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| 5 | Does anyone else not want to give a man oral sex ever againI know but period sex is gross It's so not fair | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:23 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else not want to give a man oral sex ever againThat's so true! But I feel like in most cases, the woman gives more blowjobs and will even let him have anal sex with her 😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:20 AM |
| 11 | When Men Assume They Know More: A Short StoryWhy can't they just admit when they don't know?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:16 AM |
| 14 | When Men Assume They Know More: A Short StoryEwwww that's so embarrassing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:16 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020I'm sorry lovely! Make a list of every shitty thing he did, that helped me sooo much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Two: rape What is up with wealthy men needing to do stuff like this?? This man is disgustingOh gosh I'm sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 11:10 AM |
| 10 | Two: rape What is up with wealthy men needing to do stuff like this?? This man is disgustingSorry, I meant to say TW. I'm so grossed out though from the looks of it he is still running his media brand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:22 AM |
| 8 | If i could pass any knowledge for future generations is this. Lowering your standards is never worth it.omg I've never heard of this but I love this. I found the video here for anyone who wants to watch: https://www.nylon.com/billie-eilish-ugly-guys-video | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 11:23 PM |
| 9 | Didn’t mention anything about having kids/had “doesn’t want any” in his profile, and the humble brag sprinkle of “hehe I have so many women interested in me!” was laughable. Unmatched.Lol sometimes I see stuff like this and wonder if it's my ex 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:08 AM |
| 6 | This fuckboy just sent me a graph to mansplain to me why Covid is nothing to worry about.I know a married doctor who has been meeting up with a friend of mine throughout quarantine so no surprises here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:38 PM |
| 16 | Men struggle to have deep and fulfilling relationships with each other, so it’s no surprise they struggle to have deep and fulfilling relationships with women.yeah their relationships are so shallow I have honestly never met a man who has a fulfilling relationship with a friend. they just like.. say rude things to each other while doing an activity and then go home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:35 PM |
| 2 | How deal with the fear of never meeting someone?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZsL5R_CR-k pls watch this lovely video of Cher talking about how [non]ssential it is to be dating someone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:48 PM |
| 9 | Imaginary sky daddy apparently endorses sloppy three minute jackhammering.same five mins in they're like oh did you cum if I did, you would know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Imaginary sky daddy apparently endorses sloppy three minute jackhammering.I've always wondered what it would be like to do this, although I've never come. As a woman, I would feel so selfish, but men do it all the fucking time and think it's normal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:43 PM |
| 42 | History book displays photograph of a 22yo man and his 9yo child bride and calls it “cultural relativity” instead of child rape and enslavement.right after this: "Within weeks, legislators in Tennessee — humiliated by the outrage around the country — passed a bill that set the minimum age of marriage at 16. States like Minnesota and Rhode Island followed suit with similar reforms, as did Washington D.C. " so obviously this was never okay - the system just was not set up to protect young girls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:27 PM |
| 26 | History book displays photograph of a 22yo man and his 9yo child bride and calls it “cultural relativity” instead of child rape and enslavement.the cultural relativity thing is not true at all here. I looked this up and found a newspaper article from the time and it looks like the mother got a lot of flack for doing this. obviously the laws at the time benefitted men more than women, so that's why she got away with it, but everyone knew it wasn't the right thing to do, it seems | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Queens what are your feelings regarding being childfreeahh that's good :) I know it's possible but there is a higher risk of complications | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 06:05 PM |
| 2 | In your opinion, CAN and SHOULD a friend with benefits ever become a boyfriend?tbh he could have treated those girls shitty as well. or they made him chase. I agree it's important to accept that a relationship with him is not possible | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:49 PM |
| 5 | Finally someone appreciates the pain of pregnancies.I find this annoying that we're at a point where we even have to praise this tbh. This should be the norm. Anyone who dumps a bunch of sperm in you and makes fun of how ugly he thinks you've gotten from the fucking baby that he put in you is trash trash trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:49 PM |
| 6 | Finally someone appreciates the pain of pregnancies.they are low value because they didn't even come up with that opinion themselves yeeeeesss. I can't stand the bandwagoning with hatred of women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:47 PM |
| 9 | In your opinion, CAN and SHOULD a friend with benefits ever become a boyfriend?Nope nope nope. If he wanted to impress he would have done it already. Also, just in case you are feeling bad about this, I've found that guys who pursue FWB relationships are usually very low effort. Every single guy I've had more of a casual relationship with (or had sex with before we were official) is not in a relationship right now. Most haven't even been in an actual relationship since we stopped dating (for most of these guys that's about 4-5 years). They don't know what they want with an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed: Taken men in committed relationships liking a lot of seductive photos of other women. Is this low value?is this even a question?????????? sounds like you know the answer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Apparently kids aren’t important because they can potentially alter your wife’s body 🙄I don't like how they made this about how having kids apparently makes you unfuckable, but I do agree with some of it. You shouldn't make looks the foundation of a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:33 PM |
| 6 | Queens what are your feelings regarding being childfreeI think I would like to have kids, but not any time soon. It sucks because anything over 35 is apparently a 'geriatric' pregnancy. If I think about my timeline, I think I'm most likely to want to have a child at that age. I also always envisioned myself having a kid in my 30s, even when I was a teenager. I'm also not sure if I'd have enough money to raise a kid, or if I would find a man who could be a good parent. If neither of those happens by 35 I'd be childfree as I would want any child of mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | You Do Not Expireyeah I was just thinking that haha. I feel like 30-35 is usually deemed the "good" time to get married where I live | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:13 PM |
| 5 | You Do Not Expireunwilling to accept mediocrity this is so true. so many women are settling for mediocrity and I think because they wish they could do better they'll shame women who haven't lowered their standards | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:11 PM |
| 1 | You Do Not ExpireHonestly the age 25 confuses me because at least half of all people I know in their early 20s who are married are not in good relationships. Plus getting married often means there is pressure to have a child. I did not spend years getting an education to graduate at 22 and then have three years to have fun before being pressured into bringing a new life into the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | One of my old friends shared this on facebook and tagged her husband... can't imagine 1. knowing anyone this irresponsible 2. thinking that this is cute/funny or 3. that she'd actually air her problems with him publicly like this......Lol I know this is bad but it is hilarious af | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:03 PM |
| 16 | Seeing more and more tweets like this, gives me hope!yeah it will always feel like something is missing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 10:16 PM |
| 8 | Seeing more and more tweets like this, gives me hope!yeah it's exhausting. I have found a few guys who have offered emotional support, but one was a narcissist pretending to be everything I ever dreamed of and the other was someone I didn't want to date who was in the process of chasing me. I would love a relationship where they provide support | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 10:16 PM |
| 17 | Seeing more and more tweets like this, gives me hope!I knoow.. I'm pretty sure if these men had to put up with something similar they would leave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 10:13 PM |
| 10 | Y’all this guy is mansplaining my job to me. I’ve only done it for 15 years, but thank you Bumble man for telling me how to do it.This is true. For both men and women in my workplace, the most condescending are always looked at as the brightest. It's annoying because these people aren't ever talking about hard to understand concepts, either! They'll be talking about simple facts that everyone else around them understands, but they have some egotistic compulsion to explain things to everyone around them 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 09:00 PM |
| 9 | He forgot my birthday and wouldn’t admit it. Over it.Guys sometimes do this as a switch and bait, too. They promise something nice and then don't do it but in your head you associate them with the nice thing they didn't even do for you!! Gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 01:16 PM |
| 10 | Women who support women and build them up are automatically beautiful to me. Let’s be friends!It's only some women I've noticed this with, but I've been given daggers for telling a joke that someone's boyfriend has laughed at or bonding over a shared experience so I just don't talk to or even make eye contact with people's boyfriends or crushes anymore because it seems like any time I do they think I'm trying to steal their boyfriend. ESPECIALLY if their boyfriend is not treating them right. I think it's kind of the same as when girls who get cheated on blame the other girl instead of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Need some bad bitch adviceIt will be toxic! Get yourself a body pillow and a vibrator and treat yourself to some nice food. It's so hard to rip that bandaid off completely but I'm on the other end now and it feels great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Help me get back my assertiveness and respectOh man I'm so sorry you're going through this :( I'd highly recommend breaking up with him from the dating app situation. That shows a lack of commitment and respect to you and your relationship. Guys will always be more interested in you when you pull away. I would read Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl to start off with, and if you go through the handbook there are a lot of great books/youtube videos and advice posts you can have a look through. I left a shitty relationship when I was alrea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:29 PM |
