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| 53 | After Carefully Reading & Listening to Feedback From Men on Reddit About FDS, I Think Some May Actually Have A PointThis sub helped me realize all the manipulation tactics used on me. I used to wake up every morning and come here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/23 02:13 PM |
| 9 | Indefinite caretaker for my momYou might think that it would be more difficult for you to find a partner...but I see it as the best non-purposeful vetting. Don't you want a partner that sees you for the amazing caring daughter you are? If you weren't in your situation and then had to take care of your mother AFTER finding a supposed HVM, you'd be in a pickle. A lot of things are a blessing in disguise. You want someone to love you BECAUSE of your amazing values, not despite your "situation". I admire you, a lot of people can'… | /r/askFDS | 12/03/22 11:07 PM |
| 10 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meThis sounds like the foot-in-the-door method. Let me say whatever she needs to hear to get married. After you commit to someone and they go bankrupt, need more to invest or everything sinks... you'd be left in a position where A. he can't fulfill his previous promises B. He needs you and you'd be in the awkward position of having what he needs C. He sticks around to mooch off of whatever you have, you'd have to take on the lawyer fees of the divorce and the stress. I've known men to think of dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 02:57 AM |
| 4 | How do you like your eggs: A vetting strategyI love this. This reminds me of the complicated coffee order vetting strategy. Part of being a great chef is acknowledging what you love even if it differs from the majority. I can make fresh pasta and homemade fancy sauces but there’s nothing that beats linguini with just mozzarella for me. Having any sort of preferences not respected and challenged is the BEST vetting strategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 03:07 PM |
| 64 | Your Legal Name is a Commodity- Protect It!OMG yessssss. I’ve been cyber stalked, found, followed and harassed. I have an online pseudonym I’ve been using for over ten years. It’s similar in meaning but completely different name. Everything about us can be exploited, unfortunately even our names. I’d highly suggest having a fake realistic name and have even an email for it and google voice number. That way you can protect yourself and lock up the gates to the castle. Let them think it’s the house down the road. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:06 PM |
| 223 | Should I still go out with this man tomorrow?It would be a no for me but as a side note don’t ever show that you are available all the time. If someone asks Monday or Tuesday YOU choose one and mention the time that works for you. You don’t want to set the pace of him always choosing the time that works for him. Him choosing a place next to him is showing that he indirectly is not valuing you or your time/travel time. If you’re time is not filled with activities, family, friends and hobbies... you should still project that, otherwise your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 12:04 PM |
| 15 | The FDS Podcast is doing a 2021 wrap-up. Nominate your favorite Queen, Roastable Scrote, Pickme, or HVM!I want to nominate that amazing guys who stood by his girlfriends cancer treatment as the HVM. Massaged her, entertained her, made her meals, and organized a parade for her. I saved that and always watch it when I feel like HVM don’t even exist! Can I nominate myself as pickme with the most progress? 🤣 JK got a long ways to go still. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 04:05 PM |
| 2 | My date before vs. after FDS + vettingHe never met me before so I doubt it means that. There’s a cologne he wears and loves and he got me the “female” version. I do agree that it was a very personal gift... but honestly after the last cheapo guy, it’s refreshing (literally!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 07:42 PM |
| 5 | My date before vs. after FDS + vettingIt’s so common and annoying. I’m actually a fast walker BUT when I’m dolled up and in heels I prefer to be feminine and stroll slowly and see how the guy reacts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:33 PM |
| 17 | My date before vs. after FDS + vettingThanks. I def. have a past with infatuation. I've only ever been in relationships with narcissists in the past. This is prob. the first time I like someone and am taking it at a slow pace. When "love" has only ever been addictive high's and low's this feels like a slow burn. Thankfully I also have an amazing therapist that is very familiar with narcissists and the patterns I've been in before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 07:17 PM |
| 129 | My date before vs. after FDS + vettingWow you queens unanimously think the perfume is love bombing. I mentioned that I was bored of my usual perfume and went shopping for a new perfume before, not sure if he is love bombing or showing me he listens. I’m def. going to keep an eye on this one. It def crossed my mind if he knew someone who used to wear this perfume... Also, we’ve been talking for a month now as he lives 3 states away... the reason being my criteria / religion / values are not as common so it forces me to widen the rang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Is this HV behavior?The pickme voice in me keeps saying “but hes everything you ever wantedddd” Not today pickme 😂 Now THAT needs to be a t-shirt | /r/askFDS | 21/11/21 09:37 PM |
| 7 | Is this HV behavior?Yesss that’s what I’ve been having a hard time with. Objectification vs compliments. I actually have big eyes and your example is spot on. I just realized that women usually tell me “your eyed are beautiful” vs men who usually say “your eyes are really big”.... Hmm this has really got me thinking... | /r/askFDS | 21/11/21 06:13 PM |
| 8 | Is this HV behavior?You hit the nail... I’m part of a specific religion and it’s hard to find someone with similar views and goals. Yes, I agree with the options part... Thanks queen | /r/askFDS | 21/11/21 02:27 PM |
| 14 | Is this HV behavior?Thank you so much for the detailed observations! He is driving the 4 hours for a date. Despite him being a student, he has a full-time job and makes good $ for his position (I did some recon online) I'm insecure about some things, but age isn't one of them. In both our background cultures it is the "norm" for a man to marry a woman way younger. Of course, I don't really care about a misogynistic culture... It looks like we have some flying yellow and orange flags. If a clear red flag flies, I'm … | /r/askFDS | 21/11/21 02:36 AM |
| 2 | FDS when you're down on your looksWow all the comments here are FIRE. Definitely saving this post, it’s such a gem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 10:02 PM |
| 3 | More negs which aren't always obvious and guys try to act like it's "normal conversation"I used to feel so complimented when men told me “you look young”. Now I like to respond “I AM young”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:00 PM |
| 3 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.Queeeeeeeen listen. I’d actually have someone if it was 1 to 1000. That .1% didn’t turn out to be HV like I thought. I think it’s too late for our generation. The best we can do is raise HV boys for the next one. Oh wait, we need men for that.... Yup, I got nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 10:58 PM |
| 3 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.I feel you... I'll be deleting the app by the end of this week. I totally agree with showering your parents and fam with love, I've been doing the same with my nephews and mother. It feels great spending energy and time on those who truly deserve it. CHERRY ON TOP... That one guy that was seemingly HV ghosted me. lol. I guess that makes it 0% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 10:25 PM |
| 11 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.sorry, not comfortable divulging that info. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:33 PM |
| 58 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering."friends first" indicates a long wait period, usually including sex. Guys who say this will drag you along without defining the relationship. "looking to see where things go" means the guy is not ready for a relationship, doesn't want to do the work, wants to go with the flow, usually not a planner, wants you to prove to him he should be in a relationship with you. Please correct me if I'm wrong ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:06 PM |
| 55 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.Wow, shoulda sent him a coupon for Chuck E. Cheese. That is really disgusting though. I used to actually "respect my elders" until I realized that a lot of these 50+ men are the scum of the earth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:52 PM |
| 22 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.It definitely is. I don't even know if this .1% is going to pass my video call vetting. So it can turn out to be 0% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:24 PM |
