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LIES MEN TELLnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:54 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:52 PM
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REMINDER 👑nycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:21 PM
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STRATEGYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:37 AM
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NAH, SISnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:33 AM
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LEVEL UPnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:16 AM
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REMINDER 👑nycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:05 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:11 PM
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REMINDER 👑nycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:15 AM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:59 AM
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FDS HUMORnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:22 PM
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#JustLVMThingsnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:14 AM
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NAH, SISnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:43 AM
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#JustLVMThingsnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:32 AM
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REMINDER 👑nycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:40 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:29 AM
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STRATEGYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:33 PM
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How-To High Valuenycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:56 PM
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LEVEL UPnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:54 PM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:09 AM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:27 AM
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NAH, SISnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:56 PM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:08 AM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:33 AM
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LEVEL UPnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:45 AM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:30 AM
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How-To High Valuenycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:27 AM
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nycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:01 AM
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nycgirlhere/r/askFDS21/09/20 07:01 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:13 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?nycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:10 AM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:21 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:17 AM
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FDS HUMORnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:14 AM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:55 PM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:50 AM
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SOCIAL GROUP STRATEGYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:30 PM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:52 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:38 PM
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NAH, SISnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:30 PM
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DISCUSSIONnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:35 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:50 PM
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#JustLVMThingsnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:00 AM
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SOCIAL GROUP STRATEGYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:38 AM
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STRATEGYnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:45 AM
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#JustLVMThingsnycgirlhere/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:04 AM
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I think when you see red flags you take them as “caution” flags instead of get out of that relationship flags. There are signs a guy is not loyal, committed, and HV. 2nd guy says he loves you after a few weeks? You immediately drop him because he is LYING or he doesn’t know what love is. Either way it is a form of manipulation to say that to someone, and you should take that as a get away from him sign.
/r/askFDS21/10/20 03:01 PM
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I totally agree! Just got a reddit PM about how women should text first, and I just blocked it. You can look it up, I am not your teacher, and even if I explained you don’t care about my answer you care about being right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:11 PM
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I think it’s the part where you convey through no words that they need to be the ones to make it work or you won’t be giving your time/interest for free! Men like to work for what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:51 PM
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Agreed! No comment needed they’re not the learning type
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:58 PM
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I think it’s good that she’s not happy w his LVM comment but it’s better to not engage I think. You can read our other posts but LVM love attention (through response) but it’s still attention he gets. And LVM aren’t going to read this response and be like dang I should change because he’s getting a positive outcome (her response) and they’re not worth the energy to type all that and teach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:54 PM
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Honestly I believe it. Sometimes the guy really drives a girl crazy enough to these lengths by holding off marriage with the promise of a ring, she said 2 years of engagement? Honestly she must’ve been going crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:02 PM
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I feel so bad for her, to have to go to this level. She deserves better, I have a lot of empathy for her, and I hope she learns to move on from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:00 PM
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I hope the way they go is far from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:29 AM
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She actually has three kids including him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:16 AM
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Agreed! This show was so vapid and shallow, Emily kissing her friend’s bf and NOT telling her is such a LV move. Then Gabriel initiates the kiss later (cheats twice) and it’s fine? Literally him and Camille broke up for not even a couple days and they sleep together? Awful awful person brats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:15 AM
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what’s mgtow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:12 AM
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This was a wild story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:09 AM
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Could you give an example of what you do? Interested in hearing more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:16 PM
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His teeth were yellow (from not brushing enough).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:12 PM
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I just don’t talk to them or respond, why try to teach a wall to listen? It’s not my job to educate them and honestly it’s not like it works. They want attention and I’m giving it negative or positive, so I’m choosing not to engage because it’s not worth my valuable time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:11 PM
