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But if you are at 1.5x BW or less for your squat / deadlift and claim to be under 15% BF, that's bullshit 95% of the time. Body fat and strength lie on two different axes man. You can have tons of muscle and easily sit at 25-30% BF or be literally emaciated at 5%. The trick is keeping your muscle while shedding the fat off. Yes most people over-estimate BF. I've certainly been guilty of it. It's hard to tell how high you really are until you actually cut. Thought I was around 15-20, cut down to …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 12:58 PM
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Some people hate em, and swear they'll wreck your joint, but my OHP never took off until I added in upright rows. Never had pain or discomfort with them, even up to 90-100lbs for sets of 10. Best OHP PR was 1x my BW at 180 lbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/19 01:18 PM
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Number of weekly ejaculations has been correlated with prostate cancer risk. Fapping lowers risk of cancer.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/19 05:46 PM
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Wife was 32 the first time we tried and 34 the second. First time happened the second month. Second time was in the first month trying. Fertility was absolutely there. Went years doing nothing but pulling out on days 9-20, even coming inside on other days of the month and no pregnancy.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 06:32 PM
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If there's no period by next week, def test. BC pills can still screw up periods though, and it's possible to straight up miss one and not be preg. If she gets the period, and it's anything more than light spotting, there's no preg and a test would be a waste.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 01:03 PM
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Yeah... ovulation's usually on day 14, with sperm being able to live 3-5 days in there. That's day 14 where day 1 is the start. If the period were 4 days long, and you did 8 after... that's day 12, which, if she were off the pill would be right there in the baby making window. However... she's on the pill so all that day counting doesn't really mean anything as she doesn't really have a cycle. Missing a pill or two would result in ovulation right then, regardless of day. If there's no missing pi…
/r/askTRP28/08/19 12:25 PM
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8 after the start or 8 after the stop?
/r/askTRP28/08/19 11:59 AM
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Yeah... but that's just one tool of many in the toolbox.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/19 10:34 AM
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Nah, you should use questions to make her qualify and invest. This is PUA 101 type shit... basically make her realize you're asking her what makes her so special other than her looks. When she's scrambling to qualify and win you over, you've won.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/19 08:40 PM
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MRP and TRP have a pretty similar sidebar, but MRP is more about how to be as alpha as possible while maintaining an LTR. Personally... if I were getting divorced, I'd read more of TRP's sidebar and try to implement plate theory. It'd be my personal choice, but I'd avoid monogamous LTR's in addition to just marriage. Spinning plates honestly sounds quite ideal, but I could see my opinion changing 10 or 20 years down the line. You need to figure out what you want. LTR's might better be suited by …
/r/askMRP26/08/19 01:20 PM
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Yeah... sexual dynamics can be shitty at times. Your wife wants to be able to turn to you for support. How can she do that if you're showing that you're beaten down yourself? The alpha traits women are attracted to are protector traits. Protector includes both physical and emotional. That's why both lifting and frame are separately important... they compliment each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/19 01:12 PM
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Nah. I hate having to lug shit around that I don't need. If there's only a small chance of rain sometime in the future, I won't carry an umbrella either. I've never done it because "umbrellas are for women" more simply because I felt like the risk and consequence were small. Although, now you've got me thinking... testosterone does increase risk taking.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 11:45 AM
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It's best to be both. FFMI around 23-25 and 10% bf. All the muscle, less fat. It's all about power to weight ratio.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 10:40 AM
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How do you know you're losing muscles? Are your lifts going down, or are you losing lean body mass (calculated from your weight and bf%)? If it's just LBM, it could be water weight. Also, where are you lifts at? BF% and body weight don't mean shit without knowing your main lifts. I'm talking BP, OHP, Squat, Deadlift. Otherwise... only other recommendation would be to switch your diet up and go keto. I'd keep your protein the same, but limit carbs to 20-40g/day (whatever you need to maintain keto…
/r/askMRP19/08/19 12:19 PM
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Apparently I'm Chad... Smart/Trustworthy/Attractive was 8.1/8.2/9.6 after 19 votes. Picture was a bit dark, so I think I'm gonna try a different one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 08:11 PM
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This is simple... pickup and really frame 101. Always assume attraction. At least until you get a hard no. Treat soft no's as the shittests they usually are.
/r/askTRP13/08/19 10:42 AM
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Too much she's and her's. You care too much about being a certain way for her and are molding your behavior to what you think she wants. That's the definition of weak frame. Instead, you need to be in your own frame. Find your mission in life and own it. And that mission can't be your wife's pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 10:19 AM
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Her sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 01:50 PM
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Step 1: Be attractive. Step 2: Don't be unattractive. Seriously... the number of women who are LD is much less than the number of women claimed to be LD by their partner. Chances are she's just LD for you. Is she shit testing or trying to start fights?
/r/askMRP07/08/19 11:41 AM
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You talk too much. Talk is cheap. Acta non verba.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 03:23 PM
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No... it's not hard mode because you get fucked from divorce. It's hard mode because you're giving up on most of the alpha attraction triggers. Being hard to pin down and get commitment from is a large part of what makes alphas desirable. Knowing that they have tons of other options is part of what makes them desirable. Once they're legally committed, a large chunk of that desire is handed over freely... never to surface again. So the man inherently becomes less desirable, and on top of it, as y…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 05:51 PM
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I'm not suggesting an alternative. I'm not suggesting one scheme is better than another. RP is amoral. All I'm saying is that marriage is inherently not alpha or masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 04:37 PM
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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 04:35 PM
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I think what you're calling traditional masculinity is not what I'd call masculine. The whole religious head of the household was a means to appease beta males. Alphas get respect by virtue of being alpha. Betas need to demand it. Demanding it through religion and society seems to be what you're referring to. Red pill is not about that type of masculinity. But tradcons are drawn to red pill because on the surface there can be a lot of similarities. But... needing to demand respect and/or submiss…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 01:53 PM
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And I'm saying that was a construct made by society. Marriage is great for the beta males... they have a shot at reproduction. It's great for women... they get a provider to help with kids. On the surface it looks like a bad deal for alpha males... but it's about the same given the willingness of them to step outside their marriage (if they do get married), and the willingness of married women to cheat with them. But there is nothing masculine (alpha) about marriage. At a fundamental level it el…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 01:04 PM
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Alpha: physically arousing taits. Beta: provider traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 12:20 PM
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That's why I included attitude in there... because it isn't all activities and hobbies. As to marriage being masculine... I actually think nothing could be further from the truth. That argument sits with me the same way that society tries to fight masculinity by saying things like "real men aren't a afraid to cry". Its a no true scotsman fallacy. Marriage and monogamy are constructs for women and beta males. It takes the competition (masculinity) out of reproduction in favor of comfort and safet…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 12:09 PM
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This is the correct answer. Only thing I'd add is that passing LMR isn't really inherent to red pill. Red pill took the term and methods to deal with it from Pick Up Artists.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 11:48 AM
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Red Pillers embrace traditional masculinity because that's litterally a part of what defines being red pill. For a guy, life is so much better after making the choice to embrace masculinity. Masculine activities, hobbies, and attitude just come naturally. As a man, it feels unnatural to reject masculinity, and a big part of the anger phase is the realization that you've wasted a lot of your life being untrue to yourself and a person you wouldnt respect. The icing on top is now women find you mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 11:43 AM
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Dude... you started from Auschwitz mode... I've never heard of a woman who wants an emaciated guy who weighs less than they do. Most women want to be dominated sexually. You accomplish that with muscle. 20 lbs in 5 months is good progress man... keep it up. If you assume 10%bf, your genetic potential for max muscle is somewhere around 165 lbs without roids. Most women find that build to be attractive and it doesn't look too muscular there. So, I'd look at adding at least 30 lbs more, if not 40 w…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 05:30 PM
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Yeah. I could see that. Docs tend to have an irrational fear of keto as well... because most dont really have too much understanding about the details of how keto changes your metabolism. Insulin resistance actually goes up while you're on it, but it's only temporary (while you're mainly burning fat) and for an entirely different reason than T2D resistance. Still... this oftentimes scares docs. I've done a ton of research into the matter before I fully took the plunge. But... I'm not gonna give …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 12:47 PM
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Online game is pretty much the same as in person game... minus the kino. Don't show too much interest too quickly. Make her qualify to you. Subtly drop DHV's. Etc...
/r/askTRP30/07/19 04:17 PM
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I'd turn it into a push pull TBH. Frame the conversation as if you didn't mean to and that you were only trying to look at her profile, but now that you've matched you figured you'd say hi. Maybe even slightly neg her. Basically play with/fuck with her emotions. Give her that roller coaster. She's a hottie, so you should be disqualifying her from the get go and making her work to try to qualify.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 04:08 PM
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You should look into keto if you want to drop bodyweight while retaining or even adding muscle. The ketogains sub is a good place to start. I dropped 40 lbs last year while adding on my lifts and am now around 10% bf. Macros are pretty simple... keep carbs under 20g, protein around 1g/lb lean body mass, and use fat as the remainder to hit your calorie goal. It'll also help normalize out those hypoglycemic episodes... blood sugar gets rock steady on keto.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:57 PM
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Could that really be the reason? What is the max muscularity normal women find attractive? Yes... likely the reason. Ever see those women who have too much plastic surgery, or too obvious of a boob job/butt implants? It looks fake, and there's something that's viscerally off-putting about it. Yeah... that's probably how most women feel about roided physiques. Max muscularity would probably be right around the natural limit, or just slightly higher. I'd say FFMI of 24-25 at 8% bf.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 01:24 PM
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People change. Especially younger people. The brain still develops until 25 or so. Women's hormones peak right around 28-30... that's when she'll be the horniest and will have the strongest hypergamy drive. To a 20 yr old, 10 years is 50% of their life. They're not going to be at 30 who they were at 20. Maybe they get bored, maybe they become less traditional/conservative. I stand by my comment that if you're looking for an ltr like marriage you need to find a woman with a history of resisting t…
/r/askTRP30/07/19 12:29 PM
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Aww... she LJBF'ed you and then you got an LTR outta her? How sweet. I honestly stopped reading there. Thank god... wall of text with too many shes to count. Youre balls deep in her frame giving too many fucks. Fix it.
/r/askMRP30/07/19 10:56 AM
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You obviously didnt read what I wrote... there is no unicorn out there. No matter where you look you can end up cucked. As an aside.... people in this sub keep talking about young women being more innocent and say to look there. My opinion is that is dumb as fuck. Think of her history like a credit report... no credit is worse than poor credit. If shes 20 with no history, what's gonna happen when she turns 21 and her friends want girls night? What's gonna happen when Chad's start throwing her in…
/r/askTRP30/07/19 10:40 AM
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Truth hurts. They want to feel like the women that fucked their ass raw were all landmines but that unicorn is still out there. It's uncomfortable when you lean the truth... that there is no unicorn out there.
/r/askTRP29/07/19 08:23 PM
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You want to make your own choices? Fuck that... you will make your own choices. If she doesn't like it, she can choose not to come or to leave (hint: she won't). This is a run of the mill shit test. Can I get him to abandon his mission/dreams with my feelz and drama? The only answer here is no. If you want, you can talk to her feelz and spin it around "It's cute how jealous and worried you are about me babe, but I can handle myself". Acknowledge (and even thank) her for her concerns, but make it…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 08:18 PM
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It's certainly a change in mindset. Giving up overt neediness for a covert contract with concealed neediness. Is it an improvement? You be the judge. Concealed neediness is certainly more attractive than overt neediness. Same with lifting... don't lift for your wife. Do it for you. Because of how it makes you feel. Because it lets you take on challenges you couldn't before. Because the vast majority of other women will find you more attractive in general, and you will get more options as a resul…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 06:22 PM
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Doesn't that signify that they want a relationship based on personality compatibility and substance before it becomes based on lust? No. A history of casual sex means willingness to act on impulses and that the woman doesn't equate sex with love. While neither of these is inherently a bad thing, it isn't a great thing if you're seeking a committed long term relationship. Potential for cheating and/or raising a kid that isn't yours would be higher than a woman who has not had a history of casual …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 04:52 PM
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You're giving way too many shits. Probably because your SMV isn't high enough. Be grateful it happened now, and not after you've had 2 kids and bought a house together.