| 70 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering."your so pretty" is like 3rd-grade level. I'm talking about a new foreign first-grader level 🤣 I'm genuinely curious how most of these men graduated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:22 PM |
| 13 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.Although "bald" and "short" are not technically red flags. From my experience, a guy has to be very self-aware, mature, and confident for it not to be a reason for him to neg you. and... just not attracted to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:16 PM |
| 42 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?I totally agree...and the worst part is, if a guy who isn't mentally mature sees you as out of his league the respect is temporary. He will soon gaslight and neg you into thinking you are worthless so he feels like a "bigger man" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 09:02 PM |
| 9 | Just a reminder that negging is not always going to be so forthcoming, these scrotes get intricate and creative because they are cowardly and hoping not to completely miss out. I mentioned in my bio that I’m a writer as well as my intelligence being clearly communicated block and delete guys.😂🤣 six flags! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:09 AM |
| 19 | This post will probably be removed.I totally agree with everything you are saying. FDS has helped me realize I was with a narcissist and also gave me the reading list I needed to get out of it...BUT being in FDS is like strolling through a dark negative forest filled with thorns. The % of posts on PTSD inducing material is very high. We should be aware of what a LVM is but should we really have to scroll through 20 posts of "a scrote did dis and dat" in order to get to the good wholesome content? FDS taught me to not give power t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:40 PM |
| 39 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?For me, I feel like it shouldn’t be a “whatever” purchase for the guy. He should remember that he worked and saved a big chunk for it. I had a friend in college who was in a long distance relationship with a childhood friend of hers who lived in a third world country. For her birthday he bought her a gold necklace that cost a 3 month salary for him to get her. He found someone to take it to her. I like that it cost him 3 months of work. If he’s got 100K saved up, a 20k ring should be reasonable.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:46 AM |
| 21 | High Value QUEEN series. It's so hard finding 100% HV females in media like this.Yes, you're right. That's not HV 100%. I haven't found anyone more HV than her in entertainment... Is there? If there is please let me know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:15 AM |
| 13 | The straw that broke the camels back for me, and what has turned me angry and bitter against men is not only the abuse they've subjected me to, but the fact that I'm 28 years old and no man has never even gifted me a bouquet.It sounds like you are on a good path. You are aware of what you want, how you have been treated in the past, and what you will not put up with. Don’t be scared to crank up the standards. You should not have to wait until the third date with a Low baller... at the first red flag you are OUT. At my lowest point I was a pickme married to a narcissistic abuser, begging for him to buy me flowers. I remember once he got me yellow roses from a clearance section. They were half dead and had black edges… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 07:10 AM |
| 10 | How do I stop being so angry at MEN? it’s effecting me in the daily.Thanks so much for this. I am restarting therapy and my implementing self help books. PLEASE, if you don't mind, can you point me to ONE male creator I can follow on youtube or other social media as a starting point? Thanks again, queen. | /r/askFDS | 02/10/21 02:56 PM |
| 27 | Pewdiepie is a scrote to the world and to his wife. Look at their couple quiz and see how deeply imbalanced with their relationship and how normalized it is. 🤡 Raise your standards, ladies.It’s an act. He has videos with other youtubers and he sounds normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:53 AM |
| 74 | I'm on my second solo vacation and it's really hard to imagine anyone topping the way I treat myself. Also, disgusted with the men I observe.Look queen, I didn't save just for this trip. I saved enough so that I could be on this trip, not worry about a dime, AND have backup savings. :D So proud of myself. I've been very wasteful in the past but I finally got a hand on being smart with my money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:14 PM |
| 202 | I'm on my second solo vacation and it's really hard to imagine anyone topping the way I treat myself. Also, disgusted with the men I observe.I can't believe that if I subtracted everything I spent on my NVX in the past, it's like I worked for less than minimum wage. I'm so glad I found FDS and I got to save money and TAKE THIS AWESOME VACAY! And to imagine it would have gone into a scrotes ugly torn wallet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:29 PM |
| 113 | Just received this message. A request that I not call men scrote 😮💨Well then don’t raise him to be a scrotey McSrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Tell me all of your favourite ways to treat yourself to a date!Oh thanks!! I have a very technical way of looking at the world and formulas are my thing. I'm happy you loved it. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:15 AM |
| 15 | Ignored AskFDS advice, guess what happened? lmaoSo your pros list... you mention he is kind to his cats and friends. That’s a pro, but not for you. You’re not a cat nor a friend. I can make a list of 100 pros that don’t directly benefit me of my LV narcissistic and abusive ex. Pro and con list are not the FDS way. It’s red flags, and you’re out! | /r/askFDS | 15/09/21 11:32 AM |
| 2 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.Omg I love that slap part! I used to think “how in the world will I know what someone is like in bed?!” But now it seems so obvious. Their actions towards foreshadow what intercourse will be like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:51 AM |
| 1 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.Aww thanks so much for the encouragement! It means so much to have a band of queens looking out for you and cheering you on. 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:45 AM |
| 1 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.I kept changing therapists until I found one that got me and my goals. In the past I would have been too shy and embarrassed to change therapists in fear of hurting them. On psychologytoday my current therapist had a huge blurb about her experience with self esteem, confidence, anxiety. (Which correlates with being a people pleaser). I’m also an autistic female and if a therapist says something like “you don’t sound/look autistic” I know they are not for me. Ignorance is everywhere. Good luck!!!… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:42 AM |
| 34 | Tell me all of your favourite ways to treat yourself to a date!Ohhh! Love this question. I have a formula for my me-dates. It includes an experience, something yummy, a gift, and an amazing selfie to remember it by. My most recent me-date I bought super comfy all-white sneakers (can't believe I didn't have any!), I got sushi takeout, ate it by the ocean, and took a selfie feeding the seagulls. I put all these selfies in a separate album on my phone... feels great!! It also helps when you are showing someone pics I can comfortably say, just keep scrolling an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 9 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.It is great! I totally relate with filtering out media, I've eliminated the "Romance" category entirely. Although I still watch reality trash tv just to laugh and call out all the red flags and manipulation tactics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:30 PM |
| 2 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.Oh thanksss queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:27 PM |
| 10 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.Yessss! I love this. Especially when your growth is consistent and you run into your past and realize how much you have changed. Amazing feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:27 PM |
| 5 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.It feels so good having other queens treading the same path. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:25 PM |
| 6 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.Thanks so much! Cheers to that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:25 PM |