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Both are kind of wishy-washy words. Isnt everyone unlike anyone you've ever met? First one is for sure a neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:22 PM
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Guys who want girls to ask them out are LVM who try to trick you into doing MORE emotional labor, it's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:53 PM
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Didn't even think English was your second language! :) Yep, egg doesn't swim to the sperm. Done with chasing men and on to chasing my dreams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:52 PM
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I have! It’s just that I get a lot of hate for saying this is LVM behavior for some reason so just letting people talk about what they think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:43 AM
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How hard would it be to make an actual pasta dish or steak or chicken....peak LV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:33 AM
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I think why men marry bitches is a good read to understand this psychology tldr guys wanna know you’re not just in it for the ring/marriage (even tho that’s so reasonable to want) but don’t want a pickme who’ll roll over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:03 AM
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Info dumping is basically when a guy or EVEN YOURSELF over shares to an inappropriate amount. Example: my favorite color is pink/I love Italian food/I come from a big family (information you can freely share on the first few dates) then there’s info dump: I was abused as a child/my dad was an alcoholic/I’m in therapy/I have an eating disorder/my mom is bipolar which people say because they have no sense of boundaries or they’re using it as a sob story to get your pity (which gets people to be fl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:56 AM
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Love bombing and information dump
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:29 AM
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If you have the nerve to ask for gum from a stranger every class you have the nerve to ask for their number.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:46 AM
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"semester"? they're in college and if they were in middle/high they wouldnt need to ask for each others numbers like that.........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:16 AM
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Hopes she gets picked 🙄since that’s so cute!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:17 AM
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Someone else commented I should shut up because a guy needs help? Lol like he needs help asking out a cute girl he likes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:14 AM
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he could’ve literally bought her gum for all the gum he’s taken and done something like that...FOR HER and if you have class together how easy would it be to say hey can I get your number?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:54 AM
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Aka ur not even worth $500 from me now wait until you try to get child support
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:27 AM
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my fav verse to use for this kinda stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:07 AM
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glad you realized this right away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:04 AM
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cold hard truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:03 AM
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girl all the time but thats a sign of growth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:03 AM
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I think these women focused on their lives (seen through their actions of pursuing their own dreams and career goals) and they had no time to entertain LVM behavior. Like you're a phD student but a guy who schedules a date Friday cancels on Thursday without a solid reason/excuse? You have better things to do and keep it moving. You don't change your life based on him, you were already heading there and he happened to be going the same direction (NOT he was going the opposite direction and you st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:01 AM
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love this advice they drop women all the time for even breathing 'the wrong way' or something ridiculous yet we're wrong if there's serious red flags and we need to 'try to communicate'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:56 AM
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Yeah and you can find that in a good guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:29 PM
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That sounds good’ I think figure out if you want to commit now then and what’s different about last time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:45 PM
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I think you should go to therapy and work out your feelings before you let chemistry dictate your choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:43 PM
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Korean skincare routine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:01 PM
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Interesting! Maybe you could post this on AskFDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:00 PM
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yep! if he wants to he will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:24 PM
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Journaling helps! I listen to relationship sermons maybe you can listen to those or podcasts. I think you need to tell yourself you did the best you could and that has always been true, you wouldn't judge your friend or hold it against them for dating a LVM so don't hold it against yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:22 PM
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I think you’re right, OP knows better. I apologize if I’m patronizing probably seeing it from my own views. OP should trust her feelings and gut on this one.
/r/askFDS02/10/20 02:42 AM
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That’s a good point! I think that I’m seeing it from a point of sometimes what we find attractive isn’t always good for us (see: dating LVM) but I agree you can have both! I just think chemistry can take some time to set in and my opinion is valid too.
/r/askFDS02/10/20 02:32 AM
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Read the handbook! Great place to start :) Also focusing on your life and yourself. Never make plans based on boys: don’t choose your college, major, life choices on them.
/r/askFDS02/10/20 02:09 AM
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I think you should bring it up and define the relationship if you want to act HV as the man. You should make your intentions clear and that you expect the same commitment back.
/r/askFDS02/10/20 02:08 AM
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Must be honest! Shown commitment to improving his life. Not a total slob. Not a momma’s boy. Can drive. No lurking female friends”. Healthy boundaries with others. Doesn’t drink excessively/do drugs. Shows self-awareness for his issues AND makes actionable plans to change them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:39 AM
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HVM do not love you because you're -10kg or +10kg. They love you because of your personality, your character, and yes your physical beauty too but he's already into you! I'm going to assume he's stated you're in an exclusive relationship with him, so he finds you attraction. Let's say you drop the weight, you date him, you're happy. Then you gain it back, do you want someone who leaves you? It's also better to not get intimate so fast in general. Don't be ashamed, your body is STRONG. It is not …