| 3 | The Economics of Sexyeah I get irritated that the only other people who seem to think this way about sex are usually organizations like this and my grandma. I like this first half of the video but I don't like that it says women are the problem... I agree that we all as a group need to stop allowing shitty behavior, but it's not our fault that men act shitty in the first place. If they wanted to be gentlemen, they would! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 10:34 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever dated someone from the past?I feel like we all get caught up in the cute circumstances that we met someone, not just how good the relationship is sometimes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:31 AM |
| 27 | ‘Shes just a friend babe, stop being so insecure!!’good for you! I wish I had done that with guys I noticed that with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:58 AM |
| 88 | ‘Shes just a friend babe, stop being so insecure!!’honestly when they "used to have a crush" on someone I just assume they still do and the girl won't date them so they're dating me bc they can't get what they really want | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:54 AM |
| 5 | Have you ever dated someone from the past?I've known a few people who had good relationships with old classmates 3-4 years after graduation. They didn't really have a friendship or a relationship in high school, just knew each other. Both seemed like good quality relationships (not that that happens in every case) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Annoyed by mansplainers. Have any of you found a man that isn't condescending?nod and smile and take glee in your heart that you are smarter and they will never know it haha I feel like this is honestly what I'm gonna have to do. it sucks being the bigger person for so long, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Annoyed by mansplainers. Have any of you found a man that isn't condescending?ew vom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Annoyed by mansplainers. Have any of you found a man that isn't condescending?ooh that's the worst | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Annoyed by mansplainers. Have any of you found a man that isn't condescending?Doesn't mansplain and also calls it out when other people do it? That's really good news to hear! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 03:22 PM |
| 7 | Annoyed by mansplainers. Have any of you found a man that isn't condescending?They need to believe in our inferiority so strongly that they’ll misfire and “correct” correct information You're so right. This is exactly it. In one relationship it felt like he was specifically looking for things to call out or argue about with me. I've used the strategies you have as well - disengaging, showing them the correct answer. It's so emotionally taxing though. Sometimes, even after I've shown them the correct answer, they will say, "oh, well I heard differently." as though there's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 03:20 PM |
| 5 | Annoyed by mansplainers. Have any of you found a man that isn't condescending?When men get caught up in explaining, the quality of the conversation deteriorates. I completely agree.. like I didn't come here for your ted talk I'm glad you have friends that have learned and improved! It's good to know there are some people out there looking to better themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 03:10 PM |
| 23 | Pornmeisha gets a reality check about men. ☕️this is really good reinforcement for why we shouldn't be accepting men who watch porn. "I'd rather do things with you than my fiance sleeping beside me" ??????????????? aghh I almost wish there was a way to create a fake cam account and then somehow track the men down who say shit like this and tell their wives | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 12:44 AM |
| 1 | What if we started a Women’s Social Justice Movement?Ahh yes I see where you're coming from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:18 AM |
| 2 | It is emotionally and mentally draining. Never again.I'm wondering how to behave when someone isn't meeting your standards in a friendship. I find that many people I'm friends with have a few traits I wouldn't accept in a relationship, but if I weren't friends with them then I would actually have nobody. Also, I moved to a different country a while back and people are really quiet and keep to themselves here. I first have to go through making sure someone doesn't have rude, uninformed stereotypes about me and then I consistently have to be the per… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:16 AM |
| 11 | It is emotionally and mentally draining. Never again.Honestly when I see men talk to each other this is what it's like. They literally can't express emotions or talk about anything that matters. Conversations are so dull. I imagine this is why they treat women like emotional servants, because they can't do it with each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:08 AM |
| 51 | This is what happened with my ex so I looked up support, what a unique feeling of betrayal, I haven’t told friends or family the whole story but I found him on Grindr at 2am and he he took off from our home that night to do anal. He was attracted to women with penises.Ugh I know it's tough to come out but I cannot stand closeted men who will lie to a woman and ruin her life like this (and possibly give her stis if he cheats on her) Also at the first sight of seeing a partner of mine contact anyone for any sexual act online I would cut him off right then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:29 AM |
| 3 | What if we started a Women’s Social Justice Movement?You're right - everything was very personal. I agree with that. How do you think the next movement wouldn't require talking about personal experiences? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Oh no girl I'm sorry 😔 These nasty coworkers often ally themselves with the boss because they're not team players and there's no way they'd get promoted otherwise. I'm sorry you're also dealing with a racist punishment as well. I would continue doing good work and find a way to get out of there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Omg did you find the post? What was it about? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:05 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020I agree, I feel like noticing how someone is different to you is normal at first but after a while it would be really strange for one portion of someone's identity to occupy so much space in your head | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020what does "roastie" mean?? I've never heard that one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:45 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020It is a them problem. Many friendships I've seen between straight men and women involve one person having a crush on the other (it's usually the man). Most men who try to be friends with women are only friends with women they think are attractive. This is probably why these men decided to be your friend. You can keep setting boundaries/letting them know you're not interested but be ready to just cut them off if they can't respect that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:43 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Honestly lots of guys who say that a woman doesn't have interesting hobbies aren't interesting themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:29 AM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Omg noooo do not talk to him! Honestly you will probably get nothing from it and he will get an ego boost. At worst it could make you feel bad if he doesn't respond or is rude to you. A really old ex of mine (who I even had a good relationship with!) slipped into my DMs a few days ago, and I stupidly messaged back. I told him about my life and he started getting really condescending and it made me feel pretty shitty. You sound too nice. You're probably going through some things, too. Why hasn't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:27 AM |
| 6 | What if we started a Women’s Social Justice Movement?I agree with not wanting to take away from the black lives matter movement as well. I have seen many people try to use this as an opportunity for deeper learning, growth, donation, and political change. It makes me feel so excited to see a movement like this as I don't feel any movement before it has had so many people on the same side trying to understand deeper, less overt issues like systematic racism. People who used to joke about privilege are now actually acknowledging it. I really hope th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:16 AM |
| 4 | This is me not settling for less :) I’m glad I did it. You ladies can do it too!I agree I used to like to explain but it's much more powerful to just say you're cutting contact and block. Or just block lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:20 AM |
| 3 | How do you stop feeling ashamed of your party/wild girl past?Honestly, I've danced in embarrassing ways (especially at gay bars where messiness is encouraged lol) and I know a lot of girls who used to do stuff like this and I wasn't judging them then and I don't really judge them now. Although I know now that I would never want to engage in this behavior in the future, and I would never want my daughter to do this or feel like she had to behave that way, they're having fun and they're young and they just don't have the perspective or maturity to understan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 09:43 PM |
| 4 | How to not be a fan once you've become a fan?ohh lol I think there's some miscommunication! I'm not asking for any advice, I just brought up my story as an example. I was asking u/virginiadancer how she gives them timelines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:21 PM |
| 3 | How to not be a fan once you've become a fan?no we were completely official and everything! boyfriend/girlfriend. I just didn't even give off any hints that I was moving until I had organized the move. I was wondering if you tell guys that you're moving, because you said you give them timelines | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:13 PM |
| 4 | How to not be a fan once you've become a fan?do you tell the guy that you're moving? I dated a guy once when I knew I was moving but I never told him until a month before I moved and I felt so guilty. he was a LVM so it wouldn't have worked out anyway but I felt bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:39 PM |
| 6 | Men who can’t plan thingsomg a 38 year old should NOT be acting like that. there are teenage boys without transportation and money who can organize a picnic date idk why he can't | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:27 PM |
| 13 | Ironically, TheRedPill "redpilled" me about male nature and made me realize that I was a pickmeisha.omg the audacity was strong with this one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:25 PM |
| 33 | Ironically, TheRedPill "redpilled" me about male nature and made me realize that I was a pickmeisha.I dated a really terrible person once and honestly 80% of posts in those communities I think it's him and have to check the post history bc the situations they describe and the way they talk are so similar to my ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Any differences in countries and number of HVM?ugh I find all of the xenophobia mixed in with sexism so disgusting and disappointing honestly. you could find any girl in a short dress (and it's perfectly fine to wear a short dress!) on a night out in most places, regardless of nationality/ethnicity and the fact that people want to make it about that is just uggghh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 11:02 PM |
| 22 | Any differences in countries and number of HVM?lol really? I've had two relationships since being in Europe and both times they would actually use the fact that they were European to lower my standards. "Oh, you expected flowers on valentine's day?? wE dOn'T dO tHaT iN eUrOpE." Oh wow I wonder why every store is selling flowers and valentine's gifts, then?? I guess that's just for show?? I've also been told that I am stupid because of my nationality and that girls from my nationality are sluttier. Once on a first date (that I never went back… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:39 PM |