/r/askTRP29/07/19 01:05 PM
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"I'm going to fuck her so good she will always come back for more."... Our covert contracts are problematic... What do you think that statement right there is? Getting sex from any woman isn't about fucking her good... it's about game, frame, and looks. The strongest hammer is actually about not caring about getting sex from her. Odd isn't it? Lift, put yourself first, improve, and stop giving 2 shits about her choices. That is what makes you attractive. After some time, if things don't improve …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 01:02 PM
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You sound like you're too busy over analyzing everything, to be some sex robot that's programmed only to get your wife off without any regard for your own pleasure. Also, you say that you need to feel like you're the best in some large radius. Sounds like insecurity. Sounds like you think if you weren't your wife wouldn't be interested or would cheat. Maybe that's not how you actually feel... but that's totally how it reads. Especially when you say before that you'll leave a room if you're not t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 07:52 PM
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Yeah, those who sit and try to figure out and mimic "what an alpha would do" are inherently stuck in blue pill mindset and are not alpha. Alpha is on a fundamental level is unapologetically doing what you want to do, when you want to do it, without concern for what others opinion. If you spend half a second trying to alter your behavior to try to appease others, that's fundamentally not alpha. The alpha of a pack doesn't concern himself with appeasing others to improve their opinion of him... th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 03:06 PM
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Where the fuck is your frame buddy? You sound super insecure about everything. Especially that whole paragraph on sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 07:36 PM
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Yeah. It's great too with the higher volume as well as strength training. You get a lot of hypertrophy off it, while still setting new PRs in strength.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 10:18 AM
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Highly recommend keto for this. Specifically ketogains protocol. People who say you can't add muscle and lose fat simultaneously havent ever been on a high protein keto diet and lifted... because that's litterally what happens to everyone on it.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 10:14 AM
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Everyone's different. I've been doing them heavy for years and have never caused any issues or pain. Maybe they can fuck things up for some people, but it's certainly not everyone. And I'll be honest when I say that it wasn't until I started doing upright rows that my OHP made serious gains and my shoulders capped significantly more. My form's a bit different than the video's... I typically use an easy bar, do a wider grip, don't pull as high, and have a slight bit of forward lean. As an aside, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 05:08 PM
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86% of men of similar weight are stronger than you 86% of lifters not men. Most men don't even lift. It's a subtlety, but an important one.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 08:59 PM
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If you want a program to kick your ass and get the volume in, look up Wendler's Boring But Big. I especially recommend the 3 month challenge variation. Nothing like doing 5x10 of the big lifts at 70% 1RM. I've made some serious strength gains there, after having plateaued for a while. 1RMed 180 lbs on OHP, and am close to clearing 300lbs on bench at 5'10" and 180lbs body weight (10% bf). Only thing I take is creatine. Only thing I'd change for you: 5 lbs upper body lifts and 10 lbs lower body li…
/r/askMRP23/07/19 08:57 PM
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Yeah, every woman says that shit and then starts eyefucking you when the abs come out. My wife did too. DEERing is the worst thing you can do. Your response looks like a mild excuse/explain, but wasn't terrible. But you are talking too much. Just show you're not in her frame, and that you're OI enough where you don't care if she doesn't find you attractive (hint: this implies abundance and is very attractive). Better things: STFU: Just say "yeah ok babe", and change subject. Deflect: "I don't ca…
/r/askMRP22/07/19 08:58 PM
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Everyone's gonna have their own experience here. For me, I've found that shoulders need a lot of heavy volume to get any kind of decent return. OHP, upright rows, and lat raises all on the same day. 3x10 or even 5x10 at the heaviest weight you can manage good form with. And triceps... heavy OHP takes a lot of tricep strength too. Last week was a pretty big milestone for me... I 1RMed my bodyweight on OHP (180 lbs). Next month gonna go for 185.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 01:00 PM
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Dude... AWALT. There is no "good girl" unicorn that you speak of. There's varying degrees of sluttiness, but all women have an inner slut. It comes with the territory. Learn to embrace it and learn to work it by directing it towards you. Apparently you're too much of a pussy or just a fag to capitalize on it though. Sounds like she wanted to bang you and you rationalized yourself out of it. Also... paying to not get laid? You're a total beta bux.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/19 12:43 PM
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It's certainly noticable in your face. I know my face looks better/more dominant around 10% than 15-18%.
/r/askTRP08/07/19 03:11 AM
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Lift some weights. Get yourself built. Itll give something to take out the anger on, and when you're huge the chicks will swoon over you.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 03:32 AM
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I'm 30... gotten responses and women messaging me first with ages anywhere from 23 to 37. But I'm like 5'10", 178 lbs and around 10%bf. Almost as built and shredded as you can get without roids.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 03:31 AM
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Fuck that shit... focus on improving yourself. When you become the prize you won't need to be seeking self esteem from dating apps. You'll see women eyeing you and smiling at you, and you'll know. Lift heavy at high volume, and get your diet on point. Look into ketogains diet... add muscle while shedding fat. For routines I'd suggest stronglifts 5x5 or if you've got a good strength foundation go do Jim Wendlers boring but big. I've gone on OKC as a married man, with no face pic showing a toilet …
/r/askTRP04/07/19 02:06 PM
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Total shit test IMHO. If she were planning on just slutting it up, she would. And she wouldn't tell OP or get him worried.
/r/askTRP04/07/19 11:00 AM
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I read it as a shit test. You failed because you gave a shit. If it wasn't a test and she were just a hoe, she wouldnt have bothered telling you. She'd go and cheat. She told you because she wanted to see if you'd rush in all "no no no" and you did. Good job, you mate guarded and failed. You should have AA'd. Told her to wear a skimpier bra, shorter shorts, etc. I'd also mention casually a bit later (so it doesnt appear retaliatory or reactive) that you and (single friends name) are going to eit…
/r/askTRP04/07/19 10:57 AM
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Nah... skip the cardio all together, and use keto to shred down exactly where you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 06:35 PM
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If they're really attracted, they want you to escalate. They'll get close, and give tons of attention. When you escalate, they'll either respond positively or escalate themselves. Just do it. Doesnt matter how.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 10:49 AM
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Women are biologically programmed to want the best genes and the best support to ensure those genes go on to replicate themselves. And their biological programming knows that "best genes" and "best support" needn't come from the same man... hence AF/BB.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 02:16 PM
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It seems that some ideas are based on the idea that women's self worth and value is based on what kind of man they are with and especially on the idea that women consider their men as trophies. I thought about it when I heard a woman boasting about finally getting a tall guy with abs and she really seemed to think that someone would care. Well, when you see it enough times, you internalize it. Women respond very differently to men based on how attractive they are. After changing myself (lifting …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 04:05 PM
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Simple... Validation seeking is feminine behavior. She's not going to be attracted to a man that acts like a woman, so cut it out. Do what you want for you, not for compliments from others. You shouldn't give a damn what others think about you, and your self worth shouldn't be based on their opinions. That's frame. Men who have frame are attractive. Tomassi is calling validational sex as sex woman have with men to feel validated. If Chad thinks she's hawt, she must be hawt, and gets ensuing good…
/r/askMRP24/06/19 08:04 PM
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Depends a lot on the girl. Some girls are shy, others want to see masculine leadership. These types will not message first no matter how interested they are. Of those with the type of personality to message first, if they do it shows high interest and investment. If their messages are long and detailed as well (another IOI) it's a pretty clear sign to try and escalate over text.
/r/askTRP24/06/19 03:32 PM
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Lol... sure dude, I dont care. Not sure how many other gems I have tbh... but there may be another diamond in the rough. But mainly rough lol...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 10:55 AM
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My thoughts exactly. Sexual selection has worked for tens of thousands of years and isn't about to call it quits now because "society doesnt need masculinity as much". If anything, society has sexually liberated women. It's not as taboo to raise an alphas kids out of wedlock, or to find some poor beta schmuck to help raise the alphas kids (I've seen it). Or to cuck a beta husband. But to the contrary... if society is shifting weaker, a stronger man will be able to be more successful than he woul…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/19 10:21 AM
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"just don't be fat" is actually pretty easy. Get on keto and wait 6 months. Not the stupid crazy high fat type... eat your protein. You'll be at a healthy weight in no time... I guarantee it. I lost 40 lbs in 6 months, and have managed to keep it off for 6 months after. While lifting. And adding muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:36 PM
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Shit tests are usually about "you". Examples: "you need to be more...", "I wish you did...", "why are you...", "can you come here and do...", etc... Comfort tests are usually about "I". Examples: "I'm scared you'll leave me because...", "I'm hurt because...", "I feel...", etc... Comfort tests are usually thrown when she realizes your SMV is higher than her's or if it was low and is now on the rise. It usually comes from her feeling that you may realize you can do better and will bail. You pass b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 06:35 PM
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How do I make her do what I want and stop being a dyke, short of breaking the law? You don't. If you enjoy sex with her, even if she takes the lead than whatever... keep doing it. She's a FWB for fucks sake... it's not like she's a wife or gf that you'd be fearful of her cheating without masculine leadership. So if you enjoy it, whatever. If you don't, tell her you're not into that. If it's incompatible, than so be it... she's an FWB for fucks sake.
/r/askTRP19/06/19 05:06 PM
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WTF is this shit?
/r/TheRedPill19/06/19 05:00 PM
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Still... they dont want an alpha with a dad bod. They want a ripped alpha and will settle for one with a dad bod if they're not too vain and they can't get a ripped alpha then. It's like a girl who's a "but her face" with a hot body... you'll take it if it's the best you can get at the time, but it's not ideal.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 01:50 PM
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Lol... let me know how that works out for you.
/r/askTRP15/06/19 01:27 PM
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Lol... my wife has just started saying "you don't believe in happy wife happy life" and insinuates I need to. I typically ignore these days when I get that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 06:32 PM
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Women saying they prefer "dad bod" is the same as women saying they prefer a nice, sensitive, caring man. It's them rationalizing they want beta traits. But just like beta traits, they don't respond to dad bod, they respond to jacked and shredded.
/r/askTRP14/06/19 05:39 PM
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I wouldn't call LSE a disorder per se... self esteem is a spectrum and everyone falls in a slightly different place. I also do not believe she has a personality disorder... I think most people can show symptoms of those here and there, but if it's not literally all the time then it's likely not a disorder. SE can also change over time, and should respond positively to improved leadership on my part. It just reinforces that as a sticking point for me and the area to focus on.
/r/askMRP14/06/19 05:24 PM
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Not a bad idea. Maybe work to get that need fulfilled during sex and it might get better at other times... or lead to more sex.
/r/askMRP14/06/19 02:48 PM
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Well you initially told her no relationship. Now you're official. You've been telling her no marriage... she figures if she can keep it good for a few years, that may change. It's what women do.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/19 02:42 PM
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Your claim of her trying to trigger violence is your perception and internal response. Thought that for the longest time. Then read PFP, and realized it wasn't perception but actually her intent. The fact that she drew that response out of every past relationship, and it would seem to make her more attached makes me believe it. PFP says to avoid HD/LSE women because they test for violence. Basically they won't think you're alpha unless you show that you will respond violently when pressed, and t…
/r/askMRP14/06/19 02:28 PM
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Yup... absolutely true. Guilty as charged. I wasn't the most attractive teenager, but at 20 started lifting weights. Cut my hair, dressed better, read up on seduction. Went from a 4-5 to a 7-8 in like 2 years. All of a sudden had women trying to hook up with me, but no relationship experience. The child with dynamite analogy applies perfectly. Didn't know how to screen. Didn't know which red flags to look for. If I had more experience at the time, I would have left it as it was and kept it casua…
/r/askMRP14/06/19 02:21 PM
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32 and lives with mom. No concern of yours Lol... WTF is he doing here on MRP then? Larping?
/r/askMRP14/06/19 02:10 PM
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lse = seeking attention/validation If you've read PFP, she definitely falls under the Adventuress HD/LSE category. When we started dating I definitely noticed attention seeking behavior from her when we were out. I wasn't red pill aware, but had read a bit from the seduction community and treated it as a shit test. Basically ignored, didn't let it bother me, no mate guarding, etc... It seemed to drive her more towards me. The longer we dated, the less this happened. I haven't seen that behavior …
/r/askMRP14/06/19 02:08 PM
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your wife sounds like every other woman on the planet. Really? Every other woman on the planet tests their man's capacity for violence and responds positively to displays of violence (albeit a few days later)? From reading PFP, I was under the impression that this was a trait exclusive to HD/LSE types. My wife has a history of violence in every LTR and most STRs she's had in the past. The STRs where there wasn't any violence just so happened to be with guys she got "bored of", and in retrospect …
/r/askMRP14/06/19 01:56 PM
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Yeah, I get that. I know her threats for what they are though... she's the type to escalate talk like that to get a reaction but not actually follow through. Still playing with fire though... and a follow through would be devastating.
/r/askMRP14/06/19 01:25 PM
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Yeah, I was saying two months into the LTR. She's not giving up on the audition... she's shooting for marriage, and then she'll get lazy.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/19 01:17 PM
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She's not a unicorn. She's still auditioning. Two months? Wait and see her behavior after getting or engaged, or worse... marriage. Shit'll change.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/19 12:47 PM
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No. No one has ever experienced any of this. You are a unique snowflake. Lol... if I thought nobody experienced this I wouldn't have bothered asking. This is what you call passing a test? At what point are you going to no longer accept this? Is this how an adult behaves? I'm convinced she's testing for a capacity for violence. She ramps up the fight to 11, and then pushes beyond (hits, bites, screams, won't let me sleep, etc...). If I finally lose it and show a bit of violence, she backs off, sa…
/r/askMRP14/06/19 12:43 PM
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Yeah, it's always something I've been keenly aware of with her. Honestly though, the longer I've been with her the less tendency I've noticed for her to be that way... but it's not something I'd ever discount (AWALT). She's got her reasons to be faithful though. I'm a few points above her, and she knows deep down that she couldn't get another man like me to commit. She also recently found out that she was a child of paternity fraud, it stung, and she doesn't want her kids to grow up without thei…
/r/askMRP14/06/19 12:30 PM
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Yeah, I get that. I dont think I was taking it out of context. The point is I see in her the HD/LSE trait where she escalates fights to try and get violence out of me... ie testing for capacity for violence. Shes had a history of that in previous relationships too. Sometimes passing a test triggers her to ramp up and start a fight. As it's not something I'd want to live with for the rest of my life, I was wondering if theres a way to pass tests which isn't as triggering for HD/LSE types or if it…
/r/askMRP14/06/19 11:21 AM
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Yep. You're right.
