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| 2 | Group of guys or Solo? (When out in person)I've never tried going out to bars to try to get women, but if I did, im either going solo or going with other women I dont see a benefit with going with other guys. Its just competition | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Men who've never struggled with dating and hooking up, what do you do differently than the rest of us?Its because youre conventionally attractive. Whether you have anxiety or not doesn't matter | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 02:50 PM |
| 11 | Men who've never struggled with dating and hooking up, what do you do differently than the rest of us?Having better DNA | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 06:12 AM |
| 1 | JOIN DISCORD OUR DISCORD - N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI dont think social proof works for me. I am a 25 year old virgin who has had a bunch of female friends through my life. However i have never felt what its like to have one that's attracted. Most people my age have, even if its from a woman thats unattractive, even if it's only a few times. But me no, I have never felt it my head that a woman is attracted to me. I may never get that feeling. I wish I can turn off my desires completely because they will probably never get fulfilled | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Those who have 0 game and no action in years, what you all doing?When im traveling I dont even think about dating or sex or romance. I just go in with a goal of meeting people and exploring where I go and having fun and making friends | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Those who have 0 game and no action in years, what you all doing?Ugly women will still have standards and I will still likely get rejected and there is not many women that are outright ugly. Most are some level of average | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Those who have 0 game and no action in years, what you all doing?I solo travel a couple times per year | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Those who have 0 game and no action in years, what you all doing?Just be glad you aren't me. You at least have had action in your life. I have not, i am 25 years i I have never had sex or even kissed a woman. I tend to go cycles between feeling fine and feeling like shit and feeling great and that changes with the time of day.I could be happy with myself(usually when I am out with friends, or doing the various hobbies im a part of, or when I am solo traveling), then the same day I come to my home depressed that I have never experienced romance. I have never e… | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 05:31 PM |
| 1 | If looks are all that matterHis face probably looked good to women. I dont think its personality, at least not fully. I did the same thing, HS I ran track/field. Most my HS friends separated but I built a new social life in college, I have many friends many hobbies, but I am still a 25 year old virgin who doesn't even know how it feels to have a woman attracted to me. Women obviously like my personality but I do not have the looks for one to be attracted. | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 09:27 PM |
| 1 | If looks are all that matterBecause the women's opinion matters. Thats why they get women, your gaze doesn't matter, the women's gaze does. Plus, looks is whats needed to get in the door, if you have everything else down but are naturally ugly then it wont matter | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 09:23 PM |
| 2 | A man without female friends is a red flagIt's inherently wrong. Its like if someone doesn't want to make friends with a particular race, thats racist and shows a lack of respect for that race Therefore if a man deliberately avoids friends with women, its misogynist and it shows lack of respect for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 04:18 AM |
| 1 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag."I dont see it often but this "I can't bring value to others if I don't get the chance to in the first place" type of complaint is quite annoying." Depends what you are referring to, if you are referring to like a platonic sense I agree with you. But if its in dating sense then I agree with the quote because no amount of "good personality" in dating even matters if you aren't good looking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?You still need to be decently attractive to get a relationship with a woman. And im not talking about just top percentile of women, im talking eith literally any woman, it is very hard work for below average men. Not impossible of course but its not as easy as you are making it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?Libido only makes you feel alive if you are attractive enough to have sex regularly. Otherwise its a frustrating thing to have, desiring something you wont get | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?Because prostitute is an emotional hit as then youll feel like shit for the rest of your life knowing you paid for something others get free simply from a woman desiring him. Getting rid of libido will get rid of all emotions due to sex and you wouldn't even care. At least thats how it is for me, I would rather die a virgin or kill my libido entirely than to ever pay for sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?What does libido even do for a man if no one desires them? Make him want to jerk off all day? Because thats all one can do with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?Because doing so requires another person and if no one wants to date them then its impossible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 05:41 PM |
