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| 13 | Wow I really hit a nerve talking about the movie Juno in this askreddit about movie villains. Think I hit a nerve?Sooooo, he wasn't attracted to her because she was pregnant, not because she was 16. Got it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 01:07 PM |
| 32 | 🙄Plus you can get fairy lights on clearance the day after christmas for 50 cents, or real bedsheets at walmart for $20. And if this person was so desperately poor that they could not even afford proper sheets or a shelf, you would think that the first priority would be selling those consoles, games, and speakers. A new PS4 costs almost $300 and each game can cost anywhere between 20 and 60 USD. You don't need to play video games to unwind. Library books are free, running is free, and while drawin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 11:52 AM |
| 14 | If you're in a relationship are you expected to teach your partner to help out around the house or contribute if they live with you?It should be obvious. An indicator that he will do his part is see how he lives. Is his sink full? Is his lawn mowed? Does he have freshly laundered and folded clothes? If he is functioning as a normal adult, then he should already know what he needs to do. It is reasonable to discuss who does WHICH chores once you're married and live together, considering you both are probably doing all the chores in your respective homes now, but you should never have to remind him to put his dishes in the dis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:04 PM |
| 11 | My(19f) bf(20) didn't let me see his phone. I saw her best friend's name (it's a she) what to do?Snoop snoop snoop. That sounds hella sus and keep us updated. We got your back! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 06:52 PM |
| 10 | Dummy Wants Us To All Make Her Same Sexual Mistakes by 30. But seriously, why does every single female sex columnist sound vapid, attention seeking, and like her self esteem is too cripplingly low to be doing this job?I'm annoyed just reading the second paragraph. How am I not a "real" woman because I'm not 30? How am I automatically lost and insecure because you suddenly decided that now you're finally happy at 30, so everyone else must be miserable before then? After all my experiences, successes, and living on my own for the past ten years, I am certain that yes, I am a "real" woman at 25. And unlike the author, I do pamper myself, I don't get too wasted, and my entire sense of self is not defined by how m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:38 PM |
| 11 | ‘Professional Choker’ 🤮Unless he's a tag team pro wrestler who's signature move is the chokehold and he's looking for a new partner to sub into his matches--then yuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:25 PM |
| 5 | Lvm would rather risk divorce than brush his teeth 👍Please tell me she doesn't kiss him. That sounds revolting. Wouldn't she have noticed this when they were dating and tried kissing??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:24 PM |
| 2 | I really want to believe that this is fake but it wouldn’t surprise me if it wasn’t...Please be fake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Never tell a guy you’re dating about your trauma / past abusive relationshipsPosted it before, but for some reason, I was invited to a gross PUA private subreddit. Here are some of the "tactics" they're teaching. https://imgur.com/a/gn2XGYJ It's really awful stuff. They teach each other how to use a woman's trauma to force bonding and get sex from her while she's vulnerable. Also teaches disturbing, condescending relationship dynamics without her consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Living alone tipsWhen I first moved into my own apartment, I lived by these rules: Don't tell anyone you live alone. Don't tell anyone where you live. Lock the doors as soon as you get home. Keep all windows locked. Park close to the building. Try to not return or leave home at odd hours. Switch up your schedule if you can. For work it might not be feasible, but maybe go work out some afternoons or go grocery shopping. Don't hold open the building door for anyone. If they live there, they have a key. If they're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 05:30 PM |
| 3 | I was only trying to help 😭I DM people who need FDS. Sometimes they are already on here and working on their pickme-ness! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 05:04 PM |
| 73 | It’s been over a month & this conversation still makes me want to vomitI lived on my own as a broke ass 19 year old with 3 part time jobs. It's not an accomplishment for a 32 year old man to not live with his parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Moving in together....??? I need help on this oneThat’s so awful. I hope she’s okay. I think moving away from your hometown for anyone, even if it’s just another state over (USA here), is a huge sacrifice, let alone traveling abroad. It’s far too risky for nothing but a promise. If you ever go through with it, at the very least you need to have a support system and the resources to take care of yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:48 PM |
| 13 | Pickmeisha RevelationCongratulations. Welcome home! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:03 PM |
| 9 | Moving in together....??? I need help on this oneAbsolutely not. Usually, I'd actually go against the FDS grain and say it's not an awful idea to move in together, but it could only ever work out if: You have the resources to leave immediately if this relationship isn't working out. You have strong boundaries that he respects. You are not legally on the hook for payments (i.e. all bills under his name.) He is doing more chores than you are around the house. There is a clearly defined expectation of marriage within the first year of living toge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:35 PM |
| 15 | Getting sh*t for not wanting to move in with a man...thoughts?I don't mind, simply because I would like to see if I can tolerate this person before making the marriage commitment. I would only move in with my bf if I had the resources to leave immediately if the arrangement isn't in my favor. I would also ensure I got mail delivered there to establish residence in case things go sour and I have the law on my side for a minimum of 30 days to retrieve my things and protection against my belongings. Chores and bills will have to skew in my favor, regardless o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:25 PM |
| 50 | Someone commented about OP making the ring himself because it's also cheaper and all the pick mes obviously started saying 'BUT IT'S THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS 🥺'...but the replies on the plastic one were too much for mePlastic ring??? That's a new low. Even in arcades the plastic rings are the most worthless item you grab. You only pick it when you have like 7 tickets left and the jolly ranchers are 10. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 01:09 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend’s friendship with my worst enemy - is this a red flag forest or am I just jealous and overly sensitive?This isn't HV behavior. If he cared about your feelings, knowing that she was awful to you (not to mention this kind of relationship just seems so inappropriate! 15 year gap??), he should be able to cut her out with no hesitation. My bf's "best friend" was a woman he had been friends with for 10 years. I thought it was odd, but I befriended her. She ended up making all sorts of weird, back-handed comments, and just trying to tear down our relationship overall. My bf caught on it immediately and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 07:05 PM |
| 10 | Scrote asks if he ITA for threatening to financially abuse his wife because she had a savings account to protect herselfThat sub pisses me off so much. Everyone keeps saying she should have told him that she was keeping a personal account, except it's not a personal account. She has an emergency account in case her husband turns out to be abusive. Telling the abuser about the secret account defies its purpose. Victims of abuse sometimes have no other option than to leave the situation with nothing but the clothes on their backs. Worst of all, OP knows that she has been abused in the past and finances made it diff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 06:54 PM |
| 39 | Hot guyCongratulations! I did notice though that you are only four months in, why are you splitting housework? You shouldn't really be doing any housework for him at this stage at all. You are right in that men who value you will put in a ton of effort early on, but that is also applicable to men who just want to pump and dump. These men put in tons of effort at the beginning only for it to drop off as soon as they get what they want or find a better toy. That's why you need to stay on guard, don't giv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:24 PM |
| 1 | 👑♀️Yeah, we already have those conversations with them, and of course their parents do with them as well. I just recall from my own experience on the internet that even though my parents had those kinds of conversations with me as well when I was a kid, I still found myself talking to adults online. I thought I was different and those warnings didn't apply to me because I was "mature" for my age and some other BS things the adults online fed to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:16 PM |
| 5 | 👑♀️Anybody know about Fortnite? Is that something we should be concerned about for the kids too? I have some nieces and nephews who play Fornite and now I'm worried. (Is there a difference between them? I don't know much about these kinds of games.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:03 PM |
| 7 | Millionaire Youtuber Asks His Part-Time Model Girlfriend To Split The Check.This is when I would giggle, graciously agree with him, and praise him for being so progressive! Then I'd excuse myself to the bathroom to freshen up so that we can go somewhere a little more private. And by private, I mean I'm going home alone without paying a cent of that. He probably picked an expensive place that she probably couldn't comfortably afford like he could. What an ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 11:45 AM |
| 3 | Why all women should take up BJJI do MMA and while I know I probably wouldn't be able to fight most men one-on-one, I've gotten much stronger and fitter. After all that cardio, I'm fairly confident that I could run away from most people and keep it up for sustained periods of time. The best mode of self-defense is to run away. Fighting back is usually a last resort option. Remember, if you can help it, never fight off an attacker. Run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 11:35 AM |
| 20 | Favorite ways to shut down unwanted male attention?No. Remember ladies, "No." is a complete sentence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 07:08 PM |
| 16 | "my boyfriend (35m) drugged me (26f) because we got into an argument before a long drive and he wanted me to sleep through it"TW: sexual abuse I was trying to look up the post and typed "drugged" into the AITA search engine and the results were really disgustingly titled nsfw porn subs pertaining to raping drugged women. I feel sick after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 05:34 PM |
| 13 | Girl please don'tI hope she gets picked soon for her sake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 05:28 PM |
| 3 | She says her relationship is fine other than the fact that he never showers, she has to baby him 24/7, he stinks up the whole house and still expects sex.Agreed. That's why we vet ruthlessly and don't declare any man an HVM within the first 6-12 months of a relationship, and even then their true nature can take years to reveal itself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 05:11 PM |
| 4 | Relationships aren't charities for undeserving peopleDated an ex with bipolar disorder who had a manic episode requiring police intervention, heavy sedation for several days, in- patient care for a month, and baby-sat at all times for 3 months after. Refused to take the medication, engaged in recreational drugs which can induce mania, and did not have an appropriate sleep schedule which can also induce mania. I fought with my ex SO many times on all this, but the stress of that, plus 3 jobs, full time school, and my own dwindling mental health mad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Saying too bad he couldn't sleep with me is apparently a compliment 🙄She's married and he thought she would cheat if he expressed desire for her because he would do the same in her position. She's attractive right up until she turned him down, then she suddenly because a waspy woman that men hate, despite being married to a man. She never called anyone ugly. She literally said "you're delusional for thinking I want to fuck you two seconds after I said I'm married." Giving her unsolicited advice on being nicer to attract more men is stupid because she already attr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:52 PM |
| 16 | She says her relationship is fine other than the fact that he never showers, she has to baby him 24/7, he stinks up the whole house and still expects sex.You know how these scrotes manage to find girlfriends? I'll break it down in 12 easy to understand steps. Society grooms young women into thinking that the best thing to do is be open and up front about your interest in a man (even going as far as asking him out first!) First date, man asks what are you looking for? Woman is honest and shares what she wants: committed relationship, generous, kind, honest, general HVM things etc. Man pretends to be HVM using her exact list in order to trick the w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:43 PM |
| 8 | What an asshole. Worst thing is she actually looks very fit 🙄They're asking women to be smaller and smaller so they can resemble young girls. Many women are petite, but men are being unrealistic about it. The woman in that picture looks pretty petite, yet he's saying she's fat? I'm a size 0/2 and a man once told me I could stand to lose another 30 pounds. Expecting a woman at 5'2" to weigh double digits? Yeah, lemme cut off my leg then? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:22 PM |
| 4 | Whisper...wow.You're so right. There is some more aggression in "You women," than saying "Women" alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:15 PM |
| 12 | An entire thread of things men like and desire, but will pretend they don’t!I think it's hilarious they say that revealing clothing is a turn off, yet men seem to think that a woman in revealing clothing is a reason to catcall. It's so controlling and gross when they say things like they don't want their girl woman to show "everything" to all the other men. They are women. Saying that showing your breasts or butt is showing "everything," demonstrates that men only think of women as boobs and ass. There is more to us than our bodies. They sound like they're afraid that i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Wtf 🤦🏾♀️I think this one in particular is a joke, but I have heard men avoid washing there and assume that a light dab of toilet paper and turning your back to the shower is enough. It's NOT. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 03:40 PM |
| 42 | Why are self-proclaimed "feminist" men so asshole-y?I say it all the time and I'll continue screaming it from the rooftops. Men want feminism to stop paying for dinner, women want feminism to stop getting raped and murdered. A man who is a true feminist (radfem) is not only extremely rare, but he would never openly describe himself as a radfem--his actions will speak for themselves. Libfems are NOT feminists. Yeah, I said it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 06:06 PM |
| 21 | He really thinks God gave me tinder for him. Oh, where his job title, he put “not looking for anything serious fr” so clear contradictions.The use of "female" is enough to make my Fallopian tubes shrivel up. thank u, next | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 06:02 PM |
| 31 | How are we supposed to find a HVM when males are openly lusting after teen girls? IMDB reviews for Train to BusanWe don't even have to unpack the disgusting blatant sexualization of innocence and child-like features. It's so obvious what the problem there is. Something that irritates me so deeply is when men feel the need to compliment ladies by tearing other ladies down. Saying that I'm hotter than those disgusting women, isn't saying that I'm hot, it's saying that my attraction is dependent on others. It's pitting people in a competition they never even signed up for. It's setting women up to find each o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Instead of sending this reply, I blocked him. Not spending time on guys who don’t do the basics.I guess architect is the hot thing now. Maybe executive will be next? Hamburger executive (fry cook), nutrition transport executive (bagger at Walmart), customer hospitality executive (greeter at K-mart). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:44 PM |
| 5 | What do boundaries feel like?"No." is a complete sentence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:14 PM |
| 6 | Please share your list of deal-breakers and must haves in terms of values, career, physical, etc.Agreed. I'll be close-minded. I refuse to open myself up to that kind of drama unnecessarily. I stay NC with my exes and I don't have overly close friendships with other men because 1. it can get messy even if you're single, 2. it's disrespectful to your partner. Even the most secure person is subject to self-doubt and unhealthy comparisons. Not to mention, there's no competition between the present and rose-colored nostalgia. The present will almost always lose. I refuse to compete with an idea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:13 PM |