| 65 | If he makes fun of you for going to a community college, he ain’t the one.He definitely ain’t the one. OMG my biggest regret in education is actually NOT going to a community college for the first two years than transferring to a 4 year college. I would have saved so much money. There’s a good chance he is swimming in debt and wishes he did the same. You get it girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:22 AM |
| 127 | I’m just so over dating at this pointCan I just take a moment to say WOOHOO for early vetting and way to go! Ya did good, mini_baguette, ya did good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 03:16 AM |
| 256 | I’m just so over dating at this pointIs it just me or does it seem like he is using some red pill-y texting tactics? It's not his usual pattern and it seems like he wants you to chase him. NEXXXTTT (if you want, I mean) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 02:29 AM |
| 113 | Can't even shop in peaceUMMM, this seems like it went on for a long time. Pull out your phone, start recording him, ask for a manager and tell them you're being harassed...SOMETHING. He probably enjoyed that whole ordeal, even the part when you were bothered | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:33 PM |
| 13 | [A LOVE LETTER] Thank you all for helping me escape my batterer.Don't you just love how the angry LV scrotes are giving us publicity?! So many people seem to have found FDS from the angry rant of some scrote sitting in his mother's basement and typing angry reddit posts about FDS. Like the Lilith says on the podcasts: DIE MAD! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Sad but not brokenYes, this is great! Sorry for the misunderstanding about the sob story. You reacted so well! NEXTTTT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Sad but not brokenWait to go QUEEEEEN, I know it's so hard knowing your past self would have fallen for him. You should be proud of yourself. If and when you land a HVM in the future you'll be glad you dropped him like a coal! Hmm... This whole thing about him talking about his past and explaining its why he's not wanting to be exclusive is a little fishy to me. I've had guys go on rants about how their parents had a divorce and it was nasty and they don't want to go through that...blah blah blah My point is, if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 02:11 PM |
| 1 | The audactiy knows no bounds.Just when you think it can't possibly get worst... This is so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 12:28 AM |
| 83 | The amount of hypocrisy I've seen from men is just staggering.Yesssss. Lately I’ve been extremely annoyed at the lack of movies/tv shows that show a man who actually looks like he deserves the woman. It’s like they are brainwashing us into accepting ugly, older, LV men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 10:39 AM |
| 20 | I found FDS related quotes from Oscar Wilde (which I've taken the liberty of sorting into SAVAGE categories) <3Yesssss to every single one of these quotes. I’ve been looking for my next HV book. You inspired me to read some Oscar Wilde. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:07 PM |
| 16 | Watch this scrote get roasted for his views. Hands up if you’ve encountered an angry short guy with a complex like this 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️He is 5 walmart fans tall... LOL oh oh I'm dying laughing over here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:52 AM |
| 349 | Another Scrote Sticker ChartImagine living your life begging and competing with a game console... eww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 11:32 PM |
| 83 | The female hummingbird avoids male harassment by looking like the males. Every female species be strategizing...Speaking of species... I think the spider is my new spirit animal. Get the babies then eat the male spider (starting from the head). You've served your purpose, boy bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 02:47 PM |
| 5 | Prime example of why opening up on the first date is never a good idea.This hurt to watch... OMG, watching the DEVA episode (I love her, she's soooo HV) is how I found FDS! I was asking all around reddit how can I be a deva like Deva and an angel told me to check out FDS. The rest is history. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 12:31 AM |
| 3 | Okay so ik I already made a post about something similar but I came across ANOTHER post of Facebook (this must be where all the LVM and pickmes are) that proves my point of men wanting to use women and normalize it. I’m showing proof because scrotes were in my messages acting stupid.Is anyone else bothered that he is shaking the baby? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 12:26 AM |
| -3 | I live next door to a scroteI do not "doubt" what she wrote. Scrote's are everywhere. I understand the need to vet a partner, but we simply can not vet every single coworkers, neighbors, etc. Her situation, IN MY OPINION, is not a level of scrote that hinders quality of living and warrants the time and attention. OP posted and I'm commenting on my OPINION. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:07 PM |
| 2 | I live next door to a scroteYou’re absolutely right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 02:57 PM |
| 7 | I live next door to a scroteI’ve had horrible neighbors in the past... She’s not marrying him, she’s just his neighbor. He doesn’t seem like a bad neighbor. Yes, he is def not a HVM but I don’t think its like the scroty McScrote neighbors I’ve had that block your car, don’t even say hi, throw parties without a warning... etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 02:42 PM |
| 61 | Block, block, block!It’s called Hiya wa Bas (translated to Her and her alone)The host is Radwa Sharbani. She invites psychologist that help women see through manipulative behaviors. Also every episode she looks like a queen! She encourages women to get healthy, lose weight, level up in makeup, skincare, and how to be independent of men. A huge problem is that in the Middle East women actually want to leave their NVM but they have no means of financial support. So this season is all about getting financially indepen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:29 PM |
| 68 | Block, block, block!This lady is a queen and I watch every single one of her episodes. I love her because she is in the heart of the worst abusive patriarchies: the middle east. She literally gets death threats daily because she encourages women to be independent and leave their misogynistic husbands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 44 | What's coming next? Do you think things will get better or worse?At this point it's like a cockroach evolving... how different can it honestly be? The only thing that would work is "pretend to be HV and then drop the act". Drop the act, we drop you scrote roach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:23 PM |
| 1 | New flair idea? “SO close”I totally get it... I was using a simile. I just think it’s too lenient. But that’s just me! Personally, I was very lenient in my pickme days. I equate it to having subpar standards. If this were some other sub I’d be all for it lol. FDS instills that ruthlessness attitude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:02 AM |
| 2 | New flair idea? “SO close”Naa girl. You either got it or you don’t. Just like we like our men. No partial credit on the exam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 09:54 AM |
| 16 | Had a HVM and lost him☹️I’m not saying he is not a HVM... BUT I was once in a long term relationship with what I thought was a HVM and I didn’t trust him enough to tell him about a recent trauma. Not trusting him enough to tell him can be a sign in and of itself... I had 0 self esteem then and anyone who did the tiniest kind thing I’d think they were sooooo amazing and HV. When you get out of the relationship (and living situation) and build yourself back up, you might start remembering signs of him not actually being … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 09:37 PM |
| 2 | BLOCKED & DELETED...but first, lemmi school you lil boy. This scrote said he was "surprised a WOMAN knew so much about cryptocurrency", demanded to not be called a 'noob', then had the audacity to ask for investing advice. Did I make my queens proud?Well, I'm heavily involved in crypto. I was part of a team that created a wallet and consequently an altcoin. I hate guys who think they can impress me because they just bought the first 80 alts that they "heard" will pop. I respect a true crypto investor with a well-thought-out portfolio that can ACCEPT THE FACT THAT I KNOW 100X MORE THAN HIM about cryptocurrency. Most of them want to impress me and spew out these basic facts about BTC or alts that they probably heard from a 19-year-old youtube… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 09:52 AM |
| 1 | BLOCKED & DELETED...but first, lemmi school you lil boy. This scrote said he was "surprised a WOMAN knew so much about cryptocurrency", demanded to not be called a 'noob', then had the audacity to ask for investing advice. Did I make my queens proud?ALSO I asked if he liked to travel and he said he did and then proceeded to mansplain what Europe is and how he planned on taking a train to visit multiple European countries in the future. B*tch you talking about Eurail? I've been done that! You don't "Like traveling" because you HEARD OF A COOL TRAIN. Block & Delete is so satisfying AFTER a good burn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 09:36 AM |
