exhausted all the time and had zero social life. But I did actually manage to pull it off. Would not recommend.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 06:15 PM
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I'm not a feminist. Look at my post history. I'm just an irritated biology nerd who doesn't like it when people try to base points off of nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 06:03 PM
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RPW and I hate clubs. I'll occasionally get dragged along with friends and I try to numb the experience with booze. Every single time I've been to a club I've gotten groped, I've been danced up on against my desires, and I've never had a good time. The only exception are club like atmospheres for concerts--EDM concerts feel an awful lot like nightclubs. But venues like that tend to have over-21 sections where you can chill, which is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 06:02 PM
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24, female, don't and never have believed in the concept of "one true love" in that I don't believe there's one person out there and they're absolutely perfect. I do and always have believed I would find love. I never believed I wouldn't have to do anything to keep it. I will say that I didn't realize how easy it could be to be with someone you love until my relationship now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 05:57 PM
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There are plenty of homologous brain structures between chimps and humans. Also between humans and bonobos because bonobos are the same genus as the common chimpanzee. And yet bonobos have different social structure and reproductive strategies and their social groups operate completely differently than human or chimpanzee social groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 05:54 PM
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You can't talk about how "male/female relations work in nature." If you were educated about the matter at all, you would know how wildly it differs depending on species. I wish these threads would stop appearing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 05:48 PM
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Humans are not chimps. Humans are also not bonobos. It's not unwise to learn about the species closest to humans (which includes both the common chimpanzee and the bonobo), but if you do some research on both--some rudimentary, Wikipedia level research--you'll find wildly different reproductive strategies and social structures. And they're the same species, whereas humans are a separate one. So frankly I'm not sure what comparison you're trying to make, but you should stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 01:35 PM
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This is why having my parent's blessing was important to me. Amen. If you trust your parents' judgment, this is great advice. After I broke up with my first boyfriend, loads of people--best friends, my mom, my closest aunts, etc--all turned around to tell me how they never thought he was right for me and they didn't like us together. Thanks guys, but I really could've used that advice a few years before, when we moved in together. With my current SO, I sat down with my mom after she'd met him a …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 07:58 PM
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I sometimes wish there was a married RPW forum because these anti-marriage sentiments get old real quick. If you do that then I have to sit here and defend marriage all day. Is that what you want?!? In all seriousness though, I'm sick of having to defend why my SO and I want to get married on this forum of all places. Save it for TwoX or TRP or whatever. 99/100 times it's completely irrelevant here.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 07:55 PM
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How do you not see where this idea comes from? I feel like I'm the opposite of incel, and I understand it. People are judged often on their ability to have a relationship with someone, on whether or not someone loves them. If most people meet a 40 year old virgin, their first thought is, *What's wrong with them?" And I agree, legalizing prostitution won't fix the issue. It's not about sex--I mean it is, and it isn't. As much as it's about sex, it's about knowing that someone wants you, desires y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 03:39 PM
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I'm sure that a lot of women with those characteristics have higher n-counts, but there are probably plenty like me who fit your criteria but only have sex in committed relationships. All of those are me, although I only wear revealing clothing when I'm with my SO or in appropriate environments (like the beach or Florida in August). From the comments it seems that there are at least a few of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 03:33 PM
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There was a thread not long ago asking RPW about what their particular men liked as opposed to what we talk about men in general liking. A common theme was men liking their women non-precious, able to and enjoying outdoorsy pursuits or hard work. You can absolutely be feminine while working on a farm, and it's not about how fitted your coveralls are. I mean definitely maintain your hygiene, wear makeup if you wish, and keep your hair groomed, but it's more important to have a pleasant, feminine …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 03:27 PM
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Is she advising women who are single and childless to have/adopt children as a strategy to get a man? That sounds like terrible advice, for the child and the future relationship. Children should not be used as a means to get a ring, and men are not more likely to want a woman with children. I agree with other points of hers, but she does sound bitter, and while it seems she knows how to get married, she doesn't seem to know how to pick men well or keep them around.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 03:22 PM
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Pumpkin pasties! I'm a huge Harry Potter fan and little pumpkin pastries are super fast/easy if you use store-bought crust. I also made mini pumpkin pie crescent rolls the other day that were amazing. Are you in charge of real food as well? I love spicy Thai pumpkin soup, but I find chili of any kind works really well for parties and is less polarizing for picky eaters. You can scoop clean the inside of a pumpkin and use it as a one-time serving bowl. I also saw a really cute recipe for pumpkin …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 03:15 PM
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That's a really cute idea! I wanted to be the house handing out full size candy (bribing neighborhood children to like you is totally normal, right?) but my SO wanted to be the healthy house handing out raisins. This sounds like an idea both of us could get behind. Other little toys like they have in quarter machines or at doctor's offices might be good as well. As a kid I would've loved picking a toy instead of candy!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 03:12 PM
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I really needed to read this lately. I tend to give everyone the benefit of a doubt, make excuses for everyone, and I can be nice to a fault. These are not good traits when they are taken too far. Thank you for reposting.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/15 08:37 PM
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Although I wouldn't say Mr. Healy turns out "okay"… I really like his character, though I don't like him as a person. He's a really successfully done gray character. I find myself consistently feeling sorry for him and empathizing with his position while still finding him to be a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 01:40 PM
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Some people just have different levels of empathy (for lack of a better word). I spend a lot of time worrying about other people's feelings--probably to my own detriment. Some people, like that guy, don't really think about it. I'm sure he'll change his behavior now that you've mentioned it. Something that I always need to keep in mind is that people can be rude or disrespectful or flat-out jerks without doing it on purpose. I used to (and still do) write off a lot of people's behavior and make …
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 10:28 PM
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It is in no way rude for you to want it to be quiet at night time. Most apartments have quiet hours anyways. It is rude that he was so loud when he knew people were sleeping. If he's out late, then he's probably sleeping in right? Are you loud in the morning when you know he's sleeping? I'm gonna guess no, because that'd be rude. I'd just follow up with a quick in person conversation about how you don't want to make him uncomfortable, but your sleep has been impacted and it's making it hard for …
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 08:54 PM
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Because I'm not judging a stranger for eating alone at a restaurant. I'm not really thinking about the stranger at all. I'm referring more when you get to know someone, be it a coworker or in a social situation, and slowly, over the course of your friendship/time knowing them, you find out they're single and always have been. That's when I start to wonder. How am I supposed to know if a stranger is single, in a relationship, engaged, married but doesn't wear a ring...?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/15 03:22 PM
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You have an ex-wife, so the situation being discussed literally is not about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/15 04:40 AM
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Literally laughing out loud. And I've seen it before. I love them!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 07:32 PM
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There are definitely life circumstances that explain gaps like that, but I won't lie--I'll definitely raise my eyebrows a bit. (Edit: just reread the title of the post--I'm more likely to write this off in a man than a woman. If a woman is in her 40s, never been married, never been in a marriage-like relationship, I'm definitely wondering what's wrong with her.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 07:08 PM
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Why would a man want a female with a higher N count that is getting older over a younger female with a lower N count? These are not necessarily mutually exclusive. For example, let's say you could pick between a young woman, maybe 23, with a higher N count (let's say 10, because that's on the high end of people I know) vs. an older woman, maybe 30, with a low N count (let's say 1)? I'm really not asking to be argumentative, it just seems like the same principle would apply--someone worth committ…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 04:30 PM
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It's not a constant thing through the years, but I've noticed the urge to have a baby has gone up a lot lately, and I've heard the same from friends. We jokingly blame hormones, but I'm honestly not sure what's causing it. It's a very primal urge, and it feels kind of crazy. Maybe this is also a very female feeling, but you know when you're in love and you feel all warm and soft and melty and you get a dumb, vapid smile on your face and you can't think of anything else and you fall into walls an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 02:30 PM
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Correct. Always look at the men they are SLEEPING with casually as well. I'm not someone who sleeps around casually, so maybe I'm missing something, but I've always had a question about this and now's as good a time as any to ask. Men have different standards for women they plate/sleep with casually than women they enter LTRs with. That's pretty much unarguable. They probably have to both meet basic standards of attractiveness, but one needs to have a personality worth getting into a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 02:21 PM
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Not who you're responding to, but I do the same thing, except I won't count it as a negative if you're in/were in a very long term, marriage-like, live-in relationship. Being married/in a marriage-adjacent relationship is the norm, and most people I know who've made it past 40 without either genuinely have something wrong with them. I won't treat you differently, and there are definitely exceptions to the rule, but generally I will wonder why no one wanted to be in a relationship with you and tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 02:16 PM
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But if I ask myself, why am I disappointed? The only answer is because he didn't say what I wanted him to say. This whole section was so relevant to me. I do this all the time. I've actually caught myself getting into a bad, bitchy mood all because my SO didn't answer something the way I wanted him to--how on earth was he supposed to know what I wanted? Moreover, do I even want to be with someone who only says what I want to hear? Thank you for writing all this out! I'm gonna need to make a bett…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 06:18 PM
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It just bugs me because I remember from when I used OKC, the second I rated someone highly, I'd end up with really, really persistent messages from them. I just stopped rating people...and using the site. I actually think a study would be interesting if it asked people to rate other people's attractiveness, if only to put an end to the OkCupid rehashing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/15 05:05 PM
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That OKCupid study drives me up the wall. I've read it too. Rating someone comes with consequences. If you rate someone 4 or 5 stars, they literally get an email telling them that you rated them thusly, and men and women, for obvious reasons, think that means the person likes them. So they then message that person. If you see a guy who you think is a 4 but who you have no interest in at all, your best bet is to either rate him 3 or below or to "skip" which automatically assigns a lower rating to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/15 04:10 PM
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Also, smile lines are nicer than frown lines IMO :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 04:00 PM
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This makes me think of my mother, who is also in her 50s. She has long hair, she's slender, she dresses well and wears some makeup, and she's a really warm, pleasant person. She doesn't look 25 but she's not trying to attract 25 year olds either (well, she's not actively trying to attract anyone, but you get the point). There are some women who age so gracefully, and it seems like both of you are like that. It's exactly my goal as I age.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 03:58 PM
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This is my SO as well. I always feel guilty about it, which is ridiculous, but I do. He doesn't always quite know how to do things the way I do, but that's okay. I'm grateful for him to pick up the slack, which he does even when it's just a really nasty cold.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 03:54 PM
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If this helps at all, here's how I think of it: the person who loves me, who's with me, who shows me affection, who brings me water when my head hurts--that person chose to be with me. He doesn't have to be with me, I'm not forcing him, he chose me. And he continues to choose me everyday. Unconditional love starts to feel a little gross. Would you want to be with someone who showed you the same affection, the same love, when you beat her? Would you still look at her the same if she let you cheat…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 12:04 AM
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We have quite a ways to go before extinction. Unless we continue on our current course, and then changing environmental conditions may make the decision for us. In any event, this isn't particularly prudent behavior, to only know what happens two feet in front of you. There's a huge difference between only paying attention to what happens two feet in front of you...and not really caring about the marriage trends of the rest of your country. Marriage rates are declining, and it's zero skin off my…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 09:32 PM
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This will damage our civilization You seem to be seriously concerned with what's happening to "civilization." Most people, myself included, are primarily concerned with what's happening in their lives and the lives of their friends and families. That's not to say I completely ignore the outside world, but what do I care if marriage rates decline? It has zero effect on my life. (Further, and slightly off topic, you talk a lot about how declining population isn't sustainable. Frankly, I'd like to …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 09:14 PM
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I think a lot of men have a tough time giving up on the idea of being loved unconditionally. I know I do :( I think I'm gonna need a real definition of unconditional love, because I see the whole, "men love unconditionally, women don't love at all," and I find it ridiculous. Unconditional love is not something anyone has except maybe parent to child, and even then, the child can do something to cause the parent to stop loving them. If I love someone and they cheat on me or abuse me or hurt me, I…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 09:04 PM
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The comment you replied to is removed, and this is hilarious out of context.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 08:56 PM
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I definitely clean by section instead of all at once! Today is bathroom day :) Good luck! Getting to the point where a clean house is second nature does not happen overnight. This is the first year where I feel like I have a real handle on it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 08:54 PM
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Have you noticed a change in his mood when the house gets messy? Some men don't notice and don't mind. If he's that kind of guy, then keep cleaning to your days off, with the exception of daily chores. If you notice a change in his mood (more irritable, more stressed out, more discontent)--mine definitely has one--then here's what I do: I've perfected the art of making it look like I cleaned. I stick to common areas--kitchen, our room, bathroom, living room. I surface clean the kitchen (dishes, …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 03:06 AM
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I'm 24. My closest friends are the same age. Other friends I've referenced range from about 23 to 27. I obviously have friends outside this age range, but they dip into the acquaintance category.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 07:56 PM
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We, as a culture, have this myth that if things get tough, it means that you chose the wrong partner. I think this part here is so so so key. There's this weird shame associated with it, like if you have tough times in your relationship, you have a terrible relationship. It's this black and white mentality. You either have a Good relationship or a Bad one. Fighting? It's a Bad one and you need to get rid of it. Also, you're a failure for picking badly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 07:23 PM
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And we appreciate you not trying to post this there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 05:08 PM
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Women don't sleep around to lock down an alpha. They sleep around because it's fun for them and they're not thinking longterm. For other women, they take no pleasure in this and so they get into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 04:52 PM
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So, you're admitting that marriage benefits women more than men? At least you're honest.... Marriage benefits both parties pretty darn well. It's divorce where the discrepancy comes in. What most high-value men "really want from women" is a relationship that is mutually beneficial and not likely to cause their financial ruin. At RPW we're primarily concerned with what our particular men are looking for. My man wants to get married. What other men think in this instance is irrelevant unless it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 04:48 PM
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If you don't care about what men think about marriage and divorce, why are you claiming to be supportive and empathetic? If my man wants to get married, should I tell him no because other men don't want to get married? Edit: I'm sorry, I can't leave this. What a ridiculous statement. Am I meant to show the same levels of support to hypothetical strangers that I do to loved ones? Am I a bad woman because I didn't poll every man before making a decision? That's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 04:42 PM
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And what SMV do you think you all were/are? Honestly, I don't really know how to answer that in a way that would give you an idea, because it's so subjective. I see people trash models/movie stars in pill subs all the time. But we're all 20s and pretty good looking and either in shape or thin. All of us get hit on/approached with regularity. If I wanted casual sex, I could easily get it with very attractive men--which I know because they've tried. For the girls I was in high school with, we defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 04:38 PM
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they could at least recommend living together with a pre-nup (in a state that doesn't have civil unions) rather than getting married. A prenup is a pre-nuptial agreement--a marriage agreement. Getting a prenup without getting married is a lot like buying car insurance without having a car. I guess it's cool you have it in case you accidentally buy a car/get married, but it makes no sense and isn't free. Red Pill Women should be focusing on these issues. How should they focus on these issues? By …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 03:34 PM
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White, middle class, American. Went to college for a few years but had to drop out (long story, but the short version is that it was too expensive), and barring one friend I can think of, all of my friends have graduated with their bachelor's by now. I don't know much about the high school years of people I didn't go to high school with (it becomes super irrelevant very quickly), which makes it hard to talk about their pre-18 dating years. For those I did go to high school with, it was about a 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/15 03:22 PM
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I'm sorry if you're being sarcastic and I'm missing it, but uh, they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 02:52 PM
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''is he 6 feet tall and above that'' does he look like a 25 year old Tom Cruise? ...Tom Cruise is 5'7".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 02:51 PM
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Anecdotally speaking, none of this looks like my experience so far. I'm 24, and most of my female friends are my age or a few years older--and by friends, I mean both close friends and more distant 'Facebook friends' of the coworker/old schoolmate variety. The vast majority are in long term relationships of several years, some engaged/starting to get married. A few are perpetually single and not dating or having sex with anyone. One dates sporadically without sex. One is in that party phase. Non…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/15 02:49 PM
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I mean he doesn't exactly sound like husband material anyways, but there are probably things he could be doing! It just sounded like he had a halfhearted dream of doing something but couldn't get his act together to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:29 PM
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I have a feeling if they did, they wouldn't find what they think they would. I doubt most people are picturing what we're like in real life when they read this sub. They're probably picturing a group of men and a few beaten down, abused wives.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 07:59 PM
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I'm hardcore kicking myself for linking my pinterest to my real identity! I would love to be able to link up with you ladies. My pinterest is mostly food and girlie stuff, not as much what you're asking for but definitely fairly RP-approved :) Maybe I'll have to start a second account.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 07:57 PM
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I am officially following you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 07:54 PM
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I actually find it touching that he wants to be a teacher and try to help the lives of bullied children. If I had to choose between boring banker guy who makes 20k more a year and passionate guy wanting to change lives of troubled children I'd pick the latter. But that's just me. He wants to be a teacher so badly that he's 24 and still hasn't started his degree? He must not want it that bad. And the difference in salary between a banker and a teacher isn't likely to be 20k--it's likely to be 60-…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 07:53 PM
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I mean, I never disagreed about it being hard. The dogsitter I described? It would be damn hard for her to turn into someone most people would look at as "dateable." The description of my cousin I linked to? It would be borderline insurmountably hard for him to turn into what most women would describe as "dateable." It's especially hard because they're never going to be with someone other people would consider high value. But it's doable. That's kind of my point. I see a lot of comments where pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/15 09:41 PM
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I just honestly can't picture someone who is so awful that a complete overhaul of everything about them won't fix them up until they can find someone to be with. This comment describes the worst "incel" type I know, and I still think he could make it work if he had low standards and changed everyone about himself. What makes you so sure you could never find love if you made changes and improved yourself? I'm not trying to snark you, I'm legitimately curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/15 02:53 PM
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I dunno. I think when people say that, they're picturing younger women. And a young woman, if she makes an effort, sometimes a lot of effort, can usually transform herself. I had a dogsitter who was mid-thirties but had one of those faces/looks where she could've been an old 30...or she could've been 48. Her face was kind of puffy. She's not pretty. Her nose is too big and manly, her eyes are too small, her eyebrows are invisible, she has jowls and a simultaneously square and disappearing jawlin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/15 01:44 PM
