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You got me!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 10:38 PM
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Social Influence: This term broadly describes how individuals’ attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors are affected by others in their social network. Behavioral Mimicry: This refers to the tendency for individuals to imitate the behaviors of those around them. Peer Influence: This specifically highlights the impact that peers have on an individual’s decisions and behaviors. Social Modeling: This term emphasizes learning behaviors through observing and imitating others. Emotional Contagion: While more…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 01:07 AM
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Yes, this is my experience as well.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 01:05 AM
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About 50 in a year
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 07:17 PM
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Women, especially good looking ones, are highly valued and sought after. They're like any other commodity, and once they actually realize that, the chances are they try to capitalize on it, one way or the other.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:03 PM
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Confronting somebody without hard evidence is typically a bad idea. Even though you feel so strongly compelled to. It takes a lot of self-discipline to sit back and watch the train wreck until you actually see it derail. My stbxw said that when I confronted her I actually pushed her closer to behaving the way that she did even though I'm 99% certain I'm right. That was the point she started blaming me for everything being paranoid etc. Even though she was pouring all of her time into other peopl…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 03:48 AM
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She synced her phone accounts with the laptop my kids use and they saw the notifications pop up one day and did some sleuthing. Needless to say they saw more than they should have.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:50 PM
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As others have stated here, I think the light switch phenomena is an illusion. In my example, I was comfortable and trusting until I started to pick up on subtle cues. For the longest time I was in complete denial but deep down inside I felt like something was off. In all honesty, I was probably the last to notice as it was my kids who actually clued me into a bunch of her emotional affairs, one of which is 11. Edit: my kid is 11, not her AP
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 11:30 AM
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The chances are that she has been checked out much longer than you realized. People here are right, it's very difficult to win a woman back. Unfortunately, there's a child involved. Fight for yourself and fight for your child but putting hope and effort into a relationship with your wife is probably a lost cause and waste of time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 11:01 PM
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I know this isn't probably the healthiest of advice, but I found a female friend and talked the nastiest shit about stbxw I could. I'm talking to the point where my new friend wanted to beat the shit out of my stbxw, and almost did on a couple occasions. We screwed around went on a few trips, had fun. It was great therapy. Then it all got to be too much for said girlfriend and she up and left me due to drama in my family and marriage. Sometimes you just need to seek revenge, IMHO, but in a cleve…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 10:37 PM
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I'll have to agree with you, but then again it's hard to resist the temptation. I've lost a really strong emotional connection right in the bitter part of my divorce That just compounded everything. I completely lost it for a bit. Well now here I am chasing more tail. I guess I'll never learn haha.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 03:42 PM
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Be very careful about being vulnerable too soon. I'm still not divorced and had a fling/relationship which ended up going south and it made everything absolutely worse.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 04:19 PM
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Good luck my man!
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 01:20 PM
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Just to be very clear it wasn't me that went to jail and it wasn't me that got charged with domestic violence
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 01:09 PM
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I've experienced this anger and I'm currently going through it myself. I just want to stick it to her and stick it to her. Really good. However, I've gotten some advice from people that you don't want to use a negative energy as a fuel source because that will just end up creating negative results. But yes, the anger is real and can be a motivator. Just try not to let it eat you alive
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 12:22 AM
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I also agree that it's best to try to be amicable, but if that is not a possibility then you have to fight like your life depends on it
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 12:21 AM
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I'll give you my bit of advice from first-hand experience. I tried to be amicable with my wife after we fell out of love and I found out she was having emotional and physical affairs. She doesn't work so obviously being the good guy, I let her live in the house. We separated bedrooms etc. Something or somebody got in her head at some point and she just started being the nastiest bitch I've ever seen in my life and assaulted me and my kids and ended up in the hospital and in jail quite a few time…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 12:18 AM
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Ignore those nice guy feelings. I feel guilty for putting my kids through a divorce, but at the end of the day I know it would be worse trying to make it work. Was she nice to you? Does she feel guilty about the way she treated everyone in her life? Sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine. Stay the course, and remind yourself how you got yourself in this position!
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 10:44 PM
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My stbxw is trying to do the same to me, fortunately it's not working, for now. Hopefully you get to a point where you can have a mature, honest conversation. I'm being slandered and lied about, to opposing council, family, friends, and my kids. Your biggest weapon is documentation and evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 01:33 AM
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Congrats!
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 03:30 PM
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Marriage is a social construct that is very old. Years, and I mean years ago there were no dating apps, bars, whatever. Today men and women both have many more social options and will choose them when they see fit.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 07:41 PM
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You'd be setting yourself up for failure, obviously it didn't work out the first time. The definition of insanity is repeating the same action and expecting a different result. I never want to even lay eyes on my stbxw again let alone contemplate being friends with her.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 04:11 PM
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What you need to know is that women are biologically more emotionally intelligent (EQ) than men. The figure I heard was 7 times. It's the way she was born. That means if you and her heard the same joke at 8am, she'd get it by 9, but it'd take you until noon, with regards to emotion. Evolutionarily, women have been the nurturers, because it kept the family together. Father actually did shit. It's a consequence of technology. Wives get lazy and go on apps. Fathers get lazy and game on the PlayStat…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 04:10 PM
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Dream is the correct term. Because that's all it will ever be. Let me tell you about dreams. I had the best dreams when divorcing, and I still am in the process, however the real nightmare starts when you wake up. Get over her and do what's best for your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 12:41 AM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 12:39 AM
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Stay the fuck away from her and divorce her in your heart. Your son is the main priority now. I am not trying to rant, but I see so many posts about how she cheated and they want her back. WHY? She should be dead to you and you should be moving on with your life. That's what I'm doing and it feels great.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 12:38 AM
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I also initiated, there was a whole month where I literally felt close to death. It was a chore to do anything considered regular life. It comes in waves still. I'm really glad I made the decision to divorce her, but seeing what my kids have gone through has been particularly rough, even though living with their mom has been traumatic. Get on a rigid schedule. Wake up early, be places on time or early, live by your calendar. One thing that has helped boost my self esteem is dressing nice. Wear a…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:06 PM
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Try not going to bed angry, maybe clear your head. Might need some therapy, just talk it out and process your anger in a healthy way.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 04:15 PM
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Are there actually death threats or murder involved, or is it contained in your dream? That shit is not to be taken lightly, I know from first hand experience.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 12:45 AM
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Not a lawyer fwiw
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 11:11 PM
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Honestly I needed to lose a few, and still do, so I'm harnessing that energy. It's nice to fit into my old clothes, lol! I'm 40 though so sometimes I do worry about certain cancers, but that's another bridge. Pretty sure it's just stress and the 'divorce diet.'
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 10:06 PM
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Yeah don't abandon your kids or your situation regarding living in Germany. Push through and get shit handled. Be a man and be a father. Don't fuck up because then it's game over. If you go back to the US, how are you going to make sure your kids are good and you're handling your legal situation? Save those thoughts for later, my man, and face this head on. Otherwise you're going to look weak. My first instinct was to leave as well, but with the help of others who have been through this, that's …
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 01:23 AM
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Say nothing, it's only going to be used against you. Keep your mouth shut, you'll look much better.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 01:07 AM
