When I say hot, this is what I mean: -realizes that porn altered his mind and stopped watching it. Had the confidence and courage to be the one to bring up the topic and discuss it in a healthy way with me. (I was not the one to address it at all. Didn’t think there were guys out there like this who weren’t incredibly religious.) -Asked me what books I was reading at the time a couple weeks into dating, asked if there were any on my list I was interested in...BOUGHT THEM SO WE COULD READ THEM TOGETHER and wrote me a little note in the front covers. -in my four months of dating him, not one time have I opened my own door. -no sneakiness with other women. -loves spending time preparing and enjoying healthy food with me, and is excited about recipes I want to try. -if I cook, he cleans, or vice versa. (I love love love that the housework is evenly split and that I don’t feel like I’m picking up after a little brother or child.) -when we have sex it’s obvious he’s not in it for himself, and the enjoyment is from seeing me happy and satisfied, which in turn makes me feel happy to take care of him. -he’s incredibly attractive physically.

He’s not perfect, but when my last relationship ended, there were a few very specific traits I told myself would be deal breakers. This guy. Ugh. 🤗

Guys are black and white. When they want something and they are compatible with you, it is easy to recognize their effort early on. You don’t have to outline every little thing that you wish he would do. If you find yourself doing that, keep it movin’ sis! That courage to be independent and fearless will sparkle on you. Don’t let some scrote tarnish that.