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Yeah I saw that part. When it comes to specifics like that, I just default to what my guy likes. He likes my ripped jeans, and he likes chunky, cozy looking sweaters. It'd be silly to disregard that for some blog :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 10:53 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, what did she do before the kid came to keep herself busy? When I first moved in with my boyfriend, I was unemployed because I had to move away from my job. The house was spotless, there was always food on the table, but beyond that, I found myself bored a lot and had a hard time giving my SO space when he got home, since he was the most exciting part of my day. I'm worried it'll be the same way when I leave this (terrible, poorly managed) company.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 02:12 PM
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it feeds into a woman's FOMO hardcore The best way to distract her from FOMO is to make sure she's fed and fucked. When she's sated, she'll be way less distracted by the fact that she doesn't go out a whole lot. Or maybe that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 02:01 PM
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it is freedom. This is vital. My SO and I are financially very comfortable. We can basically do what we want. I kind of hate my job and he's been pushing me to quit because we legitimately don't need the income anyways. Just a few years ago I was up at night having panic attacks about missing payments and skipping lunch because I couldn't afford it, so I've seen both sides of the coin. We can go out if we want to go out. We can have drinks if we want to have drinks. We can fund pricy hobbies. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 01:57 PM
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Thank you for posting this! I just went on the blog and I can say it's probably the first place I've heard someone talk about the importance of variety in a woman's look. It's not something I've heard here or on TRP (although I'm not over there a lot). Sometimes I find myself trying to perfect my look for my SO (like The Ultimate hairstyle, The Ultimate outfit, etc) and it weirdly made me feel better to read about how important it is to change things up. I don't feel weird about trying new thing…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 01:51 PM
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My boyfriend loves that, in his words, I'm "not like other girls" (personally I don't agree--I'm just like all the girls I know--but we grew up in wildly different environments so I get what he means). He likes my outdoorsy hobbies and the fact that I don't mind getting dirty farming or camping or hiking or gardening. His favorite style on girls can be described as "comfy" which means a lot of uggs, tees, yoga pants, hoodies, that kind of thing. I tend to be more stylish than that, but I'm learn…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 01:48 PM
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Oh man, that sounds like my ex. In the beginning I was so uncomfortable with it, but I learned to kind of enjoy dressing to the nines. He was also very good looking, well groomed, and well dressed himself, so I felt a need to keep up with that. I only go all out like that now on special occasions (and I may or may not have a closet full of semi-slutty clothes I almost never wear anymore), but it can be fun!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 01:40 PM
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I basically knew how I'd come out, but here I am: Narcissism-4th percentile Machiavellianism-11th percentile Psychopathy-1st percentile. RPW for reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 05:46 PM
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You don't have to do masculine activities to meet men. Seriously. Some of those things are good to know how to do, but you don't have to make a habit of them.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 01:39 PM
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A "beta" provider can still be encouraged to develop into a strong confident "alpha" over time. I dunno, that seems risky to me. Like the more serious equivalent of dating someone "in the process of getting in shape." Yeah they could lose weight/develop alpha characteristics...but they're less likely to now that they're in a comfortable relationship. I'd rather aim for a slightly older man who's ready to settle down who already has the mix of alpha and beta I'm looking for rather than risk it on…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 01:36 PM
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I also don't get why people don't travel with their spouse. The best marriage I know? They had no kids and traveled whenever they could. Together. There's this idea that you have to do all your traveling and partying and "living" before you "settle down" with your spouse, and it makes no sense to me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 07:31 PM
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I feel like I SHOULD be doing something. Like.... doing nothing scares me. And leaving him alone FEELS like I'm doing nothing.... does that make sence?? Makes total sense to me. I can relate to that emotion really hard. I like to keep myself busy doing stuff that benefits him indirectly so that I feel like I'm helping without getting in his hair, because my SO (and your SO and most men I know) really really need that time. So I take the time to deep clean, or make a really complicated dinner and…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 08:58 PM
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Thank you for the serious answer! I can definitely see how it could come across as straight-up fetishizing actual, real life relationships, and I can see the female egocentrism in it. In my life, I think the two can (and do) coexist fairly well, although it primarily stays in the bedroom. The only part of it that really bothers me is that both people are existing in those roles primarily (and in many cases, solely) because it turns them on. What happens when it doesn't anymore? Does their relati…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 02:30 PM
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This is certainly accurate to me to an extent, but it also has to do with the different ways men and women compliment. A woman is more likely to tell me she likes my shoes, hair, makeup, outfit, etc. A man is more likely to tell me I'm hot or attractive or pretty or have beautiful eyes or something. Basically a woman compliments something that I did, and a man compliments something that I am. So in a case like that, the woman's compliment means more because I had full control over what she's com…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/15 09:24 PM
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I appreciate the serious reply! I wasn't trying to be flippant, just genuinely curious. And agreed so hard about the intricate rope work. I just don't get it. I imagine that even if I was into it in the beginning, after about 30 minutes I'd be counting ceiling tiles and completely turned off!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/15 09:15 PM
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I'm kinda surprised with the negative response. I really liked this, and I feel similarly. My SO, like her Sir, is very appreciative of what I do, even on days he comes home stressed or grumpy. Serious question, are D/s relationships frowned upon here or just not common among RPW? I'm still new, and I'm not sure if there's something obvious I'm missing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/15 09:04 PM
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He'd probably look at you completely sideways because you're not in a D/s relationship. But I'll be honest, I don't really understand all the barfing going on. It seems to me that a D/s relationship with a male dom and a female sub would tie in well with a lot of RPW ideas and values, no? Or are you just expressing your personal dislike of that sort of relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/15 08:58 PM
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Eh, I mean, in the grand scheme, this doesn't seem like a big outburst. A lot of children actually respond better to reason than to blind orders. If you tell X to pick up his toys, and he says "why?", he might respond better to, "so that no one trips and hurts themselves on your toys," than "because I said so," if that makes sense. It sounds like this could have been a tantrum that was averted because your SO just answered him, rather than deciding that was the hill he wanted to die on. You have…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 10:26 PM
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If the government provided free and unfettered access to abortions and birth control for women and men, as well as removing the stigma attached to using these services, then a whole hell of a lot of these cases would take care of themselves. For four years, between 2009 and 2013, Colorado had a state-funded IUD program that put free or reduced cost IUDs in 30,000 women. Births to teen mothers dropped by 40%, abortions went down 35%, and it saved the state $80 million in Medicaid costs. Sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 05:46 PM
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...Why not let the people who want to work from home work from home? There are two big downsides. For one, the person might not be able to handle working from home, and their productivity and quality take a nosedive. You handle that by revoking their working from home privileges or firing them as you would any employee who stops performing at an adequate level. The other downside is that the person's role might require being present in the office. Okay fine, you don't let that person work from h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 03:57 PM
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I was sick last week, so my boyfriend really stepped it up in the house department--cooking dinner, cleaning up, etc. And although I kept it to myself, I found myself thinking you're not doing that right. Like oh my god, what is wrong with me?? I have this amazing man who came home from a full day at work, went to the store, bought food, and then cooked me dinner and I'm thinking about the way he's chopping the onion?! I don't think he's folding towels right!? So while it was good I kept that al…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 08:26 PM
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Hopefully within the next couple of years! Thank you for the resource, I'll be sure to bookmark it :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 08:18 PM
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If you want to know whether or not it's actually a job, that's kind of a hard question--technically "job" doesn't just refer to careers. Also, you can hire people to perform the duties of a SAHM--cook, housekeeper, nanny. And in some ways, I think it's harder to be a SAHM/D than a person with a career (depending on the career and how much work is put into being a stay at home). You can't clock out, you can't take the day off, you don't get any breaks, and it's incredibly isolating. My SO has tol…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 04:24 PM
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I especially recommend the banana bread. I just finished eating my first loaf of it, and it was easily my favorite banana bread I've ever made. I had a serious weakness for crumbly desserts though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 04:26 PM
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I do think prostitution should be legalized, but I don't think it'll change things. They don't want sex, they want to be desired, in the form of a woman they find attractive wanting to have sex with them, but they don't want to do anything at all to make themselves more appealing for it. It's entitlement, pure and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 02:40 PM
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You can make your own dessert if you want to, but a store bought pie warmed in the oven before serving with vanilla ice cream is extra easy. Dessert, for me, has always been the most labour-intensive part of dinner, but maybe that's because I like making my own doughs and things. An easy compromise is store-bought pie dough. These mini galettes look fancy but take so little time/energy it's ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 02:36 PM
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If you want to spend some time in the kitchen, you could try pot roast or beef bourguignon or coq au vin (less time commitment). It's finally fall where I am, and all I want is food that's been cooked for ages. Serve it up with some mashed potatoes. Pasta with homemade bolognese (don't forget the cream) or meatballs (extra impressive when filled with mozzarella) could be made with some garlic bread. Slightly more adventurous, I made these pork chops the other night, and BF was a very happy campe…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 02:32 PM
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My main hobby now that I'm stuck in a small apartment is cooking; my dream is to eventually live out on a lot of land so I can garden and homestead Same dream! SO and I are moving soon to take steps towards that :) and I agree, being stuck in a teensy little 800 square foot house, the only place my creativity shines through is in my cooking. Very cool teepee by the way! Would look awesome with the pattern from your doodles.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 02:07 PM
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This is brilliantly articulated. I do the same thing and never really broke down why, but this is it (with a touch of appealing to his sexuality). Whenever an actress or whatever really blows my SO away, I try to get a handle on what aspect of her is doing it for him. Sometimes it's her attitude, sometimes it's looks and femininity, sometimes it's her "cuteness." I try to find ways to adapt myself to be more attractive to him, and it's pretty subconscious.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 05:02 AM
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In that case, we are in agreement. People who abuse the system do no one any favors, and whiny, tantrum throwing children masquerading as adults set my teeth on edge.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 10:06 PM
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State-funded healthcare is absolutely a major aspect of welfare in America. It's actually the most expensive aspect of it. And cash programs aren't what people think they are. You're not just handed a blank check while you sit on your ass and the government subsidizes your existence--unless you're counting SSI or Old Age Assistance? That's generally just aiding the elderly though. I'm guessing you're talking about TANF when you talk about living free, but with little exception, you have to work …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 10:01 PM
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It depends on why. It's a cultural norm where I live, and he's stated a desire for me to take his name in the past. I would want an explanation, but it's not a big deal. I like my name. It's unique. I might even be kind of into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 09:04 PM
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If I were told "CQ, if you get pregnant you are going to have to use your vacation time or not get paid at all" I think that would be a deterrent for having children for some. Uh, where do you live? Because you just described America. There are companies who offer paid maternity leave, but it's not the standard nor is it required. I never took welfare when I had my kid. I did use programs like healthcare and childcare so that I could work and finish school so I could get off the programs. Who pa…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 08:51 PM
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You and I vehemently disagree, so it seems like this will just be an agree to disagree one. I will say that in instances of "invented" mental illness (when someone goes on WebMD and decides it fits their symptoms), I agree with this article.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 08:36 PM
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This is helpful advice if the woman in question invented the mental illness and slapped a label on her husband. This is terrible advice if there is actual mental illness involved. PTSD is not cured by a woman acting differently. Neither is bipolar disorder. And the dangerous corollary here is that it's the wife's fault the husband has bipolar disorder/PTSD/whatever, because if only she could practice The Six Intimacy Skills better, he'd "get better." He'd be formerly bipolar. Sometimes medicine …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 02:02 PM
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Like everyone said, the right person will not use you. But it can be hard to know when you're being used, especially if you're young, inexperienced, or desperate. I did not have a good relationship with my ex, but I'm glad I had it, because it showed me clearly what being used looks like and feels like. Now I can be hypersensitive to being taken advantage of, but at least it's not going to happen again. I find it helps to bounce things off of people. If everyone around you is saying he's taking …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 01:52 PM
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To me, they're all yellow flags. Just something to note that could lead to more issues down the line. They're all just measures of self-discipline. Like laundry, for example. There's the guy who has never done laundry and waits for his mom to come visit or his girlfriend to get annoyed, and it just sits and piles up and he ends up wearing clothes one too many times. That's what would be a flag for me. Laundry is easy. Why can't this guy get it together to do laundry every couple of weeks? Or cle…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/15 05:28 PM
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I think this is a good way to put it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/15 05:24 PM
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Overall, how well does he "adult?" Is he just a hot mess because he can't get his crap together, or does he have some sort of life plan and self-discipline? This "adulting" thing is huge. If he can't take care of himself, then he's not captain material; he'll steer your ship right into an iceberg. I think this is a really important point, because it's easy to read through here and think, "well, as a woman, I'd take care of X, Y, and Z in his life, so he doesn't need to have those skills." If X, …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/15 02:15 PM
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"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." You don't have to agree with your course. You just have to pass it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/15 02:11 PM
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I saw a similar article that really resonated with me. I don't have children yet, so I don't have a lot to add from experience, but thank you for posting this! Definitely the kind of parent I want to be.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 08:14 PM
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Don't feel bad, I was wavering on this one for a minute too. Unless things are super obviously a troll though, I try to respond as helpfully as possible even if I have doubt. I figure for every troll who actually makes a post, there are a ton of people lurking (like I was) who might actually get something out of the replies!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 07:55 PM
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Both of those sound extremely helpful, and I haven't even heard of either of them. Thanks for telling me about them!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 07:54 PM
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Asking them out yourself solves none of these issues. Agree completely. Totally bought into the feminist "just approach guys yourself!" idea when younger. You know what I got out of it? A very beta boyfriend. If that is what you want, then go crazy and approach away. If not, maybe don't.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 02:00 PM
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For better or worse, most men will read smiling at them as you being open to being approached (if you're attractive to them, at least). I've actually had to make the effort to smile less, just so I don't have to deter people later.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 01:58 PM
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She sounds like someone on ADHD meds (which are basically speed). I didn't want to say anything, but she confirmed the diagnosis in a comment. Honestly, makes the whole thing make a lot more sense.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 01:56 PM
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I was going to ask if you were ADHD, but I didn't want to offend. It's just the way you come across in your posts. I think it's worth talking to your psychiatrist and asking them about drugs you can take while breastfeeding. Make sure you communicate the anxiety this is causing you. Your doctor is there to help you. its a life long goal to be fit or athletic IMO, the very easiest way to lose weight is to count calories. Why? Because you can still pretty much eat whatever you want, you just have …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 01:54 PM
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Oh my gosh take a deep breath and calm down. Rome wasn't built in a day--and if you had a baby three weeks ago, you are allowed to wear yoga pants if that's comfortable for you. As to not getting impatient with your toddler? A toddler's whole job is trying your patience. And while there's nothing wrong with having a celebrity/fictional role model, keep in mind that in both cases, the "role model" you're looking up to isn't real. Even the celebrity. You're only seeing what they want you to see, a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/15 09:40 PM
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This is great advice (if OP is married at least, it's not clear). I'm borderline intimidated by how good my boyfriend's mom is a woman-stuff, but she's so nice about it that I love learning from her!
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/15 02:14 PM
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I'm very close with my mom, and I think she did a great job raising me. However, I did not have a RP upbringing at all, and I still don't know how they'll take it when I decide to stay home with children instead of continuing to work. My mom was an excellent cook, but she didn't pass on her skills to me--I had to learn everything from scratch. She kept a clean house, but she didn't teach me how to do the same. It took me awhile to figure things out. But here's the thing: no one is born with home…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/15 02:13 PM
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Thank you for the patient reply. I agree, he's not doing it intentionally--it's just who he is. I'm getting a lot better at just doing something else myself and leaving him be, but it's still sometimes a struggle.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 11:27 PM
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Does that mean we have to like it? There are lots of tenets of RP theory concerning female behavior that men seem to tolerate and accept as fact without enjoying it. Unless he's especially devious, I think all the dread my boyfriend uses on me is unintentional, passive. But that doesn't make it not real, and I don't like the insecurity, discomfort, unsettledness, etc. it makes me feel. I am happy this thread was started though, because others' answers are helping me with the issue.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 09:38 PM
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It took me a really, really long time to understand that someone can hurt you and be a jerk without doing it on purpose. I'm great at making excuses for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 02:25 PM
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Whenever I think of a "Forever Alone" type, I picture my cousin, who we'll call Andy. Andy is now in his mid-40s. He has shoulder length, curly hair that is greasy and somewhere between black and grey. He's also going bald. It looks about as good as you imagine. He's been obese for most of his life. His eyebrows are consuming his face, and he's not attractive. He had a terrible, messed-up childhood, and his mother probably abused drugs while pregnant. His house, a gift from my uncle, is a disgus…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 02:22 PM
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And all the comments are super positive about it. Weird. Boyfriend gets like this sometimes, and I don't like it. It makes me uncomfortable, it stresses me out, I feel like I'm doing something wrong, I end up being more of a nudge just trying to fix him when it's how he deals with stress. So I'm learning to cope and step back and let him have his time to recover, and he is sure to communicate to me that his mood isn't related to me, which helps a lot. Previously I would internalize completely, a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 01:58 PM
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Only 4.99? I'm buying it the next time I'm at a World Market. That's an extremely useful looking gadget--puts my measuring cups to shame.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:42 AM
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Hope springs eternal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 03:41 AM
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Yeah, I'm honestly just curious. It's not really relevant to my own life--I've found my forever person, and we both know each other's deals--but I'm always so baffled by how this number is reached.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 03:41 AM
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I own one and love it as well (and just today read an article about how it ensures the best poached eggs, though I haven't tried). But I actually don't think a lot of people know about this for whatever reason. Both men I've lived with only owned colanders.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:40 AM
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I use parchment paper now, I just figured a silpat would be a nice, less wasteful, easier alternative. I definitely have some research to do before I commit, but that's how I feel about every purchase.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:38 AM
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I did, but I mostly found threads about desired n-counts, what average n-count actually is, etc. Only one thread about coming to that number, and honestly, a lot of the answers were fairly useless. The top answer was, "if it would've counted as cheating were you in a relationship, it gets added to the n-count" (paraphrased). Okay cool, so we're counting kissing, sexting, cuddling, etc as having had sex now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 08:38 PM
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I'll be honest, 90% of the reason I don't buy mangos is because I think they're a pain to cut up. That's actually a really good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:14 PM
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I've been heavily considering Silpat mats for awhile! I might have to commit. Also holy crap, those measuring glasses sound useful. Running back to the computer to google for how many teaspoons are in an ounce or whatever stupid measurement I need gets old fast. Can I ask about the brand of your microplane grater? I bought a cheap one once that inexplicably was unable to zest anything. Very frustrating. I just use the side of a box grater now.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:13 PM
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I love seafood! And I am completely obsessed with pasta but so rarely indulge (200 calories for a cup? No thanks). I'll give it a try this weekend! What kind of sauce do you throw together with that?
