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Ok so what are the consequences of your belief? How does your understanding change your approach to your marriage and relationship?
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:39 PM
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Sorry, you are wrong. If you have an actual issue with the decision your wife made, discuss that in private. If after that you need to "undo" a decision a good option is to give the kids the chance to do something to earn a pardon. Otherwise kids learn very quickly to respond to not getting their way by causing drama between you two.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 01:57 PM
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Happy to hear you and your family are safe. I moved to the South a few years ago and I have to say that the amount of community mobilizing in the last week--it started even before landfall with calls for everyone to prep and get ready to help--is truly inspiring.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 01:46 PM
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Ok maybe I'm starting to unravel this. Sometimes I'm extremely dense so the following may be such a case. I keep coming back to phrasing you and u/husdom use. Distinctions that don't seem to have any meaning to me, but seem to have clear core meaning to you both. Things like "kink" vs "purely sexual kink" and "not about the kink" and how you view it as the natural state of marriage. One of the things I've been using lately to try and deconstruct topics is called "Moral Foundations Theory". The i…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 07:35 PM
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Ah. Rituals aren't something I'm into yet and they make me a bit uncomfortable for ex-religious hamster reasons. I'm pretty ironic about it all and we switch it up a lot. At this point I mostly adopt standard things you find in blue-pill space (things like jars of activities) and insert some supervision/control aspects.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 11:47 AM
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A lot of this is very MRP compatible. We use a captain / first-mate terminology but I sort of like the aerial flavor of your terminology better. MRP uses a book called "The Sex God Method" which has some similar themes to what are described here. With this in mind you probably wont read much about us on BDSM (Kinky) websites or communities. I'm not too clear on the distinction you're making and I don't understand why that would be? I've read a few articles that I like and I do prefer the writing…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 11:36 PM
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I need some... narrative here. Like I want to know about the bull in the china shop and how you worked that out. Did you use the husdom/submrs sites yourself? I tried to find discussions about it on bdsmcommunity for example but couldn't. Is that how you started? Did you read any books you recommend?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 09:49 PM
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Nice work accountability buddy. I only managed -0.2# this week so my SMV=1 still (saved by the rounding!). Tut tut about the iftinglay. Gotta maintain those gainz.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:33 PM
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Well, hang on a second. I just realized that I already speak STFU in all 6,909 living languages...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 08:57 PM
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In theory if you find a location where the exchange rate and cost of living makes you a beggar so that you're not a walking pile of gluttonous resources and she's choosing to slum it to be with you it should work fine. That's probably where you live already so look in the mirror and ask yourself if you're fuckable before you buy your plane ticket.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 08:20 PM
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I’d like to encourage men who still want a good wife to look East. As in, Russia, Ukraine and other former USSR counties. I cannot begin to tell you how encouraged and revitalized I am by this woman I met – and by most of the women I met and interacted with before I found “the One.” You can call importing a girl from poverty blue pill or purple or whatever you want, but lets be real that's not "Disney" or "Feminine Imperitive" or whatever. Please imagine the look of absolute *shock* and horror t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 07:50 PM
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It's on the course reading list, not a prereq, gunner.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 06:20 PM
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Dunno. Probably by shooting out a bunch of ideas and seeing if anything gets hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 05:40 PM
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Yeah. ENTPs learn by arguing and trying to undermine arguments. Only the strongest arguments survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 04:33 PM
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Yeah, I'm going to disagree with the stupid apologists here. It's actually not hard. But if you ask ambiguous non-verbal questions, expect ambiguous non-verbal answers. Try being direct to get direct answers. And if that doesn't work, that woman can go fuck herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 03:25 PM
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Yeah. Arguing for the sake of arguing is a waste of time. You should argue to expand your internal understanding of other people's understandings of the world. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 03:19 PM
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If you want to rape or be raped then it's ... rape? BFD. CNC is an entire praxis for that. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 02:56 PM
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Is it really so hard to confirm she wants to fuck before you shove your dick inside her? Rather than assume "yes unless she says no" maybe go for "let her know you want to fuck and make it clear you won't unless you're certain she's on board". You don't have to be a limpwrist about it. If you say something like "I want to shove my cock down your throat, what do you think?" she's going to have to respond, right? And if she doesn't say yes or start unbuckling your pants, then you back off. If you'…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 02:24 PM
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As I said, I am moralfaging the slide from fuckfest marriage to celibacy as abhorrent degeneracy not to be tolerated in any form. Any man who normalizes the decent to the rule-0 violation of sexless marriage is my sworn enemy and I shall freely taunt him with the full force of the word "cheater". As far as I'm concerned marriage is about fucking, for everything else there's the S-corp.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 08:09 PM
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Are you equating the wife with the Sword? Personally, I'd cast the wife as Damocles.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 07:47 PM
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The outcome is "sexless marriage". If "sexless marriage" is a pejorative, then it's not a positive outcome. If "sexless marriage" is a positive outcome, then cheating is an oxymoron.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 07:37 PM
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If you view the contract as broken, why are you renegotiating it? Some guy who divorces because the sex is gone is certainly not getting shade from me. Boo fucking hoo if it makes some entitled princesses nervous and worry about the stability of their own sexless marriages. I think this whole post is stupid. If you have to distort terminology to cheat without calling it cheating because the word matters more to you than the behavior... I just don't know what to say. I'll even go all moralfag her…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 07:24 PM
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I just glanced through it and I want to say it's pretty clear to me now why it was never translated into English. The key idea is to make it impossible to be a beta and to allow women to be feminine without seeking protege status--and that seems to revolve around 5-hour workdays and socialism.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:38 PM
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Do you want to work on this together? Maybe as a first step I can extract the ToC and section headings. I sort of liked vandaalen's idea of setting up a subreddit for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 12:42 PM
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One of the things about German is they often have different verbs for animals and humans. Substituting animal verbs for humans is sometimes done to disrespect. So I don't know how Germans interpret the title. Edit: maybe "tamed"?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 12:01 PM
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I think it's one of those words that don't have direct translations. Other options might be "domesticated" (in the sense of farm animals) or "housebroken". But that's just from reading the dictionary. It's not a word I ever encountered and I'm fairly ruined by my love of colloquial Schwaben and distaste for Hochdeutsch. :P
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 11:07 PM
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What the fuck is this even. How long did your family know and have to hold their tongues waiting for you to tell them while you lied and hid it from them instead? And you have the audacity to claim they betrayed you. P.S.: house = resource
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 09:54 PM
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Der Dressierte Mann = The Manipulated Man
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 08:38 PM
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Cool! Hey, u/vandaalen did anything come of your translation effort? I'm interested.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 08:06 PM
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I wasn't able to find the German for free. There is a French edition on libgen (and the French edition is available on Kindle Unlimited). My French is far worse than my German. ;) They have the Kindle edition in German and actually let you purchase it in the US, so that's what I have. But it's that encrypted flavor and I don't know how to export it. I did see epub from a lot of European sites (it's $5ish) and would have done that, but I didn't because I'm never sure whether they'll accept US pay…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 07:04 PM
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My bad. I don't know what you're up to but you're officially accountability buddy zoned. Let's not make this awkward.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 11:38 AM
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How about "ObviousTroll"?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 11:48 PM
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Hm. I'm conflicted. You're a clever troll. Edit: Ok then, troll. What I will do is each week I will reply to your OYS comment with my deltas using today's weight as baseline and by how far off target I was from my calorie/macro goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 03:05 PM
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You, and you alone, decide whether you are an unconscious white supremacist or harbor racist bias. That's bullshit. Acta not self-verba and feedback from your environment is important. And that's an entirely bullshit conversation you linked.* You get to choose your own behavior, not what others label you. Duck tests always apply and you can't do shit about it. The actual answer is you have no power over labels people give you. So embrace the label and then figure out what you want to do about it…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 12:46 PM
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You smell of troll, but if you're legit and want a MFP accountability partner PM me. I like your troll energy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:19 PM
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Survival 101 in SJ circles: never ever assume vague things are about you personally. If you think it might be, get clarification and confirmation first. Also, someone told me once to re-read Letter from Birmingham Jail and pay closer attention to the criticism of white moderates. So I'm being asked to give 100% credence to someone else's feelings and accept a huge amount of guilt based on how they feel, while at the same time, because of my race, my feelings are dismissed ahead of time, thought …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 08:55 PM
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lol I don't know any non-white females on the trump train. Worse my mom and sister (liberal white females) are very not trump-train too and even I think they are ridiculous. They're more than happy to offload all white problems onto white men and whenever they themselves are criticized they go nuclear. My sister gets into ridiculous arguments on facebook telling minority women to not criticize white liberal women and to basically shutup. It's bonkers. I'm like... go read the damn things about ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 08:12 PM
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As a practical matter, if your husband has been married more than once, he's the "constant" and you can compute your Cuntological Relativism vs his exes in his frame as (current marriage score) / (previous marriage score)
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 12:55 PM
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I'd argue the u-shaped thing is a result of coupling physical SMV and psychological SMV (basically a premature dimension reduction). In theory that coupling would exist inside the data that is plugged into the physical and psychological factors of the model. It's possible to have a very attractive beta cuck. And it's possible for an uggo to groom and control a woman. So I'd decouple physical SMV from psychological SMV. DNGAF% would be a component of the psychological SMV. I'm not sure how they s…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 06:12 PM
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I don't know why the idea of a pissing competition turning to "who's dick is getting wettest?" is cracking me up. Sounds like the most accidentally mangina phrasing ever. No offense! I just can't stop laughing at the idea of this going down in a shower room accidentally and everyone staring awkwardly.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 04:56 PM
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10 days? Punch cards faster. The floor's covered in discarded chads when I'm done. P.S.: It's Fortran since '90. Am offended.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 04:36 PM
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Probably also useful to incorporate an objective SMV measure to compensate for biased "would not fuck" perception. I propose: SMV = 5*atan(0.16*(20-BF%))+5*atan(0.16*BF%) where you would plug xx% body fat as xx. Based on the ACE standards and observational research showing that women prefer 12.5% BF (well within ACE athlete class). Definitely something Chad would destroy my score on--I'm at 1 hottness and I assume Chad would be in the 10 ballpark. There's probably a way to work in the BMI to pus…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 03:28 PM
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The %DNGAF is confusing. Does it mean: DNGAF = 1 - GAF That makes more sense intuitively for "Chad at 20%" etc because I think you're plugging 80% (otherwise increasing fucks increases score) Then the question is do you replace DNGAF with (1-GAF) or do you just put GAF in the denominator? Edit to add: 2(1) * 106 * 50 * 3 / 3(1) * 27 * 6 = 31800 / 3726 = 8.6
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 12:04 AM
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Pretty sure I know which couple this is and these two jokers need to actually talk rather than keep stalking each other's Reddit accounts and blowing up on MRP/TBP. This is just going to repeat over and over again. MRPW might be able to break the cycle.
/r/askMRP20/08/17 08:18 PM
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I'm still WTF about the machete she hid in the wall.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/17 04:12 PM
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Dream_21 has infinitely more credibility on this than RPS does. The RPS bashfest revolved around legal obligations and authority related to children and the fact that the State gives married father's much more power over mothers vs unmarried baby daddies (revolving around the birth certificate). I've not seen Dream_21's solution to that, but I doubt he has his head in the sand they way RPS does.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/17 03:36 PM
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TFA isn't saying he'd get married again because he wants to reel the State into his private life and bedroom. It's more that he doesn't respect the State's authority there in the first place and pretends it's not there. Reality is the State always wins. Although IMHO it's far more accurate to say that OP's talking about "privatized marriage" and not "common law marriage".
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/17 03:04 PM
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Maybe a good question for r/MRPW
/r/askMRP19/08/17 01:41 PM
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See take it to the next level--when someone accuses you of something, become it. It's the opposite of negging. Usually you make some hit and people feel slighted and insulted and defend their ego. But once your own ego is under control you see these tests as actually revealing the negger's ego. So you flip the neg and pull them deeper into their own misery.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 02:13 PM
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That guy is hilarious. I'm pretty angry that you guys locked me in a cage and dangled him in front of my nose, TBH. If there's one thing I do well, it's argue and he looked tasty.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 02:01 PM
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https://i.imgur.com/1BmUjM7.png
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 01:06 PM
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Yup. Both subs, too. Usually they just smack me out of one at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 12:50 PM
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So read faster? It's a prerequisite. If you haven't read it, you're not ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 05:22 PM
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Great address! I decided to look for audio and found video on youtube. Excerpt above starts ~5min.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 05:11 PM
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The mods were embarrassed at what weak frames you all have and shut me up for a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 04:59 PM
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gold starfish awarded
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 04:53 PM
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It's amazing how powerful that linguistic structure is. I spent 2016 letting this gem wash over me (wasn't directed at me): Everyone already knows you're a total feral fuckboy. So, you don't have to try to keep any more secrets! Isn't that great? The funny thing is I'm pretty sure it was meant ironically as an "oh do grow up" sort of thing, but when I read it, it was the last straw and I snapped.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 04:46 PM
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Stop stealing valor from The Red Pill you virtue-signalling purple faggot. The non-equivalence of the flair is clearly explained here when it was introduced two years ago. Not three. TWO.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 04:22 PM
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Boom. 60 Days of Flair. Done. I hope you're haaaaaappppy after dreading me like that.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 04:00 PM
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Um... no offense but can you read? Nobody here is talking about RED PILL ENDORSED CONTRIBUTORS except you. Respect the flair.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 03:53 PM
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I mean if you want my fucks to lead you out of bondage and into the wilderness then fine.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 02:47 PM
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Why do you always cast questions as some sort of emotional meltdown? All I want to know is what do you mean that these women are different and how is MRPW different from RPWi? Is that asking too much for you to clarify? You basically say "these women are different" and you link to the social matrix posts that say that men and women should stay the hell out of each other's business and to beware genders intermingling. But these women say exactly the same things RPWi say from what I can tell. You'…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:05 PM
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Why don't you think it's a pejorative? Hard core red attitude on a woman comes from trying to emulate men and assimilate into male hierarchy. Do you disagree?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 07:28 PM
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Saw the orangered and feared something about not being able to hold you back anymore but fine. Unblocked.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 07:06 PM
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I have misophonia for that song. You better stop it or I'll block you again. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:57 PM
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Yeah. It was arduous. Let me know if you find any errors.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:30 PM
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Originally I had each check link to the corresponding comment, but it was too many characters and I would have had to truncate it to top five. Even after I figured out the shortest reddit comment link encoding. ;-( On the up side I learned that reddits character limits aren't literally counting characters and I haven't figured that out yet. So maybe next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:20 PM
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[deleted] made a strong showing as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 05:56 PM
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Seems like I also expect to find my own DNA in my own fingerbeds... how do these proofs work?
/r/askMRP09/08/17 02:31 PM
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I don't really see how the spit helps? Like isn't my own DNA already in my own bum?
/r/askMRP09/08/17 02:27 PM
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That sounds hot. Tell me more.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 02:20 PM
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You're so mean. Rub it in my face some more that you get the stacks of Auschwitz corpse boobies AND flair while I have to make do standing in the corner licking some lame hamster-sized dildo. Life's so unfair.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 01:27 PM
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Yeah, the blog post was a response but he cut that out: I apologize for breaking up the continuity of last week’s post with this one today, but I felt it was necessary to address the recent firing of James Damore by his employers, Google, for allegedly breaking company conduct codes for raising many of the issue I and other’s in the Red Pill community and the Manosphere have been dissecting for a long time now.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 01:11 PM
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363 days... darn. Well at least it wasn't an off-by-one error.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 12:33 AM
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A tiered or thresholded flair system is certainly possible. Tone and sentiment analysis would probably work better as a bot that comments in OYS and could be interesting. I wouldn't tie it into the flair unless it was a sort of specialized moderation bot that removed the top level OYS comments if they failed an automated QC.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:37 PM
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Just uncheck the box and you won't have to ever worry about it ever again. https://i.imgur.com/s5FsQDu.png
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:26 PM
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Turn yours off.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:20 PM
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In my mind it wouldn't be based on the votes or quality or anything (sure if trolls decide to go to the effort of shitposting OYS for weeks without being banned there might be an issue). It's just a factual statement that "this user has made N weekly OYS reports". Nothing more.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:14 PM
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I'm not sure I've ever seen a top level OYS that wasn't someone's OYS? Mods can certainly remove shitpost top-level comments to enforce OYS quality standards.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:08 PM
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I see that point, but I think the actual result would be that advice quality would flow to those who actively participate and the end result is that people who actually want advice would have to work a bit and commit to the process. Trolls and half-assers would be behind the curve and forced to put in more effort upfront. Again the flair would be visually distinct from the endorsed flair and mods could easily manually override as they do now. You could call them "faggot level 1", "faggot level 2…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:07 PM
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Not really. OP says is he's doing things without an expected outcome. It doesn't matter whether your expectations are correct, they just have to exist and make personal sense to you. This is how all experimental work operates. If you don't have any reason (=working hypothesis etc) why you're doing something, you're just fucking around or expecting magic while operating on faith. You certainly won't learn from your mistakes and make better predictions after you fail. You know you're on the right …
/r/askMRP08/08/17 08:28 PM
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It's controversial nowadays but you don't actually have to entirely turn off your brain and be irrationally confident following a hivemind of internet retards. You can always read and lift until you start to get a clue. Always been a fan of "don't just do something, stand there."
/r/askMRP08/08/17 06:59 PM
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Would be swank and sexy to look like theredpillroom. Stoney uses that visual style in his retweets already.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 06:13 PM
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I have no idea what that means. Who the fuck is Tiger Schulman and why should I bother even google it?
/r/askMRP08/08/17 05:51 PM
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What's the downside?
/r/askMRP08/08/17 05:05 PM
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It would highlight traits of those who fail.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 05:02 PM
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You're thinking about it backwards. It's a flair for rewarding work, not an endorsement. If they don't suck they'd get the endorsed css class manually by admins. It's not an endorsement. More a proof-of-work.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 05:00 PM
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I get tired of clicking on people's history to see how committed to process they are and RES flair doesn't sync across devices.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 04:57 PM
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It's important to encourage nOObs particularly to develop a plan and stick to it. The parenting question yesterday got me thinking that we could implement a basic rewards chart.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 04:55 PM
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It's more of a "gamify the behavior you want to encourage mentality" as a bootstrap. When they get to the point that they don't need it, they won't care.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 04:52 PM
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that's hot
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 03:09 PM
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... does he have a PhD? I searched the libraries and don't find even an embargoed thesis. His program's alumni list shows theses and graduation years, but all it says for him is "Software Engineer, Google". His advisor's CV lists his other student's theses but doesn't mention him. Doubtful he was even ABD.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 01:35 PM
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If I want to be with her Just how stupid is she? Both your actions and words scream you don't want to be with her. Why are you pretending otherwise? Is she a plate or SO? Pop quiz: Men are the gatekeepers of _____________.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:44 AM
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Rather than give a soft no, she'd try to control my erections by preemptively avoiding physical intimacy. So cuddles and such were off the table.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 09:37 PM
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As far as books goes, we haven't read any. Get on a book that you can both commit to so that you can refer her to it when shit's hitting the fan and she's blowing up your phone. Personal recommendation: "The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child".
/r/askMRP07/08/17 08:30 PM
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Well, that's the hard bit. You need to be honest with yourself and figure out the outcome you want and that you think is reasonable and achievable and how much fault you find in yourself here. Basically you can use this to propose boundaries for yourself and for her that you think are reasonable. I'm sort of basic in that I just play the golden rule all the time. If this happened to me the issues that I would need to address would be: Secretly paying attention to an ex Diverting sexual attention…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 06:00 PM
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You're being told to STFU because what you can't do is DEER (=Defend, Excuse, Explain, Rationalize) or JADE (=Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain). You're trying to avoid drama but you're in one of those situations where you're going to get drama either way. But DEER is bad and all you know to do intuitively is DEER so that's why the advice is STFU. Have you read WISNIFG yet? If and only if yes... I recently learned about the "DESC script" (=Describe, Express, Specify, Consequences) which is an asse…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 03:46 PM
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Last night we were cuddling after quick primal sex. She said "It would be nice to just cuddle once in awhile." Oxytocin is extremely important for establishing and maintaining pair-bonds. Quick primal fucks are "adrenaline sex" and don't do much if anything in the oxytocin domain. That's just to bring up that she was feeling particularly oxytocin-deprived after the fucking when she said this. Cuddling does operate oxytocin but it's slow. Slower "oxytocin sex" and "sexual massage" will produce a …
/r/askMRP07/08/17 02:31 PM
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I'm more curious why you give a shit honestly. How isolos relates to MRP and why he created it is pretty obvious and it was spelled out pretty explicitly​. His staking it out makes sense. It's not like MRP was created and is top modded by _wingnut_.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 04:49 PM
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How would MRPW handle that? Exactly what would MRP do is a woman showed up here and advised a guy that he just needs to tell his wife to fuck him? That's the equivalent in my mind. What am I missing.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 02:50 PM
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Stoney posted this here in MRP and directed us to send women there rather than the others. You don't even have any sort of elevator pitch beyond "RPWi is too feminine".
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 09:06 PM
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Why would I send my wife go to MRPW instead of RPWi or RPW? Sorry I just don't get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 08:53 PM
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Are you saying these other women have those answers and RPW and RPWi suppress it?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 08:19 PM
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Not sure why this is needed. What's actually needed is a co-ed space. Shunting all intergender discussion to the PPD shithole doesn't work.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 06:45 PM
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I don't think it's at all rare. The codependent wife is the mirror image of a Nice Guy. They're as full of resentment and manipulation as the Nice Guy. There's a reason the Nice Guy is frustrated and it's because he's dealing with his equal.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:34 PM
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companions in shipwreck not guiding stars This phrase caught my eye and led me to quickly read more of the full letter. There are a lot of very well expressed observations made in there, some that I've learned to understand recently and some that I don't agree with (yet?). I collect sentences to meditate on and this is going to be a very rich source. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 03:24 PM
13

TIL women are the gatekeepers of sex and can get sex easily
/r/askMRP04/08/17 02:43 PM
2

I'm not going to pull teeth here for the trickle truth. Who makes you feel like you always should and how often is always? What drugs are you on?
/r/askMRP04/08/17 02:08 PM
1

So what's the deal?
/r/askMRP04/08/17 01:59 PM
2

1st wave: burned out on women 2nd wave: never even tried
/r/askMRP04/08/17 01:29 PM
1

Hey wow not a lot of words to work with here but do I interpret the subtext correctly that your SO is hounding you for sex?
/r/askMRP04/08/17 01:15 PM
3

Good Lord. You're going to try and sell me that RP is about women swooning for straightlaced bankers?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 01:33 AM
5

You say headache but all I see is ~delicious drama~ (except for the fact that the friend sounds boring). Hell, OP's invoked Pook without a battlecry to create and surf the waves of drama?!? By all means keep to the PC shoals and strive to never offend if that's your thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 12:41 AM
14

Who gives a shit. Why are you so afraid to offend a woman?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 11:42 PM
1

My understanding is some states never had it and states that did have it started dropping it in the 1910s picking up steam in the '40s. I think part of the strategy was to reduce non-explicit marriages since contested divorce was so impossible. I think the endgame was that it dragged on a bit and after no fault and other marriage 2.0 reforms the urgency sort of went out and there are some stragglers. My feeling is there are a lot of not-enforced laws on the books. For example supposedly oral sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 07:11 PM
1

That's sort of what I remembered. In the wake of Bush v Gore I took an intro to constitutional law course and what I remember from all that was that abolishing common law marriage was among the civil rights triumphs (can't remember which decisions we studied though). IIRC something like in the pre-no-fault days it was used to trap women as property of abusive cohabitating boyfriends/roommates who refused to consent to divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 05:09 PM
2

It's legs all the way for me 卍卍卍卍卍卍卍卍卍卍卍卍卍卍
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 07:17 PM
1

It was a compliment. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 02:23 PM
4

You're a pretty insightful Nazi.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 01:15 PM
2

That's an interesting chart. Heartiste cut off the table legend but the main thing is these are three-way interactions and both axes are t-scores (i.e. same units: preference and additive in the ANOVA unit response variable sense). X-axis is how much her relationship context affects her preference for the trait. The Y-axis shows how much her fertility affects her preference for the trait. The Y-axis ranges 6 units. The X-axis ranges 32 units. So while we can argue about how small the cycle prefe…
/r/TheRedPill27/07/17 09:24 PM
1

Ah okay... you've given me plenty to muddle on. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 03:17 AM
1

Are the reconciliations mostly when there's an unacknowledged/unknown mental health issue and in the course of things the issue is acknowledged and addressed?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 02:50 AM
1

I don't understand really. If basically all your women clients have PD it just seems... I don't know odd when you step back and look at it. Like somehow I don't expect someone who has knowledge of their own PD to choose to file divorce and seek out a firm that specializes in PD divorce? Rather than seek treatment. I'd just expect either they are unaware of their own PD (in which case why do they seek a firm with PD specialization) or their partner would be seeking divorce. It just seems... dunno…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 02:29 AM
1

Is that the same pool where only two women did not have a personality disorder and only twelve men did have a personality disorder? I'm trying to contextualize these numbers you keep offering. I think you're suggesting most of your women clients have personality disorders. Trying to get a picture of how your reconciliation stats relate to personality disorders.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 01:38 AM
3

If she's cheating, you're not going to know. This also means you can't know if she's giving you "her best". What constitutes "her best" is whatever you imagine it to be. At the end of the day you are satisfied or you are not. Even claiming "the best" is placing a bet on a covert contract and upping the ante to pure ego defense. You're either giving "your best" or expecting her to pull it out of you. "Finding your slut" is more "unchaining your fuckboi" than anything else. People who whine about …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 12:54 AM
1

What's the gender balance of clients at your firm?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 12:40 AM
1

I get the best as well. How can you possibly know that?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 12:32 AM
5

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-men-who-are-being-abused.htm
/r/askMRP19/07/17 04:44 PM
1

Ah, I'm glad to hear that! The way you wrote it sounded like the bad reaction was ongoing.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 12:38 PM
1

... I thought she was battling cancer?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 11:50 AM
1

You can buy up/down votes for ~$1 each if you care that much about that sort of thing and don't know how to build your own bot swarm.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 04:12 PM
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Have you read about the dual-control model? It's the science that supports "be attractive, don't be unattractive". It's pretty obvious but basically, there's a balance between turn-ons and turn-offs: turn-on's activate sexuality and turn-offs inhibit sexuality. Anyway check it out in google. The big message from research though is that people spend far too much effort trying to build-up turn-ons to overpower turn-offs when reducing turn-offs is very often low hanging fruit. This is the kernel of…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 03:47 PM
1

True. But then we're back to why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 01:06 PM
1

Just be more Socratic. Make them do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 12:39 PM
1

Well... since nobody will actually define red or blue consistently, I rely on pigeonholing. Here's what I've come up with: It's not endless plate spinning (red). It's not Disney's asexual happily ever after (blue). It's not woman-slaving (red). It's not man-slaving (blue). It's not madonna worship (blue). It's not whore use (red). It's not living with a childwife (red). It's not living as a manchild (blue). It's not eternal anger phase (red). It's not begging for scraps (blue). ∴ It's purple.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 07:32 PM
1

No shit though but lawyers and legislators diving into DSM is actually why it's become fucked up. The focus was originally psychologists swapping notes and standardizing care. Now it's primarily about how to do that while minimizing how much damage y'all will do to society while misreading over their shoulders.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 04:45 PM
1

You should hire a coding specialist and submit provider claims.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 04:25 PM
1

Well, control of space is important. Occupation not so much. See use of air power and MAD nuclear defense and use of surgical strikes and incursions and drones and etc. You can also see the difference between control of space and occupation of space in chess. In the opening phase the strategic goals are to gain control and superiority in the center. Classically, this meant getting your pawns and pieces in there faster than your opponent and then inching your territory forward in the middlegame. …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 10:32 PM
1

I find it to be a fairly universal rule that boundaries that don't serve a defensive purpose are just preferences in disguise. But I'm happy to develop a deeper understanding. Give me an example.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 09:44 PM
1

Yes, there's more to this than boundaries and defense. What I'm telling you specifically that is your talk about using boundaries to achieve control of others is incorrect. You use boundaries to control the effect of others on you. Appeals to boundaries without understanding their fundamentally defensive nature are symptoms of wrong-thinking. Corollary: Any boundary that does not serve a defensive function is inappropriate.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 09:33 PM
1

Game has nothing to do with setting and enforcing boundaries. Although we can't control her behavior, we can certainly set our boundaries and enforce them in a way that will maximize the probability of her response conforming to expectation Surrendering delusions of control over things beyond your power is a central part to Stoicism.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 08:28 PM
4

