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| 3 | Guys 5'4 and below who get laid without a social circle, how do you do it?It's OK and typical to lose your nerve. But you should be creating a habit to talk to everyone, men and women. Finding wing men to support you is always a plus. And it's not easy to find good wingmen, you sort of have to do it same as finding a girlfriend . Just talk to lots of men. I've also found wingmen here on Reddit before but it's incredibly rare. I've picked up plenty of men at the bar, ie got their digits and made plans to hang out. Way easier than women lol. But men can help build a fri… | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 05:02 AM |
| 2 | Guys 5'4 and below who get laid without a social circle, how do you do it?I'm way too out of the game to give you advice about online dating. What is going to distinguish you from every other online chud is to approach, approach, approach offline. A lot of men out there are too shy, timid, whatever to approach offline. If you can learn to not be like them, to the victor go the spoils. | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 03:22 AM |
| 14 | Guys 5'4 and below who get laid without a social circle, how do you do it?Get the fuck out of your comfort zone. Adapt or die. Learn to find new interests if your old interests aren't helping your life. Learn to love and cherish more people, including "normies", and that means lowering some ridiculous standard that you're only aiming for some unicorn 10 out of 10. | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 10:19 PM |
| 40 | Guys 5'4 and below who get laid without a social circle, how do you do it?Getting male friends is the easier task. Go to some bar and just starting talking to men. If you can't do this you'll never pull it off with women. Or join a sports club. Meet people there and befriend them. Put yourself out there. Propose plans. Get rejected. Or succeed. Or find some passion project. Maybe it's art or politics or charity. None of this is easy especially if you have significant social anxiety. Simple fact is, adapt or die. Embrace the fact that you will get rejected. embrace the… | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 08:36 PM |
| 167 | Guys 5'4 and below who get laid without a social circle, how do you do it?10 years out of the game. 5'4". All of the typical advice helps. Go out. Do solo. Get good wingmen. Join clubs. Join sports clubs. Tailor your dating profile. Get the help from your friends that are girls. Have female friends. Have male friends. Embrace rejection as an inevitability for success. Be confident. Be honest with women that you are a sexual being. Get the fuck out there every goddamn weekend. Be funny. Be rich. be fun to be around. Or be reliable. Be her rock. Work out. You can't grow… | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 08:14 PM |
| 1 | How much the game changes for short guys, when they gain muscles?Women always appreciate a man that can lift her up and carry her to a bed. that's why you don't skip legs and back. | /r/seduction | 22/11/25 08:15 AM |
| 5 | Benefits of being a short manShort men also live longer lives. Plenty of pros and cons. | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 07:32 AM |
| 1 | what is the ideal physique for attracting women?Blue eyes 6 5 finance trust fund https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOc74ATrR6g | /r/seduction | 15/02/25 04:34 PM |
| 0 | Why Meeting Women in Real Life Makes You UnstoppableHave you tried a dating coach or one of those pick up seminars? Have you tried finding a group of pick up artists? Have you tried finding some good wingmen? Have you read any alternative pickup lit than just Models? If you're literally considering suicide, there's a lot more you can be doing to improve your game first. One thing is that pickup is way easier when you're having fun. Go out with some good wingmen who know what the fuck they're doing. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:58 PM |
| 0 | The Brutal Truth About Approaching Women Nobody Wants to HearAnd no woman has ever shown any sexual interest in you? I find that surprising, you sound pretty hot to me! No any interest even from ladies at your church?? No interest ever in your entire life? What explicitly do you want? I have never seen a random girl and had been attracted to her. Attraction comes rarely to me, and only towards very close friends. In my uninformed opinion perhaps your standards are just way too high? You want an extreme level of comfort established before you can consider … | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 12:41 AM |
| 0 | The Brutal Truth About Approaching Women Nobody Wants to HearThat's one problem, if you want something more sexual you need to communicate something more sexual and not platonic. I'm getting mixed messages from you right now, I don't understand what you want for example. I have asked out hundreds of girls You weren't sexually attracted to any of these people? What is your standard of attraction? Do you want a beautiful woman? If not, what do you want? and at 27, nearly everyone is married and I likely missed my chance. You are plenty young. I met my spous… | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 12:06 AM |
| 0 | The Brutal Truth About Approaching Women Nobody Wants to HearUnfortunately I'm not you. It sounds like you're satisfied then with platonic friendship? Just go out and obtain that desire. I've used Reddit to find friends. Or I've just gone to the bar and chatted up strangers. Or I can just knock on the door of my neighbor with a gift of beer, or cookies, or whatever. It's normal to be scared to do these things. How will they react? What if they think I'm disgusting, unlikeable, etc etc? Well that's their problem. They can politely decline and you can move … | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 11:08 PM |
| 12 | The Brutal Truth About Approaching Women Nobody Wants to HearMeh compete or be forever alone. It's your choice. Take control of your self. Or be forever driven by your anxieties. If it was just about genuine connection where's all your male friends? Which, by the way you should be going out to meet too. If you can't pick up male friends , I'm being serious here, no chance in hell you can pick up a woman. But you're also driven by sexual desire. There's nothing wrong with that. But be honest with yourself, and the women that you meet, that you have sexual … | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 03:54 PM |
| 13 | Why will women suddenly turn their backs on you?Small correction. It's not female nature. It's human nature. Let's not pretend men don't do the same damn things on a whim. Maybe I caught a whiff of a smell I don't like. Maybe she said something I didn't like to hear. The reason is simple. He or she just wasn't attractive enough. The attraction hung on a knife edge and then you did something that went over the edge. | /r/seduction | 02/06/24 09:58 PM |
| 1 | I’m so alone (and horny)Force yourself to go out and about every weekend at least. Get some hobbies outside of work. my hectic work life Life is about tradeoffs. If your work is forcing you to do 60 hour weeks, well, they're not really forcing you. You can always quit. You can always request reduced hours and accept the consequences that come out of that. If you're running out of time to meet girls, the solution is obvious. Make more time by making some tradeoffs in your life. There is much overinformation on this sub … | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 06:42 PM |
| 17 | I’m so alone (and horny)Fake it till you make it. | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 06:36 PM |
| 4 | What I noticed about men that have a hot girlfriend.That's not a valid excuse and a bad metaphor. You're not missing a leg. You have all the mental faculties that extroverts have. Your personality inclinations ARE NOT your "true self". You create your true self. If you are bad at something, like many things in life you need more practice. You're not disabled, so don't pretend that you are. You can practice talking to people. The only thing stopping you is some irrational fear. | /r/seduction | 05/09/23 10:36 PM |
| 134 | What I noticed about men that have a hot girlfriend.This and obvious. MAKE MORE FRIENDS. You're not going to get a girlfriend if you can't even get a man friend. And also get female friends that are friends first. An ideal man has many friends. An ideal man is out going out with his friends of all sorts. This works in multiple ways. First, people you meet have friends who you can meet. Second, people you meet want to hang out and will massively help your night game. They provide moral support and social proof. They make game more fun. | /r/seduction | 05/09/23 10:29 PM |
| 7 | Do not give a person power over youMake fair, mutually beneficial arrangements. Treat the relationship as a partnership. Mutual respect. Stand up for your beliefs and your ethics and what you think is right vs wrong. Be generous on your terms. | /r/seduction | 18/07/23 05:17 AM |
| 3 | Sexual breakthrough for menIn high school and college I looked like I was in middle school. I've always looked young for my age. My choice of employment, engineering, means little to no interaction with women. So I worked on what I thought were my deficiencies. Get the courage to talk to strangers. Try to create a more mature looking body. I think working out helped a lot. Many women I've been with love to mention my body. I also don't think of it as a shallow pursuit. Being stronger isn't merely skin deep. There are posi… | /r/seduction | 30/10/22 09:26 PM |
| 14 | Sexual breakthrough for menThe typical stuff. Go to the gym. Get a bigger chest, bigger back, bigger neck, thunder thighs. Make more friends both male and female. Go out and have fun. Get a crew of wingmen. Find your interests. Find your passions. Develop an abundance mentality. Be accustomed and accepting of rejection. Be a good guy, not a nice guy. Put effort into what you want. Don't expect anything to fall in your lap like a fairy tale. Use a multipronged strategy. Use online dating and cold approaching and expand you… | /r/seduction | 30/10/22 05:42 PM |
| 9 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveMeh what isn't "superficial"? Your looks, your personality, the money you make, your class, your height, are all intrinsic parts of yourself that have led to great consequences throughout your life. A lot of this shit you didn't earn on your own merits, you won the genetic lottery. And the rest of the stuff you earned, a lot of that is oftentimes considered "superficial" too. Lots of men and women work very fucking hard to look good. They spend hours at the gym. They train. They master putting o… | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Why are redditors so against and negative about approaching women?Says who? Some dumbass on Twitter? | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 07:11 PM |
| 28 | Why are redditors so against and negative about approaching women?Uh that sounds like cold approaching to me. | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 04:50 PM |
| 2 | What’s the missing ingredient that holds a lot of guys back from really connecting with women?Your problem is that you think rejection is a bad thing. Rejection is a good thing. Rejection doesn't materially hurt you in any way. Every rejection is an opportunity to learn and grow. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 07:34 PM |
| 2 | What’s the missing ingredient that holds a lot of guys back from really connecting with women?Meh if a man has the balls to do 100 approaches a month, his win rate is going to get a lot better than just 1%. The problem I see is that the vast majority of men are unable to do it, because of their FEAR. Instead you're going to go to the bar and because you're scared, you're going to sip on your drink and approach nobody like a sap. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Man changed name on his CV to a female name and got 870% more responses for an interview.Source2 analyzes a single name change from Erin to Mac.... I didn't even realize that Erin was a female name. I don't have a bone in this fight but at least Source2 is less compelling than OP's anecdote. Source1 is an HR company. Definitely a biased source. | /r/MensRights | 13/07/22 06:51 AM |
| 1 | I am going to try to flirt with college age girls as a slightly older man. I was unsuccessful in my 20’s, am now 35, and would like to accomplish things now. What do I do?Fear is a natural response. You're obviously a beginner so I would advise you to browse the numerous resources on the side bar. Your fear will be reduced when you train something into a habit. | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 05:01 PM |
| 2 | I am going to try to flirt with college age girls as a slightly older man. I was unsuccessful in my 20’s, am now 35, and would like to accomplish things now. What do I do?The funny thing is this could actually work. Way better success/failure ratio than sitting at home jacking off. Also you get some exercise while you're at it. 2 birds 1 stone yada yada. | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 04:58 PM |