| 42 | Who here can relate?I love when men try to mansplain a certain tool or product they're using after I literally tell them that I designed the item itself and the machines used to create it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 11:24 AM |
| 14 | Please share your list of deal-breakers and must haves in terms of values, career, physical, etc.Never made an actual list, but here we go. I'm 24. - Between 25 and 29 - Taller than 5'7" - Full time employee (with upward job mobility in his chosen field) or business owner (with actual profits, physical product, and future market) - Homeowner or has his own place (NO ROOMMATES.) - College educated - Must be NC with all exes - Positive outlook - Empathetic - Dependable - Intellectually curious - Has productive hobbies Dealbreakers: - Any type of cheating whatsoever (spending time alone and ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:50 PM |
| 24 | Maybe he doesn’t hit you.... butMaybe he doesn't hit you, but he gets upset if you ever decide to spend time with your friends or family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:34 PM |
| 68 | Instead of sending this reply, I blocked him. Not spending time on guys who don’t do the basics.Call me a gatekeeper, but I have gotten really annoyed with the trend of adding engineer to every job title, i.e. sales engineer (salesperson), sanitation engineer (janitor), software engineer (programmer/developer). It sounds like that's what's happening with architect now. Will the sandwich makers at Subway start calling themselves subway architects? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:24 PM |
| 1 | The bar is this low yet men will still call her standards “too high” 💀I can't remember an exact time, but suppose a guy on a date said, "I want to take things slow," I would correct him by saying, "You want to take things slowLY." It's a small thing, but the error is extremely jarring to me and hard to ignore. I've learned to suppress it over the years for the sake of not annoying the shit out of my friends and family, but I would prefer having a partner whose speech pattern doesn't elicit that kind of annoyed response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 02:54 PM |
| 14 | To all women: don't think you're above "playing games"The only reason they want us to be straightforward is so that they can get a cheat sheet on how to get into your pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 12:30 PM |
| 22 | Women work crazy hours too 🙄As far as I know most good jobs are 9 to 5 except for petroleum engineering or surgeon. Hell, even physicians only work 9 to 4 (ever tried booking a doctors appointment after you get off from work???) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:05 PM |
| 1 | What makes you a high value woman in your relationship?No problem. I’m more than happy to share my experiences. Congrats on finding a potential (you already know it’s too soon to tell) HVM partner <3 I wish you all the best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:59 PM |
| 42 | STUDY: Most men do not consider living together with you being committed or the same thing as wanting a futureI went against the FDS grain here and did move into my bf's house after a year. The bills are 50-50, but I do earn almost double what he does and my living expenses are lower than before for a much nicer space. However, he does most of the chores. All I do is cook about 4 nights a week and water the plants. He does dishes, laundry, mowing, vacuum, mop, bathroom, etc, etc. He knows very well that I could easily find another comfortable place to live in a heartbeat. He knows that I don't need this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:20 PM |
| 15 | So THIS is why they take so long to reply... no wonder their reading comprehension skills are also at a 3rd grade levellol agreed, but still funny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:03 PM |
| 16 | What makes you a high value woman in your relationship?Prioritize my health, finances, emotional well-being over everything and everyone else. Do not let anything interfere with my education or career. Always seek to improve on both. I do not let my relationship impede my self-improvement. For example, we often workout together. If he doesn't want to work out, I don't use it as an excuse to skip a day. If he wants to sleep in on a Saturday, I will still wake-up at 6 am to get a head start on my day. I cherish my alone time and do not feel the need t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:48 PM |
| 5 | What do you do when a man is late?If given a reasonable heads-up and justifiable excuse, I would give a second chance because shit happens. If it happens a second time, then block and ghost. I say this because I once had a sudden situation come up that I had to handle immediately before a date. As soon as I knew I'd be late I called him and let him know that I'd like to push back our date an hour or so later. The guy was gracious about it and as it turns out, I had the best first date of my life. He's a great guy and we've been … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:16 PM |
| 100 | From the same social media feeds of all the men & pickmes from your yeehaw small town that believe their high school science courses have given them the same educational credentials & authority as a doctor are also experts in discerning a woman's marital status based on empirical shoe evidence...I wear all of these shoes (except the crocs). Just depends on the day and it has nothing to do with my marital status. This is just another tactic used to make women "easy to understand" and one dimensional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:08 PM |
| 9 | Ok coomerYes. Those are all cheating. What's your point? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:41 PM |
| 9 | The bar is this low yet men will still call her standards “too high” 💀I've just accepted that no one I speak to IRL: coworkers, family, friends, etc. will ever use adverbs properly. It seems like in casual speech everyone just drops the "-ly." I no longer point it out, but it still sounds jarring to me. On OLD, though, I would happily correct men. If they got angry at me, then I knew they weren't the one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:24 PM |
| 5 | Oh my god... this scrote made a video specifically about us. 🤣 Several, actually.I think actual men boys take him seriously. FTFY, lol. But in all seriousness--that is appalling. This just sounds like the ramblings of a nutjob. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:16 PM |
| 9 | Oh my god... this scrote made a video specifically about us. 🤣 Several, actually.His views are probably just either people like us laughing at him or people who leave their computers on at night while their cat walks all over the keyboard mashing random keys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:12 PM |
| 10 | He still wants contact and wants to see meMinus the oral sex, this is all stuff you do with friends. Coffee "dates"? "Hang out?" Wtf? If it wasn't clear from all that that this is never going to be a romantic relationship, then the fact that he said he didn't want a relationship should have sealed the deal. Anyhow, I asked him 6 weeks ago where this is going. He mentioned he was never capable to be in a relarionship... he feel drowned and trapped, but wanted to continue to see me, and so I asked him WTF have we been doing then? So he ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:07 PM |
| 10 | Pickmeisha first states it’s normal that committed men be lusting after other women, then congratulates those men who don’t cheat while committed 🤦♀️No they don't. Mine doesn't have an instagram at all. Only uses facebook for posting pictures of us to share with his extended family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:50 AM |
| 23 | Pickmeisha first states it’s normal that committed men be lusting after other women, then congratulates those men who don’t cheat while committed 🤦♀️"As a female..." I already know that a man wrote this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:48 AM |
| 3 | We all know why.I'd call the police to come pick up these little boys and take them back to their parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Does this seem controlling? I’m no longer dating this guy, but he would tell me I couldn’t wear certain things or make any new guy friends and if I objected, he said that I didn’t give a fuck about him. If I thought he was being controlling he frequently called me crazy and irrationalJust wow. Textbook abuse. I remember a twitter post that read something along the lines of: Fellas, would you let your girl go out in this? (Image of a woman in a crop top with significant cleavage.) Re: If you can't handle dating a bad b****, don't date a bad b****. I don't mind that word when used in a positive context, so I agree with the sentiment. I'm not a fan of cleavage, but I like wearing very short and/or tight bottoms when I'm not at work. One day my bf and I were going to his friend'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:14 PM |
| 3 | I did it!! I finally found the worst possible dating advice!I didn't become a better person so I could date; I became a better person so I could tolerate myself and forge some boundaries for myself. You don't have to be perfect to start dating, but if you have a ton of issues, your priorities should be resolving them, not chasing skirts. Why would you unload all these burdens and be vulnerable to someone who you barely know? This is how people get manipulated and abused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:38 PM |
| 48 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?I posted a response to that, so I thought I'd share it here since I have a feeling you ladies would appreciate it. I did. My kindness has been taken advantage of. Plus I've been in many situations where I've felt pressured to do things I didn't want to do too quickly, but a combination of self-esteem issues combined with negging made me feel like the least I could do was give men what they wanted as compensation for putting up with me. Long story short, after ending up with bulimia and gaining m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:31 PM |
| 183 | A pickmeisha in her natural habitat. This just ain’t it...Note how she says “ratchet” “overly bold and confident” terms often associated with black and latinas. It really sealed the deal when she pointed out being raised by a “quiet white mom.” This is both racist and misogynistic. I hope she gets picked for her sake. Poor thing. It must be so hard to be that desperate for men’s approval to throw out her whole ass dignity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 04:11 PM |
| 30 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?That’s why we can’t lower our standards. Once you do, these men falsely believe that they’re hot shit when in reality they’re just lukewarm turds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:48 PM |
| 16 | Refusing to date a man with social mediaMy bf has facebook to post pictures of us and the activities we do to share with his friends and family. He's very close to them, but they all live far away so they use social media to keep everyone updated on their lives. I don't mind this at all. Big tittied IG models, though? No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 07:12 PM |
| 70 | So trueThey get used to having all their whims fulfilled that they then seek out more taboo things that they shouldn't have to get the same pleasure. It's gross and this depravity is like a drug you can build a tolerance to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:13 PM |
| 8 | My god. For once I’d love to see it the other way around. Imagine a man posting about how it irritates him as to how much men over exaggerate their ‘problems’ and how much they hate women. It would never get near this many upvotes and would never get an award.I always say this, but I'll repeat it: Men want equality so that they don't have to pay for restaurants, women want equality so that they're not stalked, raped, and murdered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 03:38 PM |
| 12 | "My fiancé infantilizes me and is generally unsympathetic towards my issues. Also, we have two kids together and we aren't married."I too am highly educated and find that most "intelligent people" don't advertise that they are intelligent. Everyone wants a partner who can mentally challenge them otherwise the relationship is unequal. Not everyone is a genius, but comparatively, people want someone as smart as they are. This is so obvious, it doesn't need to be said at all. The people who have to explicitly advertise that they want someone to have "intellectual conversations" with are those who are so insecure about their int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 12:05 PM |
| 81 | Still no mention of leaving him?She should instead stop holding him back from being with the snapchat chick who's body he loves so much. After all, he prefers a photoshopped, virtual, fantasy woman instead of the ACTUAL woman sleeping next to him. Say nothing and let him have his shot with the fantasy woman. Chances are, she wants nothing to do with him either--just his wallet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 11:37 AM |
| 104 | That’s enough Reddit for me today! Off to give my ‘female brain’ a little restWhat the heck is is this? Both my Fallopian tubes just shriveled up and turned to dust from reading this. What pickme-ass woman would actually find this to be attractive? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 11:32 AM |
| 12 | Can you spot the giant red flagI think it’s sus he wants to give his sperm to her, but I respect her insistence on doing it through a sperm donor to not let anyone else have parental rights. It annoys me though how everyone is shitting on her for wanting to be a mother even if that means she’d be raising the child alone. They think it’s selfish of her to be a single mother. What kind of absurdity is that? People become parents because they want kids. As long as a man is involved it’s not selfish to want kids but if a woman wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 02:31 AM |
| 10 | They hate it even when women act inside what's considered "our duty". It's always about control, being the breadwinner. Her "trad life" has been a tool of opression for centuries, but God forbid she uses this same trad life to make her own decisions without approval.Sounds like a troll post. Most posts that sound like some MRA fantasy sob story get so much attention and sympathetic ears, yet stories that sound very much plausible from a woman’s perspective get torn apart and gaslight her into thinking she’s the problem and needs to communicate that it hurts her feelings when her husband of 17 years says he finds her sexually repulsive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 08:57 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever had your career/job fetishized?I wouldn't say fetishized, but I work in engineering and on OLD I've been told things like I'm too cute to be doing a job like that, or I must be flirting with all the men at work, or that they finally met a girl (gag, I'm a woman) who can keep up with all two of their brain cells. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 5 | Why are the all men I've known either unable to have any emotional conversation at all or OVERLY inquisitive about emotional topics?It's a PUA tactic. I got invited to a private subreddit for PUA for some weird reason since my post history is all FDS type stuff. I screenshotted some of the most awful tactics and "Verbal Warfare: Traumatized Story-Telling" is one of the tips offer. Ugh. So gross. Here's the link. https://imgur.com/a/gn2XGYJ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 06:19 PM |
| 3 | What a liarI feel like where are you from is one of the least intrusive questions ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 06:16 PM |
| 16 | Men will marry any woman who says yes even if he isn’t attracted to her. Note he is overweight, but wishes his wife were a “petite athletic woman”.I dated while obese and I used to feel so grateful when any man gave me the slightest bit of attention. I am 5'2" and I was about 190 lbs. I gained so much confidence after l lost about 65 lbs. Of course being bigger doesn't mean you deserve anything less, but usually the lack of confidence is enough to make you think that. Now that I'm considered small I realized my worth, how much of a catch I am, and that I should never entertain anyone who is attracted to me in spite of my characteristics--t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:54 PM |
| 4 | They hate it even when women act inside what's considered "our duty". It's always about control, being the breadwinner. Her "trad life" has been a tool of opression for centuries, but God forbid she uses this same trad life to make her own decisions without approval.The original post was removed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:38 PM |
| 21 | I believe this belongs hereSo many alarms, starting from the ages. If they've been dating anything longer than a year he was definitely grooming a minor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:17 PM |
| 5 | Ideas for high value hobbiesI enjoy baking, cooking, and working-out. I do at least one of those everyday, usually all three. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:15 PM |
| 23 | Finding fds ladies in real life, being seen as extreme for people around meI feel the same way, so I hold back a little IRL except with my boyfriend and my family. He seems to agree with my stance and we laugh at posts about scrotes and the degenerates together. I also don't hold back with my family. They find me a little extreme, but I know they also admire my confidence and how well I'm doing for myself. I definitely get weird looks and discomfort from my female friends, however, so I try to steer the conversation away from men in general. When I do talk about men, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:11 PM |
