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54 and it's getting better and easier .8months separated and 2 months divorced. i have the kid's to keep me occupied and focused on me and them.the thoughts of us still haunt me. Starting to delete pictures and remove them from the walls.put the feelings of hurt and the dwelling on it is going away. It's a hard fight but moving forward. Not ready for dating or the random hook up. Just working on me. But it's definitely getting easier to let go
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 05:39 AM
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Thank you for the kind words I'm just tired of this fight with my self I know that it's going to be a long time to get over her
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 07:30 PM
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I just hate the roller coaster that I'm on I'm pretty sure that she has a fuck buddy and I that is messing with me I told as thing changes and her doing whatever. Im not going to help her so she going to have to get her own phone.so I'm going to pay her her to move on. I know that it's not my responsibility to pay for her phone but I was doing it for the kids. But if she doing what ever I don't care she is single. But now I have to worry about who she going to have around my children. I knew tha…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 07:27 PM
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I have a 50/50 im the custodial parent and she only see them once a month because she moved out of state.my deal is that I can't stop thinking about us. Trying to move forward. But I can't let go. I'm still trying to help her . Phone so she can call the kids. A little bit of money to help her out she doesn't have a job. She walk away and didn't want anything. I know that it's not my responsibility to help her. But my nature is was taught to help others when I can.i trying to find that light at t…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 04:39 PM
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I'm in the same boat. I'm in therapy now but sometimes I want her back and my family complete. other days I just trying to let her go. And I get mad and upset with myself the mind and heart are pulling me back and forth. The days now are getting easier but I still have days that I just want to cry.but I'm learning to let her go.but I still have to co parent with her I have the kid's day for day it's getting better
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 01:23 AM
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She a good mom but from a distance.she wants me to send pic and videos of them and talks to them every day. there 13and 11, but it's everything else that I have to deal with, school and doctors appointment and work, plus bills and household. she was a stay at home but didn't drive. work about 5 years out of the 20 she just got lazy with everything. it built up with me so I lost my shit about the house and bills this was 2 years ago, last year she did something sketchy on a girls night. i accused…
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 01:13 AM
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They stay the night she never wanted to drive i try to teach her I bought her a car she wanted she just don't want to drive and half way is 150 miles and she doesn't have a job yet so Uber is out and I know what everyone is saying but I'm doing it for the kids and not her
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 10:36 PM
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She doesn't have a job. she didn't want alimony so I didn't need her child support
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 05:55 PM
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She doesn't have a license and never wanted to learn to drive. And her family she really can't depend on to take her to the half way point i do it for our children so they can see their mother so I do it for them
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 03:31 PM
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I'm hanging in there now it was ruff the first couple of months and it's been getting better it just the days that I let it get to me and they are get farther in between i know that it's going to take away I'm just going to work on me
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 03:34 AM
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I do miss the family time with her but me and the kid's manage it's just there day's I want it back and I know it's never going to happen it's in God's hands now but also I don't want it back i need to heal and get my mind right and I know that peace will eventually come. I just really hate being where I'm at now but im definitely in a better place now than I was 2 months ago slow and steady thank you for the kind words and good luck on you're journey
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 07:25 PM
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It has helped me a lot .starting to try to move on just me and the kids.no court date yet, but we have agreed on everything. But moving forward everything not as scary as I thought that it would be. Just know that we all have been though it and so many of us have almost the same story.we just have to be strong and it does get better
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 07:37 AM
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We agreed on everything a noncontested divorce so the process is fast. I got the kid's we didn't have any thing together. She wanted out so far it's taking about 5 months from the time she asked for it we still have to get the paperwork to the attorney and he have to filled with the Court and I think and judge will look at it and grant it. I'm not sure that we have to go to court. And getting over it and her takes time.keep you're self busy do what ever you have to. It's so tuff especially if yo…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 01:34 PM
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We signed ours on our 19th anniversary today it sucks but it didn't bother me to much as I thought it would
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 03:03 AM
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You would think that she would regret that she left us not so much me but the children . I don't know how she feeling about it or us she moved 5 hours away to her mom's but I'm trying to move forward but sometimes it's still kicks my ass the memories she's never been good at communication in our relationship I'm no saint either but I gave her everything treated her like a wife with love and respect but that wasn't enough but we got in to a fight I left to calm down and she left I know that it's …
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 06:26 PM
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I'm trying to it just hits me somedays and I can't let it go other days it pass like a thought we was together for 20 years 18 married some times I let it get to me I start trying to workout but being old that a struggle in it own self and no dating im still married and I believe in the vows I took with her it just tuff somedays
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 04:33 PM
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I have a attorney we have agreed on everything just waiting for the paperwork to be done
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 06:43 AM
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Stay strong brother and keep your head up it's not going to be easy
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 03:54 AM
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Get ready for a roller coaster ride, bad days, and worst days, some good days, but try to keep your head up stay strong I'm 3 months into my journey it sucks but it starting not to hurt as bad I still have bad days but it's getting better
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 02:33 AM
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I have talked to the attorney, she has moved 5 hours away from us. i thought that i would have a fight with her, but no, we have talked, and 50/50 custody. I'm the custodial parent, and I have the final say about the kids' no child support or alimony, and we spilt the holidays. But we haven't gotten a court date yet. So I'm trying to hold on and not rock the boat
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 02:19 AM
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I feel the same way about it. Divorce sucks. My wife left me with the kids, so I had to be mom and dad while I was spiraling out of control.i wasn't a perfect husband, but I tried hard to give them everything. But I'm the bad guy. Men get the worst part of it, and women get the most support .it goes both ways, but most of the time, it's almost always our fault regardless.we own what has happened in the relationship. So we have to carry all of the weight. Almost all the women after the divorce ar…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 06:40 AM
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I know it's does it's not going to be easy
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 01:37 AM
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Thank you for the kind words
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 01:36 AM
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We are not divorced yet, but I'm just all over the place with my emotions. We were together for 20 years, and I know that I haven't been the best husband but full responsibility for my actions, but she wasn't the best wife either.but I was trying. And she just gave up left me and the kids she couldn't provide for them.but she said that she was unhappy.so I was left trying to keep it together for our children and trying not to break down and give up i know that I'm going to have to let her go tha…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 01:35 AM
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She left 4 months ago. I have the kid's it's just been up and down. I'm trying to move forward, but I am still struggling
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 04:03 AM
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No, every time that we try to save for our future, something would come up. i was the sole provider and was bad with money so we never had any thing
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 03:49 AM
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53 and I don't have any thing and we are in full agreement with everything
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 01:56 AM
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I'm there too, but I'm moving forward. Trust the process it will take time, but it does get better slowly .
