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Quantum physics is my favorite one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:39 AM
4

Lolol I’ll take it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:50 AM
22

Shameless plug for 19th News. The woman who founded it is one of my heroes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:50 AM
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Lol my comment was directed to the woman who wrote this post not sure if that’s clear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:04 AM
14

Actual LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:43 PM
9

Thank you for this meaningless word salad, honey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:42 PM
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One of my coworkers is married to a Japanese woman and calls himself a Japanophile. It's some weird shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:35 PM
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I’m lol these guys are little piglets, they dreaming when they write this shit up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:14 PM
7

When I was out to lunch with a couple lady friends a little while ago, one asked the other what exciting things she’s been up to. The one responds “well, I got drunk at book club!” triumphantly. I wanted to get up and leave. Later, on this exact same day, they both shamed me for wanting to tell my boss about the predatory activity of an employee who’d just left the day before. I knew the company couldn’t do anything; I just wanted my boss to know why I was SO relieved I didn’t have to work with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:10 PM
4

Yep. So many women friends (former, lol) who think this way, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:58 PM
2

MY body can have fun without it. Another stupid man talking on shit he doesn’t know about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:54 PM
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100% agree! I have realized some things about my job, since joining FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:56 PM
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He is hands down one of the best interviewers out there. And to be a good interviewer you absolutely must be likeable. Or it reaaaaalllllly helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:00 AM
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Lmao I loved that comment too, so practical. And he actually gave a shit about his ex’s overall well-being; I.e. “she’s great! Why does she want to marry someone who will make her unhappy?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:56 AM
52

Reminds me of the Washington Post slogan “democracy dies in darkness” lmao “scrotes thrive in darkness”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:55 AM
16

Damn she lucky, I hope a black Stephen Colbert falls for me like that 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:39 AM
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Well this whole thing grossed me out. Millepied don’t even get me started your name the name of a bug 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:29 AM
6

This made me feel very ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 10:52 PM
17

Snapchat is fucking trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:59 PM
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So he will he single now? 👀 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:58 PM
2

It is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:53 PM
15

Everybody needs this message during this pandemic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:43 PM
3

Honey, no. (To the man — excellent response by our sis, here!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:42 PM
3

That is not a woman. It’s a dude masquerading. No woman says “my females”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 01:15 PM
1

My video player isn’t working but he nasty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 01:13 PM
3

I really love being a confident single woman, in part bc it’s a ton of fun and in part bc just think of how many scrotes I piss off by just existing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 01:11 PM
3

I didn’t read all of this bc what drivel. This is why I don’t date. Too many games!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 01:04 PM
17

I’m in the states and I have loved mask culture, for this reason. (Not for the actual reason we have to wear them ofc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 01:01 PM
6

This is how I feel. Just went off my bc about a month ago and I feel incredible without it. Let’s just pray my adult body and hormones can keep my teenage acne struggles from coming back! So far so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:58 PM
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AMEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:57 PM
4

Also dump if he gets mad that you backgrounded him. My last LVMX did and yeah the whole thing was a disaster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:40 PM
9

You can also look into tools like Nexis and TLO though they’re pretty expensive. Sometimes you can access them at a local library.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:33 PM
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Also who posts this on social media? Like bro when has this EVER WORKED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:32 PM
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Amen. I’ve never dabbled in the “community” but umm fuck that. The only thing I know about FetLife is it’s where a guy who committed a heinous murder on my undergrad Alma’s campus used to hang out. He can’t go there anymore because he’s IN PRISON FOR LIFE now. So yeah I’ll stay away from FetLife. Also once hooked up (pre FDS) with a guy who kept trying to call me mistress and have me be mean to him. He later told me “I think you’re just too nice to me” I was like...k. We didn’t see each other ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:30 PM
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Ps my ladies she is a music artist with other tracks out >>> https://twitter.com/ninanesbitt/status/1197666281203343361?s=21
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:44 PM
14

He’s clearly sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:42 PM
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Girl for real. Especially if we just met or just started talking. I don’t know you well enough to say good morning, idk, we aren’t a couple?? It’s just weird and yeah go away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:42 PM
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Wtf is breast bondage??? Nvm, I don’t want to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:21 PM
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Not social enough for a relationship? If you think this, go to therapy. And I’m not saying that in a condescending or scolding tone. But every single one of us is worth loving, and we all just have to realize that ourselves. If no therapy, dude is well on his way to incel-dom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:20 PM
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Good guys don’t have to tell you they’re “not the bad guy. Stop making me the bad guy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:11 PM
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I loved it, gave me goosebumps, who is she, can we be friends?? 😂 but seriously what an inspo, thank you queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:11 PM
3

This goes for bosses/workplaces, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:09 PM
3

I collect coffee mugs too gnahhhhh so cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:09 PM
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Telling 👏 on 👏 hissellllfffff 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:19 AM
4

So did heads explode in the replies or 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:16 AM
12

I know CPR, first aid, the Heimlich, how to teach a group fitness class, how to grow and preserve veggies. My men you gotta step it up cause I’m not even 30 yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:15 AM
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This is what I’m saying especially with those bullshit “good morning” texts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:46 PM
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Ahhh the daily reminder I need that males are sc*m
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:35 PM
12

Yeah, girl! 👋 👋 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:33 PM
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Bish I’m hungry af after working all day. No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:45 PM
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I hope you don’t feel ganged up on in the thread here. We all are learning and have learned; no shame in that. I’m still learning too and not even a year ago was doing pickme shit/accepting the minimum. Anyway, glad you kicked this one to the curb, on to the next, as I’m sure you have many who want a chance! 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:45 PM
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Also the fuckers who always have to do the “good morning” text. Fucking stop with that. I don’t like it and you need to be busier in the mornings than that. Edit: hope you bailed, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:23 PM
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This is why I don’t add anyone I don’t know. So many fucking random dudes trying to add me all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:20 PM
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She doesn’t know what she’s talking about and she knows it. The way she’s talking; she sounds like she knows she’s full of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:15 PM
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She looks hungover and dead behind the eyes. Might take her a while but she will figure out what a waste this is, too; for any woman to live her life this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:02 PM
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I do understand your concept of a “human brain” and that’s why I’m covering up how is it so difficult for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:03 AM
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🙌🤜🤛💪 we out here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:41 AM
3

Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!! Scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:00 PM
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We abso fucking lutely do not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:49 PM
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👀 it’s gonna be a no from me dawg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:01 AM
6