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My stbxw and I started out amicable. We lived together and she even started dating people. 6 months later she was arrested for domestic violence and now can't talk to me due to a court order. Everyone I talked to said it would never work, regarding the living arrangement. Now she's gone and I couldn't be happier. If you are getting advice from close friends or relatives who've been divorced, I'd listen to them. They've been through this, and have experience regarding how these things work out. B…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 11:53 PM
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The struggle is real.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:54 PM
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For a while I thought I had cancer or some shit, lol
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:17 PM
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Oh God and make the same mistake again?
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:16 PM
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They say that men lose weight when divorcing, and women gain. Crazy phenomenon
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:15 PM
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I like to eat meat, always have. Maybe I'll eat some more
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:13 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:11 PM
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Right! I'm not saying it's a bad thing, losing weight is great.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:09 PM
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I am an aspie, and when my wife found out about it (I found out later in life, born in the 80s), she would call me retarded, Asperger's baby, and just make mean jokes. No one has ever been meaner to me in my entire life than my stbxw. It's the people closest to you that tend to hurt you the most.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:05 PM
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Don't get married is the best advice I've ever received. Unfortunately I didn't listen
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 01:56 PM
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I was 250, now I'm closer to 200. 6 months. I didn't mind it that much because I know I was a bit overweight. 6ft
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 12:46 PM
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30 in 2 months? Wow
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 12:13 PM
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I've put a couple new notches in my belt, that's for sure. Thanks for the advice
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 12:01 PM
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She's walking, away from you now. She was just a witch, she was just a witch 🧹. - Stevie Knicks
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 11:35 AM
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Don't marry down, if you do she's going to crawl up your back. Don't marry up, because she's going to smother you with her privileges. You'll know true love when you find it, but don't get married. Why would you want to put yourself through that again? My advice, ymmv. From a jaded man. You can do what you want to, but IMHO monogamy is a lie.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 11:33 AM
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"Where have all the cowboys gone?" - Paula Cole
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 08:24 PM
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Not sure why it made you sad. My stbxw and I were married 15 years and I found her on a dating app within a month of us agreeing to 'separate'. I was happy to know she was looking for her next 'soulmate' because that meant she was going to be leaving the house. 30+ guys later, I realized she wasn't finding anyone, and that made me sad because I knew she'd be coming after me to pay for an apartment.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:40 PM
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Anti depressants made things worse for me. Panic attacks got worse, anxiety increased exponentially. I ended up getting a low dose prescription of Xanax. Just don't abuse it and it's your friend.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 09:45 PM
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Paternity test immediately
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 11:35 PM
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Call the police next time she threatens you, your kids, or physically hurts anyone. Make it public record. I did and she now has a no contact order, that if she violated it, she would face up to a year in jail. Don't end up on dateline.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 10:07 PM
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Document everything. Hopefully she fucks up somehow. Keeping your emotions in check and your mouth closed should be your game plan. Find a good lawyer and go on a war path. You have an uphill battle, my man.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 08:01 PM
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Do not move out. I tried being nice to my stbxw as well. That ended up with my children and I getting death threats from her. Let her hang herself, figuratively. Grey rocking her is going to drive her mad.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 07:06 PM
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Why would you want to give her anything? I'm fighting for full custody. Talk to your lawyer about trying to prove that she CAN ABSOLUTELY work, isn't disabled, etc. She wants to put you out in the gutter, quit being so nice.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 07:03 PM
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Talking to that stupid bitch and letting her have any impact on my life.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 01:00 AM
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25k is miniscule compared to what she wants in child support and alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 06:04 PM
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A judge grey rocked her for me. No contact of any kind
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 12:00 AM
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I'm documenting everything and forwarding screenshots of communication to my lawyer. I'm over the shock phase and the depression phase, I believe I'm in the anger phase of divorce and I'm on a war path.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 03:52 PM
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4 and 15, but it's documented that she's threatened to kill us all. If family court gives her any leeway I'm going to the end of the earth to make this as public as possible, and expose not just her, but the system.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 03:45 PM
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Exactly. She wants my main vehicle which I need to transport me and my kids around. She wants overnights, which I don't trust because night time is when she gets drunk high and abusive.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 03:37 PM
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That's complicated. Would I marry her again? We had good times but lately she has been a complete garbage fire.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 06:32 AM
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I'm definitely afraid she's going to do something. My concerns have been voiced to the police, CPS, the states attorney, and my lawyer. She is a basket case
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 06:29 AM
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Thanks brother, I know these facts but it's against all common decency to be this way. I'm not going to do anything dumb because it's all on the line. I'm doing everything I should be doing, kids school, kids health, etc. She knows how to trigger me and is doing it vicariously via her lawyer. The best revenge is a life well lived.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 01:10 AM
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Thanks, we're not even to mediation yet but I hope she purgers herself in trial
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 01:04 AM
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She's legally not allowed to talk to me due to a protective order. She's violated it via 3rd party communication several times but the states attorney continues to decline to prosecute. This was via her lawyer to my lawyer. I'm going to refuse all of her demands and try and fuck her over in court. She has multiple criminal cases, a DV charge, spent time in jail, mental hospital, and local hospital due to her crazy outbursts. I have video evidence of her threatening to beat my kids, kill me, poli…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 12:44 AM
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My stbxw has told my kids that she will shoot my "girlfriend" if she sees her. At the same time she's out banging everything and everyone. The other woman really does strike a nerve with her. Just try to minimize contact and the drama that comes with it and you'll drive her nuts. Cheers
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 12:19 AM
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One of the reasons I stayed in my marriage so long was to take care of her kid from her previous relationship. Felt bad for the little dude. He's grown now and works hard. When you marry a single mom you also marry her children. 15 years later and her kid is on his own making a living for himself and I'm moving on with my life. In all honesty he was a little shit at first but turned out to be a fine young man. It's a selfless act.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 12:12 AM
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Thank you for the advice. I'm upset because her lawyers demands are unreasonable, and the letter was riddled with lies that, if presented in court, would make her look horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 11:05 PM
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I'm feeling like it's going to trial. I have a lot of supporting evidence in my favor, including audio and video of her physical abuse towards me and my kids
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 11:04 PM
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Yes, it was through her lawyer, but I have reported a breach of the order once when she reached out. Nothing came from it. It's frustrating
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 11:03 PM
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That means you're doing something right. Keep it up
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 10:29 PM
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I've heard, and experienced, that the magic number for women to go nuts is around 40. That's when they start having hormonal changes before they go through menopause. My stbxw is 42 and absolutely crazy. She was always a little crazy but lately she's an absolute dumpster fire. Sleeping/screwing everyone and anyone. I finally realized she's also a narcissist and has been trying basically everything she can to ruin my life. Financially, pitting the kids against me, etc. Be the bigger person, I und…
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 12:16 AM
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Red flags being tossed up in the air everywhere. Move on. Not everyone is compatible even when they're attracted to each other, emotionally or physically. Trust me I know, my wife of 15 years just flipped a switch (probably sooner than I realized) and started being a huge whore. Dozens of men. I won't touch her or ever want her back. I suggest you move on, like yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 09:14 PM
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Love is a strong word but yeah this group has helped me immensely. Hope you pull through sooner rather than later. Today was rough but here I am, single dad, navigating a divorce. I like to think of it like boot camp. It's not about you, it's about the whole regiment. Put in the effort, the work, the blood, the sweat, the tears, and you get your reward. You have to teach your kids to do the same and then you'll be even stronger. The enemy is closer to you than most of your allies.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:07 AM
