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Lmao and everyone who's like "nah b it's just you" is a cryptojew to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:43 PM
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That's as annoying as the dude badgering you saying "helloooooo" when you're clearly ignoring them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:15 AM
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Or "if I'm not their type, they're not my type". I'd rather be cherished. Go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:28 AM
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I cut off all my hair one year but for different reasoning. It was a relief. I've since grown it out and it's belly button length now, but it shed a lot of the old me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:26 AM
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What a schmekelhead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:12 PM
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I've never been fond of fellow Danish men. This is why. It's rampant and nobody talks about the weird complex they have, where we should be so thankful they considered opening the door for us. All common courtesy out the window.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:26 AM
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Oooh judging by your name you're gonna love it! It's a servitor typically made from clay. It also has Hebrew (truth) written on either the head or the chest. I'll send you more links. You can activate it with the truth incantation, reciting psalms 91 and I believe 22 (I always forget the second one). I'm guessing you know the Egregore. Basically Lilith represents the Egregore, the mass consciousness/thoughtform, while the Golem (Adam from Adam and Eve) is her servitor and acts on her orders. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:29 AM
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While this can be controversial in a separate community (what I'm about to say), there is serious contemplation that Lilith is actually the true manifestation of G-d because Adam Kadmon was a Golem (the original and first Golem); a servitor created from dust that Lilith weaved herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:27 AM
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Women like this have hundreds to sort through. Most men just aren't levelled up to keep up 💁🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 10:12 PM
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Love you too! L'chaim ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:36 PM
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Where's u/HoneyBouquet when you need her? I low key see you, Muslim queen and me, Tichel Jewess, doing this exact thing. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:27 PM
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It's hard at first. I stayed single for a while after as I couldn't trust my own decisions. Started reading "Why Men Love B*tches" and "Men Don't Love Women Like You" and began my own journey. Fast forward a long while later, before really getting involved in FDS. I was already levelled up and at a better place. The HVM in my life has proven himself many times over even though I still vet because you can never be too sure. Due to Covid we are in separate countries so we rely on daily video calls…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:22 PM
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Somehow I doubt his wife called herself that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:47 AM
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He seems like the kinda guy who DMs random women with his photos of it saying "can u handle it?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:46 AM
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Outstanding lmao 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:45 AM
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I'm seeing grown ass adults talking about their poly relationships like it's anything relevant to this girl's situation and it's like ???? No. This is cheating and he's likely slept with other girls already and this is his way of saying it but without admitting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:33 PM
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Our nature is wired to be against us. I don't understand why we are like this. Tbh this is why I delved into books and a million hobbies at such a young age. Anything to get your mind off of what screws you over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:14 PM
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Damn I don't remember it being like this at 16. Wth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:12 PM
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Found on r/loveafterporn - wouldn't let me cross post. A solid reminder that those who love you will show you in their actions. Talk is cheap. Edit: didn't know what flair was appropriate so chose "Queen Sh*t"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:57 PM
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I suspected as much. I've had friends tell me a seemingly "great guy" they were seeing would suddenly call it quits and 9mos later he's a dad. After having seen it a few times, any time I see it happen in my own circle or on here, I immediately go to that train of thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:50 PM
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Whenever people say "all they need is more empathy" I vehemently disagree. They don't. You can spoon feed them nice bollox all day and they'll still choose to see us as the problem. They'll still project their crap onto us instead of working on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:44 PM
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Eh I got told I have low standards on here because height isn't as big of a deal for me as it may be for others but I state that BECAUSE - I REPEAT - I am a 5'11 woman. I'd either stay single or consider a guy my height or taller. Character comes first for me. Wanting to pick a guy who's my height and high value isn't a low standard. I'll take a guy who's 5'11-6'1 and treats me like royalty over a 6'8 fuckboi who thinks height is his only asset so he strings/manipulates/harms 5+ other women alon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:38 PM
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My guy is 6'1. It's more that I've acknowledged that I'm taller than most men as is, so therefore I just chose not to date unless they were at least my height or taller. I don't expect praise. I meant it as a statement of "I judge his character more because I've seen friends lose their fucking minds over a bloke who's 6'4 but strings them along."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:29 PM
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Kinda wish the mother of his son knew this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:06 PM
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He looks like a thumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:56 PM
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It's wild that the video is from 2017 -- see what he looks like now 😬😬😬 aged like milk and definitely rocks the paedophile look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:55 PM
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"How many girls are in your freezer right now, right now?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:52 PM
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Many women go from a 5X to S/M and aren't half as entitled as 38yo poor man's Aaron Carter here. He wouldn't be able to tell the difference between a 22yo and a 32yo because both look good and he wouldn't be able to get either of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:50 PM
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You're right...they're gonna see that. Apparently the kids are a preteen and teen so they're old enough to see what's happening and they will know what he did. They will never accept his girlfriend or him and they will see how much worse it got for them and their now unemployed single mum because of his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:48 PM
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Cut out EVERYONE who tries to decide who you are and what you should be for you. Because we've all been a victim of this, people telling us what we are when they haven't a clue what we really are. Nothing more annoying than people in your life who tell you that you're xyz when you're not. Solid post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:44 AM
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Sorry to make a separate comment. Here's the post. My hope is restored with how much people are pointing out the obvious age gap and that the wife is NOT jealous of a 21 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:43 AM
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She said what she said 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:37 AM
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This is why women keep their pasts so private/only give half truths and trickle truths. Mentally ill or unwell? It'll be used as leverage for why you are "unstable" in any capacity. Used to be a sex worker of any kind? They'll obtain physical proof if possible and send it around/doxx you. In one swoop this massive piece of shit robbed her of her livelihood, her sanity and her sense of self in terms of a societal position. He's dating a girl who's likely their eldest kid's age to add onto the the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:33 AM
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Since that's the case, perhaps he shouldn't be looking to date. I wonder what exactly his occupation is that would take him away in that sense. I grew up with an artistic mother who worked in the television industry who still made time for a scrote. Seriously, I'm curious to see what it is that he does since he's already said you aren't going to get his full attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:08 AM
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Also "being Jewish"??? This entire word salad is like early Ron Swanson on Parks and Rec where he says, "I'm just going to say the first words that come to mind. Rectangle. America. Butthole."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:03 AM
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Fuck but how come I've been the second one too often because I'm foreign, soft spoken and covered in tattoos? Just because you think I'm alternative, doesn't mean I am. Saying I'm "different" doesn't register. I am just as nuanced as every other woman to exist. It's like the moment you exhibit any sort of empathy you're now there to "heal" him and not have a personality of your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:47 AM
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Damn always hating on us Danes lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:36 AM
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The poor **17 year old girl literally wrote these: .....i really can’t believe there are grown men in my mentions upset that i said men are gross as if that doesn’t make my point even more that men are weird. i didn’t say all men were gross, if you know it doesn’t apply to you then keep it pushing babes literally just expressed how one dude made me uncomfortable and all y’all have to say is “well if a woman said-“ and “not all men-“ PLEASE take that self-absorbed energy elsewhere. me being uncom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:43 AM
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Omg the psuedo intellectual-spiritual bro. Awesome. You probably got like, an old soul, that only he understands. The connection is just, you know, something others wouldn't understand because they're so simple and stuff. 🙄 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:39 AM
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Exactly or the infamous "he comes home to me". The only way you can guarantee fidelity from your man is him. Edit: yaD ekaC yppaH 🍰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:37 AM
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One of the most beloved childhood stories back home and we often forget this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:33 AM
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First reply: "correction THAT man is gross, there fixed it" So buddy, you gonna report him? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:30 AM
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Exactly. She knew what she was getting into, clearly. She also thinks SAHMs don't deserve half in a divorce and that marriage screws men over. Good luck if her now husband leaves her too. Maybe she'll sing a different tune if it happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:19 PM
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A really awesome user summed up her profile. "Seriously, EVERY post by Tiny_Cricket89 is about how much she hates other women. She hates her husband's ex-wife She's a stay-at-home mom who hates women who can hack it at work and as a mother because she tried and failed She openly admits she doesn't love her step kids as her own (!!!) She doesn't think her husband should pay as much child support to his ex for his own fuckin kids (bet if she got divorced from him, she'd be singing a different tune…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:01 PM
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That aesthetic tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:00 PM
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Just another way to trap women. Also "she looks so young"?? 30 IS young you 53 year old troglodyte. (Please note I don't give a fuck about age but he's quite clearly projecting) I wonder if he feels like a failure since, you know, he only has one kid gasps /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:50 PM
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"ah yes, because facts about women's fertility which were originally obtained by observing French death records from the 1890s is so accurate in 2020" I wonder if they realise that sperm motility, quality and count declines with age as well. Furthermore it's been proven that the percentages are almost one for one and now, because we are living longer, people are having babies into their 40s and 50s through natural conception and natural birth (a majority aren't even trying either).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:47 PM
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Congratulations to the OP, she's officially won the hearts of incels and redpillers. For the record -- many women do pay alimony because we now out earn men. We do wanna take riskier jobs but they usually want "men only" or "men are better built for this". Lastly about child support; with the increase of men's rights in divorce courts, not only are women having to be retraumatised whenever they enter the courtroom or have to go to visitation if they had an abusive partner, the custody usually is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:58 PM
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"Another one on the way" "No kids of your own" "Must own car that can fit all of these kids" "Own source of income" Not even trying to hide it 🌚🌚🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:58 AM
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The intuitiveness part. Omg. This is why most of us gaslight ourselves after a few bad relationships. And this is why I no longer question my intuition. Women know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:20 AM
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"hard to love" "stubborn" "fierce" I'll take it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:18 AM
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The no memory thing is what my abusive ex did. Punched two holes in the garage wall - "I don't remember" Snapped a cutting board in half because our child cried (he did this a second time after we split up and he did a casual BnE but we weren't there) - "I honestly think you're hallucinating" I'd go on but you get the picture. This is textbook carrot stringing behaviour and you deserve so much better. Allow yourself to be angry, upset and call the bullshit. Doesn't matter if others think differe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:03 PM
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Exactly. It's inevitable we will attract LVM/NVM no matter what stage of life we're at, and this subreddit saves tons of time trying to figure things out. Being single is always a better option than settling with someone who isn't worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:01 PM
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Officially adopting iamdavante's energy. Best morning pick up ever ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:45 PM
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Literally everyone on here gets hit on far more than they asked for. Having standards means we're bitter "below average broads" I guess 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:32 PM
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Seeing the comments on here makes me very sad because all the statistics, the experiences, there's no point of joining as a woman. It hasn't gotten any better since the inception of women enlisting. I remember almost enlisting in the Navy as a foreigner but I couldn't because I found out I was pregnant 😂 Ended up taking a better job offer and realising later on that it was probably for the best, because just about every woman I've met who's been in the military has some horror story that deraile…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:31 PM
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Literally everyone on here gets hit on far more than they asked for. We just weed out the LVM/ZVM now. Having standards means we're bitter "below average broads" I guess 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:25 PM
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"white girls be like oopsie" said the white boi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:03 PM
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Unreal...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:00 PM
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Yeah. My point is entirely self care and to have a sense of self love because you'll attract better people (although crap is plenty no matter what phase of life you're in). All I saw from the poster is that the ex did a number on their self esteem when chances are, they are overly critical and don't have all these issues they think they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:57 AM
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I'm not trying to be ageist. I'm saying that you can get hit on literally any age. My mum found her proper guy at 48 and she thought it was "too late". I've been lucky enough not to hear "omg you old lady" at 27 even though friends of mine have said they get that crap since hitting 25. Anyone who thinks 30 is a death sentence is someone you don't wanna be around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:56 AM
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ATTENTION: Long response Hey. I decided on a whim to check your history too (something I don't do as I really go by the post and not the history tbh). I'm sorry about what you've been through. I know on a comment you said that at 24 you get approached way less; I bet it's untrue. You're a model. I'm 27 and it literally hasn't changed since 19 for me in terms of being approached and I am not a model. In fact it can be lifelong and start to decline around 40+. Remember to take care of yourself and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:11 AM
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You're saying exactly the struggles I've had to deal with for years. I really needed to read this thank you. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:45 PM
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I bet he thinks that Islam isn't under the Abrahamic tree either. Edit: I wonder when xian men are gonna realise that they don't actually give a fuck about women and that women are allowed to wanna date outside of them. We all know they'd expect us to convert to xianism if we gave them a chance at all. Also antifeminist, said the white xian boi. Goodluck with the cognitive dissonance on that one 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:28 PM
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I should be used to these facts but it still makes me nauseated...🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:24 PM
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Daily mantras. Making this an FDS BuJo layout tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:30 PM
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I never thought of it this way and this also explains why the girls/women die first too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:27 PM
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True! A lot of us have had run ins with Bolivian Marching Powder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:13 PM
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"Females" Also it's pretty bad when a bloke with "cocaine" in his name has to put you in your place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:05 PM
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When my nan was part of that ahaha ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:00 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that 😔 What an awful thing to endure. When I meant sequel I meant her breaking up and giving you an update but tbh it sounds like she'll brush it off... Agreed. If I was the girlfriend I'd want someone to warn me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:31 PM
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I'm 1.80m/5'11 so I am taller than most men 😂 the vetting is slightly different because heels and their potential insecurities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:27 PM
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At least she didn't freak out. I'm curious to see the sequel to this 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:25 PM
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Did the exact same thing. This is why the whole "you grow with someone when you marry young" rhetoric is bollox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:14 PM
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Why height has never been a huge deal for me tbh. I know a lot of LVM/NVM who think being 6'2 is all they gotta have to keep a lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:00 PM
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Fuck... I just left Fort Hood as this girl went missing. I knew it would be something like this and now I just found out the story because of this post. Tragic. Only 20 with her whole life ahead. RIP PFC Vanessa Guillen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:36 PM
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"if you have issues with me pining after her and always putting her before you, you're just going to have to deal with it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:57 AM
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Seems like a pretentious jackass who wants to seem cultured.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:11 AM
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Gonna say this as a STB construction surveyor and grade checker. NO THIS ISN'T DISCRIMINATION You know why? I've seen plenty of job postings asking for male specific roles for MALES ONLY (in fucking Canada nonetheless) and I thought nothing of it. I assume it's due to risk or whatever. Even when I was in Canada for a time, you are heavily discourage as a woman to apply to trades. Also can we just say that most women who wanna work in trades will end up either working the front desk of the busine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:25 PM
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The fact that this happened in the 70s, where "TrAdMeN" say women became sexually liberated and weren't oppressed anymore, this just shuts them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:21 PM
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"And it is in this passage that the author uses a Descartian phrasing to express the his lack of sexual prowess rooted in a painful self awareness as to how his wife's finger alone could achieve more than his own penis" ~ My wonderful SO to men like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:19 PM
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My ex was a serious gamer and even he didn't do that. ALTHOUGH he did ask about taxes when I was pushing and he ate the rest of his chicken caesar wrap as our kid was crowning. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:14 AM
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Totally unrelated but I looked up his wife. Knockout. Business woman. Another baby at 43/44. What wall?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:10 AM
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Oooh I commented on this one so I'ma quote myself 😂 My ex husband argued and rejected my desire to go back to school (trades) for a career change. He wanted me to stay home, have more kids. Left him. Got a sponsorship and going through the motions of testing and doing the studying necessary. The plan worked out better than my original one. My SO now is absolutely supportive and excited for me. If he cares, he will be for it 100 percent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:24 PM
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Bloke looks like a pineapple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:25 PM
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This. If he is emotionally well-rounded, you don't need to handle him with kid gloves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:24 PM
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It's almost as if we are sentient beings with feelings, thoughts and desires! Whodathunk 😂🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:21 PM
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Yep. Can confirm the "muh legacy" bit and it's ridiculous af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:11 PM
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As they say, "sperm chases the egg so why are you chasing him sis?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:43 PM
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Funny how, as someone who was groomed into that life, I noticed that a lot of the women who voluntarily go traditional end up missing their jobs and their identity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:12 PM
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Omg I just had a tangent about this in the chat room last night. The irony being that he doesn't even make enough to support all the kids he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:03 PM
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"but if you respond in a factual manner with the same monotone, I will call you a sociopath/over the hill/something directly sexually degrading and then proceeded to gaslight you into being submissive, because I can't take what I dish out"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:28 AM
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Tonight FDS posts are 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:47 AM
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I personally don't want a guy to talk about how his ex „traumatised" him by cheating on him in tenth grade, so he permanently treats every woman like garbage. It like, isn't a turn on, bruv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:39 AM
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I once read a post on ye olde tumblr days: "My kink is a healthy, loving marriage based on respect and great communication". (Paraphrased) Let's bring that back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:36 AM
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This though. When he talks about how the "why didn't you leave earlier?" language is literally abuser rhetoric perpetuated by Everyone from family to social researchers, you realise how much of society is built on abusers and how much it benefits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:06 PM
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Mine is when two people meet it should benefit a third. My own translation of that: most people shouldn't get together. If you want that guy and he isn't benefitting you and, by extension, those around you with his presence, don't waste your time. Your saying is solid and a mantra to repeat every morning during a face routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:01 PM
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Exactly. My SO and I like to fluctuate between having cute blanket and pillow fort date nights and then fancy dinners with wine. Some days we go out, other days we make it. McDonald's isn't even a thought or consideration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:39 PM
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Lern2spel. Nobody on here dumps on someone in a lesser wage bracket. He's so offended; he took that so personally he's hurled at least three incoherent/misspelled insults. Saying this as someone who's continuously leveling up -- if I was so broke I couldn't afford necessities, I wouldn't want a relationship. I'd be too busy trying to hustle until I got something more stable. Edit: I write this as someone who's had to work three Jobs to make ends meet as a university student and help my mother ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:34 PM
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As a 1.80m woman (5'11 in burger units) I find that most men just talk about wanting tall babies so they like women above that height for baby making.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:47 PM
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Disappointed But Not Surprised™
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:45 PM
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Well fuck now that content is banned too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:48 AM
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Savage 🤲🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:23 AM
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Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:09 AM
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Let's see... BPF: We lost the war already. Focus on yourself. Stay woke and up to date. We know #NotAllMen but we have to acknowledge the systemic issues. MGTOW: Women are worthless after 18/21/25 (it changes hourly). Nah just kidding, women are worthless full stop. AWALT. How to use, abuse, rape, traumatise and kill women. Yep. Totally samesies y'all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:07 AM
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This entire story is horrifying. I can't imagine what the other woman is being told if she's vandalised OP's car. This guy is not worth the hassle, especially given the fact that he will block her for periods at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:22 PM
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Second time seeing this, still doesn't get old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:34 PM
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I thought my first boyfriend (also LTR) was a great guy for being anti porn and truthful about it; I was convinced I'd never find a guy like him. But I found it odd how he was still very "Trad" and thought I should let him shoulder things while still playing the traditional role but still pay strata fees, utilities, etc. I found out on our third year together that he became anti-porn because of brain wiring and erectile dysfunction. He was still a sexist bellend who didn't treat his mum like a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:34 PM
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My ex husband was like that. I started clapping back and treating him like one of my stepbrothers that I grew up with. He didn't like that very much, and he said all he was trying to do was "be a dude" and I said "yeah man, I'm just being a dude back". He got very b*tchy and offended over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:45 PM
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🤡🌍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:03 PM
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That's the face of disappointment. That's the face of "why do I still do this". The face of longing for breadcrumbs of attention a handful of times a year. That's the face of holding onto the relationship when he says "good talk" after their quarterly sit down conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:28 PM
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It's easy to feel Nazi vibes on here when you begin your recovery. It only shows the collective programming that's been deep-seated for centuries; it's staying that makes you strive for that change. You've levelled up 💜☝🏻 proud of you, sis x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:00 AM
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So I encourage you to stop wondering if it was this thing about you or that thing about you, this thing you said or that thing you did, this thing you set off in him or that thing you brought up in him, which caused him to come to hate you. What’s going on with him has nothing to do with you at all, it’s entirely about him and about his society. ☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:34 AM
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"you chose to go on that date, you knew what would happen".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:52 AM
20