| 2 | How To Be Good In Bed (4 Key Tips)Unfortunately I can't give you any good advice about that. However, I was listening to some podcast and they brought up a book about changing your habits: https://www.tinyhabits.com/book The gist is, to change a habit, you need to perform the habit and then give yourself immediate feedback, like telling yourself "Nice job!". Immediate feedback is key to reinforcing some sort of reward pathway in your brain. Anyways maybe this book will be interesting for you and your goals. | /r/seduction | 11/02/20 11:24 PM |
| 3 | How To Be Good In Bed (4 Key Tips)Here's my opinions: Be physically attractive. Work out, have a good physique. Study after study shows that men really care about looks. Online dating. If you have good photos you're going to be bombarded. You need a good filter system to select out "the best". Also consider a wild card selection from time-to-time. Finding a man in-real-life that you desire -- Go to clubs, political clubs, sports clubs, the gym, parties, etc. Strike up a conversation. If the man is interested he's going to pursue… | /r/seduction | 11/02/20 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach levels the playing field.If your hair is worrying you that much just shave it all off. Problem solved. Hit the gym, get a barrel chest/arms/back and a huge neck. Get big. Ugly buff men are attractive. | /r/seduction | 06/02/20 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Did I miss my opportunity with a 9?Probably should read the side bar. Long story short, be interesting, hit the gym, and take every shot. Way harder to do than say. When you're pining about a missed opportunity you're doing it wrong. Create your opportunities. Create so many opportunities you'll never have to reminisce about missed shots again. | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 06:58 AM |
| 1 | Did I miss my opportunity with a 9?Yep. You miss every shot you don't take. | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 06:44 AM |
| 2 | How to get with a girl in my social circle/class ?Seduction is 95% basics, 5% strategy. The simple strategy is just ask her out to do something fun/cool. This is easy to do if you have your basics in order. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Really?"Status". "Attractiveness". They are all measures of overall excellence. Funny men are high status because they have wit, intelligence, and communication skills. | /r/seduction | 14/06/19 03:53 PM |
| 1 | A borderline suicidal incel's sad rantMaybe you can ask some of your female and male friends to look over your online conversations give you some feedback. This requires some openness to admit some of your weaknesses, but in my opinion it could be worth it. Moreover, admitting to people your weaknesses has a tendency to make them like your more too, because they value that kind of honesty and earnestness. Asking male and female friends to help me out has given me lots of success. One of the best ways to get me successfully performin… | /r/seduction | 24/02/19 07:18 AM |
| 1 | A borderline suicidal incel's sad rantAs other people have said your biggest problem is your inability to handle rejection. Just like anything else in the world this is something you can improve. Go out to the world and start getting rejected. Ask for things, get rejected, thank the person for the rejection, and move on. That's the best way to conquer your fear. Expose yourself to your fears and learn to cope with it. Moreover I advise you to get back into online dating. Something around of 80% of modern couples found their partner … | /r/seduction | 24/02/19 02:09 AM |
| 6 | Tips on soloing bars and clubs?Be honest. You're new in town and you're: Looking for new male friends. Looking for new female friends. Go hit those clubs/bars solo, introduce yourself, tell them you're new in town. From there on you can use the other advice you see around here. Being new in town is actually a great opportunity, and great excuse to get out there. It's always nice to establish a new friend circle. Do that in conjunction with your pickup activities. | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 05:14 PM |
| 27 | The Real Reason Most Guys Don't Succeed With Women (and what you can do about it)IMO it gets better. A man's 30's are his prime. I don't think it's a bad thing to have focused on school or fitness in your 20's. Those are all great habits that will help you right now. Start "seduction" right now and you won't have regret. My anecdote: I really amped up my game last year, early 30's, did the cold approaches and online dating, and it's all worked out. It took about 4 months of cold approaches and online dating to get a LTR. A huge help was finding some good wingmen, and some go… | /r/seduction | 05/11/18 11:56 PM |
| 1 | How often do you guys get rejected on an approach percentage wiseI'd say I have a 90%+ rejection rate. On the other hand, that's 1 number or date for every 10-20 approaches. That means you can reliably get a date every weekend. A rejection only takes 5 minutes of your time. No reason not to do it. | /r/seduction | 22/08/18 04:38 PM |
| 5 | 12 Irresistible Bad Boy Traits Women CraveNope, the point of the book was that genes are selfish, not necessarily humans... For example an altruistic gene would select for itself as well as kin that share that gene. Moreover the book goes over strategic advantages of altruism, reciprocity and cooperation. It also talks about how different strategies exist together in balance. Too many assholes is unstable. Too many pushovers is instable. | /r/seduction | 20/08/18 12:50 AM |
| 2 | 💀How To Kill Approach Anxiety & Get More Sexy Women In Your Life💀Fear of success is the same thing, different excuse. Everyone will have a different rationalization why they shouldn't approach. The only way to get rid of any fear is to expose yourself to it again and again until you are acclimated. Well then the solution is obvious. Approach again and again until you no longer fear success. | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 04:31 AM |
| 5 | Are women interested in LTRs anymore?Dude go join a church. If you want tons of girls who want LTRs. Also, every woman I know wants a LTR. | /r/seduction | 28/04/18 05:24 PM |
| 1 | I wanna hookup but not sure how [scenario]Mmm I'm personally not a big date planner. She like bars? Just ask her if she wants to hang out at XXX hole in the wall. Or coffee. Or whatever. If she likes you she'll say yes or or respond very positively. If you've been "friend zoned" there's a good chance "she's busy". In that case you need to move on. There's nothing wrong with being just friends, but go look for romantic interests else where. There's plenty of girls in the world, and the more reliant and needy you are towards only one, the… | /r/seduction | 30/12/17 08:39 AM |
| 3 | I wanna hookup but not sure how [scenario]Just ask her out if you're interested. None of us here are mind readers, but you definitely will miss all the shots you don't take. If she's not interested have you really lost anything? Nope. | /r/seduction | 29/12/17 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Mall approachesSome rule of thumbs you'll see around here. Guys who only approach perfect 10's are also called virgins. Would you have sex with her? Yes? Then you need to approach her. The perfect time to approach is right now. The very moment you see a woman you'd like to fuck, you need to go talk to her. And if you've missed that moment, the second best time to approach is now. The longer you dawdle, the harder it is, especially for newbies. See an attractive woman? Go right for her, as soon as possible. Rea… | /r/seduction | 27/12/17 11:30 PM |
| 6 | Mall approachesAlso I'm personal a big fan of "rejection therapy" - going around and just getting rejected. I have a lot of approach anxiety. The first couple times I went out for "day game" I did absolutely nothing because I was filled with fear. Unfortunately the way to get rid of fear is to expose yourself to that fear. IMO the best crutch is to get friends or like-minded allies (you know, like wingmen) to encourage you to approach and exert social pressure. Unfortunately it's not an easy task to find peopl… | /r/seduction | 27/12/17 11:10 PM |
| 4 | Mall approachesWhat do you have to lose? Absolutely nothing. Go approach. | /r/seduction | 27/12/17 10:50 PM |
| 3 | Why does society condition men to be beta males instead of alpha males?Because your post is slightly bent towards blaming feminism for our world's problems. Come on. Most modern feminism is merely women acting as a self interested voting block, as is their right. Society throughout the ages has used various hierarchies to oppress men. I also prefer Western "feminized" society to say, the fucking Middle East. | /r/seduction | 25/12/17 07:01 PM |
| 7 | Why does society condition men to be beta males instead of alpha males?And you prefer the good old days when men ruled the country and were more than happy to send your ass to the front lines to get mowed down by machine gun fire? Times have fucking changed. Women are in the workforce so standards have changed, including seeing women as co-workers rather than just sexual objects. As with any era, the men, and women, who learn to adapt to the challenges of the times win out. It's not like sex and dating were magically so much easier in "the good old days". Real alph… | /r/seduction | 25/12/17 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How Your Mind Tricks You into Not Approaching and Procrastinate MassivelyFuck that. Lots of men will never get any "clear signs" except for a top echelon of extremely physically attractive men. The choice for the rest of us is to be forever alone, or to approach women that aren't giving clear indicators of interest. Or wait forever for that 0.01% of women that will give you that clear sign. | /r/seduction | 22/12/17 08:53 PM |
| 15 | Has anyone done the Neil Strauss 30 Day ChallegeYou need to understand that you need to fail. You need to accept rejection. You need to be rejected. Go out and ask for a rejection, as simple as "hello. I think you're cute. can I get your phone number?" And get rejected. Push the boundaries by asking women for phone numbers, for dates, asking them for something, and accepting their no. Get rejected again and again. Embrace it. Because you actually won't be. Because 1 out of 10 rejections is actually a yes and a date. Learn this skill and you w… | /r/seduction | 17/12/17 09:20 PM |
| 1 | I did read this interesting comment online. I never had a gf (M/20) and this comment is frightening me that I’m going to experience the same thing? any ideas to calm myself down?Don't expect women to reciprocate interest. Just assume they're interested. Lots of women won't ever show you their interest even when they are. You can test their interest easily by things like: Moving to a different location - "Want to check out X bar?" "Want to check out my Y at my place?" Explicitly asking her out - "Want to go out to Y some time?" And if you fuck it up, well, you need to learn to handle failure because you're going to fail a lot. Just go ahead and fail. Go ahead and fuck it… | /r/seduction | 06/12/17 12:05 AM |
| 1 | logistics question: What's the best time for dates?Mm thanks for the advice gonna employ it tomorrow! | /r/seduction | 30/11/17 07:04 PM |
| 3 | Evolution and History of PUA/GameConsidering that most pickup "research" has little to no scientific backing and is almost all bro science, and even worse, a social science.... Well it's bro social science. Probably the least rigorous field in the world. The one true law of seduction is that you miss every shot you don't take (hell even this line isn't always true). Everything else IMO will vary from person to person, culture to culture, dependent on context and social setting. | /r/seduction | 28/11/17 12:07 PM |
| 2 | Mentally masturbating so much right now.The problem is no amount of videos or rationalizations will help you overcome your irrational fear. There are baby steps: Like minded friends, PUA's, and coaches that can exert social pressure on you to approach. Challenges like asking for the time. Go around and ask strangers for the time. Favor challenges. Go around and ask random people for ridiculous favors. Get rejected and thank them for their time. Anyways I don't like relying on some nebulous 'will power' or 'balls of steel' to get resul… | /r/seduction | 28/11/17 11:56 AM |
| 1 | How are you supposed to have an "interesting life" when you have to work and go to school full time?Just saying working full time and getting a STEM major are attractive qualities. Just tell girls the truth and they'll totally understand. You're already living an interesting life. Pursuing a degree means you have drive and potential. Girls like potential. | /r/seduction | 27/11/17 08:21 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome approach anxiety?Best cures IMO Good wingmen that can exert social pressure on you to perform. Athletes do better with coaches. Bodybuilders do better with spotters. You'll do better with people that can help push you towards your goal. Outcome independence. Just go and get rejected. Expect the rejection and take it and be thankful for it. Thank the girl for rejecting you. You're going to be getting rejected a lot. You need to be comfortable with it. You need to be comfortable with failure. There's a very good c… | /r/seduction | 21/11/17 10:40 PM |
| 5 | You are losing the game by playing hard.This is what you miss.His advice isn't for you IMO. You need to be escalating and closing the deal. Ask for women's numbers, as soon as you can, and set up a date. | /r/seduction | 15/11/17 07:58 PM |