Again, I think you've got a wrong perspective here. I didn't comment on your OI post but it has a similar problem. You can't get anyone into your frame. If you're trying to do that, it's covert contracts and not outcome indifferent. Boundaries are about defense--not shaping or contorting other people. Yes, the sidebar discusses why, but always in terms of understanding and modifying your own behavior. That's the correct frame of reference.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 03:23 PM
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The point is the frame of reference is completely wrong and nothing you're describing is actionable. Work the free body diagram. Her behavior is always beyond your control. Your own behavior is all you control. At the end of the day, why she behaves this way or that isn't particularly important. Her behavior is an external load on your frame. Your job is to maintain frame under load. How to handle the behavior is what matters. Why the load exists doesn't matter any more than naval gazing about w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 02:47 PM
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Practicing divorce law doesn't sound like valid credentialing for diagnosing personality disorders, but I don't know enough about divorce lawyers or selection bias to dispute it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 02:30 PM
4

You're not telling your wife to "straighten the fuck up... or else". Explicit threats go beyond boundary enforcement.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 01:13 PM
4

Agree to what?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 12:05 PM
4

Yeah, I get that you don't care anything about what people around you think. Talking to another guy's wife as you describe is a major boundary violation, for example. Dunno maybe it's cultural. Were you around for the oatmeal face saga?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 03:28 AM
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Focus on what needs to be done--a boundary was crossed--bad mouthing your SO in public is unacceptable. That can easily be handled in private. Attempting to recruit support from the crowd demonstrates weakness and validation seeking. That was her game--and he validated the tactic by adopting it. Does he want the boundary enforced or public recognition that the boundary was enforced?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 02:14 AM
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I'm with DentyneWhite here. Try something playful or drama-inducing like AA or AM. There's a reason they are recommended. Only thing I see here is you showed everyone you have thin skin and get b u t t h u r t over some minor sink bullshit when a woman waggles her tongue. AA and play with it or AM because it's below you. And yeah, what you imagine the guys were thinking is pure fantasy. They were either turned on by the potential for an impending public dramafest trainwreck or surfing the fremds…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 01:24 AM
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Couples Therapy is disrespectful to men and men need to be respected. Interesting that this was not one of her bullet points but it is the take away for the article. FWIW This is a big point that Schnarch makes, but he's actually a marriage counselor and critic of the dominant marriage counseling that's popular in the US and criticizes it throughout his books. Here's a relevant excerpt but the entire article is worth reading: People who espouse the necessity of non-stop empathy in marriage, unco…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/17 08:26 PM
2

Wombs scrape themselves out monthly anyway. What does it mean when she takes pills, swallows or wants​ it in the ass?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 12:23 PM
5

Aborting an unplanned pregnancy doesn't mean anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 11:18 AM
1

I'm sure if she was pregnant, wanted the kid, and he drove her ass down to the clinic, against her wishes, that this wouldn't be nearly so 'tough love'. Not what happened here, though. And nonnimouse is providing a very useful framework for OP if it applies. Maybe a bit harsh calling him a child about this--he at most seems conflicted at this point--everyone seems to be reading whatever they want into the ambiguity of his text.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 02:25 PM
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I haven't been through an abortion but we did have a miscarriage. Be sure to take time for yourself to grieve and find someone you can talk to. A grief counselor or someone professional. It's possible the clinic can recommend conselors with experience in this but I don't know. Back then I felt like I had to bottle it all up (none of our family knew about the pregnancy--it happened right as we were getting ready to announce) and my wife demanded that we tell no one. But it was also impossible to …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 02:05 PM
3

Things wrong here: Feeling guilty about saying no Hiding your feelings or opinions Keeping score Passive aggressive behavior I'd recommend reading WISNIFG and/or NMMNG.
/r/askMRP04/07/17 07:46 PM
3

I can't remember if it was one of Riptoe's rants where this finally got through my skull but your muscles grow between workouts, not during the workout. The workout just stimulates the response. It's not weight that tells muscles to grow: it's volume and fatigue.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 05:19 PM
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I'd be terrified she comes back pregnant or with a newborn but I have no clue what I would do in this situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 06:30 PM
5

Does the app even exist? I hate to keep being the debbie downer here but I still haven't seen any strategic plan on how they expect to keep it in the App/Play store. Apple and Google have yanked the fetlife apps based content. You only have to look at what's going on with youtube demonetization to see what the climate is like. Best chance IMHO is to do something that uses an existing client and API so you can pick and choose clients (think: an open-source tapatalk). Assuming the security can be …
/r/TheRedPill30/06/17 03:59 PM
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Take her to a concert. If you've been distant and her interest has wandered there, join her for a bit. Have fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 03:40 PM
1

Nation states don't bother hack passwords. They hack the servers.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/17 03:18 PM
3

I do laugh at your paranoia. What I usually do is dump a bag of 256 multi-color D6 dice on the floor, then average a series of pictures taken raw mode using a tripod until the estimated sensor noise variance of the averaged image is reduced to less than 1 bit per pixel. Then I compute a whirlpool hash of the de-noised picture plus a eight-word random passphrase I have committed to memory and transcode the result into a useful alphabet taking as many characters as allowed by the password field. I…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/17 03:02 PM
1

Maybe there is a way you can make the rape optional/unofficial so that people who want that edgier dynamic would use unofficial rules?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:41 PM
1

https://np.reddit.com/r/TheBluePill/comments/6ilx6g/paging_dr_freuddr_freud_please_check_in_on_the/
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:22 PM
2

Ok, but what effect does "rape" have when you use it? What happens to the other player? Why can you rape them but not kill them and wouldn't killing them be better? And why are only some characters able to rape? Do they have to obtain a rapists license or something? Is it skill they have to level up to? This is just stupid 13yo bullshit.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:19 PM
2

I'm pretty certain bloops saw that game when your previous posts were linked from TBP. You might want to consider that could be what brought the SJWs to your doorstep in the first place. I still don't understand what raping would accomplish that killing wouldn't be the superior option. The only thing I can think is that the rapist's goal is rape and I can't see how that's even remotely a game mechanics issue.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:06 PM
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So, I think you'll need to find a better message than "adding rape to my game will help it get noticed" and you can't take back having said that already. And now you've associated your game with the "how do I rape my wife" corner of the internet. Because guess who's going to know about fight club real soon now? So you're being pretty dumb here. The things people talk about being interesting about your game seem more about the streams and such that cause the game to be deep. Someone will just ste…
/r/askMRP29/06/17 04:38 PM
3

If you subscribe to Schnarch's relationship models in Intimacy&Desire, pointing them out is just stating the obvious. "Covert contracts" aren't nearly as covert to your partner as you think they are--and that's precisely the reason they don't work. Generally the gist of it is you're both trying to restore feeling like you did when you first met and are frustrated and angry at each other. Evidence: the fact that you know your wife well enough to also be aware of her "covert" contracts and are eve…
/r/askMRP29/06/17 03:55 PM
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I forgot to mention the other big takeaway was that for my wife the quantity of appreciation is all that matters. It's very hard to overdo it if you're being genuine and not expecting anything. Our lives are so busy with the kids and what not that it's somewhat naturally rate-limited. What happened was that as I was doing my testing trying to discover her magic LL, the hypothesis was that there was a magic LL to be found and that other LLs would be ineffective. So to avoid a bias, I would have t…
/r/askMRP28/06/17 08:55 PM
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we should find our partner's love language and cater to them I found this aspect of 5LL to be utter horseshit and I agree with your covert contractiness senses. At one point back when I was in DB my wife and I did the questionnare etc. It was OK. But still had this aura of acting to please her how she demanded. So then I got to thinking about well maybe she just doesn't know her own love languages or maybe she's lying for whatever reason. Or maybe they change with her mood or whatever. So I star…
/r/askMRP28/06/17 06:38 PM
1

Hey, tangential but have you ever seen anything about what makes for a masculine, tingle-inducing, sexually-charged penmanship?
/r/askMRP28/06/17 04:40 PM
4

Your spelling was passable so I had to take it up a notch.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 02:58 PM
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Pedantry noted. Likewise she has 0 control over your access to sex. Feel free to edit in all the implied "with her" "with you" "for you" "for her" etc qualifiers as needed.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 02:20 PM
2

Did you feel or think you could not say no?
/r/askMRP28/06/17 02:08 PM
1

That falls into the category of her needing to interest you to commit. If she doesn't want to court your commitment, don't waste your time. You can't make her interest you in commitment--it's beyond of your control. You set your expectations and she must satisfy them. It's pretty obvious but having it stated explicitly helps for thinking through covert contracts and expectations.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 01:51 PM
2

It's about locus of control from your perspective. You have full control of your commitment to her. She has full control of your access to her sex. It's your job to interest her in sex with you, and it's her job to interest you in commitment with her. FWIW the reverse is true, too. She has full control of her commitment to you. You have full control of her access to your sex.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 01:33 PM
5

how do I do it without divulging Fight Club to the wife? With dating teens, I'd think it would be pretty damn easy to tell your wife that you'd heard about this TheRedPill degeneracy that's corrupting today's youth and that you're concerned it's what boyfriend is doing.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 11:42 AM
1

If a firearms instructor is telling you to play Russian roulette with live ammo, there's also something wrong with the firearms instructor. Even if the student is an epic moron.
/r/askMRP27/06/17 01:19 PM
1

What on Earth were you thinking by insisting that he needed to cheat in order to develop frame? Beyond the fact that's obviously stupid advice that's going to blow up--it also violates all accepted dread programing. And here we are and now you're alternating between bitching about him (a) cheating without having frame and (b) lacking frame because his cheating wasn't good enough.
/r/askMRP27/06/17 01:05 PM
2

There is absolutely no chance she's coming into your frame. Sorry.
/r/askMRP27/06/17 07:34 AM
1

Certainly more than domain experts who encourage rambos to rambo when they seek sincere advice.
/r/askMRP27/06/17 04:56 AM
1

Actually, after reading this clusterfuck for the last two days I respect him a hell of a lot more than I do you.
/r/askMRP27/06/17 03:13 AM
1

Never occurred to me that was describing flaired users. But makes sense.
/r/askMRP26/06/17 10:55 PM
2

Yeah, it's almost as if flaired users had no business immediately encouraging him to cheat when he finally showed up in OYS a month ago.
/r/askMRP26/06/17 08:56 PM
2

Does it tell you his marriage is in a crisis he wasn't ready for and he's in need of advice? That's sort of the gist I'm getting from it. I suppose maybe what he's really after is an opportunity to DEER about comparative dick metrics and urine color. Does this factory make sausage or puff pastry?
/r/askMRP26/06/17 08:48 PM
2

Maybe he should just flip a coin? What do you expect here? He's in a double bind and this isn't some inconsequential shit. He's got three kids on the line that he's responsible for. He's already said he's set up a meeting with a lawyer today. What's the rush?
/r/askMRP26/06/17 08:29 PM
4

You seem to flip-flop between powerless and powerdrunk. Probably because you've both been locked into a battle mentality for so long where you think that tearing each other down accomplishes anything. The only things you can conceive are victory or defeat. That's scarcity mentality. And yeah, it may be up to her to pick among her options, but you can still put options you want on the table and try to be reasonably flexible to meet her in the middle somewhere. Rather than waiting for her to throw…
/r/askMRP26/06/17 05:49 PM
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Do you expect a reasonable woman to trust you to do that? I don't see how you're really giving her any options here and it's incongruent with your claims to not want divorce. You've been begging her to divorce you. Why not do it yourself?
/r/askMRP25/06/17 03:52 PM
2

Do I remember that she's said certain of your behaviors are what prevents her from being the type of wife she wants to be? Is that what her rules were about?
/r/askMRP25/06/17 05:18 AM
2

What would she have to do to stop you from divorcing her?
/r/askMRP25/06/17 04:39 AM
2

These situations where you're letting the kids handle things a bit on their own and your wife helicopters in judgementally with assumed superiority accusing you of being negligent are extremely frustrating. Best I've got is "No. I'm handling this" or telling her afterwards she needs to back off (sometimes situationally necessary to preserve the unified front).
/r/askMRP25/06/17 01:05 AM
2

Comfort test in shit test clothing. She feels inadequate and is trying to deflect it on you. Tell her it's no big deal, that you had fun and laugh it off.
/r/askMRP24/06/17 03:46 PM
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My question is this a shit test or comfort test? Are you stupid? Is she trying to lock me down again because she suddenly sees value in me and thinks she might lose me ? Is she stupid? If shit test what is best response ? Ok, now I get you. She's discovered your online activities and is following the various garbage fires and wonders if it's even possible that men can be so fucking stupid as to ask MRP whether they should wipe their ass. So she formulated a devious shit test that you've already …
/r/askMRP23/06/17 05:57 PM
2

You should realize her behavior is defensive, though. She expects you will hurt her again and she's afraid to come out and be vulnerable. It's tough but you've just got to keep at it without expectations that anything's going to turn around. Until she trusts you again. It took me months of persistently doing it. I also wasn't ready to put divorce on the table, so I took inspiration from Wesley's persistence when winning over Buttercup in the Princess Bride. Additionally, you're operating with a …
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:37 PM
2

Tells me Im not capable of meeting her needs emotionally. She said after we had sex last week she did not think it would change anything in me. Translation: She's explicitly negotiating for your attention in exchange for sex. She's tried this so much already she knows what to expect. I consciously interacted differently with her, but she told me last night she thought I did not act different at all. Translation: You "interacted differently" by ghosting her and giving your attention to girls on T…
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:00 PM
4

Yeah, I know what you're saying. But here's the thing--she can't fix anything if she doesn't know what the real problems are. We joke about the solution being blowjobs or anal, but if that was really the answer you could just go out and buy one. Unfortunately, you, your wife, and MRP have no damn idea what your real problems are. Wanting to feel respected and valued is usually a big part of it. But you have to figure that out. That's what ex_addict_bro means when he says you need to "own your si…
/r/askMRP23/06/17 03:07 PM
6

Waste of time. It's obvious to any- and everyone he deleted the messages because he didn't want her to read them. There's absolutely nothing to be gained by stonewalling, hiding or evading the obvious. You can beat around the bush all you want but until he acknowledges that nothing's going anywhere. His wife will just be angry that he's such a coward that he'd deny the obvious.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 01:31 PM
3

Except for you being willing, ready and able to throw her out the door, you mean.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 01:04 AM
1

How are you ready for a main event, then?
/r/askMRP23/06/17 01:01 AM
2

main event opportunity *head desk*
/r/askMRP23/06/17 12:58 AM
1

Ok, well in that case I'd just assume she's got a PI following you, your phone is hacked, she's got your text records from the phone company and knows not to interrogate you on anything she doesn't already know. Good luck.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 12:40 AM
1

How did she figure out you deleted them? What does she mean she's noticed you deleting them before?
/r/askMRP23/06/17 12:16 AM
1

What did you delete?
/r/askMRP23/06/17 12:02 AM
1

MRP doesn't presume to recommend anything for women and neither do I. Have you read Doyle? Is your wife RP aware? Schnarch's been discussed here a few times and always accepted as MRP compatible and complimentary. Bottom line is it's the common ground my wife and I operate within. It works for us and I recommend it. So there.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 05:24 PM
1

Have you read Schnarch? What parts do you find problematic?
/r/askMRP22/06/17 04:34 PM
2

FWIW my wife and I have a "separate people working on a mutual project" thing for about a year based on Schnarch's Intimacy&Desire book. That particular book may be too focused on solving dysfunctions, though. He has another book Passionate Marriage--which I have not read, but that people have said they read early in their marriages that seems to describe the same structure. I like how his relationship model is able to holistically integrate the conflicting needs for individuality and intimacy w…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 02:36 PM
2

Isn't TwoX the one full of boys LARPing as women? lol
/r/askMRP22/06/17 11:36 AM
2

No, I wouldn't bring it up. If my wife came to me demanding an explanation, that's the truth and what she'd get. The nice thing about short circuit grounding your actions to your feelings is that there's nothing to argue about or explain (see WISNIFG assertive rights).
/r/askMRP21/06/17 11:56 PM
2

Yeah, you should look into this guy: youtu.be / HlqoC3SKIxA It's fascenating to me that people don't see right through him. He's fooling a lot of people. You should find his interview with GLO, it's super clear that GLO realized what's up.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/17 11:34 PM
2

But problems and distractions are fun and build frame.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 10:55 PM
1

Why is this so complicated? Tell her she was too drunk and it was gross and turned you off. Then broken record the fuck out of it. Her take away: she feels bad because she got so fucking drunk.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 09:41 PM
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Probably the behaviors could be categorized into traits related to the pathology, and traits they learn to use. That second category presumably are the ones that are effective lures. But they are limited to the ones that are identifiable as false eventually because they lack authenticity. Otherwise they're not noticed and would be classified as normal behavior unrelated to psychopathy. That's the selection bias of the list. All of that is to say that class of faked "normal" traits says more abou…
/r/TheRedPill21/06/17 09:06 PM
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I'm not saying to not do it. Just what happened when I did because I wasn't prepared for that reaction. Telling her that it's a book for men about co-dependency probably would have been enough. My wife and I discuss it now. We weren't in a good place at the time.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 11:28 PM
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My experience is that to the uninitiated reading "No More Mister Nice Guy" is immediately interpreted as "Hey, honey! Look at what I can do! I've decided to be an asshole! I'm learning it from a book!"
/r/askMRP20/06/17 09:16 PM
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Agreed. What message do you think you are actually sending if you're willing to sit around nursing blue balls because you somehow need to seek a woman's permission to touch your dick? Deep down women already fear that we're all secretly shit lords pretending to be civilized. Do you think a woman who wants your commitment is going to gamble that being an unsatisfactory sex object is going to work out long term? When you clearly have so little shame that you're willing to take the matter into your…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 07:09 PM
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That's reading more into it than I'm willing to. I'd just start with his recovery has been extremely emotionally dependent on her in the way we know shuts down sexual desire. He's now emerging and shifting to a mode where that caretaking needs to end. OP realizes she's overcaring for him (what he calls savior syndrome). He needs to establish some boundaries to put an end to excessive caretaking and demonstrate his growing independence. And they both need some distance to rediscover themselves an…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 05:34 PM
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I guess it's possible she thinks the loss was somehow his fault. My experience was that my wife went somewhat bonkers blaming herself and her body for failing us.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 05:09 PM
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Jesus that's heartless. Our first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and it was rough (and I'll not pretend it was anything compared to what OP and his wife have gone through). The first pregnancy after that was full of these worries. She cared for him when he needed it and currently sees their relationship as dominated by her caring for him. That's a quality woman. Nothing wrong with returning the favor now that he's finally recovering. There's always other options to explore if she can't cope with…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:09 PM
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Did you assume the troll's gender?
/r/askMRP20/06/17 02:24 PM
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It's common--you're fucked if you think you've won anything. Suggested keywords for you to google: hysterical bonding genuine imitation naugahyde remorse ok google find divorce attorneys near me lol
/r/askMRP20/06/17 02:17 PM
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Maybe she's trying to figure out what you want and where you want to go and what the future could look like together? As your frame starts to emerge your wife will realize her mental model of you is no longer accurate. So she'll work to update her understanding of who you are and what's changed, what's important to you now, what you think of her, and try to orient herself. She'll experiment with you various ways. I found being clear with her about what I want, my goals and my priorities (and unc…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:56 PM
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Imagine I'd just sneak in a thorough bowl clean. It can't be any more OCD triggering than sticking it up her butt. Hell you can at least use boiling water and bleach.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:57 PM
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Sounds fun! I haven't tried that one--thanks for the idea. Honestly compliance testing is pretty great. I never really thought I'd be into that but just her sheer eagerness to please and the way she lights up is so hot. You have to keep inventing challenges and raising the bar.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:34 PM
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This imaginary argument you're having where anyone is arguing against spontaneity is ridiculous. Why do you think atlhart or anyone is arguing to not be spontaneous? althart's advice is to introduce and maintain sexual charge by touching your wife with a sexual edge throughout the day to set the polarity for successful spontaneity. You must establish a baseline of sexual polarity in a relationship. This is vital for managing responsive desire--which is the rule and not the exception.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 12:25 PM
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Ok so I reread this thread. Your position is that gaming your wife constantly isn't necessary. But somehow you yourself constantly game your wife. Because the sex is better. Good job. Primo logic right there.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 02:35 AM
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You're cute. :-* Let's see those abs. I could use some new thinspo.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 12:47 AM
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Reading your edit, I really​ have to question whether you have any idea about anything or have read the sidebar if your idea of game is scheduled sex. Continuing in light of this sort of semantic nonsense is pointless.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 12:27 AM
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No, I'm saying almost the entirety of the the sidebar disagrees with you that warming women up is abnormal. Your claim that routinely taking time to warm women up is unnecessary is extraordinary. The burden of proof falls to you.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 12:20 AM
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Seems like replacing a Disney fantasy with porn fantasy would be an easy fallacy for Rambo's. But certainly not something for newbies. Game is all over the sidebar.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 12:12 AM
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Am I overcomplicating or are you oversimplifying? Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Fundamentally that's two lines of attack.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 12:06 AM
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Well, I do all that and I'm still a fat fuck. It just takes a little effort to keep the relationship sexual. I'm not sure what your point is. On the one hand you're talking about "fat fucks with no game" and on the other hand you're talking about being so "alpha" you don't need game. Game is important.
/r/askMRP18/06/17 11:30 PM
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Are you saying your wife will suck your dick if you walk up and dangle it in front of her nose without making any effort to warm her up?
/r/askMRP18/06/17 11:19 PM
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I would avoid the ultimatum approach. You proposed sex and she was receptive. She suggested "get on top of me" which you say is a trigger word for some relationship PTSD. You need a plan to cope with that when it happens again. Part of the problem was that you allowed the interaction to enter too overt of a negotiation mode and you missed an opportunity to escalate. Basically you got ahead of yourself. You proposed sex, she proposed an act, you rejected her proposal, you proposed a different act…
/r/askMRP18/06/17 11:25 AM
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So I ask her what she likes. This works out. ... isn't that your answer? Either I don't understand your question or I don't understand what you're describing. If she's in the mood, but it's not working my hunch is something you were doing was a turn off.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 08:13 PM
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Brain imaging studies are tricky. Men have the direct feedback loop to learn and predict "this is going to cause me to get an erection". So what the imaging studies can be showing are actually just the differences related to that additional learned processing of vision to identify the confirmed erection triggers that women have tended to not learn. Vs whatever it is that women learn to call "sexually arousing" that isn't based on the direct feedback from their genitals. Put another way: the fact…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 03:59 PM
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see also "sexual chemistry"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 02:35 PM
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Oh, no worries. I mistook Iam for Ian. It also talks about strapping up hundreds of college hunks so there's something for the ladies, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 02:32 PM
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... are you saying you're not interested in learning how to persuade hundreds of college girls to be strapped into plethysmographs to view porn while talking about how aroused they are? Curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 02:22 PM
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You should look into Meredith Chivers's research. She has done a lot of very high-quality research comparing genital physiological arousal with perceived sexual attraction and arousal that shows that women are just as visually excited as men. But that women generally aren't aware of the visual things that excite them physiologically. The thought is that it's not terribly surprising since the penis is quite large compared to the clitoris and even small changes in blood flow are extremely noticeab…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 01:49 PM
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Driving is a higher cognitive function and a learned behavior--it's not a valid comparison. Sexual attraction isn't a high level cognitive function. Men don't sit around evaluating what's going to produce an erection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 01:24 PM
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Why did you add that caveat then? If it impaired attraction you wouldn't apply the caveat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 01:05 PM
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Your sobriety caveat undermines your point. Alcohol reduces inhibitions. The attraction was there but suppressed by higher cognitive function.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 12:30 PM
1

OccamsUsername but RPW just referred to him as occam. Still active when I was reading his stuff, but seems to have become suspended since then and I don't know anything about that. He wrote the multi-part LTR series linked in the MRP wiki. It's been a long time since I read it but I remember that I liked his temperament. Reading older stuff like that from before dogmas became established and reinforced is usually pretty stimulating. I should reread it. Edit: u/scurvemuch
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 02:09 AM
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I should maybe clarify that "Active Listening" is just the rabbit hole where I enter wikipedia because a lot links out from there. Skimming it reloads a lot of thoughts quickly. So... I'm not sure I've studied and practiced the specific "Active Listening" to compare it with fogging. It's more the search keyword that comes to mind when I want to find that information. I do see the similarity though. My gut says fogging is more about maintaining focus whereas I associate "Active Listening" with co…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/17 10:37 PM
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It's occam. I studied his LTR stuff since it's what the RPWi crew used to direct men to instead of MRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/17 10:23 PM
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What did you want your wife to do?
/r/askMRP15/06/17 07:08 PM
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I had just received a call, that my father had a heart attack and is being transferred to the hospital. I told her I was going to take the kid for a walk, while remaining calm and not revealing to her the bad news, because I don't like causing drama. I can't put my finger on it precisely but there's something covert-contract-y about this. Sort of along the lines of the cover-up being worse than the crime. Sometimes drama is better in the open rather than simmering in a pressure cooker. Sometimes…
/r/askMRP15/06/17 03:58 PM
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There are a lot of reasons women won't talk. Another is fear of hurting your feelings or your reactions. One of the conversations in that thread dealt with the idea that if either of you are "talking" but your communication needs aren't being met, well then it's just talking and doesn't actually count as communication. So, pre-MRP if you try to talk to your wife about the weirdness that's deflating sex lately and whether maybe the recent vasectomy had something to do with it and your wife respon…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/17 03:17 PM
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My kids are in the younger end of that age range so I don't know if it ends. Immersion is more mental--it's the process of getting into the instantaneous flow of sex. One way is by removing things that prevent you or your wife from entering the flow. Or adding things that encourage it. Mostly we don't have a lot of time for dates and I've worked more on banishing "distracting thoughts". Sometimes it's so simple that you feel stupid after the fact. Like my wife will often freeze and ask "did you …
/r/askMRP14/06/17 03:56 PM
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Hmmm. Hard to pack it all up. It's basically a Rosetta Stone. When we're talking people trapped in marriages, they're experts. They're us with vaginas. "She's not haaappy" is earned--it's the last step of "walkaway wife syndrome". It's CAD minus affairs. The challenge for a MAP is that jack10's three phase model endgame (which to be fair he admitted was speculative) is indistinguishable from "walkaway wife syndrome". I'm not going to roll dice on that ambiguity.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 02:14 PM
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I'll be honest I rank her "She's not haaaaappy" PSA or whatever it was called and its comment threads as one of the most important and useful I've read. It changed my MAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 11:12 PM
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A month ago: apparently hes been reading the "red pill" and "how to combat women shit test". He painted a pill red and handed it to me just now. Wow That's... pretty special
/r/askMRP13/06/17 06:14 PM
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The scene is: there's the boxer, the punching bag and the coach. The coach is watching the boxer punch the bag and giving tips. The coach doesn't stand in for the punching bag and the boxer doesn't swing at the coach. OP isn't talking about sitting there letting his wife take a shit on him.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 04:36 PM
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punching bag I think the dynamic that works is more she's punching the bag, but you're the coach.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 04:30 PM
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I can't imagine what it's like to have your girlfriend, mother, and friend die in five years. And of course it's going to take time. I can't really imagine. Do you see it like you fell off Maslow's hierarchy of needs and are working your way up again? It sounds like what you need is friends and companionship and you're understandably afraid of loss again. Maybe the built-in distance of the LDR helped. Building platonic IRL friendships with perhaps other men where romance is permanently off the t…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/17 02:32 PM
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After a conversation has failed and is haunting me I like to browse the "Active Listening" Wikipedia article to review and debrief.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 12:09 PM
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👼
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 12:30 AM
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Read WISNIFG
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 05:12 PM
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Fogging is not agreeing with just anything. It's finding a limited truth to agree with. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertiveness#Techniques
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 04:54 PM
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Read WISNIFG
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 04:47 PM
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What did you gain from this? What's the plan?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 03:15 PM
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First your backstory sounds horrible and I'm glad you're getting on your feet again and improving. One thing that seems strange though is: Plan was that she would break up and move to my country followed by which i thought was pretty funny since we weren't even together and she had absolutely no claim on me even though she somehow thought she did Isn't moving countries to be together pretty commitment flavored? How do you expect a woman to understand dumping her boyfriend for you and moving coun…
/r/TheRedPill12/06/17 02:42 PM
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I'd be very careful with that. The problem with seeing yourself as the "value provider" is you think the value you provide is actually valued. Fixing a slow computer is low value work. On my first co-op my supervisor warned me to be very careful about about becoming the "DBH" (designated bag holder) and I never fully appreciated exactly what he meant until way later. I also am the family's tech guy. I used to fix people's computers but I avoid the hands on as much as possible. It's not a value p…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 07:57 PM
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Well, to each their own. I find reading Ironwood to be... dunno like getting marriage advice from the Hardy Boys. My MAP (the one that works) is mostly Altol+Schnarch.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 04:09 PM
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I wasn't saying it was a bad suggestion, just that I haven't had that welcoming of an experience with those groups here. When I was in OP's shoes looking for social groups to join someone on MRP suggested them and it seemed like a fabulous idea, so I tried. I even read the stories about how these groups are dying and need to be reinvigorated and was totally on board because I think these things sound great. Unfortunately, every time they found out I was ex-mormon and not converted to a new churc…
/r/askMRP10/06/17 08:41 PM
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Don't they forbid atheists, non-christians and "unapproved" christian sects? That's what I remember when I looked into it. The membership forms required providing church contact info for them that was going to be used verify attendence and ethical standing. It's not a bad idea if it's available, I just wouldn't call it "super inclusive".
/r/askMRP10/06/17 03:44 PM
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Maybe try to find a club? Churches and libraries sometimes are hubs for these. In a larger city I used to be a chess club regular, but where we moved there isn't one. But I found a table-top gaming group that's fun. I found regular groups run by the library, churches and on meetup.
/r/askMRP10/06/17 11:47 AM
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Yeah, I think it actually does. OP sounds needy as fuck. Fixing that is entirely within his power. I think he's finding excuses not do anything. I'm trying to have an open mind but this whole idea that his wife is alpha widowed by some anthropomorphic geographic location seems... dunno... Does moving back make him a cuck?
/r/askMRP10/06/17 01:15 AM
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Yeah, she may want to go home but is it because home is bliss or because home is an escape? I don't think OP is reliable in terms of telling us what's really going on. I was reviewing his early posts and I still want to know where he is with his talk a few months ago about no longer wanting to fuck his wife and how he seem to enjoy that it was making her nag/beg for sex. He was trying to force her to wear sexy underwear--which suggests they've both weaponized sex. They both know the other's weak…
/r/askMRP10/06/17 12:31 AM
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Maybe you're both just hurting each other trying to "win" your way out of a stalemate. You're trying to understand why she's hurting you and it's taking your brain to silly places--she doesn't wear thongs or fancy underwear for you because she... wants to move home. Even it it's remotely plausible, it's hilarious. The only way forward is to realize there's nothing to win and that she can't actually hurt you by not wearing thongs.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 09:59 PM
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How do you discourage inadvertently disrespectful behavior? You can't. That's why it's inadvertent. Thinking otherwise is an express truck to eggshells. IMHO the better option is to rely on occam's razor and fog the one-offs. Once there's a pattern of disrespect, that's the time to address it. Chop shouldn't rock the boat. I'm more interested in why you revisited 15min later. Is it because she apologized or because you wanted to undo your punishment?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 07:19 PM
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I'll accept your FR as "willing to say they will share" but nothing more.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 02:31 PM
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That's not to say that a "wife turns a blind eye" or open relationship isn't possible if that's what you want. But I suspect you'd have to replace the GF for that since that relationship was built on different expectations. And honestly I forget your story, but as I remember it you've said you divorced for reasons other than sex life, so what's essentially a "fix the sex" solution doesn't make a lot of sense to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 02:26 PM
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You believe her because she's feeding your ego the fantasy it wants. It's not what she says that matters. Her mouth can't confirm her actions. What's your GF going to do when you move your ex back in and your wife gets to work on alienating her? You think your GF wants to be the live-in fuckpiece of another woman's kept man? Dumbass.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 01:57 PM
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As I recall, a while ago you wrote that you were so frustrated at the lack of positive feedback from your wife about your progress that you became sexually disinterested and were at a deadlock where you refused to initiate which led to your wife nagging you for sex. How has that dynamic evolved since then?
/r/askMRP09/06/17 01:21 AM
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What's wrong with answering the question? Do you even care about her? Seems like there should be an answer. Also consider WISNIFG inquiry tactics to let her express/explore why she thinks you do not. You "just" have to learn to listen without DEERing.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 12:31 AM
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ex-wife They were not married. AJ has been practicing and reworking his schtick on this for quite some time and it's hilarious to watch him reweave it with each iteration. Everything about AJ is various levels of facade and showmanship. The bottom line is it's not an accident that his ex was an impossible jigsaw puzzle piece--he cast a role that only a psyco could (or even would) fill.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/17 04:06 AM
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Sounds like she's legitimately under unanticipated stress and burden and she's put in effort to solve the problem. You might want to acknowledge her good work and provide some comfort, support and encouragement. Can you catch a red eye flight without it costing a $1,000? This is logistics, not a shit test. You could fog it. Or you could check into it. Or tell her you looked into it and it's not possible.
/r/askMRP27/05/17 03:22 PM
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Nobody has suggested choreplay here. Learn to read. I'll just chalk this up to you not knowing what the fuck you're talking about because you don't bother read anything.
/r/askMRP27/05/17 12:58 AM
1