The racism! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:57 AM
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A dude I hooked up with — ew pre FDS and I always hated hooking up every time I did it — said he didn’t like when women had toys. Bc it meant we didn’t need men. 👹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:56 AM
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It sounds like you have a case. Worth a consult with a lawyer, for sure. I’m so sorry this happened to you, and glad to hear you are on the other side with your health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:50 AM
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I feel as if they’re stomping on the floor and saying, “but, my privilege!!!! Gimme!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:45 AM
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Last ex told me I didn’t “let” him eat me. 😊🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:33 AM
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https://images2.minutemediacdn.com/image/upload/c_crop,h_1616,w_2400,x_0,y_132/v1591824036/shape/mentalfloss/625404-iisc_equalityequity_300ppi.jpg?itok=mdurY8vk reminds me of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:28 AM
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YEP. I taught sex education, to my fellow high school classmates, through a peer education program at our local Planned Parenthood. It left me with the expectation that partners share documented test results with one another before engaging I have never met a man who will agree to this. I gave in. Pre-FDS. Now, I’m returning to my standard. If you can’t meet it, no pussy for you. But, my new plan is to vet/no sex for 6 months, anyway. So hopefully I’ll have ditched the scrotes who refuse to get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:00 PM
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You nailed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:46 PM
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“Expectations are not fine” thanks for telling on yourself bro bro!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:46 PM
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He looks disgusting and are they in a car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:43 PM
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Drew’s laugh after Sharon says she doesn’t need another kid gives me life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:39 PM
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Haha I’m never being this for a man again. My NVX once had strep and made me take him to to the hospital at 4am — and I had to work that day. He called out, of course. When we were there, I was answering questions for him about when symptoms started and shit. Like I was his mommy. We still kind of barely knew each other; it was probably 3-6 months after we met. He stayed at my house for days and then I woke up one morning and he had just left. Couldn’t get a hold of him all day. He took me out t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:03 PM
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I mean...what do they use the space in their heads for? Bc it’s definitely not for thinking, planning or organizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:58 PM
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Lol, when people pull the “oh, you just haven’t met the right one yet! 😊” or “you’ll change your mind!!” I legit think to myself, “this person is delusional...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:56 PM
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Want him to commit? Put Bounty on the shopping list, send him to the store, and see if he falls for it! If he buys them, he’s yours forever!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:51 AM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:48 AM
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“Stop making me the bad guy” stop being a bad guy, then, idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:34 AM
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Real HVM shit would be setting up subscribe and save to her house so she never had to worry about this again. And in real HVM/HVW situation she wouldn’t think it’s special. It’s him taking care of and paying for the house to be clean. He SHOULD do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:00 PM
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No this cannot be real. Nobody calls it “paper towel” singular like that. Also nobody’s standards can possibly be this low. Right?? My lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:59 PM
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That smug face 😑😑😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:54 PM
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“You are correct. Get out”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:49 PM
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I got this all the time as a kid. My parents just don’t know better and if I tried to have a conversation about internalized misogyny, esp if dads been drinking, it would literally be dangerous. I know if I have children/become a godmother/adopt/become an aunt/etc I will make sure my little girls don’t have to live this out and repeat my experience. What I said about my parents just shows how important it is to spread the word of FDS so yet another generation can’t repeat these abusive patterns …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:48 PM
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I really think this is it tho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:45 PM
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Love this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:15 PM
10

Like google my name bitch it’s easy to see what my important ass is “up to these days”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:49 AM
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The fantasy football league comment tho 🔨 🔨 🔨 (Nail head)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:45 AM
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I LOVE this video. Also, my favorite response to compliments is; “thank you, I love it/me, too! 😊” if I want to be confident but sweet, and “I know, right?” If I want to be a bitch, or “thank you, I know!!” If I want them to be on the fence about if I am sweet or a bitch 👍🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:42 AM
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“How to be more like a marmoset: relationship advice for the modern straight man”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:38 AM
3

Ugh new favorite comic strip!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:31 AM
3

Yeah, good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:35 AM
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Me too. Had the same thoughts. But here’s hoping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:32 AM
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Thank you for the hope today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:17 PM
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I agree with your last two statements. I also agree we women should just get off the apps and re-set the dating game. That’s what I am doing, for myself, and I’m happier than ever. And I’m currently not dating anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:55 PM
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Yes to all of this. And, if you find something shady when you do a background check (DM me if you need tips — I am a journalist), and when you ask him about it he does anything but give you the entire history of how he grew up in a rough neighborhood, got in with the wrong people, went to rehab/serious therapy and is now a reformed man, just cut and run. Bc the LVM will lie. My LVMX got defensive af about the credit card fraud charge that I found on his. Edit: or didn’t grow up in a rough neighb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:54 PM
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Is he being serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:22 PM
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Yeah, going NC with no limit is best. Then it becomes extremely easy to say “this is easy, my life is less stressful, I’ll just keep going” rather than hitting the 30 days and being like ok now what. That’s giving myself a choice, imho. And with these fucks it’s gotta be “I’m done, no take backs for you or for me, either.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:21 PM
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I love the “bro what the fuck” at the end lmao I’m pretty sure that’s what one of them says
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:12 PM
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Asian dude attempted to terrorize my career and position at the company (I was new, he was not) after I told him firmly, several times, that he made me uncomfortable and we could not be anything but coworkers. He left recently and I didn’t realize what a weight it was until he was gone. Edit: I’m still with the company, and he isn’t. I warned women I knew at his new company about his creepy behavior. He sexually harassed several other women, I later found out. I admit I felt schadenfraude every …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:16 AM
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This! I’m with you here. Currently not dating bc of corona and bc I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:07 AM
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Yeah POST THAT SHIT girl you the real MVP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:07 AM
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Wow tell on yourself already brotato. Scrotato 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:59 AM
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I think a lot of them are young and experiencing hormones for the first time — on top of an unrestrained culture of sexuality they live out online. It’s all the perfect storm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:55 AM
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Means a lot, thank you. Lots of hate about journalists and “the media” available for us to see and read online all the time. Now don’t get me wrong; my industry could take a page out of FDS and work on itself 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:22 AM
3

Ill buy my own blanket thanks tho limpdicks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:15 AM
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Good for you for figuring this out early!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:10 AM
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Thank you for supporting journalism and reading the NYT (I work for a metro paper, for context) 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:07 AM
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You’re bragging about your girlfriend doing shit for you and her mother genuinely caring about her time and not giving all of it to you. What a loser, my god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:06 AM
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Well, the idea is to make it a little of both. (Not to pull an “AcKsHUaLLy” here) but if you are doing that hard work correctly, you are being gentle with yourself and making sure to take care of self in healthy ways when it gets tough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:00 AM
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Yeah so like umm don’t send nudes at all! Everyone wins!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:57 PM
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Just stop spending as much time with them. Pretty easy these days. Eventually, you’ll sort of just naturally fall out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:05 PM
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Thank you for this support 💕 means a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:45 PM
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Yeah where to even start
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:40 PM
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Yes ma’am! I have applied FDS to all my relationships, as well. Is the person benefiting me? How do I feel after I spend time with them? Do I feel exhausted or renewed? Etc. it’s working wonders!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:33 PM
6