| 75 | Fetishizing a race is so gross, dehumanizing, and insulting. No woman wants to hear that you find her attractive because your depraved ass thinks she looks like a "small boy going to soccer practice." So gross and so sorry to my other sisters out here being fetishized like a porn-hub category.Exactly. Some women might have that body type, but saying she looks like a small boy is alarming. A normal person would have said, "I like short, slim women," instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Getting married early?You are young, and it's definitely best to not get married so soon. That being said, just because he's looking, doesn't mean he's planning on proposing any time soon. He could just be fantasizing and thinking about the future. I shop for apartments in random parts of the world for fun and plan out what my bills and expenses would be like, but I'm not actually planning on moving to Monaco for example. Sometimes fantasizing is just a fun exercise to pass the time. I wouldn't be too worried, but if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:02 PM |
| 55 | Fetishizing a race is so gross, dehumanizing, and insulting. No woman wants to hear that you find her attractive because your depraved ass thinks she looks like a "small boy going to soccer practice." So gross and so sorry to my other sisters out here being fetishized like a porn-hub category.The question was "Do women find muscular men attractive?" so obviously I said yes, since most women do prefer a fit partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:49 PM |
| 42 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.Sounds like a troll post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 12:49 PM |
| 3 | Good luck with thatlol please tell me how | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 11:00 AM |
| 24 | Let’s discuss PUA tactics, so we can guard ourselves against them!The absolute worst ones are "tricking" women into sharing their trauma and holding it against them as a power move and infantilizing them by acting like a father and treating her like a child. That's so fucked up, perverted, sick, and disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 04:35 PM |
| 21 | Tbh I read “someone who can take my sarcasm” on dating apps as “imma be an asshole to you. Accept that” Is it just me?Speaks sarcasm means he only speaks English and is insecure about it, and he wants an excuse to be an asshole and not take responsibility for it. But don't you dare insult him because then you're just being a crazy b****. Sarcasm is for people who are too boring and uncreative to make jokes, so they have to be assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:55 PM |
| 15 | LmfaooooWhere is the sexy, handsome, fit guy he mentioned? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:51 PM |
| 27 | Let’s discuss PUA tactics, so we can guard ourselves against them!Oh, I've got some stuff to share. For some weird reason, I got invited to a private subreddit about PUA. Why? I don't know, considering my post history is full of nothing but FDS type posts. Let's see if they kick me for this comment. Warning, some of this are so gross and gag-worthy. It was awful just reading them. Truly makes me wonder if they're trolling. https://imgur.com/a/gn2XGYJ I've got SOOOOO much more, but this is already an overload. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Ladies...I need FWB adviceNope. You say nothing and cut him out. FWB is branded as empowering by liberal feminism, but it only benefits the man. Women still end up playing the girlfriend role of providing sex and emotional labor without any promise of commitment, being financially provided for, and no reciprocation of physical labor or emotional support. He's your only FWB, right? He's the only guy you're probably seeing and talking to. I'm also going to guess that you might feel guilty and unfaithful if you were to date… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 01:54 PM |
| 13 | Found some more clownery on insta. Most of the comments chewed him out except for the ones I circled.Damn. Imagine being this insecure. I have never handed off my credit card to a boyfriend. Even if I send him out to buy something, he doesn't even think about asking me for a card or cash. When I treat, I never think twice about embarrassing my BF, and I can't imagine him feeling embarrassed about having his girlfriend treat him. Even though I earn almost double his salary, he still treats me about 80% of the time, and the few times he doesn't it's because I've offered (though sometimes he still… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 01:18 PM |
| 111 | Such a shameReminds me of a tiktok posted here where a woman was speaking absolute nonsense to her boyfriend over facetime and he just kept replying with generic, "Oh?" "Okay," "Right, right," clearly not listening to a single word she said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 01:05 PM |
| 90 | Am I TA for leaving my wife because she can’t be my incubator? 🤨The only thing he's right about is that he does have a right to feel angry that he won't get to have biological kids with his wife. He can feel angry about how cruel and unfair life is to put his wife through this fear, pain, and disappointment. They can be angry that their life will drastically change, and that the vision they had for their future will no longer be a possibility. He can be angry about all of that, just not at her. Furthermore, his anger cannot take precedence over his wife's we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 01:02 PM |
| 179 | Am I TA for leaving my wife because she can’t be my incubator? 🤨Then they resent women being SAHM and not contributing financially to do "nothing" all day as if caring for a newborn and maintaining a household is supposed to be a vacation. If caring for a baby is so relaxing, why are men too tired after work to "relax" and watch the baby all night so mom can eat, shower, and sleep for once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:47 PM |
| 7 | LVM get mad when you expect the bare minimumFacts. But you know what? Some basic boundaries like not wanting a man with an ex as a "best friend" shouldn't even have to be said. Scrotes will just lie and say they're out with the boys or hide his texts and let you think he's cast her aside for you. Instead keep that boundary to yourself and just dump him with no explanation. They don't deserve the formula for fooling you or the next unlucky woman he tries to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:41 PM |
| 26 | Do not baby-step him through conflict resolution while you're out here with the emotional intelligence of a licensed therapist. I will not teach a grown man how to communicate!Or how women who are literally just being polite or friendly at work should know that your coworker is falling in love with you and you're just leading them on. Apparently, we're mind readers and just choosing to mess with that poor niceguy's feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:36 PM |
| 35 | Do not baby-step him through conflict resolution while you're out here with the emotional intelligence of a licensed therapist. I will not teach a grown man how to communicate!I went radio silent for days before breaking up with my ex of 4-5 years. My ex thought it was completely unexpected, yet couldn't piece together that I literally had to explicitly ask the right questions to find out that I was cheated on two weeks prior, i.e. did you have sex with anyone last week? No. Did you kiss anyone last week? No. Did you kiss any of our friends this weekend? No. Did you kiss anyone that I dislike this weekend? Yes. Like shit, I didn't actually think I was being cheated on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:33 PM |
| 36 | Do not baby-step him through conflict resolution while you're out here with the emotional intelligence of a licensed therapist. I will not teach a grown man how to communicate!Or worse, when you do finally get to say what you're feeling and they tell you that you're irrational and wrong. Of course, you should listen because men are logical creatures and women are emotional beings. /s Cue the manbaby screaming and cussing out his video games for losing the level/game/whatever-the-fuck they're doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:25 PM |
| 9 | Do not baby-step him through conflict resolution while you're out here with the emotional intelligence of a licensed therapist. I will not teach a grown man how to communicate!No, no, no. If he does something wrong, it should be fairly obvious, especially if you're suddenly cold and distant. He should apologize and correct his obvious fuck-ups. Sometimes people do upset us inadvertently, but if you're acting differently, avoiding your anger and pretending it doesn't exist shows you don't care about the person's emotional well-being, so when the fuck-ups are more subtle, say casually mentioning to some friends an embarrassing story your partner thought you were okay wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:22 PM |
| 22 | Exactly! You can never make LVM see "what you bring to the table", when they already feel entitled it.Being open and honest about our standards is our downfall. As long as we stay true to our standards and vet them, you won't need to ever give a man the formula to your heart. Don't share your stance on porn before he shares his, don't tell him your expectations of marriage and a serious relationship if he doesn't bring it up first, etc. It can just be as simple as asking on the first date, "what are you hoping to get out of this?" Don't reply until he gives you can answer. Ask him FIRST before s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:11 PM |
| 12 | Exactly! You can never make LVM see "what you bring to the table", when they already feel entitled it.You're right about that heavy investment. I've been there. The worst thing is that after investing so much, you find it so much harder to leave because of that sunk cost fallacy, hoping one day you can reap the rewards of your labor by magically building him up to the man you deserve. Except that if they ever do glow up, they leave you for someone younger and slowly revert to the same trash they were when you first built them up, only to have this new woman do the same for him yet again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:07 PM |
| 20 | Exactly! You can never make LVM see "what you bring to the table", when they already feel entitled it.My "simp" is awesome, and he wears the label proudly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:05 PM |
| 15 | Exactly! You can never make LVM see "what you bring to the table", when they already feel entitled it.I've experienced this. Don't get me wrong, I still perform some of this emotional labor for my bf, but no longer to the same extent as I have in past relationships after wearing myself out and being cast aside. I know my bf can do fine without me, yet, he's always grateful for those subtle things that I do for him. I still bend over backwards sometimes, but I'm happy to do it because he regularly does the same for me. He carries me to bed when I fall asleep in random places, cares for my plants … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:02 PM |
| 3 | Women are more likely to stay in marriage when their spouse is ill, yet men are more likely to leave if their bangmaid is too sick to put out anymoreThat's horrifying. My grandma died of ovarian cancer the day after her hysterectomy. The surgery wasn't enough. My grandparents were married for over 50 years and grandpa was inconsolable. For a year he barely spoke a few words to everyone before suddenly dying of natural causes. Doctors couldn't find anything wrong, except old age. He was otherwise quite physically healthy. We suspect he died of a broken heart from being without his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 11:00 AM |
| 7 | Once again, men freely telling the Internet how broke they are!Had a man man once fly me out internationally and take me to Michelin star restaurants, a shopping spree, amusement parks and museums, and covered all cabs, accommodation, flights, etc. I don't even know what that country's currency looks like! Unfortunately, he turned out to be an LVM, but it was a fun experience that I'll never forget! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 04:35 PM |
| 16 | WUT?!But how do men not get turned on every time they wipe their buttholes??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:03 AM |
| 31 | Pick me is a thing on Tik tok! Interesting. Also, please someone pick her please ...Lmao. Congrats to her. She got picked after all 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:37 AM |
| 1 | AVOIDED A POTENTIAL LVMThere are ways to show that you want to impress someone without taking them to a restaurant. Romantic picnic with take out from a local restaurant and a nice bottle of wine. Rent a boat and go jet skiing. Helicopter ride . Rent a canoe. Wine tour. Zoo. All these things allow you to avoid groups of people, but show effort, financial investment, and can be pretty interesting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:31 PM |
| 8 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?That's so awful. I'm so sorry. He's such an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:24 PM |
| 14 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?I'm cringing. It feels like you're calling me out. I did all these things, too and I hate that I did. I remeber even racking up credit card debt so I could pay for the expensive dates he couldn't afford or the expensive watches and suits he wanted. But it was okay because he was still trying to "get on his feet." Ugh. Why why why was I like this? Not to mention I cooked for him way too often. No no no no no. In my current relationship, I'm far tighter with my purse strings, don't do as much emot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:23 PM |
| 7 | How to explain that he should pay?I thank them before the bill comes. That way I've subtly told them I'm not paying. If they still ask to split, then I pay and leave. If they get nasty about it, I have gone to the bathroom and left them with the bill. Thankfully that has only happened twice in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:17 PM |
| 14 | Ladies, I need some guidance. Should I give him a another chance or unmatch?If your gut instincts say move on, then move on. You know the situation best. That being said, I would give him one more shot to make things right and if he makes any sketchy moves then I’ll drop him. I have had my share of moments that I needed a second chance because I dropped the ball e.g. double booked myself to a doctor appointment and a date or forgot a vid call and I’m at my moms house. If it’s a pattern then drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:09 AM |
| 10 | They're fucking everywhere.I bet my sleeve would freak him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:04 AM |
| 2 | The jig is upThat's understandable. Sorry it happened to you though. I hate how entitled these men are. That's where this controlling, creepy behavior comes from. I hope you're doing okay now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 07:17 PM |
| 11 | Saw this ad on facebook, smh. Comment section too is full of women tagging their boyfriendsNo hints need to be dropped, he knows we're in it to be serious. As for the kind of ring I want, I'm telling my mom and sister in full detail so they can help him pick one out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:14 PM |
| 2 | The jig is upI like meeting sooner than later so I know if I'm wasting mt time talking to him. I don't hang out though, I go on dates and it's always a dinner date. I always use the excuse I work early mornings to duck out soon if I need an out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:11 PM |
| 6 | Dating Coach Publicly Negs His WifeRead the comments where a bunch of pickmeishas think its fine when their boyfriends say they aren't particularly hot, but they love them anyway. These women sound like they're grateful someone is overlooking their appearance and doing them a favor by dating these women until the next hotter one comes around. It's so sad. A pickmeisha comment: And how about appreciating the fact your boyfriend loves you dearly DESPITE not thinking you are the most beautiful woman on the planet? Sheesh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:58 PM |
| 10 | No birthday present...Part of me wonders if men stick around just long enough to get as much free emotional labor and sex and then fuck up close to birthdays/holidays so they can avoid the hassle and effort of planning something nice and buying gifts. My ex's birthday was 3 months before mine. We started dating a week before his birthday, so obviously I did something amazing for him and spent close to $800 like a fool, and then he dumped me via phone 3 weeks before my birthday saying he just didn't like me anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Had a self-care day after a break-up with a toxic guy, and I'm feeling much better! Even though it was just a manicure and lunch, making myself a priority again is so refreshing!Those nails look soooo cute! I love it! Are those your nails or acrylics? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:06 PM |
| 11 | I'm curious how life is for other women dating childfree! Please share your stories/goals/dreams with meI do want kids, but if I can get myself on the track to early retirement like I'm striving towards, I'd like to be a salt-and-pepper haired, elegant, 50 year old woman taking trips on a whim to Paris to go shopping at Champs-Elysees while the kids are away for college. I'll pick up those gloves at the Chanel store while I'm there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:04 PM |