/r/askFDS01/10/20 05:19 AM
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I agree, it's odd that OP wants to still have him in her life while in a relationship.
/r/askFDS01/10/20 05:16 AM
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End that friendship completely. if your HVM finds out that not only did you hid it from him and you still hang out with him you will never recover.
/r/askFDS01/10/20 05:15 AM
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Hmm, I would ask you why you feel like he doesn't add value to your life. I'm not trying to overstep your feelings, but if you're not attracted that's just how it is but sometimes we can stand to go on a couple dates with someone to see if the connection can go. So many people are die hard for chemistry but chemistry doesn't mean compatibility either. Just my thoughts! Otherwise I would say: "I really enjoyed our time together but I'm not interested in pursing this relationship any further."
/r/askFDS01/10/20 05:12 AM
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Hi! I personally think doing any recreational drugs is a red flag/hard pass. If it's for fun, I can think of a million fun productive activities. If it's to relax: yoga, mediation, prayer, journaling, etc. If it's to cope/destress, again HEALTHIER mechanisms. I guess what I'm saying here is: for every reason he has to use weed there's a better alternative. I think it's naive to believe that this habit doesn't already impact his life. Just my thoughts, I'm against weed use for many other reasons.…
/r/askFDS01/10/20 05:07 AM
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I think you can, but I would watch out if she only hangs out with you when you pay or doesn't offer.
/r/askFDS01/10/20 05:03 AM
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Agreed! Next time you shouldn’t be late like you said, a HV man will not tolerate that behavior either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:10 AM
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No problem! I even search up extensively for my FRIENDS. If a guy can’t even pull up a search engine then he won’t even bother pulling any weight in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:20 AM
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Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:17 AM
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LVM. He doesn't have a phone? Wifi? Yelp? Google? Save your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:15 AM
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Tbh glad she ditched LVM but in truth she was indoctrinated into a cult by another manipulative man who also doesn’t really see her as a person and used her grief against her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:59 PM
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I was just gonna say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:58 PM
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Easy as pie self identified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:57 PM
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Can’t wait for him to get pregnant for 9 months and push the baby!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:56 PM
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Having a boyfriend isn’t a signal of HVW. Yikes if they think that: the truth is any woman could have a bf without even trying but it takes time to have the right one pursue you. As if r/breakingmom isn’t the exact reason why women with LVM boyfriends and husbands we need to not just settle at “having a boyfriend”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:55 PM
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I think finding the value in other parts of your personality like your character is important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:31 PM
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You love the idea of him not actually him bc who he is, is a douchebag
/r/askFDS27/09/20 07:27 PM
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Unfollow them why expose yourself to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:22 PM
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Breaking news: sad lonely scote who uses his dirty underwear as a napkin flames nice thoughtful man with amazing wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:40 AM
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To not even send you ONE text wow the flair should be make depravity 🤢 like you don’t have a busy life?? so glad you dropped him ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:38 AM
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Uhh super unprofessional 🤢 you did the right move no need to be nicer (?) for what girl you said he was being inappropriate how is that rude? What’s rude is telling a girl you’re stalking her insta and that her bikini especially....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:36 AM
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Agreed! This is real life stuff even if he’s lying I have so many friends w stories with LVM who will play girls for months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:34 PM
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Honestly with the pickmes I can see this being reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:01 PM
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That’s disgusting not a friend he’s a future rapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:54 PM
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QUEEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:54 PM
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I love these show analysis posts! Totally agree men will not change and we should not try to change them bc we waste our own time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:53 PM
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Funny how she says she a confident women yet she has to mock other women (?) screams insecurity to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:43 PM
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Sexual harassment 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:36 PM
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Drop her tbh she’s gonna waste your time and always pick him over you, friendship is important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:00 AM
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Yikes two LVM in ur life gone for the price of one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:58 AM
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I love this! I’m writing a draft for a post about HVF (high value friends)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:15 PM
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Read the handbook! It says to trust your instincts so I would say you can’t know HVM are HVM until a couple months of consistency at least. Anyone can be good on a couple dates. Think about corrupt doctors, they were great at their interviews and fooled professionals to think they were caring, kind people! Be on alert and stay safe. Keep vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:14 PM
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YESS GIRL ENJOY ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:12 PM
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ugh he's the worst...im so sorry for you girl sounds like you should cut your loses if you can, if this is him at year 1 it goes downhill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:20 PM
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Also about the Eve part, Adam was there watching it all happen! He didn’t step up as the leader God created him to be and later the blame game started too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:32 AM
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Also transformation church & the porch are church channels that I love that support healthy Christian relationships and growth ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:30 AM
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Wow! Thank you for sharing ❤️ I saw this post earlier that said Jesus was the ultimate HVM and it’s so true! He protected women, he never saw them as beneath him, he never shamed them, and he respected them! God created women from man’s side to be in PARTNERSHIP. And women do submit to a man who is submitted to God’s authority! Submission isn’t oppression either! And we need to stop letting men take away our value especially through our faith under false narratives when you can read how precious…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:29 AM
