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I mean she fumbled tbh but I think you kinda over reacted a bit as well. She made a mistake but you took it out of proportion
/r/seduction27/01/26 08:34 PM
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Attractive women have attractive girl friends. So it's a great idea to befriend hot women. Good advice that I've always believed in.
/r/seduction27/09/25 07:27 PM
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Yeah you can meet people in a bar. But I've never expected to actually find love in a bar. A while ago actually someone told me that and I didn't really believe it. As time went on and I got older, I realized there is truth in the statement. I'm not saying you can't find love in a bar or that women who go to a bar aren't worthy of dating, but I'd rather meet people (to date) in different places. And I actually have. I guess to each its own.
/r/seduction28/08/25 10:35 PM
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Maybe she’s just Canadian
/r/seduction06/09/22 07:07 PM
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Hmmm no. When we look at a camel toe, unless it’s an awful sight, it’s generally a turn on
/r/seduction21/05/22 02:58 PM
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What I've read / heard is that men are expected to be strong ("be her oak") in the relationship. Not so much that we can't show emotion. For example, if you are worried about something and you show insecurity to your GF/wife by telling her your problems and fears, she will start resenting the fact that you are not "strong enough". Now, from my personal experience this is somewhat true (not just personal, but the people I know and stories I've read). I think women are people and at the end of the…
/r/seduction13/04/22 09:12 PM
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This sounds very neckbeardy. Women worth your damn time will value connection. Valuable women are as interested in having a connection with someone just as much as you do. People live phases in their lives. Don’t generalize
/r/seduction12/10/21 05:18 AM
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Playing games isn’t really how I’d play the seduction game.
/r/seduction26/09/21 11:27 PM
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My point is that it’s incomplete. You don’t just take the phrase alone and build your dating strategy.
/r/seduction04/09/21 07:48 PM
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I believe you are misinterpreting that phrase. The phrase is intended for you not to be awkward or needy around women, because they’re people after all. OF COURSE you need to show interest. If you only take one sentence of advice alone and ignore other important advice, you’d be doing it wrong
/r/seduction04/09/21 07:43 PM
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I had a coworker who would flirt with one guy in the office while her husband also worked in the same office (they both worked there). The guy was chill and didn’t seem to care much but she would grab your arm, be a bit playful and laugh. I believe he might have a kink or something but she didn’t really do it when he was around anyways. She was attractive though not entirely my type. I just didn’t make any advances and just acted aloof which made her even more interested. But I was sure she did …
/r/seduction02/09/21 02:55 PM
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If you don't know the difference between a FWB and a friend, there's nothing else to discuss here. Have a good day :)
/r/seduction25/08/21 02:23 PM
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A FWB is not a friend.
/r/seduction25/08/21 02:18 PM
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It doesn't matter. He doesn't want to be friends with her anymore.
/r/seduction25/08/21 02:15 PM
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Yeah, she was really never his friend. He never intended of being really friends with her. He's not in control of what she'll do next. If she wants to be petty and tell others, it's on her. At the end of the day it's best to be honest (but after the fact, otherwise it is indeed manipulative)
/r/seduction25/08/21 02:06 PM
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No, because it’s not a warning. So here’s an important concept in seduction (welcome to the sub) that’s being honest and straightforward with your intentions. It’s not “playing games” or being manipulative: he does not need to be friends with her if he doesn’t want to. So if she does not want to be FWB he can just walk away and find someone who will.
/r/seduction25/08/21 01:47 PM
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Nothing creepy about being direct. Confusing terms here completely
/r/seduction25/08/21 03:47 AM
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Sometimes strong confidence can be very hypnotizing. Happened to me once with a girl at a gym. I just approached her and said "Hi. My name is tjger and I think you are really cute. What's your name?" First time I did that at a gym. She gave me her number because I wanted to take her out. When I texted her, she said that she had a bf I asked then why would you give me your number? She tried to change it like why can't people be friends. ​ Bitch I literally told you I wanted to take you out for co…
/r/seduction18/11/19 03:01 AM
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I like your post. In my case, I've just stopped giving a F. A couple of days ago I was at an airport waiting for my connectig flight. I was charging my phone when this hot girl connected her phone and sat down right next to me (on the floor). I saw her but I didn't care much because I was reading something on my phone. But after some time, I got bored and said I guess it would be ok if I got entertained with talking to people. I had to wait about an hour to board. So I said "so where are you goi…
/r/seduction18/11/19 12:40 AM
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I don't agree with that generalization. I've seen gorgeous women with thin guys. Women don't see physical as much as they see emotional strength.