Really excellent point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:25 PM
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I’ve felt like this in varying degrees throughout my life; the strength of the feeling seems to be determined by my environment. But I’m not even 30 and here’s where I am: people and men especially do not like smart, strong, independent women. I hate that this is my advice, and I don’t mean it to sound cold — but you will be better off if you’re constantly prepared: get used to it. I think there are people who appreciate women who have personalities like ours. Cursing, making certain jokes, spea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:43 AM
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“Not all women are allies just because they’re female” could be a whole book of stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:23 AM
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Haha never thought about it this way, exactly; you are so right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:13 AM
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I am so glad you found support. You are not alone 💕 here for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:43 AM
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Highly recommend not attempting to self-medicate with any of the three substances here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:35 AM
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Oh man 😂 glad we are all seeing the trend quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:52 AM
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I love her, and this video. I just interrupt men all the time! Not the polite solution but it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:00 AM
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LOL OMG SO FUNNY go back to mom's basement scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:51 AM
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The only relationship subreddit I come to is this one! For exactly this reason. I am afraid if I keep reading the others, and rolling my eyes that much, they just gone stay in the back of my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:26 AM
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They’re just garbage the whole lot of em. Love my single life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:27 PM
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This. LVW friends will do it, too. I confessed, not long ago, to fellow women colleagues, that I had been sexually harassed by a former male colleague. He just left, and his going-away Zoom happy hour stirred everything up in me again. Then, when I went to lunch with these two ladies, and expressed I wanted to tell management (NOT for HR to do anything, as the offender is gone; simply to be validated!) they said things like: “Why would you want to do that? It won’t help you now.” “I don’t mean t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:25 PM
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I did not know they were together but girl why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:51 AM
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I love this bc so basic 🤣🤣🤣 aaaaahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:46 AM
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As always, this is true, but who cares? he’s not interested. Great. Did he check all your desired boxes, anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:52 AM
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“How can we understand?” It’s very simple, professor. Read the handbook. We are here, interrupting the game of PUA, if that’s what you mean. You don’t need to understand anything except we are doing this and that’s it! A+ for us, we know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:49 AM
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I will pass on this washed up oil rag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:19 PM
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Just being 💯 this would make me poop my pants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:16 PM
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Thank you for keeping it 💯 sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:16 PM
12

I’ve been watching our numbers grow daily and it is such a delight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:07 PM
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Yeah, the pee test. No way. And, I would fail one (medical)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:03 PM
58

YES, me too!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:55 PM
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This is so difficult to read. She does not deserve this. I hate men and I’m never getting married. I’m not even 30 yet and not ugly and I honestly revel in telling men they cannot have me. They deserve a lifetime of rejection after a lifetime of encouraging and accepting this FILTH behavior from each other. GOOD LORD I just am so upset for her!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:55 PM
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LOL the ketchup thing sends me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:46 PM
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This is my perspective. I’ve done OLD a few times, never more than a few days at a time. I met with a couple of guys and they were big disappointments. Every time, too, I find it fascinating and kind of gross: there are some of actually the exact same men on there, each time I log on. And sometimes I’ve waited weeks or months. Also, even if not exact same men, there seems to be a general type that OLD attracts and I’m not interested in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:42 PM
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I have had similar awakenings myself, lately. I am sorry to hear about your tumor and glad it was nothing. Wishing you a speedy recovery and welcome welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:29 AM
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Damn this is it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:23 AM
5

My ex-whatever it was (ah, pickme days) had a ratty old bath towel. But it felt and looked more like a giant paper towel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:06 AM
2

This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:32 PM
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He said “females” so that’s error number one, my dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:51 PM
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Me and legit almost every female friend I have. I just gave up after a while. If they want to destroy themselves bc they’re so desperate to find Mr. Right, and/or they just can’t go without some D, then whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:42 PM
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“Look, I made a cute lil yoda meme about how I am subservient to my boyfriend! Better go cook him lunch” sucks that she’s doing this all day while I’m working, making extra money freelancing, cleaning my place for ME ALONE to enjoy, and lighting candles to make it wholly my space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:39 PM
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“Certainly that was easier than coming up with something new to meet women’s unique imperatives in dating and relationships.” You idiot, FDS did come up with something new to meet women’s unique imperatives in dating and relationships. Also the fact that he asks if we need strategies to respond to all of these advances for drinks (yes), dinner (you men generally don’t do this anymore, so what the fuck are you talking about??) and to take us on trips (LOL IN WHAT WORLD DOES A MAN ASK A WOMAN OUT …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:32 PM
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YES, amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:06 PM
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Hell nah girl, the ballsack is literally a sack of skin. This talk about us losing elasticity is, again, male insecurity rearing its ugly head!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:05 PM
8

What the actual fuck. First of all, it’s unsafe for the obvious reasons. Second, right now there’s still a pandemic ongoing! Good lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:33 AM
8

Yes on the Narc game. So predictable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:25 AM
57

The vagina is a muscle, not a rubber band. You idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:19 AM
7

Yes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:53 AM
4

This is my theory, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:52 AM
7

This is on my goodreads list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:52 AM
3

🙏 sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:51 AM
8

One time, I straight up gave a guy my business card, and told him to make an appointment. Never heard from him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:51 AM
76

My thoughts: Being rude is not good. It is often more helpful to be nice and will get you what you want more quickly. We all know that, being intelligent queens. HOW FUCKING EVER This entire post is about “rude girls” and women calling ourselves bad bitches. I am sure there’s a lot of behavior of mine that I think falls into the “bad bitch,” category, and I don’t think it’s rude. But many other people think it is rude. I mean, the expectation for women to be quiet, obey, be seen and not heard. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:05 AM
0

Well, I think it’s a bit rough to call not being exposed to this level of depravity at a young age my privilege. That should be the norm, right? and generally was for me, though I definitely had some horrible experiences with old ass men, online, at far too young an age. I don’t remember them well, but the ones I do remember are bad. Please also take my original post as wishful thinking. I wish men like this did not exist, and this man was a different kind of loser, who enjoys getting women “ril…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:36 AM
6

Hooking up is a LOSING. GAME. for women and I have always always always been of this opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:53 PM
-4

This is not real. I think dudes out here are starting to fuck with us to see just what we will post. I cannot possibly believe this is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:52 PM
12

This is literally my ex. I have no proof but I am sure he was doing this game behind my back. He sees women as nothing but fuck toys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:50 PM
10

I had a man do this to me, pre-FDS. I actually did hook up with him but the whole time was wondering how I got there and how it happened. I later told him I barely had time to ask him to strap up, and he got really defensive. Then I blocked and deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:48 PM
8

Go “cave man” on her? You fucking predator!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:45 PM
59

I’m getting so many amazing ladies to follow from this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:43 PM
6

I’ve been ready to bail on the idea of marriage for a while now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:43 AM
3

I just hit this 6 month point and it feels great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:36 AM
3