| 20 | This man boldly made SEVERAL antiblack sentiments in the face of me, a black woman.whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? he sounds disgusting. this racist, antiblack, you're-not-like-other-black-girls shit is what he thinks will bring you to his bed? oh my god I can't even imagine the type of stuff he says to his friends in private. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this type of shit. good on you for swiftly blocking him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:57 AM |
| 6 | A simple yet powerful comment on a post where people were sympathizing with my ex and calling me crazy for showing up at his place unannounced and catching him red-handed with another womanI soo agree with your second sentence there. if someone is constantly pulling away from you, of course you'd be looking for reassurance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:47 AM |
| 1 | And if you decide we’re splitting the bill, it’s no longer a dateOmg I forgot about this, you're so right! I only found fds recently but when I start dating I'll give it a go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 02:36 PM |
| 2 | The future contains all possibilities. Never settle for less than what you deserve.omg this is so important | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 11:46 PM |
| 8 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔It's much easier to date in college and school!! When you start working full time the amount of people you'll be exposed to will be smaller and they'll be all different age ranges. The chance of meeting a man your age goes down. Also, while it's okay to date another student, you don't generally want to date anyone you work with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:57 PM |
| 2 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔Ohh really? I often find that there are already set up cliques in clubs that I've joined, which can be hard to get into. I also moved to an area where people are not known for their friendliness. Have you been able to break into cliques or or are there mostly women on their own like you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:51 PM |
| 9 | And if you decide we’re splitting the bill, it’s no longer a dateI think this is a great idea but also men are so shitty that I feel like this would end with me paying for a lot of dates. I usually take out my purse to pay and usually he'll pay but I do feel like dating is a numbers game and if I met a lot of shitty guys that month then I'd end up losing money that could be spent on other things. I feel like it's honestly right to expect a man to pay because they are 9/10 times looking for a free prostitute so I feel like paying for my meals is the price they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:46 PM |
| 19 | Ladies never let these uneducated boys tell you they age like fine wine 💀I hate how Hollywood will talk about 40-50 year old men as though they're somehow eligible young bachelors | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:36 PM |
| 8 | Pay attention to how he treated you during this pandemic.Good for you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:32 PM |
| 17 | Let the beast and the rose rot in hellOmg I just watched one of her videos she is so bright and lovely and full of happiness I'm so glad she left him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:28 PM |
| 13 | Promiscuity and hooking up is not beneficial, I honestly recommend remaining celibate until finding HVMOr coming on this sub! I wish this sub had been around for all of my previous breakups. Literally any time I feel myself slipping I come on here and remember what I deserve | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 09:25 PM |
| 5 | Do you think women are more likely to be pickmes than men, and that women care more about male validation than men care about female validation?I feel like it has something to do with age. An unwed 40 year old woman is considered sad but a man unmarried at 40 is an eligible bachelor | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 09:22 PM |
| 6 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔I completely agree with you here! I've been trying for so long to make this happen but I've had to move a lot for work so I've never been in one spot long enough to let things grow. How long would you say you have to be in a group before making a friend or a love interest? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 09:07 PM |
| 14 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔This is how I feel too. I feel like the people who approach me in real life are either never actually interested or I'm not interested in them. In the past two years, only three people have asked for my number in a non dating app situation, and we never went on a date because things died out during the texting phase. I feel like I can go out and be as attractive and friendly looking as I want but at a rate of less than two people asking me out a year surely I'm not going to meet someone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 09:02 PM |
| 20 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔I agree with this! I also feel like they view you as lower worth for even being on the app | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Has anybody else on here pretty much always been feminist/never been a pick me/always held men to higher standards than women, etc?Hmm I agree with you there! I think maybe women have a stronger need to procreate?? And are more likely to get attached from sex? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 08:44 PM |
| 2 | OLD low effort date guy update, he unmatchedYeah he didn't even propose going to a nature spot or a nice place! Just houses wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:49 AM |
| 5 | OLD low effort date guy update, he unmatchedYou didn't do anything wrong He decided to show how low his effort is at the first chance he could. If he's like that during the messaging stage, imagine what he'd be like to date. If you'd have ended up dating him he would consistently disappoint you and you'd be fighting for more effort all the time Let him disappoint the next girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:46 AM |
| 11 | Pickmeisha surpreme Emily Ratakowski clowns around to entertain her unimpressed LVM 🤡Yeah how is he hyping her up he's just looking at his phone?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:34 AM |
| 52 | What kind of man gets off on beating his wife until she’s unconscious? A pornsick one.It boggles my mind how these women are willing to "improve" themselves by agreeing to this but they don't think that their husbands should improve themselves by not wanting to abuse women to get pleasure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:24 AM |
| 16 | Reminder: shut up engagement rings are a thing. An engagement does not mean you are immune to LVM behavior. A LVM can be hidden for YEARS under a HVM mask and engagement is the PERFECT time for a man to use "building a life together" to justify LV behavior or pressuring you to lower your standards.Eww honestly I'm not jealous of any girl who dates my exes because they're just looking for someone to treat terribly, like what happened here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:02 AM |
| 11 | stop overanalyzing why low effort guys act the way they do... some people just suckHaha yes please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 12:54 AM |
| 11 | It do be like that sometimeshonestly she's just speaking the truth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 06:32 PM |
| 46 | I have a feeling relationships with men are simply not worth it; they are gonna betray you one way or the other. Better focus on you, queen.yeah! also men, especially retired men, benefit so much from marriage but retired women just end up having to keep working, taking care of them and making meals | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 06:30 PM |
| 26 | I have a feeling relationships with men are simply not worth it; they are gonna betray you one way or the other. Better focus on you, queen.oh yeah there was someone at a hospital where i worked who peed on the nurses and on the floor because he had an infection on his penis. disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Valentine's Day is a Woman's HolidayThat bit was disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 05:17 PM |
| 24 | On oral sexAll of the guys I date will say they are incredibly giving and love giving oral at first and then weeks later they get fucking lazy. They think that me going down on them before sex is the same as me getting fingered. The effort is not the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:48 AM |
| 6 | an emotionally abusive relationship that later revealed he was taking naked photos of her without her consent and sharing them with his friends ..... this is why we need to empower ourselves and empower each other to RUN at the first sign of abuseI saw this after I saw a video about this happening to Mischa Barton.. it's so scary to think that someone could secretly record you like that. Some other articles show even worse language he used to talk about his girlfriend, like tying them up like farm animals because they were sluts (which also goes to show that bdsm is just rooted in abuse) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:26 AM |
| 11 | an emotionally abusive relationship that later revealed he was taking naked photos of her without her consent and sharing them with his friends ..... this is why we need to empower ourselves and empower each other to RUN at the first sign of abuseHonestly I'm looking back at an abusive relationship now wondering if he was doing that to me. It's so true. If they treat you like shit to your face imagine the kinds of things they do when you're not listening | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:20 AM |
| 4 | an emotionally abusive relationship that later revealed he was taking naked photos of her without her consent and sharing them with his friends ..... this is why we need to empower ourselves and empower each other to RUN at the first sign of abuseYeah she says that in this video too... it's disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:20 AM |
| 4 | Do you ladies also have this same problem in the dating world?.... (bonus rant)I think there are just a lot of people out there without a personality or understanding of normal social conventions, I've experienced this too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:45 AM |
| 3 | Has anybody else on here pretty much always been feminist/never been a pick me/always held men to higher standards than women, etc?I agree with this! During my first relationship I was not a pickme at all and took no shit and stood by my boundaries but when that ended I felt really lonely and like it was my boundaries that pushed people away so I started settling and changed myself into a cool girl. This has got me much worse treatment at the downfall of not being true to myself, and I found thisaub just in time and I'm trying to get back to where I was before I tried to be like all of my pickme friends | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:40 AM |
| 12 | Woman gets a lazy proposal that she thought was a joke. Comments say she is high maintenance for wanting a redo.Honestly if high school boys with limited resources can produce an elaborate promposal to ask a girl to a fucking dance, a guy who wants to marry you can get the nerve to actually prepare a proposal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Can we normalize that our feelings are still valid in situationships?Hope you feel better soon and are able to heal ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 07:21 AM |
| 18 | Can we normalize that our feelings are still valid in situationships?Aw your feelings are absolutely valid. Your friend could have been more empathetic. When you spend so much time with someone and then stop speaking it makes an impact on your life. It's completely normal for you to feel sad about an ending. I'm glad you were able to end something that wasn't adding to your life. This is allowing you time to focus on yourself and to open yourself up to someone who will be better for you. Also, maybe tell a friend you're feeling a bit lonely and you want to talk a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Man loses respect for a woman because her feces was on his finger after her put his finger in her assyes all my gay friends say that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 03:12 AM |
