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You'll meet a lot of sleaze balls on the pickup scene (90%+), but just make sure you keep a little distance with any guy friend for a while and you'll eventually see if they're trustworthy
/r/seduction31/10/20 08:49 PM
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They dont matter if you dont have the confidence to back them
/r/seduction18/07/20 09:42 PM
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Daytime in public: Have at least 3 conversations with different women. -the only goal is having it last at least 2-3 minutes -doesnt matter what 3 women, store worker, stranger, cute, hot, ugly, anyone Night game at bar, club, social event: get at least 4 numbers, snapchats. -attempt conversation before doing so -no matter how bad you think you messed up ask anyway limit yourself to MAX 3 beers throughout the night, do not get drunk. Disclaimer: don't be aggressive with this and dont be pushy In…
/r/seduction02/07/20 11:37 PM
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Make sure you're hitting the gym and just keep experimenting with new techniques. Make sure to also maintain healthy social skills, you said you dont have an issue maintaining good conversation, that's a good skill to have, dont unnecessarily dampen it. Try striking up conversations with more women everywhere you go to increase your chances as well as increase the amount of opportunity you have to experiment. While I havent really listed exact formulas on what to try and that's because this kind…
/r/seduction02/07/20 02:06 PM
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Game and all that is an enhancer, it's supposed to be a part of a whole. I your dating "profile" has too much game you come off fake, too little knowledge of it and you'll probably miss all her nonverbals and mis some subtle opportunities. I agree, it's a balance. Step 1 is always get into the gym
/r/seduction02/07/20 12:35 PM
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While I can get w pretty much anyone I want to, I can confirm that my past hit/miss ratio was waaaaay off. Probably like 1:20 at this point. The fact of the matter is the more rejection you face, if taken with a grain of salt, the faster you'll be able to start achieving what you want. Embrace the cringy moments, once you can embrace the cringe and awkwardness your confidence will begin to shine. Meanwhile everyone looking at you (a finished product) will be jealous that "you were just naturally…
/r/seduction25/06/20 02:46 PM
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Someone without confidence wount understand how much the little gestures mean. Having confidence is getting the girl to like you Confidence shows that you like you, how is she supposed to like you if you don't even like you
/r/seduction25/06/20 02:06 PM
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You can approach a girl alone: you have the confidence in you saying "shes gonna like me" You can lt do it with people listening: you don't have the confidence to not care what they think Tl/dr: literally realize how little people think of you (a stranger), in that most people would hardly even realize you're talking to someone
/r/seduction25/06/20 01:37 PM
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Height is bonus points for tall people, but a lack of is not necessarily points off
/r/seduction25/06/20 01:43 AM
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False. Unless you're not talking about physical appearance
/r/seduction25/06/20 01:42 AM
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Confidence
/r/seduction25/06/20 01:42 AM
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Someone without confidence wount understand how much the little gestures mean. Just a simple, hearty "hi im_____" will ripple through the entirety of how they see you
/r/seduction25/06/20 01:41 AM
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"All anyone ever talks about in the seduction community is seduction!"
/r/seduction23/06/20 01:25 AM
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Something a "city gal" would say hahaha
/r/seduction21/06/20 07:28 PM
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Hahaha exactly shes gonna be so dumbfounded because you wouldve been the first one with the confidence to not feel the need to beg for her approval. In one line you've separated yourself from 98% of the guys shell talk to that night and shown some serious value through your personality.
/r/seduction21/06/20 02:41 PM
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It might seem like a canned neg but the fact of the matter is that when presented a situation with an attractive girl, the standard guy will tuck tail, become timid and shy. Regular guy will be afraid to say something that might upset her highness. That's a Turn off. Less douchy things to tease Her about? Well of course! The entirety of the conversation you'll have w someone is going to be longer than just 3 lines.
/r/seduction21/06/20 02:38 PM
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Resiliency in the face of uncertainty and the ability to maintain a positive attitude is a key component in displaying confidence. Confidence being arguably the most important component in a man's character during a womans selections process
/r/seduction21/06/20 03:27 AM
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You could definently make light of the situation and show her that you're still gonna be a funny and interesting guy to talk to I've never used a tactic that included some off the wall storyline and it not end up working in my favor Then after she laughs and asks a question about it just tell her that she doesn't have the necessary clearance for that type of information
/r/seduction21/06/20 03:21 AM
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No man just literally tell her what u got going on, then let her know that if she wants to move on that's fine you understand but you do still have interest in her dont fight her leave but dont also beg her to stay
/r/seduction21/06/20 03:19 AM
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I know brother BUT the straight forward confident attitude WILL make you look a lot better than a "oh poor me" type of character!!! Ya dig?
/r/seduction21/06/20 03:08 AM
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Be upfront about everything, anything else is just prolonging the inevitable
/r/seduction21/06/20 03:06 AM
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Ego is what drives us, dont recognize it as a "mask" and see it for what it is, you're building social skills. If you beat yourself up and put yourself down letting yourself think you're a shallow PUA then you'll embody that energy, I use all my game skills everywhere and everywhere I go im the center of attention and everyone wants to talk to be because I'm fun relaxed and extremely sociable. Granted I just exclude some of the sexual aspects but there are a lot of good qualities to be found in …
/r/seduction20/06/20 08:31 PM
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"Do you have a boyfriend?" Noo:) "Yeah I figured"
/r/seduction20/06/20 08:26 PM
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I've def had my fair share of harsh responses to opinions like this
/r/seduction13/06/20 11:41 PM
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Unpopular opinion: Dont goto women for dating advice. They're gonna tell you what they think they want. who they end up describing is seldom the douche bag that they end up simping over in the end.
/r/seduction13/06/20 10:27 PM
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Might be the issue
/r/seduction13/06/20 09:56 PM
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Every situation is different. every.
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:44 PM
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Not walking up to someone with a rock hard boner is the best policy my guy
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:26 PM
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My username has nothing to do with telling women in public about the theoretical boner they've given me. I'm aware were not talking about yours, thank god the public doesnt have to deal with you in that case.
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:17 PM
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Daytime in public: Have at least 3 conversations with different women. -the only goal is having it last at least 2-3 minutes -doesnt matter what 3 women, store worker, stranger, cute, hot, ugly, anyone Night game at bar, club, social event: get at least 4 numbers, snapchats. -attempt conversation before doing so -no matter how bad you think you messed up ask anyway limit yourself to MAX 3 beers throughout the night, do not get drunk. Disclaimer: don't be aggressive with this and dont be pushy In…
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:14 PM
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Wtfff Thats borderline sexual harrasment, you shouldnt ever say some dumb shit like that, no one wants to hear of your creepy stranger boner
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:12 PM
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Keep approaching, you'll eventually realize that theres no reason to freak out and freeze up and you'll slowly build confidence the more approaches you mess up. I have solid approach game now but if I had an over ratio, it's probably be 1:5 hit/miss for the last 5 years of pick up.
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:03 PM
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Limit your beers to 2 a night then work down, you'll get used to socializing sober that way
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:01 PM
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Maybe try sexualizing them less In your mind, dont hype up their appearance to yourself so much when you walk up. Jacking off less as well, maybe. This seems like a question better suited for a doctor more knowing of your current physical/chemical state
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:00 PM
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Wtf did u even read what he said?
/r/seduction13/06/20 07:59 PM
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Yes but let's not forget consent is required*******
/r/seduction12/06/20 04:08 PM
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Just keep practicing and keep trying new approaches, direct/ indirect doesnt matter, the confidence is what sells is. Keep getting the reps in.
/r/seduction12/06/20 01:31 PM
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If your an ego driven maniac it will, but you can also play with the goal of having a girlfriend at the end, the courting is done the same.
/r/seduction11/06/20 09:59 PM
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Play it cool man, relax and assume you're not gonna do good on the date. Go in with a mindset of "I'm not gonna do well and ima gonna be nervous BUT I WILL enjoy myself" in order to manipulate yourself into relaxing!
/r/seduction10/06/20 10:54 PM
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I meant one man wolf pack haha my bad and you can look up ways to undermine someone attempting to amog, one being like Bradley cooper at the end of limitless talking to dinero when he calls out all the stuff that's gonna happen, essentially pulling the rug out from his feet and describing why hes saying what he is, what his game plan is "that's a great pickup line man, what other canned openers do you have?" "How many times has that pick up line worked out for you tonight? Probably not that many…
/r/seduction25/05/20 11:20 PM
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I'd be like a one man wolf pack. 1. Join them to Joke and talk to them a little 2. Walk around by myself and sarge 3. Repeat all night long. Amog if you want, you run the risk of coming across as socially uncalibrated (in a cringy way), and also the risk of having it blowing up in your face. If a dude came to amog me I'd ruin any chance he thought he had and embarrass him in front of her.
/r/seduction25/05/20 10:31 PM
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Be your own personality and just be confident. Doesnt matter at all, even if your silent, just be confident. And fuck amog-ing people. That some douche bag shit that I hate.
/r/seduction25/05/20 10:26 PM
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Social status is a whole complexity of different facets of a potential suitors life. I wouldn't worry about that yet, thats something that you cant really fake because you have to "live it" if that makes sense. For example: build all all 4 walls to the house then worry about whether the house is good or not. Social status: how you interact w people, who knows you, who do you know, how do you carry yourself, do people notice you, are you confident in yourself, what you talk about, ect, ect,
/r/seduction16/05/20 12:05 AM
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Call a friend that you have a connection w that gets you talking and in a good mood. Calling my mom doesnt get me in state bc we talking about rather boring things, seeing that shes my mom. I have a friend who's humor matches up to mine absolutly seamlessly and he never fails to get me in a social mood
/r/seduction12/05/20 06:28 AM
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Look up "how to get in- state" vids on YT. I usually call friends or family
/r/seduction12/05/20 06:21 AM
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Give a situation, asking this is just as broad as a guy asking "how do I seduce a woman" Even at that men are more visually seduced, men looking up stuff here is the same as women watching make up tutorials. Learning how to appeal to the opposite gender.
/r/seduction11/05/20 05:28 AM
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That's awesome man, make sure to follow her lead. If she wants to watch, let her and have some good conversation. If she wants to help, make sure your letting her take over some parts of making it. Make sure shes engaged and has an active role either way. Edit: by follow her lead I mean read her vibe, dont actually freeze and wait for her to make a decision.
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:19 AM
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No, stop being weird and clingy, you're gonna scare her away.
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:16 AM
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Next time you see her just be cool and be like "hey you wana get some coffee saturday?" And take it from there
/r/seduction09/05/20 07:48 AM
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I concur
/r/seduction09/05/20 04:32 AM
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TL/DR pls?
/r/seduction09/05/20 03:43 AM
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What are you talking about
/r/seduction08/05/20 11:13 AM
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Getting a girl to like you has a lot to do with how you carry yourself, with someone that sees you as frequently as your neighbor you'll have to worry less on actual seduction and more on building your character. seeing that shes already met you and has seen enough of you to know the "real" you. Goto the gym and be confident, social, and easy going around her. Guys get stuck in the friendzone for mostly 2 things: being out of shape and unattractive AND/OR acting like shes a goddess over you, ess…
/r/seduction08/05/20 10:56 AM
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Going in assuming she'll say no-> you'll be relaxed bc you dont care-> shell like the vibe and say yes Going in worrying what shell say-> you'll psyche yourself out and become nervous-> shell be weirded out and say no
/r/seduction08/05/20 10:50 AM
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Try to strike up a convo about something yall have in common, ex: a band tee shirt shes wearing, pins on her backpack anything and just try have little convos here and there to slowly build rapport and comfort w you. Or if you're feeling risky, you can just say "hey I've seen you around and wanted to know if you free for some coffee saturday?"
/r/seduction08/05/20 10:43 AM
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You sound like you have no idea what your taking about, nor do you have an actual answer to his question.
/r/seduction08/05/20 10:38 AM
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Be scarce over text
/r/seduction08/05/20 08:22 AM
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Depends how much your running and exercising and dieting. Cut out soda and fast food, run 1-3 miles a day and your looking at about 2-3 weeks you'll notice the difference if you're actually putting out and playing by the rules. Keyword: youll notice. You see yourself everyday so they slightest differences will pop to you before they do for anyone else
/r/seduction07/05/20 12:11 AM
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Tinder's Just a game to scam men out of money and make women feel like godess
/r/seduction06/05/20 10:04 PM
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Yupp^
/r/seduction06/05/20 09:51 PM
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"If you're not sure if theres an alligator in the pool, err on the side of caution and check before jumping in"
/r/seduction06/05/20 07:39 PM
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The example you used your assuming is common sense, common sense is subjective and not everyones on the same page as you. But I see your point.
/r/seduction06/05/20 05:22 PM
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Have you done anything to begin learning about that kind of stuff? It doesnt come naturally to everyone
/r/seduction06/05/20 04:42 PM
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Essentially: Start on the inside, working outwardly?
/r/seduction06/05/20 04:25 PM
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Some guys have to consciously act "normal" around women because they either get nervous angsty or just flat out have no idea what to do. Men and women are very differnet in so many ways, one being how something is explained and interpreted. I'd say try to see where they're coming from but your response says enough about your level of understanding pertaining to the majority of men who just want a girlfriend but have no clue where to start.
/r/seduction06/05/20 04:23 PM
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Use your women skills to open your pool to women who suit your relationship needs then just buckle down with the one that hits all (or at least most) of your bases. Dont forget the grass is greener on the other side. You might end up buckling down and miss the dating scene after a while haha
/r/seduction06/05/20 04:20 PM
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What I said above is advice to be stored in your mental tool box, not taken as across the board advice that applies to every situation ever. Agreed, master the basics firstly.
/r/seduction06/05/20 03:54 PM
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Practice makes perfect, the biggest impediment men face is having to deal with feeling social awkwardness when first learning to be social, theres no avoiding the pain of cringe when you're starting out and messing up😂
/r/seduction06/05/20 03:52 PM
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Any specific examples as to a time you didnt want to be, but were assertive out of principle and it paid off?
/r/seduction06/05/20 03:51 PM
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So treating a women like you would anyone is in it's own form a neg, (display of confidence/ displaying higher value, getting her to wonder why your doing what you are in a good way) because: your showing her that your confident and not intimidated by her by not treating her anything special, ie: flirting, being shakey. Just being relaxed and not thirsty goes just as far at the best neg in the world.
/r/seduction06/05/20 03:47 PM
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Having a good physique goes a looooooong way, nothing even difficult, just lean out: run miles a day or every other day at the least and you're set, anything more will just exponentially increase your success.
/r/seduction06/05/20 03:44 PM
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I usually go w: "what do you feel like?" (99.99999% shell say something that doesnt help) then I'll follow with whatever I was gonna suggest in the first place.
/r/seduction05/05/20 05:26 PM