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I love radical acceptance! I’ve heard of this before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:22 AM
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:( that’s so sad to hear! Keep your head up you’re doing the right thing for you and your family. Your fiancé should take care of you and you don’t need to feel pressured rn in covid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:14 AM
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They have low self esteem not your fault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:12 AM
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I’m infj so maybe I need to find a matching pair 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:12 AM
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This is so interesting! Kinda wanna compile a list of MTBIs and our experiences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:11 AM
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Is she his mom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:08 AM
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It’s SO pretty! You deserve it girl ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:03 AM
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Thank you for your work 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:00 AM
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This is so sad what she’s reduced herself too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:54 AM
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He’s probably not a good guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:53 AM
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That’s awesome!! Can we see it I love looking at peoples gifts for themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:49 AM
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Hey! Don’t be so hard on yourself, sometimes we can be told things but need to experience it for ourselves to learn. Whenever I look back at really bad pickme days, I feel embarrassed and ashamed but I would never tell my friends that they should feel that way if they were in my place. You were doing YOUR BEST in that situation knowing what you knew. You learned from it and you’re growing. No one is perfect, you just need to keep moving and not dwell on the past because who you WERE then is not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:47 AM
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Amen!! Praying for us ❤️ Christ centered men And HVM should be synonymous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:29 PM
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LOL I LOVE THIS MY HVM IS JESUS CHRIST AMEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:58 AM
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Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:34 PM
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you deserve better girl! is it possible use a different OLD? this seems strange like he’s the prize, YOURE the prize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:49 PM
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ohhh! I see I think my opinion would be guys should reach out to you (if that’s possible) to keep from them passively reciprocating. Men should be the ones initiating and we reciprocate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:33 PM
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Were you the one to reach out first?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:25 PM
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What a 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:23 PM
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I love this analysis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:22 PM
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R/relationship is for pickmes and LVM sis! He is a LIAR and he KNEW it would hurt you and still did it? Love yourself sis and leave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:06 PM
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I think you shouldn’t try to get revenge and just block him sis he’s not worth that anger, HV women don’t get even they get going! If you do end up posting stuff you could get backlash too. Revenge is a double edged sword.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 07:11 AM
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Overthinking it for an OLD guy! The moment he broke his promise/made excuses instead of owning up to it should be a click in your head for this guy is a LVM next time! We all make mistakes but a “sorry you feel bad” sorry is a block from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 07:10 AM
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Better to wait for the right guy than rush with the wrong one
/r/askFDS21/09/20 08:18 PM
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Move on!
/r/askFDS21/09/20 08:17 PM
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So true! Thank you
/r/askFDS21/09/20 08:15 PM
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Agreed but we don’t need to add to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:09 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/askFDS21/09/20 05:52 PM
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I would say “no thanks, I have enough friends” or just block since he showed he’s not interested in a real relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:31 PM
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I’m 21F and I can relate. I think our age range for guys makes for most of them to be really emotionally immature although older guys aren’t always a good option either. I think I’m just going to love and focus on myself, my hobbies, my passions, and my loved ones and if I meet a HVM that would be nice but I’m not going to entertain any LVM. All the things you want are in someone who is older and more established and that person should NOT want to date a 19 year old no matter how mature you are.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:22 PM
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What do you think I should say?
/r/askFDS21/09/20 05:16 PM
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You walk your dog not your date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:29 AM
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That’s so unfortunate I’m glad you rejected him and his LV “effort”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:14 AM
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“Need to clip my toenails. You down to come over?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:10 AM
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That’s so sweet! I like how respectful he was of you at your job :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:44 AM
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How did you meet him? Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:24 AM
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If you look up the director it’ll probably make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:21 AM
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Love that! Your own company > LVM company
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:24 PM
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You go sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:16 PM
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This man is gross. He basically groomed a child even if she’s 18 now and his wife instead is seeing the pedo he is says it’s her fault?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:16 PM
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Completely agree! If you gave the same man a lot of money he’s spend it on women who only want him for money but because he can’t afford to he takes out his insecurity on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:14 PM
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I think it’s cultural like the messages we are sent by media. I also think low self esteem and not thinking you can do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:02 PM
30