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I get it too. My stbxw has threatened to kill me and the kids multiple times.. more than I can count on my hands. When she finally laid hands on us I called the police and they took her away. She originally had a protective order prohibiting contact with all of us, but some idiot judge lifted the part where she can't be around the kids. We'll see about that. Being a single dad is tough, but doable. You have to get into a routine and follow it religiously. Teach your kids good values, my guy. Oh …
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 04:46 PM
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Not sure, mine didn't. But I've fucked up a great many good relationships where I could tell they loved me. Some of my biggest regrets involve not appreciating a good woman who loved me.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 12:31 AM
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I'm wavering in and out of mine, even though I filed and wanted the divorce, and I'm ecstatic she's gone. I have some of the best dreams lately, but when I wake up is when the nightmare begins. People here say the gym helps, physical exercise, getting together with men and talking, seeing other women, you name it. Mine just persists day after day. I come here to read and vent. That helps, it's like a form of therapy. Just remember you're not alone and don't give up. Read the stories about men wh…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 04:00 PM
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Times have changed, haven't they?
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 12:47 AM
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True words spoken here. Monogamy is basically dead. Why would you want to put yourself through it. Hard lessons learned.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 12:45 AM
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From my experience women (and men) try to level up as much as they can. I think it's an evolutionary behavior. The one thing I learned is that I don't feel like monogamy is a natural concept for primates like us. We're constantly in competition and females gravitate towards the winner. Even the winners lose so what's stopping everyone from fucking everyone else. Might be an unpopular opinion and ymmv
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 11:17 PM
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Oh the lipstick club. Yeah I agree with the comments, ignore them, do not engage in hostilities, and document and/or record everything if legal. You now basically have a few more women you need to grey rock.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 06:00 AM
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Just be yourself, if she likes you and you approach her the right way, things will click. Don't try and make things work that aren't meant to be. Dating apps are pretty shitty IMHO. Make a pass on the woman you meet in the grocery store, bar, wherever. If you don't get the vibe, move on and don't waste your time.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:38 AM
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That sucks, and hindsight is 20/20. From what I've read up on I'm gathering that women make these plans years in advance. I also have seen a common theme that husbands are giving their wives everything they could ever want in life and that is not the way. The women end up getting spoiled and just get hungry for more. Lessons learned, hopefully everything works out
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:33 AM
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I know all about it. Wife of 15 years went nuts, threatened to kill me and my kids multiple times, got a dv charge and now has a no contact order. She wants to take everything she can because she's too fucking lazy to work. What's going on with these women?
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:23 AM
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Modern day thieves
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:20 AM
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How much of the mortgage do you pay you stupid bitch? Nothing? Well you have your answer, now fuck off
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:19 AM
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Jesus wtf that's the most asinine thing I've heard lately
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 09:08 PM
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If she's putting hands on you, call the cops and make a report. It'll help you get a protective order now and help your case later. It's a win win.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 06:04 PM
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Can't wait to get back to golfing
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 12:26 AM
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I definitely feel the panic, as I lost my job soon after filing. Now I'm up in debt to my eyeballs. Not how I envisioned things turning out. Every day is a struggle to get up, lost 40lbs so far, going on month 6.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 10:17 PM
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Most likely fishing for a reaction, for whatever motive she has. It could be emotional, legal, whatever. Don't give her an ounce.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 10:09 PM
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Turn her volume off, don't take non essential calls or texts. Harden your heart and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 09:04 PM
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You can dm me brother. I'm in a similar situation. It's not easy being depressed and betrayed. I know what it's like, we're all here for you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 01:56 AM
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I went through that. My stbxw had no problems with dating apps, actually found dozens of men but none who wanted to stay around. I talked to a couple women on the apps but nothing came from it. Your best bet is just approaching women you feel the spark with, they genuinely want it but are waiting for you to make the first move. I scratched the itch and made a "friend" but life is too complicated right now and I'm embracing the loneliness. I find it to be a comforting feeling now that I'm over th…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 08:26 PM
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Thanks, it's tough and steep
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 11:32 PM
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How long ago was the divorce finalized? I'm in the throws of mine right now, but although the urge to date is there, I'm not sure I ever want to be in a relationship again. My stbxw wounded me to my very core and I'm not sure I want to open myself up to that again. He may be guarding himself but it's impossible to know without directly asking him.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 10:30 PM
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No absolutely not, god knows where she's been or who she's been with. I won't even sleep on my old mattress knowing just one incident where she brought someone home and screwed them, in my house, on my bed. That's like rolling the dice and raw dogging a side street hooker at that point, fella.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 04:43 PM
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We're here for you. I've been through shit the past 2 years and I've been there. It's worth fighting for
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 10:33 PM
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I would go, in a heartbeat. Get your mind away from your divorce situation, and quit feeling guilty about it (my assumption)..
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 01:23 AM
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Good luck, my experience is that her mind is going to change as soon as she has a conversation with her friends, family, and lawyers. I wanted to be amicable, that has gotten me nowhere.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 12:23 AM
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Take some grief classes or just research the stages of grief. The first part is bad, the gut feelings and paranoia, betrayal, suspicion, then hurt, then angry, then finally.. over it. I'm over it but sometimes I still have anger about what she has done
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 12:18 AM
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Oh yes the old Jeckyll and Hyde.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 12:10 AM
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Try the jock itch
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 10:29 PM
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OP needs to cut ties and run
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:44 PM
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Yeah, the 14 year itch is even worse
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:43 PM
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Sorry you had to go through that
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:39 PM
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Good call, not my state, edited my post
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 11:29 PM
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I've been through that, we're separated and not together but those little feelings can creep up. Deal with it in a healthy way
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 05:58 PM
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This happened to me. Married 15 years, and for 14 of them I never had an ounce of suspicion. It's like she caught a bug. Now she's out, 41f, living like she's a teenager. Drinking, fucking everything, weed (no judgement there), but all of that is just the tip of the iceberg. She's completely irrational and probably actually insane at this point. It's really dicey. Not only do you have to worry about financials, but your kids, your property, and everything else she can fuck up. "You're like Midas…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 05:12 PM
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She was, Jesus approved
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 10:16 PM
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I filed, so technically it was my fault too
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 05:31 PM
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Yeah my stbxw found the "love of her life" multiple times after we separated. Still waiting for someone to scoop her up and take her away
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 03:08 PM
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My ass, and maybe I'll just die in my sleep
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 01:04 PM
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She'll never admit it, but as soon as we separated she openly started fucking guys left and right. I should get tested
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 12:22 PM
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No shit, how do you get kicked out of your own house? Call your lawyer and then the police. Take your shit back
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 07:49 PM
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Still living with stbxw. It's hard, it'll get better. Hang in there just keep your headspace clean.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 01:02 AM
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His kids?
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 02:56 AM
3