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Dont have long conversations over text or messages. It shows your lack of choice, and social life: displaying low value. Save semi long ones for phone calls and full on conversations for in person.
/r/seduction05/05/20 04:48 PM
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It seems like silly advice but think of it this via this example: say, you're a woman texting 2 guys, who's more fun to talk to: The guy who seems to just wana hangout for *** OR The guy who cant actually share his pancake recipe due to his claim of being a former undercover CIA agent that has ties to some of the best culinary chefs in the world, but cant name them due to her lack of security clearance. Given enough time, he might be able to trust her enough to tell her some of his classified st…
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:20 PM
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Guys your gonna have to try and pick an outlet for this meet up, your now stuck between your or her house (or maybe a park between yall, if they're even open)
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:11 PM
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Yeah man remeber: confidence can be displayed as simplification. "Yeah nowhere really open, let's have lunch at my place sometime" And for your mental tool box, learn to not be a boring mundane person to talk to, you can follow up ^ with: "so I can show you some of the gourmet meals I learned while studying culinary arts in France!" Then when she shows up you can either make some basic food (bc I'm assuming pancakes are the extent of your cooking knowledge😂) or just be like "yeah wana order some…
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:10 PM
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The more you chase someone, the more you drive them away.
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:03 PM
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If you can actually, no shit cook then offer to make something at your place for yall, just dont be creepy and pushy about it
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:02 PM
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Its implied it's a date bud, dont get too giddy and shoot yourself in the foot acting like a child walking into a toy store (no offense, just trying to give an example of what it looks like) Ask her what she likes to eat then you can go on a drive through or take out car date (which from my friends have told me is the move right now bc of Q)
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:01 PM
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Depends on the setting
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:59 PM
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What's your point
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:53 PM
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You're, without a doubt, over generalizing. The message gets skewed, you acting like the answer is simple. The common media-sponsered mantra towards women is "dont use a woman for her looks, like her for her personality" Then guys are like alright sounds fair I'll like them for them and they'll like me for me, which couldn't be further than the truth for about 60-80% of women. Seeing that women arent attracted to shy men (which IS the natural response when attempting to talk to women having no b…
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:51 PM
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I agree. Millionaires and billionaires arent getting laid because of their social skills or their personalities. $$$$$$$$$$
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:39 PM
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Natures way of thinking out the socially inadequate potential suitors
/r/seduction04/05/20 11:11 AM
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Again, having been a mentor in the community, when I would go out with someone to teach him how to talk and socialize i couldn't tell this 5'5 dude to just be handsome and attractive. Lifes not fair and that dudes needed some type of strategy, seeing that most women wount approach first unless the guys at LEAST 6'0
/r/seduction04/05/20 11:06 AM
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Nice try but Im not offended or triggered, I'm A: calling someone out on their bullshit for shit talking people coming here that are clueless about seduction and B: simultaneously letting people know that it's okay to ask questions. 2nd, his message wasn't even targeted towards me, I have a solid grasp on this stuff therefore (according to dickheads definition of pathetic) he wasn't taking about me. If you have a solid understanding of seduction, you can do one of 3 things 1: help people in this…
/r/seduction04/05/20 11:01 AM
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I was the same way, young over weight and awkward then I started to lean out and goto the gym then when I started reading up on game it helped me learn how to be socially adequate and not be a pushover
/r/seduction04/05/20 10:51 AM
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It's like learning to sell a product. There are good ways of showing people you have value without explicitly saying "hey I'm a catch, you should go out with me" which ironically, even if that were the case, would DQ you as a potential suitor
/r/seduction04/05/20 10:48 AM
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Common sense is subjective, not everyone's thought processes are on the same page.
/r/seduction04/05/20 10:45 AM
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Keep practicing. It will feel socially awkward at first. That's how you know it's working.
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:19 AM
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Geez guy, half the battle is picking the right target.
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:17 AM
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1st: focus on yourself- make sure you're enjoying yourself and having a good time, good vibes are infectious/ same goes for bad vibes 2nd: learn to be interested in people's lives, ask questions about them, their lives stories, and what makes them them 3rd: practice practice practice- keep socializing with strangers, all strangers, men and women. The more comfortable you get with taking to strangers the smoother you're conversational skills will come across as. Side note: don't focus too hard on…
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:08 AM
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"... they sell their souls" yeah that's really f*cked
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:59 AM
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Can you be more specific as to what you mean by "invite other and not discourage them?"
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:53 AM
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TL/DR "the majority of the people in this forum are pathetic and put girls on pedestals"
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:32 AM
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Have you tried turning it on and off again?
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:20 AM
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I see your POV. Don't forget a lot of people have a lot of different backgrounds. Some men are legitimately afraid of women and tremble at the thought of a conversation. It's easy to generalize, but having been a mentor (no I wasnt charging people I just enjoyed teaching and helping) I've seen that some dudes had awesome personalities but didnt know in the slightest what to do w a women. I've seen a lot of socially adequate guys lose opportunities because of their lack of knowledge with this. IO…
/r/seduction04/05/20 01:53 AM
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Show you a full deck, flip the deck over, Pick a card, put it back into the deck, put the deck into the box, give u the box with the cards, pick a person between me and my 4 friends, howd the card get into his wallet?
/r/seduction04/05/20 01:38 AM
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Speaking from experience magic tricks are dope and make nights out way better and more because of the reaction you get. Granted I was doing them for everyone not just women. But yeah. Dont be an asshole.
/r/seduction04/05/20 01:06 AM
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Get off your high horse
/r/seduction03/05/20 08:07 PM
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dudes come to sub for advice dude calls them pathetic dudes learn nothing from being called pathetic
/r/seduction03/05/20 05:10 PM
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AA?
/r/seduction29/04/20 02:44 PM
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What's your question? Everyone fantasizes about people we see in public, it's in our psychology, but that doesn't mean you should feed into it forcing sadness onto ourselves.
/r/seduction27/04/20 08:26 PM
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Make the conversations about her. Humans are inherently self centered, just keep interest In her and ask about her and her likes/interests, life stories. You can talk about yourself just dont give an auto biography. It's a skill and takes practice. Notice how I said "skillfully."
/r/seduction26/04/20 06:51 PM
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Skillfully play in the gray. A level of mystery helps give the seduction some life. Letting someone's mind run circles in the unknown, left to fill in the blanks with whatever they want.
/r/seduction25/04/20 10:42 PM
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Seems like your replying to my comment without replying to it. First off you seem sarcastic and mad at my comment, did it make you feel some type of way? If it's a bad method, dont take that up w me, I don't decide what works and what doesnt, and I can only vouch for my methods success. Shatter the one that matters? 2 things 1. No, I've been able to use the skills I've learned to actually sustain really healthy relationships, keeping me confident in myself. And 2. If you're looking to talk to wo…
/r/seduction21/04/20 04:54 PM
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The game is a must read for beginners, a glimpse into what game looks like.
/r/seduction20/04/20 11:39 PM
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Can we get a TL/DR
/r/seduction20/04/20 08:30 PM
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I like this part of seduction, the zone where studied psychology and game meet. Not too much into pick up and the psychology has societal application.
/r/seduction20/04/20 04:03 PM
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Dont worry about over extension, instead use it to your advantage. Assuming at that point where you have so many girls you're spinning that you dont think you can keep track of them, dont. Act like an alpha and never (fully) apologize for being distant. Remeber: women would rather share an alpha than date a beta. Example: if your feeling a girl that u havent talked to in a minute, cold call her and be friendly, act interested in what's new and try to remeber her background like: Oh yeah you're s…
/r/seduction20/04/20 03:56 PM
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The morale is a debate that wount ever come to a conclusion but what I will tell you is knowing game will help you get your dream girl by over 100%. Read up enough and you'll be able to get to a point where you get her, and realize she isnt all you wanted and that you mightve just been falling for a facade. (Happened to me) Then at that point your game will be honed enough for you to pick out what qualities you want and wount undersell yourself In your love/relationship life anymore
/r/seduction18/04/20 11:17 PM
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Search around, I use audio book which helps me out a lot. Id say search and read the descriptions for books (with the keywords emotional intelligence or social intelligence) that fit your goal to help you build a basis of personality to help create who you want to be. And a book that I'm reading next is "how to win friends amd influence people" by dale Carnegie.
/r/seduction13/04/20 04:30 PM
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You're being you, dont ever worry about who you are as a person. Just find some books to read on socializing and emotional intelligence to improve yourself. You're also young, I'm also young, but the person I was last year isnt even the same as the one I was this year. Another way to over come is to sign yourself up for events like field trips or commercial service, things to throw you outside your comfort bubble and learn to find comfort in being uncomfortable.
/r/seduction13/04/20 03:52 PM
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Mixed signals: a lot of various information suggesting multiple things. Mysterious: the information being vague, suggesting anything.
/r/seduction13/04/20 03:43 PM
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The reason it's so frowned upon is because when the advice is given, to be like that, dating novice men turn straight simp and display low value and begin chasing/ begging. It's good advice to not be straight forward, at least until you have an actual grip on what's going on.
/r/seduction13/04/20 03:40 PM
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If you say the right thing without confidence she'll see right through you
/r/seduction06/04/20 04:58 AM
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It can be normal depending on your life experiences. Hes def utilizing game techniques, probably a natural.
/r/seduction02/03/20 01:32 AM
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What the fuck is this post
/r/seduction19/02/20 10:34 PM
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Even with the group of wingmen I go out with, no girl is off limits. I was hitting on a girl, i played hard to get, got her number then when I walked away my friend started trying to get w her too. Instead of being a whiny pussy I used him to show her how unwanting of her I was. When he blew out the set I moved back in with "he seemed cute, did you get his number? * smiling* " and I ended up winning her over.
/r/seduction19/02/20 10:21 PM
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"You're really pretty, it sucks your not my type or I might've taken you out sometime"
/r/seduction19/02/20 10:08 PM
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I show confidence by being myself unapologetically, By carrying myself in a way that shows i respect myself.
/r/seduction19/02/20 12:48 AM
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I had a pretty rough night last night to. As stupid and cliche as it sounds the one thing that I always tell myself is a Neil Strauss quote when he says something to the effect of "somedays you'll feel on top of the world, others you wount" it's super discouraging but I always try to keep in mind that for some reason 5 good gaming nights will have the same impact as 1 bad one.
/r/seduction17/02/20 01:23 AM
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Keep at it man, I'm gonna check out the bars alone tonight too. I've also noticed the biggest obstacle is just feeling awkward and out of place.
/r/seduction17/02/20 01:05 AM
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Learning to be socially independent can actually help out your life a lot. I used to skip out on events bc friends wouldn't wana come then I got tired of not going so I started alone and now I make friends everywhere I go. And calling this out as "PUA bullshit" really doesn't make any sense, what's wrong with trying to improve your social skills? Not everyone is cool enough to have friends to invite to out with you 24/7.
/r/seduction17/02/20 01:03 AM
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That is displaying confidence?
/r/seduction12/02/20 12:37 PM
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Just somewhat apologize. You kinda blew yourself out of the water and she might purposely not give you a chance as a fuck you
/r/seduction11/02/20 07:43 PM
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Masculinity can be displayed through confidence, its not a set in stone theme.
/r/seduction11/02/20 07:38 PM
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Disagree. No one is born a socialite, people can be friendly but being good with people consists of pushing and talking to people. Youd have no idea what people like if you dont talk to them.
/r/seduction10/02/20 08:15 PM
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I hate puffing my chest out but I do it for the sole purpose of having good body language. Along side standing straight and smiling.
/r/seduction10/02/20 07:26 PM
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Being yourself is being nervous, were born shy and socially inadequate. Anything further is learned behavior. you get to decide and build your personality how you want to.
/r/seduction10/02/20 07:25 PM
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Know your enemy. Watch some Lana Del Rey music videos and try to see what's sexual and suggestive about her nature, women eat her music up because she speaks that language. Learn it and implement little segments into your personality and conversation via trial and error. Find what works for you.
/r/seduction10/02/20 01:23 AM
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The more you chase them, the more you drive them away.
/r/seduction10/02/20 01:09 AM
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Just acknowledge it, play it off as not a big deal, then move on and let them initate the next meet up and conversation .
/r/seduction10/02/20 12:55 AM
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Clubs are not ideal for gaming, itll be for the most part focused on 3 aspects Confidence/ Fun 2. Dance ability 3. Ability to stand out. None of which are debatable, you have to display them and convey them non verbally through actions.
/r/seduction10/02/20 12:51 AM
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What year are you in? Do both at the same time
/r/seduction08/02/20 02:32 AM
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Literally because of this post I'm going to promise myself to go out alone in the near future. Post updates and I'll do the same. You're not alone, were just far apart haha. Your mindset it amazing !
/r/seduction08/02/20 02:30 AM
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I'd say the same thing
/r/seduction08/02/20 02:29 AM
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This is what got me passed my Social/Approach Anxiety Daytime in public: Have at least 3 conversations with different women. -the only goal is having it last at least 2-3 minutes -doesnt matter what 3 women, store worker, stranger, cute, hot, ugly, anyone Night game at bar, club, social event: get at least 4 numbers, snapchats. -attempt conversation before doing so -no matter how bad you think you messed up ask anyway limit yourself to MAX 3 beers throughout the night, do not get drunk. Disclaim…
/r/seduction07/02/20 03:08 PM
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Someone asked Tony hawk if wearing a helmet and pads makes you a better skate boarder, he said "does it make you more confident in skating?" The guy replied "yes" and hawk followed with "then it does make you better." Everyone's different, find and use what makes you better.
/r/seduction07/02/20 03:01 PM
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PUAs can be successful talking themselves into situations they're not very welcomed in, that isnt a reason to do it in the first place. I set boundaries for myself when gaming. Ex: while I might be friendly with waitresses, unless shes being blatant that shes into me I dont try to game her, shes working. not everyone wants to be seduced while in public.
/r/seduction07/02/20 01:40 PM
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I see a lot of negativity. While I do my best to post things to help guys game, there's a decent amount of arguing that goes on. What's strange is trying to argue advice that derived from actual successful pick ups, as if I offended someone, people will flock to disprove it. While people strategies might differ, there isnt one right way to seduce. That same linear thought process (game unsuccessful) people come to reddit with is the same one they bring to game, a perpetual incel cycle of hatred …
/r/seduction07/02/20 01:16 PM
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Rebel without a cause. His style, mannerisms, energy, pretty much everything he does in that movie.
/r/seduction05/02/20 08:55 PM