/r/askMRP14/06/19 03:08 AM
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Stats are 5'10", 180 lbs, 10% bf. Squat is 300lbs, bench is 260 or so, OHP is 175. Been lifting for years. As far as A goes, I'm there physically. Shit tests can be sticking points, but I'm improving there. I do get approached by random women and flirted with on occasion. I dont think it's lack of attraction. You're right on B though. I do need to work on leadership. I do need to work on how I pass shit tests too. The post was about her because I was wondering if LSE changes anything. I intentio…
/r/askMRP14/06/19 03:07 AM
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Thanks. This is very useful.
/r/askMRP14/06/19 12:28 AM
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My was LSE, but is now mostly HSE, was BPD, but is now less so, and was FA, but is now mostly secure. Glad to know there's hope. I've learned to have an internal locus of control over the years, and try to take responsibility for what I can, so I don't want to blame my issues on my wife's personality type. Owning and taking responsibility is important. Actually, I initially wasn't certain if she was LSE or HSE, but since re-reading I've come to the conclusion that she's LSE but outwardly tries t…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 08:22 PM
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Yeah, I've done that before. Was 2:00am, and I was drowsy from tiredness and probably shouldn't have been behind the wheel of a car. Tried moving rooms, and she'd chase me around the house yelling wherever I tried to set up camp for the night.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:44 PM
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Yep, I know. Guilty as charged. I made it through 2-3h and eventually the lack of sleep and ringing ears got to me.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:35 PM
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See above. I think it was due to shitty parenting, but not tantrum=get what she wants. More so, constantly being punished (serious spankings) as a kid for anything and everything likely led her to act out because it wouldn't matter either way (not act out = punished, act out = punished), but acting out at least gave the chance of being heard. Looking more critically, this could be why being unreactive and unacknowledging of her outburst might be making it worse. I still need to be unreactive, bu…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:33 PM
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Good point about showing emotion, and something to think about. I can turn off emotion/stop caring in the moment, but perhaps this is the wrong approach. Thanks.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:30 PM
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Yeah, that's why I doubt she'd cheat. Can never be 100%, but I'm pretty certain. She needs to truly believe that cheating = throwing away a great, attractive guy. She's verbalized that to me before, and has expressed worry on multiple occasions that I'd be the one to cheat on her.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 06:08 PM
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In the short term, women enjoy dominating a man and while it is enjoyable for a moment it ultimately fails. Yeah, I think that's what's going on. part of her believes that either she deserved it and another part believes that she was a victim and everyone has the potential and motives to abuse, neglect, or manipulate her again. spot on. don't turn STFU/fogging into stonewalling if she needs some comfort Probably what my issue is. Not sure how to give comfort when she's demanding either complianc…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 05:45 PM
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Yeah, since incorporating more red pill advice she's straight up called me a narcissist multiple times. Selfish is another big one. Autistic is another, when I'm holding frame and being stoic (not getting upset) while she's trying to make me fight. Her father was likely a narcissist, and put on an over the top dominant charisma to cover up massive insecurities on his part. So, from growing up around it she sees through a lot of ways to pass shit tests, and associates them with insecurity. When I…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 05:36 PM
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Probably she learned early in life that when she threw a tantrum she got what she wanted (shitty parents). It could take a while for her to un-learn that with you. Perhaps... her dad was the type to ruthlessly spank her and her brother for any kind of real or perceived insubordination. I wouldn't be surprised if temper tantrums were because that'd be the only way she'd get heard as a child. Maybe that's what's going on... her feelz get upset and she thinks she needs to escalate to fighting to be…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 05:24 PM
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Good points. Thanks.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 05:08 PM
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make her say "please" and be very submissive Funny you should say that... I've done that a few times in the past before, and she's trying to flip the script now. Last night I asked her to something easy for her, but would have been an inconvenience for me and she told me to say please. I laughed, said no, and then she blew up. She was up till 1:30am screaming at me, waking the baby, etc... until I appologized. After 2-3h of STFU/ignore/moving rooms I finally lost and got angry. I get up at 5:30 …
/r/askMRP13/06/19 03:43 PM
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A better answer might have been that you never lost the option, and you're making the choice to stay every day. That would keep the dread you've built, while adding just a dash of comfort. More importantly though, it keeps you true to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 03:56 PM
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AWALT usually holds true. Sometimes a woman can be raised very differently from the norm though... and because of this a few NAWALT tendencies may show up. My wife had a very different childhood than most, and it forced her to be independent at a younger age. Because of this, she developed more of a dominant, ambitious personality, and is typically very direct. Her father was overly dominant, due to massive insecurity on his part, so being too dominant is often met with hostility. That isn't to …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 01:49 PM
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I can see that point of view. However, I think why it worked for OP was he didn't just agree. He agreed and amplified... i.e. took it further than she wanted it to go and destroyed that frame in the process. She realized it was a stupid frame and discarded it. It was a power play (I can hold out longer than you, you have no power over me), and was a gamble... if she was doing that because she wasn't into him I agree she'd find someone else that gets her going. Also, I see what you you mean by st…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/19 05:23 PM
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Women don't want sex by itself. That's an easy goal for them to achieve. They want sex that's hard for them to get. High value sex. Withhold and suddenly you become high value. She'll want you, but not others.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/19 04:46 PM
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I started spending less time with her and stopped taking care if she wants more time with me . I have more important stuff to do then spending time on someone who is not worth it. Good. And I’m too aggressive? Really? If I shout back when she initiates shouting it’s bad? We have 21st century, equal rights, she can shout on me so why I can’t shout on her? Especially when she initiates this type of communication? Because I’m big guy and she is a woman? She is not forced to treat me that way. I don…
/r/askTRP06/05/19 01:17 PM
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ignoring me when I tried to explain her my thoughts or my beliefs. Have you tried not explaining things to her? Stop DEERING. I started to set boundaries, reply aggressively for aggression and disrespectfully for lack of respect and – what’s the most important – I told her that this way we are going to divorce. You sound way too aggressive. Instead, why don't you just pull back some. Start spending less time with her. Take care of other shit, invest time in hobbies/gym/sidebar reading/yourself. …
/r/askTRP03/05/19 06:15 PM
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Agreed 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 02:45 PM
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She doesn't owe him sex any more than he owes her continual commitment. A wife DB'ing her husband is likely doing so because she's not turned on by him. Putting out doesn't really address the root of the problem... the quality of sex would be shitty, and she'd likely cheat at some point in the future when she does feel strong attraction to someone else. If you're staying with a sexless woman... that's your decision and you're responsible for it. Fix your attractiveness: lift weights, improve you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 02:42 PM
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It's pretty similar to MRP, with some differences... It's your fault as the man, and yes she doesn't owe you shit. Change yourself and your behavior, and maybe she'll respond. Own your shit and determine if it's worth leaving or not. Kids in the household is reasonable reason to stay. "Really love that woman" is BS... if the interest is one sided, you're short changing yourself by staying and will likely get cucked in the future. Find other outlets... because dread. Lift. Improve yourself. Find …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 02:30 PM
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Yeah, I got those too. STFU worked for me. Basically answer yep, or yeah to everything and don't elaborate. If she's like my wife, she'll then accuse you of being selfish, or conceited. Just agree... "yep", "uh-huh", "ok", "i can see that" and don't elaborate. Don't DEER. Just fog and STFU. Shit tests morphed into comfort tests. Easy to spot... basically the whole "I'm afraid you'll leave me" dialogue.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 12:45 PM
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You're confusing knowledge with application. RP beliefs are just that... beliefs. Truths. Facts. Knowledge. Stuff like female mating strategies: short term (AF), long term (BB). Game (what works, what doesn't). These are the uncomfortable truths that RP knowledge is all about. Then there's what you do with that knowledge, or what your application of it looks like in your life. Choosing no marriage and no kids is just that... it's a choice of how to apply that knowledge in your life. It's a prett…
/r/askTRP11/04/19 02:54 PM
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She cheated. It was physical. Stay if you're cool being cucked, otherwise move on. If there are no kids, this choice should be easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 03:18 PM
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This. For them it's a pretty powerless position, on hands and knees, facing away and unable to see you. It's also a very deep position. And it's easy to further dominate with things like slapping their ass or pulling their hair, etc...
/r/askTRP02/04/19 06:46 PM
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Why are you commenting on a 2 month old thread, that you weren't even a part of, trying to prove me wrong? Did my comment hurt your feels or challenge your worldview? Maybe you do need some more frame... go meditate if that's what you need.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 02:00 PM
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Happiness is a choice. Make the choice to be happy. I'm slowly working my way through the 7 habits book. Not really MRP/RedPill... but that takeaway from the chapter on being proactive vs reactive was a great paradigm shift for me. You can choose to let your emotions react to your surroundings... or you can choose to feel the way you want despite your surroundings.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 12:40 PM
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You need to figure out what you want rather than be vague and ask a bunch of internet strangers to make a decision for you. get out of the relationship at her fault or she's hot/loyal pick one. Did she cheat? You're insinuating it but haven't outright said it. If so, probably not loyal. she doesn't want kids ever and I probably don't either. What do you mean probably? Is that really your choice or did she make it and you're rationalizing it for yourself? real gem with good values/intentions migh…
/r/askMRP18/03/19 05:18 PM
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So is the study OP linked flawed? The study confirmed it was ~20%. Hate to break it to you man, but you're likely under that threshold. You got some work to do. Haven't used tinder myself (married... yeah I know), but the other day I threw some pictures of me up on one of the male equivalents of gonewild just for shits and giggles. The picture was fully clothed, but the shirt was tight/revealing. In an hour or so I had a ton of inbox replies. Women trying to sext. Women sending nudes. Etc... It'…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/19 03:43 PM
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Yeah, that's the same as peacocking. Show you're different and not afraid of social judgement.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/19 12:19 PM
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A high value man (by looks) wont see a brutal experience. They'll be part of the 20% that all women are fighting for.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/19 10:22 AM
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She only sees you as her expense account. Just get out. It's worth whatever the divorce ends up costing.
/r/MGTOW15/03/19 02:01 AM
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Jeez... wasn't there a post like a week or so ago about too much thinking here. Something about not using quantum physics in an explanation. Yeah, OP's thinking too hard.
/r/askMRP13/03/19 09:01 PM
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Theres no abundance and shouldn't be dread as these guys are beta orbiters and not alphas. The correct response is to not care, or show any concern.
/r/askTRP05/03/19 10:50 AM
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Oh... i thought you were a man... being sarcastic. That's a tough predicament. On one hand, you can't force him to change or be dominant/man up. If you try to communicate this, and he actually listens, there will always be the undertone that he's only being dominant because you told him to be. So really, you're still the dominant one. Balls in your purse. If you give him space, and he's a man-child, then you end up having to lead the house. Balls in your purse. The only way the balls leave your …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/19 03:23 PM
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I think you're trying to shoehorn management in here. That is even easier and more mundane. ​Valid point... middle management isn't exactly leadership as I see it. There's a difference between leading and managing. Financial potential? I wasn't actually talking about financial potential here... but that's one avenue of success. Another might be what you accomplish in your lifetime. NASA put a man on the moon, but all the individual leaders who made that possible probably didn't get rich from it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:28 PM
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That was a long ass rambling post. Leadership is an alpha tell... plain and simple. Humans are a social species and are naturally lazy. When they feel like someone who's working towards a common goal has a better vision or is better at doing the executive planning/organization they'll submit. Dominance is an alpha trait... submission is a beta trait. Sure, you can go it alone if you like and be outside of the social structure. But what you're capable of accomplishing as a leader greatly exceeds …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:06 PM
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Some people swear by NoFap but not orgasming for weeks will lower your testosterone. Despite all the nofappers talking about testosterone boost, I've noticed this effect. If I go too long without an orgasm, morning wood slows down, I'm not as horny, and I feel less drive. Jacking off at a frequency of once every 1-3 days typically wards this off for me. Too often (more than 1x/day) and I'm not as horny. Everything in life is a balance... find what works for you and don't let dogma (like nofap) g…
/r/askMRP25/02/19 09:17 PM
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Nice FR Red, and awesome turn around. There's plenty of comments addressing the turnaround itself, but I did want to address the line you feel cringy about: All you need to worry about is making sure you remain the only one I want to fuck In all honesty, you're probably overthinking it. Yeah, it's not the best thing to say, but it wasn't the worst either. It implies she can't get comfortable, and let things go, and that she actually has to work. In that sense, it reminds me of the whole "fuck me…
/r/askMRP25/02/19 12:59 PM
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The big unknown here us how does she behave towards you? If she's pining for some guy, while treating you with disrespect and you have a dead bedroom... that's one thing. If theres that same minimal contact with him, but she treats you well and fucks you good... that same little bit of contact means something completely different. Regardless... redpill logic is to improve your life for you. Get your frame together... make yourself the mental point of origin and all these concerns will slowly fad…
/r/askMRP24/02/19 12:50 PM
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are you saying you'll use redpill on your wife every day for a few years until she's unsustainably warped, and then you'll go out and get a new one? lol...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 09:47 PM
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Get a quality knife from a commercial kitchen supply store. You'll get a better steel, for a cheaper price. I payed 30-50 bucks for a knife that'll stay sharp for ~1 yr or so. Sharpening is maybe 10 passes on each side of a pretty fine stone, and then it's good for another year or so. EDIT: I got a dexter knife, comparable to this guy: https://www.amazon.com/Dexter-Russell-8-Inch-Carbon-Steel-Cooks/dp/B0015HLBYQ/ref=sr_1_9?keywords=dexter+kitchen+knife&qid=1550862732&s=home-garden&sr=1-9 . $30 o…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 07:09 PM
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If you notice the numbers, his girth went up too (4.25 -> 6.5). Also, skin grows when it's under tension. Why do you think obese people who lose the weight get massive skin folds everywhere that they need surgically removed?