/r/seduction26/08/19 05:08 PM
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I agree, but let me rephrase it: Yes, the average face on a confident man can go farther than the pretty face on an average man.
/r/seduction26/08/19 05:04 PM
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Of course women notice if you are handsome. And yes, it helps being good looking. But women crave more than that, they crave being led, being captivated by a powerful man (though powerful is a broad term). And that my friend is called being ATTRACTIVE.
/r/seduction26/08/19 05:03 PM
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Last time I tried fucking a pizza I burned my dick. So no.
/r/seduction26/08/19 05:00 PM
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You're just like the guy at the bar. Missing the point and thinking women will wait for you to have luxuries. Meanwhile, the girl you like is banging the broke bartender. ​ A lot like a friend of mine, who doesn't have a job. His "gf" (more like fwb) has a decent career on the medical field and financially supports him. There's something about him that she wants. ​ Try harder. You can do it.
/r/seduction27/07/19 05:50 AM
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Thank you for your insightful, well written, awesome comment. ​ The average/ugly/poor/desperate girls don’t have that same overabundant access to those things do cigar-stache chick pays more attention when you have those things. But why are you picking up the bottom of the barrel? And even then, she’s not attracted to you, she just realizes you’re a good catch for her since she can’t get those things elsewhere so she’s classifying you as her provider beta male. Thus the fatty on online dating si…
/r/seduction24/07/19 08:30 PM
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Thank you for your comment. Actually, I also think approaching is essential. If you don't approach, women will just never do. We can't just stand there waiting for them to do something. ​ Allow me to explain myself better: un business and in seduction, I have the belief that if you want to attract a cat, you shouldn't "chase" the cat, but have something the cat wants, so it comes to you. ​ Morgan Freeman said it better: don't chase women. Go talk to her, say hi, get her number, but don't be an o…
/r/seduction24/07/19 07:59 PM
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I would highly recommend reading Models by Mark Manson so that you have a solid inner game foundation.
/r/seduction02/02/18 08:29 PM
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It's ok, we can have different opinions. The definition I used follows the definition from the book I mentioned, which is recognized by a vast amount of people in this community, so I guess the message is clear at least to them. Cheers.
/r/seduction23/01/18 06:54 PM
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Vulnerable in the Mark Mansons' Models book sense.
/r/seduction23/01/18 02:34 PM
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If you take "ONE DATE", of course it is. I am assuming OP is better than that. IDK, it's probably my own choice, as it was yours to decide that he was overreacting. It could have been the straw that broke the camel's back as well. In any case, cheers.
/r/seduction23/01/18 03:09 AM
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I would understand the whole deal about scarcity and alpha thing. However I read what he wrote: I cried about feeling alone and feeling that he would be alone for a long time This is being real. This is being vulnerable. This is accepting that he is a human being that has needs. I don't really like that bit of being alone for a long time. But again, it's a feeling, and feeling hopeless and bad from time to time ain't really that bad. "The real journey begins when the false self fails" John Eldre…
/r/seduction22/01/18 10:52 PM
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Nice read. Thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction09/01/18 03:32 AM
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And what he's telling you is that you asking that question will not help you get girls. I would add that you get whatever your mind visualizes. If you think "-1000000 that's exactly how I see myself" you're not being "humble" in your opinion or helping yourself in any way, but bringing yourself further down. So stop that. Thus, "get a life, literally"
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:51 AM
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I don't think I'm the best person to answer, but I will give my best try. The reason I say this is because I don't mean to simplify what might be important to you: There are things that are hard as fuck to do for different people. And from what I have read from your comment, it is very difficult and painful to socialize for you. In all honesty, I don't have any experience with Autism, and I am certainly not qualified to talk about it. What I do know about is social anxiety. I used to be super so…
/r/seduction28/11/17 04:37 AM
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of course there are women who are excited about gaming and watching Netflix. The thing here, brother, is to recognize that if you work on IT/programming, the big question is "what are you doing?". Are you pushing yourself in a good way to be better? Just saw a post in this sub that showed a programmer talking about working in social media and the girl staying to listen to what he did. What if what you do is really exciting? Don't underestimate the power you have to make a difference.