Yes, you can do it, too. Fuck those guys. I hear that a lot, too. From men, from women, from everyone. That’s even more reason to keep at it if you believe in the possibility of fact-based reporting, using a precise and one could say almost scientific process to report your stories. Please inbox me if you want to know more. Always happy to spread the gospel of journalism. It is still alive, no matter what anyone tells you! You keep on, too ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:38 AM
8

Just now had the first incel redditor try to DM me, ever, since joining this group. Blocked immediately. One look at his active groups and he gets a big NOPE from me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:26 PM
23

+1. I work in journalism, and in a VERY male-dominated subfield/beat, and making my way was extremely difficult and lonely. Nevertheless, I would never accept less than what I have right now. It’s my dream job. I always say it’s a combo of my hard work and good luck but you ladies have been helping me emphasize the hard work part! (I also must provide the caveat that while my family was not rich, I was never hungry, and was born with a decent amount of privilege already given to me.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:31 PM
22

When is a cock ever delicious, honey??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:29 PM
16

One time I asked for a cheese fry. One singular fry. “Don’t do that. My mom always does that and I HATE that shit.” Oh...okay. The vicious way he said that about his mother should have been red flag #1 although I saw red flags before that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:28 PM
20

Like go gay then. BOY BYE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:27 PM
5

No idea what this is from but based on this I want to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:26 PM
18

This weekend was so lovely. I spent it by myself leveling up. Friday after work, socially distant beers (2) with a colleague I haven’t seen in too long. I also paid bills, which I personally have always liked doing; it makes me feel good that I can and do consistently. This payday was satisfying bc I recently worked a holiday and some OT, plus I turned in year-end expense reports. I bought a candle for my sister-in-law for Christmas. Earlier this year, I found candles just sort of by happenstanc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:44 AM
1

Ok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:56 PM
7

Yes!!! I’m childfree and want to remain that way but I want to also know if we did end up pregnant he would dazzle me every day with the kind of father he would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:55 PM
3

This. I think society has just made it so easy for LVM to be LVM. Big part of that was conditioning women to put up with it. I think now that we are all starting to realize what complete garbage the dating scene is, and, on top of that, the garbage expectations men often bring with them; we are calling it out and saying, no more of this, no more of any of this until it BENEFITS ME. In time, this will cause LVM to become HVM. Those who want to change, that is. I think, anyway. This is my hope! I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:49 PM
4

What would I do? L-E-A-V-E, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:41 PM
1

Yeah, I missed this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:21 PM
2

Amen, sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:24 AM
67

To the date, then waiter: "Is everything okay?? Sir, I think his leg/foot may be having a spasm" Yelling to the entire restaurant: "Is there a chance there's a doctor in the building???"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:06 PM
11

Wow, you've met my ex's mom too, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:52 PM
73

Dude is probably thinking “she’s cute, she could be gf 2. Maybe she will pick up on how I work and flirt back” oh yes she did pick it up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:17 AM
4

I’ve been on an extended TBD dating break and I am not sure if I want to go back 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:59 AM
6

Idjit, that’s not how it works!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:34 AM
9

The first line of the text contains “I’ve always felt off” like ok 👍 we can wrap this up now, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:33 AM
1

I’m sorry, I did not mean to be discouraging, but just agreeing that damnit, yeah, this is my experience, too. I’m taking the perspective that this pandemic/quar time is for me. I know it’s hard though, especially if you like dating! I have truly always hated it and especially OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:07 AM
5

It’s been refreshing, since joining this sub, to take this attitude on. It was what I always wanted but didn’t know I needed kind of thing. Just permission to live my own life. I also am relieved to stop pressuring myself to spend time with women who don’t contribute to my growth or want to see me grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:05 AM
2

I Do, Cardi ft SZA Independent, Webbie Raising Hell and Woman, Kesha The Weezer version of No Scrubs is good too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:55 AM
7

It is truly the same guys every time. Sometimes literally. If not, they certainly all seem to fit into a type or certain types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:46 AM
2

I wouldn’t respond but would not block either. Agree with others good to have clues about any potential escalations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:43 AM
336

I don’t want her to get in trouble/lose her job but this is the kind of energy that has got to be out here in the world. She’s my hero!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:25 AM
2

Nag Champa 🤣 that shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:13 AM
2

Yes, I made an edit. Thank you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:03 AM
17

I love you for saying it. Someone has to! Can you imagine, some men go their whole lives living in this weirdo fantasy world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:50 PM
7

Last time I fucked in a car in a park it was in high school. And it made me feel gross, even then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:33 PM
7

YEAHHHHH GIRL give it to him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:21 PM
15

I love cackling like a mad witch, and I love this story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:18 PM
14

There were other people, including security guards, around. I wasn’t in fear. I would never do this while alone in a dark alley at night. I appreciate your concern! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:17 PM
12

I cannot avoid it, unfortunately. This place sort of attracts douche bags but it’s the only place I can get the product I need — one of those lovely situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:34 PM
2

So curious if they’re starting to shitpost just so we post it here? I want to not believe this is how men really are. Yet, it’s before 9am and I have had two experiences with men that show me how entitled they are. I don’t even want to post the details bc it’ll take too much of my precious time but ugh this Friday is an UGH MEN day, ONCE AGAIN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:05 PM
82

“Garden variety LVM” got me LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:00 PM
31

Yes ma’am, on point 3. LVM ex used to get honest every now and then (or this is more thinly-veiled manipulation, more likely) and say “I feel like you could leave me and be fine but I’m so much better with you in my life than without you” and in my head I was like “well...yep! That’s true!” But old pickme me was like “aww no honey, I love you and I need you!” No, I don’t. He’s probably lurking around here. If you are, hey, you were right. I don’t need you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:00 PM
13

Yeah fuck that sub. Never been, never going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:55 PM
23

Amazing post, 10/10. Also, “the men who don’t get it.” LOLOL. Why is that so on point???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:53 PM
5

Ok but where are these guys who are making these videos??? CALL ME, BROTHERS 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:28 AM
3

He is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:26 AM
7

Lol, men being men! They’re so dumb and clueless, but let’s let them run the world, anyway. - PickMes everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:22 AM
5

Also you have to listen to all his problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:16 AM
2

Also big fan of “Before He Cheats” by Carrie Underwood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:06 AM
11

Yeah. Why don’t we throw in their faces how many other matches we have? (I’m not even on OLD rn, but could get on and rack them up so easily) Like oh you have one girl who you’re dating right now, cool, there are literally dozens of men who will savor a drop of attention from me. Sit down and be humble, little boys. Men need to realize the reality here. I guess we here at FDS will just have to keep realizing it for them, until all women are aware, and this bullshit doesn’t work any more. There w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:04 AM
10

My thoughts, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:01 AM
9

Translation: “so are you cool with sucking my dick while I swipe on tinder?” These idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:59 AM
16

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:56 AM
6

These guys make me want to go. off. I can smell them a mile away. Sometimes literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:54 AM
3