| 23 | Thoughts on Lana Del Rey’s recent controversial statements on Instagram? Curious what you ladies think and how you interpret her wordsI hate how most popular love songs these days are pick me songs. like how you'll love someone no matter how much it destroys you or how you'll always be waiting for them. EW. it romanticizes self-sacrifice and settling for someone who doesn't care about you and teaches us to prioritize a lover over ourselves. what terrible messaging! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:17 AM |
| 35 | Ladies, always honor your instinct even if it bruises their ego.he sounds really arrogant and naive if he thinks that he could turn someone's life around without any training or experience. it's even worse that you're trying to talk sense into him and he can't see it from your more informed point of view. you're dodging a bullet by leaving him. good for you for honoring yourself and your needs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:14 AM |
| 3 | Dealing with someone with no car?I think it depends on the situation. I live in an area where maybe half of all people in their early 20s either don't have cars or don't have a license. It is really easy to get around on public transport and car insurance for new drivers and young people is really expensive, so I wouldn't judge someone for not having one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 09:32 PM |
| 11 | I am in immense psychological pain because I want to break up with a dustyI feel for you, girl. I just went through this and I know how much it hurts. I'll tell you how I managed, and that there is hope. I will say that I was shaking and crying very often at the start of quarantine at soo many different things, including the thought of losing my boyfriend. He was the highlight of my day, but he hadn't been reaching out over text as much and never called or said that he missed me unless I did it first. His effort had been dropping for months. One night i couldn't sleep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 11:53 AM |
| 8 | Is it just me or is this crawling with red flagsyaas you're so right you called it also you're fun I feel is always meant in a sexual way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 01:04 AM |
| 60 | Get back to me when thousands of men a year are raped or murdered due to “toxic femininity.” Until then, miss me with these intellectually dishonest comparisons. Sure hope she gets picked, tho.also although men deny it they also gossip or engage in mean-spirited behavior amongst each other | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 12:24 AM |
| 9 | I used to be a whole messGood for you! I'm glad to hear you're putting yourself first and working on yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 07:46 PM |
| 1 | I believed I just got love bombed by a narcissist. Ladies, please be careful.aw girl that sucks, guys are always baiting and switching I hope you start feeling a bit better soon <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 07:20 PM |
| 11 | Not paying on dates IS a red flag!This is so true. In my experience any man who wants to impress me will always pay. Any man who thinks he can do better will do so reluctantly or make me go half. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:26 PM |
| 14 | Red flags everywhere! Can you spot them? I’ve never seen anyone with more baggage than this 🚮🚮🚮🚯🚯🚯also there's a big attitude about how this girl needs to please him. it sounds judgmental, like a list of things a future partner can't do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:19 PM |
| 11 | Red flags everywhere! Can you spot them? I’ve never seen anyone with more baggage than this 🚮🚮🚮🚯🚯🚯hmm well there's an image of him with a girl? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:18 PM |
| 4 | You’re so low maintenanceomg thank you for saying that. it's so easy to feel like you've done something wrong when something isn't treating you right, but some people just don't want to put in effort and it's always going to be a battle with someone like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:59 PM |
| 5 | I believed I just got love bombed by a narcissist. Ladies, please be careful.Yeah but the government says you can do this only if you stay two metres apart. I don't know of any governments that are encouraging strangers swapping saliva. I'm also wondering why people are meeting during quarantine. Even if the government says it's okay, the cases are still really high and I think it's really stupid to swap actual spit with a stranger right now, when we're talking about wearing face coverings so that we can prevent spit from accidentally coming in contact with others. Besid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:24 AM |
| 3 | LVM can't be changed. Please just stop having kids with them. Sincerely: an lvm's daughterI can't imagine being such a piece of shit that I would rather force a woman into an abortion than wear a fucking condom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:06 AM |
| 4 | LVM can't be changed. Please just stop having kids with them. Sincerely: an lvm's daughterThis is why you don't have sex without a condom 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:05 AM |
| 1 | That subreddit is pickmeisha haven 🤧Oh I've heard of that. We're not standing over them trying to smother their whole face in it though. Sex is not equal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:02 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else notice FDS in reality shows, specifically Love Island?Yes! Love that girl. Those are two traits that are so important in dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:00 AM |
| 5 | Does anyone else notice FDS in reality shows, specifically Love Island?Same... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 10:58 AM |
| 5 | Does anyone else notice FDS in reality shows, specifically Love Island?Omg yes!!! That's a great idea I'm so down for that. There's such a mix of low value and high value behavior and it's really good to see. Yes I loooved Siannise and Luke. They still look so happy together and he still adores her. Siannise made it clear that she is a princess and she won't accept any other treatment. She's definitely not trying to be "low maintenance" or a "cool girl." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 10:57 AM |
| 3 | He Never Gave me FlowersLol that flower thing reminds me of the time I bought myself valentine's chocolates because my boyfriend sucked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:12 AM |
| 14 | Watching Kinkmeishas defend their community as “not abusive” is like watching Trump supporters defend their community as “not racist”. Sure, some aren’t, but it sure attracts a whooooole lot of those people such that it’s almost impossible to distinguish.I feel like it's especially distressing as most kinks revolve around men abusing women in some way. It's rarely ever the other way around | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:54 AM |
| 18 | I believed I just got love bombed by a narcissist. Ladies, please be careful.I'm sorry this happened and that you're feeling upset about him. Sometimes it's hard not to catch feelings - I've caught feelings really quickly too before. I do want to say that I don't think he sounded that amazing.. I don't think not bringing up sex over a five day period or offering to drive is that noteworthy. Most men should be able to do that. You can definitely find a better guy who can do both of those things and also show consistent effort. Good for you on blocking him when you knew it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:49 AM |
| 7 | My birthday was last weekend and I was blown away, but probably shouldn’t have been.I'm glad he met your expectations though and that you had a good birthday 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:42 AM |
| 29 | My birthday was last weekend and I was blown away, but probably shouldn’t have been.I know what you mean. Most women I know are so thoughtful and caring with each other and with their partners, always thinking about them and going out of their way to do something nice, but getting that same type of care from a man seems extravagant and noteworthy when it shouldn't be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:41 AM |
| 7 | I always hate seeing these things because young girls see stuff like this and I wish FDS could eradicate every other advice in existenceI like this one better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:36 AM |
| 10 | Jude Law who has 5 children with 3 different partners - just had ANOTHER baby with a new partner. Celebrity Negative Value MaleAnd the time he cheated on his girlfriend with a sex worker | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:34 AM |
| 12 | Looking for advice, why is my boyfriend like this?I feel for you, girl. I was just in this situation, and it sucks. I would have classified my last boyfriend as "one of the good guys" and as having "some HV traits" before but now that I've had time to think I've realized that I just had the bar set too low. I feel like we hear stories about or have experiences with straight up abusive men, cheating men, disrespectful men so often that we think that just because someone is respectful or has a few positive qualities that they are some sort of a c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:16 AM |
| 13 | That subreddit is pickmeisha haven 🤧ewwwwwwww. can you imagine if girls shot a disgusting liquid out during sex? do you think men would be lapping it up and wanting it on their faces? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 12:39 AM |
| 13 | Does anyone else notice FDS in reality shows, specifically Love Island?omg I know I feel like recognizing it is this first step though so hopefully she improves. I was so pissed when she stayed single for Callum. and also the fact that she would settle for and idealize someone who could barely communicate when she is so emotionally intelligent and funny. I'm glad I saw it though because I used to always tell myself that if I were funnier or prettier or more whatever then a guy would like me more but you can be so successful, gorgeous and funny and if you meet a shi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Do you ever think about the male depravity you experienced at school while growing up? How can we protect current and future teens?oh I'm really happy to hear that <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 11:12 PM |
| 9 | You’re so low maintenancewhen I started dating the last guy I was with (before finding FDS), I think my main mistake was accepting home dates too soon. I thought it was fine because I'm like you and I like spending time at home, but it signals to a guy that he doesn't have to do much to get you "hanging out" and comfortable. also, once you start accepting home dates, it's difficult to go back to going out on dates. he feels like he has you bc he doesn't have to do anything and you're still coming over. you should absolu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Do you ever think about the male depravity you experienced at school while growing up? How can we protect current and future teens?I agree, I feel like clubs are much more pg than high school dances. I feel like they're so bad from the hormones and the newness of everything. I just wish that girls felt like they had more of a choice in it. I agree that about 95% of people did it, and I doubt most girls felt comfortable with it initially - they likely just did it bc they felt like they had to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 09:55 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever think about the male depravity you experienced at school while growing up? How can we protect current and future teens?oh noooo :( that's terrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you're healing. I doubt it has anything to do with you - there are people who go through their whole lives crapping on others because they're crappy people. it's so shitty how there's literally nothing teenage girls can do to not be disrespected and sexualized by teenage boys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Do you ever think about the male depravity you experienced at school while growing up? How can we protect current and future teens?that's really important for girls I think and I'm really glad you are that person for the young girls in your life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 02:33 PM |