| 0 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?Companionship can be fulfilled by friendships. And friendships dont depend on your genetics | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?I am considering it as a last resort. I would be 100% happy with my life if my libido didnt exist. I have a strong friend group, I am financially set and I have strong life aspirations. Its my libido that is unfulfilled because of bad face genetics that curse me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Why do they say that there are no benefits in a man having a woman as a friend?He has been aroumd the wrong women. I have never had this type of experience from women friends AT ALL | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 12:40 PM |
| -1 | Why do they say that there are no benefits in a man having a woman as a friend?Jfc you are around the wrong women.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 04:36 AM |
| 1 | How can I stop being an incel nice guy piece of shit 💩What about female friends? Whats your thoughts on those? | /r/seduction | 07/07/26 12:14 PM |
| 1 | I feel invisible to womenDo you have friends that are women? | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 10:35 PM |
| 3 | For US cities, is NYC still the king of day game despite its high progressive/feminist populationFighting for basic rights = "Crazy progressive feminism" yeah okay | /r/seduction | 01/07/26 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Kinda sad of women being rude straightup for no reason 22M.I dont think its looks. I am below average and women are nice to me when I try to approach, however, they arent attracted but they are always friendly and open to be friends | /r/seduction | 01/07/26 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Getting super soft rejections, how to have a more assertive vibe?You want to get a drink thrown in your face instead? | /r/seduction | 01/07/26 02:21 AM |
| 0 | Girl rejected me, still invites me to hang outShe wants to be your friend. Nothing deeper than that | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Cold hard truth - Height play a Major Factor than CharismaYou probably have a better looking face. I am 6'1, can easily be comfortable around women but will still do worse dating than people 5 inches shorter than me due to my ugly face Face is way more important than height is | /r/seduction | 21/06/26 10:42 PM |
| 0 | Would saying "I'm trying to talk to as many girls as possible" be bad or good for my dating life? (Social proof or just weird?)Idk why you're getting downvoted. I thought some women like going on dates for fun. | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 03:56 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Well I'm not particularly happy being sexless, but I am an overthinker and I have never asked a woman out due to my own insecurities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 01:21 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I am a 25 year old virgin. Am i still an incel if I have never even asked out a woman in my life? I mean incel by definition, not the group | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 01:14 PM |
| 6 | Why does seeing a girl with another guy completely change how I see her?Which is why people should stop trying to attach a moral failing to people who have never dated or have heavily struggled dating. Attraction isn't moral. Its always "oh he must be a walking red flag if he's never dated at XX age" | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Do you still talk to men?This is kind of me. Idk I feel more relaxed and comfortable talking to women. At parties like I try talking to everyone but like an hour or two in, I'm drinking cocktails and conversing at the women's table. Nothing wrong with it. Even when I am solo traveling, I'm almost always hing out with a woman or group of women exploring the city | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 03:01 AM |
| 5 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADFirst part of your statement is true, second part isn't always true because you have to account for those who are more selective with sex(waiting till mairrage, only waiting for a deep relationship, asexual etc.). Of course that exception doesn't apply to me since I'm ugly as shit and i will remain that way forever, but it applies to some other people so you should account for those. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:55 PM |
| 6 | What do abusive men bring to the table?It may seem that "men dont get it" because men who struggle dating are literally assumed to be all these negative traits like "boring, unfunny, bad smell, no social skills". So they bring up that they have these traits as a defense mechanism against it. Yes its true that those traits don't matter unless the woman is already attracted but thats not what these men who struggle are being told, they are being told that BECAUSE of the lack of those traits is why they are struggling amd there are many… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:53 PM |
| 5 | Who told men being nice would lead to sex?It happens because many women who see a man is struggling with dating or is a virgin at a late age that "he must not be a nice person" or "he is a creep" It comes when women attach a moral failing to men who struggle to date and "im nice" is a defense mechanism against those who assume the worst "If he were nice then he would have had a gf by now" is a classic statement The solution is for women to stop attaching a moral judgement based on a man's ability to attract women. As soon as that happen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:31 PM |
| 6 | Putting in less effort in attracting women actually works.Don't try to say "I'm skewing the data" thats OP's doing. OP said it like its universal for all men. I called out the exception. OP using "men" means he's talking about all men, ugly or hot. I belong in this discussion because I am a man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 03:16 PM |
