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HUMORjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives06/11/18 12:32 PM
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HUMORjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 06:21 PM
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INSIGHTFULjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives07/11/17 02:04 AM
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INSIGHTFULjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives12/11/18 11:23 AM
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SELF CAREjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives29/12/17 07:20 PM
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INSIGHTFULjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 03:28 PM
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FIELD REPORTjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 06:26 PM
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HUMORjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives30/10/17 02:35 PM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives11/08/19 05:42 AM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives25/08/18 12:33 PM
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HOMEMAKINGjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives29/09/17 02:31 PM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 06:14 PM
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HOMEMAKINGjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives23/07/18 02:30 AM
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HOMEMAKINGjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:19 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 09:36 PM
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INSIGHTFULjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives11/08/18 04:18 AM
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HUMORjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives01/07/18 02:00 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!jack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives19/05/18 11:40 AM
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LIFESTYLEjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 01:57 AM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives23/03/18 07:26 PM
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LIFESTYLEjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 07:08 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!jack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives31/03/18 06:27 PM
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RP THEORYjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives15/03/20 03:46 AM
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GIRL GAMEjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives02/09/19 11:31 PM
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INSIGHTFULjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives11/06/20 04:42 PM
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HOMEMAKINGjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 06:29 PM
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HOMEMAKINGjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 01:24 PM
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INSIGHTFULjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives26/03/20 09:06 PM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 01:26 PM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 05:34 PM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 05:21 PM
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HOMEMAKINGjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 05:54 PM
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HOMEMAKINGjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 04:24 PM
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GIRL GAMEjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives13/12/17 04:47 PM
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GIRL GAMEjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives14/09/18 10:47 AM
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SCIENCEjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 01:55 PM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives26/09/18 11:59 AM
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DISCUSSIONjack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives28/02/18 03:07 AM
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jack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 02:06 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!jack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 04:54 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!jack_hammarred/r/RedPillWives02/09/19 11:24 PM
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Oof, I feel you! What are your bust and under bust and waist and hip measurements? Opposed to secondhand items from Poshmark?
/r/RedPillWives27/04/20 03:19 AM
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Her desires to break free are totally concerning, judging only from what we know I think this other woman doesn’t quite understand the decorum or have a great premise of how healthy relationships work. That she also came over unprecedented without you being present is inappropriate, even if it was an innocent mistake. Don’t take your insecurities to your man. Also tell him it’s inappropriate for women to come over when you aren’t there. It just simply is, regardless of whether or not you are com…
/r/RedPillWives26/03/20 09:24 PM
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If you have to work remotely and your children are also staying home, here are some interesting approaches! I think they could be quite useful parenting strategies in general as well!
/r/RedPillWives26/03/20 09:14 PM
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Just because comparisons can be used to improve your competition doesn’t mean comparing always does or should result in competition. There’s a difference between recognizing differences and similarities (comparison) and actively working toward an objective (competition). But maybe as a competitive woman these things are one in the same for you?
/r/RedPillWives26/03/20 09:12 PM
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Please follow the rules and update your post to reflect advice request guidelines
/r/RedPillWives19/11/19 02:06 AM
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Please edit the post to reflect the rules.
/r/RedPillWives02/11/19 10:19 PM
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Please edit your post to reflect the rules. You’ve provided a lot of information but we need more context. What are your limits on infidelity? On what grounds would you be eager, confident but displeased, and distrustful and unhappy with your husband moving forward? Find your starting point and what you would and wouldn’t be comfortable with if you haven’t already. I’m not encouraging you to imagine a thousand different scenarios to abuse yourself, but consider what it would take for you to be h…
/r/RedPillWives22/10/19 02:19 AM
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I love that you mention not getting caught up in things! I think that our female nature, being given to solipsism and having such adaptive mindsets, our day to day life becomes our whole world, and so the things that bother us on the daily grind become monstrous. We are inclined to make mountains out of molehills which is something that only a focus on gratitude, or a broadening of perspective by making our world slightly bigger in some way (e.g. a change of scenery, a new friendship) can help. …
/r/RedPillWives09/09/19 01:01 AM
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Such a ridiculous assertion omg! We could just as easily say sex with black people is fetishizing. Like WTF do they want?
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 01:11 AM
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Overall I think the changes made have contributed to a greater sense of peace in our relationship. It's been a little stressful lately (me starting a job, family vacation, etc.) and the small changes I've made have helped me to become more conscientious overall and in general more intentional which seem to positively contribute to both our moods! I'll be continuing to invade his personal time/space less, and be more intentional with my words. Something I've started doing recently is being more p…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 01:09 AM
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Excellent distinctions! I've cut off some friendships and incorporated new hobbies and life goals with his influence and am soooo much the better for it. Never knew I'd be into golf, or fishing, or gaming but man has he improved my life by bringing them into it! I used to put so much pressure on myself to excel in x categories relative to y people in a way that was seriously challenging to my self esteem, and not in growth-inspiring ways. Its arguably a total loser mentality, but revising the ru…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 12:48 AM
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I think the notion that we shouldn't change for any man assumes that men are incapable of encouraging us toward beneficial self development, and that any changes a man may value seeing are automatically counter to our own personal goals. Clearly, this is not the case with every member of the stronger sex! Its as if its impossible to become improved by change, impossible to be beneficially motivated by others. I think both are absolutely asinine perspectives! I usually see these ideas coming from…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 12:44 AM
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Good for you <3 shedding these internally imposed pressures is a difficult yet beautiful process. I'm excited for you and cheer you on!
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 12:21 AM
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Head on over to our sister sub r/femininenotfeminist! We discuss beauty over there 😊🎀
/r/RedPillWives27/08/19 03:55 PM
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I’ve gotten good at leaving him be! My next goals are: to stop saying “sure” and instead meaningfully say either “Yes!” or “Absolutely, [express excitement]!” in an effort to be more commital and intentional be an undistracted listener think more before I speak so I can hold his attention better
/r/RedPillWives26/08/19 02:23 AM
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u/plumgem and u/astroviridae pretty well nailed it but I’ll point you to our stickied post for some background :)
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 04:52 PM
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He’s not into you. He is dodging all your attempts to escalate, and by the sound of it you’re making him pretty uncomfortable. Let him be and move on 😊 Edit to add: No need to confront him, just Homer Simpson into the bushes.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 03:02 PM
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Hey! Join us over in r/femininenotfeminist for the rest of our August Health Challenge!
/r/RedPillWives20/08/19 01:44 AM
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Yay you two 😊♥️ He seems like an act of service/physical touch person. If you don’t do those two for him, defo start! Little things like showering together and washing his hair for him, where you can combine the two, will be key! Try to keep a hand on him while he drives, and even things like having a glass of water next to his favorite spot and unlacing his shoes for him when he gets home can pack a love wallop 😊
/r/RedPillWives17/08/19 04:15 AM
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I’ll add to this! He does this stuff for you specifically because he thinks it communicates his gratitude and respect. Why does he do these things specifically? Is it because it’s the love language you use with him, that you respond best to, or because it’s what he likes to give, or what he likes to receive? I think it’s best to gracefully accept what he is giving. It’s possible that worrying about you is causing him more fatigue than the things he is actually doing! It’s wise to limit how much …
/r/RedPillWives17/08/19 02:38 AM
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I obsessively pinned images of home decor until finding a style that worked for us. He prefers slightly more architectural and sleek looks mixed with eclectic colorful pieces, and I prefer ornate vintage French and Mediterranean looks, and so I carefully mix these, deferring primarily to his tastes in his bathroom and our bedroom. I use Facebook marketplace and Nextdoor to find vintage pieces I could never afford at an antique store or auction. I’m curious about the idea of using rugs to better …
/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 04:29 PM
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That sounds like a great goal! 😊
/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 11:48 AM
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Oooooooh good plan!
/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 11:48 AM
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Putting away laundry sucks! The only way I stay on it is not allowing myself to reload the dryer until the dried laundry is done. I’m pretty motivated that way but I have zero meritorious distractions!
/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 11:47 AM
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I feel this!
/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 11:46 AM
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There is no reason! Good goal 😊
/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 11:46 AM
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We talked on the phone every morning on his way to work, made great use of our visits. It was hard but worth it! Closing the distance was tough at first, only in the sense that I wanted him all the time and he still requires a little alone time being an introvert! But we got even better at loving each other FAST and it’s been bliss. 10192881010101/10 would do again 😊
/r/RedPillWives16/08/19 11:45 AM
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Our cat! He is adept at rearranging counters for us if he is displeased with our tidiness! I like scheduling small gatherings on a frequent enough basis to stay motivated. Having a French press makes the morning slower, too! I’ve also noticed how much less peaceful it is to sleep/nap when the house is in disarray. The way I prefer to dress at home also keeps me honest. I like wearing refined vintage nightgowns and pretty robes and it feels very out of context when it looks slovenly inside! I als…
/r/RedPillWives14/08/19 03:03 PM
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Ahhhhh! Keep fighting the good fight!!! We were LD for four years! Things are very different now yeah. I think you’re right in general and especially in LDR context! When you’re both going through something maybe it makes sense to want more positive reinforcement though :)
/r/RedPillWives12/08/19 04:36 AM
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Ooooh that’s a good point! I hadn’t thought of it that way! How’d you come to that?
/r/RedPillWives12/08/19 03:59 AM
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I love this! So glad your shift and self awareness were successful! Shows that you have him room to help and support you ♥️ this is so heart warming! I need to kiss my husband about it now haha!
/r/RedPillWives11/08/19 01:49 PM
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I am essentially Tinkerbell. I die without attention. This charms my husband often, but there are times he needs more space. As a physical touch love language, I am touching him quite constantly which can be a distraction. My goal for the week is to respect his personal space more, particularly while he is immersed in a book or hobby.
/r/RedPillWives11/08/19 05:44 AM
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Yayyy happy New Year! I was waylaid with food poisoning on Sunday so my 2019 goal setting is behind! I'm really happy with 2018 progress. I forgot to set a mission word, but I've been allowed to accomplish so much! I've grown a lot in faith. I've embraced more water attributes, largely because of my man and life circumstances in general. Our relationship is continually strengthening. I've learned a lot about cooking and lined out a great routine for domestic tasks that works great when I stick t…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/19 04:45 PM
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So unless there's more you aren't telling us about, this sounds like a challenge isolated to the bedroom. I wouldn't be hasty to say the marriage is failing <3 It's good that you are both each other's exclusive source of sexual stimulation, and this is definitely a very forward suggestion, but consider discussing bringing some solo sessions back into the mix. I wonder if the home fires aren't burning because you guys are both so methodical and regimented about it. It's become a chore instead of …
/r/RedPillWives10/12/18 09:11 PM
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I hope he gets a kick out of it! Glad it gave you a giggle 😊
/r/RedPillWives12/11/18 11:49 PM
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Oh no! I’m glad he dodged that and I hope she’s on an upward trajectory ♥️
/r/RedPillWives12/11/18 11:48 PM
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Loved this article! Not revolutionary by any stretch of the imagination, but a pleasant read that describes pretty aptly a lot of what we believe here ♥️
/r/RedPillWives12/11/18 11:24 AM
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I don't know that this is or isn't an abusive situation with your husband, but I am concerned. His reaction seems a bit over the top, even if this incident was the straw that broke the camel's back so to say. It might suit to seek a therapist/counselor to talk things through with, to get a better read on the situation. I think it is worth talking with a professional about your personal development, and also to determine if this is likely to be a relationship that could result in emotional and/or…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/18 07:23 PM
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Hi, and welcome! Head on over to r/femininenotfeminist for some input on style/beauty :) it’s our sister sub! You may get a little bit of blow back, the way you’ve phrased your question and the newness of your account... people might think you’re trolling but I’m assuming you aren’t 🙂 Incorporating red pill theory in a relationship is possible for any couple in any scenario. Being the breadwinner as the girlfriend/fiancée/wife =\= being blue pill 😊 If your description and understanding of yourse…
/r/RedPillWives31/10/18 03:14 PM
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Haha we are a slept army 😜 no need to take it down!