| 18 | guys quizzing you on datesOMG you know what he’s doing? Stealing your answers to impress some future pickme. My narcissist XLVM used to grill me like this and then tel his friends word for word MY OPINIONS as his own. Girl, just laugh it off and and say “my mistake, I thought this was a date, not an interview” and GTFO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 09:23 AM |
| 3 | “FBoy Island” on HBO Max - has anyone else watched?yesssss, an undercover queen that calls the f*boys out ERRITIME ERRIDAY! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:04 AM |
| 6 | “FBoy Island” on HBO Max - has anyone else watched?OMG we neeeeed an FDS watch party so we can comment the hell out of the next season! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:35 AM |
| 12 | “FBoy Island” on HBO Max - has anyone else watched?Hey, no spoilers! I'm on episode 2. That "limbro" place, that should be a real thing we throw LVM in lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:35 PM |
| 18 | “FBoy Island” on HBO Max - has anyone else watched?I'm binging it right now! I love the host, queen vibes all the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 47 | “FBoy Island” on HBO Max - has anyone else watched?How did I not know about this? I just watched the first episode and OMG this is the best thing to practice calling out red flags and pickme behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:26 PM |
| 2 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.I've traveled a lot and you just CAN'T get your drink even if they do customize it. Coffee is sooo different in other countries. I usually try to be adventurous when I travel, THEN I start my customizations. There are so many amazing coffee shops other than Starbucks that would gladly customize your drink, I find. Especially the mom and pop shops! I would advise any queen to get her order DOWN to what she loves and not be afraid to voice it. Wow, this coffee thing is becoming something lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 03:30 PM |
| 74 | TW: rape - OP doesn't KNOW WHAT TO DO and feels KINDA uncomfortable when her bf openly talks about her being his slave!! RUN!!!! THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!!!! I can't believe my eyes reading this post!!!OKAY. I found the post on relationship advice and messaged the poor girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:43 AM |
| 45 | TW: rape - OP doesn't KNOW WHAT TO DO and feels KINDA uncomfortable when her bf openly talks about her being his slave!! RUN!!!! THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!!!! I can't believe my eyes reading this post!!!I'm reading this and screaming "she's still talking to him?!". We need to find this girl and introduce her to our queendom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:38 AM |
| 2 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.Girl, no coffee dates. Read the handbook ASAP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:28 AM |
| 8 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.Why are all these LVM the same??? I feel like LV is a mental illness that should be in the DSM-5. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:24 AM |
| 4 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.That is so sweet! When I was reading I thought you were going to say that she started drinking coffee just like you. My pickme x-MIL started buying what I buy, ordering what I order (even clothes!)...and that's AFTER insulting me about the expensive sites I order clothes from. She'd insult me, than copy me. good ridence... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:21 AM |
| 7 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.Girl listen, it's in the AM here and I'm not about to go looking for a coffee shop open right now. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 03:08 AM |
| 7 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.oooohhh, me want dat one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:37 AM |
| 18 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.I found "the one" and then something better came along. MILKS NOT MEN, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:50 PM |
| 21 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.That's great! I guess the ideal reaction is that the HVM would check in and ensure your order was to your liking instead of ducking or thinking it was "too much". P.S. That's it, I'm joining the oat milk train... I've been holding it off long enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:48 PM |
| 13 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.Oh wow, this is great!! That first comment with the bullet points... Thanks for this queen <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:45 PM |
| 19 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.I did not know that was a symptom! I'm getting flashbacks of my pornsick ex with a terrible memory | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:24 PM |
| 39 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.This is perfect... my current obsession is finding the earliest possible clues to whether a guy is LV or HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:19 PM |
| 21 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.Out of curiosity, do you make a mention of it before they plan the date? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:58 PM |
| 85 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.This is like, pre-vet vetting...love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 13 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.I love me some stevia in iced drinks! I keep the stevia liquid dropper in my glove compartment lol... I haven't gotten on the oat milk train just yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:43 PM |
| 1 | The narcissistic LVM stare. Has anyone else noticed this while vetting in person?Funny you should mention being a man VANCITVAN7839, I scrolled through your previous comments and it’s very interesting. It’s seems like you scroll around leaving angry and negative comments. Hmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:59 PM |
| 1 | The narcissistic LVM stare. Has anyone else noticed this while vetting in person?You claim I’m wrong without explanation, you claim you’re an expert without any proof, and now you claim I’m a MAN without grounds. WTF?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:35 PM |
| 12 | Found in another sub, imagine thinking this is funny.If you believe in the universe sending you signs... this is a pretty bad one for what comes after a cheap engagement ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:00 AM |
| 13 | He’s dumb af if he thinks we won’t be able to pick him outThis reminds me of the mean dumb bully in kindergarten that wanted my Halloween candy and I said “no” because he never shared with me. He’s like, “well I’m going to steal it from your lunchbox”... oh, well thanks for giving me a heads up. I’ll hide it somewhere else, genius. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:50 AM |
| 11 | The narcissistic LVM stare. Has anyone else noticed this while vetting in person?OMG you are right. What is it about gas stations??? I kind of wish you called the police. There are so many violent incidents involving angry men who shouldn't carry weapons. I wouldn't take any chances. Last week this guy who was fueling my car actually went inside to call one of his coworkers. He pointed me out and they were both staring and talking in a foreign language. Like, what you are doing is in the universal language of SCROTE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:09 AM |
| 1 | The narcissistic LVM stare. Has anyone else noticed this while vetting in person?What, exactly, is misinformation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:45 AM |
| 57 | The narcissistic LVM stare. Has anyone else noticed this while vetting in person?They are! A narcissist is one of three types of psychopaths with no empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:28 PM |
| 4 | How my HV Dad cuts watermelon: he cuts out the sweetest part and saves it for Mom.That sounds like a special post for another day 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:52 PM |
| 72 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!OMG thank you for this post. I saved it to reference in the future. I just realized that I've been stroking everyone's, and I mean everyone's ego, in the name of being "nice". This answered my question: Why do the girls that just say "thanks" at a huge gift always get more and more and I'm here like almost worshipping someone for a $20 dollar thoughtless gift and I get less and less...(that was me in the past, but I still overreact trying to be polite). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 12:03 PM |