| 25 | We see through your coded languageAgreed. I hate when they say things like "ugly chicks swipe left." Just don't swipe on whoever doesn't meet your physical standards. I'm not ugly, but I'd still swipe left. The only way I could imagine their twisted little minds justifying this is that they think that girls will swipe right because they don't want to be considered ugly. Like hey, I swiped right on this scrote, so I'm not ugly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:54 PM |
| 22 | someone pls pick herI've only made friends with men younger than me in clear older sister/ mentor like roles and so I always treated them. They always showed their gratitude in non-monetary ways like helping me move, escorting me in a sketchy environment, and fetching things for me if I was busy or just under the weather. Even if they couldn't treat me on our coffee meet-ups or lunch gossip sessions, I would consider them HVM for doing what they could to show gratitude given the situation. Equality would have been … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:49 PM |
| 10 | someone pls pick herIf we are in a committed relation, I don't mind some of these. But if you're still convincing me that you're worth my time, I'll thank u next this type of guy expecting me to treat him. I've got a line of men waiting who would love to buy me lunch and dinner, and maybe even breakfast (not gonna happen though.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:34 PM |
| 11 | I am so tired of being singleDating to find love is a stroke of luck. The best way is obviously to meet someone organically. That being said, I was extremely lucky to find love on Tinder. Shocking, I know, and it baffles me that it could have ever happened. It was truly a stroke of luck. We were both disillusioned and tired of OLD, but when we met it was like a spark and we knew instantly that we found the one. There were no games, we both wanted the same things out of life, our morals and politics aligned, and never for a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:31 PM |
| 17 | Why are some women always offended when someone doesn't support sex work?You can support sex workers, but not sex work. I support sex workers because I want them to have the rights and dignity they need to stay safe since this industry is staying for a while. Ideally, I wouldn't want such a disgusting, abusive, predatory industry to stick around. However, while it's still around, I want those women to be safe, I want the young girls to not be involved in anyway and the predators to be punished accordingly. We need to create systems that prevent women from falling int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:13 PM |
| 21 | "Real feminists" discuss how we are fake feminists enforcing patriarchy...meanwhile they have a post history of pushing financial abortion, being poly and blaming a woman with PPD for her husband watching porn. I'll stay here, thanks.Because liberal feminism is obsessed with "equality," when the concern should be about equity. The biggest thing men want feminism for is so they don't have to pay for a woman's meal, the reason women want feminism is to stop getting raped and killed, having bodily autonomy, and to not risk our careers for raising a family among other things. This is about education, but it explains the difference between equity and equality. This is what real feminism looks like. I would argue that all this pan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:09 PM |
| 3 | LVM using CashApp to get my attention after I blocked him everywhere else. I accepted the ONE DOLLAR, then blocked him on CashApp too :)I got $50 once for this. Still kept him blocked and I kept the money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:01 PM |
| 9 | I don't believe in equality between men and women. Equality is limiting to us, I aspire to be greater than them.Until equality is ubiquitous, we need equity, not equality. For example, equality means I should pay 50% of everything. Yet, I'm supposed to do that despite how much more expensive it is for me to look desirable? (Salon, nails, clothes, make-up, facial products) For how much more expensive it is for me to be healthy? (Gyno, mammograms, female oriented gyms) For how much more expensive it is to be safe? (Expensive neighborhoods to avoid crime, own a car to avoid public transport, carrying weapons… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Men are too high-maintenance for meYeah, I just saw it as he expects you to be willing to put up with his overbearing mother, but puts in no effort to impress and respect your own family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:41 PM |
| 2 | What's your opinion on having male friends (purely platonic)?I'm bi. I think it's a little bit different. Because I'm bi, I've had much more experience in my life compartmentalizing relationships. I'm used to being friends with women that I could be attracted to or not, therefore I can carry that over with me to male friendships. I had to draw the lines myself because I didn't have that inherent "boundary" drawn in because of my sexuality. Like straight men will never mistake a male friendship with romance, they automatically categorized them as friends. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Had a chuckle seeing FDS listed as a female incel subI don't think these people understand that the problem isn't that we can't find men who want us, it's that we have way too many options and need help figuring out which ones are worth sticking with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, Be Patient. He'll Marry You ELEVEN YEARS FROM NOW 🤡Lol. You mean talking for 2 weeks, right? If someone I'm dating doesn't ask me to be exclusive by the 4th date, I'm not wasting my time. And engagement should be 1.5 years after we meet, and the wedding at 2.5 years from the initial meeting at max, ideally 2 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:10 PM |
| 5 | Is a guy [25M] whose friends are mostly attractive women whom he’s previously crushed on but with whom he’s remained friends, is he a LVM?Not even LVM, this screams ZVM. I'd say if a guy has ONE female friend that he's crushed on or been on a date with, it's an orange flag. Be wary, but it's not a glaring no. If she's his "best friend" and shares all his secrets with her, then no. You should be his best friend, and he shouldn't be telling her anything about your relationship. In fact, they should never hang out alone. If at any point you and the friend have conflict, he should be willing to cast her aside at your beck and call wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:08 PM |
| 14 | I talked to one of those couple accounts today lolI went on a date with a woman, really enjoyed myself, then at the end of the date she springs that shit on me. I was pretty disappointed. Don't flirt with me all night and trick me into thinking you're gay, when you're just a straight woman trying to please your degenerate boyfriend by pretending to be interested in women. I am actually bisexual, but if the conversation gravitated towards my female ex (it can't not in a serious relationship since I was with her for years), I make it very clear t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:58 PM |
| 14 | Being feminine on fds mindsetI was like this at the beginning, really leading things. I'm a planner and organizer by nature, plus I'm very proud so I hated being treated and paid for. In my previous relationships I would pay for 95% of everything because I am typically a higher earner. In my current relationship however, even if I was the big planner at the start, he always did offer to pay, but my dumb ass insisted on halfsies for a while. Then one day I just told my boyfriend, I'm tired of planning everything. You plan th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:52 PM |
| 21 | LVM convinces pickme into poly, proposes to the new girlInteresting how all poly relationships involve 1 man and multiple women. It's like women are expected to just "become" bisexual for him, but a man could never allow his heterosexuality to be challenged. But of course it's about feminism and empowerment. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:41 PM |
| 25 | I have no words. It makes me so sad this shit is happening- who would assume a virgin would want rough sex for their first time!But how was he supposed to know that a virgin wouldn't like rough sex? /s I swear, the idiots saying communicate are so out of touch with reality. Who the fuck just assumes anyone would like to be roughly and violently treated during intimacy, especially if its not even mentioned at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:25 PM |
| 76 | Loving yourself isn't vanity, it's sanity Queens!Minako was always made fun of for being a romantic, believing in love, while being "high maintenance" and demanding, but she was also considered the leader of the soldiers, the right hand to the queen, the most cunning, revered for her confidence and beauty. She really is someone to admire! I am the Pretty guardian in of Love and Beauty. I am Sailor Venus! In the name of Love, I will punish you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:56 PM |
| 242 | Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for themSo who emotionally supported us to become great women? No one. We acknowledge that self-improvement comes from that--the self. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. We have to raise ourselves up, and since men think they're the logical sex, superior to us, why do they need us hysterical, irrational, emotional harpies to teach them how to act like good men? Like how we're expected to just train ourselves to be the best we can be, it isn't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:38 AM |
| 92 | When you're too busy trying to be the "cool girl", you end up being a pickme and walked all over. Honestly, I wish I could shake some sense into pickmes but they're not ready until they are.Excuse me? And why would you even want to be with a man who has an interest in strip clubs? Leave him there and never take him back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:02 AM |
| 2 | No progress in my game in months. Need help fully understanding the dating process.Attractive and still humble. You can be attractive, aware that you're attractive, and not act like an arrogant jerk about it. Someone who touts how hot they are all the time is not attractive. Someone who carries themselves with confidence and doesn't put themselves down constantly or point out their flaws? That's attractive. Seductive, but not perverted, coercive, and/or opportunistic. You can be seductive without being creepy or pressuring someone. You read the vibe, respect their wishes, and … | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 04:50 PM |
| 1 | This is what you're missing out on, ladies!That's depressing. I would have hoped that someone responsible and disciplined enough to save up for a down payment on a house would be better than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Personal preference I guess 🤷♀️Not even. Men think even the winged eyeliner and highlight is "no make up," as if women are just always sparkling and eyeliner just magically appears with age. https://np.reddit.com/r/TrollXChromosomes/comments/aavyfc/what_men_think_no_makeup_looks_like/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do men feel like they have a right to give their opinion on your body and lifestyle???!When I lost about 20-30 lbs, I had men commenting on what exercises I should do, and I shouldn't be doing this much cardio, blah blah. Once I lost 70 they shut up real quick because obviously I know what I'm doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many men claim to be into carpentry?I tell them I'm into anime and then they tell me they're huge fans too, only to find out that they watched Dragon Ball on Toonami 20 years ago. Yeah. Not the same as me making my own cosplays, attending 6-7 conventions a year, and having watched over 1000 anime consistently over 20 years. Surprisingly, Dragon Ball is not one of the many I have watched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:55 PM |
| 6 | Wow, I've never thought about emotional connection like this, but it's so true, especially in relationships I've been in.Same. I had a few in college that ended up wanting me. The one I was closest to actually assaulted me. I only ever had ONE male friend that never seemed to have the remotest inkling of romantic/sexual interest in me, rather a mentor/big sister-mentee/litte brother kind of relationship. He was so respectful, emotionally open with me and I was with him, and he had such a great curiosity in the world and valued opinions. I hope he's doing well these days! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:38 PM |
| 5 | Finally found a queen on relationshipadviceSo good for her for leaving him. She must feel so horrible and disgusted with herself for being with him and not knowing this though. What a despicable man. He should be arrested. Oh I fucking wish he had the chance to go through his phone and collect evidence. Who knows if he was doing this on the side during their relationship. What other young girls could have been taken advantage of like this? More importantly, how the fuck does he think a 21 year old is a mature woman to grow old with? Brai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:27 PM |
| 15 | Looking at relationship subreddits through the FDS lensI can't read the relationship advice or AITA without getting so angry. Women on there say things like, "My boyfriend of 9 years is unemployed, smokes weed all day, plays video games (lol you know how they are with their games) while I work two full-time jobs and pay all the bills. He asked me for $1000 for a new gaming computer (his old one I bought him six months ago is a little slow after using it every day), but when I told him I was saving for a little used car since he doesn't like it when … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:14 PM |
| 12 | Got ghosted...Don't "hang out" with a man you're interested in, and don't pursue him. If he wanted something more, he would have approached. Now he thinks he's conquered you and moved on to the next challenge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 01:01 PM |
| 26 | Dating is for finding the right person, not to find someone to hang out with all the time and be his "girlfriend" for years and years while he has made no real commitment.That's about how long I'm willing to wait too. We will hit around 10 months soon, have talked about marriage extensively and the timeline for where we want to be in terms of children. I have already said I will not have children unless I am married and that I want to have all our children within the next 6 years, which gives me time to find and date someone else to hit my desired schedule if things don't work out. He doesn't know he's got an 18 month limit and I'm prepared to end it if he doesn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:59 PM |
| 10 | Do any of you have an alternative style? What’s your experience been and how do you attract HVM instead of duds?I could say I'm in an alt subculture since I'm an avid cosplayer. That being said, my cosplays are high quality, I loudly call out lurking photographers at cons when they photograph without consent (I'm happy to take pictures for/with people who ask first), and if someone even insinuates a sexual comment relating to my cosplay, I shut them down. I dress very cute and incorporate anime-inspired pieces in my outfits: subtle accessories that appear in shows, or imitate every day outfits characters … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:41 PM |
| 13 | What these LVMs think we areIncels? Do they realize we're here because we're trying to avoid the countless solicitations for sex? It's not even like we're all celibate, we're just carefully vetting people we want to share intimacy with instead of sleeping around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:18 PM |
| 2 | This is what you're missing out on, ladies!Oh god. At least the key word is apartment. Unless he relocates/travels often for work, a well established man would have a house. I'm hoping single men's houses would be in better condition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:16 PM |
| 3 | sure sure...They say it, but then figure they can show the bare minimum of effort. They assume because they piqued your interest first, now the responsibility of putting forth any affection and initiating anything is your responsibility. They like the convenience. Excuse me, but I don't want someone to be with me because I made it convenient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:13 PM |
| 10 | A comment on the post about if women should give wife benefits to someone who isn't her husband 😫😫😂😂😂So do we get husband benefits in return? Will you fix my plumbing, mow my lawn, take out the trash, and pay my utilities? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:09 PM |
| 92 | LVM no having job potheadJust why? Is looking filthy now an ~**~ ~ ~** aesthetic *~ ~ ~**~ ~ ~* ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:07 PM |
| 3 | Wtf, and men complain that women have “impossible” standards.Just depends on how the weight is distributed, I suppose? I wear XS shirts since I have a fairly small frame, and I wear US 0 in jeans because I have a small-ish waist, but my thighs/legs are thick and muscular. My arms are more muscular than the typical woman, and my back and shoulders are much more muscular, as in they look perpetually flexed. So I weigh more than you, but I might be more "densely packed" than you. I'm sure clothing brands play a factor too. In Old Navy I'd need an XXS, but fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:00 PM |
| 20 | Wtf, and men complain that women have “impossible” standards.I'm 5'2", 125-130 lbs, and I wear a size 0 or 2. If a woman at 5'3" is 120, she likely wears a 0 or 00. If I, a shorter woman, were to lose 20 lbs, that'd put me at 105, just on the cusp of underweight. A taller woman at 100 lbs? Yeah that's pretty underweight and concerning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 06:55 PM |