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Yes they do, ask away
/r/seduction05/02/20 08:52 PM
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Welcome
/r/seduction05/02/20 07:32 PM
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For the basics look at the greats James Dean, Marlon Brando. For more specific ones, follow someone you naturally like that way it comes easier and more genuine. I look like geazy and already dressed like him bf I knew who he was, now I look at him to model behavior and that kind of thing bc I already vibe w it. Maybe Don Jon and Crazy Stupid Love. You'll know which roles I'm talking about when you watch it. They're some what cheesy but the message is still solid.
/r/seduction05/02/20 05:51 PM
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Robert Greene's book was more of a frame to give you a certain state of mind when considering seduction. No I don't expect you to read art of seduction and then travel teo Rome to try to seduce Caesar as Cleopatra did. Haha
/r/seduction05/02/20 05:12 PM
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Art of seduction and the game all fall under the net of seduction. Art of seduction is a literal book with historical evidence that seduction has always been a thing as long as humans established civilization.
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:51 PM
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Romance too fast will prove you were just waiting to give it to the first female who gave you the time of day. Feel her out. Romance should be an enhancer to your already present connection, it shouldnt be the basis of a connection.
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:01 PM
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While people will call the game old school, it's the principles of game(dating) and should be seen as that. Game is playing off of human subconcious, which will never change (at least not for a veeeeeery long time after generations of Gene's have passed). While more people found out about game and the tactics were used very commonly, this is offset by 2 things; 1 the population has also increased and 2 that generation which was used to PUAs using the same scripts is no longer the focal point of …
/r/seduction05/02/20 03:51 PM
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Yeah I do great and everyone I know that does it does pretty well. As far as the stats, matching with 100 girls on tinder= 5 in person hangout. 100 cold approaches= at least 15 hangouts in person again romantically and even more could lead to potential friendship where you can widen your social circle. Addition: the better you get in those approaches, the more chance you give yourself to find a potential girlfriend. The more you practice the higher your ratio will be.
/r/seduction05/02/20 03:35 PM
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You're absolutely correct, not only do you stand out, but you can convey a lot more non verbal information in person as opposed to tinder. Ex: are you shaved? Is your facial hair well put together? , gel in your hair? Confidence? Witty? Have friends? Calm voice? Funny? Gets along with her friends? Shy? Wearing good smelling cologne or axe? Good sense of style in public ?
/r/seduction05/02/20 03:16 PM
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Yeah I knew some people might take it the wrong way, but I do think the majority of the app usage isnt for what people think it is, their are even fake (female) accounts on those apps to trick guys into thinking they're getting more matches by paying. Those are usually really easy to spot though.
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:30 PM
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What?
/r/seduction05/02/20 03:12 AM
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So far for me Years: about 3-4 Books: 5 (re read 2 of them) BuT iTs BeCaUSe iM TaLL. Gtfo haha
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:46 AM
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You're called a natural. Most people seeking advice here don't know what to do, which is fine. Society does a pretty shitty job at explaining it and making it clear what the roles of each gender are. That's why they come here, seduction is like any other hobby, the more you practice the better you'll get.
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:39 AM
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You really couldn't be more wrong. Read "Art of Seduction" Robert Greene.
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:37 AM
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You're def not a PUA. Ew.
/r/seduction04/02/20 10:39 PM
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Seduction stops where a womans discomfort begins. Not taking social cues That she doesn't want to talk to you will only make you look socially inadequate. Discomfort doesn't always translate to"keep talking to me, I like you I just don't know it yet."
/r/seduction04/02/20 08:51 PM
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Its is and its written for that reason. this is what I use and it doesn't ever disappoint. There are 2 factors working in this piece of advice. It's made for basic beginner guy who are new to the game and just getting their feet wet, not master slayer PUA. The more people you broadcast information to, the less specific you have to be. If someone PMs me ,the advice i give might be skewed from what's written above and that's because I can better give specific, tailored to his situation, advice. Ca…
/r/seduction04/02/20 07:42 PM
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Oops my and haha. Art Of Seduction is also a really good gender neutral book on seduction. Highly recommend.
/r/seduction04/02/20 07:20 PM
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Depends, if you hate men and only want female advice on men r/femaledatingstrategy is for you. If you want some pretty decent advice from a spectrum of gender, ask away here. Yes it's mostly men, but that's not by design and everyone is welcome to ask questions here.
/r/seduction04/02/20 07:17 PM
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You'll inherently want what you can't have, the further she pushes u away the more you'll want her and see her as "your type." I think moving on would help you out better. I think you should keep dating and keep meeting women until you're a little more on your feet. Getting mad while drunk indicates some discontent with yourself. (I'm not trying to play dr.phil, just genuinely want to give the best advice I can)
/r/seduction04/02/20 03:57 PM
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People have hobbies, some like dating others like video games. Nothing wrong with that. Alpha is a mindset I understand, this context used beta to describe someone who hopelessly follows women around. Who said anything about making promiscuity a life goal? You dont know me man, dont act like it. Most advice given from elderly people is to not take life too seriously and just enjoy it. No one should be defining what someone else should find interest in. Would making komucha be a better way to spe…
/r/seduction04/02/20 01:53 PM
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You're gonna end up on the news, arrested, or w a restraining order there guy. Shit like this is the reason the public hates PUA and why Game has such a shitty reputation.
/r/seduction04/02/20 01:37 PM
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A shit test conversation balance should be 60-40, not 90-10
/r/seduction04/02/20 01:18 PM
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Agree to disagree. I'd rather find the ones willing to talk, they're more fun. Plus If they're showing disinterest i just dont like bothering women too much in public. Showing disinterest or arguing your conversation can be a shit test. I thought that was universal game knowledge.
/r/seduction04/02/20 01:12 PM
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Play the game to your favor. "Betas running wild"? Speak for yourself brother, I think they're a great contrast for me. Making me look better if anything haha. Knowing what they want and giving to them opposed to asking is the name of the game.
/r/seduction04/02/20 01:03 PM
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The fact of the matter is that there are plenty, both to talk to and that want to talk to you. you're better off either just moving on focusing your efforts elsewhere or working on your material and openers if you keep getting the same response. Theres a difference between a ahit test and actually annoying a person.
/r/seduction04/02/20 01:01 PM
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Just drop it and walk away. They're are plenty that will entertain a healthy conversation, no point in wasting your time with this one.
/r/seduction04/02/20 12:48 PM
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Was absolutly not always like that, i was tired of being heart broken and never made a priority so I read up on game and practiced. I turned the tables 100%.
/r/seduction04/02/20 12:36 PM
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They're called IOIs (Indicator of Interest) and they are subtle. They're made that way because they want a guy who knows what to look for. Google/ read up on IOIs then just look for them when talking to women. A good one is looking for them on waitresses, most will give off excessive IOIs for a better tip but in the end they're doing the same thing.
/r/seduction04/02/20 03:25 AM
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Check out an article on my page called "The Fix It all solution to Social anxiety" I think reading that would help you out as its focused on building and working on your inner personality before being girl/dating/game focused
/r/seduction03/02/20 11:13 PM
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It is 100% a matter of making yourself. get used to being uncomfortable!!!!!!
/r/seduction03/02/20 06:06 PM
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No ones born a super star. The only reason you cant picture it is because you're not letting yourself get out there. Reshape your personality, itll be awkward and difficult but I promise you'll have a new take on life learning to be open to new experiences.
/r/seduction03/02/20 06:04 PM
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Meeting via DMs (unless you have a personal relationship) with a women will not go over well, and you'll most likely just get thrown into the group of thirst dudes sliding in. Keep opening your social circles and attend social events, use apps to find social groups to hang with (hiking group, Wednesday night wine and painting, salsa classes (<---highly highly highly reccomend), anything that gets you out there. As you become more social and open, you will begin to attract women *just based off y…
/r/seduction03/02/20 05:50 PM
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Instead of going into a hunter gatherer "eat fuck repeat," cool the jets and learn to not let your sex drive control your decisions. Go on dates often, some will escalate themselves and others will take longer but in the end you should have multiple women in your orbit at different stages. In the long run, showing control will say something about you, letting her initiate the IOIs and letting her do some of the work before you go in. No I'm not blue-pilled "women are goddesses" I'm saying that y…
/r/seduction02/02/20 02:30 PM
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Im also sensing you're a decently attractive dude based off the advice you're giving. Buyers remorse will quickly have her changing her opinion on you. You smashed? Cool, she has the very viable option of claming up and cutting you off since its established that yall are just FWB. I'll play the long game if it means I'll have more to work with, opposed to just sexual attraction.
/r/seduction01/02/20 10:53 PM
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I'm not entirely sure I buy the "get her wetter than a mop inside apple bees" vibe. You're saying when shes in your house? well duh that changes the scenario a bit. I'm glad your advice works for you, and it would probably work for me too The fact of the matter is that I'm not a dog chasing a bone. I dont mind putting off some sex in order to create that tension at a later time and I'm not gonna let my sex drive control my social life. Your style is fine tuned to someone who knows game and knows…
/r/seduction01/02/20 08:32 PM
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You putting her on your schedule is a privilege not a right. use texting as a means to an end, dont hold lengthy conversation over the phone. Use it to set up physical meet ups. After a good 1st date like that I would have said something' to the effect of "hey it was nice meeting up, thanks for coming out" then no matter what not responding UNTIL I have a free day to meet up again. Then I'd say "whatre you doing Thursday?" By continuing conversation (even flirtatious) you're easing yourself into…
/r/seduction01/02/20 07:37 PM
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Indicators Of Interest: playing her hair, her laughing at your jokes, her touching you, showing interest in you, anything that she does to non-verbally tell you she likes you.
/r/seduction01/02/20 07:31 PM
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Pick up on the easy ones, practice game with them, read up on game technique, and then slowly progress your way up the attractive scale.
/r/seduction01/02/20 03:48 AM
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Dont worry about pretending to be what youre not, people will see right through that. For example: instead of hiding a terrible bald spot, just go bald. having a bald spot is a choice, shaving you're head isnt. this is just an example, I'm saying fix what you can and be unapologetically yourself.
/r/seduction01/02/20 03:46 AM
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Act as if you have other things going on. They're not gonna want someone clingy. I dont ever tether myself to my phone, aside from work all my notifications are silenced so I read them whenever I read them.
/r/seduction01/02/20 03:41 AM
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The only way out of suffering from approach anxiety is through. You're alive arent you? Let this be a reminder to you that approaching wount kill you and dont let it be the last approach you accomplish!!!!
/r/seduction01/02/20 02:55 AM
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Daytime in public: Have 3 conversations with different women. -the only goal is having it last at least 2-3 minutes -doesnt matter what 3 women, store worker, stranger, cute, hot, ugly, anyone Night game at bar, club: get at least 4 numbers, snapchats. -attempt conversation before doing so -no matter how bad you think you messed up ask anyway - limit yourself to MAX 3 beers throughout the night, do not get drunk. Disclaimer: don't be aggressive with this and dont be pushy Increase the goals as y…
/r/seduction31/01/20 07:31 PM
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Approach Anxiety Get rid of the mindset about a shortcut pertaining to approach anxiety. There is no way around it, only through it. You'll have to make a bumbling mess of yourself enough times before your mind finally realizes that not all its propped up to be and wount kill you. Then and only then can you harness your cold approach potential. Every single master PUA was at one point afraid to talk women and would tremble at the very thought. Fun Fact: while I have a decent sexual resume, whene…
/r/seduction31/01/20 06:10 PM
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I mentioned a little bit in my original response the impacts outside of sex that the seduction community has had on me. I learned how to be myself (more or less) in front of the most intimidating opponent: gourgous women hahaha. Now I'm not afraid anywhere, for the most part, my interest in the content is probably derived from a mix of A: being a total AFC in high school, getting heart broken all the time and completely turning the tables and B: I've always been suuuuper interested in psychology…
/r/seduction31/01/20 05:48 PM
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Game and seduction is all about figuring out who you are. Take the lessons here and experiment with them, find what works for you. You can read all the knowledge you want but they arent recipes to improve your performance, they're enhancers. Knowing how to manipulate the seduction knowledge and apply it to your life is equally as important as even knowing the knowledge in the first place. If I gave to you my script for what I say to game, you wouldn't be able to sell it correctly because its con…
/r/seduction31/01/20 04:59 PM
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You've showed her your bad side, now all you gotta do is show her that that isnt who you really are. This is gonna take a while butbits super important to come off as easy going, anything too quick and forward and shell go right back to your ex and be like "look what _____ said"
/r/seduction31/01/20 03:15 PM
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What the fuck kind of advice is this? Dude wants advice and you're gonna judge him for that?
/r/seduction31/01/20 03:13 PM
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Tell her you're doing better than you were and give some space for a while. Upload shit on sc and insta that makes you look like your back out there and having fun. Then hit her up again and have casual conversation then see where you stand w her.
/r/seduction31/01/20 03:10 PM
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Ignore her. If she wants to play games, then stops playing when you join, leave the match.
/r/seduction31/01/20 02:07 PM
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Dont forget, simplicity can translate to confidence. My goto: "Hey you free saturday? Let's grab a drink somewhere." Or "Whatre your plans tonight" ... "let's meet up for _______"
/r/seduction31/01/20 01:59 PM
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The dude abides.
/r/seduction31/01/20 01:51 PM
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It seems like your blaming your social anxiety on a seduction forum. I think youd be better off in a forum more suited for anxiety rather than talking to women. Unless I'm misunderstanding your argument. Learning how to get rid of approach anxiety made my life so much more fun because then not only was I unafraid to talk to women, I was unafraid of everything! I began cracking jokes and striking conversation with waiters, strangers in the store, pretty much everywhere! My gfs family all loves me…
/r/seduction31/01/20 01:49 PM
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Its definitely mostly men on here but women are always asking questions as well. Ask away!
/r/seduction31/01/20 01:15 PM
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Yes, read up on game to have some tips in your "mental tool box" but dont let any of that effect your personality. Remeber: it's your connection w her that will be your sticking point here w her.
/r/seduction30/01/20 10:23 PM
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Hahahaha that's not a plan dude that's just a cold approach. Yeah sure man as long as you can sell it and come of as cool relaxed and easy/fun to talk to. Ask her to met up somewhere sometime and then if she says yeah get her number to help set up the meet.
/r/seduction30/01/20 09:44 PM
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There are so many different situations you're facing. 1st dont be discouraged and put your entire game off bc it's not working and 2nd bring up specific scenarios to ask for advice so people (and I) can fine tune your mistakes, or help you make the slight changes that could be holding you back. Baby steps. When asking for critic advice, give the setting, a script of what happened and what you want out of that person (Fwb, girlfriend, boyfriend, just friend, ect...). When asking for advice before…
/r/seduction30/01/20 08:35 PM
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Dont worry about your reputation, you gotta be about that life then the reputation will follow.
/r/seduction30/01/20 08:24 PM
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Girl: I like your eyes:) Me: thanks I made them myself ;) Girl: wow you're so tall! Me: am i? I'm pretty sure you're just really short.(I'm 6'5) Girl: i like you, you're super cute Me: well thanks but I gotta let you know that I'm not that easy * smirk* Just OWN whatever they tell you and remeber to be sassy/playful.
/r/seduction30/01/20 08:23 PM
1