| 1 | REJECTION THERAPY. It fucking works. 5 years of approach anxiety and rejection therapy is the only thing that has made a difference.I don't see myself as a million dollars. That's why this rejection thing works for me. It's a pessimist's method of playing the numbers game. The other thing that has helped me tremendously, that I didn't mention, is getting a group of like minded people together to approach. Social pressure also does wonders in encouraging you to talk to women. | /r/seduction | 15/11/17 04:20 AM |
| 16 | REJECTION THERAPY. It fucking works. 5 years of approach anxiety and rejection therapy is the only thing that has made a difference.All of those things you mentioned are indicators of rejection in my opinion. They are all nonverbal ways of expressing rejection. | /r/seduction | 05/11/17 10:39 PM |
| 25 | REJECTION THERAPY. It fucking works. 5 years of approach anxiety and rejection therapy is the only thing that has made a difference.Because for me the fear of rejection gets in the way of approaching and escalating. Going straight to the rejection skips the parts I don't fear and goes straight to the part I do. I'm just trying to cure my greatest weakness in the whole seduction process. I'm also following the method this guy used to cure his personal approach anxiety in that show I mentioned, invisibila. This guy also had the exact same problem I had but even worse. He solved his anxiety by approaching everyone to get reject… | /r/seduction | 05/11/17 07:27 PM |
| 52 | Where to take girls if I don't have anything exciting going on?Bars for a drink Get some coffee Go to a new/trendy/tasty restaurant. Go to the mall. Why not. Museums. Picnic at your favorite park | /r/seduction | 02/10/17 09:39 PM |
| 1 | What To Do Next"Hey want to go get dinner together sometime"? "Hey wanna go grab some food"? | /r/seduction | 09/09/17 02:39 AM |
| 1 | What a mess! An absolute mind ****!! Help?Search for keyword "oneitis". | /r/seduction | 05/09/17 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Aesthetics - Should we train to be bulky or lean?Interesting that's a normal BMI but great body fat %. | /r/seduction | 24/08/17 05:31 AM |
| 2 | The Feminine Conundrum: Why Do Women Contradict Themselves So Much?lol like men don't contradict themselves so much? See uber "alpha-male" Donald Trump. | /r/seduction | 13/08/17 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Weekday night game?Yeah I guess I don't have any excuses. Just dragging my feet. | /r/seduction | 26/01/17 06:34 AM |
| 3 | Stop looking away from hot girlsFallacy fallacy. | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Stop looking away from hot girlsProbably because I'm being a killjoy. | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 12:06 AM |
| 5 | Stop looking away from hot girlsFair enough. Does Sarkeesian take it further by equating the male gaze to the act of rape itself? | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Stop looking away from hot girlsTIL that a Mennonite Christian college represents feminism. | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 09:14 PM |
| -33 | Stop looking away from hot girls... can you name a single popular feminist writer that believes that? | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Does Lifting Weights Help You Get Girls?Being overly buff is also a turn on to a lot of other girls... | /r/seduction | 04/02/16 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Any newbs in Houston want to team up?TBH day game scares the shit out of me but I'm going to try to do it more in the future. For me, the biggest thing to get over is potentially embarrassing yourself out in public. As for cool spots to do it, Menil Park? bookstores, coffee shops, etc. I'm down if you need a bro to hang out with in the park or by the pool. | /r/seduction | 13/05/15 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Any newbs in Houston want to team up?I like those clubs like Barbarella, red door, etc, bars near notsuoh, Montrose area too. | /r/seduction | 13/05/15 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Made a quick "cheat sheet" describing many of the principles of seduction I've found over the past few months!Don't ask stupid questions. Assume an answer from intuition and point it out to her. | /r/seduction | 13/05/15 01:51 AM |
| 21 | Made a quick "cheat sheet" describing many of the principles of seduction I've found over the past few months!I love it so much I printed it. | /r/seduction | 12/05/15 11:04 PM |
| 39 | I'm fed up of being the guy people only go to for help/if they need something. Help me be the guy people want to be around.High school can really suck. Some people's high point of their lives will be at high school. For others, it will be their worst experience. Anyways, a good way to make friends is to join some extracurricular clubs. Just go sign up for whatever remotely interests you (they're also great for college apps). Band, orchestra, sports, art, math-club, whatever. Any excuse to hang out with your peers is a great way to meet new people and make new friends. If you want to put yourself out there, don't be … | /r/seduction | 16/06/14 05:24 AM |
| 3 | Vice.com a day in the life of a PUA. Article is brutalShitty article. Three guy obviously goes in with a closed mind with no intention of casting this group in a good light. yawn, another Shitty article to reaffirm preconceptions | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 08:38 AM |
| 1 | The purpose of some techniques is to NOT work.So what do you do if you're not looking for one night stands but for longer term relationships? | /r/seduction | 03/07/12 04:45 AM |
| 22 | Zarathustra (Nietzsche) on Chasing vs. AttractingNow Nietzsche may be a fine philosopher, but he got friendzoned pretty bad (by two women, Cosima Wagner and Lou Salome whom he proposed marriage and got rejected) and was probably a forever-aloner. Nietzsche may be brilliant, but he definitely wouldn't have written his works if he was out fucking girls all night. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 11:46 PM |
| 16 | Girls always assume I date multiple girls at the same time...Are the girls correct in this assumption? | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 07:44 PM |
| 6 | Researchers say tactics found in pickup manuals like "The Game" help male and female misogynists find each other.I've read the paper and it's not like Salon. Any good researcher realizes their studies' limitations, as does this one. All terminology is very clearly defined. Unfortunately I don't have a link for you. The original link was unfortunately taken down but I did write a summary: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/klasz/interesting_study_on_the_games_sexual_strategies/c2l66jh | /r/seduction | 09/12/11 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Researchers say tactics found in pickup manuals like "The Game" help male and female misogynists find each other.What the fuck are you talking about? The researchers developed a poll to test for 3 particular strategies as advocated by a particular pickup artist called Mystery. The researchers found that women who were sexist (as in conformed to typical gender roles) were far more receptive to Mystery's tactics by their own admission. Notably, the paper only analyzes 3 particular tactics as advocated by Mystery. That is the paper's fucking scope. They say nothing about other tactics. | /r/seduction | 09/12/11 06:40 PM |
| 8 | Researchers say tactics found in pickup manuals like "The Game" help male and female misogynists find each other.I read the paper which was posted to seduction months ago. As every good researcher does, they clearly define exactly what they mean by misogyny and sexism. What you're reading is the filtered bullshit from a middle man information source known as salon.com. The methedology is explored fully in the paper, as are the limitations of the research. | /r/seduction | 09/12/11 06:18 PM |
| 8 | Why you don't need a social life to fuck hot girls.Conclusion: Be a douchebag. | /r/seduction | 09/12/11 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Ever feel self conscious about your looks? When I do, I look at this guy.OP. You have no idea what a truly unattractive man is. Typical "western male attractiveness" is well defined: V-shaped, muscular body. Tall. "Masculine" face - square, defined jaw. Notice what I didn't say. "Pretty", "symmetrical" faces. That doesn't fucking matter at all. If you don't think physical appearances of men don't matter, you don't know what you're talking about. Appearances matter, a lot. Johnny Knoxville is incredibly sexy because he fits the bill of all traditional markers of attra… | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Topic of discussion for you Advanced PUA's out there.If you have the stamina and ability to hit on 50 girls a night and go home with one, that's already excellent progress. For me, a girl will give me the "eye" perhaps once every month of going out, if I'm lucky. And then after giving me the look, I have to still to the approach and not bomb out. But now I'm green as shit because I'm not approaching girls (and thus out of practice); I'm going to look like an idiot and bomb with the girl. Even assuming I have 100% success rate with the girl that "g… | /r/seduction | 20/10/11 01:29 AM |
| 6 | Topic of discussion for you Advanced PUA's out there.If I waited for the woman to do the green light every time I went to the bar, I would assuredly be forever alone. This little factoid changes absolutely nothing. The entire art of seduction is becoming the 10% of guys don't need some stupid signal to find a woman. | /r/seduction | 20/10/11 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Reality check - a little perspective.Just an amateur here, but where did you get those numbers? From some guru, or from experience? '' That seems very low if PU gurus can only pull 5% of approaches. Hell, I'd be happy as a larp with 2% success rate, but I'm no guru. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:37 AM |
| 1 | The importance of a going out with like-minded peopleIt seriously works much better. When I go out with friends, I can maybe do 1 or 2 approaches. However, my friends, they're great, but not-so-great for PU. They're too afraid to approach, and their anxiety transfers to my anxiety, especially since I'm a beginner. I have 1 other friend who is actually committed to game. I went out with him last weekend and we did 10 great approaches together. We motivated each other to push to our limits. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:32 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Community updates (October 16, 2011)Haha maybe I can help you out when I get my hands on photoshop tomorrow. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Help me improve my game! Point out my flaws, BE BRUTALTexting is weaksauce game. Typically I use texts/phone only to set up future meeting dates. Too much text and you come off as too needy. Keep her wanting more by not texting so much, and much more importantly, actually having things to do so you're busy with other things in your life. As far as being a social failure: in college, there are 2 things (among many) that matter: Be physically attractive. This means looks, clothes, gyms, etc. Be the man. This means you're the one inviting people out. … | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:21 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Community updates (October 16, 2011)Dude I love the new changes. Now slight criticism: the top banner seems a little ugly. But that aside I love all the new changes! A++! Awesome work. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:04 AM |
| 1 | ON GIVING VALUE: Why you're not being invited out to do cool thingsNo idea, but for example, where I live, Austin, TX, there are several pick-up lairs in town, none of which are affiliated or linked on Reddit. You can try using the SEDDIT LOCATOR on the sidebar with lackluster results. However, networking around also goes a long way to finding these kinds of groups, and is probably better suited towards developing PU skill sets. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:00 AM |
| 3 | ON GIVING VALUE: Why you're not being invited out to do cool thingsHere's my take: If you go out to the bars, and you're doing it right, even soloing, you can number close 1 or 2 guys. Yes. Number close guys. These will be your friends. Invite strangers who you think are cool, using the typical pickup strategies optimized for men, to get friends and get a crew. I'm not going to pretend I can do this every night. Unfortunately my state and inner game are quite fragile at these days and I can't handle much. But if you have a thicker skin than me, you can pull it … | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 04:06 AM |
| 1 | New Seddit Moderator!Thank you for taking up the responsibility for maintaining the community. I salute you good sir. | /r/seduction | 14/10/11 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Did the regulars/mods stop posting?Occasional field reports and insights whenever you have them? Answer some of the more advanced questions people have? | /r/seduction | 13/10/11 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Did the regulars/mods stop posting?Give back to what you have taken man. | /r/seduction | 13/10/11 04:06 AM |
| 115 | The quality of this subreddit is decreasingLet's all use those downvote buttons then. | /r/seduction | 01/10/11 05:37 PM |