| 164 | Covert misogyny is deeply embedded and can even seem “sweet”I loathe when men use the women in their lives as a reason to respect fellow humans. What about men raised by single fathers? Is it acceptable for them to partake in misogyny? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Why are scrotes coming here trying to play devil’s advocate for men? I’ve gotten countless notifications from hidden comments lately 😂😂😂😂Agreed. And then if we lower our standards and you see a hot woman with a gremlin boyfriend, instead of being grateful that she's not "shallow," they just call her a gold digger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:59 PM |
| 5 | Why are scrotes coming here trying to play devil’s advocate for men? I’ve gotten countless notifications from hidden comments lately 😂😂😂😂Worst of all, short men are so insecure which that alone makes them unattractive. If you've got undesirable traits, at least try to be goddamn amazing at everything else to make up for it. The guys that give you flack are probably the same type who say they want a woman with DDD tits, a fat ass, and 24 inch waist, while looking like a tiny goblin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:54 PM |
| 10 | Again with the "He hit me, but..." and "Apart from this, he's perfect." WTFI can't with that sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:47 PM |
| 143 | I got mad at first but got pleasantly surprisedAre we supposed to give this dude a doggy biscuit for accepting that his wife is a human susceptible to weight gain? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:43 PM |
| 12 | Why are scrotes coming here trying to play devil’s advocate for men? I’ve gotten countless notifications from hidden comments lately 😂😂😂😂If height is irrelevant because you can't change it, then men need to stop with fetishizing races and finding certain ones more or less attractive than others, since we can't change it. If they can use the excuse that they have preferences, then so can I, and I prefer taller men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:37 PM |
| 8 | notice the double standardYou can do everything possible and still not have that "perfect" figure without surgery. I had boobs and an ass, but I had rolls, chub rub, and a protruding belly. I lost 70 lbs, packed on muscle, and sure I lost the rolls, chub rub, and earned a flat stomach, but now no boobs and no ass. Yet, I'm the shallow bitch when I ask for a man with muscular arms and no beer belly. THAT is totally in every man's control, unlike where our fat distribution ends up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:34 PM |
| 6 | If only more men stepped up for what is right...Agreed. We should tread cautiously, especially those who seem to subscribe to libfem ideals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:30 PM |
| 8 | Don't learn the hard way, ladies. 🤦🏻♀️What does it mean when I google my own behavior??? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 08:28 AM |
| 79 | If only more men stepped up for what is right...Benadryl Cabbagepatch is great. More men need to step up like this and call out the bullshit going on around us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts?One of my medications is literally incompatible with my BC. The doctor got a warning when she tried to prescribe them both. What does she do? Increase the dose of my other medication while warning me that if I have a seizure, I should definitely come in to get checked out. What? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:28 PM |
| 8 | The delusion... I’ve only seen men look better in their 30s vs their 20s if they were obese and then lost weightI'm seeing men in their 20s with beer bellies, though... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:23 PM |
| 13 | The delusion... I’ve only seen men look better in their 30s vs their 20s if they were obese and then lost weightMy mom was so worried about me having any genetic illnesses because she was 26 when she had me, but my father was in his 60s? Thankfully it all turned out okay, but she told me that even her OB/GYN was seriously concerned. I am the exception, not the norm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:21 PM |
| 3 | Man cheats on woman, publishes it in a pathetic attempt to get her back & scrotes in the comments going “You REAL for that bro! Get her back!” If it was the other way around, theyd call her a hoe & the man a simp. double standards on display right here, folks.Well, at least she got picked temporarily? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:19 PM |
| 2 | What’s your rules for other girls when dating?He doesn't have to ask me for permission for stuff. He does what he wants and if that doesn't align with what I'm okay with, then it's thank u, next. To me, though, a red flag is being friends with an ex, having a female best friend, or spending time alone with another (non-related) woman. They're more than welcome to do it, I just don't want to be with a man that wants to do any of that. Simply not doing it isn't enough. If they want to do those things at all is the real issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:43 PM |
| 42 | Let’s talk about future fakingI ended up asking a guy to be my bf after he future faked me. He not only rejected me, but then changed his mind a week later, drained me of money, made me fly out to see him, and then broke up with me a week later, all in the span of 2-3 months. I'm so embarrassed I could be that stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:21 PM |
| 2 | I’m Dating MyselfIf you wanna feel luxurious, I highly recommend Lush products! All their products are natural, organic, sustainably sourced, and are great for your skin. I love them so much. For quarantine, I've been developing my baking skills and fitness. Gotta burn off all these cookies somehow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:18 PM |
| 26 | Yep 👏🏼Reminds me of a new Netflix show on my list about aunties playing matchmaker. Think I might make a drinking game out of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:16 PM |
| 14 | Yep 👏🏼Congratulations! Divorcing from mediocrity sounds infinitely better than staying married to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:15 PM |
| 27 | When you block him while he's still typing.I love doing this because it shows just how little you care about hearing what they have to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:14 PM |
| 10 | Never forget this, my Queens.Not even yourself! By treating yourself like you are worthy other people will know how they need to treat you if they want to be a part of your life! Keep your head held high! ❤︎ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:13 PM |
| 14 | First time poster long time lurker. This question is intended for women who have dated white men.You're not wrong. I'm a WOC and I've found that college educated white men who lean more creative are more tolerable. The douchey ones all seem to gravitate towards sports, games, etc as hobbies, but creative ones are more capable of critical thinking and open-mindedness. Creative doesn't necessarily have to mean painting or whatever, but could also be a writer, musician, cook, gardener, woodwork. People's hobbies seem to be a reflection of their character and how well rounded they are. You can … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:11 PM |
| 25 | First time poster long time lurker. This question is intended for women who have dated white men.They are very similar so I find it hilarious when I regularly got mistaken for other Latinas or black women on campus. First of all, we looked completely different! Our hair textures and colors vary drastically, our skin colors go from every shade from Christmas snow to midnight sparkle, and we have very different voices, slang, and ways of carrying ourselves. How are you going to simultaneously mistake me for the super pale redheaded Mexican-american woman who always wears black leggings and a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:03 PM |
| 24 | First time poster long time lurker. This question is intended for women who have dated white men.I have had many bad experiences with white men and how entitled they are, so I generally avoided them as romantic partners. I am a WOC (black/white latina) so many tend to exoticize me or make assumptions about me. They get noticeably uncomfortable when it becomes clear I'm not the caricature of the "uneducated welfare queen" they seem to think all WOC are in the US. They get even more insecure when they realize I am smarter, more accomplished, more cultured, and overall just better off than the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:48 AM |
| 24 | What, too many standards?Come on ladies. Let's call him what he is. He isn't a manchild, he's a manbaby. Children know right from wrong, they clean up after play time, and they're potty trained. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 05:11 PM |
| 68 | Woman posts about wanting romance. Scrotes on the comment section make it about themselves once again. We cannot even complain about LVM without them getting defensive. The narcissism of these Redditors. The audacity of scrotes if baffling.The fact that she dresses up, puts on lingerie, and sends explicit content IS her showing appreciation. They want more in exchange for nothing???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Even when men have nothing they continue to have one thing. The Audacity.she isn’t. she’s overweight. it doesn’t matter though. her post wasn’t about whether she’s fat or not. her post is on how hot she looks and promoting some lingerie line. the dude brought up something that’s definitely true, but completely irrelevant just to use it to put her down. calling someone obese when discussing stuff about weight, health, fat loss, etc isn’t an insult, moral judgement, or attack; it’s just a fact. however, when it’s brought up in any other context, it’s body shaming and m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Even when men have nothing they continue to have one thing. The Audacity.she looks about 20 lbs overweight, probably on the cusp of obese. that being said, her weight/health/etc. are irrelevant in the context of this interaction. the point of her post is to show how good she looks, and this scrote figured that putting her down for something irrelevant to the post would make him feel good about not being able to even get in a 100ft radius of her. she’s definitely fat and she’s definitely very attractive, it’s not one or the other. and it was only brought up to put her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:04 PM |
| 23 | Married man (with kids) cut his wife out of his profile pic and still had the audacity to "search for friends, something more tbd". Blocked and reported.probably death gripped for a solid thirty minutes while watching some vile stuff to set it up for this pic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 03:20 PM |
| 707 | truerejection isn’t an excuse to murder women, yet it happens | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 01:08 AM |
| 30 | coffee date no.1 what now?coffee isn’t a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 01:07 AM |
| 22 | In order to not end up miserable, you should keep leveling up to derive power and self-esteem from other sources than LVM validation.I feel way hotter at 24 than I ever did at 18-23. I'm sure I'll feel even hotter at 25, then 30, then 50, and 70+ Looking forward when my hair turns gray and I can try dying it all sorts of colors :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:57 PM |
| 13 | Ladies, how do we feel about this post? Until he renders the ring, he’s not my man and isn’t entitled to my time and energy 🤷🏻♀️ Men go throw money at women in strip clubs because they look good to them, so miss me with that logic SIR!!!! 💅🏽Seriously, my make-up alone is like $200 bucks. Add in the shoes, purse, outfit, gym membership, etc. my appearance alone on a date is easily costing me about $4k. The least a man could do is pay my $30 meal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:51 PM |
| 75 | Why buy the cow...Lmao. The exact argument someone on the relationships sub gave when a girlfriend complained that her boyfriend of 9 years hasn't proposed, despite her asking and dropping hints for 7 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:45 PM |
| 1 | I hope he sees this and chooses herHonestly, yeah. I completed a double major in engineering and another STEM major, worked 3 jobs totaling to about 30 hrs a week (2 full time jobs in the summer for 80 hour weeks), and still managed to put effort in my relationship at the time. What an excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Pickme female musical artists?Oooh, yes. I love her! I'll add it too! Hopefully I'll post the full list soon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:17 PM |
| 2 | Lol, that's just reversing gender roles, newsflash lady a newborn baby needs ongoing breast milk from its mother and men are physically stronger for those "dangerous jobs"Women generally get custody because they fight harder to keep their kids. Notice women are the ones in the household that know when to clean the bathroom, when the kid has a recital, when they run out of milk in the fridge. Women are generally better caretakers because they give a shit. If men were so broken-hearted about losing custody, the laws (created by other men btw) would be in their favor. Don't be mad at women, be mad at the MALE lawmakers. Women who earn more/have a higher net worth do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:13 PM |
| 2 | I dont wanna text or call in between dates but i want the in person time/ affection etcI'm the sane way. My SO and I barely text if it's not to send memes or coordinate plans. We do most of our talking in person. I think because we don't talk much via text/phone it pushes us to find ways to spend more time together. We like seeing each other all the time, so why text if we live only 15 minutes away from each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:41 PM |
| 174 | She goes on to say she wonders if she cant be made love to. Breaks my heart. If you feel up to it, maybe send her some love.It's sad that her partner ignored her wants for his pornsick powerplay. That alone should be enough for her to leave him and start anew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Pickme female musical artists?Yeah, I made an edit reflecting that. :( Oooh, I'll have to check that one out! Dua Lipa's New Rules made it hard for me to listen to her other songs. It's about her avoiding her LVM ex, sure, but the fact that she has to struggle so hard and is tempted to give in makes me feel eh. It's so hard to find a non-pickme artist! That's what happens when society is controlled by pornsick men and all the libfem pickmes condoning all of it under a guise of empowerment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:26 PM |
| 19 | Got banned from r/Feminism for saying that you don’t have to accept a dude’s Instagram model obsessionDidn't you know? Kinkshaming is the worst thing you can do to someone. Sure, we can accept sexism and racism, but we have to draw the line at kinkshaming. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:20 PM |
| 71 | Got banned from r/Feminism for saying that you don’t have to accept a dude’s Instagram model obsessionOne of my pet peeves is how nearly every libfem sub always has to add a caveat about men and their opinions/feelings/etc. to appeal to the masses. Libfems are a detriment to the feminist movement. Why must they encourage that men should care about feminism and destroying the patriarchy because it's to men's advantage too? Why does it have to continually explain why the patriarchy is bad for EVERYONE? Shouldn't it be enough to know that it's hurting fellow humans and your empathetic self, that wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:18 PM |
| 41 | Got banned from r/Feminism for saying that you don’t have to accept a dude’s Instagram model obsessionGod that post was so obviously a man. It's infuriating how well received it was. Reddit makes me so mad sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:11 PM |
| 53 | Ok have I been living under a rock?Because society has made it acceptable for men to be unable to control their sexual desires. Sayings such as "look, but you can't touch," are common. Or I hate when pcikmes in relationships say things like they don't mind their boyfriends checking girls out, or admit they point out hot women on the street to their boyfriends in an attempt to be the "cool girl." No, they can absolutely control their staring, it's just society has normalized this violation to our bodies. Unfortunately, when they d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:08 PM |
| 12 | Pretty much all of the comments were telling her she needs to COmMuNiCaTeThat sounds awful, but the important thing is that you learned from the experience. Good on you for leaving. Men like to blame their inadequacies on mental health, but what about their mentally ill girlfriends? Men treat them like therapists, but don't reciprocate. Then the girlfriends are stuck carrying their own mental burden and their partners'. It's just not right. That isn't to say one should never date a man with mental illnesses, but only when they have completely managed it to the best o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Pickme female musical artists?Same here! I wish I could find more artists like Lisa, but the closest I found was Kiiara who is very pickme :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:41 PM |
| 7 | Pickme female musical artists?Thanks for the heads up. I didn't know about the pedophile part so I don't feel great supporting her music anymore. And she does have pickme songs (like too many female artists do unfortunately) but I found her most recent Queen album to emulate some fds ideals. Nevertheless, I won't be listening to her any longer after her condoning something so awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Pickme female musical artists?Oops, I wasn't aware of that. I just listen to the music, not really follow celebrity lives, but I'll remove her from the list. Big yikes and thanks for the heads up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:33 PM |