| 4 | This has loads of angry reacts but men do this all the time lolAnother reason not to be a forever girlfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:39 AM |
| 1 | What’s the thing about FDS that you struggle the most with ?Ugh I know. I'm always trying to gain approval instead of wondering if they're right for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:29 AM |
| 7 | What’s the thing about FDS that you struggle the most with ?I feel like you could check that reaction by talking about current events and news. Test him out by talking about a story that is similar to yours and see how he reacts then. Or even just bad situations that aren't traumatic. I dated a guy who I knew wouldn't be understanding of my trauma BC he was not empathetic about the little setbacks in my life, like bad days at work or friendship trouble, so I just never told him about my trauma and we broke up in the end (looking back now I should have br… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:27 AM |
| 3 | What’s the thing about FDS that you struggle the most with ?Omg I have done this too. I don't blame any girl for this though with the amount of shitty dating advice that's like "oh he's not treating you well and not putting in effort?? you should put in more effort and try harder to make him like you!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Do you ever think about the male depravity you experienced at school while growing up? How can we protect current and future teens?oh nooo that's terrible, girl :( what a shitty manipulative person. it's heartbreaking to hear that you were manipulated by someone, and awful that he lied about it and then you somehow ended up with more punishment, for something he did! the entitlement men feel about women's bodies starts young. good for you for having the strength to get rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 09:40 PM |
| 8 | Do you ever think about the male depravity you experienced at school while growing up? How can we protect current and future teens?you're so right. I'm so confused as to how prostitution, where one party pays for sex, is illegal, but when both of them are paid for sex, and little children can find the video easily on the internet, somehow it's legal?????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 09:35 PM |
| 5 | Do you ever think about the male depravity you experienced at school while growing up? How can we protect current and future teens?oh that's so gross. guys at my school would drop pencils and then try to look down your shirt when you went to pick it up. they were vile. I feel like you're made to feel as though you're overreacting when you report sexual harassment, which is so detrimental to women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 09:25 PM |
| 11 | Has anyone actually had success in advising their pickmeisha friends not to be pickmes?nope. I have some cool girl friends who think it's cool to disrespect their boundaries and send nudes with their face in, have sex without condoms, have painful degrading sex that doesn't benefit them, don't have orgasms, and don't think that ANY of that is wrong. they act like I am some entitled princess for wanting to be respected and wanting to be safe. I have convinced a few to wear condoms but that's it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:42 AM |
| 13 | Scroll to 0:50 for Elon Musk's new fiance (2nd wife) talking about him proposing after ten days, how she would have said yes to almost anyone, how her parents are traumatized by the whole experience, and how she often has the urge to escape.yeah the way she said that she moved in and was taking care of the kids right after??? he literally just wanted a nanny he could fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:32 AM |
| 8 | Ok Ladies I need some advice for my "situationship"remember: you DESERVE someone who thinks about you when you're not there, who checks in on you during stressful times, who plans something for you for your birthday | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:20 AM |
| 20 | Ok Ladies I need some advice for my "situationship"okay there are so many red flags here - you've known each other for a year but can only call this a "situationship" - 11 years older (predatory, can't find a woman his own age) - goes weeks without texting (translation: goes weeks without thinking of you) - didn't plan anything for your birthday - didn't try to text you or call you when you were in quarantine honestly I would say just ghost his ass and block him and delete him. he sounds so low effort he doesn't even deserve the communication. t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:19 AM |
| 117 | What’s the thing about FDS that you struggle the most with ?ooh yeah I think that's a good idea! I've done a lot of thinking about my past relationships, and I think I struggle with assuming that others have positive intentions, which is especially bad when it comes to dealing when guys who don't have positive intentions. I think I'm too open and need to keep them at a distance more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:11 AM |
| 3 | Just left himGood for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:08 AM |
| 17 | “You are too amazing to be halfheartedly, casually, loosely part-time loved!” -Sami Wunderwe often fear “losing” the man, but our role is for the man to be fearful of losing us since WOMEN ARE THE PRIZE Oooh I really like this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:07 AM |
| 20 | Elon musk LVM tweeted “take the red pill” and Grimes mom called him out.Lol he's terrible. These are some powerful exerpts from an article from his first wife: "There were warning signs. As we danced at our wedding reception, Elon told me, "I am the alpha in this relationship." I shrugged it off, just as I would later shrug off signing the postnuptial agreement, but as time went on, I learned that he was serious. He had grown up in the male-dominated culture of South Africa, and the will to compete and dominate that made him so successful in business did not magical… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | What are the benefits of going no contact?Ah I'm glad to hear that you have a support system in place. Nothing in your story strikes me as something you should feel ashamed for, and hopefully being empathetic and kind with yourself will help those feelings. Good for you! Look after yourself and look forward to your new life with your baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:43 PM |
| 4 | some men need to learn thisOh nooo :( I'm so sorry that happened to you. I feel like nasty people will just find any reason to take issue with another person sometimes. No matter how much you work on yourself and treat others right, it seems like there is always some group who will try to exclude you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:37 PM |
| 2 | What are the benefits of going no contact?take care of yourself, girl <3 it sounds like you're in a very vulnerable state - do you have friends and family you can talk to right now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:31 PM |
| 18 | some men need to learn thisI knooow!! they never think about what they look like but they think they deserve so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:26 PM |
| 10 | some men need to learn thisI know :( I feel like it can be a blessing in disguise though as you can weed out all the shitty ones | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:08 AM |
| 7 | What are the benefits of going no contact?You can focus on yourself and enjoy doing what you want without the anxiety that comes with dating a NVM. When I was dating men who didn't treat me well, I was always anxious from push/pull or trying to get and keep his attention. When you're single you don't have that anxiety - you can focus on you. When you want to contact him: Text a friend instead Write a list of every boundary he has broken or any time he didn't treat you as well as you deserved and read it Or come on here and read the male… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:06 AM |
| 20 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”she seems soo much more mature than he is I just want that girl to get out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 11:24 PM |
| 56 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”yeah it seems like she's putting in emotional effort to try and smooth his attitude over, meanwhile he seems excited about the argument he's picking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 11:19 PM |
| 19 | Why do so many men spend money and thousands on e girls or cam girls like 30 dollars for belle delphine bath water but you see stories of guys Not even wanting to spot 2 dollars for their girlfriendI would not want to date a man who has ever spent money on cam girls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 11:16 PM |
| 61 | Even ugly ones got mad expectations 🤮that type of arrangement needs to be made illegal. they literally just want a female slave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 11:15 PM |
| 20 | some men need to learn thisooh no rest assured I've always had a great group of female friends and I definitely don't think I have to be in competition with other women, which is why it was such a shock that people seemed to be treating me much differently based on my appearance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 10:57 PM |
| 54 | some men need to learn thisI've noticed this, too! I was always heavier and acne prone growing up but once I lost weight and my skin cleared up, women started treating me terribly and men would treat me much better. It's like some women only treat you well if they don't feel like you're a threat to them and some men only treat you well if they want to fuck you. Both low value behavior cut from the same cloth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:38 PM |
| 37 | some men need to learn thisOmg I forgot how low they can be | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:21 PM |
| 101 | some men need to learn thisHonestly this is why I struggle to have male friends. It feels like they're just keeping you around as a possible sex partner | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Beware the onslaught of LVM we are about to encounterI knooow right?? I'm fine sitting here without a man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 05:21 PM |
| 3 | The Discovery Phase: how to uncover his valuesI agree that the female politician and female relative thing is very important!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:05 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020loool this is so true with single dads. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020Sometimes I think that, but then I remember how unhappy and unstable I always felt with guys who don't care about me. Even if someone isn't ideal, you'll probably develop feelings. Then, depending on how bad they are for you, your mental health will start to decline. You might become anxious that things are going to end, or feel like it's your fault that they can't communicate, or feel jealous when they talk about another girl. It's better to not waste that headspace on a shitty guy. Wash your s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 12:15 PM |
| 11 | Meeting guy’s friends - getting shy and awkward, especially among other men - why and how to change it?Don't feel bad about not having had guy friends before. Honestly I haven't had many straight guy friends, either, and the older I get the more I notice that most women don't. Deep, fulfilling friendships between men and women are really rare in my experience. Lots of friendships I've seen/had either involve shallow banter and small talk in groups (never hanging out one on one), one party trying to sleep with the other, or one party trying to get an ego boost by being around the other. Maybe the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 11:55 PM |