| 3 | Interesting Study on The Game's Sexual StrategiesHere's a study on The Game that's a bit more rigorous than your typical Field Report. Synopsis: Game in the style of Neil Strauss and the Mystery Method with its 3 components: Compete Isolate Tease The study that the use of these strategies was highly correlated with both "Benevolent Sexism" and "Malevolent Sexism" in both the men that employed such strategies and women that were receptive to such strategies (self reported). Main point: There is a relationship between the kind of sexual strategi… | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 05:13 AM |
| 3 | I can game unattractive girls like a pro, but I fail when I try with hotties. I've realized it's mostly my approach that changes, not their reactions.I hit on 4 to 8. In all honesty I would never approach the 9's and 10's, out of fear and a feeling of futility. | /r/seduction | 17/09/11 07:48 PM |
| 2 | LTR Seduction for PUAsI agree with most of your points, but I also believe most people in r/seduction would agree with you as well. There are many components of PU that are egotistical, self-centered, borderline psychopath. This is not a coincidence. The unfortunate reality is that many women like these sort of behaviors. Many women want to be controlled and manipulated, and particularly seek out mates who do so. And unsurprisingly, male psychopaths and violent criminals frequently do much better with women than the … | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 06:34 PM |
| 1 | LTR Seduction for PUAsYes, this is bullshit that your post got deleted. We don't need a stupid, insular, inbred culture. We need outside opinions to keep us in check of reality. But I think you're still misrepresenting the majority views of this forum. But ultimately, PUA is a band aid over the gaping wound that is your ability to relate to others in social situations. You cannot fix a five inch gash in your emotional intelligence with a two inch strip of sticky sleaze tactics designed to hide who you are long enough… | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 03:54 PM |
| 1 | LTR Seduction for PUAsCriticism of game like this is easy deflect, because obviously: PU "Game" is not monolithic. Your criticism of one kind of tactic is easily deflected as there are many different kinds of tactics. Not all tactics are compatible with each other; like many things in the world, there are different "schools of thought". Criticizing PU in general is like criticizing hand-to-hand combat in general. It's sort of stupid. I'm sure you can find a particular style that just isn't as good as the others. I'm … | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 02:21 PM |
| 1 | ABG = Always Be GamingI dunno, gaming all the time doesn't seem very conducive to the workplace, where I spend 30% of my time... | /r/seduction | 25/08/11 10:53 PM |
| 3 | PUA Research - Mystery Method evaluation confirms sexist tendencies of men and womenI'd like to see the actual science of pickup expanded too. I applaud the research goals, though the writing of the article seems vacuous. | /r/seduction | 25/08/11 04:21 PM |
| 11 | Evaluate your gameSaved. Excellent post. | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 05:59 PM |
| 0 | Chasing women is like rolling boulders up hill. Chill the fuck out. (philosophic xpost)Except there is an end goal for many of us, the end goal of a marriage. | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Part of being a good guy friend. (crosspost)Yah interesting take. It's nice to have friends who challenge you rather than roll over for your every whim. Makes life more interesting, and makes you a better person. I guess this goes for women too. | /r/seduction | 19/08/11 03:49 AM |
| 2 | 4 years later, still no approaches...I don’t have friends, wingmen and my parents hate me, etc. I don’t mind that though, just letting you know. Yes, you do. Otherwise you wouldn't be mentioning it. If you can't even get a friend, how the fuck are you going to get a lover??? Baby steps man. Fuck pickup. You need to get a life. You need to find some friends. You are not connecting to anyone if you have no friends. | /r/seduction | 12/08/11 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Having problems dealing with "the friend"Question about switching attention to friend: what kind of attention? Kino and sexual interest attention? Teasing and banter and flirting? | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Seddit; I have a hair trigger on my erectile response. What can I do about it?Be proud of your boner man. As long as you're confident about it, a woman will love it. | /r/seduction | 27/07/11 07:18 PM |
| 16 | Adultfriendfinder / Craigslist's casual relationship section - Anyone used these?My friend used Craiglist to hook up with a fatty. Now he's a father. | /r/seduction | 27/07/11 07:16 PM |
| 1 | A Loser Learns Game, Gets The Girl, Loses The Girl, Reflects On Lessons LearnedYour analysis of Barack Obama is completely wrong, if you don't think he's a manipulator. He's one helluva fine manipulator. You don't survive politics in the windy city for being a chump. | /r/seduction | 27/07/11 05:00 PM |
| 1 | So anyone here care to explain why women or men do this?My female roommate is flying to Germany to be with her boyfriend for a week, even though she has already made up her mind that she wants to break up with him eventually. | /r/seduction | 26/07/11 08:16 PM |
| 2 | A neat idea (I think): a grading rubric for self-evaluation of seduction/PUA skillsI want to just type up some Python code to take care of the more mundane aspects. Oh yes and more flow charts. | /r/seduction | 25/07/11 08:00 AM |
| -2 | Regarding r/askseddit...Rules are made to be broken. So what if some mod unilaterally decided some stupid rule? The up/downvote is how Reddit decides if a post belongs or not. Use it accordingly. | /r/seduction | 25/07/11 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Deciphering body languagearm/leg crossing is usually a defensive position that expresses some sort of uncomfortableness. | /r/seduction | 21/07/11 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Asians in the US/UK...how bad is it, really?It's not bad. Women of all colors will love you, if you truly are the confident sex machine you are. As far as the demasculinization of Asian Americans, yes it exists. But this is less the fault of Whitey than Asian men who are too timid and afraid to do the basics - to kino, to neg, to ask girls out, and assert themselves. Much of the time Asian men just keep to themselves, rather than mingling with everyone else. For example, a bunch of my international Asian friends never go out drinking or p… | /r/seduction | 19/07/11 05:22 AM |
| 1 | a long thread of people criticizing seddit on redditThere many more people supporting seddit than against it. | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 08:30 PM |
| 2 | a long thread of people criticizing seddit on redditAcronyms are used to make conversation faster and easier. Do you give engineers and scientists shit for using acronyms? We use them not because we want to appear "cool" or "smart". We use acronyms because it's easier than typing the entire phrase over and over and over again. So the Pick-Up-Arts have various topics that come up again and again and again, because they are fundamentals: negs, HB-scale, kino, whatever. You want us to rewrite the definitions of these abbreviations every fucking time… | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 08:28 PM |
| 1 | a long thread of people criticizing seddit on redditPeacocking works. It doesn't even matter if the girl knows your peacocking. She'll come up to you to give you shit for it, and you now have a conversation. Boom. One of my friends has this exact technique. Sports a old fashioned hat and sunglasses at night. Girls will come up and say, "Why you wear sunglasses at night! Har har!" But now he gets a conversation. | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Cute girl thought I was gay, threw my whole night off...If a girl even questions if you are gay, it is a good sign. That means she's thinking about you, and who you are. That means she's interested. A girl won't ask a guy she doesn't like if he's gay or not. IMO, being asked if you're gay is an IOI. Next time a girl thinks you're gay, play it up, turn up the flamboyancy to 11, and do all the things gay guys can get away with doing with women. | /r/seduction | 17/07/11 05:50 PM |
| 3 | I finally come to terms with seduction.Why do you think it's so dishonest, that men are becoming more confident and attractive to the opposite sex? Is it dishonest because the "seductionist" is more aware of social interactions and the underlying politics of sex and attraction, and he exploits this awareness for his personal gain? A typical seduction strategy is to make sure the woman understands the relationship between you and her early on - sexualize interactions as quickly as possible. Make it clear you don't just "want to be fri… | /r/seduction | 16/07/11 02:29 AM |
| 1 | People keep asking me if I'm drunkActually I do sometimes get pretty red. But a lot of times people think I'm stoned too, which actually earns points with stoners. | /r/seduction | 12/07/11 04:46 PM |
| 1 | People keep asking me if I'm drunkBeen going at it ~8 months now. | /r/seduction | 12/07/11 01:40 PM |
| 2 | People keep asking me if I'm drunkYah that's what I'm afraid of - being seen as coarse and boorish rather than actually fun. | /r/seduction | 11/07/11 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Ideas to help you improveHey if you don't mind I'd like to ask a lifting question: So the general rule is, if you're looking to gain muscle mass and aesthetics, lift at ~ 3x10ish? (Which I guess is close to 4x12). If you're looking to gain strength, lift at 3x5ish? | /r/seduction | 11/07/11 10:40 PM |
| 3 | DAE perform better when alone rather than with a group?Yes, when I go solo I'm much more motivated. Going with 1 wingman is pretty nice too, once your wingman is up to a level where he is useful. | /r/seduction | 11/07/11 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Alcohol and gameI've only solo'd 5-6 times to bars/clubs in my life so far. There's been success and there's been failures, but the failures hurt a lot more than when you're with friends. After one particularly shitty solo night my drive to go alone is completely gone. Got rejected by everyone, guys and girls, like 10 times in a row or something. How many solos have you done in your life thusfar, to the point where you thought you got the "fundamentals"? | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 10:24 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Christian shit-testing all the way and I failed it all.Standing up for what you believe in sometimes includes disregarding and disrespecting the beliefs of others Disregard the belief, not the person. I don't respect Christianity, nor do I pretend to around Christians. Yet that doesn't stop me from respecting Christian people who are otherwise decent people, asides from their kooky religion. If you exclude entire groups of people from your life because of some random belief system, you give these people an excuse to despise you. After all, you despi… | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Alcohol and gameDo you go out solo a lot, with success? I've gotten sort of burned out on soloing - it's just not as fun as going out with someone else, and it's more difficult too. Less social proof. | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 06:04 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Christian shit-testing all the way and I failed it all.Christians don't give other Christians shit for going to Church. She can put 2 and 2 together man. You're being a huge, intolerant dick, and disrespecting her culture. Learn to respect other people's values and cultures. Otherwise, you'll just be another asshole who thinks he's better than everyone else, on the same vein natives give immigrants shit, on the same vein people are racist. | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 06:00 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Christian shit-testing all the way and I failed it all.Yes douche move, as well as giving atheism and the nonreligious a bad rap. Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Do tall guys have it easier?I can't speak for Erathos, but IMO: Automatic social proof. The ability to get a friend that balances out your weaknesses. The fact that you're so valuable that even tall guys want to be your friend. | /r/seduction | 04/07/11 05:58 PM |
| 3 | Vibing with AlphasShowing off my social skill to other guys has been one of the best ways to get men to want to be friends with me. After they see me effortlessly walk up to a woman to chat and take the usual rejection with confidence and without malice, they warm up to me really, really quick. Now, if I could only impress girls as much as I impress the guys at the bars... | /r/seduction | 02/07/11 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Short dudes: two schools of thought. What are your opinions? Ladies encouraged to comment too!Being short is a handicap (I'm 5'4"). Not everyone has become a master pickup artist. I've had some limited success with taller women myself, but a lot of the time women will tell me straight off that I'm too short for them. Probably half of that is due to my poor pickup skills, but shortness does give women an easy bitch test to throw at you. I think overcoming this bitch test is key. Any thoughts on how? | /r/seduction | 24/06/11 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Short dudes: two schools of thought. What are your opinions? Ladies encouraged to comment too!How so if I may ask? | /r/seduction | 23/06/11 11:30 PM |