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:10 PM
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I actually really need a citrus juicer. They're way better at getting all the juice out than doing it by hand, and they're quicker (and no seeds). I added one to the top of my list after I hand squeezed a whole bag of key limes. I just googled, and the ceramic ones are super pretty! Thanks for the tip.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 06:35 PM
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I just got a vegetti as a gift (or however you spell it) and I haven't tried it out yet. I feel inspired now!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 05:48 PM
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They can be an ATM machine, an emotional tampon, or a shiny trophy to show off with, but never a human being. I mean, you can honestly look at any relationship like that. Am I just a shiny trophy for my boyfriend to show off, or am I a human being to him? Is he a supportive and communicative boyfriend, or is he an emotional tampon? And I'm writing this as a RPW. Every single relationship is transactional when you break it down. That doesn't mean the people in the relationship don't view each oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 03:05 AM
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I think a lot of comments here have touched on the issue. It's not the submissiveness/dominance, but how apathetic she is, for lack of a better word. You can be submissive without being boring. Most of us probably are. I really like this comment: I expect my subordinate leaders to take charge, give orders, and get things done. I expect them to be dominant.. Just not over me. (u/bicepsblastingstud) How is she supposed to be an effective first mate if she can't do like...anything...without him? Ho…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 03:58 PM
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I mean, that would annoy or bore me, someone who never had their own ideas or suggestions, plus it would exhaust me. However, I'm a submissive woman, not a dominant man. So I'm not really sure if that behavior would annoy a man.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 03:06 AM
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I'm not a man dating women, so I can't speak to what they'd like, but I have had female friends who would drive me up a wall with how indecisive/wishy-washy they were. I don't even mean doormat, because they weren't spineless. An example of the kind of person I mean is the person that, when confronted with "what do you want for dinner?", doesn't have any suggestions but also doesn't like any of yours. "Well how about Mexican?" "Uh...nah..." "Well what about burgers?" "Um no..." etc. forever. Cou…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 02:44 AM
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Yes actually, fat and fairly short for a man (5'5"), though his weight did yo-yo at times--but to be honest, it's probably hard not to be fat at that height. He was married twice, and both wives were beautiful and thin. He had mistresses, also primarily attractive, and he had beautiful girlfriends in between wives. In fact I'm not sure he was ever with someone who wasn't conventionally attractive, but they were all closer to his age (within 15 or so years, generally within 5 years), so some of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 07:54 PM
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It sounds like it was a waste for that particular woman, given the path she later took that she had no way to predict, with certainty, when she was younger. Not necessarily so for others. I think children are better off being raised by educated parents, triply so if homeschooling is on the table. There's also nothing stopping her from entering the workforce once her children are older, except maybe her age.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 06:17 PM
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Woah, you spend a lot of energy on social media. I talk to my best friend constantly on Facebook, and we snapchat periodically. I use instagram on vacation. So I definitely do use social media, I'm not knocking it entirely or anything. But you seem way more tapped into it than I'm used to. I would probably be pretty overwhelmed. I think you need to seriously manage your expectations. It's okay if you want more text contact. On workdays, my SO and I text periodically, but not constantly--your 3-4…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 03:37 PM
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I kiss and cuddle and am physically affectionate all the time without it leading to sex or sexual release or even physical arousal. Just because something can lead to sex or physical arousal doesn't mean it has to. If I'm physically affectionate and he wants it to lead to something sexual, I'm game, but that's not my intention with my actions. You can also be affectionate without being physical. Slipping notes into his lunch, texting him, showing him you care with your actions. Similarly, you ca…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 03:31 PM
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I have PCOS though Are you being treated for this at all? I know treatment can include birth control pills. While the pill does wipe some women's libidos, it can raise or have no effect for others. Does being high carb without being overweight also raise your testosterone? To be honest, if you have a higher sex drive when slightly overweight and wear it well, maybe losing too much isn't a great idea for you. Definitely keep exercising though, regardless. I've sometimes told him I don't feel up t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 03:26 PM
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-I let him know which cologne turns me on and which of his types of boxers I find appealing (also used to help but doesn't anymore). That line right there makes me think that attraction is an issue. That's okay, by the way, to admit to yourself. In my opinion, attraction just isn't one of those things you can talk yourself into. It also sounds like more foreplay won't fix the underlying issue, which is a lack of attraction, but it will might you less resentful...maybe. Has he let himself go over…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 01:51 AM
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Part of why I love watching old movies! The women are just so graceful and feminine and admirable.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:17 PM
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Even as a red pill woman, the red pill is something you'd be better off hiding. Not even just specific "RP" stuff. The ideas themselves--devoid of any terminology--can still cause a lot of judgment and nasty comments. For so long I thought there was something fundamentally wrong with me because I wanted to be a wife and mother and didn't have a lot of career ambition. I still struggle with accepting it myself, and people around me certainly don't accept it. As if I'm literally hurting other wome…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:16 PM
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For reddit related stuff, I have three accounts. One I use here, one I use if I'm posting pictures/revealing information (not like gonewild but like makeup/skincare/etc), and one I use for everything else. I would love to be able to use my normal account for this place, but it's not worth people acting like her. By the way, congrats on the engagement, and congrats on the dress choice--every single BHLDN dress I've seen has been blow-my-mind gorgeous.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:12 PM
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Different people are going to have different preferences and different definitions. I saw some post on MRP awhile ago (like months) where the guy was pissed his wife cut her hair, and from his description, it sounded like she chopped it into a long bob. I think much longer than waist length (natural waist, I mean) can very easily look sloppy, unless you have perfect Pinterest hair. Some men honestly prefer short hair. My boyfriend's ideal is just past bra length, which I've heard echoed from men…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 08:07 PM
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Could you link some stuff on that? Honestly curious. I've never heard of anyone discussing banning sex robots for men. The most I've heard is people calling it gross or kind of creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:29 PM
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Did you move from somewhere with a very friendly/chatty culture to somewhere with a more standoffish culture (like a major metropolitan area)? Is it possible what you're interpreting as rudeness/meanness is simply disinterest? Are you standoffish? I'm just having a hard time wrapping my head around every single woman you pass by taking the time out of her day to be rude to you for no reason. And I doubt it's a looks thing like you seem to be implying--I've known/been friends with some truly gorg…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:21 PM
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I really appreciate you not taking the easy way out with your 4 and picking someone fat or deformed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:11 PM
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Breastfeeding itself doesn't cause sagging. It's primarily the post partum weight loss and depends on how much your breasts grow during pregnancy, all of which is very person dependent. Some people grow a few cup sizes despite not gaining much weight. Others don't grow much at all despite gaining too much weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:06 PM
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Roasted veggies are my jam. While I play around with seasonings, I usually just chop them up and toss whatever it is in olive oil and salt and pepper and bake at 400 or so for however long the vegetable needs. Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, broccoli, bell peppers, carrots, potatoes, various squashes, zucchini, and sweet potatoes all taste amazing this way. I also like them in eggs. My favorite breakfast dish is eggs, chopped broccoli, peppers, and onions. Frittatas and quiches are also a great w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 10:04 PM
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Who knows? How could anyone actually know (besides maybe a plastic surgeon)? You were like, "how could anyone know how saggy boobs do or do not get with breastfeeding? Who could possibly know? Only a plastic surgeon!" And I'm saying no, plenty of people know, those people just happen to be women who are in possession of boobs that may or may not sag.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 09:31 PM
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I've seen most of my friends' boobs. I think that's pretty normal for most girls, though I wouldn't presume to speak for sure. I went to overnight camp for 7 years, saw a lot of boobs. Had roommates, saw their boobs. I'm also intimately familiar with my own boobs, since I've had them for going on ten+ years now. I've never breastfed, never been overweight, and they are definitely not perky. I hang out on abrathatfits on my main account, saw boobs. I hang out on plastic surgery forums (because I …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 02:23 PM
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Who knows? How could anyone actually know (besides maybe a plastic surgeon)? They...have their own boobs? They've seen other girls' boobs and know the history of said boobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 02:09 PM
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So you're comparing fictional characters to actual people you see? Compare them to fictional women now. If I compared real life men to movie characters or book characters, I'd never think anyone was good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 02:08 PM
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1) Marriage is a must for me, and a wedding is not. I'm not willing to risk something happening to one of us down the line and one of us not being the next of kin, not being able to visit in the hospital, not inheriting the other's savings/stuff, not being in charge of the other's remains. Moreover, marriage simplifies a lot in our case--moving for work, health insurance, taxes. 2) Yes. I would not accept maintaining separate residences. If he required separate residences forever, he would not b…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 01:54 PM
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Congrats on your baby! That's so exciting! Try to get as much sleep as you can now!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 01:48 PM
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Honestly, in this case, I'd say go for it. My general advice for dating exes is to remember why you broke up and keep in mind whether or not that's still going to be an issue for you. It sounds like it really was just circumstantial for you two. Give it another try, but remember not to rush into things. Just because you dated in the past and loved one another before doesn't mean you should rush the dating stage right to the moving in and getting married. It's been a couple years, and if you've m…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 01:47 PM
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I'd like to add manners. While it's not specific to the way you look, it definitely influences how you come across and your general appearance. Table manners especially seem lacking in a lot of people, but even just general "please/thank you" type stuff makes a real difference in how people perceive you. I was raised to behave a certain way, and I think it reflects poorly on someone if their manners are terrible. Not to mention it can often be gross.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 01:44 PM
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Some people respond well to silicones and some people respond well to sulfates. Some people should avoid both. If you're using silicone products, a periodic wash with a clarifying shampoo gets your hair like new.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 08:00 PM
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Rarely watches porn and probably only masturbates a few times a week.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 07:11 PM
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Boots! I'm throwing snow boots into the mix. Coats can be a great investment, but you can also buy cheaper ones to fit the style of the year. I have a long, quilted Uniqlo parka that is insanely warm and was under $150. But I've owned the same Sorel snow boots for 8 years now, and they're water resistant (or proof, unsure), magically stain resistant, good for hiking, and warm as hell. I cannot recommend the brand enough lol.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 09:12 PM
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Quality absolutely makes a difference here! When I started learning, I was using a $60 Ikea machine that didn't even have a backstitch feature. Every time I attempted a zig zag stitch the machine jammed. Plus that front loading bobbin :( Later I inherited a really nice Singer and honestly, it's like the difference between driving a beater and driving a sports car. It just handles so much better plus it can do like 10,000 other things that my Ikea couldn't or wouldn't do.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 09:10 PM
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I actually have a running list! Really nice vacuum--Miele or Riccar, canister because that's what works for my house, but I've had an upright that I loved in the past Everyday kitchen vacuum to keep the room crumb free (I like electrolux for this) Nice pot and pan set (I used to have a 14 piece Simply Calphalon, retails $299, and I miss it constantly) High quality chef's knife Kitchenaid stand mixer Vitamix blender (over budget for you but I used to own one, very worth it) Nice food processor if…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 04:48 AM
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I used to have a vitamix, and I cannot recommend it highly enough.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 04:39 AM
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To clarify, I'm not initiating multiple times a day or anything like that. I initiate usually once a day, sometimes less often. And I only masturbate when he's home if he's off doing other stuff and wants alone time. But as far as the rest, I'll try giving it a week sans orgasm and see how that goes. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 05:06 PM
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For me, my SO is 10 years older than me. This works out really well for us, because he's established enough in his career that he wants to settle down, and he wants to do it with a woman who prefers to be in a supporting role. Most single women his age are either divorced, single moms, or are very career focused (or a combo!), none of which he wants. Most single men my age are not looking to settle down yet or if they are, they're looking for an "equal" partner or a replacement mother to take ca…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 12:53 AM
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I started it when my periods began lasting two weeks...and occurring every week and a half. Later I had a super awkward conversation with my dad when he found out I was on it and I had to describe my menstrual issues. Mortifying for a 16 year old.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 12:13 AM
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Because there are so many people who come to RPW to troll or to start shit or to gawk like we're animals at the zoo, the mods have to overcompensate a bit. As a result, there can be censorship that I'm not a huge fan of. Speaking badly of the Red Pill can get you banned. I see the need for the moderation and don't necessarily disagree with it, but that doesn't mean I love it. Also, I hate a lot of the stupid words. "Tingles" is the worst for me. It just makes me cringe like nobody's business. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/15 09:48 PM
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Even after all this time I'm still figuring out how his body works! My only real experience other than him was my ex, and it's crazy how different their bodies respond. I think people expect that from women, because we can be a bit more complicated sexually, but it's very true for men too. I agree that it might just be a tired thing. I don't want to push him too much with giving him head, because if I turn him on enough, he'll need to finish and I feel like that's forcing his hand.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 09:39 PM
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Feel better! And keep in mind, the illness is exacerbating your irritation. When you all recover, try to figure out if anything about how the illness was handled bothered you, and let him help you reach some solutions. I know sometimes when I'm in physical states that lend themselves to irritation (exhausted, hungry, sick), I get annoyed at something that otherwise wouldn't phase me. Later I think I'm being silly, because I was.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 09:35 PM
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I don't know about your guy, but mine likes it when I need support from him. He likes being able to hold me and tell me it's okay. There's obviously a balance--I'm not sobbing over breaking a glass nor am I doing it daily or anything. But it lets him be protective and lets me get emotional support. Win/win.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:56 PM
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Target actually has some surprisingly cute sleepwear. Forever 21 and H&M both also have amazing pajamas. Most of mine are from Forever 21. If you have a bit more to spend, I was in Nordstrom the other day and their PJs are really cute too. On another end, I love Fredericks and their site is always going on sale. I've gotten things 80% off with free shipping before, so if they're not on sale now, wait till they are.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:54 PM
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If you all have the flu, he should not be working. You should not be working. Kids should not be in school. Cleaning up outside can wait. Make sure the things that can't wait (like dishes, laundry, taking trash out) get done, and the rest of the time watch movies and eat soup and be gross. You're all sick.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:51 PM
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Definitely not. I'm the porn watcher between the two of us. He jerks off maybe a few times a week, if he's up before me or if he can't sleep and doesn't want the hassle/effort/cleanup of sex.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:32 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to write all this out! This is one of those questions where I really do value input from both genders, especially if the men in question have experienced something similar, and I don't feel you stepped on any toes at all. To answer your questions: he actually briefly spent some time on TRP. Most of the posts he saw were just angry rants and he found it silly and unnecessary. There is good stuff, but if you just take a cursory glance every now and then, you're likely…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:30 PM
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The guys who say they wish their woman would initiate are guys who regularly get turned down by said woman. This is what I kind of what I assumed. Try just initiating flirtation and sexual tension but remove the expectation that it lead to sex. I like this. We flirt all the time, and there's almost never the assumption that it'll lead to sex unless it starts moving below the belt in a serious way. This will allow me to sort of get my fun without pushing him. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:11 AM
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try to approach it with the mentality "how can I turn him on so much he will beg for it" rather than "I want sex." This is incredibly helpful, thank you. And the expectation thing is where my fears are coming in. He's never said anything, and he's not shy about voicing his opinion, but sex is definitely better when it's on 'his' schedule, rather than mine, regardless of who initiates.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 09:10 PM
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Thanks. I think I'd be happier with that initiation rate as well. I try not to initiate as often but it's one of those things that's so hard to remember in the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 08:05 PM
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God I hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 04:38 PM
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That was super click-baity. I've definitely seen that article referenced several times, but it was pretty laughable to actually read. If you click on the follow-up (26 more exciting signs she's a slut), I actually satisfy like ten of them. The "uses birth control when not in a relationship--especially IUD" was the funniest sign to me. I went on birth control four years before losing my virginity. My religious wait until marriage friends went on birth control before they'd even met their husbands…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 02:53 PM
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Can I ask how old you are? You sound very young. I know I had a lot of insecurities like that when I was like 18/20 that are pretty much gone now at 24, and from talking to my girlfriends, they've undergone similar transformations. I will say that if you're seeing each other much more often than a few times a week, twice a week doesn't sound like enough, but every couple is different. When he flirts with you, don't be afraid to flirt back. It doesn't lead to sex all the time. If we had sex every…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 01:30 PM
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I'm not convinced at this point that you aren't a troll. Glad I wasn't the only one thinking it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 04:28 AM
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Does he like blowjobs? Try blowjobs. Why are you turning him down for sex constantly? I'm not trying to antagonize, just trying to see if there can be a middle ground. Is it because he asks four times a day? Because you're not in the mood? Because you're sore or sick or on your period? I'm almost always down for sex, so I might not be the best person to relate on that, but if I wasn't in a sex-mood at the moment, him initiating puts me in one. I also find that the more I have sex, the more I wan…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 02:39 AM
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I'm trying to watch what I eat too :( It's actually really hard because BF and I both watch what we eat and count calories but all I want to do is bake sweets! This is the website I've been on lately--she has a ton of good baked goods. I made her cinnamon ribbon bread last weekend, and I'm making her blueberry oatmeal crumble bars once I stop replying. I also love the Pioneer Woman's desserts (and all her recipes--I can never recommend her enough). I made these a week or two ago, and they went o…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 07:55 PM
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A lot of people are super shocked and appalled and offended that my man and I have clearly stated expectations about keeping ourselves attractive for each other. Like that specifically is omg offensive doesn't he even love you for you?! Yes, he does, but loving me for me doesn't mean he has to be attracted to me if I gain 60 pounds. ETA: and thank you for posting this! Posts like these are why I love this place--it makes sense and it's practical and yet anywhere else on the internet, you'd be sl…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 07:47 PM
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I actually like keeping this in mind as well. TRP likes to say that only men love unconditionally, but I disagree. No one loves unconditionally, and that's a good thing. I see too many women and men who get married and just give up, and I don't get that at all. This is the person you chose, who chose you, who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and you want to stop trying? Hell no. You should want to make this person's life better.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 06:53 PM
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Like /u/freethefrites, my go to meal when I don't know what to make is protein+veg+carb. My laziest, "I can't even" version of this is store bought rotisserie chicken, caesar salad, and a loaf of good bread. It's easy to do this yourself, too! Sautéed chicken breast or fish (I like to dredge fish in flour first), steaks (seared then baked), or pork tenderloin (cut into medallions first) are other protein options. Depending on the protein, I like to roast vegetables, like Brussels sprouts (plays …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 05:38 PM
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And that's all I'm saying. Some people care for parents with Alzheimers while taking care of small children and are fine. Some people can't handle it even without children or other responsibilities--the psychological toll is tremendous. It works for some, not for others, but I would never judge someone in that situation. What a nightmare.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 05:20 PM
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I don't necessarily agree. My family friend's mother had Alzheimers. She took care of her while working and still taking care of her home. She worked so hard to try to do everything. When you have someone who needs 24/7 care, it's like having a baby, only harder, because they're bigger, because they're more complicated, because their care is more difficult, because it's harder to find someone else to step in. You can't take vacations. You can't have nights out with your husband unless someone el…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 02:28 PM
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Yeah, this isn't exactly a choose your friends wisely deal. This is a don't be a freaking crazy person deal. Who drugs someone and cuts their hair because someone else said they saw them in a bar with another girl?? I don't even think the friend sounds that bad (although I didn't see the show). If a close friend's man was out at a bar with another woman, I'd probably check in and make sure everything was above board too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 02:13 PM
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Some women genuinely like sports. Some women dislike sports but tolerate watching them. Some women dislike sports and do not tolerate watching them. Some sports (soccer, swimming) lend themselves to very attractive men (though not all are attractive). Some sports (baseball, football) have primarily unattractive players (though not all are unattractive). How is someone supposed to change your view when your view is that all women don't like to watch sports? One woman who enjoys watching sports ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 03:09 PM