This is actually priceless
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 10:19 PM
1

Working on it
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:30 AM
3

She hasn't threatened to kill you yet, or gotten CPS called, or wrecked your vehicle after taking it without your permission, you're doing better than me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:27 AM
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The only regret I have is marrying that stupid whore in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:24 AM
2

You're only human. She said she wanted out right? Mine did too and when I finally gave it to her and she actually wanted to fight for it after I served her. Sometimes it's best to just start over fresh. I am and I've never been more broken and sad and lonely in my life, but if it's what has to happen, so be it. Fuck dating apps, for sure. I found someone when I wasn't looking and we're taking it slow, but having fun, and it's a good outlet for me. And not on a dating app, just out running an err…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 11:06 PM
1

Hang in there guy, it will get better just don't give up. I've been crying all morning and I'm sure she hasn't shed a tear.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 05:38 PM
6

Never again
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 01:26 AM
1

Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 11:05 AM
1

Yeah everyone is saying that.. ugh!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 12:27 AM
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Fuck I wish she'd move out tbh, but she's waiting for finalization and her child support payments to be able to afford a place. Don't let her get in your head, be the best dad you can be, and prove her wrong. That's the best revenge. And yes, this holiday season fucking sucked really bad. It was a total ass beating with depression, frustration, worries, and where I am located, cold seasonal depression. Oh yeah I also got the flu and COVID. Merry fucking Christmas to me! I'm over it now but it wa…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 08:42 PM
2

This makes sense. Don't mix your love for your kids with the love you used to have with your ex. It's difficult because they remind you of her and your good times together. If you're truly not hurt then you wouldn't be curious. But you also need to make sure your kids are safe with her future partners, I get it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 03:04 AM
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Your love lives should be closely guarded for a number of reasons. For the reason you stated, feelings. There are 3 people involved, at least, in this situation. Any one of you could do something stupid out of pure emotion. If you've both moved on then there's really no logical reason to care, but obviously you have some latent feelings for her. It's just best not to talk to her about anything related to dating, yours or hers, because it's just an ignition point for something bad to blow up. Goi…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 01:23 AM
1