Because some girls will still go for them ie pickmes who think men looking nice is shallow/unrealistic so they see no reason to change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:07 AM
54

that’s literally awful she should dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:06 AM
2

Sierra and Steven!! YT couple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:12 AM
4

Yet they want wifey benefits smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:05 AM
6

ldr ends either in neither wants to move and break up or one person has to move so you need to figure out early on if you or he will be down to move otherwise what’s the point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:03 AM
22

when he’s a decent person 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:21 PM
2

Hope you ended it sis you deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:35 PM
3

I would make other plans even if it’s to grab myself some food with a girl friend or do a self care day and if the time comes and he confirms then you can go ahead with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:24 PM
28

LOOL my thoughts exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:23 PM
73

Man: cheats on woman pickme: it’s HER FAULT SHE DIDNT TREAT HIM RIGHT SHE WAS A BAD WIFE AND DIDNT DESERVE HIM funny how he wants traditional values in a wife like his granny apparently but doesn’t want to be a loyal husband or good father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:20 PM
2

I completely agree. You set example for your kids to either end up with or be toxic men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:44 PM
5

Love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:43 PM
16

I relate to this! One of my biggest things is feeling ashamed/embarrassed of myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:48 AM
12

yeah it’s weird! I call it like “popularity/intelligence/coolness by osmosis” like I thought by dating them/getting them to like me I would get some of the traits they had ie he’s smart so if I date him I’ll be considered smart too (strange assumption @ my brain) instead of working to study harder/improve my own self esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:31 AM
14

LOOL that was funny (honestly I don’t agree with a lot of stuff she says & her comments on celeb mental health but I think she’s helped me level up a lot/no one should follow ALL of someone’s advice)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:29 AM
4

no way, I know so many guys shorter than that who are LVM and attract girls BC they OWN it. they don't care about their height because they know it can't be changed and honestly there are girls out there who will like them or won't but they don't take offense. Be HVM, own your height, and honestly never thought about small waist and broad shoulders lol neither do any of my friends We care about (in guys): - being kind - being considerate of others - having proper hygiene/manners - job/working/in…
/r/askFDS18/09/20 04:22 AM
6

girl that was a co-dependent relationship, please get some therapy to figure out why you felt like you had to fix a broken person and be his rock when he couldn't do the same for you. you did the right thing! next time dont mention you have an ED/any issues to a person until they are in a committed relationship with you and PROVEN trustworthy. you may think "well he should know what he's getting into" but in actuality many men will see that as a weakness/area where they can control you/something…
/r/askFDS18/09/20 04:19 AM
14

Hi, I'm Asian and haven't met any yellow fevered men but I would say its from a stereotype that Asian women are submissive/basically maids/basically objects. They dream of this girl who will never "disobey" them and do whatever they want. Yellow fever is objectification of women and Asians ie LV behavior.
/r/askFDS18/09/20 04:13 AM
13

I bet this was the kind of bf that was late for dates, picking her up, calling her, etc. This kind of behavior doesn't just happen out of nowhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:07 AM
5

bro all these words to just to say: I am cheap and lv
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:04 AM
7

Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:00 AM
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I think you should evaluate why you want to experiment. I think if he's a good guy without HUGE character flaws, then maybe you might be the one who just isn't feeling strongly about him and that's okay bc you're young. I would ask you to put yourself in your bf's shoes, if you were him how would you want him to treat you/act? In the end, I don't think it's wrong or right as long as you communicate and are respectful. I think for me I only date with the intention of serious long term commitment …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:57 AM
2

LOOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:33 AM
2

Love this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:32 PM
1

If you know her already ie friends before flowers would be fine (a small bouquet), but if she’s a stranger or friend of friend or OLD don’t. Everyone’s different though so you can’t really know.
/r/askFDS17/09/20 04:43 PM
2

!!!!!!! Read the handbook. Watch Greta Bereisaite on Yt! Never ask a man what are we? He hears “I am insecure and I need YOU to tell me our relationship status” Red flag is he is 30+ and acting like this He is not your bf and you are not exclusive with him so you don’t actually know he’s not seeing anyone else you just know he didn’t tell you (why would he be honest?) You should see other people, not to hurt him but because you are single (yes you are) and put your energy back into dating to fin…
/r/askFDS17/09/20 04:36 PM
2