I’m glad you survived, too. TBIs are so difficult. The pain is something you can’t pinpoint and you can’t even really physically feel it, you know? It was just a constant merry go round of misery, for about the first 18 months. I just hated being inside my own head. It felt like it didn’t work right, I couldn’t think straight. I don’t blame you for being scared to get in a car. PTSD is real and it comes out of no where when I least expect it. Edit: well, except in cars. But even then I know it’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:17 AM
8

Yep. I have been in a car accident; where I was sitting behind the driver. Broke a hip, part of my back; sustained a moderate TBI. It wasn’t pretty but I am a stronger bitch because of it. My three friends in the car called someone for a ride and left me there, unconscious. Luckily (and obviously) someone else called me an ambulance. Like I said, stronger bitch. So, allowing others to drive me anywhere is still hard, and it’s been 10 years. Men make me doubly nervous. It was an angry, irrational…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:55 AM
29

Every single “discussion” with LV ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:38 AM
14

T H I S is why I’ve been single majority of my adult life. So many LVW my age are like “omg, lol, why don’t you do tinder lol we can be tinder friendz!!” And I’m like girl you have NO idea what you’re missing. Try it my way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:34 AM
3

Did someone inbox her about FDS? She needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:31 AM
11

What does this man accomplish by leaving this comment? He doesn’t really compliment her. He doesn’t get anything besides outing himself as a nasty piece of shit. I really want to know the thought pathway. sees picture then says “mUh PeNiS” then types comment, then thinks “huh huh yeah huh huh that’s good” (Beavis and Butthead voice) like frfr it cannot be any more complicated that this. I really cannot understand, my ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:28 AM
3

It’s so hard not to feel lonely right now. This is the way, you got it sis 💪 staying bright despite the plight 💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:23 AM
25

You can always call the police for a ride, too, especially if you are in a dangerous situation and have no other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:22 AM
2

Just look at Kevin Pearson on This Is Us. Total man baby, complete mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:05 AM
15

Agree, just stopped taking my pill this month after my period. I feel incredible already. Almost like an alcoholic on a pink cloud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:57 AM
18

I stopped taking my hormonal birth control (the pill) and holy. shit. I feel so much more clear-headed, am sleeping and waking better, feel overall less depressed. And less hungry. And less fat (no way have I actually lost anything yet, and I’m not seeking to necessarily, but my appetite feels vastly different) I was on it for more than a decade. I liked knowing when my period was coming, I had bad skin as a teen and I loved that I never had to worry too much about being pregnant. I can proudly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:54 AM
5

I needed to see this today. Done being gaslit and silenced and being the bigger person at work. Time for me to stand up for myself (while maintaining respect), continue the best work I can and search for something better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:29 AM
6

LOL at this whole 🧵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:49 PM
14

This made me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:46 PM
12

There was a dude I was into in high school. He has major drug problems so dodged a bullet anyway, but: What turned me off from him, in the end, was basically he would start these horrible and toxic relationships with younger and younger women, and then call me when it all came to a head and he had a big decision to make. “I’ve just always known I could call you, and you would be there and listen and know what to do. Because you always know what to do” — this last time, he was literally asking me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:45 PM
51

This made me snort-laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:59 PM
15

Hey. I’m about to turn 30 in November and I and not anywhere near an “Old.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:56 PM
10

Lmao they can have him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:15 AM
6

Yeah, I cannot with any other reddit subs. Even if they’re mostly ok, someone has to always ruin it in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:46 AM
9

With you two, here 💕 onward and upward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:43 AM
13

Same sis 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:34 AM
14

Came here for this comment looool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:34 AM
0

Yes, fuck yes. Cardi B is one of my favorites (it makes me sad the industry traps her and Meghan and Nicki into “Sapphire” archetype but that’s another discussion and NOT their fault) and I was legit waiting for the day for her to wake up and gtfo. Good for you, my lady; I hope you are reading this and have joined us here!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:06 PM
2

Too many fucking times, I did it because x y and z, not because I really wanted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:43 PM
2

Absolutely night walks, and going out dancing. I rarely went in the before times bc for example, the last time I was groped in a club it seemed like the guy just wanted to try and finger me through my pants. I moved his hand so many times and eventually just shoved him off of me completely. Just wait until life gets back to normal again and FDS-me goes out dancing again. This time, I won’t move his hand; I’ll just move my elbow quickly and directly into his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:37 PM
1

I hang back, but I’m not a bystander.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:27 PM
6

Girl!! On my 25th birthday, at the beach, watching the sunset by myself, I decided I wasn’t taking any more shit. Life has been just going up and up since then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:36 PM
4

LVM ex said this alllll the time after he would make a “joke” that was insulting and upsetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:34 PM
50

I wasn’t married thank god, but I let my ex slip and keep coming back. And doing the same thing over again. So I just want to say if you didn’t have the strength to leave and bail the first time he treated you like shit, it’s ok if you found the strength the 10th time, the 50th time, for me it felt like the 5000th time. The thing that tipped me in the end was he was trying to get at my money (long story) and for whatever reason, it finally clicked. If he wasn’t going to look out for my finances …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:32 PM
9

Love her, love this book, love the passage. Thank you for sharing here 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:21 AM
3

This is why I’m terrified to get back out there too! Want to hang out here for a little longer and get my standards reinforced. Although I do see the world differently now. When I watch shows, when I see couples out together, I’m thinking “now see that’s an HVM/LVM flag” 😂💪 good for you for seeing it and bailing. It’ll be better next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:15 AM
10

Love this idea and adopting it. I also rationalize and give far too many chances. Well, I have in the past, I don’t plan to any more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:14 PM
9

I want this to be a fake bot account. Please let it be a fake bot account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:36 AM
49

It wasn’t shitty how things ended so abruptly; actually, it was on purpose! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:23 AM
14

But what is this image though. Like what exactly were the depths of the hell it came from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:10 AM
2

🤣🤣🤣 touché
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:37 AM
1

I’ve watched this 50 times, will watch it 50 more. Goddess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:36 PM
51

Kanye literally says that in a song. (The LVM of all LVM and I do not say that bc he has mental health issues)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:33 PM
96

I absolutely hate when men do this after we just started talking. Bc yes, it’s a clear red flag of what you are trying to do. Also I don’t want to talk to you yet. I haven’t had my coffee and I don’t need you getting on my nerves first damn thing in the morning. Also you should have shit to do in the morning; your own shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:28 PM
4

Obama is a fine, fine man. But I could never look at him in that way!!!! Hell no!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:55 PM
26

I’m a white woman and I am trying to learn all I possibly can about the different ways Black people, and Black women especially, have been held down and held under for literally decades. Some of it was codified into law. I know you Black Queens know all this; I just wanted to say it, to say I am learning, I have more to learn, I see you, and I’m sorry we haven’t done better for you. We can and we must do better for you, in so many ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:53 PM
3