| 2 | The two compliments that are most often used to describe me are "cute" and "nice".Does it matter? Yes. Are you screwed? No. I am a "cute" guy too like you. Classic nice guy. But there are still some PU lessons you can apply to your life that will give you results. Remember, none of this shit matters if you're too much of a pussy to make a move. I've made this mistake too many times in the past and I won't do it again. I don't know what stage of the "game" you're at right now, but it sounds like you're just starting out. If you are, just worry about the basics. Your appearance… | /r/seduction | 21/06/11 01:07 AM |
| 1 | The two compliments that are most often used to describe me are "cute" and "nice".It's because Justin Bieber will get more pussy than us all. | /r/seduction | 21/06/11 12:59 AM |
| 1 | [FR] I suck at reading body language. Also, the Long Winter has Ended.Yah I've been hitting the gym for around 6 months now. It definitely helps. Unfortunately, I'm trying to undo 10 years of pessimism. I've never been a very optimistic guy. | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 11:45 PM |
| 3 | (FR)15 rejections in a rowQuestion: Do you target bored women who are looking around and thus eventually catch your smile? How about sets that are engrossed in conversation? Do you ever try to penetrate those with a smile from a distance? | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 10:23 PM |
| 1 | (FR)15 rejections in a rowI was under the impression that that show was completely staged by reality TV star wannabes. The game is different for them, when you're self-aware of making good TV by creating drama and tension. Their goal isn't to become good at pickup. Their goal is to become famous. I don't trust anything that comes out of television anymore. Smells all like bullshit. Even if it is Mystery's show. | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 10:19 PM |
| 2 | [FR + Q?] First time trying to talk to women - also my first lap dance - also my first time on MDMA.MDMA is mostly harmless. No long term effects, a nice happy little experience. Moderation, obviously. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 03:26 PM |
| 1 | article on why girls hate each other, I'm interested in your thoughtsWell seeing as I've known them for 4-6 years, I haven't seen it yet. They're pretty low drama which makes for a great living situation. Their boyfriends are also pretty much exactly what you'd call AFC's around here, but I guess my roommates are jaded enough that, to quote one of them, "I don't go for the charming type anymore". I guess at their point in their lives, they just want a little commitment than the typical alpha male can give them. | /r/seduction | 06/06/11 09:34 PM |
| 1 | article on why girls hate each other, I'm interested in your thoughtsMy 2 roommates are pretty chill girls. They're best-friends and whatnot since grade school. I don't see no catfights goin on. Have they backstabbed me yet? Nope. Sometimes they'll cook and I can eat some of their food; life is good. They're also late bloomers. Apparently middle/highschool was never the most pleasant of places for them. They got attractive in college. | /r/seduction | 06/06/11 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Just Curious about you guysNerd and lonewolf. Regrets: Wasting time watching TV and playing video games. Some things in life are truly useless, such as prime time TV. | /r/seduction | 05/06/11 02:22 AM |
| 1 | [FR] 2011-06-01: First Lonewolf and a Seriously Trippy NightShe's walking dreamily along, stopping at every tree, placing her palm just above the bark for a few moments, then moving on to the next tree. Maybe she was tripping on shrooms or MDMA or something. | /r/seduction | 05/06/11 02:05 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Experimenting with "momentum", "not giving a fuck", and "going direct".Great FR. He DLVed us both, not sure if I should criticize him on this. You should, if he's your good friend. Let him in on technique you both shall reap the benefits. | /r/seduction | 03/06/11 09:12 PM |
| 14 | Why Seddit keeps preaching "Move on!" and the repercussions, from my experience, of not doing so.Yah... drinking when you're depressed is probably the dumbest fucking thing you can do. Alcohol obviously does not make you feel any better. That's not how the drug works. It's a depressant and it destroys short term memory. It makes you more rash because you literally cannot recall consequences anymore. Drinking when you're depressed will only make you more depressed. Don't ever do that again. You were not only a danger to yourself but to others. You've been incredibly fucking irresponsible; ge… | /r/seduction | 02/06/11 03:54 PM |
| 1 | You know what feeling I really hate, Seddit?Don't be a fucking fratboy. Not everyone loves fratboys, and poser fratboys are even worse. Whenever I am depressed, the key is to get the fuck out of the house. The more I sit around doing nothing, the more depressed I get (and the less I want to get out of the house). But get some willpower. Get out. Go to bars. Make some new friends. Get some numbers of guys and girls. Go running, go rock climbing, go kayaking, go arrange LAN parties, go out drinking, go meditate, go biking, get bigger and st… | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Making eye contact with people on TVSorry you're right I'm a little biased against movies (especially the Hollywood type). Oftentimes Hollywood movies are made to be shocking and emotionally manipulative, not realistic. For example, every romantic comedy and bro-movie and action flick made in the last 30 years. And that watching movies may give you unrealistic expectations on getting girls. To me, watching fake people with fake emotions in fake situations does not help you firmly grasp reality. It will not help you become a better… | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Bonding with 'bros'The only thing I can talk about with jocks is girls. Jocks probably get more action than the average guy and will thus have experience and interest in this area. | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 07:28 PM |
| 9 | Making eye contact with people on TVehhhh how bout instead of watching a movie just go out and do the real thing??? | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 07:22 PM |
| 1 | IAm about to profess my love to a friend of three yearsI smell a troll. Why the fuck would any sane man post this on r/seduction, of all the places on the internet?? | /r/seduction | 30/05/11 02:39 AM |
| 3 | [FRs] Fails good, man.Man I always feel bad for annoying sets that don't want me around. Imagine annoying guys/girls trying to talk to you constantly all night. I'd rather not be ruining people's nights and I hope that we aren't doing that when we all go crashing into sets. I feel like that sort of annoyingness is bad for my karma. But it's hard to distinguish the sets that are open to people and the sets that aren't... | /r/seduction | 30/05/11 01:47 AM |
| 2 | Why is self-confidence attractive to women?I'm a very shy and underconfident person too. And fortunately, nobody knows this but me. And IMO, advice like "Just act more confident" is bullshit. People don't just magically become confident. We become confident by becoming competent. It's natural for you to feel unconfident at things which you suck at. What's the solution? Get better at those things. Practice. If you don't like yourself, it's time to change yourself. Here are the tried and proven methods to confidence. Train your body. Lift … | /r/seduction | 27/05/11 08:58 PM |
| 5 | Need help: Going on a date with a nice, conservative girl.kino is an absolute MUST. http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Escalation%20Ladder%20-%20vindicarlo.com.pdf *Also Read the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 26/05/11 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Infield video of a Solid Direct daygame close. With annotations for advice. Enjoy :DIs the Austin pickup scene really big or is it just me?? | /r/seduction | 26/05/11 05:53 PM |
| 2 | My girlfriend isn't physically attracted to me. Any advice?You've already tried. It's time to let her make a decision. Leave her. If she truly loves you she'll come back. If she doesn't, why the fuck stay with her anyways? | /r/seduction | 24/05/11 04:31 PM |
| 7 | To the guy who posted that thread about token resistance, please read this.Being trans is being able to fully embrace your sexuality despite what society may think of you. Just like what we all strive for on seddit. | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 01:56 AM |
| 1 | The Book of Pook - This is completely changing my outlook on PU and life.Great post. Lots of interesting advice. A little misogynistic, but a very interesting viewpoint. | /r/seduction | 17/05/11 03:11 AM |
| 4 | Rejection Therapy (the game)God damn rejection sucks. I'm really terrible about handling it. But I'm gonna give this a try. | /r/seduction | 16/05/11 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Mystery speaks about IOIsIt sounded like to me he was just practicing his method... disqualified himself and negged the girl.... | /r/seduction | 16/05/11 05:35 AM |
| 2 | I need some game for picking up girls when I'm riding my bicycleNice so you actually have success riding around on the bike? I'll have to try this sometime. | /r/seduction | 13/05/11 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Just had a mental breakthrough.This is so true. As a pickup newb, one bitchy guy/girl can completely destroy my state. And unfortunately very, very unfriendly people are out there and they will piss you off. They completely ruin my night when I run into them because I can't control my sadness over rejection. I hope this is one of those things that you've learned to overcome through practice. | /r/seduction | 12/05/11 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Kino Escalation Guide by Mystery & LovedropYes, I'm new to the game and kino does work. Very well. Start with arm touches. Notice how your female friends touch you. Notice how your guy friends touch you. Hand touches are more intimate. Should touches are more intimidating. Elbow touches are relatively neutral and are a good one to start with. Or do a little "bump shoulders" with each other. Anyways try it out. Try it out on men, women, everyone. | /r/seduction | 12/05/11 04:39 AM |
| 1 | AFC to PUA MovieThe same hollywood tries to tell women that beauty is on the inside, all the while smearing ridiculous amounts of makeup on their cast and being overall probably one of the most superficial professions out there. | /r/seduction | 12/05/11 04:18 AM |
| 13 | A DC taxi driver said this to me this and I thought you guys might like itWhy would anyone want to be in a relationship where the both of you do not regard each other as equals? Such love inequalities will eventually break down into resentment. I sure as hell don't make guys my best friend whom I don't treat as equals. But you'd do the same for the only you'll fucking marry????? | /r/seduction | 11/05/11 11:47 PM |
| 4 | Calibration 101Great post. Very interesting model. | /r/seduction | 07/05/11 03:51 PM |
| 0 | Do you share the "seduction community" with your friends?It's pretty easy to convince your friends to go downtown, but they may not necessarily be very good wingmen. Out of my friends, I got one who I eventually trained to become a decent wingman (too bad he's on vacation now). But not all your friends share the same goals as you, so obviously not everyone is down for going clubbing or whatever all the time. But yah it doesn't hurt to ask at all. Your friends will be happy that you've invited them to go do something. | /r/seduction | 29/04/11 03:24 AM |
| 1 | What to do... what to do...Doesn't sound like she was attracted to you. Did you: DHV? kino & escalate? It sounds like she grew bored and, wanting attention, showed her tits off. At that point, I don't think there was much you could do anymore. She already made her decision about you. | /r/seduction | 28/04/11 08:13 PM |
| 6 | Do you share the "seduction community" with your friends?I've told all my friends. They don't really care. I think the world would be a better place if more nerds/geeks became better with women, overpowering the jocks in the eternal struggle for domination. As far as getting your friends involved, it's doubtful if they even want to commit to such self improvement. It took a long process of self-realization before I truly realized how horrible I was with women. Just like any other technique that requires training, telling people of its existence will n… | /r/seduction | 28/04/11 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Daygame at the beachI have a lot of daygame fear too. Something about being out in the open for everyone to see makes it much more intimidating for me. Unlike in a bar, where it is dark and loud, when you fail in the day, you fail for everyone to see. Yah these are my irrational fears. More tips on how to handle this would be appreciated!! | /r/seduction | 28/04/11 07:14 PM |