Serotonin receptors or something like that.. shrug
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:15 PM
1

Not so much limp dick.. Unable to achieve orgasm, I've gone for hours on Wellbutrin.. when I went off it I turned right into a minute man
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:06 PM
2

And sexual side effects
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 05:23 PM
1

Yes, even micro dosing has positive effects
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 05:23 PM
2

I believe she's feeding me info to get a reaction out of me, one way or another. Or trying to make me jealous. I'm the beginning of our separation she was out dating and fucking while I stayed home with the kids. It made me feel like a cuck so one day I hit on a woman while I was out running an errand and it turned into a pretty cool thing. Much less lonely, but a lot more drama with stbxw actually getting angry and jealous with me. I might just cut everything off soon and let her be a whore on …
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 01:19 AM
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She started rapid firing the right swipe and I just ended up getting lonely and jealous. Found someone I like and we're just taking it super slow.. probably not going to last long but I just had to get it out of my system
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 03:48 AM
1

I think the definition is "cuck"
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 08:31 PM
3

Good luck, Patrick
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 08:28 PM
2

No, fuck forgiveness. Those are weak thoughts. She did you dirty and if you give her a free pass you're a panzy. At the same time don't let it get in your head and destroy you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 08:09 PM
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You're going to process everything in phases. I recently took a parenting course and it talked about this specifically. It's called grief. Being angry is natural, and becoming bitter is very easy to do. Be careful because I'm actually right there with you right now. Anybody can become angry-that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way-that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. - Ari…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 12:28 AM
1

I haven't read any of the other comments before responding. I'm so surprised that you guys are so emotionally attached to these women. I have 5 kids with my stbxw, and I have 0 desire to get back with her. I have 0 regrets filing for divorce. I love my kids and it's the only reason I'm fighting. How do you let a woman control your emotions and heart like that? I'm genuinely wondering.. I never had a real connection with my wife so that may be the reason. How do you let a woman control you to the…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 08:32 PM
1

Sorry but being a stahd is a huge risk. I feel sorry for you. You hopefully did everything for your kids and now you're being screwed over. We're here for you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 09:11 PM
2

You only need 1 kidney
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 09:10 PM
1

And then it's all of a sudden our fault! God I hope more men join this sub and grab life by the balls and stand up for themselves. I'm filing, she's demented, I'm going to hit her with everything I can, and she's still probably going to win. Don't give in fellas, don't stop fighting
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 09:08 PM
1

First, I'm not God. Second, I don't know. But I ask myself the same question. This shit sucks. Why do they have to be so insane and unreasonable. Can't wait to be divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 07:22 PM
41

Lawyer up and quit giving her so much ammunition my man.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 07:46 PM
7

This
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 07:45 PM
1

Don't move out, don't let anyone move in. It's not over until it's over. Then you can do what you want. Date other people whatever you need to do on the downlow, but live like you're married or separated until it's final. You're just setting yourself up for failure in more ways than one.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 08:21 PM
1

Thanks for your opinions. I'm not going to lie, I'm borderline suicidal over everything. I'm not going to because I don't want to hurt my kids but this season is the worst. Thanks again
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 08:07 PM
2

I met my stbxw on a site, so that tells you something. I'm almost 40 and here's my experience. You'll eventually talk to some women on there, but they're probably painted rocks.. ymmv. My stbxw has met plenty of men off of dating sites in the past two months. She has dozens of men reaching out to her daily. She's even fucked one. I am not putting a ton of effort into online dating and I mostly swipe left because I'm super picky. Men have an uphill battle, women have a golden platter. It's just t…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 02:42 PM
2

Do not do it
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 10:22 PM
1

RUN THE FUCK AWAY NOW
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 10:13 PM
4

No, her soulmate(s) did not last long and she's still looking. Hopefully she finds someone soon!
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 04:16 PM
4

Not my cup of tea but whatever floats your boat
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 04:33 PM
4

Talking to women I have a strong emotional connection with. Golfing. Making as much money as I possibly can. Not necessarily in that order.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 04:21 PM
1

It's easy when she's a child psycho bitch from hell
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 02:58 AM
1

First Thanksgiving separated, took the kids to see family. She's probably banging someone back home and IDGAF can't wait to be officially single.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 01:33 AM
1

Grey rock.. do it now..
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 05:03 PM
3

You know yourself more than anyone else does.. make yourself a success story, you don't need her to do that
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 07:56 PM
2

There's so much more than just the word divorce. Feelings of betrayal, abandonment, abuse, insults, you name it. At the same time you married this woman and expected to have such a happy and meaningful marriage, so you're going to be confused and feel defeated. Don't look back, there are good women out there and now you're equipped with the knowledge you've gleaned from having a bad marriage/relationship. Maybe get a prescription for an anti depressant.. some stbxw women like to see you down bec…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 07:31 PM
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I know the feeling and you're right. Even though I 39m initiated the divorce process, there's so much more underneath the decision. I am finally coming out of the deepest depression I've ever experienced, and she even wanted to work on it. I'll never let that happen, and meeting other women has really given me the boost I need just to believe that there's still real love out there.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 05:55 PM
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I'll tell you what I would tell myself because I'm in a similar situation. There are different types of love. You still love her and have a kid together so you'll always be connected on that level. But it's not romantic love, or the passion you're craving. That's why you're feeling guilty, your kid is involved as well. Honestly it sounds like you're incompatible. That's basically it. Don't get confused regarding PTSD and your experiences, and her just being cold to you. This isn't your fault, so…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 05:47 PM
2