That's an interesting matrix! I'm also a bit confused by the parenthesis. My impression is that in many cases it means to describe categories of motivation. Maybe columns (Bucks,Fucks,Sucks) describe the source of the partner's attraction and rows are categories to describe the individual's own motivations? One thing to be mindful of here in terms of terminology though is that alpha and beta are being redefined in terms of own (rather than partner's) motivations. Some of the intersections don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 07:48 PM
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Fear defining "beta" is an oxymoron. Alpha refers to behaviors that attract a woman's short term mating interest. Beta refers to behaviors that attract her long term mating interest. This is the crux of the dual mating strategy. Who on Earth is going to be attracted to a fearful long term mate? There are behaviors that are not beta and also not alpha. You are describing gamma or omega--repulsive behaviors. It seems like alpha/beta has become some great dichotomy where beta just means "not alpha"…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 06:12 PM
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Not sure why it's our problem you don't read the sidebar. There is no content in your comment here. It's just whining about labels.
/r/askMRP26/05/17 05:40 PM
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It's also known elsewhere as JADE Justify - Argue - Defend - Explain
/r/askMRP25/05/17 09:32 PM
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No problem. It's a very interesting one that touches on MRP themes that come up often (and relevant to some of TFA's major posts).
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 11:34 PM
1

Sort of off tangential, but have you read TLP's "The Second Story Of Echo And Narcissus"?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:09 PM
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Deciphering whether I failed a shit test, passed a comfort test, or was just being a reasonable human has me very confused. So, I don't really care about the precise classification of things as shit tests, comfort tests or whatever. IMHO it's pretty easy: "shit tests" are expressions of condescension and disrespect. Do you feel she's disrespecting you? There are other rubrics like is the subject matter you or her or is the subject of the sentence "I" or "you". But honestly if you're someone who …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 02:25 PM
1

The thing is so much of the manosphere is fat guys who don't lift. Now you're trying to look like them. They hide because they have to. That's not you. (I bought your book anyway, but I would not have if I was just landing there for the first time)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 04:28 PM
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Good enough, I guess. It seems cheap to me, though. One of the things I really liked about your previous style was that the photography seemed very authentic and not stuff purchased from stock. Seeing you actually holding the bar was a big motivator for me to actually lift. You still have that feel with the imagery in the posts, but the header seems to have lost that. I also think your messaging is pretty wrong with that. Now your header says acta, where previously it showed acta. I'm not saying…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 04:06 PM
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Why did you change your blog's banner image to that hideous atrocity? The old one was much more human and authentic. lifting > rococo
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 02:45 PM
1

Cut the bullshit. Your plan is to go in and ensure the therapist knows it's hopeless. Sure, you're convincing yourself there's a chance. It's nice because you can offload the failure. Maybe you also have to check off the "tried marriage counseling" box so you can slide in with the victims of "marriage counseling" narriatives or whatever. It's obvious you're trying to make the therapist do your dirty work for you because you're too coward to say it yourself. Give her the papers now.
/r/askMRP21/05/17 01:27 AM
1

That sounds interesting but I'm having trouble visualizing what you're describing. Can you provide more specifics about what he did? What sort of leadership challenge?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:17 AM
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I would have felt so much more shame
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 04:01 PM
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Hot damn! I found Bill Clinton's alt!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 12:32 PM
1

I don't know what you're talking about. I know the Dawkins opinion 88Will88 is quoting and that it's been under extreme fire in the scientific community since climategate and the truth about antivax-autism links having been fabricated by trial lawyers and frauds came out. You seem to have lost interest in the accusation stage of climategate where industry programmers were smuggly criticizing the quality of academic software. But did you miss where a team of respected industry programmers dived i…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 11:07 AM
0

...a centrist with two Heil Hitler's (88) in his username? Sure. Why not.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 10:55 AM
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Example of what I'm talking about. (initially called you from that thread, but realized it was better to avoid mixing discussions and link from here instead)
/r/askMRP18/05/17 09:27 PM
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Let's go deeper: he's projecting his own inner world full of covert contracts and manipulation. I guarantee he'd never give her a complement without some string attached.
/r/askMRP18/05/17 04:14 PM
1

I wonder how much your accusations of navel gazing are an attempt to dodge critical analysis and disown responsibility for what you type. At the end of the day, what you choose to believe of me isn't something I give a shit about. I read advice. I give it a sniff test. I try it on often for nothing more than shits and giggles. See how it fits. I provide feedback. It's pretty simple. I'm an impulsive motherfucker. But I'm rationally impulsive. You don't break things without playing with them. Thi…
/r/askMRP18/05/17 03:40 PM
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Hey, not a problem. But just FYI it makes me cringe every time you repeat the largest amount of time you spend with your kids is when they are adults Not to get all Cat's In The Cradle on you but this is a symptom of work/life balance choices, not destiny. Maybe because you don't have kids you don't have older dads constantly walking up to you advising you to "enjoy them while they're young while they still care". Maybe you should consider other narratives in his life story (occupation, somethin…
/r/askMRP18/05/17 03:22 PM
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That sounds pretty rough and no offense but I believe you've written a few posts on the concept of ignoring advice from armchair quarterbacks.
/r/askMRP18/05/17 02:56 PM
2

You ever felt trapped in a dying marriage with kids you adore?
/r/askMRP18/05/17 02:42 PM
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Probably because you came here from PUA and not via DB.
/r/askMRP18/05/17 02:11 PM
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I want to walk through this because maybe you missed the point I'm trying to make. It's about the suitability of the 12SOD process to achieve the outcomes you've identified. If your woman notices anything within a couple months besides you dressing better and working out then you are doing it wrong. This is what we've defined as the desired outcome (and I agree with it). Having defined an outcome the obvious question is "how do we achieve this outcome?". The next obvious question is "does our ad…
/r/askMRP18/05/17 01:49 PM
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Dread Levels have become core lexicon here. Commonly parroted: "What's your Dread Level?" when people forget to preemptively prattle DL numbers into their please-do-or-don't-call-me-faggot MRPcode gobbledygook. And it's in the 101 section and actually titled "Saving a low sex marriage". SAVING. A. MARRIAGE. For fuck's sake. And you're going to claim it's just some minor obscure thing buried deep in the sidebar that the husbands-under-siege you care about aren't going to grab? Please. It's fine t…
/r/askMRP17/05/17 02:08 AM
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If your woman notices anything within a couple months besides you dressing better and working out then you are doing it wrong. Sidebar says: Dread Level 1: Learn to recognize and start passing Shit Tests. Dread Level 2: Develop an action plan to improve the major areas of your life. Dread Level 3: Begin to build a life apart from your wife. Dread Level 4: Begin conditioning your availability to your wife with her treatment of you. Dread Level 5: Upgrade your clothes and start dressing ‘up’ more …
/r/askMRP16/05/17 07:29 PM
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Are you actually talking about feedback/communication about sex?
/r/askMRP03/05/17 09:09 PM
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Ok, well it doesn't add up to me that the issue was challenges about making decisions because you're having trouble reading your wife. That being unable to read your wife is due to her undiagnosed low spectrum autism. And that you just need to keep on doing what your doing. But if it makes sense to you that's all that really matters.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 08:46 PM
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Initiating convos on serious issues -- finding a house, deciding which school to put our kid in Are you or your wife introverts? Both I and my wife are. And we tend to be pretty anxious types. I think this combination can easily cause interaction patterns that seem autistic. Broadly speaking, autism is an inability to correctly understand how another person's mind works. Note that it's inability to understand not failure to understand. The cliche about extroverts is that they think with their mo…
/r/askMRP03/05/17 08:02 PM
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What sorts of communication problems? What's your biggest communication complaint right now? How would things be different if you could change them?
/r/askMRP03/05/17 05:17 PM
1

Nothing absurd about computerized phrenology.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 11:02 PM
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You don't believe I'm a brain mapper? Why would you believe me if I said it on PM?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 10:45 PM
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Why didn't you believe me when I told you what it was last time?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 10:20 PM
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I only dox myself to bloopers. Sorry.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 09:37 PM
1

Is your intent is to force her to spend money on a haircut she does not need or want? What exactly is covered by her discretionary budget?
/r/askMRP02/05/17 06:39 PM
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Sweet! I didn't realize the built-in camera behaved this way--just restored some cute images of the kids I took at the zoo that I thought I'd managed to delete somehow. And I missed the introduction of disappearing messages. Signal keeps getting better and better.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 05:10 PM
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While reading this, what's screaming at me is one of my favorite phrases: "People who can't control themselves control the people around them" Am I assessing this correctly, that we are now in a battle of wills? There's a lot here and it's got some eau-de-troll but I think you need a bit of a perspective adjustment. Your battle of wills is about attempting to controlling yourself indirectly by controlling your wife (and likely the reverse is true as well). This won't work. You need to understand…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 01:31 PM
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I'm not sure what submitting one's mind means and how that's desirable. Certainly "desire" isn't some submissive thing--it's motivated by inner hunger. At least I'm not sure how to distinguish submitting one's mind from dissociation. Anyway the complaint about starfish is invariably lack of desire. But I think the real problem is misunderstanding her psychology and what she hopes to achieve with submitting to starfish. Have you read about subspace and control from the BDSM perspective? I'm uncon…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 11:32 PM
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I wouldn't think so. Besides the "submission"-focused types seem to idolize the complete lack of conflict as the goal. Conflict is easy--assume adversarial (but inconsequential) roles--things like playing board/card/video games together, habit challenges, friendly bets, etc. Playful conflict is still conflict. It's pretty confusing if you start pondering where starfish fits into the submission spectrum.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 07:37 PM
1

That article you linked does not say that. It mentions a study looking at the association between parental involvement with child rearing on testosterone level. I didn't read the original study but your link says they segregated fathers into two groups and then compared testosterone levels of those groups. The amount of time fathers spent "playing with kids" was only one of many behaviors that was used to select fathers into the two groups. This was done based on the assumption that involved par…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 05:12 PM
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One of the well-known effects of stress is suppression of testosterone. Can confirm kids are pretty stressful. Activities that boost testosterone production or decrease stress are all beneficial.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 03:22 PM
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Yeah, I agree. Conflict and disagreement is pretty organic, natural and inevitable even when you're both playing on the same team. Handle it maturely and you're a desirable teammate. I'm not sure "submission" is the correct word for that even though it encompasses a lot of the meaning as "submission" inhabits an adversarial framework.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 02:47 PM
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Sometimes I get the sense that when people talk about "submission" providing value, I think what they might actually mean is that "conflict" has negative value and they can't think of a better word for "not having an adversarial relationship".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 02:25 PM
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She's opened communication about the faking, which is a good thing. Approach it with the correct mentality and this has the potential to be a great pivot. Swallow your pride and accept it and stop being defensive and in denial then set a course correction. There's a great graphic panel in How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk about arguing with a toddler who wants to take off their sweater because they say they are hot--it's a pointless argument you cannot win. Ever. Debatin…
/r/askMRP01/05/17 01:33 PM
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Makes sense. The woman is the gatekeeper of reproduction and the man is the gatekeeper of commitment (his resources and productivity). Male selection pressure is about the women he's willing to invest his productivity into the offspring.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 08:48 PM
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I haven't read that one. What's​ its perspective on breeding and attractiveness?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 03:54 PM
1

See to me it's the opposite. You and stone have very well defined rules and algorithms that you've chosen to trust absolutely and you apply those rules to dissect your observations. You're not distrusting of those rules at all. That's a very hard science approach where laws are very well established and can be relied on. I personally wouldn't even call most of that scientific anymore, it's not seeking to create knowledge or understand anything. It's more close to a mathematical derivation or axi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 01:55 PM
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The relevant counterthought in MRP that hasn't been mentioned a lot recently is the importance of learning to not keep score and to be more present and future focused without dwelling on the past. Scorecards are fundamentally enmeshed in the same patterns of self-victimhood that govern covert contracts. jacktenofhearts has some very good comments on this particularly in discussions about endgame (that I can't find at the moment, but they are linked often). Really I do think that if you're going …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 06:00 PM
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it was coined by Rollo Tomassi or maybe someone on his SoSauve forums Nope. It's from Marshall McLuhan in the '60s. Most of Rollo's pat phrases are appropriated.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 04:41 PM
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One thing that helped me a lot was finding the modern tantra website. Tantra approaches sex from a pretty different mindset that I found helpful for breaking out of the rut. When I'd looked at tantra previously I'd usually give up because it gets wrapped up in a lot of religious and superstitious things and is easy to dismiss. Modern tantra strips much of that out and was a lot more palatable to me. The author is also a very prolific redditor (shaktiamarantha) and she is extremely knowledgeable-…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 06:21 PM
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Fabrication of the concept of "intellectual property" to extend concepts related to limitations of the physical world into the world of ideas and information and stupid analogies that follow such as "piracy" is absolutely a moral claim. Rose sees none of the profit from that ridiculous markup by speculators so I don't feel particularly bad about it. If he ever gets his kindle edition fixed so that I can purchase it, I'll purchase it. In the mean time jackasses reselling used copies of a $24 book…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 03:37 PM
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There's epub in the mega collection v2. It's not great but whatever. Rose actually released an updated book and $3.99 kindle edition on Amazon under the name "The Sex Revolution Handbook" but it's been pulled by Amazon QA after complaints of being a shitty conversion full of formatting errors and he hasn't bothered to fix it for years so fuck him.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 03:09 PM
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morality lol
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 03:07 PM
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Uh... what sort of symbolism are you going for here? I'm sort of extremely protective of the bedroom and what activities are allowed there. Along the lines of the advice to not watch TV in bed because it contributes to insomnia. The master bedroom should be themed around intimacy. Lifting is a pretty inward focused activity IMHO.
/r/askMRP22/04/17 06:37 PM
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I had something like that happen and it turned out to be a corroded battery connector.
/r/askMRP22/04/17 04:08 PM
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yup
/r/askMRP21/04/17 09:19 PM
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How is "answering" a direct question like Are you having an affair? by providing vague evasive answers, terminating the conversation, and changing topics with the intent that she hamsters somehow not pretending there's an affair? WAS relies on the fact that everything he does is motivated by value exchange. His wife know that. So he's actually answering by reminding her of his MO. Even if he doesn't verbatim say "No" he's telling her no. That's not done with the intent to feed a hamster. It's tr…
/r/askMRP21/04/17 02:25 PM
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Many subs do stickied intro posts, that might be a possibility. But I'm not really sure it matters. Post flair is an option, too
/r/askMRP21/04/17 01:47 PM
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Nowhere have I justified her behavior? There are more ways to enforce boundaries than passive shit like passwords. I'm partial to the panopticon. [deleted] has the correct framework. Setting a password is just a concession that it was you that made her feel bad and that she was justified in crossing the boundary.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 09:28 PM
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Journaling is beta. Don't waste your time dressing it up with alpha lipstick.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 08:44 PM
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Sort of irrelevant after you've already found her reading it, don't you think? You sayin' OP should file for divorce or what?
/r/askMRP20/04/17 07:26 PM
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First date rules?
/r/askMRP20/04/17 07:14 PM
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Let's be consistent at least. If women don't want to know, then they don't care about the mystery and they're not going to snoop. You can't have it both ways. I also disagree that secrecy and mystery are the only useful sources of novelty in a relationship. You can be unpredictable without being unreadable. And yeah, I try very hard not to hide anything and when I do, I take time to introspect and understand why. Doesn't mean I go around broadcasting everything, but I only rarely keep secrets fr…
/r/askMRP20/04/17 06:01 PM
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Not fair? It's trust but verify. Do you think nannycams or spyware or keyloggers are "not fair"? If she's not fucking with you, there's no harm. If she is fucking with you, the evidence is useful. Boo-fucking-hoo.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 05:39 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with kids reading a checkbook? What are they going to do--learn how much things cost? What's you wife going to do? I guess if you suspect your wife is going to go in and tamper or edit. Maybe plant evidence? The answer there would be tamper detection and collecting evidence that she's doing that. Honey pot that shit.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 04:24 PM
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Why is restricting access important?
/r/askMRP20/04/17 02:26 PM
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I can see it's an excuse for not paying attention. I don't get it. Was she skipping appointments? What is she supposed to "know" to do? At least here it's pretty much an assembly line after the first visit. The practice schedules everything and reminds you by phone about your scheduled visits.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 01:59 AM
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Oh, I misunderstood. I thought you were saying that you haven't paid attention to her pregnancy at all and don't go to her doctor visits and now you've suddenly realized that you wished she'd had a test done but it's too late to make it up.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 12:29 AM
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So why do you think her OB wasn't able to buffalo your spineless wife into having this vitally important scan? Standing up to a doctor who wants to order a scan takes more resolve than you're giving your wife credit for.
/r/askMRP19/04/17 11:00 PM
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The translucency scan is not diagnostic--it provides no actionable information. Who gives a shit. Rule one when doctors offer tests is to ask how the results of the test either way will actually change anything they will do. Control is about outcomes, not acknowledgment. My advice is that you task her with making her own plans and then you monitor that she follows through with the process. Lists work wonders. Have her make a list of items and questions that she takes with her to appointments. Re…
/r/askMRP19/04/17 04:10 PM
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Don't you think gendered brains are fundamentally a very big problem for genetically-determined gender roles? The existence of genetically gendered brains is at the core of the TERF war where bizarrely some third wave feminists argue for the existence of genetically gendered brains. (without getting into gory detail, brains and genitals are coded in different locations in the genome so gendered brains are almost guaranteed to eventually fall out of sync with biologic sex). Pinker's approach make…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 07:59 PM
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Which of Pinker's books have you read? Do you subscribe to the theory of gendered brains?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 06:20 PM
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I get that he was in a bad mood in large part because the machines were rebelling. She assumed his attitude was about her. But they're already been conflict about it earlier. That's the stage that was set. She knows what she said and that he heard her. He knows what she said and that he heard her. There was nothing accidental about what happened here. He doesn't even hold her to account for the behavior--he decides to ignore it and later they both choose to pretend he didn't hear it. I don't giv…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 03:33 PM
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Yeah, me too. Her accidentally fearing his backhand isn't Dread Game. This FR doesn't even end with fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 02:20 PM
1

I always think of this misattributed joke by Sheng Wang.
/r/askMRP18/04/17 01:55 PM
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Secretly install a second hidden active thermostat and disconnect the known thermostat.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 02:05 AM
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You'd read her texts as motivated by fear of losing him to another woman?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 10:29 PM
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In the end what you're describing is a negative feedback loop where sexual success results in diminished future sexual success--it just doesn't make any evolutionary sense. Beyond that just about everything in the body operates on the use-it-or-lose-it principle of resource allocation.
/r/askMRP17/04/17 07:35 PM
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"You're killing your drive to improve when you do this." The last one actually making some sense. It's like eating cake every night when you're trying to cut. I felt that way for a while, but I don't anymore. If you don't know that the shame and guilt are optional, you'll find an excuse to rationalize its presence. And to be quite honest, I've actually found the opposite to be true after jettisoning it. Now I improve because I want to improve. If the only reason you roll out of bed in the mornin…
/r/askMRP17/04/17 05:13 PM
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Ok, so usually I like your FR but this one is really disappointing because it's just one big passive aggressive outburst. I get it, nobody's happy when a fuse blows at the last minute and the pressure's on. What I can't understand is this overhearing something and then silently taking off in your truck. And in particular figuring out where to go after you've left? Distracted driving is your excuse for no contact? You know you stormed out and you're making excuses. Didn't you used to storm off to…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 04:37 PM
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I grew up with the idea that masturbation is a one-way ticket to hell. To be fair we left the church when I was about 9yo so maybe they tone it down later. Catholics seem somewhat sane most of the time.
/r/askMRP17/04/17 03:15 PM
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I didn't get much from NMMNG's advice on this honestly. What was much more helpful was learning that "masturbation guilt" was entirely optional and comes from social conditioning. Although I left religion early, I was nevertheless taught on some level that masturbation was a sin and something to be ashamed of. You'll see all sorts of references to the post-masturbation guilt/shame everywhere so it's very easy to believe it's just a given. After I found MRP, I ended up in a discussion where someo…
/r/askMRP17/04/17 03:02 PM
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Another option would be to read "The Call of Cthulhu" and then just substitute "Feminine Imperative" for all the weird looking words.
/r/askMRP16/04/17 02:09 AM
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What do you think is in hot dogs?!?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/17 02:32 PM
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When you state your desires and they are denied there's a discomfort and it's awkward. Nice Guys can't stand discomfort and awkwardness. So they try to make it go away by any means necessary. Maybe he'll DEER. Or turn around and deny the desire, pretend he was insincere. Or ask indirect questions to probe out interest. That's all a good time to STFU. Another Nice Guy trick for avoiding the the discomfort is to just deny yourself and hide your desires. But if you have frame none of that is the ri…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 04:05 PM
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she said she had no idea I was so upset about things Your comment history is packed full of you advocating STFU for everything. Of course she has no idea. Your dissatisfaction with your sex life is the same story. STFU is a stop-gap to protect fledgling frame from hurricanes. Your frame needs to be strong enough to communicate authentically and assertively. I'd go back and re-read NMMNG et al. She's a woman, not a betazoid.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 01:51 PM
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Well, I haven't been there, but ... if that's what you want, why can't you stop putting your dick in women you don't want to put your dick inside? And in any case can't you go back to 11 pretty quickly in the future? Am I missing something?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 08:13 PM
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giving her a chance? Can you please explain what this means to you? What do you want to happen? A monogamous relationship? Do you want to continue at level 11? Do you want to deescalate to a lower dread level? Are you dealing with guilt? Are you worried about your mistress causing drama? What is actually going on? Insight on what?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 07:50 PM
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Ok. Your understanding of dread levels seems to be shit and you write like a brained lizard not a 1yr vet so this is just a wild guess at this point. Maybe what you're not saying is that your actual question is that you don't know how to restore trust? Try reading Chump Lady's GINR to get oriented. I think. You are going to have to actually own what you've done. And I have my doubts because honestly you're beating around the bush indirectly and not bothering describe anything even here anonymous…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 06:43 PM
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Ok, so are you collecting data to make some sort of decision in a sort of open ended way and this is a sort of writing prompt? You omitted what you are trying to choose between or what your thoughts are or where you're trying to go. I have young kids (that I adore) and I'm still fat and I love my wife and there's zero chance I'm actively looking for divorce right now. I don't spend time catching/releasing or whatever (sue me). Regardless, women I work with keep forgetting I'm married and keep tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 04:07 PM
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What would you consider more reliable advice for men interested in dating young women: "What Young Women Really Want" (written by a woman) "What Young Women Really Want" (written by a man)
/r/TheRedPill13/04/17 02:48 PM
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Yeah, almost always forgettable and insincere throwaway line noise.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 07:53 PM
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You're saying that the bottom quartile of society hopes and dreams for hate-fueled marriages? I don't buy it. Show me evidence this is actually a thing. It's not a red pill ideal marriage. It's certainly not a blue pill ideal marriage as far as I know. And what woman wants a husband who wants her to die? So not a FI ideal marriage. So... not really sure it's anyone's ideal marriage? Why would you LTR/marry a woman you hate? Or idolize men who did? This is stupid.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 06:16 PM
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Maybe I'm just too much of a mangina who doesn't like to see anyone suffering. What I want to know is how on earth can you hear someone say "my wife is a total controlling bitch who I wish was dead but I love her more than anything" and not feel compelled to talk to them one-on-one and figure out what the fuck they actually mean? I've heard "my wife is a total controlling bitch who I wish was dead"... and it turned out he most certainly did... ...ish (the both hated each other and were separated…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 05:54 PM
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If your wife became more horrible and added less value you would love her harder more and put in more effort?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 03:37 PM
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Of all the divorces I have witnessed (about six), exactly none of them went from pleasant wife to 'total controlling bitch'. And I have literally never heard those sentences spoken with sincerity. "My wife is a total controlling bitch who I wish was dead but I love her more than anything" is what you think blue pill men hold up as an ideal marriage? That's what they seek? That's what guys say when they feel trapped. When I've heard things like "I wish my wife was all lovey dovey like that" it's …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 03:18 PM
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It's like some JFK-level bullshit in here. We choose to LTR, not because they are easy, but because they are hard; because that goal will serve to organize and measure the best of our energies and skills, because that challenge is one that we are willing to accept, one we are unwilling to postpone, and one we intend to win. Hey, if you want to make LTR/marriage the great challenge and mission of your life, feel free to go all George Mallory on it. Not sure how that's something supported by the s…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 01:46 PM
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Your frame is hidden in deep fog and she can't figure out what makes you tick anymore. You're becoming an unknown. Unknown is scary. Scary is not good. Women like to see how their men tick and how they fit in to your life.
/r/askMRP11/04/17 09:38 PM
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All things being equal, you would choose to LTR the more difficult of two women?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 07:04 PM
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Well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 06:43 PM
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Is there any actual criticism or discussion in your comment, though? I've read this a few times and all I really see is that you don't like the post. I have to admit the "hard mode" thing makes me reflexively uneasy, too. And I agree somewhat with a lot of your easy-mode LTR advice. Particularly that the goals of vetting LTR should be finding Slack and that if you're in a hard LTR you're just... doing LTR wrong. OP's general premise does makes sense: LTRs have more exposure to each other. Not to…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 06:39 PM
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First let me preface this by saying that motivation for sexual behavior is rarely purely driven by a single motive. When people talk about libido, they are talking about the component of motivation that relates to satisfying your own sexual desires. Of course you can have sex to satisfy non-sexual desires. But that's satisfying someone else's sexual desires not your own. So the distinction is that engaging in sexual behavior primarily with the goal of maintaining a relationship isn't something y…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 10:25 PM
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It's literally the Latin word for desire. :p
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 09:10 PM
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Try a dictionary.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 08:52 PM
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Damn, what did I miss?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 08:43 PM
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What judgments? Libidio is a person's own desire to fuck/get off. You certainly can negotiate sex. That's not why we say "you can't negotiate desire".
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 08:20 PM
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You can't carrot-stick libido any more than you can negotiate desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 05:14 PM
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The goals of marriage are what? Value destruction?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 05:08 PM
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Is it even possible to be a king? What's the difference between sending your wife to the kitchen vs sending her to wageslave?
/r/askMRP07/04/17 03:00 PM
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I'm trying to understand what subtle and important distinction you're talking about when you say that individuals choose to be in a marriage but they can't build a marriage? Can you explain what you mean? You're saying individuals can be built. And choose to be partners in a business. But you wouldn't call what they're doing in that partnership building a business? What's the distinction? People "build lives together" even without marriage. I'm missing your point. I do not see any meaningful com…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 02:52 PM
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Isn't that's like saying a business can't be built?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 01:17 PM
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Less need = less motivation. Universally. Completely true and actually the point in some cases. The 'principle of least interest' can allow sex to be turned into a leash and vehicle for passive-aggression. If your wife learns she can use sex to coerce your behavior, taking the leash into your own hands works very well. It's why outcome-independence is important. We can wax poetic about it being sad that marital sex would be used to manipulate, but it happens. Whatever. It can be solved. It doesn…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 08:58 PM
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This level map should clear it up. Additional strategies include temple work to retroactively move pre-LDS people into the win column. Penalties that handicap your entire family (dead and living relatives and decedents) for all eternity if anyone abandons the church. Careful vetting of families for baggage prior to marriage. And of course the ever popular sabotaging of rival families for all eternity to achieve various church political goals, etc.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 04:50 PM
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Careful there big boy. Mormons invented the welfare state.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 01:57 PM
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Ah. We're the same height and have the same start and goal weights but you're ahead of me (255). The way I reasoned through it was that a goal of 180lbs@~12%BF gives a target lean body mass of ~160lbs. So I figure whatever my current lean mass is, it's got to be less than 160lbs. As a sanity check from that I can back-of-the-envelope a lower bound for my current BF% that ballparks with the visual photo guides pretty well. I saw 0.9-1.2g/lb lean body mass to maintain muscle during fast, so I figu…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 02:59 PM
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I understand the lean body mass difficulty, and I'm not arguing but why 1.2 g/lb of goal weight and not goal lean body mass? (I sort of went at it a different direction using sensitivity analysis using current body fat and goal target weight / body fat and now I'm... questioning everything again. Your comment is like a DoS attack on my mind. Thanks for that.)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 02:24 PM
1