/r/RedPillWives29/10/18 03:35 PM
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Hi and welcome! We typically don’t allow brand new members of our community to promote their own content. However this content is very much in line with things we discuss here. If you plan on posting again in the future, please feel free to interact here with other users on other posts and discussion threads 😊💓
/r/RedPillWives29/10/18 03:32 PM
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Vulnerability is the correct response, but being vulnerable =\= forcing or allowing yourself to cry. Let’s assume the man has been properly vetted, and is a high value man who more than merits submitting to and following. This man likely won’t fly off the rails for no reason, for the most part anything that angers him is a matter that should be attended to seriously. In this case, being vulnerable will allow you to get to the heart of the conflict, open yourself up to understand what he’d like t…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/18 12:22 PM
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u/glitterchild I also think there’s a risk of waiting for perfection before you ovary up and get out there. No one is READY to meet the love of their life. I think to a degree when you meet your person, you’ll always set your personal sights a bit higher each day so you can be better for them, better with them. You’re personal development is never over, but you should be confidently satisfied in your person otherwise you’ll self sabotage.
/r/RedPillWives15/10/18 03:03 PM
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I’m sure you’ve read this but I wanted to make it accessible again 😊 I think a monk mode phase would be good if: you feel like your current SMV and RMV might turn away a man you’d be willing to commit to. you are seriously going to address the issues you believe are preventing you from securing a man (if you’re just going to dick around and not get serious and honest with yourself and put in the work, you’re just letting opportunities pass by... possibly in fear of committing to the whole proces…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/18 02:59 PM
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For me it depends on how much I am invested in a person? If it’s a person I’ve always been and aspire to stay very close to, I’ll be more likely to give advice. I also know not to give advice to some kinds of friends. Like you can often just tell if it would or wouldn’t be welcome, if you’ll just end up making an enemy. Usually I try not to befriend people who are so combative against their men, or who are clueless about the kind of joy and levity they can bring to their man’s life if they’d man…
/r/RedPillWives12/10/18 02:02 AM
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So housework is one of those things that can easily cause strife. I’m pro cleaning service, or making just a once a week time of it together. There are things I refuse to do that I can’t.. high shelves, changing sheets, shaking out rugs. Whatever. The letting it go to shit method never works with most things. Ever been in a frat house? Men don’t often, generally, care. The pristine home is OUR standard, not theirs.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/18 01:08 PM
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Great question! You’re also welcome to post over at our sister sub r/femininenotfeminist which is our space for discussing style and beauty! 💓 Congrats, by the way!!!
/r/RedPillWives26/09/18 11:55 AM
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So glad you've found and love these :)
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 09:38 PM
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What an awesome idea! TBH I often forget about libraries, which is pretty shameful. I was thinking about hitting bookstores to leaf through recipes but this would be awesome! Awesome recommendation! I can't wait to dig in!!! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 09:34 PM
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In that case, sign me up lol
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 08:21 PM
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How AWESOME! My mom has one from this line, or maybe even as old as 1950's as well! It's iconic!
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 08:04 PM
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That is the COOLEST THING EVER! 10/10 asking for this for Christmas if I don't cave and buy it sooner!
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 07:57 PM
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Oh yay how fun! Let us know how it goes!
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 07:53 PM
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How awesome! I am working on this now as well. Just recording stuff I know to make and finding recipes that other people talk about. I plan to eventually make my own hard copy of these recipes organized scrapbook style. I think that once I successfully try a recipe from a cookbook, and make changes to it based on his/my preferences, I'll record them anew in my own recipe book. How do you go about finding recipes? Do you start with a full dish idea, or an ingredient, a nationality...?
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 07:53 PM
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I don't have any cookbooks yet! I'm undecided if I want to get some now, or wait to put them on our wedding registry. I have tried the chocolate chip cookie recipe from one of the America's Test Kitchen cookbooks and LET ME TELL YOU, SISTER, this recipe is MAGIC. So I'm highly interested in that series! I love how they dig into food science so much... it's exciting to me and I think my man will trust that cookbook more than another given they try sooooo many variations of each recipe until they …
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 07:48 PM
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It’s so important! I think this kind of thing really makes it easier for our men to be there for us and to become more attuned to our needs, so that they don’t waste energy trying to read our minds. Go you ❤️
/r/RedPillWives14/09/18 01:34 PM
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Yay! Good for you!!!
/r/RedPillWives14/09/18 01:33 PM
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Idk that it’s from a book, but if you search for the different archetypes on this sub you’ll find the posts!
/r/RedPillWives14/09/18 12:33 PM
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In lieu of the four archetypes, I’m trying to embrace a goal in all areas! COURTESAN I’d like to keep our calendar filled with exciting, fun activities that he won’t have to plan or know about. Whenever we have a free evening I’d like us to get in the car and give him the GPS and just enjoy stimulating new experiences! MADONNA I’m doing my 12 week NT read through and hoping to be able to support him in his faith with the things I learn as well as becoming a woman with more religious knowledge an…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/18 10:53 AM
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My fiancé is a gamer, and now I casually play with him and his friends. It’s been SO good for my nerves, now that I’m competent. I went from being pretty against video games in general, to playing a solid half hour most evenings before bed to help shut my mind down and be social with him and his people :) color me shocked! I hope that once we have a larger apartment or house I’ll facilitate game nights for us all. I’ll do a huge spread of all kinds of meat and bar snacks and beverages, have the …
/r/RedPillWives25/08/18 12:40 PM
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I’m also scared of looking like a fool This, to me, seems like the crux of the challenge that you have control over, and by focusing on addressing this specific facet you may crack the whole code. Relationships succeed when people have respect, but they (IMO) are doomed to fail without vulnerability. Be willing to be the fool. Make good choices and all that, but by worrying about being made a fool, you’ll sort of always have one foot out of the relationship. So double down, and be vulnerable. Wh…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/18 12:35 AM
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I know you’re against it, but online dating can work insanely well. I met my fiancé on eharmony without even really trying to, which still blows my mind. At this point, take advantage of a resource that will amplify your efforts to date. The way I see it, people of value keep themselves busy spending time doing things that matter to them (so they frequent places that reflect their values). Their time is also precious, and so it makes sense that they’d like to screen potential romantic candidates…
/r/RedPillWives14/08/18 12:27 PM
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So this bit from the 5 Love Languages website explains Quality Time, but it strikes me as if it’s written for/by female. If you’re an extrovert or your man is slightly more introverted, this “side by side time” concept is one you’ll need to learn sooner rather than later!
/r/RedPillWives11/08/18 04:23 AM
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I sort of do this folding method myself (for our underwear) and now am doing our whole dresser this way. LOVE IT! I’m curious about the other practices in this method. Has anyone else successfully or unsuccessfully implemented KonMari techniques??
/r/RedPillWives23/07/18 02:31 AM
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... our relationship was the best it has ever been when he was briefly the breadwinner. Oh, yay, this will be insightful! He loaned me money, and he paid for holidays. If we ate out it was on him and, a few times, he even bought me clothes. Oh. Oh, it was the best because he did shit for you, that's all. Spare me. I hated it, and he moaned a bit, but, deep down, I knew he felt like he was finally living up to a warped societal pressure to be 'the man of the house'. He has even gone as far as to …
/r/RedPillWives09/07/18 02:24 PM
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Aaaaaah! I had no idea that was even an option 😂👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
/r/RedPillWives01/07/18 06:46 PM
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😧😧😧😧 you are amazing. Oh my gosh!!!
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 02:30 AM
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Oh no! It’s funny, because I picture the anger and relief and glee, but it’s also sad because I know a lot of work goes into pinning lol I have two Pinterest accounts so I’ll probably delete one set of boards haha
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 12:40 AM
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That's awesome! I'll check out fiver. I'm thinking about also setting up my own public speaking/interviewing coaching business. I'm great at it, and it'd probably be a popular service where I live. Craigslist creeps me out but I'm open to it maybe??
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:56 PM
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That's a good point about it not being worth it. I think in a more urban area with more shorter distance jobs it could make sense for some people, to hit the early am to work/to meetings crowd and the lunch crowd, but idk. I also don't feel like entirely safe with the idea of being a driver myself haha
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:54 PM
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AMAZING!!!! I used to love drinking raw milk but now that I'm sexually active, despite the IUD, I just don't want to risk it. I cannot wait to make bread, but also I have a bread addiction and should probably never make bread hahaha I'll look into Ghee!!! Sounds amazing!!!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:53 PM
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Totally! I'm only just now starting to talk to some family members who still sell different MLM's. For years all the conversations were dominated by it, and it's just.. no. I'm happilly subbed to r/antiMLM haha
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:51 PM
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We are obsessed with both sizes of rubber spatulas. Also, I NEED these bright spring, animal themed ones so badly. My style statement totally applies to kitchen utensils haha But they're so helpful for mixing everything from baked goods to stirfries to sauces. They get into the corners and keep stuff from burning. AND THE ONE'S FROM WS HAVE AN OCTOPUS like what more do you want? Lysol wipes and Windex wipes are EVERYTHING. He got me hooked on sink plinks! I plink the sink every other day, someti…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:46 PM
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So basically any skills you have can be used. Are you good at organizing a home and storage? You could offer to organize people's closets, garages, pantries, home offices, etc. Great at babysitting? You could take on a few little ones to watch as needed or a couple times a week, or even hire on at a church nearby to babysit during adult small groups or other events. Some stores might hire seasonal part time help (like garden flower nursery places that are really busy in late spring, or home deco…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:14 PM
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Aaaaaahahahahaha! You're amazing! How do you get people to pay you to do their resumes, and do hair? I do resumes, hair, and nails really well but usually just for friends, and I never feel comfortable asking for pay aside from materials or just like coffee.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:07 PM
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hahaha how awesome! It makes a lot of sense. Seeing my dad be so proud about doing everything himself (which he can, but sometimes I'd rather he just pay someone with only the one skillset so he is more available for fun stuff) my boyfriend and I are both pro outsourcing for important home repairs. I did read it!!!! OMG so awesome you got to have your wedding there!!! Aaaah!!! I want to collaborate on a pinterest board with you about this.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:03 PM
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That's adorable!!! And so interesting. I mean she does talk about sex a lot, but since she's so small and cute and Asian and SEVEN MONTHS PREGNANT it has a distinctly different vibe than Amy Schumer. Just because I hate disliking people who are popular to dislike, I choose not to have bad feelings about Amy Schumer haha but I get why people dislike her, sort of. I don't get why people choose to be so passionate about it though. As for Ali Wong, definitely watch Baby Cobra before Hard Knock Wife!…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:01 PM
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... are all her daughters really named Mary?? I have questions haha I recommend not watching cable television and using online subscription services? haha I haven't found anything yet that I really love. Ali Wong's comedy specials are good, but there are only two of those.. I'll check out that app! Good for you omg! I hate running with the power of ten thousand suns. No idea how I used to run track. Gah. I have so much respect for people who love it. It also baffles me. My boyfriend will casuall…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:41 PM
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Hahahaha that's so endearing :) all of it! Changing the sheets is one of the few tasks I always, every time, ask for his help with. He's got a king sized Tempur-Pedic arranged with the headboard and driver's side side flush to the wall, and I physically can't put the sheets on myself lol but he's definitely getting more sheet-changing workouts than he used to now that I'm around. I've been trickle talking to him about hiring staff for everything, I wish it was his idea but coming from middle cla…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:23 PM
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I'm so sorry your loved ones have such battles to fight. That's a lot of motivation.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:11 PM
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So glad the timing aligned that you could be there for the noodle without competing responsibilities! I bet that was rather impactful in helping you be even more confident in your decision to stay at home! It's absolutely an adjustment. I see my boyfriend's dad and step mom going through the same kinds of challenges, they are in their sixties and married within the last ten years, and was worried I'd have similar ones. I met him just before my junior year of college, but being out of state and a…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:06 PM
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Eeee go you two! Welcome to the party, excited to see you around!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:45 PM
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I am so happy for you both, and the peanut!!! That's such an interesting challenge, I'm so happy for you two that you did what it took to be together, and I'm sorry it's created a default setting you're unhappy with. I want to reassert that being feminine doesn't always manifest itself uniformly from one woman to the next, and I say that so you don't pressure yourself to adopt things in an order that doesn't make sense for you. For the most part, I think all women who endeavor to cultivate a fem…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:45 PM
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Yay you! I've always loved reading your input and am so excited you feel embraced here and at FNF :))) I can't wait to trade ideas about being confident in the dating game (I still consider myself dating even though I'm only dating the one perfect man) and staying attractive to high value men! I think it's a lot to reconcile, but most especially when there is one foot in the mainstream (I imagine your career puts you alongside other professionals and other women who are very feminist), and when …
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:32 PM
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Ahahaha! So glad you're here!!!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:24 PM
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You two sound like A BLAST omg! What is C25K?? Are there any media sources you've found in addition to this subreddit that are more tolerable and conducive to the ideals you like to implement?