Do not do it. I'm the same way but be strong and find another woman, but make sure you don't get attached.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 01:15 AM
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When my stbxw was physically abusive to me, I never called. I only called when she was threatening to kill me and the kids, and finally she hit one of them. If you don't think it's going to get better then get out now. 11k is nothing compared to what you're going to be left with if you stay with her longer.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 07:37 PM
0

All I have to say is, prenuptial agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 04:27 PM
2

Good for you! Go get some
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 03:05 PM
1

Yeah after feeling this I see why people cheat. It's a fucking rush
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 04:48 PM
1

My new partner does not want commitment, and has expressed that she never wants to get married. She doesn't even care that I'm talking to other women
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 04:29 PM
3

Oh most definitely!
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 04:28 PM
1

I understand, I'm 39m the one who's filing on her 41f but it still hurts like hell some days. The woman she became, what we threw away, the kids witnessing everything, money down the drain, being betrayed. I'm finally seeing another woman, and taking it very slow, but it's the breath of fresh air I needed, even if it's not going anywhere. She's good company. Texting a few other women who are options for later maybe. I'm not recommending that your outlet is women, but the satisfaction I get from …
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/23 01:05 AM
1

Well I'm not contributing to my 401k until after finalized anyway.. might as well spend it!
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 07:36 PM
1

I would want to know, and if it is an open marriage situation then no harm done anyway. How did you find out? Do you have evidence to present to AP's wife?
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 07:34 PM
1

The goal is to have one for every day of the week, and just have fun with it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 06:01 PM
1

I really dgaf lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 04:28 PM
1

Not trying to catch feelings, going to take a break from her until this weekend. We both have opened up about being really careful, and just make it about having fun, no relationship
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 04:08 PM
1

Yeah she's already moved past him and onto someone younger.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 04:04 PM
2

The confidence he's projecting, that shit just might actually work
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 03:53 PM
1

It was hard at the start because it felt super unfair to me, she started dating earlier than I did. Now it's just fine, but talking about the divorce it's easy to start battling.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 03:39 PM
1

I've already moved on and so has she, we're open with each other because we don't want to be nasty about shit and genuinely want each other to be happy and we have to coordinate things like who watches the kids. We're still living together but separate bedrooms, no physical contact, just roommates co-parenting.. not typical, and but sustainable, but it is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 03:12 PM
1

Yeah it's very unconventional. I'm careful what I share with her
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:38 PM
1

Incel vibes
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 11:48 PM
0

You give bad advice.. you think being abused is a choice? Shows how intelligent you are
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 11:12 PM
1

Thanks mate
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 11:10 PM
1

You are an idiot
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 11:03 PM
3

Holy shit go back to church. Stbxw has had over a dozen men in the past few months, and you're telling me I don't even get one? Get out of here with that bullshit, it's not competition it's called finding a connection. You sound like real fun
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 10:59 PM
1

Oh hell no, never getting married again. I've had conversations with this woman and she does not want a relationship and said she's never getting married. That is sexy to me hahaha.. this is honestly just more than likely a fling but IDGAF it's been 15 years of emotional neglect
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 10:44 PM
2

Yeah that's the mutual understanding we have
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:36 PM
12

Yeah I could do that but my libido is higher than giraffe pussy
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:31 PM
3

I'll do what I want thanks for the advice though
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:28 PM
1

It's called evening the score
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:25 PM
4

Not sure whats up with you but talking to a woman and having a little fun doesn't equate to simping.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:18 PM
2

Danger is my middle name.. and no simping here, just two adults exercising their options
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:13 PM
3

Actually I haven't drained my nuts yet, it's more emotional, talking, and just appreciating her attention
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:00 PM
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Doesn't matter to me, I'm talking to other women as well
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 08:28 PM
2

She can't get pregnant 🥳🎆
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 08:05 PM
3

No strings attached and she doesn't want to move fast at all.. super chill situation
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 08:04 PM
3

Exactly! It's not even a relationship, more like a friendship. She enjoys my sense of humor and I appreciate her attention to me.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 07:33 PM
1

Exactly this.. but it's cheap to her, when we find someone new it's absolutely priceless
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 07:16 PM
2

Thanks, better than being lonely and feeling betrayed because stbxw is on her 20th guy practically. This is a lot of fun and there's no commitment! Why does everything have to be a 'relationship'?
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 07:02 PM
10

Yeah I am starting to have that panic feeling that I'm moving too fast or she's going to reject me. I probably do need some therapy
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 06:50 PM
2

Yeah she says she doesn't want to ever get married, hell yeah! I don't know how long it will last but I haven't been this high in a long time!
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 06:46 PM
5

Oh I understand that! Neither of us are even remotely thinking about commitment.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 06:24 PM
3

Also maybe try and find a woman friend you connect with and take things sloooow
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 04:01 PM
4

Maybe try getting some anti depressants, and if you're drinking, quit immediately!
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:40 PM
5

You are valid for feeling betrayed but you do need to move on. If I were you I would have a few female friends she doesn't need to know about. Even the score
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 01:19 AM
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Sounds like you've made your decision. Good luck to you and the kids
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 10:43 PM
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Jesus fucking Christ do not poke your kids with that shit. I know someone who died of a blood clot after getting the second booster. I've had COVID multiple times and the flu is much worse. Don't listen to the brainwashed bots that are telling you it's safe. Those are the same people that said they wouldn't take it because Donald Trump fast tracked it. Morons!
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 10:14 PM
2

Never getting married again lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 02:45 PM
2

My lawyer had her served papers via law enforcement, hand delivered
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 04:52 PM
2

Sounds slightly psychopathic. Good luck on your divorce
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 04:15 PM
1

Even better, case reports
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 04:25 AM
8

Hitting your husband and children, threatening to kill us is though
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 11:02 PM
6