/r/seduction28/11/17 03:55 AM
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I'd like to just point out that this applies to expecting outcomes with women, although sometimes it does apply to other things in life as well. It goes along with not giving a fuck in general. Setting goals means giving a fuck, and there are things that are worth giving a fuck about, such as your career, your hobbies, etc. because they are things you can control. However, you can't control women (and you shouldn't). You can only do your best in certain situations. Cheers
/r/seduction27/11/17 02:16 PM
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Thank you. We always learn new things every day. The past is just that. And the present is a chance to do things the right way. Cheers and good luck!
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:05 AM
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Good question! Unfortunately, you can't. And you shouldn't. At least from my POV. Let me explain: Trying to be happy and having fun all the time is useless. Life is about balance, and happiness comes from doing things that challenge you. The thrill of achieving something is what brings joy to your life. You need to feel bad from time to time to appreciate the times you're feeling great. However, there are some things you can do to improve your mental health and life in general: surround yourself…
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:02 AM
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What constitutes 'productive'? Good question. To me, something is productive when it challenges you and helps you become a better/fulfilled person, and it's also fun. In my own experience, for example, once I stopped playing videogames so much (and much later), I learned wing chun and salsa dancing. I'm not an expert, but that gave me new social circles and now I have awesome friends to meet for salsa dancing and it's freaking awesome. Looking back, I could have learned salsa years ago, but I wa…
/r/seduction26/11/17 03:01 PM
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How did the surfing part go? I'm learning it and would like to know from you how long has it taken you to learn.
/r/seduction24/11/17 07:49 PM
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I dance salsa and I have to say, women who dance it and do it well look sexy af. Even though they are not super pretty, it's just something that is so seductive about dancing salsa the right way.
/r/seduction23/11/17 09:34 PM
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Well, there's /r/fpua. I also recommend Matthew Hussey on youtube. Sound advice for women. Now to your questions: looks are important in a community like seddit where you want to aim for the hottest girl there is. That being said, preferences vary from man to man. If you are honest with yourself when saying you're a 5 out of 10, what I can tell you is that there are ways to increase your attractiveness, and in my humble opinion and preference, it is of hitting the gym and working hard on your bo…
/r/seduction21/11/17 11:03 PM
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Besides then I'm just trying to drag the girl into them to impress her because its an external root not an internal one Don't do things just to impress people. Don't drag people to the things you do because you want to impress. Drag them because you want to show them your world and want them to be part of it. If I was just living the life I want I'd be playing video games all the time but I cant even enjoy that now because its gotten me nowhere with girls. A lot of stuff has to do with the minds…
/r/seduction21/11/17 10:56 PM
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I kindly invite you to Alpha town, where the opinions of others don't matter a single fuck. What is YOUR opinion? It's ok to have standards, but asking us about this is just not a good start to join Alpha town. Cheers
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:47 PM
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A woman who is interested in you will make time to go out with you. Period. That sounds like her making an excuse to not telling you a "no". So my advice is to move on.
/r/seduction31/10/17 10:54 PM
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I 100% agree with this post, awesome stuff here. Yet there's one thing I'm constantly seeing in similar advice that I'd like being clarified: You literally have to stop giving a shit what anyone thinks, and you will find automatically that your odds improve How do you do that? It's easier said than done and "just stop caring" isn't enough. What do you do to prepare your mind to not give a damn? How do you exercise your brain to stop caring?
/r/seduction13/10/17 04:51 PM
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Economics and Attraction explains this clearly: You usually can't just crash a frat party. That means that the ones who make it to the party have some sort of value. Girls know this. Just by being in a party, you are instantly somehow valuable to them. It happened to me once, a girl just approached me and it was funny because I really didn't have to do much to get her to like me.
/r/seduction30/09/17 05:53 AM
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A disclaimer should be included that this is true for short term. The truth is, that to get long term results, you need long term solutions. As a man, your masculine energy should drive you to be focused on improvement.
/r/seduction30/09/17 05:49 AM
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Cheers bro
/r/seduction29/09/17 02:34 PM
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Pickup can be an amazing way to meet girls, but tricks and methods can be counter productive in the long term. Even being vulnerable, as Mark Manson suggests, can be a problem if you don't have a strong inner sense of confidence and outer path of development. I had a gf who was extremely jealous and toxic after a LTR. Regardless whether she was toxic or not, when I met this girl I was confident, misterious and decisive. And she was really a sweetheart and let me lead. When we got in a relationsh…
/r/seduction26/09/17 02:48 PM
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I thought the same, until I stumbled upon Corey Wayne's book and like it very much. Both are great complementary pieces of advice.
/r/seduction26/09/17 02:15 AM
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Actually, it should be giving fucks about a few essential things.