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 12:22 PM
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This sub is pretty much the only place I am open about my convictions surrounding marriage and lifestyle though. Same! Glad you've found this space and look forward to your commentary!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 03:02 AM
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AAAAAH go you two!! And your 8 children!!! I'd love to hear any and all the input you'd be willing to share about literally any topic haha it sounds like you've shoehorned in so much life experience in a short number of years :)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:57 AM
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You sound so fun, lovely, and like you lead a rich dynamic life! I also am hoping to keep charging the polarity in my relationship, which seems to be something that you and your man might be uniquely challenged to sustain given how much time you spend together/near each other! Working from home is so tough, the approach to domestic responsibilities is unique in that situation and I'm excited to trade ideas!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:55 AM
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I am so happy for you that you've taken such a daunting life experience and let it, and your man, galvanize you to strive for such an important, and personal, cause. Welcome!!!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:53 AM
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Your life sounds so dreamy, so happy for you and the direction you are headed in! Glad you're here to soak up all the good vibes that are hard to find in modern society :)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:51 AM
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I'm so jealous re househunting! It's such an exciting adventure, I'm curious to hear about how you guys are approaching that challenge since it's a milestone coming soon for us and probably lots of other users here! I look forward to seeing your feedback on homemaking and cooking!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:50 AM
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Congratulations!!!! Can't wait to hear your feedback as we post more about homemaking and scheduling!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:48 AM
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You guys are amazing, omg! Yay!!! I look forward to more homemaking and cooking content in particular! Challenge ACCEPTED! ;)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:47 AM
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Yayyyy! Welcome to the party, and congratulations on such awesome life developments!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:46 AM
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u/2-3-or-not-2-3 haha yes! I showed him some bits, curiosity got the best of me, and his response was roughly, "People need to read this??? WTH?"
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:45 AM
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You're the best!!! I'm excited to hear more about your adventures and ideas, and thanks for adding so much value <3
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:43 AM
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Awesome comment! I second all of it. It's easier to hire help than it is to get a divorce, so I fully support doing whatever necessary to bring more help online, especially in areas of your jurisdiction. I'll add that my experience is totally based on our individual preferences, which is likely the case with most couples. My boyfriend is 100% content not to deep clean, dust, iron, change the sheets, or use the good lighting. He's also content to let the plants go to waste if they look a bit off,…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 02:39 AM
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I'm surreptitiously preparing to move in with my boyfriend when the time arrives (we're not even engaged yet, hence the stealth). One of the big but unimportant tasks I keep failing to address as a part of this process is cutting down and managing all the random bits of memories I've collected over the years. Photos, cards from relatives living and deceased, and other bits from all the adventures I've been on so far. I've always had the intent of starting an awesome scrapbook full of actual piec…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/18 06:08 PM
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I’ve brought lots of events and activities into his life over the course of our relationship, and he does not keep a planner/calendar. We’ve tried events on the iPhone calendar, Google Docs of upcoming dates and gift lists, and I set up a monthly and weekly calendar spread with a whiteboard for notes on our fridge but even that has been hit or miss for him. This week we had a few events he kept mixing up, so this morning he told me to download this app. He had already made our profiles, and load…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/18 11:45 AM
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I love parties, and I can’t think of a better reason to throw one than hitching myself to my soulmate forever. I want to do a super festive wedding! I imagine the guest list shouldn’t be more than 200. I want to have a gorgeous and richly meaningful ceremony and reception meal. I want there to be hookahs and small sitting areas and amazing music (a HUGE variety of all kinds of different stuff to dance to) and lots of champagne and snacks while we party all day. Night, whatever. I want to make a …
/r/RedPillWives13/05/18 12:03 PM
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I only cook for two of us so keep that in mind. He buys food at work (they have an amazing cafeteria) so I only do dinner and sometimes breakfast. I spend fifteen or so whipping up eggs or smoothies or the like for him, and dinner usually takes me about an hour? So I think the best option for you would be to endeavor to do more casseroles/quiches in the morning, or stick with simple high protein meals that don’t involve lots of ingredients and mixing and baking. Maybe prep lunches in a crockpot …
/r/RedPillWives01/05/18 11:46 AM
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Yes!!! I finally put away the Christmas tree (yay Spring Cleaning! hahaha I'm the worst!) and am so sad. I want to find us a nice indoor tree that doesn't require more than bright indirect light and put the Christmas lights on it. I love lights. So much! Now that I'm keeping the house more put together, I plan on buying myself some cut arrangements, and eventually asking Z for them. I need to earn them before saying, "I want flowers," I think :) I think u/littlegoosegirl posted an awesome write …
/r/RedPillWives06/04/18 01:00 PM
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This is something I've been struggling with a lot since graduating. Not having school, and being back in the Midwest where the weather is not at all an indication of what season you're in, I feel a bit disjointed from time. I'm excited to use things like traditions and decor and scents and style to mark the calendar.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/18 12:26 PM
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This is an aaaaaawesome ritual, oh my gosh! I want to do this!!!
/r/RedPillWives06/04/18 12:24 PM
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MY HEART
/r/RedPillWives06/04/18 12:23 PM
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Hahaha exactly! So much fun. I think I’ll always strive to be an adoptive Bengal mom. We adopted him from a girl who didn’t realize cats were prohibited in her apartment, and it’s amazing how much he has blossomed with all the love and activity. .... and cheese. Edit to add: here is my surly little darling!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/18 08:36 PM
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I love it! It's so important to mark time with pleasant experiences like this... so happy for you all!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/18 07:30 PM
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I love all of this!!! So excited for rituals with the little ones. I think teaching children to sit still while you read to them (longer books over time) and then doing the same as they learn to read is SO important. I know I'm probably rather critical of this, not being a babysitter anymore or having kids myself, but I'm always shocked at how many parents don't seem to teach their children to sit still, be quiet, or be thoughtfully verbal. I'm absolutely pro rowdy rambunctious fun of course, bu…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/18 07:29 PM
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AWESOME STUFF! I love rituals and routines. I like that this discusses the distinction between religion and ritual... for me, I've always felt I'm more of a spiritual person than a religious person, even when I had regularly routinized church services/small groups/prayer/meditation. Morning ritual... he sits up in bed to read, while I snuggle him within an inch of our lives. He used to get out of bed and go read elsewhere, but now seems to like this. That or I just make it entirely impossible to…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/18 07:25 PM
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That is SO cute. I positively adore it! My boyfriend is rather hands off with my cat... he thinks I pester Leo (my Bengal cat) too much (which is probably true...) so he opts to just chill. I'll often glance over to wherever Z is and find Leo laying next to him, receiving all the good scratches, and I just positively melt. Something about men with animals... <3
/r/RedPillWives05/04/18 02:03 PM
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Yes! The placeholders do serve the same purpose, and are not an ideal permanent solution IMO. I think I may train myself to use them temporarily while I'm "detoxing" from cursing. I grew up in the military and it was always so comical to me, hearing my dad's friends slipping up and using such colorful language. I still enjoy the window into the male world today, seeing intelligent men freely expressing themselves aggressively. It may go without saying, but I do agree that there should be boundar…
/r/RedPillWives25/03/18 03:16 AM
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I like this as a transition! I'm glad it works for you. For me, being shamed into better behavior is rather effective. E.g. when I'm being senselessly emotional during certain points in my cycle, am unwell, or whatever, the best way to get me back on track is to be made fun of. It makes everything more lighthearted. But I so see what you mean... I'd feel rather ridiculous saying "Oh fudge," but that'd be a very helpful behavioral tool! Thanks for your thoughtful reply! :)
/r/RedPillWives25/03/18 02:56 AM
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Thanks for the recommendation, reminder actually! I've been meaning to rewatch DA since they took that break... I used to watch in high school or early college I think! I definitely agree, it's difficult to listen to profane attention mongers. It's just not the look.
/r/RedPillWives25/03/18 02:54 AM
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Ooooh! Bringing class into the discussion is certainly far more interesting than the conversation I was originally hoping for. Specifically avoiding words used by proles I'd love to hear more of your thoughts on that if you have anything to add! Is it to get attention? A quick way to increase your value in a social setting? I love considering these potential reasons. Mindfulness is so imperative! I like critically evaluating the things that may prompt us to respond in certain ways.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/18 07:48 PM
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One approach I've had some success with lately is replacing a profane word with a more eloquent piece of vocabulary. "I'm sick of Lisa's bullshit," has become "I'm sick of Lisa's inane behavior." It does tend to make me feel I'm perceived as a bit too serious, even high handed, when I do this, though, so all things in moderation. If it's not worth doing this, then likely I don't need to be talking about whatever negative thing would prompt me to curse. I've seen the Shakespearean curses, which a…
/r/RedPillWives23/03/18 07:44 PM
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Love this! There are definitely situations and relationships that create context for profanity :) Also I don't think the perfectly timed f-bomb should be underestimated. Can be quite impactful if the conditions are right.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/18 07:31 PM
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It went really well! It ended up prompting me through the process of some really important introspection. I'm a helper dog, and I've got some paradigms to shift regarding my own sense of worth and value. These things absolutely affect my relationship, how I perceive my needs, and how I perceive him. Un-training these thinking patterns and putting new ones in their place is a tough uphill climb, but this challenge has really helped me see things more clearly while also giving me some key action i…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/18 03:05 PM
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So exciting! Keep up the awesome work!!!
/r/RedPillWives11/03/18 02:54 PM
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It can so affect policy and culture! It’s totally their purpose for conducting research. They should have research to substantiate their claims. They obviously did surveys and studies to prove a lot of obvious things to try and give their views weight. This is the first step in all fields... even though it’s obvious that married couples spend more time at home, for example, they have to collect evidence so they can cite the assertion and move on to the next topic. Who is countering this research…
/r/RedPillWives05/03/18 02:16 PM
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u/fingerpuppets13 I second all this! This post can be interpreted as an authentic and well meaning fetish, or something less ideal. Without being able to discern which, our ability to give advice is hamstrung. I think you could rely on some intentional clothing malfunctions to appease in the short term. When you stand up from dinner, let the hem of your dress reveal your lace top thigh high. Let your bra sneak out of your wrap dress. Wait til he sees, then correct the mishap and move forward in …
/r/RedPillWives01/03/18 08:23 PM
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I’m curious too! My first-fifth preferred love language is physical touch, basically, so I’ve tried a few things. I’ve tried to cut down on being naked around him (It’s always been my goal in life to be nude or near nude as much of the time as possible) and that was just odd to him because he knew it wasn’t authentic. I also tried to touch him less and touch him in less high level places, which had the same effect. I’m just a handsy exhibitionist I guess.
/r/RedPillWives01/03/18 12:54 PM
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I giggled out loud at burritos. Fun useless fact.. in my copywriting class we had to do a series of chipotle ad’s and given their support of the 🏳️‍🌈 community I made a burrito ad for gays that was all a horrendously hilariously graphic phallic burrito situation. Now I want a burrito. Or seven.
