How do I first initiate flirting?

OpinionThink481 · 2025-12-02T04:15:27+00:00

Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion.

And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love).

The emotional effect that her body, her behavior, her mannerisms have on you. That's what flirting sexually is. Expressing ur male sensuality both non-verbally verbally by telling her the things she makes u feel in terms of attraction and sexual desire, for example:

"The way u are trying so hard not to kiss her right now", "the way u lose concentration when she smiles cute like that, the way ur heart rate increases when she does "that" particular thing", "the way her gaze kinda hypnotizes you", "the way her touch hits you like a wave", "the way her mannerisms warm up ur heart". “The way u feel so drawn to her and can't help it", "the way your mind just short-circuit when you saw her wearing that dress", the way you forgot what u were planning on doing today when u saw how cute she looked", "the way she just took ur breath away", "the way you can't help but imagine how u'd like to pin her against the wall and make her yours",...

This is how u flirt verbally, not by telling them compliments or descriptions of what good qualities she has, but by expressing the emotional effect or reaction that her attributes or actions have on u instead, and combining it with the body language and it’s sexual self-expression.

When u flirt sexually, you are expressing the desire she causes u to feel in such a way that invites her to feel that desire, lust and sexual tension that is going through your veins.

Their impulse to start creating sex with you is something they have to feel, and they feel it when you express that desire in such a real and intense way that she imagines ur emotions in such vivid detail that she can’t help herself but to feel it as her own.

She sees the way you check her body up and down, the way you bite your lips suggestively, the tone of contained lust in your voice, the way your gaze pretty much says to her: “I’d fuck you so hard right now”.

That is what motivates her to feel the sexual energy and can cause her to just want to make out with u on pure raw impulse, and to have sex with you, without u needing to ask her if she would like to have sex and without her evaluating whether she should or not because she is not in her head, she is just feeling it and letting herself be carried by the current of your vibe in that specific moment.

It's something that you say without expecting anything in return, so you should not expect her to tell you “thank you”, or “I feel the same way”, or “you turn me on too”, or "ok let me kiss you"...

Just express it because it's just how you feel and only want it to share it right now while you are currently feeling it because the only purpose is inviting them to create a sexual experience if they feel it what you are expressing.

Now she could say whatever she wants: "We barely know each other", "you are so direct, so crazy, so forward", "i have a boyfriend"... Whatever. If she says things like that, you don't say sorry, try to argue, take it back, go defensive, or anything, you simply double down by saying:

"I hear you, I don't want anything, it's just how I feel". While you continue ur self-expression verbally and non-verbally.

See? Ur not trying to convince her, you are not asking for something, you just keep expressing how you feel internally because that should be your only focus.

This is the secret. Literally. Express feelings without demanding anything in return for sharing your feelings. But if you express feelings expecting her to give you something, then that's pressure and it won't work.

What this does is create sexual tension. And sexual tension is the emotional state where a woman starts to feel aroused, horny, etc because she is feeling your arousal and horniness, which is contagious

PS: I'm a seduction coach, if you need any help, just follow my acount or read my book where i expand on this and give more practical seduction advice made easy.

Dandys3107 · 2025-12-02T09:15:34+00:00

You can start with showing off your sexually attractive traits. Wear nice clothes, nice accessories, smell good, casually let her see your thiriving finances and social circle, lead others or just communicate with different people frequently. Once you get that, you need to figure out opportunity for 1 on 1 interactions. If you manage to, stay close to her, smile, look her deep in the eyes, use deep voice, lead her in the conversation and whole interaction, throw in some mild sexual topics that are acceptable in the interaction betweem strangers/friends, introduce some friendly touch. And observe her reactions, to adjust tempo of escalating with more and more intimate moves. Generally, sexual context is almost always in the air between compatible man and woman, it's just about "warming up" a woman to open up to you sexually and get her turned on eventually, and she just either lets you make a next step or find excuses because something is off. You start flirting by not excluding flirting. And then you think of introducing some naturally looking strategies to present yourself as attractive male and finding opportunities to spend more time with the girl. Confident and laidback, that's a good attitude for a success.

becomesharp · 2025-12-02T11:49:36+00:00

FYI the main sticking point in scenarios like this is almost always not creating sufficient attraction, not an issue with flirting.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-12-02T04:07:35+00:00

Read my guide it goes over everything

https://drive.google.com/file/d/13epRH0_XvIDOnX0GAqAwsnYw7FmMpBsc/view?usp=drive_link

Title	How do I first initiate flirting?
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