| 15 | Putting in less effort in attracting women actually works.It only works when you are attractive.. I spent easily the first 24 or so years of my life straight up not giving a shit. I had 0 dating opportunities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you step in and support a single mom if the reason why she ended up in that situation is a noble, respectable reason?No, because I have no interest in parenting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 03:38 PM |
| – | Having female friends is absolutely a positive in datingNot really. I struggle dating but women easily are willing to befriend me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 03:30 AM |
| – | Having female friends is absolutely a positive in datingCorrection: having female friends is absolutely a positive in dating if you are already attractive Most of my friends are women, I have 0 dating life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 11:43 PM |
| – | Many men on Reddit who seek long-term relationships claim that OLD is not working out for them (barely any likes, matches or dates), many women on Reddit who seek the same thing claim that there are almost no good men to choose from (most matches seek casual sex, are incompatible or creepy)The attractiveness is needed first. If you are not attractive, you being "funny" won't work on a dating app | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 05:58 PM |
| – | Many men on Reddit who seek long-term relationships claim that OLD is not working out for them (barely any likes, matches or dates), many women on Reddit who seek the same thing claim that there are almost no good men to choose from (most matches seek casual sex, are incompatible or creepy)It will work if and only if the subject is attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 05:56 PM |
| – | Many men on Reddit who seek long-term relationships claim that OLD is not working out for them (barely any likes, matches or dates), many women on Reddit who seek the same thing claim that there are almost no good men to choose from (most matches seek casual sex, are incompatible or creepy)Test this out with image of a different uglier person and edit "cousin" over the woman, and see if it still works | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 07:11 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Yeah I agree, everyone should be nice for the sake of it, the world would be a much better place. But also the people who use statements such as "if he were truly nice, he would have been in a relationship by now" also need to stop as it also fuels this shit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 10:52 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I believe the reason some "Nice Guys" are the way they are is because once you reach a certain age of inexperience, many women will assume he must not be a good person, treating 0 relationship experience like some port of moral failing on his part, "If he was truly a good person, he would have had a relationship by now" . Him calling himself a "Nice Guy" is self protection | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 10:35 PM |
| – | Self-proclaimed "nice guys" are not nice guysThe reason a lot of them have to proclaim themselves as "nice" is because womem treat men having never been in a relationship as some sort of moral failing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 06:16 PM |
| 1 | How to stop negative self-talk in dating?I feel like I am not attractive. I have no evidence to show otherwise | /r/seduction | 13/05/26 12:49 AM |
| 2 | Can women really not understand where Nice Guys come from ?That's kind of where the just world fallacy comes in. Yes being nice doesn't warrant you a relationship, but when a guy reaches an older age while still a virgin/inexperienced, he is assumed to not be nice, or be assumed to be a bad person. "If they were really nice then they would have found a relationship by now" is a common phrase from women who are turned off by older virgins | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 02:20 AM |
| 1 | How to act like a player or a fboiShould I still wear fitted clothes if I am skinny? I am 6'1 but super slim and skinny. I don't have much of a body to show off | /r/seduction | 06/05/26 03:13 PM |
| 1 | The casual sex marketplaceAnd all of it would not matter if they weren't above average in looks. An average or below average person would not get success despite the same level of confidence. So looks is the bigger factor than confidence. | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 04:05 PM |
| 1 | The casual sex marketplaceYou could have left it at above average in looks and omitted the rest. A lot of it comes down to how you carry yourself and the energy you bring. It comes down to them being above average in looks. As you stated, thats why they are able to have a lot of casual sex | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 03:15 AM |
| 1 | The casual sex marketplaceI am also a little more attractive than the average dude, so maybe that also helps. There is no "maybe". It does help, and is basically a requirement nearly. | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 01:42 AM |
| 1 | The casual sex marketplaceDont forget the right genetics. You can be all of those things but if you don't have the looks it does not matter. No matter how "put together" you are | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 01:41 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men in their 20s should date around and play the fieldGood-Looking feminist men* | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 03:46 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men in their 20s should date around and play the fieldTrue, but only a certain group of men are able to do that. And it is hugely tied to your looks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How to fix a babyface as I have a feeling it is my biggest barrier to a successful dating life.Wow what a great problem to have | /r/seduction | 17/04/26 04:17 AM |