| 9 | The exact opposite of funnyHe sure is something--but that something isn't funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:07 PM |
| 44 | Pretty much all of the comments were telling her she needs to COmMuNiCaTeSame. I actually love video games and anime (avid cosplayer!) but never in such a way that they get priority over my relationships. Thankfully my SO is the same way. He loves his video games, but as soon as I walk into the room, he puts it down and asks me what I want to watch, or if he can take me out, or pretty much anything other than his games. Sometimes I brush him off and do my own thing, but it's wonderful knowing that I'm always his priority. I do tend to like nerdy guys, too, but "nerd"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:05 PM |
| 20 | Pickme female musical artists?EDIT 2: Nick Minaj is a no go, she defended a pedo, so don't give her listens/views/support. Plus some of her songs are very pickme. My mistake and thanks for the heads up. Nicki Minaj isn't a pickme, especially not with her most recent album, Queen, which I adored. Some artists do have some pickme songs, but they have certain songs that align with our ideals. Lily Allen - The Fear Ariana Grande - 7 Rings and thank u, next Pussycat Dolls - Wait a Minute Beyonce - Run the World, Single Ladies, Ir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 11:42 AM |
| 25 | Scrote(who wont even commit) angry that I cut my hair without asking his permission.Nah, sis. You thought it was a joke, but that kind of joke is unacceptable and totally degrading, even if it truly was a joke. You shouldn't have engaged at all; it makes you look bad. LVMs like any attention, even negative attention--it shows to them that you still care about what they have to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Are terms of endearment and pet names an orange flag?It's not an egregious point to me since I often use pet names too. This current onehasn't done anything remotely suspicious and generally I've got a pretty good intuition which has never let me down. I appreciate the heads up, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:34 PM |
| 1 | “It’s normal to feel attracted to others in a relationship.”I disagree. It's not normal at all. When you love your partner, no one else can compare. It's like people who say they'd never cheat because they respect their partner. I hate that because it's saying, "I want to sleep with other people, but because I'm committed to you, I'll stop myself from going through with it." That's so disgusting. The reason you shouldn't cheat isn't because you're respectful or trustworthy, it's because you have NO desire to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:23 PM |
| 6 | Aside from gift giving, what are some ways HVM demonstrate their ongoing appreciation and love towards you in your life? What do you observe HVM doing for their partners regularly?For me, it's finding ways to make my life easier and planning small surprises in an ordinary day just to make me smile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:04 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal when guys specifically say I don’t like talking about work or politics or certain topics you like talking about?If it's a dealbreaker for you then stand by it. I dislike discussing politics and current events and so does my SO. The big thing though, is that we have very similar political views, we just dislike talking about them, even though we can have rational discussions about it. We find it boring and usually doesn't affect us personally (we are both very guilty of NIMBY.) Furthermore, we have the same views, so it's like preaching to the choir if we do talk about it anyway. But again, we DO have the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 05:52 PM |
| 3 | How important is it to know how long he’s been single for?My current SO met me a month and a half or so after his last relationship ended. I met him about 3 weeks after mine ended. I'm not sure if either of us started out as each other's rebound, but after the first date we clicked magically and any chance of us being a rebound after that felt unlikely. In fact, the way we treated each other, I never once felt something "off" or there being any rebound vibes/longing for an ex. We even had the same stance that exes should never be friends or remain in c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 04:54 PM |
| 105 | Are terms of endearment and pet names an orange flag?After months of dating, petnames are ok with me. If you call me darling, sweetie, cutie straight away? It's gonna be a thank u, next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:26 PM |
| 2 | How do you cope with anger toward your exes?I used my anger to learn MMA fighting and weight-lifting and got super fit, someone who couldn't even walk anything faster than a leisure stroll or my shins would start burning and I'd get out of breath. Other than getting my aggression out, now I'm 70 lbs lighter, way more zen and focused, and small but strong (and no longer angry)! Physical activity is a great way to release frustration. Even if he was my catalyst to try something new, pretty soon after I started, my heart had no room to harbo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Is this a common issue? Guys doing chores/housework badly on purpose so stop asking them to do it...Either: dump him or dump him. If you're too attached and willing to mother your LVM then never do the task and make him do the task over and over again until it's right, until he gets the memo. Wash your own dishes and keep them hidden away so he's forced to do them. Wash only your own clothes. Cook enough only for yourself. I can't imagine why you'd want to go through training a kid to do chores though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 7 | I think it’s hilarious that this dating app is using one of the most douchey lines guys have in their profile to promote their app.Agreed. Since I was a teenager, I've never not had a job and was always able to save up money, about $30-50/week each year for an international trip. With around $1500-2000 within a year, I could comfortably spend 2 or 3 weeks, and sometimes a month or two if I could coordinate a stay through an international school and a host family. My family wasn't financially stable, so if I wanted to go out and do things, it was always on my own dime. The difference between then and now though is that as a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:53 PM |
| 13 | I think it’s hilarious that this dating app is using one of the most douchey lines guys have in their profile to promote their app.I hate how on dating apps people use traveling a substitute for a personality. I've been to quite a few places for someone as young as I am, and at first I used to post it on my profile that I loved traveling, but it just kept attracting really pretentious people. While living abroad, I'd often run into the backpacker type who would look down on me for living in a nice apartment with air conditioning in a country that regularly got into the high 80s/90s F (30+ C), because he was a cheapskate liv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:40 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, if you're in your early 30s, how old is too old?My parents were 40 years apart. He died when I was still a little girl. I loved him dearly and he was a great father, but I wish he was still around to see me grow into the woman I am today. When I was a little kid, I always knew in the back of my mind he wasn't going to live to see me graduate from college, become a professional, get married. I would ask him constantly to please stick around long enough for that, and only as an adult did I realize how his impending death and huge age difference… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:07 PM |
| 8 | How do I deal with a LVM ex in the same social circle?Well, if he isn't leaving, then you might want to consider keeping interactions to a minimum. Since clubs are extracurriculars, though, is being uncomfortable around this guy really how you want to spend your free time? If you have close friends in the club you can explain to whatever extent you'd like on how he makes you uncomfortable because of a poor break-up. If they dismiss your feelings and/or side with him, that's not the kind of group you'd want to be around anyway. Since it's probably d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 02:51 PM |
| 8 | Saw this posted on insta by some roided up gym grub. They really think we are that despo for them.Makes sense that not everyone is into that, and hopefully someone's partner would know them well enough to make the right judgement on that. I just don't think it's a sign of being thirsty and a theatrical spectacle for the world; it's when you're happy and eager to share your excitement with the world. And considering how special the moment is, I would want photos to remember and look back on the occasion. Maybe others don't and that's fine, but it just seemed like you were looking down on anyo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 02:43 PM |
| 21 | Marriage timeline - am I ridiculous ?Waiting that long is an excuse for he's never going to be ready for marriage--at least not with you. I'm ten years younger, and if I don't hear about marriage and future plans within the first 6 months, that's a big ol' red flag. My current partner and I agreed after 4 or 5 months of dating we wanted to get engaged within a year after that discussion. Currently just waiting on the proposal and how COVID will play out in terms of our plans. We're adults, if you don't know what you want after a wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 11:12 AM |
| 35 | Saw this posted on insta by some roided up gym grub. They really think we are that despo for them.I wouldn't mind a public proposal, but that's because we've already discussed marriage and are simply waiting for the timing. Being proposed to isn't the surprise, it's just a matter of when. Had we never talked about it before, I would not pleased if this was just sprung up on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 11:07 AM |
| -3 | Super controversial, but is dating a Trump supporter a dealbreaker for you?Nope. I lean conservative anyway. While I don’t like him in particular, I understand why conservatives support him since he’s the closest thing to conservative as we have at the moment. What would be a dealbreaker for me is a diehard liberal/socialist. I need to date someone who’s political/moral values are compatible with mine, otherwise this would never work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 12:44 AM |
| 64 | This man got chewed out in the comments. If I was his wife, I would leave him.I feel so much embarrassment for her. I don't think I could ever forgive that. Lord knows that he'd jump on the opportunity to sleep with the instructor if she gave him the time of day, if he hasn't already. No, no, no, never worth that risk. At least he admitted it so she doesn't have to waste another day with him. Imo, thinking about sex with another woman, especially one who is accessible to you, is a form of cheating. Someone you're in a relationship with should never have sexual or romantic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 03:07 PM |
| 48 | Don't be like herBiiig cringe. I wouldn't mind making pancakes, though, but only if I want them first since I'm making them anyway. When my bf says he's in the mood for pancakes/waffles/etc, I just ask him where are you taking me for brunch then? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 02:56 PM |
| 27 | Signal phrases that suggest a guy is LVMSapiosexual | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 12:56 PM |
| 13 | So many men say they want a smart woman...Men always say they are attracted to smart women. Yet, as soon as they start talking to me, they're already trying to prove that I am not as smart as they are. It's just so hard for them to accept that I am smarter! Usually they just quiz me to prove I don't know everything and it usually includes long winded r/iamversysmart -type of questions about my job, and here's a shocker: I don't want to talk about work outside of work! Sometimes instead of questions, they just start "teasing" like, if I'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 12:47 PM |
| 25 | Clothing tips to look sexy without showing skinThat's definitely my style. I love wearing extremely short shorts/skirts with thigh highs and a mockneck shirt/sweater. or a backless shirt with jeans, or a maxi dress with a thigh slit. It's all about balance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 12:25 PM |
| 56 | TIFU (M28) by ignoring my wife (F28) in lingerie after not being intimate in months. There are some real troglodytes in the comments. XThe comments are saying that she should have communicated directly and stop playing mind games. Also, she was being too subtle so it's not his fault for not picking up on the fact that his wife prancing around in lingerie meant that she wanted attention. This is without a doubt the same kind of man who would post in relationships that his wife never initiates anything and doesn't try to look sexy for him anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 12:22 PM |
| 8 | I wonder if my(23f) bf(21m) is lying?Even if he was telling the truth (he's not), isn't it kind of pathetic that a grown ass man can't afford his own netflix/hulu/whatever subscription service? Why must he rely on someone else's? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, line up for your chance to give this man head in his car! This self proclaimed disease-free, kink-friendly cheater could be all yours (for an afternoon) for the small price of your dignity! [BARF]I'm not attracted to latino men, specifically Dominican/Puerto Rican, because I know them all too well to be players and perpetrators of machismo and toxic masculinity. I just don't feel comfortable dating within my ethnicity since every latino man I've met has been such an entitled, sexist, dickhead. They're overly familiar, far too touchy, and and constantly neg women with the guise of teasing and flirting. They're also very frequently momma's boys and incapable of feeding themselves and doing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 06:37 PM |
| 3 | Glad the trash threw itself outWhat is it about millennial men in engineering that makes them so uptight? I had to omit that I was an engineer from my profile because men like him would constantly quiz or neg me to prove I was an actual engineer. Or they'd accuse me of lying. Or they'd tell me I'm not a real engineer because I must have still been working on my BS (I wasn't. I earned my degree years ago.) Male engineers are such fucking narcissists and so afraid that their "boy's club" is now being infiltrated by much more ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 06:08 PM |
| 38 | I recently did a purge of all men I suspected were only friends because they wanted to sleep with me. Now I have literally no one around.Get a hobby. I joined an intimate fitness studio that holds social events and made some friends. If you have a niche interest, check out local conventions or festivals and join those. Might be difficult right now because of COVID, but finding activities you enjoy will help you meet people that you have stuff in common with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 05:51 PM |
| 40 | Is there a way to know if you’re on track to be a placeholder/forever girlfriend early on?If the first few months there isn't much talk about your future and how you fit in together, then you might be destined to be either a temporary fling or a forever girlfriend (until someone better comes along.) Don't be afraid to ask at any point where the relationship is headed. Someone mature, responsible, and prepared will be straightforward, people with commitment issues and overall shadiness will try to avoid the question with platitudes like, "we'll see where things are heading." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 05:48 PM |
| 10 | “Do you have Snapchat?” - Boy bye.Right. My instagram is for people to learn more about me in how I present myself to the public. Snapchat conversations almost always devolve into "send me a pic." And I am certain that a pic of what I cooked for dinner is not what they're referring to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 05:38 PM |
| 22 | “Do you have Snapchat?” - Boy bye.I loved Snapchat when I was in college. It was a quick, easy way of sharing info about parties or jokes with lots of friends. However, even then Snapchat was NOT a platform for private conversations for me. Now as an adult, I just can't be bothered with Snap. For me, private conversations occur via text. Instagram, facebook, and anything else are for sharing posts with the public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:58 AM |
| 27 | This is some big Pick Me energy...I've been a pickmeisha in the past, but the one thing I never ever EVER did, even when I was at my absolute lowest, was send nudes. That can haunt you forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 06:11 PM |
| 40 | The sad truth: women’s lives often get ruined by men while they walk away unscathed.I get really mad when I think about this, too. I hate that she's the butt of so many jokes, and John Oliver is one of the only people I've heard acknowledge how much suffering she had to go through. The wonderful thing, though, is that she still found the strength to stand up for other people and fight against public shaming/cyberbullying and the damage it causes. She exhibits such strength, elegance, and grace after being broken down by the entire world. People really don't stop to think that t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:59 PM |
| 20 | Anyone else getting the "Coronavirus excuse" for cheap first dates?If he's that worried about COVID why is he seeking out dates then? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:45 PM |