| 53 | How my HV Dad cuts watermelon: he cuts out the sweetest part and saves it for Mom.Dead center girl! The core is the sweetest. You know when you cut a wedge, the first bite is the best? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:31 AM |
| 71 | How my HV Dad cuts watermelon: he cuts out the sweetest part and saves it for Mom.Lol I hope no one else is reading it as the only green flag... this is just one of the many things my dad has been doing consistently the last 39 years he has been with my mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:12 AM |
| 54 | How my HV Dad cuts watermelon: he cuts out the sweetest part and saves it for Mom.No, East European and African. My dad jokes that he is surgically removing the heart ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:11 AM |
| 29 | How my HV Dad cuts watermelon: he cuts out the sweetest part and saves it for Mom.Oh no! Hope you get some soon 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:02 PM |
| 32 | How my HV Dad cuts watermelon: he cuts out the sweetest part and saves it for Mom.😄glad it made you smile | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:01 PM |
| -9 | imagine being happy because a little kid is crying 🤡🤡As a female who chooses to wear “layers of clothing” and dress modestly I can tell you that the religion you’re probably speaking of does not ask women to cover because men can’t control themselves. It’s a misconception. I have covered and not covered and I can proudly say that the most free I’ve ever felt is when I’m covered and not instantly judged by my body and looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:39 PM |
| 5 | Even religious texts show that we have ALWAYS known who the problem is.Oh look! You found the one verse that doesn’t demean women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 03:49 AM |
| 3 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 12 - How FDS Can Help Autistic Queens Navigate RelationshipsI love this! I'm on the spectrum and feel so special having this podcast dedicated to us! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 01:56 AM |
| 15 | "Let him go and we see what him does!" - Life mantra from a 3-year-oldOh! We never actually let him out (too dangerous) there’s a busy street directly in front of the daycare. I’m sure the kid would have kept running looking for his mom though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:27 AM |
| 25 | "Let him go and we see what him does!" - Life mantra from a 3-year-oldHappy Friday Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:56 PM |
| 80 | "Let him go and we see what him does!" - Life mantra from a 3-year-oldYou honestly never know what amazing gems can be found in the beautiful innocence of children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:42 AM |
| 51 | What are your experiences dating neurodivergent men?I'm answering as a high-functioning autistic female. My dad (also autistic) is the most HV male I know. I have to say though that it is NOT typical at all. I tried recently to gravitate towards nerdy and autistic males and it is somewhat of a nightmare. I noticed that it is especially bad if the guy got diagnosed. They seem to use the symptoms list as more of an "excuses and BS list" which is so annoying. I consider my dad to be a rare exception in my experience thus far. He does have a very hig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:16 AM |
| 3 | Anyone else look young for their age / have a baby face? How has this affected how men view you?I'm 31 and people are usually shocked when I tell them my age. I'm autistic (I mention that because autistic people usually look younger than their age). I'm always asked for ID and often told I look 18 ish. My voice doesn't help either... I've come to learn the hard way that the BIGGEST red flag is when a man specifically says something like "I love how you look so young, you can pass for [insert younger age]". I've even had someone tell me "I want to imagine you are 16" This was coming from a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Update and need advice: I'm leaving my unfulfilling relationship and couldn't be more excited. Thank you all.Woohoo! You're almost out. OMG right now you are seeing how horrible he actually is but wait until you get out and you feel that sense of freedom, like you are your own person again. The good thing is he is not abusive and perhaps not narcissistic. From what you stated he seems selfish and LV. I left overnight because I had a rather extreme situation at hand and didn't want him to know I was leaving BUT... the last couple of weeks when I was planning everything I would spend the majority of the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Just realized the extent of the damage caused by a narcissistic scroteYES, narcissists have this empty void in their stare as if they don't have a soul. I'm so glad you got out of it and sending his ex a screenshot was a smart move. Can you file a restraining order? That might be another smart move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:56 PM |
| 3 | She proposes to him only for him to tell her no and ask “why are you asking me?” So much secondhand embarrassment rnEeek I just saw the end of this video. He asks her to kiss their neighbor and then gaslights her afterward saying he can’t believe she actually did it and she seemed to enjoy it too much. WTH did I just watch? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 01:42 PM |
| 5 | I took it all.My mom is all about that FDS. We actually went through a journey together of dumping LV friends from our lives. My moms been a teacher for over 30 years and she started using the principles at work... thankfully I have a HV dad! I feel super lucky. My mom and I though are recovering pickmeishas 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 06:37 PM |
| 28 | I took it all.YES YES YES! Im so happy you took everything you bought! You're not being petty and he was trying to corner you so he doesn't have to be inconvenienced buying things. How lame. I literally just moved my stuff you yesterday. My mom and I rented a van, parked near the house. When he left for work we TOOK EVERYTHING I EVER BOUGHT. Which ended up being 95% of what was inside. My mom didn't have to ask which stuff was his because he buys cheap ugly things and doesn't take care of them. I moved all my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 11:56 AM |
| 101 | The High-Value Aunt I never knew I had.OMG only after posting this did I realize how long it is! I love storytime posts, I hope at least one Queen can enjoy this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:13 AM |
| 6 | A woman's night out with her new boyfriend takes an unexpected turn: Never let this happen.Was anyone else screaming for her to get out of the car and call an uber??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:44 PM |
| 14 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectQueen yesss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:07 PM |
| 90 | I DID IT!!!!!! I STOOD UP TO MY P*RN ADDICTED LVM CHEATING ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND!!!!!!Honeyyy, I feel for you. You've been through so much from a young age. Please hear me out: Calling him out will not change his behavior. He already knows what a piece of garbage he is. You telling him will probably make things worse for you and he will up the abuse. Pleeeease make an escape plan and don't let him know about it. ESPECIALLY don't use words like "you're a LVM, I'm not a pickme anymore" he will look up FDS and being the abusive piece of NV garbage he is it will anger him like nothin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 11:58 AM |
| 6 | A message for the female lurkersI relate to you so much! I'm also high-functioning autistic (formerly knows as an Aspie). Not easily reading people just adds another layer of difficulty for us. The handbook is like a Godsend! I literally had to print up rules for myself so I don't forget and get used by others. It was so difficult at first, but you're on the right path!! Please don't be too hard on yourself and show yourself grace. Give yourself time because it's not a 24 hour change. I wish you the best my fellow autistic Que… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:46 AM |
| 16 | A message for the female lurkersAww thanks so much, you warmed my heart <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:14 PM |
| 22 | A message for the female lurkersThanks Queen!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 04:33 PM |
| 14 | A message for the female lurkersThank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:24 PM |
| 92 | A message for the female lurkersYou're right we didn't have the tools before to know being a pickme is a bad thing. Thank you for mentioning this. *Have to show more grace to self | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:23 PM |
| 56 | A message for the female lurkersWow, I have to read this! I love the metaphor. Thanks so much for sharing that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:21 PM |