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You've gotten good advice on where to find people, but I want to add that in line with not trusting everyone immediately (that girl at the gym, whether legitimately hungry or not, was never going to be a good friend), you don't need super high standards either. I get it--you want to find your 'best friend,' or someone on par with close friends in the past, but friendship has to start somewhere. If you rule out anyone who isn't in school, you basically rule out almost the entire population above …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/15 03:02 PM
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That's actually a really good point. I've noticed a change in my mood and in the way I react to things after I spend a lot of time browsing TRP, MRP, RoK, whatever--anywhere where there are a lot of angry people, basically. I find it helpful to avoid those sites if they do affect you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 10:18 PM
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I have admittedly never seen or read any version of The Stepford Wives, but I like that quote. It reminds me of a post I saw on reddit written by the SAHW of a police officer (I think?) talking about the value in what she does. That post actually convinced me that being a SAH was an okay, acceptable, productive thing to do with one's life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 01:40 PM
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I think it really depends on how serious things are and how committed you both are. You might be very serious about him, but does he feel the same way? I met my SO online, and we got physical the first time we met up in person. But by that point, we were both very serious about things. Now we live together and will get married when we feel the time is right. If I hadn't felt that right about things, if I'd been filled with questions, I wouldn't have had sex with him, even if I wasn't going to se…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 01:36 PM
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We do have to consider that reddit probably naturally has less extroverts, but overall i think we'll see INxx types a lot. Every time I see a personality thing come up on reddit, there are a lot more IN types than when I've done a personality thing for a class, which makes total sense.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 01:31 PM
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INFP-T, "The Mediator" I don't love these tests because I feel like every time I take one, I score slightly/dramatically differently depending on where I am in life, my mood, my social standing, etc. Admittedly, the way the website classified me feels fairly accurate, but it could be a Barnum Effect thing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 01:29 PM
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Yeah, I dunno, I agree. In general, I'm polite, friendly, and courteous to everyone unless they are explicitly, overtly rude to me. If someone does something worthy of special comment (like helping me, holding the door, whatever), I of course thank them. I give compliments at random also, but I try not to do it when I can be trapped into a conversation afterwards, because a lot of men interpret a compliment as me hitting on them. But something about showing appreciation to men in general is rubb…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 01:19 PM
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I feel like I just answered this on here. I tell men I want a nice guy because I do want a nice guy. I also want a guy I want to fuck. I also want a guy with moderate ambition--not CEO levels of high ambition where I'll never see him, and not smoke weed and play video games all day levels of bum ambition. I also want a guy who is compatible with me sexually. I also want him to be communicative and to be able to handle conflict well. I also want him to find me attractive. I also want his aspirati…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 01:59 PM
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"So, have you had sex yet?"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 01:53 PM
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This is an opposite one for me. I think she's beautiful, but none of the guys I've mentioned it to agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/15 07:21 PM
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Wait...are you suggesting that we associate with completely different groups of women who have slept with completely different groups of men? Nah, that's not possible. You probably graduated high school with me. That's way more plausible!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/15 07:01 PM
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I think it depends on how promiscuous TRP says most women are. I remember coming across some formula someone posted there within the last few months, and by that formula, my number should have been like 110 or something. If most redpillers think the average woman has slept with over 100 men by her mid-20s, then no, most women aren't as promiscuous as TRP says. If they say the average woman has slept with 10 or under, then I'd agree. Among women I know--including ones who are very, very non-RP--I…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/15 02:55 PM
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Start a pinterest board. Only pin outfits where you would wear every element. When you're pinning it, make a note of what it is you liked in the description. Periodically go through and cull pins that you changed your mind about. Notice elements in common (for example "skater skirt," or "striped top") and make a list. Slowly start shopping that list. Use the outfits you love as models to dress yourself. I split my board into two (cold weather/warm weather), which may be useful depending on where…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 02:45 PM
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Just watched this! Very cool. It's interesting to see. I wish I could still take a class that involved an entire lecture on washing my face.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 03:02 AM
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This is a really sweet story. Relationship goals, honestly. And I think this: It's not about being a doormat (like outsiders might think) or trying to have the perfect Stepford Wife image. really is so key. There was a post not long ago about how to project a happy, bubbly exterior when things are bad, and I was thinking exactly this. We're not Stepford Wives. It's okay to not be okay all the time. Thank you so much for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 07:35 PM
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Agreed as far as children go. I don't have any yet, but I remember coming across some chart about age appropriate chores and was surprised by how young children can handle things. Obviously it depends on the child in question, but in general, I think children get away with not doing...well, anything, far too often. I can't tell you how many people I know didn't have chores at all when they were growing up. These are the people who couldn't do their laundry by themselves when they went to college…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 07:32 PM
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The big foundation of any relationship is trust. Once it's gone, it's incredibly difficult to rebuild. When we got together, my SO told me that we had to be upfront and honest about everything with each other, period, or he'd be gone the second I wasn't. No matter how difficult or uncomfortable something is. I trust him completely, and he trusts me. Even if your boyfriend was totally innocent, he was still hiding things from you. How are you supposed to come back from that? Just take his word th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 02:36 PM
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I think "don't do things for others things they refuse to do for themselves" works better for me. Things I do for my SO that he is plenty capable of doing for himself include housework, laundry, errand running, cooking, making lunches, walking the dog, etc. He's not an idiot. He is more than capable of running his own life and did so just fine before I came into the picture. That makes me want to help him more. If he was completely useless and refused to do anything but expected me to do everyth…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 02:30 PM
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I found a man I feel comfortable submitting to. I trust him, and I am happy to surrender him. I don't make compromises I'm uncomfortable with. With that out of the way, tied for number one priority is: Trying to make his life better Trying to make my life better I don't mean try to change him. Simply that I ask myself, how can I make his life easier, more comfortable, run more smoothly? How can I make myself better for him and me? Exercising makes me healthier, more energetic, and more attractiv…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 02:25 PM
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Yeah sometimes people need to hit their rock bottom to change. But I don't want OP to let her life burn down just motivate him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 10:43 PM
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I totally get what you mean. I didn't develop an ED, but I would get obsessive at times to the point where going to a restaurant would give me heavy anxiety. I'm much healthier about it now, but it's not for everyone. I was in undergrad at a very liberal, feminist school that was 65% female. When you account for the gay, the taken, and the undateable, my dating pool was incredibly small...and they had plenty of options. I was also depressed, working three jobs, and pulling all nighters just to s…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 07:39 PM
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Can you get a work study job to help pay the bills? Can you apply for food stamps to help tide you over? Semester should just be starting, so the jobs should be fairly easy to nab if you get there early--I know I ended up with three jobs one semester while my friends had none just because I applied before everyone else. To answer your real question, you can't make him alpha. You can't make him lead. You can't make him get a job or get off his ass. He's a grown man, not a child. That's not to say…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 07:04 PM
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If you don't have any income, things will happen. You won't be able to pay rent, buy food, etc. Let it get to that point. That is your opportunity to be the vulnerable woman--"What should we do babe? I don't know what to do." That is real trust, knowing that he will take care of it, despite your fears or reservations. Wow seriously? I would have such a hard time in this scenario. She doesn't have any kids. She needs to work before this. I cannot imagine consciously stepping back and letting your…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 07:00 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing. A lot of your thoughts on how difficult the social pressures can be really resonated with me. I came into this place very similarly minded to you, and it's always fascinating to see others' journeys. Good luck in the future. You're not compromising yourself. You're not betraying other women. You're not being shallow. You are not a "bad feminist." This especially.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 06:52 PM
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Agreed, that line really resonated with me. Before finding my SO I didn't think a traditional marriage was even allowed, and before finding this sub I had so much shame for how much I enjoyed being domestic and taking care of him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 06:49 PM
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Thanks :) I found my new going out getting ready song!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:52 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:51 PM
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As far as weight loss goes, I definitely think counting calories is the easiest way to get your diet under control. It works best for me because you can pretty much eat what you want, just less of it. I like to use My Fitness Pal (phone app/website). Exercise will help your mood, even though it's hard. Do something you like. If you want to start running, couch to 5k programs/apps work well for me. If you want to get in decent shape before hitting the actual gym, I always liked Jillian Michaels 3…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:07 PM
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Woah that sounds so cool! Where do you go to find cool classes like that? Or is it just a very niche studio in your area?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:48 PM
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Such as, "Maybe you should put the charcoal bag here instead?" or "Should we (meaning him) fix the gate so that cat doesn't get out?". I know I think I'm being helpful, but I'm sure it comes of as naggy. I was falling into this trap a lot too, until he told me that he'd rather I just be upfront about whatever needed doing (I mean duh, right?) and to just let him know when he has time to fix it. From my perspective, I was trying to sound as non-controlling and inoffensive as possible. From his, I…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:46 PM
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Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:43 PM
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Can anyone post a tl;dr for those who can't watch the video?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:12 AM
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Trying to be better about giving SO alone time (slightly extenuating circumstances, but I'm definitely trying) Getting in at least one brisk paced long walk (45 min) with the dog everyday Sticking to my caloric goal everyday Meal planning and sticking to it! Makes my life so much easier Going to meet ups to try to meet local friends
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:08 AM
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Been there. The reason you're short tempered with him, of all people, is because you trust him to be there and take care of you through it, because you don't have to be strong for him. It still sucks all around. Really just make sure to communicate with him as much as you can, and take comfort in him whenever possible. Again, I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:01 AM
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I feel you, I have the same insecurities. The thing about butts though is that you can get them one of two ways. You can either be the kind of person who naturally gains weight in that area. This butt is fat based, but it can look amazing. Or you can build up the muscles so big that you have an ass. This usually looks better but doesn't usually get Kardashian big without some genetics. So back to the insecurities--whenever I want to start gym going again, I spend a month doing Jillian Michaels 3…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 07:26 PM
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I'm so so so so sorry. My best friend is like my sister, and I honestly can't imagine the grief you're dealing with. If it were me, I'd shoot him a very brief email saying basically what you said here: "I'm sorry I've been so short-tempered lately. I know you're only trying to help, and I keep getting mad at you. I love you." Something like that. No one is expecting you to act normally. If you can, try to take comfort in him when you're not with her. Let him do that for you. I'm not sure this wi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 07:16 PM
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The general idea is high weight, low reps--so like 50 pounds, not like 2 (if I recall from the last time I had a gym, I started with like 30 lbs). If you can easily and comfortable do 10 squats with the weight you're holding, you should be holding more. If you have textbooks, I'm guessing you're at school, which means you probably have access to a gym and maybe even fitness classes or personal trainers for cheap or no cost. I'm not the best person to ask, since I have a terrible exercise work et…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 07:00 PM
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Please be really careful with biotin, it can WRECK your skin Could you elaborate on what kind of issues it caused for you? I'm wondering if I can blame biotin for my issues lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 03:09 PM
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Yep 40 to 60 squats a day. Not very many, I know. It's been about a year and I still have a tiny butt. I need to do more. You definitely do not need to do more. You need to change your routine. You're doing way too much work. For the results it sounds like you want, you're gonna want to do weighted squats instead of body weight. Just like doing 200 weightless bicep curls won't give you bulging biceps, doing 60 weightless squats won't give you this ass(sfw). If you can't add in weight (no gym mem…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 03:06 PM
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This is actually a pretty good analogy because even if you can quantify it (for example, house X sold for 400k), that means nothing without context. A 400k house where I live now would be a borderline mini mansion, but where I grew up, that was your average-sized, boring, suburban house. And in another country or city, that 400k could buy you a small apartment or a literal massive compound with servants. Ten years ago, what you could buy with 400k in one area could be drastically different than …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 12:30 PM
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I go all out on the makeup, though, which basically means I spend 40 minutes to achieve almost the exact same look as my normal, but my eyes are done darker lol I laughed. Sometimes I'll spend 45 minutes trying to make my makeup super dark and dramatic and then when I try to snap a selfie for my best friend I'm like wait, this looks exactly the same as normal and isn't dark at all...
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 10:43 PM
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I love doing makeup. He definitely falls into the male stereotype of not really noticing the makeup unless there's obvious liner/dark or colored shadow/a bright lip. He doesn't mind when I'm without makeup either, says I'm beautiful anyways lol and I believe him. But I always wear a bare minimum (at least) when we go out anywhere so that I look more put together, and I periodically do dark eye makeup because he thinks it's hot (and I think it's fun). I save the bright lip colors for my girlfrien…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 10:41 PM
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The concealer is pretty well loved across the internet, and it's probably my HG. I've always heard color correcting is the best way to really disguise dark circles, but I'm way too lazy. I get great coverage with this concealer, but the method of application is really important. Stippling or beauty blender work way better than fingers or concealer brush for me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 07:49 PM
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Okay, definitely try a clip-less wand. I prefer them. I've always curled with a flat iron, because it's how I was taught and I use a flat iron all the time anyways. I think it's easier with hair around top-of-bra length or shorter. After you make the curl, I like to wind it between my fingers to tighten it and let it sit untouched until it's cooled down. When all your hair is curled and cooled down, I spray it with dry shampoo and then shake it loose with my fingers. Curl the pieces near your fa…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 06:57 PM
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Which retinol do you use and how often/when? I've been thinking about working one into my routine, especially going into winter where I won't have to worry about the photosensitivity as much. Ditto on the vitamin C serum!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 06:01 PM
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Oh I'm so excited to see other people's comments here! Skincare: AM--I just splash water on my face and combine ELF's bb cream (spf 20) and Aveeno Daily Moisturizer spf 15 or use Revision Intellishade SPF 45 tinted moisturizer or I just moisturize and use foundation (see below). If I'm going to be in a lot of sun, I double up with the SPF 50 Shiseido. PM--Cleanse and remove makeup with Philosophy's Purity cleanser, moisturize with the Aveeno. If anyone has any eye creams they love, I'm in the ma…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 05:59 PM
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Okay, I'm definitely going to get over myself this winter and give both your recipes a try. Honestly, just a couple days ago my SO and I were talking about pot roast, which he loves and I've never had, so that might be our first meal with it!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 04:23 PM
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I took your comment to mean that what the woman was telling OP was the norm back then and that is a good thing. If that's what you meant, you might want to edit your post to elaborate, because the other interpretation is that you don't think her advice is valid today--and that's the interpretation that's going to get you a bunch of downvotes.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 04:19 PM
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This song is so adorable that I can look past how silly the music video and his unibrow is. But seriously, I hadn't heard this before and I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 04:01 PM
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That was poorly phrased. What I meant was more like, did the victim kill the abuser while trying to escape, or did the victim beat the abuser to escape and then run away and then come back and kill the abuser? Was it heat of the moment? Was the abuser slowly tortured to death after the victim clearly had the ability to escape? Did the abuser come back for the victim so many times that the victim felt they had no choice? Etc. I made it very clear those are questions for the justice system to hand…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 03:40 PM
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Almost all women love their own children. Some women like children in general but might dislike particular children. Some women dislike children in general but might like particular children. Some women, despite loving their children, are terrible mothers. Some women who love their children are wonderful mothers. Some women, despite hating their children, are good mothers. Some women who hate their children are terrible mothers. If you point to a random mother, there is a very high chance that s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 03:31 PM
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completely justified because of a self-perceived notion of "abuse" Do you not believe abuse exists? I don't condone murder ever. I do not advocate for murder ever. But if I found out that a severely abusive man/woman was killed by their wife/husband/child, I would understand the reasoning, and I would feel horrible for the person put into such a situation. Obviously there are mitigating factors at play--duration and severity of abuse, necessity of murder--and I would obviously expect that person…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 03:18 PM
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I guess I don't really see the issue. I thought a big part of the Red Pill is that it's not about being moral and right. It's about recognizing the differences between men and women and using them to achieve your goals. Being a slut and monetizing the sex I have might not be for me, but sex workers, gold diggers, and trophy wives the world over prove that it's doable. We could argue about whether or not it's right or wrong, but I thought RPW was about female sexual strategy, not about being the …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 12:41 AM
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I remember when that book came out! It changed so many lives, mine included (though I still heat style way too often). I'm excited to pass the knowledge onto my future children, instead of ripping through their curls with a hairbrush while they cry (my childhood in a nutshell). A lot of curly knowledge is applicable to black hair, and there are loads of forums and even subreddits for black hair and curly hair that are beyond helpful. OP, check out r/curlyhair and follow links to other sites and …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 11:06 PM
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Good luck in your pursuits! Like others have mentioned, I'd offer different advice to you if you wanted a family and a marriage-minded LTR, but it doesn't seem like you do, so all I'll say is be safe and have fun.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 09:27 PM
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Agreed that being trashy isn't the way to stay hot, but I don't think anyone's telling her that it is. The general idea I tried to get at in my comment was that you can still be gorgeous as you age, even though you're not always literally going to be 21 (nor should you try to be). There's some British show called "Hotter than My Daughter" (popped up on my recommended youtube for some reason and is, to be fair, hilariously trashy) where all the women are so. damn. gross. Like 50 years old and squ…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 09:24 PM
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Honestly, I just disabled my profile after awhile. If you're an attractive girl (or can take pictures that make you look attractive), you'll probably get inundated with messages really quickly. The first time I had an account, I tried to reply to everyone because I thought it was polite (I was stupid and 19). And it is polite, but you have people replying as you're replying and answering everyone turns into a job. Plus when you're not fast enough, you have guys get rude or needy. Ugh. My second …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 08:41 PM
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I mean, I still use a straw (especially with coffee, which I hear is actually good for your teeth?), but it supposedly gives you mouth wrinkles if you do it a lot, similar to the wrinkles you get from smoking.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 04:40 PM
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Dear god, protect your hands. Use anti aging products on them. Keep your nails nice. Having soft, love hands is very lady like. Yesss I forgot to mention this. Hands give away age and no one ever remembers to care for them. Also, you and your husband sound adorable! And that Dita quote put a serious smile on my face.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 03:54 PM
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See a dermotologist regularly and maintain a great skincare routine. Drink loads of water and no other liquids. Don't drink, don't smoke. More questionably, avoid straws. Get preposterously good sleep Maintain impeccable oral hygiene (regular dentist visits, floss daily, brush twice daily with electric, use whiteners if necessary, orthodontics if necessary). Avoid stress when possible. Grow your hair out and keep it healthy--don't let your ends get stringy just to add more length. Don't feel lik…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 03:52 PM
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I think that barring serious mental illness or extreme circumstances (raised in Antarctica, spending life trapped alone in an underground bunker), if you want a loving romantic relationship, you can have one. But for some people, you have to really want it, and that involves shaping your life around your search and making serious changes to yourself. You'd need to work to make yourself more physically attractive, you might need to seek help to make yourself more emotionally attractive, and you m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/15 02:13 PM
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Agreed with /u/kittenkajira--try to focus on yourself, not on a list of requirements for men. The truth is that the men who need to read that list aren't reading it, and the men who do meet your requirements are going to be annoyed/turned off by you listing them out. In other words, you're going to get less attention from high value men by making those requirements clear. I also definitely would not say "Red Pill Woman" or any variation thereof in your profile at all. I went on a couple dates th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 02:06 PM
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Those recipes sound great, especially with winter coming up! I have a weird aversion to the crock pot (seriously, can anyone relate/talk me out of this? I slow cook in my oven but inexplicably do not trust a machine to slow cook for me. I have the same problem with rice cookers), but this year might be the year I just have to get over myself. My SO's new favorite recipe (not mine haha but I live to serve): Chicken and sweet potato barbecue packets 2 servings * 1 large sweet potato, cut into ~1" …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 01:58 PM
