I think he’s cheating

HoneyBouquet · 2020-07-07T19:01:51+00:00

Option 1 - dump his ass.

He will try and gaslight you and think you're the crazy one.

It's not worth the pain or trying to educate him.

loudest_gusset · 2020-07-07T19:02:09+00:00

If you have the opportunity to snoop, then do so. Look through his phone, check his social media. Intuition exists for a reason. The best case scenario is that you do find something and have concrete evidence he sucks and you can feel confidence in your decision to leave him. If you find nothing, you're back at square one because it just means he might have hidden his trail.

The second option is to break up with him and risk dumping him over nothing. While it could hurt, and lead to regret, imagine how much more you'd regret it if you learned he was cheating on you months later. Men are abundant and you can find another one.

Third option, riskiest so beware, is to have an honest conversation about your concerns. If the explanation seems sound and reasonable, and you feel assured, then that's great. However, keep in mind you are risking him just lying about it and getting better at hiding. Personally, I don't recommend this one, but feelings are feelings and sometimes heartbreak is the only thing that gives us the wisdom to trust our intuition in the first place.

The biggest problem with all of this is that once you doubt him at all, inevitably the feeling will come back, and where there is no trust, there is no happiness or love. If a man ever makes you feel insecure about the relationship, it will happen again, so you should leave and find another man that will never let you feel that way.

nutshit · 2020-07-07T19:06:01+00:00

Your intuition is probably right. Whatever you do, just remember that when you break up with a guy, you either get rid of someone who was holding you back or he proves himself to you. Either way... win win situation. I’m sorry this happened to you i wish you the best of luck and love! 🦋

MuffinSongs · 2020-07-07T18:41:47+00:00

I’m not gonna leave this up long because I don’t think there are many people with this particular problem right now and I don’t want to show my cards if he finds it.

2020-07-07T19:06:50+00:00

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ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2020-07-07T19:43:07+00:00

All you gave to ask yourself is: “Is this situation acceptable to me?” Are you ok with strange calls, broken plans, odd texts, and feeling insecure in your relationship. If no, just tell him “This is not working out for me, we’re not a match, and I need to be single.”

I would NOT confront him regarding possible homosexual affairs. Men who present themselves as straight have been known to become violent when confronted with their secret life. Your safety is more important than anything he could say to you in discussing the situation.

Title	I think he’s cheating
Author	MuffinSongs
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	July 7, 2020 6:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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