/r/RedPillWives01/03/18 12:51 PM
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Step 0 is so important! Since red pill men, or men with red pill women, are the gatekeepers to sex (since we make a point to acquiesce to sex virtually always) it is our responsibility to first read the room. This method of seduction ensures a “soft start” to sex that he can smoothly stop if you misread the room. It also increases the likelihood of him saying yes. Being energetic and emotionally expressive is also a huge key. It demonstrates the vast polarity between you two, makes it apparent t…
/r/RedPillWives01/03/18 01:38 AM
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I haven’t yet done this to the extent I would like. Some routine capsules I’d like to develop are listed and described below. Each system within the routine capsules will eventually have a concrete list of steps and timing that I’d be happy to share when I sort them out! Cleaning routines for when I am traveling a lot for work (laundry centric, so I can access my whole closet), sick/on my period (bare minimum with a strong focus on clean and less focus on clutter in the kitchen with more focus o…
/r/RedPillWives28/02/18 12:59 PM
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So smart to keep carbs in check toward the end of the cycle! I love spring cleaning! Especially after an aggressive New Years resolution situation in which I often over or underestimate what I can and should do!
/r/RedPillWives28/02/18 12:45 PM
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I’d love to see what you use! I’ve put the lunar calendar in my bullet journal and also use Ovia—- so eerily accurate and helpful, respectively!
/r/RedPillWives28/02/18 12:43 PM
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Ring light is a great idea! I used to send selfies all the time while we were long distance but I've gotten sooooo out of practice. Now that I'm around, I don't like totally ruining the surprise before he gets home. I'll see how crafty I can get with mini reveals that still pique his curiosity before he gets home!
/r/RedPillWives20/02/18 07:41 PM
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I made a substantial mistake this past week, but it did reinstate a very important lesson for me! I need to listen to him, trust him, believe him, not project my feelings and worries onto him. My heart was in the right place when I had this little emotional come apart, but that doesn't make it right or okay to settle for sub par behavior, or results! Support isn't always an active thing... sometimes it's passive and still, and that's a tough thing for me to learn and reckon with, but I'm excited…
/r/RedPillWives20/02/18 07:40 PM
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So fun week was great! I bought an Xbox to join him and his brothers/friends in their favorite video game. He’s wanted me to do this for a while.. he’s introduced me to games that would teach me the right skills with story lines I could get behind and I felt ready enough and asked him to teach me this one. It’s called Smite and you essentially play and battle gods from nearly every pantheon. He’s super happy! Im not trying to let this new hobby run away with me.. I’d still much rather read or ad…
/r/RedPillWives09/02/18 01:12 PM
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Disclaimer... I can’t say whether or not the #metoo people were or weren’t raped or taken advantage of. I’m speaking to the overall issues with the quagmire of affirmative consent. There ARE people out there who do bad things, it’s not hard to listen for a clear yes/no. But I love this article. Dearly. Thanks for finding it u/Camille11325 Now, however, females have to go mano a mano with the male libido in a realm filled with indirection, embarrassment, and uncertainty. (I’m speaking very frankl…
/r/RedPillWives08/02/18 12:42 PM
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Amazing! There’s definitely a way to put him in his place without creating a dangerous situation. You just have to be more than he is, energy wise, if that makes sense. Good doge is still in there :)
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 05:03 PM
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So we went and danced to this song live and it. Was. Amazing. I love this band and this song always reminds me to be the life of his party, and to help him enjoy being the life of the party, too. I think given the burden on good men’s shoulders, and given they have a different play style, it’s important to give them room. Not to question them. Not to have demands about their behavior especially in off time. This song is about how he loves her for her fun, but how he’s also proud of her for contr…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 02:19 PM
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Love all of this!!!! I love intentionally striving to evoke particular feelings in people. It’s such a fun challenge that creates excellent habits while providing a great learning experience. When I’m leveling up here I like to focus on key interactions (before and after he goes to/gets home from work, decision making times etc) or just treat each interaction as an opportunity. I’m excited to hear more about how this becomes even more real throughout February!!!
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 01:07 PM
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Good on you for keeping your chin up!!! I googled neuralgia and it it sounds gnarly. You and your family are worth the effort, seriously good job. Try and eat healthy food before you get hungry so you don’t have to give in to hunger based temptation for snacks and goodies?
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 01:04 PM
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I feel you cost wise! I found a YouTube video with some scientist jimmy rigging together the box fan and hepa filter and was skeptical. I put it together when I was super sick and basically spent my last $20 bucks on it but it was soooo worth it. Especially since the actual HEPA filter machines are like over $100! Crazy how expensive allergies and asthma are. Yay! I sounded really high handed and didn’t mean to come across that way!!! I have a lot of animal training experience and it always blow…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 01:01 PM
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Yay! I’m not sure what your income is like but don’t be afraid to outsource where you can. Have someone deep clean biweekly for you, get a roomba. So if he’s that allergic to your animals this is a big big issue. I think you guys have likely had these conversations before but it is so uncomfortable to basically get a cold every time you wanna hang out. He knows your animals are important to you, and for him he is signing up not just for a woman but also animals and constant discomfort. I’m not t…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 02:16 AM
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The single most distressing thing to me about this story is that the only person with any agency in the story seems to be Aziz Ansari. The woman is merely acted upon. “I’m a strong feminist! I don’t know how to say no to a man!!!” Booooooo. Go home, Susan.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 03:29 PM
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n other words, the lament about the Peter Pan man-boys not desiring to achieve much in life, because there’s no reward for them in marriage, or the women are not choosing them, so therefore they don’t try too hard to better themselves, and this is understandable. In way then, this is saying that being able to get a nice female is a reason why young men would want to improve themselves or to become providers and have all the resources they need, instead of living at home with their parents and pl…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 03:23 PM
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I have a cat and we plan on having a dog eventually too and I’m already tired about the hair. We don’t live together yet but he just bought the most amazing vacuum ever which I have high hopes for. I went to his house one night and it was sitting there waiting in all its vacuum glory.. talk about foreplay lol
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 12:32 PM
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Ugh, animal hair. Preach! There’s liberation in clear directions. He’s made it easy by making his needs clear! You don’t have to wonder and that’s fun in of itself. So for fun, I’m trying to join him in his activities, be more relaxed about how he spends his time and being more of a giver in the sense that I don’t have to create a production but am instead receptive to what he would like to do with his time and attention if that makes sense :) I’m also going to pull the trigger more too... not w…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 01:30 AM
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This came across my Facebook feed. I dig it :) What I loved about living in Texas was how traditional living wasn’t frowned upon, but there was a welcoming tolerance of other ways of life even among the most traditional. I really miss it ❤️ anyway! (In the interest of the rules I have removed credit.) “While women march the streets of America, protesting for rights that they already have, allow me to applaud a way of life that has honored women in ways the rest of the world never has (for a very…
/r/RedPillWives24/01/18 08:29 PM
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Ooooh good overarching synopsis! Yes.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/18 07:34 PM
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It IS so perfect! It makes me so happy. My boyfriend has always taken a shine to them as a couple.
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 10:29 PM
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Glad the video came at an opportune moment! So this rule comes down to his honor, I think. I don’t get to make his decisions. I don’t decide for him that he is to good for me, or that I am a nuisance, or any other thing that would possibly motivate me to make a decision that affects us both by myself based on my own emotions/complexes. Basically, don’t self sabotage. Does that make sense? It has taken me years to begin to grasp what this truly means to be honest.
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 07:56 PM
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I love Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard. I like seeing a couple who at least appear to have a loving, supportive marriage and present a unified front. The video is short but it got me thinking about the rules my boyfriend set for us (..me) early on: no going to bed angry when your mind runs away with you, don’t run so far I cannot catch you do not make work for other people I decide what you are (not good enough, too much, etc.) and you can’t do that for me These have mitigated so many issues, or at…
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 06:20 PM
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I love this! I feel like the trend of resolutions cheapens the conversations my family and friends and I share at New Year, and the whole concept of establishing personal missions, visions, values, goals and intentions. I’m so excited for you! Great job hitting your goals and best wishes in maintaining and improving!
/r/RedPillWives02/01/18 04:47 PM
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I like this post a lot, especially as I reflect on this last year and envision the next one! I want to REALLY treat myself... bearing in mind all my roles, goals, and tendencies to ensure the choices I make truly reflect what I truly value... rather than what simply feels good.
/r/RedPillWives29/12/17 07:25 PM
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SO COOL! I think my genetic program is broken. In other words, I do question if I might be addicted to sex with/orgasms from my man. There is certainly such a thing as enough but no such thing as too much, for me anyway. With physical touch as my #1 love language, and some mundane and nonsensical emotional baggage, I am super sensitive to rejected sexual advances and a lack of affection after sex. We’ve figured out what works to appease us both but I am a total believer in maintenance sex. It br…
/r/RedPillWives28/12/17 06:01 AM
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Such a fun discussion! David Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence Theory has always been one of my favorites (in theory and practice), and I respond well to this as it makes me feel safe. He picks me apart and guides me accordingly, reinforcing to me how he can influence others, how he has numerous tools at his disposal to lead me, and how well he knows himself. This is a strong element of his leadership. He can be very manipulative and terrifying because of it, but it also cuts out a lot of wasted …
/r/RedPillWives28/12/17 05:24 AM
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Holidays are the best time of year to become a better woman. It’s like domestic red pill boot camp! All the things I’ve worked at all year (cooking, cleaning, beauty, time management and disposition) are harder to practice through the year. It seems impractical to do all these trial run skill sets without a direct need, and it wasn’t apparent how much progress I had/hadn’t made either. And then, December struck. We have four events down, seven to go. Here is what I have learned! Cooking a millio…
/r/RedPillWives24/12/17 05:33 PM
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I’m all in on this. I’m not a parent yet, and reserve the right to change my mind. Teaching kids consent and sex ed at a young age empowers them. The naiveté they lose after “the talk” is nothing compared to what they could keep if knowledge truly is power in potentially dangerous situations. Taking this too far could strain family relationships, but I would 2,000/10 rather risk that than children’s well being. Listen to your gut, be watchful, and teach your little nuggets to do the same. This i…
/r/RedPillWives23/12/17 05:22 AM
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Awesome tips! She has so many videos I can’t wait to watch! The random things she talks about (her fancy coffee cup) and the way she flits from topic to topic almost without completing a thought make her seem a bit disjointed.
/r/RedPillWives18/12/17 11:54 PM
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You’re so on point. Yes to all of it. I love that post! I remember reading it sometime around Labor Day. I just like her writing style a lot, too! I totally agree with her comments especially toward the latter half. My favorite is failing faster... that was a huge goal of mine in college and it was really advantageous. I think conversations esp about people should be productive? I think I’ve told you my issues with gossip in the past, overall and as a bonding technique. Like it just is so trashy…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/17 05:54 PM
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I was gifted tickets to an Escape Room last year and he LOVED it. I think experiences are generally the best way to go with men who have a lot of buying power and get spendy :) What is his love language? * Touch: study massage techniques, get him a nice set of many face/beard/body oils and lotions to give him a massage; do something extremely tactile like salsa lessons or couples yoga * Words: maybe a photo album, a book of poetry, a concert with a band whose lyrics he likes, a mixtape of songs …
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 02:31 PM
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Head to r/wicked_edge for shaving recs! I like gifting my man sample packs of shave soaps/after shaves/beard oils... less expensive and more of an experiment and therefore experience! You can get these and a decent shave kit (safety razor, blades, brush) for under $100! They do make sample kits of various blades, which is important (my man loooooves one particular blade he found in a sample pack). But you could also spend like hundreds if you got really extra. Going the affordable route is good …
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 02:23 PM
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Ooooooh a bunch of meaty man legs on display 😋😍👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 It’s shocking and demoralizing what is happening. It’s mind blowing that people would rather focus on “it shouldn’t happen” than “let’s fix this.” I have a new woman crus this Wednesday.