Yep. Can confirm as a Scandinavian girl that we don't have this culture as much. It exists, sure, but it isn't as much of an "epidemic" as the United States. I'm the same age as your younger brother. I've already owned a home before but decided to wait til I find a place to settle. Got a degree. Been married and left, became a mum from that. I can't imagine having the time between parenting, career, self care and levelling up to find a slot to game when I could've done my own nails, gardening, y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:25 PM
13

Shallon is my daily mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:13 PM
41

Yo wtf I just noticed the pony jar status in her post. Y'all, what's a pony jar? Lmao Edit: googled it. Almost threw up. Regrets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:59 PM
16

Jfc he can't just do it while the water is running? At least rinse yourself off. It only makes sense to clean yourself up in the shower since you're already there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:58 PM
17

I've met women in the same situation as her that asked for way more than one text in the morning and one text at night. That's nothing given the fact that most people spend so much time on their phones anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:49 PM
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Omg LEAVE Already gaslighting for having worries. This is why you can't work it out with someone who cheats. It almost never gets better. I read very few situations where people recover, and those who do, end permanently scarred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:42 PM
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Y'all be careful out there. A lot of those who claim they respect women still read this shite without physically following RedPill bollox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:35 PM
14

Absolutely. It's easy for the Momma's Boy trope to become a thing if you end up with a Jewish man, but it varies. I hope it isn't in that realm; my guy isn't kosher at all and he doesn't confide in his mother very much but it is common for your situation to be the case. It's mostly a respect thing and it can be a shock depending on where you hail from/your upbringing. May your man end up HV🤞🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:30 PM
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The biggest issue with religious men is that they often use it as a front to have high expectations for women but not go by it themselves. I'll use an example. Near the tail end of my legal contract with my ex, he admitted something that said a lot about his character; he went back to his ex HS sweetheart before we met. They both went to private Catholic school. He stopped practicing at 16. She was still active. By the time they got back together they were in university. He admitted that he made…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:15 PM
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Also that's EARLY 20s we make more statistically. What happens mid to late twenties? We usually stagnate because we're marrying/having kids. It's funny since the r/RedPill talks about women capping out on their late twenties while they "make substantially more". It has fuck all to do with the wall. It has everything to do with the fact we risk our independence, livelihoods and careers when we get married and have kids. Edit: more likely to graduate and get advanced education/PhD - okay but most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 09:56 AM
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I read this like "bruv we get it you don't wanna commit" Watch. Tomorrow he's gonna wanna get serious lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:02 PM
62

Then they reach 50 and either regret hurting the good girl(s) they discarded and try to chase them OR become bitter and hateful and never have accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 10:29 PM
343

Men: "we're the real romantics" Also men: leaves when wife gets breast cancer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 10:17 PM
49

Seems kinda like a reason to fetishise other races ngl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:01 PM
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I know there's a lot of women who get very weak around that kind of accent. I've never scoped out someone for their accent it's always been their quality and who they are as a person. This feels a lot like the equivalent of a mail order bride for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:34 PM
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Lmao Omg My man is English. I'm Danish so there goes any chance of that scenario. It sounds like she's such an Anglophile that she overlooks everything else. It'll be a right mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:31 PM
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My wishes and strength are with you. Be safe in this time, leaving is always the touchiest. It isn't too late. Those people who are desperate to be subservient will learn sooner or later. Did you get ahold of anyone who is able to help? Do you have support? Blessings in your journey out of this. We are here to help you get through all of the crap you're enduring. ❤️🤲🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:39 PM
119