| 7 | Women, you are NOT a fucking play thing.yeah.... someone's having fun it's just not going to be you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?oooooh I feel this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 06:53 PM |
| 13 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?God that's so true. Even among acquaintances, I've realised that if a guy doesn't see me as sexually attractive he will treat me so much worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 11:26 AM |
| 19 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?I completely agree with this... Like they just can't be the bad guy in their head, even if their actions show that they are doing something bad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 11:23 AM |
| 4 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?That's so true and so unfair for women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 11:22 AM |
| 7 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?That's so true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 11:22 AM |
| 21 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?Ah you're right! Women don't benefit from emotionally unfulfilling relationships | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 11:21 AM |
| 7 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?Uggh that's so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 11:20 AM |
| 3 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?I mean he's an ex for a reason I guess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Is it okay to be completely in love with someone who probably doesn’t feel the same to you as long as you don’t talk to him anymore and is giving nothing to him?Sorry you're hurting, girl! How long did you know him for? If it was less than a year then it's possible you don't love who he is. Sometimes I've thought about men for like months who I only knew for one month - I wish I could go back and tell myself that I didn't really know them - if I'd have dated them it could have turned out that they were actually terrible for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Hypocritical guy unmatched me because I refused to make out with him during covid lockdownHVM are not on dating apps rn. Focus on you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 11:30 AM |
| 8 | Quarantine break up etiquette?He is not treating you well! Texting is the bare minimum, especially when he has all the time in the world to do it. Dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 11:29 AM |
| 47 | A queen said so!!!so true. stop auditioning for approval | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Is he playing me?Is he using me for passing time, free validation, and entertainment? Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 02:37 PM |
| 21 | Going with the theme of another post I just saw: Imagine having a baby with someone only to immediately realize they’re a LVMgod that guy is such an asshole my parents are divorced and my dad still reminds me/offers to help me get something for my mom for mother's day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Be more selfish and less tolerant.This is handbook level! SO true. Also true of platonic relationships. People will see what they can get away with and treat you accordingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 01:26 PM |
| 7 | Why can’t I stopI'm so sorry you're hurting, girl! There are so many other people who care about you, and he can't see your worth (or his wife's or any woman's worth it would seem) so he's obviously trash. If you're having trouble with still caring about him, make a list of all the shitty things he does. Read this any time you start to imagine the good months and over time you will find yourself disgusted by his behavior. Don't feel bad that you feel like he doesn't care about you - it sounds like he is incapab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 01:02 PM |
| 11 | The only time you should believe a man is when he says he’s an asshole.Yes anything negative. Not being good at gifts, not being open, being emotionally distant. They're literally telling you what they have on offer and you have to believe them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 08:58 PM |
| 2 | You can’t make a man learn to appreciate you by offering him more of what he refuses to appreciate.Ohhh man I tried this too! That's the shittiest advice ever and I'm never gonna do that again. My ex also didn't want me spending money on him. I think it was just because he felt like that would mean he was obligated to spend money on me and he didnt' want to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Should i block my ex pls helpAhhh I'm really glad you're feeling better! You are absolutely competent and you don't need someone in your life trampling on you (no matter how small the microaggression) to build themselves up. My ex couldn't drive (I don't fault him for this, it's common for young people to not drive in cities in my country) and was not as educated as I am but he would very occasionally make a comment that implied he knew more than I did on my area of study or knew more about driving and it really pissed me o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Should i block my ex pls helpI am in a similar situation where my ex boyfriend did not put enough effort in and that was the reason we broke up. I hope you are feeling okay - honestly I'm feeling great right now. One of my main sources of anxiety was that he was pulling away/didn't want me anymore and now that he's gone I don't have that extra worry in my head and I can focus on what I want in a person. I would block him if you feel it's difficult to not contact him, because unblocking someone to break no contact is a remin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:09 PM |
| 27 | Leonardo DiCaprio is creepy tbh.they are doing so well honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 03:55 PM |
| 49 | Leonardo DiCaprio is creepy tbh.yeah this is gross. leonardo is old enough to be my father and I am still older than his current girlfriend. look at the pictures of him and his girlfriend on the beach: https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/10663310/leonardo-dicaprio-sea-model-girlfriend-camila-morrone-st-barts/ if she looked physically equal to him he would not be dating her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 03:52 PM |
| 24 | Leonardo DiCaprio is creepy tbh.honestly it's disgusting when you see pictures of his girlfriends next to him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 03:47 PM |
| 40 | Leonardo DiCaprio is creepy tbh.god good for these queens | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Are you ever disappointed when a prospect shows he’s LV?I was giving the new guy an awful lot of extra credit just for liking me and not being mean to me I feel like you'll always build up the first guy you date after abuse glad you were able to dump him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 05:37 PM |
| 9 | Do you date when youre not your ideal weight ?I find that the number of men interested in talking to me or checking me out increases when I'm at a lower weight, but these are usually LVM, so the number of HVM in my life does not increase. If I were to date one of those guys and then go back to being chubby they would probably dump me. I think it's better to date a guy who cares about you no matter what size you are. I find that if I'm happy with the way I look, I'm much more confident when dating, so if you have a mindset that you're not co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Another one from instasaaved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 05:16 PM |
| 25 | This man is gutter rat lvm, like the lowest of them all.what trash honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Girls, be smart with your vagina. "When you are looking through rose colored glasses, your dont see the red flags".oh my gosh girl, I'm so sorry about this :( I hope you are okay now <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:44 PM |
| 2 | The dangers of a "hoe phase"omg same I have really sexually promiscuous friends who literally could not care less | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Queen energy: Woman refuses sex with new partner unless he gets STD-tested and shows proofsaaame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Just came across this on Tinder... disgustingewwwwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.this is such a healthy mindset to have | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Have we labeled the anxious-insecure attachment type pickmeisha?I completely agree with this! I like self help, but if you find that with some people it just never works however much you work on yourself, it's important to ask if they're treating you correctly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 01:48 PM |
| 4 | Have we labeled the anxious-insecure attachment type pickmeisha?Oh my gosh I completely agree. If someone isn't treating you well, you will start to crave their reassurance, but if they're giving you enough you won't need to ask for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 01:46 PM |
| 3 | Trying to understand why men gaslight certain women and never others?Also just want to add that you seem to be taking blame for his decisions to treat you horribly - you did not deserve any of this!! That's on him. I hope you are able to heal ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 12:23 PM |
| 10 | Trying to understand why men gaslight certain women and never others?He sounds like a narcissist or avoidant, and he's only treating her well because he doesn't feel like he has her yet. She is probably more avoidant than him so he is constantly auditioning for her approval but at any moment he could devolve into the person that he showed you he was. That is his true self and the front he is showing her is a mask. Also, if she was happy to be in a FWB situation or be friends with him it's likely that she doesn't see him as relationship material or want to be with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 12:21 PM |
| 5 | Why do some men cheat by living a double life?This is his problem and does not reflect on your value as a person. Thank God that asshole is out of your life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 12:00 PM |
| 5 | Jezebel.com shames Ronda Rousey for saying Lube is unnecessary if a man takes his time and you’re aroused enough & that needing lube means he’s probably lazy. Everytime women try to set a standard like “my vagina must be moist in order to fuck” Libfems shame us out of it.This is so true. If you respond correctly on your own then he should be able to make you respond correctly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:56 AM |
| 4 | Despite what modern media tells you, your boyfriend or husband should not be your best friendI find this so rude when friends do this... literally ignoring you for some asshole only to spend days crying with you months later | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 11:21 PM |
| 4 | Despite what modern media tells you, your boyfriend or husband should not be your best friendI agree, I cannot be in a relationship without emotional support - it seems like I'm just someone to have sex with and make small talk with if they're not providing me with the same level of emotional support that a good friend would provide | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 11:20 PM |
| 4 | Despite what modern media tells you, your boyfriend or husband should not be your best friendaw girl I'm so sorry that happened to you! thanks for sharing the story and advice. Hope you are well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 11:17 PM |
| 5 | In desperate need of advice from HVWhmm yeah it sounds like he's not good with money from the house thing and really rude for not paying for you on dates. I feel like the barest minimum is paying for the first date, and he couldn't even do that! I understand why you'd be disappointed in his career selection and the bad timing of leaving right now as well as you're doing really well for yourself in your career - why can't he? I don't think you're shallow. it sounds like the problem is that he's not very good at making big life deci… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 11:14 PM |