/r/RedPillWives05/12/17 06:11 PM
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I’ve been working on my style statement and beauty/skincare lately, and we both had our seasonal color analysis done recently! He listens to me rambling excitedly about this, and asks about it when I don’t. He likes how efficiently our shopping goes now and he gets excited to pick our colors bc as a red/green colorblind person the brights stick out to him handily. He likes his new wardrobe that we are building too and like ugh sooo hot lol He’s also started complimenting me with words directly f…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/17 03:58 PM
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I think here the culture is overall optimistic about living a fulfilling red pill life as a woman in a committed relationship, and there is a lot more eager, empowered enthusiasm about implementing red pill truths. As a result I think it’s quite friendly here :)
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 11:57 PM
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I love this! I always go back to my experiences training horses. When working a horse, it’s crucial to set them up for success for every step. I want the horse to turn right, so I essentially do everything to show them that turning right is the correct answer, and freedom from cuing and working lies through that door. I “close all the other doors” and leave the turn right “door” open. A few times, I erred and closed too many doors, leaving no correct doors for the horse to go through, making the…
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 11:55 PM
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It’s just so depressing and hilarious at the same time. Feminists seem to rage and talk a huge game about the movement being for all women everywhere but this shows fabulously how solipsistic feminism is. I appreciate when they don’t elbow their way in to “fix” a patriarchy that doesn’t directly concern them that they can’t comprehend... but it’s amazing how they undermine themselves so thoroughly and frequently. It almost makes me feel bas for them, just a little.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 06:10 AM
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So fabulous, and I totally agree.
/r/RedPillWives29/11/17 03:45 PM
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I think trying to be on the right side of history is a negative manifestation of vanity parading as morality... common in major groups here in the US. Alllll things in moderation for sure!
/r/RedPillWives21/11/17 05:11 PM
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Fascinating!!! I do worry about this. It’s useless and unfair to condemn the dead, and even the most elderly today, for things that were normal then that are wrong now. Like it shouldn’t need mentioning that slavery is of course unethical, and I am not minimizing those things. But other than making more informed decisions and curating history I think much of this condemnation is pointless. Its a circle jerk. I do however hope I can live a good life, have a good eulogy and impact, at least the be…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/17 04:43 PM
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This is fantastic! I’m excited to pour over the links in the morning but want to jump in with a few things now. Having the right physical posture goes a long way to cementing the right mental posture. For women struggling to be feminine rather than week, or who have a low dominance threshold, adopting these body language practices can help you along in your progress toward becoming a better woman for yourself and for your man. Dress well, test well. Mirroring is a delicate situation. There are s…
/r/RedPillWives17/11/17 03:38 AM
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So we were long distance for four years, only together during Christmas and summer break. I felt the same way back then! He didn’t like FaceTime and unnecessarily lengthy chats because to him it only highlighted our absences. It was a little heartbreaking to me, but I understood it. Accepted it although I could only see his side rather than actually feeling it authentically. Have more interesting things to talk about. Friendships, activities, and for shits sake your shared interests in STEM :) t…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/17 12:58 PM
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Stingray said all of it fabulously but I want to add. There is a masculine sphere, and a feminine sphere. Each relationship is a bit different, but from your reading of this sub you understand the areas where a woman is better designed to lead. Where you were already leading these areas... homemaking, emotional maintenance, maintenance sex, etc. you’ll need to lead even more decidedly and thoroughly while making it look easy. If he notices your effort more than your results here, it’ll only draw…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/17 12:37 PM
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Yes! So the warring people come decimate your village, killing men and keeping women. You cannot focus on all the losses, you’ll go insane, so you focus on your own little world so you don’t lose your marbles.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/17 03:57 PM
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My boyfriend and I got draped, and my field report is coming to FNF soon but I just had to share. It was exciting to me because, since we spend so much time together or with family, I have been seeing more of our differences lately. Not in the discord sense... but just awareness of our differences. Doing this draping, I saw our similarities again. "Are you going to wear a lot of pink now that you know you can?" "... fuck it. Yeah. The only downside would be putting up with my brother's digs, but…
/r/RedPillWives13/11/17 07:23 PM
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I've been feeling out how solipsism can be a good thing and it makes SO much sense. I never thought it could be a good thing until I considered how it's a survival method that women have been conditioned to since pre-history. I've obviously not seen or felt this myself, I've only see how solipsism makes me stupid and/or take things for granted. But knowing how seeing the world through a paper towel tube helps women stay sane when their surroundings are crumbling makes so much sense as a defense …
/r/RedPillWives13/11/17 07:17 PM
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I think interest, respect, and dread all make a woman put in effort. Interest and respect seem obvious now that we have touched on it, and I need to learn more about dread. The best experience I have with dread is probably my effort to be jealous of what I already have. I think gratitude is obviously important and an active part of my life... but if I wasn’t seeing his smile anymore, what lengths would I go to to get it back? That’s what I should do to keep his smile shining on me in the first p…
/r/RedPillWives11/11/17 06:30 AM
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Fascinating! Makes total sense.
/r/RedPillWives11/11/17 06:02 AM
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I love her, and I love how extra she is.
/r/RedPillWives03/11/17 02:50 PM
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Oooh, would you expand on this?
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 06:45 PM
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Boobs in Spanish :)
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 12:30 PM
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That's what I thought and I want to use it for that exact reason but I wanted to be sure it wasn't something else lol what other kinds of tetas can I make... (Y)
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 10:15 AM
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So he can't read your mind. Isn't it better that you know when you need help, that he is receptive to your request, and accommodates that? There are really solid ideas already mentioned, but the way things work now actually sounds pretty ideal. You do your thing, he doesn't step on your toes, and he steps in when you need help :)
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 03:31 AM
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(.Y.) What does this mean? Not an important question, but I'm curious :) I love this idea. It's a small but thoughtful loving thing, just like his helpful assistance with a task from time to time.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 03:29 AM
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YES! The decompression thing is so important. I find it a tough balance sometimes. My boyfriend likes to think about work and untangle the web of incoming tasks, current projects, and future challenges but he can easily fixate on it, and once he has untangled things mentally and shut off work mode he doesn't like to turn it back on. The rhythm I aim for now is that he gets home, we discuss his day, then I leave him (basically disengage lovingly and happily) to have his mind to himself. I'm open …
/r/RedPillWives11/10/17 05:41 PM
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Softening the startup is SO important. If you can’t put down the accusations, blame, judgement, and negative feelings you’ll never have a productive conversation. I think couples who don’t soften startup are essentially more invested in making their partners feel the negative repercussions of the mistake than they are invested in reclaiming common ground. The competitive mindset is another deal breaker, in my opinion. Marriage isn’t a competition, it’s a partnership. You are on the same team, an…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/17 05:37 PM
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Sometimes I feel like I'm "spoiling" him but what's good for him is good for us. I love this and agree! I know how often my man makes me feel totally spoiled, and I get so excited when I have the chance to make him feel that way. You're so right.. what's good for him is good for us. Also... tell me more about your cappuccino making? We just have a regular coffee maker but I would love to up my game here!
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 09:17 AM
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I'm primarily focused on discussing/learning about women's actions to improve themselves and their relationships, because my goals include becoming the best girlfriend I can be. I picked a good man who values my well being and happiness, I value his happiness and enjoy it, and often find my own happiness by first seeking his. I have influence there, over what I can do to make him and myself happy, and I don't find much good, in personal practice or in theory, in trying to expand my influence ove…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 09:15 AM
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I'll comment with other ideas later but I think patience is a big one. Patience while I sort myself out, while I try to learn new things, while he's upset with me. He's never once lost his patience and that is one of his greatest contributions in my opinion. Patience, protection and other things for me are acts of service not lightly done. I've never really found dissatisfaction with the love languages because I think they're so open ended but well defined concepts. I consider all of the languag…
/r/RedPillWives02/10/17 04:52 PM
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It's a great way to block out the stresses and pressures of everyday life and really connect. I love that you two do this! And YAY Christmas! That's his favorite holiday and I'm excited to do what I can to make it even more fun for him :) Thanksgiving is my preferred holiday. Gratitude, no expectations, bountiful harvests.... my aunt is hosting but I've got so many ideas I don't know what to do with them all!!!
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 05:24 PM
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In the original linked post, I found some things to help myself clarify what I can do to live a joyful reality. This is not a political action, at least not in the modern sense of the word. Instead, it is made up of human actions. I don't think these actions need to be grandiose... if they were, they wouldn't be repeatable actions that can sustainably become part of a lifestyle. Indeed, when looking through their simplicity, it becomes apparent that meals constitute a fundamental part of any soc…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 05:21 PM
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This sounds so cool! So it's basically meal prepping foods that are really hard to meal prep?
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 03:57 PM
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Tell us more! I've put my steak Caesar salad in a mason jar because I was out of Tupperware before, but I don't think that's what you're on about ;)
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 01:49 PM
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I'm excited about this! I'm not very active here and this is the first thing that's really caught my interest in a big way, in a long while. Looking forward to this!!!! :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:05 AM
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I agree! It's why I cut out the Christian bits in what I quoted. But I suppose that does motivate some people, and whatever inspires women to make better choices for their men, their families, and themselves I'm willing to work with :) Glad you enjoyed some of her points!
/r/RedPillWives27/09/17 05:30 PM
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Hahahaha my bad! One of my favorite celebrities has "Chacki" in her name so I thought that was correct. There goes my blonde moment for the month!
/r/RedPillWives27/09/17 12:18 AM
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There TOTALLY is another way. I'm really glad you're honest with yourself about that resentment. It's not a nice thing to accept about yourself, but it's important to acknowledge that it's there and to decide not to spiral further into resentment. Giving into it won't help oh, at all. He may be showing you his appreciation in his own way, and it may be a way you don't recognize. He may sense your distress and be avoiding you, so to speak, because he doesn't want to make things worse or because h…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 10:11 PM
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OMG! That so awesome! I'm glad he made a point to tell you how much he enjoyed your weekend away. I think that's awesome proof that following a man's lead can make him so so happy, which makes us happy in return even if the thing making him happy isn't what we would set out to do ourselves. I'm so happy for you guys!!!
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 09:51 PM
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This article is chock full of greatness, and it’s not a lengthy read. Still, I’ll summarize what I deem the key highlights. I look forward to hearing what you enjoyed, and to discussing how each of us have/haven’t mastered honoring the preferences of those who matter most to us. I do think this is something that applies not just to our men, but to other important people in our lives who we value accommodating. I figured that what my husband wanted me to do wasn’t a matter of holiness and sin, bu…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 03:29 PM
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I think there's a way to do the surprise, without overdoing it in a way that's more about you getting to do something for him and is more about him truly having his own space. Go in there, make it tidy and organized and clean... all of that will make it restful. If he has preferences about things, like he's particular about book cases and you don't understand what he does/doesn't like don't do a book case. Maybe get some dollar store milk crates to put his books in to demonstrate the idea in a w…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 03:10 PM
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I think this may be the heart of the matter, but that doesn't mean your pursuit to better receive constructive criticism (CC) isn't a great one! Camille asked some really important questions but for now, I think it's important to meet criticism with gratitude. You've obviously picked this man, and have not left them, and therefore you value things about him. Hopefully one of those things is his opinion, if not also the way he helps you become a better person. He values you enough to help you bec…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 02:39 PM
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This is so awesome! I love all this content and really respect and value the work you put into it!!! Even though I saw it, I’m blown away all over again!!! :) I love the composite images. Such a cool analysis tool! What really stands out to me is the presence/lack of a smile. I think sx/sp and so/sx are the most attractive of the male and female sets alike. They look like a more cohesive, visible force of energy and I find that magnetizing. In case anyone else hasn’t yet done the Enneagram, here…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/17 10:43 PM
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This is the content I'm here for. Lol
/r/RedPillWives22/09/17 03:39 PM
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Love this! Here are a few thoughts that I use to keep my own superiority complex in check: I am far more likely to be critical of something if I understand and am familiar with something... for me this usually means I am recognizing something disadvantageous in someone else that I know firsthand because I have that disadvantage myself. Lording their fault over them, even just in my head, is therefore hypocritical. Carl Jung says our weaknesses are overused strengths. Now the things that annoy me…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/17 02:11 PM
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YES! I get headaches from scents so easily. It's why I insist on Oil perfume only and harmonized scents through the house.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 05:41 PM
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Oooooooh!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 05:41 PM
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Perfect!!! Foliage is SO underrated! I plan on putting twinkly little LED lights in things too. Eeee!!!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 04:58 PM
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Yayyyy!!! Thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 04:57 PM
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Hahaha for sure! I think herbal/produce scents like eucalyptus, spearmint, verbena, citrus, basil, tea, and pretty much anything else that grows in spring/summer is a good option for next spring/summer!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 02:28 PM
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I commented on the other post but I love this topic so I'm back for more :) Unfortunately my man doesn't so much love lemon, which is one of my favorites, in particular Bath & Body Lemon Mint Leaf (for spring/summer) but he's taken kindly to sugared citrus scents! I just picked this three wick wine glass candle up in sugared citrus as a gift for his step mom! I'm hoping he falls in love so I can buy more. The teakwood and tobacco scent sounds interesting! I feel a bit like I'm in a scent rut-- I…
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 02:25 PM
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I wish you felt freer to decorate to your heart's desire, but I really respect the way you honor his wishes and I'm glad you're able to do the office decorating! I do think grandkids seem to make grandparents a little more festive. Congratulations!!!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 02:12 PM
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Inside, I do summer and winter pillows and blankets on the couches, switch bedding from summer and winter (cotton vs flannel, light colors vs cozy plaids, etc) Oh yes! I tend to be hot blooded year round, but I'm on the hunt for some fleecy sheets for cold weather like the old sheets Cuddledud used to make. Now they're a cheap flannel jersey situation that pill up after one sleep. I remember my mom doing the same thing very fondly. Yes! My grandmothers and mom have always been so great. Sometime…
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 02:11 PM
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Wouldn't it be great! I'm never happy with the ones I see at World Market... they're cute but to femme and shabby chic for what I'm after. I've been itching to do my own batiks for a few years and think cloth napkins will be my first project!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 01:58 PM
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THROW BLANKETS. I'd love to do this too, but we already have... seven. Screw it, they're inexpensive and wear out after long and it's worth it!!! HECK YES to seasonally appropriate candles! Check out my favorite post ever! Your front door display makes me think about doing something like a Christmas tree for every season... I just don't know what. I could get a conical plant display, for the house or patio and fill it with seasonal plants. So mums and marigolds for fall... poinsettas for Christm…
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 01:57 PM
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I'm so excited for this!!! Where do you shop for good false flowers? I was ogling the selections at Michael's craft store a while ago. So much color!!! The only thing I really know to select for at this point is how soft and squishy they are... which is more about me being handsy and obnoxious than anything, really lol
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 01:53 PM
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Yay for wreaths! My late grandma was big into wreaths, and all holiday decorations. I'm excited to keep that tradition alive myself :) And thanks! I figure this will be a good experiment to expand my sewing skills :)
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 01:51 PM
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100% false advertising. Confection scented things can take a hike! I don't need the extra temptation.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 12:22 PM
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What do you mean by "isn't too icky"?