These are some adjustments but typically the "challenge" for me is to stick to the plan long term and not start adjusting when I get bored. I'm still in linear programming of all the lifts. I think I'll reach novice zone on the ExRx standards during 60 DoD. I audited my workout this weekend, the three core lifts each day have been consistent since Jan, but I have had a tendency to fuckaround a bit after the dead which I am ending. When progress is going well I tend to pile on and I'm resisting t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:46 PM
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My routine is pretty basic and I am already very consistent habit wise so my goal is to keep it up and eat enough protein. I'm using a sort of combined SS/SL based on equipment that's available at my gym. Still in beginner linear progression (restarted seriously in Jan). Should hit the ExRx novice standards during 60 DoD. Lifting MonWedFri before work, two day split. Day 1: squat 3x5, bench 3x5, deadlift 1x5, cable row 3x5, dip 3x5 Day 2: squat 3x5, press 3x5, deadlift 1x5, chinup 3x5 TueThuSat …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 04:12 PM
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The contract is a converse logical statement. The statement: I will honor my contract in spite of the increased ODDs of you dying before me. The converse is also true, assuming the contract is honored. If I understand what you are suggesting--the idea is that it's a pact so that both parties escape abandonment when sick and dying. This is the Marriage 1.0 "for better or worse" and "till death do us part" aspects of the marriage agreement. You seem to be in denial that Marriage 2.0 rewrote this a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 02:07 PM
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Well, the younger, able bodied slaves would have rebelled. Younger women are more than happy to throw older women under the bus.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/17 08:34 PM
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That wiki's description is incomplete. Sunk cost fallacy comes from economics and finance. It describes how people will increase their investment in a depreciating asset with the hope of recovering their previous investment. http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Sunk_cost It's related to how people who are losing money on an asset will purchase more of that asset as the value is in freefall and suffer much greater losses than if they had just cut and run. All women's SMV are in decline as they age, but i…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/17 02:27 PM
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Do you track protein and need to use powder? It always amazes me how little protein I eat if I'm not paying close attention.
/r/askMRP01/04/17 10:01 PM
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I really don't understand this debt thing. You don't stray and end up... morally indebted? How far inside the lines do you have to stay to declare moral bankruptcy? Is that Marriage 2.0, though? It seems like afterimages of the Marriage 1.0 yoke.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 08:20 PM
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What's your law? I missed that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 06:54 PM
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Ah, valid. I'm an atheist. I don't believe in celestial marriage and eternal families or whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 06:37 PM
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If that is your reason for bailing on a person who you chose to partner with, fuck you very much. Are you trying to moralize me? If we're going to reduce our relationships to economic analysis, be consistent. You don't hold on to a tanking investment because you enjoyed the highs. A relationship with a terminally ill or dying spouse is obviously a soon-to-end relationship. Disputing that is ludicrous.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 06:29 PM
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You're correct that it doesn't work for justifying staying in a losing relationship. And I still don't see how illness tips the scales in the relationship's favor. The point is congruence and consistency. If sunk costs fallacy is now invalid when she's sick, it was even less valid before she got sick.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 05:52 PM
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It's even simpler than that. Would you start the relationship from scratch today? If the answer is no, you're operating from sunk costs.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 05:30 PM
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What I do (mostly based on reverse engineering the results of the free IIFYM calculator with varying inputs) is: 100g carbs 0.8g protein per pound lean body mass remainder filled as protein or fat to hit overall calorie goal
/r/askMRP01/04/17 03:35 PM
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Would you allow an honor debt to accumulate in the first place? And why does the debt suddenly matter when she's ill? Does the type of disease matter? Suppose a disease with well-known lifestyle influences--smoker with lung cancer say vs things we don't understand like Alz or MS? How would you handle dread? No change? Fallback to 5-6?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 02:57 PM
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The last time I read any of those studies a major limitation was that they failed to capture which spouse filed for divorce which makes narrative difficult. Typically these studies are retrospective chart reviews rather than prospective questionnaires, so they only have access to illness and crossectional marital status. Clinic check-in forms and insurance billing records don't record who divorced whom. From other studies we know that women are far less satisfied with the care they receive from …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 01:37 AM
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Was just trying to clarify your previous reply. I don't understand the flow of ideas you presented or how they related to my comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 11:22 PM
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Respectfully, I fear you're trying to conjure abundance mentality in an attempt and squeeze virtue from the dry well of scarcity mentality. To continue with your analogy. You like that particular pair of jeans. It's your favorite pair. They're an extension of you--they perfectly sculpt your toned ass and cradle your balls like no other pants have ever done before. But jeans inevitably get old, worn and torn. AJALT. You sadly and dutifully repair them as you can so you can squeeze just one more m…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 09:27 PM
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How does a sick first mate become the captain's employer?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 09:21 PM
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It's what any employer would do. When my dad got sick the practice covertly maneuvered to cut him off as soon as contractually possible. The other partners worked the schedule to block him from working and then exercised performance clauses. Let him work just enough to fall below the line while saying all the right things to keep his guard down about the impending ambush. Nobody gives a fuck and there is no honor.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 01:50 PM
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Is that rational though? How do you square this sentimentality with abundance mentality and sunk costs fallacy? She may be adding value in an absolute sense but sunk costs fallacy shows that the correct comparison is value relative to other abundant options... Even if you look at "for better or worse" as risk management to hedge against dying alone, once one of you are dying the rational thing to do is to sever all resources and cut your losses. This is the calculus when she is healthy. Why shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 01:54 AM
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Since you mention coffins... is there any justification for staying with your wife if she became chronically/terminally ill?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/17 09:49 PM
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Since when do SJW/bloopers repress their anger? They wear it like a badge of courage.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 10:12 PM
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Why else would he specifically demand you bring him advice from a minesweeper? ;) He's a MGTOW professional victim looking for handouts and fresh meat for his crab bucket. Fuck him.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 09:34 PM
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Your wife must have quite the temper! Those eggshells are terrifying, I'm sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 03:38 PM
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Great! Please also adopt these on AskMRP!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 03:07 PM
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List making is a tool that aids awareness/mindfulness of stressors. The classification types are useful is a guide to selecting appropriate coping mechanisms after the awareness is made. To go further with this you might explore mindfulness meditation and dialectic behavioral therapy. I find meditation is useful for discovering sources of stress and developing ways to process them. In particular, I've found taking time to carefully reprocess failures / loss of frame helps in identifying thought …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 01:30 PM
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Thanks. That was an interesting post you linked. I had not heard of these books or seen that post. Have you read the books? Do they identify the core unease/unhappiness involved or is it just taken as a given? The only hint I get from the TRP post is it's chalked up to loss of NRE?
/r/askMRP24/03/17 11:45 PM
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The author interviewed 200 women and 100 men. [...] Only 2 guys could overcome this example of hypergamy and solipsism: when the woman said she was unhappy, the man told her to cut the bullshit, state in clear words exactly what she wants; he won't try to read her mind and she shouldn't try either. That or she can leave right now. So if I understand correctly she interviewed 200 women who cheated and 100 of the partners they cheated on? What does "overcome" mean here? The relationship survived i…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 11:21 PM
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she doesn't enjoy herself when we do have sex (even though she orgasms every time) What about the sex doesn't she enjoy?
/r/askMRP24/03/17 12:58 PM
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It's very difficult to MITM Google if you are using their clients because they know not to trust anyone except themselves and they hardcode certificate pins in their clients. But if you use a jabber/XMPP client, the burden is on you. Also some industries screen and/or keylog everything for compliance. And anyway none of that matters if subpoenaed or if one of your friends is loose lipped or careless.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 12:20 PM
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Thank you for explaining and clarifying. I see what you're saying now. Honestly, the idea that my wife would abort a child I wanted for non-medical reasons isn't really something that's ever crossed my mind and seems extremely foreign to my experience. Sorry this ended on a bad note.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 05:59 PM
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For the married couples, it would be simple enough to create a legal document that requires both parties to sign - basically agreeing that they want a child and will commence trying for one. The contract could cover a 2-3 year span of time (because conceiving a child does not always happen instantaneously). So any pregnancies that happen during the time of the contract are automatically put in the 'Yes, we both want this' category. My understanding here is that you're asking the husband to sign …
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 05:22 PM
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That's true but taxes are different depending on whether the couple is married or cohabiting. Sometimes you get a tax benefit for being married. Sometimes you get a tax penalty for being married. The link I provided explains this well.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 04:48 PM
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To me it's more complicated to have two different and competing tax systems designed to support women who labor at home vs women who labor outside the home. The dual systems put all sorts of weird interactions into effect (see all the heat maps at the link I provided). It would actually be a lot less complicated to unify the two tax systems by reclassifying labor at home as equivalent to labor outside the home and apply a single unified tax policy.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 04:42 PM
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I don't think that's something that couldn't be worked out in tax policy. For example child care expenses that enable you to work can already be handled as pretax deductions so it's not a huge stretch that as part of the change the support a wife provides in terms of child care and homemaking to enable the husband's work could be given similar tax benefits. It could reduce his taxable income and shift into different tax brackets. Anyway details would need to be worked out. Taxes in marriage are …
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 04:19 PM
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So any pregnancies that happen during the time of the contract are automatically put in the 'Yes, we both want this' category. Do you think a husband would sign a contract relinquishing his power to challenge paternity?
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 02:56 PM
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One of the big practical problems with "financial abortion" is that unlike the identity of the mother, the identity of the father can't be known. I think women often don't fully understand the perspective of the father--it would have to be somehow naturally possible for a wife to become pregnant with the husband's mistress's child for gut perspectives to match. Biologic maternity is just not something I think women have a reason to question. Status as biologic father matters to many men and whet…
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 02:29 PM
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Partly I think you misunderstood my initial question and my poor phrasing probably contributed to that. What I meant was would it be bad to make SAHM/W "illegal" (in the sense of the article) if the labors of a SAHM/W were simultaneously formalized as a job? i.e. changing SAHM/W as non-economic participant status to "self-employed as SAHM/W". I think we agree that SAHM provide unappreciated labor. Why shouldn't we formally recognize that as gainful employment? You want to forcibly punish anyone …
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 01:07 PM
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Alimony is not child support and it's only "untapped labor" if SAHM/W are underemployed in their SAHing. Without underemployment the SAH salary would be a wash--the work doesn't disappear and still has to be done. Also not sure why you assume men couldn't be hired for aspects of these roles.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 01:03 AM
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Would it be such a bad thing if a SAHM/W were explicitly paid a salary by the husband to perform that work? Or alternatively use his salary to pay a more qualified person to perform those duties more efficiently and at a better price? To me it clarifies the lost earning potential angle of alimony for SAHM/W much more clear to me. It seems much more fair that a highly-educated woman who chooses to engage in low-skill labor by selecting to SAHM/W should shoulder the economic consequences of that p…
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 12:22 AM
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Doubtful. Far more people are engaged to leave thumb ratings than star ratings because it's less complex and it's a lot easier to analyze because stars are more subjective and indirect. They were trialling thumbs last year and had a huge increase in the use of ratings by users who had thumbs vs stars. Netflix actually gets far more interesting feedback than stars anyway in terms of seeing how many people complete shows and when they stop watching.
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 08:00 PM
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non-genetic mechanisms it is possible that genetic traces Learn to read.
/r/askMRP20/03/17 01:10 PM
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It's true that blue pill trolls use "anger" as an accusation. It's also true that people who are not blue pill trolls but who were once angry and are no longer angry can recognize their past. Anger and resentment exist and are known to have profound impacts on marriage dynamics. It should be possible to discuss it? Just as a matter of rule zero, women are not attracted to anger that's directed at them.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 04:38 AM
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Can you clarify what you are accusing me of redefining? The glossary of shaming tactics is on the TRP sidebar and the codes are explicitly defined therein. You already stated that you do not feel shame or guilt and I have not questioned it further. You didn't really answer whether you have read WISNIFG? It was relevant at the time because your flair was "MRP APPROVED" and WISNIFG is a core MRP text and deeply ingrained in MRP culture. It's very obvious to all of us that you behave as if you've n…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 03:53 AM
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In that case you need to refamiliarize yourself with the glossary of shaming tactics because your response was code lavender.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 02:38 AM
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You need to read WISNIFG from the MRP sidebar. If you feel guilt or shame, that's a "you" problem not an "us" problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 11:54 AM
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The redpill being amoral means that it intends to make no attempt at unified, cohesive morality or virtue ethics--that's left as an 'exercise for the reader' and his conscience as it were. In practice this requires a certain deference and restraint to not project your own individual morality on others without justification so it's also a moderation policy. With respect to your thought experiment, the husband's behavior is certainly not effective. Wife beating is pretty unaccepted ("ultimate loss…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 10:39 AM
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Virtues are derived from moral standards, so let's give the amorality police that benefit of doubt. There are no objective standards for healthy or great marriage. Talking about great or healthy marriages is discussing ideals and goals. To me, choosing between utilitarianism vs egoism evaluations in a marriage is always going to be a morality call. I'm also not sure to what extent sexuality has anything to do with virtues. My sexual tastes certainly aren't particularly virtuous.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 09:15 AM
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"great" vs "healthy" are interchangeable and equally morally charged--they both convey the meaning "good". I don't think a great marriage starts with the idea that women are awful people. You can have a healthy marriage, whether your wife chooses to be in it or not. Someone will take the job if she's not willing. Neither is amoral. As a matter of rhetoric, one of you is stating their opinion and the other is moralizing, though. You may want to consult moral foundations theory.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 11:29 PM
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It's a keyed lock for electric plugs. She even remarks that I like it when she doesn't Does your wife enjoy PIV?
/r/askMRP07/03/17 02:53 PM
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Try this attachment.
/r/askMRP07/03/17 12:41 PM
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Pretty sure semantic arguments aren't your forte if you think men bear offspring.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 01:51 PM
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Interesting. If you look at OPs actions and not his words, he's a thirsty coward who lacks abundance and is so afraid of losing his plate that he tolerates her shitty behavior silently and then whispers about her here behind her back. Was it moralizing for me to observe that? Is it moralizing to kick out manginas?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 01:56 PM
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3) demonstration of FI Hey amoral no shaming etc but OP's technically an agent of FI.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 09:31 PM
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Back pats are external validation. :P Every time I see you quote: No one should be praised for his goodness if he has not strength enough to be wicked. It reminds me of this story my dad loved to tell us when we were kids about how God set about explicitly designing man to have free will and to agonize over temptation. That was supposedly the key design point in making us in his image. At the time Satan* was one of the angel big-wigs and was horrified at this idea--to him it was cruel to willful…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 04:13 PM
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That's also what I like about KeepTrack--it has aggregated trackers that become forms that pop up from the notifications (it's a subscription feature though). And what I like about Habits is that it's built around the "don't break the chain" visual. I like the look of Nomie's mood trackers in particular, though. I need to get into it to see how easy it is to extract data. My other major nexus of data is myfitnesspal where I have a bluetooth scale that records weight/bodycomp and a run tracker th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/17 10:24 PM
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Honestly, there are tons of habit tracking apps already. I personally use KeepTrack and Habits and have them scheduled for daily review as a notification (considering Nomie but have not made the move). If you care about these sorts of things you should look into quantifiedself and the methods used there. But the goals there mostly are to capture data and then find unexpected correlations amd structure in analysis to gain insight. It's my opinion that the process here must be personalized. It's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 11:26 PM
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... so you sure as hell better measure the right things
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 10:35 PM
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This actually seems more superficial to me like those pointless productivity metrics managers use because they can't be assed to think for themselves. Can't see what insight I'm supposed to find from being 20 this week and 21 next week. What's the insight? I got one more "karma" so I should be happy? Where's the linkage to action? I could see a guided meditation being useful, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 10:09 PM
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Try a small transparent image. *be sure to check the comments
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 04:59 AM
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You've got some sort of fundamental misunderstanding of women's mating strategies. Owning Your Shit appeals to women's long-term mating strategy (=beta). Wives don't cuck their husbands with convicts and drug dealers because they somehow think convicts and drug dealers are reliable. The reason OYS matters in MRP is that marriage and LTR fundamentally require long-term mating strategy (=beta).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/17 08:23 PM
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Things went from there. Up to here you sound completely not into her at all. How did that turn around? When and how did you get emotionally invested in her?
/r/askMRP14/02/17 12:39 AM
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One of the things that helped me get past this and on a path to recovery is not thinking about "would I marry my wife if we met today?" but instead thinking back to remember what it was that I felt and liked about her back when I did choose to marry her. Before things went to hell. I really like u/Scurvemuch's rebranding thing. I've always enjoyed marketing topics and psychology of marketing. Shows like "The Pitch", "Merchants of Cool", stories about how P&G operates etc. It's kind of a hobby. B…
/r/askMRP13/02/17 05:46 PM
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There should be a corrolary to the advice that it's a distraction to worry about things beyond your control--it's a waste of time to worry about problems that don't actually exist. Don't know what gave you the impression my wife is not a feminist. Maybe try to get some perspective?
/r/askMRP13/02/17 12:32 PM
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There's nothing described in this post that she's actually done or doing to you, just you running around snooping on her and her friends worried about whether they accuse you of thoughtcrime. That's how far in her frame you are. Is she actually attacking or confronting you or badmouthing you or something?
/r/askMRP12/02/17 04:45 PM
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How did you meet? When did you move to her country?
/r/askMRP12/02/17 12:59 PM
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Good lord this sounds like a nightmare. Have you made plans to escape?
/r/askMRP12/02/17 12:47 AM
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If you were attracted why does it matter if she was HB6 or HB9? You could have told the entire story without saying how attractive or unattractive she was. So... why these details? The answer is ego. C&R isn't about actually fucking, remember? What I'm focusing on is this: And then I realized what was happening, this was her fucking. This was as good as she would let it get, wanting a little banter in the wine store. These are your words describing your action. What does it mean? Your perception…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 05:27 PM
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Uh... I think what he meant was: if you can't catch the desperately bored HB6 who wants to play, what chance do you have with an HB9? Personally I find your "she was only a HB6" hilarious. You noticed her in the car before she got out and kept an eye on her and engaged her. You were attracted. You failed to get her number. Learn from failure rather than discard it. This story seems pretty similar to all those IM screenshots you can find showing "nice guys" who start hurling insults after they ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 04:49 PM
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From your post history, you've been begging her to break up with you for months.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 04:36 PM
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Well, Kirk of course. Who else would booby trap a starship and drive it deep into the gaping maw of a giant planet-eating vagina? There is no other option.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 11:05 PM
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TIL D: I thought you were talking about this and was confused.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 07:30 PM
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So... you care about your kids so much that your grand scheme is to see them one weekend a month? Really. You care so much that you'll leave them under the care of a woman you ominously describe as having mental disease and "extremely dangerous" and who has been involved the police and the courts are in your favor... and... you're going to leave them entirely in her care 93% of the month? Because she... lets you fuck other people? And you're not going to let her take away your "ability to have a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 02:49 PM
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You keep dodging the fact that your wife sucks as a parent and you don't want to be a father and your plan is to abandon your kids. Decide what the fuck you want. So again, why would anyone let her care of their kids? Are you bullshitting yourself that you give a shit about them and their well-being?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 02:08 PM
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If she's failing as mom you either retrain her or replace her. Framing the issue as transitioning her to courtesan is retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 01:51 PM
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You're upside-down, dude. It's your family, kids, etc. She's at-will-employed as mom.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 01:27 PM
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Why would you only see your kids one weekend a month? I thought you said all the child issues were resolved to your favor?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 04:45 AM
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Maybe you're taking pieces of advice a little too literally in isolation? For example, you can randomly schedule rewards based on good behavior and maintain a desired effort/reward ratio and do it consistently. I take it more like how casinos work to keep gamblers playing. The outcome of each event is random so predictability of individual events is low, payouts are scarce but rewarding and exciting, and overall probabilistically biased to consistently favor the house. And of course casinos have…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 03:49 AM
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One of the best I've read here in a while and captures the joy and pleasure of having a woman around. Keep it up!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 01:48 AM
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Did you know that actual narcissists will reject being labeled "narcissist"? People who call themselves narcissists use the label as a defense mechanism.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 03:10 PM
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I wonder whether a narcissist extrovert can even swallow the pill (or even needs to for that matter). Has anything about your self-perception or worldview even changed since finding TRP?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 01:52 AM
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Egoism is an ethics. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 11:21 PM
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It's great that you're a gift from the gods (I think you're in the running for claiming the "have you tried being me? it works for me!" crown), but do you know why you ended up with a diagnosed BPD rather than a balanced woman? Someone else's psych disorder isn't something you can improve. Sometimes you can help them manage it. But often disorders go together with codependency. If you go back a few months in MRP, BPD wives was a widely discussed topic (I think around the time u/ex_addict_bro arr…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 02:55 PM
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Must be nice to be the martyr suffering while holding her shit together for her all those years which I had so effectively contained for years, fully while simultaneously having no clue anything was wrong It never occurred to me at the time because she treated me extremely well throughout the entire marriage. Her problems only surfaced after many years.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 02:30 AM
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Do you think you and your wife "clicked" early on because your dysfunctions fed each other synergistically?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 02:01 AM
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Why did it implode?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 01:15 AM
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Analogies have limits and the mere existence of a fallacy doesn't prove anything. Fallacies are not substitutes for rational thought. Consider the following blanket investment advice: It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, investments than it will ever be to carefully assess an investment and your portfolio. That's how you sell low and get super fucked by a panic. Sure with great risk, the potential payoff can be huge. But many would consider it bad investment advice fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 03:13 PM
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Killing passive aggression is handled extensively in No More Mr. Nice Guy and When I Say No, I Feel Guilty (assertive communication skills manual) on the MRP prerequisites list. And it feeds into the ownership and stoicism mentalities (focus on things you can change and change them, don't waste time on things out of your control). From what I can tell these are fundamental differences between the MRP and TRP sidebars. Passive aggression is not acceptable on MRP and will be torn to shreds. Not su…
/r/askMRP04/02/17 04:31 PM
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Dread is nothing more than appealing to her fear of abandonment directly or indirectly. "Don't expect me to be around if fucking is off the table" is dread. I think you did a commendable job actually and you should post your story here for others.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 03:26 PM
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You want me to break down how your guilded DB post is the MRP process (minus the fact that you've neglected working on your fear of rejection and seem to still think sex is a reward for good behavior)? How it's fundamentally built on dread? What exactly do you think you did differently? Luck has little to do with it.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 02:18 PM
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Why is that?
/r/askMRP04/02/17 12:28 PM
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What do you do after a sexual rejection?
/r/askMRP04/02/17 02:59 AM
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orchi(testicle)ectomy(removal) vs vas(duct)ectomy(removal)
/r/askMRP03/02/17 04:06 AM
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My wife says V-day is aka tofu and cunni day, so....
/r/askMRP02/02/17 11:57 PM
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see also orchiectomy
/r/askMRP02/02/17 10:45 PM
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Did you have therapy at the time? I would assume there are counselors who have specific experience with this and I can't imagine they would encourage these mausoleums (or at least not long term).
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 04:59 PM
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No, not tone policing. I do think it's a bit far given the history he laid out about his other kid dying a few years ago down thread. You do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 04:09 PM
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You may want to rephrase that. Edit: I'd missed u/anythinginc's recent comment to OP redefining killing puppies.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 03:46 PM
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I appreciate the sentiment, but the absolute last thing I want to think about is how much my wife sees me as a paycheck. And posting it on the fridge like some kids drawing. Good lord.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:40 PM
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I saw that too and at first I posted a WTF is he hiking with your wife and son?!, but then I think he must mean that they each sent the other one picture. He sent her one of himself out hiking. She sent him one of her and son. Otherwise... WTF indeed. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 11:17 PM
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I don't accept your wife's attitude or the idea that you have to rigidly adhere to some promise for spending windfall money. What's your wife's plan to pay for the tuition? Even if you don't use YNAB, you should learn about their philosophy and rules. In particular the ones that apply here are: Rule 1: Give every dollar a job Rule 3: Roll with the punches You gave those particular dollars a job (couch) but then and unanticipated expense happened (tuition) so you're having to adjust (roll with th…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 09:13 PM
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At the end of the day there is no way to control your partner--if they cheat it's not your fault. At "best" you're going to be lucky to even find out. All you can do is get yourself to a point where if you are betrayed, you don't punish or blame yourself and you don't feel like you pushed them to it. Saying someone cheated because you failed to be "their alpha" is nothing more evolved than saying they cheated because it wasn't "true love". It's filling the void left by the destruction of one fan…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 05:29 PM
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Why's everyone so hesitant confirm OP's understanding that he should do nothing, let her cheat, and then divorce her?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 03:28 PM
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Would you do anything about it beyond the negative visualization exercise?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 02:33 PM
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Oh, boy you're provoking a ramble. I don't think you're alone. I'm also N=1 and wonder about it from time to time. I've spent a lot of time thinking about this problem. My sense now is a lot of it actually boils down to frustration with myself. For me "someone else" would be about fulfilling some unexpressed desire or curiosity while trying to avoid communicating about it. Usually either because I'm afraid of what my wife would think of me, or because I'm uncomfortable with the idea itself. I us…
/r/askMRP30/01/17 08:14 PM
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We both have a history of trying to ignore each others grouchy moments until the cumulated frustration is too much, and then blow up at each other about a laundry list of incidents. Would he read "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty"? That book was like a lightbulb for me because it tells you that avoiding things and letting them simmer is stupid and it is the source of the techniques you mentioned (and many more). WISNIFG is one of the books that you will see sometimes discussed on MRP as one they'd g…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 05:38 PM
2