/r/askTRP22/02/19 06:57 PM
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the subreddit is called ajelqforyou, but from what I can tell they claim they're not proponents of jelquing. it looks like they advocate stretching for length, and a "modified jelquing" for girth. only saw it a couple days ago so I can't confirm or deny any of it... but many users there are claiming it has made real (1-2"+) effects over time.
/r/askTRP22/02/19 03:45 PM
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From his posts, seems like he's married and his wife is into it (likely size queen). Not gonna knock him for his choices, even if I wouldn't choose them for myself. I was just pointing out that there is stuff you can do to naturally increase size... you just need patience and a hell of a time commitment.
/r/askTRP22/02/19 01:46 PM
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There's a subreddit where a mod there has claimed to have gone from 5.5x4.25 to 9.25x6.5 from stretching and clamping methods. Took him years of stretching at probably hours/day. His claim is that you can apparently gain ~1in/yr if you stretch it a lot. On the surface the science makes sense... it's just a lot of fucking time.
/r/askTRP22/02/19 01:00 PM
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Apparently my wife just craved toxic masculinity. Gold right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 09:49 PM
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sigh... listen to their actions not their words. Women rationalize they want equality in a relationship, but their emotional response to leadership from a male is always positive. When faced with cognitive dissonance between rationalization and emotion, women almost always trust their emotion. Men are usually the opposite. The end game of equality in a relationship is friendship... never romance. If this shit didn't work, it'd be a pretty empty subreddit. Many here have improved their marriages …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 09:35 PM
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If their products really worked, they'd put themselves out of business.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/19 08:07 PM
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This may be an unpopular opinion... but fuck it. TRP is usually about spinning plates/short term relationships, so this is going to go counter much of what's read. I'm not advocating this for everyone... but if what an LTR and/or kids is part of your mission, this could help. With that being said... the best way to deal with hypergamy in an LTR is to be way on the upper end of what's attainable for her. If you want an "awesome LTR", find a woman with an excellent personality, but slightly older …
/r/askTRP21/02/19 04:47 PM
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You're on day 0. You need to learn to STFU and trust the process. If you can't even STFU to a group of internet strangers, how do you expect to STFU and hold frame with your wife? Do OYS, and report changes when they happen (few weeks minimum) or ask questions when you've been doing it long enough to have actually elicited results.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 11:09 AM
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Caution: this can legitimately piss a woman off. We were arguing last night and I started laughing. She tried to throw punches when I wouldn't stop. Found it funny and I honestly couldn't help myself. Oh well... lol.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 11:12 AM
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There's a lot of her's and she's in that long DEER of a post. You need to fix your frame. Be the man you want to be. Don't explain it. Don't be apologetic about it. You sound like you're being reactive. Stop it. For example: I try to make it a point to look at what I'm doing and see if I need to correct my behavior before I confront her with something. Wrong! Quit trying to look at your behavior through her lens.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 07:00 PM
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"The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place." The interpretation is simple... unconditional love doesn't exist in females for their mates. They love what you currently are, and what you bring to the table. But the second you're no benefit anymore, she'll bail. You see this in a few examples... in the AF Carousel days, a woman might pursue only short term matin…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 02:58 PM
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You need to start prioritizing yourself, setting boundaries, and leading. You need to do more than recognize that you're the prize... fucking make it obvious that you're the prize in every thing you do. Simultaneously, you need to start preparing financially and emotionally for divorce. Keep at it for a few months. Then be assertive... tell her how it is and how it needs to be, and that she can choose to come along or GTFO. Be outcome independent. She'll put up a fight, and will start threatenin…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 01:51 PM
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Pro tip: DGAF and invite them all to the same place at once.
/r/askMRP14/02/19 04:55 PM
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Was it at least the tropical flavors? Bitches love tropical fruits.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 05:27 PM
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since I was a kid. 17m You're still just a kid. Also, you're jealous/envious because your frame sucks.
/r/askTRP13/02/19 03:49 PM
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Also, on the converse you see a sort of reverse covert contract out of some guys lacking true frame. It comes across as "I'm going to act alpha so she fucks me" and usually results in people trying to treat their wife/LTR poorly in order to "up the alpha". When that happens, they're still living in her frame... trying to change their behavior with the purpose of changing her behavior/emotions assumes covert contracts typically leading back to sex or relationship dynamics (power). I've come to re…
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:34 PM
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Let her blab away, and then answer with a simple one or two word answer. That's the heart of STFU. Stop trying to talk so much, let pauses come in conversation, and give short answers. You can't DEER if you're giving short answers. Also, fogging.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 01:55 PM
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NP. Take sorcerer's advice though and improve your frame, and stop being so insecure. You really need to fix yourself here. If your wife see's you insecure over texts with a beta dude, she'll think your SMV is less than his... why else would you be afraid of him? This is why mate-guarding is unsexy. Also, if you choose to lay down this boundary, it's imperative that you frame it correctly. Do not mention it makes you uncomfortable, or that you don't like it, or make it about you at all. This wil…
/r/askMRP13/02/19 01:52 PM
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Flowers are a spontaneous gift I get whenever I feel like it. Yep. Ain't nothing wrong with flowers or spontaneous gifts now and then. What's wrong is assuming they'll get you laid, make her like you, improve her mood, etc... Kill the covert contracts, do it from a place of abundance rather than scarcity, and don't assume it'll make her feel any better or worse.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 01:39 PM
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You sound like you're giving too many fucks. Have you tried giving less?
/r/askTRP13/02/19 01:17 PM
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It means you have to read more of the sidebar. Or just google it rather than ask internet strangers to spoon feed you like a baby bird.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 01:08 PM
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just sit there with your mouth shut? Basically. That's STFU right there. Fogging is also pretty effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 01:07 PM
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Solid advice Litz. Why isn't this stickied yet? Dont the mods realize that your wife's feelings are the most important thing in the world? They need to be stickied to the top of your heart. Plus if you spend a lot of money, she has to have sex with you. Everyone understands that...
/r/askMRP13/02/19 11:18 AM
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It's called frame. Get some. Think hard and focus on the fact that if you two split, you'll be fine at the end of the day. You'll find some other chick (or many more) who will make you happy. She's not the only one. Makes you care a lot less about infidelity now, doesn't it? Great... now internalize that shit and live it.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:39 AM
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Oooh, agree and amplify... I like it. Showing a bit of alpha and calling her out might actually lessen the chance of infidelity. At least it would potentially work a lot better than him telling her no and her going regardless. If she takes it at face value and cheats, she's not worth it anyways.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:31 AM
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Yeah, OP worked himself into a tizzy. The way I read it is she was showing a shred of attention to a beta/orbiter type old guy to get him to help her study. Women do that all the time... lure some beta into doing shit for them and in return all the girl has to do is look pretty and talk to them. Now OP's shown her that he's insecure about, and feels inferior to some old beta dude. Good job OP.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:25 AM
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Wow... everyone's so quick to go up in arms. I see that as scenario 1... her looking for a branch swing with some alpha crossfit coach. There's an equally likely scenario 2... her trying to use her looks/femininity and flirting to get something from a man who she sees as a beta/orbiter type. My wife did that all the time when we were dating. She was quitting cigarettes (and successfully did so for me), but for a while would bum one now and then off others. Or she'd finagle free drinks out of oth…
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:17 AM
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Saying no comes off as insecure, mate guarding, and controlling. Not really attractive features, and it's not really an enforceable boundary if you're still deeply beta. She'd likely call your bluff, or just cheat on you at home if that's really what she's after. IT's absolutely a shit test... if you say no it exposes insecurity or weakness on your part. She's using dread game on you and it's working. The best response is to get your SMV up and use dread back at her. Look up the 12 stages of dre…
/r/askMRP12/02/19 11:00 PM
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What makes you want to stay with your wives after your kids have grown up? Good question. You're making me really think long and hard about that situation. Although I took the pill after marriage, she is a quality woman. Our sex life is showing improvement after some RP principles have been applied, and she knows I could easily find strange if I wanted. A little bit of dread is there. Things are improving. If things are still good still enough then (I suspect they will be), I'm fine hanging out …
/r/askMRP12/02/19 06:56 PM
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I was suggesting that being shady while alpha is a turn on. Being shady while beta is a turn off. You threw in way too much beta and its backfired.
/r/askMRP12/02/19 11:08 AM
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One day I am the best husband in the world and the next I am a giant piece of shit that she can't stand being with for another second because I did something beta that reminded her of something beta I did in the past. Fixed that for you. Simple solution... stop being beta.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 07:22 PM
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Yep, to a woman feelz = realz. As far as validating goes... if you're having to be validated by her, than how valuable is your validation to her when she needs it? Your validation will be worthless if you yourself need validation. If your validation is worthless, she'll seek validation elsewhere.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 05:13 PM
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From her breaking up with you and you chasing her like a puppy, I'm not seeing how you have her slightly more interested than you.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 04:37 PM
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I suggested meating up tomorrow at 19 o'clock. She said we can telephone. I tell her "It's a bit much, all of a sudden." She says 'she made her decision'. Called her suggestion to just call stupid and turned the phone to flight mode as I was already in bed. Fuck that. Another shit test followed by compliance on your part. And now she's got you chasing her like some prize. You are seriously delusional if you're calling yourself an alpha. Fix yourself rather than chase this one chick.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 02:59 PM
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That's cool... you're asking for help because something's obviously wrong, but when issues are exposed you deny them and say you're doing everything right. If everything were right, why are you even here? And how have I not passed almost all of them? By clearly showing incongruence when faced with shit tests. Your typical attitude is macho, but she can get you to completely drop that and qualify to her when she starts shit testing you. It shows you're not really alpha and it's a facade, which is…
/r/askMRP11/02/19 02:50 PM
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It's been a while since she's shit tested like this Failed shit tests usually bring more shit tests, increasing in frequency and intensity. Watch out.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 02:15 PM
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So many shit tests, and so much DEERing. We had a discussion 6 weeks ago that she wants more contact wit me (via telephone) Shit test. she always complaines about that she doesn't know what I am doing over the day Shit test. On Wednesday she openly complained about my macho behaviour and that one does not always has to act hard Shit test. That, her sister, cycle and the birthday of her mother probably made her write me a lenghtly text this morning, that she doesn't envision this sort of relation…
/r/askMRP11/02/19 02:13 PM
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Shit test sounds like a shit test. The first rule of shit tests is to never take the question at face value... unless it's a boundary. Then you defend it, preferably while she's violating it rather than later. If kissing women is not a boundary for you (sounds like it's not), a strategy would have been to ignore the question and try to flip pressure. Her question sets you up to DEER, and that's exactly what you did. Instead of DEERing, ask something along the lines of "why do you care? did you e…
/r/askMRP11/02/19 01:50 PM
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Yeah... you're gonna have it tough at 17. Most women want to date up in age... and while there are exceptions, it'll certainly be an uphill battle for you. I'd focus on just improving sociability in general rather than trying to score. Just strike up conversations with everyone you can. If a woman you're talking to shows IOIs, then it's on, and game her. If not, you're at least working on approach anxiety and talking to strangers. Those will be useful skills when you are older.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 12:32 PM
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Your problem is in the first sentence. You'll hit up 10 beautiful girls. I assume you're only opening the beautiful ones. Guess what that shows? Desperation and that you're in it for the sex. Instant turn off. Instead try talking to everyone. Talk to guys and girls of varying beauty. Get the social proof. If you open sets that aren't targets it'll also help you learn how to frame interactions with outcome independence. Then open the prettier ones once they've likely seen you interacting with a t…
/r/askTRP09/02/19 12:27 PM
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Going rambo is when someone basically takes it from 0 to 100 in a week, fucks all their shit up because they don't understand and haven't internalized things yet, and then wonders why it's blowing everything up. Basically to not go rambo, read the sidebar, stick to the 12 stages of dread, and increase them at the appropriate rate.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 09:52 PM
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There's a lot of she's and her's in there buddy... you sure you're not still stuck in her frame? She's told me she appreciates that I'm not just reacting, and she's been sweeter and more affectionate toward me. We're making progress because I'm making progress. Did you tell her about fight club? Also, what the fuck is up with this "we're making progress" BS? Yep... you're balls deep in her frame. That's a whole lotta words for "Don't Rambo". This post would be better on the askMRP sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 09:37 PM
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I've seen a lot of anger phase people having some mental fantasy where they reach some end stage and get complete respect and submission at all times and never have shit or compliance testing. Some of it seems to stem from religion... like the red pill christians (male is unchallenged head of household). But it shows a fundamental lack of understanding, and at times, cognitive dissonance.
/r/askMRP08/02/19 06:52 PM
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Aww, did the big bad woman hurt your fee-fee's with her mean shit tests? You can point on the doll here where it hurts. /s She's just a woman being a woman. Learn to deal with and eventually enjoy them or don't live with a woman anymore. EDIT: Awww a single downvote? Looks like I hurt OP's fee-fee's.
/r/askMRP08/02/19 06:21 PM
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i haven’t gotten the full IDGAF and while she doesn’t see it the shit still annoys me. Yep... that right there is the issue.