| 382 | A message for the female lurkersI hope I didn't rant too long and I really really hope at least one woman lurker who is in an abusive relationship sees this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:02 PM |
| 5 | For the love of god please stop having their children. Twitch streamer threatens to break child’s neck for being in his roomOMG that poor baby. Please someone tell me he has been reported! Forget being banned from a gaming platform, he needs to be banned from being alone with a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Never take a man at face valueOh! I can't wait for your next post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!Thanks! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!You’re probably right. I don’t have a green thumb so I’m making a point to paint it green. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!Oh man, you’re gonna love this: just like you work out the muscles in your body, you can actually work your face muscles: no deep lines or puffy sacks in the face. I have these grooves around my nose when I smile and they have reduced so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:41 AM |
| 2 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!Thanks, you pamper too! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 12:57 AM |
| 3 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!Yaaaas! My facial pores are so tiny I can no longer see them. I threw away all the expensive stuff and now I use organic tee tree oil facial wash, coconut oil, clay masks, and do face yoga. WORLD of a difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!I got it from Ikea, I just looked at the site and I thinkkkk its the Dracaena (not sure) Thanks, wishing you a happy heart! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 10:38 PM |
| 5 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!Enjoy your soak, I'm glad I got a giggle ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 08:24 PM |
| 29 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!My formula for the best gift: something yummy, something that smells good, and something that lasts. I got a matcha set with good vanilla, some bath stuff, and 2 new plants! It's been 4 months since I left a 3 year marriage with a NVM narcissist... This valentines is amazing! I'm not stressing that I won't get a gift and I'm not sad because I didn't get a gift. Loving it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 08:12 PM |
| 8 | 50/50 Relationships are NOT equal. It’s a SCAM, ladies.I hope she knows that live-in housekeepers get paid $90,0000 in NYC and private house chef's clock in $150,000.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 12:11 PM |
| 8 | HVM making valentines special, beats last minute gas station flowers!I know right?! That's the good stuff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 12:07 PM |
| 8 | HVM making valentines special, beats last minute gas station flowers!Hey, don't be sad be glad! I'm ready to enjoy an amazing valentines as a single lady tomorrow! You know my whole life, the week of valentines has been a depressing event. Wondering what my NVM would get me only to be dissapointed. Now I know exactly what to expect. A day of pampering, gifts, and COMFORT KNOWING EXACTLY WHAT I'M ABOUT TO EXPECT. :D I wish you the best valentines... here's a virtual warm hug *** | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:59 AM |
| 29 | HVM making valentines special, beats last minute gas station flowers!Btw this is from the food subreddit ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:03 PM |
| 7 | Rebel, loving this song right na! (especially the beginning)I've been cleaning out my music to only empowering music that supports my high-value lifestyle and this was a gem I found. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:19 AM |
| 9 | Just say you’re a broke lvm and go.Oh no... I wish she gave the waitress a $20, said keep the change, and bounced. Why is she still sitting there??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, how are you treating yourself this Valentine's day?I ordered my favorite flowers: PEONIES! They are being shipped across the sea, just for me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 04:44 PM |
| 4 | FDS Fashion AdviceI used to be so conflicted about this. What is my pure sense of style when I eliminate male influence in the fashion world. Men's clothes are getting more comfortable while our clothes on the runway get skimpier and more uncomfortable each year... Last fashion week they had women dressed in see-through thick PLASTIC. It looked so uncomfortable. I recently read the book "I don't owe you pretty". I'd highly recommend it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 12:30 PM |
| 2 | What’s the worst neg you got?People have asked on my other posts but I like to keep certain things private as not to be identifiable. It's a poor 3rd world country where the average salary is $150/month | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:31 PM |
| 7 | What’s the worst neg you got?I was married to a Narcissistic LVM. I could write a book on the negs I got but here are the top ones. I should probably also explain that he's from a 3rd world country where pickme's are the norm and misogyny is expected. I thought you had nice eyes but I didn't know you have bad eyesight. You should have told me you wear contacts before I married you. I've decided that I like your butt but I don't like your tummy, can you do crunches or something? You're smart for a woman, maybe you were meant… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:00 PM |
| 2 | The 6 month markYes yes yes! You have a smart mommy and it is SCIENTIFICALLY proven to be true. This is my new mantra after having been married to a LVM and him literally being the opposite after the 6 month mark (and green card interview). That is usually the longest someone can fake being different before their true colors start seeping out. Mind you though if you are seeing them once or twice a week only they can fake it for even longer, especially if they have an end goal in mind (you being a provider, marr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:28 PM |
| 2 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Hi! I just filed for divorce after a 45 day vacation by myself in Spain. I didn’t realize the extent of how messed up my situation was until I separated myself from it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Disappointed but not surprisedI love how she said never mind but we all read “No Value Male” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:44 AM |
| 13 | Unique struggles of dating and vetting as a plus-sized FDSerWow, you really hit it on the nail. I've had similar experiences. I am plus size with big boobs and a big butt like you mentioned. Thankfully, despite having autism, I've been able to sniff the weirdos out. They usually can't keep their eyes off my boobs, despite me dressing fairly modestly and it makes me want to throw up. The common pattern I've experienced in the past is guys saying they wanted to like everything about me BUT in order to "be serious" and make a commitment I would need to lose… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 01:43 AM |
| 5 | NVM destroyed meHi! Oh, I just want to say that you should be sooo sooo proud of yourself for taking this first step. I am married to a NVM. I found this sub several months ago. At first I just read the posts from afar...than I read the handbook...than I started reading the books off of the reading list...slowly I started posting on here and commenting. Finally, I had the courage to make my plan that I am currently following through on. If you need support, tips, or a talking buddy... I'm here for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:23 PM |
| 190 | UPDATE: Leaving LV husband of 3 yearsSo excited for my trip! I'm usually depressed after a breakup, but I'm actually really excited about this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 01:50 AM |
| 3 | Don’t ever lower your value because of a broken wing not yet healed.OMG, I'm in the process of breaking it off with my husband of 3 years. Were in the same boat girl. You know, the one taking to a way better place. I'm going through the reading list from the handbook and downloading EVERYTHING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Don’t ever lower your value because of a broken wing not yet healed.Awww I was having an iffy day and your comment let some sunshine in <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Recovered Pickmeishas! What was the one thing you did that helped you convert to a HVW?A lot of my pickme behavior and horrible relationships with LVM were due to my own sense of self worth. I thought if someone didn’t deem me pretty enough to marry, than I wasn’t worth anything... Learning to fall in love with myself for all of my amazing ness and kindness and genius was the game changer for me. There’s a lot of damage to undo. | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Recovered Pickmeishas! What was the one thing you did that helped you convert to a HVW?I just ordered it, thank you!! | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 06:21 PM |