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My ex had a schedule like that, and it was really rough. It seems like you do a really good job valuing the time you have together and making it work though, I really admire that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/15 03:22 PM
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That onion tip is great! I always found it funny that as soon as I start sautéing onions or garlic people are like "ooo what smells so good, what's for dinner?!" Um, nothing, just these onions. I really appreciate the tips on kids as well! We're not there yet--the closest we get is when we take my much younger sister for a week or two, but I will definitely employ them when I am. Adult time is so important.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/15 03:20 PM
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That sounds like a nice way to deal with it! I'm someone who very much needs alone time as well, but because I'm at home during the day, I get more than my fill and find myself infringing on his alone time. No one wants to be that person. I like the idea of splitting things up by day of the week!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 08:07 PM
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That sounds really hard. My boyfriend's job has him working later lately as well, but he usually just brings it home. I hope things get easier for you two soon!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 04:12 PM
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Thanks for the response! That sounds like what I'd like to move towards, though shifted an hour or two later. What usually ends up happening is that we either spend every second together from when he walks into the door or he spends all night having him time, and neither extreme works very well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 03:42 PM
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I think it was you who made the comment that just like most women aren't worthy of a man's commitment, most men aren't worth of being someone's captain. All the good behavior and kindness in the world can't fix some situations.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 03:34 PM
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I wasn't necessarily disagreeing with you. It's just such a hard thing to cope with. I'm so glad she's not married to him now, because I'm not sure exactly what my advice would've looked like, if I were able to give it at all.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 03:32 PM
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You just described my ex's parents to a tee. By the time I met them, she was a hollow shell of a person. I generally believe in no divorce except in cases of prolonged infidelity or extreme abuse, but I've seen what holding together through emotional/verbal/light, infrequent, physical abuse looks like, and it's so miserably ugly.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 03:14 PM
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You feel bad for him. You make excuses for his actions. For all his actions, and seriously, I get you, because you have no idea what I excused away with my ex. But please, he's not affording you the same kindness. And even if this is totally not his fault, he can hurt you without doing it on purpose. That took me a very long time to understand.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 03:11 PM
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Please tell me you're not married! He sounds legitimately controlling and abusive. One of the worst parts of abuse (IMO) is how the abuser normalizes the situation for you. It becomes your new normal, and after you get out, you have a hard time calibrating everything. We accept the love we think we deserve, after all. It also leads to people writing in to forums with problems that are very much missing the forest for the trees--the forest being abuse in this case. He's constantly moving the goal…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 03:09 PM
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It definitely sucks hearing an insult disguised as a compliment, which is how it sounds like those guys are using those words. It sounds like they'd rather have a hook up and sense you aren't down. Maybe they're saying it to get you to prove them wrong, maybe they're just disappointed. Either way, let it roll off. Those are all pros for a LTR and cons for a hook up, a fling, anything 'casual.' Generally speaking, I like being those things. My boyfriend calls me sweet and means it, which I love, …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 02:59 PM
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It makes a big difference whether I meet him at the door with a kiss and a smile versus the times he walks in when I'm in the middle of something and can't immediately connect with him. I struggle with this at times. I don't greet him with bad news or anything, but sometimes I'll be right in the middle of dinner and can barely get out of the kitchen long enough for a hello kiss. Your story is adorable by the way! Something bout a girl in a red sundress?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 02:49 PM
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Side note: When did modeling and sand volleyball become a measure of a "powerful woman"? Aren't these types of careers linked to furthering the patriarchy by BP/feminists etc because of their objectifying nature? You have to be in incredible physical shape for both of these--more so the volleyball, depending on the sort of modeling. I greatly admire anyone who has managed to succeed in such physically difficult careers. She is very literally a 'powerful' woman--her body is powerful.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/15 06:53 PM
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I love CocoRosie! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/15 06:45 PM
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Because we do want a nice guy. We just also want him to be other things. The best analogy I heard was that "being nice" is like the flour in a cake. You need to be nice, but if nice is the only thing you bring to the table, you're literally just a pile of flour. Not a cake. And I want a cake. Also, everyone--literally everyone--wants to be with someone they're attracted to. There are plenty of socially awkward or otherwise hindered people who missed that message somehow (despite themselves wanti…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 02:35 PM
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I'm not a fling person, but if you replace "flings" with "relationships," I'm actually glad that the man I'm going to marry was not my first relationship. I learned a lot, matured a lot, got a much better handle on what I wanted, what I needed, what I could stand and what I couldn't, out of my first (admittedly not great) relationship. As a result, my guy got a more confident, secure, mature, patient, attractive woman who is also better at most adult and relationship things. So I guess either--b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 02:30 PM
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Like a 2 or 3? But I'm 24 for reference. I might feel differently were I like 50 or something. He looks like someone's super old dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 01:20 AM
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I was kind of hoping you were going to pick a super ugly billionaire vs. super hot poor guy, but you didn't. You picked an attractive (hot with that beard) man with a sexy accent and a blonde who's not really my type (though objectively speaking I can see he's very attractive).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 01:18 AM
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I would think that would go without saying? If a functional stranger--anyone, male, female, old, young--gets overly sensitive, I'm gonna think they're a weirdo. I like it in my friends, in a boyfriend, in my family...but a stranger oversharing is annoying. You feel obligated to listen, and at best you're empathic to their situation...but you still end up resenting the position you were put in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 12:47 AM
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This reminds me of the thread about women's hobbies and attractiveness. The general consensus is that while hobbies didn't make a woman more sexually attractive, they made her a better LTR/wife candidate. This is the same thing for me. Sensitivity has nothing to do with how sexually attractive I find a man, but it does make him a better LTR/husband candidate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 08:12 PM
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Thanks, we have a lot of fun together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 05:05 PM
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You need to follow RPW advice and bring your Captain your problem, not your solution. This is fantastic advice for all things, and I've never seen it written so precisely. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 04:25 PM
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As an average white girl with extra long legs, I can assure you--we have plenty of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 04:23 PM
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A) Despite what they say, status of a woman does change things. Even on her very worst day, I have a feeling 99% of them would happily welcome her into bed to just say, "I banged a VS model." So how they rate her is kind of irrelevant compared to how they'd act. B) The flipside of above is that because she's super famous for being hot, she gets judged more harshly than a normal, non-celebrity. It's partially an ego thing, it's partially pure cattiness, it's partially jealousy and coveting and wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 03:28 PM
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Sewing, crafting, cooking, gardening, traveling. I think some things can or cannot be hobbies depending on how you do them. I personally consider cooking a hobby of mine because I love doing it and love getting inventive with it. Plenty of people cook and it's not a hobby. I'm not really sure the point of answering when you happily state that you don't consider several hobbies interesting. Okay? Fortunately I have my hobbies because they interest me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:48 PM
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I don't understand. Do you mean like a divacup or something? Or do you mean like emptying a divacup into another cup and carrying that cup around to like throw at people? If you mean a divacup, you're being pretty immature, but you're obviously welcome to break up with anyone for any reason you see fit. I would have a super hard time being in a relationship with someone who couldn't handle the fact that women bleed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:43 PM
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I mean, in that particular example, I'd just be like, "oh, are those still good?" and he'd be like, "yeah, I tasted them, they're fine," or "Oh shit, good catch." If he's getting mad at a comment like that, then either he's a giant baby or you make needling little comments all the time and it's a straw/camel situation.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 07:18 PM
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I agree with u/meganstoocute. You really can't change someone. We can change ourselves, but we can't change others. What really helped me was stepping back, realizing that my man, the man I chose, is a competent, successful, self-made man. I chose him for these reasons. And yet I was questioning his every move. As an example: yesterday he decided (for reasons I'm still not 100% on) to black out a couple windows with paint. We live in a rental. If I were him, I'd have done a patch test to make su…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 06:25 PM
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I use this one. I don't think it's actually cheaper than American sold Shiseido, it's just smaller quantities (an ounce). I need moisturizer in addition to it, but in the summer I can use it in addition to tinted moisturizer or bb cream and be set. In the winter I need a heavier moisturizer.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 11:47 PM
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If you're still on the hunt for an alternative, I switched to the Mirena IUD and love it. My only side effect after over a year is some hormonal acne, no mood or libido side effect, and basically no period.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 11:44 PM
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It's only an ounce, that's why it's so cheap. It's probably the same price, but I don't go through it fast enough that I need to buy larger quantities. This is the one I buy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 11:42 PM
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Taking hormonal bc can cause an otherwise healthy person to lose their sex drive completely, without changing how they feel for their partner (who they may still very much want to have sex with). I've always had a crazy high sex drive. I want to have sex multiple times a day, and if I'm not having sex, I masturbate 1-4 times a day, depending on free time. On a couple different hormonal birth controls, my sex drive vanished. It was horrible. I didn't ever want to have sex. I know certain other dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 05:51 PM
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It was just a year filled with tragedy, plus a move to a place where I don't have any friends or a job. So freaking isolating. It'll get better for both of us though! For time management, something that helps me is detailed lists of what needs doing. My SO made a powerpoint for me actually and each slide details one aspect of what I need to do daily/weekly--like "keep kitchen clean" and the five specific things that entails or "maintain relationship" and general comments like "be pleasant" or "a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:48 PM
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I saw a quote on reddit recently that said, "Housework expands to fill all available time." And it's right--you could spend every hour of your day doing house stuff and still think of more stuff to do. Prioritizing and getting into a schedule is super important. Also, if you keep your house clean, it's easier to clean. Depending on how big it is, you can spend 20-60 minutes a day and have a clean house. Like someone else said, hiring a housekeeper once a fortnight is great and forces you to pick…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:40 PM
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And a quick note on mental health: mental health days/nights work wonders for me. I bring in all the cuddly blankets and pillows, make a bowl of ultimate comfort food (pasta for me), pour some wine or smoke some weed, watch a super comforting movie, light candles, use lotion, maybe do a hair mask. Basically just take care of me. It's been a nightmare year for me, and sometimes I get so caught up in everything that I need to reset. Also, I completely feel you with the buzzy mind. I'm pretty ADHD …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:24 PM
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Wow, this is an amazing post! Thank you so much for taking the time to write it up. I can't tell you how many times while reading it I wanted to copy/paste it into this comment to just be like yes. Yes yes yes. Record keeping is amazing and should be (imo) extended to diet as well. I recently started using the My Fitness Pal app after ages of not using it, because it was easier for me to just add up calories on a calculator all day. The problem with that is there's no record of what I added up. …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:10 PM
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Oh my god did I just get flair from you?! This is so exciting! The bright spot on a weird day. (Also, thank you for the kind words! I'm beaming like a kid.)
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 09:07 PM
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I think some of this is sorted with compatibility (if I date someone who loves to rock climb, and I love to rock climb, he's not going to ask me to drop rock climbing), by being pre-emptive (if I'm best buds with all my exes, that's going to make a man uncomfortable, so maybe I shouldn't do that), and by talking about things (Hey BF, what do you think about this study abroad program?). My boyfriend has never had to ask me to drop a hobby, because none of my hobbies are incompatible with our life…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 04:43 PM
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My ex wasn't a rancher, but he did work on his feet carrying heavy equipment all day. I used to make 3-4 portions of every meal. He'd get two, I'd get one, and he'd finish mine after he finished his. It got so expensive!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 02:31 PM
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Curry Chicken Salad: 1 large chicken breast per two people Mayo (full fat preferred) Yellow curry powder Honey Minced ginger Salad greens (I usually use spring mix or 50/50 spring mix/spinach) Green apple Chopped pecans Golden raisins (or regular) 1 avocado per two people Olive oil Balsamic vinegar Salt and pepper Bake chicken at 375 until cooked. Chop up into small pieces and put in fridge to cool. Make about 4-7 thin slices of green apple per person and set aside. Dice up about 2 tbsp green ap…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 02:28 PM
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In case you meant "fresh" ideas literally (and to balance out the fat content of the recipe I just shared), these are my favorite salad recipes: Parmesan chicken with Caesar roasted romaine: this is amazing. I usually serve it chopped in a bowl because who wants to put that much effort into eating a salad? Not me. But it's way prettier/more presentable served as cooked. I usually rub the romaine down with the remaining bread crumb/parmesan mixture. Honey chipotle chicken bowls with lime quinoa: …
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 02:21 PM
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So warning with this recipe. I don't love it. It's terrible for you. I made it once every month or three anyways though, because my ex loved it. It's a knock off of Outback's Alice Springs Chicken, and if I cooked it at home, I didn't have to go to Outback. Win/win. Ingredients * 4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts, 1/2" thick * 6 pieces of bacon, sliced in half * 1-2 cups sliced mushrooms (depending on preference) * Colby Jack cheese * Season All * Honey mustard (recipe to follow) Preheat oven…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 02:10 PM
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Seconding Pioneer Woman. I learned to cook following her recipes. I'd caution that it's not a great site if you're counting calories or strictly watching your weight--lots of butter and heavy cream--but I've never made a bad recipe from her. Plus the recipes are super man/kid/crowd friendly (she has a section for recipes her husband loves). Her vodka sauce recipe makes the best vodka sauce I've ever had from restaurant or jar or frozen meal. I also use her site for desserts.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 01:55 PM
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It is. Google 'cuckquean.' Doesn't sound like it was that girl's fetish though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 07:29 PM
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I'd actually say it's a pretty fair analogy. The doctor that treated one patient for 30 years (and the woman who slept with one man for 30 years) is really, really, really good at treating that one patient (and getting that one dude off). But if you stick a brand new patient in front of him, he's going to be a novice. I haven't slept with a lot of people, so I can't extrapolate this very far, but there were specific things my ex couldn't stand that my SO loves. And vice versa. There was a very s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 07:25 PM
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Also, if you do need medication or therapy, do not feel ashamed of yourself or stigmatized. Sometimes the combination of medication (once you find the right one for you) and therapy can boost you right back to feeling completely normal again. I think this is important, especially for men to hear (I find men less likely to seek and accept help than women--they think it makes them weak). Depression is a chemical imbalance. Sometimes diet, exercise, and sleep are enough. Sometimes they're not, and …
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/15 12:49 AM
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I agree with /u/closetrpw. You can't change people. This is a trait he has, and she's not going to be able to change it by force of will or by preempting suspected freak-outs by bugging him to talk to her. The best way to handle, "AHHHH I CAN'T TAKE THIS FUCKING SALAD ANYMORE!" is simply, "Okay, I won't make it again for awhile. Do you have any suggestions for lunches next week, or would you prefer to be surprised?" Handle his temper tantrum the way you'd handle a child's. You can't reason with …
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/15 12:47 AM
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If it were me, I would talk to my SO. What does he want me to do? In this case, it probably heavily depends on where I'm going, the financials of it, whether or not I can cancel if necessary (like the job I might get doesn't let me take two weeks off), and whether he'd have ever wanted to go. Your SO might have different considerations. If it's not somewhere he had interest in going, I have a feeling he'd want me to go. Just this year (which we're only 7 months into), my SO has spent 4 weeks tot…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/15 03:09 PM
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Exactly, I don't understand all these comments warning her not to leave in the very beginning of a new relationship. There are reasons for her to go and reasons for her to stay home, but the newness of her relationship shouldn't factor at all, since it'll be over a year old at that point.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/15 03:00 PM
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So with a Majority of individuals choosing not to get married and have no relationships or kids what will happen? Are you stating this as a hypothetical or as fact? If the former, then I don't believe there will come a time when people will stop committing to each other and the marriage rates are zero, at least not in our lifetimes (or our children's). Even if marriage falls by the wayside, commitment and children will not. If the latter, then you're incorrect. In the US, 1 in 5 people over age …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 08:05 PM
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Yes there should be an age of consent. Romeo and Juliet laws should be ubiquitous and the norm (this case should not have ended as it did), but 13-14 as an all around age of consent is ridiculous. We don't trust a 13 year old to drive a car, even if they're tall enough to reach the pedals and see clearly. We don't trust them to live on their own, even if they can cook and clean. We don't allow them to work a job, even if they can operate a cash register. We do not allow adults to have sex with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 07:52 PM
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I'm not sure if your post is as controversial as you think it is. Last time there was a thread about things to look for in a high value man (13 days ago), low partner count came up and was pretty upvoted. The only people who argued with that were RP men, not women. What I said last time it came up: I assume he's more likely to cheat, that he's less likely to have old-fashioned values, that he's not likely to want to settle down, that he won't have a lot of "firsts" left to discover with me, that…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 07:18 PM
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I understand complicated insurance. I won't bore you with the details, but my insurance situation has been a nightmare. Boyfriend and I joked about getting married just to get me on his plan, and as it is, I spend a small fortune each month on it. Your post history just worries me a lot, as does buying an IUD and PCOS meds online (and I get the IUD thing, I had to pay for mine out of pocket despite having insurance that swore they'd cover it, not that I'm bitter or anything). To address a piece …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/15 03:14 PM
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What helped was that when I moved in with him, neither of us had much furniture or decorations at all, though for different reasons. We had to start basically from scratch. Since then, I make sure to run purchases past him, especially if I wonder if they're too "girlie" or something. While I love the look of gorgeous, minimalist houses, we live in a small space that's oddly designed. Instead I went for the cozy feel that both of us like. I've been teaching myself how to sew, so I use that to mak…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/15 03:07 PM
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Plants are actually wonderful. Growing up I had family friends who had an abundance of house plants. The air felt better, and the whole place felt peaceful.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/15 02:51 PM
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Both you and your husband have a lot of things going on here, but here's what feels pressing to me: you need to stop self-diagnosing your medical issues and go see a doctor. Because you mentioned SATs I'm guessing you're in America, and you mentioned a decent job so I'm banking on you having insurance. If you don't have insurance, your decent job probably prices you out of medicaid but prices you right into subsidies, so go get insurance. PCOS is not a joke. Do not buy treatment online. Go to a …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/15 02:48 PM
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I don't want to jump on OP, but I'm pretty sure the last time my SAT scores were relevant was high school, not even freshman year of college, which I only know because they were bragging rights in high school and no one gave a flip after we all graduated. (Does anyone want to know mine? No? Okay, fine, they'll just keep being irrelevant then.)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/15 02:29 PM
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At absolute best, I'd give a tight-lipped, annoyed smile. If I was in a bad mood, I'd call him out on his rudeness. If a friend did that, I might laugh, but a stranger? Call me crazy, but the whole thing read like bad masturbatory fiction.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 10:13 PM
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I have friends (if you wanna call them that) that I hold at arm's length. I still have a drink or lunch and catch up, we exchange recipes and pinterest pins, and maybe we see each other in big groups at dinners or parties or something. But I don't trust them, I don't take their advice, and I don't let them have anything on me. Burn me once, shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me. Superficial friends, in contrast to my real friends. If your SO is comfortable with it (again, I missed the initial…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 10:07 PM
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Also, at the very beginning of the relationship, it's ok to be specific about the dynamic you want in the relationship. It is much like a business deal, except if it goes sour you will never get your time back. Yes to this. Definitely not the way the world seems to operate right now, but I prefer to be upfront about what I want and the kind of relationship I'm hoping to be in. If you want that too, great! If not, it was nice to meet you, but let's not waste my time or yours. When my boyfriend an…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 01:19 PM
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Your original post was removed, so I don't know exactly what the fallout was about in the first place, and that would have heavily affected my response. (Btw, for future reference, if you want a link embedded in the text, put the words you want to be read in [] brackets and then the full link in () parentheses with no spaces in between. It'll look like this). Do you want a relationship with her in the future? If so, absolutely send an email. Explain why you didn't speak with her, what the issue …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 01:10 PM
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Oh god, I had a couple I used to be friends with that were like that. He was really controlling and mean and used to tell her she looked anorexic. She'd poke his fat and make fun of his dick size. It's like, why are you even with each other?? What on earth could you be getting out of this??
