Weight loss while divorcing

Comprehensive-Kick28 · 2024-04-23T23:01:09+00:00

Yup lost 25lbs before my mother and sister intervened

awaythrow-8675309 · 2024-04-23T21:44:58+00:00

I would think totally normal. When I was going through the separation the weight melted off me. I was actually making huge life changes with diet and exercise in the midst of it, so initially it was really good until it just kept dropping and I was like "wait a minute". Coincidentally she was on ozempic too and she lost a ton of weight when I last saw her. I thought to myself, "my god she is going to become a stick if she continues on ozempic" but despite her being the one who cheated and initiated the divorce I now realize she too was going through her own stress and losing weight from that as well (on top of the ozempic and shitty diet). I saw a picture of her recently and it seems like her weight loss was temporary and she's kind of back to her original weight (maybe just a little lighter) before the ozempic.

All that to say is...anecdotally, this is pretty tough on anyone and not everyone deals with this level of ongoing stress. Sure there are horrible things in life but divorce can have serious longevity depending on the situation so a lot of time to see yourself whither away if you're not careful.

Rare-Historian274 · 2024-04-23T15:20:58+00:00

I am in this position. I have dropped 18 pounds in a couple months and I am not a large person (5'4", started at 158 LB now at 140).

I will go in spurts where I don't eat anything for a couple days but then will gorge at the next meal. I have found new foods that I never enjoyed, now I enjoy them (blueberries, blackberries). Sometimes, I force myself to eat.

I am trying to take advantage of the weight loss but running and working out. I have noticed a positive change in my physical appearance. This will hopefully help if I ever decide to date again.

Try to use it to your advantage and look at the potential you could gain.

AttemptScary4550 · 2024-04-22T21:56:58+00:00

Same thing for me. I didn't eat consistently for at least 6 months. Lost probably 60 pounds and was lighter than I was in High School. Take advantage of this and establish new habits and routines. Eat for nourishment and work out. You will feel better about yourself and be able to approach everything with more confidence and not even realize. Stay contract don't just gain it back in 3 months.

Alert_Sand6992 · 2024-04-22T15:01:18+00:00

I’m in separations maybe to divorce and I’m down almost 30 lbs

cnarsystems · 2024-04-22T12:33:11+00:00

When this started I was 6’2” 202 which was actually an unhealthy weight. Now 1 1/2 yrs into it I’m an unhealthy 163. No appetite at all.

FlyingSaucer51 · 2024-04-22T08:41:44+00:00

I lost 100 pounds in a year.

soimarriedajamaican · 2024-04-22T06:55:29+00:00

It's like something primal losing weight to get another mate.

Maximum_Use5854 · 2024-04-22T04:19:28+00:00

I dropped 16 lbs in the first two months. I was cool w it

demeve · 2024-04-21T23:52:25+00:00

People have started to compliment me for losing weight. They have no idea what’s going and that I’m NOT going to the gym or any special diet

AntisocialBehavior · 2024-04-21T22:42:13+00:00

230 to 189 in 4 months. Goal 170

walkingdisaster4046 · 2024-04-21T22:17:42+00:00

I lost 60lbs and have evened out now around 40lbs less, which is healthy. Depression and stages of grief can lead to loss of appetite. The fasting coupled with exercise can lead to massive shedding of pounds. I took advantage of it and angry and lifted weights and walking. Got pretty damn fit and stayed that way. Turn something negative to a positive. Use it as fuel.

DadVader77 · 2024-04-21T21:24:23+00:00

I was 200 when d-bomb was dropped 3/22/23. Hit 165 by June ‘23. Depression weight loss sucked.

Got back up to around 180-185 after Oct ‘23 and have been good there

p71interceptor · 2024-04-21T20:54:42+00:00

Yup. I'm not sure how much I've lost but it's crazy

Reddit188869 · 2024-04-21T20:20:48+00:00

yep, same as all of us! over 50lb, was under 200 to start with. Most has stayed off. It totally reset my habits.

DadJoke1142 · 2024-04-21T20:18:39+00:00

I was at 227 in Oct 2023 and currently at 169. Made the best of it and got my ass back in the gym. Lifting heavy and watching what I eat. Helps a lot brother.

ChillaxBrosef · 2024-04-21T20:07:25+00:00

Can happen for sure. Immense stress and life adjustment. Make sure to get at least smoothies down for a few months and it will come back, just temporary.

Capable_Luck_2817 · 2024-04-21T19:52:47+00:00

I had appetite issues for the first couple of months. Lifting heavy weights solved that problem.

blinkyvx · 2024-04-21T18:26:51+00:00

Eat more meat, it has all the nutrients we need your body needs fat, your hormones need cholesterol. Your brain runs off cholesterol

FuriousSasquatch · 2024-04-21T17:58:31+00:00

Eat better food and work out. I'm down probably 20 pounds total, but way more muscle and toned. Just basic exercise is great for your mind and soul right now.