/r/askMRP08/02/19 05:58 PM
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It's the same when people complain that the weather is out to get them, or that their airplane delay is intentionally trying to ruin their vacation. That was worth a chuckle. When I see generalized shit about shit testing or female tactics used to gain power, I've always read it not as a woman's malice, but rather just how their nature can be malicious if left unchecked/unchallenged. You're right though about OP's post, and as a mod you definitely need to keep a keen eye out. It's critical to ke…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 04:10 PM
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It's the fact that your bitch ass puts up with her bullshit that leads her to thinking it's okay for her to pull that bullshit with you Agree 100%. If you think women intentionally are trying to gain leverage, that they do this consciously I don't think they do it consciously. All women shit test, and I'd think none are even aware that they're doing it. A lot of what they do is subconscious and I'm 100% with you that it's driven by the man's behavior. Putting up with bullshit leads to more bulls…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 03:58 PM
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You didn't understand my point. I'm not being a victim. OP's post was in response to a TRP post about how women use those tactics (nagging, drama, shame, compliance testing) specifically to gain power in a relationship. Read the top of OP's post. I'm just saying that those guns don't get pulled out early in a relationship... they don't work until there's some baseline level of commitment beyond a plate type arraignment. If you're high value, women try to first get commitment with sex not those t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 03:47 PM
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Grow a fucking pair and talk to them. Start with no intention of being sexual... just talk to them. Talk with everyone. Ask random cashiers how their day is going. It's easy in those situations when you're only there for 2 min and then out of their life forever. Start small, get bigger. Just keep pushing just past your boundaries of what's comfortable. Every day, try to get yourself socially uncomfortable at least one time.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:27 PM
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Dive bars.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:23 PM
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You don't. You say that you find a 1:1 meeting with an ex inappropriate. Tell her to have fun, and that you won't be seeing her anymore. You're not married or even living with the chick... quit obsessing and let her go. Maybe she backtracks... at that point, it's up to you if you want to take her seriously. I wouldn't agree to exclusivity though if she backtracks.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:18 PM
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Here's a rhetorical question which should answer your question completely... Why do you care?
/r/askMRP08/02/19 02:20 PM
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This is exactly how my 4 years of marriage have gone. I'd even go as far as to argue the opposite of Barracuda here... This post is more relevant on MRP than TRP. When spinning plates ala TRP, you can easily let one go and find a new one when a plate starts pulling that power dynamic shit. If you're high value, women usually wait a bit before pulling out the nagging, drama, and shame tactics. In married life, they do it all the time. It's also much easier to fall into that slow Betaization, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 02:03 PM
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Great shit here, and a lot hits close to home. I saw and saved that post on TRP. Lengthy post, but my main takeaways and thoughts are: The more needy you are for [her], the more [she] can have power over you... She only has power over what you commit to her. When you do not commit anything, she's powerless. Nuff Said. Dial back commitment when possible (say no to compliance tests, pass shit tests, etc...) and you'll gain power (and respect) back. Fear makes him needy. Fearlessness is the much ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 01:43 PM
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of course it was. that's what 90% of askMRP is. Either that or it's the clueless... like yesterday's thread where the guy's wife "asked his opinion". Might as well have been titled "I took the shit test for face value, and the girlfriend got mad. What gives?". Sigh
/r/askMRP07/02/19 08:29 PM
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Today in the life of Rambo!
/r/askMRP07/02/19 08:12 PM
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Did she tell you to propose to her? At the risk of sounding like a complete billy beta, but acknowledging that it's my shit and I need to own it... She brought it up beforehand, and we talked about it a few times. I had thought independently about it though. She didn't outright "tell" or "order" me to... but would ask if I was going to/when I was going to. We both wanted kids (honestly I did probably a bit more than her), and we knew her clock was ticking. You sound like a case of "The Captain a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 06:13 PM
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Nah, in the case of the askMRP thread, it's not about answering what she wanted in the first place... it is about OP's opinion being wrong. OP's opinion came from a place of insecurity, mate-guarding, and feeling powerless (lack of control so trying harder to control). And there's no real way to divorce that ('you can't buy a skimpy bikini') from the subcommunicated insecurity. Saying no to her buying that makes you look weak. Period. If OP doesn't like that, he should find a new LTR, but he's n…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 09:12 PM
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All she hears though when you say shit like that is she doesn't look good in it. Therefore plopping your insecurities in her head. I'd take a wager that most people here don't think insecurities in her head an issue. What do you think dread game is? What she really hears is "I'm insecure", "I feel like I don't have control over my woman, so I try extra hard to control simple things", "I judge women for being slutty", "I need to mate-guard", etc... This was a classic shit test. She baited him to …
/r/askMRP06/02/19 08:09 PM
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The ask was a shit test, not speaking of her respect for you. It was actually her seeing if she should respect you or not. Caring what she wears shows judgement and insecurity and is absolutely a fail on that shit test. If she knows your values (don't like women dressing provocatively in public), not caring what she wears is a fail as well. In either case it's a shit test and needs to be delt with accordingly. She's gonna wear what she wants, and trying (and especially failing) to control her sh…
/r/askMRP06/02/19 05:51 PM
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If you were deserving, her actions would speak otherwise. That and this thing was clearly just a big shit test that you walked into blindly. You still don't see it. Failing shit tests because you can't even recognize them is the epitome of undeserving of respect from women.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 05:37 PM
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True... unless she's not really asking your opinion... she's shit testing you and your opinion is the wrong one (demonstrates lower value).
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 05:20 PM
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Oh that's it... command respect when you show yourself undeserving of said respect. That'll teach her. Works every time.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 05:05 PM
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But you went the "I'm insecure" route. Well played. I'm wondering if the whole thing wasn't just a big shit test. He stepped right into it with insecurity and mate-guarding, and when that didn't work, gave a big dose of butthurt as the cherry on top. Sometimes you need to have boundaries and enforce them, but this doesn't really seem like the good hill to die on.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 04:28 PM
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Given all the downvotes for actual advice... I'd agree. OP is an insecure fag.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 03:56 PM
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reveals something about the woman's character And it's fine to have that opinion. But telling your woman that you judge woman for being slutty isn't a great way to build attraction.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 03:46 PM
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What is this... Saudi Arabia? Are you scared that other men will hit on her? Are you scared that she'll drop your ass and run off with someone else the first chance she gets? This shows lack of confidence and mate guarding. Your wife is hot... flaunt her. Boast it to the world fearlessly. If revealing clothes turn you off, that sounds like your problem... not hers. Get over it, learn to love it, and quit being judgmental of women just being women. Women love it when guys admit that they judge ot…
/r/askMRP06/02/19 03:44 PM
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OYS #1. Stats: 29 YO, 5'10", 178 lbs, 11% BF, Bench: 250, OHP: 170, Squat: 260, Deadlift: 260. Row: 110lbs DB, 290 cable. Married 4 years. Reading: NMMG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, Rational Male, How to win friends and influence people, Practical Female Psycology. Current reading: Bang, 7 habits of highly effective people. Been a long time lurker, recently started posting more. Never done an OYS, choosing to now because it'll help me consolidate my thoughts and help see progress. Physical: Yes, I kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 03:36 PM
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That's why the advice is to typically assume attraction. That, and it conveys irrational confidence. If she's not interested, you'll quickly get IOD's. Sometimes though IOD's are shit tests. If responding to it as a shit test causes an improvement (less IODs, neutral behavior, or IOI's) take it as interest. Sometimes women just want a guy who's irrationally confident, and they'll try to shake you up before lowering their shield. These women don't approach because they don't need to... they get p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 09:40 PM
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From your previous post: Usually those 10% are the ones who meet a guy halfway. Girls who go about their lives making no effort to be welcoming and simply waiting to be approached are putting themselves at the bottom of the totem pole. What I'm suggesting is that the girls "meet a guy halfway" because they're interested in him. If someone only sees 1/10 "make an effort", that means 1/10 are actually interested in him. By make an effort, I mean signal an IOI... either extended eye contact, or inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 09:16 PM
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Who looked first is irrelevant. What matters is how long is eye contact maintained, and how is it broken. Extended eye contact... IOI. Especially if smiling, or if she starts playfully making faces with eyebrows. Breaking eye contact by looking down, to the side, and smiling is also clearly an IOI. I get that one a good number of times. Unemotional looking, or negative looking is not an IOD. Shy or nervous but staying in close proximity is definitely an IOI... why else would she be intimidated b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 08:59 PM
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Except that's not how it works. Look at women. Make eye contact, see how they respond. No eye contact or unwelcoming eye contact doesn't mean they're not making effort... it means they're not interested. You might only see 1 in 10 show interest, I usually see 3 in 4. I'm married, and don't act on it, but I usually catch a handful of women each day checking me out, or give an interested smile. Hit the gym, get fit, fix your posture (shows confidence), and dress better... you'll see that number go…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 06:24 PM
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One IOI doesn't really mean much. One brush stroke wouldn't reveal what a painting is. Many IOI's complete the picture. For example, hold eye contact and she holds it back, smiles, and looks away coyly. Likely IOI. So then when you talk to her, lightly touch the back of her arm when you make a point. Did she jump back, stay neutral or push into it? Is she touching you needlessly? Say there's a lot of incidental touching, what happens if you try more overt touching? Hold hands. Touch her arm. Tou…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:51 PM
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Quit thinking like a man, and projecting your desired qualities in a mate on the women around you. Yes women care about physical attractiveness. No they don't care nearly as much as men do. You could be hawt as fuck, but the second you show you're not confident/sure of yourself, she'll be bailing. You could look pretty average or even slightly less than average, but if you display irrationally high confidence, she might very well find herself attracted. Those girls who don't approach men might a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 04:57 PM
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Examples are all over the seduction community and red pill. Basically a question that you shouldn't take at face value because if you respond with a yes or a no can cause a lowering of attraction. However, this is a very logical, masculine, way of looking at it. A woman might look at it as just being flirty/asking flirty questions and not even be aware of what she's doing. An example might be her asking if you're a player or asking how many women you've tried that on/slept with/etc... Take the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 04:32 PM
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Given the downvotes I'm starting to get, it looks like he's not being too receptive. lol...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 04:00 PM
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I do not fail to understand frame. Yeah man, whatever helps you sleep at night. You fail to understand what a dancing monkey is. I'm looking at one right now. I am not angry. To imply I am angry would require me to give a fuck. I do mot. I am just curt in my speaking. Your tone has completely changed here... You took my advice and aren't angry about it anymore. This reply was curt whereas the previous wasn't. Keep it up.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 03:57 PM
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Men are shamed for approaching women. It's called a shit test, and you failed. That's the whole point... filter out weak guys. Congratulations on being a weak guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 03:40 PM
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Yeah, the obvious ones are: -proximity... putting herself close to you. -incidental touch -eye contact -positive response to you incidentally touching her (i.e. being comfortable and not pulling away) -shit testing once conversation has started. Shit testing has a bad rap, but if she's doing it, there's interest and she wants to see you shut them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 03:38 PM
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If only women would be active instead of reactive, their success would increase. Bingo! If a woman has to take the initiative, be the active one and lead the interaction, she's likely losing respect and attraction. Most women aren't attracted to passive, unconfident guys who don't take initiative and lead. OP's title actually reads "Women need to lower their standards or stop complaining", and he comes off as a whiny bitch. No wonder he's bothering women by approaching them, he needs to improve …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 03:31 PM
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Tell your wife to get out of the bed so you can change the sheets. My thoughts exactly. Make her move and own shit by doing it yourself. Bonus points if she's already asleep, and you have to wake her up.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 03:11 PM
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What about watch what they do not what they say? She's flirting with people while you're out, has given out her number, and is texting people she flirted with. Seems pretty invested in jumping ship if you ask me.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 03:03 PM
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Valid points about putting high value on a threesome. I haven't had one, so maybe I'm overvaluing it. Here we have a woman who WANTS to fuck someone other than her husband. Given this, I'd say he's already cucked. It's likely a game over if cards aren't played right. All OP would be doing is again putting his wives priorities over his own. You fail to understand frame control. If you're caught in that frame, everything you've said that follows is 100% correct. But the beauty of frame is you can …
/r/askMRP04/02/19 02:56 PM
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If the bitch was gay, she would jump ship. Period, end of story. She would fall on a clit like so many fall on a dick. Sounds like she's about to. Either that, or OP's a fag who's stuck in his own head and exaggerating everything. I really don't give a fuck either way about OP or his wife. Neither do I. Was just saying what I would do if I was in the situation. I'd assume 80% chance marriage is over, but might as well get a threesome outta it. It'll either fix things, or allow a divorce under be…
/r/askMRP04/02/19 02:09 PM
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This was worth a good laugh. Thanks for brightening up my morning. Dude, you're supposedly read up but have basically proven to us that you just don't get it. You're clearly a beta masquerading as an alpha but dont even know how or which alpha traits to show. For example, dread isn't about checking out your hot coworker in front of her wife... it's about getting to the point where the coworker checks you out in front of the wife. It's about chatting up random women... not because you're trying t…
/r/askMRP04/02/19 01:27 PM
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Most replies are on point. Its not about serving people... it's about leading and owning your shit. Lead. This means picture a clean house with all your shit done, planning to get there, and executing. Pretend you live alone... what would have to do to make your house a clean organized living space? You're showing dependance on your wife to pick up after you like a child. Get to independence (clean up your shit), and then interdependence (lead her and direct her).