Are you talking about the correlation Between people losing their virginity before 20 and their skills w the opposite sex today?
/r/seduction30/01/20 04:34 PM
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You're correct. Keep doing what your doing.
/r/seduction30/01/20 03:47 PM
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There was absolutely no correlation for me between the 2 and idk man dont dwell on it too much.
/r/seduction30/01/20 03:44 PM
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Dont stress it brother, I lost mine due to pure dumb luck, and so did alot of other people. When I was 15 My friend at the time just happened to have an older sister who had a friend that would fuck anything that walked. I currently go out to bars to game with a dude who's 24 and lost his v card this year. Dont let your past dictate your future. Being good w women now and losing your virginity then are 2 completely different worlds.
/r/seduction30/01/20 03:20 PM
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You're placing too much pressure on A: this one specific girl and B: this one specific text. Take a breather and just be indifferent. If she replies cool, if she doesn't, cool. Either way she shouldn't matter this much to you brother
/r/seduction30/01/20 01:30 PM
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Wait until the day of and DONT mention it, it's nothing to be embarrased about unless you project your insecurity about it. Ie: it wount be a problem unless you make it one. Girls would rather have a confident guy than a tall guy.
/r/seduction30/01/20 01:11 PM
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I'd say only because you all are new to eachother maybe even switch the venues (if possible) ie: goto a close venue the first time to establish rapport and comfort then 2nd date pick one that is that far away
/r/seduction30/01/20 01:07 PM
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Disclaimer: I'm am a straight male but I do want I provide the best in sight that I can. I think you should say something to the effect of: hey I think you're cute. Instead of straight asking him what his orientation is, let him know you have a different set of feelings that are beyond friendly. I say this because I think it's just best to not waste anyone's time but at the same time you're the one in the situation, I'm just reading about it through a box. Trust your intuition
/r/seduction30/01/20 03:14 AM
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Be upfront, and if I were you I'd let the person your interested in know in public because I've heard stories of guy freaking out on dudes that come out and in public at least youd have the saftey of strangers around you.
/r/seduction30/01/20 02:54 AM
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Your open mind will lead you to open legs.
/r/seduction30/01/20 02:13 AM
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We talked about what it was like for her growing up in california, and comparing it to my upbringing in New York. I waited until about 30 minutes before I told her I was actually from Cali and had never been to new york. Whatever you make the conversation about, just make sure you're fun and engaging to talk to.
/r/seduction29/01/20 09:41 PM
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I have nothing to gain debating game with a simp. L8r dood. PM me if you ever come around again wanting advice.
/r/seduction29/01/20 09:38 PM
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The self proclaimed "never had a girlfriend" presumed virgin is now telling me I don't understand women. Aiight ima head out.
/r/seduction29/01/20 09:18 PM
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Learn to separate yourself from the heard. Wana know to to not get ghosted off dating apps? Delete the app and Meet them in real life. Dating apps are 90% used solely just for confidence boosts, there isnt anything on those apps that women cant find at a bar, or even going to the mall. Women are not all sluts as you've described, and if they were then you wouldnt have a problem with them the way you do. If you learn societal rules, you can learn to play them to your advantage. You're disqualifyi…
/r/seduction29/01/20 08:57 PM
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I think you know why you're in a hole. You're saying you were born in the wrong generation, dudes who learn how to get good with girls are essentially conformists and your failure to conform would translate in a different era. You're not in the wrong generation, you have the wrong mindset.
/r/seduction29/01/20 08:33 PM
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You're the victim of your own mindset. "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten." You're saying "you were born in the wrong generation" but with a mindset like "I'm abnormal and dont deserve a girlfriend" no era of human kind has had that be the mindset of courtship
/r/seduction29/01/20 08:28 PM
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It's in some peoples personality to be better with women due to many factors (ie: having sisters, being closer w your mom, naturally getting along with girls in school, being born on the attractive end of the scale, ect...) and some people arent so knowledgable about that realm, so the basis of game is to try and impliment it into your personality to catch up with the people who were given a leg up. It seems draining but look at it like a hobby. Doing Ollie's on a skate board are difficult and d…
/r/seduction29/01/20 06:21 PM
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Text game: dont hold conversations, texting is a tool for future meet ups. Group game: open up a group and pick a target, ignore the target conversationally for the most part (simultaneously keep giving her glances and smiles and smirks) and then either at the end of that conversation: hey it was nice talking to you guys though, can I get your insta/snap? looking at target girl or find the target later on "hey when i talked to you earlier i completely forgot to get your ____" then later on over …
/r/seduction29/01/20 04:11 PM
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You're projecting it whether your conscious of it or not, the women can sense it. You have to truely not give a fuck and treat them like their average girls, they will then want you more because you arent giving them the "hot girl" respect every guy gives them
/r/seduction29/01/20 03:58 PM
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Its called a shit test, she called you out saying you "don't do it that often" without ANY knowledge of whether or not you do, and your response literally confirmed you dont. I wouldve said something to the effect of "only with the cute ones" or "what? Do you know who your talking to?? I was on the US Olympic Dart Team! I was gonna go easy on your but now you're asking for it!"
/r/seduction29/01/20 03:39 PM
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It sounds like a mix of misunderstanding the game, and insecurity. I'd say read up a little more then just try to have fun with it and commit to approaches.
/r/seduction29/01/20 03:36 PM
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Dont be too quick to be 1 on 1, rushing straight to it will throw a vibe off and freak her out. Let it happen "naturally"
/r/seduction29/01/20 03:33 PM
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It doesn't matter where I am I always feel the anxiety still. All I did was learn that rejections not the end of the world. After doing it for so long it starts to feel like you're on a roller coaster. I got so used to approach anxiety that if I don't approach anyone when I go out I don't think it's fun.
/r/seduction27/01/20 11:45 PM
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Just go what you've been doing if it works, hot girls are no exception. My goto dates are museums, malls, food. Super basic stuff in public so she can get a feel for you and "feel your vibes" (I know it's a dumb way of saying it but that's essentially what it is)
/r/seduction27/01/20 11:39 PM
3