Yep -- levelled up so much that my entire essence and spirituality changed after that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:58 AM
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Thank you for your kind words. For everyone reading this; yours 20s and 30s are your most "fertile" years when it comes to planting seeds and establishing yourself. A big part of being able to leave and bounce back was being in that age bracket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 10:59 AM
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Ah, I made a response on PPF but I am a former Trad wife, was "trained" (groomed) from 5 til marriage age to be a wife. It's a fucking cop out. I'm grateful I still had the time to get an education and establish a career. People aren't triggered by housewives. They see what women like me in postmodern era put up with, as well as their foremothers put up with. Who wants to have a secret account in case you get traded in for a younger model? Who wants to risk single motherhood in higher risk of po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 10:37 AM
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No. Leave. My ex husband did that to a tee. I got to the point where I stopped answering his texts and giving him any basic decency because of how bad it got. Or when he'd actually try to speak to me I'd stare and shrug. Or be uninterested and secretive, the way he was being. It sure as fuck bothered him. I still left him anyway. Stonewalling will guarantee a divorce. You literally can't get around that because they already see you as less than deserving of their time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 10:07 AM
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I don't follow celebrities much but I realise this schmekel head has gone between three women in like...two years? I remember Anna Farris, then that other one and now this woman? Everyone always talks about him being wholesome but you can paint a turd gold and it's still a turd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:17 AM
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That in itself is a meme now like, seeing 17yo boys even on here saying, "call me a simp all you like, the girl I get is gonna be treated like a queen" makes you realise 25+ bois really gotta step it up when teens are clapping back lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:19 PM
33

YOOOO when my man did literally the same but sent the laptop to my door 👏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:16 PM
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Omg I love these ones. Especially when you say "wauw what a beautiful couple" or "my SO and I love these snapshots of you two".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:47 PM
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It's almost as if relationships are more than sex? Like...you know, communication, similar interests, cuddles on the couch, etc. He has a mouth. He can use it accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:44 PM
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I had a former cousin in law like this. "My husband is atheist but I take him with me to the church. He pawned my ring off for more cocaine. We have three kids together. I did cheat on him with my ex but he's in rehab for the second time. I could've walked away at ANY time but I didn't. Nine years going strong" Me: 😬😬😬 You could cut the tension in the room with a knife. Ticking timebomb tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:21 PM
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I have too much to unpack here lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:15 PM
11

I'm in stitches omg 👏🏻😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:05 PM
9

Sure, KC. You were already caught before the "gotcha"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:03 PM
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• constantly at risk of getting assaulted for saying no • if you're in an abusive relationship, exiting it is the most dangerous part of your relationship you'll ever face • has personally covered up all my tattoos, wore a tichel daily, my biggest glasses (I'm near sighted but I'd get my most unattractive ones) and made myself look as religiously/emotionally unavailable as possible JUST to stop getting followed in places like the shops even after saying "no I'm married" • known many other women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 01:55 PM
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Tattoos👏🏻aren't👏🏻a👏🏻personality👏🏻trait👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:26 AM
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I'm glad you used that emoji coz only her left hand is done 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:23 AM
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Goals, damn ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:21 AM
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Inb4 "I'm gonna play the devil's advocate here..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:40 PM
5

I definitely didn't go forward with sexual activity til 4mos postpartum. A lot of that so-called readiness was me thinking I had to fulfill an obligation. The idea of what had happened mixed with having to recover from serious stitches that I didn't realise I needed till after they already stitched me up, was enough to make me nauseated. The idea of risking that was a no go lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:40 PM
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Early on my SO and I talked about porn. He hadn't watched it since about 15 and we're both hitting our late twenties. He said it made him feel gross and he doesn't feel it's appropriate or right. In terms of how he carries himself, views women and speaks to me, it's quite clear that he's honest about this stance. I did not let him know I am anti-porn until afterwards. I bring it up casually but make it an early conversation. Seeing the body language helps too, because it's easy to tell if they'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:16 PM
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„Christian" K.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:13 PM
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Sex wise I felt "regular" within a few weeks but I had third degree tears with stitches so that was an immediate no. It plummeted about a month in when I was EBFing. A lot of men don't understand that our estrogen gets robbed during breastfeeding so we can produce milk properly. Those dry spells are the worst because beyond the no sex, it was physically uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:08 PM
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Thank you! Been saying this since the beginning. My former MIL is like this -- didn't even let her second husband see his first child from his first marriage. When he was able to, that daughter got molested by HER Son from her first marriage (ex's older middle half brother) and she continues to act like it didn't happen and that the half sister is lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:45 AM
125

Remember the ex you did marry? F
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:18 AM
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We are told not to have sex postpartum for at least six weeks. Many women will cave and have sex 3 to 4 weeks postpartum just to "keep the peace", regardless of whether they have stitches, tears, hemorrhaging, bleeding, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:40 PM
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I took a look at the comments. Christ, they really forget that everybody ages eh? Lol. I've yet to know any girls under 25 that are saddling down alpha males who are rich and under 35. I see some pickmeishas in there saying that "only white women age like that" and a few arguements about which race of women ages best and everyone is saying negative about each one. It's amazing to observe lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:21 PM
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Couldn't possibly be the drugs, the poor hair colour choice and her lifestyle alone. Definitely just her age 😂🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:15 PM
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„Penpals" I forgot about fifth grade until that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:40 PM
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Oh jeez the tattoos...yep. They think we're easy prey with mental health issues because of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:25 PM
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I was just thinking that; „attractive for the context of my age" like what?? Ask anyone 50+ and 30, 35, 40 is young. This guy is already close to middle aged and he's acting like a 15 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:35 PM
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Horrible...special place in hell for women who do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:31 PM
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I'm 27 and I wish I felt that at 23 instead of the programmed panic. I'm glad I still have time and I encourage everyone to live for themselves and (if they have kids) to live for them too. No more be all end all with a Disney romance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:25 PM
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My mum got fake breasts because hers did that. I got lucky. I breastfed and they didn't get awful like I thought they would but each pregnancy is different; the next one could do that if I ever decided to have a second. If he actually read something about it, he'd know that a woman's body can deteriorate quite quickly after the first baby. I bounced back to prepregnancy size nine days postpartum BUT my lower abdomen had a weird "sag" that took four months to tighten back up. I had zero diastasis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:23 PM
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I'd usually throw on a casual dress, leave my long hair in a braid or put on a headband/flower/hair clip and MAYBE AT MOST slap on some mascara. I saw too many beautiful friends of mine get shattered and never get treated right when they looked top model gorgeous. Most of them saw how little effort I put in and how much attention that still brought and they'd do the same. It saved them a lot of time, effort, money and heartbreak. The only time they'd step up to that level was for a man who prove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:32 PM
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This got downvoted to fuck omg 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:57 PM
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Helped me claim my existence. Took me to his productions. Told everyone I was his future wife. Has been incredibly fun and respectful. Healing that is self directed. (This is tricky but possible -- we have done that where we give support and guidance to each other WITHOUT being rehab centres). New language! He's learning Danish and I'm learning Yiddish. Enhanced spirituality and perspective. Bought me an entire suitcase full of books, jewelry and clothes while he had to work overseas and had it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:44 PM
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And this is why I no longer believe in the "you guys grow together" rhetoric that's pushed on young women. It's almost never you and yours growing together. It's the girl being a rehab centre while he uses her for emotional support before finding "the one". The only time that rhetoric applies is when you're both on the level and focused on bettering yourselves and choose to share that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:35 PM
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Lmao Danny Masterson saw his future way back in That 70s Show methinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 11:19 AM
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This place looks like the same one on another tiktok. Girl had about 6 years posted, 2 kids with the guy and nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:44 AM
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whole ass twAtter accounts GASPIN 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 01:56 PM
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We never said masturbation = porn addiction. Masturbation is totally healthy and pornography has been proven time and time again to literally ruin your brain and cause erectile dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:10 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:07 PM
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All I'm seeing is contradictions and "cOmMuNiCaTe". Pick one and stick with it please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:03 PM
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With a name like Truth Exposer I wouldn't be surprised if he believed in reptilians and the New World Order 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:14 AM
5

A real queen folds her sandwich
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:06 AM
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If I said "what do I bring to the table?" to my SO he'd tell me to piss off because we're in a relationship, not a business negotiation 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:55 AM
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Walk now... if kids are involved he'll screw them over too. If you don't, cut your losses and run for the hills and start over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:57 PM
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Lmao "beautiful enough to take me out" Ah yes, thank you. I'm so grateful to be bestowed upon your anticlimactic presence. Edit: why do they always text bollox like that in the wee hours of the morning? It's never at a reasonable hour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:10 PM
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Found mine ❤️ Damn lucky too. This is what LVM fear -- when you realise your worth and the right one happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:34 PM
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Sounds like a salt daddy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:20 PM
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Ikr. But here's the craic; This has zero to do with my standards and is a response to the photo in the post. Most of us aren't ripping our pubes out over making him a plate because we've all been doing it since a young age. It's mostly laughable that it's even considered a big deal, full stop. Edit: I forgot to mention the standards thing and how it's problematic. There are people who come to FDS that are from seriously traumatic backgrounds who have a very skewed version of what love and how it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:41 PM
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„Sorry you feel that way". „If I knew it'd be such a problem I wouldn't have said it". „You control your thoughts, your actions, your feelings". (True about actions, it doesn't rob the person of the fact that it can still hurt and you can't actually control your feelings/thoughts at all so the other two parts are false) „I'm sorry that happening to you". (When it's something they literally did)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:39 PM
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Proof that making a plate isn't going to keep your man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:50 PM
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So...let go of the man which is the source of it? Sounds like a plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:06 PM
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I love how she handled herself when other girls at the office were slagging her off for being 30. She effortlessly dismissed them and made it known that she still had more than enough self worth and sex appeal regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:58 PM
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This was very well written. Couldn't have said it better myself. This really triggered some thoughts from within, mainly about the fact that I noticed in the last 20 years it seems like the media really loves to push the abused, vulnerable girl narrative. It seems like there's a wave of people under 40 who are a lot more open about their traumas and experiences; while this is a great thing and it can destigmatise the issue, I find that I ask myself quite often if the media pushed this knowing it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:56 PM
15