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 09:25 PM
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Please stay with us. Your son's needs you! That is never the answer.just keep thinking about your kids.they need their dad every day.just keep them in your heart and mind
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 02:12 AM
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Man, you just want to keep moving forward. Try not to sit and dwell on it. That's the worst thing you can do to get out. Find something anything to do for me it was worst at night, just lying there in bed, mind just all over the place, stay strong and busy, I'm not out of the woods yet either but it does get better with time
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:41 AM
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Thank you for the kind words. I don't know how I am going to feel when she starts seeing someone else. I know that it's going to happen, and I'm definitely not ready for that, but I can't stop that I'm not ready for someone else I need to work on me for my children. They are going to live with me, so that helps and we have been to church i never been churchie but I'm spiritual it's just tuff getting over it
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 04:19 AM
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I'm in the same boat with my wife. i don't want to divorce her, but I can't make her stay she doesn't want to talk about it she just wants out. it kills me, but I love her so much that I'm going to give her what she wants.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 03:54 AM
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I love this 😀 I needed a good chuckle
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 03:08 AM
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I'm going through it, too. 2 months now, and she wants a divorce. All I do is think of her. i have our kids she at her mom's it tuff, but you have to start working on yourself and try to block out that stuff. Stay busy. Don't let your mind wander it hard work, and it gets easier, but i don't think it will ever go anytime soon. Just day for day, stay strong. You got this
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 12:28 AM
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Stay strong, keep busy, and try not to dwell on it too much it gets better. day for day it a long road to recovery, but you will get there. I'm going through it too, and it gets better each day
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 04:38 AM
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That's kinda what I am getting for this. the old saying a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness ,and a man will sacrifice his happiness for his family. I did this, put them first, and me second. Not anymore, my children and me first
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 04:31 AM
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I hope and know that it's going to get better. But sometimes it just gets the best of me, and kicks the shit out of me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 01:37 PM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 05:25 AM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 05:24 AM
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Stay strong one day at a time. I'm going through it too.it sucks ass
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 05:13 AM
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Thank you. I'm in therapy now. I started last year when we had problems . I'm just lost trying my best to deal without her .she just up and left, not just me, our children, I'm mad,sad,confused, lonely I know it's one day at a time
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 05:00 AM
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I'm there now. Our is going on 2 months and I don't think we getting any better. Today It's me and the dogs setting in the garage and trying not to let it overwhelm me. All we can do is day for day some are harder than others .all we can do is keep moving forward. Keep your head up
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 08:08 PM
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Sorry.just vent text
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 05:39 PM
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No just the beginning
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 04:02 AM
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I'm there now just wide awake with my mind running all over the place
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 08:30 PM
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Stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 05:43 AM
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I guess yes but im pissed because it seems that she says it shuts her down and when we calm down she won't talk about it o have never belittle her or cussed her out i have always try my hardest to do this but also it seems that my feelings about this doesn't matter or I shouldn't have a say but her not really trying shutting down doesn't help and once it out im fine and let it go and she knows this
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 02:25 PM
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Maybe I would still would want to fix it if it was some guy but I do have trust in her that she wouldn't have done something like that cause you have to have trust in the relationship or it won't last and I left to calm down and have a level head and not to be upset
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 12:52 PM
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She says that when i do that she shuts down so I feel like that I'm not supposed to get upset and not say anything about what happened and I wouldn't have done anything stupid i would walk away like I did i learned that from the first wife she could and did push me over the edge and it costs me a lot one example my daughter one of her chores was the dishes and she wouldn't do them so I would remind her every day for a week and then I would get to the point that I would get loud and from with her…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 12:46 PM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 08:24 PM
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I'm thankful for that
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 03:08 AM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 04:58 AM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 04:52 AM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 04:52 AM
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We both want to be there I took the steps to start working on me and we both agree on Counseling I start mine first but hopefully we get better at Communication
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:58 PM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 12:58 PM
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Yes most definitely I know that I have to focus on me I have already got my self into Counseling she said that she would go with me there are things that I know that I need to change and we need to work on as a couple I want to be a better man for my family and for me
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 12:58 PM
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