You had me in the first half. Actually a super good piece of advice
/r/seduction27/01/20 11:13 PM
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I've limited myself to having only 2 beers max when I go out. once you get used to using alcohol as a tool instead of getting wasted it becomes so much more fun than it used to be.
/r/seduction27/01/20 07:30 PM
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Girls will use dating apps primarily for confidence boosts. A girl who's a 4 in real life will act like a 7 on the app and A girl who's a 6 will act like a 9; in terms of difficulty closing an actual meet up . Meeting them in person establishes your confidence right off the bat and also breaks that awkward seal of meeting for the first time since you've already meet before. Do whatever you want on your tinder, it's not going to matter all that much in the end but yeah it will probably help.
/r/seduction27/01/20 07:27 PM
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She likes you, just don't get pushy
/r/seduction26/01/20 11:50 PM
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It's a long explanation but essentially: it's a subconcious alpha/ beta fillteration system. women want a guy thats witty enough to be able to read subliminal hints. "Alphas" talk to girls enough to be able to read their body language while "betas" seldom talk to girls, in turn they cant read those same signs. They also don't want to be straight forward in fear of them looking slutty. There are A LOT of reasons. As a beginner, You're better off just going with the program learning what those sub…
/r/seduction26/01/20 10:13 PM
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Go in with the mindset your not going to get with her, you wount fail. If you dont get w her, its expected and if you do, it's because you looked relaxed around her and not nervous. Ask her questions about things, pretend your new and lost and have no idea what's going on. "Hey do you know where_____ is? I'm kinda new around here and you look like you know where to get a good ________"
/r/seduction26/01/20 08:58 PM
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The part were she said she respects you being "clear and straight up" is just fluff, shes exaggerating something simple in order to imply she likes you. Her saying "let's get to know eachother personalities better" is her way of saying "I dont want you to think I'm a slut or an easy fuck and I'm going to go slow with you and see if you are just trying to fuck me"
/r/seduction26/01/20 08:51 PM
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You carry yourself how you perceive yourself. A confident dude who's 5'10 will get "the look" before a hot guy who's 6'5 and has no confidence. Women wount give you the look because they can read your body language which indicates how you perceive your own worth. It's impossible to not project it without knowledge of how to do so. I'm attractive and all my "hot guy situations" began by doing things rooted in my confidence, not height or looks, just having my own style and fun/exciting personalit…
/r/seduction26/01/20 08:43 PM
3