| 27 | I’m a bi woman, and a pickme just violated meIt is disgusting. There are times when I was out going about my life, a man would hit on me and I'd say I had a girlfriend. That was never enough and it just let to questions like, "How gay are you?" or "Can I watch?" and one even said, "It's not really a relationship, so if you have sex with me it's not cheating." I'm pretty sure my 5 year relationship with this woman was pretty real, but go off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:47 PM |
| 7 | I’m a bi woman, and a pickme just violated meHappened to me on Tinder too. It was really disappointing since she waited until the end of the date and I actually enjoyed my time with her. She offered to take me home, but I said fuck that and Uber-ed home and deleted her number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:43 PM |
| 30 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolAgreed. Also if they say something about being "fiery" or "spicy," it just makes me want to gag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:14 PM |
| 56 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolI hate that white men on dating apps seem to treat us like we're an exotic animal. The worst opening line I've seen is being called mamacita. Big yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:09 PM |
| 71 | snapping back at “cOmmUnIcATE” commentsHe doesn't have his girlfriend of one year on his social media. Like they're not friends on social media at all, and people are actually saying that it's normal? You'll add someone from your gym on facebook, but not your girlfriend? Where the fuck is the logic? Also, this isn't a slip of the tongue. He specifically thought his ex was the one who threw him a surprise party and then goofed when he realized he was wrong. Plus, he was sexting his ex at the beginning of this new relationship. And eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 11:51 AM |
| 13 | They want us to be legbeards so bad, but we're not: FDS Humble Brag / Femcel Theory Debunked!Agreed, everyone is valuable regardless of appearance. And while our value doesn't come from our sexuality as most LVM/NVMs seem to think, ALL women can easily find sex if they wanted to, ugly ones included. Just thought I'd point that out because they really love to hit us with the "insult" that we at FDS are undesirable, when it couldn't be further from the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:19 PM |
| 3 | They want us to be legbeards so bad, but we're not: FDS Humble Brag / Femcel Theory Debunked!I'm a pretty bad bitch, but if I brag about everything that makes me so great, I'm afraid I'll get doxxed again So take my word for it, I'm pretty fuckin' great and certainly not the female incel these haters wish I was. Incel means involuntarily celibate--like me, I'm sure many of us here have the opposite problem. We are trying to avoid all these LVs begging for our attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:15 PM |
| 37 | Thoughts on this post? Everyone is blaming OP, but all she wanted was to spend more time with him instead of playing video games for hours.He ignores her for weeks, comes home to a home-cooked meal, and spends most of the day out of the house working with a chance to talk to other people and socialize, while she's stuck at home working due to the pandemic and making sure there's a home-cooked meal waiting for him. He is probably the only social interaction she's been getting for weeks, and she's supposed to be grateful that he cleans up after himself and eats the meals she cooks for him while he treats her like a nuisance? Since wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 06:59 PM |
| 4 | There is nothing okay about thisI'm so sorry to hear that. I'm aware this happens, it's just so crushing how normalized this kind of thing is and that not being abused means that you're lucky. I wish that not being abused was considered the bare minimum, not a partner going above and beyond. I'm happy to hear that these two men no longer seem to be in your life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 06:40 PM |
| 108 | The comments are full of Porn Sick men desperately trying to assure her that this is normal behavior!!!!!The audacity of that comment, though. He's telling a young woman that his boyfriend's need to watch children to get off is not the problem here; it's her insecurity in knowing that she has a nearing "expiration date," as though she was just a piece of meat at the supermarket on Manager's Special! However even though she's "getting old" she's still simultaneously young enough to fit the profile for her depraved boyfriend's type, which means that she should be okay with it and the bf is totally ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 06:36 PM |
| 4 | I quite literally am not sure why I am shocked. Come on my guy.Yeah, I can grind him up and boil him for a few minutes, unless he prefers to be steeped in near freezing water for 12-14 hours instead? I'm accommodating! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 06:30 PM |
| 4 | There is nothing okay about thisThat's what shocked me too. Like how low is the bar??? I'm supposed to be grateful to not get beat? Is this normal? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 06:28 PM |
| 3 | How to get karma on Reddit: Blame women for anything and everythingObviously, we have a responsibility to not be assholes--however, we also have a responsibility to manage our response to someone being an asshole. If someone is rude to you, it doesn't make it okay for you to be rude right back because at the end of the day, you're being an asshole and that's bad. If someone is being an asshole, the only correct thing to do is not engage and walk away. Only then are you completely absolved from being an asshole in return. Onto the actual post: Screeching harpy? … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 06:21 PM |
| 13 | Girl, runShe should cut her losses. Consider it this way, it only cost her somewhere less than $8000 to save herself from a lifetime of hardship and being stuck in a loveless marriage with this NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 02:29 PM |
| 25 | AVOID THIS AT ALL COSTSI haven't a clue. She's also incredibly fit and athletic, and he... isn't overweight? That's all he's got going for him in the looks department at least. I don't know how she could look past the bowl cut and perv stasche though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:34 PM |
| 25 | I don't even know where to start...🤦♀️I hate that make-up paradox. Every day make-up is supposed to look like you're not wearing any. Yet, if your make-up doesn't look like the instagram models they follow, it's because you don't care about your appearance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 01:04 PM |
| 20 | Pick-me garbage with 24 AWARDS saying women are ungrateful and we just don't know how to talk to menAnd if you speak in a level tone, they gaslight YOU instead by telling you to calm down and to stop being so dramatic. I was calm, but now you made me angry. Nothing pisses me off more than someone telling me to calm down, especially when I am actually calm in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:58 AM |
| 7 | So this happened.... I'm actually taking it as a compliment I am pissing these incels offI'm under 130 lbs, and I can lift 100 lbs. I can carry my 200-lb, much taller, older sister on my back. I have built and programmed all kinds of robots in my free time. I design machines worth tens of thousands of dollars every day at work outputting 5000+ pounds of force at 2000 degrees F. I think I can manage plugging some wires back in. My daily workout is more hardcore than 90% of these scrotes "careers" in nutrition transportation organization (a.k.a bagging groceries at Walmart.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:55 AM |
| 23 | Have you ever ended a relationship because you realized his Dreamgirl wasn’t you—it was an ex or one of his friends?I did, and ignored it for a while until I asked him why he was so distant and cold. He dodged the question and only after I hammered down did he say he didn't like me and was considering breaking up with me. He made comments often how I look nothing like his type, but he still liked me in spite of that. I feel like such a fool, but as soon as he said he was considering a break up (over the phone!) I simply blocked him on everything and pretended he no longer existed. It makes me so mad that he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:39 AM |
| 14 | Break upBlock, delete from social media, and pretend he doesn't exist. Find an active hobby and focus on self improvement. After being coldly dumped via text by a big baby, I took up martial arts and weight lifting and lost 70 lbs since then and have never been in such amazing shape in my life. It's the ultimate fuck you to everyone who has wronged you to come out better than ever from disappointment and heartbreak. You can allow yourself to grieve the breakupfor a bit, because even against all logic, y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:36 AM |
| 22 | Guys asking to hangout on dating apps?I decline saying that I don't hang out with men, I date them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:29 AM |
| 138 | AVOID THIS AT ALL COSTSThe one time this happened, I made sure to make him feel embarrassed for inviting me over, and I waited outside for 15 minutes for him to tidy up. Granted, it was just a few dishes in the sink, trash that needed to be taken out, and some vacuuming that needed to be done, but since then, he never leaves messes--at least before I visit. His roommate on the other hand has literally moldy dishes in his room, his bed is a mattress on the floor in a 10 by 10 room, and the floor is not visible from all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:26 AM |
| 91 | Pick-me garbage with 24 AWARDS saying women are ungrateful and we just don't know how to talk to menThis is clearly not a woman. And with the chocolate example, if I always buy milk chocolate, tell you constantly I like milk chocolate, decline your offers to share your dark chocolate with you, and remind you I have a sweet tooth and dislike dark chocolate... if you come to me on Valentine's Day with a box of dark chocolate, even if it's the fancy kind to show you put "effort," then no, you didn't put effort at all because you didn't even consider what I liked. A box of dark chocolate is going … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:22 AM |
| 164 | I don't even know where to start...🤦♀️"You have to be thin and fit, but don't expect me to do the same. Also you need to look effortlessly beautiful regardless of how much effort it actually takes, but make sure I don't know or else I will feel insecure about being unwilling to put no effort whatsoever into my appearance." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:18 AM |
| 10 | I think he’s cheatingIf you wanna get his passcode you will. Try some birthdays, 0000, 1111, 5555, and 1234. Don't do it all consecutively or you will get locked out. You can also pretend your phone is out of battery and be like "babe, whats the passcode? i need to see the weather/gps/whatever" The benefit of asking him for the passcode is that if you go snooping through it when he's asleep and he changed it, then he's definitely hiding something and that's evidence enough. Bonus if he sleeps with his phone under hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 07:10 PM |
| 11 | I think he’s cheatingIf you have the opportunity to snoop, then do so. Look through his phone, check his social media. Intuition exists for a reason. The best case scenario is that you do find something and have concrete evidence he sucks and you can feel confidence in your decision to leave him. If you find nothing, you're back at square one because it just means he might have hidden his trail. The second option is to break up with him and risk dumping him over nothing. While it could hurt, and lead to regret, imag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 07:02 PM |
| 79 | This isn't real, right? GF of 15 years, BF won't even buy her a phone. She invests in the house, he treats himself.Who the fuck is a gf for 15 years? If you are life partners why are you nickel and diming each other? Why is it only her responsibility to show fiscal sense? If he makes 2/3 of the income, he should be paying everything, or at the VERY LEAST 2/3 of the fixed costs and they call it even since the same labor hours are going in. But most importantly, who the fuck is a girlfriend for 15 years? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:04 PM |
| 27 | 🤡 and pickmeisha 👹looking for another 👹 to join their circus 🎪If a man I was in a relationship even dared propose such a thing to me, I would dump his ass in a heartbeat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:49 PM |
| 44 | Gaslighting us to believe sex starts early for us by choice. This is in regards to Jenna Jameson coming forward about her abuse. Clearly hes a rapist.Funny how only when their porn is threatened do they start wanting to "defend" women's right to "choose." Using the word choose loosely because of the coercion and manipulation rampant in sex industry makes this not a real choice in the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:47 PM |
| 101 | When they care more about their penises than they care about your wellbeing, RUN!He's just mad she would dare menstruate without his permission, not even considering how it would hurt him so much. She won't even try to hold it in! Women can be so selfish. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:44 PM |
| 13 | LVM really tried to send me a twitter post from a pickmeisha because I felt that he should make me a priority, DUSTY ALERT!Crazy thought, but maybe when your hobbies are consuming all your free time, prohibiting you from developing and cherishing your relationships, it might be an addiction, not a hobby. Playing video games a few hours a week? Hobby. Playing video games every waking hour, so often that your partner feels ignored? Addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:40 PM |
| 6 | Couldn’t use anything other than “cute” to describe my non-cutesy art. Mmkay.Yeah, some of the stuff I bake is cute, I'll give you that. But when I'm out here creating a magnificent five course meal demonstrating some complex cooking techniques and impressive knife skills? That's not cute, it's pretty fucking cool. I'll julienne your ass, then try calling my cooking hobby "cute." It feels infantilizing and condescending. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:37 PM |
| 3 | What does this even mean? I can't figure out how either "I saw The Avengers in a theater" or "I like watching Friends" makes a woman less "girly," intellectual, or attractive.He can't be too smart if he needs a sitcom to gauge someone else's intelligence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Why can't men just like women for who they are? This realization has ruined a lot of friendships for me, which sucks because I'll normally be friends with a guy before I date him.I've been MPDG-ed so many times. Men love to stick around for the fun parts of bipolar, but god forbid I ever fall into the depressive period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:26 PM |
| 10 | I feel there's a few red flags here from this 43 year old. Instantly wanted a meet-up after initial hellos that night at a lounge during a pandemic, long paragraph about not hooking up, and there was something off-putting about his "okay" and no follow up. What do you think?I also find it off-putting to talk about any other women when courting someone. You have so many female friends to talk to? Then talk to them, not me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:23 PM |
| 14 | Someone asked men why they get so mad at reasonable rejectionWhat gets me is that some of the comments say that she should make the first move, when she is specifically saying that she ISN'T interested at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:41 PM |
| 40 | Must be under 5’5, fit, submissive, and stepmother to 4.But apparently this guy is the only one allowed to have kids. I can't believe the audacity. He wants a woman to "step up" and raise his kids, but he refuses to date a woman who has already stepped up for her own kids and refuses to do the same for her. Furthermore, why the fuck would a single, childless woman have a minivan. Is she an amazon driver? Then how is she supposed to stay at home and watch his kids? Ugh, these NVM make absolutely no sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 11:41 AM |
| 16 | My mind is exploding - so many things wrong with the post and comment. LVM leaves his trimmings to be cleaned up. Someone comments that OP could GENTLY ASK if hubby can buy a cleaning appliance so SHE can still do this shit for him.I hate that article because the point the author gets is that putting the dishes in the dishwasher makes his wife happy, when in reality it’s not even that—putting dishes in the dish washer benefits him because he gets clean dishes. The wife is just pissed that he just expects this kind of shit to solve itself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 02:46 AM |
| 2 | She had me in the first half 😂Yep I posted about the best. I’m still appalled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 02:40 AM |
| 5 | Why its important to date men that invest in you! we already spend alot of money being high maintenance💅🏾💁🏽♀️Facts, that's why if my man likes seeing me pretty, he has to cough up for my salon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 12:10 PM |
| 60 | Aww these poor widdle men being discriminated against...Let me guess, they're being discriminated against while still being the majority in this industry, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 12:10 PM |
| 10 | Okay... I’ll stay singleSo... cheating and abuse is deserving of love and patience, but if I don't tolerate it then suddenly I'm the one that's undeserving of love? Staying single it is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 12:07 PM |