This makes me embarrassed to be a Dane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:31 PM
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After reading this and the comments, I'm glad to see people that will not continue a relationship or a date with a guy that bent out of shape about being the same age as the woman they pursued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:23 PM
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The bad feeling is typically what we are programmed to feel, but the afterthought is what we genuinely feel. As someone who ended up marrying a person who had a communication style like that, I'd say you dodged a bullet big time with avoiding double texting. My only wariness with someone like that, is that they can remain that way throughout the duration of the relationship and it doesn't improve. It depends on the person though because in some cases it gets better and in other cases it stays th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:20 PM
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I've never seen her complain about not finding a good man so I'm not sure where that assumption comes from 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 07:56 PM
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Oooh no it's all good. That was definitely my mistake but for real...bare minimums gotta stop being praised 😂🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:55 PM
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English isn't my first language and you get the jist. I meant theirs in context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:35 PM
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cue the ball fanning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:13 PM
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"Making sure she was supported throughout her pregnancy" "Nursed her child" (going to assume when she'd pump and attend meetings) "Didn't expect her in the kitchen" Congrats, want a cookie? These are the bare minimum 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:02 PM
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The edit just makes it worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:47 AM
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Nobody is perfect but what I like and appreciate about this is the fact that they taught such important lessons from the beginning that are often overlooked. From a witch's perspective; we often have predatory men trying to "reel in" young women (often 18 to 21) who might be entranced with the obscure/„cool"/occult stuff and it goes by the wayside all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:38 AM
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😬😬😬 Where's the lie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:37 PM
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"If you were raised by a narcissistic parent, you are especially susceptible to being groomed by predators in adulthood because you’ve been conditioned to accept the unacceptable. This isn’t your fault, just a fact of the trauma you were unjustly put through. ...This means you were likely subconsciously programmed and primed for abusive treatment. ... Your mind and body are biochemically accustomed to the chaos and crazymaking you encountered in childhood, leaving you vulnerable to “trauma bondi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:25 PM
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Yes! This 💯 I was married to a guy who started to get like that. Preserving whiteness blah blah. I we continuously call him out as he started to get more radicalised and that's a story for another time. But anything "Trad" or "TradNat" is exactly this. I definitely did throw in the Jewish part as a way for that entire manosphere/nationalist community to see that a lot of people, regardless have morals and high standards. It's ironically the Xian men who usually can be arsed to better themselves.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:47 PM
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I know right?! Because everything that is bad is crypto-jew according to them lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:27 PM
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Ooooh and let's not forget that most of the same men who do this will constantly put her on the spot with weird and invasive questions, gaslight her, shit test her boundaries, accuse her of lying, expect her to prove herself all the time, compare her to "the evil ex(s)", be vague and shady af, all the while talking to seven or eight other girls in secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:26 PM
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Imagine being butthurt over a man who chose to focus on and better himself, select a woman that he actually relates to/loves/connects with versus trying to "spread his seed" and is being a normal, healthy human being lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:46 PM
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I've never taken HR and I assume it's a lot of policies, procedures and grey areas...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:41 PM
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I remember reading that people who marry before 25 (like I did) have as high of a divorce rate as 50 somethings it just reverses; women often instigate it in their 20s and men do so in their 50s. Most 30 somethings marry other 30 somethings who are accomplished and established. A majority of those who do so also choose to maybe have 1-2 kids but aren't in a rush because they know the changes, responsibilities and hardships that come with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:30 PM
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Gonna say that dating 30+ may be slightly harder but it's far from impossible. Tons of people start over in their 30s and it's the cultural norm where I'm from for people to marry 31 to 33 and have kids around 35.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:16 PM
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Sorry to overrun your post but I went to that thread and I'm glad that the top voted comment is NTA and the more I read about reasoning on why she isn't TA makes me solidify my opinion on it. I completely overlooked (being half asleep) that he watched her starve for a week and a half. He didn't defend her from his sister's horrible insults. She was doing what she had to do for the family. And the fact that he agreed with his sister afterward is enough to cause issues that'll likely always stay i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:12 PM
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The hunger strike thing doesn't sit well with me. I'm more of a "look, we do this or consider the consequences and you're on your own with this one, you selfish bellend" kinda person. I don't even nag (ex husband even admitted I'm not) but if that happened it would be about consideration for the children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:52 AM
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Lots of Men die earlier on because they won't go to a bloody doctor until it's too late. Or never. Idk about the hunger strike but she clearly wanted her kids to have their father around longer so...NTA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:45 AM
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So 11.5 years to be sure that you wanna be married? No thanks lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:23 AM
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I know it's easier said than done, but ex communicating would sound pretty good right about now in this situation. I hope she gets pictures for evidence later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:19 AM
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It also means it's not a proper confession (if he's Catholic). I mean the whole point of getting your sins absolved is to stop bloody repeating them lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:01 AM
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Meanwhile my amazing Jewish boi is porn free and has never been into it much to begin with. In all seriousness though, they can hide behind xianism or whatever, it's all about character. I find it laughable that people still think religion has some basis in validating that their shitty actions are okay. I've met many porn free men. They exist. It's not normal and not all men are into it or indulge it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:59 AM
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??? Okay Uh The sister is either that naïve or she really is in denial. I don't care how religious you are, most people can smell bollox when it occurs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:55 AM
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Gaspin 😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:07 PM
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I've been really getting into this kind of thing but I didn't even know where to start. Thank you, it's so appreciated 🙏🏻❤️✍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:45 PM
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"people in that sub aren't looking to improve their situation or themselves" (paraphrased) Lol really? Because I've taken the advice here and since leaving my situation, I have a lot to unpack on that comment alone. Already have someone better who uplifts, supports and has my back. An actual two way street for once. Cut out toxic friends. Currently going NC with my narc (clinically diagnosed) mother. More body positive and unlearned even more anorexic traits that have been around over half my li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:16 PM
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Exactly. The same men that complain women aren't modest anymore, always happen to frequent clubs, bars and parties instead of libraries, religious places and cafés. Funny innit 🤔🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:59 PM
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Couldn't cross post from surviving infidelity. Thought it fit in nicely here x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:33 PM
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It's okay. It takes time. The easiest way for me, as a raised people pleaser, was to simply block anyone who dared test the boundaries like that. I skipped the "explain and block" or "paragraph" phase and went straight to that lol. It's all a matter of soul searching style work. No shame in seeing how far you've already come x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:19 PM
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Best part is you can delete and know how much you've levelled up. 👌🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:07 PM
4

Future quoting omgggg 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:02 PM
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No need. Block. He's made it clear that he doesn't want to make any future dates. He's either dating other women and you aren't a priority OR he's trying to come off unavailable. Thank you, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:01 PM
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Yes! This! My ex used to accuse me of lying all the time because of my trauma response when he damn well knew about my upbringing. He was also the one that told me explaining details, even when it's the truth, makes you look guilty and that's why he's always so vague. Ended up he was a lying, cheating sack of shit anyway but he had no trouble gaslighting me constantly when I would tell the truth. When I stopped explaining myself, he went grovelling. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:00 PM
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Rules to live by. My rule has always been "not after 8pm" and it's surprising how many people (woman, man, trans, etc.) beyond romantic interests were surprised by it but actually respected it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:57 PM
55

I've been trying to find boots like that thanks for the name reference ✍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:54 PM
111

This reminds me of what a close feminist friend said; "if you want a modest woman, you can find them. Go date one."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:54 PM
26

I had a friend who had PCOS and she found out she had chlamydia early on. It was an extra blow to everything she was going through since her and her husband work trying for a child anyway. Luckily that didn't make it worse and she took him back. Hope she's doing okay now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:56 PM
25

Literally all of this. We're undoing centuries of oppression and spoonfed bollox 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:37 PM
6

Yep. I'm covered in tattoos and I took out my piercings. I'll even go out with my hair covered. It's amazing how they see you as "untouchable" or "honourable" and are less likely to bother you than if you went out with visible ink, alternative anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 08:27 PM
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Most of my research and such was in PTSD and trauma based illnesses, including how it alters the amygdala, making it a physiological issue and not just a mental health issue. A lot of that included how relationship dynamics change for people with traumatic backgrounds, which also hinders their core selves and results in codependency. I'll dig a bit and edit this but for now -- enjoying your resources because everyone can benefit from giving those a read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:32 PM
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Me at 15 with a 21 year old trying to get me to „sneak out". Thank the gods most people who saw this called him out on it and said it was disgusting that he was lusting after someone only in their second year of high school. It's hilarious that they think a new title dismantles the fact that it's still fucked up. Edit: Also 13?! Barely hitting puberty for most girls...omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:22 PM
143

„But but it's ePhEbOPhiLiA" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 02:31 PM
42

Even when we know it is textbook idealisation, the programming is hard to break. We can come to these conclusions but it's places like FDS that really give us that push to acknowledge it and change it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 02:28 PM
8

Just watched it. To the point and blunt message. It's solid 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:45 PM
15

I love this photo. Very true. learning to rely on your own self through a separation, long-distance or whatever is always the best option instead of living in the memories of it. I have a shadow work journal for that and I'll vent my feelings and keep it there. I used to event on this vent app but it was quite unhealthy as well and tons of pervs were on it. So good ol' journalling never failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:40 PM
11

Exactly. They'll listen the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:38 PM
27

It's a lot. Its case by case basis as far as I'm concerned. Many women it can be chalked up to social conditioning. For some it's various levels of trauma (moderate to severe) and it's always rooted in a distrust of the self. I came from a traumatic background (which resulted in a THREE YEAR court case), travelled and started fresh, but was conditioned at a very young age on how to be a wife. My own mother is a pickme to the extreme and constantly went through many men who were not of value but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:29 PM
18

I love that my being selective and choosing to have minimal history of dating, and literally no one night stands, is now a sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:07 PM
12

I guess enjoying yourself now means you're avoiding handing it over lmao Edit: I wish I could make my flair "Fairy H*e Mother"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:52 PM
6

This is so good I have to add; she's the next Roxanne Shanté with these truthbombs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:35 PM
19

I love how downvoted this got, wauw 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:34 PM
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The doxx comment reminds me of this one time a guy tried to talk to me like 4 or 5 years ago and, 3 days into regular conversation, he was demanding photos of where I was "NOW" because he thought I was lying. Not even on OLD (something I haven't done) but Tumblr. It's odd; you mention their first name they think you „doxxed" them but they'll literally share your nudes, send death threats and reveal your entire credit history for turning them down or not wanting to go further. I'm grateful I've n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:40 PM
94

Oh fuck, now 70 is the peak? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:33 PM
2

I'm not even American and I spent enough time in Cuba and México to visit, learn recipes and pick up decent Spanish lol. Most people are more than willing to show you their culture and love when you ask, are happy to teach, etc. It's amazing how much we like to learn things but Connor over there wants to prove he knows the best local Tex Mex. Edit: there are people out there putting „drinking tea" as a hobby? Lmao three times a day post meal doesn't mean much though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:34 PM
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No. That's the kind of territory that makes one feel like they're no longer a partner but a friend to listen to sexcapades. Thank you, next 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:29 PM
12

Ah yes, tacos. Because rolling through the Del Taco drive through means you have „character".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:11 PM
25

Peak HV actions and character. Even after he's passed he's still HV and amazing af. This made me cry ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:09 PM
9

Lmao so why is it that men who speak out against birth control typically thinks about or has knocked up multiple different women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:02 PM
2

Ahah thank you, I didn't even think of that. Not even trying to sound hippie dippy but after being that girl I realised it was a version of idealisation that mostly affected the self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:01 PM
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Love the real girl addition because those women suck just as hard and they are on here. We see you 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:46 AM
7

GASPIN 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:34 AM
6

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:14 PM
44

Unconventional how? Attractive would be correct but I've met many girls with those features and the contrast of the brown/brunette to striking blue eyes is usually a head turner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:13 PM
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Ah yes, give the guy false hope and then make the wound 10x worse in private. Seems like integrity. /s Edit: maybe he should propose in private? Most people I know with any sense of maturity prefer that over some big public proposal. Second Edit: if anyone did what the reposter suggested on Twitter, they will keep pushing your boundaries expecting you to say yes to however many proposals they throw at you. It'll get abusive fast guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:08 PM
5

She looks younger in the cheeks in the second photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:26 PM
31

Literally my life has gotten better since dropping the 225lbs. Surrounded by better people, opportunities coming to fruition and someone who is on the level 👌🏻💚💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:20 PM
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Yep. We choose to see the illusion and most people chalk it up to "trying to see the best in them" like no, it isn't the best in them it's what you want to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:19 PM
6

It is always a false bill of goods, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:18 PM
55

The title alone is 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:15 PM
25

My HV father would call bullshit you know why? Shitty people come into your life ALL. THE. TIME. It's inevitable. It's about weeding them out. We don't really attract shitty people because there's far more of them in the population than there are solid/good/high value ones. Many of us will go through shitty people before we find someone good. That's all there is to it, not some scrote pop psych armchair sesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:10 PM
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I didn't even read the middle. All I got was "he met what I was 18 and he was 26" and "blah blah polyamory". I hate that she has to ask if she's the asshole. You're NTA for setting boundaries and saying no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:40 PM
15

😂😂😂👀👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:53 PM
9

We shall call him Count Blyatman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:22 PM
6

Read, saved and bookmarked. Utilising each of these in every aspect of the every day has changed my life overnight ✍🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:22 PM
83

Number five is code for "taking you out is too much work and how dare you expect me to do the bare minimum".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:18 PM
36

For every LVM, there's a woman behind him who supports and advocates for this behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:18 PM
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50% of the time it's a toxic person saying it as an excuse for their behaviour or to avoid responsibility Where's the lie though? This reminds me of the "good vibes" new agey folks, who are really just leeches, that like to use pop culture diagnoses on everyone they disagree with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:17 PM
16

Downloaded again, thanks Queens x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:36 PM
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When he doesn't demand you to text him constantly because you both have lives but you still check in with each other and it's literally always uplifting, even when you're both struggling at the moment. 💪🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:29 PM
12

Ah look, victim blaming again. That guy would 10/10 be butthurt to fuck if he was being played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:27 PM
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Yes. This first and the rest will come later. The more you put yourself and worth first, the more people will value that too. Saved. Thank you xxxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:26 PM
232

Power move, queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:53 AM
9

💅🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:23 AM
23

This is why I wanted a sister growing up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:21 AM
44

If I was crying over that I'd have felt attacked. I just lost the 225lbs instead 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:20 AM
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Exactly. Total random story: I ended up in the Where Are All The Good Men by chance because I was looking up laser tag dates. Fucking nightmare, instant regret. You never see this uplifting kinda stuff there. This is what everyone should live by. Remember the feelings and take notes of what they do ✍🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:19 AM
3