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 12:22 PM
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The apartment shouldn't look like a holiday explosion... it should still be restful and light on chachkies, especially given the modest size of the unit. I think I'm going to get some down pillow inserts and make zippered pillow cases that fit with each season's theme. We have various brands and sizes of flameless candles that I can buy different holders for.... sticking to different ribbons/silk florals around the pillar candles. Disposable and cloth napkins, as well as tea towels/hand towels/d…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 06:11 PM
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I agree completely! It's similar to having a messy room and being unable to get good rest, versus having a clean room and feeling peaceful. It puts us in the right frame of mind to be women when we feel we look like women.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 03:37 AM
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It's more when I reflect afterward that I get uncomfortable, and you're right about the difference between intentionally doing it and realizing it's often a fact of interaction. I think the best example is a pretty substantial issue that he and I are both working on mitigating. When he tells me he doesn't like how I do something or how I act or how I handle something, I really take it seriously and internalize it. I study it from multiple angles to commit it to memory and find a better way to do…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 09:33 PM
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So much good in such a concise article!!! I think all of it is actionable immediately. Underrated post of the week. It can also be scarier for you than just initiating things more directly with words or action. It’s riskier for you to put on your skimpy outfit, because he could just walk on by. You could feel rejected. But the upside is that you’re issuing your invitation in the most feminine possible way—with no pressure and lots of excitement. This is one reason why it's so important to consid…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 02:32 PM
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I got myself a jewelry stamping kit and it's so much fun! Surprisingly difficult to master the kerning but I've made progress! I made jewelry for all the women in my life for Christmas last year and am excited to have a new concept for this Christmas :) I need to get back into sewing but all my ideas are clothing related... I'd like to hold off on that until I define my style and lose weight. I think I would get dressed down for making any more throw pillows lol As for hobbies, once I purchase a…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 02:23 PM
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This was something I've been pondering after another post about communication, but I think it's nearly impossible not to unintentionally condition others with your behavior. I've always bristled when women talk about "training men", and been ready to brawl when other women comment on how "well trained" my boyfriend is. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction, it's true. When I respond in a way my man likes, or dislikes, he probably adjusts accordingly as he deems valuable. This has been …
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 02:16 PM
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Excellent stuff!!! This has been my experience with my boyfriend as well. I've unintentionally and unknowingly punished a lot of communication. Now we're both unlearning some things and it's really challenging. I think the cardinal rules of communications are honesty (duh), intent (why are you saying what you're saying, are the motivations ethical or unethical?), attention (how do your messages land, how can you make them land better in the future? If saying "I love you" doesn't land as well, ho…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:24 AM
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LOVE this. It touches on some ideas I also loved from the resources I mentioned on psychological femininity as well as ideas from the book Iron John by Robert Bly. If you've done your vetting, if your man is sane, what do you really have to fear? That you will learn how to follow? That you will no longer have to worry about controlling everything? That you will become even more attracted to your man? That your man will be his authentic self? Edit to add: This really makes a lot of sense. Part of…
/r/RedPillWives26/08/17 05:24 PM
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YES YES YES!!!! That post was so helpful!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 01:32 AM
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There were times I was deliberately being flirty and was called out. There have been and are still times I am not flirting but am perceived as flirtatious for the reasons you have mentioned. There's a "hold my own" vibe that often comes with being extroverted, I think, that if not accompanied by a willingness to be vulnerable can be misinterpreted or truly done in a way that isn't submissive at all. When I switched from extroversion to have fun myself, and extroversion to bring people into havin…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 01:31 AM
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Hi! Me!!! I'm here! I was single, found my boyfriend, then discovered RPW. I was pretty bold. Still am. We met on EHarmony... I was on the free account just to learn about myself and ended up really liking him from the controlled conversations the app guides you through. There was a "free communication" weekend, so I just went for it. "I think you're great. If you'd like to tell me more about how great you are, my number is ###.###.####. Xo, Jack_Hammarred." The thing that was nice there? I knew…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 01:27 AM
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DO👏🏼NOT👏🏼LOSE👏🏼HOPE. Or at the very least, DO👏🏼NOT👏🏼GIVE👏🏼UP! I shamelessly creeped your post history, sorry not sorry. You are lovely. You have big, soulful eyes and a lovely complexion. The shape of your lips is feminine. Your nose is adorable. But that's beside the point :) Let me tell you why you shouldn't give up. You have already come so far! If you give up now, all that hard effort you invested in losing weight will be all for naught. Don't stop. If you need to lose as much weight as you …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 01:18 AM
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Asking the right questions is tough, I'm really amazed at how everyone condensed their thoughts into such great questions! I've challenged myself to embrace the power I have, to trust myself, but I'm still ashamed of my hesitation. Am I right to seek this confidence, and if so, how can I really toss my own lid off?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 02:45 PM
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That's torture!
/r/RedPillWives08/08/17 12:25 PM
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Congrats on your waistline! That's amazing!!!! I don't need more boob, after buying a bunch of new bras, but the smile on my boyfriend's face would be worth it. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:57 PM
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I totally agree! Granted I'm Romantic, but I find anything that gathers or drapes around/between/below the boobs to be super flattering in a modest way. #bountifulbosom
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:39 PM
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Dang! I hate that you've gone through that. How have you amended your fitness routine given that limitation? I have a bad knee from a horseback riding incident and struggle to do high impact cardio. Even leg day if I've stressed it. Ive reinjured it several times, actually. I've found spinning to be an excellent low impact high intensity form of cardio, my knee has actually gotten much stronger! I'm back to my squat ORM pre-reinjury!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:37 PM
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Hey, anyone taking Golden Maca or have any experience with it? I read it affects the body similarly to estrogen, and men also experience benefits from taking it (sperm count, sex drive) and it has a wide range of benefits.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:28 PM
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I so love that you mention looking at others with love and how a lovely voice is useless if you're using it with ugly intent. I've been thinking about taking voice lessons! I've heard my voice sounding much better when I'm actually tired and too mellow... most people on the phone can't tell my mom and I apart, and when she's very excited or passionate I know the sound of her voice can grate a little so I'm sure I'm the same. My voice is already bright and high, I'd like it to pull a bit throatie…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 11:44 AM
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THIS. My boyfriend and I did one as a graduation gift for me from my mom, he totally stole the show and Captained the whole group and I loved every second of it.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 09:15 PM
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I'm American too, and I don't really know what being British means as u/theartnomad and I have demonstrated, but I get the impression that you're vv British at heart and that's maybe what counts? 😂
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 01:55 PM
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The way it puts you in touch with life is so humbling and awe inspiring. Nothing is permanent. Life is a gift. We are part of something bigger. Nothing is guaranteed. In one day, we bred mares, we had two foals born, lost one to aneurism (her mother was blind and stepped on her while the baby was asleep) and had to put down an old mare. The worst was the mare who lost her baby... I think we ended up keeping her with the wet (mates with foals at their side) herd and she ended up co-parenting some…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 11:47 AM
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I am :) grew up in horse production but my friends raised cattle, sheep, and hogs. FFA and 4-H and all that :) It's hard to know a lot about farming! Even as close as I was, I don't know much of the intricacies of commodities/species I wasn't directly involved with.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 10:33 AM
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Aren't they so cute!!!!!!? I love a pink upeared pig. Is there a Hampshire day so I can celebrate my other favorite pig? How terrible is it that I'm more familiar with the livestock influences than any other things?