| 1 | How to fix a babyface as I have a feeling it is my biggest barrier to a successful dating life.How about piercings? I have 3 so far | /r/seduction | 17/04/26 02:29 AM |
| 3 | How to fix a babyface as I have a feeling it is my biggest barrier to a successful dating life.I don't think I can genetically grow a beard | /r/seduction | 17/04/26 02:19 AM |
| 1 | How to fix a babyface as I have a feeling it is my biggest barrier to a successful dating life.Did the gym help your beard grow? Right now most I can grow is a lot of chin hair but barely a mustache and it isnt even connected | /r/seduction | 17/04/26 02:17 AM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Yes, I have this happen, I get an isolated "signal" or two that could be interpreted as flirting, but then I just assume I am imagining things and assume she is friendly. I do not have the confidence to try to escalate. I do not know how to fix this, because I don't have concrete evidence to point to the fact that I am attractive at all to anyone, so i am afraid to even shoot my shot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 12:16 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Say its a man you thought was gay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 10:57 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?If someone you thought was gay asked you out, what would your reaction be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:36 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?I asked this question to someone else in the thread too: Say hypothetically, someone who you thought was gay asked you out on a date, what would your reaction be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:35 PM |
| 4 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Yes, one has offered me to come to her bar(she is a bartender). I may go, even though I am not much of a bar person. Another one I think has been trying to set me up as lately every time I go to a party/gathering, I have had women coming up to me already knowing my name somehow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:31 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Yes, this is true. I have had very little evidence that I am seen as attractive by women so my romantic confidence is low. Now multiply that + women being turned off my virginity at 25 and its worse. I am very close to giving up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:21 PM |
| 3 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?I am pretty sure one has tried putting me on as I have had women come up to me at social gatherings already knowing my name or randomly following me on IG, but nothing has happened and the interactions seem only friendly. One is also a bartender and invited me to come to her bar but I am not too much of a bar person. I might still go at some point idk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 04:22 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Ok so a couple more questions: Do you assume a person is gay off only a couple interactions or does it take you a while to do so? What is the best thing I can do at the moment to avoid coming off as gay? I haven't asked out a woman before and I do not want them to be off put on the off chance they think I am gay. I have not been suspected of it but I have a small insecurity that i might. Thanks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 04:13 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Ok so say hypothetically say someone you thought was gay asked you out on a date, what would your reaction be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 03:49 PM |
| 3 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Oh I definitely do, and I really do not care what people think about them. It's not really friendzone when I have no interest dating them. I only want to date outside my group | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 03:20 PM |
| 0 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Idk maybe, but its an even exchange, they do let me vent to them and they give advice where needed, and I have had women buy me gifts and food as well so it's all an even split. I am overall fulfilled with these firendships and I wouldn't trade them for anything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 01:45 PM |
| 2 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?im 25, maybe its young to you maybe not idk. Yes, I have never asked a woman out I have mainly female friends because I usually get along with women better. I am not interested in dating any of them, I would like to date outside my friend group I am looking for long term. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 01:42 PM |
| 3 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?6'1 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 12:48 PM |
| 2 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?#2 is closest to me, I don't do it on purpose necessarily, it's just that I never really care how masculine I come off, maybe I come off as slightly feminine I really don't even know. It just feels naturally easier to talk to women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:38 AM |
| 3 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?I am 99% sure one has. Because I have had women coming up to me at parties already knowing my name, but it never really goes anywhere, she usually gives me her instagram after we chat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:29 AM |
| 0 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?What does bf-lite mean to you? what are some examples and I can try to see if they apply to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:14 AM |