Wot. Poor neg. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:25 AM
75

I stopped at "asked me if I wanted a boob job". What is he giving you that makes you come back? Tell him his knob is too small.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:24 AM
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See? Rich ≠ high value. Wholesome af ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:29 PM
9

Pickme101 behaviour. Informative read thank you for spreading awareness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:15 PM
7

When you're 14 you definitely don't have the wherewithal to deal with that, no matter how mature you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:40 PM
15

Not surprised it's the UK tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 12:47 PM
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"the reason why libfems don't like FDS is that it actually is for and by women and is about helping women for once." ~ That special person in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:09 AM
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I'm going to guess he can't handle being exclusive with a pornstar so he does that. Shame. He could simply not be with her 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:07 AM
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NTA. That's odd and he has no reasons other than the obvious to do that 🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:03 AM
10

What the fuck did I just read 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:02 AM
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I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that in the first place! Proud that you stood your ground though and you didn't hesitate one bit from the sounds of it. Being stronger because of here means that we're taking in the lessons well xxxx I hope you get better and take care of yourself ❤️💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:31 AM
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goes through serious trauma from all the trials liver issues from all the complications "BuT mY BiRtHdAy" How do you feel like a nuisance? Blood transfusion ain't no joke sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 12:25 AM
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Oh G-d Oh Fuck The shills are after us 😂💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:05 PM
38

Oh fuck, that's almost all of us can't believe it 🤤😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:19 PM
13

True. It's lonely at the top and levelling up can be isolating but I'd rather do that than be unfocused with people who don't go beyond face value anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:09 PM
9

Tbh less love handle. No matter how thin I was at peak anorexia, regular panties gave me lumps and bumps that thongs don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:08 PM
12

You're right, that didn't even cross my mind 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:34 PM
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I feel attacked 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:49 PM
54

"but do you look like that" he said. Better yet do you look like a man who can get a woman like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:12 PM
16

What meal ticket? There's nothing "Trad" about men of the last three generations. The "women from their great grans generation" would've whipped them with shoes telling them they aren't real men cos they can't provide. You want Trad women? Then actually step up. Women divorce not because of hypergamy but because you're still playing the victim by purposely making her do everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 04:26 PM
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Lmao I don't even do paragraphs anymore. Their responses are always one to five words. I just say "no" and block at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 04:16 PM
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Sis, he sold you a false bill of goods. I've been in the exact same situation but with only one kid and left after two years. It won't improve. You can't change them. Even if he gets a stable job he will use that as a reason to still be lazy outside of those "hard, grueling eight hours a day".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 04:13 PM
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I don't see why she should cry. Shame the bhástaird. He's the degenerate. He's the weak seed here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 03:25 AM
9

I worried about this too because it would be great to swap photos or just chat but... unfortunately it's easy to get doxxed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 03:16 AM
9

Like 12 lies? Done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 06:01 PM
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All those foreign flags leads me to believe he just wants those kinds of women since he loves accents so much. Also uh...army trooper and drone pilot? Seems conflicting. He has four different job classes at 23? It's usually the fakers who have all these wild credentials. Be wary of anyone who claims service. Source: ex hubs is a 68W(combat medic) in the US Army, has a pre med bio degree, is an E-5 rank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:58 AM
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Wauw sounds like some of my childhood shit. Can't blame the son. He's still leaving shit in the oven. Let's hope she actually does what she claims at the bottom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:38 AM
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Halima is amazing. Quote is from "G.L. Lambert, Men Don't Love Women Like You: The Brutal Truth About Dating, Relationships, and How to Go from Placeholder to Game Changer"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:33 AM
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"Women are taught to sacrifice, to play nice, to live an altruistic life because a good girl is always rewarded in the end. This is not a virtue; it is propaganda. Submission gets you a ticket to future prosperity that will never manifest. By the time you realize the ticket to success and happiness you have been sold isn’t worth the paper it was printed on, it will be too late. Go on, spend a quarter of your life, even half of your life, in the service of others and you will realize you were hus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:20 AM
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Never heard until this. Officially into him just by quote alone. Thanks for the suggestion, you're a lifesaver x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:11 AM
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Saved and posted in my WhatsApp status for my girls on the contact list. The best way I weed out LVM/NVM now is that. The ones who get triggered by these get added on the block list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:44 PM
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Absolutely it is. Better to break free when you can. Having a child of my own was like "no things have to change". What is disturbing is how many of us are here with identical upbringings, relationship dynamics, etc. It's so common that there's a trend and there's more and more waves of us waking up and going FDS. I see the numbers growing here and it is a joy to see more people valuing themselves and leveling up. ✊🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:27 PM
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Sadly like OP in that I had a mum who married a creep that did the same. She tried on two occasions to get me set up with men significantly older (14 years and 17 years) because "11 years or more is a great age difference for male maturity" and "they make good money". Pickmeisha mothers/NPD mothers tend to do that to their daughters. The complex of competition yet living through their kids, seeing them as "an extension of myself" instead of seeing them as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:55 PM
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I'm 27 and a 19 year old guy approached me recently. I had to tell him "young man, I am far too old for you please move along" and he was insistent that I "give it a try". Nope. That is a child to me. In every way. I can't find someone under 25 physically attractive. I can't relate to you mentally or spiritually. Most people in the Americas are still in high school at 18 or literally just graduated 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:52 PM
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I couldn't finish reading that. My stomach twisted. This is beyond sick and the top commenter is right it's textbook emotional abuse. I'd be questioning his own history since he was with her since 18 according to the post. You can't communicate with that. You can't reason with that. You have to exit that, anyone who seriously thinks some talks are going to fix it are seriously mistaken. A good person would ask what to avoid doing so they don't trigger the person, not ask for graphic detail like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:11 PM
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The best way to reduce them, especially at a young age, is face massage (I use the Olga Toja channel on YouTube). You can learn all of it for free, which is what I got into at 25 when I was pregnant and had awful hypoglycemia so I had really bad undereye circles that my normal routine wouldn't fix. If you don't have proper cleansing oil, rapeseed/canola works for massage. It helped me reverse premature nasolabial folds (which run in my mum's side of the family so I tackled that immediately) in m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:02 AM
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Precisely this. When I was out of my first long-term relationship and before I got married, I briefly dated someone for 4 months who seemed like a high-value male, but it quickly became problematic. Six months for flaws to surface, a year to see the patterns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:36 PM
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It is usually a direct reflection of you as a parent. I wouldn't want my daughter, once she's of school age, to bite or hit or yell at people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:56 PM
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I can't really slag off the dancer that's her job. The wife? HM..I don't blame her anger. I'd just walk away at that point and say "he can have all the dancers he wants I'm out". Her reaction is understandable. I do like that she directed her anger at him and not the other woman. Many of us are programmed to default to hitting the woman and not the man who promised/vowed loyalty and fidelity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:21 PM
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Can confirm. An HVM in my life found out (it's a long story) I'm on here and he was like "why were you afraid I'd find out? I don't get it, they're supporting your lifestyle and aspirations how is that a bad thing?" THAT is a HVM folks 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:15 PM
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Yeah I second this. I'd love to see how this pickme demonises single mums. Because it's always their fault, can't possibly have anything to do with the fathers not picking up their own slack 💁🏼‍♀️🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:01 PM
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"They can't make fun of or hit girls" Hm I mean...hitting is abuse full stop so. I'd think that dismantling it and not normalising that kind of behaviour as "he likes you" would be a good thing 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:49 PM
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26 with forehead cracks ✔️ Hat on backwards ✔️ Douche expression with no top lip in sight ✔️ Eye bags, likely from too much gaming ✔️ Refers to sex as clogging the plumbing ✔️ No additional education or ambitions ✔️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:40 PM
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🙏🏻💁🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:37 PM
10

I needed this. I'm in tears. I needed to remember that I'm actually worth it and to not cave. Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:01 AM
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I wish I was more active on social media so I could see that. I'd never be with a cop. I now know that military isn't much better. A few SSG and higher enlisted have hit on me while they were married and they knew I was married. It seems to be a given...it was a blessing that I never had to live on base.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:21 PM
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!yaD ekaC yppaH 💅🏻🍰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:58 PM
21

Nine. Maybe I just dislike dudes who use googly eyes and listen to The Darkness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:52 PM
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I know she gets posted a lot but this needed to be said. It took a lot to realise what was happening. Making that realisation and learning from it is the ultimate strength x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:11 PM
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Once I realised that I married the wrong man, I made my exit plan and have zero empathy, sympathy or urges to go back to him. I left because of the risk and he got increasingly violent, almost overnight post-deployment. People said "communication he might be traumatised" well like most women, I come from a life of trauma and I have ZERO urges to punch walls, break and smash things and yell. Why wait to see if next thing it's me or our child? No chance in hell do I feel bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:28 PM
15

Nice polo shirt, Brian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:23 PM
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I love that girl! Literally every post is a truth bomb. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:19 PM
17

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:15 PM
30

You did the right thing. Scream, cry, let it out. Do what you have to. Make sure he can't come back. Hopefully the girl listens. Hopefully he won't be her headache but at least he isn't your headache anymore. Relax and focus on self care, you had a serious event and it's a lot. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:54 PM
5

I only did the SAHM thing for a year. It was enough for me to be like "nope I need to go back" and in just a year, such a short amount of time, it was already soo much harder to get back into the work force. I can't imagine being out for 5, 10 or more years. Edit: I always had a side hustle no matter what to ensure my resume wasn't bare bones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:46 PM
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Eh I used to be part of the TradNat movement. It didn't stop me from having the ability to bounce back. People like WifeWithAPurpose, TradCatFem and Faith Goldy are very convincing for young women who are conflicted on where to go. When you're under 30 you're pushed in so many different directions and most women are coerced into doing it all because "now you can have it all". So many women choose to opt out and stay at home because they don't wanna have to do both. I joined that movement and bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:43 PM
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I went on a few dates with a guy three years older than me like this. He "was so used to crazy" that my chill and relaxed responses made him angry. He'd literally get angry at me for not throwing things or having melt downs. He even called me vindictive because I wouldn't indulge it. That was eye opening as an 18 year old. It dawned on me quickly that most men who exclusively "date crazy" are the ones making women feel this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:58 PM
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Oh hey, another one. The hardest part about being a military spouse is the fact that you will inevitably sacrifice your career, which reduces your prospects and growth so fast. In the two years I was married, I went from a program coordinator/grant writer and case manager to SAHM and spending the first year with the baby, then the second year focusing on getting a job again. The level of vulnerability in the military community is insane. The men (and plenty of women both service members and othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:54 PM
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I'm guessing he had the keys otherwise she could've gotten air conditioning on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:47 PM
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I married under 25 🙈🤦🏼‍♀️ I agree with this. I'm 27 now and the last thing I can think about is trying again, I'm just excited to get my shit together (again) and start my other career path. It's so easy to lose focus when you're married, especially when you're young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:45 PM
11

Thank you!! This is why it took me a full year to leave (along with finding the right time to bail as soon as I was able to plan it out). I was of the mind to not repeat my mum's mistakes and I was like "I won't divorce, I won't divorce". It didn't help he was extremely Xian and I am not lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:42 PM
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✊🏻✊🏻✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 07:44 PM
1