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 09:51 AM
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MEER CATS! I would've had much more fun in college photos if I would've known the resemblance. But my roomie and I often pretend we were prairie dogs, so I do feel realized I suppose. I'm late to the party but I'm very pro-everyday-is-a-celebration u/Camille11325 you genius. Thank you for taking it upon yourself to know all the things and share them and create these spaces we love u/littlegoosegirl you keep being British af riding your corgi in the stars u/phantasmagnolia you're just awesome :) …
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 09:46 AM
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or watch this adorable gif of Yorkshire influence pigs having a gay old time :)
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 09:42 AM
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Met on eHarmony and talked on the phone a lot for a week or two before meeting up. Within a month he locked me down. The whole thing has been so dreamy. After dating for two months I moved out of state for school and we maintained a long distance relationship while I was out of state. He visited me for Thanksgiving and we had sex then. He had had sex with his previous girlfriends, I had done everything but with previous boyfriends and ONS's. First of all, we were so busy working and trying to da…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 11:22 AM
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I love this. I did get my dream job right out of college but I know I have, and will realize, more earning potential. Inspiring case study... best friend's mom makes six figures as a saleswoman. Her company keeps cutting her earnings, despite the fact that she continually outperforms herself. She's got four kids and an agricultural empire, to boot, but she is now considering a huge lateral move within her industry that will require about four years of school... She'll probably do it, too. She's …
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 01:56 PM
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It's not a habit to correct, because his habit isn't wrong. Maybe semantics, but that wording speaks to a possible world view or situational lens you have that is pretty far from that of a red pill woman. If he is perfect in all things but this... how about you catch up to his perfection? Maybe consider washing the sheets more frequently. Pick up an extra set or two to trade them out more often. Or how about you avoid manipulating him with sex for reasons that have nothing to do with sex? Have y…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 04:45 PM
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A few years ago I took an oral contraceptive for a month and a half and it not only gave me crazy heartburn and made my cramps unbearable... it made me crazy. I was ghosted about halfway through the pack, and I could. Not. Deal. I didn't even really like the guy but I went insane... irrationally emotional, vaguely suicidal, at times manic. It was insane, I knew I was off my rocker but couldn't rein it in. Never again. It took a while to feel myself again... I can't imagine if I would've been usi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 04:18 PM
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What I think is valuable about the "beauty in all shapes and sizes" is that losing/gaining and maintaining an attractively healthy physique is really difficult, nonlinear, and takes time. I can cold turkey change my lifestyle but it takes time to ensure the new lifestyle will produce results, let alone to achieve those results. Just because I am now actively striving to convert fifteen pounds to be more healthy and beautiful, which I don't expect total results from to appear for about six months…
/r/RedPillWives16/07/17 03:01 PM
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I come from an equine/livestock production background and feel this truth in a serious way. At my family operation and work there were a few old mares with foals on the ground. These were mares that were pushing 20 (a well taken care of horse can crest 30, but most horses, whether they work or reproduce, see their prime between the ages of five and fifteen) who hadn't foaled for a couple years because they couldn't get or stay bred. I always tried to carefully question the people making the bree…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 04:39 PM
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I'm glad it offers some value! It totally is important to manage health and beauty, in that order. There's nothing wrong with vanity, but when it gets in the way of living a good life that's when it gets difficult. I'd for sure plan a date night where you do indulge, so be sure to do wings and wine with the man if you feel it. I'm glad more places seem a bit more nutrition conscious. It's possible to find at least something on every menu, which is nice! But it's tough getting around what you're …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 01:25 PM
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When anyone says "You're fine the way you look now," my go to response is, "I appreciate that, but I like to push the needle. Just how fine can I look? 😎" Bonus points for a little titty shimmy if I'm up for it and don't want people to think I take myself too seriously. I think the tip about saving your calories is a good one as well, but you shouldn't have to tailor your health habits to avoiding comments that are annoying. There's always negative punishment. I'm not being high handed when I sa…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 12:24 PM
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Thank you for your kind words :) I'm glad you enjoyed! I could've made a stronger case for this post as a relationship augment. I'll do that now since you brought it up and inspired me :) My boyfriend and I have bonded a lot through plant care. I got him some bamboo as a gift, helped him with it, and then got him more plants. Working at a nursery that does lots of events that are perfect for date nights, I bring him around there and when I'm not busy we stroll through the store and daydream abou…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 05:45 AM
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Yes. Show me your Master Gardener certificate or GTFO ;) I wanna see more conversation about home making type things so I thought I'd create some content :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 01:16 AM
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My bengal cat toys with them for hours before killing them. R/natureismetal
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 06:08 PM
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This is a headspace I've struggled with a lot. My man has helped a LOT. He's helped me understand that there is a formidable strength in vulnerability, and that being strong isn't about not needing help or not making mistakes... it's actually about taking charge of what you can while continually handling life better. It has nothing to do with isolation or walls... we build walls because we are weak and don't want people to see or touch our weakness, not because other people make us weaker.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 12:20 PM
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I think it's comedic to an extent but it's about enjoying your space and feeling at peace yet luxurious within that space. Good lighting and good music get that accomplished, and they say the most important organ is the brain.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 04:44 AM
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This has probably always been an issue. I feel like the worse offenders are actually women above 30, although most of the women that age are in my life by secondary choice (boyfriend's mother/SIL, my family) rather than my friends my age so my view could be skewed. But the ease and willingness with which women will openly discuss their negative opinions of other people and women is very uncouth. So often, they act as if I agree with their comments because I do not dissent, and they genuinely app…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 06:06 PM
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I never knew these were gift oriented parties, TBH. I truly thought they were parties for celebrating. A lot of my family members and friends have just had diaper showers. They'll have a registry for things like bottles, diapers, wipes, and bibs. But I guess it means "showering" the human to be with gifts, yeah? A friend of mine in east Texas had so many showers and events before her wedding that her MIL and SIL insisted on. Engagement party, bridal shower, wedding shower, two bachelorette parti…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 05:56 PM
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Your comment about eating at least 50% of the produce trays makes me envision my future pregnant self like a nice, maternal, heavy bred Angus cow, just grazing happily and plopping down in the sun on the couch.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 05:50 PM
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You've heard that old conundrum, if a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to here it, does it make a sound? Well, if a tree falls on a woman, does it make a sound? Who cares-- why is there a tree in the kitchen? DAMNIT I love sandwich jokes.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/17 03:01 PM
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The "live your life" message in that comment is solid. I'm annoyed by a lot of social media but the nature of my work dictates I have a presence. A lot of the content I like to follow (fitness models/lifting coaches, drag, makeup, some particular artists, anything related to non-professional relationships) aren't really a complimentary part of my professional life though so I find myself being reserved when interacting with content I enjoy consuming. I keep that, as well as my locations, private…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 11:20 AM
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My mom kinda has a hard time hearing, and we also live in an open concept house. We're also uppity and feisty, easily fired up when we get excited about things. Because I talk to her more than any human, all my conversation habits are from her. Man has excellent hearing, and is very conscientious, so when I get too loud he kisses me. It's my favorite because it's a check but with positive intentions and actions. When I open mouth inhale, he moves his face to me so I can kiss him. When we are out…
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 02:28 AM
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Thank you!!! I like this. I really appreciate you taking the time to help expand my perspective :) I'll share a few things that anyone else reading might find helpful. One of the things that has helped a lot over the last few weeks was "save it for the worry hour." We went to a party a while ago and met a psychiatrist. I asked him what he wished everyone, the general population, would know or do that would make his job easier. He said anxiety and depression are far too common. The best thing to …
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 01:02 PM
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I get the impression that he isn't always forthcoming when things I do on a surface level bother him. I appreciate that we both can overlook minor annoyances, which is something I think is pretty important (especially since I've got a perfectionist streak to keep in check.) But it bothers me because I am probably making some mistakes and don't have a chance to correct them, and it could point to the fact that I don't handle his critiques well. The last point is the sticking point for me... if he…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 02:03 AM
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I've been experiencing something similar. I took to tinder, actually, and set the settings to female only and made my bio clear I'm only looking for friends. I've been chatting with a few girls who are fun, thoughtful and interesting :) I think I may meet up with a couple of them at an event tomorrow night! I've also reconnected with some old friends. It's tough because of our schedules, but it's nice. I've also gotten involved with the adult/parent groups that raise money for the clubs I was in…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 01:51 PM
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Lol you don't say!!! Haha :) We had a conversation about a year ago that changed our relationship drastically. He jokingly asked, "It's almost like you can just decide to be horny. Like you could realize you've got an hour to spare and decide that orgasms would be a great way to pass the time!" He was laughing and I thought he was patronizing me... because in fact, that is exactly how it works for me. He was shocked, I was shocked." "So, mister, you've never gotten home with nothing to do for a …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 11:20 PM
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On a side note.... SAME. I've questioned my OB to death about this but I'm perplexed about my drive in general, especially when compared to Man's. I make myself wonder if Free Martin females exist. I never stop thinking about it, and while I'm clearly functional and effective in daily life it's never not on my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 02:43 PM
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I was waiting for your response here and wasn't disappointed :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 02:15 AM
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Perfume is tough! I'd definitely check out perfume oils or even solid perfumes. There are scent families, too, worth looking into. Try each one to see if you can get a better reaction. I generally hate every perfume except for amber based oils. Gourmand, powdery, fruity, floral, and musky all give me headaches, but amber? I bathe in it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 01:07 AM
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Highly situational. It's easy to tell when something is fishy, for the most part. I would be fine with it. (I do have a few close male friends, never "what if" a single one of them, and having brought my friends and Man into the same circle... he likes them as well. My best guy friend is also his favorite of my friends.) If I felt the need to ask questions, I would be concerned. How he responds to those concerns would be a big signal. If I could read her interest and he denied it, deal breaker. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 01:18 PM
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Same. Updip.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 11:26 AM
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It's always a strange moment of self awareness when someone tells you they been creepin' ;) Yeah, I think we are all somewhere on most of the spectrums to an extent. My greatest fear, I think, is that I will be in love but still feel alone. I have felt a sense of loneliness at one time or another, sometimes fleeting and sometimes pervasive, in every relationship I have ever had. I don't think that's abnormal, but I wonder if my fear of it is a little too much of a constant companion.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:39 AM
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Check out the makeup and skincare subreddits if you'd like to pursue those as hobbies to take good care of yourself :) other than some SPF, and you don't necessarily need makeup or skincare but if you have the means and willingness to learn about it, by all means, come to the dark side. When I was in junior high I decided I wanted employment gainful enough to help me be a charitable person. I've got my degrees and didn't let romantic relationships distract me from my studies or goals... they wer…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:35 AM
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Blah blah self diagnose buzzfeed test armchair therapists but damn if this doesn't hit home. Is it normal to go down this rabbit hole once in a while?
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:08 AM
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Thank you for the thoughtful reply :) I get frustrated with that "either of two extremes mentality," I see it a lot in the red pill type subs. Clock this shade: It makes people sound pious, bitter, and sometimes both. Anything that makes a reasonable, responsible person afraid of their sexuality is rude. I'm upset for people who grow up being told that sex is the bad kind of dirty. Sex is AWESOME. Do it, just follow laws and stuff. While some of these people could surely be characterized by some…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:00 AM
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Best advice for relating to people.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 06:34 PM
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Unless you push out children, the muscles won't get loose. They're muscles. What may happen is that tightness from "OMG HOW IS THAT GOING TO GO IN THERE, THIS IS BAAAAD TETRIS" pseudo-fear is replaced by "Yes, begin" relaxedness and eagerness.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 06:33 PM
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Front to back is okay, but so is a quick tack change to go the other direction.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 06:30 PM
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Added note, only go for silicone/glass/steel and medical grade at that. Keep things clean.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 06:27 PM
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I'm kind of unsure that answering is going to be valuable, it seems there might be something you are wanting or expecting to hear or not hear but if it helps here is my experience. Regarding previous partners who I didn't have intercourse with, I enjoyed feeling in control of myself and my decisions. Of course you can have this regardless... but I enjoyed determining boundaries and sticking to them. I enjoyed the clear, explicit discussions beforehand and leaving those men satisfied but still in…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 06:25 PM
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"Suddenly requires them to participate in something..." I used these words in our conversation, and he was both stunned and emphatically in agreement. We decided that from now on, during recharges, I'll do me until it's clear he isn't going to initiate things like dinner or deciding workouts, and I'll just do in the absence of his preference. I'm so excited about this clarity in particular.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 12:47 AM
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Yes! Thank you! He told me much the same when we chatted this morning :) thank you for giving me the words to start discussing with him!!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 12:44 AM
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I like this. Thank you. I think I've got an introvert preference, too, but this is my first invested relationship, so it's new. Most of my friends and people I choose to interact with are extroverted or, like Man, high functioning introverts who can fool ya into thinking social scenes are their natural habitat. I don't want Man to balance me, per se, I would rather him be an example that I can follow to better balance myself. While hanging with my best friend who is also an ENFP (he is Man's fav…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 12:43 AM
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We've talked about it a few times, and since reading everyone's comments here I brought it up on our drive together this morning. I mentioned a lot of the ideas shared here and they were words neither of us had come up with in prior chats that were very helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 04:18 PM
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I really, really appreciate your comments. Thank you. That description of the introvert perspective makes more sense than anything else I've heard before today! In addition to what you've mentioned, is there anything else I can do to be proactive and head off the redline before it happens.. without being intrusive? I've tried warning him that things will be getting busy but it's like that just fosters dread or something, and he's said that waning energy is not something he can prevent. That's no…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 03:05 AM
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Thanks!!! Can you tell me more about how it accumulates and expand on what that's like?
