Is he a HVM?

SadClownProstitute · 2020-10-07T19:49:03+00:00

There is absolutely no way for you to know if he's an HVM without dating him for an extended period of time. One, two, or three dates is not enough - it takes a lot more vetting than that.

Going home with him and being trapped at his home because he is driving you is NOT advisable.

Sea_Soil · 2020-10-07T22:13:52+00:00

Kind of wierd that he already has this all planned out. It's like he's specifically trying to plot how he can get you over to his house. You haven't even been on one date yet and he's already planning when he's going to bring you over to his house??? Creep vibes. A lot of men think "date three" is the one where they are owed sex.

You really can't tell if someone is a high value man until you've been with them for a significant amount of time. How do they handle stress? A death in the family? Job loss? Pandemic? Vacations? Big purchases? How do they handle it when you face those same stressors?

You need to see things like that before you could ever know. But so far, I'm seeing red flags. Going to his house and playing video games is not a date.

Summerisle7 · 2020-10-08T01:26:08+00:00

If you can’t get to the zoo by transit and you can’t afford an Uber, then don’t go to the zoo with him.

And his “game night” idea just means he expects sex.

I would say it’s very unlikely this guy is HV.

cupittycakes · 2020-10-08T07:31:51+00:00

This dude expects you to f*** on the third date, which is why he wants you at his house.

This dude is trash lvm

Don't get in cars with them while still vetting, aka second date is way too early

He can treat you to fun with things that are local to you. Maybe you shouldn't be dating without a car or easy public transport? It's sounds like you got public transport, but yea, do not bother yourself with a flipping hour ride...

Unless he wants to Uber you to and fro

As long as you got uber money, but have him cover that too, except have him cashapp you the money for Uber- he shouldn't know your location

Moonmask999 · 2020-10-07T19:50:41+00:00

also read the handbook

Hhjjuuy · 2020-10-09T11:32:39+00:00

No, he is not. His planning things out like this before you've even met is bizarre. It's controlling. I don't like it. You don't like it. You literally do not want to do things that he is insisting that you do, why go on even one date with him.

If he were a HVM there is no way anyone would be able to tell you that through the internet and no way for you to know before knowing him (in person) for an extended period of time. HV isn't something that a man is it's something that he provides.

werker115 · 2020-10-08T17:43:53+00:00

He sounds low value. Who talks about 2nd and 3rd dates ahead of the first date? Also, a zoo is a free/cheap date in many places. Lastly, he is already mentioning you coming to his home for date 3. I would be out.

wavesandtea · 2020-10-22T10:37:01+00:00

It sounds like he is telling you his blueprint of how he gets girls over. It sounds like he has done this many times. Don’t be that girl that’s like the twentieth girl he took on these exact three dates.

Title	Is he a HVM?
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Date	October 7, 2020 7:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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