/r/seduction25/09/17 10:18 PM
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You are young, and by saying this I don't mean to sound condescending. I really think you have a great opportunity to learn from others and do things even better in many ways. With that being said, you really need to give a fuck about fundamental things. Lots of things can't be learnt from what you read here, books or someone tells you. You have to experience it all (failures, rejections, etc.). Truth is, once you have lots of sex, your realize sex is alright. But sex with someone you connect is…
/r/seduction25/09/17 08:26 PM
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I once read that instead of thinking about sleeping with a girl, you should think "how can I make this relationship more fulfilling for me?"
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:21 PM
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I think that what sets apart "sex" with "great sex" is the level of emotional connection. I believe pickup is about finding a woman with whom you can spend quality time and connect in an amazing way. In that sense, sex becomes an awesome thing. I wouldn't say "not that big of a deal anymore", but a part of the greater number of things in life (one could argue that's essentially the same). I agree with you when you say that setting a goal such as sleeping with attractive women is in no way as ful…
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:20 PM
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He is really highly energetic lol. But I like watching those long videos -the ones with landscapes and scenery behind him- that are about personal growth.
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:11 PM
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I see being alpha as being a congruent, confident man who is always looking to be the best version of himself in his personal and professional life. He doesn't take shit from anybody, but he's not a dick. He's kind, not nice. He sets his boundaries. He protects the ones he loves. He has direction in life. He knows what he wants and works in what he loves. He learns from his mistakes. Gets over harships of life and that's how every woman wants to be with him.
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:08 PM
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RSD stands for Real Social Dynamics. Tyler is one of the co-founders.
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:04 PM
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This is the best answer so far. Expecting something in return in this case is just building up for disappointment.
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:55 PM
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Here's the thing: she didn't become more attracted to you because of the kiss. She had been just as attracted and was basically waiting for you to kiss her. This a billion times. Women will not initiate. That's why it mattered so much that you made your move, OP. Think about it: it doesn't matter if you get rejected. The point ain't in asking out someone, but taking action. And not only you took action, but you went for the kiss and did a great job!
/r/seduction23/05/17 05:26 PM
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My simple and honest answer is for you to drop both the LTR and HB scale, and instead focus on experiences. Doesn't matter if it's an HB5 or an HB9. There are HB5s psychos and absolutely amazing HB9 unicorns. Whatever life brings you, use it to learn from it. You want to get into a serious relationship? Go for it. You want one with a really beautiful girl? Go for it! Take action. Every person is a different world. PUA teaches you to be a better version of yourself and how to make the approach mo…
/r/seduction22/05/17 02:36 AM
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Go back to sleep, Robert.
/r/seduction21/05/17 11:50 PM
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I think you just added an additional step of checking her availability. IMHO either way would do it. If she's not into you, she won't sleep with you anyways, so what's the point? I personally prefer going for the usual "Hey, do you wanna grab a drink this Thursday after work?" because it's direct and forward. That's what the masculine energy should be all about.
/r/seduction21/05/17 11:49 PM
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I realize your question roots from the following idea: I'm thinking if they're not spoiled by the attention they get everywhere.. Which is a generalization. I know that the topic of PUA tends to generalize a lot of stuff. Women are people too (I know, mind blowing!). They are interested in different things, just like men, just like you and I. To put into context, then actresses who are "HB10s" are probably not worth marrying because they get attention. That is ridiculous. So instead, ask yoursel…
/r/seduction21/05/17 10:15 PM
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No point in arguing with him.
/r/seduction21/05/17 10:04 PM
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I see the point of the article and makes sense. Now that I think about it, it's probably true in some cases. They already feel like they have your approval and they don't need to earn it.
/r/seduction16/05/17 10:52 PM
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Nice freaking job. You took a step forward, and now you are literally better than a whole bunch of dudes out there who don't even try.
/r/seduction16/05/17 10:46 PM
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Great video, thank you for sharing
/r/seduction10/05/17 02:04 AM
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Being vulnerable means showing your true colors as a person and accepting yourself at the same time. Showing yourself as who you are guarantees that you filter in and out women who are or aren't compatible with you. I am currently dating an amazing girl thanks to this basic concept. She is interested in me, not in a projection of me, as I used to do with other women before learning about seduction. When you start doing this, the whole approach anxiety and other problems become less important. Wh…
/r/seduction10/05/17 01:41 AM
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I'm not quite sure what you mean with "saying goodbye". Explain the context: date? after you ask her number?