I cackled loudly, as I finish my lunch sitting on my back porch on this glorious scrote-free day, and said, “oh my god, this is the greatest” well played OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:47 PM
1

“Baby, it’s misogynistic outside”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:19 PM
10

We’ll have to come back and make megathreads on the big holidays — sounds like there are plenty of us. I have spent nearly every holiday alone, at one time or another, bc I work in news. And also bc my family can be toxic. I will have time to go home this year, I think, but I never stay long and always end up with time to myself. I love it, though. I would have really really loved a reddit thread full of like-minded ladies who have to spend the day alone, too, so I am glad this year we can be he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:59 AM
12

Sending love and light sis ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:54 AM
16

Want the t shirt please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:43 AM
8

It’s me in 60 years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:42 AM
38

This is the way to go. I was in a situation with an extremely creepy male coworker, and wished so badly later on that I documented everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:41 AM
3

The internet has laid all of this bare. Thank you, Internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:18 AM
2

We. Should. One of us records a LVM statement or pickup line and one of us will mash them all up together. Could disguise our voices, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:08 AM
8

Hahahaha, oh my god. This is...I do not have words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:41 AM
2

This person is a pedo to-be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:38 AM
4

Yeah, and even just the facial expression he’s making here. Straight up DURRRRR red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:58 PM
43

Yeahhhhh I was waiting for this to come up in here — was gonna write the post myself if I didn’t. Glad Cardi left his ass. I love how men shit all over her for being who she is, fearlessly, and being successful because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:45 PM
2

If I made this video myself, I would never be able to post it. I would be immediately mortified, delete it, and crawl under a rock. No, wait, I would never make this video. I don’t understand how they don’t see it. I grew up witnessing a not-exactly-healthy man/woman marriage (they’re still together, lovingly, somehow) BUT my mom still managed to get into my head to never be subservient or servant or anything to a man. She taught me to be nothing but RESPECTED by men. Even in my past pickme life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:43 AM
21

His photo fits his description of self; all too well. I’ll give him snaps for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:34 AM
11

lol why is this so good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:27 PM
2

Girl yes! Sending all the support from here! Can't wait for the update.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:24 PM
6

This cannot be real. Is this real? Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:02 PM
4

Had this moment on my 25th. Will never forget it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:55 PM
46

A woman did the same for me. She prayed for me and told me God had me in his hands and it’s going to be alright. She prayed with me at a stoplight in some bunk ass Florida heat, middle of summer, it was a horrible day for me; I will never forget that woman. I’m not even religious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:55 PM
20

Y’all are further fortifying the life I built for myself. It has not been easy and I am still building. This world isn’t make for independent women, single or paired — I stg. This sub, though, makes me feel like we can make it work for us if we do it right and live selfishly. Truth be told, I have been living selfishly as long as I can recall. Making sure I have a roof over my head; healthy, nutritious food for me and my cat; and enough money to pay for what we need, comes first. That, and being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:31 AM
15

I wake up every day and the first thing I do is read some of the book I’m reading for fun. On Sunday it might be 2 hours. On Monday it might be 2 pages. But I always make a little progress and take time to enjoy one of my favorite things (good writing) in the morning. No matter if I do nothing else that day (extremely rare) I accomplished something AND I enjoyed it. I should also do this with working out, and I’ve found the perfect workout that leaves me feeling accomplished and I enjoy. I just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:14 AM
10

Yeah. I’ve had guys straight up send me porn before, and when I messaged back that it was gross and please don’t send me that shit, he said “what, u don’t like my porn babe?” Or “is my porn too much for u babe?” Or both Or sth like both — sickening responses. You place ownership over it? Wow. Just nasty af. Others have asked in the “getting to know you” phase if I watch or would be open to doing so together. I always have the same reaction OP had, here. Immediate disgust, discomfort and a tinge …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:05 AM
23

There’s also nothing romantic about meh love. So many women tell me they chose to get married and have children because “it was time” and “I was ready” or “I was tired of dating” or “we live together” or “I was meant to be a mother, I needed to be a mother” or something along those lines. But so why do you just like, toss a lasso out there and hope for the best? They’re determined and focused on one set of goals while completely missing the fact that they’re shooting themselves in the foot by ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:37 AM
17

“Also can I get an order of chicken nuggets plz thx babe”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:26 AM
3

Nice for what?? We’ll keep mean mugging, fellas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:12 AM
17

Even if you cannot afford a security system, get a sign for one. Or actually get a security system. Dogs are good for that, if you like dogs and have room for one. I am careful to make sure all my windows are covered and you cannot see into my place. I do not have dogs or children, so I also chose to live on a busy, high-visibility street for that purpose. I generally just carry myself with an unfuckable-with attitude and energy. That, and doing everything else listed here, has helped me avoid s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:38 PM
26

He’s cute, is he single, let’s gooooo (lol no I’m kidding, I am sure he’s married!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:24 PM
8

My strategy is to line up a list of negative things he did and said, exactly for this purpose. I recall one, every time a good memory comes up. Even made the list in my phone for me to physically take out and look at when it gets really hard. I don’t cry any more. Give it time. It WILL get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:02 PM
5

I always put college and my career first, after growing up in a small town where many women settled for being a working mom but I stg none of them were happy. I couldn’t imagine growing up to have a life where I stayed in that town, got married, had kids and that was that. The idea actually terrified me, and I knew I wanted so much more. The choice to prioritize myself and my career only continues to be the right choice. Men who are intimidated by my career and what I’ve got going on for me — NE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:26 PM
2

I had to log off, because I am cynical by nature, and do not believe in people’s best nature. I know we are all selfish. So, I just stay away, because you’re right. There are so many fug mugs and LVM. And fug mug LVM. The only answer for me has been to vet hardcore any man who comes into my life, and if they are LVM, keep them at a distance if they’re not entirely avoidable (family, work) I just don’t tell anyone what’s going on in my head, when it comes to men, because it would all take way too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:19 AM
17

Coffee, and I’ll take you to a field. Please, yes, give us both smelly breath, and a need to pee with potentially nowhere to relieve that. This stinks of LVM — pun intended. What a joker. Edit: Also, I enjoy coffee. But not for a date. On top of this not being a date, it’s a terrible idea. Coffee makes your breath smelly (always a good reason to never do a “coffee date,” on top of the many others) and makes you have to pee. Also I’ll take you to a field sounds fucking rape-y.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:18 AM
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Did this, the guy I did it for ended up saying “I think we both know you could stand to lose some weight” and called me dent-head, once. I was in a traumatic accident where I hit my head really hard, broke my hip and part of my back. Nice guy, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:27 PM
2

My most recent ex would say things like this as well; I also put up with it. It always bothered me too. So fucking weird, honestly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:30 PM
6

Still know some guys who been doing this exact same thing for 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:09 AM
7

Also hate the ones who don’t read or “hate reading.” This type, and the type you posted about, probably go hand in hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:08 AM
4