That plate dropped and is shattered, find more to spin
/r/seduction24/01/20 01:53 PM
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Game works twice as good at college bars because of a mix of 2 things: -they're reeeeally used to frat guy type of dude so if you put yourself together well (outfit) and dont act thirsty (mannerisms) you'll stand out easily. -2nd: they haven't been exposed to the world of game quite yet, so they'll fall for a lot of the super basic game technique I had a ONS w one girl, after I smashed I asked her what made her like me(I figured why not ask questions indirectly about what she thought about my ap…
/r/seduction24/01/20 01:43 PM
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Touching because it's the most universally understood and also one of the hardest to misinterpret
/r/seduction24/01/20 03:37 AM
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I'd say it's best to keep the sexual vibe non verbal. I'd personally allude to it being sex but never actually address it. Instead of asking what the prize is, I'd try Something to the effect of "how often do you usually win the prize "
/r/seduction23/01/20 03:09 PM
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You've set up a great frame, shes the one that needs to win your approval, not the other way around. Yes shes flirting, her body language will tell you more than anything, I've held conversations about movies while actively making moves on her to escalate to sex, focus less on whats being said and more on how it's being said in person. Keep up this game you have going with her, dont let it dry out and don't give in when she tries to break the frame, shes testing how strong your frame actually is
/r/seduction23/01/20 03:07 PM
1