| 37 | Men are the BIGGEST hypocrites🤣🙄I for one, love my "simp." Men just use that word to shame and pressure HVM to act like them. Sure, the HVM's girlfriend/wife is taken, but imagine the girlfriend telling her single friends how a man should act? Then women will start raising their standards! How awful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 11:35 AM |
| 6 | Quality over quantity. 💁🏽♀️Everything in my body cringes from the memories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 11:33 AM |
| 7 | Has r/banfemalehatesubs been banned??It really be like that out here. I've even gotten some DMs about how awful FDS is from people who clearly haven't even read anything on here. Hey at least we're on the Wall Street Journal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 11:58 AM |
| 288 | Has r/banfemalehatesubs been banned??Amazing how helping women realize they don't deserve to settle for mediocrity is somehow pushing an agenda of hatred. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:56 PM |
| 1 | They wouldn’t, why would you ? (don’t mind the use of « female », yikes)I don't mind that at all because it's being used as an adjective. Referring to someone as the female doctor isn't bad, but saying "that female is a doctor" is bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 07:20 PM |
| 3 | They wouldn’t, why would you ? (don’t mind the use of « female », yikes)Usually a short, "Using the word females as a noun is dehumanizing, just refer to them as women instead." Sometimes they take it at face value, sometimes it sparks a genuine question as to why it's dehumanizing, and I may further explain, "No one uses males to refer to men." Sometimes that's enough, and sometimes that may spark another question like why is that so bad? And my next go to is, "Females is used to describe animals or in a scientific setting. Women aren't specimens and experiments to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:46 PM |
| 196 | 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻My level up surprises even me. Lost a life-changing amount of weight after battling with it for my entire life, gained a ton of muscle, took care of finding therapists, doctors, dentist, and gyno after having neglected my health since I was a teen, threw out my entire drab wardrobe that made me invisible and replaced it with all the cute designer stuff I used to feel guilty about wanting, went to get my Masters, and finally learned how to put myself first and enforce boundaries without toleratin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Marisa Tomei is actually very much what a thriving woman in her 50s looks like. What wall?Agreed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 01:15 PM |
| 6 | Dating as a black woman on dating apps be like..Same to you. On the bright side, it's an easy way to weed out the LVMs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 01:14 PM |
| 12 | LVM flies pregnant girlfriend across the country just to tell her he cheated 3 timesMy ex and I had an LDR. He lives on the other side of the country. Since he didn't have a job at the time and was living with his parents, he allowed me to take time off work, pay for plane tickets and fly across the country to see him, and spend the week going on expensive dates I paid for because obviously he had no money, and then at the end of they week when he dropped me off at the airport and kissed me goodbye. He seemed off all week and I pestered him the whole time with what's wrong? And… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 01:06 PM |
| 11 | pick me spotted.I don't either, yet when I tell other people they think I'm jealous and controlling. The counterargument is almost always, "What if your best friend was a guy and your boyfriend told you not to hang out with him?" Uhh, my best friend is not a guy, so what's your point? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:44 PM |
| 4 | They wouldn’t, why would you ? (don’t mind the use of « female », yikes)The word female as a noun makes my skin crawl. If I hear it irl, I call it out immediately. Online, it's futile and I just don't engage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Sometimes I think to myself “It would be nice to be married” but then I see stuff like this and say to myself: “nah.”Big yikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:36 PM |
| 11 | Today is the first time I'll be going to the beach completely unshavenThe only good thing about shaving your legs is the feeling of crawling into your fresh bedsheets after the shower. No new sheets? No shaving my legs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Marisa Tomei is actually very much what a thriving woman in her 50s looks like. What wall?Thank you! I LIKE how I look, and I can't fathom getting any type of medically unnecessary procedure because of vanity. Everyone is absolutely free to do as they please, and I would never judge someone for wanting to do it for themselves, but once you badger people into it and point out their "easily fixable" flaws, then I'm judging. Unless I get involved in an unfortunate accident that disfigures me, I never want cosmetic surgery, and my family just can't accept that. I am the only woman in my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:28 PM |
| 35 | NO NO NO NO 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️All for the sake of being "the cool girl," and "not like other girls." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:20 PM |
| 32 | NO NO NO NO 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️They will, and shortly after get tossed to the side for another younger, more "submissive" pickme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:19 PM |
| 48 | NO NO NO NO 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️There's a difference between feeling butterflies/being in love and submissiveness. Just because a man makes you feel giddy doesn't mean you'll put up with bullshit and do his bidding. In fact, I feel more giddy and in love when my partner is doing stuff for ME. Now that's the way to my heart! And why the heck do grown ass women keep referring to themselves and other grown ass women as girls? I hate being infantilized and will always call out people referring to women as such. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:14 PM |
| 10 | A L A R M B E L L SMost people have had a crazy ex, maybe two if you're unlucky. I had one who was legitimately crazy: full blown delusions, bit a chunk of a hotel clerk's finger off, assaulted the arresting officer, and spent over a month in a psychiatric ward sedated. The crazy wasn't malicious or intentional because mental illness, but me referring to him as my crazy ex is done rightfully so. But when every ex is suddenly crazy for simply getting tired of your BS and holding it in until they just can't hold it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 10:54 AM |
| 11 | LMAO i better not find out any of yall are spending yalls hard earned money on any of these pornsick video game addicts🤣🤣I love video games, but I'll be damned if I end up buying a console for the house since I know my man will be the one playing most often. I have a whole load of handheld consoles in the first place so I'm already set. The PS5 would only be a plus, and the only way it'll be in the home is if my man buys it. At best I'd buy him a game for christmas or his birthday that we BOTH want to play. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 10:48 AM |
| 13 | Some women desperately need FDSI feel secondhand embarrassment for the OP in the twitter post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 10:43 AM |
| 35 | Dating as a black woman on dating apps be like..Why do so many men on dating apps teat women of color as an exotic species? No matter the race, men fetishize my latina-ness in an uncomfortable creepy way. Especially weird when it comes from a Latino | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 10:39 AM |
| 27 | Marisa Tomei is actually very much what a thriving woman in her 50s looks like. What wall?She's stunning! I was afraid of getting old when I was younger since so many men used to tell me how cute I was and how my youth was such an appeal (gross now looking back on it.) Now? I'm so excited to start going gray and have a salt and pepper fro. My partner and I always joke that I'm going to be the hottest mom dropping the kids off at college. I know beauty isn't the only defining point of a woman, but I'd be lying if I didn't say it makes me feel less afraid of growing old knowing people … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 10:32 AM |
| 5 | Why is it that when a woman expresses that a guy is treating her poorly, men assume that she’s aiming out of her league?Because they only think of women as prizes valued by her physical appearance and sexual availability. Since they want her to feel worthless, they attack her "only" redeeming value, because apparently to them, nothing else matters. From this, they probably think calling a woman an "ugly whore" is the greatest insult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:47 PM |
| 6 | How can super introverted women find a partner?I'm in the engineering field so I ran into a ton of incels in school, and men in the tech industry seem to just gravitate towards me. They too tend to be the most LVM. Their hygiene sucks, no social skills, condescending, and despite making good money, they're incredibly cheap and accuse all women of being gold diggers. I found luck online dating, but it was after going on many many MANY shitty first dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:43 PM |
| 3 | PickMeisha Shames Women for Not Fixing Their Man a Plate. The comments erupt.Oh for sure. No woman should be required to do anything. In my particular case, though, it's just something I do because of the situation described above. LVM will cheat because that's all they're capable of; a woman could come in and be perfect in every way and it'll still never be enough for an LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, how long would you wait for a second date before the ship sails?Is he still talking to you or is he also too busy to send a 2 minute text every few hours to get to know you and express his interest? If you haven't heard from him in 2 or 3 days, then it's time to cut your losses, regardless of when your last date was. If he talks to you every day and you both just have had a ton of stuff going on in this particular moment? I'd give it a max of 1 week, while still talking/going on dates with other men, too of course. If a man can't even find 45 min to an hour … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:28 PM |
| 3 | PickMeisha Shames Women for Not Fixing Their Man a Plate. The comments erupt.I love cooking; it's one of my fiercest passions. I do prepare a plate for my bf, it's because when I cook stuff it's usually something complex, new to him, plated in a certain way to enjoy it to the fullest, and presentation matters very much to me, especially since I run a social media page for food and take photographs of my dishes. That being said, whenever I cook for anyone (friends, family included) I serve all the dishes because of this. If I didn't cook it however--fuck it, it's every on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:21 PM |
| 2 | What are fictional characters that you consider HVM ?Gouda is such a HVM!! I loved Oremonogatari so much. <3 I only watch anime, so I wondered if I'd be able to recognize any characters in this thread. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 04:58 PM |
| 10 | LiterallyIt's pretty gay for a man to love his wife. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 03:48 PM |
| 3 | You Do Not ExpireForreal. I saw a post on another subreddit about a rather successful woman who considers herself attractive, and she asked why it was so hard to date and if her problem was setting her standards too high. She was worried because she was getting to her 30s. She wanted someone of a similar religion and cultural background, equally successful and educated which meant earning her salary or more and a college degree, and obviously attractive meaning a height requirement and certain fitness level that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 03:36 PM |
| 8 | Weeding out the cerebral narcissists / antisocial know-it-alls.I've got a Masters in Mechanical Engineering and have had a few great jobs in the field, thriving in my current one. On top of that, my hobbies include cosplay, anime, robotics, gaming. It's easy to find men that have similar interests to me because of that, however, some of the most sexist, depraved, disgusting men also tend to be in those spheres. There's some good ones sprinkled in there, but the worst guys just seem to be involved in those spaces. As a result, I ran into so much BS while onl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 04:07 PM |
| 5 | I hope she gets picked 🤡Right now, I would lose my shit and "go to the bathroom" if I had to sit there at a restaurant pulling a calculator out to split a date bill. Spending all that time and money to look hot, be interesting, cultured, intelligent, and successful and some bum wants to pinch pennies when he's supposed to try and impress me? Or worse, split a bill in half when he orders more expensive shit than I do? That's a hard pass. I spent so much money on schooling, traveling, personal training, hair salons, clot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 01:21 PM |
| 28 | You Do Not ExpireI lived in China for sometime. The concept of leftover women was prominent, even in big "progressive" cities like Shanghai. Leftover women were basically women older than about 25, generally career driven, successful, and didn't abide by traditional gender roles that value men more than women. Since these women are older, successful, and unwilling to accept mediocrity, society deemed them undesirable and labeled them leftovers to shame them for rejecting expectations. Even though these may be HV… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 12:53 PM |
| 3 | Annoyed by mansplainers. Have any of you found a man that isn't condescending?Yeah, my boyfriend knows when to pipe down on certain topics. Not to get too specific, but I work in materials science/chemistry so numbers, science, and tech are my life. My boyfriend on the other hand works in hospitality. When a discussion on those topics comes up, he knows to not even try to tell me I'm wrong because I can show him a million and one ways of how he's wrong. I can be somewhat of a know-it-all, though, so mansplaining doesn't usually work on me since I just talk over a mansplai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 07:27 PM |
| 3 | Tips for interracial dating/relationships?I'm doing things the other way around: I'm a Hispanic woman dating a white guy, and we have a pretty great thing going together, so I think I might be a good source of info for this. In terms of interracial dating, I think it's important to have boundaries on what kind of comments you aren't okay with. Everyone is entitled to their own sense of humor but if he makes jokes about white "girls," and being "basic" and those bother you, then nip it in the bud. If either of your families are not 100% … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Level Up- your favorite clothing sources?My go to is Topshop, Free People, Urban Outfitters and anything I can find at Nordstrom. Especially at Topshop, the clothes are interesting, cool, edgy, and very flattering. I also admit to occasionally shopping at Hollister and the kids section at the GAP for some wardrobe staples like T-shirts, turtlenecks, leggings, etc, and the boy's section in Foot Locker Kids for exercise gear like joggers, and quick-drying athletic shirts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:50 PM |
| 14 | He loves God but he loves hitting women moreThat's terrifying. What is wrong with some people? He should take up boxing and try to fight someone in his own weight class instead of someone weaker, probably significantly smaller, and in a vulnerable position at his whim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:43 PM |
| 8 | Don’t date a porn addicted man, don’t be cool with porn. An HVM doesn’t jerk off to female exploitation & other women in general.Same here. He even said that he didn't like how often I kissed him. Hurts, but at least I know better now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:35 PM |
| 14 | Lvm looking for a bjIt's always so convenient when they advertise how awful they are. Now you don't even have to waste time getting ready for a date! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:23 PM |
| 12 | The audacity. THE AUDACITY!My standards were has a car and a job. Even then it was hard to find someone to fit those criteria. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:19 PM |
| 9 | Get out of it, right frickin now!No commitment is not compatible with faithful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:46 AM |
| 8 | Haven't we all passed through this situation? LmaoThis feels like a call out on my younger self 😂 Thank goodness I’ve learned | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:41 AM |
| 3 | 20 years to be exact and he still sent this, so something tells me he usually doesn’t resist at allBig yikes. That's by the textbook manipulation. Make a young woman feel like she isn't supposed to be with men her age. Her inexperience will lead to her trusting you and soon she'll learn that all the hardships and mistreatment is part of a normal relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 11:46 AM |
| 9 | Brother tries to blame sexually abusing his little sister on his ‘raging hormones’ his parents says it’s just a mistake. DisgustingI was 5 when a sibling did this to me. I assure you that little girl remembers and she always will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:03 PM |
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