Why were you porn-free for a year? What do you think about your porn use? You should take time to reflect carefully and sort that out first.
/r/askMRP29/01/17 11:40 PM
2

You're confusing me with pinelero.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 08:22 PM
2

Which one?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 08:14 PM
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This is a very important point. Boundaries are for defense, not offense.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 07:21 PM
1

That's a good logistical question so I texted her about it. Looks like the smiles did the trick and she replied! She told me that before I get home I should send emails to work and my family announcing that I'm taking some personal time to go offtrail backpacking in Alaska until October and that I'll be incommunicato for a while. But it's all a ruse! After I'm chained in the wall she's going to cut a glory hole and suck my cock dry the WHOLE TIME!
/r/askMRP27/01/17 11:10 PM
3

She never unlocks the door to let me in when I get home early. I'll just have to wait.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 11:01 PM
1

She's requesting a cat?
/r/askMRP27/01/17 10:59 PM
1

This is great advice. I sent her this: ohmygodyesanythingimsohornypleasefuckmeineeditwhatelsecanido Again she still hasn't responded! Should I spice it up and send an emoticion? How can I get her so wet she'll fall to her knees worshiping my cock when I get home?
/r/askMRP27/01/17 10:58 PM
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I don't know what you are talking about. For your information I am NOT a troll. I come here for advice on how to approach my very real life from a masculine perspective.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 10:58 PM
3

I've been running a successful men's improvement seminar company and am a youtube celebrity. I'm also an innovative legal scholar who's unlocked women's true desires by inventing a foolproof way to corral sane hot women with options using a "marriage" that has zero risk. This effective strategy landed me the hottest wife ever who's super cool with my friends and the sex is pretty spectacular and constant. She's also mysteriously rich. Yesterday one of my buddies forwarded me a video he took and …
/r/askMRP27/01/17 08:51 PM
2

Well, I think we're saying the same thing. My point is stop torturing yourself about whether or not you should make the leap one way or the other. Decide now. Based on the present and what you actually know. Not based on what you don't know or might not know or might know in the future. Get it over with already and stop waiting for proof or evidence to make the decision for you. Better to make the decision and be forced to revisit later than to never decide.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 07:29 PM
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If the responses from her are assumed untrustworthy, what are you torturing yourself for? Agreed. But also don't forget the flip side: If the responses from her are assumed trustworthy, what are you torturing yourself for? So unfortunately... regardless of trust the analysis still remains short-circuited at: Divorce her or don't, what are you torturing yourself for?
/r/askMRP27/01/17 07:10 PM
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If she did it, the only uncertainty she has is whether you already know. She has two options: You already know: you divorce her today regardless of what she says You don't already know: you possibly divorce in the future Why would she ever choose "divorce today"? She has no choice except to call your bluff.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:43 PM
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Her only incentive not to lie was the possibility that you already had evidence? She has no choice except to provide those answers. Otherwise the outcome is always divorce. If she's guilty, she must call your bluff. With that setup you're always going to get the answer you're seeking. So to me it seems a NOOP. The way it's setup, her only possible answers guarantee you won't learn anything you don't already know. Edit: I will reiterate that I don't think you ever hand a reasonable suspicion she …
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:29 PM
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Thanks for posting this update. That's an impressive solution with a lot of integrity. I certainly could see myself doing this if I was certain of her answers and was just seeking to confirm and allay a fear that's occupying my mind. Did you decide you would divorce her if she didn't lie but did answer that someone had seen them? Or that she had considered sending them to someone else (but had not)? What were your thoughts on that. I can see I might have avoided this approach if I were less cert…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:17 PM
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My wife cooks a lot and it's been a big pain point in the past. My advice for him is he needs to learn to budget his own calories/macros/portion sizes and be in charge of what he puts in his own mouth. That's not his wife's job. The biggest problem is getting the actual information about what she's prepared so that I can log and track it and make portion size decisions. It's extremely easy for you to become an obstacle. My advice (which I know you don't want) is just to make a small effort to ma…
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 04:21 PM
1

I've honestly never understood this obsession with the Cleavers. I'd rather be Ricky Ricardo than Ward any day.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 04:03 PM
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I agree and have had the same experience. RPWi has a thread today about a blog post that sums up the difference well: "Pleaser Women" Always Lose Out - The Difference Between Pleasing and Giving. It sort of made the semantic connection between Nice Guy™ and People-Pleaser. Most of the blog post is targeted at women and not interesting, but this section is relevant: The real difference: Pleasing vs Giving Pleasing is about you. When you try to please someone, you’re coming from a place of fear – …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 09:54 PM
2

"did daddy locked himself in the bathroom with his girlfriend and leave you alone" FWIW I read this as your ex thinks you are using.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 02:01 PM
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What if I told you there's a middle ground between rambo and being afraid of how your wife would react where you see your wife laying there and you have the urge to throw your wife over you shoulder, carry her upstairs, throw her on the bed, rip her clothes off, and fuck her so hard she walks funny tomorrow and you say: "God! I want to throw you over my shoulder, carry you upstairs, throw you on the bed, rip your clothes off, and fuck you so hard you walk funny tomorrow!" Then you get in your gy…
/r/askMRP25/01/17 01:41 PM
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Episiotomy is what our doctors were preaching for our first two. But for our 3yo they'd changed their tune and saying that large studies on the superiority of episiotomies weren't panning out and consensus had shifted. See for example here. We ended up emergency cesarean so it was a moot point. Happy reddit birthday!
/r/askMRP24/01/17 01:42 PM
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Yeah, or it's... not as effective as the fee-for-service folks would have you believe. We have three (2x episiotomy), not that it matters. :) Episiotomy I know about. What they do on elective cosmetic... dunno.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 01:12 AM
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Ok, now that you've moved this, my questions are the same. This is extremely descriptive in a police report sense. Just a bunch of chronological facts. There are a few rules you Very little attempt to integrate and communicate your understanding of what's going on with what you've learned. You should not be here expecting remote operation of your body like a drone. What you need to add is your analysis and understanding and your plan for dealing with this. Step back and survey the scene. What do…
/r/askMRP23/01/17 10:28 PM
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What's missing is you're not telling us anything about your analysis or plan for dealing with this. What do you think is going on? What do you think you should do? This belongs on AskMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 10:01 PM
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I can't be bothered to remember to do my own kegels consistently so I use a smartphone app that has a builtin training program and automatic reminders. Ben wa balls are another option I'd try before surgery. Another thing you might try are cock rings. I don't really know much about the surgery but as far as I know it only really does anything to her external genitalia (labia, vaginal opening etc) and doesn't really affect anything... deep. So, I'd make sure it's even going to do what you hope. A…
/r/askMRP23/01/17 08:45 PM
1

You can be honest without being forthcoming. Maybe this is partly because I'm not afraid of starfish anymore. In my mind there are two flavors of starfish but only one is toxic and needs to be avoided like the plague. The other is just a challenge. The good kind is the "I'm feeling lazy and uninspired but please use my body and have fun!" flavor. It's an invitation to be very selfish and try new things that tickle my fancy. Any hurdles or mental blocks with that are mine to work out. Typically I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 05:54 PM
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Haha! I'll take Slack over procrastination any day. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 03:44 PM
2

Morgen, morgen, nur nicht heute, sagen alle faulen Leute.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 03:32 PM
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Haha yeah, I used to think this. But I now know I had my mentalities on completely backwards. The reality is that women are consumers of sex. Men are the producers of sex. Sex isn't something women give to men, it's their job to convince us they're worthy of our focus. Starfish is unnatural and should feel weird to your core if you're tapped into your masculine energy because it's fundamentally wrong for men to beg for sex. Women are meant to beg for our sexual energy. I can't speak for you but …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 02:49 PM
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"Absolutely nothing is what you did." Not a fan of this response. SGM's view on this (which my experience can confirm) is that it's important not to explicitly blame her because that leads to a nasty rabbit hole of rejection and performance anxiety--which will make immersion much more difficult in the future. SGM advises acknowledging there was a problem without putting her on the spot explicitly and expressing confidence that it will be better in the future. In situations like this I've said th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 09:59 PM
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She started by calling me Richard since the short name is Dick. I responded by telling her I'd take it as a clear declaration that she wanted my dick. She changed it immediately to RRRRIIICK (said with a disgusted intonation that just doesn't come across in text, sorry). Personally, I put more emphasis on "spirit of the law" rather than "letter of the law". Leads to less frame dropping to get lost litigating childish minutia. Tell Sha-thea you've ordered a giant butt plug and it will be named RR…
/r/askMRP22/01/17 01:49 PM
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Glad you're on this! I look forward to the results of your digging! One suggestion I can offer is pedegree analysis particularly in the Utah Mormon population. There were a number of family rearangements during the Civil War/post-Civil War polygamy period. The population is well annotated for inherited genetic diseases. Edit: sort of off topic but FYI it's not intuitive but gut bacteria are considered to be outside the body for good reason.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 10:28 PM
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In humans it's only been shown that placental DNA remnants are found in the mother's brains. Semen is destroyed by the mother's immune system. Placenta interfaces the mother's and child's immune systems and is immunologically weird and not well understood at all. So it's about pregnancy, not intercourse. If this general mixing of all prior sexual partners in offspring were true, geneticists would have found out about it long ago. Trivial to observe in children of remarried women, for example and…
/r/askMRP21/01/17 09:33 PM
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Does that mean my value was high, but some super alpha just came along? ... You will never be the #1 alpha in the world (because that is Brad Pitt, or some pro athlete or something) - someone will always lift more, have more money, be more handsome, be more confident, etc. BPP's reply is succinct--her cheating isn't your fault. There will always be some explanation why a person cheats. You have no control over your wife's or anyone else's attractions. We generally can't hold others accountable f…
/r/askMRP20/01/17 11:48 PM
1

Doh! I think I remember that thread and I almost commented in it. Thanks! Knife's edge is a good description. I used to always test E or I at something like 51% on that one test (I forget what its granularity was). Until I was talking to someone last summer who told me about how they have a deliberate process of exploring a conflict by immersing themselves into each role to feel their perspective until they develop a holistic fused emotion for the situation. If you substitute feeling for reasoni…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/17 05:56 PM
2

the xNTP romantic motto is "I will fight to the death to defend you from others, but I will never under any circumstances save you from yourself." I know it's off topic but do you remember where you read this? I tried searching a few keywords and the quote itself, but came up empty. I had never heard of xNTP before your comment and found an interesting old post in r/mbti (about how discerning the E/I axis is so difficult in xNTP). I used to be able to flip a coin when I take the tests before I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/17 03:50 PM
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I don't want to start an atheism war here (and I won't), but I wrote that because you've said you were forced into marriage young due to unplanned pregnancy and religious obligation. Organized religion has a long history of enslaving both men and women for its own benefit. That's a very different beast from enslaving men for the benefit of women (although IMHO much of blue pill is cultural inerta that's vestigial from more religious times). Both you and your wife were pushed into marriage by rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 09:09 PM
1

If you like comedies, Dead Men Don't Wear Plaid is a personal favorite. Rigby Reardon DGAF. So sad the sequel they teased never happened.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 02:19 PM
2

Serioustalk quit pretending you're not doxxed and compromised. Your behavior after TBP negged you into putting your face out there like a good little bitch is textbook.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 04:38 PM
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There's blue pill (feminine imperative)... and then there's god pill (church imperative). alphabeta49's suffering is why tradcons so vehemently oppose premarital sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 03:53 PM
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Trade off is irrelevant. If women were rational value seekers, the Greeks would have figured them out eons ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 07:03 PM
1

I can sleep at night if I treat Cat 2 like Cat 1 until I get burned once. Cat 2 holds the bag if they cross boundaries. If you allow the existence of Cat 1, treating Cat 1 like Cat 2 is cruel. It's guilty until proven innocent in a situation where innocence is unprovable. Cruelty disrupts my sleep. It's foolish to make mirage boundaries with the intent of controlling others behavior. I don't care that Cat 2 wanders wide. It's specific behaviors while wandering that I care about. Isn't whether we…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 08:06 PM
2

Probably better to try RedPillWives.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 01:06 AM
1

Yeah, but I can't unlearn that the liver is the body's NSFL
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 04:56 PM
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I've been rereading SGM. It seems like an extremely different book when you're not hangry. Somehow rereading it over a year later the pieces aligned to finally flip the switch that you don't look to women as the source of good sex. They're not keeping anything from us. We're the practitioners of sex, they're our consumers. When I asked for advice on sexover30, the advice generally were polite hints that I must suck in bed. Maybe. I followed their advice. But that's not actually true. I've always…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 04:51 PM
1

You cannot withdraw your attention from someone who doesn't want it anyways. An additional failure mode is not realizing that you don't provide enough attention/validation in the first place. If you try to withdraw attention when your account is empty, the check will bounce. They may indeed crave it, but you might have built up a larger tab than you realize and they've given up hope of collecting. In that case you've proved yourself uncreditworthy and are just begging for more credit. You're not…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 04:20 PM
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I will never be able turn my brain off enough to eat liver. I'm impressed!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 03:20 PM
1

Thank you for this it's very interesting! Right now I'm dialing my diet into aggressive mode again and the first thing reading this made me ponder is... are there similar disciplined ways to transmutate hunger? At one point a few years ago I noticed that sex was much more enjoyable when I was hungry (it was an experiment I tried after reading about the stress/relaxation hormone axis) and then I used that sexual benefit to motivate my weight loss. But now I wonder whether sexual hunger is a "spec…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 03:11 PM
2

haha did you order her some pizza while you were at it?
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 01:47 PM
1

Even if she's made up her mind and she's just torturing you for her own entertainment, it's at least an opportunity to demonstrate value and challenge expectations. You don't have an opportunity to pass a shit test that doesn't happen. Or... maybe lack of shit tests is a meta shit test?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:55 PM
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I don't question what you're doing, just wanted to make sure you hadn't gone too all-or-nothing when considering your options. And I'm somewhat puzzled at the resistance you're getting here, honestly. From my perspective, the details of your early marriage and the affairs are more important that first impressions, but that's just intellectual quibbles. I like u/deadsandsushi's "renewable contract" phrase--it's similar to how I think of my wife as Sheherzade in 1,001 Arabian Nights. Life's too sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:30 AM
1

Your description of your marriage as comfortable reminds me of Intimacy & Desire (deadbedroom sidebar book I'm fond of). One of the things Schnarch describes is a natural process that relationships follow over time to become comfortable boring cores formed from the overlap both partner's comfort zones as everything else is deleted. It's a trap. His advice for braking out is to embrace discomfort (which means being willing to make your wife uncomfortable with your authentic self rather than hidin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 10:33 PM
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Very interesting! Here’s where things get ugly. Gerson, discussed above, didn’t just ask people what kind of division of labor people wanted, she also asked about their Plan B. Plan A, if you recall, was sharing, with 70% of men and 80% of women preferring it. But on Plan B, men and women diverge in catastrophic ways: almost 70% of men want to revert to traditional gender roles. Faced with that option, nearly 75% of women want a divorce. Unfortunately there really isn't any actual advice about a…
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:29 PM
1

"If I Recall Correctly"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:19 PM
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IIRC his is a shotgun marriage type case. They were both young and playing around and she got pregnant. I doubt either were ready for marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:45 PM
1

If you struggle with fear of failure and covert contracts, often you'll just stop trying. The goal is to reset your expectations such that you even make the effort to try in the first place. You learn to cope with failure. Even if you make your best effort it may not work out the way you wish it would, that's life. One of the big goals here is to become outcome independent so that when things don't go your way, you quickly get up and keep going. Outcome dependence can lead to lashing out, poutin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:05 PM
1

"A good plan, violently executed now, is better than a perfect plan next week." If you can't tell the difference between a good plan and a bad plan, you're fucked though.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 03:49 PM
2

For me it was upping the baseline of unprompted, no-strings-attached comfort and appreciation generally. To co-opt a parenting advice "catch your wife being good". After that any of these tests can be safely treated as shit tests and ignored or dealt with playfully.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 03:21 PM
2

Sometimes communication channels have become clogged up with eggshells. It's not awful to try to mix things up. I will agree with some of the hostility though, the book's thesis and in the mythos surrounding it is clickbait-style marketing rubbish. And those of us who came from DB know this book's pitch very well. In my experience playing around with them results are much more mixed and situational. If you ask her to take the quiz she'll say she wants or prefers one way or the other but... it's …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 03:12 PM
0

Oh... by old he meant fully terminated or failed to form, but not preexisting... its very easy to misread this post too broadly. Not sure this post is terribly relevant to MRP context in that case. Sepean probably made the same misreading when he's talking about all the guys here who prove it wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:27 AM
0

Getting back at an ex is nobody's exemplar. It's immature childishness. Not going to bother with the semantics of declaring a not-yet-failed relationship failed. I also don't see that advice much in the world of Marriage 2.0.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 01:10 AM
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This is correct. Shit tests are vital. If she still wonders weather you are shit, she hasn't made up her mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 12:00 AM
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"I'm not feeling very loved" "You better start showing me love" "pull your pants down and I'll show you some love" Gee. It's so difficult to extract a theme here and get ahead of this. inb4 you post asking how to pass the "you only want me for sex" test.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 10:04 PM
1

"...If I were emotionally dependent, my sense of worth and security would come from your opinion of me. If you didn’t like me, it could be devastating..." I haven't read that book so I don't know if it's discussed but one interesting corollary about emotional independence that is not talked about enough here is: mastery requires you must actually be comfortable with others not liking or disapproving of you. Many times we see people resolve their own anxieties and discomforts and think they're do…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 09:50 PM
1

Can you clarify which blue pill goals you are talking about?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 04:28 PM
0

It's not so much a reconstructed relationship (taken apart and put together again the same way) so much as it's a deconstructed relationship (taken apart and reassembled differently as an homage to the original).
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 02:39 PM
2

ED hit me in a very funny way. Porn was my "saviour" at that point; it affected me not in a premature ejaculative way but more of a delayed or no ejaculation thing. I would say to myself "wow, look how long you can go! All these other guys got problems of not being able to last minutes, you can go for hours!" The women in my life loved it. I would bang them Into multiple orgasms, go home without a single cum (sometimes, other times I would come in a couple of hours). Women would tell me they're …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 01:56 PM
2

Thank you for this update! I've always appreciated your perspective. Your previous post and conversations with cad in particular are among the most helpful and introspection-provoking things I've read here that helped process my resentments, FOMO and kill fantastical thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 01:36 PM
2

Do you additionally believe men should be spineless doormats who serve women? Yes: blue pill No: purple pill
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/17 12:39 AM
1

? Recent RPW drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/17 11:34 PM
1

So... to clarify you're anti sexual fantasy whatsoever including erotica?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 10:59 PM
3

I wouldn't listen to Sepean. He reddits about hearthstone. Edit: like a loooooooooooot Edit 2: added more o's
/r/askMRP09/01/17 07:27 PM
1

Maybe you're stuck on Groundhog Day because you're not directly addressing the things that occupy your mind? Could you have some covert contract where you're doing everything with the desired outcome that your wife finally acknowledges your pain? Does she know the extent of the pain she's caused?
/r/askMRP09/01/17 06:48 PM
1

The way you tell it her cheating won you the right to stay with her? Is she remorseful at all? she still runs our marriage / me down to her friends So? You're running your marriage / her to randos on the internet. continues a friendship with someone who knew and encouraged the original behaviour ... are you just hunting for any boundary or consequence she'll let you enforce? Edit: why is this "decision time"? You don't seem ready for a decision. Is there something forcing the issue?
/r/askMRP09/01/17 05:08 PM
1

Unsure whether that's because they all know how to perfectly boil an egg or i am faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 03:38 PM
1

I was wondering more about whether a boiling broth would overcook the egg but not sure whether the pickling process needed boiling broth. It's been eons since I used to bottle pickles with grandma but I think we used to boil the pickles in the jar.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 03:35 PM
1

As I remember the goal was getting the timing consistent to avoid overcooking the yolk.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 10:43 PM
5

I've never had pickled eggs and this looks yummy. Dumb question: is the liquid warm or chilled when poured over the eggs?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 10:40 PM
1

There was a YouTube video I've lost that talked about setting the eggs up to be on a rack above the boiling water so that they were cooked by steam (similar to poaching). This supposedly let the cooking time be perfect to prevent the sulfur problem and let the shells come off cleanly. I never got around to trying it. Damnit now I'm going to have to go find it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 10:34 PM
1

Depends on: why you think a wife who doesn't send sexys took them for him... but didn't send them. The goal is: she sends them next time. Definitely don't beg or be needy.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 07:03 PM
1

He wrote that she told him she took and deleted the pictures months ago in real-time as it happened. He even confirmed the chronology by comparing timestamps with his calendar before posting (prudent and sufficient). She's an emergent wifeslut working through post-children body insecurity and fear of breaking the wife-goggles. I agree the problem is him and his perception of his wife. Maybe some latent madonna-whore issues. Congratulations on your turn around.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/17 02:34 PM
1

I understood what you meant. What you fail to understand is you're chasing a false dichotomy. There is no way to clear the doubts. In the end his wife augments his life and satisfies his expectations or she does not. "Be ready for divorce" (in all aspects: emotionally, financially, logistically, legally, professionally, socially, physically, etc) is fundamental MRP advice for everyone--photos or no photos--suspicion or none--it makes no difference.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/17 04:20 AM
1

The photos are deleted... nobody is saying to jerk off to them. Do you think husbands should not receive photos from their wives? You don't need to keyloggers or GPS to divorce. Unless you have doubts about AWALT or think you have a snowflake or believe in unicorns or something.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/17 02:06 AM
0

What's the difference between disloyalty and infidelity in your mind? Physical? So you don't think he should install keyloggers and contract a data forensics consultant? What do you think you are advising that's different than we're telling him on MRP?
/r/TheRedPill08/01/17 12:10 AM
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I'm guessing your ~20yr LTR ended with her infidelity and you're still butthurt over AWALT? How should he treat his wife any differently than any other woman? Or differently than before recovering the images?
/r/TheRedPill07/01/17 10:08 PM
1

You're too focused on her and not on yourself. The pressure to perform for her sake is gone when you're masturbating or watching. May also include a laundry list of anxieties: performance, body insecurities, discomfort with her gaze, etc.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 07:34 PM
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Why the fuck would she wait for him to be traveling? The question is when does he stop digging for evidence? What does he do if he doesn't find it? So what if she says she's insecure? Some woman being uncomfortable and calling you insecure to offload isn't your problem. OP's either insecure or not. That's for OP to figure out.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/17 06:52 PM
2

I remember her mentioning that she tried taking provocative nudes but didn't like them and deleted them from her phone. Doesn't sound like gaslighting or hiding anything to me. Occam's + Hanlon's razors Unless there's something else putting things into a "fool me twice" situation, it's not worth losing sleep.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 04:44 PM
1

I can't find where where I called anything slut shaming.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 01:24 PM
2

I found this website very useful for adding some new perspectives: http://moderntantra.blogspot.com/2013/09/welcome-to-extraordinary-passion.html It's focus in on tantria without the mysticism. The author is a redditor and active on sexover30 (which is a sub with a great community that I recommend highly).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/17 06:26 AM
1

If you want more, get your need to find a reason to punish her out of your head.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 02:11 PM
0

I didn't read it that way but fine. ;)
/r/askMRP06/01/17 02:09 PM
3

Tell her you found them and they were hot as fuck and you wish you didn't delete them. Give detailed positive-only feedback.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 02:01 PM
1

Some species have specialized killer or kamikaze sperm that are not designed to fertilize but instead hang around and destroy future sperm (presumably from other males). There is only one ancient published report (from the eastern bloc IIRC) of anyone finding these in humans. Nobody has been able to replicate it (and not for lack of effort--many published reports of this failure--human killer sperm would be important for infertility treatment and contraceptive development) That and other non-hum…
/r/askMRP06/01/17 12:02 PM
1

Kay also wrote about killer sperm and that's... not human.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 03:08 AM
1

Is it a tool OP can use? Does this placebo worship help OP?
/r/askMRP05/01/17 11:57 PM
1

Did I suggest variety is not important? Certainly nothing wrong with using a calendar to schedule variety. Use her cycle, use the moon, use the tides, use prime divisor patterns of powerball draws for all I care. Or... just do whatever you want? Do you think post-menopausal women don't like to be choked? OP's wife doesn't ovulate. The point is he's not actually missing out on anything. Women love werewolves. That's just fact.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 11:49 PM
1

Seems mostly on the right track. So I roll back on to my back. She asks "What are you doing?" And I said "Come lay on my chest." ... It feels like she just isn't into it. Which is fine, I'll take it like a man. But she states "I'm sorry. I don't know what is wrong with me." My read on the situation here is you need to work on immersion. She's distracted and not settled into the moment and the immediate flow. You may have moved too fast and jilted her out of her unpacking-into-sexspace routine. S…
/r/askMRP05/01/17 07:52 PM
2

Why you so invested in defending a tool OP can't even use? That you don't even use yourself?
/r/askMRP05/01/17 05:19 PM
2

No seriously, what do you think they are keeping in mind? It's just a CBT to deal with rejection anxiety and lack of confidence. If you need it and you can't track cycles use a different one. It's a crutch.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 04:59 PM
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What are they keeping in mind, exactly? "Today I'll initiate because she's totes less likely to reject me" or "Today I won't treat her like a china doll in bed" or whatever? All it's doing is modulating their own confidence and expectations of success (i.e. pure placebo effect). At its core it's nothing more than fearmongering and insecurity. Equating risking a sexual rejection with risking loss of harvest is a bit... melodramatic.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 04:30 PM
1

I'd say it's more the difference between her knowing you've got the runs vs needing her to come in and wipe your ass.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/17 03:42 PM
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Well you don't have to stick your snout into her ass and sniff queefs to get in touch with her feeeeeelings. Watch what she does, not what the god damn calendar says she should be doing.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:24 PM
1

Why do you need to track her cycle? Does your dick work differently somehow when you use a protractor to chart the aura of ovulation? If you need some sort of placebo schedule for when your wife gives you imaginary permission to unhide your inner shitlord in the bedroom, maybe just follow the moon calendar. I hear emergency rooms get packed with all sorts of crazy when there's a full moon. Be a werewolf, I guess.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 01:49 PM
1

It's been two weeks since you made this plan. Time to self-evaluate and post your progress in the OYS thread in the real sub.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 05:29 AM
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Amen. Even if it's a disaster take over and figure it out. It's not like women have some magical SAHM ways. They do it because it has to be done. What man can't rise to that bar? This is a time for irrational confidence. My only hesitation is... does OP have the brains to pull it off without slapping his kids senseless.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:36 AM
1

Ugh. Both the transactional power trip and altruism seem truly sad and depressing to me. Glad I don't date men, I guess.
/r/askMRP04/01/17 10:37 PM
1

Well... isn't the female orgasm considered entirely in the domain of "mate retention"? Do you think men view cunnilingus differently?
/r/askMRP04/01/17 09:49 PM
1

My next step is to do nothing and maybe wait for her to initiate Your FR is very similar to some things I've been trying very successfully for the last few months. I'm close to concluding that the secret is nothing more than the combination of reminding her that you are very sexual AND that you don't "need" her as a sexual outlet. So... when you try this be sure to also keep the sexual tension high (as if you were going to initiate). Also beware that wives smell incongruence from a mile away. Pr…
/r/askMRP04/01/17 09:12 PM
1

Not this time. ;) Had I known now what I knew then...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 06:34 PM
1

Your typos are sometimes the funniest. XD
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 06:23 PM
0

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 06:10 PM
1

It sounds like there is disagreement between you two about the rules and expectations. You expect to be involved with consent for each encounter. She expects you to only consent to the partner. It could be this wasn't clear between the two of you. It could be she's gaslighting and rewriting the rules. It doesn't really matter. Repeat the rules to her as you understood them at the time they were agreed upon. Then work on negotiating ways to obtain and maintain consent that are workable for you bo…
/r/askMRP04/01/17 03:49 PM
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What I see here is that something bothers you, what specifically isn't really clear. From what you've told us she actually was playing by the rules as you both understood them. So I can see why she would push back against being "punished" without reason. However, that does not invalidate your feelings. My advice is to figure out a new boundary that works for you and just lay it down. You don't have to justify or explain these sorts of boundaries or convince her that she has to accept it (this is…
/r/askMRP04/01/17 02:21 PM
1

Yeah, that's what I was wondering. Are you the guy who was here a few months ago asking about his wife wanting to have sex with her ex? Is this that same ex?
/r/askMRP04/01/17 02:05 AM
1

Is you being present/observing supposed to be part of the deal? Is that what she violated?
/r/askMRP04/01/17 01:23 AM
1

That's very interesting. FWIW I've been trying to wrap my mind around the various asexuality classifications for a few months. They discuss romantic attraction, sexual attraction and libido as being separate... which has been interesting food for thought and befuddlement. I personally can't relate to sexuality without romantic attraction. Even with porn I have to somehow find a way to inject my wife into the scene to make it work... so I can maybe see the appeal that way when you compare it to s…
/r/askMRP04/01/17 01:08 AM
1