But also low key spironolactone (some are predisposed to more severe side effects)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:07 AM
2

The only time it’s okay, I vote, is in the intro to Kimmy Schmidt when the gay guy (never got super into the show and I forget, I’m sorry!) yells “FEEEEE-males are strong as hell!” (I think that’s what he yells? If so, then it’s okay. But every other time it is a red flag for a bag of trash.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:02 AM
1

THANK YOU for saying this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:58 AM
32

Why is everything a pill with these people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:53 AM
8

I remember when I was pickme-ing, I brought a guy back to my place once. He gestured at my degree hanging prominently in my living room and said “really??” And then said the same thing about other college-themed things I had. Thanks bud! We still never talk sometimes. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:15 AM
2

Nominating for handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:12 AM
9

This exact same thought. Absolutely repulsive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:07 AM
2

I’m sus about many parts of this 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:39 AM
6

Add this one to the handbook, mods?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:24 AM
4

Amen, 110%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:12 AM
4

People say it’s tough to be a single woman and I’m so many ways it is. But I’ll be damned if I think my life is going to get less tough or less complicated by adding a husband and children, especially in this society and political climate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:01 AM
2

Or dick pics sent after you expressly said you did not want a dick pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:56 AM
6

We dated the same man. We did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:16 PM
19

I mean I love this sub and I have no intention to have kids. I think it’s ok for me to expect this stuff even if I don’t expect to have kids. I’m not just picking someone random to hang out with for life, either; I’m picking someone to come along and witness my growth, my journey. To benefit from what I do, my intelligence and my ability to navigate this world, financially and otherwise, with ease. Gotta prove yourself worthy to get on this ride!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:47 PM
6

Yessss thank you was getting tired of watching Catfish. And seeing so many LVMs and pick mes, lol. We could have a whole thread dedicated to all of the many FDS “oh no no’s” seen on Catfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:42 AM
3

Background check guys, find out their potential emails, then use those usernames before the @ sign to plug into Facebook/Twitter/Insta links.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:54 AM
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This is what it is for me. When people ask why I don't want to have kids, I then realize if they are asking that question, there's no point in trying to explain my reasoning. They already do not get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:52 AM
11

Lol where can I watch Designing Women tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:48 AM
5

Thank you for posting this! I think run doubly fast if he hates cats and is obsessed with his dog -- like spends more money on the dog than anything else, including you. And hits the dog when it won't do what he wants. Major red flags. I cut and run, thankfully! But just hating cats alone is enough, I agree, based on cats' nature, like you said. I love that I have found my people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:45 AM
8

awwwwz hez zo cutez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:44 AM
5

It me, a year ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:42 AM
1

I absolutely will not stop speaking about this stuff! It's my passion and my job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:17 PM
2

I deleted my comment because it got downvoted, and I'm a little less likely to visit this sub as often, now. I was defending my career, and one that is sort of hanging in the balance right now. Which is funny. My profession is the only one enshrined in the U.S. Constitution, and that's why I take it so seriously. Breaking news that Bruce Jenner is now Caitlyn Jenner is not the same as breaking news that elected officials are not, in fact, getting raises at the same rate as their underlings, as t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:39 PM
3

Happened to me, too. Waiting for this regretful message to show up in my inbox. He was so rich when he had me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:27 PM
8

I hate this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:15 PM
20

I hate when female friends think I’m a prude for not wanting to answer their questions about my sex life or about what I like. I think that’s all very private and should remain between two people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:02 PM
25

I'm sick of it. Sex is a beautiful thing that's been completely twisted, drugged up and ruined by the porn industry. Every time I would say this around female friends they would be like “you want to live in a world that doesn’t exist. Men are going to look at porn, it’s what they do” And I’m like hold up. Y’all supposed to be my empowering girlfriends. The fuck??? I’ll never accept any amount of porn in my relationship. Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:01 PM
20

I know someone who uses the OLD apps and sleeps with guys after first date. She says she needs to know that the sex is good. As many have said here, I can’t have a good time with someone until I know I’m actually into him and vice versa. I’ve always found that when I had sex too soon with a guy (ugh too many times) it felt awkward and just not right and I began to regret it as soon as it started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:46 PM
21

I moved out of Florida literally bc I knew I would never find a high-value man there. Or if I did, it would take a long time and a lot of time and effort and stress that I don’t have. The one friend I know who found a HVM and is married now was introduced to him through work. I’m a journalist and she was too at the time, and his mom was one of her sources for a story, and his mom set them up for their first date. Some people might be like “wow he had to meet a woman through his mom huh” but he v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:43 PM
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I don’t do OLD. I’m considering downloading apps just to msg with guys and try out some of my new FDS strategies and such. Not bc I feel I need practice necessarily but I’m just so excited to be empowered in this way. I hate OLD, but it might actually be a good place to practice. (Except, I’ve heard some not-great stories about y’all getting harassed after rejecting scrotes.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:35 PM
6

Ex was all of these things. He took multiple dishes from me, just sort of pilfering them away and never giving them back when I forgot them over at his place. He later had roaches in his kitchen (he lived near a restaurant but also I figure you have to have a cleaning problem if they come out) so I didn’t want any of it back. And he needs it more than I do 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:09 PM
1

My ex once told me “you can’t drive” — he didn’t own a car the whole time we dated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:15 AM
1

Had to be charming to make up for him. Been there. Here we be, women, doing the fucking most to make sure everyone feels ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:13 AM
8

THIS. I’ve hired movers the past two times I’ve moved and I’ll never not do that again. I also would so much rather spend my hard-earned money to hire help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:16 PM
4

This is why I can’t get one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:37 AM
3

I love doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:36 AM
13

My ex still doesn’t believe rape inside of marriage is a thing. He literally argued “no!” to me when I said “nobody ever has to have sex with anyone, ever, no matter what”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:48 PM
18

Vidya made me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:47 PM
6

HELL YES to learning python. Programming has freed me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 10:24 PM
2

And lord help us with PickMes in the workplace. When “Let’s work on this together!” Actually means “you do all the actually difficult work, and I’ll take credit!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:38 PM
2

THESE ARE ALL THE MEN ON OLD, THEYRE ALL THE FUCKING SAME Got a pickme friend who literally says the same thing after each guy she “dates” — “he was cute, I really liked him, the sex was good!” Let me get this straight, you’re giving me the same review of every different guy you see. And you don’t see an issue with this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:28 PM
2

Lol so funny how he’s disrespectful and doesn’t give a shit about our relationship, isn’t it? But hey listen I get to make fun of him while I fix his plate so I’m happy! It’s so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:01 PM
2

I like the line about make sure you’re strong on your own otherwise setting yourself up for codependency. One is my friends just got divorced bc she was cheated on, and now she’s dating the ex of the woman her husband cheated on her with. She keeps gushing about how perfect it is and she met his mom and etc and she’s not even totally divorced yet. It amazes me how women can get the biggest red flag waved in their faces and then go on to repeat the same mistake again. I know abuse is not our faul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:53 PM
1