| 4 | [FR] Effortlessly attracting females! Gaming HB8 bartender one night, making out with HB6 in front of her the next.“Look, I really don’t like people touching me. The only people I let touch me are my family, boyfriends, and like, really close girl friends.” Classic friendzoned line. IMO: She sees value you in you, but feels no attraction. You give her free weed (she gives you free booze). You have obviously inspired her with your "wall". She'd be a good friend to have around, especially if you take new dates to her bar. And get free booze. Insta-DHV. I would continue the flirty-flirt but expect nothing out o… | /r/seduction | 28/04/11 07:04 PM |
| 0 | The Importance of TanningHaha nevermind then. Sounds like fun. | /r/seduction | 26/04/11 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Number-closing without building enough attractionMy friend who is a girl did exactly this shit the other day when we went out. She gave out her number to some random dude whom she was completely unattracted to, and now bitches to me that he's annoying her. In summary, build attraction, not phone directories. | /r/seduction | 26/04/11 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Approaching women when you're the one with a physical handicap?That was a beautiful response. | /r/seduction | 25/04/11 11:27 PM |
| 2 | The Importance of TanningThis seems like a waste of time IMO. Why don't you kill 2 birds with one stone by doing some nice physical activity while you tan? A good run/rowing/biking/volleyball/soccer/etc? Or fuck, go outside to read a book/pick up chicks. Or do some laps at the swimming pool. Or go to the beach. Anyone using a tanning machine smells like a phony to me. You're basically pretending to be more outdoorsy than you really are, for a skin color only the most shallow of women will even notice. Unlike like workin… | /r/seduction | 25/04/11 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Flashcards to help guys with their game, with direct openers, teases, role plays and cold reads to name a few.I agree. Canned materials are a tool. And it never hurts to add more tools to your inventory. | /r/seduction | 25/04/11 09:54 PM |
| 2 | This Changed My Game ForeverThe lord giveth karma, the lord taketh away karma. | /r/seduction | 25/04/11 09:44 PM |
| 13 | What's the best way to approach a girl on a dance floor?i have been doing a lot of dance approaches and here's what works for me. Get into your happy place. You're here to have fun. Start dancing. Catch the glimpse of some girl and give her a big smile. Dance a little with her (at a bit of a distance) and she will "invite" you in. Observe her body language. Never come from behind. No talking is required but you can if you want to. Don't ask her to dance. Tell her you're dancing with her. Her body language will signal rejection or acceptance. Kino esc… | /r/seduction | 24/04/11 07:28 PM |
| 1 | (I'm a girl) Heads up to all you shy guys!!The "everyone" you're talking about is literally less than 1% of r/seduction's population. To say we're "all" bending over backwards for her is not accurate at all. | /r/seduction | 24/04/11 07:23 PM |
| 8 | Has seddit ever considered doing an AMA with the rest of reddit?Yet nobody bitches about engineers or scientists using their respective jargon? Face it, jargon is useful. Much easier to say HB7 than "that cute girl that I really liked and would like to approach". Much easier to say FR than "Report from me going out last night". Much easier to say "neg" than a playful tease primarily used to raise your value relative to hers. | /r/seduction | 24/04/11 03:27 AM |
| 1 | "The fact of the matter is, the mindset of the PUA is one of taking and not one of giving." An interesting article based on the closure of one of the most successful Seduction lairs.Does anyone think it's really true that club girls are so much different from all other girls as claimed by former lair runner? | /r/seduction | 22/04/11 11:19 PM |
| 1 | [FR] #- and k-closed a former Playboy model.It does keep our genetics less tainted by mutations. More beautiful women also tend to have healthier babies. | /r/seduction | 19/04/11 02:52 AM |
| 3 | Seddit, this is absolutely infuriating.No those kinds are usually greedy assholes who are in it for the money. Then there are plenty of therapists who are in it to help as many people as possible. In fact, my roommates are both therapists/social workers who are resigned to the fact that they won't ever make a lot of money, but at least they will be helping people and thus doing something they love. More expensive does not always mean better. Sometimes it's just good to talk to someone else with a different perspective. | /r/seduction | 19/04/11 02:45 AM |
| 2 | "Make meeting women normal": My full speech from the 21 Convention (free)I am not a good looking guy. I'm short and effeminate. I'm terrible at pickup. But after 6 months of practice, I've finally gotten to the point where some girls willingly and happily want to talk to me or even grind on me. One of the most important things is to make sure you're really having fun. Be truly happy without the need for girls, and the girls ironically will want you. | /r/seduction | 19/04/11 12:05 AM |
| 14 | Don't LaughI read from a book about body language is that laughter can be a form of submission and nervousness. For example, in the movies, when some white collar straight is about to get killed by the mobsters, he's always nervously laughing. We laugh when we are confused. We laugh when we don't know what to do. We laugh when we are not in control Obviously this is not the only reason people laugh, but it's one you should be aware of. | /r/seduction | 15/04/11 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Nice Guys Don't Always Finish Last (A helpful kind-of iconographic) X-Post from fffffuuuuuu. Your thought?Ha are you an engineer? Me too. | /r/seduction | 08/04/11 04:43 PM |
| 14 | Being an assholeIn our culture, there are particular norms and rules that we follow. But when someone doesn't follow these norms, people aren't sure what to do. This is why people laugh when you made fun of them. The contradiction between accepted behaviors and asshole behaviors is unsettling to them. They don't quite know what to think about that situation. The handsome gentleman has approached me and is smiling at me, but he hurls insult at my face! The contradiction intrigues people and so they yearn to find… | /r/seduction | 03/04/11 07:50 PM |
| 1 | 20,000 sedditors! MOAR ACTIVITY!Ew. I would not invite you over to my place then. | /r/seduction | 01/04/11 09:42 PM |
| 3 | [FR] I solo'd a bar for the second time and did much better than the first time.Because when they find out you're lying or if they suspect you're lying, their respect for you will plummet. A dude who has to lie about having his friends around is a loser/creeper. And say you've been hanging out with these girls for 30+ minutes, and your make-believe friends still don't show up, it don't look good. Alphas don't get stood up by their friends. Alphas' friends make sure to make every plan, because they just respect you that much. | /r/seduction | 31/03/11 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Nice Guys Don't Always Finish Last (A helpful kind-of iconographic) X-Post from fffffuuuuuu. Your thought?Attractiveness isn't just about looks. It's about the whole package of what draws women towards particular men. It's not just looks - It's about power, charisma, influence, value. Why are you attracted towards "well-dressed" men? Our fashion is a way to show off our class and power - to show off where we belong in the social hierarchy. You discriminating by fashion is a good way to filter out poorer, lower-class men. You can't dress up in a nice, sophisticated suit if you can't afford it. It's o… | /r/seduction | 31/03/11 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Nice Guys Don't Always Finish Last (A helpful kind-of iconographic) X-Post from fffffuuuuuu. Your thought?Where do you go during the day to meet girls? | /r/seduction | 31/03/11 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Nice Guys Don't Always Finish Last (A helpful kind-of iconographic) X-Post from fffffuuuuuu. Your thought?The fact is that being a "nice guy" is only icing on the cake for women. It's an extra feature. But you won't buy the cake that's not attractive. You'll never go for the nice guys who aren't attractive. Just like being a "nice girl" quite honestly won't do much for a man. It might make a man want to befriend the girl. But it won't make him want to fuck her. | /r/seduction | 31/03/11 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Peacocking theory (will field test and report with results)/rant: That's the not definition of theory. All theories have evidence AKA "proof". | /r/seduction | 31/03/11 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Oh my god I feel like Neo..The sad thing about body language is that because I know it, I see that most girls aren't attracted to me, at all. It's sort of sad. The only way I'm going to get any action is through pure charisma and game, not looks. Short guys get no love. | /r/seduction | 31/03/11 02:58 PM |
| 1 | seddit who is your favourite alpha male?It's a classic hollywood movie: Main characters learn to be themselves, that beautiful women will see their true virtue behind their fat, unattractive bodies. That average joes will always get the beautiful girls because of their inner virtue, and because the movie shows an asshole strawman who is an arrogant asshole and is bad with women. And as usual, the movie ends with the men chasing after the girl, proclaiming his love through slapstick comedy, and they get together happily ever after. | /r/seduction | 29/03/11 10:05 PM |
| 1 | seddit who is your favourite alpha male?Except wasn't the advice in the movie terrible?? | /r/seduction | 29/03/11 09:49 PM |
| 1 | My sister needs help! (or, how to approach game from a woman's perspective)I think the game is slightly different for women. Question: Is your sister trying to find a boyfriend or a one night stand? Closing a HS10 for a one night stand should not be hard. All you have to be is pretty and easy. Intelligence and class are not bad things to have either. Send out obvious IOI's, kino hard, and he will be happy to have sex with you (if you're hot). Keeping a HS10 is probably much, much more difficult. HS10's aren't tied down or very monogamous, by the definition of a stud. Y… | /r/seduction | 29/03/11 01:42 AM |
| 4 | How would you want to change the seduction community for the better?I've told all my friends about this shit. It's sort of fun to talk about girls and relationships, because girls are just as curious about this stuff as I am. And guys are just as curious too. Some friends tease me about this stuff. Some friends want to practice this stuff. In conclusion, it's great fun to be had. You don't have to lie about this stuff. Then again, I'm a fucking weirdo so maybe my friends don't really care that there's a little further drop of weirdness in the bucket. | /r/seduction | 25/03/11 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Tucker Max is my hero!Where have they been proven bullshit? | /r/seduction | 21/03/11 03:50 AM |
| 3 | 'Masturbation helps Procreation': or, how the mainstream media continues to lie to men about seduction. (Notice that none of these 'theories' explains why women masturbate.)Actually girls are attractive to a certain kind of goofball - the successful one. Let's say alpha male AA is the seen as the most perfect of mates - strong, confident, wealthy, intelligent, powerful. He will be generally well liked by people - but they will also be cautious of him, because he is so powerful, and he is a threat. Now AA accidentally does some goofball thing - accidentally spills coffee over himself or trips - turns out, despite his athleticism, intelligence, etc, he's a bit of a k… | /r/seduction | 20/03/11 11:11 PM |
| 2 | In need of advice on deprogrammingFor everyone here, some childhood bullshit has ingrained some stupid-ass behavior in us. But we're not children anymore. It's time to stop blaming the past and move on - through training. How do you deprogram? Cold open hundreds, thousands of people. Eventually it will become second nature. As far as mental awareness, try meditation or therapy or even psychedelic drugs (mushrooms/LSD/peyote/MDMA, if you're mentally fit). Approach anxiety was "hardwired" in me too, but after months of small amoun… | /r/seduction | 20/03/11 10:57 PM |
| 1 | The Beauty of Hitting Bottom: How I learned cold approach pickupGreat post. I have to admit I have been walking through mediocrity too. I've been too afraid to go out alone for a while, I always need to come with a friend or whatever. Well fuck that, I'm going to start going out alone to the bars. No more friends distracting you. No more automatic, easy social proof. Just pure pickup practice, failures and all. Just thinking about it sounds horrifying to me. But goddamnit I'm going to do it. | /r/seduction | 10/03/11 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Story of an AFC??? Why?? Maybe if the guy wasn't such a whiny lil bitch he woulda gotten a little action. | /r/seduction | 09/03/11 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Is intelligence/"book smarts" actually considered an attractive trait by women?The way to exploit your intelligence is that, supposedly, you're a quicker learner than the "jocks". If that's true, then you'll be quick to learn the game huh? | /r/seduction | 09/03/11 04:50 PM |