Comfortable-Long-419 · 2024-04-21T17:51:32+00:00

I've lost almost 60lbs now. Even 3 months into my seperation, I still can only eat about once a day, and even then it ain't much.

MidniteOG · 2024-04-21T17:27:25+00:00

Yes. But I have been eating better and hit the gym harder. I know if I don’t eat i won’t have energy to go to the gym and it’ll be a bad spiral

Wise_Serve_3140 · 2024-04-21T17:03:57+00:00

My stbx has the opposite problem I lost 40 pounds through this thing she has gained 40 lol

Machismo0311 · 2024-04-21T17:03:24+00:00

I am four months into a separation. I started going to the gym to destress not because I wanted to look better. But, after seriously hitting the gym, my physical appearance changed drastically to the point that not only does gym help me mentally as a way to relieve stress, I do, like the physical changes as well which I was not prepared for

Lost-Barracuda-9680 · 2024-04-21T16:38:38+00:00

Start lifting weights to maintain your muscle mass (instead of losing it) and to tone up. That should make you more attractive for someone new.

serenesweetpea · 2024-04-21T15:33:41+00:00

Same! I went from a consistent 120 to 105…have been stuffing my face for a month and can’t gain any weight. It’s the stress of worry.

JD-Anderson · 2024-04-21T15:28:59+00:00

I lost so much weight during my divorce I was extremely malnourished when it finally concluded. I was always skinny before the divorce. Then once the papers were signed, I started my new life, getting those bearclaws with a coke every morning, and after a year and a half I was about 25 lbs overweight. I’ve kept my weight at a healthy level since by eating healthier, but I see that time during the divorce as just surviving as best I can. It was after when I could rebuild that was the most important.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-04-21T14:58:55+00:00

Not bad so far. If it keeps going consider therapy? It's not overrated.

Slow_Complex9685 · 2024-04-21T14:29:12+00:00

Sure have. Though it's helping with the "dad bod", it's also a little concerning. Maybe work out to tone up? That's what I've been doing.

Malcolm_tent8 · 2024-04-21T14:05:20+00:00

I have the same thing going on, food is just gross right now, I’m down 35 pounds in six weeks. I’m just too out of sorts to eat

engineered-chemistry · 2024-04-21T14:04:32+00:00

I’ve lost 75lbs (255lb to 175) and 6” off my waist for the same reasons over the last year. No appetite and jogging with interval sprints to clear my mind. I’m slowly getting my appetite back and going to lift more with less cardio. Exercise is the only thing that gets me a nights sleep by being physically exhausted.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2024-04-21T14:04:00+00:00

Yep. It’s awful. So much catecholamines running around.

Focus on protein and lifting. It’s called the divorce diet and it’s a thing

Joocewayne · 2024-04-21T13:49:39+00:00

One thing to watch out for is losing muscle and the inevitable drop in your metabolism. You are losing muscle, which in and of itself is dropping your basal metabolic rate. At least get in a few protein shakes daily and do some form of weight training to offset this.

Your body will respond at some point by upping hunger hormones and will only tolerate this for a while. Right now your body is overriding all that signaling with the massive amount of grief your neurons are basically bathing in.

This is a great time to make some changes but when you do eventually resume eating more, please do so very very gradually and up your activity levels. With a drastically lowered metabolic rate and less muscle, your body will be in store mode and lay down fat like you would not believe. Couple this with grehlin shooting up, you’ll eat way more.

Your body thinks it is a famine. When you process the grief it will again realize there is food literally everywhere. Be prepared for this and don’t allow your progress to go out the window.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-04-21T13:07:18+00:00

Yes. Last year when it hit the fan I dropped about 18lbs in one month. I was in pretty good shape to begin with but just had no urge to eat.

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-04-21T12:19:40+00:00

You don't mention how long you've been losing weight, or what your starting weight was.

Substantial-Spinach3 · 2024-04-21T11:58:48+00:00

Please drink protein shakes, I had gastric bypass and the shakes were much needed. You’re not mean to drop that much weight so quickly. Your body will do that starvation shock thing. You really don’t need that on top of holding it together through a divorce. Yes, its nice getting into your old clothes but its not fun watching your hair circle the drain.

CrazySanta7 · 2024-04-21T11:51:42+00:00

The 'divorce diet' is real. Not hungry, can't sleep, loss of concentration at work, etc. I'm 5 years out and now sleep like a baby. It takes time. I'm very athletic but lost a lot of muscle mass after divorce.

Imin-Acehole · 2024-04-21T11:48:00+00:00

Yes, I hardly had an appetite the first month. I’m just stared getting it back but I can’t spend money like I used to on it. Down 30lbs in 2 months.

Title	Weight loss while divorcing
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