| 2 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?"you must have caught someone in a moment, at some point, but just missed something." This is what I try to think, I may have had isolated "signs of interest" i think but then I usually write them off in the moment as a "coincidence" "im just seeing things" and I feel I am right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:12 AM |
| 3 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Only reason I bring that up is that people on reddit say this to everyone who is a virgin lol. "Start by seeing women as people and not objects" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:05 AM |
| 2 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?And your suspicions are correct. I have never been rejected as I have never even 'made a move' or "asked out" a woman. A couple reasons are: 1: Being flirty just doesn't come naturally to me 2. I am insecure because I feel I am not seen that way. Even If I were to solve issue #2, issue #1 will still be there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:00 AM |
| 0 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Rich? yes, although I don't project as so Safe? definitely Fat kid? nope, skinny asf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:57 AM |
| 2 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?I don't think so. I was told my voice was pretty deep by people which afaik is the opposite of 'gay accent' haha. Maybe I come off as feminine as I honestly really do not care to project masculinity, maybe i should? Thanks for your comment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:50 AM |
| 3 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Gotcha yeah some of these I think applies to me: "absolutely no ability to flirt" Applies to me "No ability to express his interest in a woman early on" applies to me "No confidence" Applies to me "romantically unaware" hmmm maybe.. "seen as gay or asexual" I was told once that I might come off as asexual so this applies. Gay is interesting, I really don't care to project masculinity so maybe that comes off as "feminine". Ik feminine doesn't mean gay but to some it might, It's a very interesting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:48 AM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?I do tease them sometimes, but I doubt it comes off as flirty tbh. I tease the ones with bfs too sometimes lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:41 AM |
| 2 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?I'm gonna be real with you and honest lol I have never asked a woman out because I have seen little evidence that I am attractive. I am working to just get over that but that's an uphill battle of a near 90 degree grade lool | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:34 AM |
| 3 | Would you consider a man who has many friends, but has never dated at 25 "socially stunted" ?Redpill has a few bits good information and I have leard some things, but overall there's a lot of toxic information/manipulation tatics being pushed in it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Would you consider a man who has many friends, but has never dated at 25 "socially stunted" ?I can approach women, but it stays platonic. Flirting feels unnatural to me. I want to just get to the point and just ask them out but I have low confidence on that end. I overthink and say "its bad timing", "I'm not good enough" etc, especially with lack of evidence that I am even attractive. Doesn't help when i read that alot of women prefer to be flirted with before I should make a move. Just a bunch of overthinking on my end. Wish I could have that idgaf attitude but that's hard for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/26 06:55 PM |
| 10 | Would you consider a man who has many friends, but has never dated at 25 "socially stunted" ?Idk, I have 0 ability to flirt so I just don't do it. When I try to, I usually overthink then say nothing, so I just keep things platonic out of safety | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/26 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Would you consider a man who has many friends, but has never dated at 25 "socially stunted" ?Yeah this is my personal experience. I have told my friends I'm a virgin and they think I am lying to them lmao. However one said that I was "missing signs" sometimes but idek | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/26 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Most men who are struggling with dating have not exhausted all optionsYou can socialize all you want, but that does not mean women will be attracted to you. Socialization gets you friends but there is a subset of people who do everything listed, have many friends but women are just not sexually attracted to them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Most men who are struggling with dating have not exhausted all optionsSocializing by itself won't solve anything. Being able to "talk to women" will get you female friends but it will not guarantee you any dating success. You can have all of the other things and talk to women but still get nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Most men who are struggling with dating have not exhausted all optionsGym: Working on it Socialize: Many friends Groom youself: Shower 1-2x daily, comprehensive skin care Dress well: I do this, wearing nice clothes every day, even when running to store Establish a career: its my last semester in college but i will most likely make 75-80k right after 0 dating success | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 03:30 PM |