| 1 | "I cured myself with my mind": Charlie Sheen. What control do we have of our own thoughts and behaviors and how it can help us with seduction.Ugh yah but Charlie Sheen is fucking asshole who beats women. And as far as Charlie Sheen is concerned, he is one d-bag that sure doesn't practice a lot of self-control with his mind. A spoiled brat who knows how to get what he wants but can't do much else. A man who has little respect for other people. | /r/seduction | 08/03/11 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Everyone is alpha.But the point is not everyone has a domain they are the master of. Some people will never be masters of anything. The world is much crueler than some ideological equality OP speaks of. | /r/seduction | 06/03/11 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Everyone is alpha.President of the United States. Kings. The dude in the office that is much more good looking, attractive, and popular than me. Your boss. You've never seen a "pack of men"? They sometimes have a more dominant figure that makes a lot of decisions for the pack. That guy is the alpha male. Obviously, human social structures, especially American ones, tend to be family focused, so in that case the alpha is usually the husband. The master of his domain. In the rare times the husband goes out into the… | /r/seduction | 03/03/11 12:20 AM |
| 11 | Everyone is alpha.The alpha is by definition the highest ranked member of a particular group. Betas are by definition the 2nd in command. Omegas are the lowest caste. And no, not everyone is the de-facto leader. Whatever I'm being nitpicky. | /r/seduction | 02/03/11 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Everyone is alpha.And technically incorrect... | /r/seduction | 02/03/11 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Hope for most of you guys"having a good time" has everything to do with seduction. Wtf do you think "having a good time" means? It means making lots of satisfying social connections. (or doing lots of drugs) And what else is seduction but making social connections as quickly, efficiently, and satisfyingly as possible? | /r/seduction | 28/02/11 08:28 PM |
| 2 | a cry for help.Yo chubbs if you ever want to go sarging I hang around Austin. We'll have a fucking blast. | /r/seduction | 28/02/11 08:18 PM |
| 2 | How to turn off brain chatter.Try some LSD. It's a drug about psychological exploration. | /r/seduction | 20/02/11 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Plea to seddit - PLEASE READHaha very true but harder said than done. I'm working on it though. | /r/seduction | 18/02/11 06:28 AM |
| 2 | Plea to seddit - PLEASE READThe last couple times I sarged with my newb friends all the girls I opened decided they like my more attractive friend more. Their excitement at a girl actually talking to them at the bar not so great. Newb friends do not yet know wingman ettiquette :(. Pickup sure beats just standing around and drinking though. | /r/seduction | 18/02/11 05:42 AM |
| 4 | What % of women shoot you down?This is a very important question, especially because a lot of people here worship the same ol tactics. But I really wonder how many "nice girls" you guys are filtering out. Or the types of girls that would never accept a proposition at a bar. Or different personalities that are not receptive to cocky/funny or alpha-male attitudes. | /r/seduction | 16/02/11 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, I attended a PUA boot camp. Here's my experienceAnd in the meantime, don't pirate it. When you borrow a book from the library, someone still has to pay for it and that someone is the government. The more you borrow a book, the more popular it becomes, the more libraries will buy that book. Industry, scam, or whatever, somebody used a lot of time and effort to write their book. They deserve just compensation for it. Good information doesn't miraculously, spontaneously generate. Good information takes time, expertise, and money to create. And i… | /r/seduction | 12/02/11 07:25 PM |
| 7 | The Debate: Do we really need AskSeddit?This is exactly what the voting is for... Uninteresting posts are automatically downvoted. The only reason we still see them is that post frequency is so low in r/seduction that new posts, no matter how bad, will make the front page. This is a matter of r/seduction not yet reaching critical mass for upvote/downvote to work. This is a matter of r/seduction not being big enough and not having enough posts... Creating r/askseddit will do absolutely nothing to alleviate the shitty posts you talk abo… | /r/seduction | 12/02/11 06:28 PM |
| 6 | Seddit, I attended a PUA boot camp. Here's my experience??? Why??? Don't support the authors?? Just be a fucking mooch? That's a fucked up mentality man. Give back to those who help you, and that includes paying for books, asshole. Not everyone wants to be a starving artist. | /r/seduction | 12/02/11 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Threads like these make me glad to be a part of the seddit community.He's not that physically unnattractive at all. He's tall, which is pretty much the most important physical requirement for all women. He really looks pretty good in the bottom photo anyways... | /r/seduction | 11/02/11 07:36 PM |
| 6 | Cross post from /r/askseddit--Get answers to all your questions without getting downvoted!Here's my prediction: askseddit will be a complete failure. Attempting to divide a community by expertise is retarded. Nobody will want to hang out with the newbs - because they're all newbs. Reply quality on askseddit will be terrible. Experienced members have no reason to hang out at /askseddit other than their propensity for charity. And it's not like seddit has reached such critical mass that "shitty posts" are everywhere. The only reason we see shitty posts is because post frequency on sedd… | /r/seduction | 11/02/11 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Love the new sidebar. One suggestion: Maybe actually linking to "AskSeddit" and directing questions there?IF YOUR POST ENDS IN A QUESTION MARK, DON'T POST IT! Looking at you, blackdevildisco... /sarcasm. Actually, I think discouraging people from asking questions is a stupid idea... if we didn't come to /r/seduction for information, why the hell are we here? And what's the best way to get information? By fucking asking for it!!! Obviously people are annoyed by the same newb questions over and over again. But not all questions are newb or answered in the FAQ or in the sidebar... | /r/seduction | 09/02/11 11:17 PM |
| 15 | I can't do this...Start with guys. Make awkward conversation. Repeat 1000 times. It no longer becomes awkward | /r/seduction | 09/02/11 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone had any luck with using sites like omegle to help them get over some of their approach anxiety?Just get out there. Goto the bar. Open the doorman. Talk about anything. Doesn't really matter. The weather. The slutty girls. His tattoo. Whatever. Step into the bar. Talk to that lonely dude at the corner. He will be happy that somebody wants to talk to him. You're in line at the pharmacy. Talk to the checkout girl. Say "How's it going?" "How's business?" Whatever. If you have a lot of AA like me, start opening guys. They're a lot easier and more receptive, and have no bitch shields. Once you'… | /r/seduction | 08/02/11 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Got balls but no game...well almost every newbie has the same problem and the same questions. People tire of answering the same thing over and over again.... | /r/seduction | 03/02/11 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Getting rid of ONEITIS, and getting everything else under control again.You don't need alcohol to be social. Alcohol is a bullshit drug. You can have confidence and extroversion without it. Some people have a foolish belief that the more you drink, the more fun you will have. Alcohol does not work this way. Alcohol does not give you pleasure. It does not make you more sociable. It only loosens up inhibitions by malfunctioning your short term memory and higher order facultise. In short, it literally makes you stupider. After you reach a sufficiently drunk point, incr… | /r/seduction | 02/02/11 02:59 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Made out with a white girl (I'm Asian) and now I feel like a boss!!!... and people are also interested and attracted to others who are unique and different. Because of his uniqueness (in looks), he is already automatically peacocked. | /r/seduction | 02/02/11 02:49 AM |
| 1 | FR: Number-closed, but damn you Japanese cockblockersWhat's the time frame for all of this happening? How many hours? | /r/seduction | 28/01/11 04:36 PM |
| 1 | What are some Non-Alpha things you do? And how do you explain them?No, just sometimes when I get "emotional". Holding your hand on your chin is another body language signifier, pretty much exactly what you said. Holding your hands in front of your eyes, ears, or mouth suggest you're trying to hide something from yourself or from others. And not sure why people downvoted me, was just being honest... Wasn't the entire point of the post???? | /r/seduction | 26/01/11 06:48 PM |
| 0 | What are some Non-Alpha things you do? And how do you explain them?I hold my hand in front of my mouth. Very bad body language, implying that I have something to hide. | /r/seduction | 26/01/11 02:06 AM |
| 2 | The Shit Test Fallacy: "you would not have to learn to pass shit tests [...] if you [didn't] use PUA material" Thoughts?I think the line between playful banter and a shit test is very difficult to distinguish, and in both cases you should reply the same way - with wit and understanding of the social situation. Because I've seen it - you can fail at playful banter. | /r/seduction | 24/01/11 11:46 PM |
| 1 | The Shit Test Fallacy: "you would not have to learn to pass shit tests [...] if you [didn't] use PUA material" Thoughts?If a woman likes you and wants to get with you, and assuming you act normal, she will never "test" you. That's all there is to it. That's exactly right. Now how do you get to the point of a woman liking you? By talking to her. By demonstrating your value. By demonstrating your wit and confidence. By passing a shit test. | /r/seduction | 24/01/11 07:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you handle getting interrupted?Yah I can barely talk to my friends when I see them working. Complete strangers would be even harder... | /r/seduction | 23/01/11 09:09 PM |
| 20 | The turtle represents how you're a pussy. (SMBC)Great. Thanks for ruining the inner joke. | /r/seduction | 22/01/11 04:18 PM |
| 9 | The ADVANTAGES of talking to EVERYONE, it's more then just getting laid.I am by means no expert and maybe a lot of what I'm writing is bullshit (seriously the brain is complicated) but here are some things myself and others have tried.... I've been working on this myself for a while. Talking to everyone. Learning about body language. Smiling more (it will fool your mind into believing it really is happy). Force yourself into social situations despite reservations. Psyche yourself into your "happy place" before every social situation. Learning about human behavior (p… | /r/seduction | 18/01/11 05:21 AM |
| 32 | The ADVANTAGES of talking to EVERYONE, it's more then just getting laid.Your brain can be rewired. I know many people that have successfully pulled it off. | /r/seduction | 18/01/11 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Man....wtf is wrong with me.You're bringing the wrong attitude to the date. Seriously, don't let yourself be controlled by your petty emotions. There are so many techniques to manipulate yourself into the kind of state you want to be in.... you have much more reading and practice to do... | /r/seduction | 17/01/11 10:54 PM |
| 2 | How can I talkto this girl after classLook at the sidebar. Get some courage, and maintain your fear. | /r/seduction | 13/01/11 09:18 PM |
| 1 | I'm an idiot. Possible to fix?Friends who are girls are not always a bad thing, in my book. More friends, more connections, more social proof. What's bad about that? | /r/seduction | 13/01/11 04:18 PM |
| 1 | 8 Epiphanies That Changed My GameOh I took "Dating Coach" to mean something to do with men getting women. I guess you don't specifically do pick-up. My bad. Labels aside to what your company does, I don't think it's a bad thing that you advertise on Reddit, as long as the community thinks your advice is good and your posts are interesting. | /r/seduction | 12/01/11 04:25 PM |
| 2 | 8 Epiphanies That Changed My GameMayson is obviously in the seduction business, which he is very open about in his posting history. | /r/seduction | 12/01/11 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Question: How to pick your targets?Great advice! Let me ask you another question: Opening people (at least for me) get much more difficult at sit-down bars. Everyone seems much more isolated in their own little groups, once they have sat down. Do you ever try to open at these kind of venues, following the same principles? | /r/seduction | 10/01/11 11:00 PM |
| 1 | What the science of human nature can teach us : The New YorkerScientists have understood human behavior long before Mystery. Mystery is more of an engineer, putting knowledge into practice. | /r/seduction | 10/01/11 09:06 PM |
| 5 | How do you pickup asian women?No. Asian girls love white guys. And success is extremely important. We're raised in a culture that demands perfection, that demands ability, education, and class. In fact, most of my Asian-lady friends all have white boyfriends. | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Guide to Austin pickup sceneaerospace engineering | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Guide to Austin pickup scene23, college grad student, PU noob. I figured it's time to learn how the bar scene works. How about you? | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 03:48 AM |