| 1 | I need y’all to shame me. Cuss me ou till I get my head straight.please stop talking to me about things that make you a person that really is how men are, isn;t it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 11:02 PM |
| 14 | Is jealousy a pickme trait?girl I know what you mean. I grew up chubby with acne and after I lost weight and the acne went away, girls who didn't know me from before would really judge me and exclude me. there are some girls you just can't be friends with because you end up having to lower yourself around them so they don't feel threatened by you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Input on NVM Comments/Actionsalso I will say that a BIG BIG telltale sign of a LVM is that his friends treat you better than he does. if his friends are better at coming up with engaging conversation, better at asking you if you want a drink when you come over to their house, ask you if you want kids/marriage/if you'll move in together when your long term boyfriend has yet to bring that up, he is not treating you right. sometimes I will see their friends look at me and look at the guy and wonder how we are together. that is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 01:58 PM |
| 4 | Input on NVM Comments/Actionshe sounds like trash. If I were you, I would go through all of those red flags and write down how you should have broken up with him/walked out/blocked him at each of these steps. example: Took me out to dinner and claimed he "didn't have enough credit" to pay your response: "Oh I expected that since you asked me out you would have paid. If you don't have enough money to date a girl then I don't feel we should be dating." and tell yourself that you will do that at the first red flag if some guy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 01:53 PM |
| 3 | Let me hear it!good for you! you don't need that in your life. hope you are okay <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 01:12 PM |
| 1 | FDS works and I’m bummedhonestly so annoying that you can tell a guy that you sense his level of effort/interest is fading and he will gaslight you into believing otherwise for his own weird gain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 12:28 AM |
| 1 | FDS works and I’m bummedlol my boyfriend also lost interest around the six week mark, but he kept insisting nothing was wrong every time I brought it up. we stayed together for moooonths afterwards. I put up with not feeling valued for far too long :( these cowards just don't want to tell someone when they're not feeling it anymore. if you sense they're not putting as much effort in, dump them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Advice Concerning Breakupshonestly CARING about another human being that you're in a RELATIONSHIP with is the lowest fucking bar of all and if some dickhead can't meet that then he needs to be thrown in the trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 12:00 AM |
| 9 | Put in the effort with this guy. Try again else where, I guess 🤷🏼♀️diarrhea brown omg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 11:53 PM |
| 3 | Put in the effort with this guy. Try again else where, I guess 🤷🏼♀️Whaaat??? How long have you been talking to him for??? He sounds messy and all over the place. Honestly please block him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 11:52 PM |
| 8 | If he doesn’t respond within 24 hrs, he’s CUThonestly I think every red/yellow flag in the beginning should be taken so seriously because they always lead to worse things | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 11:01 PM |
| 9 | A guy who makes $180k a year but has lots of credit card and student loan debt: dusty or not?how the fuck is he in that much debt with that paycheck? most student loans wouldn't reach over 180k | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 11:00 PM |
| 21 | Let me hear it!I broke up with mine because he wasn't giving me the time of day when he has literally nothing else to do and I'm really glad I did it :) I have a pickmeisha friend who I am trying to convince to do the same with her's | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend (M22) and I (F22) just broke upThis is ABSOLUTELY grounds to break up with him - you made the right choice. You deserve to be with someone who loves you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 10:56 PM |
| 10 | Did you ever experience true love?I don't think so - I'm in my 20s and I think these men are just too stupid rn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 24 | Would you end a relationship for being called a D***head once?Yes it will only get worse. This is completely disrespectful and from his behavior I doubt this is the first time he's been shitty to you. Dump his ass. Completely ghost him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Don't lower your standards!!sure is tough :( I think I usually find 8 losers to every guy with potential reminds me of this meme haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 03:13 AM |
| 3 | Inspirational instagram accountsmemegirlclub talks a lot about forming boundaries and narcissistic dating behaviour | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Don't lower your standards!!ooh I'm sorry you've been bullied, lovely <3 I know what you mean about being the bigger person to an abuser or a bully - that may not always work. maybe I misinterpreted this post! I see this post as not lowering your standards... in the past I have dated guys who have low energy - boring conversations, lack of effort, etc. I've put up with it, lowering my vibration to date them. but I shouldn't have even returned their energy!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 12:06 AM |
| 1 | We already know that men have low emotional IQ. How emotionally intelligent should we expect a high value man to be?I think some men have a good emotional IQ, but just don't care about making you feel better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Trust your gut! Often, it knows more than you do.yess! I have found some guys who don't respect you will walk really far ahead of you as well. they don't care if you get left behind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Do HVM even exist?See I'm wondering if someone can push a high value man away?? Surely if they were high value they wouldn't start slacking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Don't feel ashamed for having needs, and expecting extra effort to feel lovedthis is so good! I do this, too. I feel like I also always ask for cheap gifts or order the cheapest option if a guy is paying for me - I think I'm going to start asking for and ordering what I really want | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:13 AM |
| 3 | LVM want you to believe that if you communicate better, it will make up for their refusal to hear you. Don't believe that shit. HVM will consistently put the effort in to understand your perspective.ohhhh my god if this wasn't my ex. the way they reframe and try to put you at fault even though you both know what they did wasn't right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020good for you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:00 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020You absolutely made the right choice! Those are not qualities you want in a partner and you are welcome to find someone who has qualities you do like. I just broke up with my boyfriend. I know how it feels to be sad about losing someone who didn't really give you what you wanted, but I've realised that partially what makes me sad is thinking of the times I felt like he wasn't putting effort in. Know that you deserve someone who isn't stingy with you and who will do chores equally, and that there… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 11:59 PM |
| 46 | great article for all you queens trying to get over a low effort, lukewarm relationship"I explained away the fact that he looked at me the way I’d look at a complete stranger. No glimmer of intimate knowing, no spark of a smile. It was fine, I told myself. " "Our relationship was like a lukewarm bathtub. Sure, it wasn’t cold. It hadn’t turned my lips blue or caused my teeth to chatter. It would have been easier to accept that I had to get out if it had felt unhealthy or abusive in some way. But no, it was just warm enough to make me think the stagnant water was preferable to the g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 11:27 PM |
| 2 | If your partner cries and makes a big self pity fuss every time you call him out on his shit, he's already worthlessThis is so true. My most recent boyfriend would make it about him and I would somehow end up in the position where he expected me to comfort him after I brought up something that he had done that made me upset. He would turn it around and say that I made him feel bad about himself. Noooo... your behavior makes you seem like a bad person - me pointing it out doesn't change that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 11:05 PM |
| 2 | How to feel better after a breakup?Thank you so much lovely! I love comedy so I'll absolutely look these ladies up! I'm going to try journaling as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Broke up, need some validation that he's a LVMhe became a LVM the moment he stopped putting in any effort. not asking reciprocal questions is super annoying and shows that he's a bad communicator. You will find someone who is intelligent, cultured, caring, well dressed and can also communicate and put in consistent effort!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:34 PM |
| 3 | Male-Centered Dating Advice Directed at Women - A Compilationany time I have pursued a man he has never loved me the way I want to be | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:21 PM |
| 6 | Ex went on Vacationwow.. he knows what he did was mean. you are such a prize, deserve all of the steps and I'm sorry he couldn't see that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:19 PM |
| 1 | I highly doubt it.yikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:09 PM |
| 2 | How to feel better after a breakup?omg GIRL you are my savior. thank you so much for taking the time to list all these out. I'm going to start watching this tonight :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:05 PM |
| 4 | Ex went on Vacationso happy you've got the love you deserve! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:00 PM |
| 24 | Ex went on Vacationwhat is it with men and withholding affection honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 09:58 PM |
| 11 | Ex went on Vacationyeah these guys do suck.... if someone isn't doing it for you, and you don't want to treat them like you love them because you don't, you shouldn't just string them along as someone to have sex with and devalue while you figure your feelings out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 09:57 PM |
| 9 | Ex went on VacationI think this adds a great point to why you can never change a man while you're with him. They will learn from how you left them that they can't treat other people like that. (hopefully... I definitely have met some exes who did not learn) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 09:54 PM |
| 13 | Ex went on VacationHonestly it's sooooo terrible being in a relationship with someone who will not do one small thing to make you happy. Adding you as a wife on facebook is the smallest thing in the world and something he could have done at no inconvenience to himself. If they truly love you, they will be so proud to have you on their facebook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 09:51 PM |
| 16 | Ex went on VacationGood for you for leaving when things weren't progressing. I too have seen past boyfriends friends sideeye him or look at him with surprise when they could tell he was being shitty or not putting in enough effort. No lukewarm relationships! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 09:46 PM |
| 2 | How to feel better after a breakup?I'm so happy for you!! I am hoping I can get to that point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 06:25 PM |