What ways do you go about controling the jealousy? Is that something you learned?
/r/askMRP04/01/17 12:33 AM
1

I haven't read it yet. Just got it yesterday actually because I've seen it mentioned more and more. ;) It will be interesting to see how it meshes with the RPWi dominance model.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 11:22 PM
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From the introduction: Our book isn't for everyone. Some men are deeply angry, bitter or cynical about women in general; we can't help you. You must first let those destructive emotions dissipate. Such emotions are frightening to women, such that they actually produce a physical, instinctual response within her. Even a physically small man becomes a big, scary guy throwing a big, scary fit when he allows his angry emotions to run amok. Women have a biologically hard- wired panic reaction to such…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 11:18 PM
1

I think it was first published 2008. Many of the readings predate TRP. So is it just offered as historical interest? Maybe it should be more thoughtfully sorted into the curriculum. At first I was confused whether it was intended as "pre-prerequisites" or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 11:11 PM
1

What is "Precursors to TRP" supposed to mean? Edit: right off the bat I already like PFPFTPM's militantly explicit anti-anger phase stance.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 10:52 PM
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Shouldn't she be the one thinking that disrespecting your agreed-upon rules will cause problems in her marriage? This is a boundary you care about. Have you read WISNIFG? I think you would find the assertive rights are helpful. Maybe she intended to hurt you, maybe not. I err on Hanlon's razor until there's a pattern of behavior that needs to be addressed. What I would do is make it extremely clear that this rule matters deeply to you and you require this behavior to stop or it's not going to wo…
/r/askMRP02/01/17 11:47 PM
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You don't get it. This is the sort of shit his wife photographs and logs. He's almost guaranteed to lose the State's narriative.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 05:54 PM
2

Pretty much this.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 03:12 PM
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Hey, you have your 30 day plan. Setbacks happen. Shake it off and keep going. One "trick" I learned is to be very aware of noticing tension building and finding ways to diffuse it quickly. Some tension is good, but too much tension and I start to lose mindfulness. You have to find the sweetspot that works for you. This report describes the buildup pretty well. If you go back to your plan, you talked about taking the expectation of sex off the table. Have you worked out how to do this? What worke…
/r/askMRP02/01/17 02:32 PM
1

You can't even wrap glow stick around my neck to choke me :( Maybe we should actually recruit from SRD. They sound fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/17 02:11 PM
1

Well, at least it's not a quine
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 04:57 PM
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Interesting fact: I can guarantee r\relationshits would tear barefoot dude a new one.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 02:12 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 02:07 AM
3

Ali Wong: Baby Cobra
/r/askMRP23/12/16 08:07 PM
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I had this approach. Litigating this is a waste of time. As a practical matter the problem is that what constitutes "affair" is unspecified. The spectrum of what falls under "emotional affair" is basically defined as "whatever the offended person wants it to be".
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 02:08 PM
1

The "ratio of fat burn" is very misleading marketing gizmo. If you workout the math you don't burn a smaller quantity of fat with strenuous exercise. You just burn fewer overall calories. That particular pathway has a max capacity so when total expenditure is higher, it becomes a smaller component of the mix.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 04:32 PM
3

If you read Intimacy and Desire there's a theme that intimacy eventually requires developing the emotional strength to hurt and accept being hurt. That's the best solution to the Hedgehog's Dilemma I've seen yet. Don't be afraid of stabbing your partner with your quills, and learn to self-sooth the wounds your partner's quills inflict on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 01:06 PM
4

Everyone send dickpics to u/UEMcGill, problem solved.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 02:05 AM
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Read Way of the Superior Man. And one other book to be suggested in the comments. (I have read Pook, WISNIFG, Rational Male. I read a thorough synopsis of NMMNG on TRP, but not the book) Good lord read NMMNG already not some horny retard teenager's crib notes. It's on the MRP prerequisites list for a reason. ETA: Where's MMSLP in your list? Do you even sidebar?
/r/askMRP19/12/16 08:45 PM
2

Have you tried turning him off and on again?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 10:31 PM
2

gifs are fun too!
/r/askMRP16/12/16 03:29 PM
1

Yes... you can overpower turn-off with turn-ons. Like I said--the issue wasn't my lack of awesomeness. It was her insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. Bumping the awesomeness can just feed that turn-off. Or you can just address the turn-offs. Don't overlook low-hanging fruit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 05:59 PM
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turn down the volume of the undone chore noise in her environment. This topic comes up every now and then on sexover30. Quieting distracting thoughts is necessary for achieving immersion. Typical advice there is mindfulness meditation to learn how to swat distracting thoughts. There are also some tactics in SGM. This didn't click for me until my wife started requesting porn during foreplay and explained that it was helping her "get into it" and stop thinking about distracting things like what sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 09:29 PM
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I see perhaps some similarities with my journey here. I struggled a lot with the scheduled sex and enthusiasm hurdles. And the vibrator. I'll relate some key aspects of my journey that I think might be helpful and maybe you'll find something of use (background: me 39yo, wife 39yo, together 18y, married 12y, both N=1, three kids 3-7yo). My advice is this: Learning to enjoy "Scheduled Sex" is extremely important It took me far too long to realize that scheduling sex means my wife still cares enoug…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 06:06 PM
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What does a scheduled sex day look like? Is she orgasmic?
/r/askMRP12/12/16 08:44 PM
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TBF it doesn't get more disrespectful than interfering with a man's mobile redditing zen while on family vacation.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 06:46 PM
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But it does work this way. A woman who's been fucked hard by a man of value will be radiating satisfied feminine energy the next day (at least!). OP's wife knows she didn't earn it -- he didn't make her prove her worth after she disrespected him. Shit tests the day after is what "regret rape" looks like in marriage/LTR.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 06:23 PM
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You failed the actual shit test by punching her pussy pass and this is why she was shit testing you the next day. Betas let women absolve their sins with sex. Alphas don't reward shitty behavior. So here you are thinking you "won" because you got your dick in her pussy. This is so fundamentally backwards I don't know where to start. Take her pussy off the pedestal and put your cock where it belongs. All you did was prove how trivial it is for her to harvest your precious masculine sexual energy …
/r/askMRP12/12/16 04:31 PM
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It was more like that I didn't want her to contact me outside of kid exchange unless it was something urgent. You can't hold her accountable to that. You can only ever expect to control yourself. I would re-purpose that as a boundary on your own actions. Frame is about holding yourself accountable to yourself. "I will only respond to kid exchange logistics unless it is something urgent." "I will handle threats as advised by my lawyer." Any time you have an interaction with her, review those boun…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 03:03 PM
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Do you have a boundary something like "I will not engage emotional baiting and only respond to substance/logistics"? Basically fog anything else to hell (WISNIFG). Offload threats straight to your lawyer.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:52 PM
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What sort of boundary are you talking about? Are the boundaries on your behavior or are they expectations for her behavior? How does she cross them?
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:42 PM
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Your LTR is questioning your reliability and respect (both for yourself and for her). She wants to know that you are reliable and can handle your own problems without burdening her. That doesn't mean hiding them, but it also doesn't mean making them her problems. It's a balance you'll have to find. Why didn't you enforce the boundaries? It could be that you didn't commit to them. It could be that they weren't appropriate. It could be that you allowed yourself to be lured out. It's hard to say. Y…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:29 PM
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I don't exactly follow what you mean about a covert contract. Your job is to make the covert overt. I support you being open about your feelings and advocating for yourself 100%. That's not what I see as the problem. You are making effort to not continue suffering in silence--that is good! The problem I see is you communicated a solution rather than communicating the issues that actually bother you. When you had to defend your solution you started to trickle the issues as if they were need-to-kn…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 06:33 AM
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I'll do you one better: show me what you think the conversation should have looked like. ;) Communication in text is extremely hard. But the big advantage is you can be very slow and deliberate. A good trick is to first find any agreement and then build from there. When things start to fall apart just fall back to that early agreement. So start with something she will agree with. Often stating and overall common goal/mission will work. I like to start open ended and then work off of the other's …
/r/askMRP08/12/16 10:30 PM
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Your main problem is you didn't lead. Like at all. No leadership. Zero. Nada. What you did is you set up requirements and conditions and demanded that she find the solution and you didn't explain jack shit. You did not own your solution, you just lobbed demands like grenades. If your goal was for her to find a solution, you set her up to fail. If your goal was to sell your solution, well, you didn't even try. I initially planned to go through this conversation point by point but Christ this is a…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 09:49 PM
1

I also agree with this. "acta" includes the consequences. Cheating is a gamble that you can avoid the consequences.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 08:06 PM
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Even if legally shaky it certainly etches very clear boundaries and sets firm expectations.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 04:42 PM
2

I need to know what process is flowcharted on his shirt.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 04:31 PM
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"Real remorse puts its money where its mouth is with a post-nup with an infidelity clause." In all of the cheater discussion here I'd never heard of that option before. Might be helpful for some.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 04:02 PM
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Sorry, it's incoherent probably because of the depths of (mostly self-generated) mindfuck I've recovered from and I typed it up quickly rather than carefully. I see that people mistakenly believe the hydra came from MRP. Whatever, I don't care. I played with monsters and got what I deserved. I know what I know. "Ellis", a troll working a confidence game of waiting for MRP accounts to delete would say the same damn thing. I can't trust any pseudonyms anymore. All you are to me is SampsonBrass. ;)
/r/askMRP08/12/16 12:34 AM
1

You should check out r/tulpas it's pretty interesting.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 09:24 PM
1

I don't see the relevance of that sticky.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 09:16 PM
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Yeah, I don't think that matches what I'm trying to describe at all. I probably didn't explain it well and it seems like you've misunderstood my use of "hivemind" to be an insult--that's mostly intended as a structural analogy. It acted primarily as a muse until my anxieties took over. All of which was prior to my "hivemind" acceptance and understanding of it. Don't mistake my description of a past episode with something that's ongoing. I just don't care about trolls or SJW or whatever at all an…
/r/askMRP07/12/16 08:58 PM
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It's all perfectly clear to me. ;) Although I guess I did flub some symbols in there...
/r/askMRP07/12/16 07:49 PM
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Well. Things rarely truly randomly correlate. A may not cause B. B may not cause A. But that doesn't mean A and B aren't linked and that there isn't a mechanism to explain the linkage (latent factor, bias, etc). ;) As for the rest... unfamiliar with the concept of Gestalt with respect to why it should comfort or concern me. I think a Gestalt is similar to emergent properties? Don't want to get too tangential but I do strongly prefer explanations based on emergent properties vs supernatural. Is t…
/r/askMRP07/12/16 07:47 PM
2

It's all a pathology related to how I cope with pseudonymity. I spent 8 years on reddit mostly in technical corners before I ended up here and came into contact with the concept of extremely dedicated trolls using creative writing methods and sockpuppets. This fascinated me. How it worked: Suppose you know redditor ABC and stumble across a comment by another redditor XYZ who really, really reminds you of ABC. A normal person would think "hmmm XYZ sounds like ABC, what a happy coincidence!" A som…
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:31 PM
1

I have... although it was a very sideways path to get there and I was very worried I was becoming schizophrenic (not actually "hearing voices" but forming "hiveminds" by associating/merging random redditors who have similar "voices" and I still freak myself out with this stuff sometimes). Mostly CBT and exposure therapy, but I sort of went into it with a "vision" of what I needed (I was looking for an IRL version of a particular hivemind). I had sort of self-medicated ad hoc exposure therapy pre…
/r/askMRP07/12/16 02:41 PM
2

Are you initiating? That's your job. I mean, sure she could be complimenting you as an IOI, but you don't need to build complex transactional bullshit where her compliments become her initiating. That leads to eggshells and her second guessing being pleasant to you. I'd go for something simpler like a hug / kiss and start building tension / slow escalation for later. You have young kids right?
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:40 PM
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Indecisions are distracting thoughts. Distracting thoughts exclude immersion. Can't have both. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 08:12 PM
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she can smell the indecision I'm immersed just fine Pick one.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 07:23 PM
3

Look in /r/redpillbooks for the epub (in mega book collection) or lib-gen for PDF. I didn't like the epub (it's a pretty dumb conversion that puts the watermark image all over the place) so I reconverted from PDF using Calibre and tweaked it a bit. There's also Sex Revolution Handbook which is a $4 updated version of SGM for Kindle, but it's been pulled and under review forever (they probably used a crappy PDF converter and tripped Amazon's QA). PDF of Sex Revolution Handbook is on pualib.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 05:58 PM
2

Well, apparently he's in her face pantomiming a 2-day turn of Charades. :-)
/r/askMRP06/12/16 01:12 PM
2

yup. If I'm gonna watch hamsters, I'm gonna watch hamsters.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 05:32 PM
2

Why watch this when I can cut out middle men and watch stuff like CandidMommy's "Divorce | Why." etc?
/r/askMRP05/12/16 05:28 PM
1

https://www.mainevent.com/funspecials/pick-your-pass
/r/askMRP05/12/16 03:01 PM
1

When someone crosses your boundaries, there should be nothing to hamster. You're trying to duck responsibility and avoid conflict by expecting her to build and enforce your boundaries. What exactly is she hamstring about?
/r/askMRP04/12/16 10:42 PM
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People try to understand why they are being punished. If they don't know the why, they easily come up with wacko explanations (superstitions). Punishments are about you rejecting her behavior. Hamsters are about her learning your behavior. Don't cross the streams.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 10:18 PM
2

If you have not read WISNIFG, you should so that you have more effective communication strategies in your toolbox. STFU is better than shitty communication, but it's a stopgap.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 09:51 PM
1

So... why are you punishing her? Hamsters and punishment just build superstitions.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 09:49 PM
2

Depends on how many other people the cheater's partner is sleeping with. Unexplainable STDs are often the only way infidelity is uncovered.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 08:59 PM
5

He's been selling his PUA knowledge for 10 years. Quite a bit of ego investment that his mastery of women was only bested by the! most! horrible! woman! outlier! ever!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 08:39 PM
1

Yep. It was quite an absurd evening. I'm at a conference in Chicago and when I got back to the hotel the VPN went down so I couldn't do any work. So I went out to eat and found myself surrounded by furries. The cold snap made me sort of jealous actually. So I had a beer and decided to go to the rifftrax that Google Now suggested. When I got back to the hotel it turned out it had become ground zero of a furry convention and I had some fun talking to the characters. Then I got to my room and the Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 07:48 PM
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No I don't think you married a prost on purpose. I think you were enamored with how you had gamed the system. Too bad you weren't legally married and entitled to a slice of her 10x. I'm quite certain your non-legally-binding marriage kept her in check. You're right I'm probably projecting. I'm traveling and walking around a big city again. Just now I walked through a gaggle of cute women at the intersection offering free hugs. My only thought was: that's magnificent cover for a pickpocket. Edit:…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 06:40 PM
1

Glad this was unremoved! I had watched the video and came back to comment and was disappointed it had disappeared. FWIW I'm very sorry to say I spent quite a while laughing my ass off because it seemed like such a straight man comedy routine in the beginning. Sorry about that. I could not have given that talk or been in the audience without cracking up. If this is legit I'm sorry she's hurt you so much. You seem extremely bitter and I hope you find your way to move forward. And I can imagine thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 03:06 PM
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I think it's just a placebo effect--a confidence boost that discounts fear of rejection. Generally research shows that the effects of a deadbedroom are that men are shell-shocked and don't initiate / miss a lot of cues and opportunity. I did the ovulation week thing for a while and it really did help boost my confidence. But I now view it as a (possibly necessary) crutch or training wheels. Another way of looking at it is that relying on a calendar is an excuse to not observe your woman's behavi…
/r/askMRP02/12/16 05:37 AM
4

Congratulations on your divorce.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 10:16 PM
1

Nah, man. You know I love you.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 05:58 AM
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For me, necessary is extremely burdensome and anxiety generating. For example if I am necessary to my wife, it encumbers me--it removes my freedom. If my wife is necessary for me, it puts similar burdens on her. Burdens are anti-Slack. I have kids because I want them, not because I need dependants. To me it seems like the incentives are all wrong for the goal of raising functioning humans if you need your kids to need you. I think it's entirely fine to want to feel useful and a contributing part…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 02:21 AM
2

That's still just baseline. Neediness isn't attractive to anyone. Wants to feel wanted.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 01:25 AM
1

Why did you start MRP? What was your goal/vision?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 11:46 PM
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To me it's pretty clear that she was "in his frame" (gender reversed of what we say to guys) in the sense that she was codependent on his external validation. When he withdrew it she didn't know to transition to self-validation and she had no guidance... so she did the easy thing and replaced his frame with this other dude. The anxiety that comes from this is why I advise being extremely generous with attention and validation as a baseline. He's the Fed and can't lower the rates further.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 09:43 PM
1

No. It sounds like I find it frustrating.
/r/askMRP19/11/16 04:01 PM
1

Haha. Well. She wasn't paying attention when I was working through their behavior problems and it was a lot of trial and error. Now wife insists that it's just because I'm endowed with magical dad authority that she'll never have. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/askMRP18/11/16 11:20 PM
1

It's frustrating because our interactions are so much better. It's difficult to make learning moments while maintaining the unified front. Edit: Maybe I need a secret code / tell system so I can coach her without undermining her.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 10:15 PM
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My wife has real frame issues with our daughters. I really haven't found a way to get through to her that her gigantic DEERs at a 7 year old and escalating to yelling before enforcing boundaries isn't the answer. She says the right things when I talk to her about it but she just doesn't get it yet that she's making herself miserable because of this crud.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 04:35 PM
1

That's some tasty venison. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 11:37 PM
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I think OP needs to account for whether he's read any of the MRP101 books. I expect a "book report" to make some effort to contextualize with the sidebar. Mark closed his book with a few pages on cheating and cheater which reads: Cheating BAD! Cheaters BAD! No cheating for you! BAD! BAD! BAD! This is the entirety of what triggered our brave sensitive fragile OP (about 3/4 of the way through, not at the close by the way): For a relationship to be healthy, both people must be willing and able to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 06:13 PM
3

https://twitter.com/TheFamilyAlpha/status/786376855729299456
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 05:55 PM
1

Schroedinger builds the best Skinner boxes. Or maybe it's the other way 'round.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 07:05 PM
1

Nice post! You can go further with the quantum mechanics analogy. It's all unobservable entangled possibilities until it's measured. It's actions that clarify the world. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 05:50 PM
5

What springs to my mind when reading this is: with her long workshift and her sister living with you... how much time does she actually get to herself to decompress and relax and be herself? The competing with SIL for attention part... sounds like she's got no down time at all. Stress is pure evil. Her therapist will know this. The answer is going to involve reducing stressors and increasing healthy stress recovery activities. One thing you can do is take inventory of ways you increase stress on…
/r/askMRP16/11/16 03:36 PM
1

I think that's a slightly different problem? She'll eagerly do whatever I request but I have to run everything with almost no useful feedback. She's very happy when I bring new request and eager to try. But no effort to find things to explore or that she'd like to try. No hints at her fantasies. Zero interest in designing sex at all. No real preferences for anything we do. Entirely willing to participate and has a great time. No complaints from her either. I don't know maybe that's the goal? Som…
/r/askMRP15/11/16 11:15 PM
2

I can never get my wife to say anything she wants. She'll happily do things I want to do but it's all on me to bring it. She will at least say no or select among options. It can be nerve-wracking and I'm still working on improving my confidence in this domain. I find sexting helps. Relevant jack10 comment that I have bookmarked. I like his analogy a lot and it's what I go back to. I struggled with TFA's "creating your slut" advice for a long time and you should know his wife wasn't exactly inexp…
/r/askMRP15/11/16 10:45 PM
2

They are treated that way, but it's losing support against recent evidence. Basically lifestyle wasn't a significant reason women who wanted to get pregnant were not pregnant by 35 until recently.
/r/askMRP15/11/16 07:25 PM
2

the children-duties will be very old school - she will be doing most of the caring, I will continue making money and advancing my career. If your vision is to be an absent dad, don't bother. You also don't seem to have the "where's my heir!" thing going that some people have, either. So... meh. I think you'll hate it and you'll run away when it gets rough.
/r/askMRP15/11/16 05:24 PM
1

There's nothing wrong with my sex drive "Nothing wrong" is a pretty nebulous term. Do you mean you have a pretty typical libido (what does typical/normal mean to you)? Or are you saying wrong in the sense of a value judgment? Where are you directing your sexual energy? You might try to establish a refractory rest day pattern. That could help you get a break from the hounding and give you some time to build up desire and anticipation.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 01:53 PM
1

Bingo! see also "What are you thinking about?"
/r/askMRP14/11/16 02:33 PM
4

Well do you know what's the matter with you lately? When I got this question it was at the height of my anger and fully understanding that my pain was all my own failures and stupidity. My wife knows me well enough to know when I'm lying and when something is bothering me. Usually, I would just shut up or deny anything was wrong. My answer was "I'm working through some resentments and anger but I'm not ready to talk about it." Then she wanted to know if I was angry with her and I told her she sh…
/r/askMRP14/11/16 12:29 PM
2

I only think the templates are useful if they help serve a purpose to help the submitter. I think the template you have is just general good writing so finding the the template itself is more hassle. For theory post and such we should just encourage use of TRP policy. For a slightly different approach look at the RPWi post guidelines. They're designed to help the person posting think about reframing the situation in a way that contributes to finding solutions and leads into the RPWi advice patte…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 05:26 PM
0

... it's exactly the same "twelve page policy" that UEMcGill linked above?
/r/askMRP10/11/16 04:38 PM
-1

You have a pretty funny definition of more complicated. You just add them at: https://www.reddit.com/r/askmrp/about/rules/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/about/rules/ Up to y'all whether you want to make it easier for us to help you. Compare: https://www.reddit.com/r/theredpill/about/rules/
/r/askMRP10/11/16 03:08 PM
0

Can you guys expand the list of pre-defined reports on both subs? Compare MRP with the TRP report menu for example.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 02:48 PM
1

hahaha I accidentally quoted the wrong sentence.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 11:19 PM
1

I made a conscious decision to man the fuck up and handle my shit. It was at this point that I started digesting the sidebar. This is pretty much all you should do at the moment. Basically, you're both in the State's frame for now. She's of course not happy about it, but you'll both be out of the State's frame at a specified date. Continue to Own More and More of Your Shit.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 10:10 PM
0

Mavis Beacon is that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 01:47 PM
1

He's certainly quite the showman.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 01:28 PM
2

Did you read the article Rollo linked accidentally about Alpha Wives, Beta Husbands? The women left the men because they were lazybones, not because they made less money. They were literally begging and praying for their husbands to stop being lazybones. And it was completely obvious the men were ego-invested lazybones and they lost their wife's respect because of that. I wanted to slap them upside the head. Sure, they would have tolerated lazybones if the husband made a lot of money, the same w…
/r/askMRP08/11/16 09:41 PM
2

I have gotten legal help and my wife is scared shitless. So I have some leverage at this time. I'm sorry to say that I don't see any way that your wife being scared can possibly be considered leverage. If she is genuinely scared it is entirely within herself to stop being scared and she has a variety of resources to achieve that. She's just had a setback in court and is regrouping. BFD What I do think you have right now is the initiative. If this were my wife I'd probably straight up tell her th…
/r/askMRP08/11/16 06:57 PM
1

Get rid of your indents. This is too difficult to read. On reddit, starting a paragraph with four spaces causes it to be rendered as computer code.
/r/askMRP08/11/16 03:29 PM
1

You seeking out cuddles after being rejected is going to come off as dog looking for scraps and being thirsty. My glass half full perspective--if you take initiation off the table it works very well to have cuddles as an alternative outcome. I started doing this while trying to reset my wifes expectations about covert contracts and eggshells. I hate starfish so much. It always makes me feel gross. I'd rather masturbate. Cuddletime is a huge win in my book. I'll happily take cuddles over starfish…
/r/askMRP07/11/16 10:57 PM
1

That's what I meant about the spotlight. Often it's the grammatical subject but not always. I find non-verbals (intonation, body language, etc) are often much more important for sussing out disrespect/anxiety than grammar.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 06:53 PM
1

OP's case sounds more like a comfort test to me. I'm not the greatest at identifying shit tests but what I do is decide whether she's experiencing anxiety vs disrespect. If it leans disrespect, it's a shit test. If it leans anxiety it's a comfort test. In this case OP's wife feels threatened by the discussion about sex frequency = anxiety = comfort test. IMHO OP needs to not DEER (make excuses trying to undo or downplay the source of stress because it is legitimate) but he does need to express c…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 01:16 AM
1

Well it's sort of an unresolved meta question whether the context of the posting is the full "essay" or the purported "excerpt" of the essay? :)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 08:48 PM
2

Yeah, that linked article is pretty interesting and I'd rather discuss that. :P Related for contrast: "Being the primary breadwinner is bad for men's psychological well-being and health" https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2016-08/asa-btp081616.php Excerpt: "A lot of what we know about how gender plays out in marriage focuses on the ways in which women are disadvantaged," says Munsch. "For example, women are more likely to be victims of domestic violence, and they still perform the lion's sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 08:18 PM
1

Oh, I misunderstood. I thought you were saying you solved it by increasing non-provoked attention.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 12:32 AM
1

Did your changes affect her malingering?
/r/askMRP03/11/16 11:41 PM
2

Let me preface this with: I really, really like J10 and his comments. And I used to really like his phases model for the MRP end game. Stop Operating in Her Frame Build Your Own Frame Your Wife is Operating In Your Frame J10 has lots of good advice for getting from step 1 to completing step 2. But he had no advice for getting to step 3 and that's the puzzle he left us with. Bad news. If you do some research on "Walk Away Wife Syndrome" it looks exactly like "Your Wife is Operating In Your Frame"…
/r/askMRP03/11/16 09:44 PM
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How many bowls of soup can she eat though? lol If your wife is so starved for your attention that she needs to resort to attention-seeking stunts, what's there to withdraw when she's actually misbehaving or disrespectful?
/r/askMRP03/11/16 09:22 PM
1

Found this linked on MensLib today and thought you may find it relevant/interesting. Particularly the things about differences in how men and women perceive the breadwinning role. "Being the primary breadwinner is bad for men's psychological well-being and health" https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2016-08/asa-btp081616.php I don't follow TRP so maybe it's been covered already and is old news.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 08:23 PM
1

Yes, I think you are wrong and should be far more skeptical about this sort of flippant romanticism and quasi-intellectual bullshit. Your fundamental premise is that your sexual jealousy is both genetically coded and beneficial to the species. Or possibly you would go further and claim that it is genetically coded because it is beneficial to the species. But most specifically you reject the idea that sexual jealousy is learned behavior. This is a very flawed line of reasoning because humans in p…
/r/askMRP03/11/16 05:50 PM
1

what would that imply? ... do you want to play this game? Evolution doesn't give a shit about any fucking individual. It only cares about the health of the population. It's populations that survive and thrive, not individuals. Do you think a silverback has any fucking clue about DNA? We didn't even have a hint until Mendel and even then we didn't know about DNA until Watson, Crick & Franklin less than 100 years ago! You should look into ancient understanding of inbreeding. It's hilarious.
/r/askMRP03/11/16 05:02 PM
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Seriously? Get your lady a damn bowl of soup. What's weak about that?
/r/askMRP03/11/16 03:39 PM
4

What exactly does your servant boy role look like?
/r/askMRP03/11/16 02:58 PM
2

They can wink at you, hold your arm, kiss your cheek, suck your cock, tell you how proud of you they are, thank you for being an awesome Dad, and then sneak off to answer that text from their old college sweetheart, the one she thinks about when she cranks up the vibrator. Maybe it's just me, but you should perhaps take a hard introspective look into whether specifics of your wife's masturbation habits and fantasies should be part of your frame? I don't know about your masturbation habits and fa…
/r/askMRP03/11/16 01:30 PM
3

If your wife has never orgasmed, that's going to be what I suggest helping her work on. This is a pretty common problem but better handled elsewhere (I suggest r/sex or r/sexover30). For a start take a look into the Orgasm Trouble advice on the r/sex wiki. And then search the subs or ask!
/r/askMRP03/11/16 12:18 AM
3

Re: One thing that saddened me was that she suggests that monogamy/desire to pair bond lasts for up to four years with one particular mate. I'm hoping that that's only the case for her and not most other couples. Elsewhere on her site: Long-term attachment and lasting bonds of affection develop over time. These bonds are cemented not only by shared experiences and mutual displays of dependability, but also by the brain chemicals vasopressin and oxytocin. Known as the cuddle hormone, oxytocin is …
/r/RedPillWives02/11/16 05:06 PM
1

So as a warning I'm very, very, very ENTP (like alllllllll of the worst stereotypes so sorry if this is a bit of a ramble). I don't know how much of this is just my personality. I really, really like to play thought experiments and get into huge debates from all sides to explore ideas and learn. I used to think it was just about arguments and reason, but I'm actually starting to realize it's fundamentally much more about emotional exploration and feeling out lines of reasoning. I'm not good at l…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 05:16 PM
1