/r/askMRP04/02/19 11:47 AM
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Do you even read? UK girl may or may not be lez, so its doubtful she's the butch here. And OPs wife is fantasizing about pushing UK girl into a wall not vice versa. Also what all lipstick lesbians still have in common is that they all want to munch carpet at the end of the day and not dick. If OPs wife really is lesbian, it's already over for him... might as well go out with a bang. If not, it ends his wife's stupid fantasies. Its win win. Trying to put a foot down and control her here will only…
/r/askMRP03/02/19 08:55 PM
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Lol... for real never touched the stuff. Haven't seen big lebowski in over a decade... remembered the quote I threw but not sorcerer's.
/r/askMRP03/02/19 08:50 PM
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What's that in reference to?
/r/askMRP03/02/19 04:31 PM
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But he's obviously afraid to lose her. With her being that way, he has no frame or OI here and will be reeking of oneitis. EDIT: if she's straight but confused, shes likely gonna cheat and see how how she feelz after. If not now, in like 10 years. These feelings wont just go away... they'll keep resurfacing until there's resolution and at some point she'll give into a moment of weakness. Now she's cheated and if OP doesn't act on that he looks weak and attraction is lost. Lose. END EDIT. If she …
/r/askMRP03/02/19 01:38 PM
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Not OP, but the situation is absolutely different than if the person is a man. If OPs wife is actually a lesbian, that's something that no amount of RP strategy can change or increase her attraction towards him. If the wife is bi, 3somes might interest not only the wife but OP as well. If it were a man, RP could work to bolster attraction, and unless OP is a faggot he wouldn't want another guy in the bedroom. I think OP does need to get to the bottom of this... do the 3some if he's comfortable w…
/r/askMRP03/02/19 01:15 PM
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She could easily just be bisexual and this obsessing is due to taboo and wanting what she can't have. If she's following your lead and fucking you 2x/week I'd doubt she's straight up lez. If you're cool with a 3some, I'd encourage it. My line I wouldn't want crossed would be them fucking each other w/o me being present. If you get the 3some, she'll act out fantasy and one of three things will happen... she'll either get bored of her fantasy after acting it out, or she'll open up to her bisexuali…
/r/askMRP03/02/19 12:33 PM
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Not sure what that means... but I live in CT.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:42 PM
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Don't know how it is for most couples, but my family's home is solely in my name. We did our state's variant of FHA to get a lower rate, and if both our incomes went into the calculation, we made too much. If only mine went in, we were under. I know... it's stupid to only use applicant income and not household income, but that's how our state works. My wife also had a bankruptcy within 7 years, so that made the choice between me and her easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:33 PM
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What's the red pill take on sexual barters? Don't. End of discussion.
/r/askMRP01/02/19 08:09 PM
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You have a shitty value system. If you've been going to strip clubs together and she's cool with you getting dances, then it shouldn't be outside of your values. Escorts and massage parlors I can see as being outside of values... fuck paying for something you can get for free. That's the ultimate negotiated sex. If you want strange, but are in an LTR the best option is a 3some or to open your side of the relationship. If she doesn't agree to that, then it's either stay if she's high value enough…
/r/askMRP01/02/19 07:21 PM
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AskMRP is either that, or it's "Today in the adventures of Rambo..."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 07:14 PM
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She gets demoted to negative priorty and can audition amongst the new pussy you’re now entertaining. If she’s truly remorseful she’ll crawl through shit to get back into your good graces, if not then the truth is exposed. Bingo. If I ever got cheated on, I'd immediately start seeing whomever I please. If she really thinks she's made a mistake, she'll give me my space, stop fucking around, and try to get me back while I do my thing. Odds of that happening are like nil. Even then, not sure if I'd …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 07:08 PM
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Close but not exactly. You could be extroverted, and not neurotic, but still not get laid often and subcommunicate that. Abundance mentality really comes down to not being needy, and having internal validation. If a girl turns down your advances, it doesn't matter because you're an attractive guy and will easily find one who will be receptive. That subcommunicates preselection, and preselection indicates high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 06:41 PM
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The best part is that she brought up being fat first. She was fishing for validation, and supplication. He just responded with blunt honesty, and in, as you said, the nicest way possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 06:30 PM
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Every man ever. If they tell you otherwise, they're lying. Every guy started talking x/10 numbers with their friends in middle school. It comes as soon as there's testosterone in your system.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:37 PM
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Big dose of truth right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:34 PM
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Both yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:25 PM
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True story for me at least. It's quick, and it's subconscious... very much like a reflex. For me it's not a 1-10... it's like yes, no, or maybe. If it's yes or maybe, mental images of sex surface by themselves. Again, it's very much a reflex, and you can't really control it, you just learn to live with it and ignore when it's not appropriate. EDIT: If there's a group of girls, instead of yes/no/maybe, your subconscious will rate them very quickly in terms of perceived attractiveness. Again, it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:21 PM
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Don't see much wrong with that. Just be careful that: She is a virgin and wants to wait until we are married. Isn't a requirement for you. I'd put the odds on that as low given that she's 29 and moved halfway across the world, so there will be nobody to confirm or deny her story here. I think being a virgin a stupid requirement anyways, but it's likely not to be true. So just ask yourself if you'd get pissed if it ever came out otherwise, if not then it won't be an issue. I'd also make sure she'…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:10 PM
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I'm a male. I see loved, cherished, understood, and respected as 4 separate items. In order of importance for romantic relationships: loved, respected, cherished, understood. For long term relationships, respect might be higher than love, but they're really about equal and I think they flow from each other. To be cherished might be nice, but not as important as love or respect. Lastly, I couldn't care less about being understood and have always felt that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:18 PM
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Fucking or appeasing with minimal required effort? Do you think there's desire there?
/r/askMRP01/02/19 01:29 AM
1

Well... looks like we have an irreconcilable difference of opinion. No matter how this is argued, we'll always disagree. Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 10:08 PM
1

Does jacking off to porn make you not a virgin? Is a woman who constantly rejects her husband's sexual advances cheating him? A man has a biological need to get off, and if that need ain't being met, he's perfectly justified looking at porn to do it. If his wife doesn't like that scenario, she should be willing to do the job herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 09:13 PM
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No. I am usually with her. If you're attractive, they don't care. I don't dress or put off a gay vibe and have been groped in front of my wife, or straight up told to ditch her with her in ear shot. A couple gropings have actually made me acquire a healthy bit of homophobia.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 09:01 PM
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Goddamn that was a long read for a non-issue. Look man... she's gonna find other guys attractive. You're gonna find other women attractive. Who gives a fuck? So long as she's coming home and sucking you off at the end of the night, you're fine. If anything, it may rev her up some... if she goes home with you, it's a good thing.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 03:33 PM
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I scanned your whole post for a "?", and failed to find a question here. This is all one big puke of information about your feelz. You're not really asking for information, or help, or even demonstrating that you've read sidebar, lift, or practice anything taught here. Quit with the emotional bullshit, the whining and the complaining... you're being a woman.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 03:19 PM
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Lol... I'm just playing man. I'd double what a lot of people have said... introspection, and reading. Hobbies and lifting are great for mental health, as is a social life. Basically everything you should be doing anyways. Meditation for those who get something out of it.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 11:33 AM
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Caring about your "soul" is shit chicks do man... OP are you sure you're not gay?
/r/askTRP30/01/19 11:24 AM
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You've got a ton to learn. Quit caring about her behavior and emotions. You can't control it, all you can do is decide how you will respond (not react) to it. If I build her a kitchen I like, and she hates it then what? I'm sure you two can find a workable compromise that will make both happy. Maybe let her design the layout if she's into that, but suggest different materials to keep the price down where it's possible. Maybe even give her a choice of materials... let her feel like she has a say,…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 02:35 PM
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God you can't get out of her frame. You really just can't. Pulling the plug because we need to fix shit before I go into anything else. Her frame. She wants me to take out 40k in a loan to redo the kitchen. She wants to move the kitchen to another room entirely because it has a bigger and better layout. I am not willing to get into a big renovation. 40K sounds unreasonable, but bigger and better layout does sound reasonable. Loan might be a bad idea, but if you can get some of that in a home equ…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 02:11 PM
1

Yep, those are my go-to's. I feel the same way about that aggression.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 01:51 PM
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Yeah. I go on pandora and typically do five finger death punch radio, or drowning pool radio for lifting. I do like me some tool, and deftones for typical listening, but for lifting I usually want something faster paced... might also be because I lift at 530am.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 01:49 PM
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Suggestions to work on the feelz? Start by not operating in her frame and not caring about her feelz. her behavior has been shit so I have been ignoring her... On mondays, I don't usually even talk to her until 8:30. Internalize this: Start each day in a good mood... because you're just that kind of happy person who loves life. Don't default to ignoring her at the start of the day, because you're waking up happy and like interacting with those around you. I can't fathom that you both work from h…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 01:44 PM
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Yep... you win this thread. OP is all over the place, is incapable of introspection, and has decided to go full rambo while denying that he's gone full rambo. That and he talks way too much... I think I've seen like 3 or 4 posts on here in a week from him. Totally expects us to hold his hand and solve his problems. Sounds like he wants a daddy... what a faggot.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 01:35 PM
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She, she, she, her, she, her... Who's frame are you operating in anyways bro? Who gives a fuck what her job is, or how she feels about controlling you. The whole point of RP is you stop trying to figure her out and stop trying changing your behavior to influence her emotions. The funny thing is that by making her emotions her problem, her emotional state will actually improve. That being said... don't be a dick and go out to hurt her emotions intentionally. In fact, it's a good thing to do nice …
/r/askMRP29/01/19 01:27 PM
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You're not acting like a real captain. You're acting like a drunk captain, and her feelz are that you're not attractive. So she's gonna remember all the shit that justifies that emotional state and ignore all other contradictory information. Shape your ass up, get her feelz in the right place and now those memories will cause cognitive dissonance. She'll quickly forget about them, and remember better things to justify her new feelz. Let the hampster work for you instead of against you. You don't…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 12:59 PM
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And what was your emotional state when you said no I'm eating? Despite what you tell us or yourself, I'd put good money on you having some anger/butthurt etc... Your post reads like it at least. And those emotions get conveyed by every tiny muscle on your face, and by body language. Even if you stayed completely neutral, she might even interpret that response as angry/butthurt. If she thinks asking simple question like that pisses you off, she'll think you're weak and insecure. Not very alpha tr…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 11:56 AM
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Women operate on feelz, and feelz has a very short memory. Start acting like a real captain and she'll quickly forget those drunk years.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 11:35 AM
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Jesus, what is it with all these spergs going Rambo right now? You could have easily just said no, or I'll get to it later, or something else. What was xyz? Was it something that she can't handle or is your responsibility? Her request could have been anything from reasonable to shit test to comfort test depending on what xyz is and the context in how it was asked. In any case, losing your temper and telling her to get lost is probably the worst possible thing to do.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 04:09 AM
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Trying too hard to overcontrol, and using force to do so is exactly like mate guarding. It subcommunicates that you actually feel like you have no control, and that that you feel weak and insecure about it. Great job brother. I'm sure that'll get the tingles going. If she's high self esteem, she won't deal with this bullshit and you have an impending divorce. If she's low self esteem, she'll just start resenting you and will eventually cheat to feel some love and to feel like she's getting back …
/r/askMRP28/01/19 02:51 PM
2

What's AP?
/r/askMRP25/01/19 06:42 PM
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He just has to ask her nicely for them back. Open communication will solve everything. Edit: I thought my sarcasm went without saying. Apparently not...
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 06:03 PM
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Then his balls are firmly in his wife's purse... and he's already carrying it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 11:01 AM
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You deserve better. Call up an attorney, figure out divorce/separation. Serve her the papers when least expecting it.