More and more young couples are not getting married because they're observing divorced in the older generation. I'm also questioning monogamy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 12:37 AM
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You're right, kids are resilient. I'm a product of divorce and honestly when I found out my parents were splitting I immediately understood and had peace. What really affects a child negatively is when the divorce gets nasty and they witness fighting and get manipulated and weaponized by their feuding parents. My experience, ymmv. My kids were actually relieved when I told them I'm divorcing their mother, because of the hostility and crazy they have been witnessing. Unfortunately it's starting t…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 06:12 PM
2

Thank you and hang in there
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:20 AM
3

2k isn't bad, mine was 5. Kick that cheating bitch to the curb man. Good luck. Mine is nasty-ish but it could be worse. I filed on her and she knows I have a mountain of evidence if it goes to trial. She's just playing a long game and waiting for me to fuck up somehow. Meanwhile she openly goes out on dates and gets creampied, and tries to use that info to make me upset. If it weren't for the the kids, and her having no income it'd be over already, in a worse way.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:36 PM
1

If it's worth money, sell it. Otherwise chuck it somewhere in a body of water
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 05:02 PM
3

Sounds like thrill seeking behavior, which isn't what a long lasting relationship is built on. If you suspect something is going on with her and one of her male friends, it's possible she's seeking another high. Not trying to worry you or put ideas in your head, but trust your gut.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 08:48 PM
1

Was there an initial attraction? Are you just staying together for the kids? Are either of you suspected of cheating? Sorry but this just screams mutual incompatibly. If you keep going down this road it's going to end badly. Either work on getting back to your groove or work on hitting the highway. Just my two cents based on what I've experienced.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 06:31 PM
1

Buy a lottery ticket
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 08:54 PM
1

It's called being a bachelor! You don't have to be alone and single at the same time! I'm looking forward to the freedom myself
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 03:05 AM
4

Ok chat gpt
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:47 PM
4

Stop loving her, she doesn't deserve it
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:45 PM
2

Besides your kids, what's it matter at this point? You need to let it go. I'm not even finalized yet and my wife has been raw dogged at least twice. She told me it happened and how good it felt, im sure she wanted to get under my skin so I'd do something irrational and give her ammo. Not happening! Wall up, don't let it affect you. You're 100% right about the safety of your kids though. Maybe hire a PI, snoop on her socials, etc. Or demand she tells you who he is, but don't harass the poor guy, …
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 06:27 PM
3

She's worried about the baggage. Rightfully so. Your connection to her (your ex) but also the damage she can inflict on her as well. You said you're over her but she can still play your strings.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 11:54 AM
0

Anger is a tool used by those who know how to hold it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 09:25 PM
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Yes, I went through the same and I'll tell you one or two things. Women generally have a higher EQ than men so be prepared to be manipulated. Anger is a natural response to being betrayed. It's how you deal with it that makes you a man. I know this sounds counter intuitive, but as soon as you can forgive her and move on, the better you're going to be. But it's a dicey game. You're going to get upset again, just don't fuck up. The moment you lose your cool and give her ammo for her attorneys, you…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 09:20 PM
1

Best advice
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 02:18 AM
2

Emotional intelligence
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 09:42 PM
1

She's counting on that, do you think she feels the same way? Fuck no she doesn't, be stronger. It hurts at first but you need to stay at home and document everything. Don't make false claims but don't hesitate to call her in to the police when she breaks the law. Good luck, I know what it is like treading thin ice.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 09:41 PM
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Yes, red flags will become much more apparent than the first time. Also I'll add that it's an order of magnitude easier for a woman to make connections than it is for most men. I'm sure there are more reasons but these are the two thoughts that came to mind.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 07:11 PM
1

Sent you a DM
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 04:57 PM
1

Gatekeeping trauma. I've been dealing with this for a number of years.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 09:56 AM
3

/feels better about himself/
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 12:40 AM
3

You mean your ex wife was in love with a married man? Shocker! 😂
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 12:34 AM
1

Honestly, it doesn't hurt me 😅
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 06:10 PM
2

I mean we agreed to be separated and don't consider ourselves married.. just a piece of paper situation. And unfortunately we have kids in the house and she doesn't work, so we depend on her for a lot. I'm getting the house put our agreement. Just waiting on the process so she can GTFO and move on with her life.. I'm already over her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 05:54 PM
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Yep I told her I'm happy for her. Earlier in the evening she was showing me all of her video evidence of me being passed out after mixing xan and booze, was super depressed last week from everything. Grey rock from here on out
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 10:10 AM
9

She had a few drinks and got loose with her lips. She's pissed I filed and probably wants to provoke me into getting emotional upset angry and doing something stupid. I'm smarter than that
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 09:47 AM
4

At the same time it might incriminate her, so please tell
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 08:32 AM
16

She's off the hinge and we're living together. She opened up to me probably trying to hurt me, but it didn't work
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 06:11 AM
23

Yeah I'm going to be much more guarded after what I heard tonight
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 05:05 AM
1

I understand what you mean about panic. Been having a lot of those panic moments lately. Thanks for the encouragement
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 04:11 AM
2

I'm not even divorced and my wife is dating. I checked out the online scene and didn't like it so I'm actively not looking for anyone. Just trying to focus on myself and situation. Do you feel like you've worked on yourself so that you can be a strong person in a new relationship?
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 12:11 AM
1

One thing that helped me wake up better, is not going to bed angry. That shit will creep into your dreams, give you nightmares, and then wake up and manifest in your next day
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 12:21 AM
3

Sounds like OP is still somewhat hanging on to the woman he first met, who sounds like a decent person. But that person is no longer there and needs to run before she does something that puts peoples lives in jeopardy. I know because it's happening to me right now. Medical bills, a wrecked vehicle, talking to countless men on her phone. Once a man can cut the emotional tether between him and an extremely unstable woman, he'll experience a level of freedom he has been desperately craving since sh…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 12:19 AM
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The woman you date is not the woman you marry. The woman you marry is not the woman you divorce. You're finally almost past moving on. Don't lose that feeling and drive to start over, emotionally and financially. Everyone I talk to tells me that it gets better with time. I served my wife papers almost a month ago, and she's been on multiple dates, going on one tonight as a matter of fact. There are still remnants of feelings for her built up over 15 years of life together, but I can't imagine wa…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 12:14 AM
3