Read handbook. Dump him because he’s a liar and a waste of time/energy/emotions. Block him!
/r/askFDS17/09/20 04:31 PM
3

He’s not a HV man if he ghosts. Get that into your head :( know that anyone can act HV but be LV to impress you. He probably moved into someone else. A HV person doesn’t just cancel then never return. This is a BEHAVIOR and BEHAVIORS ARE PATTERNS. He’s a ghoster not just for you sis probably for a lot of girls! You liked his persona like we like actors on the screen in their role but that doesn’t mean you know him! Your ego is saying if he left like that there must be something wrong with me sin…
/r/askFDS17/09/20 04:27 PM
3

Watch Shallon Lester & Greta Bereisaite on YouTube!
/r/askFDS17/09/20 04:23 PM
2

If he wanted to he would! He’s not even your boyfriend yet and he’s already like this? No sis
/r/askFDS17/09/20 04:22 PM
6

Smart! It’s better that you don’t waste your time
/r/askFDS17/09/20 04:21 PM
3

Cut him off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:01 PM
10

You got this! One step at a time self awareness is step one now reread the handbook and start applying it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:42 AM
7

They have the I’m perfect I don’t need to be fixed energy that is disillusioned arrogance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:39 AM
9

I tell my friends this: honey is sweet it attracts birds and bees but also bugs. Does this mean honey is bad for attracting bugs? No, of course everyone will want the honey good or bad, but that doesn’t reflect on the honey’s inherent value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:33 AM
3

nope, if barack obama can maintain a healthy loving relationship while being PRESIDENT this guy can make time if he WANTED to. Don't settle for being friends aka providing girlfriend benefits without the title (you will probably hold off on dating while being his "friend" so youre basically loyal to a guy who wont even label you). dont just be the person who he runs to when he has a bad day, bad/good news, etc. until he decides to take you off the shelf and date you (which tbh i will doubt will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:14 PM
83

I love how embarrassed he got in the end when you didn’t drop down to beg for gf status
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:34 AM
8

Blooooooock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:32 AM
12

I think it is important to live contrary to what he’s said (while still being real) and let that speak for itself. If people ask you about what happened be honest and by your actions give them no room to doubt you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:04 PM
4

When you get blindsided by a break up: https://youtu.be/NQKNLaIk_iU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:36 AM
2

Tell them the things you do for fun then LOL and if that’s their idea of fun tell them they’re kinda boring huh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:50 PM
3

Honestly I have been in extremely toxic relationships with NVM and stayed with them and not even sure if their behavior was enough to leave because in the end I “loved” them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:25 PM
5

Block and read the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:02 PM
22

“You just don’t get humor”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:59 PM
465

It’s called trespassing and it’s a crime gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:10 AM
26

Be careful though I’m Asian American and a lot of the guys have their own problems/just bc u take care of urself doesn’t meant you’re not a LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:12 PM
11

Leave and read the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:10 PM
104

don’t listen to pickmes who become forever girlfriends! stop bringing it up on the internet for the people who are going to bash that idea, you don’t need people’s opinions to run your life girl. people who are confident in their choices won’t come for yours, what’s the skin off their back if you move in or not? they just want to make themselves feel better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:07 PM
56

He had me at “I don’t think my married is going to make it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:45 PM
8

When he says you’re pretty laid back 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:35 PM
6

Girl next time save yourself the time and energy and just dip 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:32 PM
1

Workout! Journal! Read books :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:30 PM
2

Depends on the context and if he’s usually a very volatile person and something as varying and changing as a person makes him feel otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:00 PM
37

Nah he’s just playing the part until he sees your weakness and starts acting up again. I wouldn’t want a man who needs me to get FED UP to be DONE and absolutely ready to date someone else only to have me have to spell it out what I want then he does something? Sis you can and should do better ❤️ doesn’t mean it needs to be hiking/gym guy either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:56 PM
23

It’s possible but it’s difficult and honestly I would rather spend that time with girl friends who I don’t have to worry about that with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:24 AM
5

Pick me energy is brushing off plans or being too available for someone who hasn’t shown that they’re invested in you. Giving wife benefits to someone who only labeled you as gf or as fwb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:38 PM
20

Never say you’re free if he hits you up last minute! You are busy not entertaining people who have no regard for your schedule even if you’re “free” nope you need to be booked days in advance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:37 PM
2