/r/askMRP24/01/19 04:48 PM
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Yeah, I do have to figure that out. The question caught me by surprise and in that instance I wrongly assumed that I needed to tread carefully. Seems like the right answer is to just not give a shit... I have to work harder on internalizing that. As to why I hadn't been checking them out... the bar we were at absolutely loaded with hot 20 somethings. Everywhere you look there's be like at least 5. I had been checking chicks out all night and honestly, I was getting bored at looking from afar. Ki…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 11:28 AM
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Absolutely true. Something to keep in mind... all inner game resources say fake it till you make it, and once you're there you won't have to fake it any longer. That's what I was getting at in my reply. Meditation might be useful when you're starting to help fake it, but after your develop airtight frame and you're truly there, it'll be much less useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 07:47 PM
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TRP is at a high level applying evolutionary psychology to dating and sexual relationships. The individual acting on that information can be completely shitty, or have intentions which are just fine. TRP gets a bad rap because most of the people there are angry/bitter, and only in it for the pussy. Knowledge of these concepts I think is a prerequisite for a healthy relationship... period. Otherwise, you risk losing attraction over time and getting divorced/cheated on. Ideally, I'd actually prefe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 02:03 PM
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A couple questions to consider: How many natural alphas do you think have to go off and meditate every day to maintain their frame? How strong is your frame if you continually require meditation to keep it maintained? Meditation might be useful for some to get started, but when you're truly there it is probably much less useful. Consider what OP said: Then, the next time you are facing someone who is emotionally upset, you will begin to see in real-time how your brain is telling you to react whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 01:49 PM
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Any statement which comes out of a woman's mouth and contains the words "you should" is a shit test. Either AA, ignore, or do the opposite. Plain and simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 01:32 PM
1

If gym isn't transcendent, you're not lifting heavy enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 01:30 PM
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Yeah, that's cool. 2h/week is nothing. OP sounds like it's 2h/day. Being social is also developing/maintaining a skill. To each their own.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 07:49 PM
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I mean, you do you... but there's better uses of time than gaming. The way I see it is that skills honed for a hobby are lifelong, whereas mad COD skillz go away with the next new release. In that time, I could learn a new song on guitar, or plan a new homebrew, and it would be equally relaxing as video games. That being said, everyone's got their own missions in life, and if you're killing it elsewhere, some time wasting is probably no big deal.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 07:30 PM
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That's a valuable piece of advice right there. Thanks.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 06:11 PM
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Yeah, didn't know shit back then... reddit wasn't really big and I was on the 4chan /fit/ board where SS was meme'd real hard. As I said... good place to start and get acquainted, but there's better things to do once you've learned the ropes.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 02:35 PM
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Depends on your height. If you're the average height of 5'10", 200 lbs at 8% body fat gives a fat free mass index of 26. FFMI over 25 is nearly impossible for a dedicated lifter to achieve without steroids. There's probably only a handful of people who have gotten there naturally... you'd need stellar genetics, naturally high testosterone, a perfect diet, and a world class lifting routine to get there. Not really achievable for the average guy. If you assume the average guy can get right to 25 a…
/r/askMRP22/01/19 02:06 PM
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Point taken. Thanks.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 01:42 PM
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Everyones saying SL/SS. TBH, I found those great for getting acquainted with lifting, but never made stellar progress on them. I made my own routine in college and in 1 yr made more progress than 2 yrs of SS. If it stops working, dont be afraid to try something new. Creatine is also a huge help and should be taken by everyone who lifts weights.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 11:33 AM
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You're planning on solving your problems by running away from them? Cool story bro... let me know how that pans out.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 12:05 AM
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I disagree. I'm not trying too hard, and what in any of this thread suggests I'm in an anger phase? I'm through that pretty far by now. I already have self confidence. I already see women staring at me. Looking away all coy when I catch them, make eye contact, and hold. Laughing when I make stupid jokes. Etc... I frequently catch all sorts of IOIs from younger attractive women and have that internalized in my frame. If I wanted some strange, i probably wouldn't have to work too hard for it. Like…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 11:42 PM
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You're not passing your mom's shit tests? No wonder she won't fuck you!
/r/askTRP21/01/19 10:02 PM
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I am already skilled in carpentry Great! Instead of COD, why not figure out and plan a new project? Do the project. It could be something useful for your house (book shelves would be that type of example), or a gift for someone, or you could even try making things to sell online or at art shows. Perhaps you could try your hand at building a guitar if you don't have one. These are all skills you can hone which you'll carry with you your entire life. They can also be great ways to unwind. She hone…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 09:38 PM
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Frame is not an act you want to put up for certain occasions, it is just a point of reference from where you view the world. I've understood that for a while, and always thought of frame as being how hard can I hold onto my current worldview. My issue was when she threw something at me that was completely unexpected, and I had nothing to go to. If I was checking out chicks, my frame would be to own it because owning my actions is part of my frame. However... the rest of your response, and how yo…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 09:31 PM
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This is easy... learn an instrument (say guitar). Pick up woodworking or some other type of art. Learn how to do some basic home repair and be awesome by fixing shit. I redid our whole deck last summer with TREX on a whim because the old deck was rotting and learned a bunch of useful shit in the process. Go to the gym and lift. Learn how to homebrew beer. There's literally unlimited options here, with the only constraint being what do you want to do. Just make sure it's productive... video games…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 08:48 PM
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Given your other post, she's probably worried that tasks won't get done for the day until she leads them to completion. If someone else in the house were owning their shit, leading, and taking care of everything, instead of playing COD, maybe she'd be free to think about sex things instead of worrying that shit won't get done... like the snow getting shoveled. But really... this isn't about her. It's about you. And your failure to lead the household. Take the reigns, and put yourself in the fram…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 08:43 PM
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If you don't want to have to participate in the bullshit ritual of drink, weed, and stupid TV shows then stop participating in the stupid ritual. Go do your own shit instead. And fuck video games... find a real hobby to do or find some other shit to own. You're not 14. Give it some time, and eventually she'll want to fuck without the ritual. Once you set the new precedent, the old one is broken. TLDR: 1. Yes you're gay for playing COD. Get a real hobby. 2. No you shouldn't participate in some bu…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 08:25 PM
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Thanks man. I'll be sure to check those out. I agree... the mindset/frame is more important than canned lines in an LTR. There's only so long before you run out of material.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:35 PM
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She shit tests begin after the honeymoon phase ends- when real life begins... and you’re failing miserably. Yup. What do you think led me here? Out of curiosity, do you have a good go-to guide for game?
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:22 PM
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Fuck you too brother. You're angry as fuck, but you got some damn good perspective on things. I appreciate the unrestrained feedback. doesn’t want to learn and doesn’t appreciate the help. Absolutely want to learn, and am thankful for the guidance given in this thread. I'll ask again... do you have any preferred references for game? You've got some damn good skills there, and if there's any references in particular I'll direct my attention there. If not, I'll go fuck off and find some myself.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:11 PM
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100% shit test. I've seen em both.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:05 PM
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Yeah, I fagged up that reply hardcore. You're on point about the DEERing too. Thanks for the help.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:01 PM
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You're overthinking way too much Guilty as charged. which makes me damn good at my job but not so much my relationship Amen brother. What's your reading list look like? I would spend a lot of quality time with the sidebar readings. I've read the core readings through, but some have been a while ago. I should brush up on them.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:55 PM
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Man, you're all warm and fuzzy today... What I'm trying to say is there's a big difference between controlling your thoughts in a controlled environment vs the real world. I can easily shut off my thinking processes if I'm sitting down and trying to, but that doesn't always translate well in the real world. If meditating helps you... great! If not... no big deal! It's certainly not universally applicable, like lifting is.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/19 06:52 PM
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Very good point, and thanks for the perspective. It doesn't matter what she thinks, I'll do as I please.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:47 PM
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I've seen comfort tests and shit tests from her. This was a run of the mill shit test. Wouldn't say I passed it, because I chose a bad frame to hold onto which didn't generate attraction. But I didn't fail it either, as failing will almost without fail either piss her off or result in a further barrage of shit tests/compliance testing. My subcommunicated emotions were congruent. The result was on par, or slightly worse, than ignoring it outright. you should have a shit ton of dread going on here…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:44 PM
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Ah, yeah I could see it in that light. But either way, wouldn't it be better to sow a little discomfort, let it sit a bit longer than half a sentence, and have her earn back the pull rather than give it freely? The way it was originally phrased, it comes across to me as trying to give the right answer, and then giving an excuse for it. I've tried similar before and you could literally see my wife's face light up on the push, then turn negative on the pull. She'd then respond with something bitte…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:30 PM
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Siting in a booth? Lemme guess, you are the fag that sits on the other side? Never was that fag until we had kids that need to get managed. The 2 year old sure as hell isn't sitting on one side of the booth all by herself. This night in particular though, we were out by ourselves, but ended up in 2 seater tables sitting across from each other in both venues we went to. That's never my preference, but sometimes can't be avoided. I do know kino game pretty well, and that's not really a weakness fo…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:12 PM
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Don't respond to the email. Take care of shit when you get home. Don't let your house get into disarray like that. If she brings it up in person (don't worry... she will!), simply own it. "Yeah, I know. Slipped my mind this morning. Won't happen again". Then, lead the fucking ship and make sure it doesn't happen again... either doing it yourself, or delegating it to her. But make sure you're the one thinking about it and ensuring it gets done one way or another. Not only that, but everything els…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 05:27 PM
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Meditating never did shit for me... I could easily sit there, eyes closed (or even open!!!) on the floor and not have a single thought enter my mind for 5-10 minutes. There'd be nothing to dismiss. Maybe I have good control over my thoughts... I'm not sure, but I never got that whole challenge of trying to sit without any thoughts coming to you. I guess I'm the exception, but I can easily choose to ignore everything... even my own thoughts for extended periods of time. I've tried it a few times …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/19 05:21 PM
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The reason your wife asked this is not because of other women. I don't think anyone ever said that. She asked me this because it's a shit test and women do that. You're getting divorced and currently playing the field, so you might not be getting tested as often. When I started dating my wife, she never tested me either and laid me like tile 2-3x/day. This went on for months. Being physically attractive can get you real far. Shit tests started though when the honeymoon stage ended. You're right …
/r/askMRP21/01/19 04:49 PM
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It's the 1x-2x/week plan. Ideally would like to be on the 1x-2x/day plan.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 04:24 PM
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Missed it. No issue there... been lifting, and heavy, since before I met her. Started keto in June, and currently in the best shape of my life right now. Lifts have stayed the same or gone up, while I've shed ~35 lbs of fat. I see women checking me out on a daily basis, and I'm sure she does too.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 04:12 PM
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Engineer here too, so that’s not an excuse to be a beta. It’s your advantage- because you know how to learn. Yup... that's why I'm here. Learn some basic game. You sound way too serious. Do you tease her, pick her up, Game her? Been starting to again. Had a bit of an anger phase, and that was definitely being subcommunicated. It made her bitchy... I'd try to tease/game, and she'd respond defensively in anger. I'd get angrier/more frustrated. Choosing to just be happy and not get angry has helped…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 04:00 PM
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As others have noted, you're a man and you're going to notice good looking women. You're especially going to notice good looking women when your wife is pointing them out to you. Perfect frame. I think when your frame is in the box, the answers roll off the tongue naturally. These answers have helped a lot. Thanks.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 03:41 PM
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Almost went with something like that, but didn't want to come across as DEERing. "Yes I was, but it's okay for your feelings because" DEER. Also kind of puts her on a pedestal. So passing in that frame isn't much better than passing in a "no I wasn't" frame so long as you don't show guilt (I didn't). An answer which makes her feel some pressure/slightly uncomfortable is ideal in my mind.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 03:38 PM
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Yeah... I'm pretty sure that was a missed opportunity and could have been exactly what she was doing. She probably knew full well that I wasn't, but threw the question to see what I'd do. I just broken recorded that I wasn't, as the honest frame was my only frame at that point. Didn't explain or DEER... just said I wasn't. She followed it up by saying they weren't "that hot", but "were skinny", etc... I know it was a missed opportunity, and that's why I was asking for feedback. Shit tests are ad…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 03:33 PM
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Fixed it for you. Yep. Didn't have a frame to act on, and got caught like a deer in the headlights. What's the first Day in DEER? Don't that. When you get caught with your hand in the cookie jar you did be shooting her a shit eating grin, a wink, and continue getting you a damn cookie. If she's been nice, grab one for her, too. Was talking about defending my frame, not my actions. That's what a shit test is... 2 frames collide and the stronger, better defended frame wins. That's exactly what I m…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 03:15 PM
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Exactly. It's all about the frame of the interaction. "I'm gonna do all this shit for her because it'll improve her feelings, and I need her, and I especially need sex from her" Fail Dishes:"Kitchen's a mess, so I'm gonna own shit and do the dishes. Oh, she's sitting in the corner on her phone, I'll direct her to get the counters". Massages: "I've got the energy and enjoy having my hands on her naked body... maybe I can try to escalate, but if it doesn't work, then no big deal". Picnic: Fine if …
/r/askMRP21/01/19 02:19 PM
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Caught wife in a lie this morning. She visited some guy at a mall with her friend who’s in from out of town visiting. From my post history you will know my wife has been lying to be for awhile. Yeah, lying sucks but you're not in a position to be able to do anything about it. You're probably a 5, she's probably a 7. If you stay, she'll keep being shady and lie. If you divorce, she'll divorce rape you and you probably won't be able to get any strange for months to a year anyways. You need her mor…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 02:04 PM
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Yeah, I caught me because she's responded in anger to that before and I was caught off guard because I honestly hadn't been checking anyone out. It was a quick mix of confusion, and yes, anxiety. Part of the anxiety though was not having a go-to frame... had I been checking out a chick I would have simply owned it and defended that. Simple. Instead my thoughts were along the lines of "was I", "who's she talking about", "quick think of a frame", etc... and then I realized I had nothing and it was…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 12:24 PM
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Much better. Thanks.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 12:05 PM
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You can't pull a young man over and tell them how it is. They'll find it and follow if and when they're ready. Many wont be. Not everyone can be alpha. There will always be leaders and followers. Most men will be happy being plugged into the blue pill fantasy, and there's no reason to push any type of philosophy on them that will shatter their worldview. Also, with that attitude... yeah, you're not fit to lead. Your frame needs to be bulletproof. It should be "Damn straight I'm fit to lead, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 12:44 PM
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It's just a massive shit test on the population level. Helping the Billy betas repress their masculinity will only make it easier to identify true alphas. Best course is to AA, ignore, or fog (partially agree in "words" but dont change actions).
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 11:52 AM
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First rule of fight club--don't talk about fight club. Don't tell her anything. Period. Now that you've gotten that through your head, read the books on the sidebar and start working on the first 2 levels of dread.
/r/askMRP16/01/19 06:44 PM
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Good analysis. That was my thought too: she wanted someone to listen to the results. Either due to excitement, or potentially because she was worried about something in the results, say a gene that causes cancer, or maybe she's worried about getting some of the ailments her family has had and want's OP's opinion on things. But she didn't get a chance to verbalize that because OP was pushing too hard and making it a game. She likely had negative emotions about the test and didn't feel comfortable…
/r/askMRP16/01/19 01:27 PM
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Again... angry response from internet strangers for not giving validation clearly communicates complete lack of frame or emotional control. You just backed up my point.