The only reason improvising is awkward to you is because you're not used to it. I do it so often that I can make it seem natural. Practice makes perfect, no exceptions to that rule.
/r/seduction23/01/20 02:32 PM
2

You gotta cool it with your self criticism, just be playful and easy to talk to (easy to talk to in a vibe/ energy kind of sense)
/r/seduction23/01/20 02:29 PM
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Yeah were on the same page with this.
/r/seduction22/01/20 06:39 PM
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You're not wrong, Men understand it's not owed which is why they decide to seek advice to improve their standing
/r/seduction22/01/20 06:32 PM
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You should be able to tell based off how she acts. Aas a general rule of thumb I would say anything after the 2nd one( ending in sex )is excessive and implied that there is mutual attraction
/r/seduction22/01/20 05:15 PM
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So for the first 2/3 of the date dont worry about escalating, you're still a stranger and shes still getting to learn to be comfy around you. In the last third of the date try a little hand holding. Go in for the kiss when these requirments are present: -alone -dark/dim room -quiet. If no situation happens with that criteria, when you go for the "hug goodbye" at the end of the date, just go for the kiss.
/r/seduction19/01/20 11:54 PM
2

I don't know who downvoted this, but this comment had me rolling
/r/seduction19/01/20 11:46 PM
1

I had a nose bleed while making out w a girl in a movie theater and didnt realise it until it was waaay too late. Just dont do that and you'll be fine. Apply lip balm prior to it not only for taste, dry lips don't feel good when making out. You'll mess up (hopefully not as bad as I) but one day you'll look back and laugh so just remeber to have fun through it all, it's pretty simple stuff dont over complicate it for yourself.
/r/seduction19/01/20 11:44 PM
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If yall click over certain topic then have them, itll feel organic, . Dont force conversation until the date but if it happens, it happens. As far as what to talk about, let her lead the convos, start off as you would as a friend then feel out what she wants to talk about.
/r/seduction19/01/20 08:53 PM
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Since you're new, just focus in being relaxed and easy to talk to, make sure the majority of the conversation is about her. Dont try to sell yourself on the first date. Your new so I'd say simplicity is key because being bombarded with advice to juggle will just trip you up or you'll unconsciously brain dump it once it starts.
/r/seduction19/01/20 08:49 PM
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High value women seek out authenticity and vulnerability? If that were the case then I'd would've been SWIMMING in pussy in high school, but in actuality I was the nice guy that girls knew they could illicit compliments and attention from. (If I'm understanding your response:) Your disagreeing with me in a redundant way. You're saying that alphas dont get the girls, then explaining you should have a confidence in yourself to get the girl. Just like I said in the original post, that IS being an a…
/r/seduction19/01/20 07:16 PM
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The theory of alpha is subjective to the user. My use of it is being confident in yourself. True, the alpha doesn't have specific traits, watch Adam's ruins everything and itll explain it. No I'm not actually referring to wolves when I mention alpha, but it is a mindset that can and should he applied to people in their everyday lives. There's no denying the existence of Alphas and betas in the human sphere, the only difference is one believes and acts like hes an alpha in his own right, and the …
/r/seduction19/01/20 03:27 AM
1

Hit her w "I'm meeting w a friend for dinner later tonight but I have some free time before that, let's meet at _____ around 5" you'll get some competition anxiety and you'll be subconsciously telling her your talking ti another female and her jealousy kick in, dont give her any info about this date you have scheduled afterwards
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:51 PM
1

"I want to fuck my ex but she keeps trying to kiss me. What do?"
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:42 PM
2