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 04:55 PM
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I was very much under the impression that I "shouldn't" like that stuff (we live in a liberal urban area) or that it was degrading or that instead of cooking dinner I should be a CEO/supermom/inventor/model, etc. I can relate to this so hard. I'm still weirdly ashamed and get plenty of people who look down on me or think I'm 'backwards' or telling me I'm setting feminism back or wtfever.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 05:04 PM
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Plenty of fish! Often suggested as an alternative to OkCupid. From what I've heard, which site is better depends wholly on your location, but in my personal experience, the people on Plenty of Fish tend to significantly trashier and lower value than on OkCupid. You'll still need to be picky though.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 05:03 PM
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In all seriousness, if I play super upbeat, you-go-girl music, I feel like a powerful, sexy lady, even though I look like a frizzy, sweaty tomato.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 02:09 PM
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God I wish I had good advice, but honestly, we met by sheer chance on the internet, started talking, and realized we were amazing for each other. Not even a dating site or whatever, and we probably wouldn't have been interested in each other had we met in RL. Slightly more helpful advice: if you're like me, sitting around waiting for the perfect man to swoop in and ask you out will drive you crazy. Be proactive. Like /u/pcadrian, I liked okcupid. If nothing else, it'll give you practice talking …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 02:03 PM
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Thanks! I did too, but I'm afraid I'm probably never going to get the waistline I want. My mother has the same shape (thin, poorly defined waist). I'm not at all saying I look like her, but if you see Kate Upton's midsection? That's kinda what I mean. But on the plus side, I have killer legs with minimal effort, since I store zero fat anywhere but my stomach, apparently. Good luck to you too! I like talking about my goals sort of publicly because I feel more accountable to them, so thanks for th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 03:45 PM
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I went up from about 125 this time last year to 140 right now at 5'7". I loved the way my body looked thinner. There were totally valid reasons for the weight gain, but since they aren't currently an issue anymore, I'm sticking to 1200 calories a day on non-exercise days (aka this week, because I'm sick) and about 1400 when I do work out. My goal is to get back in the swing of working out daily (or at least 5 times a week), because I felt so amazing and high energy when I did, and to get back do…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 03:05 PM
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Are you religious? It sounds very similar to how a lot of my mormon friends were raised. I met most of them pre-marriage and they were like that, and the one I met post-divorce had only divorced with extenuating circumstances (he was gay).
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:34 PM
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An aunt and uncle I didn't meet until a few years ago are like that. She died not long after I met her, but I love hearing him talk about her and their relationship. They always, always, always put each other first. That selflessness is inspiring.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:32 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:30 PM
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Honestly, as cheesy as it sounds, meeting my SO helped a lot. He comes from a very traditional background, and in our talks about his parents' marriage and what he wants out of a wife, I gained a deeper understanding of what marriage is. He does not believe in divorce unless absolutely necessary, and we have the same goals and values. We line up on the practical side of things, and we're in love with one another. But those practical things are far more important in my mind. Feelings will only ge…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:30 PM
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i'm not sure how i would have turned out had i not found RPW, but i guess it would have taken me a lot longer to figure out what i want and how to behave. it's been wonderful for my self improvement. I agree. I was definitely on a good track before, and a lot of my ideas ended up aligning with RPW. But this place helps me focus my motivations and goals better. It's a great point of reference.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:18 PM
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I could not agree more. I just wanted to shed some light because honestly, I had the same reaction when I discovered RPW. Like oh my god, these are my people? But they're part of the red pill network? How is this even possible?! I think anyone with only a surface understanding of TRP would feel similarly, especially if they hear a lot about the worst parts.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:17 PM
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I still have a long way to go but I am super happy and love having his friends over when they play with XBOX and buying beers, cooking stuff. Humblebrag or no, there's no greater feeling (IMO at least) than having your SO brag on you and hearing his friends compare you favorably to their terrible wives or girlfriends. It might be prideful as hell, but it feels so good. I'm happy you're happy! It's honestly so refreshing to read all these stories of women who are so happy in their relationships i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:15 PM
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This is perfect advice, OP. I know it's so tempting to want to rip someone up when they hurt the people you love, but it will be so much worse. People like that love drama, they feed off of it, and she'll use it to drive a wedge between you and your SO. It'll be so much more stress and hassle and pain for him. Maybe write her a super nasty email if you want to channel the rage, and save the angry letter to drafts or delete it. Make sure to leave the address line blank so you can't accidentally s…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 11:51 PM
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I was surrounded by a lot of bad examples growing up too. My mother was amazing, but I just didn't see a lot of "good" relationships around. Definitely wasn't as bad as what you were surrounded by though. Moreover, women in my age category are starting to get divorced, and it fires up that old question, What is wrong here? I don't have all the answers, but I know what doesn't work. So important. For a long time, I thought there was no way in hell I was getting married, just because I'd basically…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 11:48 PM
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She gave a big sigh and said, "oh, (my name), (uncles name) and I are madly in love. We were meant for each other" she had it written all over her face, these two were perfect. This is so unbelievably adorable. I know very few long-married couples, fewer still who are happy. And they all seem to be fairly traditional/RP. It gives me hope to hear these stories.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 11:45 PM
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Origin stories aren't just for superheroes! Your parents sound like my SO's parents, who are a huge inspiration to me. They're one of the few happy and long-married couples I've met, and they're very traditional, like your folks. Are you a SAHM then? That's the path I want to take, though I'm loathe to admit it anywhere but this forum (and to my boyfriend).
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 11:43 PM
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I read a paper that was a sort of conversation/debate between two Jewish women Any chance you still have a link lying around? That sounds fascinating. It's awesome hearing about your relationship with your dad and how he aided in the way you are now. I didn't have much relationship with my father, and part of why I love my SO is because I know he'll be a really good one for our children. A father's influence on kids is so important and undervalued.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 11:41 PM
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We had a vanilla relationship for 3 years that evolved into a Dom/Sub style relationship. Us too. Though it mostly stays in the bedroom, it creeps out around our everyday life. It would surprise me not at all if that was fairly common around here. I'm glad things turned around for you! You sound truly happy.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 11:38 PM
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You've gotten good advice on responding to the article and your specific situation. I just wanted to add something in regards to general bitchiness. Make sure your physical needs are met. Nine times out of ten if I'm being bitchy, I'm hungry. I'm horny. I'm thirsty. I'm ill or in pain. I'm tired. Keep up on the normal maintenance on yourself. Speaking of, deal with any stresses you can deal with (don't leave things till the last minute) and communicate the ones you can't. Don't misdirect your an…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 09:16 PM
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No problem! Also, don't be afraid to use box recipes sometimes. It's probably cheaper to do it yourself and it's certainly easy once you get the hang of it, but the first like 4 things I baked for my then BF (before the cornbread lol) were from boxes and he didn't care, if he even knew.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 08:52 PM
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Why? I heard about TRP on multiple non-reddit websites long before I found this place, and nothing I heard was complimentary. I heard that it was full of misogyny, it was a breeding ground for abusers and rapists, and that there was no redeeming value. I lurked over at TRP mostly out of sick curiosity, and I'd see plenty of comments that backed up what I'd heard--especially if I looked specifically for them (funny how that works). If this is all someone knows, I'm sure they'd be shocked to reali…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 06:04 PM
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Private through fifth grade, where I got my first sex ed class at fourth grade, mostly puberty information though I recall a condom as well (nine year old me thought the texture was funny). After that I transferred to one of the best public districts in the country, where we got full units in health class every year until graduation. They also covered fitness, nutrition, drugs, eating disorders, peer pressure, etc under the "health class" umbrella. We were split by gender in elementary and middl…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 05:29 PM
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Cornbread is incredibly easy--borderline idiot-proof, to be honest--and goes well with barbecues in the summer and hot soup in the winter. It was the first thing I ever baked. It's also easy to change up. I like adding lemon zest and blueberries for spring or cheddar and green chili peppers as a side for chili. The basic recipe I use: 1¼ cup all-purpose flour ¾ cup yellow cornmeal ¼ cup sugar 2 teaspoons baking powder ½ teaspoon salt 1¼ cup milk ¼ cup vegetable oil 1 egg, beaten Get a big bowl a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 02:59 PM
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I've learned from reddit that my sex ed was much more comprehensive than most Americans' was. We learned about IVF, miscarriages, how pregnancy occurs, all the ways to prevent it (including abstinence), menopause, and infertility. We learned how it could be difficult to conceive, that many women miscarry without even knowing they were pregnant, and the window of time fertility was highest. We knew when women hypothetically could have children from menarche to menopause but that it was healthiest…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 02:44 PM
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I wish I could go back in time and tell myself this before I moved in with my first boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 02:32 PM
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As far as the makeup goes, when I travel I try to downsize my skincare and makeup routine for packing purposes. On my last trip (leaving today, so sad lol) I just packed tinted moisturizer with SPF instead of a day and night moisturizer, sunscreen, foundation, etc. So after makeup comes off, tinted moisturizer goes back on. It's light coverage by definition, but it definitely helps me feel better. Also, cute night time stuff (or naked, if you prefer) helps distract.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 05:03 PM
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Not really? I don't think we're discussing the same old-fashioned family values here.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 03:52 PM
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I'm sure a lot of women don't care at all. I don't respect a man less for sleeping around (though if he had a crazy partner count I'd raise my eyebrows quite a bit), but I also don't want to be in a serious relationship with him. I assume he's more likely to cheat, that he's less likely to have old-fashioned values, that he's not likely to want to settle down, that he won't have a lot of "firsts" left to discover with me, that he'll constantly be comparing me and that I'll have a lot of old exes…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 02:24 PM
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I'm the one who does the grocery shopping and knows what ingredients are in the fridge and what should be cooked while freshest. Oh god yes. The answer to a vague, "what do you want for dinner?" is almost always, "what can we even make for dinner?" I already know the answer. Therefore I deal with it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 02:20 PM
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Exactly. Making all the decisions is work, which is part of what I've hated in the past. Why would I want to put all of that on him? I want to support him--not be an added burden.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 02:48 AM
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Honestly, when I first started reading RPW I got really hung up on "what do you want for dinner - why wont YOU pick" My husband just doesn't like picking dinner. Are you me? I had to make the conscious choice to sit back and realize that he doesn't need the stress of what's for dinner. I'll ask him approximately how many calories he wants for dinner or if he wants a light or heavy meal and make something accordingly. If he wants something in particular, he'll tell me. Otherwise, I just make food…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 05:42 PM
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I absolutely notice this. When I'm dressed nice with hair and makeup done, I feel more confident and it projects. I'm more likely to get, "I love your dress," or "You're so pretty," or a honk from a car (which I hate, every time it's like ahh oh god am I about to get run over why is there honking). The rudest it gets--even if I'm in short, tight clothing--is like, "Nice legs, mama." But when I'm running out to the store in a hurry with no makeup, hair a frizzy, barely contained mess, in gym clot…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 05:38 PM
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Large city, lots of walking and little driving, very expensive so most "normal" people live in pretty poor areas...one of the many reasons I would never want to live in a big city.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 05:33 PM
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For my guy, cooking and baking something go over really well. I mean, I cook daily, but I try to keep it pretty healthy and light, since he watches what he eats. On days I want to make things nice, I'll make lasagna or some type of Indian with homemade naan or something else super heavy and caloric or I bake dessert. Or if he's been overworked I tell him to take a him-night. Go play video games, I'll bring food to you, if you want me I'll be here, but otherwise do what you like. I think it's rea…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/15 11:59 PM
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I agree that some of the suggestions in the thread are a bit silly (especially if he's tired from work already), but "touch his penis" is kind of shitty advice if you regularly have a ton of sex and initiate sex. I look for threads like this because we already have sex as much as he wants, and we'd have more if he physically could (my drive is maybe too high). I already initiate. It's not special. Kink, blowjobs, role-play, etc are already a part of daily life. It's okay to want to do something …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/15 09:56 PM
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People are so snobby about music taste! I'm glad I grew out of that. Speaking of Beyonce, Destiny's Child's Cater 2 U always puts me in the mood to take care of my man, and I've been enjoying Hey Mama for the same reason lately.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/15 11:08 PM
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I said I was gonna be done with this, but I can't sleep, so here goes. You know what this sounds like? It sounds like when I hear men whine that if women want equal rights, there's no more chivalry, and they're going to let doors slam in women's faces because equality. And I always laugh at this, because holding a door for someone has nothing to do with equality or chivalry. It's just polite. I'm a woman. And you know what? I hold doors for everyone. If there is someone behind me at a distance a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 05:23 AM
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I understand that you want to bring your personal experience here, but just because it worked for you, it doesn't mean it's going to work in general. Want proof? Take a look at the other male comments in here. I could literally say the same thing back to you. There are women in here saying that from their experience, a man who is serious about a LTR will pay the first date. There are men in here saying they would never cover the cost of the first date. From your perspective, one of them must be …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 07:41 PM
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Quite a few RPW wannabees think that the pussy between their legs gives them a free dinner, but notice how not a single one of them mentioned WHY they deserve to be paid for. It's not about deserving. It's about a traditional relationship. Traditionally, men pay the first date. Most of us are looking for a traditional relationship. Most men who are also looking for a traditional relationship will have been raised to pay for the first date. I'm not sure anyone has said they deserve free dinner--n…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 04:41 PM
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Do you really have girls try to argue with you about where to eat when you are treating them to dinner? Yikes. Even if you were going Dutch...talk about pointless contention! ...really? I mean, I'm not a picky eater by any means, but there are plenty of restaurants that I don't like and would rather not eat at, usually due to bad past experiences like terrible service or terrible food. If I was a pickier eater and say didn't like a certain cuisine, I would ask to go somewhere else too. Who would…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 04:27 PM
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I'll always offer halvsies, but on a first date I honestly expect to be paid for. I act like I don't--I make sure we pick a place I can afford, I bring my wallet, and I'm certainly not going to make a scene if he accepts my offer. But I don't date for fun. I date to find the man I'm going to marry. In my experience, which you can take or leave, men who are serious and looking for the same will insist on paying. Plus, the man paying is more traditional, and I'm looking for a traditional man. The …
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 09:30 PM
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We only get one life. One day, these men and women are going to look around and wish they had what you have: a loving relationship and a family and a successful life. But they won't have it. That's depressing to contemplate. Seriously, picture your roomies in 20 years, alone. Every one of their actions takes them farther from what they want, and they won't see it until later. And in the meantime, you have a good man (congrats on the upcoming wedding!), and we all have less women to compete with …
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 03:58 PM
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Men used to go to war to shut down bad governments. Now they go to war because it's a team sport of us versus them. That's pretty prose, but it's not true. We used to go to war to defend either our nation or our allies from an invading or threatening force--not to be the Avengers.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 03:55 PM
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Possibly, but I was like this before I was exposed to RP ideas, so I'm not sure I can really quantify what effect it's had. I wasn't exactly raised in a RP type household, but my mom has been in shape her whole life, which certainly helped. I've certainly gone up and down, but I've never been fat. I think there are plenty of people like me, who were raised by women who never got fat, who haven't always been skinny (5'7" and I've ranged from 120-150) and so understand the effort it takes, and who…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 03:48 PM
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My boyfriend doesn't dread game me, and we're both very comfortable. Neither of us is getting fat. Both of us feel that part of being in a relationship is staying as attractive as possible for each other. We've also made it clear that if either of us gets to a certain level of 'fat,' we're leaving, and that by the time we leave, there will have been more than one come to Jesus talk and intervention. But if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Maybe I'll report differently in 30 years, but I sort of…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 03:25 PM
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Do a load of laundry everyday. It keeps the laundry from getting to the state that you need to spend hours doing it, and it only takes a few minutes. If you don't have clothes that need washing, do a load of dish towels and cleaning rags, or bath towels, or bath mats, or sheets, or shower curtains, or whatever. I find making a chore chart helps keep me organized when I'm working, that way I can split the chores up. For example, I might dust and vacuum bedrooms on Monday, and vacuum and mop the m…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 03:21 PM
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He needs to have a dominant personality. He has to want to lead me and our future family and be the head of household. Has to be able to make decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 03:13 PM
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A man who is capable of introspection and self- motivated self- improvement. This is so vital and such a concise way of phrasing it. This was a big thing I realized I needed to look for after my first relationship. A man like that is capable of genuinely fixing his side in relationship issues, so if he's paired with a woman who can do the same, that couple can actually overcome problems they're having, rather than sweeping them under the rug.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 03:09 PM
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Yup, my boyfriend's low partner count definitely made me take him seriously as a LTR candidate. I think you might get some debate here, but I wouldn't want to marry a man slut. It shows he has similar values to me. I would add though, a high value man has a low partner count by choice.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 03:03 PM
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We were all young (some of us still are) and we've all made mistakes. You didn't do anything horrible by your own account. Some men actually like when you initiate, and it doesn't have to make you less feminine. I'm pretty sure if I stopped initiating entirely, my boyfriend would not be pleased lol. But seriously, that's the point of dating. You become a better person. You learn things and mature. You better determine what you need and want in a mate and what you can offer. Going through those m…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 07:37 PM
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Why do you want to save the situation? Why do you want to be with him? Why do you think he'd be a good boyfriend? I'm not being snarky, I'm being serious. I totally get what you're feeling, but you feel like you're being used because you are being used. Is it even worth fighting for?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 05:39 PM
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Have you ever tried to help a fat friend/family member lose weight? It's borderline impossible. They're super fat, you can see it, they can see it, but for some reason you're not allowed to talk about it. If you do, they get angry or they say, "Yeah, I know," and keep eating too much and not working out. This is the same thing. The person has to want to change. They're not going to change by you pressuring them, even though you're trying to help, even though they know their methods aren't workin…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 05:37 PM
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Any chance you saved it like to a word document as opposed to just reddit save? I would've loved to read it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 08:45 PM
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Thanks! I wasn't positive about the linking protocol here. She's hilarious.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 08:43 PM
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Earlier this year I was at an event and talking to some older family friend women. They were going on about how I could just eat whatever I wanted and still be skinny and wait till I had kids and got older and let's see me bounce back then. Um, I got to this size by exercising regularly, counting calories, and keeping on top of myself all the time. But thanks?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 06:04 PM
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was back in her pre-pregnancy clothing the day after giving birth That is insane and I wish it still existed so you could send it to me. I've heard you only have to gain the weight of the baby, but I just can't imagine wanting to squeeze back into my jeans with an additional ~10 lbs on me and all kinds of physical discomfort happening. Even when you see tiny women who don't get fat, they still look like they've got basketballs under their sweaters.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 06:02 PM
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My boyfriend and I have made it very clear to each other that we're not about to tolerate the other giving up after marriage. Obviously we're not going to be psychotic about it or leave without warning, and bodies change with age. But that doesn't mean we have to be obese.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 05:59 PM
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There's this Hyperbole and a Half comic where she talks about how hard being an adult is. There's a part where she mentions that once you do all the things (cleaning, going to the bank, sending a package, whatever), you don't just get an "Adulthood" trophy for your shelf. You have to keep doing the things. Forever. Relationships and marriages are like that. You don't get to put your SO on a shelf like a trophy. You have to keep trying. Forever. My boyfriends old roommates were like that. They go…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 03:31 PM
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I view it the way I view all statistics--applicable to a population, not so much on an individual level. An appropriate warning nonetheless--if you treat your woman like shit and stop being the best man you can be, she will leave you for someone else. However, since we're women over here, we usually concern ourselves with the other side of it: if we're not being the best we can be for our men, they will most certainly find better women to fill our roles. Not all women will cheat, but all women w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 02:52 PM
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I mentioned elsewhere, but I'm not talking about tough love. I think constructive advice is necessary, and I love that this place calls people out. I'm talking about when a comment isn't constructive at all, just mean.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 02:47 PM
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You haven't actually removed my comments yet, unless it happened since I posted. I apologize if I'm causing an issue--it's really not intentional. I didn't really expect this many people to notice the comment at all! I'm definitely not referring to tough love. I'm referring to comments where someone is mean without offering advice just because they feel superior. Perhaps this would better be addressed at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 02:44 PM
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It's possible we're discussing two different phenomenons. I'm talking about situations where men think the best way to get a woman into a relationship is to feign friendship with her when they actually only desire a relationship. They get increasingly bitter, because they think they're doing everything right, but they're not getting what they want, which is sex or a relationship. Meanwhile, she thinks the guy just wants to be her friend, because he's acting like he just wants to be her friend. T…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 12:43 AM
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I stick around because I genuinely like the idea of this place and feel like it's making me more aware of my flaws and shortcomings, so I can better change them. It just feels so harsh and mean sometimes, with a very harsh us/them mentality. It feels quick to ostracize. And I don't like that. This place is definitely softer than TRP is, which I appreciate. I just don't like having to put people down or hate people in order to talk to likeminded women. And I know I obviously don't have to, and I'…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 12:40 AM
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I know other women like you, who are strongly "alpha" women who don't want to be the alpha. I honestly don't know what to tell you. There are men who are honest to god happy playing the beta role, being submissive, taking care of the home, and they'd be happy to have a woman who is complementary to that...but for women who still want that dominant, alpha man but who can't give up the control, who can't give up the high powered career (which usually leads to door number three, that we've both agr…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/15 11:58 PM
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Maybe I'm just a weirdo, but I don't really hate anyone. It's the way I've always been, but after reflecting on it, I think hate is a really unhealthy mindset to hold. I see a lot of it on RPW and I find it pretty upsetting. We try to be the best we can be, even on this forum--like venting about your SO or dissenting is enough to get your comments deleted. But I see a lot of vitriol towards women who aren't doing very good, despite their efforts. Frankly, I don't find it feminine, I don't find i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/15 07:49 PM
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I feel bad for her. She was obviously raised her whole life being told looks don't matter and that a real man will love her for who she is, whilst simultaneously being informed that the only thing men want is sex and that if she dresses a certain way men will only want sex out of her, not a relationship. It's messed up. It's just like all the men over on TRP figuring out that pretending to be someone's friend and being nice to someone won't make her want to fuck him. I feel bad for them too. Att…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/15 06:53 PM
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I think it depends on what you want. I need to be with a very dominant man, because I like to be submissive, but I'm also sort of a dominant person myself. Not out of choice, but more out of necessity--I was very independent and had very dependent younger siblings who needed taking care of, etc. So if I'm with a guy who's sort of wishy-washy (beta, I guess), it doesn't work out. I end up being sort of bitchy and definitely resentful, and I am the default dominant partner. I dealt with this by go…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/15 06:29 PM
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Honestly, my boyfriend and I have some of the best memories from just hanging out at home, watching netflix, and creating some bomb culinary creations that we then eat. But if you're looking for something out of the house, try exploring your city. Do the tourist stuff--bus tour, historical sites, that kind of thing. Go to local museums, like art museums or science centers. A lot of them have free or reduced admission prices for students or one day a week. Go to the zoo or the aquarium. Go campin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 07:38 PM
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I miss having him around at night, because I get super sad, but the actual sleeping is nice. I get the whole bed (he's a hog), I'm not sweating (because that man is a furnace), and I'm not elbowing someone all night (...snores). But I sleep alone about a quarter of the time anyways just for ease of getting a full night lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 07:29 PM
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I almost enjoy it when he travels. I spend my first night eating something he'd never eat (vegetarian and weird) and drinking wine. After like three days it definitely gets old. Keeping busy honestly helps distract you. Invite friends over, catch up on craft stuff, go out and don't feel bad for having just girl time or whatever. As far as being actually scared, there's a gun in my nightstand and a dog at my feet, and the doors stay locked when I'm home. Also, I like to plan a big thing for when …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 05:58 PM
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I love your personal goals section! I'm not usually the best at taking care of me, and you're inspiring me to be better at it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 02:16 PM
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Be grateful, and let him know you're grateful. Maybe take some time to slip a card in with his lunch or bake him a cake and make sure he knows why. If he's a talker, you could even try talking--men don't view insecurity in women the way women view it in men. But for what it's worth, in my experience, men seem to enjoy being able to provide for a good woman. It makes them feel masculine. From our perspective it might be kind of hard to understand, since we feel like we're just taking (I'm in a si…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/15 06:54 PM
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That's awful, and I'm sorry for you. I would be so angry on my man's behalf as well. I agree that a lot of your frustration probably came from that--you're clearly making him happy, she clearly did the opposite, and they still prefer her. In other words, they prefer him unhappy. That's messed up. I think you just sort of have to keep your head down, keep being a good girlfriend, and remember that you're dating him--not his (kind of crappy) parents. Hopefully his siblings will knock some sense in…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/15 06:50 PM
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If it was a long relationship and a fairly amiable breakup, it's not really inconceivable they're still friends with the ex. It might mean they don't like you as much, it might not. It might mean they thought she was a better fit, it might not. All that really matters is that he likes you better and thinks you're a better fit, and he does. Keep being polite to them, don't bring it up, and ignore it. Stirring drama will not endear you to them.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/15 01:26 PM
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Your fertile/healthy years will pass by soon. There's no reason to panic. She's 23. She has more than 10 years until things start getting shaky, and 15 if she wants to push it. I don't advise that--having kids in your 20s is much safer. But let's not act like she's coming to us at 34 and trying to put it off. She sounds like she's got a timeline in her head, and that she wants to start in the next 2 or 3 years. 25-26 is a really fine time to start popping 'em out and isn't close to "too old."