I'm 1.80m/5'11. Dutch men are the tallest 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 07:44 PM
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I've been so off the grid and didn't really use this account until recently after making it for some vapourwave stuff in 2018. Now that I'm seeing it I'm still kind of in shock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:57 PM
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Meanwhile the responses to second comment: "it's easier for a woman to meet the right one if she doesn't overthink what she wants in a man" (lmao) while only three above that the same illiterate bellend was telling the woman to "stay away from men" for stating "I don't need a man but I'd love to meet a nice one". Doesn't take much to trigger them, folks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:50 PM
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Just gonna say, I'm 5'11 and a US size 2/EU 4. I fit into stuff most girls a foot shorter than me fit into. It'll take years to own it and petite obsession is mostly channeled to men who want to feel dominant. There are plenty of men who love tall women. I promise you, the height is not as much of a downside as you may think. The moment I started owning it and admiring my own assets, the more it became bearable. It triggered my anorexia (partially because I have a petite mum who made me feel "bi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:43 PM
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I grew up not knowing my father til 26 (a year ago). All it took was spending a month with him and my stepmom to see how they treat each other, to confirm that my own relationship was unhealthy. If I'd known him at a much younger age I would have been a lot healthier mentally and spiritually. He single-handedly changed my views in a month, and he truly is a HVM. He is the "sixes" (as the RP would put it) being 6'1, makes six figures, still has a six pack at 56, married to my stepmum 15 years and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:40 PM
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Okay but my first long term relationship was this. I thought he was great but looking back on it objectively, I realised he believed in some very problematic stuff. Very controlling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:28 PM
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🌚🌚🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:27 PM
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Saaaame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:06 PM
17

I wish I knew this before it became an arguement with some NVM I knew who walked around with no shoes lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:49 PM
10

Right. I have been faceless since 2011. I haven't missed it. When I was questioning if I was paranoid or my ex was cheating, I asked trustworthy family and a lifelong friend. But it wasn't as obvious as the above it was a lot more detective work/snooping. Didn't take me long to realise I can't stomach a relationship where playing the detective was something I'd refuse to put up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:35 PM
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It's amazing what being gaslit does to you; when you're from the outside looking in and you get your own flashbacks of different but similar scenarios you've been through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:34 PM
15

Funny how my ex husband has a pre-medical biology degree from a well known state university and he would disagree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:12 PM
51

Every single guy who's philosophy major has at some point used the "if it has gone into many locks it's a good key, but if many keys have gone into that lock it's a shitty lock" quote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:12 PM
56

This is embarrassing. Why would you even post this if you were her? If I truly wanted an outside opinion I'd go on an anonymous forum not Facebook 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:05 AM
14

It's a shame the top comment is still blaming her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:49 AM
29

Is this in Divorce? That thread is getting rough. In under an hour I've already seen a handful of women getting screwed. Three stood out big times: One where it's the 26yo child of an alcoholic leaving her mum who put up with his cheating, alcohol abuse, being a jobless bum, etc. and he dropped her after 30 years of marriage for a side piece because her mum has Crohn's. The other where a woman was married for 22 years, SAHM, four children. He decided to leave to another state and live with some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:11 AM
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What I did was left a note saying "I left to visit my father, here's his number" and a PO box address. Legally they can't use it as a "kidnap" charge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:01 AM
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I was in an identical situation and my saving grace was a parent I didn't know until last year, my biological father. Ends up he married an American woman and stayed in a different state and we connected and bam! That was my support and he even got me the ticket. I left with the baby and keep contact with her father but I do not engage conversation outside of our child. It's hard. I'm still going through the motions and navigating getting my ducks lined up. Do you have any support? If so are the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:00 AM
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When I was in a bad headspace and work stress and couldn't go to my spouse at the time you know what I did? I talked to friends, confided in trusting family members that were very neutral and we're good listeners. I pursued my hobbies and continue to exercise regardless of how bad the situation was. The last thing on my mind was an affair. Heck I didn't even know anyone I would have an affair with. So his reasoning is bollox. As for everything else, good on her. She stuck to her guns. Five month…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 08:48 PM
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I feel this. My ex just got diagnosed with Bipolar II and already had depression out the gate. He acted exactly like this. Had occasional moments of being nice but even when he was nice it was always if it benefited him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:25 PM
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I love that, so amazing! Much like yourself I got sent to a private school, uniform, charm lessons added (that was a separate program outside of the school). Fixing cars just felt natural. Same with construction surveying which is the main option available that I'm going for (back home it's considered a profession and not vocational/trade but of course in the US it is under that umbrella so it's cool to have both to consider). Something about fixing old cars feels relaxing and wanting to learn m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 05:56 PM
4

It's true. As a foreign woman on top of that they were like "high school diploma" and I was like uh...that's in another country entirely 🤭😂 This one I only needed two letters but since I couldn't get my high school transcripts I had them call my university and confirm I attended and graduated from 2012 to 2016 and all that. It was a few hoops but once I did their test, that's when it was either I got in or didn't so I'm glad it's the former. It's a shame that even on a hands on level we are told…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 05:49 PM
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Thank you! Omg that's incredible. Architect! A talent that just speaks to some people but goes over my head completely. Do you think you'll go that way? We all deserve more levelling up and love in this hard year. Even if it takes longer we all got this. We all have so much ahead and so much potential and skills. Steam engine driver, never heard of it 😯 have you ever considered looking into the trades? They're in dire need of equipment operators, flaggers, drivers of every kind, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:37 PM
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Exactly and watch his actions. If he's still pushy and aggressive after agreeing with you, you know who he is as an individual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:06 PM
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🌚🌚🌚 If you have to ask you shouldn't be giving them so much access and privileges
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:05 PM
10

🤭🤭🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:05 PM
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Of course. I meant the downvoting likely being lurkers. In a weird turn of events, I found out he was saying the same thing to my friend who was three years older (still making him 14 years older than her). But when he'd spout off about it I eventually went, "well if you did all this how come she's still in the apartment you guys share and you went to the other side of the country and live with your parents now? If she cheated on you and did all these things that you claim she did, how come she'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:49 PM
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Lmao am I actually being downvoted for this? Okay coach. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:38 AM
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Funny I was part of it and I couldn't even offer support. They won't let you do anything but follow. 🙀🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:38 AM
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I got approached by a guy 17 years older than me (I was 21 at the time and just before I got into my first serious relationship) way back when. Immediate red flags. He'd always slag off his ex girlfriend and said stuff like "I made her fresh squeezed orange juice in the mornings, I was the best boyfriend" blah blah blah. Didn't feel right. Ran a background check. Tons of insurance fraud, theft, money fraud, etc. Ghosted lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:12 AM
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👀👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:10 AM
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So true. There's a saying I grew up with but didn't really consider until I realised how often I was getting my boundaries invaded (and of course letting it). "When two people meet it should benefit a third". It of course implies that it should be so healthy that both people thrive and it ends up making their community better, but this applies to so many facets. If it doesn't help you or enhance you, it isn't worth your time or health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:36 AM
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I am that „empath" who did just this and learned from the insanity. Better in my late twenties than never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:24 AM
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This made me nauseated... I don't get why they think it's okay to message random people like that. How can that be sexy? If it isn't a "hot damn hell yeah tell me more" then don't go there, and I mean that from both sides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:53 PM
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What a bollox apology. Did we have the same family? We have identical upbringings. My now ex said my breasts sag because I was a longtime anorexia sufferer (I even asked my doctor long after the comment if it was true, they confirmed they were "normal" and not at all saggy) and I just about spat in his face. So without further adieu let's begin: No. This isn't a you problem entirely. You have trauma. I'm going to guess he is well aware of this and he is choosing to be insensitive of the issues a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:42 PM
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I was taught by older generations in many ways like how you present yourself. When you carry yourself like a lady, many will feel threatened and it forces others to either step up their game or try to take you down with them. Keep levelling up. You may find yourself attracting many surprising people who are genuine. I promise x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:30 PM
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You know...my mum tried to set me up with a man that was 37 when I was 22 going on 23 so reading the post and doing the math it's alarming how often this happens. The massive age gap, usually the younger one changing dramatically while the other partner doesn't change. The comments are giving me hope. Everyone is on her side from what I'm reading. She's too good of a person. She needs to get out like yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:23 PM
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Maybe, just maybe, as mothers we actually give a shit about children; boy children and girl children typically (key word) have different struggles. I don't know how this is a bad thing. Also I'm glad I saw the username. I knew who to block :). His comments are frequently downvoted because they're rife with racism and misogynoir („black women have more testosterone") from the 30 seconds I creeped his comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:01 PM
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I'm the odd one out here; I love beards due to my culture as well as beliefs BUT I love a man who conditions, grooms and even self shapes/edges his. It takes maybe 10 minutes to do that daily and it's so minimal. Make the beard smell good and shaped properly and it can look great, especially if it's an actual beard and not a patch. If you can't grow proper facial hair then you're doing yourself an injustice. If I dyed my blonde hair brunette, my roots would make me look like I'm balding, hence w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:11 PM
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Exactly. HV people aren't flaunting their HV, they are living it and working on leveling up every day and being the best people they can be in action, character and integrity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:10 PM
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Words are just words. You could be a traditional tier angel, breakfast in bed daily with coffee and he'll brag to his friends about it, but you could still find yourself 2, 5, 15, 25 years down the road wondering why you're fighting for basic decency in a relationship that was a false bill of goods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:09 PM
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Going to use this if it ever comes up. Perfectly put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:06 PM
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It depended on the day. Sometimes he would say "be safe" and other times he'd say "don't go talking to any strange men". One day he told me he got insecure most of the times I'd go for walks. It was really mixed signals. He never outright said that he thought I was cheating but he came home one day with the treadmill saying "now you don't have to go out for walks you can just hop on the treadmill instead". It was very odd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:57 AM
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Ehm. Many times we call each other out kindly but firmly. We literally help each other level up, not crap on men for every single issue. Yeah, sure, there's some folks who write that but really the message here is about self love and self respect. If "she" actually read any posts for a whopping two minutes, "she" would've known this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:31 AM
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I wish it was a joke...I always left in a pony tail with sneakers, some hoodie and "running" pants. I'd often take our kid with me so it's like what would I do in that short period of time with an infant under two? Lmao. Yes, very ready for random neighbour sexy time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:21 AM
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Now I know why my ex went as far as to get me a treadmill. He admitted when I went on my 30 minute walks he'd get "wildly insecure" lmao. I still chose the fresh air over that treadmill in the office room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:27 PM
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I'm a thin and busty type and I still had a paedophile abuse me for years (I had C cups by 13). Some people like petite and others like athletic or curvy or thin or whatever. I know tons of healthy men who like petite women because it's a preference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:30 PM
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"Neeh" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:34 PM
12