Thank you so much for commenting this! I read the FDS handbook but now applying it is making it so much real, I appreciate your support and I will definitely take it to heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:25 PM
4

thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:58 AM
9

Interesting! That’s possible like the “scarcity mindset” to get guys instead of the other way around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:36 AM
4

Be kind to everyone especially people who don’t benefit you. Be kind to your teachers. Your parents. The bus driver. Practice that! You’re already humble enough to ask for help and that’s a great start.
/r/askFDS31/08/20 06:22 AM
17

Being high value has nothing to do with looks! It’s about if you are someone who is emotionally mature, financially secure, generous, kind, and loving as a person. Someone who ADDS value and doesn’t take it away. Looks as in taking care of yourself and hygiene matters. There’s someone for everyone and every look!
/r/askFDS31/08/20 06:20 AM
8

Truth!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:44 PM
30

Someone who can’t/won’t hold a steady job. Doesn’t have his own place to live ie mooches off his parents. Someone who has low level emotional maturity: “Why are you mad at me?” shows can’t recognize his own behavior. Throws tantrums when he can’t get what he wants. Blames everyone else and everything else for his problems. Shows no initiative or drive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:25 PM
9

People can make their own choices, this is going too far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:24 PM
20

Uhh huge red flags that he would ask to come over so soon and after you said no sex he tries to undress you. Next time do not allow him to come over or for you to go over his house unless you want to be swept away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:22 PM
29

I think they try to live vicariously through their heroes/favorite movies or games and avoid real life responsibilities or relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:20 PM
3

You go girl! You deserve better than “to chill”. Honestly you don’t even need to go be around him to be friendly just say you’re busy: then be busy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:16 PM
7

If he’s not dating you he’s with other people, otherwise why not date you/call you his gf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:24 PM
5

Thank you for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:09 PM
6

I think I just drifted from talking with him. Do not allow him to be your best friend or anything close to that. It’s more like friends as in we have a friendly relationship. I never initiate talking with him. I never try to add to the convo. I respond but I keep it brief and casual if he messages me and I delete the convo right after. Put your boundaries up by treating him like any random guy, don’t be his advice friend. He has other people for that. You should never ask to hang out or talk 1-o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:08 PM
7

He’s negging other girls, don’t be a pick me and stand for that: one day that’ll be you he’s talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:04 PM
7

Therapy sis, do not get another person involved when you need to heal. That’s the same as saying should I date someone/go on tinder to fix my depression/anxiety/problems? It’s unfair to him and to you, get some counseling ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:00 PM
29

It’s because your 2 year requirement was a bluff and he called it, now he’s looking at how long he can drag it out. Think about it if it was cheating. “If you cheat on me I’ll leave you.” He cheats. You don’t leave? He cheats again, “Why would he do that if I said I would leave him?” Because you didn’t do what you said and he can sense that. HVM keep their promises. HVM keep their promises. HVM keep their promises. HVM want to make you happy. Are you happy? HVM want to make sure you know the pla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:57 PM
3

Thanks! I’ll check it out I’m slowly reading through it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:52 PM
4

good job sis you are PICKY because there’s only ONE of you! so why would you pick disrespectful, low effort, lame guys? keep on doing what you’re doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:47 PM
7

You should watch Steve Harvey, look up his relationship advice on YouTube or read his book Think Like a Man...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:43 PM
9

This was so eye opening thank you for writing this! My question is when the check comes what do I do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:41 PM
40

They are OLD and GROWN! they are done changing and they have both shown you who they are. Don’t think it’s Option Man Child A or B. There’s also Option You, pick you, pick saving yourself time. Pick you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:38 PM
35

if a guy is gonna do this to you on the MICRO over what? $25 to make you happy? the bar is below ground! there are men who wouldn’t blink and cover it all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:36 PM
8

Girl this is my exact same question!! For everyone answering to just sit there I feel so anxious....like won’t he think poorly of me for not even offering to pay my half? I’m working on changing my mindset but I still have a lot of growing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:29 AM
32

hey girl! thanks for sharing your experience, I think I can definitely relate to the "sprinkles" of flirting but I realized that guy's can like you just a little bit when they like a girl while girl's kind of give their whole heart! I'm glad you see he's not the guy for you and tbh this is not the guy for me! I definitely agree, guys will go for you if they like you they don't need more info or more time they know if they don't act quick you'll be taken and if not they don't care. amen, don't be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:19 AM
1