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/15 10:14 PM
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I think this is great advice, especially because nursing school is really, really hard. It'll be much harder with a pregnancy, even if it's an easy one, and extremely difficult with a newborn. Part of the issue is that if you just come to him saying, "I'm not ready to get pregnant," he'll wonder why. Do you not want kids with him? Do you not want kids at all? Men are problem solvers. Give him all the information and your reasons and ask for his input. Lay out a timeline of when you think you mig…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/15 10:10 PM
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I agree. There are a lot of people will freak out over a boyfriend (for example) putting his foot down over his girl doing something like sleeping in the same bed as a man or having sleepovers with one or dancing with other guys or any number of legitimately sketchy activities. This is not one of them. This is a sport that OP is participating in with other people's parents ffs. And he won't even consider meeting them or going to events.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/15 10:06 PM
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It goes in both ways, and it's ridiculous to paint all women who like gifts as gold digging harpy shrews/whatever. Seriously, it's silly. A man who wants gifts and acts of service can be a perfectly reasonable partner. Or he can be an entitled manchild who won't do anything for himself. A woman who wants gifts and acts of service can be a materialistic, gold-digging, witchy shrew. Or maybe she just likes physical reminders of love and enjoys having a man strong enough to take care of "man chores…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 07:07 PM
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And wanting to receive that from your woman can easily turn into entitled manchild who can't take care of himself. That's silly. I like receiving and giving acts of service. I might make homemade soup when he's sick, and he might change the freon in my car when it's low. Neither of us is demanding it. Both of us can (sort of) do it ourselves (he can buy soup, I can pay someone to fix my car). But we do it to express love for one another and feel loved by one another. He's not entitled. I'm not a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 07:03 PM
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It would be wrong if you had serious issues and didn't seek professional help and expected him to be--needed him to be--a literal therapist. That's wrong in any instance, whether it's your SO or your best friend or you sister or whatever. But if I were your SO, I'd be hurt that you felt you couldn't vent and cry to me about your problems. Your SO is your partner in life--they're the one you work through challenges with, they're the one you grow old with, they're the one you support, and they're …
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 04:41 AM
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So you know the joke about how men will point to a woman with subtle, natural makeup and comment about how good she looks makeup free? It's in part because when they think of makeup, they think of caked on foundation, bad color matches for face products, bright colors and glitter, etc. In my own experience, the same holds true for breast implants--most implants these days look and feel extremely natural, and men (and plenty of women) legitimately don't know they're not natural. There's no visibl…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 04:36 AM
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I try to contribute there with my other account (honestly it's easier to use a separate account to post here, since people seem to take it as an invitation to harass you), but I hope it gets more active soon!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 01:06 PM
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I'm not sure if TRP will get banned--it seems like they're mostly banning subs that have an issue with harassing people on other subs/in other places, and TRP seems to have a brigading problem--but either way, I seriously doubt RPW will get banned. We seem to keep entirely to ourselves. That said, I found getfeminine a bit back (not including a link in case that's not cool), and it's not super active--but it's awesome. They are not cool at all with this place or TRP, so don't mention it there, b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 11:16 PM
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You may say that, but I've seen numerous examples of their members harassing people all over the damn place. I'm not subscribed there so maybe the mods tried to keep up with banning people, but I kind of doubt they even could.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 11:12 PM
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I don't think quick apologies are a bad thing. Resentment is one of the biggest relationship killers. If he didn't apologize when he fucked up (and he did fuck up), you might've been able to keep your mouth shut for awhile, but it's impossible to hide that level of disdain/resentment/annoyance/whatever you want to call it forever. So he apologized quickly for fucking up, you forgave him, he (ideally) won't do it again, and you didn't lose a lick of composure. As opposed to letting resentment bui…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 11:10 PM
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If he hadn't apologized I would say still talk to him, but it looks like he took care of it just fine. Everyone has moments where they act out of character and as long as they're not causing too much hurt (like acting out by cheating, vs. sitting around high with their friends), it's not a big deal. Good on you for recognizing it and being levelheaded! Also, watching Parks and Rec for three hours is never bad :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 07:34 PM
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I've always been really wary of crockpots because the meals they churn out seem so heavy and well done, vs. super fresh and crisp tasting. Am I crazy for not giving them a chance?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 07:31 PM
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The well stocked spice cabinet makes such a difference! I'm still getting ours up to par compared to the last place I lived (left everything behind). I also really miss living within walking distance of a nice grocery. Now it's a drive (and the grocery isn't that nice), but before I would just go and buy like three things each time and go every couple days. Nice and easy and we always had super fresh food that never went bad!
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 03:01 PM
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Thrilling the request for a picture, if it's not too personal. This sounds like such a good way to do it!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 10:21 PM
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That's a great suggestion, I'll have to check that site out! I usually end up with a tangled folder of bookmarks I rarely end up going back to, so that's a great solution.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 10:20 PM
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Oh my gosh, how do you manage with 8 children?! I am in awe of you, honestly. You should blog about your big family or write a post on RPW sometime--although I doubt you'll have time! I'm also jealous of your big garden! This was the first year we really made an effort with it and it can be so discouraging in the beginning, but so satisfying getting to eat things you grew yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 10:19 PM
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I used to feel the same way about prepackaged ingredients, but they were a godsend when I used to work late. I'd feel bad about spending a little more to have someone else cut something up for me (or preseason it or whatever), but I'd feel worse if I was too tired and ended up at McDonald's (literally worse--fast food is not good for my stomach!). Thanks for the tips!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 10:18 PM
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This is such a good idea! I recently started a recipe book with printouts of my favorite recipes so I'm not googling/scratching my head trying to figure out what I eat, but I like the idea of little cards to pin. I think it'd be especially useful if you have children, so they can (think they) have some say.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 10:15 PM
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The example is super helpful. I always kind of see people talking like the beginning, but where I really get tripped up is using up all the ingredients.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 10:14 PM
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It doesn't really bother me. I don't really see my being very traditional and submissive to my boyfriend as incompatible with feminism anyways, but she could be a fascist and as long as she didn't mention it much in the articles I'd want to read, I really wouldn't care, you know?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 10:13 PM
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I don't think it's an age thing but an individual thing, although older people can be busier (kids, possible longer hours, etc). My boyfriend is 11 years older than me, but he likes to keep in constant contact. I do agree with the other poster that I find it easier to submit to someone who already has their life together. I don't find myself doubting him, and I find myself wanting to please him more. I'm also aware that one of the draws for him of dating me is getting to be with someone young an…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 05:54 PM
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I love this! I already have a kitchen chalkboard, but I usually just list out the evening meal on it. This is a great idea!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 04:10 PM
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I'm sad to see the Glamorous Housewife suggestion deleted. I just went on the blog yesterday after finding it here and was coming back to thank the person who posted it. She inspired me to clean out and declutter my hall closet yesterday :) So far I've stuck to her cleaning and homemaking articles and haven't really seen anything politically controversial--just some really solid homemaking tips.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 03:36 PM
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I used to work weird hours, like my ex and I would get off at 12-4am. These meals were my staples--they tended to please the boyfriend since there's meat involved and they were so freaking easy. Getting home that late meant I was not going to spend longer than 30 minutes putting together a meal. Some nights were just sandwich nights, which were fine because everyone loves sandwiches, but if you want a hot meal: Tacos (meat, cheese, lettuce, quick pico and guacamole) Chicken parmesan Pasta with h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 03:32 PM
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I also think it's worth mentioning that while a guy who hangs out on TRP might say they only want a virgin, that guy also would probably not believe you if you told him you were a virgin--despite that it would have been true. What the other commenter said is important to remember. Those men are trying to figure out how to be alpha (generally speaking). You want a naturally alpha man who also has enough beta traits to make him a good long term partner. Someone who will love you properly. Most men…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 10:14 PM
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It helps me to keep busy. Even if the busyness is just watching a movie before bed instead of sitting around staring at my phone wanting to call my boyfriend (we were long distance too for awhile, it is the worst). Anything to distract you. Don't bug him much, but if it's been awhile since you heard, you could always shoot him an email checking in, letting him know you love him and you're here if he needs anything, but in the meantime, you hope things are getting easier. Something that doesn't r…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 07:10 PM
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How do you convince yourself that the man you are with is a good man? Surely all men are capable of love? Honestly, if you have to work that hard to convince yourself the man you're with is even good let alone anything better than that (seriously, "good" should be the absolute bare minimum of a person in a relationship), maybe that should make you think. And while I'd say most men (almost all people) are capable of love, they are certainly not all capable of loving you. He also isn't very empath…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 07:04 PM
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We handle all our issues and all our arguments by talking them out. We've both seen how keeping quiet and letting resentment build is so toxic. So we'd rather clear things up as they occur then let them build, especially since I'm such a nervous nelly. We're respectful of each other when we fight--give each other space if necessary, never yell or shout at one another or curse one another out. We have calm discussions when we're able, make a conscious effort to improve so the problem doesn't occu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 02:03 PM
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You should never feel like that. In a LTR you're not looking for your average, anger-stage guy on TRP who's just realizing he's been a beta and is pissed. You want a naturally alpha guy who has some beta traits, because pure alpha makes a shitty longterm partner--most women on here will agree, from what I've seen. You should not put up with being treated like crap, seriously. The baseline for "good relationship" should not be "hasn't cheated on me." Out of curiosity, can I ask how old you are? Y…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 01:54 PM
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I know I'm going against the party line here, but honestly, that sounds like bs to me. My first relationship was like that. I did everything for him, tried to make him happy, was never good enough, and never got my needs met, just like you're not getting love and affection. My relationship now? I get my needs met. He gets his met, and I get mine met. I realized one thing I need that I'm not willing to compromise on is a lot of communication, and I get that now! I like a lot of physical affection…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 01:51 PM
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I occasionally lurk in the red pill subs, and whenever anyone with a vagina posts--even if it's completely relevant, helpful, on topic, and it made sense for her to answer--she gets instantly banned, criticized, told 'tits or gtfo' etc. Even if there's a man who said the same thing she did in another comment. I don't want this place to be like this, because I understand that sometimes a male perspective is helpful to a specific topic (just like it can be in reverse). However, I think we're way t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 02:25 PM
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I would definitely reiterate to him that you didn't mean to cause offense, you just worried that he might think you were taking advantage and didn't want any resentment there. I completely understand where you're coming from--it took me a long time to be okay with my boyfriend spending money on me and even longer to fully wrap my head around the idea that he's just doing it because he loves me, not to manipulate me. My ex and my father, growing up, were both the opposite--they used money to mani…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 02:18 PM
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I would love a recipe thread, maybe even more like weekly? Even just a, "What have you cooked lately?" type thread. I also think it might be nice if we had RPW recipes (i.e. lighter, lower calorie, lunches for us) as well as recipes we make for our men (in my case at least, recipes for him tend to involve more red meat or are at least never vegetarian, are heavier, etc).
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 02:13 PM
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My oven is really off temperature for some reasons and very patchy. They go for about 25 minutes at 425 or so, but I start checking them after 20 minutes and sometimes they take more like 30.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 05:07 AM
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Online dating is a great strategy, but I'd try the pay services instead--match.com, jdate or christianmingle, etc. From what I can tell, okcupid (and to a greater extent plentyoffish and tinder) are geared younger and less serious. Okcupid might work out for you, but I think you'd have better luck on one of the other services. Also, if you're looking to make friends (with work being solitary), try meetup.com! They have groups for all kinds of things. Try to drag a friend along if you're nervous!
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/15 12:37 AM
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I hate that I don't! It's really hard for me to find bras that fit, so as a result I only have like 3, and none are easy to match. My next two bra purchases are both going to have to be solid colors, because I'm sick of ending up with pink or blue or patterns or beading or whatever and not having any matching panties.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 07:22 PM
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I can't answer for everyone, but me personally? I don't enter a relationship unless I see it lasting the rest of my life, and I assume the way I'm treated in that relationship is the way I'll always be treated. Maybe it's true, maybe not, but I can only control myself. This way I won't waste time waiting for someone to treat me better. So if the man I start seeing is making me pay for other women's past sins, I'm not going to want to continue seeing him. We've all been hurt--cheated on, abused, …
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 06:39 PM
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I disagree, she sounded mostly reasonable. It's hard to get a whole grasp on things when we're hearing three paragraphs and don't know them. It just seems like he has no desire to lead her in that particular way.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 04:50 PM
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Just a small addition, I used to make brussels sprouts with bacon and pecans in an apple cider vinaigrette (it's a Publix recipe but I usually just eyeball it) often, but I didn't like how the brussels sprouts didn't get crispy enough. I've started pre-roasting them in the oven and then tossing it all together at the end. It's a bit more work, but definitely worth it--the crispiness hides the brussels sprout-ness for picky eaters.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 03:04 PM
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Woah, it doesn't seem like she acted like that at all. The vibe I got was more asking his opinion on what she should eat. It's not like she pulled this out of her ass or was ordering him around, she was asking opinions and help, and to be totally honest, my man loves when I need his help with something he's good at (like computers). And on a different thread, I totally would've advised her to ask him for help, so that she gets help and he feels needed and important (which he is).