| 2 | How to feel better after a breakup?I'm sorry to hear you just went through one as well! I think your advice is spot on, especiallyconsidering this is your first break up. You're so right - there is so much love around us and we often feel crushed when romantic love ends but that's not all there is. It is much better to be single than be with someone who isn't going to love you the right way. I think I'm similar to you in that inspirational media tends to help me as well. I'm absolutely going to make myself a list of reasons why I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:18 PM |
| 2 | How to feel better after a breakup?Thank you so much. I think it's important in breakups to realise that I ended this for a reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | How to feel better after a breakup?Thank you so much for taking the time to help ♥️ Ooh these are great ideas! Ive heard good things about Someone Great and I've watched a few midnight gospel episodes. What are the BoJack horseman episodes that you would most recommend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | How to feel better after a breakup?Thank you so much! I've just bought the ebook of mr unavailable and I'm reading it now. I will definitely tell myself that a bright future is possible for me. I think you're spot on with the idea that I need to realise I'm sad but it wasn't a mistake. Thank you so much for taking the time to write all of that ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:11 PM |
| 62 | Reminder that what you really want and need is respect and to feel valued. There’s nothing wrong with that.There are lots of men who aren’t the lowest but who also don’t value YOU as an individual. You could literally be anyone to them. This is so true, and why I just broke up with my boyfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else attract emotionally distant/unavailable men?this is so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 02:37 AM |
| 2 | I'm so sick of people who are ageist against women, even in their 20s and 30s!honestly at 19, just a year after being "legal", I dated a guy who told me I seemed "old" people will put you down for any reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 02:13 PM |
| 3 | I can’t get over my jealousy towards another woman and I feel bad about itI'm sorry to hear you're going through this. I think I would say what makes someone a high value love interest is that they put time and effort into ME. If some guy was putting time and effort into another girl, they aren't adding a high amount of value to my life if that makes sense. I think girls are most jealous of girls that they see as similar to them, but they feel are treated better, which is why you're struggling with this. Because you and Butter look similar and are in the same field, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 12:05 AM |
| 13 | Lol Disappointing Mom (first post here)hahahahahah YASS this is hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 09:59 PM |
| 26 | You know if it was the other way around she would be gladly supporting his ungrateful ass 🙄lol and he has an entry-level job. it's always men making less than 30k that are worried women are going to steal it from them... steal what??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:34 PM |
| 24 | Imagine caring about thisLiterally all women's stomachs will cast a shadow unless they haven't eaten or are really sucking it in. Even if you look at someone with a six pack, from the side, the ab muscles will protrude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 10:06 AM |
| 29 | Too busy? I tried to post this as a reply to another post about ppl not making time. I’ve heard the “I’m too busy” excuse too many times (this is reposted from r/memes)Yess! Like when a guy is at home and says his phone is dying so he can't speak to you... your charger is right there, silly 🙄🥱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 10:03 AM |
| 15 | They know they’re trash sisJust facts 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 10:01 AM |
| 20 | Why attractive women are single?And why have we been trained to just accept not orgasming when they get to every fucking time??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 09:58 AM |
| 2 | An interesting and eye opening Chinese drama that features HVM, HVW, LVM, NVM and pickmeshas.waaait is this the chinese version of Age of Youth?? also known as Hello My Twenties on Netflix?? love that show | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 11:36 PM |
| 18 | Choosing a man isn't about weeding out men in terms of "who is worse", rather you should be selecting them based on "who is better".Yaaas this is so true!! A man who is absent of bad qualities is not the same as a man who has qualities we want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Be Like Beyonce and demand compensation for your reproductive laborthis is what all men who date younger are looking for | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:48 PM |
| 9 | What percentage of women do you think are settling?saaame. this group needs to grow so that all women stop putting up with this shit and men have to start treating us well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:42 PM |
| 13 | What percentage of women do you think are settling?ohhhh nooo :( I'm guessing that's because the long term boyfriend didn't want kids? how heartbreaking. I haven't seen this but it's so sad. I keep seeing women in their 30s who are in shitty relationships accidentally get pregnant and then decide to raise the baby with the mediocre father | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:40 PM |
| 16 | What percentage of women do you think are settling?this is so true. I love every point you've made here. women are always the ones who have to carry the emotional labor in a relationship and be the bigger person in an argument. we're definitely discouraged for standing up for ourselves or ensuring that we're treated right, which just ensures that we'll be treated like crap I agree that it's so important we work to challenge this bullshit.. hopefully our daughters can live in a better world | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:37 PM |
| 15 | What percentage of women do you think are settling?I agree!! it seems like for men if you're successful but unmarried people act like they're some eligible bachelor who is unmarried by choice, but for women who are successful but unmarried it's not seen that way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:19 PM |
| 26 | What percentage of women do you think are settling?ooh I can see that. I had a really powerful female boss who definitely got pregnant with a loser just so she could have kids. I can't imagine being stuck to a man I'm unsure about for the rest of my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:16 PM |
| 3 | Movies with HVM leads?hahahahah high value dog | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Movies with HVM leads?Forney!! Where the Heart Is has really weird names. I love him though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 09:27 PM |
| 21 | Is it just me or...I've dated two shitty guys who would talk about their exes all the time. They didn't have many hobbies, weren't good conversationalists, just boring. Most of the time I thought their exes seemed way cooler than they were - beautiful, emotionally intelligent women who had multiple hobbies and really enriched lives. Eventually these women wisened up and left their no good asses, leaving them pining for them remembering how good they had it and sorry for how bad they treated them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 06:07 PM |
| 41 | Is it just me or...most women need to have mental and emotional stimulation in a relationship to form connections that are lasting yass this is so true. why do most men not need this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:57 PM |
| 4 | How do I not get depressed from dumping an LVM?thank you for that - I like what you said about learning about yourself instead of leaning on a person who isn't emotionally available (the most frustrating and disappointing thing in the world) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 03:42 PM |
| 4 | The guy I’m talking to has bought flowers for my mom but not for meI hope you're not having sex with this guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 03:27 PM |
| 4 | Just ☠Ewww this is gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 03:26 PM |
| 48 | This is so true, men know what they want regardless of the time they’ve known you for. Don’t let him waste your time.So, some guy dates tons of girls "casually" for over a decade, then just for no reason at age 33 "this one is different!" Is she? Or, is she just the one that is there when you finally decided you must bring forth your offspring to this world? THIS. honestly I broke up with a seemingly high value guy who brought me flowers, paid for dates, texted often, told me he loved me etc just because it never felt like he really liked me as a person. he really wanted to love a girl, any girl, and it didn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 03:14 PM |
| 2 | You can’t make a man learn to appreciate you by offering him more of what he refuses to appreciate.ooh this is a good suggestion! I just found this book and read the intro and the writing is great | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 11:08 PM |
| 27 | Giga Stacy Pickmessame... also have you looked around the other videos to find 'Tanner'??????? they are not equal in looks at all. if that's his personality, I have no idea why she decided to stay with him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 07:10 PM |
| 29 | You can admit you miss and care for a LVM ex, that is okay, but don't let it fuck your shit up.thank you so much for posting this! I can kick a manipulative man to the curb easy, but the times when I've really dragged out a relationship is with men who have some good qualities, but aren't capable of fully treating me how I want to be. it's harder to get over them because I convince myself that they're so close to what I want and if they could just say they love me or offer to pay more or be more present in a conversation then we'd be great, but that's not true. If you really care about a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 07:04 PM |
| 3 | How to not be a stupid bitch and keep crawling back to a guyJust because y’all get along when HE’S in a good mood doesn’t mean it’s a good relationship. This ^ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 04:37 PM |
| 1 | MEN ARE INCAPABLE OF EMOTIONALLY SUPPORTING WOMENSooo true why are men incapable of providing emotional support | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 04:23 PM |
| 4 | The real reason why LVM want to go Dutch and why they prefer drink dates over meal dates.Gosh I'm so glad I found this it's teaching me so many important things | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 04:09 PM |
| 1 | A new mum suspects her baby has congenital syphilis due to her disloyal husband, toxic pickmeisha teases her for it. Your reminder that when LVM cheat and have multiple partners they literally endanger lives.What do you guys think about making your boyfriend/husband wear a condom forever just in case he cheats? I feel like that's the only way around it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Advice you would give to younger selfI think this is so true about not dating until you're 23. While there are some nice guys in high school/college, most were just bad boyfriends trying to force their girlfriends into sex they don't want, too emotionally unavailable from not having worked through past traumas, and sharing naked pictures of their girlfriends to their bros | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Was talking to a guy friend of mine and he said "that alpha men don't want relationships", so I should give up on looking for someone with an alpha personality.Sooo true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 02:31 PM |
| 13 | Only a year, he' already an abusive NVM and she blames herselfPosts like these make me so sad :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 02:28 PM |
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