Just some random thoughts in response to what I've seen lately in this sub. Hope it helps.

Being yourself definitely works. If you're the best version of yourself.

Although, to be fair, "the best version of yourself" is something to look for, not really something you actually reach, or necessarily "achieve". There's always room for improvement. It's the mindset of seeking perfection what makes you an attractive man.

So how do you become or seek to become your best version? I believe there are two important factors here:

  1. Finding what you really like and are passionate about, and doing it.
  2. Not giving a fuck what others think of what you do.

Detach yourself from the idea that there's a perfect man, a James Bond, who attracts every woman he meets. That doesn't exist. Go find what you genuinely enjoy doing: hobbies, career, etc. and do it. Let's forget about women for a moment. If you are content with your life, with your hobbies and your work, you'll be a more confident man.

Don't give a fuck about what others think of you, but be a man of value and of good. Don't be a dick or one of those "alpha" jerks who think by being "aggressive" they'll be attractive. It is literally the opposite of being a "nice guy" or a white knight.

If you're just looking for hookups, performing will do just fine. If you're looking for a gf, you should really check into becoming a better self. Also, opening up and being vulnerable in your interactions is something you'll want to do. Be straightforward and genuine. After all, if you enter a relationship with someone based off performance, sooner or later things will catch up and you'll start having problems in your relationship.

This isn't about attracting every woman, but attracting women who share your interests and who you think are attractive. It's significantly more satisfying to share time and energy with someone you actually connect than with someone you just are with just because of looks. However, if that's your thing, go for it!

If you like a girl, just go straight up and be honest about your intentions. I've had lots of girls become attracted just by the fact that I approached and said "hey, my name is tjger, and I think you're cute, what's your name?". If you think about it, there arent's as many men who do that, so it's cool.

If she rejects you, be happy with the fact that it means it's one woman who you did not waste any more energy with. Imagine being after someone who's not into you, and spending time and energy (and probably money) on trying to make her like you.

You are the prize. Act like it. Check out RSD Madison infields videos and check how he shows interest in the girl and then act laid back.

Practice. Stop reading so much and actually approach. I have a friend of mine who's a PUA nerd expert, but doesn't really approach.

Good luck