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 02:58 PM
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Maybe this is worthy of its own thread, but I keep seeing this sentiment of "withholding" sex come up as though sex is a favor we do for our men. Am I the only one who really, really likes sex? There have obviously been times where he or I have turned down sex because we're just too tired/sick, but generally speaking, it doesn't happen. If I was with someone who arbitrarily withheld sex for no tangible reason, I would have (and actually have) left. To answer the question, sex makes people happy.…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 07:00 PM
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I think most people understand the importance of relationships--we just go about it in a different way. But this is something I've been thinking on, since I'm not working at the moment. It gets lonely not really having anyone but your SO around for in person support.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 03:19 PM
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Seriously? I think I've used peas in cooking twice in the last four years. If that. And I've bought cherries maybe...never? In that same time period. They're just okay compared to other fruits. I mean, she also doesn't sound like she cooks, so that's a factor for sure, but they're not that common.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 03:17 PM
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True, that would definitely make it more difficult. I've lived without a dishwasher and it sucks. You have to stay super duper on top of it or it builds up quick. If you use modern conveniences, it is not that much work to keep a house looking nice all the time. Admittedly mine is small, but even so... That's actually really funny. The behavior modification is the biggest aspect of it IMO. Reading about how she and her husband used to interact just sounds psychotic to me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 09:55 PM
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You either need cable or money. Full episode isn't available otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 09:50 PM
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Other than the food (gross) this was such a sweet experiment. Kinda shocked by how overwhelmed she was by that chores list though. I have modern conveniences, but I do most of that, and some that's on the list, daily.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 09:13 PM
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She probably just didn't use them. I don't usually find out my boyfriend hates something until I make it for him. New on the list: rosemary of all things. But tbh her husband sounds like an annoyingly finicky eater.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 09:12 PM
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Yup! My grandmas were both alive in that era and both worked all the time. There have been approximately zero stay at home moms in my family, unless you count my cousin, and she's too disabled to work.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 04:36 PM
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I'll happily take my husband's name one day. I have no problem with people choosing to keep their own or take their spouse's or make a new name. I'm not crazy about hyphenating, but that's a personal preference that doesn't extend to others. No one has ever spoken down to me about taking vs. not taking a name, and I would never do that to another. And for the record, I think it's highly judgmental to sit around creating a straw(wo)man of this feminist who insists on a $10k ring, huge wedding, a …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 04:27 PM
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"HB" makes me cringe so hard. Why would you need that acronym before the number if you're bothering to give a number?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/15 07:56 PM
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I love to bake but actually avoid it lately because we're both trying to eat better. We both have a little to lose--me a lot less than him, but I don't need that many calories anyways. The baking is a great focus! And I love your last idea there! He gets pretty uncomfortable with physical gifts and doesn't love buying himself anything either. He likes treating me (which works out well, since I do love gifts, though it's not about the money spent), but I always want to be able to treat him simila…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/15 07:50 PM
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Seconding the call for ideas. We already have sex everyday, and I pretty much cook him whatever he wants when he wants it. I make his favorite meal weekly. And every time one of us goes away (or I just miss him) I send or leave him cute cards. I feel like I'm almost being too good, and that I won't have anything to do come his birthday...especially because we're taking a vacation for mine. I am a big fan of birthday experiences rather than gifts. Like going out and doing something, taking a trip…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 04:11 PM
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Yeah, I would not be cool with even slip and slide. More power to her, but it's not for me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 04:08 PM
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This is a really good comment. Since we're only hearing one side of every story, either her husband really is a dick despite her best efforts and maybe it's a gentle nudge towards her leaving, or maybe she can look into herself and see how to improve. Either way, it works.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 06:56 PM
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Pepper, definitely, because pre-ground loses flavor. Salt is more about the coarseness, because it imparts more flavor. Depending on the meat I'm cooking, I'll usually beat it into it (just pound it a bit with my fist) to make sure it actually hangs on for the ride.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 06:06 PM
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I don't think it being freshly ground makes as much of a difference as it being in coarse pieces, which you can get from kosher salt or the like. To be honest, normal salt mills are a pain because they "leak salt" all over my cabinet. But an upright one is fine. I was buying disposable salt and pepper mills that had adjustable sizing for years and just switched to refillable...I actually miss the disposable!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 06:05 PM
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Another tip I have is high quality seasonings go a LONG way in making your food taste better Switching to fresh, course ground salt and pepper makes such a difference! I'll sauté chicken and literally just season it with salt and pepper and have people ask me why it's so good.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 08:36 PM
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I love cooking. Some people will tell you to learn how by learning the basics--like how to make an egg twelve ways, how to make X set of simple dishes or the mother sauces, starting with just chopping. If that works for you, fantastic. It doesn't work for me, and it bores me to tears. I prefer to pick a recipe that I want to make and make it. I've had screw ups in the kitchen (though only one that was inedible). And almost every time I cook something, I immediately see how to improve it. After a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 08:34 PM
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From their actions and words, they feel they deserve a hot woman. I see attractive women with less attractive men all the time. The opposite occurred but was less common. Obviously this is all anecdotal, but unfortunately, that's really all any of us can go off of. There was a deeply flawed OKC study reddit seems to love that showed women were more likely to message or respond to men they deemed below average, whereas men would only message the top 20% of women--but like I said, this study was f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 02:46 PM
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Why should they find "dadbod" attractive? Despite the description given, all pictures are of beer gutted men who look like they party too hard and have no self control. They are very literally the definition of the average man in this country, which is a damn fucking shame. Overweight women are also the average in this country--do you want to date a fat woman? The average guy is beneath me looks wise because I am well above average. That sounds arrogant, but it's very true. Why on earth would I …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 02:44 PM
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Next question: is murder a felony or a moral outrage? Well, morally it's outrageous but it's also literally a felony. What a conundrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 07:43 AM
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Has feminism also turned men into fat, lazy slobs? Because a third of American men are obese. No one thing is to blame for the obesity epidemic in America (which is spreading across the world). Modern conveniences have certainly contributed, as has the availability of extremely high calorie food with an unprecedented amount of added sugar. Our lives (in America at least) are more sedentary than ever before. It's not even a chicken and egg situation--fat logic, fat acceptance, and all its ilk are…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 07:38 AM
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You're probably a man right? Just asking because I usually see it the other way around, which would make sense considering I'm a woman. I see so many average/below average men (overweight, socially awkward, unemployed) who somehow think they deserve a conventionally attractive--which means above average, especially in America--woman. If you're fat, it's cool that you don't want to date fat people. But you can hardly fault them for that, which I see a lot of men do. I think both sides of the equa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 07:34 AM
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I'm 23, in a serious headed to marriage relationship (honestly, he would probably marry me next week if I felt we were ready) with a naturally alpha guy who has just enough beta in him to make a solid relationship. He is my second boyfriend and second real partner (my first time was rape, I don't usually count that). There are plenty of ticks in my clock.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 07:25 AM
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Same deal. We're honest about everything. If we didn't have that, how on earth could we trust each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/15 06:08 PM
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I think a lot of young, immature, inexperience women also fall for the whole "asshole who is only nice to me" type man. When you get a bit older, you learn that if he's an ass to everyone but nice to you, it's only a matter of time. But when you're young and don't know any better, you think it's sweet because it makes you feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/15 06:06 PM
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I prefer sex to food. However, food is a literal need, as in you will die without it--sex is not. Obviously I eat more than I fuck. Plenty of men (a disgusting number of men) also struggle with their weight. Does that mean they prefer food to sex? Probably not. You're making a really weird point here. This is a pretty apples and oranges situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/15 06:02 PM
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Wifey and hubby are two of my least favorite words in the English language. If they can be considered words.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 06:59 PM
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Relatedly, don't ask the fisherman how to avoid the hook. Talk to your fish buddies. That's why this place is here.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 06:57 PM
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Oh my god that looks perfect. Thanks for the tip!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 06:51 PM
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I know this will sound negative, but it's been kind of annoying to me lately. I lurked here for awhile and only started posting recently, so I'm not sure I have right to complain. But I joined because I wanted to find a non-religious forum where I could talk to people, women especially, about traditional relationships, how to improve SMV and girl game, etc. And it seems like most people here are men, talking down to women about how much women and LTRs suck. I'm well aware of the risks of marriag…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 04:02 PM
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My point was that you make it sound as though the only thing men get out of marriage is sex, and that is false. If that were the case, then there is no point to a LTR and marriage at all. If you don't feel LTRs or marriage have any purpose for you personally, that's fine, you do you--but I have to wonder why you're here, in that case.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 03:58 PM
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All the time. I trust him. We don't really use snapchat. There are ways to save them even without me knowing, so anything I send is something I have to be comfortable with him keeping. I keep my face (at least most of it) out of the photo if it's nude, but I don't care if it's just suggestive.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/15 04:14 PM
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Why would any man want commitment when they can sleep around with many women at any time? If that was truly the case, why are so many of us in happy LTRs with high quality men? Life is (maybe unfortunately) more complicated than that, and it can't be explained in as many words fit on a bumper sticker. Men get more out of relationships than sex, or they wouldn't be in them--and women get more out of sex than commitment, or it wouldn't be so damn fun.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/15 04:09 PM
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They live across the country. We'll be staying with them for about 3-4 days. Separate rooms is such a good idea, I can't believe it didn't occur to me. I'm feeling a bit stupid now! His parents have a pretty red pill relationship as I understand it, though they're quite a bit less conservative than he is. I don't think I'll be able to bring food with me, since we're flying and staying elsewhere for three days, which is unfortunate. Baking something is usually my go to. Hopefully helping around t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/15 04:34 PM
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That's not really the prenup's fault though. I always read reviews on products before I buy them. You see a lot of one star reviews that say things like, "didn't fit," "wrong color," "didn't smell like [thing it wasn't supposed to smell like]," etc. I roll my eyes because none of that is the product's fault. This is the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/15 05:46 PM
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And no, pre-nups aren't as effective as advertised. I'm a bit tired of this myth. Yes, prenups are as effective as advertised unless: one person signed under coercion (can be avoided by each person having their own lawyer) or the prenup requires something the law can't uphold (again, paying for a real lawyer will solve this issue). If you're expecting a prenup to protect against money made after marriage, you're expecting it to do something that it by definition isn't designed to do.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/15 02:47 PM
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There was even a divorce lawyer who did an AMA on TRP, because "prenups get thrown out all the time" is such a pervasive myth. Honestly, it's almost always fine, but if you each have your own lawyers it's pretty airtight. Also, common law marriage is only a thing in nine states.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/15 02:40 PM
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Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages? You should look it up, if not. There's a whole book, and there's also a quiz that will tell you which of the love languages are most meaningful for you. They are: Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Receiving Gifts Quality Time Physical Touch I know it's just one of many ways of explaining affection, but it's one I like a lot because it helps me get a better handle on how to show my boyfriend that I love him. For me, words mean so much. I like to hear how…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/15 02:37 PM
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I used to browse over there, but I had to stop. It was depressing. It made me anxious. Keep in mind, most of the guys over there are trying to develop alpha skills. Often they're not "natural alphas," and when you first enter a new way of thinking, you tend to go full speed. For the most part, they're not looking to settle down either. My boyfriend is traditional and naturally "alpha," but he doesn't hang out over there. He's also not a plate spinner. He was never the type to have casual relatio…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 10:46 PM
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To be totally honest, I think we're saying the same thing in different words. I don't disagree with what you're saying. I'll listen to your opinion, but if I choose something other than that don't make it out like I didn't care what you said. I'm saying she chose to accept your decision. We all have the freedom to leave (hopefully!), and if we do right by ourselves, we'll leave if necessary. My boyfriend is the alpha in our relationship. He makes the decisions. If I have a concern with something…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 09:00 PM
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Of course she "lets" him. It's not the word choice I would use, but we don't live in a society with slaves. If my boyfriend was making decisions that I felt were unacceptable and he wouldn't listen to objection, I'd leave. You always have a choice. Moreover (and less dramatically), she should be letting him make the decisions. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I was at odds with my partner the whole time, a constant battle of wills and force.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 08:06 PM
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I'd count calories. That's what did it for me. I pretty much still ate whatever I wanted, just less. I did buy some lower calorie quick foods, but you don't have to. Calculate your BMR, multiply by 1.2 (sedentary), and subtract calories (500 for one lb a week, 1000 for two lbs). This is your daily caloric goal. If you're scared of the gym, you can always work out at home. You can do yoga through doyogawithme.com, and I've done a few Jillian Michaels workouts (30 day shred and ripped in 30) that …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 03:14 PM
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I agree so hard. I would never want to look like a slob or even like less than I am when I'm with him! That just makes him look bad. Plus it gives me a chance to dress up.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 03:05 PM
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I think most of us here prefer to be with men who exhibit alpha and beta traits. A 100% alpha man is not going to be a good family man, but a 100% beta man is not going to be able to lead a family, period. A better bet is someone in the middle. Someone you know you can lose, if you don't treat them right (i.e. not a doormat), but not someone who's going to cheat on you when you're keeping them satisfied. It's one of those things that's more complicated to explain than it is to understand. I'd sa…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 03:02 PM
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I don't believe, "once a cheater, always a cheater." However, I do believe that once someone cheats in one relationship, they will cheat again in that same relationship. I also doubt they just made out, but that's not really the issue. You're young, unmarried, and have no children. Why would you stay? Imagine going through this over and over again your whole life. Does that sound like a life you want?
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 01:53 PM
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Make sure he knows you're satisfied and that you desire him. He is probably comparing himself to your exes but doesn't want you to know he's insecure about it, so he doesn't ask. You don't need to address it in a specific way (e.g. "You are better in bed than X."), but make sure he knows how much you love him, his cock, and fucking him. Also, try not to beat yourself up too badly. The more you rag on yourself for something you can't change (that you were honest about!), the needier and more inse…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 01:47 PM
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My current boyfriend and I were friends for two years while we dated other people before we both found ourselves single at the same time and gave it a try. By that point, I knew his values, I knew how preposterously compatible we were, and I knew he was looking to settle down. Because I already knew so much about him (and he about I), I knew it wasn't stupid to have sex with him. With my boyfriend before him, I didn't have that luxury. Instead, that man and I dated for a couple months before we …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 01:41 PM
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I think the "men only want sex" thing is grossly over exaggerated, I've not had a single man unprepared to wait and commit first. I'm with you. I think over on TRP, because you have so many men who aren't getting laid and who are slowly figuring out how to become desirable, you see an increased focus on SEXSEXSEX. In the real world, it seems like men have other priorities as well. Not that I blame them--sex feels incredible, but it's not the only thing in life that matters.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 01:38 PM
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Try to change the way you think about it. When other women want my man, I'm kind of flattered. It means he's high value, he's desired, but he picked me. If it's really bad, I try to channel some nervous energy into doing things that benefit the both of us--baking, cleaning, working on my hobbies. I've also found (and this is completely anecdotal) that some men find it kind of hot when their girl is jealous. Which makes sense in my mind, because it's confirmation for them that you still desire th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 09:14 PM
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I get dark circles too, and there's not much to do for that. But if you get bags and puffiness, MAC makes an undereye cream that helps a lot. I feel like just darkness on its own doesn't look nearly as bad when your skin is hydrated.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 09:06 PM
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I think you need to figure out how important marriage is to you, why it's so important, and what his specific concerns are. For example, maybe he thinks big weddings (or any weddings) are a waste of money. Maybe he has concerns for money or property he owns now that could be settled by a prenup (despite what you see on TRP, prenups aren't thrown out often or without good reason--they even had a lawyer doing an AMA confirm that). Maybe part of being married for you is wanting a ring, a physical r…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 08:59 PM
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She's married--doing what her man likes is more important.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 08:50 PM
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I've asked both boyfriends I've had to hit them with the trimmers after they clean up downstairs. Neither minded doing it for me, and I prefer it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 08:49 PM
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we work better playing cooperatively than against each other This is a really good point. My SO and I mostly play board games, but we prefer cooperative to competitive. I'm a sore loser (I'm working on it and never make him suffer for it), and we're both super competitive. But at the same time, if I'm beating him too much, I start to feel terrible and try to boost him up. It's just not as much fun as playing together towards one common goal.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 09:41 PM
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There are some weird assumptions in that article. Jackie Demate, also 21, agreed. "I would have a very hard time justifying spending $20,000 on a wedding when I could go to Europe." Bf and I decided when the time comes, we're going to elope while taking a European vacation then have a small party stateside so our families don't get sad. We get our marriage and our trip to Europe and a party and it won't come close to 20k. Weddings don't have to be that expensive or cost anything at all, and marr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/15 03:03 PM
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The happiest, most successfully married couple I knew never had kids! They had the kind of relationship where people would ask them how they did it and how they made it look so easy. It's really a personal choice. Just make sure that both of you are okay with it. Don't just agree with your husband for the sake of agreement if you really did want kids, and vice versa. Also, I don't know how old you are, but women are successfully having kids up to 40 and even over. I don't know that's ideal, but …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/15 02:57 PM
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It seemed like they wanted children and it was the assumption that they'd have them, but when they started having trouble, they realized maybe they didn't need/want them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/15 02:55 PM
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Just a tip, never get a makeover from someone whose makeup you don't like. If their foundation looks cakey or orange, if their eyebrows look blocky, etc...chances are they will do that to you too!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/15 02:53 PM
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Apologies, I'll look through there instead.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 08:42 PM
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She's joking. You wrote finance (as in money) instead of fiance (as in the person you're engaged to). I'm guessing it's autocorrect, since my computer just tried to change fiance to finance!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:57 PM
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Cook all your meals! Prep is your friend--if you make lunches for the whole week Sunday, you're less likely to slip and buy McDonalds or something, since lunch is already cooked. Coupon when possible. It can be really time consuming, but it will save you bunches. Open windows in the summer instead of running the AC, turn off lights, line dry clothing, dress warmer instead of leaving the heater at 70 in the winter, etc. Learn to sew. Then you can repair clothing and even make your own. You can al…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:49 PM
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It's not that your boyfriend has a type of women he likes, he has a woman he likes. You seem like a good person. You deserve a hell of a lot more than someone so hung up on their ex that they can't even be with you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:29 PM
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Depending on the coverage I need (I break out around that time of the month), I use a BB cream or foundation applied with a beauty blender (I use the Real Techniques one). I apply concealer if necessary, usually only under my eyes. I wear matte bronzer under my cheekbones and around the places the sun hits my face, and I put blush on the apples of my cheeks, blended towards my temples. I fill in my eyebrows daily, with pomade or powder, depending on look. I dust a translucent powder over my face…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:28 PM
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I mean, it is April 1st. Seems like it's in good fun!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 03:40 PM
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He and I both want me to stay at home. He was the one who broached the topic in the first place. While we're not married yet--therefore no children yet--there's certainly plenty for me to do, and he can comfortably afford to support both of us. I've just seen too many women get left with nothing after divorce for me to feel comfortable being impractical. We'll both have pre-nups (his is the only name on the home deed and he had small savings; I have significant savings). If he did not want to ma…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 05:34 AM
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Like getting bored. Every woman thinks they won't ever leave their man, until they do Like physical or sexual abuse. Like cheating. Like getting a head injury and waking up with a different personality (hey, it happened once). you are demanding your future husband have no security. Other than the prenup I am demanding he get, and the one I am asking him to sign. Why should adult women get babied when it comes to marriage? This is easily turned around. I want security should something unlikely ha…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 04:13 PM
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I understand what you're saying, but I'd never be willing to be a stay at home mother for someone unwilling to marry me. I'd never be willing to put my life on hold like that with no assurance of protection should my man choose to leave. I know I wouldn't leave him (unless something unthinkable happens), I would never marry lightly, and I would never slack in being a good wife. But what happens if he changes his mind 30 years down the line? I'd be absolutely screwed.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/15 07:09 PM
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I don't think you can ever necessarily stop thoughts. Part of me wishes I'd never dated anyone else before my man because I hate it when something he does or I do or something I see reminds me of an ex. Then I start mentally going over my past relationship, wondering what it'd be like if we'd gotten back together, etc. What helps me is cutting them out of everything, if possible. Also, I start mentally compiling lists (or physically writing down) all the things I love about my man and all the wa…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 05:09 PM
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