/r/seduction04/05/17 02:56 AM
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I apologize if my response offended you in any way. You put it as being "awkward", and I had no idea of the latter. You're right. I have no story to tell you about an autistic guy in his 30s who managed to get women, like you say. However, I do know a lot about anxiety and being really bad with women, despite having pretty good social skills, being fun and whatnot. As I wrote in a previous post, I remember approaching this really cute girl and asking for her number, but being completely unable t…
/r/seduction02/05/17 05:22 PM
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Oh, and my second piece of advise. If you ever doubt your relationship (whether its a new one or one you've had for a while) start writing down your thoughts. As if you were asking reddit for advice. Write down what the problem is, the details, the things she's said. What you have done and said, and you might just realize it all sounds silly. That nothing is wrong and theres no need to do what guys do best, ruin things. It put things into perspective. I'd like to add one more thing: not only wri…
/r/seduction30/04/17 07:26 PM
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lol
/r/seduction30/04/17 06:58 PM
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In all honesty, do you think any given guy can become "good" at performance in order to attain some no-strings sexy time? Yes. Everybody is born completely ignorant. Everything everyone has done so far in every aspect of life is the product of learning. So, if you are an awkward guy who doesn't want a LTR, then you have to start looking -in a very honest way- what areas you need to improve. I don't know you, but my first bet is that you should start doing things to overcome your social anxiety, …
/r/seduction30/04/17 06:57 PM
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You could say so. A lot that I practice is essentially Models' viewpoint. Thank you!
/r/seduction30/04/17 06:54 PM
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Ignore them. Invest time in friends and people who like you and you like. Bruce Lee said: "be like water". Adapt. They are jealous of you, so the best they can do is bring you down. It's ok that you vent here. However, irl, that would just make them win: if you lash out against them, or even get physical, you'll lose your cool and get in trouble (you could also get injured). A word from someone 10+ years older than you: "Proving yourself" should really be ignoring them. If you think it means "fi…
/r/seduction27/04/17 10:39 PM
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I don't see any test here. She is telling you that she doesn't want to join you.
/r/seduction27/04/17 04:24 PM
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While I think age plays a role, it's not the only or the most important. Not like she doesn't have tons of guys after her.
/r/seduction12/02/17 07:23 PM
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I don't think you read the story, or got the message. Cheers.
/r/seduction12/02/17 07:22 PM
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I agree with this. Be genuine and straightforward. And be confident when you say it.
/r/seduction11/02/17 08:50 PM
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it's a start indeed. Hey! If you don't know how to dance... Then learn! Don't learn to get girls, do it for yourself! Don't you think you'd have tons of fun if you'd knew how to dance? I myself went to this salsa place once and thought "damn, these people dance incredibly". And seriously, I thought if I even try I would look like an idiot. Well, it's 1 month later and I'm doing pretty well myself. And I'm having a blast! Conversely, if you don't want to learn to dance, then just go to places whe…
/r/seduction11/02/17 08:49 PM
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Congrats on your health improvement and thanks for sharing your story. Keep owning and loving yourself!
/r/seduction11/02/17 02:21 AM
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I'm nobody's orbiter, they are my orbiters. This is the right mindset. Props to you bro.
/r/seduction10/02/17 10:04 PM
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I would just go watch a movie. I love the idea of just doing stuff, even if they flake on you. If any girl ever flakes on me, I just go out and do something, anything. I don't see watching movies alone as depressing. Not like you should always go alone, of course. Some time ago I could have invited this girl that was my fwb back then, but instead I decided to watch deadpool alone. So I went alone, laughed my ass off, bought a big bag of popcorn and ate it happily. I was working out hard back the…
/r/seduction10/02/17 09:49 PM
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It's amazing when you stop focusing on other people and just focus on yourself to be the best you can be, you learn about what you really like and what you originally put on a pedestal. I 100% agree. The beauty of PUA starts with improving yourself and then everything around you beings to fall into place. Women are the cherry on top of your life, not the center of it. When you know your value, inner game just expresses itself into how you talk, what you say, and you will never need any witty lin…
/r/seduction10/02/17 09:42 PM
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Here's what has worked for me so far: Ok first, recognize that: If she turns out to be a dick and reject you horribly, it'll be a favor to you. Why would you want to date someone who's like that? No one gives a shit about what you say. Just say anything about her drink, her shoes, her hair. Think back to any good friend you've met and try remembering the first thing you told them.... Exactly! It really doesn't matter! You can totally compliment her, but you have to be assertive and confident. Be…
/r/seduction10/02/17 09:17 PM
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