I think "future faking" is a big sign of lovebombing. Like if he says he wants to marry you/you're his wife/talks about kids/"our" talk too soon (like a couple of months). Stephen Colbert may have "knew" but I'm thinking he didn't go off on a whole tangent about how he would marry her on date 1 or even date 12. He showed her in a reasonable timeframe through consistent action that he was interested in her and their relationship. You should watch Shallon Lester (Youtube)'s video on Pamela Anderso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:58 AM
2

wow, you're awesome! you lucked out honestly from having to spend your evening with a guy like that and you instead got to enjoy your own wonderful company
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:55 AM
1

love this, don't worry about him seeing you at your best because you'll love life and enjoy it by not thinking about him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:50 AM
4

Not great. We shouldn't judge people by how good their best qualities are but how bad their worst ones are. For example, if someone seemed like a HVM but was emotionally/physically abusive that would negate all of the HVM traits. Seems like with him it's the same in that he has very big red flags. I believe that he's a big ego person due to his insecurities (being short, etc) and the fact that he is stunted emotionally means he has never felt the need to fix that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:49 AM
2

Maybe you could ask like where he sees himself in the next five years? eg married, still dating, moving up in his career
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:44 AM
2

please break up with him sis, find a man who will do all that stuff you did FOR YOU! he is not the prize, he isn't even a happy meal, imagine the rest of your life: all birthdays being this low effort. leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:41 AM
13

wow, the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:26 AM
32

drop him he's disrespectful, read the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:09 AM
3

Love Shallon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:17 PM
6

hey! maybe you can use this time to find some hobbies you would like to do :) make your life full and interesting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:02 PM
12

He knows she used to like him and stills allows this behavior? He’s keeping her around bc he’s using her feelings to feed his ego and if he treats her like that he treats all women like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:15 PM
53

A loyal man will be loyal whether there’s a pretty girl or not. He’s going to encounter pretty girls besides your friend in the world and if he’s gonna fall for your friend like that than is that even worth it? If she goes along with it why would you want her in your life? Don’t make yourself the police officer who has to “prevent” things like this he’s a grown man he should be able to acknowledge his choices and his morals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:04 AM
17

they have to use a phone number to make an account and link to a social media page that’s at least a year old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:00 AM
22

He’s just wasting your time tbh love yourself and block him girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:59 AM
16

I think just keep enjoying your hobbies and life! you’ll meet those people eventually and it’ll just take some time to introduce/meet new people maybe join a club or something!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:58 AM
13

know your value! have a rich fulfilling life that does not include a man, have hobbies, goals, friends, and a positive outlook on life. know that you don’t need a guy to be happy and I one is treating you poorly you should and can easily drop him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:56 AM
4

Why do women have to teach men to think of women as people? Bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:37 PM
6

Smart!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:36 PM
2

he shared those secrets to get you to feel like you know him so you can share more vulnerable things he can use against you and say why can’t we have sex we know each other so well! if you know that men will do whatever they want if you’re alone stop going to them stop being alone with them that is your part! please protect yourself. get some therapy girl ❤️ work on yourself and have a mechanism in place whenever your mind wanders
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:34 PM
1

Block him he’s wasting your time and he’s proven to be either a LIAR! This is just the start of your relationship too and he’s already showing bad behavior? Bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:26 PM
2

Sounds like someone is just trying to date and have fun before he marries the exact girl his family picked out for him. He’s a user and it’s not your fault, next time check in with yourself about how fast/slow things should be moving in a healthy relationship ie no “our” marriage/baby talk...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:22 PM
8

Being empathetic. Someone who will think about how the other person is feeling. People who are nice to people who offer nothing of value to them: staff, bus drivers, homeless people, the elderly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:10 PM
8

I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:09 PM
2

Thanks! I will keep to my standards :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:20 PM
7

It’s a no, drop him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:20 AM
2

You are stronger than you know! That boy child did not deserve you love and time, take this season to heal and learn about yourself. Love and have compassion for yourself who was doing her best and loved someone deeply. Learn about what a healthy and happy relationship looks like with yourself and do not tolerate when anyone walks in offering anything less than! Block him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:19 AM
5

So sorry that happened to you! Do NOT feel dumb, you were looking for the best in someone because you are that kind of person! And this man preyed on the best part of you, but it’s good you know and ended it now at two years rather than spend two years and one more day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:16 AM
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