I am an RSW. I've never seen anything like this but uh..no? Lol. Most of us go into this line of work due to some dysfunction at home or serious trauma. We end up being incredible advocates for others who need it. Like get back to us when you've been alongside us for the 4 to 5 years of studies (minimum), 260+ unpaid practicum hours, multiple placements, tons of face to face client interventions, ensuring suicide prevention and the countless crises that we are trained to handle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:03 PM
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Those are real friends, I'm glad you have people you can trust with this! x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:01 PM
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Saved, thank you for sharing x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:00 PM
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I remember the first guy I'd ever been in a relationship with would call my career "cute", "not a real career" and "transient" even though I was an RSW and already a program coordinator/grant writer at 22. He went from being a cook at an elderly facility to becoming a maintenance guy at the same place. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:57 PM
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I'm guessing competition and thrill of the chase. You've already put yourself in the higher position so therefore he'll see you as more of a HVW and wanna prove himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:54 PM
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It's funny how much I hear guys say height doesn't matter but they sure as fuck will try and make a girl feel masculine if she's above 5'6. I'm 5'11 and have zero fucks about manlets who will shame me for being tall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:32 PM
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He's 39. The likelihood of him overcoming that is almost zero. If he's basically 40 and still leading on a fuck buddy when he has you, who was very clear about intentions, then he will never settle down. I don't like to compare us to meat but "why have burgers when you have steak at home?" fits this situation. He took the former when he had the latter. He'll regret it but likely never have the full awareness to realise he's accountable. It's hard when the chemistry is amazing but unfortunately h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:16 PM
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Every HVM I've come across doesn't think infertility is a deal breaker. They're usually of the mind that "if it happens, it happens. If I'm sterile then we can work with it. If the girl I'm with is battling infertility we can continue trying and pursue adoption". True HVM don't shame someone based on age, because they have more to offer than trying to trap a woman into carrying their seed. Edit: sorry responded to wrong statement but I agree with that too lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:12 PM
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It's sad because I've battled anorexia for over half my life and seeing this is tragic. A sweet and, from what it sounds like, a developed woman, being convinced that looking 13 is more attractive. Porn is extremely triggering and can cause eating disorders if you already don't have one. The worst part is this guy likely knows his actions are the trigger but won't give up the habit because his orgasms are more important than his girlfriend's health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:06 PM
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This reminds me of the line by Lyla on SOA, "I still have a few years left in my career where I still look like everyone's kid sister". It's paraphrased but similar to that. Speaks volumes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:03 PM
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All of this. He makes it known when he wants you. He makes it clear and won't be afraid to tell you exactly how much and show it to you through his actions. Why have relationship drama with people you don't even have relationships with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:47 PM
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"Not All Women Are Like That"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:02 AM
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It's almost as if they miss the fact that most of us do get pursued we just choose not to settle 💆🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:44 AM
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This had me in stitches omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:42 AM
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Unicorn = woman who is a knockout that still plays sex slave/cool girl So uh...if she is the female version of him he'll know she's not gonna put up with his bollox and never be serious with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:35 PM
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"And if I hurt your feelings, I meant to" 💆🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:42 PM
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cue No Scrubs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:36 PM
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Absolutely. If I was the girlfriend I would be livid with him not the girl in question. HE promised commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:43 PM
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I love that, at least from what we're seeing, she didn't freak out at you over his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:31 PM
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I started testing it on the few guy friends I had, as well as combined what I read from FDS and put it into action. It helped me eliminate so many people in a matter of two days. Can't wait to hear how it goes for you luv ❤️💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:55 PM
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As the quote goes, "It's flattering knowing men desire me. But then I remember a man would also have sex with a McChicken. So I don't let it get to my head."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:45 PM
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I remember when I was 19 and there was this guy I thought seemed nice. Went on two dates. I noticed he smelt...off. And his teeth up close weren't being taken care of. Ends up he never did laundry and lived with his mum who also didn't do laundry, so even with a shower the clothes still smelt. That was That. I heard from a friend he liked to walk around without shoes on too. Never went out again. I can't imagine living with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:41 PM
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That's a good book and it started me on the journey to leaving the abuse and taking control. Good call. Stick to your guns on everything x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:38 PM
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I can't find the video anywhere I really wanted to see it ahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:35 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you; going to look into that right now because there's hopefully some resources on YouTube and other avenues x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:57 AM
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I was married to someone like that so it was pretty underlying. I didn't find out fully til near the end and a lot of what I suspected was confirmed. It consisted of finding out that he paid for subscriptions to Fash the Nation/The Daily Shoah. To be clear, he was more of an alt-right kind of person than the MGTOW/RP ilk. But nonetheless he caved and admitted to me out of the blue that he used to be into that after a college relationship went sour. Observe how he speaks. Do you find he evades te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:31 AM
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Exactly. I wasn't even going to debate that, no point expending valuable time and energy into that jackassery. He was very much about "the war on women" and "how he's very passionate about the internalised oppression of women" because his sister was. That in itself is a flag of suspicion for me because you end up waiting for a bomb like the one above to drop. It's also why I never state that I follow FDS or explain where I stand politically with men who ask. I'm sure looking back on it he assume…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:42 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:05 PM
8

I mean really, a more vindictive version of two truths and a lie? No thanks. Way past elementary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:04 PM
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Only a week deep in FDS culture and the community and already I'm feeling all of this. It has helped filter out so many unnecessary people too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:03 PM
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I've never used a dating app or site before and these kinds of things confirm why I never will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:59 PM
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Not even hiding it anymore...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:58 PM
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👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:58 PM
2

Thank you for confirming this! I really wanted a new skill and martial arts like karate doesn't interest me. My good friend from back home is an instructor for Krav Maga and she's always talking about how every woman should have that or some level of self defense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:33 PM
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Agreed. I'm 27 but I look WAY better than I did at 20. I don't go out drinking every night, I almost never drink. I drink 10 to 12 glasses of water, hike daily, stick to my skin regiment, drink collagen, take my vitamins, avoid fast food. All these good habits I developed by 23 and it aged me backwards. On top of that when you are 25+ you really get a sense of your style so you know what looks good on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:26 PM
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Lmao right? I've dealt with 20 and 21 year old girls saying I looked a year or two older than I was as if that was supposed to be an insult. I was like ??? Oh wauw didn't realise my humanity now equated to being over 25 and thus "looking 28" is...a bad thing? In many ways it pisses me off when women in their early twenties do this to women in their mid to late twenties like sis, you're not far from that. Hopefully they realise it when they get there; they either gain some character and learn how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:25 PM
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But this 💯 I'm 27 and I remember talking to someone who I thought was a HVM until he found out my age and went "whoa you look 19 to 21, not even close to 27, women our age look way more used up". My response was literally "🤨" and blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:20 PM
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Most of these idiots don't know when a woman is over 30 unless she's a serious drug addict, doesn't take care of herself or just doesn't age well. Again, this feels like such an Americas/New World problem. I've yet to meet a man from my home country or most of Europe who's like this. In fact, even more traditional European countries/cultures (i.e. Slav culture) will typically question why a man is 30+ and unmarried, it doesn't just fall on the woman. Men I knew back in Denmark were, at the age o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:17 PM
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As a woman who was horrifically traumatised until leaving the home, and not knowing what a relationship was, and proceeding to get into something that perpetuated all that, I can say with absolute certainty men like that rely on women who have no sense of self to keep them company. He even talks about the "level" of trauma that a man would want in a woman like...expecting us, as always, to be rehab centres for them but wants us to have just enough low self esteem to put up with their shit, but n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 01:54 PM
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☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 01:49 PM
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Maybe she's trying to get better at baking. We all start somewhere. She was far too nice with her "that isn't very nice". I dealt with something like this but it was regarding how I did dishes. I called him a cheese munching bellend and to do the dishes if he feels he does it better. Edit: anyone else notice as soon as he said "have I ever told you how good of a baker you are?" She looked like she was gonna cry before he even insulted her? I swear these kinds of videos are men trying to prove to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 01:48 PM
2

I only breastfeed at night and I still feel "funky". How long did it take you if you don't mind my asking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:12 PM
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Thank you Yoda! I've walked away from two "perfect" men before making the dumb choice to trust, marry and have a child with someone and then leave. I learned from that. I'm now 27. Everyone twice my age tells me that time may be short but there are ALWAYS good people about no matter the age. Heck, my parent's friend just came by to visit and he's 60 and just started dating seriously after a 30 year marriage (she passed away and he's been single over 7 years). I've already come across someone who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:58 PM
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Exactly! I know a few men who are into "vanilla" and their logic is always "pain doesn't get my rocks off, I already want to make my partner feel good, not make them cry". None of those men watch porn either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:14 PM
31

No remorse? Call the cops. Drop him. Get a restraining order. Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:12 PM
29

Dr. Ruth is the best she's absolutely someone I admire for her strength, wit and character. L'chaim to her 👏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:37 PM
19

Exactly! That was still the era of "if you have a miscarriage you must be infertile" 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:27 PM
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Of course they won't attack single fathers either. It's disgusting that it's shamed and normalised in the same stroke. There's tons of women who shame single mothers too, it's awful; I've seen many of them be like "how could he pick HER she's a single mum, he can do soo much better". Damned if you do, damned if you don't. There's a special kinda hell for those women too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:41 PM
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Also it could take up to TWO YEARS for your sex drive AND hormones to regulate. That's why doctors tell you to avoid getting pregnant for at least two years after you give birth. There's no guarantee you'll ever have the same sex drive after that, many women are forever changed after motherhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:38 PM
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Okay so like...before he was deployed mine wasn't even like this. I had crippling all day sickness from 6wks to 17wks. This guy is awful. With the exception of the fact that sex can be totally uncomfortable, oral sex could literally trigger the sickness. By the time you start "showing" your hormones can be all over the place and vaginal dryness is so common. This is why you can never really trust who you're with in terms of procreation. They can switch so easily and it may take one, two or more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:35 PM
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This made me cackle I love this woman's sass 👏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:26 PM
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It's almost as if sperm quality, motility and count goes down when they hit 30 😂 I've had this arguement on other forums like Quora and they always try to rebuttle it with fake news/outdated and inaccurate sources. Female fertility doesn't even decline at 30. It somewhat slows down, then makes a slight decline by 35 and starts around 40. It's why we see "the wall" for both genders in mid fifties where I'm from and it's more than fertility alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:18 PM
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Lmao „dismantle the system". He's so deluded. I love how precedes this with "her style changes a lot" like oh, you mean she has a vast wardrobe so therefore she's either bipolar or borderline. I've dealt with NVM saying the exact same thing to me like nah, your same four shirts, two jeans and old runners doesn't mean you're "more stable".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:50 PM
205

Whoa what? "Why did she wait 3 years to report rape" oh gee, where have we heard this exact question before? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:51 AM
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This made me cry a bit because what if she relies on it for mental health reasons, like depression, and cooking a healthy meal regularly is hard? What if she lives with chronic pain? Or works so many hours she doesn't have time to pick up the ingredients and she still wants to eat a nutritious meal instead of fast food? Or hell, she could just prefer it because it helps balance her portioning and intake. He can make his own meals. He lacks any consideration for her and her needs and it's all abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:44 AM
13

Lmao at the bidet. It doesn't even work like that. He's 31. This is disgusting. If he isn't going to change his ways or get help for it, best you move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:03 AM
41

"it is more than okay to be single, actually it's beneficial" yes! Apart from reading on here, in the short time I've already distanced myself from everything and chose to move on, I found out my letter got accepted and I'm waiting for my apprenticeship, taking this time to heal and appreciate myself and trust myself. It's really nice to be by myself and focus on goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:54 PM
35

"and they always come back anyway 🙄" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:49 PM
149

What a clusterfuck I'm glad you did. That's wildly unhealthy, full stop. That kind of indecisiveness while drunk is a recipe for disaster, and the "buddy?" Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:47 PM
44

I aspire to be exactly like this woman. She's beautiful AND that confidence is my goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:37 PM
9

Awful, I'm so sorry...sigh. At first when he started getting "weird" I thought maybe it was adjusting but then it progressed and I left 9mos after the first incident at the first opportunity I could find. Being in Europe if you aren't European can be incredibly tough. Were you in Germany if you don't mind my asking? Funny about the job...I got a state job to make things easier but it didn't. He started getting really hot and cold and a few people asked if he was bipolar but I wouldn't touch on s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:08 PM
17

^ couldn't have said it better myself. Half my posts on the full extent of my own situation were deleted but it's similar af. He was gone 7/9 months of the pregnancy due to deployment and he didn't really "turn" and start freaking out until our child was 4mos old. At this point I don't even trust my judgement to date let alone try again to have a family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:36 PM
2

I'm a bit puzzled. I'm not a liberal myself but how is this related to the post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:18 PM
19

Yeah and I was a big time former pickme who thought "you have to grow with them and get through it". But it never got better and I had to learn the hard way that you really can't improve it unless you take action yourself. I also disregarded a lot of it as "normal" until I removed myself from the situation. Also sidenote, are military men known for being like that? I've heard a mixed bag from other military spouses; half say they've been cheated on, the other half seem to have really good ones. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:56 PM
44

I hope she's okay and in a good place. May I ask what happened to your coworker? She sounds like a superwoman! Breaks my heart when they turn after a second child is born or they get a child not of their preferred gender (I don't even understand that...).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:35 PM
21

I have some additional research because I'm one of those women this happened to; luckily only one child but now off to the rabbit-hole...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:58 PM
120

Thank you for voicing this! A lot of us get duped and they completely change from being seemingly compassionate individuals who'd be ideal parents to being dismissive or downright abusive. People ask how many of us don't see the signs but the fact of the matter is most signs are either hidden or absent altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:27 PM
5

LOVE her energy, great video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:05 PM
20

🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:04 PM
8

Ah that makes sense and I understand better now. Couldn't have said it better myself, it's nice to learn how to enjoy one's solitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:01 PM
29

Also this reminds me of "hey come on in Frank, I'm just drowning a brown clown down in splash town" from F is For Family. Ah, Vick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:26 PM
34

Yo why do they have such a fetish for redheaded women? I'm a blonde, freckly Danish girl and I still don't understand it lmao. "yOu sTiLL tUrN mE oN" lmao oh thank you for the boner crumbs bruv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:25 PM
21