| 5 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.But they’re everywhere! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Would you consider this cheating?Oh honey, please don't be hard on yourself. You are a sweet, and empathetic queen. Cut yourself some slack. HE is the one that has wronged YOU. I would consider this cheating. You don't need an excuse to leave him. You don't need to wait for him to mess up again ( I was doing this) I'm in a very similar situation. I am planning my divorce and escape very methodically so I don't regret anything later. He doesn't even know yet. My advice is: read all the "kickhimout2020" flair posts on femininedat… | /r/askFDS | 04/11/20 06:13 PM |
| 6 | Please tell me what it's like to break up with someone you're living with?Hey Queen, I'm actually going through this right now. I read all the "kickhimout" flair posts on FDS to get a good idea of what to do and not to do. My plan: don't even let him know it's coming, just tell him I need some time alone so he is not intimate with you. You can rent a storage unit and slowly pack your valuables (starting from most valuable) when he is not home. Don't make it a "talk" like "oh, I think I'm leaving.". NO. When you leave, you just grab your bag and GO. If you have to expl… | /r/askFDS | 04/11/20 06:08 PM |
| 3 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.private message ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 02:58 AM |
| 61 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Thank you for this advice. You're right, he is starting to sense something is off. I'm currently sleeping in a different room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:27 PM |
| 9 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.I had the rule...but this is what happened when I made an exception... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:26 PM |
| 33 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.That's a great boundary....just don't. marry them. Yea...unfortunately I had a really really good actor. He literally has different personalities for each person in his life. That's why he hates getting together with more than 1 person at a time, its more complicated to manipulate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:26 PM |
| 86 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Thank you so much for your support.. I'm trying to see if I can get an annulment based on marriage fraud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:24 PM |
| 54 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Trying my best sis... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:24 PM |
| 5 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Thanks queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:23 PM |
| 25 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Thank you <3, and yes I'll definetly update ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:22 PM |
| 26 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.I like to not divulge facts that make it easy to be found. It’s a poor third world country where the typical monthly salary is around $150. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:54 PM |
| 112 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.This has been a long 3 years and I’m definitely not making it 4! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 01:13 PM |
| 6 | Help me figure out if I’m married to a LVMHow are you being harsh on him? You sound like you are literally carrying the man baby around. I come from a simile culture and trust me, even in that culture there are HVM. It sounds like you are giving him many excuses and you’re undervaluing what you do for him. It’s not your job to raise him, teach him, nurse his mental health, or support him financially. | /r/askFDS | 26/10/20 04:18 PM |
| 10 | advice?Umm he’s definitely as low value as they come. That’s done on purpose to make you feel insecure. Block him and don’t ask pickme questions like “do I look okay, is it my face?” The fact that he stopped talking to you the first time is red flag enough to drop him. You sound like you’re still in school so this is good practice. YOU IGNORE HIM, you judge him. If asks just say he’s not your type and both personality and looks aren’t up to par. He should be nervous of you like him or not, not you. Tab… | /r/askFDS | 26/10/20 04:10 PM |
| 9 | Is my boyfriend LVM? Please helpAll the little things you don’t like now will be magnified after marriage. Ex. Imagine just having a baby and he comments about your body the way he commented about other women’s bodies... imagine him expecting you to pay half the rent, bills, vacations, etc. When he talks about other women, that’s how he’ll talk to you soon... Trust me, I’m married to what seemed to be a HVM but I saw little things I didn’t like here and there. All of those little things that I brushed off before are exactly wh… | /r/askFDS | 26/10/20 10:32 AM |
| 13 | Did any of you queens find this sub AFTER marrying a LVM? How did you handle it?sigh... the rules have changed recently. Even if we get a divorce, he can still get citizenship easily. BUT, there is a way I can retract his green card. | /r/askFDS | 23/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Did any of you queens find this sub AFTER marrying a LVM? How did you handle it?I’m obsessed with that show... | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 11:35 PM |
| 4 | Did any of you queens find this sub AFTER marrying a LVM? How did you handle it?Hmmm, yes he does. I’ll def. do that! Thank you. | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 05:22 PM |
| 5 | Did any of you queens find this sub AFTER marrying a LVM? How did you handle it?This is kinda embarrassing to admit but I do spy on him, and all his interactions from his phone. He is obsessed with other women, but it doesn’t seem like he has a secret family. | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 03:35 PM |
| 24 | Did any of you queens find this sub AFTER marrying a LVM? How did you handle it?Oh I have... I always get different answers. Sometimes he says he is saving to buy land, other times to build a house for his parents. When e feels me pulling away he’ll tell me he’s sending money back home to build US a house. He’s very sneaky and has lied so many times. Sometimes I ask him things just to eliminate because I know he will lie. | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Career choice for financial independenceI think nursing is excellent. It gives you plenty of time off, good pay.. it’s also great because while you work you can build your career, and most hospitals pay for the leveling up. You can go from an associates’s to a bachelors to a masters to a specialized nurse, all while working. You can even build up to get your doctorate degree in nursing! If I had to go back in time, I’d probably do this. | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 10:28 AM |
| 5 | Trying to dissect why my relationship broke apartOh honey. Your future husband, you know the high value male that would never do this to you, is not him. You should believe him when he says he’s losing interest, and that’s not a “normal” thing for a healthy relationship. He love bombed you and then dated other women. It’s a great thing that he showed you his true colors so early on. When a guy you’re dating treats you badly and puts you last or in the “potential” category, just tell yourself “My husband would never treat me that way”. Train yo… | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 10:08 AM |
| 2 | Wow, I just realized that all of my 20's went to being a pickmeisha and needing validation from men. Don't be the old me...Wow, thank you so much for sharing that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:55 PM |
| 25 | Wow, I just realized that all of my 20's went to being a pickmeisha and needing validation from men. Don't be the old me...Thank you for your positivity and support! I really do have this amazing group of women... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 01:03 AM |
| 42 | Wow, I just realized that all of my 20's went to being a pickmeisha and needing validation from men. Don't be the old me...I wish I knew all of this ten years ago...but it's now better than never. It's never too late to turn your life around. <3 Here's wishing you the best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:42 AM |
| 2 | "Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future." - Daphne Rose KingmaYou’re welcome queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:19 AM |
| 7 | "Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future." - Daphne Rose KingmaFor any queen that needs to hear this today! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?My fave spot!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:14 PM |