| – | Is it a red flag to be a virgin in your mid to late 20s?Because some men are all or most those things you listed but are still virgins. Non-religious too. You might not like this but hear me out: This describes me, I was TOLD I am all these things listed, by multiple women, so I am not just telling myself this. I wouldn't call myself extroverted, more ambivert, but with the women I do talk to, i get described as all those things and women in general like being around me. but despite it, I am a 25 year old virgin. And there are probably others, kind g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 12:41 PM |
| 10 | What are guys supposed to do if girls are simply not interested in them?It's weird because for me, women are easier to talk to than men lol. Now this got me nowhere because I am a virgin but they are easy to talk to for me. Maybe it's about conversation style i guess.. | /r/seduction | 13/02/26 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Examples of conversations with womenYou need to be able to hold a conversation first. Once you do that THEN you can learn the next step | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 04:29 PM |
| 1 | I think we’re trying way too hard with dating.this advice works for getting friends, but its not that helpful for dates unless you have inherent sex appeal(attractiveness, flirting ability etc). I have many female friends but get little to no desire beyond that | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 09:45 PM |
| 2 | It’s easier than ever to date hear me outI haven't. Do you think they would help? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/26 08:45 PM |
| 0 | It’s easier than ever to date hear me outIdk..... Only reason I have more female friends is just because that's who I get along with better and they tend to gravitate to me. Like at parties for example what happens is that I go and try to talk to everyone but the women are more interested than the men and then I just wind up sipping cocktails with them lmao. When traveling overseas things similar, when I explore a city, about 70% of the time I am with a woman or women, even if the hostel is mostly dudes. It's not something I intentiona… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/26 08:34 PM |
| 3 | It’s easier than ever to date hear me outTo answer your first question, no, I currently have 0 clue how to flirt. I am trying to learn how to do it but it will most likely be a long process. To your second question, no, I haven't yet, but i will start doing this. I always waited a long time then realize its too late. I have heard this advice on reddit before and it has made dating more simple. I will try doing this with new women I meet(I don't really want to date my friends anyway). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/26 08:28 PM |
| 2 | It’s easier than ever to date hear me outI am not socially awkward since I have many friends and can make them in any environment. Did you even read my comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/26 08:01 PM |
| 13 | It’s easier than ever to date hear me outYou are very wrong. Here is my situation. I dress well, regularly shop for nice clothes. Nothing designer, but I wear nice well fitting shirts and pants from ross/TJ Maxx and I do get complimented on them occasionally which is nice. I shower 1-2 times per day, I have good breath, I use a prerinse, brush my teeth, mouthwash, tounge scraper. I have a comprehensive skincare routine, and I get my haircut twice a month. And I am below 15% BF(I am not muscular, I am on the skinny side) but I would not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/26 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Is grabbing her hand to check out her nails considered flirting?Gotcha | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Is grabbing her hand to check out her nails considered flirting?Got it | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Is grabbing her hand to check out her nails considered flirting?Yeah I wouldn't do it right off the bat. But in this scenario we were talking for a while and then i complimented and she put her hand out | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 02:15 AM |
| 7 | Is grabbing her hand to check out her nails considered flirting?Because I am trying to learn how to do it | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 02:11 AM |
| 9 | Is grabbing her hand to check out her nails considered flirting?Yeah she kind of just offered them after I complimented, I didn't necessarily reach across and grab them. I understand the gay part but tbh I really don't care haha, I like cool nail designs. | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 02:10 AM |
| 1 | What does "It just happened" even mean?How did you initially approach this woman? I would like to try bar approaches | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 01:05 AM |
| 1 | I am gonna travel, I want some tips to get a girl to make outI'm assuming this applies to top tier attractive people. No way I can do this shit without getting something thrown in my face | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 12:37 AM |
| 1 | I had a woman flirt with me but I kept doubting it in my headProbably would have messed it up. I have 0 flirting skills | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 03:35 AM |
| 2 | Was she flirting with me?I am 25 no experience dating sex or kissing if you want to know. I have posted here before to get help. I didn't even enter the dating scene till 23 | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 01:16 PM |
| 3 | Fix your Incel mindset before you go and seduce/harass womenOk that raises another question, What more is there to it would you say? | /r/seduction | 21/11/25 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Fix your Incel mindset before you go and seduce/harass women-BECAUSE IM CONFIDENT AND MAKE THEM FEEL COMFORTABLE I don't think that is the reason, because if it was, I would have gotten to know women on a romantic level as well because I do the same thing. | /r/seduction | 21/11/25 05:39 AM |
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