I make a point say "this makes me feel bad" even when I know logically it shouldn't to help explain why I need help figuring out how to approach what is probably not that difficult. I hope you understand this is is very close to exactly what not to do unless I'm misreading your behavior. You need to learn to process your own feelings and not rely on others to process them for you. This means that when you "feel bad" you decide for yourself that it's ok to "feel bad" and you self-sooth rather tha…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 01:40 PM
1

It sounds like you both have a bunch of pent up resentments and a communication deadlock. The biggest thing I've learned here is that you don't need your wife to be on board for you to work on yourself and learn self-care. But if you cannot see any room for personal growth where you are, splitting up solves all of that pretty quickly. Your resentments and communications skills stay with you though and you'll need to grow past them eventually or you're just kicking the can down the road and you'l…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 01:09 PM
1

Flip a coin.
/r/askMRP01/11/16 12:33 PM
3

You can be assertive about making your unhappiness known without being needy. It's the neediness that is the problem. Another way to approach this if you are uncomfortable is to be working on your own solution. Have a plan for something you are doing so that you're not showing up begging for her advice. STFU can go too far IMHO. Intimate relationships are about mapping each other's minds. If you are actively deceiving her about what's bothering you, it's not surprising that your issues aren't ev…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 01:48 AM
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I am sick of my job and I am sick of this city Does your wife know this or are you hiding this from her? To me you sound like you're in a really deep rut and maybe depressed and lonely. Does she care? Do you have anyone to talk to IRL?
/r/askMRP31/10/16 09:38 PM
1

Magical realism sounds very interesting! Thanks for the tip!
/r/askMRP31/10/16 05:54 PM
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Nope. This is a humanitarian intervention. Your kids are better off already. Your wife clearly has her head on straight. That's why she's so intent to burn money to keep them away from you. I wouldn't allow them near your parents either. Just look at their track record.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 03:45 PM
1

Two months, eh? Might be a good time to look at the sidebar.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 03:01 PM
1

Read any good books lately?
/r/askMRP31/10/16 02:30 PM
1

Perception and reality are not the same thing. If your father perceived you that way, you know your father was wrong. Correct action addresses reality, not perception.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/16 10:40 PM
2

Are you saying that you aspired to one day challenge and replace your father (rather than move out and do your own thing)? OP seems to have fundamentally flawed situational awareness by identifying his son as a rival. Son doesn't want to lead OP's "pride". Is he a threat? Sure. But not the kind he's talking about.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/16 08:57 PM
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I think there is good stuff here, but it is rambling. I disagree with what seems to be your fundamental premise (all emotions are valid), and think that deductive error stems from an imprecision in your understanding of acknowledgement vs validation. You are saying that all emotions you experience are valid. What you should be saying is that all emotions you experience are real. Whether you choose to accept them as good or appropriate is completely independent. For example emotional disorders ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/16 07:35 PM
2

I'm not sure what the Evil encompasses (and I don't care) but make sure to evaluate whether she's a legitimate danger to your kid.
/r/askMRP29/10/16 03:46 PM
3

Well... your son isn't trying to fuck your wife. He's becoming an adult and he will be an adult for the rest of your life. Your relationship with him will change, or you will have none. What's your relationship with your dad like?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/16 12:18 PM
1

Power Law 38
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 10:11 PM
1

RP would suggest she'd rather lose him to death, than to a rival. But loverboy is both Chad and hated by dad. Doesn't RP say that a woman will actually happily share? Keep him around to cuck whoever dad forces on her?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 03:23 PM
2

Mind blown. I think you win, this didn't even occur to me. She knows smiling will mindfuck him into picking anyone else and he'll be executed immediately. Hell, the other woman might not even be frowning just some post-smile hamster persistence effect. The only real threat to her plans was some mystical "true love" force. But it was clear her gambit paid off when he couldn't find her in the first round. Boom. She already got the contract. What's better than divorce-rape? His immediate death. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 02:48 PM
1

I crunched the numbers and after PCA apparently it means that airplane seating is going to become denser very soon.
/r/askMRP28/10/16 04:50 AM
1

I haven't had erection difficulties yet. Until then I'm subscribed to the "use it or lose it" philosophy. ;)
/r/askMRP28/10/16 02:49 AM
1

It's more about processing intrusive thoughts and feelings. Knowing for certain that I can handle the need after she's called it a night takes the edge off and helps me be more relaxed and deal with the uncertainty of rejection. Whether I actually get around to whacking it or not isn't really the point. If that makes any sense.
/r/askMRP28/10/16 02:20 AM
1

Haha. Yeah, I would not say that out loud! To me it's a CBT/Om-type thought I use to be mindful of the distinction between need and want. It helps me process the "I NEED SEX!" alarm. It reminds me that my need for sex is limited to emptying my prostate and wifey certainly isn't necessary for that. I want her to be part of it, but I don't need it. So it's like a hierarchy of needs thing.
/r/askMRP28/10/16 01:58 AM
1

That reasoning applies best during periods of slow environmental change. During periods of rapid change, you could argue that non-standard roles exist outside the shackles of tradition and are therefore both subject to greater scrutiny and free to adapt faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 10:09 PM
1

computerized phrenology
/r/askMRP27/10/16 09:20 PM
2

I don't really think of it as toying so much as providing an emotional forecast of hard nos until the designated time. What you do with the forecast is up to you. Don't try to read her mind about why she's forecasting hard nos. It can be a signal that you're coming on too strong. And it doesn't guarantee a yes later. It doesn't mean she doesn't want to feel sexy and desired or that she doesn't want tension to build until then. My wife has a very reactive desire so she needs to feel desired and p…
/r/askMRP27/10/16 06:05 PM
1

These negotiations didn't start out super serious, it's the deadbedroom that made them serious. My wife and I are really goofy dorks. That's what I liked most about her, actually. We'd play silly games all the time. We used to have a whole meta-universe running on top of life full of inside jokes and other nonsense and we'd trick others into playing along for our amusement. Then we started having kids and a switch went off and we both felt like we had to grow up and be boring. So a lot of this h…
/r/askMRP27/10/16 05:17 PM
3

TIL r/RedPillReadingGroup
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:34 PM
4

Pity that thread is locked. Just a warning re: Sex at Dawn--it is pretty universally rejected by researchers as total and complete horseshit. See also Sex at Dusk.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:14 PM
3

If it makes you feel any better, dumbass version of me played this game for 17 years always finding some way to blame myself when it never worked out. I didn't comment in your previous post because I was hoping I was wrong and I didn't want to jynx you with my baggage. When I stopped dancing like a monkey for these things my wife flipped the fuck out. I think I said something uncouth along the lines of "Sure. It obviously needs to be done. But can you please cut it out with your empty promises? …
/r/askMRP27/10/16 01:01 PM
1

.... stupid question probably but what exactly are the elements of a hate fuck vs say caveman? Degradation and humiliation? Sadism?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 12:39 AM
1

Try the stale marriage advice for size. It's mostly just changing the order of reading books based on priority. Ultimately it's just flavors of the same thing. Read the prerequisites and reassess.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 10:51 PM
1

But have you actually read any sidebar books? A lot of what you're calling grunts are shorthand for ideas that are flushed out there. Did you read the MRP Beginners Guide? Which scenario are you?
/r/askMRP26/10/16 09:53 PM
2

kek
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 05:27 PM
1

It's not like you've provided any real detail here that couldn't be found on Lifetime. But do you mean beyond the fact that he clearly didn't work past your ASD and that's not rocket science? But you're right, it's valid to object to rendering verdict on his technique--we truly can't say he stumbled unless we know he was actually engaged and motivated to put in sufficient effort pursuing you specifically vs playing the field. It's a valid objection. So point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 04:13 PM
1

The psychology you describe is well-traveled textbook PUA fodder and can be gamed successfully.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 03:47 PM
1

Valid. He likely had other irons in the fire and decided you weren't worth the effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 03:19 PM
1

It's certainly not criminal for a father to have more than 50% custody. GTFO with your bullshit.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 03:15 PM
1

So, I should feel bad if she's such a shit mom that she merits ~0%?
/r/askMRP26/10/16 02:40 PM
1

Lessons learned: dude stumbled while picking your ASD lock defense: make you haaaaappppy *rolls eyes*
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 02:28 PM
2

Even a woman must earn her 50%. No handouts.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 01:49 PM
1

Suppose an investigator fails to find proof. What next?
/r/askMRP26/10/16 01:29 PM
1

What about hiring an investigator? What will you do when confronted with evidence?
/r/askMRP26/10/16 11:19 AM
1

Not that I disagree, but that would be a whole lot more persuasive if anyone believed you thought divorce was plausible. ;)
/r/askMRP26/10/16 01:59 AM
1

On re-read it's probably not totally clear but what we're talking about is this idea that if you're "her one true alpha" she'll just dutifully fulfill her faithful wife role-play and you don't have to worry. It doesn't work that way and I suspect TFA didn't intend his tweet to be interpreted as such. Proof of betrayal is something else. This OP's case is pretty egregious and can be summarized as "you were never married anyway".
/r/askMRP25/10/16 09:59 PM
2

Yeah, I agree. There's this optimistic denialism floating around lately--the idea that you can out-alpha betrayal is ultimately a ridiculous false faith. You can't actually prove her faithfulness. You have to accept that you will never ever know... unless she wants you to know... or unless someone goofs opsec. It gets even more ridiculous when the control-hers show up with all their elaborate cages.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 09:22 PM
1

You might be interested in this.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 07:15 PM
2

2/10 needy and attention-seeking. Try working in a reveal that you're an out of shape, balding ginger who lives in his girlfriend's basement and I'll consider... 4-6/10 depending on execution.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 06:11 PM
1

Not bad. Packs some emotional panache. A tad long and repetitive in parts and definitely a bit overplayed on the narcissism. I liked that you set a novel challenge to avoid curse words, but was disappointed (but not surprised) that you immediately edited to eat the marshmallow. 3/10 for effort.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 05:58 PM
1

You're a male model, have only been married ~1 year, have no kids, and your wife works? I'd be very surprised if you're staring down the barrel of a massive divorce-rape. See a lawyer so that your options are clear.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 04:17 PM
1

Probably
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:12 PM
1

Sorry dude. If you're uncomfortable with what you see in the mirror, the issue is you, not the mirror.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 02:57 PM
1

Nope. Tell me more about discussions I've had with him in the past.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 02:49 PM
1

If you get past your feeeelings, what I actually wrote says the exact opposite, genius. Then again you take such pride in never actually reading anything that I'm not surprised.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 02:46 PM
3

I don't think anger is inherently bad. You've said that the value she adds to your life is that the very sight of her fills you with seething rage--and that ability to summon rage is why you keep her in your life. Why insist on living with a woman who drains all joy from your life? That's what doesn't make any sense. Life's too short for that shit.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 01:20 PM
3

The longer you play poker with someone, the better they read your tells. The difference between a LTR/wife and a plate is how much time you've spent playing. Carry on building your strawman about how I'm against dread or how I've somehow claimed MRP is easy mode or such. It's quite entertaining.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 01:04 PM
1

Jesus Christ. If your SO thinks you won't leave her because it's too much effort for you to follow through it's because she's internalized the truth that you're a spineless pathetic example of lazy "masculinity". If you cannot execute your own damn mission, seriously who gives a shit about your "leadership"? Pathetic. smh
/r/askMRP24/10/16 11:17 PM
1

Oh! Have you finally given up the eternal anger phase advocacy?
/r/askMRP24/10/16 08:20 PM
2

I'm having trouble following your logic. What part of that involves a facade or congruence?
/r/askMRP24/10/16 08:06 PM
2

Oh? You used to boast that you'd already had your lawyer friend work out all the financials to your benefit but that that you choose to just be there "secretly" hating your cheating wife for your kid's benefit.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 07:55 PM
2

That doesn't make any sense--wearing a facade is an act of fantasy and fantasy is always about escaping reality (i.e. denying "the world as it is"). Accepting reality and disposing of fantasy is the crux of congruence. SOs are finely-tuned congruence detectors--her whole goal is to know when you're full of shit and when you're not.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 07:45 PM
3

"a bitter staring contest while waiting for the nest to empty."
/r/askMRP24/10/16 06:24 PM
2

Yeah, facades make it easier to play games.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 05:37 PM
1

The only power a man loses in LTR/marriage is the ability to maintain facades. We get it, your marriage sucks.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 03:20 PM
2

If congruency doesn't matter throw out NMMNG, WISNIFG, etc. I'll agree, congruency doesn't matter with plates. You don't want a plate to know you well enough to escape fantasy and even see incongruency. MRP isn't about sexual strategy with plates.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 02:37 PM
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This will probably end up being removed as low effort, but I encourage you to develop a more detailed summary/reflection post about it. I found this publicity excerpt from the book. It is an enjoyable read. Outline of the excerpt: Subtlety #1: Not Giving A Fuck Does Not Mean Being Indifferent; It Means Being Comfortable With Being Different Subtlety #2: To Not Give A Fuck About Adversity, You Must First Give A Fuck About Something More Important Than Adversity Subtlety #3: We All Have A Limited …
/r/askMRP24/10/16 02:03 PM
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Live Mahler is better than sex. Always worth it.
/r/askMRP23/10/16 03:24 PM
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Nah it's not a double bind. This is classic failure to acknowledge her feelings like a clueless idiot. She says: "Dude! Stop making me feel like a bitch in front of your friends!". ...what does our fearless/clueless passive aggressive OP do? "ohai guys! guess who just bitched me out!"
/r/askMRP23/10/16 02:45 PM
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It's not your wife's role to initiate. Women need to feel sexy before they'll act sexy.
/r/askMRP23/10/16 02:28 PM
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IIRC the boundary is no private social media. No secret accounts, no private messages, etc.
/r/askMRP22/10/16 06:13 PM
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Ugh. I'm sorry man. That sucks.
/r/askMRP22/10/16 05:32 PM
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But you DGAF and you have all the right in the world to GAF. Your decision to participate in a relationship is your own. If you care why would you send mixed messages by pretending you don't? What does that accomplish? If your wife knows her actions are causing you harm and she willingly chooses to harm you... doesn't that tell you way more about your relationship than a keylogger would? If she's sneaking around and she fucks up it's on her. What are the topics of their conversations? There's a …
/r/askMRP22/10/16 04:57 PM
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Careful. Will building a better cage attract the type of woman you want? Do you want to spend your life building prisons? Wardens and prisoners both don't trust each other. It's more important to communicate boundaries and expectations than to obsessively enforce them.
/r/askMRP22/10/16 02:51 PM
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Totally agree. He also doesn't seem to be in extreme crisis, he has time to reflect and figure out what he wants before acting. Pointless war is pointless. In the mean time he at least has quality time with his daughter to lose.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/16 01:14 PM
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He's not married. Met this woman while in unsatisfying LTR (new woman knew about GF). Knocked her up within 4mos. Edit: not that I disagree--he's a dad now and this isn't predestined to failure because of those facts. But this isn't some 10yr relationship is my point. These people barely knew each other prior to the pregnancy and it's not clear any vetting for long term compatibility has been done.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/16 12:58 PM
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If you want this to work she's going to need to come around to knowing you want to be there. Contributing factors to her thinking otherwise may include: Accidental pregnancy She "broke" you -- you're not happy She has new diseases Your history of infidelity Extremely short "courtship" She's adjusting to mom role The way you've handled comfort tests hasn't addressed any of this. Some of your earlier posts about how you handle shit tests also make it sound like you are not acknowledging her feelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/16 11:18 AM
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The evils, distortions, censorship and misrepresentations of Rome are well established.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 06:30 PM
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The goals of canonization were political. Scholarship had very little to do with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 04:56 PM
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Check research relating to the gnostic gospel and other heretical texts.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 04:41 PM
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Well, I find that almost every theist who arrogantly clothbeards like this is completely unfamiliar with the opposing view, and usually has watched a couple shitty arguments from youtube. Are you asking if we're aware that the New Testament is a cheesy adaptation of Buddhism for a circa 0CE Jewish audience? We are. Have you studied any metaphysics newer than ancient? Philosophy of science? Maybe some Russell or Wittgenstein? ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 04:19 PM
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I am going to add one thing for you to ponder because I want you to be aware of a particular pattern of dysfunctional behaviors. Some people like to have people depend on them and they will do things to make sure that others cannot help themselves. It's very easy to connect the dots and explain your story with this woman this way. It's a very twisted way to trap people so they cannot leave you. Pay close attention to whether you are empowering or undermining this woman's ability to adjust, learn…
/r/askMRP20/10/16 01:50 PM
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"Oh. Didn't realize you were making dinner." Let her make an ass of herself without engaging. Also, when your baby is crying feel free to go check it out! Generally babies cry because they need help. What would you do if your wife wasn't there? Just do that.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 03:09 AM
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The answer is to be assertive and not offload responsibility. There's a book on the MRP sidebar dedicated to developing this skill called "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty".
/r/askMRP20/10/16 01:40 AM
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She's riding fucking Uber for $50 because you were too lazy and incompetent to plan or coordinate anything else. You put more effort into bitching about this to her and to us than you did into working the situation.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 01:29 AM
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The virtue signaled is...? Maybe the reason you don't find evidence of the elaborate conspiracies you accuse me of in PM is because they... don't actually exist?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 08:07 PM
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Do words have meaning to you or do you just throw them around until something sticks? What virtue am I signaling? And I mean be razor specific if it contradicts the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 07:39 PM
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Yup. No argument there and I've said so a few times already. Can I ask exactly why you think I've suggested otherwise?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 07:37 PM
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Yes? I'll argue multiple sides to explore and define but mostly to clarify, but it's all in good faith. Is that what you mean? Edit: Well, actually maybe NO. The point isn't just to argue, it's always related to something I'm trying to understand or clarify.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 07:16 PM
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Stop looking to your wife for outcomes.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 06:54 PM
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I'm asking how not why. It's fine to admit you don't know. That's a fundamental assertive right--a fact you would know if you have read anything from the sidebar. All I'm doing is trying to adapt aspects of it to my situation. You claim you needed deception to get her to redirect her pay. And then used that change as cuffs. That is fundamentally flawed reasoning. Those cuffs are hallucinations. She can redirect it anywhere she wants at any time and skim off the top or whatever. She let you win. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 05:26 PM
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So how did you intercept attempts to open new accounts? If she knew about the forwarding, why wouldn't she just use another mailing address? Can you prevent her from halting forwarding of the house address? I think that just requires a drivers license. She could get really fancy and man-in-the-middle your man-in-the-middle. Besides all she really has to do is fuck a mailman. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 05:03 PM
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How did you prevent your wife from knowing the mail was being intercepted?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:29 PM
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I don't need deception to keep her from the door. If you're going to use the door as your cudgel, you don't need lies.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:26 PM
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That's because it's contradicts fundamental MRP advice to be authentic. Contextualizing it is important.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:21 PM
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What would you do about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:14 PM
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Who's asking you to justify anything? But.... I'm genuinely curious how you would have prevented her from opening her own P.O. Box or using a parent's / friend's / work mailing address or picking up her paycheck at work? She could easily have done any of that in response to finding out about the deception. My wife uses her parent's mailing address all the time. Advice? Not to mention that most things can be done paperless online nowdays.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:05 PM
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Right--the deception was not necessary with your second wife. Deception is typically not advised here, as true lasting leadership is not smoke and mirrors. Your first wife is exceptional because the deception was short term and can be justified by her refusal to control her spending, her lying and her hiding of purchases. You would not have been able to reign her in without the deception. But like I said she also didn't really put up a fight. It's very much like an intervention.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 03:55 PM
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Are you saying that you started the war by not taking control in the first place? I'll disagree with your willingness to absolve your ex of her responsibility to adult and for her refusal to take the situation seriously. Was the deception necessary with your second wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 03:30 PM
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We understand. You were in the middle of a war you didn't start. We're just saying you don't roll out the waterboard during peace time. ;) Not that the lie is all powerful anyway. She didn't fight as hard as she could have. Your wife could have her check delivered at work or got her own P.O. Box. She realized she had a problem and welcomed the help. I don't imagine this working well against, say, BPP's corporate attorney wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 03:13 PM
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What stung me was the 'ignorant' comment. Question for yourself: are you ignorant? The internet makes it extremely easy to research topics, so ignorance is easily addressed. You may or may not change your mind. That's your right. But if you know you're not ignorant, then they're just wrong. You don't need to correct them. But I suspect this isn't so much about ignorance as it is about their lack of respect. In terms of their behavior: their actions certainly haven't caused you to gain any respec…
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 02:36 PM
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Good point. Keeping the step 1 list of accounts / assets / debts up to date should go a long way toward addressing that. Probably a good idea to include usernames and passwords with that list.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 01:17 PM
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... that's straight from the sidebar? If he actually made an argument about why lies are bad that's something else and there would be something to discuss. He didn't say to play nice at the expense of happiness. That's all you projecting your bullshit demons. Don't lie, don't avoid conflict, own shit is core MRP strategy. If you have a problem with that.... dunno what to say dude. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 01:02 PM
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Not to be a pedant but you're reading morality into that comment. It's not there.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 12:29 PM
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How do you deal with existing credit cards that are in her name?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 12:13 PM
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Why can't you be intimate and vulnerable? What you're not allowed to be is needy or whiny or mopey or ugly or lazy or weak or butthurt or fake.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 09:40 PM
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The linked research is actually sort of fascinating... I hadn't really ever considered that things like grading on a curve are a problem. But after having it pointed out it's obviously a problem and needs better methods to address it. Typically grading on a curve is done as an expediency because we doesn't know how difficult the tests actually are when we're writing them so assigning point values to questions gets hard. Or we fudge that we don't know how effective our teaching was with this crop…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 08:42 PM
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haha. Have I got family name drama! Both my dad's and mom's family have come to the end name wise (girls everywhere at multiple generations). So... my mom pressured my brother to change his last name to my mom's maiden name. And then I... conjured three daughters. lol Last names are stupid. If you were my daughter I would tell you to keep publishing using your maiden name. That's just a stupid motivator to avoid divorce IMHO. Avoid divorce because you want to be married. This is a totally stupid…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 07:09 PM
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What problems did his wife have? I know many women in the US who use their maiden name in their research career. Even if they hyphenate or whatever later. I don't see the problem. It sounds like a major bureaucratic pain in the ass. Are you already published? What name did you use? You'll presumably be publishing along the way so even changing the final name on the thesis isn't a good option. What you really need to ask yourself is what would you do with your last name if you divorced? For examp…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:42 PM
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Does your partner work in the field or are you likely to work at the same institution? I've seen this used very effectively to battle perceptions of nepotism (the cases I'm thinking of likely married post-degree, but it took me years to figure out that they were married). Don't use this as a bargaining chip to get him to marry sooner though if that's what you're thinking. I don't think anyone cares that much about last names and publication record.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:25 PM
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... whichever searches better in pubmed/indexing service/google or is more memorable for conferences. :P It's your work. Do what you want.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:12 PM
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To paraphase what you wrote: she seeks comfort when she senses that you are distant or need some space. I've been there and that can be extremely frustrating. It's laughable how I used to think my wife didn't know everything I was thinking. We've been together too long for that. In my case these seems to have been these factors: She did this because overall she's insecure in the relationship and moments of distance cause extreme anxiety and worry. I can reduce that by being more reassuring about…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 04:12 PM
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Yeah, you don't "apologize" for her behavior. Anyway what comes to my mind is that you say you are totally OK with her going over to her friends place or whatever but she feels guilty about it? So maybe she's responding to pre-existing butthurt that you're tying to hide. Since it's so predictable, you might try getting ahead of the comfort request and see what happens. She's not going to ask if you love her if you show her before she has a chance to ask. My wife used to really annoy me with thes…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 03:48 PM
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Rather than focusing on shit test vs comfort test, I focus almost exclusively on disrespect. My MO is to comfort freely and generously if I can do it congruently, but I do not tolerate undeserved disrespect. Particularly intentional disrespect. I find that disrespect is much easier for me to identify because I can feel it and I'm not trying to read minds. And by don't tolerate I mean I treat it as a shit test and don't allow the hits to land. Jokey comfort like your "nope" works too assuming the…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 03:28 PM
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If you've ever watched nature documentaries you'd know that predators also usually catch the weak and frail of the herd.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 02:33 PM
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haha. I'm just silly like this and have insatiable hunger for different perspectives about things. Now I need to find out how postmodernism derives that men believe in the existence of truth and women and minorities do not. :)
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 02:28 PM
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oh dear god now I am compelled to seek poststructuralist feminist theory to parse out what is meant by this lunacy. Edit: Oh, this is yet another postmodernism vs science but sucked into feminist perspective. That's unfortunately not as easy as you would hope and gets messier and messier the more you dig. Scientific method has a lot of challenges and one of them is that people often make the mistake that it can even provide truth. The "truth" science finds are figments of human thinking. What is…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 01:49 PM
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You think you're Mr. Miyagi because your giant dick led you to a crazy chick?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 02:38 PM
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"It's simple. I wanted to drive the new car" This message conveys no new information. If you have nothing to say, don't say anything. All it does is communicate that you read her text and have absolutely nothing to say, which is worse than being too busy to read the message or respond. Because she's trying to get you to acknowledge her emotions. You already got what you want, so broken record has no tactical value here. Another issue is that she's putting the ball in your court and she's going t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 02:13 PM
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You're saying that because it literally took you years to figure out you were living with a mentally ill woman... it somehow demonstrates your mastery of women's psychology?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 01:54 PM
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Two people spending money without a budget is a recipe for disaster. Adding more money to a leaking pot isn't going to solve it. It doesn't matter who's making more money. Budgets are about explicit goals, everyone owning their shit, discipline and evidence. Some things that may be going on is that she may not trust you with money and/or she may not like restrictions. You may have to swallow your pride a bit, but you need to get the cuffs on the both of you. Clearly your wife can't handle the CF…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 01:43 PM
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That has absolutely nothing to do with why your pussy gets wet for this guy (assuming it does). .......says the guy who failed to keep his wife wet. credibility: 0 self-awareness: -1 When women tell you something is a turn off, you should pay attention. Finding flaws in men is what they do best. And they absolutely love to tell you what they find. Sure, a fish can't tell you how to be caught. Ask a fishermen for that. A fish sure as hell can tell you how she saw you coming. And why she swam the …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 01:09 PM
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What about the creep of the internet and social media though? I don't think it obeys these zones?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 11:28 PM
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Do you guys have a budget? I assume your role has included control of home and kitchen maintenance in the past. Is she moving into the kitchen role? Anyway new appliances are off budget and not discretionary I would assume. Bad behavior on that part for sure. Divergent expectations. Needs some vision. Sorry to say it mostly sounds like she's filling a leadership void.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 06:03 PM
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These things are prerequisites for desire. Satifying them won't cause desire. Not satifying them will rule out desire.
/r/askMRP16/10/16 03:56 PM
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Excellent work! All of that is actionable. Basically she's saying that she thinks you don't want her in your frame. I don't feel very close to you She doesn't know what you are thinking and is having trouble trying to track you. Be more open emotionally. Do not be needy. Just let her know what's going on. And make an effort to know what going in with her, too. Focus on acknowledging and understanding what she says. Do not try and fix things for her unless asked. The reason is that she will withh…
/r/askMRP16/10/16 03:24 PM
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Sounds to me like she didn't want you to go but didn't want to actually have to "forbid" it. So she tried to covertly avoid the conflict. She's probably stewing about the fact that she didn't make her true feelings available and that you didn't read her mind accurately. Unless there's some relevant history related to strip clubs. Basically she failed to communicate a boundary and you are not psychic. She's mostly mad at herself. Yes, the group did not honor it's word, but you are not personally …
/r/askMRP15/10/16 07:57 PM
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Before I thought I did want them. After being married and taking the pill, my attitude has changed. I don't think it's off the table, just not ready right now. Yeah? So why didn't you say that instead of "I don't caaaaaare"?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 04:49 PM
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Did your behavior meet your own standards?
/r/askMRP15/10/16 04:15 PM
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You deliberately misinterpret with the intent confuse? Fine. Blocked.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 08:18 PM
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Ah, you misunderstand. In that sentence "be a man" was the feminine imperative form, not the MRP form. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 06:01 PM
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I get that. Asking for definitions isn't debate. You can't avoid doing things if you don't know what those things are. Unless RP is nothing more than numberwang.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 05:53 PM
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So a few months ago someone challenged my assumption that women get a free pass for their behavior. Filter bubbles were mentioned. I was curious and spent a few weeks reading relationshits and in particular posts that I would typically have ignored.* IMHO after reading that sub more broadly for a while my sense is that if you go to relationshits with... "My wife of 15 years got fat and is lazy / this is the responsible mature shit I've done to address it like an adult / these are the mistakes I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 04:46 PM
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No offense taken. I don't care about the label really. I just wish I understood what it meant! Nobody can define it. I definitely do not have oneitis and I never have. I got married long ago before I ever heard of "oneitis" but the concept of "one true love / soul mate" never made sense to me in the first place--most people lived their lives within small geographic regions. So at best you're ever going to find a local maxima. And anyway my standards are such that there were always a few women I …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 01:27 PM
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What do people get here when they post "my wife of 15 years got fat and is lazy"?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 09:51 PM
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... but that's also what relationshits says? Surely relationshits isn't red pill. Right ?!?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 09:06 PM
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Red Pill thinks Mitch is an idiot. Blue Pill thinks Mitch is an idiot. ∴ Mitch is an idiot. □ Anyway, something that's not clear to me is: What's the difference between acceptance-phase Red Pill and Purple Pill? The only divining rod I can find in your writing are tests for tone (and anger). Good: The harsh, ugly truth that the difficult nature of Earth is not flat. Bad: The Earth is round. Why should anyone care about this?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 08:09 PM
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Oh, I missed the edit. Makes sense. Yeah, I can see this is where not having those glistening abs and sexy v-line to turn her brain off is holding me back. All of these tingle tactics aren't available to me yet. In my situation due to my lack of panty-moistening raw animal magnetism, my wife's hamster would just decide to tiptoe around eggshells again to avoid my explosive emotional outbursts. Someday! Until then I'll try and stick to those spots where you suggest shutting up might have been pru…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 07:04 PM
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I have a general outlook strategy question here- I've been pursuing decoupling our sexlife from well, everything and it's working wonders (even though I'm still an obese fuck, YIEL). Whatever the hell is going on in our lives it stays out of the bedroom is the idea. Decoupling the intimacy from everything is what I take from goals of OI, ending covert contracts, etc. The idea that nothing affects sex and sex affects nothing. It's more like a massage or something people use to relax together and …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 04:45 PM
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You're right that this isn't worth fussing over. Find a way to smooth out this insecurity. One idea is to take some time and think over those 50-75%. Find one of the most ridiculous of those 50-75% that can condense down into a short humorous quip that exposes the ridiculousness. Explore how that quip relates to the other sitations. When new situations rattle that insecurity you can repeat that quip to yourself to fast-track frame recovery.
/r/askMRP13/10/16 01:04 PM
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She has never said ILYBINILWY yet Wanted to clarify because I forgot to reply to this part and I think you misunderstood why I mentioned this. I was describing how the ILYBINILWY affected me because it sounds like you've effectively said it to her. My point is you should assume this insecurity is now permanently implanted in her and will never go away. Welcome to the wonderful world of dread. Good that you're feeling it too. Now you can ask yourself what you wish your wife would do to soothe you…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 09:44 PM
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I live under HITECH with machines and systems that have no concept of HITECH. I'm paranoid as fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 07:55 PM
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Bitlocker doesn't really work well on anything except windows. :( And AFAIK unless you have Windows Enterprise your keys end up on Microsoft's servers. Or has that changed? If you're really paranoid just use Tails and GPG keys stored on a smartcard.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 07:14 PM
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How exactly did this go down? Did you stand up for your concerns? Drop NMMNG and pick up WISNIFG. Now. Also, you don't need to do anything rash. "Don't just do something, stand there" applies.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 06:48 PM
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Where are you two on sex while engaged?
/r/askMRP12/10/16 06:46 PM
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do i stay with her when she can make rapid-fire decisions unilaterally that don't just affect her A woman can always decide she's not to have sex with you, your relationship status doesn't mean squat. You are also free to end the relationship rapid-fire and unilaterally. Where's this relationship going? Are things getting more serious? There's not a lot to work with here but my assumption is that it means she's interested in advancing the relationship toward marriage and following her perception…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 06:28 PM
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No, it's using the f-word without using the other f-word. ;)
/r/askMRP12/10/16 05:29 PM
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IIRC Emily Nagoski's research on sexuality grew out of studying lesbian death bed. Are you familiar with her work?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 05:27 PM
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I tried it for a bit, but I'm very fap-positive now. Until about eight months ago I used to suffer from post-fap feelings of self-hate, disgust and failure (that I thought was normal, turns out it's not, but it is common in people with religious upbringing). So fapping would leave me in a nasty funk. Which... wasn't a good situation when I was in a deadbedroom. But after I addressed that it became a good tool for developing OI. I know that I'm perfectly happy taking care of my "need" myself, so …
/r/askMRP12/10/16 05:12 PM
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trigger warning sex-positive feminism (i.e. third-wave): Ok, so I'm going to finally be banned for this non-caveman commentary but... this is a classic problem with porn. Porn does not depict female sexual pleasure truthfully. There are alternatives to the entire story arc of porn. If you want to explore a slightly different perspective start here: https://np.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/538uat/mismatched_couples/d7r5hys ...and then go to her blog and read some more. She was a LL who took act…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 04:25 PM
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cynzia just linked u/freyaisstillmygoddes with a somewhat similar themed DB post this morning to TBP.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 02:30 PM
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I got the ILYBINILWY almost two years ago when I was deep in DB before I found MRP... and it still haunts me. I'm a lot happier. She seems much happier. I'm pretty sure she's much happier. The nagging kernel of doubt is still there... the fear that she's playing me for a fool... and probably will be forever. :( All you can do is learn to cope with it.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 02:19 PM
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Re: husband's dilemma play your nice card until she plays her mean card is not the same as don't play any card until she plays her mean card
/r/askMRP12/10/16 02:03 PM
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You're anger phase right? You're surprised your wife knows you're angry? So... you want advice on hiding how you feel? lol I know there are two camps to this but my advice: Focus on resolving the anger. It's in your way.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:59 PM
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...be happy and friendly when she's not being shitty? Have you read husband's dilemma? Do you understand it? Mean cards are unless if you don't play nice cards. Why does BPP say to start playing nice cards every morning? Why does BPP say to play nice cards until you encounter her mean cards? You're anger phase, so maybe everything she does ticks you off. (Been there) Maybe try to prioritize behavior. Only play mean cards for the worst behaviors. When those are dealt with move on to the next set …
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:48 PM
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It's pretty simple: if you confront the shitty behavior directly, nothing else you do validates it.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:40 PM
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she knows I am miserable in our relationship and how I dont think she is attracted to me and I question if she loves me It doesn't matter if you think she should feel that or not or if you think it's accurate. You can't logic or debate her to not feel what she feels. It's what she feels. And what she's saying is how she explains how she feels. So what does she feel? Obviously, her fear is that the relationship is dying and she's hunting for any hints that confirm this fear. Wives can read your m…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:29 PM
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The male equivalents of this forum would have told him to (a) leave you (particularly since you're not married) or (b) seek an open relationship or (c) secretly seduce women. I can't say that prostitutes are something I've seen recommended. Occasionally some married guy who literally hasn't had sex in years and whose spouse has refused an open relationship and for whatever reason he's too stubborn to get divorced caves and goes to a prostitute. The only other times I've seen it is when the man h…
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 01:01 PM
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Sure. But... Why is your wife wearing sunglasses at 11pm? Why are you doing yard work at 11pm?
/r/askMRP11/10/16 11:13 PM
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Your frame must be fucking fragile if you have to resort to "masculine" busywork to trick your wife into not challenging you. It's just a shit test. :P
/r/askMRP11/10/16 09:59 PM
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I'm not sure it's possible to get her on your side and I'm not sure it's even helpful. It could keep the addiction to external validation online and slow the growth of frame. IMHO this goes back to the "in her frame" question and jack10's three phase model for the MRP psychological process. Jack10's proposed arc has three phases: The man and woman exist in the woman's frame. The man has his own frame, his wife respects him again. Woman abandons her frame and submits to his. The big warning about…
/r/askMRP11/10/16 07:46 PM
1