All of this. Wish I found this sub 3 years ago, when I got to a bigger city and started dating. I think I got more bad advice from women “friends” than I did tinder matches, lol. I can think of two women in my life who simply cannot be alone, and I truly feel bad for them. I love spending time by myself. Especially right now, it’s a skill we all need to learn and learn to enjoy. I can also think of a couple women who recently tried to downplay harassment/abuse I experienced at work — I didn’t re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:33 PM
7

And they so did! All the time we were together they were like “Janelle. Please. JANELLE. PLEASE!!!!! LEAVE!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:10 PM
2

Lol at this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:12 AM
6

Not to mention if you have kids — just another physical strain for you to deal with, woman, you can do it! You deal with my bullshit all the time, don’t you? Oh shit, I’m sorry. It’s so easy (and comical, lbs) to drop right into their delusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:09 AM
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I didn’t like it, either. This is why I don’t like OLD on the whole. Too many times to be like “sigh, NEXT!” And too few stories of success.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:03 AM
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Ok! Thank you. My most recent ex acted like I wasn’t a woman anymore bc I didn’t cook him breakfast the day after the first time. Or the second. Or the third or fourth. Took me a long time to cook for him, and it was only after he asked. And I hated it (even though I love gardening and cooking for myself - soup to nuts, here!). And from now on (I just arrived here in FDS a few weeks ago, and I’m obsessed) it waits...until idk when. It’s taken me a few months to mourn my naive ability to “fall” f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:59 AM
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I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:56 AM
3

My ex used to be like “we’re going to make up for lost time you know it” after we fought and then would hump it out, go to sleep. The last time I remember being like “ok, already not worth it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:42 AM
6

AIM chat rooms were it for me. I was bored and by myself in the summer so I just wandered in there. My dad once somehow found a log, and shamed me for it; yelled at me for it. It’s a relief to know it wasn’t just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:39 AM
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Aw fuck, it’s my ex again! 🤣 he was legit one time like “you didn’t tell me you had STRAIGHT male friends” and I was like “yeah I went to school with Nathan and Aust-“ and he’s like “THEY HAVE NAMES?!! OH” and I was like oh my god, why didn’t you tell me you are a child? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:42 AM
9

Have a pickme friend who said to me once, when I was bitching about the fact that most men do this, “Yeah, I know.” She shrugs. “But can you blame them? Telling someone ‘hey I’m not into you’ really sucks” Yes honey, let’s make sure we don’t blame the men. 🙄 we don’t spend a ton of time together anymore and I’m good with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:39 AM
19

Yep yep yep. Get tired of the scrotes in my life trying to convince me men have feelings, men are more than their dicks, etc. They’re not. Men want someone who will fuck them and serve them. Or that’s how society has taught them to be. Either way, it’s not a game I’m playing anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:23 PM
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Ugh I can’t do any of it. It’s all so fake! “Let’s pretend to have a small talk conversation, when we all know what I (man) am really here for — to get my dick wet!” I just don’t think OLD is how it happens. Too forced, too unnatural. I hated tinder and hinge so I tried bumble, bc women message first. The quality of men seemed to be better but they were still desperados who needed to get laid asap, imho. I think I’m done with OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:20 PM
5

Perfect LOL to start my morning. I don’t know how I lived before I found this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:16 PM
4

Well, Jesus fucking Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:13 PM
19

I just ditched my own fuccboi of almost 2 years. And letting go of the parts of myself that allowed him in. This is what is best for us and we deserve better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:34 PM
17

Yes, re: we must do everything for ourselves. And: In 85% of my conversations with men, I would guesstimate, I am simply letting them go on, with their advice about how I should do this or that. While they’re going on, I am: 1. Planning the rest of my day/evening 2. Thinking about work 3. Thinking about sleeping 4. Checking email 5. Or anything else Because I likely already know that hot tip they’re giving me, or, I have already found a better way to do it. But I cannot tell them either of those…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:50 AM
14

Yeah, after you come out the other side, you realize he was never really on his feet. Like, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:23 AM
7

Honestly, screw OLD, for me. For some it works, and I’ll never be one of them. I write code and work with data on a daily basis in my job; I don’t believe a program or algorithm can judge a man better than I can. Arrogant? Maybe. But it makes sense to me. The few times I’ve tried OLD it’s been a disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:15 AM
5

Yeah he’s clearly a fan of “lil ass”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:11 AM
39

Like you dumb mfers, nobody can fix you but yourself. Stop creating these weird fantasies where we do it and also worship your ugly dicks at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:18 AM
12

Just post your name, and ID your real self, bro, so we can avoid each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:13 PM
6

LOL this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:10 PM
8

Oooh, love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:08 PM
4

Really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:05 PM
2

I know someone who does this. I was underage when I sent him things. Some part of me thinks of calling it and reporting it, each and every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:06 AM
2

When any man does this, makes one of those moves, it’s so startling. I hate that they don’t understand it. I hope I’m startled by it less as I get older, and I grow more used to them being disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:04 AM
9

Big Sean is a douche and while we are here so is Offset; Cardi needs to join us in here. Set sucks (MIGOS will he forgotten in another couple years; just like Big-what’s his name?) and he can suck my clit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:55 AM
13

That woman ain’t happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:41 AM
57

I stopped by RPW for a minute (I’m new to all of this and HOO BOY) I love FDS bc it’s the strategy I made up in my mind years ago when I saw my parents struggling. They’re still together but that doesn’t necessarily mean what I saw or they went through was ok. I just knew my mom wanted to leave, at times, but felt she couldn’t. I never want to be in that place — not emotionally, not mentally, not financially. I am always ready to walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:29 AM
3

It is extremely difficult to realize when I am running into this at work, and not be a total bitch about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:46 AM
64

I just found out what MGTOW means and I sorta wish I could go back to not knowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:43 AM
2

I partake in cannabis use frequently, which I know can raise a person’s T levels, even temporarily. I see it as an edge. I’m a journalist, and sources fear me, bosses listen to and respect me, colleagues look up to me. And that’s that. (Or, it’s not the cannabis, and I was just born this way, with a domineering attitude! Or it’s a mix of both ☺️)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:22 PM
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Yep, learned this almost 11 years ago when I got in a bad car crash, and friends left me there without calling an ambulance. They were scared of getting a drinking ticket. I started over, socially, completely, at 18. It was difficult, then, but it has made cutting stupid, worthless men and people out of my life much easier. For that, I am grateful. Silver lining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:19 PM
5

Oh. My. GOD. where has this sub been all of my life? I’m spending hours reading each morning/night. Obsessed. Thank you, mods 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:17 PM
36

That phrase, about fixing the plate, makes me cringe so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:18 AM
1

This is it. I just left the gaslighting relationship; finally told LVM to fuck off and lose my number. That’s why I’m here. Not again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:25 AM
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