I think the term is technically "painted rock"
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 12:23 AM
1

Yeah she's high on the hot/crazy matrix. You bring a very valid point that no one has mentioned yet. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 02:55 PM
1

Yeah I clean up nice, and I have a lot of respect for judges. Better start practicing saying "your honor"
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 10:05 PM
5

I do not, I'm squeaky clean
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 08:18 PM
2

Yeah I was vague about what exactly I'm nervous over. It's definitely custody, alimony, and child support. My lawyer wrote up the summons with me getting 100% since she has been mentally ill lately and got CPS involved when she hit one of our kids, cops, paramedics. I have evidence of her threatening me and herself. However she doesn't work, is a stay at home mom. She is not liking how the summons was drafted but I'm not paying for her to get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 08:05 PM
0

No there's no chance this goes that far
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 07:54 PM
11

Yeah I'm not quite there yet, that's how you get killed when the husband finds out
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 04:43 PM
12

In all of the research I've done after my wife had an emotional affair, I found a really surprising statistic online that 87% of women polled in this survey would cheat if it means they were never caught. Cheating stats are kind of depressing.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 04:14 PM
0

That's called wasting your life for the sake of others opinions. Sorry to tell you but chances are she's already moved on, been unfaithful. That's my experience anyway. I say go!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:43 AM
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My friend.. I haven't even served papers yet and she's been on two dates in the past two days. They get into a mode where it's a chess game to them, emotionally. Sounds like you're still in love, attached, or jealous. Let all that go and start over.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 03:22 AM
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Ended up putting down the retainer money. Wish me luck fellas. She's getting served soon
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 02:55 AM
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No but she's talking to a counselor
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:32 PM
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Yeah she has multiple personalities.. when the angry part comes out you'd better run
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:14 PM
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So you want to pay for both of your living arrangements? If you leave your house and get your own place, she's going to get alimony, child support if you have kids, and you have to support yourself. My initial thought was to leave as well but you have to disregard the flight instinct and bunker down in your own house. I hope you have evidence. If she threatened you when she's drinking you need to call the police. And DON'T TELL HER WHAT YOU'RE DOING. Hang in there, it's the hardest thing I've ev…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:39 AM
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If I leave the house, they will see it as abandonment and she'll have a better case for taking or even staying at the house. I feel somewhat safe right now but I'm staying in another room and sleeping behind a locked door. I know I'm rolling the dice but she's sober right now and seems back to normal. Unfortunately it's going to take a couple days for the process to see it's way through. She knows that the police forwarded their report to the states attorney and is working on getting therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:29 AM
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Yes, I'm talking with a lawyer tomorrow. She hit my daughter in a blind fit of rage and has a case open with the states attorney. If I don't do something now I'm liable for what happens next. She's medicated, tired, and nice right now, but one day, probably soon, she's going to go buy some wine and split off into another personality again. Wish me luck
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:16 AM
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I'm going to pay the retainer, $5k, with my next paycheck. Might have to skip a mortgage payment but there are programs for that. Just going to have to suck it up for a bit. I already ordered ramen from Amazon. Also she's very stubborn and doesn't want to leave the comfort of her own home. It's going to take a protective order to do that
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:09 AM
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I make too much in my state. I called them and they are way overworked and under staffed, but I don't meet the income criteria unfortunately even though I'm cash poor. Raising 5 kids with a wife who hasn't worked in 5 years
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:09 AM
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I have an appointment with an advocate on Friday, phone call with lawyer tomorrow morning
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 10:59 PM
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No, we have no support. I looked at getting a hotel room last night but everyone I talked to said they were booked. She can't have alcohol, and is aware of how dire the situation is. She's back to normal and taking meds the doctors gave her. Unfortunately I am rolling the dice until the next episode and I believe her when she says she's going to behave. She has a pending case with the states attorney which she's taking very seriously. I just have to stay home with the kids and wait for the proce…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 10:58 PM
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I know this.. everyone is saying it. I am tip toeing around someone with dissociative identity disorder and the advocate doesn't have time until Friday. Unfortunately everything takes time. She is committed to no alcohol or so she says.. since it makes things worse. Normally she's not super crazy and we can manage but I never know what's coming next.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 07:37 PM
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I have a tendency to be the same way. It sounds like you felt like you were taking advantage of her even though she wanted it, due to you not being connected to her. I got some post nut clarity after sexting a woman I'm talking to online, but my desire to connect at that level has me still pursuing. Also my wife and I never truly connected on that level so once I found it again it was cloud 9. You definitely need to open up to people, and I find it better to talk to complete strangers on the int…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 05:59 PM
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All of them
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 02:55 PM
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Yeah I do
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 11:45 AM
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The good news is I'm broke so she can't take that much. The bad news is that I'll probably always be broke now because I'll be paying thousands every month to this psycho
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 10:34 AM
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My daughter already told me that she's talking to one of the men and saying I'm the one being abusive, when she's the aggressive one. I feel like if I don't get ahead of the ball I'm going to get screwed. The problem is that I just don't have any money, I value my children and really like her family. She's just turned into this huge bitch that I can't stand and cheated on me emotionally, and maybe even physically although she denies being capable. So to answer your question, I feel like someone …
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 10:33 AM
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It's complicated, she used to be great, lately she has a problem with everyone in the home. The kids are getting sick of her shit and complain all the time to me about her. It was actually my kids that found her messages, including dick pics and her wanting to have sex with one of the men. This happened today.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 10:17 AM
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