Well we have been separated for a month and we came to see her and us talk about us 20 years together and 18 married with 2 kids i though we was good not a lot communication between us this last week but we was talking about this and she said that she is unhappy and has love for me the same old thing it seems like they all say since I started posting on here but she couldn't even say it just sat there quiet and couldn't even look at me heart broken mad confused I'm still in disbelief I want to fight for our relationship but I know that it could get worse for us and the kid's family is the biggest part of me I gave her every thing I tried to be a good husband and father treated her like a wife should have been treated sure we had fights but nothing to out of hand but it takes two to make it work and she doesn't want to i got a lot of thinking and soul searching to do i told her that I not giving up on us but I also know that I can't make someone stay it's true so true that a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness and a man will sacrifice his happiness for his family i will ask for custody of the kids because she can't take care of them she has to depend on someone to take her every we're she doesn't drive never has and don't work she has when she left she left the kids with me so I have been taking care of them while she been at her mom's 5 hours away and in a different state and that going to suck with her seeing them i need to protect my children and do what's best but I'm not ready to call it quits and I also know that she probably won't come around to save the marriage either