Oooh and let's not forget the ones who were closeted Jewish bois in denial like the movie The Believer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:08 PM
95

😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:07 PM
59

Agree. I refuse to be friends with them. It's the same reason I stopped talking to select women in my family; they'd rather accuse me of being provocative at the ages of 5, 15 and 18 instead of looking to how shitty their husbands are. It's all the same. Pickme's are dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:52 PM
4

Can confirm that. I've met women well over 25 (up into their 50s) who still say crap like "women are just too much drama" and "I can't trust other women" when they're the ones who will send nudes to all their guy friends whether taken or not. They also love to pride themselves on "not like other girls". It's sad past the age of 20 and downright embarrassing past the age of 25 to still be like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:48 PM
44

Seriously? I'm pretty sure she could face legal consequences for that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:43 PM
99

YES This is exactly why I think everyone who's ever been taught to "turn the other cheek" gets screwed. Killing anything with kindness shows submission. Sure, you get called "the bigger person" or "handled it with grace" but it's a minority opinion and I'll take being a "cold bitch" over being a doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:44 PM
39

Our emotions and our "gut feeling" are often connected and this is why, if we feel alarm bells going off and we leave or decide to cancel last minute, we might get gaslit into thinking we're crazy or letting them down. I made a post in Empaths about this but I'll say it here; your gut may be "off" but it's never wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:57 PM
8

Thank you for this recommendation, I've added it to my amazon list. I am always up for challenging my own thinking and book recommendations ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:32 PM
79

It's a shame that most of the comments are men saying, "but women do this to themselves" and pickme's being like, "women do this to other women". It stems from somewhere and it's heavily rooted in seeing humans as commodities. I swear most commenters didn't even listen or watch the full video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:26 PM
99

I saw this post back in the tumblr days and it couldn't be more accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:12 PM
22

Already love this guy and I'm so glad to see this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:07 AM
9

Oh definitely! I had third degree tears and it was my first and only birth. They told me I could have a risk of incontinence and scarring but both didn't happen and with some Kegels and my normal exercise routine back, after 3mos my OB said it's like I never had a baby. It's really based around a combination of things including number of pregnancies/the pregnancy itself. Your genetics, lifestyle, hormones, build. It's all relative and your recovery can't be predicted no matter how easy the pregn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:27 AM
6

I actually needed to read this thank you. Xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:29 PM
63

As juvenile as I may sound, they started that when they kept treating us as disposable and started fetishising women from Southeast Asia, saying that we aren't "real women" since we won't cut their food for them. Back where I'm from (Northern Europe) men would consider it insulting if women did that because to them it's like saying you think they're incapable of being men. Being in America has been an absolute mindjob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:24 PM
16

As someones who's mum is a textbook pickme and clinically diagnosed NPD, this doctor is amazing and these videos need to be acknowledged more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:46 PM
177

Here's the craic; they say we're worse than the RP or MGTOW or InCel but we don't actively hate men. We're literally promoting self love, self enhancement and leveling up. We aren't going out shooting up theatres, advocating rape of underage children and adults alike and we certainly aren't talking about how "unmarriageable men in the west are". We're simply asking for respect and better treatment. We promote not settling simply for passing the time and we promote being high value people. There'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:41 PM
15

That's so ridiculous. My landing strip was always a point of "whoa I normally like bald but this is really hot and unique".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:10 PM
104

Absolutely. My vagina looks like I never had a kid so it's like...how is it that we can have tons of sex with one guy and it's no big deal yet having some sex with a lot of different men and we're suddenly the grand canyon down there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:52 PM
61

Right like, somehow he gets the platform and she's still in the shadows of his actions. I'm so done with LVMs saying we lack accountability but then doing this kinda shit and being too juvenile to take the blame for their shitty choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:46 PM
24

Lmao this, like they tell us "we aren't mind readers!!1!" But then when we do communicate we get met with eye rolls, disregard or simply not listening. They say they're better communicators but they usually can't verbalise jack shit so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:44 PM
15

So much "not all men" and "coMMUniCaTe" bollox. Like it's clear that OP feels detached from herself which is soo common when you become a mum. You've sacrificed your body, mental health and professional prospects to have children. The least you can have is feeling good about yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:42 PM
13

Lmao no. If he can't ask the simple question of "want to go on a date?" then why should we put the energy into it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:39 PM
67

Yet another reason why I left my ex. He'd get angry about OUR child being a typical baby and wanting attention. He'd be gaming from 6pm til 4am and complain about being tired and unable to handle our baby. He never stated being a gamer when we met so if they tell you this openly count it as a positive that you can add that to the red flag list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:37 PM
27

You know...my ex husband did that and it wasn't BDSM related (even he is a vanilla guy). I had neck bruises and photo evidence helped save me from being "stuck". I forgot this was the BDSM girl. My goodness I hope she's run far and she's with people she can trust... terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:18 PM
12

Right? I remember in high school hearing that kinda bollox and it was like "oh good, actual healthy love would be ideal" lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:51 PM
50

I'm 1.80m (5'11 in burger units) and this shit is constant. They say they don't care about height but most do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:02 PM
183

Whenever I see the words "no one will love you like I do" that's always a dead giveaway they're likely talking to six other women behind your back to set up in case you leave. Also dead in six months? Sounds like a threat. The first commenter on that thread is a social worker like me and this dude isn't even creative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:00 PM
255

"I'm such a nice guy™ I don't understand why women choose the bad boys." But for real "if you use your brain to see that I could make you happy" lmao but they won't. They won't put in the effort. The ones who talk like that never do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 12:33 AM
11

But why did I put off my own state job to continue handling childcare? Ladies, if he can't handle the child YOU BOTH have together, he doesn't deserve the sacrifices you make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:52 PM
3

Omg why even grasp, fucking let him go. Why wait for someone who throws empty threats or constantly says they aren't happy? Make the decision for them and get rid of the whole man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:40 PM
6

He was 33 when she was 20. They married when she was 22 and they divorced when she was 27 and he was 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:02 PM
7

I'm glad that she left though and didn't waste too much time. I'm glad that shined a light on how little awareness he has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:19 PM
2

"I don't understand you women" is a whammenz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:25 AM
20

His answer was to tell me "but you're my dream" Ecch. The manic pixie dream girl is something so inescapable. The moment you're seen as one that dangerous idealisation shoots through the roof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:19 AM
8

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's why I stopped feeling "shame" about most things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:17 AM
23

She did and about six months after that she came clean about not wanting kids and she didn't have to go back to Brasil. She ended up moving to another state and got back into her line of work and from what I've heard is thriving in marketing/graphic design. When she was married he told her she wasn't "allowed" to work and her depression got horrible because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:10 AM
30

If she does then the boyfriend will likely post how he's "blindsided" and "she was so happy/she didn't tell me anything about this"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:20 PM
29

I just saw the tags on her video (copy/paste) "It’s been 84 years👵🏼 #heartless#foreverboyfriend #babydaddy#dontletthisflop #fyp" At least she's calling herself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:47 PM
14

All of this. Number two is such an "I can't be held accountable".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:37 PM
81

I'd be too embarrassed to post this. My own mental rule even when I had fuck all for self esteem was "2 years" or go. After six months we'd sit down and discuss long term goals and, if we wanted the same things, I'd take notes of their goals and over time observe their actions and see if it aligned with their words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:35 PM
5

Oh no not at all 😳 I was agreeing with you! And applauding the video maker 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:04 PM
15

No it is not criticism. I work in mental health (social services) and am a former pickme who loves this post. Fear of being cast out or being seen as "undesirable" is such a powerful driving force, I ended up marrying pretty young (well before 25) and felt that "relief" for having been married and stepping from dating...only to find myself trapped all over again. Even getting out of it, it was always "well did you just cOmMuNiCaTe" or "bUt YOU maDe ThAt ChOiCE to marry him!" A traumabond is a lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:02 PM
17

Absolutely. In the beginning it was "2 or 3 at most" then the number kept growing once I got about halfway through the pregnancy. By the time we were in our breakup he said, "I never told you I actually wanted six children because I know you wouldn't go for it". All I said was, "every woman I've met, including those who love and want children, wouldn't go through the birthing process six times. That's madness."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:49 PM
42

"What traumabond do I have that makes me feel so connected to them?" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:46 PM
32

You know...I had a close friend who was a serious pickme. She'd always say cringey bollox like, "I'm the type of girl that will let him watch Star Wars, blow him then make him a sandwich right after, without having to be asked". Lo and behold soon after she dated a guy who was a total NVM who would make false promises of "I'm going into the army soon" and "I'm going on the job hunt soon" and he'd put it off to get stoned all day and play video games. They lived at her nan's house for a while unt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:17 PM
23

Imagine thinking that people have to devalue themselves to make you feel adequate and secure in yourself. Sounds like these blokes need shadow work 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:10 PM
34

As a mum who just got out of this while the child was only 13mos old I can say I agree. Inb4 people say "didn't you see the red flags?" no. He was deployed for 7/9 months and he didn't really "turn" until our child was about four months old. Life is already 48449582919x easier since I have more support where I am (family), already a much better paying job lined up (the lack of his support prevented me from being able to work out of the home and where I was located was so rural, the pay for dayca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 05:56 PM
17

Great job! Now where are y'all gonna sit 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 05:34 PM
6

From what I'm reading you may be getting more in a routine. Has he done anything that set you off? If not it's okay to walk away and not continue forcing what doesn't feel right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 05:22 PM
50

Definitely. I knew a guy who bragged about having a Brazilian wife ("American women are unmarriageable and so are anglophones") who was significantly younger than him. He'd always talk about women hitting the wall at 30 blah blah blah. She kept catering to what he wanted, but it ended up she lied about wanting kids (as he really wants children and does not have any) and kept the marriage going for 5 years while avoiding getting pregnant at all. Him being a lawyer, he divorced her with the prenup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:40 PM
2

Okay isn't it funny how he's typing these intricate paragraphs? Like...really C'mon now I thought we were supposed to have notoriety for that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:18 PM
3

The lazy bellend couldn't just use butter? Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:03 PM
33

"know how to discuss rather than fight" usually feels like code for "I will gaslight you into thinking your feelings are invalid" so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:02 PM
128

Men can say western women are "just not marriageable" but the fact of the matter is, they don't want to level up. When women are choosing to better themselves instead of competing with other women for a subpar man, they're seen as "less desirable". Go ahead and fetishise some foreign woman. She'll see your bullshit and leave you eventually anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:00 PM
18

Peak pickme gaslighting 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:42 PM
317

This fucker is 10/10 gaslighting her and I'm disgusted that nobody is able to do anything. When I went through serious abuse from 5 to 15, even with all the proof, courts gave the paedophile abuser such a joke of a sentence and guess what? He still walked free like nothing only doing half the time, getting married a fourth time and not having to finish his bullshit "program". We'll be told that a rape at a party isn't as bad as something like the above or my own experience, but all of the experi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:15 PM
220

Lmao okay but like...in a society where we're literally on an uphill battle about ageism towards women, yeah, I wouldn't wanna waste 10 years being a forever girlfriend. I know a nice woman who's now 36. She dated her ex at 23. She wanted marriage and kids and he kept putting it off. She spent 13 years being the forever girlfriend and he cheated on her anyway, as well as totally slagged her off to everyone calling her the cheater, bipolar, etc. You can bet your ass there were tons of under 25 pi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:50 PM
1

Gorgeous, witty, classy and uplifting. She's the goals I wanna be, letting it roll off my back. 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:22 AM
55

Oh shit, same. Except we're both in our twenties and I just left. I'm a year older than him and he'd use that shit constantly but everyone who saw us irl assumed I was much younger. Most women take care of themselves to age gracefully, but men will avoid basic care and say "my aging makes me look like I have more authority". Like, no bruv, you just look hella sleep deprived.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:12 AM
10

I'm relieved for that one. Hard pass on a stay at home husband who games and doesn't tend to children or household chores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:02 PM
9

Right?! It's almost like reproductive coercion exists and the stats for 2017 are still higher for female victims than male victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:00 PM
1

This is a lifesaver, thank you! Xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:16 AM
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