I sorry but avoiding a kiss from your thicc ex doesn't really translate to much 😂 be friendly and schedule another hangout or something platonic like coffee. Game her as you would anyone else and next time DONT AVOID THE KISS DUDE
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:37 PM
1

Alphas dont apologize for their actions( obviously within reason). Your next step is dictated by what your goal is with her. I'd say move on and just drop her, expand your vaginal horizons haha. What do you want from her?
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:16 PM
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Recognize the fear of rejection (approach anxiety, ect..) is natural, and learn its irrational. You're not going to die if you get rejected. For every body I have on my list I have a solid 6 rejections (not in that order but overall). game is based off of 2 main components: trial and error / and initiative. t&e because not everything you read will work for you and what works for you might not be in any 1 specific article. Initiative because you have to find the drive in yourself to become greate…
/r/seduction17/01/20 09:21 PM
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Everyone's different, I'm not saying it's the sole reason but i was just trying t ok explain my theory about ome part of the subconscious. I think every woman has a piece of her psyche rooted there, not to say that that's the only motivation they have, but I think understanding as many aspects will make your overall game better
/r/seduction16/01/20 10:24 PM
2

Lile other dude said, get to know her slow and steady. You could start by just talking about the class or asking her if she can help explain something to you abt the class then lead with "you're pretty good at this stuff, what kinda high school did you goto?" Just to change the course of the convo onto something more personal
/r/seduction30/09/19 07:55 PM
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Yeah you're becoming attached and clingy bc you're letting your mind wander and make up illusions. This is why when I'm at my peak game I'm talking to about 6 or 7 girls at once. I come off cooler calmer and less clingy. Balancing a few at a time make you care less and feel better about your situation which directly projects as confidence to them
/r/seduction30/09/19 07:39 PM
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Toughest rejection was I talked to a girl for a second, offered to get her a drink, then once I handed it to her she walked away. Definitely changed up my strategy and damn sure it hasn't happened since haha
/r/seduction30/09/19 07:37 PM
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He doesn't steal it, we bounce attention off eachother, we essentially run like a stand up comedy duo keeping our conversation lively and funny and pulling girls input little by little then eventually one of us will ask a. Girl if she wants to go get a drink or something when we are ready to lock onto one of them from the group
/r/seduction30/09/19 07:33 PM
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Being 6'5 my best wingman is around 5'6. That being said I use hik to make conversation flow better in a group and I'll even bring him in "oh yeah dude that place was crazy when we went, hey _____ didnt you jump into the crowd that night?" Advice : watch stand up comedians and watch what they talk about and how they can steal attention, have some interesting stuff lined up so that people WANT to listen to you
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:50 AM
2

Anything with hips is your best bet. Dont forget, girls go out to have FUN, they won't dance with someone who's a stickler, whatever dance style you pick don't forget to laugh and smile the whole way through
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:46 AM
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Haha absolutly not a cliche, in boot camp they cut your hair to make you fit in with the crowd because hair is a huge part of someones personality/ individuality, the same way people twerk to display their ass and draw attention to it they'll play with their hair to draw attention to it. Also as far as the group laughing at you that's your confidence speaking to you that they're making fun of you. They could be laughing because they cant decide who gets dibs on you for all you know. odds are if …
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:44 AM
2

Some simple IOI's - playing with her hair - asking questions - giving excessive answers to you questions -eye contact -her sounding like she has an exciting life (trying to sell herself to get you to want to tag along) -Her touching you at all or playfully pushing you (BIG BIG ONE) -If the conversation is going very well and smoothly
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:38 AM
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Short and blunt: ask for indicators of interest. It sounds like you haven't been on a date bc 1. You stick with online dating and 2. You might have girls interested but you miss the small IOI's because yoire not specially looking for them and brushing them off because you dont know what to look for. Keep up the social events and clubs, being a solid dude is a good trait to have so you dont come off as someone boring with no character or social skills
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:33 AM
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Charge your phone mf
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:29 AM
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I'm not gonna waste your time like she is: For one reason or another Shes no longer interested in you. Just forget about her completely Dont pick every little detail about your interactions you'll never really know why she isn't interested anymore Spoiler alert: you will get dumped again in your life, it's not a reflection on you at all, you just gotta keep trying until you find the one that sticks Now don't just sit down and wallow, get back out there and start getting with someone else!!!
/r/seduction30/09/19 12:02 AM
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Living w your parents isn't unattractive brother, if a woman cant wrap her head around someone going to college and being broke then she isn't worth it in the first place. Broke college kids isn't uncommon and no ones gonna expect someone young and in college to have money. Just go on a date then somewhere along the date mention you live with your parents because its convenient and cheaper than a dorm when you live so close to home. Then at the end ask of she wants to goto your parents place.
/r/seduction29/09/19 11:54 PM
1

Game is getting the girl, different styles and methods. Bare bone game is just being super confident and letting the rest happen by chance. Want stronger game?: next climate change thing strike up a convo, keep telling her shes right about everything, slowly start making jokes, flirtatiously make fun of her, then tell her you gotta go but wana meet up with her another time
/r/seduction27/09/19 09:42 PM
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Ask her if she wants to goto Starbucks then depending on how you feel going to HC with her would be a POWER move. Shes giving you the signs the balls in your court, get some coffee with her and read her vibe. Going to a mall or museum is good because if the conversation gets stale or yall have been sitting in the same store for too long you can walk around in order to give yourself more material to talk about to prevent stale convo.
/r/seduction27/09/19 09:37 PM
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Start by just talking one on one to people in a friendly manner with a friend to help you feel more comfortable around a new/ unfamiliar person. Nothing serious, nothing sexual, no motives. Just learn to he friendly at first then once your fine with being friends with strangers you can move from there. Never forget: DO NOT worry about rejection under any circumstance. You will get rejected and you will not be the first dude in history to have gotten shut down (not even the first to get shut down…
/r/seduction27/09/19 09:21 PM
2

I didnt touch on the specific noise question but that's because in my opinion your asking the wrong question, it sounds like a confidence issue (ie: I'm to shy to speak loudly) try focusing about how to BUILD your confidence
/r/seduction27/09/19 08:33 PM
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Just build your confidence and the rest will come naturally. You're right it shows confidence but women can def right off the bat of your actually confident or if your trying to put on a front. They see it allll night long dudes trying to be what they're not. Just be yourself and learn to find confidence in yourself, and your opinions and the rest will follow brother. Dont over think it getting on decibel stats, just build your confidence brother.
/r/seduction27/09/19 08:31 PM
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Practice talking to everyone you see, even if it feels awkward you need to start feeling more comfortable with yourself talking to people then work on direct approaches once you can strike a convo w anyone with ease
/r/seduction25/09/19 04:33 PM
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Talk slow, talk a lot, talk about her. If the comvo gets stale just be like "let's get out of here" then go to some other predetermined destination you've already thought of before the date, or somewhere relating to the convo you've had w her
/r/seduction25/09/19 04:31 PM
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Hahahaha dude there are 2 types of people 1. People with embarrassing stories about losing their v card and 2. Fkin liars. Its gonna be awkward and embarrassing, dont rely on alcohol for courage itll make it worse and dont stress, itll be awkward. Think of it this way: how interesting of a person can someone be if they're perfect and have never done something wrong their entire life? Enjoy the ride and go with the flow. You're both new so dont get caught up on being a sex god.
/r/seduction25/09/19 01:12 PM
2

They just do man. Go with the flow.
/r/seduction25/09/19 11:21 AM
1

This is a black belt technique, staring can give you the upper hand AT FIRST FOR A SHORT WINDOW. Experienced players will know how to do it tastefully and know when to stop staring and make the next move. Not a bad technique, bad for beginners who wount know when to stop staring and start the approach bc they'll sit in the Michael Myers power spot because it feels better than having to walk up and feel the sweat on your hands.
/r/seduction25/09/19 11:17 AM
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Lets not beat around the Bush, a woman wouldn't want a BOY like that. The other dude is right, you need to build up your own confidence. Watch shark tank amd watch the confidence people have in their ideas, regardless of how shitty they are. Why would a woman like you if YOU dont even like YOU. Start some sort of physical hobby like jogging or weightlifting to tone yourself a little/start building your OWN CONFIDENCE, not what outsiders think of you, build what you think of you. Focus on your ow…
/r/seduction25/09/19 11:09 AM
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