| 1 | [FR] from a recovering AFCThat's funny they're actually talking about Austin Chinatown in the Austin subreddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/Austin/comments/exrc4/does_anyone_else_think_its_pretty_neat_that/ I don't frequent it much, but thee's lots of food and Asian grocery stores FTW. | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Guide to Austin pickup sceneSweet I'm definitely up for it. I'm trying to recruit some of my platonic female friends to come too. It will be awesome. | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 12:02 AM |
| 1 | [FR] from a recovering AFCYes there is, sortof, but I actually went back to Houston for the break (when this all happened). | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Guide to Austin pickup sceneDude awesome guide. BTW Any Austiners interested in a wingman? | /r/seduction | 07/01/11 10:09 PM |
| -1 | Scarcity vs Abundance: How neediness kills your game.Preaching to the choir man. | /r/seduction | 06/01/11 06:26 PM |
| 1 | gym openers?talk to them in between sets? | /r/seduction | 05/01/11 09:28 PM |
| 10 | I realized something...Pickup tactics do make parties much funner, even though I personally have been still getting shit luck with women. | /r/seduction | 01/01/11 07:59 AM |
| 2 | FR-For the love of Christian Bale!I'm not sure if this is the best subreddit to post in... We're a bunch of guys who are not experts at hooking relationships with men... | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 07:38 PM |
| 9 | why people hate sedditI think, like every other power you can train for, you can abuse pickup. You can use this power and break a lot of girls hearts. You can transmit a lot of diseases. You can make a lot of jealous men. And like with any other power, people that get power tend to become bigger and bigger assholes, because, now that they have power, they don't have to be nice to people anymore. Now people are nice to them. As the saying goes, power corrupts... | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Grey Area between LTR and One nighter?Tell her you're interested in an open relationship. This is more serious. Or a fuck buddy. This is less serious. | /r/seduction | 30/12/10 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Moral opinions?I think a lot of PU is about dehumanizing the enemy - breaking down typical female behaviors into processes that we can manipulate. That may not seem like a very progressive way to go about things, except that guy's behaviors can be similarly brokened down into and dehumanized. PU has labels for this too, AMOG's, AFC's, whatever. So though pickup dehumanizes women, it also dehumanizes men. From what I've read, a lot of pickup is about creating a new framework for social interactions. A framework… | /r/seduction | 28/12/10 09:52 PM |
| 6 | "I wan't more than just sex" SyndromeI would say this is the female equivalent of the friend-zone. You're getting what you want, but she isn't getting what she wants. | /r/seduction | 28/12/10 03:59 PM |
| 1 | [FR] from a recovering AFCYes I plan on going out with her another time, maybe after I've gotten more experience sarging. And it always helps to have more friends = more connections. Even if she really just wants to be just friends, it's not at bad thing at all. Being friend-zoned is only bad if your prospects are so terrible that your few friends are your only shot. Even with my mediocre kino, approach anxiety, etc, I can feel that my respect among women has grown exponentially since getting into the game and reading up… | /r/seduction | 28/12/10 06:04 AM |
| 3 | [FR] from a recovering AFCThanks for the advice. One problem was that I arrived a little early (wasn't too familiar with the town) to the date, got bored. Went back to the car to read Moby Dick. I wasn't too familiar with the Chinatown scene too, unfortunately. Perhaps picking a more familiar meeting place would be wise in the future. | /r/seduction | 27/12/10 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Documentary: The Rules of SeductionAlso unfortunately it's blocked for me for some reason.... it's blocked in the USA... | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Documentary: The Rules of SeductionYou forgot to post the link. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 04:06 PM |
| 1 | how to respond when a HB tells you, "you're very cute"?"Cute" depends on the context. Sometimes "cute" is a kiss of death, signifying that she sees you as so feminine and beta that she uses it as she would describe a baby, or a puppy, or an adorable little grandma. As a 23 yr old who looks (or looked) like he was 15, I got this shit all the time. You don't want that crap. If a girl ever uses this kind of tone on you, you've definitely fucked up. Changing her mind from labeling you as harmless to stud will take work. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 11:21 PM |
| 2 | How would you hit on a girl that everyone else is hitting on?Why are you on this subreddit if all you're going to do is bitch at concepts you don't understand? Go read a book. Pickup is about understanding people, especially women. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Sedditor Locatoryo | /r/seduction | 20/12/10 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Inside the mind of a hot girl - Vary rare insight. Only now can I truly understand the importance of negging / hiding interest. [AskReddit post]"playful"? Yah, playful to you. Negs to friends are used to probe their psychological defenses.. It's like play fighting, but with your talk instead. Negs with your friends is meant to built up each other's psychological resilience as play fighting with your friends is meant to build up your actual fighting skills. You wouldn't neg the President of the United States. You wouldn't neg your boss. You wouldn't neg your parents. You don't neg these people because they are on top of the social hierar… | /r/seduction | 14/12/10 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Inside the mind of a hot girl - Vary rare insight. Only now can I truly understand the importance of negging / hiding interest. [AskReddit post]Oh yes, making backhanded compliments is so respectful of women. It's a move used to elevate your social position above hers, in her eyes. Extremely respectful. So are reward/punish routines. | /r/seduction | 14/12/10 06:53 PM |
| -4 | Inside the mind of a hot girl - Vary rare insight. Only now can I truly understand the importance of negging / hiding interest. [AskReddit post]I have no problems with women. I just realize now that they are just as shallow as I am. Just feel a little stupid for believing otherwise for a long time. EDIT: The point is this - respect doesn't get you laid. Attractiveness does. EDIT2: And I don't get why my statements are so controversial? What the hell do you think a neg is?? It's certainly not about respect. | /r/seduction | 14/12/10 04:50 PM |
| -5 | Inside the mind of a hot girl - Vary rare insight. Only now can I truly understand the importance of negging / hiding interest. [AskReddit post]I've been an AFC all my life, with no problems talking to girls in strictly platonic ways with no pretenses of sex or ulterior motives. And lemme tell you, it doesn't fucking work, especially if you're personally not so attractive yourself. I never stumbled upon a girl like in some shitty romantic comedy, because I never pursued any. You can make plenty of friends but very little sex. Those dudes bullshitting away, well, they may people feel like shit but they're also getting laid. You treat gir… | /r/seduction | 14/12/10 04:30 PM |
| 8 | Ethics of seduction, where do you draw the line?See you don't get it. Sex quite literally is about life and death. It's only the process used to create new humans and undergo an important new step in the human lifespan. The fears and pleasures we get from sex and relationships have evolved precisely because of the importance of sex. The reason why we are all in this subreddit because we all recognize the importance of sex. Seriously, why the fuck are we all here??? Why do we devote hours of time in PUA training??? Technology has only mitigate… | /r/seduction | 11/12/10 10:20 PM |
| 5 | Ethics of seduction, where do you draw the line?That's absurd. Sex, one of the most important acts we humans engage in, is all about ethics. A hundred years ago, sex was about life and death. Impregnating a girl could have meant killing her in childbirth. Sleeping around too much causes disease and thus is rightly seen as dirty. Sex is the act that literally creates life. And you don't think sex is worthy enough to consider with your own moral behavior???? Why the fuck do you think Puritans and Christians care so much about sex??? Because dee… | /r/seduction | 11/12/10 08:10 PM |
| 16 | Putting seddit principles to work at new job. Not trying to be PUA, but this stuff still works.Good job. But note that in a work environment, if you go off sleeping around too much you will get labelled a player, and that will affect your future prospects negatively. Unlike in a bar, you're going to be around these people for a while, and it can get really awkward... a perfect formula for workplace drama. | /r/seduction | 07/12/10 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Will the Real Asian Pick Up Artist Please Stand Up?There's one interesting statistic in here, that supposedly asians make up ~30% of the PUA market. Quite unusually high. | /r/seduction | 07/12/10 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Which Richard Dawkins book should I read first?Selfish gene is a good one | /r/seduction | 15/11/10 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Hey, MensRights: Bravo.I am interested in your viewpoint. Please elaborate. | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 04:40 PM |
| 1 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?haha uhhh i'm talking about male rape not PTSD | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 03:52 PM |
| 0 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?No I was wrong my original post was way too strong. It was basically "Women have more to lose in rape because of pregnancy. Men suffer less consequences in rape." Then I added a bit about "if men can get it up during rape" which I'm sure pissed off more people. But I got pissed that most people downvoted the shit out of me instead of making coherent argument. And that people would just continue the downvote frenzy and make me not able to post. But some people actually made coherent conversation … | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 06:06 AM |
| 1 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?No it doesn't. But in that kind of situation, will you admit your powerlessness? | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 05:39 AM |
| 1 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?Yes the statement is sexist. But probably the majority of Americans believe in these gender roles. These gender roles have also been reinforced through thousands of years of history. I disagree that it's the same as "telling a woman to fix up a sandwich". Women have proved in the last 100 years to be as competent as men in all things business and economics and science. Yet gender roles not yet made obsolete by technology still remain. The majority of women I know, though professionally competent… | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 04:18 AM |
| 1 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?Yes it would be physically traumatic if the man was penetrated. However the same risk also applies to women. But also most societies expect males to be able to defend themselves. In our society, men are expected to be emotionally hardened and able to withstand abuse. I'm also sure that you're heard of studies (http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/26934.php) which state that women are more physically sensitive than men and thus react more strongly to pain? Yes, I am overgeneralizing, but it's… | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 03:58 AM |
| 1 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?You are right. I stand corrected. Thank you for debating me instead of just massively downvoting my comments without logical reply. | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 03:32 AM |
| -1 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?I always agreed to it. The point was that physically, women have additional things to worry about. | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 03:03 AM |
| 2 | "...the consequences of the rape of men are much less severe than the rape of women." What is it with reddit feminists? Are they really this crazy?Wow I'm just going to have to comment on this because this has gotten to ridiculous proportions. I said something of ideological opposition to many redditors and have be en downvoted to oblivion. It is now affecting my ability to post. I in no way said that male rape was not a crime or not traumatic. It is a crime and it is traumatic (People incorrectly implied that from my first post). I put forth the proposition that females may suffer a little more because of their ability to be impregnated b… | /r/MensRights | 22/12/09 01:58 AM |
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