/r/askMRP15/01/19 04:07 PM
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Dude... you need to chill out. The divorce has clearly nuked your frame, and now you feel the need to broadcast a machismo personality across the interwebs for validation. The problem is that without frame, it's easy to see right through. Clearly you're frame is shattered into a million tiny pieces right now if you'd hypothetically get "embarrassed" by "your dumb thot" when she "flaps her land whale jaws". So much for frame... letting someone else control your fee-fee's. Furthermore, you're proj…
/r/askMRP15/01/19 02:25 PM
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I could write a novel refuting this. Don't have time for that, but my main points would be: Logic is objective... it has to be. Logic flows from basic rules, and is predictive. For example, A causes B which causes something C, etc... Men overwhelmingly use logic to solve problems. If C is a problem and B causes C, we can address B, or even A if A causes B. Women can use logic to solve problems too, but often don't. Women operate on a completely different emotional level than what most men can ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 01:15 PM
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One word... keto. It's extremely muscle preserving for a diet which relentlessly takes fat off you. When you get adapted to it, you can even put on muscle while losing fat. Highly recommend looking at the ketogains subreddit and/or facebook group. Also, I will say that %BF numbers can be all over the place and you don't really know them until you're getting close to where you want to be. You could easily be at 16% or 28%. Get the weight down and you'll have a much better idea of where your lean …
/r/askMRP14/01/19 01:18 PM
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The first rule of fight club is don't talk about fight club. The second rule of fight club is never argue with your wife. Not worth it... all it does is kill attraction and will solidify her stance against what you want. She's changing her mind every 2 weeks about living somewhere urban or rural? Great... don't get into a fight and force her to dig her heals into the position you don't want. Fighting is childish... don't back down from your goals, but find a way to side-step the conflict without…
/r/askMRP14/01/19 01:13 PM
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No abundance. She gets to dictate your sex life and knows if you deviate, she can divorce rape. Makes dread a lot more difficult when unspoken threats of infidelity have no real teeth without very serious consequences. To remedy this, extreme value has to be shown (hard mode) with oys and owning the household's shit too. You need her to feel dependent on you and scared to divorce you or even scared you'd divorce her.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 10:06 AM
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Losing weight will reduce estrogen, causing shbc to drop and test (free and total to rise). So yes, less belly fat usually means more muscle. Still, lifting will only augment this further.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 03:41 PM
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Low vitamin D can cause seasonal depression for some people... Seasonal Affective Disorder look it up. Vit D is a hormone which influences gene expression in every cell of your body. Very possible it's to blame here.
/r/askTRP28/06/18 10:42 AM
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Yes, you hit the nail on the head about conflict avoidance. I hate feeling like I'm victim puking, but I am trying to own the issue and focus on what I can do rather than write a feel bad for me kind of post. I've got a lot of good responses today. Seems like I need to focus on establishing boundaries and quitting conflict avoidance (which will also help in other areas of my life too). Sometimes when you're in the thick of it, it's hard to see the bigger picture. The wife isn't always a big angr…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 08:53 PM
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Yeah. I found MRP a few years ago and have done a good bit of the readings. Mentally it all makes sense and I'm through the anger stage at this point, but putting it into practice is much more difficult than understanding theory. The reason for the big wait between finding and putting into practice is the recommendation not to start doing dread during pregnancies. I probably should have disregarded that advice as I likely went a bit too beta during that time, but in all honesty the shit tests we…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 08:12 PM
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I've had great progress doing my own program, but I've always been methodical about how I make it, and with taking notes on how much I lift and for how many reps. Nothing wrong with your own system if you know what you're doing. An example would be if you're starting out, you may be able to do the same heavy compound 2x in a week (squat, bench, etc...). This will get you big gains. As that gets heavier though, you'll need more time to rest those muscles. I found that after a while, benching 1x/w…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/18 05:42 PM
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2 kids. Bad behavior seems to follow my "defiance" when dealing with shit/compliance tests, but is otherwise OK. Maybe I just have to just hold frame harder and it'll pass.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 04:45 PM
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Good links. Thanks.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 04:43 PM
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Yeah, since I've "changed" and started pushing back on compliance/shit tests. Looks like the difference between my wife and yours is that instead of apologizing and comfort seeking, she ramps it up to 11 and demands I apologize. Looks like I have to hold frame harder and NGAF.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 04:43 PM
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Good link. Thanks.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 01:47 PM
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True story. Thanks for framing it like that, helps me put it in perspective.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 01:04 PM
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You already showed that you have fucked up STFU by literally going mute, hence her calling you brainless etc. Read up on that too. I'd love to read up on that. Any links/reference?
/r/askMRP27/06/18 01:03 PM
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Yeah, mistyped. Compliance test. Good to know that it helps... I was just thinking it makes passing the shit tests mean a lot more (when Billy Beta passes shit tests, but is still an ugly duckling it might not bother his wife as much as when her physically hot husband stops acting beta). My SMV is easily a point or two higher than hers, so perhaps passing a shit test stings a bit more. she is going double down on the shit test and essentially telling you to get back in your hole. Yes I see that …
/r/askMRP27/06/18 12:57 PM
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Yeah. Thats what I usually do during the day. STFU and remove myself. She'll accuse me of being weak and running from my problems but whatever IDGAF anymore. What about if this shit gets pulled at 1am. Im up at 545 to go to gym and she sleeps in (works from home on her hours) . I can't remove myself, STFU doesnt work (she'll go on for over an hour), and I respect myself too much to sleep in another room/the couch and leave my own bed.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 12:35 PM
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Shes fine until I try and pass a shit test... usually by saying no to a compliance test. Thats when hell breaks loose. Apart from that and the meager sex life (1x week) she does add value to my life.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 12:24 PM
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Yeah, true story. I'm pretty much out of the anger phase by now and have stopped giving a fuck, but whenever i come back to that realization I get angry again. Not about the nature of women, but just the situation of being married woth 2 kids and having no respect frkm my wife. Shit to work on.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 12:01 PM
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Typical compliance BS. Get me water, plug in my phone (chargers next to her and im across the room), get me a bottle for the baby, clean up this random thing im pointing to right now, do whatever thing Im too lazy to do right now because back hurts, etc... Apart from handling her shit tests which I often fail due to expecting the yelling/beratement, my SMV is actually pretty good. I catch 8's and 9's regularly checking me out/making eye contact and smiling. I could start spinning plates tomorrow…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 11:48 AM
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2 kids. 5 mo and 2.5 yr. STFU is met with "fucking answer me" "hello... hello..." "dont you have a mouth or a brain" and her chasing me around the house. Doesnt help that she typically pulls this shit at midnight-2am knowing i get up at 530am for the gym and she gets to sleep in (works from home).
/r/askMRP27/06/18 11:40 AM
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Older women are a joke. I got cornered in an elevator before with 5 40-50 year old women and a couple of them were very graphic with their intentions (in front of all their friends)... like had the genders been reversed they could have been charged with sexual harassment. If you're young and attractive, they'll basically throw themselves on you, even with all their friends judging.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/18 07:32 PM
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Slut
/r/askTRP22/06/18 07:49 PM
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Nah, I'd say that men lack the options women have. If you could get free shit for being hawt, you'd do it too.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 07:38 PM
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Exactly. A girl can walk into a room dressed to the 9's, and acting flirty, and that would be considered sexual regardless of if she's actually into anyone there. The idea is that you do the same thing. Be sexual, and have the girl come to you, rather than you show desire and chase her around.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 05:47 PM
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Be sexual means have muscles, dress nice, be flirty/sexual in conversation, because that's just the type of person you are. Be desireless really means, don't telegraph desire for the girl you're trying to get. If you can show that you're a sexual being, while leaving the girl you're talking to questioning/doubting that you're interested in her in particular, you've correctly mixed being "desireless" with being "sexual". The goal is to make her interested in you, without showing desperation.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 05:10 PM
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WTF, why is mothering is a basic need?
/r/TheRedPill22/06/18 01:44 PM
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If she cheated and nobody knows, why break it up? She probably just got cold feet, and wants more CC time. If she breaks it up, then she doesn't have to feel bad about it.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 01:37 PM
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With all the oral sex talk, it sounds like she was in to him... initially. If he wasn't comfortable around her though, girls can sniff that shit out from a mile away and quickly lose attraction/get ASD.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 12:24 PM
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Instead of putting the hand there, a better choice would have been to look her straight in the eye, and in a deep commanding/sexy tone tell her to either kiss you, or kneel down and unzip your pants. Shows social dominance, maneuvers around ASD, assumes attraction, is not needy (you're not forcing her), and gets non-verbal consent (not rapey/disrespectful TM ).
/r/askTRP21/06/18 04:45 PM
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Somebody might have something better, but you could try: --pressure flip: "I don't like people stalking me out before we get to know each other" --dread/AA: "had too much unwarranted sexual harassment from other women so I deleted it" --"I'm too busy for social media" --"Maybe later"
/r/askTRP21/06/18 04:39 PM
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Yeah. I think depending on how much and heavy you lift, you can go a bit higher protein while maintaining ketosis... at least i can. Sure its not the absolute best for gaining muscle, but if youre trying to lose fat AND put on muscle, I havent heard of a better alternative.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 03:58 PM
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I've put on muscle while losing weight on Keto. Could be in the minority though.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 02:45 PM
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Should have stopped before the kiss. He triggered ASD with the hand on the pants move, and then went and showed he was needy by trying to kiss. Kiss should have come before moving the hand, but if you've already triggered ASD, best option is to back off completely and make her miss the attention/escalation.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 01:34 PM
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Where were you when you put her hand on your dick area? Also, going for the kiss after she wasn't into it clearly shows needy behavior... do you enjoy making her go sahara on you? I'd have probably gone for the kiss first... to women kissing is whatever, but sexual stuff causes ASD. You need to make her want it more first. Instead you triggered ASD and then displayed neediness. One way to be dominant, while still getting consent out of a woman and display non-neediness would be to order her. So …
/r/askTRP21/06/18 01:32 PM
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While what you're saying is true, there's a lot of butthurt going on in your post and it sounds like you're deep in the anger phase. Men fighting and going to war while women remain home is ingrained in our biology. Nothing you can do about it. No use being angry. If females go to fight and many die, the social group would have less offspring and be weaker in the following generation. Conversely, if males go to fight and many die, the survivors, likely with better genes, could theoretically impr…
/r/TheRedPill21/06/18 01:20 PM
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Could do the typical chick line, but reversed... "what kind of guy do you take me for?". Doesnt answer the question, and frames her as the one chasing you.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 11:37 AM
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The usual requirement is net carbs (total - fiber) being less than 20g. That number depends on person to person... I've found I can go up to 40g or so and usually maintain weight loss. For the balance, you want most calories to come from fat. So I'd eat just enough protein to maintain or gain lean body mass, and then balance fat. You typically want to eat a lot of "lower carb" veggies too... broccoli, asparagus, brussel sprouts, grean leafy veggies, etc... are all great options.
/r/askTRP20/06/18 05:06 PM
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less rest. when eating carbs, your muscles will use lactic acid metabolism during anaerobic activity (lifting weights). You need to rest to allow your body to purge the lactic acid or else strength will suffer. On keto, you don't make lactic acid (or as much at least), so resting is a lot quicker.
/r/askTRP20/06/18 05:00 PM
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I put weight on the bar while losing 35 lb doing keto. My OHP went from 135 to 155 or so while my weight went from 215 to 185. It'll reduce athletic performance in the short term, but once you adapt it'll be fine. Creatine also helps get over the reduced muscle glycogen. For aerobic exercise, ultramarathon runners get big gains by going keto. It's definitely not for everyone, and is a pain in the ass to maintain, but it doesn't completely kill athletic performance. Check out the ketogains subred…
/r/askTRP20/06/18 03:32 PM
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I've done keto and lifting. As someone who had been lifting heavy for a few years, I was still able to get gains in my lifts while losing ~35 lb. Studies have shown that ketogenic diets are muscle preserving at calorie defects, unlike the control low fat diets. My experience was that the first few weeks to a month or so are hard, but once your body starts adapting to burning fats and ketones, your lifts will go up. You'll also need lest rest between sets. Creatine will also help on the lower rep…
/r/askTRP20/06/18 03:30 PM
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It's always harder in the heat of the moment. Also, even if you cant think of shit at the time, try to think of something after as a mental excercise. It'll get you quicker eventually. For that, id either ignore and change subject or AA with something like "youre right they don't call me perscription strength sleep aid for nothing". Wouldnt AA though if she thinks you're legitimately boring... could come off as insulting yourself rather than amplifying to absurdity. AA has to be so ridiculous th…
/r/askMRP19/06/18 10:26 AM
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Looks like you're doing keto (<25g carbs). My suggestion would be to drop the protein some and increase the fat some (especially saturated fat). If you're goal weight is 130, then 130g protein should be sufficient. You'll feel better and it'll help your testosterone. Check out the ketogains subreddit. You may stall between lifting and weight loss. It should be easier to add lean muscle when you're already lean (T levels will be higher), so if gains or weight loss or both stall, I'd push the cut …
/r/askMRP18/06/18 08:09 PM
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New account. Been a long time lurker, never a contributor... want to change that. What AA/AM is effectively doing is to show that you don't take her seriously (no fucks given). Ignoring can be the same effect, but is a little less pronounced. If AA/AM doesn't work for you, don't think of it in terms of AA or AM, but think what can I say that may be funny which shows I'm not taking her seriously. You'll probably end up doing one or the other but you may be able to react quicker with that mental f…
/r/askMRP18/06/18 07:19 PM
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