I don't really understand what you mean when you say that alpha traits and beta traits are identical. I don't think I've heard that before. Isn't commitment a beta trait related to long-term mating? I don't think commitment is relevant to short-term mating / casual sex / ONS etc. And I don't think Nice Guys™ are faking alpha traits... I think it's more accurate to say they weaponize beta traits to manipulate their partners.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:16 PM
5

You could say "No." You could use exponential backoff when scheduling fulfillment. You could play "strip fetch" - playfully demand she take off an item of clothing.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 12:45 PM
1

Find some way to let her know where you are and that you are safe. Maybe a postcard.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 07:47 PM
2

You think that it is smart to do anything in between, in regard to contacting her? Continue to take responsibility for your actions with action. Talk is cheap. How far off is your appointment? I would not initiate direct contact prior to your appointment unless necessary and I would ask them for guidance. Is your wife able to contact you? Does she know you are safe and where you are? IMHO the ball is in her court for anything greater. Can family or friends intermediate contact? Are there ways yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 07:24 PM
3

Nobody cares about your excuses. Get professional help for your anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 06:39 PM
7

What is working for me can be summarized as: "upgrade beta with alpha". If I don't have a clear idea how I want to try and improve something, I don't do it. I will try new things just for the hell of it though, if I can't think of a reason not to. I also don't do things to deliberately piss my wife off (playful teasing--hell yes). Another thing that works very well for me and goes against "killing beta" is I'm much more generous and sincere with the comfort and praise than I had been. I make an …
/r/askMRP10/10/16 04:01 PM
6

Pet peeve time. Beta appeals to the woman's LTR sexual strategy. Period. It's not a catch-all for unattractive behavior. Women are sexually attracted to beta behavior but far less intensely and urgently than they are attracted to alpha. The reduced urgency and intensity means that beta is easily overcast by any and every unattractive behavior. Beta and alpha are rarely incompatible. So more accurately: stop confusing omega with beta. Do not kill beta. Ruthlessly murder omega. "stop being beta" i…
/r/askMRP10/10/16 01:59 PM
2

Where are you on non-sexual physical intimacy? Try to find something enjoyable for you both and work on building trust. Not really workable to be pissed off about biology.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/16 04:57 PM
0

Uh. I'm not putting my dick near an eclamptic woman's mouth...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/16 04:27 PM
1

Do you want the correlation tables? It sounds like you want the correlation tables. Edit: wrong article
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/16 04:03 AM
1

Edit: wrong article
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/16 03:47 AM
4

I think this is the research article discussed: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27592145/ Edit: Nope it's this one https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27400021
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 10:49 PM
2

I really don't know why you think it's a good idea to go fucking around within your wife's family uninvited. There's a hierarchy and you're at the bottom, bro. He's not your friend. He tolerates you because of his sister. Please rationalize this to me. It's obvious you're hoping to validate your MAP by impressing your wife ("see honey it works! I fixed your brother!") and/or you're covert contracting it ("if I fix her brother, she see my value"). You're blinded by your own ego and insecurties. J…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 06:08 PM
1

I really don't mean to be rude but... if my BIL "gave me tasks"... yeah. Not happening. And you're the butt of family jokes behind your back. If my BIL came to me asserting his superiority and telling me how to fix my life, I'm going to die laughing. On second thought... that might be just what he needs to pull him out of his funk. You should show up and knock on his door Jehovah Witness like. Do you have any siblings?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:44 PM
1

The distance really concerns me. What about bringing him home so you can work with him directly?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:26 PM
1

Why him and not the local homeless shelter?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:15 PM
1

(FYI many of your replies aren't going to the comments you're responding to so we have like this random "No." as a top level comment and no idea what you're referring to)
/r/askMRP07/10/16 04:58 PM
3

Ok. This is just my opinion, MRP advice is to stick to logistics on text. I break this rule often because it entertains me. I don't like rapid-fire text flirting. I like to ponder on the backburner a bit and be creative while doing other things. I also don't want her staring at the screen waiting for a response. In other words I don't make the flirty text conversation the center of attention. As an analogy, there's a difference I found very refreshing about fireworks when I went to a festival in…
/r/askMRP07/10/16 04:48 PM
6

She's saying you're so direct and annoying that her crotch is beginning to get gangrene. Stop being annoying, it's unattractive. Don't be unattractive.
/r/askMRP07/10/16 02:43 PM
1

What's the upside? What's your motive? Impressing your wife? You don't have a relationship with him, he's not your buddy and he's far away. Is it worth the risk and drama? Are you going to take responsibility for his failure? Don't get involved unless you're asked by your wife or unless he reaches out to you. Most you can do is give your wife advice to pass along if asked. Do you want to be designated bag holder?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 02:18 PM
1

I can't find anything about it now but a few years ago there was a website where people could post publicly on a map where they just had sex with descriptions of acts and ratings. It was fun to see all the perv going on around you. It was back when the iPhone was pretty new but I can't find a damn thing about it today.
/r/askMRP06/10/16 08:53 PM
1

We could truncate WISNIFG to WISNG. :P
/r/askMRP06/10/16 08:05 PM
1

It's an interesting question. On the one hand I'm a transhuminist... so who cares? In fact maybe allow any and all body modifications/drugs/machines and make it a free-for-all. On the other hand, I think overspecialization for a particular "game" is boring. The incentives for body modifications might be too coercive and I'm not sure how to work out the ethics. Ultimately modern sports are about what the audience wants to watch.
/r/askMRP06/10/16 05:18 PM
5

Whoa dude. I know AA etc but you're seriously a high pressure rejection hydrant of negative energy. Have you ever even seen a comfort test? You should just get a tattoo on your forehead that reads "I hate my wife".
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 09:21 PM
2

You missed the memo: asshole is the new faggot.
/r/askMRP04/10/16 08:47 PM
6

Ok, so situationally it sounds like she's with her friends and isn't disrespecting you. Review Hanlon's razor. You need to give her the option of correcting her error... or casting the first stone of disrespect. You can't claim she chose to disrespect you unless you give her the choice. In this case the obvious way to deal with this would have been to briefly reiterate your mission plan and your objection to wasting any time on this tomorrow because you've already made plans. Verbally slapping a…
/r/askMRP04/10/16 05:45 PM
2

I have no idea what you're actually describing here but you do sound like an asshole. No, that was not the plan. Did I miss something? Is a miscommunication a form of disrespect? WTF were you actually trying to communicate?
/r/askMRP04/10/16 04:34 PM
1

I don't believe for one minute that you would do something non-trivial one hundred times without knowing that what you're doing actually addresses the problem... (i.e. without at least seeing progress).
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 10:14 PM
1

I think what you're getting at is that anger involves an awareness of an other (possibly a Creator if one is religiously inclined). I disagree that it's a "social construct" in the sense that I don't think society teaches anger. Yes, being angry at inanimate objects is silly. But you can be angry at ants, machines, algorithms, weather, etc (via self-deceptions such as anthropomorphism). There's also an interesting parallel with guilt. When anger is about the other's behavior that has negative ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 08:26 PM
2

I'm wondering whether you read When I Say No I Feel Guilty? In my experience it provides a lot of extremely helpful coping techniques for dealing with nasty criticism. I've found that using them has turned a lot of conversations with "call-out culture" types into productive conversations. I used to fear talking with feminists because of the call outs but I actually enjoy it now and get interesting perspectives. Also... it may be helpful to read articles / advice for how men can productively comm…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 06:03 PM
4

This sounds horrifying. I'm sorry M is going through this. I have no experience in this so remember I'm just full of shit and talking out of my ass. But here goes: Helping M Start by deferring to the professionals. Be on their team. Don't undermine them in front of M. Dealing with the mental health professional The best way to deal with health professionals is to trust them but also be engaged and questioning. You need to connect with them, but often they say the same things so many times that t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 02:29 PM
3

IMHO minimalism is best. Is stating obvious conditions really necessary? IMHO it just signals weakness and undermines comfort. To me it has the stench of "telling not showing". The lucky side of the relationshits DTMFA culture is that we can leave a lot of things unsaid. Put another way: if my wife asked me this she's actually asking if I would divorce her if she got sick. So to me that answer comes off as a weasel dodge.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/16 11:15 PM
8

"Faggotry" > butthurt desperation
/r/askMRP02/10/16 07:10 PM
5

Jerk off.
/r/askMRP02/10/16 05:13 PM
5

So... basically you're concerned that he successfully turned things around? And gives advice about how he turned things around? Is that an accurate summary of your concerns?
/r/askMRP29/09/16 10:51 AM
1

Light is light it does what it does. How it can behave like a wave and like a particle is that neither waves nor particles are adequate models for describing its behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 10:50 PM
1

I don't understand your question. Sorry!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 04:34 PM
1

You mean describing how planets move relative to stars? How Newtonian mechanics fails to accurately predict Mercury's orbit? How light's behavior seems like a particle sometimes and like a wave sometimes?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 01:21 AM
1

Name one "why" science has answered that is not more accurately expressed as "how".
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 11:23 PM
1

If you care about mainstream attention, you depend on external validation. The only frame worse to live in than your wife's is society's.
/r/askMRP27/09/16 10:27 PM
1

Well, scientific method answers how. Why is the domain of philosophy. Anyway my point is that demanding scientific evidence is fundamentally a how question, not a why question: "How do women behave?". Not being careful / understanding this is partly how EP gets into hot water. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 04:25 PM
-1

Sounds fun! Jealous that your wife is this open with you. Are you interested in MMF or just the watching?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 04:05 PM
2

It's going to happen anyway, dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 03:49 PM
2

Honestly I don't see any compliant from you in your post? It seems that your problem is your discomfort with your feelings for Cindy. Your wife seems to like you and wants to fuck you. And you like your wife and want to fuck her. So you're actually doing pretty well! What are your sexual complaints? Generic advice is you'll get a lot of bang for your buck by improving your physical shape (strength, weight, stamina, flexibility). This will contribute a lot to quality of sex. Also consider studyin…
/r/askMRP24/09/16 12:15 AM
3

Pretty simple then isn't it? Short of starting to hide Cindy there's nothing to do (and that's guaranteed to be shady). Cindy starts Monday so what's there to hide? Get it over with. Deal with whatever fallout later. No use cooking your brain pondering whatifs. What are you hoping to get out of dread anyway?
/r/askMRP23/09/16 08:32 PM
1

How aware is your wife of your facebook chatting with Cindy?
/r/askMRP23/09/16 08:04 PM
1

destroy your body This seems to summon the perfect mental state for me. Amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 01:48 PM
1

1RM is used to standardize for comparison. You can estimate 1RM using formulas and online calculators. http://www.exrx.net/Calculators/OneRepMax.html
/r/askMRP22/09/16 11:42 PM
1

Where are you in your readings?
/r/askMRP22/09/16 05:48 PM
1

All children place significant burdens on parents and society and the effects born primarily by those who cannot pay. Unwanted children particularly (financial stress, time commitment, behavioral problems, education costs, higher incarceration rates, etc). Untested rape kits are often related to violent rapes that have not been investigated (lack resources, racism, disparities, etc). You could maybe apply your privilege to be less ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/16 09:00 PM
2

Paying for birth control is a lot cheaper to society than paying for unplanned pregnancy. Which male contraception would you want covered? Vasectomy? What 14yo is going to get their parents to consent to a vasectomy? As for the rest... frankly, the extent to which rape kits are not processed is embarrassing if not disgusting. There's no excuse--these are the women who actually did go to the police so cut the crocodile tears. Rapists are scum. Can't believe anyone would defend them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/16 06:38 PM
1

What did the removed relationships post say? Were they doing a separation or what? It's confusing because she says she's been exclusive with the not-husband for 7 months?
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 12:27 AM
2

https://therationalmale.com/2013/09/30/the-rational-male/
/r/askMRP20/09/16 04:20 PM
1

lib-gen I read the book instead of the blog so I can't really answer your question ;)
/r/askMRP20/09/16 04:10 PM
1

Do you think alpha widows are a thing? Or is that also a men's problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/16 01:59 PM
1

I was talking about her older book "Divorce Busting". I actually haven't read "Sex Starved Marriage", but back when I was sucked into deadbedrooms I watched her TED talk and found it comforting at the time. My memory of the entire crisis is sinking into the fog, but I do remember that actually seeing a woman acknowledge that there is an issue and that working on it is possible gave me hope (vs the essentially "I'm very 'sorry' i.e. deal with it, it's not my problem" I was getting from my wife an…
/r/askMRP19/09/16 01:47 PM
1

Well, I'm not bald. So at least I've got that going for me.
/r/askMRP18/09/16 10:15 PM
1

I don't care what idiots say and we don't need or seek TBP's approval for shit. TBP are clowns. The only thing to learn from clowns is how to be a clown. Fake texts are not gaslighting and this is MRP not TBP.
/r/askMRP18/09/16 01:34 AM
1

Gaslighting usually involves making someone not trust their own true memories. It's not a catchall for deception.
/r/askMRP18/09/16 01:13 AM
1

Gaslighting?
/r/askMRP18/09/16 12:07 AM
1

How does this omission harm the man beyond threatening his ego? If he was not happy about the sexual relationship with his wife he either failed to clearly communicate his expectations and confirm that they were compatible, or he failed to prioritize his own sexual satisfaction, or he's moving goal posts (which he's certainly entitled to do). The responsibility for moving goal posts falls on the person who moved them, though. None of these things can be considered the woman's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 10:42 PM
1

FWIW u/anythinginc pointed out recently that "MRP lite" would be this thing called Divorce Busting from the early '90's. I checked it out and that's true. It's actually by Michele Wiener-Davis who's more recently doing the "Sex Starved Marriage" stuff. Safer from a "brand" POV anyway. I'm not a fan of PM, so that's fine. I just can't understand what "don't do NMMNG" means. Does that mean do the opposite? Hide your emotions. Don't establish boundaries. Make covert contracts. I just don't understa…
/r/askMRP17/09/16 09:54 PM
1

If this happens it's fundamentally a fuckup by the man and responsibility is offloaded onto the woman. The title and framing is concentrated victimhood and DEER. It's degenerate sensationalist trash. The existence or nonexistence of the woman's sexual history is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 08:11 PM
0

I just don't understand why a man would marry a woman who was not attracted to them. Even a beta. But sure, people do stupid things. That doesn't explain the reverence for this emotion-driven puke by people who should know better. Rollo's analysis of the stories is weaksauce clickbait. I don't understand why this "saving the best" bullshit keeps being trotted out uncritically by MRP mentors who should be self-validated by now. It's such pointless misogynist trash. It's embarrassing. My thought a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 07:48 PM
2

No person worth having in your life would say that you should backtrack on NMMNG or WISNIFG. You need to be much more specific. This makes no sense. You were doing it wrong. Agreeing to not be a MRP rambo is a no-brainer. But that's not agreeing to cypher.
/r/askMRP17/09/16 07:40 PM
1

No I mean literally what does she want you to do? Step 1: ??? ...
/r/askMRP17/09/16 06:59 PM
1

WTF does "just drop redpill" even mean? to you? to your wife?
/r/askMRP17/09/16 06:32 PM
1

I think I maybe see what part of the "saving the best" stories you don't identify. You see this as the man coming to the woman with some thing that's novel to the relationship (but not novel to her) and wants to incorporate it. The situation I'm asking about is that he has expressed a desire to try something, but she has declared it off limits as something she will never do. Perhaps as ASD or image control or whatever she's hid past experience with it. So things had been resolved. IMHO it's the …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:09 PM
1

Yikes! That's... a pretty descriptive phrase. I morbidly almost want to ask my wife to try that to see what she comes up with. Almost. Sorry about your db. They suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 03:09 AM
0

That's a good point. But I don't think the starfish as complained about elsewhere is always (or even typically) that completely unresponsive limp sleeping beauty/necro type. It includes what might be better described as purely reactive or not inspired. Not participating but not at the level of undermining or faking sleep. I'm thinking more the cases where the man complains that she having sex, but lacks desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:35 AM
1

I think the answers here are confirming my opinion before I posted. That the blame in these situations falls on the husband for not establishing expectations and for allowing his standards to sag. All of that is independent of the woman's sexual history. The RPWi advice seems to be that the woman find a way to accommodate. But that's only because RPWi assumes the man is worthy. (Which is what I think you mean by the pawning part)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:30 AM
1

What do you mean about pawning it all off? I don't see how that relates to "saving the best"? Did you follow the link or just read my summary? The mods forced me to put a summary. I would have preferred only getting answers from people who know the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 01:54 AM
1

Yeah, I don't care that it doesn't come up. I would like to know what they would say if it came up, but whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 01:39 AM
1

Why are you posting here? Are you RPWi?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 01:35 AM
1

But it's obvious, right? What is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 01:03 AM
0

So what the fuck would you say if they came to you?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:59 AM
1

So answer it: what's the perspective of a RPWi on woman's and man's behavior in those stories?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:56 AM
0

I'm not going to find evidence of something that _wingnut_ already knows to be true. Maybe someone else will, but for me it's a distraction and I don't see the relevance.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:52 AM
1

She keeps saying that she can't figure out what I want to hear...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:46 AM
0

No, I'm not playing this stupid game. I've been in the conversations with them in MRP on previous accounts. It doesn't matter to this topic at all beyond the fact that _wingnut_ keeps side tracking to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:44 AM
1

No, I'm saying it's impossible to not have any opinion or perspective on the stories in "saving the best". If you were these woman what would you have done differently. etc You do understand that saying/proving that those women haven't shown up in RPWi... doesn't actually answer the question? Right? Proving that they haven't shown up is just tangent after tangent. I'm not accusing you women of being these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:41 AM
1

Well, golly gee. Being a long time merp I had no idea! Thanks for that. That clarifies the RPWi perspective on "saving the best". All I really wanted to know is what I already knew, donchakno. That's why I posted a question here, donchakno.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:37 AM
1

Isn't failure of a relationship a problem for both the man and the woman? What's wrong with trying to understand other perspectives?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:32 AM
0

Why are you trying to tell me what you think I want to hear rather than what you actually think? If I wanted to hear myself I'd meditate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:30 AM
1

Are you saying the end of the relationships in the "saving the best" stories are only problems for men? What's your point? Relationship failures are one-sided or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:23 AM
1

Look, pick one: a) These women don't exist b) We don't include these women in RPWi
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:15 AM
1

Ok, so how does a RPWi deal with not wanting to perform a sexual act she has done in the past? inb4 "we always do any and everything our husbands want because it's never been the case that a RPWi has not wanted to do any and everything our husbands wanted. it's not a situation that has ever come up!"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:12 AM
2

Nobody chooses a deadbedroom. I think you have a misunderstanding of what deadbedrooms are. Deadbedrooms are the loss of attraction situation. You could actually consider a HLM/LLF deadbedroom as being a "saving the best" situation where the husband was the previous partner himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:06 AM
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No it does not. If it were a matter of theory, there would at least be a theoretical answer. Instead of a discussion or links to resources it's all pathetic ASD.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:02 AM
1

Are you so unwilling to directly say what your mean? That the women in "saving the best" should just do what the husband wants? Why do you beat around the bush so damn much.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 12:00 AM
1

Oh give me a break. You send them to MRP and we read their earlier posts in RPWi and it's always "gee, we dunno" on your side.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 11:58 PM
2

So explain deadbedrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 11:51 PM
1

OK. So what about a gender reversed "saving the best"? If your husband refuses to perform a sex act you desire and you discover video of him enjoying that act with an ex? What's the RPWi response?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 11:38 PM
1

That's what I mean. You are unrepentant that you're unwilling to include those women. And you have no advice or perspective for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 11:30 PM
1

Maybe you can answer how you defend against your men having flings with sluttier women than yourself? Do you even care? Maybe it's a see no evil thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 11:20 PM
1

It's a pretty clear question. What material on RPWi addresses the situations and topics discussed in "saving the best". I couldn't find anything beyond slut-shaming and "don't be the person that gets caught". Which is what you are confirming. I was hoping y'all had some more depth and nuance. But it seems you are just a gated community.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 11:15 PM
1

I understand why you like to say that. But aren't you just denying that one of your fundamental mating strategies exists? How exactly is that RP principled?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 11:10 PM
1

Haha ok. So ultimately my questions revolve around the nature of desire, but it's not fully here. The skeleton of the paradox I'm currently working on is this: If you examine starfish the criticism is it lacks desire. But if you examine what that means in terms of behavior it means that it lacks aggression. Thus "desire" in that context is fundamentally aggressive. In a certain light starfish is extremely submissive. And supposedly unfeminine. So why the RP dislike of starfish? "Saving the best"…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 10:42 PM
1

Do you not get women who married prior to discovering RP? Nobody from deadbedrooms?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 10:22 PM
1

... what does RP have to do with RPWi? It's an ask for information. Didn't expect such defensive hostility.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 10:20 PM
2

So what advice do you give women coming off the CC? Is RPWi a tradcon crab bucket? RP per se does not necessitate tradcon behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 10:08 PM
1

Do deny that "saving the best" is even a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 10:05 PM
1

Married men want wifesluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 09:52 PM
1

Updated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 09:51 PM
1

Are you even familiar with RP theory? It a major tenet from Rollo. It's core sidebar material...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 09:34 PM
1

Sort of a ramble but: I'm really wracking my brain here but I cannot recall reading anything on RPWi along the lines of "be his slut". They must know that's what we want. Their advice is more along the lines of "make yourself available". Note that these two statements are not actually incompatible, but there's a nuance. So... that leads to the following: Do we fall back on dread because we just don't have the balls to demand sluttyness? Is this all a madonna/whore artifact that we're solving via…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 08:52 PM
1

Does anyone have links to RPWi discussions/perspectives relevant to "saving-the-best"?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 08:00 PM
2

I got called a faggot? am I haz the alpha now? You're surprised you've created a Faggot Cult?! Own it, faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 03:14 PM
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