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 02:56 AM
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Thank you so much. I didn't even realize how that might put pressure on him, and if it has I wouldn't discount that he might be hesitant to unveil the way it affected him. Wow. I struggle to tame my inner "helper dog." "Can I get you __? Would you like _____? Is there anything I can do for you?" When I stopped constantly "optioning" him about two years ago I saw a huge positive difference in both of our calmness. I suspect this change, me just going, will be a similarly positive little change th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 02:54 AM
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Thank you!!! I'll do that. My hang up has been, "Why would I do things by myself? We've been LDR most of the last four years... I'll save my outings for when he wants to join." I've been coaching a lot, volunteering a lot, but I'll go be just me some more. Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 02:50 AM
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I give this a toot. I see this life pro tip in so many comments here, usually from the men who come for women who post things like "I'm a total mess how do I get a man." It starts with self, it needs to be about self before me can become we. This was something I struggled to reckon with when beginning the power dynamic with Man. I didn't realize how much power there is in submission, and that submission doesn't make me weak.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 06:55 PM
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That's so awesome!!! Thank you for your service!!! I assume dairy steers, calves, and retired cows? Can we be friends? Well, the fact that I'm tolerant pro-ag might be an issue if you're against the dairy and show horse industry.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 03:21 PM
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Yes. I've heard it swapped for women though, too.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 12:26 PM
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Haha exactly. I prefer a two pet household. I've always had pets, and given I know I'm a good caretaker I feel irresponsible not having any animals, if that makes sense. I've got a bengal I rescued who'll hopefully live forever. Man and I will probably rescue a dog once we're married. Once we've gotten more established and found property we like, I plan on raising some livestock.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 12:26 PM
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I put one of those cheap shag rugs from Walmart down underneath the litterbox. I don't think the perfect solution exists, but it traps the crumbles he tracks around so they don't spread beyond that area.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 12:22 PM
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Wow. Of course not, but I will now. In the past, x happens, I nod, and I ignore x outwardly by continuing on with the discussion or changing the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 12:20 PM
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"On my worst days I fear that my newfound behaviors and attitudes will not get my needs met and I will feel apt to return to controlling..." This hits me in the feels. Being on my best behavior certainly feels like giving up some control. I don't think I'm smart enough to hardcore manipulate anyone but I know I can behave in a way that will push people to do what I think I want in some limited situations... equal and opposite reactions and all that. While a lot of what I'm trying to do involves …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 12:56 AM
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YES. I had my own place for the first time while getting my master's and did well making it cute, well lit, clean. It wasn't tidy on the day to day because I let myself fall down that little slippery slope... is it really that bad if I'm the only one affected? So stupid. Now that I've moved back home with my parents and am spending a lot of time at Man's place... I love keeping his place clean. He (as far as I can read) is very lax about cleaning/laundry/tidying on the day to day, but I'm hungry…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 12:44 AM
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Thanks for your input! The compartmentalization is a really interesting piece to me. Something that always bothered me about peers would be compartmentalization to the point that they became unrecognizable from one social situation to another. I want to be a congruent person with nearly the same frame in any given social situation... plus or minus some topics of discussion, language, and interests.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 12:36 AM
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Option 2 mixed with option 1. Control the access he has to critique you... maybe rather than showing him your favorite successes (pieces that a harsh critique will hurt your feelings with) show him what you are insecure about or what you hate and ask for constructive criticism... "I'm hating this... what would you change?" "I'm struggling to like this.. what do you like about this? I need to see it in a better light to move past this." Maybe make a happy ritual in the day where you talk about pl…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/17 11:27 AM
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I had a dream I was teaching a horsemanship clinic, trying to demonstrate a specific maneuver before coaching the students. "Go ahead and drop your reins and watch my little horse. Forgive my solipsism as we demonstrate a correct stop..." Totally nonsensical, but I thought it was funny how my reading made it into my dream world.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 07:18 PM
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I'm not a parent yet, ymmv. If you've got a gym membership or access to a kickboxing class or something inexpensive yet similar to martial arts, take your daughter to one to try out. Even tell her that her level of commitment to learning it will dictate your willingness to take her to martial arts. Let her prove whether or not she takes this interest seriously in a way that encourages her personal growth. On one hand, young people need adults in their lives to help them make decisions and provid…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 03:54 PM
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When we communicate, we are balancing intentions, actions, and impacts. It's our responsibility as listeners to determine intention regardless of a persons actions or how they impacted us. Then it's our job to determine our intentions and select the actions that will deliver impacts that best match those intentions. There's a difference between a threatening come-on that's inappropriate and a mindless come-on from someone who operates out of kindness... I learned this the other way. My friend al…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 05:59 PM
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Next come the shit tests, which may or may not be synonymous with her efforts to sabotage the relationship and push him away.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 01:45 PM
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Thanks for this. I still cringe about behaving childishly around Man, but there is a difference between the giggling and still being a productive adult contributor to the relationship that your post clarifies.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 01:37 PM
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"Where the white women at"
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 01:16 PM
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The whiteheads you are experiencing have more to do with your skin rather than a specific method of hair removal. You are removing the hair, allowing the space it previously filled to instead possibly fill with sebum and oil. Most likely, no matter what method of temporary hair removal method you select and what shade or type of skin you have, you can have this issue. Here is a great post about whiteheads/blackheads and prevention. https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianBeauty/comments/3g9izh/are_ahas_be…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/17 01:00 PM
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I thought I'd share these lists Man and I exchanged about productivity back around New Year's. Given our almost perfectly opposite personality types, it's no surprise to me our lists are almost totally contradictory. Mine: A. Start the day with something fun related to your most important goals/responsibilities/relationships. Starting productivity on a high note gets the ball rolling, eliminating "to-do list paralysis." Don't let yourself start the task until a certain reasonable time, the suspe…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 01:59 AM
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Maybe try a clay and mint shampoo, then conditioner and beard oil?
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 01:30 AM
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Can you explain how spending 12-14% of the credit or less is more effective and safe? I've only taken out Care Credit, for <$500 over the cost of my wisdom teeth extraction surgery. I'm afraid I made a huge mistake...
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 01:27 AM
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I love this! A festive smattering of things to think about. Thank you! I wish that article about the research would discuss the kinds of characteristics addressed. My thought would be that people are willing to overlook a man being over six feet if he is still closer to tall than short, or that they're willing to tolerate someone who drinks socially when they say they prefer a non-drinker. The laundry lists of characteristics people look for in partners are highly annoying, as they often seem to…
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 04:24 PM
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Man and I were watching it. Or, were. Until we saw episode 6 last night. He's been iffy about the series but we were fed up with Danny laughing to tears last night. He is such an unbelievable character. He has this childlike authenticity that, while good for a character who left the real world as a child and returned with a reinforced moral code, is cloying. If he is such a survivor, how does he not realize he needs to keep the mystical to himself and talk with his fist in order to survive in th…
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 04:06 PM
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Not married yet, so I don't do all the cleaning and chores at his apartment. When I'm there when he's out, I'll wash and put away all of his laundry. I enjoy doing it so much, whereas he just gets it done, and he's always surprised despite how much I rave about his washer and dryer (it's the holy grail of appliances.) Whenever I stay with him for a couple days and leave when he is at work or out I write a letter and leave it someplace for him. One day I was looking for a pocket knife and stumble…
/r/RedPillWives26/03/17 03:48 AM
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AMOG is alpha male of group, I decided alpha person of group fit my commentary. Thanks for the feedback! I'm glad you're sticking it out, too. Isn't the internet great? New ideas and you're NEVER alone!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 08:27 PM
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Can this be in a sidebar somewhere...
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 02:02 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏 I liked reading this a lot, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 01:44 PM
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THIS. I read a comment, possibly one you're alluding to, about this general concept and almost got a headache rolling my eyes so hard. There is a lot about the RP community that drives me nearly insane, but to each their own and there's too much good here to turn me away completely. We've all left the cave, and I think we are all here learning and celebrating opportunity well handled. I swallowed the pill about six months ago and have been really hesitant about it all until very recently because…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 01:34 PM
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Our plan sounds a lot like u/teaandtalk We aren't married yet but we've talked about this in detail, especially since we both have awful spending habits if we go unchecked. I make more now and probably will for the foreseeable future. Yet I've just started paying my student loans back and he is almost done, so we are roughly on even footing now. We plan on putting in equal percentages of our income for a joint account and the rest in personal accounts. I spend more week to week than he does on d…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 12:56 PM
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Awesome questions. I wonder if they are a bit vague and might make him exasperated... consider making these more specific and not bombarding him with a bunch of questions so he will give you better words in response. If he thinks you sit around all day, I wonder if there are things unkempt about the household (or cleanliness/orderliness things you aren't attending to that he values and doesn't take the initiative to handle himself) making him say this. I don't think telling him all about all the…
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 12:25 PM
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Yes yes yes. There's documentation that the things in the parent comment help drastically... exercise, sleep, good diet and overall health, constructive reflection, and good habits that you know are good and maintain even when you wanna go fetal position. But many psychological challenges are the result of something you can't change... chemical imbalances that are hormonally related that'll level out eventually or are more permanent things you'll have to work through your whole life. The cause o…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 10:24 AM
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Falling into the "gotta finish school before I am xx years old" hype is ridiculous, IMO. Especially if you don't know what you want out of the experience and don't have a professional network that can help you leverage options, contacts, and a good reputation. Even more so if you don't have good scholarship prospects. Even more so if it's a degree program that will be expensive and require you to jump through lots of undergrad and graduate level hoops, and that degree isn't flexible (MBA will al…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 10:04 AM
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My mom stayed at home with me until I was going to school, at which point she started working jobs that allowed her to get me on and off the school bus every day. I want to manage my time the same way if it’s financially feasible. They never "pushed" me, but instead expected honesty when they'd ask if my work was truly my best effort and if I was taking advantage of every opportunity to succeed. I found a passion for science and communications in high school, and the way my mom tirelessly suppor…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:14 PM
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I know tops who are hitting walls, too, and tops who are afraid of hitting walls because "25 is old in gay years." I don't think the wall is exclusive to any gender/persuasion/tribe at all. It seems to me the wall is as much an external as an internal issue based both on your own perceptions of your market value (of whatever variety) and your real market value. Whether you were on the carousel for a few years, a few decades, or never, as you age your values and desires shift along with the rest …
/r/altTRP14/03/17 03:25 PM
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I mean, username checks out :) WoS is an appearance that clearly states you got something last night and possibly have regrets about your choices of partner, location, or lack of planning. If no regrets? It's the Stride of Pride. The Stagger of Swagger.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 01:54 PM
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I'm under 30, too. 2 years being single, 3 degrees at 3 different schools in 3 different states, 4 years roommates, 5 years total in college. Staying the night (or day) after casual sexual activity for either male/female is never a sure thing. It seems that sharing bodies is sometimes easier than sharing a bed, personal space, or a good night's sleep and the roommate's personal space. This is really common now, and taking a ride home post canoodle doesn't necessarily equate to negative connotati…
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 01:50 PM
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Congrats to you guys, and thank you for sharing. Good vibes your way :)
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 12:53 PM
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From easiest to most difficult, in my opinion at least: Unforgettably attractive appearance Well and appropriately dressed Adept at communicating in any setting Makes others feel good and want to improve simultaneously Maintains positive relationships Has sense of direction in professional and personal life... lives with intent Can balance and pursues improving balance between commonly recognized values; e.g. Confidence and humility, independence and teamwork, logic and creativity, studiousness …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 12:19 PM
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Email him or text him every few days while he is gone. In addition to whatever responsibilities he is getting bombarded with when he reconnects to wifi, he will have a few pleasant good vibes mixed in that show him his absence from your day to day in no way meant he was absent from your thoughts. It's also kind of therapeutic for those moments where you miss him or need to share something. He may need some serious decompression time when he comes home that may be completely different from his ty…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 04:49 AM
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At this point in time with the technology we can access, I think worrying about being too available for phone interactions is a farce. Many people can access much of what they need to be effective from their phones. You're not needy for having near constant text availability, you're responsible. Make it easy on yourself and this person. Respond as soon as you get the message and have time to respond.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 04:36 AM
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I'm late to the party but wanted to spill some first and second hand tea. I'm 24, met my SO 3.5 years ago. Monogamous LTR LDR. swoon Some of my girl friends and I spun a different plate every week/few weeks depending on our other goals/responsibilities and the nature of the plate. The range of experiences we had with our partners also varied drastically... I never sealed the deal with anyone, whereas other friends did so adventurously. The longer this spinning went on, the more everyone seemed t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 04:29 AM
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I'm new here but want to super updoot this comment. Congratulations on pursuing things that are good for you, and thank you for being a responsible steward of yourself and your potential, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 03:52 AM
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Depends on your goals and your prospects. Will education or sportsing serve you better now and/or in the long run? What else could you cut to maintain your responsibilities as a student and an athlete?
/r/askTRP14/03/17 02:29 AM
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