| 13 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?Sighhh... my pickme days. Brace yourselves, these are weird. Barnes & nobles book store. We walked around and then got coffee and he asked if I wanted to split a cookie with him. Who tf splits a cookie you ask? This f$&ker. The beach. No not like a cute beach with a picnic and umbrella and drinks. Like a beach no one goes to, stopped by the gas station to buy ONE BOTTLE OF WATER. And proceeded to take me on some random seaweed covered mound to sit and talk and attempt to feel me up. Thankfully I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:13 PM |
| 16 | Don’t ever lower your value because of a broken wing not yet healed.I read this story by Rumi and it really hit home. The story is about a farmer who saw a very strange sight. He saw a beautiful nightingale flying with a crow. He was shocked and asked the nightingale "why are you flying with such company? You are one of the highest-ranking birds." to which the nightingale replied. "I broke my wing and decided to take the company of the crow." I hope I did the story justice! Heal your wing and never take the company of a smelly cawing scrote just because your win… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 01:45 PM |
| 8 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Yup, I'm with you queen! It's rare to find but I also do NO drugs, alcohol, or smoking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 5 | Scrotes' way of thinkingOkay... So her taking his surname is not sexist at all, right? But the cheap little s&*t buying her an engagement ring is sexist. Why don't we google "taking husband surname sexist" into google and send this scrote the first article we see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:47 PM |
| 1 | What I have done since my separationUmm, I’m definitely asking!! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 6 | What I have done since my separationCan I just... take a moment to admire this beautiful winged queen. This is so inspiring, thank you for sharing. You have no idea how many of us you have inspired. Some of us haven't seen the other side yet...or our own wings just yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Just propose alreadyThis is like my 3rd comment (hehe, I just can’t get this out of my head) but here is what real effort looks like: The last episode on Netflix’s show “Love on the Spectrum” there’s an autistic couple. The guy, despite his (scientific) social anxiety wants to give his girlfriend everything she thought she couldn’t have. He takes her ON VACATION AND sings her a song ON TV and proposes to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:59 PM |
| 13 | I showed up my pickmeisha mother-in-law for the first time and...IT... FELT... AWESOME!Sighhhh working on it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:46 PM |
| 5 | I used to be nice as to not hurt someone’s feelings despite unwanted advances. I’m done doing that.I know some of you said she wasted her time...but this is, like, GOLD. It shows us what losers say and what they actually are. What an extraordinarily LV attempt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:36 PM |
| 17 | Just propose alreadyMy LV husband used the line "I want a small intimate wedding because I don't like huge crowds"... Come to find out later he is fine with crowds and thrives in them. He just wanted to save money and spend as little as possible. If you do have an intimate wedding make sure you splurge and make it worth it. Like, "Oh I'm so glad we're doing a small intimate wedding, now we get to have top of the line everything!" At least that's what I wish I said/did... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:11 PM |
| 41 | I showed up my pickmeisha mother-in-law for the first time and...IT... FELT... AWESOME!She raised my LV husband (husband for now) to not only be LV but to gloat about it. ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:07 PM |
| 46 | Just propose alreadySo did he, like, never attend his own graduation because being the center of attention makes him anxious? Does he never have birthday parties either? That sounds like a huge dumb excuse. That just made my blood boil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 05:15 PM |
| 9 | Doing nice things for a man won’t make him love you. On the contrary: the more he does for you, the more invested he feels, and the more in control you feel in the dynamic. You’re better off investing your effort into yourself to maximize your value & confidence.Omg yesss! I remember my pickmeisha days where I’d make an extravagant brunch for my LV husband. He would instantly (not even waiting for the next day) start picking at things and making comments like: I think the poached egg is underdone, Why are you using so much maple syrup, it’s not good for you... No thank you, no compliments, nothing. He would say “oh, I’m actually not that hungry” and then proceed to eat 80% of the food on the table. CRINGE, I know! I’m happy to say nowadays I wake up ear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:20 PM |
| 17 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣Wow 🤩 this is so inspiring. Sometimes we (by we I mean me) start thinking that a child needs their dad around... but no dad is better than a bad one that instills deep rooted LV to the child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:06 PM |
| 1 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Right? It feels like someone is saying all that sh$& I did to you? These flowers should be worth your trouble. Ummm wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 05:02 PM |
| 2 | 'bar too high' or 'basic kindness'?Wow I got punched with reality just seeing this. This LV husband of mines would probably say “why did you even wear them, can you walk faster?” And keep walking. Jerk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:03 AM |
| 3 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Thank you for the support 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:41 AM |
| 1 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Aww thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:41 AM |
| 3 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Exactly! Wow I love this and loving your reaction. Mines is not even attempting to do any effort other than say “cmon let’s turn a new page” and being pushy about it, then comes the pity party, and then a pull away to try to get me to chase him. Repeat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:37 AM |
| 7 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Well... I gave him two chances before this. He fake apologized saying “I’m sorry IF I did something that bothered you” when clearly he was at fault. He hasn’t done anything to show his sincerity. I told him he has one last chance but I didn’t tell him about the 90 days . He is currently in the dog house and not getting out of there until I see sincere change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:36 AM |
| 9 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.I can pm you ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:08 AM |
| 17 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.That’s... an excellent question. So, I have this high value woman coach and she is helping me out. I’m on a 90 day shift where I completely shift my focus to myself and level up. I know this is debatable and might be frowned down on here but I’m giving him 90 days to level up before I make any big decisions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:59 AM |
| 20 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Lol I’m sure she would... she has all these young teachers coming to her for relationship advice all the time in her school. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:22 AM |
| 10 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.It’s a bit complicated because after trying for a baby for so long and taking hormone therapy, I’m finally pregnant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 11:53 PM |
| 23 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.I pm’ed you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 11:52 PM |
| 132 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Yes! I have a non profit in a third world country. It’s not that big yet but I have 100 orphans that I send clothes, shoes, and school supplies to at the beginning of each school year. It’s been going on for 5 years now and my NV husband is trying to convince me that it’s a “waste of my money” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 08:29 PM |
| 174 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Haha! She’s a first grade teacher, and she coaches all those kids (especially the girls) to level up starting from age 6. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 08:22 PM |
| 74 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.It’s soooo hard to get out of my situation, but I know it’s going to be worth it. 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 08:19 PM |
| 3 | Don’t give the keys to your castle so easily.Oh honey, I’m right there with you changing the locks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Don’t give the keys to your castle so easily.Btw I’m currently working on getting a couple of my keys back from current LV husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:57 AM |
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